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Hell no bruce lee if im wrong mr wong you Chinese and koreans and Vietnamese are in your own asian leagued not all asian look different in looks and culture and country everyone cultures has issues sad how other asians think there culture is beautiful and there food is the best and that they are number one Filipinos Filipinos Indonesians south east asiansi island culture is very different then koreans Chinese Vietnamese none e of this 3 group will never go to the other restaurants and think there food is the best and there the best looking sorry my friend a i rarely see beautiful Chinese or korean or vietnamese ladies some Vietnamese i see yall keep your Chinese and korean and Vietnamese issues to your people sad from my perspective korean and Chinese are not worth talking too ask for direction they wouldn't want to help you

Easy, just stay away from your anger. Live at the moment. Let your next generation decide what they want to do. Don't compare them to yourself. Stop whining about your parents. No one is perfect. You have a free will to move on.

Your Asian parents may be wrong, but they were doing their best with what they knew. You are fortunate to have the resources and knowledge to recognize the negative aspects of your culture. Let it start with you-break that tradition and ensure you do not pass it on to your children. Forgive your parents, for they do not realize that what they do may be wrong; it is simply how they were raised. As their child, do your part: forgive them, treat them with kindness, and ensure you have no regrets when they leave this world, knowing you’ve done your best. Let us practice forgiveness and kindness within our families first, and then expand those skills to encompass others beyond our family.

I too came from a single mother south east asian dysfunctional family. I went through many years with a chip on my shoulder and then therapy. I have learned to forgive and let things go and validate myself. Now i feel pretty good about myself more now than ever before. It also helps to work out and be healthy.

I'm white, all my parents did was yell at me and curse me. I haven spoken to them for years. They are divorced, miserable old people now and nobody wants to be around either of them.

Oh my gosh! How true! Asians won't show emotions. They say it's a sign of weakness. I and my siblings grew up with an iron fist father. We were not allowed to show our emotions and express our feelings and concerns. Every attempt would be met with a good @$$ whoopin until we're black and blue all over. We were not allowed to go anywhere, but we're kept as prisoners in our own home bc they feared kidnappers, killers, etc. (At least that was the parents' excuse) Living in a house full of the lot of the siblings and I, just trying to be kids, we got pretty rowdy bc of boredom and being couped up in the house all day everyday! My father wasn't having it, and he'd yell at us to shut up. If we didn't, he'd beat us as well. He wanted us to just sit perfectly still in one spot, making no noise only. I left home at 16 bc I was sick of it. I suffered immensely as a young adult, and my poor hubby had to put up with me, the ticking time bomb. 😅 Today, my siblings and I want nothing to do with our parents. Our father is still as narcissistic as before. Still abusive, too. 😢

It is so beau where you live. It has been years since I’ve seen so much green. Live in the desert. I miss the green. We are in a large city that never turns off their lights so I haven’t seen the stars in years , it’s depressing. I’d be so happy to live in a place that was as green as behind you.

Intergenerational Trauma, it's real. I won't go deep but I I would debate whether to call home or not because there was a likelihood that I would hear my angry father in the background while I was talking to my mom. Moreover, while on my phone with my mom, she would eventually call out to my dad and ask if he wanted to say, hi, to me, and I could hear my father's anger and his 'no.' I knew this answer was coming because I could hear him ranting about something in the background while I was on the phone with my mom. When I did get on phone with my dad, he was ask why I didn't call home often. I dreaded the calls home. My dad has his traumas, e.g. losing a father at a young age.. from what I gather it was due to events stemming from a foreign invading military. 🕊

Wow. Everything you said hits really close to home for me. My mother is Asian and my dad is of European descent. I feel like my upbringing was very oppressive. I think I lack some communication skills. Often I feel like I don't know how to choose the right words to get my point across. You mentioned how the parents may yell and think that's what it takes to make things right while neglecting emotional support. I feel the exact same way.

Once I quit the work force. I have no friends, no acquaintance, just family. Like most people. You're not 10yo old hanging out with friends after 3pm and weekends. You have a home, kids, parents, etc to take care of. And there's nothing in common to talk, vent, gossip, about. Take care of your parents, your sister , brother, spouse, kids, . They'll always be a part of your life. "Friends" won't.

