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Credentials do not stop people from harming others.

Using better help as a source to define a word is not the move

What if your beliefs ARE wrong?

Give a solution for these people pls, my mom does this, I fear I wont let her meet her grandchildren if she does not change...

Sounds like politicians.

MIL was a Catholic widow of 40 years.. who felt entitled to whatever she wanted because of her "status"!!

Really good. 💯😊

I found my childhood trauma. So i wentcon a long journey trasforming my self. Be open for that it can be yourself, and reflect. This is so true. Good video. Thanks.

The abusers actually plan when and where to do this. It is very strategic.

Very articulate and well defined. I wish i could share this without completely offending the person with whom i would share it.

Absolutely solid video. 10/10

Very good explanation of a point I often see brought up. The notion of "not every feeling is valid" being thrown around because people are feeling something based off of misinformation or their emotional baggage when it is not based in reality. What a lot of the "not every feeling is valid" people mean is exactly the distinction between validation and external emotional managment.

That's quite a negative way to get your message across.

Actually, on certain occasions (e.g. I left the house for any reason, he’s about to leave the house, or he’s not getting a reaction from me) he’ll use all 9 tactics in one raging temper tantrum.

All 9-usually on a daily basis- and some not mentioned. I think the way LB describes these tactics, they are too easily conflated. Jackie, you would articulate these tactics far more clearly and effectively (not that I have an issue with LB. Just would be surprised if anyone recognizes only one out of the 9.

Perfectly said!!

Sounds like every woman, ever.

Hulk Hogan was really good at doing this.

Your partner, your collegue, your mother... anyone who gives you that feeling: you have EVERY right to avoid that person. NOTHING obligates you to give thrm anything. Thry are not entitled anything you have, not your time, not your energy, not your words, not your presence. Hard learned lesson!

Thank you I appreciate your empathy.💗

I love all your content and agree with all your stuff besides this. Emotional withholding does exist and it is abuse. The key difference is intent. Remember that. And those people that engage in emotional withholding, they do have the capacity to provide it, it’s not up to us to determine whether or not they are capable or have the capacity to provide it because they can do and I’m sure they have beforeso the intent is when they are withdrawing that withholding it in order to punish you and or control an outcome to get a desired result, it is absolutely 100% abusive and it does exist

When you are a male victim of abuse it is really awful, because they woman knows at any time she will get sympathy and she can destroy you with one word. She can physically assault you, wake you to abuse you, stalk you, poison the kids against you, leverage society and laws against you. Add that to your list of abuser types. It is a special kind of abuse that abusive women are really adept at using.

Bingo, number 5, the sensitive manipulator! EDIT: crap, I spoke too soon. they are a combo of 5, 7, 8 & Bonus 😑

You do need to make sure someone is safe to be vulnerable or else you're going to get hurt. Why in the hell would you be vulnerable with somebody that's going to hurt you that you know is going to hurt you?

Seems like I knew someone with a little bit of all of them

This makes a lot of sense, but HOW to not attach yourself, if this is your automatic behavior since childhood? And how to develope self love, acceptance, integrate your shame etc.?

Word salad that means nothing mixed with buzz words and toxic feminist propaganda. Don't sleep around, find yourselves a good husband as soon as possible make babies and you will be happy and free of "trauma"

As someone with bpd (which comes with a high level of empathy) with shame being a huge issue for me, as well as subconsciously choosing manipulative people to be in my life I can logically know I wasn’t the one in the wrong or know that something happened that they are denying, but I still find myself blaming myself and thinking i must be making up stuff in my head. Self-gaslighting is a crazy experience when, after lots of work, you KNOW the reality but your brain is just like “nope, it’s you. You’re the problem”.

Sounds exactly like my first marriage. The good news? I remarried a few years later to a GOOD woman. (Hard to find, but they are out there.) So far, 22 years and still happy!

What a load of horse shit

❤❤🎉🎉

Time to leave this burden behind. Get out girl get out

wonderful! I wish everyone could hear your advice. ❤ everyone deserves respect and this info keeps people safe

I have no idea how to have non-attachment in relationships because I get emotionally attached to people I am dating.

I would have loved to watch you say that to my ex wife. Of course I bet that accountability is sitting next to my child support.

Could you perhaps talk about somatic processing or therapies of the sort?

Well said

Wow, this is actually worse than losing control. Because why would somebody chooss to hurt others like that.

I feel some type of way about this conversation being posted and used as content on this channel. I understand the opportunity for education but hanging out an individual online that is very easy for people in your/his proximity to figure out who he is feels a tad bit toxic too, to be honest. And no, I’m not saying that women should protect abusers or the like but not everything is everyone’s business. I think people who are more educated on toxicity and who have come further on their healing journey still should show respect towards others integrity and be an example in regards to that too. Do we want to live in a world were all our texting is fair game to be put out into the world if we don’t act in a good manner? I think that texting is as private as a conversation that’s being held face to face, and I would be very upset if someone used my thoughts/words as content in any way, except if I explicitly gave my permission to them doing so. I mean, what is that if not a breach of boundaries? To me that says that it’s ok to treat toxic people in any way for the mere fact that they’re toxic, and I truly don’t agree to that sentiment. I think that we should show the way on how healthy behaviour look like, including what respecting someone’s integrity and boundaries look like.

You’re better person than me losing your shit on him only handful of times. I’ve lost it dozens of times

An example of a consequence? I’m leaving as soon as I can. Hopeful to be gone by end of month but until then I can’t think of a single consequence

There are several people who've decided my mobile phone connection is also theirs too share. Complaints too the Telecommunications companies have met with no change too what's occurring. These people have no idea about decency & "boundaries" . You've all watched the scammers in action & what they are like. These fraudsters/stalkers refuse to get off my phone connection & never been given authority too connect their devices too mine. I wonder how many others are in the same situation. Setting boundaries & having them respected is different kettle off fish.

Hm..I kind of disagree about the alcohol. Some people are actually normal, even nice when sober. It's the alcohol that makes them abusive. Some would say it only brings out what's underneath, but still, without alcohol they're "normal". My mom was the kindest person when she was sober. But when she drank she was a really mean drunk. I never blamed her, I blame the alcohol. It killed her in the end.

You *don't* say that, unsolicited, to any woman!. The simple question to ask yourself is "Would I like someone to have said this to my mother / sister?" ¿No? - then don't say it to someone else!

Female here.. 40.. sorry but he has a sense of humor, you do not. Chat gbt does not understand humor. You teo just aren’t comparable, that’s all.

This is stupid. You should have not responded after that weird text he sent and called it a day

I don't know why women insist on therapy. It's psychology, psychology was created by men to manipulate women.

I've endured this type of "relationship" with my younger sister, which included physical abuse, on and off for many years, as well as exes and others. Luckily, my sister lives in another country now and I've spoken to DV counsellors etc about the situation, yet most ended up getting angry with me, so I'll never ring those helplines again. I'll never forget one who couldn't understand why I was upset! It seemed like they prefer to believe that it's only men who have these types of behaviours. I don't have much contact with my sister nowadays anyway and I'm aware that NO contact at all is the best option in order to protect mental AND physical health. 😥

That text is PUA banter. I've seen it before.

That 'different reality' thing is real 💯