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As someone who grew up without a father, these types of videos really help me find direction. I'm 24 years old now and have two younger brothers who don't have there fathers in their lives either, and I've come to take that roll without knowing much due to having nobody to look up to. Thank you Antonio for being an inspiration for my life and how to move forward keep up the great work, you have alot of impact on people just through videos as these alone.
I have been following you for a number of years, but this one was the most honest, and impactful, and resonated with me a lot. As one once told me: we need to learn to get bored in this day and age.
Thanks for sharing with us about your earlier life, what the chaos was like while you were growing up. Certainly puts everything into perspective for this segment. I’m happy for you and the life you lead now. You are giving your kids the stability you deserved when you were younger. Wish you all the best.
You don't have a choice. You're a man with a family, & a limited income. It's like a welfare recipient wanting to be a real estate investor, they don't have that choice. You don't either. I'm glad you're content. You sound like a good dad. 👍
I have something similar with my life, yes i du spontanious things, but in the morning we have a structure and in evening we have a structure also . also sleeping time etc. wife sometimes complains but for me and my child this is really good and smooth.
@ifeelsoyy you’re entitled to your own life choices, personally though that sounds less than ideal to me, your kid won’t graduate highschool until you’re almost 50, and if they wait just as long you’ll probably be dead before you get grandkids
Yeah, but a lot of women today don’t appreciate the grinding life. They want the excitement and chaos that comes with party life. Nobody ever asks me how I became relatively ‘wealthy and successful’. The answer is simple: work 60-80 hours a week at a job nobody wants to do for 25 years. Found an amazing woman who was down with my no-drama policy. In my experience, an exciting life is bad most of the time.
Yes! Boring = no chaos, no drama, no illness, no financial worries, and you have total control of your time. Has worked for me ever since my divorce in 2014.
Yes! Boring = no chaos, no beefing with people, no drama, no illness, no financial worries, no political worries and you have total control of your time. Has worked for me ever since I defeated my bully in high school didn't necessary kill him just tap him up a little.
I remember going to a physical checkup at the doctor and when he asked how my life going I straight up said, "Nothing, I have a pretty boring life." He then replied that is actually good because the more boring my life, the healthier I am. This is true haha, ever since I decided to get healthy people call my life "boring" and "dull" because I don't do drugs, smoke, or even eat pizza. Only thing I do is social drinking. So never be ashamed or feel justified that your life is "boring," chances are you have a much better life than other people and will be in a better state physically and mentally years from now or maybe even tomorrow. Take pride in your routines as they allow you to walk an extra few steps in life.
Very often people only do fun things because they are unhealthy. They treat the symptoms but never the causes. That's why they need so much stimulation.
@@prasad530 It tastes like shit in my mouth and it feels like shit in my stomach. Last time I had was when I was really starving, and when I sat there full I actually liked the feeling of being hungry more.
I am now in my late 60s, and as a retired person I really enjoy myself with my routine. Go for a walk in woodland with my partner and dog; then play my guitars and synths, and then cook some good food, and at night look at the moon or planets through my telescope whenever possible. This could be boring to some people, but I love it.
I almost found it odd how validating I found this video. But it all made total sense. When you live a “boring” life, you really do create time. You become aware of what goes in your body (food, thoughts, information) and what comes out. Excellent video!
While I was getting my Alexander Technique certification we talked often about slowing down and one of my favorite concepts was "learning to wait". Just being able to sit there and wait for something; your appointment at the doctor, the server to bring your check, whatever it may be. Being able to wait patiently, without becoming irritated or distracted, even being pleasant, had become one of my favorite skills
Ditto to everything you said. "Boring" is highly underrated. People craving drama and excitement all the time was not the norm half a century ago and before. It is a relatively new phenomenon spurred by social media and modern culture, which is at war with anything deemed traditional. Looked at from a different lens, 'boring' can be synonymous with stability, contentment, and harmony. Boring is good!!
over 20 years ago I heard someone say something that stuck with me my whole life. "I'm a creature of habit, and boring is ok." It's amazing how I went from 'that's dumb' to ' that's awesome' over the course of my life.
Man, you bring tears to my eyes. I know just how horrible it feels to realize you just snapped at people who are at no fault. Even worse when it's people you love. But I can't begin to imagine how it must feel to snap in the presence of your children. A prayer for you and good luck.
As an adult now I appreciate so much how hard my parents worked for me to have a boring childhood. My partner, who had a much more *interesting* childhood found it very attractive how much stability and peace I was able to bring into his life. I hope our future children will have a boring childhood too.
