There were many lessons I learned in my single season with God that I wish I knew sooner. 1. The right thing at the wrong time is still the wrong thing. 2. Seek God’s permission before you take steps towards a relationship. Let God provide you with clearance before you go! 3. Always pray for God’s Will! You will never go wrong! I pray for everyone who has experienced the spirit of rejection and that you seek deliverance from it ❤
I believe marriage before sex that's my belief but I have seen where married before sex yet this story she is telling happen anyway,so tell me what to blame
I agree. I’ve always found it interesting how people can have a similar experience but the lesson be different. We really all do have our our own individual lesson plan while we navigate this life & earth 💗
@@AshleyyVarelaa Jesus removed ALL curses (Col 2:13, Gal 3:13-14) if you believe. The Law can't remove curses, if you violate one then you have violated them all.
In Jesus name, I rebuke these demonic curses over myself and everyone reading this. Spirit spouses and curses are REAL, y'all. When I looked back at failed after failed relationship, I realized a switch flipped and these men behaved the EXACT same way. There is a whole spirit world at work all around us.
YEP! The lady has been marked with a scent in the spirit. That's why she is attracting not the same man, but the same SPIRIT in different men. She needs to repent, renounce, and replace that spirit.
Lord protect these women out here. Continue to give them discernment whether or not they like it. Make the red flags glaring. Reveal the enemy’s strategies. Help them to understand that “patience is the weapon that forces deception to reveal itself.” Guide them in all they do. Send spiritual mothers & fathers to them to hold them accountable and aide in protecting them. We come against pseudo blessings. Wither back the hand of the enemy in their love lives. Deliver and heal them from any trauma that attracts these type of men that are clearly Satans instruments. & Keep men who are not submitted to You FAR FAR AWAY from them in Jesus name! That familiar spirit ain’t no joke. 😭
In Jesus name! Amen!!🙏 I love this prayer We Must have a spiritual relationship with the Almighty God and it includes reading His word and having the Holy Spirit within this
@SMARAGH20 she didn't use proper discernment to avoid men that were wicked at the time. Also a product of men not checking men on this type of behavior.
@@YoJoRockThaBeat Also 👇 That hit different. Am sure she "ANABLED" BOTH SITUATIONS,NO SHADE BUH WHEN U LET A MAN THINK UR A DOOR MAT THEY WALL OVER U LIKE ONE. NEVEEEER EVER ACCEPT ANY LEVEL OF DISRESPECT 4 NO LO❤E REASONS,REGARDLESS. I REFUSED THAT A LOOOOOONG T IIJ ME AGO OFCOURSE I LEARNT IT FTOM DAD AS A LITTLE GAL BUH IGNORED THEM SCARLET 🚩LAAAGS,THEN LEARNT IT. THAT LESSON RIGHT THERE IS SO WORYH IT.NEVER WANT NO MAN MORE THAN U & HE WANTS U,NEVER. HOPE GAL,U'VE HEALED & OVERCOME.
Sometimes, when you tell a new partner what happened to you in a previous relationship, they will knowingly repeat that behavior and mimic your trauma.
As women, we have a choice in the matter. My picker was off! I picked men who mirrored my childhood traumatic experiences. My dad abandoned/rejected me and my mom was emotionally unavailable. It’s imperative to get healed from childhood trauma and broken consciousness.
I am noticing this everyday i pick men who love me so hard fall off then start to abandon me on and off and are emotional abusive and neglectful but aware of their own
Girl stfu these men woke up one day and decided they didn't want life anymore you biths think it's the picker's fault and a good picker would prevent this 😂
***NEVER HEARD OF A MAN REJECTING AN INFANT/CHILD . THEY ARE SO BEAUTIFULLLL. (MOST OFTEN ....THE RELATIONSHIP WITH THE MOM IS WHAT THEY ARE REJECTING.) ***THE CHILD DOES GET CAUGHT IN THE CROSSFIRE OFTENTIMES ALL BECAUSE OF GROWN UPS WHO MAY NOT BE ABLE TO COMMUNICATE WELL OR DONT KNOW HOW TO BREAK UP , MOVE ON AND STILL CO-PARENT. ***I THINK IM SAYING THIS BECAUSE I DONT WANT YOU TO FEEL LIKE THAT AND I HOPE YOU CAN USE THE INFORMATION ABOVE TO ( SEE IT DIFFERENTELY) SO YOU CAN GET PAST ANY TRAUMA AND BE OPENED TO BEING BLESSED WITH A DUFFERENT RELATIONSHIP THAN YOUR PARENTS HAD. I BELIEVE YOU WILL BASED ON YOUR LAST SENTENCE. BUT YOU HAVE TO THINK POSITIVELY. OH AND REMEMBER....PARENTS ARE NOT PERFECT..WE FORGET THEY ARE GROWN BUT ARE STILL GROWING ALWAYS. ...LOL ITS BEST TO GIVE THEM GRACE LIKE GOD DOES FOR EVERYONE. I WANT YOU TO THINK POSITIVELY AND FROM NOW ON (( SPEAK OF YOURSELF AS BEING LOVED)) O N L Y .......FROM THIS MOMENT ON. PEACE AND LOVE
When God doesn’t approve of your partner, eventually he calls time in on it. He can see what the other is doing to you behind your back. Thank you God for protecting her. ❤
@@Happymind-happyworld.He does to those who are wise enough to consult Him first. But when we don’t and follow our hearts instead, the grief and heartbreak will definitely clear your vision and then you’ll see all the signs you “missed”. 😞
The Most High ALWAYS gives us a heads up and a way of escape. We ignore the signs, grieve His Spirit, and then expect for Him to bless our mess. But I'm so glad He has never taken His hands off of me.
How does a music producer or basketball player not able to provide and be there for his family?? .. That’s a weak and lame excuse for any man to give to good woman !! A real man would never .. Our job is to provide and protect .. It’s not on you Sis, they just weren’t ready !! You’re a Queen, keep pushing forward ❤🙏🏾
@@henrylafontant9724 some of these comments shows just how dark, ignorant and twisted people's minds and thoughts are . All I can do is say, "WOW" and smh. And I'm not referring to u.
Nah I don’t believe in coincidences WTH did she do?! Is what I wanna know cuz usually it’s typically females that leave..for a dude to leave… An twice👀 is too suspicious
This happened to me once then he went on to marry someone else. She drained him of everything and he came crawling back .. he then was met with the love of my life at my doorstep.. We could make room for love.. don’t give up
I cried when I watched this part. To be hurt the same way twice and then have to be a single parent when you did everything right. That is heartbreak. No one should have to raise a child alone, but every day, people are abandoned to complete the task.😢😢😢
I can relate 100%. Prayed to break that cycle, only to have my children experience anyway and then people to constantly judge single mothers as if we didn’t do everything in our power to give our children what they need. Also hate when people wish me a happy Father’s Day 😠 I am not a father.
@tracylane6860 Let's be friends...It breaks my heart to know that I trusted a man and he betrayed not only me but his own children. Then to have people say you should have done this or that. To have people look down on you because you have kids. They have no clue of the background and even when they do they still judge. I pray covering for every single mother reading this and that her and the children have the BEST POSSIBLE OUTCOME despite how the enemy tries to break our spirit❤️💯
Took me four failed marriages for me to figure out this familiar spirit stuff!!!! I been single seeking and being in love with God and God alone for past 3 & 1/2 years- fasting and praying and in the word 24/7…. No tv no social media no movies no relationships or anything… just me seeking answers and revelations from the Lord… now I’m writing books and a devotional to help others and soon will be back on my channel teaching and testify to the glory of God and all He has taught me and calling me to help others find their purpose in the Lords will!!!! …. God is so good…. I lost 77 pounds the first year of this journey and it was from praying and fasting and seeking God- I have grown so much and now I just want to help others find their true identity in Christ-
Simply beautiful! It is wonderful spotting patterns, and going to God to break them, and help build you up and making you the stand in the gap for your generation ...ending with you and starting with you. God's grace will continue to make the difference for you and Holy Spirit will always help you.
