Is It Better to Stand Out or Fit In?
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In a world that often encourages conformity, we find ourselves torn between the desire to stand out and the pressure to fit in. This video explores the age-old question: Is it better to stand out or fit in? Join us as we head to Japan, one of the world's most homogenous countries, to put the answer to rest.
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What do YOU think? Is it better to stand out, or fit in?
Fitting in is not always possible. I have never fit in really
In Japan, it is good to fit in as they have too many natural disasters in their history. However, I have found it very sad to see that they don’t even support people who are different including people with disabilities, large sizes or even with tattoos!. If you cannot fit in the box, you are the flaws of the society.
@@Momo-qo7is some people here have tattoos but they mostly believe in sacredness of the body to even dot it with ink.
Honestly you are brainwashed by stating that Canadians or Americans stand out, they are programmed to think that way but it is not true...North Americans are programmed to think they are free (even though they are not), programmed to believe that they live in the best nations, that their countries have the most money, and that they are very creative...If you look deeply, you realize people repeat the same talking points of their friends and the media...no society on earth has a truely free society, all people are programmed...
We should stop thinking about standing out or fitting in, just do what makes yourself happy and stop comparing yourself to others.
💯 agree with you. Be yourself.
Sometimes that's easier said than done
Agree💯
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Make yourself happy will cause you to stand out.
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"We are chasing security." Bravo to the gentleman that spoke this in your video. We have been so conditioned to focus on "having security" that it has taken the focus off actually "living". We are operating our lives from fear based instead of from a foundation of curiosity and excitement. Love your content!!! Bravo to you for being brave and following your hearts' desire!!
I think it’s best to just be your authentic self and not worry about whether you fit in or not.
Great comment!
You should be proud of the content you are producing. This is life changing positive reinforcement that everyone at every age can use. Bravo!
I see the same with my Korean friends! They are super polite and nice but can't really be themselves for fear of being rejected and criticized
I loved living in Japan. They speak with their eyes. And they are perfectly willing to have a silent conversation with you. It was amazing for me, a person that highly values manners, to be there and be so comfortable. When manners are held at a premium, you can empathize with people very easily and do so much!.
I was always different from others . It was hard . Really hard in school , jobs, ect…. Trust me keep going . I’m on the other side now at 40 . It’s great to stand out . Just be yourself always no matter what . Follow your soul
I love that quote - ‘I am my friends’. Who needs friends when they are toxic and use you. They are loyal for the need of you rather than loyal to you..😮 always better to be yourself..fitting in doesn’t always guarantee you can be your best self at all times 🤞
Very well penned 👍
No, not everyone is like that
I came across your channel recently and your contents are amazing! Well done!!!
A random Japanese passing by.
What you have talked about Japanese culture is really spot on.
Average Japanese people are not so mentally ready for anything unusual for them, and it tends to uncover their insecurities. This act of revelation is considered impolite and sometimes offensive.
Since Japan is a rather emotion-driven society, doing down-to-the-point communication is very hard for both sides of conversation.
I believe this is a fundamental flaw in my society so I’m currently trying to figure out how to send a clear message without causing too much emotional side effects.
Speak your truth!!! Live your truth !!! and stand out!!!
Good segment Will.
Japan has its pros/cons...interesting to hear response from locals and foreigners.
I think if you try fit in. All your energy put into things you don’t wanna do. If you standout you can explore yourself. As long as you’re happy with yourself. Miracle happens when you’re aline with universe and your purpose.
I'm much happier when I fit in, standing out is boring and overrated
This was very well produced. Great work.
I don't think standing out is the main goal we should focus on rather we should aim to not be afraid of standing out in pursuit of what we want in life.
I’m Canadian as well, you need to ask some of these questions in Bangladesh and other third world countries where limitations are more stark,love your channel
This is so true study for more than 20 years if you have a professional degree then get married then get fat and be unhappy. Some people are still alive but died in their 30s or 40s. They just have a routine and are so unhappy
This is why guys shouldn't complicate there life by getting married
This one is very interesting. I just came back to Japan to visit my family and I have moved to Canada almost 27 years ago. I feel I am very Canadian sometime and I feel I am very Japanese some other time. You are right about your environment shapes your personality. I am gay and I was not happy at all when I was in Japan. As the matter of fact, I hated Japan the fact this was the country that didn’t allow me to be who I was, and I was trying hard to change who I was. Yet 27 years later, I feel it is impossible to change who I am. I think the best thing is to make peace with yourself instead of fighting. I use to hate who I was I wanted to be someone else. Now I am happy who I am. It is a continuous journey to discover. Thanks for putting this video. It makes me think.
This video gave me chance to think about my country Japan again ,how I lived in this country, what I did experience in this country! Thank you for nice video Sprouht!
My experience in Japan was the opposite. I found many people to be outgoing and welcoming. So many people went out of their way to help me, even though there was a language barrier. Maybe it was just my experience, but I have a friend who would say the same based on her trip.
My mother always commented the same thing about the Japanese. If she got lost in Japan and - out of nervousness started speaking her native language - there was always someone who understood her and went out of their way to help her. People in Japan of the late 1950’s were so kind and helpful and humble. Had better values than nowadays. Even though nowadays they’re great people.