Another excellent video, sir. Over the last year or so, you've changed up the channel a bit. You've opened up and shared with us more of your personal life, both the good and the bad. I have really appreciated it. As men, we're often reluctant to talk about personal issues and shortcomings. It's unhealthy. I think your openness and honesty are taking you in a very good direction, and you inspire more of us to do the same.
From my experience say if you don’t get that dream job look for ways on how enrich your personal life. Like get a hobby, learn skill sets just case, improve both your mental and physical health etc. and you can be amazed on how one good decision will lead to more good decisions.
I lived enough life for two lifetimes. Somehow I came out alive, clean, wise(ish) and now in love and married. Nothing beats simple routines, good books,healthy meals and early bed/wake times. Enjoyed hearing your experiences and relating them to mine. It’s nice to be lucky, it’s better to be happy. 👊
Your channel popped up in my feed for some reason. Glad it did :) I am a single mom. I divorced my husband when our daughters were 18 mos & 3 years old due to his alcoholism. The final straw was when he got 2 DUI’s within 7 months. Daughters are now 16 & 17 years old. I spent all of the their growing up years with them. I did not date. Very routine life. I work, they have school, then it was their after school activities, go to church on Sunday, meals at home, etc.. people tell me that My life is “ boring “ & that I need to get out n have some fun”. I LOVE my routine life. I don’t want to “ go out” . I would rather “ go out” to watch my kids in their chosen sports & activities’. A very Routine stable,NO drama life!! It was nice to hear this video ! I’m not the only one that LOVES the simpler, no drama life!!
Just the video I needed. I’ve been pushing myself too hard for months, trying to do everything, to be what someone else wanted, not feeling good enough and trying to take on even more and I’m finally burning out and coming back to the realization that way of life isn’t for me and I need to shoot back down, stop stressing and over stimulating my mind to distract myself. It’s ok to be a little boring if it makes you happier
This is a beautiful and peaceful life of stability, normalcy and structure. I have lived a chaotic life, where nothing had order, nothing was planned and it's all "interesting" everyday. It was not what many would consider fun or enjoyable after 5 days. Simple, peaceful and predictable is where it's at. And we sprinkle in random fun along the way.
I consider it a privilege to find someone who has organised their life in such an efficient way. The rub comes when people try and manipulate our lives in a way that hurts us, I find.
Love that you talk about things not many like to talk about because it doesn't generate clicks and are difficult things to talk about. But this is key to self improvement and real ones will watch these.
I was a Company Commander in the Army at Fort Bragg, NC and at Fort Stewart, Ga so I know exactly what you mean about dealing with soldiers' drama. Thanks for serving and for what u r doing here. Snapping at people we love is hard and I have done it before. I'm getting help from the VA. Prior enlisted and retired as a Major.
If you live a life filled with purpose, doing the things you love, being surrounded by your family and friends, you won't want to change a bit. Great video Antonio, God bless you and your family as well as the RMRS team.
Awesome video.. thanks!! Most people think I live a boring life because I have a daily routine and I plan my meals week to week so I won’t have to think about what to fix I just do. I’m actually happier now since I started then I’ve ever been in my life
I'm from a little town in the middle of Argentina and I've been following you for a while. This is quality content for sure. Thank you for making the effort of uploading this kind of videos. It inpires me to be the best version of myself everyday.
Amen. I have been "boring" all my life. I live a simple life. I work, take care of my family, do community service, and partake in some finer things regarding men's style. I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, or hang in the streets. Aside from some gray in my beard, I look pretty good at 47. A bulk of my stress stems from my supervisor position at work where drama naturally comes my way. But spring is on the way, so then I can get outdoors to plant my flowers and get my lawn together for summer. Last year, I brought my rose bush back to life. So satisfying. So, here's to boredom!
I can relate to so much of this. After a lifetime of an unstable chaotic and abusive childhood that led to a chaotic unstable adulthood. I am now voluntarily celibate and sober. I spend most of my time at work taking care of developmentally disabled children and adults and spend my off days with my 11 year old son. My life now is much more fulfilling than it ever was when I was a womanizing alcoholic entertainer. People often ask me if I miss the women, the booze, the drugs and constant touring that goes along with being an full time entertainer. Truth is that I am much happier living what they consider a boring life. Maybe it just comes with age but at this point in my life I am happy just to have stability and predictable days with family and people who like me for me and not for who I am on stage or what I can do for them.
I love having a "boring" life in terms of having no drama, as it gives me the flexibility and resources to do everything else I want to do. I work with great people, we don't have "weird office politics", lots of friends, live substantially beneath my means financially, etc.
