Thanks Will! I watch your videos a lot actually. Appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment :) ...I’ll be in the Philippines again around April for a few months doing music collabs with artists in Manila. Would be cool to collab if you’re in the country then.
I heard you are sick and I wish you well but just like what I said to DiMuzio, you don't know everything. If you have lived a life like ours, that's the only time you can have an opinion about how we live our lives. You lived in the US most of your life, came back here and gained many Pinoy followers. Really nice way to upstart your vlogging business. We are not as stupid as you think we are, Wil.
This is good bro. I think there are more factors we got to look at tho. Psychology plays a part too. Collective belief systems that the rich are crooks, keeping them from wanting to be rich. This is quite subtle. Also, Filipinos tend to encourage kids to go to school, get good grades, and get a job. And that is all there is to life which is another limiting belief. Self discipline plays a major role too. You'll never get rich if you save little, buy a case of beer every weekend, and gamble the rest. A more practical factor would be the lacking of knowledge in terms of investment. I don't see a lot of people investing.
We Filipinos stay poor because: 1. We dont plan for the future; retirement, having a family, kids education etc. We live for the day. 2. We have a mentality that money is the root of evil and rich people are bad. 3. We dont set boundaries and cant say no to our family/relatives because we dont want to be seen as "matapobre". 4. We have this mentality of "utang na loob" that everything that was provided for us a as a child should be paid back when we have the means.
Putting yourself first doesn't mean you don't care to others. It means you`re smart enough to know you can't help others if you don't help your self first. Dont feed them teach them how they can feed themselves. The more you help yourself first. The more you are capable of lifting up others.
David DiMuzio I better way you could have said this so that others dont think you are telling them to be selfish is by telling them how they have helped their families greatly by ensuring they will have a good future once you are gone. You have helped those you care for so much thanks to the opputunities you have given them and so even if you die tomorrow, you'll die in peace knowing those you care for are in good hands. I've grown up in the Philippines to know that we love our families and that if we know that they are in good hands than even if we die due to misfortune we die content knowing that our families are in good hands. Thats the best way we can help them, giving them the ability to have a good future even if we are gone. God bless you fornyour message man.
In the Philippines, in most cases, one's success is DEPENDENT on some other people's altruistic generosity and help. So a it takes a team of people's help for that person's success. And this team of people in most cases are your immediate family.
Proud pangay and breaker of chains. Honestly it hurts when they say Im too greedy cause I rarely give money. And they cant be ever so supportive of my financial independece. Once I was told by my mom that I will never succeed becuase of my way of thingking. But I couldn't care less. Call me ungratefull and all but you can never pour from an empty cup. Unless Im paid beyond my means then there will be no money. Also both of my younger sibling were both demanding and dependent but heck they never feel bad about that.
I can soo relate to this bruh.since im panganay in our family.im the one to carry most of the responsibilities/faith of my families while my little brother just chillin playin fortnite...its hard that your family forces you to be someone you dont want.like tinanong ako"apo ano gusto mo maging pagtapos ng kolehiyo mo"sabi ko gusto ko maging musician tas mag open ng parang music industry since magaling ako maggitara and i lovep laying guitar.ay wag nlng apo mag doctor ka nlng.like wtf sabi mo ano gusto ko maging hindi ano gusto nyo ako maging.i know doctor is high money paying pero whats the point kung ayaw mo naman sa trabaho mo dba.mas gusto ko pa na ok naman suweldo di pang mayaman pero oks na but i am having fun in what i am doing.
totoo po ya po nararanasan ko napaka hirap :( hindi ko alam paano maeescape to or tatangapin na lang. Yung kapatid ko aasa na lang sa tulong habang buhay. sobrang hirap magkaroon ng toxic na pamilya
Ranel Marinduque i could, but my family is so close minded so they wont listen to anything i say, theyre just keeping the whole family poor forever, i wanna move out on my own after college so i can break this chain in our generation which is stupid
They don’t get rich because their family members are holding them back. It’s sad really. They don’t care about the persons goals and dreams just as long as they are financially supported even if it brings an end to that person’s hopes and dreams. It’s just so unfair for the person and I really do feel angry about this kind of stuff
Agree 1000%: the money that Filipinos send home goes down the drain because those who receive the money do nothing to improve their lot in life and just expect more support. I know what you are talking about because my wife is Filipino. Spot on!
Ang pinaka ayaw ko na ririnig sa mama ko kung nagsasabi ako ng Facts "KAARTEHAN" Actually i dont have "FILIPINO" friends cuz of their Traits (INCOMPATIBILITY) I think its easier to make friends in Other countries cuz they have different Personalities than Filipinos Everytime I watch American shows cuz i love America. I want to move there
@@pilhiltrebisko4571 I rather embrace the New Zealand or Australian culture. I'm a Filipino-American here in America where a lot of Filipinos continue to have the same ugali as the ones in the Homeland. It's disappointing as hell.
I remember sharing this video 2 years ago and most Filipinos got pissed off. This is real talk and I still appreciate the content of this video. More Filipinos should be watching this!
the biggest problem of them is they don't trust knowledge~!!!! They don't even give you a shit and they just believe what they think is right~!!!! They care dignity or validation in the family , no use ~!!! Nowadays just google, advanced mindset is every where `~!!!!!!
They reject reality, and substitute their own. They get really angry for seeing anything that doesn't agree with their ignorant viewpoints, and the new information will not become facts, because they don't agree or like it.
I don't live in Philippines anymore but the longer im away there the more flaws i see from this country, we need to break the generational chain ! This video is straight up Facts !
I’m a Filipino/American citizen and everything u said is true.For 16 years,Iv been supporting my family back home even up to this time. But something happened that made me realized,people you’ve helped are not really appreciating what you’ve done for them.To make the story short,this year I’m no longer sending money to make them realized my worth as a person.No matter what you do for them,they don’t appreciate.God knows I’ve given so much for them but it’s time for me to move on and cut ties.I’m not a walking ATM machine.They will only realized the importance of someone when they are gone.I still give for big occasions though and birthdays.
My Filipino wife has done the same thing for over 20 years. She bought her baby 35 year old brother a very nice house and use the money We were saving to buy us a house. She has sent two or three to school for jobs, but they did not like that kind of work. Her oldest brother with eight kids said he had enough money for two more weeks and then he would start looking for a job. I am sorry to say, but they are the most irresponsible, entitled, lazy people I have ever been around. I thought Mexicans were lazy. They would work a Filipino to death. She just sent money back home to build a small house for her 82 year old father living here, that has high blood pressure and heart problems and when it gets hot next summer, he will probably not be around, she just wants to play that she’s the good girl. It’s so sad I see this over and over. I really believe that her family is the most important thing in her life if I died and she got Social Security from me and life insurance she would probably get over it in a week or two.but I have very good genes. Both my parents are still alive in their 90s so I will very likely outlive most of her family. What a sad situation best wishes, young lady. Choosing not to CARRY them is the best decision. The Bible at 2 Thessalonians 3:10 says “If anyone does not want to work, neither LET him eat” Don’t feed people that create excuses as to why they can not work. I have been to the Philippians 3 times and each time I go I see through their stories. I promised myself the last time I went that I would never return. . So you work for your money take care of it for your future, because you know those in the Philippines will not do anything for you. My 82 year old mother in law is in the hospital and her family keeps calling her for money. 🤨
Real talk! This is the realest of real. This is a ‘normal’ thinking in the Philippines. And because I don’t want to help, this has put me in trouble and disgusting fights with my mother and other relatives.
At one point you need to ask, are these people just using me or do they actually care. Because parents that care wouldn't pressure their kids this way. If they don't care, as harsh as it is, you're probably better off without them.
Milton Waddams I have figured this out. It’s just really became a norm here in the Philippines. They do care but at the same time it’s just the way they look at things. It’s their perspective. It’s wrong but this is what became the right thing.
Milton Waddams Our parents for example, expects as to give them regular monetary help until they die. I swear. That’s why the Philippines don’t prosper. We have this sick mentality.
@@NorlynCodes Yeah, I'm European and it's the opposite, you expect the parents to provide help to you up to your 30s. Help is only returned in the 70s and 80s and it's rarely monetary. Parents in Europe are sometimes happy to live in relative poverty as long as their kids are doing well. For them that is far more important.
Filipinos should learn that "give a man a fish and he will eat for a day,teach a man to fish and he will eat for life" by heart!I'm Filipino w Chinese and Spanish blood,but the video is real talk.My Chinese grandfather said that Filipinos are too emotional and religious to the point of hypocrisy and getting them dragged lower.
Truth hurts! What hurts the most- silent treatment, disown by your family for not giving them money (to them money is not everything unless the breadwinner decided to stop sending money) Is this hypocrisy?
I hope this reaches all Filipinos. Most of us are too dumb to even consider these ideas. That's why I personally hate our own culture. It's dumb and it needs to change. Even my own parents kept telling us since we were children to study hard to get a good job so we could help them financially which is a noble way to honor them but was totally a twisted way of thinking. They stopped trying to improve their finances in hopes of us pulling them up in the future and this was the exact same case with their own parents. It's a never ending cicle of puberty which I'm striving to end. Just sharing
Yes they meant poverty, not "puberty". And see, Filipinos in their colonial mentality keep claiming they speak English well (clearly they cant) and even worship the English language
Yes it's sad but also good because now we can learn. Disgusting people in our culture who pressure family members to give money should be shamed and humiliated then we can have a better culture.
I think that’s the good part about Filipino culture. I noticed Filipinos aren’t prideful like how people from other countries are. They’re actually willing to sit down and like understand the problems in the country and are willing to change instead of stubbornly insisting nothing is wrong..
As a filipino, I can easily say that the biggest problem that holds my culture back is our mentality. Our mentality is what kept the Philippines as a 3rd world country. Thankfully my grandfather woke up and had the family move to the U.S. before I was born. Because of him, se have a better life
Very true. My non filipino friends think this is a weird thing to do, giving money monthly back home. Once you stop giving though, you will feel the wrath of your poor family.
HAH the "wrath". thats a matter of perspective. it might be an actual problem if they were wealthy & powerful but... they're weak & poor maybe connected to wealthy & powerful people who want to keep you down fuck all of them. REAL FAMILY wants YOU to be SUCCESSFUL.
This is why I have no plans on giving anything to lazy family members. Not even a single peso. Not being selfish but money is earned not given. Although I do thank my parents for allowance because they're hard-working yeah they deserve the cash. But the rest? **** no! I strongly agree with teaching people how to fish and not giving them fish.
But there is no other option at this moment! My family in law has really no other option! My father in law has got a pension .. he needs to be lucky that the province is paying him !!! And all he gets is like 10 euro for a whole month. He can not do anything with that. If he needs to go to the doctor, only the traveling costs are already needed for this pension. So something needs to be done in the govt.
*It is a sad truth* that A LOT of Filipinos refuse to accept this just because of our so called "Culture" This isn't about culture. This is about the financial problems ng Pamilyang Pilipino. Kung gaano uma-asa ang mga miyembro ng pamilya sa iisang miyembro ng pamilya na tagumpay sa magandang trabaho. Kung pamilyang Pilipino talaga, dapat LAHAT magtutulungan, hindi yung AASA lang sa IISA o DALAWANG miyembro ng pamilya.
I have lived in the Philippines for 5 months now and this is so true. It's so incredibly sad to see parents pressuring their children to give them money. You articulated this message brilliantly. Very well done David!
@@degraw52 You're only living here for 8 months. Also you as a foreigner have a different income.. Unless you're a moron you wouldn't accept local income rates here. Obviously you're getting a rate similar to your country. Why is it BETTER? Well for one big thing I don't have to get a mortgage to get a house. I am able to save enough so maybe one day if I really need to move out I can fully buy a house without loaning.. or pay bigger down payment. Also you IGNORE what I said, it is only 15minutes from my work. And I only said RENTAL money not ALL MY MONEY. Actually, i'm helping out my parents because I'm technically paying RENT only at their house. Let me TEACH you one thing. Moving out doesn't mean you're rich and it doesn't mean you already made it. For all I know I may have more money than you right now even as a Philippine citizen. If you're a MORON.. why would you rent a house and have your money go to other people. When you can just use the space in your parents house. I bet you would stay in your parents house.. eat their food and use their electricity for FREE.. But no... for me I pay for it. Also I am DEBT FREE.. and have my own car.. I got it for CASH unlike people like you(yes even a foreigner like YOU) who would LOAN it have the interest go to the bank or ask money from Mommy?? so just you can say you have moved out?? Wow. What CHAIN? Chain of LOANS?? HAHAHA. I have Paper Assets and a Premium Investor.. I would not be able to do that if I moved out as soon as I got a job. And FYI, I watched the video and it doesn't relate to what you're saying. So I honestly think you don't understand his video.
@ Is there something wrong with your brain!?!? YOU ARE BRAINWASHED. Silly people like you is the reason the foreigners do not respect us! You tarantado MORON! You talk about the foreigner being in debt when most of our people work for the foreign companies and are slaves to the foreign companies and then just spend they whole paycheck on a stupid Phone or clothes from a foreign business. Or even worse they give it to their lazy family so they can spend it on beer! Our country is the most addicted to social media in the whole world and you just want to point fingers at the foreigners and never do something about it yourself. mga lokal na tao. People like you are the problem and the reason there is so much poverty in this country. If you were smart like the foreigner you would not be so stupid and argue and try to learn the valuable lesson. if not for the foreigner our whole country would fall apart. Are you stupid? Why don't your worthless family encourage you to move out? Because it's so much easier. Our people just want to be easy and take the easy way! It is so easy for you to just stay there and not have to grow up right? anak ng puta! You think all rich peope are greedy!? No, they are just smarter and more disciplined than you. You didn't pay attention to the video and you even insult people for being and orphan. You bring our people shame! Stupid Tado! I hate people like you making us all look bad!