Women are shamed when they choose their career over starting a family. But men leave the families they’ve already started for their careers all the time and feel no shame.
Careers & passions are not the same intentions ppl have for another don't be the same after some success mfs get stressed over unknown insecurities all the time regardless
Careers & passions are not the same intentions ppl have for another don't be the same after some success mfs get stressed over unknown insecurities all the time regardless
Why did she choose them when better options were out there? Selecting who we reproduce with isn't just a casual decision-it's one of the most critical choices we make, especially when children are involved. Both genders need to thoughtfully plan when it comes to creating a family. Pointing fingers won’t bring solutions. Let’s rethink the way we choose partners: prioritize someone who’s a good friend over someone who merely sparks lust or looks appealing. Raising children isn’t a beauty pageant or popularity contest; it’s about creating a loving, stable home with two committed parents. Lust is fine, but it shouldn't be the foundation for reproduction. If you’re constantly fighting after a month or two or have little in common beyond sexual chemistry, the relationship likely won’t last. We need to change our approach to reproduction and embed these values in our culture to ensure stronger, happier families. Don't you think our children deserve better???? Mbs Crew Deion
I loove her disposition and her voice🥺🔥 the way she relays information, gentleness in her voice🔥 you guys together? Absolutely beautiful. I need to watch the full episode🥺🥺🔥🔥
But if a woman does this, she would never stand a chance in the spotlight. Deadbeat parents are the worst, but the fact that men so often feel like they can just up and leave and choose their own happiness over the family THEY created is disgusting. And what’s worse is how okay with it society is to where most successful men have multiple abandoned families.
I felt it when she said she “sat in the closet for 4 years” I totally got that… There are many of us locked away because of a marriage ending… Those who feel it know it.😢Step by step crawl out, a good life is out there.🙏🏽
"Sis, when I tell you, I was in that closet from that day, up until about four years ago." I think she may have been in there longer than four years, sis. 😔😢 I'm glad she crawled her way out. God is good.
I thought she was talking about her prayer closet. I felt like she prayed continuously for what she has now. She’s super spiritual and openly talks about her relationship with God.
@quashawnmurphy1456 When God gives you your husband, you will not have to crawl out of a closet or anything else. Oftentimes, women do not listen nor comprehend well. The problem with a lot of women they're so caught up with being married, instead living their best single life. Let the man find you and seek God for guidance always and first!
The moment the first disrespectful act goes unchecked or unchallenged, you've set yourself up for failure. There are always signs along the way and we tend to overlook them because of blind love. I'd rather have respect than love.
Indeed.i learned that in my first marriage. I took ten years by myself..just god and i.i literally put a huge pause on my personal life to see what did I do wrong.i did all of the right things for the wrong person, that showed me I was lacking self love within myself. Meanwhile,I was pure and honest,mature,but tried to see the good within a demon.and it wasn't there.my lessons were harsh,but we'll needed.i cannot expect the best from no one but god and myself.he was looking for a sugar momma who was willing to be conned in every way.the last thing that he told me was..out of all of the women that he had been with,I was the only one that truly told him the truth,as well as fight him back mentally, physically, and spiritually. I divorced him and others out of my life,but still haven't lost hope on real love.but I have it with god and myself.thanks a million to my beautiful grandmothers that showed me the way to God's glory,as well as a woman's virtue
WOW, last week this young lady came to mind because she is a huge fitness influencer. I loved her workouts, but especially because she works out to gospel music. I remember she got married, and she and her new husband at the time shared their journey. I was so happy for her and grateful to God for her new found mate. However, I thought of her from time to time, and wanted to visit her page on instagram, but I could not remember her name. All in all, I’m thankful to God that she’s making it through, in spite of the circumstances. Blessings to you sister in Christ🙏🏼❤️🥺
I pray this lady finds a husband that that is her protector, her provider and best friend. I pray that she is a wonderful loving and supportive wife to him. His best friend.
Not only to have the hurt of your husband leaving you, but to also carry the hurt you feel for your child being hurt by their father too, is so heartbreaking to think about. BUT GOD!!!
Some men need to be honest with themselves and know they are not built for a family and all that comes with it, and not produce one if that is the case.
Some women need to stop dating for the bag and maybe find a guy who has a 9 to 5 and who is rooted in family values. I noticed one guy she was dating was a basketball player and the other was a producer. Does anybody else see a pattern here?
@@freddyrocksteady420 Nope, that’s just you trying to pad your echo chamber by cherry picking … Dodging accountability for them and degrading men their ability to be family men because they are in certain professions at the same time, smh.
I think women know who the men they choose are, but want them to be different for them. Instead of understanding what they are getting into and accepting the man as being only who he has always been. Discernment is a tricky thing when not used.
Wow. I felt your pain! The same thing happened to me after re-marrying my ex and 91/2 years of marriage the second go round (long enough for him to clean up his credit). Healing takes a while, but thanks be to God I made it. Peace unto you🙏🏽
Tell that sister that's a generational spirit It will follow her all her days until she stops it she's not taking authority but, she's let fear take over a fast would be great to get confirmation of my word's
It's impossible to be a family man and pursue a career to the fullest when you are living for yourself and depending on your own strength, but when you are living for God and focused on accomplishing *His* will for your life all things are possible! ❤🙏🏽🕊
Those men are truly a different kind of awful. You took vows to be with someone, created a family with that person by brnging kids into the world, then you abandon them for a job? When the choice is between "family man" and "career", they were far too content abandoning their family. That's the point where you would start rearranging priorities and figure out what you need to change in your career to support your household. Being so wrapped up on your work that you give up yoir family for it isnt normal.
Huh?????? So women can destroy a family 85%of the time for reasons such as growing apart( but now they're best friends), growing out of love, he lost his job, he won't level up at the same pace as you. Or most won't even get with a man for reasons he has no control of. But when men do those things at a rate of probably 5%, he's trash. Sorry...this is one guy that can't be gaslit.
What’s to say that was actually the truth? The moment she said that, I automatically thought that’s exactly the kind of excuse a cheater would give. He’s always had the job…the difference nor is maybe both of them fell for someone they met and then finally decided to kick in the towel.
Yeah. Both of those guys are in fields were there is alot of temptation. One is a producer the other a ball player. Hopefully next time she finds a true man of God whose lifestyle aligns with her values and marries them before having more children.
@ShaneCM and so you can see how all the men who got rejected for these dudes while they build themselves up and when they have to choose from the "remnants," they become dishearted.
Whew I just experienced this and my therapist said “ It didn’t workout, but u learned what you want, what you don’t want and what you want accept. Now you won’t settle for someone that is not meeting your emotional needs fully”. She kept saying I settled, but I refused to say that. It was true tho to some extent I settled for what I thought was the best I could do
Thank God He allowed you to know Truth....God had different plans for you and those Guys couldn't go with you....Although you felt the hurt when the smoke clear....it should of build you even Stronger ....Life can be Amazing and Hilarious also....Continue your Relationship with God and keep Doing You.....At the end of the Day Although you have husband...kids...Family and Friends....God was with you at the Beginning and He will be with you in the End🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I felt that 💜 it’s hard dealing with these situations, and people will judge you for experiencing trauma more than once before realizing you need change. Then, blame YOU for being a single mom, when your partner chose otherwise. We’re human, we all go through things, some people lessons are learned differently. Wishing everyone healing, including myself💜💜💜
Twice same answer it’s beyond her now.. there is an evil spirit manipulating the men that comes in her life. Sis needs deliverance from that spiritual husband
@jamaicanqueentv I understand what you are saying. But I believe the emphasis needs to be on men and the spirit of the devil they embrace, and so readily, instead of the Spirit of righteousness of the Lord God as their Father. God is their covering but they reject God and are instead living under the cloak of the devil and sin. Few men who have these type of careers are faithful in marriage.