I'm glad you're comfortable shedding light on Asian men's issue's. You are going to inspire other men to do the same and hopefully bring healing. You deserve to be happy Donald.

It's pretty rough. My ex-Korean wife said she couldn't love me until I reached certain goals. I'd meet the goals and she'd raise the goals. She was also abused quite a bit in Korea. I woke up visiting my Korean-American dentist whose mother pretty much was never satisfied with him despite his successes. And since he married a half-white, half-Chinese woman, the parents shut him off. They won't even acknowlege their grandaughter. It's pretty sad. A good friend is Chinese-American and his parents just have too high expectiations and he married a Singapore-Chinese woman who is a workaholic and won't ever give him a break. Just observation. My forever wife is Thai and that comes with its own cirmstances, like any culture. Either Thai-Thai or Thai-Chinese, some difference, but so far great, matrilinial society, roll with it.

Asian parents are like Democrats. They yell and call you names when losing an argument or faced with facts. 😂

I had to cut off my Asian dad for the 2nd time and my overall family. It hurts so good. Just because we are related doesn’t mean I have to forgive you for something you refuse to acknowledge or apologize for.

Oh wow I have alot of thoughts on this as I have thought something similar. I think the challenges of the trauma and dysfunction of asian americans really affects them in society, even more so for asian males in my opinion as everything they deal with is counter intuitive with what is expected of males in the west or in general. More specifically in relationships, but thats a whole can of worms that would be too long for a comment. I think ultimately, unless you were extremely abused to the point of where maybe your parents should be in jail, we have to look to forgive our parents first and then we can forgive ourselves and then we can make improvements. It takes alot of repeated action. Also last tidbit, I like that you pointed out that redpill content isnt the best to follow, we should look to positive role models that talk about bettering ourselves in all aspects with a strong moral compass.

I am Chinese but I feel like I had a strange upbringing in the sense that my parents never cared about my grades or where I went to school or what I did with my life. It is almost jarring to hear about the tiger moms or the parents that forced their child to learn an instrument as a kid. My parents worked hard to support the family but I felt like they were very absent and hands off in my life and I wish they were more involved. At 27 years old, I am learning to let go of resentment and anger towards them. Every year, I process more and more in a healthier way I think. My dad definitely yelled as a kid and my mom was more of the obedient submissive type to my dad. Extremely traditional household.

Thank you for sharing your journey with us Donald. In the short time I've been a sub, I've seen significant growth in the man you are becoming and it's awesome to see 😊 Keep doing the work, although sometimes confronting (even painful or humiliating) we can take it to the one ☝️who will not judge us or treat us like humans would. Am proud of you and how aware and conscious you are of ensuring you will be a good model for your future children. You will be great. Am praying for your success, growth, protection and peace. 🙏❤️

Man these videos are way better then your crypto videos, I see you succeeding more with these types of video, I can see youve grown as a human and communicate way better too, keep it up, I like that your being so honest and vulnerable, that takes huge courage, respect that a lot

because asian parents :))

18:40 - That is NOT NORMAL. A woman service person yelling at you. That was totally normal my whole childhood as well, but you think a service person in Japan will yell at you? Neeeeeeeever. It’s not all of asia, that’s the lies your mother tells you, to make it seem like it is inescapable.

15:30 - That’s the emasculation, which your mum controls (as she’s in charge, hence the argument). My childhood was the same. It is NOT trauma, it is culture bro.

12:20 - Because when women are in charge, no rules are set and all rules are set with an argument. Think slutty girls in the gym, they don’ ‘ask’ they just come in and act horribly and unless someone ‘argues’ it, that’s not the standard and rule. Think about it, go up to a girl in the gym now and say: “hey wtf are you wearing, that is inappropriate” will then instigate an argument and yelling and you are more likely than her to be kicked out. This IS NOT the same everywhere is the huge lesson. I grew up in a female run society and they do their best to lie and make it seem like all countries (in your case ‘asia’) are the same is a total lie. In masculine run countries, they use feminine countries as a direct comparison and warning (say muslim countries).