@@AvelMetaverse I think it should be the same as it is in EVERY single other country besides our own. If you can't take care of your children then don't have them! Very simple. Parents who expect their children to give money to them are just horrible people. NO parent should EVER even think about allowing their children to give them money unless that child is older and highly successful and OFFERS it. NO PARENT should EVER ask. The fact that so many do in our country is why other countries don't respect us and it causes the younger generation so much anxiety and stress. Just absolutely shameful and ridiculous. Our people should be ashamed for this.
@@guy-ug5yp Dude you seem to be hurt. There are some people who are an exception to the rule. We or shall I say the person who commented and the man who did this video is just here to tell the truth not to insult Filipinos. Everything they said is true.
@Dark Star ANOTHER THING. FILIPINO'S BUSINESS OR NORMAL EVERYDAY BUSINESS IS TO INTERFERE AND TALK ABOUT SOMEONE ELSE LIFE. THEY LIKE CRITICIZING OTHERS BEFORE THEY LOOK AT THEIR SELVES OR INSTEAD TO IMPROVE THEMSELVES NOT TO DO THE MISTAKES OTHERS DO. LIKE RAINDARD XABI CRUZ. FILIPINOS LIKE CRITICIZING OTHERS BUT IF YOU CRITICIZE THEM THEY REACT VIOLENTLY!
I'm a Filipino and I thank you for sharing your insight and perspective to us. Sometimes we get blinded because we get so used to the environment, that we need someone from outside to give us a little perspective and open our eyes. I think this whole giving money to family/friends problem is a *boundary problem.* Filipinos don't have healthy boundaries with regards to financial matters. Instead of giving opportunities, we money. We are doing something for them that they can and need to do themselves. When we do that, they get unnecessarily dependent. It's a lose-lose situation. Giving them opportunities instead will help them grow. Giving them money is like being an overprotective/over-caring parent to a child -- the child will not develop and grow, and they get dependent on you. Thank you again for caring about Filipinos and making videos like this.
Taking criticism from non-confidants is the worst thing people can do and thats colonial mentality ! why would Filipinos take criticism , only dummies take criticisms, just make them ask permission first if they can offer an unsolicited suggestion. Filipinos must be the ones giving criticism on others !!
@@leusmaximusx wrong hence why the TH-cam app have like and dislike button until they updated the app due to a lot of people getting hurt seeing the dislike button if this was the old days of internet a comment sections are more brutal and worst 🤣🤣🤣🤣.
Criticism makes us grow, so it's a shame that Filipinos don't listen to this and think that everything is a judgement. Hopefully someone spread the word to stop so much poverty here.
It's funny that I found this video days after asking my mom how much she has in her bank account, considering that 3 of her kids have already graduated college. She told me that it's hard making more because she's supporting her and my dad's relatives :( What's so sad is that her and my dad's siblings also kept asking for support. My mom has always been a progressive thinker. She said she'd rather die young because she sould hate to be a burden to us when she's old. She also wants us to keep the money we earn to ourselves.
The biggest reason why Filipinos will not get rich is due to lack of entrepreneurship. We don't take risks in fear of failure. We are satisfied with a status quo and content to being just a worker as long as there's a steady income to count on. It pains me to say this but Filipinos are subservient. We rather take orders from foreigners than fellow Filipinos. Chinese businesses thrive in our country because they know our weakness
Not quite so simple, there are Filipino businesses. The problem is that Filipino businesses want to get rich fast, so they launch a product, quality and price are good, gain some market and IMMEDIATELY start lowering the quality to earn just "that extra more". Customers notice and drop the product. Next, the business goes under. Chinese are happy to think long-term and earn less profit but for many years, of course they will win in the end. Same goes for European products, rarely is the quality dramatically lowered unless the industry goes through a major change.
I think entrepreneurship sometimes is part genetics/upbringing/culture/environmnent. There is no doubt that Chinese people have entrepreneurship in their blood. Not only that they stress education, high savings and hard work. I am not saying philipinos are lazy. However, I think not everyone is meant to be an entrepreneurship. It's okay to not be money hungry like the Chinese. However, what i noticed is that many philipinos really have low savings rate and a spend all your paycheque mentality. that is a culture issue. it's okay to have a job as a janitor if that's what God made you to be, but that just means you have to save more and invest wisely
I agree to his message because my aunt who works as a nurse here in the US has sent thousands of dollars to my cousins in the Philippines for them to have a good education, but all of them wasted her money because some got pregnant and dropped out and they keep asking for money instead finding another source of income.
you speak everything absolutely right. here in Philippines everybody ask money and expect always to give them more. when family barrow they never pay back.
@@devilzbgaming8408 seriously bro i think you wrong coused every country has a bad person and good person its all up to you if you can defined the good and bad lol
Most Filipinos are Catholic . The church teaches them to be followers and not leaders , which almost guarantees they won't become wealthy . If by chance they do become wealthy nevertheless , the Church teaches they must share the wealth until they are no longer wealthy . Only a few are exempted from this rule . The Church teaches the select few wealthy are that way because God wills it . All Catholic societies operate this way .
Mr. Mister Hey man, it’s a cultural thing. Most Filipino’s won’t know what a successful culture (way of life) is like because they haven’t been outside of the Philippines.
Can you blame them, though? They were enslaved by foreign conquerors for more than three centuries. The slave mentality is just too difficult to shrug-off.
@@rescune4021 ok cuase its not generation for us and some parent don't teach manner and responsible I'm Filipino you don't even know what other Filipino look like they used to find plastic to get small amount of money for Thier Family And also having trash I'n river well also help got homeless to collect them instead of burning.
1 time i stop sending money to my parents. My father cursed me "pisti ka wala kay utang na loob". When infact i am the only sibling who sends the biggest money to my parents. Its very toxic and now i stop talking to my dad. I understand that he also grow in this situation but he should have learn how traumatic it is to be in this position.
When I told my mother that I'm not going to send them anymore money, she said that "I am no longer have any parents in the Philippines ". 😢 And yes they always mention "utang na loob", I'm sick of that😢
What you're saying is real and genuine. People kept saying about culture or what but you know what, its better to let it out and be aware of what is the culture and be enlightened of what the real situation is. People might say you don't know our culture otherwise but it doesn't change the fact of what the reality is. I would rather accept being real and honest than being blind.
Amen. Thanks for commenting. Hope you'll share the video so it can help others :) ...only truth and constructive criticism will change anything for the better.
Yup...That's just Filipino culture...The one in the family who has a job supports the ones in the family who don't have jobs...Which kind of enables the non-working family members to be lazy. My Filipina girlfriend supports her non-working family members too.
It’s ok to support their education, especially the little kids in the family. But if you are going to support their whimsical whims, oh no. That’s a very wrong thing to do.
@@johnbeelansones4660 because they are more disciplined than most of the filipinos... they are more systematic and resourceful than most of the filipinos...
@Nathan's Gameplay lmao just work hard for yourself. My father is successful, but he gave those money to his siblings. Well, even though he was successful, he didn’t got rich. *Just* think about it. Being selfless is kinda bad sometimes...
In this day and age there are so many more ways of making money. All you need is an internet connection and a few good ideas. I’m not suggesting the slum dwellers can do this. People make money documenting their daily life on TH-cam. Foreigners are always here making money just by making a video of how they like the Philippines... perhaps you people can share their interesting lives in the province farming or planting kamote and teaching others how to do it also... why are people so obsessed with watching foreigners talking about how great the country is?? Plus I agree you can just make money for yourself and wait till you are doing well enough to help others. Why work so hard and fly to other countries just to live a hard life giving people back home so much money?? It’s a tale as old as time, your niece that goes to school you are paying for gets pregnant and doesn’t finish studying. You family like to show they have money and host drink ups with cases of san mig for the entire barangay! And the boys just get drunk.... have your family open a sari sari store...???? Yeah right, that money goes missing or they all fight over their share. I tell all my clients when they go abroad save up to buy a house and start to ground your own roots. It isn’t selfish if you worked so hard to get there..
I'm a Filipino and this is sadly true... whats more sad is that Filipino family member would rather be given money than what u call as oppportunity.. The one who earns better will have the blessing or the curse to carry the burden of family expenses..The time you stop sharing, they will see u being selfish.
Charlotte Peace Im not speaking in behalf of americans or in your behalf. Im speaking of myself and how this reality relates to me. If it doesnt seem likely in your case, then youre in a different situation which i dont see any reason to disagree.
Nailed it. Ive seen n experienced(invites)this in the Philippines. One or two family carry on the burden of providing for the entire family. Also, borrowing money from one family to another. The fact is, a majority families n extended families live side by side( big or small house or shanty type). When it comes to marriage and having kids, both couple know they dont have the means to provide a good life for themselves n their kids. Hey, like most Filipinos there in the PH will say, “Its Life or bahala attitude”. Another reason, most Filipinos valued the 9-5 work mentality, not entrepreneurship. Businesses provide Jobs. A lot of Filipinos just cant think outside the Box. Dont get me wrong, nurses, doctors, and engineers are what Filipinos see as getting out of poverty, but these professions wont make the PH a First world country.
First time I heard this video I said to myself are you really encouraging or discouraging Filipinos? But then I saw it again the second time video after subscribing to your singing videos. I said let me listen to you this video again "Why Filipinos Don't Get Rich" I said this guy must have a lots guts or lots of compassion with Filipinos to make such a daring messages. This one "deep" message and not all can understand this and for sure you probably got some negative comments but you know what? You hit the nail. I understand what you are saying and you do have compassion for Filipinos. I watch a lot of vlogging and Filipinos have ask them for money I'm sure because they "lots of dollars" but the best way to help; is to teach us how to fish not exactly giving the fish. This video is a motivational message and I hope a lot of Filipinos will understand what you are saying and those who wants to help them.
This is so true. However, i think the problem is, some of the people (i know, not all) that are being helped, don't help themselves as well. They just dont try and would rather just sit around and wait for the provider to give them money. And worst, some are even the ones that spend the supposed money for food and necessities to waste. Having said this, i want to also mention the environment & maybe even the culture sometimes - the lack of desire to dream big (if you do, it's got a stigma of being "ambisyoso" or "ambisyosa" or in English "too ambitious" and the fact that, that's become a cultural thing to say when someone has some big life goals, speaks volumes about where people's mindsets are at. Cuz i find that most people's life goals are set on certain levels that would be more attainable for their situation. If there are more exposure though to people like yourself or western mindsets when it comes to ceasing opportunities & being aggressive about making life better, i think it would be eye opening for Filipinos.
Joan Hermoso I agree. I want to become an author entrepreneur, but my parents say that writing books is useless and that I should just be an engineer or accountant or anything that has something to do with math, since I'm good at it. But I don't enjoy it as much as I'm passionate and consistent for writing. I'm willing to break my inexperience, and become a master of my art. Plus since I'm young they keep on insisting "nagsisimula ka palang, pabalik na'ko." I know they're older and more experienced. But I am willing to fail, and learned from it. Compare to just surrendering in doing a job that I will hate.
That's an excellent point. Thank you for sharing Joan :) ...there's a saying that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time around. I think the only way to overcome what you talked about is to spend the majority of ones time around other people that have the same attitude and ambitions as you. Seek them out, and keep them close :)
Yeah this would be a great explanation why Filipinos dont get rich but the Family Orientation of Filipinos made them unique as human beings Taking care of Elders- Providing financial help to others is a huge part of Filipino Culture simply because Filipinos are born to be a Helpful one :) No Hate- American standards are way differ from Filipino Values-Culture
*Michael Angeles,* hindi lamang ito patungkol sa Nanay at Tatay. Kung may kapatid o kamag-anak, dapat disiplinahin sa pagkita ng sariling pera. Hindi lamang nanghihiram at umaasa sa mga kinikita nila Ate, kuya, mama o papa.
Nurturing dependence is not good. This is a problem in our country Please people, help yourself first so that others will not need to help you. Then eventually through the years of being stable and independent, give others the help they need by providing opportunity. The real help people need is not the basic needs but the opportunities good people can provide
I wish this were true with the Filipinos I know. The ones I work with are resentful towards their fam in the PI. I'm sure they love their parents and siblings since they are supporting them. But I wish the ones who are supporting are also taking care of their own wants and needs, that way they can feel better about supporting those in the PI.
The reason why I don’t talk or chat more often to my families back home, all i hear from them are complaints, my grandma’s medicine, bill etc.. so tired of hearing them but at the end of the day i felt guilty and end up sending money. Ohh 1 more thing i also pay for my brothers college though he’s 27 years old! I hated my life now been working abroad for 7years now and still live from paycheck to paycheck. My bank account is as dry as the desert where i work.
dude,you don't need to send your 27 year old brother to school... holy goodness, he's 27 not 17, unless you're a rich person or have a good paying job,but if you're living paycheck to paycheck then that's not right ... tell him to find a job during the day & go to school during the night ... I am sorry man, it sounded like your brother is lazy ...
maybe its time to teach your brother to find a part time job. to support himself, I have lot of friends here in the philippines living on poor area and they don't get any financial from their parents but she is trying to find some ways to pay her bills on college.