And these are the so called high value men. I will take my electrician and I will remain a nurse we may struggle together but we are still together fifteen years and still counting.
Women have to vet men better and vice versa. Many of us ladies don’t listen to men and many of us choose to hear what we want to hear. In my experience we move way too fast as well.
Sometimes a man will feel it's ok to do you the same way the last man did you. They just want to do a smidgen above the last to make you feel you have to be grateful.
That's why if you had a bad relationship before him you never tell him. My father told me that guys unconsciously judge and align their treatment of a woman based on her father and the last person she dated. I've only dated two men in my life and the second guy is my husband over twenty years. When we first started dating he was annoyed I didn't have any details to share about my last relationship 😂 I told him it was great I just didn't want to be a step mother so we parted. He knew he couldn't low base his treatment of me due to accepting it in the past.
And sometimes the woman can develop a behavior that would allow men to be put off by the same repeated actions that would allow man to not be with them. It's easy to assume that a man can treat her like another man did and feel comfortable in feeling like they can do it too, but she has to be the one to NOT allow them to do that to her. Self reflection is AS important as blaming someone else.
@@ThePinkPantha21 I had to learn on my own smh I literally had an ex tell me to my face "you let Ole boy do this and that, but you mad cuz I did this and that" and he said it with his chest!!
She should have lost love for him. We do them an injustice when we forgive without holding them accountable. They choose sex over family like ppl choose drugs or alcohol. It's selfish. He cheated on her. Left her 2 days before her birthday. With no notice. He chose his career over the child he created. And she still gave him props publicly for being a "great parent" and asked herself what she did wrong. This shit is crazy. Why they smiling about being abused and abandoned?
I thought she was talking about two different dudes. Her child's father was the basketball player and her (I'm assuming) now ex, was the producer. I do believe he was cheating especially when he would not come home for days.
@@nicolea.7501 there's a difference between hanging on to anger and praising someone who doesn't deserve it. Telling the horrific story of how someone caused you trauma and then saying they're a good person is contradictory. And this is why a lot of ppl condone bad behavior. There are no consequences and too often we not only forgive but we revise history to paint them as good ppl. Which they aren't.
There’s so few good people that find good people. When it’s exposed it’s traumatic. So many really no good people have invaded our psyche. She seems like a good woman. For reasons unknown, she had to go through what she went through. It seems she did have good experience of the lesson. “Thank You!” for sharing ❤️🖤💚
What a lot of people are missing is the fallacy or mistake this woman made twice. She's continuously picking the same man and it backfired on her twice.
I agree. finally a rational logical comment.. not colored by emotion but clear reasoning so refreshing. Was starting to lose hope it does seem to be many ppl thinking critically in here.
The fact they were honest and spoke up is mature. If they wanted to put in the work to keep it going they would’ve. Sad to see relationships fail at the cost of career or another. But can also be a blessing in disguise for better things to come. Lesson learnt x
I get told I'm a good person while they're breaking my heart (happened to me twice) or they want me to side chick. I keep asking myself what is wrong with me that I keep attracting men like these? Am I giving off some type of pheromones? Last guy's wife was sick and in the hospital and he wanted to get busy! I cried
Work on your self esteem. Being a side chick is symptomatic of not feeling protected and provided for as a little girl. You deserve better. Even his wife deserves better. No one is winning. Unless you are on with poly relationships being a mistress is self induced abuse.
Also, if a man is married or in a committed relationship all he has to offer is a side chick position. So don’t internalise their lack of integrity with a deficit in yourself. Set firm boundaries and standards for yourself I.e di not date or entertain men that are taken.
Nothing is wrong with you, if guys are making advances or requests of you that does not align with your standards grounded in Christ, remember even Jesus was tempted. Stay true to your stance. Prioritise your relationship with God, delight you in Him in this season of waiting. Don't compromise. Enjoy your singlehood, it will be over soon. Trust God and continue to pray wait on Him for that man that is His best for you, while you work on yourself in readiness to receive His son. 🫂 🤗
@Diva8204 It is sad, but the beautiful thing is she realized she did not do it right. She didn’t consult God first, and she was afraid to serve God in front of him in fear that he might be jealous that she loves God more than him …. That’s heavy. Those two divorces INCREASED her parade for Jesus, so much now that she’s in ministry. She has MUCH more than what she settled for before (social class and fear of being alone or a single mom)
And in my opinion from the beginning we love that idea of that man without really looking at the red flags. Is he already a single father? Has he ever been in a committed relationship before? I mean those things aren’t deal breakers but we don’t think these nuances through sometimes
This is sad when someone doesn't love you hard enough to stay and fight for the love of your partner and family. Very hurtful. I hope that God continues to give her peace despite the heartbreak 💔 People have become so selfish. It's scary these days to give all your love to someone else.
It’s the same demonic spirits from your childhood. This practically happened to me twice also. I had to go back deep into the roots of the ‘familiar’ that I was attracting. It was my mom raising me with a narc spirit. When my 2nd marriage ended I renounced all that this demonic spirit brought to me and cleansed also. Prayer and therapy help with the healing and learning to love myself - I love myself now. I’ve soothed my inner child from the abuse she had and had no choice in. Learning to be content with Jesus and praying for future relationships. The Holy Spirit must lead. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
The devil never changes his mode of attack. There’s a spirit that don’t want her married, and she needs to look at how she got these men 9/10 it’s coming from a bitter family or the ex’s of these men. Warfare is real and we need to recognize it and plead the blood over our family. Alternatively, know, what Yahweh has put together NO MAN can pull apart, so sometimes despite the devil intentions, Yahweh is going to turn it good. She will find her true divine partners, they were not it.
This is why I tell women when you get married or in a relationship keep a piece of You for You! Just in case if he says Yeah, I can't do this! You won't be in a total World Wind and you can bounce back like nothing happened
Watching these types of videos and hearing what other women have gone through is what gives me pause on dating and marriage. I know me and how I'll react if I were to be put in this situation. It's best for me to kick it alone. Kudos to the couples whom God has put together and blessed! I wish you nothing but happiness. 🙏🏾💝
Be intentionate from the get go. Choose your spouse wisely based on spiritual maturity Godly character Association with people of peace and same plan Analyse their overall visions and output of life She clearly ignored some signs until it was too late, those men knew something abt her they wanted and she probably gave it easily to them because of their status, look or money, or reputation. She didn't vet them enough on many positions as both have probably great careers or aspiring careers though they were both in a field that requires serious commitment to God. Some men can be evil (yes even women also), however if you trust God, read enough your bible, have mentor to guide you when you're confused or stuck and you are deliberately intentionate not to mess around unless that person commit and make that vow to God to you to your people then you can be with them, you will avoid many dramas.(I come in ✌🏿 peace)
I haven’t watched the entire video but this is a trend and she’s the common denominator. It may be helpful to reflect. Not on the men, but her decision making process as well as how she shows up. Somewhere in the line of events there’s an imbalance
She’s in a pattern of selecting the type of man that does not desire to be with her. She has to heal and analyze what it is that she needs to develop in herself and once she cultivates that right energy, she will attract her match. When break ups happen it’s not really anyone’s “fault” per say. That just means that it wasn’t the right energetic match.
Saved me some typing. It’s definitely a root cause and when the same thing happens in 2 different situations isn’t by coincidence. YOU’RE THE COMMON DENOMINATOR in this case you have to start with you. You’ve gotta get to the root cause of why you keep attracting and selecting these type of men. God is removing them for a reason. Either to save you from what you don’t see coming or to show you something needs to be addressed w/in you.
