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Is there a connection between OCD and growing up with emotional neglected? I grew up as an only child with a mother with autism and a narcissistic father. My dad grew up as the oldest child of the family and was spoilt by his (late) mother who also turns out to have autism but I'm also positive she had OCD. She was very anxious and obsessed a clean household and therefor also very demanding towards herself and others. I know there are people existing who just love to clean etc, however in case of OCD it turns into something which keeps one's life limited: it's compulsive behavior to sedate the anxiety of uncertainty underneath. During her latest years she often was worried she might suffer from dementia everytime when it occured she for example called me by the name of my cousin. When I noticed her facial expression afterwards I knew exactly how she felt: that feeling of being doomed and having no control at all to change the situation for the better. My dad is very different. Better said: he seems to be very different, however what really goes on in his mind is a mystery for everybody (and also his strategy to draw attention and to make people speculate about him in his benefit, such as "He just doesn't show emotions, but he's actually a nice sensitive man".) Unlike me he attempts to deny or downplay problems (or projects them on other people). He always claims about me I have been born with a very negative personality. I believed he was right about that, though I never believed he was born with a positive personality. What he calls "positive" is for me indifferent. Presently I don't believe anymore I have a negative personality. I don't think there's any human being existing who on purpose makes himself feeling miserable by negative thoughts when there's no need to do that. I think everything people do every impuls, is meant with the purpose to feel better. When I feel anxious about something I'll automatically analyse it and thinking it over and over in an attempt to make the anxiety go away. Of course it can be the way I'm doing it is not the right way and eventually sustains my situation. But that's not the same as having a negative mindset. However I don't want to delute myself as well. Actually that idea terrifies me: pretending problems don't exist, because then it might occur I don't feel them anymore, while in reality they problems are still present and will destroy me from the inside. When I'm able to feel it, I know there's something wrong and I must do something to genuinely feel better. Back to OCD in relation to gender identity. I always felt guilty for being such a hypocrite because I don't have the guts to accept myself for who I really am. I didn't know who I actually am, however I always was convinced it's the exact opposite of the person I want to be. I always wanted to feel more masculine, because I am a man and I want to feel comfortable with my own body. Unfortunately when I grew up with phrases like "You cannot change your sexuality. You HAVE TO accept yourself and you MUST be proud of being gay!" and in the media I see images like this torontolife.mblycdn.com/uploads/tl/2018/12/WEBBeardra1-2000x2560.jpg I'm feeling overwelmed by a very terrible feeling of emptyliness. And I always assumed it meant I'm a very short-sighted homo-/transphobic person. I'm realising now that feeling is not triggered by the fact someone is gay or transgender, but by the fact I feel forced to behave and to be/become like a person I don't want to be. There's always that voice in my head who judges me "You are not allowed to have it, only because you want it! You should accept just like any other mature person you cannot have everything in your life! The fact that you feel so miserable right now, is your own fault! You should have proved towards yourself and others what you're worth of instead of taking everything for granted. You did the latter: "You chose the easiest way. The result is now you are worthless scumbag! It's your punishment you feel this miserable. You have to feel privileged that you are doing so well, because you actually deserve to be punished much more severely!" I'm 44 years old now and until a few years ago I didn't recognise myself possibly having OCD, because I mistook my obsessive-compulsive thoughts as guilt. The paradox is always having the urge to overthink and analyse everything eventually gained me the insight I have right now. It's not a bad quality at all to be a thinker: it might turn you anxious, but it definitely doesn't turn you ignorant. I guess when you learn to manage it and allow yourself to feel as well, you can blossom into a very mentally strong person.

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Reid saved my life too. Content is irrelevant Accept the obsession when it pops up. I want to be uncertain and i want to be distressed and i want to not know. Key to getting better. I want what i dont want

I tend to be hyper sensitive to bass and other people playing music even if I can just barely hear it and even if they're not playing it at the moment I`m anxious that they will again. Hard to avoid and I keep getting in conflicts with neighbors over it if it goes on too long. Is this misophonia?

Nothing ever helps

thank you ❤

I’m applying this today, thank you people for commenting it’s a helpful thing

My thoughts are me to steal a car how do I stop them o tried to it and I have

Where were these videos when I needed them🙁

Just skip the compulsion...