Great video!
3:22 This is when your video kicked off for me. I love the vibe change when you transitioned to the Philippines, the conversations were more free flowing and more loose and funny, yet informative. You’re the best, Sprouht! I love your videos!
It feels like there's an invisible pressure trying to push people into boxes ...📦
Everybody in this video seems so lovely. I've always wondered how you meet people like that?
This video is great. I have been trying to fit in with others all my life so far. I’m scared of being judged and being abandoned for being different than others around me. In the process of doing that long-term, I became a people pleaser and I lost sight of who I really am. At the end of the the day, as long as you are okay with yourself, the opinions of the world doesn’t matter. At all.
To all the people who feel like they are different and do not belong to anywhere, just be yourself and do you. Being yourself is the ultimate filter, which will reveals who are your true friends and it will attract people with the same mentality as yours. You are different, and that’s why you win. Do not let anything or anyone, especially yourself, to strip you of who you are.
Cheers ❤
Stand in your own space....you will never live YOUR life until you do. Peace and light 💜
I'm a 21 year-old girl from turkey, currently living in toronto. Last year at this time, I met a dj and then I found out that I have a strong passion for electronic music. I was studying sociology there. And this year i came here. Totally a different experience. I don't study (yet), I don't work so I don't have any friends. The only thing that remains same is my passion for music. I wanna believe that I can make money by doing what I love. I wanna believe that i can find a creative community that encourages me to be the best version of myself. I wanna believe that I can play in the world most prestigious festivals.
I feel the day I found this channel and community was a pivotal moment in my life
I've always been eccentric and so have my parents. My cousin and her mom are weirdos too. The one thing we all have in common is that we're all creatives (musicians and artists).
Love this!!! Thanks for creating this video.
People need to do what's best for their personality/life instead of following what others tell them to do.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO! 😭🙌🏽
I love being different, being the same as everyone else scares me
Just discovered your channel yesterday bro, keep it up. Love the content
Your point is about authenticity. If one wants to be authentic and be themselves, they might be forced to stand out.
Right. I never felt I am different here in Canada. It's culture is so diverse and accommodating. Just Love it. ❤
Your content is so inspiring!! Keep it up and looking forward to more content of yours!!
In America if you stand out you get hammered to not helped, almost no one famous got to the top because they stood out they get there because they pushed through every challenge they faced with many people including family trying to stop them from succeeding
Thanks so much for captions your conversation for people that don't speak english that much, i can aprecciate your videos an conversations. ❤
Be yourself and do what makes you happy. A simple life is a happy life
Stand out!
Stand out nice 👌
Let's liberate the world 🌎 we can do it!!! We all have to believe in each other and our humanity ❤ Don't look at labels and don't generalize. It will only mirror back the reality you perceive yourself to be. ❤
You got your point, if everyone looks different in your country, you don't look "different". If everyone is the same, you looks so different
Thank you for doing this🥹♥️
There were so many non Japanese in Japan who loved to be there cause they can stand out. I agree you must learn who you are and what you want first then decide to fit in or not however big or small your bubble is.
This is a very thoughtful video, very eye opening especially coming from the age-group of the people in your video.
We value and appreciate your works!!!!! Please we need a diversified views not only White folks. We need to hear African, Asian, Latino, Arabs too, to get a better lesson and perspectives from ALL SIDES!!! Thanks!
I agree
Beautiful video! 🥰
some people dont have a choice but to stand out
Not true, some people like me prefer fitting in then standing out
I think standing out is the product of being yourself which can be scary and make you want to fit in but you have to have courage to be yourself anyway
Great video and very helpful
6:56 Great observation!
Same in Sweden here, there is some thing called consensus culture, that is one reason people are depressed, i grew up in africa eritrea, was the very confident and every one knew me, but in sweden my life turned over, after my studies its time to move to vancouver BC or USA. Scandanavia is full of mental illness.
Sorry to break it to you America or Canada isn't any different. I would go back to your culture. You would be so much more fulfilled and purposeful. I grew up with the Hawaiian culture but have lived elsewhere in my life. Having had more life experiences now, whether it's chasing work, travel, education etc, all of it was empty without my family and culture. Family and culture are waiwai. Waiwai in Hawaiian means wealth, value, riches. Wai means water and in our culture, if you have water you are wealthy. Meaning the things that western society purports to be of value is really not at the end of the day.
Yes, I agree, But My country is different, I am from Eritrea, There is some political situation there, I am not safe there. I was just comparing west vs west, but i understand what you are saying, I hope you will live a öife you desire in your home country and culture. And I hope my country will get better so that I can go back there. Inshallah
Be yourself as long as you are not harming others❤We were created uniquely.Our fingerprint is an evidence engraved by God.😊
Great content salute South Africa is watching
Winz conversation was amazing and on point 💯
I'm glad to see that you interviewed Takashi! Recently he interviewed LGBTQ+ people in Japan. That is one group that completely stands out in Japan and requires real courage in order to simply walk out the door every day and be true to oneself. In this case it is better to stand out as long as it is physically safe. How about interviewing LGBTQ+ folks, asking them the stand out/fit in question?