Appreciate you sharing your story. A lot of guys have drama we find our way though but don’t talk about (which is a shame). It says a lot that you are willing acknowledge so that others can recognize that life isn’t always easy or great but no less special. I agree wholeheartedly that these experiences while not fun build character and empathy. If reflected on a better man. You didn’t say, but I would also argue that we don’t get to chose how we start life but we do get to chose the life we build, and now to treat others. Which is why what you are saying is so important. I would take time, relationships, and nature over money and excitement any day. Thanks for a great video.
Great video! It resonated a lot. The last year has been hectic for me and my fiancée . It’s all good because we have moved states, bought a house, had a healthy baby but it’s been chaotic. I can’t wait for us to find our groove and general day to day monotony.
I chose and worked very hard at creating a so called "boring" life. This is a conscious effort to drastically reduce the amount of stress in my life and I have never been happier. I have a better relationship with my spouse and kids, and overall I am healthier physically and mentally. Boring is king
As Jordan Peterson said... walk the line between order and chaos. Have one foot placed in order, stability, structure and patterns.... call it the "boring." And have the other foot placed in chaos, the unknown, the challenging, the struggle. One foot in order makes chaos bearable, and one foot in chaos makes order less mundane.
We have a lot in common. I went to 13 schools. My mom had 4 marriages. Definitely found that a boring life is heaven. I even live in Wisconsin. For me I have sailed past a lot of more educated people in my career because I kept my life controllable and I recognize the drama before it ruffles my feathers. I hope this one hits people who need to hear it - because turning off the drama is really the only path to heaven on Earth.
I agree this lifestyle is not boring at all. This is a model for real men to follow and aspire. Being responsible and loyal are great qualities to possess. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable yet not from a victim mindset but as someone who takes control of your mistakes and weaknesses. It takes courage to accept your weaknesses and admit you need help. May this be an example to all who desire to be real Gents and make a positive impact at home, work and society. Be blessed my brother!
I am grateful that you made this video. In this current social environment we are in, it’s encouraging to know that others strive for a steady stable lifestyle and it’s sustainable.
Amen brotha!! As a fulltime firefighter/paramedic, I look forward to retiring and living a boring life. In the meantime, my days off are filled with relaxation, staying home with the wifey & enjoying my quiet time. I do indulge with hobbies of DJn & working on my 55 Chevy pickup. 😁
I am really grateful that you are able to also give us some insight about life itself. I do wish you could keep making content about this topic and your regular content about proper dressing and demeanor. I studied science, business, and law, but my craft is being a mailman. I have to explain all this to people that ask why I chose to live the life I live. Keep up the excellent work.
It is through a humble and stable life that the nuance of life starts to become apperent, and that nuance contains some very life affirming moments. I'm all for it.
You are a great great soul❤. You have some idea but you do not know the extent of the life-changing impact you have on your audience. God bless you, and your amazing family! I am a 61 yr old retired dentist with 4 grown children, and I am speaking from experience. Thank you for your incredibly hard work ethic and extra efforts!
I"m adressing your chanel from Germany. Live the life of a happy single mom with a wonderful little daughter. Took me some time to adapt to the situation, but now I am very happy with this life. We go out into nature every sunday. Have a stable relationship, routines. Kudos for your great content ❤
Thank you for your transparency. This is difficult to do in a social media driven world where everyone and everything is being scrutinized. Very poignant video and has had me reflecting about my life and my legacy.
Having moved around for education the last 6 years I'm looking forward to that "boring" stable life of employment and living under the same roof for more than a year. Several hopefully. This was really interesting to hear from you. Would love to see more stuff like this
Sometimes a boring life is the only best life we need.I rarely comment but i'm impressed and completely agree with every single thing you shared in this video.Thank you!
Having a structured and focused life is hardly boring to me. You focus on what matters the most to you and stick to it nothing wrong or boring with that at all. It's better in some ways to have a plan for your day than just do random stuff out of sudden impulse, it will make you feel like you have actually got something accomplished and done instead of going to bed with a bunch of half finished things that may never be done.
Ding ding ding. Thank you. Hearing your story? Now it makes perfect sense why I love my daily routine. And bonus, it frees up my mind so that I can do all the deep thinking I love to do. Thanks again for the insight. Much appreciated.
Last year I died on operating table and by grace of God pulled through. How ever I am lucky I got to peek on the other side and it was no bed of roses so live your best life now get away from toxic people and environments work out your passions and work towards it. Boring is ok but you will regret it on your death bed. So glad I have opportunity to enlighten you. I have one of the most boring life's and mirror this video with icing on top. You can do both live an exciting and stable life ie what ever you do be kind loving and respectful and you can do anything.
I had to do boring when i started having health issues a few years back. I mean my life was already routine but i had way too much to do in my day. Had to incorporate more rest and an exercise routine. I'm calmer now, and am better at dealing with unexpected events. Nothing wrong with boring. Boring keeps you healthy.