I wished i was normal 😔

My wife has been what feels like torment me with questions about my past relationships, almost every single day until we end up fighting and ends up in an intense panic attack. She will ask the same type of questions about multiple partners we’ve talked about in the beginning of our relationship, and cannot calm down or control it until they are answered even though she knows it’s going to turn into a massive fight. It’s like an itch, and she can’t help it. She has multiple learning disabilities and I’m wondering if she has OCD or if these are “OCD questions” as well. 🙏🏻

I really needed to stop before I got up to this point 😢

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Thanks for having me!!

I do these physical compulsions which are only made worse because of my anxiety when I’m in full ocd mode. And then I find something new to worry about. Any tips to stop an ocd episode once it comes on?

Tried them but failed

I get scared that by trying to just let them be that's when everything's gonna go bad

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How do you do this for somatic ocd? I will obsess over my anxiety and heart palpitations? Thinking worse case scenario and constant dread of having constant anxiety

if we could do this we we wouldnt be suffering from ocd((((((

So, i see doctor carl's point but actually to doubt the results of a result and where it could have gone wrong when there is a point that does not make sense is not obssessional, for i have heard of and sometimes seen that results are mistakenly reported, so context always matters, as this is a life threatening condition.

OCD is a trauma response... Work on healing...🙏😔

Exposure and Response Prevention therapy is the way forward to managing OCD better. In addition, in the UK you can contact OCD Action or OCD UK for info and support.

Peace be upon you, doctor. Greetings to you from Morocco. I am one of your followers and thank you for the effort you put into teaching us useful things in our lives. I would like you to give us practical steps to overcome obsessive-compulsive disorder.

Where are these doctors located? I have only heard of the 6 week periods

anyone tried his course? The 6 moment game? how did you find it?

Hey man I'm have pure O ocd. It's really difficult to forget my thoughts sometimes

I love your channel and the work you're doing. James

That’s the smallest microphone I’ve ever seen

What about disgust based social contamination. As I have fear disgust in social situations and ERP doesn’t work it makes it worse. Exposures make disgust worse

Super helpful, man. Goddamn. Really appreciate the good doctor and this interview overall.

I cried for 20 minutes

It goes into the direction of Greenberg’s approach, no? But with Greenberg it’s easy to not ruminate and then think about the “core fear”…

ERP doesn’t work for everyone because people aren’t willing to practice it properly or because not all clinicians know how to prescribe it well.

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It's so awful I always have doubts about my gender. I curently can't tell what is my gender anymore. I transitioned and stop my transition multiple times cause I was starting to feel uncomfortable in my body. When I go back to being a man I feel comfortable until the doubt comes back. And then I try transitioning so the doubt goes away. Finally I detransition because I feel really disconnected from my body compared to before. It's a never ending loop of suffering...

I have real event OCD…it sucks

I found that the following cycle is often seen in OCD: first a certain imagined catastrophic outcome (example jail) will be there and around that now a whole story will be crafted and now the person categorizes all those dangerous activities that could lead to the worst possible ourcome (jail) and from there the compulsions and distrust in the own senses just fuel the whole cycle.

I wonder if when people with OCD have issues trusting themselves and thus having obsessive thoughts about things that in reality didn‘t happen (eventho they fully know that its unrealistic and probably just a fear), could the opposite happen also? Like for example with hit and run ocd, could one have ran over someone and then „reason“ it away? Maybe in order to not do the compulsion of checking?

Nope what is it

Hey, noticed you don’t have any videos about Schizophrenia-OCD. Would love to see a video on this.

Thank you both. This was enlightening and beneficial. Cheers.

When you say you did things what exactly did you do please

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I am getting superstitious obsessions that someone did black magic on me and I am just hallucinating everything and even this video 😂😂 but yeah trying my best to not pay attention to this

But i wish it was that easy

Ive had this from 2013 onwards its quite severe but i can go out if my mother is with me, but def want full back to my independent state !!!

This is brilliant. I’ve been doing erp with a therapist for 8 months. I’d say it’s gotten me 75% better. I’m beginning to believe Icbt is going to get me through the finish line. Thanks for the content! We need more Icbt therapists like yourself posting videos.

Great show