Philippines is a nice country, believe me I love the country..... but most of the Filipino I encounter here are full of crap and don't hate me for that bc it's true if you keep hating facts like this then how in the world will you be able to strive for change. Don't take this as a a hate comment. Take this as motivation to change.
As a Filipino, I feel this. I had the privilege to live in other countries, and when I come to my home towns, i've been made fun out of, I have more of an English accent, I dont properly speak tagalog. The Family is nice, relatives, but neighbors or family friends, I have to be around my father or brothers so I dont feel or be treated like crap.
That's exactly the problem of my race lmao. They can't even take simple criticism properly then what more in the real world where there's much more opinions and facts that they refuse to accept lmao.
Too many deadbeats just waiting around for someone to have a measure of financial success and expecting to be taken cared of without an ounce of gratitude. That is the Filipino way.
This is what I’m talking about. It’s a topic where people here in the Phils are quite sensitive about. But to be honest, it’s a ‘hard’ truth that everyone refuses to accept. Great explanation btw! Keep it up.
I'm Filipino myself and this is sadly the truth. My great-grandfather was poor with 10 children but earned enough money to buy land and make a profit from it to send his kids to school and their children and now my generation.
Most of us Filipinos are too afraid to take risks. We're too afraid to try out new things because of the possibility that we'll lose something somehow. We're stuck in our old ways. Why are we not rich? Because we've been doing the same things over and over. We graduate with degrees but we can't even find a job. If we get a job then we're contented. We're stuck in our comfort zones. And the only way to grow and make our lives better is to step out of our comfort zones.
i dislike this video because he doesn't understand american way is different from that of a Filipino, Americans value individualism and Filipinos care more for their family and his cliche is being ignorant to the issue of being american, as for me i'm part Chinese and part American and a Filipino and i respect both worlds. to understand what i'm saying settle with these example: USA settings: An Old american had a heart attack a neighbor just look and calls 911 until the Old guy died because of waiting for 911.// PHIL settings: random old guy having heart attack a Filipino stranger went by and check his situation the stranger calls for taxi sent the man to hospital and pay for the taxi fare and checks for the old random guy's relatives to be informed. is this the part where you say Filipino don't get rich just an example of difference between individualism and that of Filipino ties is more than money you know.
Right. Its quite depressing to think about it, I barely even post my travel or if I do, my kamag-anak (relatives) will think that I'm rich. There will be gossip that I'm stingy and selfish.
Well let me tell you this. You have every right to do so. And them telling you stingy are just jelly. Because they dont work hard enough to deserve that. Mga utak talangka. Post it if you want bahala silang ma stroke sa inggit
This is so true... Bc they help their families and its all bc of "utang na loob" stigma that filipino culture has. I kind of hate it bc if i won't give, my family will start to say im selfish and useless, but what im trying to do is that I finished my studies and have a job and save money for my career in the future and they just dont see the bigger future. Dear filipino parents, you send your children to school to get educated, to be prepared for their future, and yes it is your obligation to support them but the problem is that you always have this stigma that right after they finish their studies you expect them to have a job and help you in your daily expenses at home but did you also forgot that they are also preparing for the life that awaits for them? Just try to see the bigger picture, we are all getting old and no one is exempted. What im trying to say is that, yes they are responsible to still care and help you but not like full time help bc they are also trying to stand and build for they want they want to achieve sooner. What happens when you always hold them back, and they're too old to achieve those dreams that they always have which they should've achieved when theyre younger? It's not going to make any difference
Filipino toxic culture. I've been there!!! All your family relies on you because " you are the successful one" ... i dont mind helping, but all of the sudden it became my responsibility to send my siblings to school. Ppl wont even find jobs, save or make business at all. We need to set boundaries. Sad but true 😢
I'm a pure blooded Filipino and I can say this video and David's observation of our culture makes a lot of sense. I would have to agree with eveything he said. I hope this will kick a whole lot of sense into the Filipino society's mind. Spread this video to our fellow Kababayan's to help us wake up to a whole new perspective.
Isn't that the truth. That's why most OFW come home broke even after working abroad for many many years or most of their lives. All the money was squandered by the FAMILY...
Mari443Garrett1 : sad to say it's true and yeah most ofw suffered because they sacrifice for nothing in the name of family fucking love and some of them don't get married and they went back to the philippines completely broke in and out!!
It hurts but it’s true. I experienced this. For so many years.But thanks God finally I learned how to set boundaries in saying yes or no to all there request.. It is good to help family but not make you responsible for everything unless you are financially capable it’s not a big problem. But for those living pay check to pay check manage your budget and Give some gap, enough for them to respect you and your decisions. A bible quotes it says if you don’t save when you are young you don’t have anything when you get old. Which is true. It’s a commonsense. You can help when they really need it but not to the point that make you responsible for their life choices. And I also hope those family who relying on their love ones abroad. Please value what they send bcoz they shed lots of sweat, hardwork, lots of body pain especially those who work labor work abroad. Use it wisely. Show lots of love and understanding for them they work abroad in the intention of helping family and for themselves. We are in here in this world to love , share , help each other up.. I salute to all overseas worker.. more power to them and God blessed us all.
This is an eye opener for me, David. You touched very sensitive topics for Filipinos, money & family, and you'll definitely get some emotionally charged responses but in the end, you are right.
Same reason why African-Americans don't get rich. We tend to associate wealth with huge house, luxury car, and designer clothing. These spendings leaves us no room to save and invest for a passive income. Thus, we tend to go broke when we stop working because we did not invest for a passive income. In short, we spend so much on liabilities and too little on assets.
I have already realize that. Help myself first before others and I can help more in the future. You are right and Thank you, this video can help more Filipinos to wake up.
what you said is spot on, sad but it's true. Also, one reason why a lot of Filipinos (especially those who came from the poorest of the poor family) don't get rich is that the parents themselves are holding back their kids on their dreams. They have this attitude where if you're born poor, then you'll die poor. Some of them like to use the "lack of education" as an excuse to stay poor, even though there are a lot of public schools and organizations that are giving away free school supplies and scholarships.
One more thing if you do receive money for help, instead of spending it blindly. Figure out how to make that money grow so you can stop asking for more money. Start a business with that money. Start selling food, you know the owner of Jolli bee started off pushing a food cart. The saddest part is that he is a Chinese! This is also true for Philippine Airlines, a Chinese guy owns it! Better start using your brain's before it's to late, before that whole country is run by foreigners. Quit feeling sorry for yourselves too, it all starts with a vision on how to get out of poverty.
thank you David. I hope all FILIPINOS ABROAD WILL LISTEN TO THIS AND THEIR FAMILIES IN THE PHILIPPINES ON WHY FILIPINOS DO NOT GET RICH. THEY GIVE THEIR MONEY TO THEIR FAMILIES WHO KEEP DEPENDING NOT REALIZING HOW HARD IT IS TO WORK ABROAD.
As the oldest sibling of a widowed Filipino mother and the only male born and raised in the U.S. I didn’t even realize this was so common or an actual thing in Filipino culture until recently. And this guy is absolutely right. I make the most money and would’ve been able to support myself and live on my own for several years now but a significant portion of my income goes to my mom and my sister’s rent that they can’t afford. My cousins are i. The same position- my aunts and uncles treating their kids like a pension for when they get old. One of my older cousins literally moved out into a one bedroom apartment at 31 because he spent all his 20’s giving his money to his parents It’s such bullshit honestly and the parents don’t seem to see anything wrong with how they basically crippled him and damned him into continuing the cycle of living in poverty
Bro, I may have to criticize your English, as we can say "in a fast foods" to "a very expensive manner." Just remember that there are alternatives to make our english more fluent. I just read news articles and my English got polished. But the point of this reply is that yeah, it's sad. Most of my classmates don't even do their projects nor the activities well. They are usually focused in Tiktok, things like that and I'm the individual that usually looks at astronomy and science, topics on math. I do not excell in math, in fact I struggle in it. It's a huge drawback for me, this video was a huge eye-opener. I need to work on myself first. I entirely agree with you. Filipinos aren't competent enough for the real world.
This is the most realistic thing I've ever heard, and this ' real talk ' did not come from my parents or my grandparents. They made me think it was all okay when actually the opportunity is in our own hands. Thank you for this Inspiration I think I now have an idea what to do with my investments in the Philippines 😊.
Some of my friends, family and relatives only remember me when they needed money. Not even a single “Hi” or “Hello”, just straight, “Bro, baka pwede makahiram ng pera.” They don’t even greet me on my birthday. 😢😢 And even if you gave them money because you want to help, they wanted more, and more, and more, like they believe money grows on trees. Like it is unlimited. They don’t know how hard I try to earn that money. That is the mentality in the Philippines. I’m sorry but that is the truth and it hurts.
this is true. there's also the culture of if you're working abroad, you're rich. Funny story, im currently studying to finish my bachelor's degree in North America. So that means i have student loans. My relatives in the Ph. always asks me for money every time we communicate. Meanwhile, i see them posting on social media partying every weekend while i spend my weekends working part time while being a full-time student.
Ever since my Filipino mom always reminds me the only reason she birthed me and my siblings is so we would do the chores for them and someday give the family name an outstanding reputation (through becoming a lawyer/doctor). I realize now why my older siblings chose to live in the other side of the city. My family survives on debt and dependency. I wish I was never born into my family.
I am laughing while im watching this video...its bcoz i am one of this people they called bread winner...i support my whole family while working abroad....so sad bcoz until now i cant go home coz all my salary went to phils..and the only thing i had is reciept😂😂😂😂😂
You need to establish healthy boundaries or else you're NOT helping them at all - you're ENABLING them to continue in their codependent ways that frees them from taking any responsibility and control of their individual lives. You need to apply Tough Love. I did it. It's hard at first, but it's the only way they can grow and have a taste of self-empowerment that doesn't depend on other people's hard-earned efforts that they can free-float on.
my gf also give money to her parents even they are all now professionals i scolded her and told her dont give all your money just give them 10% - 20% of your salary abroad and the rest save it for your future they are old now and you are not that is why she followed my advice
Wow... amazing points! I so agree with the giving of the money. My mother slaved her life away. She made so much money, but had nothing to show for it. She provided for her 7 siblings for at least 25 years. I didn't agree with the way she was "helping" bc she would give them expensive named brand things (including houses and cars!). Me and my siblings here in the states never really asked for anything expensive, but I'm sure we would have been given a hard time. She wasn't even able to really help me through college; I paid my own way which was okay w me. She focused more on her family in the PI (siblings and their children). The part that broke my heart was that they weren't really appreciative. Now that my mom is not able to work and provide them expensive things, they rarely keep in contact. She mentioned she went home to the PI, but her own family did not take her out or even meet with her; only when she threw herself a bday party did they attend. I completely agree when you mentioned giving opportunity, not money.
Perfect example of a typical Filipino family. Funny you mentioned about relatives in the Philippines, I just gave presents this past christmas and noticed that younger people nowadays do not even say Thank you.
I would agree with you, If the living standard was the same as in the US, where opportunities are more equal w/ a functioning social welfare. Filipino's living in the US for the most part are hardworking and successful on their own right. So, it is not merely a "cultural thing", but lack of opportunities and choices.
You also said so yourself, that you came from a poor family. But, somehow there were opportunities that opened up for you, and you came out ahead. I doubt the same opportunities exists in the Philippines for the poor families and individuals w/ the same talent as yours.
I completely agree that being born in the US has given me many additional and unique opportunities. Where someone is born is definitely a factor in the opportunities they have. That's even true within the US itself and within the Philippines itself. However I don't think that being born in a given place with a given financial condition is the main factor on whether someone has financial success. So many poor people around the world have their own success to prove that's not the case.
Mark Reginald I actually think it's how also culture views money. Many Filipinos don't have a sense of valuing financial matters. I'm not racist and I'm a pinoy saying this! It's probably due to being so used to scarcity that when given the opportunity of it, they immediately squander it thinking they might not get whatever they wanted this often. This is why there ought to have been in our educational system teaching our children of getting a sense of business acumen and to learn how to handle money properly.
David you know how industrious Filipinos are given the chance. But there's not too many chances inside the country itself that's why we go abroad. A LOT OF US GO ABROAD. And you are right helping is not just by giving. But opportunities that will even give them respect themselves. And that is what I am planning to do when we go back home. :) go into business and help give jobs to others. God bless!
"lack of opportunities and choices" I kinda disagree. I've seen plenty of family members who stopped trying to find opportunities the moment someone in their family makes money.
Right to the point. Sad thing in the philippines, the cycle of dependency is endless. People are not taught the virtue of self-reliance and self-sufficiency. No wonder mooching to relatives is so prevalent.
Our roots are stuck on this cycle, thinking that their kids are their future investments. Sadly even our sole parent don't know how to earn and handle money well. Me and my siblings are stepping forward to break the cycle.
I totally agree with you David. I've realized this when I started working few years ago. My savings always end up in my family because they always ask for it. Not that I'm being obliged but it's more on the conscience of not helping them. I have this idea in mind that if I don't help them I would be a terrible son and brother. But I always ask myself, are they even thinking about me? I mean are they even concerned for my future because it doesn't look it. If I will always give them my money, my savings, I will not grow financially. My life will not be better. It would remain the same. [For fellow Filipinos that will point out something like "diskarte" or whatever that you could think of, the savings will supposedly be used to be invested in business and stocks. I don't like to add an additional line of income that would barely add up to my savings. That would be a waste of time. I'm already lucky if I can sleep 4 hours a day. Just imagine.] One of my coworkers before which was way older than me told me that I should save money for myself and don't give everything to my family. I wanted to cry and say that that's not how they think but I just smiled. I felt touched that someone actually thought for my future at least. And now that you are saying this, I hope my family sees this video. And for others that does not agree, just limit the amount of money that you give. Save some for yourself.