@@MIA-re5jyboth!! Cause the same just happened to me back to back and the last one broke me cause they knew about the first and did the same exact thing 😩 it’s def my abandonment issues playin out and somehow they were a reflection of me in some kind of way so I’m in therapy to see what my deep seeded issues are🤷🏽♀️
@@Golden-zo2cc Never and I mean never tell the new person what the last person did. They will repeat the same thing over and over again. If you tell them, you stayed with your ex after they hurt you numerous of times. They will push it to the limits because you allowed the last person to.
@@missextraordinary7172 lessons def learned Sis but it’s cool cause I’m done with them they ain’t gotta worry bout me🙅🏽♀️ I just have no more energy for the fooleryyy frfr🤦🏽♀️
The same events kept occurring to me in relationships as well. Scarred me bad and now I don’t do relationships. I think I will get back out there eventually, but I’m enjoying the peace of not being constantly rejected and played with like a discardable toy.
This is so true...for some men it's difficult pursuing their passions and calling while managing the responsibilities of a family,I have been there as a man. Even Apostle Paul talked about this struggle how family can be a weight pulling you back. I know how he felt. I also feel pained for her too... this is just life
It is not always about people's choices, sometimes it's about demonic familiar spirits influencing their decisions! Due to a lack of Godly devotion and prayer
@@davidbrewer184 lol, not really, there are cases where the person is under a yoke whether you believe it or not. They may need deliverance in some cases. Yes, we should make better decisions but sometimes it's not the person in their right mind
They want "producers", or basketball players, not accountants or plumbers, or bus-drivers. So, booh hooh !! And some have the nerve here in the comments to say that they "did everything..." to ensure a stable home for their kids. SMDH.
Women must understand that not all men are “built” for monogamy and long-term relationships. This is why you should choose men who are seeking long-term commitments. In other words just because you want monogamy doesn't mean he does. Also most women pass over the guy who would have given you that commitment because he was too “boring”.
Same..but 3 days before mine.The gift was in his exit and absence that I was able to heal from everything I had been through after 20 years w an individual.It can be done.True happiness is in peace of mind.Thank god I’m free from it ♥️🙏wishing love and light to anyone who may be struggling w this kind of circumstance 🙏💯
There's this Tik Toc that's called "Girls Christian Podcasts Be Like" or something like that, and now whenever I hear this channel's clips I can't unhear all the "mmmmm''s"
There were many lessons I learned in my single season with God that I wish I knew sooner. 1. The right thing at the wrong time is still the wrong thing. 2. Seek God’s permission before you take steps towards a relationship. Let God provide you with clearance before you go! 3. Always pray for God’s Will! You will never go wrong! I pray for everyone who has experienced the spirit of rejection and that you seek deliverance from it ❤
You should have learned to not have sex before marriage. It's no spiritual thing, it's a you thing.
I believe marriage before sex that's my belief but I have seen where married before sex yet this story she is telling happen anyway,so tell me what to blame
All our deliverance is in Christ!
Gods timing is always perfect and for that reason what you said is right……if it’s not the right time it’s still the wrong thing. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@@Laoriginal718 lol yall cope so hard
Situations are repeated until we get the lesson.
More grace 🔥
I agree. I’ve always found it interesting how people can have a similar experience but the lesson be different. We really all do have our our own individual lesson plan while we navigate this life & earth 💗
Its bullshit what you believe. You think way too linear which limits you. Jesus is the only way truth and life@@alexatkins9515
Also if there are spirits working against us, curses that are yet to be broken
@@AshleyyVarelaa Jesus removed ALL curses (Col 2:13, Gal 3:13-14) if you believe. The Law can't remove curses, if you violate one then you have violated them all.
In Jesus name, I rebuke these demonic curses over myself and everyone reading this. Spirit spouses and curses are REAL, y'all. When I looked back at failed after failed relationship, I realized a switch flipped and these men behaved the EXACT same way. There is a whole spirit world at work all around us.
Amen!!
This !!
Sis this is just too true. Patterns that are caused by sinister spirits. I agree with you 💯.
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YEP! The lady has been marked with a scent in the spirit. That's why she is attracting not the same man, but the same SPIRIT in different men. She needs to repent, renounce, and replace that spirit.
Lord protect these women out here. Continue to give them discernment whether or not they like it. Make the red flags glaring. Reveal the enemy’s strategies. Help them to understand that “patience is the weapon that forces deception to reveal itself.” Guide them in all they do. Send spiritual mothers & fathers to them to hold them accountable and aide in protecting them. We come against pseudo blessings. Wither back the hand of the enemy in their love lives. Deliver and heal them from any trauma that attracts these type of men that are clearly Satans instruments. & Keep men who are not submitted to You FAR FAR AWAY from them in Jesus name!
That familiar spirit ain’t no joke. 😭
In Jesus name! Amen!!🙏
I love this prayer
We Must have a spiritual relationship with the Almighty God and it includes reading His word and having the Holy Spirit within this
Amen!
In Jesus Name, Amen!!
I felt this prayer. 🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️❤️
AMEN!
Amén!!
I’m so glad I looked the video up in its entirety. She experienced a beautiful ending.. she is now happily remarried 😊.
What episode is this
But why did this keep happening to her?
@SMARAGH20 she didn't use proper discernment to avoid men that were wicked at the time.
Also a product of men not checking men on this type of behavior.
please send me.
@@YoJoRockThaBeat
Also 👇
That hit different. Am sure she "ANABLED" BOTH SITUATIONS,NO SHADE BUH WHEN U LET A MAN THINK UR A DOOR MAT THEY WALL OVER U LIKE ONE. NEVEEEER EVER ACCEPT ANY LEVEL OF DISRESPECT 4 NO LO❤E REASONS,REGARDLESS. I REFUSED THAT A LOOOOOONG T IIJ ME AGO OFCOURSE I LEARNT IT FTOM DAD AS A LITTLE GAL BUH IGNORED THEM SCARLET
🚩LAAAGS,THEN LEARNT IT. THAT LESSON RIGHT THERE IS SO WORYH IT.NEVER WANT NO MAN MORE THAN U & HE WANTS U,NEVER.
HOPE GAL,U'VE HEALED & OVERCOME.
Sometimes, when you tell a new partner what happened to you in a previous relationship, they will knowingly repeat that behavior and mimic your trauma.
Facts, that's why I stand on "do not tell your new partner of past hurts".
She needs to do the self work and discover why she’s attracted to the SAME type of characteristics in a man.
@@sallyhemings2295 of course, but that is a separate issue pertaining to my comment
That is a FACT. You’ve told them what you endured so they know your tolerance!
People talk too much😂😂😂😂😂😂
My mom always warned me about that. She said it sets the bar of what you will tolerate in the new person’s mind.
As women, we have a choice in the matter. My picker was off! I picked men who mirrored my childhood traumatic experiences. My dad abandoned/rejected me and my mom was emotionally unavailable. It’s imperative to get healed from childhood trauma and broken consciousness.
I am noticing this everyday i pick men who love me so hard fall off then start to abandon me on and off and are emotional abusive and neglectful but aware of their own
THAT PART/FAMILIAR SPIRIT
Girl stfu these men woke up one day and decided they didn't want life anymore you biths think it's the picker's fault and a good picker would prevent this 😂
***NEVER HEARD OF A MAN REJECTING AN INFANT/CHILD . THEY ARE SO BEAUTIFULLLL.
(MOST OFTEN ....THE RELATIONSHIP WITH THE MOM IS WHAT THEY ARE REJECTING.)
***THE CHILD DOES GET CAUGHT IN THE CROSSFIRE OFTENTIMES ALL BECAUSE OF GROWN UPS WHO MAY NOT BE ABLE TO COMMUNICATE WELL OR DONT KNOW HOW TO BREAK UP , MOVE ON AND STILL CO-PARENT.
