What Does "Be a Man" Really Mean? | Mazin Jamal | TEDxSoMa
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 30 ม.ค. 2019
- The current standards and expectations of manhood have an undeniable impact on our relationships and our society. Inspired by the courage and vulnerability of women and survivors in the #metoo movement, Mazin Jamal shares his struggles with manhood, mistakes he's made, and the steps he's taking to learn and grow. Mazin Jamal is a professional coach, musician and community organizer. He supports visionary leaders, change-makers and teams to live from their values and cultivate a joyous resilience. He is the founder of Holistic Underground, a leadership and community development non profit. Upon receiving feedback from from lovers and friends that he was not always holding his power and privilege with integrity in his early twenties, Mazin experienced a humbling reminder that the journey never ends. This inspired a renewed dedication to personal growth, with a focus on masculinity and manhood. Though he often wears the hat of teacher, coach or leader, in this domain he identifies as a student guided by these questions: how can I lead a life of integrity and service, even having made these mistakes? How can I support other men to join me in this journey? This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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I cannot believe more people didn't at least like this amazing speech.
Tbh I agree, more people that watch this should send this video to at least one person you know who is struggling or who you think this would help.
They should
People are already subscribed to the channel and don't feel the need to like videos.
A chat society is not ready to talk about i guess
Yeah
"I can have my emotional needs met by more people" ❤ very authentic talk
A ted talk on what being a man actually is absolutely outstanding I’ll keep this for life
Thank you, Mazin. I have trouble trusting men due to my past experiences and this gives a little hope to me. It makes me feel safer to hear these things said. Thank you for your honesty.
When he talks with honesty and humility, I wish I were him. He is my hero, not how toxic masculinity defines a hero. He is more than his mistakes. He corrects them. He is an observer. What a beautiful soul🙏👍🙏💜
A new vision of "Be a Man" is long overdue. It takes courage to change. When we know better, we should do better.
This young man gives me hope for the future in our world. This is the type of a man that I want as a neighbor, a friend and someone I can depend on. This is a man that I could hug without reserve, without fear of judgement and know that I am safe.
Oh Mazin, I really loved your message and you are so far beyond being a real man. You are a warm, strong and authentic human being, who dares to pay it forward.
Why is it always toughness vs. vulnerability or dominance vs. submission? You can't defend your ideas, yourself or someone else if all you do is become more vulnerable. Integrity requires some form of toughness. Not kissing that shoe when someone is trying to oppress you is defending your integrity. Asserting dominance over someone close just because you can is a completely is a completely different thing. Both no power and too much power corrupt. It's not the expectations that are bad, but what's missing is proper leadership.
You know, I gotta admit I have personally been experiencing this lesson in my life recently, and I can't agree with you more! Striking that balance is really hard. And trying to make a clear point in under 18 minutes with a really complex topic is challenging too. And, though that dichotomy isnt inherent, it is definitely what I was taught growing up, and that's why I'm shedding light on it. On the way of transcending a duality, sometimes we need to acknowledge that narrative we have been living from, so we can see what its costing us and how its affecting us.
This video has the purpose of practicing the vulnerability part, which is one of the many lessons I am seeking to learn on my journey. Perhaps in another video, I or someone will speak to striking this balance, but I can't say I've figured that one out myself yet, so this is where I am in my journey so far. Thanks for watching
Mazin Jamal, I wish every man would be like you! The world would be a happy place. Thank you!
You're doing important, world changing, life work, *Mazin Jamal* .
This is what we need , this what women who fight for gender inequality faced for many years. It’s reality come true for me too. We have to end saying be a man, machismo, we need to understand that men have feelings and can express their feelings too and it’s not weakness for a man to cry.we need more men to show up. Thanks Mizan👏...
Thank you for this speach, it is beautiful! The world needs more people like you. God bless you!
This is amazing!!! Love this so much, this is exactly what our society needs so badly! Thank you for being brave and talking about this and for everything you do!!
This is amazing! Thanks for these incredible ideas Mazin!
This is so true and it makes me feel I'm not the only one
Good job! Way to step on stage with this very important topic!