I agree. I moved several times growing up. Later my parents divorced. Later I became a LEO in one of the worse big city depts. After 31 yrs. I retired. Now I look forward to just tending to my garden and looking towards trying my hand at bee keeping. I love the quiet and not having to deal with people unless I want to.
Your life is family-centered, that is not boring, it is nice and how life should be, not this instagram, TH-cam, social media obsessed fake life. Good for you Antonio.
Over the past 15 months I’ve dealt with stage 3 colon cancer treatment, and subsequent side effects that have kept me out of work and home bound. A good portion of that time I spent bedridden. This is probably the first time in my life that I’ve taken an opportunity to have a routine. It was fine for a little while, but it became monotonous. I started sleeping up to 18 hours a day and my schedule got out of whack. Now that I’m in remission and recovering from multiple surgeries, I’m able to get out of the house more, and I do it every chance I get. I have a general time I go to bed, and a general time I try to get up, but the hours in between I try to mix things up as much as possible. My best thinking and creativity comes with a little chaos. Once my disability is approved, I plan on going back to school and traveling a bit on the weekend. My goal is to get my computer programming degree within the next 3 years so I can get off disability and go to work in a less physically demanding job with higher pay than I was making before. The payoff wit the better income will be that I will be able to travel more and go out and enjoy not doing the same thing every day.
RMRS, liked this topic. Have often turned it over in my mind. Could say a lot on it but will try to keep it short. I am in my mid 60's. Also, a Wisconsinite. Decades ago, I came to a conclusion that what's "boring", at least for me, is a state of mind rather than actuality. If my mind says it's boring, then it would be boring. I believe if you see anything, such as grass (green, not the other kind lol) or a rock for example, ask about their nature, composition, whatever, it would not be boring. Be inquisitive. Retired a few years ago, many said "you're not going to like it", "you're going to want to do something". Not even close to being bored. There are many things I plan to do. Not even close, yet, to doing most of them. Golf, learning to cook, reading at least one book per month (voracious when I was younger), many other things to do. When my kids were in grade school and middle school at the dinner table I would, as part of conversation, tell them three (just a number) things that touched me or made me pause and think or smile or laugh during the day. Just something I may have seen (still working at that time). I would ask each of them to speak of something (3) that they noted or smiled at or laugh. For me something as simple as "I like that the day was sunny" was good enough. Or if I saw a young family walking down the street. Also, human beings are creatures of habits, it is impossible to do something "exciting" every day. Said too much, thus I'll end this by saying boredom is overrated.
Having a boring lifestyle is truly beneficial for us, since an unstable lifestyle is usually quite unhealthy and in many cases generates trauma. This was a very insightful video!
Your best most insightful video. People say my life is boring too! I like to cycle and run a lot, I don’t drink at the pub that often. I enjoy being in nature and when I cycle I’m often out for several hours at a time most days all year! I do all my thinking in this space. I don’t think I’m boring, it’s my life.
No disrespect to other style channels because I like all of them in different respects, but this is the content im looking for at this phase in my life. Thanks RMRS!
Hey amazing video I just want to say I'm 28yr old black man from Dallas Texas I been sub to u since u was at like 5k subscribers and your views help me have a outlet for my love and passion for style even though I grew up in a bad neighborhood I overcame my environment n IAM now a underwater welder and I live a boring life and I love it
Of my friends, 3 of us have a boring life and career. Guess how many of us are stable and not regularly having stress attacks. 12:30 a channel ran by a doctor either psychiatrist or therapist I don’t remember what recently did a video on how discipline is an emotion separate from will power it was pretty interesting, channel is called healthy gamers.
I like that you're expanding your topics! I need a structured organized life, but I also need to have changes here and there.. like travel, hanging out with different friends, etc. I keep my life interesting by learning new things all the time, like men's style 😉
Interesting video. Grew up on a farm until age 20, then had a very exciting life and travelled the world until I was 40 and did amazing things until my wife and I had children. Then I deliberately gave up that exciting life and stayed at home 20 years to bring them up alongside my wife. Something not many men did back then and it was a boring life but looking back it was a fantastic decision. We suddenly got hit by severe adversity but we gave our children just the stable life they needed to get through it and our sons are great guys as a result. Now they have left home so my wife and I are going back to work at age 60 in very interesting intellectual fields. I always say I have lived my life in 20 year blocks of time and now I am into the last 20 and going to make the most of it - by going to work every day in a job I enjoy. Kind of boring getting up and going to work every day you might think but a lot less boring than just retiring and being aimless.
Some may call it boring. I would call it "semper fidelis." You're being faithful to your family and yourself by being consistent. Feels like a rare quality in this day and age and I for one am glad to see it being preached like this. Thanks for the great life lesson.