***I THINK IM SAYING THIS BECAUSE I DONT WANT YOU TO FEEL LIKE THAT AND
I HOPE YOU CAN USE THE INFORMATION ABOVE TO ( SEE IT DIFFERENTELY)
SO YOU CAN GET PAST ANY TRAUMA AND BE OPENED TO BEING BLESSED WITH A DUFFERENT RELATIONSHIP THAN YOUR PARENTS HAD. I BELIEVE YOU WILL BASED ON YOUR LAST SENTENCE.
BUT YOU HAVE TO THINK POSITIVELY.
OH AND REMEMBER....PARENTS ARE NOT PERFECT..WE FORGET THEY ARE GROWN BUT ARE STILL GROWING ALWAYS. ...LOL
ITS BEST TO GIVE THEM GRACE LIKE GOD DOES FOR EVERYONE.
I WANT YOU TO THINK POSITIVELY AND FROM NOW ON (( SPEAK OF YOURSELF AS BEING LOVED))
O N L Y .......FROM THIS MOMENT ON.
PEACE AND LOVE
This
When God doesn’t approve of your partner, eventually he calls time in on it. He can see what the other is doing to you behind your back. Thank you God for protecting her. ❤
Why doesn’t he do the calling before children are involved. 😢
Oh my 🙏🏽😢❤
@@Happymind-happyworld.He does to those who are wise enough to consult Him first. But when we don’t and follow our hearts instead, the grief and heartbreak will definitely clear your vision and then you’ll see all the signs you “missed”. 😞
The Most High ALWAYS gives us a heads up and a way of escape. We ignore the signs, grieve His Spirit, and then expect for Him to bless our mess. But I'm so glad He has never taken His hands off of me.
It is what it is. Humans are complicated creatures that it. And we women have no choice but to got stronger and push ourselves forward .
How does a music producer or basketball player not able to provide and be there for his family?? .. That’s a weak and lame excuse for any man to give to good woman !!
A real man would never .. Our job is to provide and protect .. It’s not on you Sis, they just weren’t ready !! You’re a Queen, keep pushing forward ❤🙏🏾
Men statistically dont leave men. So what was she doing that created a this seismic shift?
Who's she talking about ?
What is it that you see in this clip that makes you feel she’s a good woman? Nothing….
@@henrylafontant9724 some of these comments shows just how dark, ignorant and twisted people's minds and thoughts are . All I can do is say, "WOW" and smh. And I'm not referring to u.
Nah I don’t believe in coincidences WTH did she do?! Is what I wanna know cuz usually it’s typically females that leave..for a dude to leave… An twice👀 is too suspicious
This happened to me once then he went on to marry someone else. She drained him of everything and he came crawling back .. he then was met with the love of my life at my doorstep.. We could make room for love.. don’t give up
: You go girl!!!❤🎉😊
I cried when I watched this part. To be hurt the same way twice and then have to be a single parent when you did everything right. That is heartbreak.
No one should have to raise a child alone, but every day, people are abandoned to complete the task.😢😢😢
"Everyday people are abandoned to complete the task"
I can relate 100%. Prayed to break that cycle, only to have my children experience anyway and then people to constantly judge single mothers as if we didn’t do everything in our power to give our children what they need. Also hate when people wish me a happy Father’s Day 😠 I am not a father.
@tracylane6860 Let's be friends...It breaks my heart to know that I trusted a man and he betrayed not only me but his own children.
Then to have people say you should have done this or that. To have people look down on you because you have kids. They have no clue of the background and even when they do they still judge.
I pray covering for every single mother reading this and that her and the children have the BEST POSSIBLE OUTCOME despite how the enemy tries to break our spirit❤️💯
I have been here 2x. I put my faith and trust in God
@@Diva8204amen so true
Took me four failed marriages for me to figure out this familiar spirit stuff!!!! I been single seeking and being in love with God and God alone for past 3 & 1/2 years- fasting and praying and in the word 24/7…. No tv no social media no movies no relationships or anything… just me seeking answers and revelations from the Lord… now I’m writing books and a devotional to help others and soon will be back on my channel teaching and testify to the glory of God and all He has taught me and calling me to help others find their purpose in the Lords will!!!! …. God is so good…. I lost 77 pounds the first year of this journey and it was from praying and fasting and seeking God- I have grown so much and now I just want to help others find their true identity in Christ-
Simply beautiful! It is wonderful spotting patterns, and going to God to break them, and help build you up and making you the stand in the gap for your generation ...ending with you and starting with you. God's grace will continue to make the difference for you and Holy Spirit will always help you.
i see you when i look in the mirror and i dont recognize how i could have made so many terrible choices...knowing that i deserved so much better
Uuummmm maybe it was you who failed at marriage stop blaming everyone else
Way to go on your journey.
The way God tends to work, this heartbreak is a blessing.
Absolutely 🎉
Absolutely 🎉
Absolutely 🎉
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Women are shamed when they choose their career over starting a family. But men leave the families they’ve already started for their careers all the time and feel no shame.
Careers & passions are not the same intentions ppl have for another don't be the same after some success mfs get stressed over unknown insecurities all the time regardless
Careers & passions are not the same intentions ppl have for another don't be the same after some success mfs get stressed over unknown insecurities all the time regardless
@@Feeled_RecordingsITS SELFISH TO MAKE A PERSON period. That unwanted person suffer the most
stop chasing celebs, rich men, f-boys & guys who don't like you back. its not rocket science but women still never learn smh
Why did she choose them when better options were out there? Selecting who we reproduce with isn't just a casual decision-it's one of the most critical choices we make, especially when children are involved. Both genders need to thoughtfully plan when it comes to creating a family. Pointing fingers won’t bring solutions. Let’s rethink the way we choose partners: prioritize someone who’s a good friend over someone who merely sparks lust or looks appealing. Raising children isn’t a beauty pageant or popularity contest; it’s about creating a loving, stable home with two committed parents.
Lust is fine, but it shouldn't be the foundation for reproduction. If you’re constantly fighting after a month or two or have little in common beyond sexual chemistry, the relationship likely won’t last. We need to change our approach to reproduction and embed these values in our culture to ensure stronger, happier families. Don't you think our children deserve better????
Mbs Crew Deion
Noticing the shift & wishing U were wrong but knowing it's exactly what Ur afraid of, is a different kind of pain. I felt in my soul.
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Thank U Much ❤@Bananahotsauce330
I loove her disposition and her voice🥺🔥 the way she relays information, gentleness in her voice🔥 you guys together? Absolutely beautiful. I need to watch the full episode🥺🥺🔥🔥
I watched it twice already, even listened to audio it was literally the best Ep thus far. So many gems dropped.
Who is she❓️🤔
But if a woman does this, she would never stand a chance in the spotlight. Deadbeat parents are the worst, but the fact that men so often feel like they can just up and leave and choose their own happiness over the family THEY created is disgusting. And what’s worse is how okay with it society is to where most successful men have multiple abandoned families.
Then you have men all over blaming the victim and saying “well she should have chose better”
100% facts. And the child say my dad didn’t live with us. When it’s mom “she left me.”
Preach, because for far too long they get away with this disgusting behaviour and still want to blame a woman 😢.
@@Bewise-gq4ruSo women need to stop making babies for these men. Some of them just wanna pass their genes on.They don't wanna be parents.
Exactly! Now through project 2025 Republicans are trying to punish women for the family without fathers and trying to take away women's rights
I felt it when she said she “sat in the closet for 4 years” I totally got that… There are many of us locked away because of a marriage ending… Those who feel it know it.😢Step by step crawl out, a good life is out there.🙏🏽
"Step by Step, craw out"...😢
8 yrs for me after a bad break up
"Sis, when I tell you, I was in that closet from that day, up until about four years ago."