Hope this video helps. Sometimes we have to make hard choices that even seem like they might be the "wrong" thing to do at the time, but with the future in mind. Not only our future, but the future of all the other people we will have the chance to influence.
Of course they're thinking about you! They gave you shelter. Do you know how much they spend on that a year? Food? Electricity? Water? Mortgage? There are boundaries of how much to give. Its all about the personality of your family this doesn't account for everyone. I have an issue with my gf's mom controlling where her money goes, it took my gf a couple years to finally notice and now shes a little bit more conscious how much to give since I keep telling her to be more defensive and tell her mom no. For me, my relationship with my family is mutual. They give me something, i give them something back in return. It differs in every situation. Just make sure when you give, you have enough for yourself.
Adelbert1309 you just enlightened me up. Thank you! I, as an ofw, single, having a good salary, working for three years but really nothing left for me. Not even 250$. I will start to earn for myself now.
I have the same conclusion. We Filipinos should keep the cultural lifestyle of being friendly, genuine, and real to most people, and being family oriented, but at the same time we should also adopt the western independent mentality when it comes to financial and work issues. Always save your money for yourself, you may give some to your family, but only a very small percentage because they would only become dependent to you and not learn to be responsible and earn money their own way.
Being dependent to a family member who has a job, is a Filipino culture that has been practiced by many. This is the kind of culture that I really don't like. You're absolutely right. Giving money to your family member is hurting them. You're not teaching them to fish but to constantly beg money. I hate giving the money that I work hard for a lazy family member.
boredom watcher..di dapat tulungan yong mga tamad. That's my point. I don't mind sharing some of my earnings sa mga taong nangangailangan na gustong rin tulungan self nila.
depende naman sa case yung pagbibigay. Ang sinasabi sa video e pati daw pagpapaaral sa mga kapatid ay ginagawa ng pinoy? may mali ba dun? kung may kakayahan ka naman e bakit hindi di ba? yun kasi yung pinopoint out nung sa statement sa video. hindi naman yung case na walang katuturan
Did you move out at the legal age which is usually at the age of 18? If yes, then my hats off to you. But if no, then you better give something back to your parents and family because you enjoyed being a freeloader yourself. It's an Asian distinct culture where children would live with their family until their late 20's and 30's and even after having their own children. If you work and still live with your family/parents, You're not really independent. You're still a freeloader yourself.
I'm a filipino, but Good thing my Sister thought me to save money and invest it. Now I have Millions of money on the bank but still I prefer to stay humble look very "probinsyano". I don't know, but I feel contented by having a simple life.
this is super true based on experience. We Filipinos will never learn unless we experience firsthand how it feels to earn money. I would have never known this if my parents didn't let me go. I wish financial literacy could be taught to more filipinos.
Some Filipinos are show off, they love to go to London... Loan dito Loan don, kotse, bahay, cellfone, then may 5-6 to Indians, kumot, banig, payong, ... Most were uneducated when it comes to money, they always want the latest trend, live above they means, i know this becoz I am a Filipino , and also guilty that i do this things a lot and not excluding myself. But, theres still hope to learn and educate. 2018 fresh start 😊👍🇵🇭
Aeta Tribe i guess it does not apply to all. Who would want to be a slave being away from your family licking other's ass?? It might be true that there are a lot of Filipinos who are materialistic but please note that dream of a better living out of poverty is one of the reason why these OFW leave the country.
Hindi Tau mahirap ang dami nga natin Likas na yaman e dagdag mopa gold ni Marcos 987billion dollars. Normal lang may mahirap na pamilya lahat Ng bansa may mahirap na pamilya . Pero madaming mayaman sa pilipinas kuripot nga lang katulad namin kuripot pero mapera.sa Lugar namin ang dami sports car bawat Gabi naririnig ko ang ingay. Meron mustang,Porsche,Ferrari at iba pa kaya hindi Tau mahirap Kung mahirap Tau Sana lahat Tau nagbabasura tsaka di tau pupuntahan Ng mga Ibang bansa Kung mahirap Tau kuripot lang Tau pero mapera
Now i understand why my sisrrters and mom does not want me to send money to them. Thanks for making me realized that i need to work harder and harder and save for my own self. Now i will not give anyone some money, been working abroad for more than 5 years and i do not have anything (except my own house) my bank account has almost nothing on it. Been giving money to friends basically lending them but none is paying back. So its considered as given. Now i will be rich... Thanks David.
Be rich, then wisely give other people opportunities, and give those opportunities to people that will value them and make the most of them. Then they will become rich too, and everyone who is willing to be wise and work hard will be lifted higher together. Sometimes there's a place for just gifts, gifts can be sweet. But first put yourself in a position where you can easily give a gift and not think anything of it. Don't give a gift to help someone, because giving someone a gift rarely helps them.
Dmtechno Vice Ganda is another. He may not be as rich as Manny but he still takes care of his family and he is very generous not only to people around him. Kris Aquino too. David has some good points too but not everything he says is true. Don’t forget that most Americans live on credit cards, so basically most of them are in debt.
You wouldn't have to. I only told my relatives once and they never asked again. First, explain to them how you earn your money. (What you do, how you do it, how long, hours days etc) Second, give them a list of your expenses. Food, housing, gas, insurance medical dental etc, utilities, bills, debt repayment etc. Third, your long term goals (what you are trying to afford). Once you clarify that, they will no longer ask you for anything because they know and understand where you are coming from.. If you respond with incomprehensible anger, then clearly they won't understand why and instead presume that you are just greedy. Fourth and finally, you probably already do this, but sending for tuition fee for aiding some relatives to get out of poverty is an airtight reason to refuse other expense requests. If that for some reason is still not enough, ask them for an audit of their expenses. As well as the same data you have provided them A: how they earn their money, their free time amount, and their job difficulty. B: ask for a detailed list of expenses. C: ask for their goals. short and long term. D: ask who they are helping or are planning to help. That is more than enough to shut them up because it will be inoffensively clear to them what the situation is. UNLESS you are POOR (not materially but relationally) that you can't even empathize or be empathized by your very own relatives. that you are so distant to them that you can't even communicate with them. IF THEY SEE YOU AS AN ATM, perhaps somewhere someway, you turned from family, into ATM. ask yourself how it became that way? I doubt the fault is one sided.
You can’t pour from an empty cup! This is so true! Fill your own cup first and let it overflow, once it starts to overflow. That’s when you help others.
My people want instant money. We want lottery tickets instead of investments that'll last for life. It all starts in the mindset, environment, and general socially acceptable rule of "Bahala na". Thank you for your honesty and for saying it in a kind and sympathetic way. Respect.
absolutely agree on this, however, helping family members/relatives is a cultural identity of being a Filipino, something that we couldn't leave behind.
Korea, Japan or even China? I don't think so. Everyone must pull their weight in these countries. If your sibling is too lazy to work then too bad, let them starve.
It's a painful fact in a few Asian countries too...... I have even watched and heard a fellow Filipino who happened to be live a stable life in Manila, married a Korean and decided to migrate to South Korea to live a better life. Driven, by a quest and aim for higher standard of living and combined with very high expectations. The said Filipina was unaware of her husband's culture......where a daughter in law must give all her earnings to her in mother in law. Such a culture in their country where a working and earning family member must give all his/her money to the eldest in family entirely
I totally agree!!! Currently, there's a Financial Cultural issue here in the Philippines. Some Filipinos might disagree due to our country's cultural differences, some are lacking financial education and others were not exposed to available learning resources from the Internet. (there are lots of reasons too) :)
this is real talk man!
Thanks Will! I watch your videos a lot actually. Appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment :) ...I’ll be in the Philippines again around April for a few months doing music collabs with artists in Manila. Would be cool to collab if you’re in the country then.
lol wil calm bro ima Filipino too
I heard you are sick and I wish you well but just like what I said to DiMuzio, you don't know everything. If you have lived a life like ours, that's the only time you can have an opinion about how we live our lives. You lived in the US most of your life, came back here and gained many Pinoy followers. Really nice way to upstart your vlogging business. We are not as stupid as you think we are, Wil.
This is good bro. I think there are more factors we got to look at tho. Psychology plays a part too. Collective belief systems that the rich are crooks, keeping them from wanting to be rich. This is quite subtle. Also, Filipinos tend to encourage kids to go to school, get good grades, and get a job. And that is all there is to life which is another limiting belief. Self discipline plays a major role too. You'll never get rich if you save little, buy a case of beer every weekend, and gamble the rest. A more practical factor would be the lacking of knowledge in terms of investment. I don't see a lot of people investing.
Wil Dasovich I reckon why God let you to have a cancer at an early age. Too bad for you man.
We Filipinos stay poor because:
1. We dont plan for the future; retirement, having a family, kids education etc. We live for the day.
2. We have a mentality that money is the root of evil and rich people are bad.
3. We dont set boundaries and cant say no to our family/relatives because we dont want to be seen as "matapobre".
4. We have this mentality of "utang na loob" that everything that was provided for us a as a child should be paid back when we have the means.
Not very educated on sex and money. It's sad because it's keeping them down very down....
Agree with you Mari.
I'm Filipino and I agree with you 100 percent
Many Filipinos persecute intelligent people and people who think differently...
...and they deny it in the same way Nazis deny the Holocaust...
Putting yourself first doesn't mean you don't care to others. It means you`re smart enough to know you can't help others if you don't help your self first. Dont feed them teach them how they can feed themselves. The more you help yourself first. The more you are capable of lifting up others.
Amen
David DiMuzio I better way you could have said this so that others dont think you are telling them to be selfish is by telling them how they have helped their families greatly by ensuring they will have a good future once you are gone. You have helped those you care for so much thanks to the opputunities you have given them and so even if you die tomorrow, you'll die in peace knowing those you care for are in good hands.
I've grown up in the Philippines to know that we love our families and that if we know that they are in good hands than even if we die due to misfortune we die content knowing that our families are in good hands. Thats the best way we can help them, giving them the ability to have a good future even if we are gone. God bless you fornyour message man.
Digital Trends 47 lol that mind set is for middle class family in the PH.
Digital Trends 47 you don't care for others, not to others
In the Philippines, in most cases, one's success is DEPENDENT on some other people's altruistic generosity and help. So a it takes a team of people's help for that person's success. And this team of people in most cases are your immediate family.
Breaking the chain is a big challenge. Especially for the "Panganay". And breaking the chain means getting judged by your parents and relatives.
Our family played favouritism to their Kids if your panganay you should obliged to help while our bunso act like a baby in his lifetime.lol
Proud pangay and breaker of chains. Honestly it hurts when they say Im too greedy cause I rarely give money. And they cant be ever so supportive of my financial independece. Once I was told by my mom that I will never succeed becuase of my way of thingking. But I couldn't care less. Call me ungratefull and all but you can never pour from an empty cup. Unless Im paid beyond my means then there will be no money. Also both of my younger sibling were both demanding and dependent but heck they never feel bad about that.
I can soo relate to this bruh.since im panganay in our family.im the one to carry most of the responsibilities/faith of my families while my little brother just chillin playin fortnite...its hard that your family forces you to be someone you dont want.like tinanong ako"apo ano gusto mo maging pagtapos ng kolehiyo mo"sabi ko gusto ko maging musician tas mag open ng parang music industry since magaling ako maggitara and i lovep laying guitar.ay wag nlng apo mag doctor ka nlng.like wtf sabi mo ano gusto ko maging hindi ano gusto nyo ako maging.i know doctor is high money paying pero whats the point kung ayaw mo naman sa trabaho mo dba.mas gusto ko pa na ok naman suweldo di pang mayaman pero oks na but i am having fun in what i am doing.
@who asked relate much😔
totoo po ya po nararanasan ko napaka hirap :( hindi ko alam paano maeescape to or tatangapin na lang. Yung kapatid ko aasa na lang sa tulong habang buhay. sobrang hirap magkaroon ng toxic na pamilya
That's why we the new generation needs to break the chain.
But when they're daring to start doing so, the old generation puts them down for it. As if they like that chain.
Then stop stopping us
Ranel Marinduque i could, but my family is so close minded so they wont listen to anything i say, theyre just keeping the whole family poor forever, i wanna move out on my own after college so i can break this chain in our generation which is stupid
I agree with you. The cycle must stop
I did! My family chain
They don’t get rich because their family members are holding them back. It’s sad really. They don’t care about the persons goals and dreams just as long as they are financially supported even if it brings an end to that person’s hopes and dreams. It’s just so unfair for the person and I really do feel angry about this kind of stuff
true my mom hate me become roblox dev and youtuber 😐
Idk how we became this way man. Hopefully our generation can cut a bad culture
True thoe the culture destroyed the country itself
This makes me glad my parents who supported me after enrolling Digital Arts Technology 2 months ago.
Ignore your family and you're be free When they die just skip and do Hard work is only what you have This is crab mentality
Agree 1000%: the money that Filipinos send home goes down the drain because those who receive the money do nothing to improve their lot in life and just expect more support. I know what you are talking about because my wife is Filipino. Spot on!