I’m a 31-year-old man who has achieved finally a very similar lifestyle with structured routines, and work life balance sufficient to take care of my body and health by exercising and cooking daily, I have to say that I quite enjoy my “boredom”. Although I would not classify this type of living situation as boring, I would say that it is satisfying. Certainly not exciting, dramatic, or whimsical, but I keep myself entertained with fun hobbies, and good people that I have chosen to invest my time and energy into. I try to explain to young men like my nephews, that all the shit they see on social media is not a sustainable way to live your life unless you’re getting paid to travel and try exotic foods and nightlife as an influencer. I am happier now than I ever was during my tumultuous young adulthood in college years, from caustic relationships, to financial stress, to balancing a full-time job and engineering school. This is a great video. Well done.
Thank you from single mothers. You are a gem. A real hero Thanks for being normal and a leader showing real American lifestyle where men are admired for helping in making this a better life.
I came here real down . But I got to admit hearing you out gave me perhaps a slightly different outlook .I'm hoping this was the little nudge I needed . Thanks
Great video Antonio. It helps to know other men are going through the same things I am. I too have had moments where I have blown up in front of my children. Being a father, husband, bread winner and bill payer, can be very stressful. To me, a boring life means saving time to do the things my children and wife need me to do. I found your videos from watching Alpha M. Keep up the good work. Thanks.
It’s not that it’s boring. I myself am a creature of habit and enjoy routine. My question is: how does that not exhaust you? I do a lot of this stuff but not all of it and I found a groove but it was making me tired just listening to how much you do. Good for you man. You’re killin’ it 👍 that’s what a good man should be doing
As a person with adhd and autism living a typical structured life isnt for me, I get bored easily, I have intense interests until I move on to other interests. I love the variety.
Very refreshing. Taking about your life, with no BS. Not trying to show how incredibly fantastic your fake life is. Hopefully, it will catch on. Great man Great personality. Loving life. And more power to you! 🫡
Lol brother you are not alone regarding that picnic basket! You eliminated the problem. I do however understand what you mean though. Good onya for always wanting to improve. We as men should always be striving to be better.
I'm all about boring. Consistency and routine makes life much better. Often when I'm driving for a few hours, I'll turn off the radio and just drive. I do the same thing when I run, no headphones. Helps me to focus and clear my thoughts
Love love loved this video. 4 years ago I quit drinking and smoking and honestly did some house cleaning ( got rid of all the toxic people in my life, including some family members). Because of all these changes I live a boring life and I love it. Thanks again for this video. I'm a new subscriber after viewing your content today.
AWESOME VIDEO. I’d like to see more like this! As a viewer i appreciate you sharing your truth and your life. That takes courage. An Uneventful life is something I can appreciate and is overlooked. Again, solid video.
Hi. I enjoyed the video. I like the new direction of videos you have lately. It’s not just about looking good but feeling good. Love the honesty. I get mad with my 2 kids all the time. It’s hard being a man! I hear ya!
OK before even watching this video a boring life means EVERYTHING is going well and you are on track there is no drama LIFE IS GOOD!!!!! lets look at it like this, you are the guy in the military your job is to push the button when all HELL breaks loose otherwise it's an EXTREMLY boring job. THIS video hits it right on the nail head. You may think your life is boring but in reality, you are living a GOOD LIFE. STOP and appreciate that life! And today for no reason tell everyone that is a part of that life how proud you are of them and just how much they mean to you. And give them a heartfelt hug. Do it today!!
I live a boring life too, Since I had my own family, everything seems just a routine. Done some crazy things when I was young, but I'd choose this kind of life every day and twice on Sundays. I'm happy and contented. This video is very inspirational. thanks for sharing.
Where else will you get a word definition that sounds like a fragrance description. Brilliant! 😉 Great video, nothing boring about living an honorable life. Thanks for your service. US Navy retired here. Hooyah! ⚓️
Such a great video! Well said. I just dont think enough people have the same thoughts. Most people have to have action around them 24/7. They just dont know hwat to do with they time alone.
As an romanian Orthodox living in Germany i always loved holiday in Romania with my whole family. After i lived some toxic modern relationships i found and married an orthodox woman and found peace. The modern world and passions are provoking a lot of drama. I loved my time as a soldier but after i startet family my focus moved to family and i got a relaxed secure job.
This is a fantastic video. Good job! As a person who lived out in the boondocks I can also confirm that when you don’t have much going on, you start to become more creative and start thinking more sharply. Its so ironic.
Wow it's good to know I'm not alone. Same exact situation. I also had a f-ed up childhood, guess this is the reason why I choose boring but relax life.