I think she may have been in there longer than four years, sis. 😔😢 I'm glad she crawled her way out. God is good.
I thought she was talking about her prayer closet. I felt like she prayed continuously for what she has now. She’s super spiritual and openly talks about her relationship with God.
@quashawnmurphy1456 When God gives you your husband, you will not have to crawl out of a closet or anything else. Oftentimes, women do not listen nor comprehend well. The problem with a lot of women they're so caught up with being married, instead living their best single life. Let the man find you and seek God for guidance always and first!
The moment the first disrespectful act goes unchecked or unchallenged, you've set yourself up for failure. There are always signs along the way and we tend to overlook them because of blind love. I'd rather have respect than love.
Yup.
Indeed.i learned that in my first marriage. I took ten years by myself..just god and i.i literally put a huge pause on my personal life to see what did I do wrong.i did all of the right things for the wrong person, that showed me I was lacking self love within myself. Meanwhile,I was pure and honest,mature,but tried to see the good within a demon.and it wasn't there.my lessons were harsh,but we'll needed.i cannot expect the best from no one but god and myself.he was looking for a sugar momma who was willing to be conned in every way.the last thing that he told me was..out of all of the women that he had been with,I was the only one that truly told him the truth,as well as fight him back mentally, physically, and spiritually. I divorced him and others out of my life,but still haven't lost hope on real love.but I have it with god and myself.thanks a million to my beautiful grandmothers that showed me the way to God's glory,as well as a woman's virtue
True love cannot exist in the absence of respect.
Whether you check/challenge disrespect or not, a relationship that isn’t meant to be will eventually come to an end.
GODs discernment the closer we are to him will determine if we see the signs or miss them
Atleast they were honest. Find someone who wants what you want. Let everyone do what makes them happy. It’s no one’s job to make you happy.
after they married and procreated the fuck
WOW, last week this young lady came to mind because she is a huge fitness influencer. I loved her workouts, but especially because she works out to gospel music. I remember she got married, and she and her new husband at the time shared their journey. I was so happy for her and grateful to God for her new found mate. However, I thought of her from time to time, and wanted to visit her page on instagram, but I could not remember her name. All in all, I’m thankful to God that she’s making it through, in spite of the circumstances. Blessings to you sister in Christ🙏🏼❤️🥺
I pray this lady finds a husband that that is her protector, her provider and best friend. I pray that she is a wonderful loving and supportive wife to him. His best friend.
Not only to have the hurt of your husband leaving you, but to also carry the hurt you feel for your child being hurt by their father too, is so heartbreaking to think about. BUT GOD!!!
I don’t get it, how did the father leave, he might be competing, or seeing the kid on the weekends.
How does being honest and leaving a Woman ALSO mean...You LEFT your child?! The average good Man WANTS His kids...just not the Mom.
She just said her daughter's father is a great parent. She's not a single parent She's a parent that's single.
: There it is! People just listen to respond. She's giving her child's Father his respect, his just due.
I love, and respect her for that!😊
Now, this seems like a mature and insightful black women's podcast
She said she ain’t lose love for him. She strong asl. Cause I’ll be damned.
She didn’t lose any love for God cuz God didn’t give it to her not ❤
What does asl mean I see it and can never figure it out
@@ih783as hell😊
Having love and being in love is two different things.
She had already accepted it for her life. She knew it was coming. She didn’t know when 🤷🏽♀️
Some men need to be honest with themselves and know they are not built for a family and all that comes with it, and not produce one if that is the case.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Some women need to stop dating for the bag and maybe find a guy who has a 9 to 5 and who is rooted in family values. I noticed one guy she was dating was a basketball player and the other was a producer. Does anybody else see a pattern here?
@@freddyrocksteady420 Nope, that’s just you trying to pad your echo chamber by cherry picking … Dodging accountability for them and degrading men their ability to be family men because they are in certain professions at the same time, smh.
@@sssssssss111 I carefully examined😊 your comment..🤔🤔. It actually made 0% sense in coherency & logic..🫵🏽🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️IJS. I can expound if needed.
I think women know who the men they choose are, but want them to be different for them. Instead of understanding what they are getting into and accepting the man as being only who he has always been. Discernment is a tricky thing when not used.
Wow. I felt your pain! The same thing happened to me after re-marrying my ex and 91/2 years of marriage the second go round (long enough for him to clean up his credit).
Healing takes a while, but thanks be to God I made it. Peace unto you🙏🏽
Tell that sister that's a generational spirit
It will follow her all her days until she stops it she's not taking authority but, she's let fear take over a fast would be great to get confirmation of my word's
It's impossible to be a family man and pursue a career to the fullest when you are living for yourself and depending on your own strength, but when you are living for God and focused on accomplishing *His* will for your life all things are possible! ❤🙏🏽🕊
Those men are truly a different kind of awful. You took vows to be with someone, created a family with that person by brnging kids into the world, then you abandon them for a job? When the choice is between "family man" and "career", they were far too content abandoning their family. That's the point where you would start rearranging priorities and figure out what you need to change in your career to support your household. Being so wrapped up on your work that you give up yoir family for it isnt normal.
Probably a repeat pattern from his own father or mother.
Huh?????? So women can destroy a family 85%of the time for reasons such as growing apart( but now they're best friends), growing out of love, he lost his job, he won't level up at the same pace as you. Or most won't even get with a man for reasons he has no control of. But when men do those things at a rate of probably 5%, he's trash. Sorry...this is one guy that can't be gaslit.
@@heknows9441That’s true
It's sick
What’s to say that was actually the truth? The moment she said that, I automatically thought that’s exactly the kind of excuse a cheater would give. He’s always had the job…the difference nor is maybe both of them fell for someone they met and then finally decided to kick in the towel.
Many women try to turn playas into husbands. We are attracted to the coolness the hype, but men in that phase dont settle
This. Or believe we can change him. You can’t. 😂
Yeah. Both of those guys are in fields were there is alot of temptation. One is a producer the other a ball player. Hopefully next time she finds a true man of God whose lifestyle aligns with her values and marries them before having more children.
You cannot try to turn the money into a husband if I don’t wanna be a husband girl bye
That part right there. you tryin to turn a lay into a husband.
@ShaneCM and so you can see how all the men who got rejected for these dudes while they build themselves up and when they have to choose from the "remnants," they become dishearted.
Whew I just experienced this and my therapist said “ It didn’t workout, but u learned what you want, what you don’t want and what you want accept. Now you won’t settle for someone that is not meeting your emotional needs fully”. She kept saying I settled, but I refused to say that. It was true tho to some extent I settled for what I thought was the best I could do
Wow! Thanks for sharing.
Beautiful
Thank God He allowed you to know Truth....God had different plans for you and those Guys couldn't go with you....Although you felt the hurt when the smoke clear....it should of build you even Stronger ....Life can be Amazing and Hilarious also....Continue your Relationship with God and keep Doing You.....At the end of the Day Although you have husband...kids...Family and Friends....God was with you at the Beginning and He will be with you in the End🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I felt that 💜 it’s hard dealing with these situations, and people will judge you for experiencing trauma more than once before realizing you need change. Then, blame YOU for being a single mom, when your partner chose otherwise. We’re human, we all go through things, some people lessons are learned differently. Wishing everyone healing, including myself💜💜💜
Twice same answer it’s beyond her now.. there is an evil spirit manipulating the men that comes in her life. Sis needs deliverance from that spiritual husband
@jamaicanqueentv I understand what you are saying. But I believe the emphasis needs to be on men and the spirit of the devil they embrace, and so readily, instead of the Spirit of righteousness of the Lord God as their Father. God is their covering but they reject God and are instead living under the cloak of the devil and sin.
Few men who have these type of careers are faithful in marriage.
She already did! She's happily married now!