That's harsh and many Filipino's will hate you for that but that's the truth I will love you for that and for making opportunities
Because they are easily offended and close minded. Im a pinoy half spanish, but Im not one of those freaks.
kaya ayaw ko sa pilipinas dahil ang bobo niyo mga filipino
bobo kayong mga pilipino mahihirap
@@simplyjb442 Bobo Kaba? Or nag bobohan Ka Lang!? Filipino kadin, Wag bobo bayert. Ano Naman sa mahirap? Basta dili hilason parehas nimo, tangina mo.
@@simplyjb442 wut are u spoil rich brat ?
FIRST OF ALL WERE THE ONE WHO BRING DOWN OUR OWN COUNTRY
TOXICITY IS EVERYWHERE HERE IN PHILIPPINES
True
Ang pinaka ayaw ko na ririnig sa mama ko kung nagsasabi ako ng Facts
"KAARTEHAN"
Actually i dont have "FILIPINO" friends cuz of their Traits (INCOMPATIBILITY)
I think its easier to make friends in Other countries cuz they have different Personalities than Filipinos
Everytime I watch American shows cuz i love America. I want to move there
@@pilhiltrebisko4571 I rather embrace the New Zealand or Australian culture. I'm a Filipino-American here in America where a lot of Filipinos continue to have the same ugali as the ones in the Homeland. It's disappointing as hell.
The philippines is shit in general
@@sauceyeti4381 Still, their smile will never die.
I remember sharing this video 2 years ago and most Filipinos got pissed off. This is real talk and I still appreciate the content of this video. More Filipinos should be watching this!
the biggest problem of them is they don't trust knowledge~!!!! They don't even give you a shit and they just believe what they think is right~!!!! They care dignity or validation in the family , no use ~!!! Nowadays just google, advanced mindset is every where `~!!!!!!
They reject reality, and substitute their own. They get really angry for seeing anything that doesn't agree with their ignorant viewpoints, and the new information will not become facts, because they don't agree or like it.
I don't live in Philippines anymore but the longer im away there the more flaws i see from this country, we need to break the generational chain ! This video is straight up Facts !
Thanks for watching 💜
I’m a Filipino/American citizen and everything u said is true.For 16 years,Iv been supporting my family back home even up to this time. But something happened that made me realized,people you’ve helped are not really appreciating what you’ve done for them.To make the story short,this year I’m no longer sending money to make them realized my worth as a person.No matter what you do for them,they don’t appreciate.God knows I’ve given so much for them but it’s time for me to move on and cut ties.I’m not a walking ATM machine.They will only realized the importance of someone when they are gone.I still give for big occasions though and birthdays.
My Filipino wife has done the same thing for over 20 years. She bought her baby 35 year old brother a very nice house and use the money We were saving to buy us a house. She has sent two or three to school for jobs, but they did not like that kind of work. Her oldest brother with eight kids said he had enough money for two more weeks and then he would start looking for a job. I am sorry to say, but they are the most irresponsible, entitled, lazy people I have ever been around. I thought Mexicans were lazy. They would work a Filipino to death. She just sent money back home to build a small house for her 82 year old father living here, that has high blood pressure and heart problems and when it gets hot next summer, he will probably not be around, she just wants to play that she’s the good girl. It’s so sad I see this over and over. I really believe that her family is the most important thing in her life if I died and she got Social Security from me and life insurance she would probably get over it in a week or two.but I have very good genes. Both my parents are still alive in their 90s so I will very likely outlive most of her family. What a sad situation best wishes, young lady. Choosing not to CARRY them is the best decision.
The Bible at 2 Thessalonians 3:10 says “If anyone does not want to work, neither LET him eat”
Don’t feed people that create excuses as to why they can not work. I have been to the Philippians 3 times and each time I go I see through their stories. I promised myself the last time I went that I would never return. . So you work for your money take care of it for your future, because you know those in the Philippines will not do anything for you. My 82 year old mother in law is in the hospital and her family keeps calling her for money. 🤨
Real talk! This is the realest of real. This is a ‘normal’ thinking in the Philippines. And because I don’t want to help, this has put me in trouble and disgusting fights with my mother and other relatives.
Thanks for watching. Stay strong :)
At one point you need to ask, are these people just using me or do they actually care. Because parents that care wouldn't pressure their kids this way. If they don't care, as harsh as it is, you're probably better off without them.
Milton Waddams I have figured this out. It’s just really became a norm here in the Philippines. They do care but at the same time it’s just the way they look at things. It’s their perspective. It’s wrong but this is what became the right thing.
Milton Waddams Our parents for example, expects as to give them regular monetary help until they die. I swear. That’s why the Philippines don’t prosper. We have this sick mentality.
@@NorlynCodes Yeah, I'm European and it's the opposite, you expect the parents to provide help to you up to your 30s. Help is only returned in the 70s and 80s and it's rarely monetary. Parents in Europe are sometimes happy to live in relative poverty as long as their kids are doing well. For them that is far more important.
Filipinos should learn that "give a man a fish and he will eat for a day,teach a man to fish and he will eat for life" by heart!I'm Filipino w Chinese and Spanish blood,but the video is real talk.My Chinese grandfather said that Filipinos are too emotional and religious to the point of hypocrisy and getting them dragged lower.
Truth hurts! What hurts the most- silent treatment, disown by your family for not giving them money (to them money is not everything unless the breadwinner decided to stop sending money) Is this hypocrisy?
I agree with you on everything except you having Spanish blood.🤣🤣🤣🤣
I agree with you! That's a learning all of us must go through!
I hope this reaches all Filipinos. Most of us are too dumb to even consider these ideas. That's why I personally hate our own culture. It's dumb and it needs to change. Even my own parents kept telling us since we were children to study hard to get a good job so we could help them financially which is a noble way to honor them but was totally a twisted way of thinking. They stopped trying to improve their finances in hopes of us pulling them up in the future and this was the exact same case with their own parents. It's a never ending cicle of puberty which I'm striving to end. Just sharing
The culture of the country,still needs to be same but evolutionize only, that's it and break some negative chains👍😉
Absent-minded too
Amen to you, same here man i hope our cultere(Philipines) change for the better😔💔
You mean poverty?
Yes they meant poverty, not "puberty". And see, Filipinos in their colonial mentality keep claiming they speak English well (clearly they cant) and even worship the English language
well said, even us Filipinoes, agreed with you and I think that is the saddest part :(
Yes it's sad but also good because now we can learn. Disgusting people in our culture who pressure family members to give money should be shamed and humiliated then we can have a better culture.
Hi sayas
Totoo nga po eh pate ibang country flex den ano bayan :( naka pang hina naman sila
I think that’s the good part about Filipino culture. I noticed Filipinos aren’t prideful like how people from other countries are. They’re actually willing to sit down and like understand the problems in the country and are willing to change instead of stubbornly insisting nothing is wrong..
As a filipino, I can easily say that the biggest problem that holds my culture back is our mentality. Our mentality is what kept the Philippines as a 3rd world country. Thankfully my grandfather woke up and had the family move to the U.S. before I was born. Because of him, se have a better life
Very true. My non filipino friends think this is a weird thing to do, giving money monthly back home. Once you stop giving though, you will feel the wrath of your poor family.
Yes unfortunately our people are just so lazy and will even exploit their own children, but with enough videos like this maybe one day it will change.
HAH the "wrath".
thats a matter of perspective.
it might be an actual problem if they were wealthy & powerful
but...
they're weak & poor
maybe connected to wealthy & powerful people who want to keep you down
fuck all of them.
REAL FAMILY
wants YOU
to be SUCCESSFUL.
zoolanderhansel hahahahahahahahaha that's true!!!!!
@@phoenixlittlestone7743 Wym lazy? My grandparents can't work and the Philippines doesn't provide them a cent to help them live
@@Gabriel-ut1we cuz it’s always the fault of the government 🙄
Im filipino, im not offended. I thank you. for saying it like this because i 1000000% agree but cant put it into words. You said it beautifully.
Thanks for leaving a comment. God bless :)
Same me Filipino too eh
Filipinos sucks wanna know why
Every toxic players i see in online games are filipinos and... i hopd i will bomb phillipines someday
@@uwubakaobbyalphawolf some filipino gamers keep reporting for no reason
@@uwubakaobbyalphawolf i think u took it to far
This is why I have no plans on giving anything to lazy family members. Not even a single peso. Not being selfish but money is earned not given.
Although I do thank my parents for allowance because they're hard-working yeah they deserve the cash. But the rest? **** no!
I strongly agree with teaching people how to fish and not giving them fish.
Bigyan mo nalang sila nang centabos
I got back from The Philippines a couple of months ago and I agree with everything your saying your children should not be your retirement plan
Patrick 22 true man
Woah. So much truth
But there is no other option at this moment! My family in law has really no other option! My father in law has got a pension .. he needs to be lucky that the province is paying him !!! And all he gets is like 10 euro for a whole month. He can not do anything with that. If he needs to go to the doctor, only the traveling costs are already needed for this pension. So something needs to be done in the govt.
Nothing hurts more than the truth! Instead of being angry and defensive just take what u can learn and improve yourself and your situation.
*It is a sad truth* that A LOT of Filipinos refuse to accept this just because of our so called "Culture"
This isn't about culture. This is about the financial problems ng Pamilyang Pilipino.
Kung gaano uma-asa ang mga miyembro ng pamilya sa iisang miyembro ng pamilya na tagumpay sa magandang trabaho.
Kung pamilyang Pilipino talaga, dapat LAHAT magtutulungan, hindi yung AASA lang sa IISA o DALAWANG miyembro ng pamilya.
Bigcheck..√√
Tang ina mo......gago pmmta ka sa bansa mo
Fuck u go your country
What is even considered "our culture" anymore, we've been influenced by spaniards by the past so I'm just confused on what are, is our culture
Ignore the hateful comments. Tinamaan siguro LoL 😂😂😂
I have lived in the Philippines for 5 months now and this is so true. It's so incredibly sad to see parents pressuring their children to give them money. You articulated this message brilliantly. Very well done David!
Thanks for watching.
@@degraw52 You're only living here for 8 months. Also you as a foreigner have a different income.. Unless you're a moron you wouldn't accept local income rates here. Obviously you're getting a rate similar to your country.
Why is it BETTER?
Well for one big thing I don't have to get a mortgage to get a house. I am able to save enough so maybe one day if I really need to move out I can fully buy a house without loaning.. or pay bigger down payment. Also you IGNORE what I said, it is only 15minutes from my work. And I only said RENTAL money not ALL MY MONEY.
Actually, i'm helping out my parents because I'm technically paying RENT only at their house.
Let me TEACH you one thing. Moving out doesn't mean you're rich and it doesn't mean you already made it. For all I know I may have more money than you right now even as a Philippine citizen.
If you're a MORON.. why would you rent a house and have your money go to other people. When you can just use the space in your parents house.
I bet you would stay in your parents house.. eat their food and use their electricity for FREE.. But no... for me I pay for it.
Also I am DEBT FREE.. and have my own car.. I got it for CASH unlike people like you(yes even a foreigner like YOU) who would LOAN it have the interest go to the bank or ask money from Mommy?? so just you can say you have moved out?? Wow. What CHAIN? Chain of LOANS?? HAHAHA. I have Paper Assets and a Premium Investor.. I would not be able to do that if I moved out as soon as I got a job.
And FYI, I watched the video and it doesn't relate to what you're saying. So I honestly think you don't understand his video.
@ Is there something wrong with your brain!?!? YOU ARE BRAINWASHED. Silly people like you is the reason the foreigners do not respect us! You tarantado MORON! You talk about the foreigner being in debt when most of our people work for the foreign companies and are slaves to the foreign companies and then just spend they whole paycheck on a stupid Phone or clothes from a foreign business. Or even worse they give it to their lazy family so they can spend it on beer! Our country is the most addicted to social media in the whole world and you just want to point fingers at the foreigners and never do something about it yourself. mga lokal na tao. People like you are the problem and the reason there is so much poverty in this country. If you were smart like the foreigner you would not be so stupid and argue and try to learn the valuable lesson. if not for the foreigner our whole country would fall apart. Are you stupid? Why don't your worthless family encourage you to move out? Because it's so much easier. Our people just want to be easy and take the easy way! It is so easy for you to just stay there and not have to grow up right? anak ng puta! You think all rich peope are greedy!? No, they are just smarter and more disciplined than you. You didn't pay attention to the video and you even insult people for being and orphan. You bring our people shame! Stupid Tado! I hate people like you making us all look bad!
How do you think parents' attitude should be in terms of their children giving back?
@@AvelMetaverse I think it should be the same as it is in EVERY single other country besides our own. If you can't take care of your children then don't have them! Very simple. Parents who expect their children to give money to them are just horrible people. NO parent should EVER even think about allowing their children to give them money unless that child is older and highly successful and OFFERS it. NO PARENT should EVER ask. The fact that so many do in our country is why other countries don't respect us and it causes the younger generation so much anxiety and stress. Just absolutely shameful and ridiculous. Our people should be ashamed for this.
Thats the main reason a lazy family relatives are dragging down a family member by always asking for help..
IN RETURN THEY DO NOT HELP YOU. EVEN INSIDE THE FAMILY LOTS OF MEMBERS ARE LEECHES.
Bruh stop
That's what you think
@@guy-ug5yp
Dude you seem to be hurt. There are some people who are an exception to the rule. We or shall I say the person who commented and the man who did this video is just here to tell the truth not to insult Filipinos. Everything they said is true.