6:20 - you first shit on men, then say: “I know I am generalising” (like I said in the other comment). Generalising is basic stats like: “men are taller than women” women dispell this so the whole conversation is just feelings (her feelings on the matter and opinion). You have two choices, just shut up and accept it most ‘red pill’ creators which are actually blue pill will say this. Which means you need to just do what your wife says. Shut your fucking mouth, never generalise (question her on anything), just agree, apologise and do what you are told. Or, see that you don’t like it and start to act like a guy from male run societies (rules based, not arguing based) which means stop lying, get up first and be the one in charge. This means stop lumping in Japan and Indonesia with China and Thailand as they re genuinely opposite (masculine vs feminine run). Not the advice you want, but is the truth.

female run societies, normalise arguing and manipulation as a way to set rules (lumping in all asian countries is example, japan and korea do not do this, only the female run ones do). This is women’s way to control. As an example they say: “you can’t generslise”. think about that statement, it removes any stats or logic, and leaves it to just personal experience and lies essentially. so its not trauma, thats a copout, its culture. you need to start first accept its your culture and stop idolising women while demonising men and go find men who find the truth to listen to.

Hi, I’m European and have no Asian upbringing, but now I live in Asia. I always had difficulty to understand male here, and what you shared is something I will think about. Your testimony make me understand the struggle of traditional families, particularly towards boys. I finally can go deeper into the psyche of those men, and it’s because of you. I hope it can help to be more attentive to their behavior or needs. Take care.

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Looks like you also have weak mind

Why does Asian culture w0rship white people？

Belittling Asians is part of the psychological warfare from the West, this warfare has put some weak mind Asians into mental hospitals already

dude is super sensitive and in touch with his feelings

Problem is. You will avoid all the mistakes of your parents with your own children. Then get blindsided by some unforeseen scenario or other area of focus which result in other problems.

Wow, that age is so accurate. The same thing happened to me. I'm now 32 going on 33.

i always thought it was just my family that was dysfunctional. it seems to be a typical chinese immigrant household type of thing.

lol i would told him i got a job and dont tell him its commisson. done. oh i assumed it was hourly oh . give it a month or so and see if you can sell

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Dad: TALK TO ME WHEN YOU DOCTOR

i know church goers who attend church for free food, free coffee..etc

Awesome comment!

damn we all got visit westcoast swing

I can relate, I'm a south east asian immigrant. I come from a family that did not express love very well. But I believe, it is because we grew up poor and my family use "hard work" as solution to our problems, therefore neglecting emotional support. My dysfunctional family has left me with some trauma over the years. I usually keep things bottled inside because of it. To this day, I am trying to heal and let go of resentments. But hey, life is journey, I try to make best of things. Each struggle is a lesson. I understand, I grew up in western society but asian family values differs. Regardless, I try to live life on my own terms. Carving my own path of my own values still remembering my cultures teachings. Take care.

only if more people were like your dad and well have cheap rent lol. does he have a car he wants to sell too. ill be an awesome tenant too and stay forever if i was getting cheap rent chinese are cheap but at the same time gamble. odd combo

do a video on how asian guys who dont care to get married and have kids. whats your thoughts

My dad yelled at me my own life , and i'm 50 years old, we get along now, since we both like video games.

how do you get rid of emotional asian trauma? you can get couselling but i dont think it ever goes away. glad i dont have kids and dont care to have any. i dont want pass on the negative energy onto my kids and future linage. i just want work and travel and enjoy my alone time and if i find a gf thats cool

my chinese parents are like tigers inside home, but outside they are kittens and with towards white ppl they are kittens with tail between their legs lol

all these comparing still applies to me into my adulthood. you just learn to BS/ tell them what they want to hear. all these toxic energy doesnt help at all.

typical chinese parents dont care about your thoughts or feelings just do it. i learned to BS . its sounds bad but it works. and saved me a lot of chaos, headaches and drama. my mom just talks over me lol . good luck, just agree with her and become a good BS

chinese girls are very money hungry and status focussed lol . its the reason this ABC guy has a white gf,

The lack of praise from parents. Funny enough my friend was always top 5 in school but always felt he wasn’t good enough. He’s rebuilding his confidence slowly now as an adult.

The woman who loves you will love for who you are and build with you. You will do it together!