When we're older and wiser, we call this type of life the "proper" life to have. When we're in our twenties, we'd regard this as a boring life. In my mid-40s now, had plenty of excitement in my 20s, but once you've settled down and have a nice family, you won't trade it for anything. Somehow I got much more drive, perseverance, industriousness and persistence after I had my first child. Maybe that's just our normal paternal instincts.. to be able to push ourselves day-in day-out to ensure we don't let down our family and we're able to build them a good life and a bright future. At the same time, my attachment for material wants have also significantly reduced and I find more happiness and satisfaction in providing for my family rather than owning a flashy car or a flashy watch.
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As someone who grew up without a father, these types of videos really help me find direction. I'm 24 years old now and have two younger brothers who don't have there fathers in their lives either, and I've come to take that roll without knowing much due to having nobody to look up to. Thank you Antonio for being an inspiration for my life and how to move forward keep up the great work, you have alot of impact on people just through videos as these alone.
I have been following you for a number of years, but this one was the most honest, and impactful, and resonated with me a lot. As one once told me: we need to learn to get bored in this day and age.
Thanks for sharing with us about your earlier life, what the chaos was like while you were growing up. Certainly puts everything into perspective for this segment.
I’m happy for you and the life you lead now. You are giving your kids the stability you deserved when you were younger. Wish you all the best.
You don't have a choice. You're a man with a family, & a limited income. It's like a welfare recipient wanting to be a real estate investor, they don't have that choice. You don't either. I'm glad you're content. You sound like a good dad. 👍
I don’t consider this lifestyle boring, it’s structured and the type of life i wish for someday. I want a family and job i love
I have something similar with my life, yes i du spontanious things, but in the morning we have a structure and in evening we have a structure also . also sleeping time etc. wife sometimes complains but for me and my child this is really good and smooth.
@ifeelsoyy you’re entitled to your own life choices, personally though that sounds less than ideal to me, your kid won’t graduate highschool until you’re almost 50, and if they wait just as long you’ll probably be dead before you get grandkids
Yeah, but a lot of women today don’t appreciate the grinding life. They want the excitement and chaos that comes with party life.
Nobody ever asks me how I became relatively ‘wealthy and successful’. The answer is simple: work 60-80 hours a week at a job nobody wants to do for 25 years. Found an amazing woman who was down with my no-drama policy. In my experience, an exciting life is bad most of the time.
Absolutely! At 47 years old, I am fine with no chaos and drama. This video really resonated with me.
Structure is enrichment in itself
Yes! Boring = no chaos, no drama, no illness, no financial worries, and you have total control of your time. Has worked for me ever since my divorce in 2014.
Yes! Boring = no chaos, no beefing with people, no drama, no illness, no financial worries, no political worries and you have total control of your time. Has worked for me ever since I defeated my bully in high school didn't necessary kill him just tap him up a little.
Amen
Mine started with a divorce in 2013
@joecombs7468 Excellent! Stay the course my friend! I'm retiring this week at 58 🙂
Freedom.
I remember going to a physical checkup at the doctor and when he asked how my life going I straight up said, "Nothing, I have a pretty boring life." He then replied that is actually good because the more boring my life, the healthier I am. This is true haha, ever since I decided to get healthy people call my life "boring" and "dull" because I don't do drugs, smoke, or even eat pizza. Only thing I do is social drinking.
So never be ashamed or feel justified that your life is "boring," chances are you have a much better life than other people and will be in a better state physically and mentally years from now or maybe even tomorrow. Take pride in your routines as they allow you to walk an extra few steps in life.
Very often people only do fun things because they are unhealthy. They treat the symptoms but never the causes. That's why they need so much stimulation.
No pizza??????? What's the point of even living!
@@prasad530 It tastes like shit in my mouth and it feels like shit in my stomach. Last time I had was when I was really starving, and when I sat there full I actually liked the feeling of being hungry more.
@@EJ_Red try making your own pizza w8th healthier ingredients
Being unhealthy makes life interesting huh?
I am now in my late 60s, and as a retired person I really enjoy myself with my routine.
Go for a walk in woodland with my partner and dog; then play my guitars and synths, and then cook some good food, and at night look at the moon or planets through my telescope whenever possible.
This could be boring to some people, but I love it.
Sounds fantastic, Charles!
Sounds wonderful Charles. 👍
Sounds amazing
Almost sounds like me!
Partner ? What are you gay ?
I almost found it odd how validating I found this video. But it all made total sense. When you live a “boring” life, you really do create time. You become aware of what goes in your body (food, thoughts, information) and what comes out. Excellent video!
So true!
As many of my older friends and family told me, "boring is best"
It certainly is.
The hit man's bodyguard.
As I get older I find I'm happiest when I can just find a quiet spot with a nice view and sit, sip my coffee and read/surf the net a bit.