No evil spirit, she needs to pick a “honest about what he wants” man that want the same quiet family life as her.
That was definitely spiritual
@@sayedero glory to God, who sets us free
She's beautiful! I couldn't leave that face.
Thank you for your comment. There are so many hurt and angry boys spewing hate online. Positive comments are healing and a breath of fresh air.
You really can feel the shift the best part is when you give it to God powerful testimony Amen 🙏🏾
I don't have the mental fortitude for this conversation lmao
😂😂😂
And these are the so called high value men. I will take my electrician and I will remain a nurse we may struggle together but we are still together fifteen years and still counting.
Women have to vet men better and vice versa. Many of us ladies don’t listen to men and many of us choose to hear what we want to hear. In my experience we move way too fast as well.
You can’t choose better it no one is the better!
@@arewahaircaretv8718and we also aren’t psychics. A lot of these men tend to lie about who they are until they are married. They switch up on you
Or if you don't qualify for better
@@trombonefellow assuming they’re the ‘better’
One man was a basketball player. The other man was a music producer... these are 1%men... she got the results most women get who date 1% men..
Sometimes a man will feel it's ok to do you the same way the last man did you. They just want to do a smidgen above the last to make you feel you have to be grateful.
That's why if you had a bad relationship before him you never tell him. My father told me that guys unconsciously judge and align their treatment of a woman based on her father and the last person she dated. I've only dated two men in my life and the second guy is my husband over twenty years. When we first started dating he was annoyed I didn't have any details to share about my last relationship 😂 I told him it was great I just didn't want to be a step mother so we parted. He knew he couldn't low base his treatment of me due to accepting it in the past.
And sometimes the woman can develop a behavior that would allow men to be put off by the same repeated actions that would allow man to not be with them. It's easy to assume that a man can treat her like another man did and feel comfortable in feeling like they can do it too, but she has to be the one to NOT allow them to do that to her. Self reflection is AS important as blaming someone else.
@@ThePinkPantha21 I had to learn on my own smh I literally had an ex tell me to my face "you let Ole boy do this and that, but you mad cuz I did this and that" and he said it with his chest!!
@@ThePinkPantha21exactly! She just needs to learn about not talking too much. Discernment
That evil 😈
She should have lost love for him. We do them an injustice when we forgive without holding them accountable. They choose sex over family like ppl choose drugs or alcohol. It's selfish. He cheated on her. Left her 2 days before her birthday. With no notice. He chose his career over the child he created. And she still gave him props publicly for being a "great parent" and asked herself what she did wrong. This shit is crazy. Why they smiling about being abused and abandoned?
I thought she was talking about two different dudes. Her child's father was the basketball player and her (I'm assuming) now ex, was the producer. I do believe he was cheating especially when he would not come home for days.
She said 4 years ago!!!!
She is smiling because of Jesus in her life. She is smiling because she can forgive, she is smiling because she has persevered, survived and is happy.
Not being upset is winning. It shows she let go of him. Hanging on to anger is allowing the person who did you wrong to occupy space in your heart.
@@nicolea.7501 there's a difference between hanging on to anger and praising someone who doesn't deserve it. Telling the horrific story of how someone caused you trauma and then saying they're a good person is contradictory. And this is why a lot of ppl condone bad behavior. There are no consequences and too often we not only forgive but we revise history to paint them as good ppl. Which they aren't.
There’s so few good people that find good people. When it’s exposed it’s traumatic. So many really no good people have invaded our psyche. She seems like a good woman. For reasons unknown, she had to go through what she went through. It seems she did have good experience of the lesson.
“Thank You!” for sharing
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In most of these cases, they claim not to have time for family, but they have time to cheat on their wives
Women do not cheat
u're right
@@markjakker2091 you say????
It is better if they leave them staying is worse!!!
Yes indeed, when they leave they actually doing you a favor. Get up, get over, get ready for the real one.😊
What a lot of people are missing is the fallacy or mistake this woman made twice. She's continuously picking the same man and it backfired on her twice.
Rejected by the wrong people they were not for you. You dodged a bullet sis
What are BW doing wrong ? Y'all are the only women that can't keep and maintain a man!!
Or he dodged a bullet.
She had a kid by one of them so your point is invalid 😂
Stand on business sis!!❤❤
When you analyze the common denominator and accept the truth, you will then be equipped to shift your reality.
I agree. finally a rational logical comment.. not colored by emotion but clear reasoning so refreshing. Was starting to lose hope it does seem to be many ppl thinking critically in here.
❤sweet heart thanks for sharing this brokenness is tough especially when you’re having children to raise at the same time.Take care of your heart ❤️
You two look like sisters anyway. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger
Hurts like hell, see it as a blessing ❤
Never except the disrespect - the rejection is your heavenly Father's protection!
Wow! God knew I needed this message. I sit here sad and lonely and never thinking it’s because I didn’t learn my lesson.
The fact they were honest and spoke up is mature. If they wanted to put in the work to keep it going they would’ve. Sad to see relationships fail at the cost of career or another. But can also be a blessing in disguise for better things to come. Lesson learnt x
I get told I'm a good person while they're breaking my heart (happened to me twice) or they want me to side chick. I keep asking myself what is wrong with me that I keep attracting men like these? Am I giving off some type of pheromones? Last guy's wife was sick and in the hospital and he wanted to get busy! I cried
Work on your self esteem. Being a side chick is symptomatic of not feeling protected and provided for as a little girl. You deserve better. Even his wife deserves better. No one is winning. Unless you are on with poly relationships being a mistress is self induced abuse.
Also, if a man is married or in a committed relationship all he has to offer is a side chick position. So don’t internalise their lack of integrity with a deficit in yourself. Set firm boundaries and standards for yourself I.e di not date or entertain men that are taken.
Nothing is wrong with you, if guys are making advances or requests of you that does not align with your standards grounded in Christ, remember even Jesus was tempted. Stay true to your stance. Prioritise your relationship with God, delight you in Him in this season of waiting. Don't compromise. Enjoy your singlehood, it will be over soon. Trust God and continue to pray wait on Him for that man that is His best for you, while you work on yourself in readiness to receive His son. 🫂 🤗
This is so well written and kind. @@Mbuyiselo5
There's always two sides to a story, sometimes people just don't see things the same way
@Diva8204
It is sad, but the beautiful thing is she realized she did not do it right. She didn’t consult God first, and she was afraid to serve God in front of him in fear that he might be jealous that she loves God more than him ….
That’s heavy.
Those two divorces INCREASED her parade for Jesus, so much now that she’s in ministry.
She has MUCH more than what she settled for before (social class and fear of being alone or a single mom)
Oohh that's deep and makes much sense
The natural one is beautiful
The biggest problem with our black community in terms of relationships are communication, and being patience with each other.
This sounds like an anti-marriage curse. Tiphani Montgomery and Kevin LA Ewing go into great detail about this in the Art of War Pt 1. on YT.
Also the spirit of rejection on her life
Yes Kevin Ewing is so knowledgeable about spiritual principle highly recommend
So you roll with them too, huh!! 😂 🙌🏾
@@taylavie883me too 😊
Literally just came into contact with that video last night. This confirms that video was for me. Thank you for this comment.
The worst having hope being loyal. There hype man to there dreams.. Then. They leave
And we still wish you the best
When girls start understanding that when it aint you, it aint you… they want be hurt.. just accept it and move on..
And in my opinion from the beginning we love that idea of that man without really looking at the red flags. Is he already a single father? Has he ever been in a committed relationship before? I mean those things aren’t deal breakers but we don’t think these nuances through sometimes
This is sad when someone doesn't love you hard enough to stay and fight for the love of your partner and family. Very hurtful. I hope that God continues to give her peace despite the heartbreak 💔 People have become so selfish. It's scary these days to give all your love to someone else.