I actually cried watching this video...
Thank you for your videos, and for doing something about the thing that pisses you off..
great video and interesting point of view. i feel the key to life is to enjoy the journey and your own journey, as they say, comparison is the theft of joy
So much fear 😨 in the world 🌎 stand up be courageous... remember we are just energy!!! ❤ Not a man, woman, Jewish, Lebanese, American, White, Yellow, Black...etc. It's time to realize the metaphysical truth of our true divine beings of source consciousness 🥳
Wow, you're here in PH, it's pretty chill there Siargao. Enjoy.
There should always be some balance between the two just
like anything in life!! A well-balanced between being stand
out and conformity is a way for society to progress and have
some stability. This is how life should work. That being said though
I have to say I am not a huge fan of Japan because it's a very very very hierarchical country
and the whole society and culture are highly structured based on
seniority, education, experience, hometown, gender, class, ethnicity, and much more.
It is almost like a military-run society by older people with their seniority and experience.
Whereas in the U.S. and Canada, what matters most is your abilities and potential, and results no matter
how young or what your race, gender, religion, or what you look alike!!
Nothing matters in Canada and the U.S. except what you can do and the positive results you can provide. In Japan and in many
Asian countries, a lot of talented and skillful people are suppressed and bullied because
the people who have power over them do not want them
to succeed because they fear they will be taken over by them and fear losing power over them!!
It's all politics!! So, I agree with the host in this video that I really hate it when talented and gifted people
who have a lot of potential to become great and successful are simply castigated by society
simply because of this unfair hierarchical and structured system in order for them to maintain their status quo. It is a really unfair system that lacks progress!!
if you want to know the truth. I believe everything in life should be based on merits and hard work and talent and qualifications regardless of who you are!!
Do you understand what I am saying here??? If you do, please leave comments or even questions
you may have for me. Thanks!!!
You have amazing view in life.
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💜👌😊Love this video
Great comments from different perspectives. You must not be resting much, you looked tired!
Both. I think having an unassuming and clean cut appearance is advantageous. The thing that stands out should be your abilities, and your thinking.
Watching
your title make me remember about one of ONE OK ROCK song
It depends on the circumstances. For instance---Is that person on the other side of the room is someone you'd like to meet--or some creep you want to avoid. I could go on--you get it. 'Nuf said.
Awesome video I just noticed you came to Kobe. Super cool, I’m living here and it would be fun to have a chance to talk with you!
Interesting philosophical question. I think standing out is when you attract attention or gain recognition for something that you do outside the cultural norm. But here in California, almost everybody is doing something very unique and different, and that sort of self expression is part of the culture. So when we're all doing it, nobody actually stands out. In order to stand out here, you really have to be either a global visionary like Elon Musk or an obnoxious loudmouth like Donald Trump. And is that a worthwhile goal per se? I would say it's not. Just be your unique self, and if at some point in time that involves standing out, then accept it graciously and without an inflated ego. And know when to hang back and let others stand out.
Stand on the outside looking in. You'll see boring, follow the leader. Stay outside. More fun.
Wow
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Whether or not pursuit of traveling (which is - different from being unique, btw) and putting off the burden of an energy consuming job is a good choice can only be evaluated years and years after a person chooses to do so.
Perhaps you should keep track of a everyone of the people you interviewed and check in with them all in 30 years.
Also, find a control group of young people who are pursuing the more direct path of "good schools, good job, marriage...etc..." Then in 30 years try and compare the groups and see if happiness is a function of "being unique" or a function of individual character traits or LUCK.
Sometimes people treat you a certain way, not out of harm or being rude… but to deter from the perception of your race.
People have to remember that cinema/media depicts how our race is perceived to everyone else. Not everyone knows which side of corruption your values may lie.
Be yourself and do not let anyone guilt trip you into changing yourself unless you are harming someone.
What if someone is bullying someone is school, that person should not "be themselves"
STAND OUT alllll the way
I sure stand out, funny I found your channel 8:38
yo, you're in the philippines still? 😮 ENJOY😊
It's a mindset
Easy question... Stand out of course!!! YOLO but most of us are scared 😨 and blend in... We are divine beings that are powerful!
Non comfirmity should be the standard for everyone. Don't believe your teachers and don't believe your elders. Live your own life and make your own experiences. (don't do stupid stuff ofc) Do what you want to do while respecting other humans. Don't do to others what you wouldnt want to be done to you
“The nail that stands out gets hammered down” is really an awful thing to say to people! 😡😢
Change is inevitable. Growth is optional.
Change doesn't have to be inevitable, it something that no one signed up for, I would argue that not every types of change is good, some are bad
If it has to be me ...i will choose to stand out
Oh you got Takahashi in Japan
Japan is often cited as an example, but is this really only the case in Japan?
You even interviewed a youtuber
Came early🎉
1:53 These two are Dutch, I can tell immediately.
Will you come to Vietnam?
One should fit in on the outside but stand out on the inside.
I think it would be great if the next you will going to visit China
why did u comment on my vid 2 years ago