@Dark Star
ANOTHER THING. FILIPINO'S BUSINESS OR NORMAL EVERYDAY BUSINESS IS TO INTERFERE AND TALK ABOUT SOMEONE ELSE LIFE. THEY LIKE CRITICIZING OTHERS BEFORE THEY LOOK AT THEIR SELVES OR INSTEAD TO IMPROVE THEMSELVES NOT TO DO THE MISTAKES OTHERS DO.
LIKE RAINDARD XABI CRUZ. FILIPINOS LIKE CRITICIZING OTHERS BUT IF YOU CRITICIZE THEM THEY REACT VIOLENTLY!
I'm a Filipino and I thank you for sharing your insight and perspective to us. Sometimes we get blinded because we get so used to the environment, that we need someone from outside to give us a little perspective and open our eyes.
I think this whole giving money to family/friends problem is a *boundary problem.* Filipinos don't have healthy boundaries with regards to financial matters. Instead of giving opportunities, we money. We are doing something for them that they can and need to do themselves. When we do that, they get unnecessarily dependent. It's a lose-lose situation.
Giving them opportunities instead will help them grow. Giving them money is like being an overprotective/over-caring parent to a child -- the child will not develop and grow, and they get dependent on you.
Thank you again for caring about Filipinos and making videos like this.
the worst thing about us Filipinos is we can't take criticism from others
Taking criticism from non-confidants is the worst thing people can do and thats colonial mentality !
why would Filipinos take criticism , only dummies take criticisms, just make them ask permission first if they can offer an unsolicited suggestion.
Filipinos must be the ones giving criticism on others !!
@@leusmaximusx wrong hence why the TH-cam app have like and dislike button until they updated the app due to a lot of people getting hurt seeing the dislike button if this was the old days of internet a comment sections are more brutal and worst 🤣🤣🤣🤣.
Criticism makes us grow, so it's a shame that Filipinos don't listen to this and think that everything is a judgement. Hopefully someone spread the word to stop so much poverty here.
It's funny that I found this video days after asking my mom how much she has in her bank account, considering that 3 of her kids have already graduated college. She told me that it's hard making more because she's supporting her and my dad's relatives :( What's so sad is that her and my dad's siblings also kept asking for support.
My mom has always been a progressive thinker. She said she'd rather die young because she sould hate to be a burden to us when she's old. She also wants us to keep the money we earn to ourselves.
God bless her 💜
The biggest reason why Filipinos will not get rich is due to lack of entrepreneurship. We don't take risks in fear of failure. We are satisfied with a status quo and content to being just a worker as long as there's a steady income to count on. It pains me to say this but Filipinos are subservient. We rather take orders from foreigners than fellow Filipinos. Chinese businesses thrive in our country because they know our weakness
Not quite so simple, there are Filipino businesses. The problem is that Filipino businesses want to get rich fast, so they launch a product, quality and price are good, gain some market and IMMEDIATELY start lowering the quality to earn just "that extra more". Customers notice and drop the product. Next, the business goes under. Chinese are happy to think long-term and earn less profit but for many years, of course they will win in the end. Same goes for European products, rarely is the quality dramatically lowered unless the industry goes through a major change.
Glenn Glenn you cant blame us, we dont have much for ourselves, what do you expect us to risk?
Glenn Glenn you cant blame us, we dont have much for ourselves, what do you expect us to risk?
I think entrepreneurship sometimes is part genetics/upbringing/culture/environmnent. There is no doubt that Chinese people have entrepreneurship in their blood. Not only that they stress education, high savings and hard work. I am not saying philipinos are lazy. However, I think not everyone is meant to be an entrepreneurship. It's okay to not be money hungry like the Chinese. However, what i noticed is that many philipinos really have low savings rate and a spend all your paycheque mentality. that is a culture issue. it's okay to have a job as a janitor if that's what God made you to be, but that just means you have to save more and invest wisely
I think Filipinos are nice but dont strive to be better at their job. Just happy to simply have a job .
I agree to his message because my aunt who works as a nurse here in the US has sent thousands of dollars to my cousins in the Philippines for them to have a good education, but all of them wasted her money because some got pregnant and dropped out and they keep asking for money instead finding another source of income.
you speak everything absolutely right. here in Philippines everybody ask money and expect always to give them more. when family barrow they never pay back.
Friend:hey man Can I have 1B pesos?
Me:Sure, I will give it to you, when will u give it back?
Friend: When the big bang happens again
You sure I'm Philippines every one ask for money and never give.it back
truly and they get mad when you ask for a payback.
it's a communist country, just like OUR classroom
@@devilzbgaming8408 seriously bro i think you wrong coused every country has a bad person and good person its all up to you if you can defined the good and bad lol
Most Filipinos are Catholic . The church teaches them to be followers and not leaders , which almost guarantees they won't become wealthy . If by chance they do become wealthy nevertheless , the Church teaches they must share the wealth until they are no longer wealthy . Only a few are exempted from this rule . The Church teaches the select few wealthy are that way because God wills it . All Catholic societies operate this way .
Ian Andrews just like mega churches are scams
Yep
Well said!
well put
Catholic wrong teaching about the good mind set .
I agree. Our ancestors taught us the wrong decision.
Nikko Eusebio stop blaming others for your own mistakes...
Mr. Mister Hey man, it’s a cultural thing. Most Filipino’s won’t know what a successful culture (way of life) is like because they haven’t been outside of the Philippines.
to just do the kantot eberydei and smoke n drink.
Yes but there is no excuse now. We can become better. First we need to take responsibility and learn from the more successful cultures.
Can you blame them, though? They were enslaved by foreign conquerors for more than three centuries. The slave mentality is just too difficult to shrug-off.
This is all true
Go to the phillipines
You will agree with him
Stop hating on him
Grace Price i'm already in the Philippines bruh
Not all Filipinos
Philippines shit in the rivers and no one even bothers to clean and recycle.
@@rescune4021 thats a manila idiot you wanna go to bagui city is amazing
@@rescune4021 ok cuase its not generation for us and some parent don't teach manner and responsible
I'm Filipino you don't even know what other Filipino look like they used to find plastic to get small amount of money for Thier Family
And also having trash I'n river well also help got homeless to collect them instead of burning.
1 time i stop sending money to my parents. My father cursed me "pisti ka wala kay utang na loob". When infact i am the only sibling who sends the biggest money to my parents. Its very toxic and now i stop talking to my dad. I understand that he also grow in this situation but he should have learn how traumatic it is to be in this position.
100%
When I told my mother that I'm not going to send them anymore money, she said that "I am no longer have any parents in the Philippines ". 😢 And yes they always mention "utang na loob", I'm sick of that😢
What you're saying is real and genuine. People kept saying about culture or what but you know what, its better to let it out and be aware of what is the culture and be enlightened of what the real situation is. People might say you don't know our culture otherwise but it doesn't change the fact of what the reality is. I would rather accept being real and honest than being blind.
Amen. Thanks for commenting. Hope you'll share the video so it can help others :) ...only truth and constructive criticism will change anything for the better.
I agree
Yup...That's just Filipino culture...The one in the family who has a job supports the ones in the family who don't have jobs...Which kind of enables the non-working family members to be lazy.
My Filipina girlfriend supports her non-working family members too.
It’s ok to support their education, especially the little kids in the family. But if you are going to support their whimsical whims, oh no. That’s a very wrong thing to do.
@@GaryHField why the western countries are rich? because they stole the resources of every country. Correction
@@johnbeelansones4660 because they are more disciplined than most of the filipinos... they are more systematic and resourceful than most of the filipinos...
The main reason is the "CULTURE of DEPENDENCY".
Those who don't agree are the ones who receive. XD
Tracey jeanclaudeg yes exactly
@Nathan's Gameplay lmao just work hard for yourself. My father is successful, but he gave those money to his siblings. Well, even though he was successful, he didn’t got rich. *Just* think about it. Being selfless is kinda bad sometimes...
In this day and age there are so many more ways of making money. All you need is an internet connection and a few good ideas. I’m not suggesting the slum dwellers can do this. People make money documenting their daily life on TH-cam. Foreigners are always here making money just by making a video of how they like the Philippines... perhaps you people can share their interesting lives in the province farming or planting kamote and teaching others how to do it also... why are people so obsessed with watching foreigners talking about how great the country is?? Plus I agree you can just make money for yourself and wait till you are doing well enough to help others. Why work so hard and fly to other countries just to live a hard life giving people back home so much money?? It’s a tale as old as time, your niece that goes to school you are paying for gets pregnant and doesn’t finish studying. You family like to show they have money and host drink ups with cases of san mig for the entire barangay! And the boys just get drunk.... have your family open a sari sari store...???? Yeah right, that money goes missing or they all fight over their share. I tell all my clients when they go abroad save up to buy a house and start to ground your own roots. It isn’t selfish if you worked so hard to get there..
@@Nathan-fj2bp You are pathetic and a disgrace to our people! pathetic!
@Dark Star maybe it depends lol
I'm a Filipino and this is sadly true... whats more sad is that Filipino family member would rather be given money than what u call as oppportunity.. The one who earns better will have the blessing or the curse to carry the burden of family expenses..The time you stop sharing, they will see u being selfish.
Charlotte Peace Im not speaking in behalf of americans or in your behalf. Im speaking of myself and how this reality relates to me. If it doesnt seem likely in your case, then youre in a different situation which i dont see any reason to disagree.
Yeah. I agree. What is worse is when they ask you for money when they don't really need it. Then, say mean things to you when you say no.
Cosmic Beige yes you're right
It's so true!!!!!
Nailed it. Ive seen n experienced(invites)this in the Philippines. One or two family carry on the burden of providing for the entire family. Also, borrowing money from one family to another. The fact is, a majority families n extended families live side by side( big or small house or shanty type). When it comes to marriage and having kids, both couple know they dont have the means to provide a good life for themselves n their kids. Hey, like most Filipinos there in the PH will say, “Its Life or bahala attitude”. Another reason, most Filipinos valued the 9-5 work mentality, not entrepreneurship. Businesses provide Jobs. A lot of Filipinos just cant think outside the Box. Dont get me wrong, nurses, doctors, and engineers are what Filipinos see as getting out of poverty, but these professions wont make the PH a First world country.
First time I heard this video I said to myself are you really encouraging or discouraging Filipinos? But then I saw it again the second time video after subscribing to your singing videos. I said let me listen to you this video again "Why Filipinos Don't Get Rich" I said this guy must have a lots guts or lots of compassion with Filipinos to make such a daring messages. This one "deep" message and not all can understand this and for sure you probably got some negative comments but you know what? You hit the nail. I understand what you are saying and you do have compassion for Filipinos. I watch a lot of vlogging and Filipinos have ask them for money I'm sure because they "lots of dollars" but the best way to help; is to teach us how to fish not exactly giving the fish. This video is a motivational message and I hope a lot of Filipinos will understand what you are saying and those who wants to help them.
Thank you for watching and leaving such a thoughful comment. God bless.
We have same thoughts, but I was wrong the video is so enlightining.
This is so true. However, i think the problem is, some of the people (i know, not all) that are being helped, don't help themselves as well. They just dont try and would rather just sit around and wait for the provider to give them money. And worst, some are even the ones that spend the supposed money for food and necessities to waste.
Having said this, i want to also mention the environment & maybe even the culture sometimes - the lack of desire to dream big (if you do, it's got a stigma of being "ambisyoso" or "ambisyosa" or in English "too ambitious" and the fact that, that's become a cultural thing to say when someone has some big life goals, speaks volumes about where people's mindsets are at. Cuz i find that most people's life goals are set on certain levels that would be more attainable for their situation.
If there are more exposure though to people like yourself or western mindsets when it comes to ceasing opportunities & being aggressive about making life better, i think it would be eye opening for Filipinos.
Joan Hermoso I agree. I want to become an author entrepreneur, but my parents say that writing books is useless and that I should just be an engineer or accountant or anything that has something to do with math, since I'm good at it. But I don't enjoy it as much as I'm passionate and consistent for writing. I'm willing to break my inexperience, and become a master of my art.
Plus since I'm young they keep on insisting "nagsisimula ka palang, pabalik na'ko." I know they're older and more experienced. But I am willing to fail, and learned from it. Compare to just surrendering in doing a job that I will hate.
That's an excellent point. Thank you for sharing Joan :) ...there's a saying that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time around. I think the only way to overcome what you talked about is to spend the majority of ones time around other people that have the same attitude and ambitions as you. Seek them out, and keep them close :)
Yeah this would be a great explanation why Filipinos dont get rich
but the Family Orientation of Filipinos made them unique as human beings
Taking care of Elders- Providing financial help to others is a huge part of Filipino Culture simply because Filipinos are born to be a Helpful one :)
No Hate- American standards are way differ from Filipino Values-Culture
*Michael Angeles,* hindi lamang ito patungkol sa Nanay at Tatay. Kung may kapatid o kamag-anak, dapat disiplinahin sa pagkita ng sariling pera. Hindi lamang nanghihiram at umaasa sa mga kinikita nila Ate, kuya, mama o papa.
Dean Natuno Agree so much. You provide for your parents as thanks for them providing for you. You are NOT obligated to help your bum relatives.
Nurturing dependence is not good. This is a problem in our country
Please people, help yourself first so that others will not need to help you. Then eventually through the years of being stable and independent, give others the help they need by providing opportunity. The real help people need is not the basic needs but the opportunities good people can provide
I wish this were true with the Filipinos I know.
The ones I work with are resentful towards their fam in the PI. I'm sure they love their parents and siblings since they are supporting them. But I wish the ones who are supporting are also taking care of their own wants and needs, that way they can feel better about supporting those in the PI.