While I was getting my Alexander Technique certification we talked often about slowing down and one of my favorite concepts was "learning to wait". Just being able to sit there and wait for something; your appointment at the doctor, the server to bring your check, whatever it may be. Being able to wait patiently, without becoming irritated or distracted, even being pleasant, had become one of my favorite skills
Ditto to everything you said. "Boring" is highly underrated. People craving drama and excitement all the time was not the norm half a century ago and before. It is a relatively new phenomenon spurred by social media and modern culture, which is at war with anything deemed traditional. Looked at from a different lens, 'boring' can be synonymous with stability, contentment, and harmony. Boring is good!!
over 20 years ago I heard someone say something that stuck with me my whole life.
"I'm a creature of habit, and boring is ok."
It's amazing how I went from 'that's dumb' to ' that's awesome' over the course of my life.
Man, you bring tears to my eyes.
I know just how horrible it feels to realize you just snapped at people who are at no fault.
Even worse when it's people you love.
But I can't begin to imagine how it must feel to snap in the presence of your children.
A prayer for you and good luck.
As an adult now I appreciate so much how hard my parents worked for me to have a boring childhood. My partner, who had a much more *interesting* childhood found it very attractive how much stability and peace I was able to bring into his life. I hope our future children will have a boring childhood too.
“Difficult childhoods make interesting adults”
Another excellent video, sir. Over the last year or so, you've changed up the channel a bit. You've opened up and shared with us more of your personal life, both the good and the bad. I have really appreciated it. As men, we're often reluctant to talk about personal issues and shortcomings. It's unhealthy. I think your openness and honesty are taking you in a very good direction, and you inspire more of us to do the same.
From my experience say if you don’t get that dream job look for ways on how enrich your personal life. Like get a hobby, learn skill sets just case, improve both your mental and physical health etc. and you can be amazed on how one good decision will lead to more good decisions.
I lived enough life for two lifetimes. Somehow I came out alive, clean, wise(ish) and now in love and married. Nothing beats simple routines, good books,healthy meals and early bed/wake times. Enjoyed hearing your experiences and relating them to mine. It’s nice to be lucky, it’s better to be happy. 👊
Your channel popped up in my feed for some reason. Glad it did :) I am a single mom. I divorced my husband when our daughters were 18 mos & 3 years old due to his alcoholism. The final straw was when he got 2 DUI’s within 7 months. Daughters are now 16 & 17 years old. I spent all of the their growing up years with them. I did not date. Very routine life. I work, they have school, then it was their after school activities, go to church on Sunday, meals at home, etc.. people tell me that My life is “ boring “ & that I need to get out n have some fun”. I LOVE my routine life. I don’t want to “ go out” . I would rather “ go out” to watch my kids in their chosen sports & activities’. A very Routine stable,NO drama life!! It was nice to hear this video ! I’m not the only one that LOVES the simpler, no drama life!!
A lot of respect man. Being open and honest, you're a great motivation.
Just the video I needed. I’ve been pushing myself too hard for months, trying to do everything, to be what someone else wanted, not feeling good enough and trying to take on even more and I’m finally burning out and coming back to the realization that way of life isn’t for me and I need to shoot back down, stop stressing and over stimulating my mind to distract myself. It’s ok to be a little boring if it makes you happier
3:30 not many would admit to doing something like that. Thank you for the transparency and the great info as always, sir.
This is a beautiful and peaceful life of stability, normalcy and structure.
I have lived a chaotic life, where nothing had order, nothing was planned and it's all "interesting" everyday. It was not what many would consider fun or enjoyable after 5 days.
Simple, peaceful and predictable is where it's at. And we sprinkle in random fun along the way.
I consider it a privilege to find someone who has organised their life in such an efficient way. The rub comes when people try and manipulate our lives in a way that hurts us, I find.
Love that you talk about things not many like to talk about because it doesn't generate clicks and are difficult things to talk about.
But this is key to self improvement and real ones will watch these.
I was a Company Commander in the Army at Fort Bragg, NC and at Fort Stewart, Ga so I know exactly what you mean about dealing with soldiers' drama. Thanks for serving and for what u r doing here. Snapping at people we love is hard and I have done it before. I'm getting help from the VA. Prior enlisted and retired as a Major.
If you live a life filled with purpose, doing the things you love, being surrounded by your family and friends, you won't want to change a bit. Great video Antonio, God bless you and your family as well as the RMRS team.
Awesome video.. thanks!! Most people think I live a boring life because I have a daily routine and I plan my meals week to week so I won’t have to think about what to fix I just do. I’m actually happier now since I started then I’ve ever been in my life
Kudos to you for talking about physical and mental health. Thank you for sharing some of your personal story.