It’s the same demonic spirits from your childhood. This practically happened to me twice also. I had to go back deep into the roots of the ‘familiar’ that I was attracting. It was my mom raising me with a narc spirit. When my 2nd marriage ended I renounced all that this demonic spirit brought to me and cleansed also. Prayer and therapy help with the healing and learning to love myself - I love myself now. I’ve soothed my inner child from the abuse she had and had no choice in. Learning to be content with Jesus and praying for future relationships. The Holy Spirit must lead. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
The devil never changes his mode of attack. There’s a spirit that don’t want her married, and she needs to look at how she got these men 9/10 it’s coming from a bitter family or the ex’s of these men. Warfare is real and we need to recognize it and plead the blood over our family. Alternatively, know, what Yahweh has put together NO MAN can pull apart, so sometimes despite the devil intentions, Yahweh is going to turn it good. She will find her true divine partners, they were not it.
Divine partnerS?? No, one husband.
@BudandBloomWithBlossom ...that person sounds like some type of new-age "moon goddess."
The devil doesn’t want anyone to be married. We are all under attack.
This is why I tell women when you get married or in a relationship keep a piece of You for You! Just in case if he says Yeah, I can't do this! You won't be in a total World Wind and you can bounce back like nothing happened
So basically one foot in one foot out.
I know I lived this and it shook my world but the rebuild was oooh soo worth it 😊
Watching these types of videos and hearing what other women have gone through is what gives me pause on dating and marriage. I know me and how I'll react if I were to be put in this situation. It's best for me to kick it alone. Kudos to the couples whom God has put together and blessed! I wish you nothing but happiness. 🙏🏾💝
Be intentionate from the get go.
Choose your spouse wisely based on spiritual maturity
Godly character
Association with people of peace and same plan
Analyse their overall visions and output of life
She clearly ignored some signs until it was too late, those men knew something abt her they wanted and she probably gave it easily to them because of their status, look or money, or reputation.
She didn't vet them enough on many positions as both have probably great careers or aspiring careers though they were both in a field that requires serious commitment to God.
Some men can be evil (yes even women also), however if you trust God, read enough your bible, have mentor to guide you when you're confused or stuck and you are deliberately intentionate not to mess around unless that person commit and make that vow to God to you to your people then you can be with them, you will avoid many dramas.(I come in ✌🏿 peace)
I haven’t watched the entire video but this is a trend and she’s the common denominator. It may be helpful to reflect. Not on the men, but her decision making process as well as how she shows up. Somewhere in the line of events there’s an imbalance
Ouuuu the shift !! I’m telling you… we feel it way before it starts to play out…
It's always Jermaine's fault. She's telling everything but what she did wrong.
Facts! Women tend to never take accountability. Especially black women.
“I feel like we did the right thing but at the wrong time” is a sermon in itself
She’s in a pattern of selecting the type of man that does not desire to be with her. She has to heal and analyze what it is that she needs to develop in herself and once she cultivates that right energy, she will attract her match.
When break ups happen it’s not really anyone’s “fault” per say. That just means that it wasn’t the right energetic match.
Saved me some typing.
It’s definitely a root cause and when the same thing happens in 2 different situations isn’t by coincidence.
YOU’RE THE COMMON DENOMINATOR in this case you have to start with you.
You’ve gotta get to the root cause of why you keep attracting and selecting these type of men.
God is removing them for a reason. Either to save you from what you don’t see coming or to show you something needs to be addressed w/in you.
@@MIA-re5jyboth!! Cause the same just happened to me back to back and the last one broke me cause they knew about the first and did the same exact thing 😩 it’s def my abandonment issues playin out and somehow they were a reflection of me in some kind of way so I’m in therapy to see what my deep seeded issues are🤷🏽♀️
YOU BETTER PREACH!!!
@@Golden-zo2cc Never and I mean never tell the new person what the last person did. They will repeat the same thing over and over again. If you tell them, you stayed with your ex after they hurt you numerous of times. They will push it to the limits because you allowed the last person to.
@@missextraordinary7172 lessons def learned Sis but it’s cool cause I’m done with them they ain’t gotta worry bout me🙅🏽♀️ I just have no more energy for the fooleryyy frfr🤦🏽♀️
The same events kept occurring to me in relationships as well. Scarred me bad and now I don’t do relationships. I think I will get back out there eventually, but I’m enjoying the peace of not being constantly rejected and played with like a discardable toy.
Do some deep childhood inner work, or will attract same dudes.
Why would y’all point out the “Mmmmmm” now I can’t listen 😩😂
Same!🥴🤦🏾♀️😂😂😂😂😂
This is so true...for some men it's difficult pursuing their passions and calling while managing the responsibilities of a family,I have been there as a man. Even Apostle Paul talked about this struggle how family can be a weight pulling you back.
I know how he felt. I also feel pained for her too... this is just life
Been there Sis ! Hugs, prayer and strength to You. Love the passion,energy,courage you have.
Often, we repeat a pattern in choices.
🎯. This happens when we don’t learn the lesson the first time.
It is not always about people's choices, sometimes it's about demonic familiar spirits influencing their decisions! Due to a lack of Godly devotion and prayer
@@azpersonal Translation..."It's not my fault"
@@davidbrewer184 lol, not really, there are cases where the person is under a yoke whether you believe it or not. They may need deliverance in some cases. Yes, we should make better decisions but sometimes it's not the person in their right mind
Absolutely.....our choices...if we don't catch that pattern and get to the bottom of it....we will mk the same choice with a different face
Thank you Lord for restoring Qui.
The Familiar part is going over everyone’s head. Megan maybe you should do a series on familiar spirits 🙏🏽
Loved this vlog🤌🔥
Both men are giving that I want to sow my oats vibe.😢 They just wanted to be out there. Among the daisies, they could push-up.😢😢😢
Women have to take accountability. What did she do?
Omgsh! A familiar spirit. This is what's been following me. Omgsh! I need deliverance
Only thing I heard was she was overwhelming with her expectations
These two women are absolutely gorgeous and dropped dead beautiful.
Love God no matter what…”that part”❤
He can do both but if he is confronted with an ultimatum she will lose everytime.
They want "producers", or basketball players, not accountants or plumbers, or bus-drivers.
So, booh hooh !!
And some have the nerve here in the comments to say that they "did everything..." to ensure a stable home for their kids. SMDH.
Your decisions decide the life you live. You have a type.
Nice blame her
@LIVETODAY_0 Who else to blame? She made the decision to deal with those kinds of men.
Women must understand that not all men are “built” for monogamy and long-term relationships. This is why you should choose men who are seeking long-term commitments. In other words just because you want monogamy doesn't mean he does. Also most women pass over the guy who would have given you that commitment because he was too “boring”.
Wowwwww I pray that she is totally open and available for her healing
I think this woman knows the real reason, but we all know she won't say it 😂
And what is that since you know her relationship so well ?
I was trying so hard to listen but the fucking humming Jesus…
😂😂😂😂😂I can't stand it! You're my spirit animal. Greetings from South Africa.
So wait, she got hit with the same line twice by 2 different men? It clearly means she was lacking something somewhere. ijs
Same..but 3 days before mine.The gift was in his exit and absence that I was able to heal from everything I had been through after 20 years w an individual.It can be done.True happiness is in peace of mind.Thank god I’m free from it ♥️🙏wishing love and light to anyone who may be struggling w this kind of circumstance 🙏💯
“Mmmmm”….”mmmmmm” 😩 I’m subscribed but I can’t watch her interviews because of that “mmm” every five seconds
There's this Tik Toc that's called "Girls Christian Podcasts Be Like" or something like that, and now whenever I hear this channel's clips I can't unhear all the "mmmmm''s"
@@jasminehouston-burns1691oh wow so it’s a thing? 😅
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Same on red table talk lol
"That Part" sounds like a good podcast name