We have poor people in the Philippines. Bakit my pulubi dito?
The reason why I don’t talk or chat more often to my families back home, all i hear from them are complaints, my grandma’s medicine, bill etc.. so tired of hearing them but at the end of the day i felt guilty and end up sending money. Ohh 1 more thing i also pay for my brothers college though he’s 27 years old! I hated my life now been working abroad for 7years now and still live from paycheck to paycheck. My bank account is as dry as the desert where i work.
dude,you don't need to send your 27 year old brother to school... holy goodness, he's 27 not 17, unless you're a rich person or have a good paying job,but if you're living paycheck to paycheck then that's not right ... tell him to find a job during the day & go to school during the night ... I am sorry man, it sounded like your brother is lazy ...
Chris Alemania me too is like that
maybe its time to teach your brother to find a part time job. to support himself, I have lot of friends here in the philippines living on poor area and they don't get any financial from their parents but she is trying to find some ways to pay her bills on college.
😭 mag-ipon ka para sa sarili mo kuya para pag ikaw nagkapamilya dika mahirapan..tama na pagtulong mo ng kunti sa parents mo lang.
Pareho tayo 😖
Philippines is a nice country, believe me I love the country..... but most of the Filipino I encounter here are full of crap and don't hate me for that bc it's true if you keep hating facts like this then how in the world will you be able to strive for change. Don't take this as a a hate comment. Take this as motivation to change.
They are crap and very melodramatic. They think their life is a sopranos
As a Filipino, I feel this. I had the privilege to live in other countries, and when I come to my home towns, i've been made fun out of, I have more of an English accent, I dont properly speak tagalog. The Family is nice, relatives, but neighbors or family friends, I have to be around my father or brothers so I dont feel or be treated like crap.
thx
That's exactly the problem of my race lmao. They can't even take simple criticism properly then what more in the real world where there's much more opinions and facts that they refuse to accept lmao.
I'm a filipino and I agree...
Tbh I feel that I'm an alien.
Too many deadbeats just waiting around for someone to have a measure of financial success and expecting to be taken cared of without an ounce of gratitude. That is the Filipino way.
This is what I’m talking about. It’s a topic where people here in the Phils are quite sensitive about. But to be honest, it’s a ‘hard’ truth that everyone refuses to accept.
Great explanation btw! Keep it up.
I'm Filipino myself and this is sadly the truth. My great-grandfather was poor with 10 children but earned enough money to buy land and make a profit from it to send his kids to school and their children and now my generation.
Most of us Filipinos are too afraid to take risks. We're too afraid to try out new things because of the possibility that we'll lose something somehow. We're stuck in our old ways. Why are we not rich? Because we've been doing the same things over and over. We graduate with degrees but we can't even find a job. If we get a job then we're contented. We're stuck in our comfort zones. And the only way to grow and make our lives better is to step out of our comfort zones.
why there r so many dislike???? what is the problem?
what parts offend your feelings?
i totally 100% agree this opinion
You know.. balat cibuyas syndrome.
You know filipinos are hypersensitive as onions lmao
i dislike this video because he doesn't understand american way is different from that of a Filipino, Americans value individualism and Filipinos care more for their family and his cliche is being ignorant to the issue of being american, as for me i'm part Chinese and part American and a Filipino and i respect both worlds. to understand what i'm saying settle with these example: USA settings: An Old american had a heart attack a neighbor just look and calls 911 until the Old guy died because of waiting for 911.// PHIL settings: random old guy having heart attack a Filipino stranger went by and check his situation the stranger calls for taxi sent the man to hospital and pay for the taxi fare and checks for the old random guy's relatives to be informed. is this the part where you say Filipino don't get rich just an example of difference between individualism and that of Filipino ties is more than money you know.
In the Philippines they called it Bayanihan spirit
@@jihanyie2575 100% agree. Thank you
Right. Its quite depressing to think about it, I barely even post my travel or if I do, my kamag-anak (relatives) will think that I'm rich.
There will be gossip that I'm stingy and selfish.
@CJ guevarra ikr, I wanted to say that work ur ass off if u want shit, right? But it will be too damaging for them, they cannot handle the truth
Well let me tell you this. You have every right to do so. And them telling you stingy are just jelly. Because they dont work hard enough to deserve that. Mga utak talangka. Post it if you want bahala silang ma stroke sa inggit
This is so true... Bc they help their families and its all bc of "utang na loob" stigma that filipino culture has. I kind of hate it bc if i won't give, my family will start to say im selfish and useless, but what im trying to do is that I finished my studies and have a job and save money for my career in the future and they just dont see the bigger future. Dear filipino parents, you send your children to school to get educated, to be prepared for their future, and yes it is your obligation to support them but the problem is that you always have this stigma that right after they finish their studies you expect them to have a job and help you in your daily expenses at home but did you also forgot that they are also preparing for the life that awaits for them? Just try to see the bigger picture, we are all getting old and no one is exempted. What im trying to say is that, yes they are responsible to still care and help you but not like full time help bc they are also trying to stand and build for they want they want to achieve sooner. What happens when you always hold them back, and they're too old to achieve those dreams that they always have which they should've achieved when theyre younger? It's not going to make any difference
woah
u nailed it
Filipino toxic culture. I've been there!!! All your family relies on you because " you are the successful one" ... i dont mind helping, but all of the sudden it became my responsibility to send my siblings to school. Ppl wont even find jobs, save or make business at all. We need to set boundaries. Sad but true 😢
I'm a pure blooded Filipino and I can say this video and David's observation of our culture makes a lot of sense. I would have to agree with eveything he said. I hope this will kick a whole lot of sense into the Filipino society's mind. Spread this video to our fellow Kababayan's to help us wake up to a whole new perspective.
Thanks for watching, and commenting :)
Isn't that the truth. That's why most OFW come home broke even after working abroad for many many years or most of their lives. All the money was squandered by the FAMILY...
Mari443Garrett1 : sad to say it's true and yeah most ofw suffered because they sacrifice for nothing in the name of family fucking love and some of them don't get married and they went back to the philippines completely broke in and out!!
Mari443Garrett1 yes it’s True
It hurts but it’s true. I experienced this. For so many years.But thanks God finally I learned how to set boundaries in saying yes or no to all there request.. It is good to help family but not make you responsible for everything unless you are financially capable it’s not a big problem. But for those living pay check to pay check manage your budget and Give some gap, enough for them to respect you and your decisions. A bible quotes it says if you don’t save when you are young you don’t have anything when you get old. Which is true. It’s a commonsense. You can help when they really need it but not to the point that make you responsible for their life choices. And I also hope those family who relying on their love ones abroad. Please value what they send bcoz they shed lots of sweat, hardwork, lots of body pain especially those who work labor work abroad. Use it wisely. Show lots of love and understanding for them they work abroad in the intention of helping family and for themselves. We are in here in this world to love , share , help each other up.. I salute to all overseas worker.. more power to them and God blessed us all.
Joan Amin : " well Said " you've got it right!!
Arnel Vasquez Thank you!
This is an eye opener for me, David. You touched very sensitive topics for Filipinos, money & family, and you'll definitely get some emotionally charged responses but in the end, you are right.
Why is this eye-opening? As a Filipino, this is all too prevalent and too obvious to be ignored.
Same reason why African-Americans don't get rich.
We tend to associate wealth with huge house, luxury car, and designer clothing.
These spendings leaves us no room to save and invest for a passive income. Thus, we tend to go broke when we stop working because we did not invest for a passive income.
In short, we spend so much on liabilities and too little on assets.
Fun fact: the first one to pulling you down is your own family and Relatives
true 💯
Sometimes i ask myself, how did I end up here in this sh*thole country and I hate being a Filipino at the first place!
I have already realize that. Help myself first before others and I can help more in the future. You are right and Thank you, this video can help more Filipinos to wake up.
The main reason filipino dont get rich because most of them has a crab mentality or putting down of one persons success
what you said is spot on, sad but it's true. Also, one reason why a lot of Filipinos (especially those who came from the poorest of the poor family) don't get rich is that the parents themselves are holding back their kids on their dreams. They have this attitude where if you're born poor, then you'll die poor. Some of them like to use the "lack of education" as an excuse to stay poor, even though there are a lot of public schools and organizations that are giving away free school supplies and scholarships.
One more thing if you do receive money for help, instead of spending it blindly. Figure out how to make that money grow so you can stop asking for more money. Start a business with that money. Start selling food, you know the owner of Jolli bee started off pushing a food cart. The saddest part is that he is a Chinese! This is also true for Philippine Airlines, a Chinese guy owns it! Better start using your brain's before it's to late, before that whole country is run by foreigners. Quit feeling sorry for yourselves too, it all starts with a vision on how to get out of poverty.
thank you David. I hope all FILIPINOS ABROAD WILL LISTEN TO THIS AND THEIR FAMILIES IN THE PHILIPPINES ON WHY FILIPINOS DO NOT GET RICH. THEY GIVE THEIR MONEY TO THEIR FAMILIES WHO KEEP DEPENDING NOT REALIZING HOW HARD IT IS TO WORK ABROAD.
Sad to say..but its true.!!
As the oldest sibling of a widowed Filipino mother and the only male born and raised in the U.S. I didn’t even realize this was so common or an actual thing in Filipino culture until recently. And this guy is absolutely right. I make the most money and would’ve been able to support myself and live on my own for several years now but a significant portion of my income goes to my mom and my sister’s rent that they can’t afford. My cousins are i. The same position- my aunts and uncles treating their kids like a pension for when they get old. One of my older cousins literally moved out into a one bedroom apartment at 31 because he spent all his 20’s giving his money to his parents It’s such bullshit honestly and the parents don’t seem to see anything wrong with how they basically crippled him and damned him into continuing the cycle of living in poverty
Many of my classmates are so poor and still celebrating their birthday in a fast foods inviting like 20 peoples even tho they living in slums
Bro, I may have to criticize your English, as we can say "in a fast foods" to "a very expensive manner." Just remember that there are alternatives to make our english more fluent. I just read news articles and my English got polished.
But the point of this reply is that yeah, it's sad. Most of my classmates don't even do their projects nor the activities well.
They are usually focused in Tiktok, things like that and I'm the individual that usually looks at astronomy and science, topics on math. I do not excell in math, in fact I struggle in it. It's a huge drawback for me, this video was a huge eye-opener. I need to work on myself first.
I entirely agree with you. Filipinos aren't competent enough for the real world.
Just let them be bro.
This is the most realistic thing I've ever heard, and this ' real talk ' did not come from my parents or my grandparents. They made me think it was all okay when actually the opportunity is in our own hands. Thank you for this Inspiration I think I now have an idea what to do with my investments in the Philippines 😊.
You could give them a million pesos. I guarantee most them would be broke and back in the squatter village in a month.
We need to learn discipline like the prussians.
Some of my friends, family and relatives only remember me when they needed money. Not even a single “Hi” or “Hello”, just straight, “Bro, baka pwede makahiram ng pera.” They don’t even greet me on my birthday. 😢😢 And even if you gave them money because you want to help, they wanted more, and more, and more, like they believe money grows on trees. Like it is unlimited. They don’t know how hard I try to earn that money. That is the mentality in the Philippines. I’m sorry but that is the truth and it hurts.
😢
stop giving bro
this is true. there's also the culture of if you're working abroad, you're rich. Funny story, im currently studying to finish my bachelor's degree in North America. So that means i have student loans. My relatives in the Ph. always asks me for money every time we communicate. Meanwhile, i see them posting on social media partying every weekend while i spend my weekends working part time while being a full-time student.
Ever since my Filipino mom always reminds me the only reason she birthed me and my siblings is so we would do the chores for them and someday give the family name an outstanding reputation (through becoming a lawyer/doctor). I realize now why my older siblings chose to live in the other side of the city. My family survives on debt and dependency. I wish I was never born into my family.
I am laughing while im watching this video...its bcoz i am one of this people they called bread winner...i support my whole family while working abroad....so sad bcoz until now i cant go home coz all my salary went to phils..and the only thing i had is reciept😂😂😂😂😂
Mustang ang tawag dyan te, Kamusta saby utang.
You need to establish healthy boundaries or else you're NOT helping them at all - you're ENABLING them to continue in their codependent ways that frees them from taking any responsibility and control of their individual lives.
You need to apply Tough Love. I did it. It's hard at first, but it's the only way they can grow and have a taste of self-empowerment that doesn't depend on other people's hard-earned efforts that they can free-float on.
Hahaha I feel the same thing
my gf also give money to her parents even they are all now professionals i scolded her and told her dont give all your money just give them 10% - 20% of your salary abroad and the rest save it for your future they are old now and you are not that is why she followed my advice
EARTH ANGEL so you encourage your whole family to be lazy and then send money for your pregnant 16 years old single sister?
I remember sharing this one and they all blocked me on social media sites. Lol
.. the sheer stupidity unfolds.
Wow... amazing points! I so agree with the giving of the money. My mother slaved her life away. She made so much money, but had nothing to show for it. She provided for her 7 siblings for at least 25 years.
I didn't agree with the way she was "helping" bc she would give them expensive named brand things (including houses and cars!). Me and my siblings here in the states never really asked for anything expensive, but I'm sure we would have been given a hard time. She wasn't even able to really help me through college; I paid my own way which was okay w me. She focused more on her family in the PI (siblings and their children). The part that broke my heart was that they weren't really appreciative. Now that my mom is not able to work and provide them expensive things, they rarely keep in contact. She mentioned she went home to the PI, but her own family did not take her out or even meet with her; only when she threw herself a bday party did they attend.