This speech is perfect
Beautiful! So proud of you and of this vulnerable and authentic presentation!
Proud that we belong to the same country Mazen
I have so much admiration and respect for you, Mazin.
Amazing 👏
A good example of a true man, is like the godfather from the movies but minus the irony.
I have a friend(guy) who told me this long honorable speech about him quitting smoke. And how he was going to stick to it and what not. He actually quit smoking but only lasted for 2 months.
It was disappointing..... not about him taking an unhealthy habit again, but rather the actions that he took "from the moment of his speech to smoking again" was what made me disappointed in him... he made a promise but failed to keep it and tell me it's hard. keeps giving me excuses when he promised so much. All talk and no game.
My father made the same promise to me when I was born. And has been keeping it for over decades and even to this very day.
It's a small thing, but things like this is a huge determining factor of the life outlook of a man.
A man is as good as the actions he shows. You can look like a man, but true men are man of their word.
The evolution of You. Go you.
ohh god this hurts so much
Such a search for liberty and only going down a road that ensnares further. Praise God for the gospel of Jesus Christ that doesn't place burdens before us that aren't ours to bear; and if we are guilty, the arms of a loving Father who accepts those willing to repent and believe in His Son. True liberty and freedom from our past with manhood modelled by God incarnate willing to suffer on my behalf, serving His bride.
I love the accountability partner guidelines!
This dude is Speaking Me out🙊
All the negative things this guy speaks of are character flaws being attributed to manhood and that is what you all are calling "toxic masculinity". When a man abuses a woman or the people around them, it isn't b/c of masculinity or b/c they are a man, it is b/c they have flaws in their character.
I agree. In this video my goal was to say what we are told being a man are ultimately not good character traits. Since then, although I wouldn’t take back most of this, I do think things have shifted to be a bit extreme where masculinity as a whole is being demonized, and important protection and provisions traits are being treated as violent, when they are essential.
Great talk.
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This deserves WAY more views!
First
But what I don’t understand we still want love from woman 😭😭
I still ask myself what does it mean to be a man
I know it seems not my place to say as a woman but I would say to be true to yourself
@@abbeyjane5014 that's been my motto too and handle my buisness when I come to my life and family far as financial and other stuff
I would say that "be a man" means that one must try their very hardest to be honest and courageous and righteous. Do what you know to be right. Help others. Support your family and make your community a better place. Practice discipline and regulation in all aspects of your life. Your actions will have unimaginable consequences.
noice
Love to the 27 that thumbs down
If you cant cram that speech then im out of this!
I think even when mazin was being told to "be a man", he never understood what it meant. It's so much deeper, you don't kiss the shoe broh because because your dignity and pride is more Important, 1 day he's going to be a husband and a father, what about the dignity of your family. I think mazin lacks a good male role model and he's not fit to lead
You right about importance of dignity. I was 9 years old. Today, I would take the beating. I am a husband now, and admittedly while I don’t take back what I said, overall the culture does not appreciate masculinity and it needed more. A lot has changed for me, and I have become more committed to my faith and seeing men like Muhammad (PBUH) and the other prophets as the ultimate role models for us. We had people like Isa (Jesus) who were more loving, and others like Moses who were more strong, but all had dignity.
Goku is not a good row model
whts wrong with goku lol
i mean, as long as ur not forced into being goku cuz of 'manliness' he's really not a bad charachter
*role
laughs in trust-issues
This was weak and offered no real position. Just "have hope and be true to yourself". Nonsense...
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man id rather be beaten to death before kissing a shoe
I was going to give him a few minutes unril he said "priviledge" and it was BYEEE"
Another way to get a man to run away. Tell him you're pregnant. BAM! Gone in 2.2 seconds
What is even the point of this
Pathetic...
wtf
Wtf??
Just like you 🙂
feminists are worse than cancer
sthu
This young man gives me hope for the future in our world. This is the type of a man that I want as a neighbor, a friend and someone I can depend on. This is a man that I could hug without reserve, without fear of judgement and know that I am safe.