I completely agree when you mentioned giving opportunity, not money.
Thank you for sharing your story. God bless.
January 5th This was sad
I can relate to you.. my mom is the same.. so sad..
Perfect example of a typical Filipino family. Funny you mentioned about relatives in the Philippines, I just gave presents this past christmas and noticed that younger people nowadays do not even say Thank you.
Gackt Kun Take the presents back.
I love your mindset because it's honest and it works! Thanks for sharing
You are so welcome!
I would agree with you, If the living standard was the same as in the US, where opportunities are more equal w/ a functioning social welfare. Filipino's living in the US for the most part are hardworking and successful on their own right. So, it is not merely a "cultural thing", but lack of opportunities and choices.
You also said so yourself, that you came from a poor family. But, somehow there were opportunities that opened up for you, and you came out ahead. I doubt the same opportunities exists in the Philippines for the poor families and individuals w/ the same talent as yours.
I completely agree that being born in the US has given me many additional and unique opportunities. Where someone is born is definitely a factor in the opportunities they have. That's even true within the US itself and within the Philippines itself. However I don't think that being born in a given place with a given financial condition is the main factor on whether someone has financial success. So many poor people around the world have their own success to prove that's not the case.
Mark Reginald I actually think it's how also culture views money. Many Filipinos don't have a sense of valuing financial matters. I'm not racist and I'm a pinoy saying this! It's probably due to being so used to scarcity that when given the opportunity of it, they immediately squander it thinking they might not get whatever they wanted this often. This is why there ought to have been in our educational system teaching our children of getting a sense of business acumen and to learn how to handle money properly.
David you know how industrious Filipinos are given the chance. But there's not too many chances inside the country itself that's why we go abroad. A LOT OF US GO ABROAD. And you are right helping is not just by giving. But opportunities that will even give them respect themselves. And that is what I am planning to do when we go back home. :) go into business and help give jobs to others. God bless!
"lack of opportunities and choices"
I kinda disagree. I've seen plenty of family members who stopped trying to find opportunities the moment someone in their family makes money.
do note that we Filipinos are sitting last on the highest average IQ among the ASEAN nations (as of 2021)
Right to the point. Sad thing in the philippines, the cycle of dependency is endless. People are not taught the virtue of self-reliance and self-sufficiency. No wonder mooching to relatives is so prevalent.
I'm guessing some Filipinos might get mad at your comment because their relatives might not send/give free support to them anymore.
WE LIVE IN CANADA AND MY FAMILY IN THE PHILIPPINES ONLY WANTS SUPPORT FROM US AND THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND IT'S VERY HARD TO MAKE MONEY
Our roots are stuck on this cycle, thinking that their kids are their future investments. Sadly even our sole parent don't know how to earn and handle money well.
Me and my siblings are stepping forward to break the cycle.
I totally agree with you David. I've realized this when I started working few years ago.
My savings always end up in my family because they always ask for it. Not that I'm being obliged but it's more on the conscience of not helping them. I have this idea in mind that if I don't help them I would be a terrible son and brother. But I always ask myself, are they even thinking about me? I mean are they even concerned for my future because it doesn't look it. If I will always give them my money, my savings, I will not grow financially. My life will not be better. It would remain the same.
[For fellow Filipinos that will point out something like "diskarte" or whatever that you could think of, the savings will supposedly be used to be invested in business and stocks. I don't like to add an additional line of income that would barely add up to my savings. That would be a waste of time. I'm already lucky if I can sleep 4 hours a day. Just imagine.]
One of my coworkers before which was way older than me told me that I should save money for myself and don't give everything to my family. I wanted to cry and say that that's not how they think but I just smiled. I felt touched that someone actually thought for my future at least. And now that you are saying this, I hope my family sees this video.
And for others that does not agree, just limit the amount of money that you give. Save some for yourself.
Hope this video helps. Sometimes we have to make hard choices that even seem like they might be the "wrong" thing to do at the time, but with the future in mind. Not only our future, but the future of all the other people we will have the chance to influence.
Of course they're thinking about you! They gave you shelter. Do you know how much they spend on that a year? Food? Electricity? Water? Mortgage? There are boundaries of how much to give. Its all about the personality of your family this doesn't account for everyone. I have an issue with my gf's mom controlling where her money goes, it took my gf a couple years to finally notice and now shes a little bit more conscious how much to give since I keep telling her to be more defensive and tell her mom no.
For me, my relationship with my family is mutual. They give me something, i give them something back in return. It differs in every situation. Just make sure when you give, you have enough for yourself.
Adelbert1309 you just enlightened me up. Thank you! I, as an ofw, single, having a good salary, working for three years but really nothing left for me. Not even 250$. I will start to earn for myself now.
We're same situation.It's time to teach my family.
I have the same conclusion. We Filipinos should keep the cultural lifestyle of being friendly, genuine, and real to most people, and being family oriented, but at the same time we should also adopt the western independent mentality when it comes to financial and work issues. Always save your money for yourself, you may give some to your family, but only a very small percentage because they would only become dependent to you and not learn to be responsible and earn money their own way.
This is so real
Being dependent to a family member who has a job, is a Filipino culture that has been practiced by many. This is the kind of culture that I really don't like. You're absolutely right. Giving money to your family member is hurting them. You're not teaching them to fish but to constantly beg money. I hate giving the money that I work hard for a lazy family member.
Stay strong. Merry Christmas :)
then you dont have to share the money that you worked hard for kung masama sa loob mu ang tumulong
boredom watcher..di dapat tulungan yong mga tamad. That's my point. I don't mind sharing some of my earnings sa mga taong nangangailangan na gustong rin tulungan self nila.
depende naman sa case yung pagbibigay. Ang sinasabi sa video e pati daw pagpapaaral sa mga kapatid ay ginagawa ng pinoy? may mali ba dun? kung may kakayahan ka naman e bakit hindi di ba? yun kasi yung pinopoint out nung sa statement sa video. hindi naman yung case na walang katuturan
Did you move out at the legal age which is usually at the age of 18? If yes, then my hats off to you. But if no, then you better give something back to your parents and family because you enjoyed being a freeloader yourself. It's an Asian distinct culture where children would live with their family until their late 20's and 30's and even after having their own children. If you work and still live with your family/parents, You're not really independent. You're still a freeloader yourself.
I'm a filipino, but Good thing my Sister thought me to save money and invest it. Now I have Millions of money on the bank but still I prefer to stay humble look very "probinsyano". I don't know, but I feel contented by having a simple life.
@Doggo Good thing you know what you're doing. Just continue saving for your future! Goodluck! ♥️
This is my dream!
this is super true based on experience. We Filipinos will never learn unless we experience firsthand how it feels to earn money. I would have never known this if my parents didn't let me go. I wish financial literacy could be taught to more filipinos.
Some Filipinos are show off, they love to go to London... Loan dito Loan don, kotse, bahay, cellfone, then may 5-6 to Indians, kumot, banig, payong, ... Most were uneducated when it comes to money, they always want the latest trend, live above they means, i know this becoz I am a Filipino , and also guilty that i do this things a lot and not excluding myself. But, theres still hope to learn and educate. 2018 fresh start 😊👍🇵🇭
noypi21stcentury So refreshing to hear your honesty. Hope you do better.
noypi21stcentury so true
noypi21stcentury : hahaha!! " nauunahan kasi nang yabang ang mga pinoy, katulad ng sinabi mo na mahilig sa show off may masabi lang "
totally agree! masakit ang katotohanan.
Aeta Tribe i guess it does not apply to all. Who would want to be a slave being away from your family licking other's ass?? It might be true that there are a lot of Filipinos who are materialistic but please note that dream of a better living out of poverty is one of the reason why these OFW leave the country.
this is why filipinos are hard headed, they don't want to take in information and they think they can do everything the way they want.
and that it'll lead to their downfall. Filipino ako, pero i had enough of this cuture.
@@wynignatius9289 same
Yeah they even are corrupted and their military is so weak that it needs US for its support
@@wynignatius9289 end the government and slothful of Filipino not all!
@@jacobyesthatsmynameyum1247 What was the connection of our armed forces in this topic?
The Philippines is one of the poorest countries in the world. Instead of being offended, why don't we take the advice of a successful person?
Philippines ranked 33rd out 100plus richest countries in the world
We ain't poor buddy.
Kung Hindi lang sa bwesit na virus to. Bumulusok na sa itaas Yung economy natin.
Fvck you China.
Hindi Tau mahirap ang dami nga natin Likas na yaman e dagdag mopa gold ni Marcos 987billion dollars. Normal lang may mahirap na pamilya lahat Ng bansa may mahirap na pamilya . Pero madaming mayaman sa pilipinas kuripot nga lang katulad namin kuripot pero mapera.sa Lugar namin ang dami sports car bawat Gabi naririnig ko ang ingay. Meron mustang,Porsche,Ferrari at iba pa kaya hindi Tau mahirap Kung mahirap Tau Sana lahat Tau nagbabasura tsaka di tau pupuntahan Ng mga Ibang bansa Kung mahirap Tau kuripot lang Tau pero mapera
Now i understand why my sisrrters and mom does not want me to send money to them. Thanks for making me realized that i need to work harder and harder and save for my own self. Now i will not give anyone some money, been working abroad for more than 5 years and i do not have anything (except my own house) my bank account has almost nothing on it. Been giving money to friends basically lending them but none is paying back. So its considered as given. Now i will be rich... Thanks David.
Be rich, then wisely give other people opportunities, and give those opportunities to people that will value them and make the most of them. Then they will become rich too, and everyone who is willing to be wise and work hard will be lifted higher together. Sometimes there's a place for just gifts, gifts can be sweet. But first put yourself in a position where you can easily give a gift and not think anything of it. Don't give a gift to help someone, because giving someone a gift rarely helps them.
Now you've just become officially a foreigner in your motherland. His opinion maybe right but he also stressed some "Ifs".
Dmtechno Vice Ganda is another. He may not be as rich as Manny but he still takes care of his family and he is very generous not only to people around him. Kris Aquino too. David has some good points too but not everything he says is true. Don’t forget that most Americans live on credit cards, so basically most of them are in debt.
greedy ba siya? nag pautang nga at hindi binayaran pero inisip nalang niya na nagbigay siya ng pera, the outcome? he's leading a poor life.
I often tell my siblings that I am not an ATM machine.
You wouldn't have to. I only told my relatives once and they never asked again.
First, explain to them how you earn your money. (What you do, how you do it, how long, hours days etc)
Second, give them a list of your expenses.
Food, housing, gas, insurance medical dental etc, utilities, bills, debt repayment etc.
Third, your long term goals (what you are trying to afford).
Once you clarify that, they will no longer ask you for anything because they know and understand where you are coming from..
If you respond with incomprehensible anger, then clearly they won't understand why and instead presume that you are just greedy.
Fourth and finally, you probably already do this, but sending for tuition fee for aiding some relatives to get out of poverty is an airtight reason to refuse other expense requests.
If that for some reason is still not enough, ask them for an audit of their expenses. As well as the same data you have provided them
A: how they earn their money, their free time amount, and their job difficulty.
B: ask for a detailed list of expenses.
C: ask for their goals. short and long term.
D: ask who they are helping or are planning to help.
That is more than enough to shut them up because it will be inoffensively clear to them what the situation is.
UNLESS you are POOR (not materially but relationally) that you can't even empathize or be empathized by your very own relatives. that you are so distant to them that you can't even communicate with them.
IF THEY SEE YOU AS AN ATM, perhaps somewhere someway, you turned from family, into ATM.
ask yourself how it became that way? I doubt the fault is one sided.
You can’t pour from an empty cup! This is so true! Fill your own cup first and let it overflow, once it starts to overflow. That’s when you help others.
my family is not rich but we are happy....atleast we have a good health and food to eat everyday
realtalk we don't need dollar.
My people want instant money. We want lottery tickets instead of investments that'll last for life. It all starts in the mindset, environment, and general socially acceptable rule of "Bahala na".
Thank you for your honesty and for saying it in a kind and sympathetic way. Respect.
absolutely agree on this, however, helping family members/relatives is a cultural identity of being a Filipino, something that we couldn't leave behind.
True and most of the foreigners don't understand.
For this guy,richness is all about money alone....though some of his points r great,only his point about richness that i did not like it
Fuck traditions. That is the reason.
This is 100% true, I've known so many families that work like this including some of my relatives.
I can confirm that this is true.
What he is narrating is actually a Asian culture.
Does not exist in Japanese culture
Korea, Japan or even China? I don't think so. Everyone must pull their weight in these countries. If your sibling is too lazy to work then too bad, let them starve.
Don't generalize all Asian countries!
It's a painful fact in a few Asian countries too...... I have even watched and heard a fellow Filipino who happened to be live a stable life in Manila, married a Korean and decided to migrate to South Korea to live a better life. Driven, by a quest and aim for higher standard of living and combined with very high expectations. The said Filipina was unaware of her husband's culture......where a daughter in law must give all her earnings to her in mother in law. Such a culture in their country where a working and earning family member must give all his/her money to the eldest in family entirely
I'm a filipino, and I agree 100%
I totally agree!!! Currently, there's a Financial Cultural issue here in the Philippines. Some Filipinos might disagree due to our country's cultural differences, some are lacking financial education and others were not exposed to available learning resources from the Internet. (there are lots of reasons too) :)
Its a big part of our Culture, Giving money, Crab mentality 🦀 do it later habit, Gossiping other people which is a tradition