I'm from a little town in the middle of Argentina and I've been following you for a while. This is quality content for sure. Thank you for making the effort of uploading this kind of videos. It inpires me to be the best version of myself everyday.
Amen. I have been "boring" all my life. I live a simple life. I work, take care of my family, do community service, and partake in some finer things regarding men's style. I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, or hang in the streets. Aside from some gray in my beard, I look pretty good at 47. A bulk of my stress stems from my supervisor position at work where drama naturally comes my way. But spring is on the way, so then I can get outdoors to plant my flowers and get my lawn together for summer. Last year, I brought my rose bush back to life. So satisfying. So, here's to boredom!
I can relate to so much of this. After a lifetime of an unstable chaotic and abusive childhood that led to a chaotic unstable adulthood. I am now voluntarily celibate and sober. I spend most of my time at work taking care of developmentally disabled children and adults and spend my off days with my 11 year old son. My life now is much more fulfilling than it ever was when I was a womanizing alcoholic entertainer. People often ask me if I miss the women, the booze, the drugs and constant touring that goes along with being an full time entertainer. Truth is that I am much happier living what they consider a boring life. Maybe it just comes with age but at this point in my life I am happy just to have stability and predictable days with family and people who like me for me and not for who I am on stage or what I can do for them.
Man do I love my boring life, worked damn hard for it and will continue to work on being a better man.
I love having a "boring" life in terms of having no drama, as it gives me the flexibility and resources to do everything else I want to do. I work with great people, we don't have "weird office politics", lots of friends, live substantially beneath my means financially, etc.
Appreciate you sharing your story. A lot of guys have drama we find our way though but don’t talk about (which is a shame). It says a lot that you are willing acknowledge so that others can recognize that life isn’t always easy or great but no less special. I agree wholeheartedly that these experiences while not fun build character and empathy. If reflected on a better man. You didn’t say, but I would also argue that we don’t get to chose how we start life but we do get to chose the life we build, and now to treat others. Which is why what you are saying is so important. I would take time, relationships, and nature over money and excitement any day. Thanks for a great video.
Great video! It resonated a lot. The last year has been hectic for me and my fiancée . It’s all good because we have moved states, bought a house, had a healthy baby but it’s been chaotic. I can’t wait for us to find our groove and general day to day monotony.
I chose and worked very hard at creating a so called "boring" life. This is a conscious effort to drastically reduce the amount of stress in my life and I have never been happier. I have a better relationship with my spouse and kids, and overall I am healthier physically and mentally. Boring is king
As Jordan Peterson said... walk the line between order and chaos. Have one foot placed in order, stability, structure and patterns.... call it the "boring." And have the other foot placed in chaos, the unknown, the challenging, the struggle. One foot in order makes chaos bearable, and one foot in chaos makes order less mundane.
We have a lot in common. I went to 13 schools. My mom had 4 marriages. Definitely found that a boring life is heaven. I even live in Wisconsin. For me I have sailed past a lot of more educated people in my career because I kept my life controllable and I recognize the drama before it ruffles my feathers. I hope this one hits people who need to hear it - because turning off the drama is really the only path to heaven on Earth.
I agree this lifestyle is not boring at all. This is a model for real men to follow and aspire. Being responsible and loyal are great qualities to possess. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable yet not from a victim mindset but as someone who takes control of your mistakes and weaknesses. It takes courage to accept your weaknesses and admit you need help. May this be an example to all who desire to be real Gents and make a positive impact at home, work and society. Be blessed my brother!
I am grateful that you made this video. In this current social environment we are in, it’s encouraging to know that others strive for a steady stable lifestyle and it’s sustainable.
Amen brotha!! As a fulltime firefighter/paramedic, I look forward to retiring and living a boring life. In the meantime, my days off are filled with relaxation, staying home with the wifey & enjoying my quiet time. I do indulge with hobbies of DJn & working on my 55 Chevy pickup. 😁
I am really grateful that you are able to also give us some insight about life itself. I do wish you could keep making content about this topic and your regular content about proper dressing and demeanor. I studied science, business, and law, but my craft is being a mailman. I have to explain all this to people that ask why I chose to live the life I live. Keep up the excellent work.
It is through a humble and stable life that the nuance of life starts to become apperent, and that nuance contains some very life affirming moments. I'm all for it.
You are a great great soul❤. You have some idea but you do not know the extent of the life-changing impact you have on your audience. God bless you, and your amazing family! I am a 61 yr old retired dentist with 4 grown children, and I am speaking from experience. Thank you for your incredibly hard work ethic and extra efforts!
"you do not know the extent of the life-changing impact you have on your audience" Exactly. Some bicep work wouldn't hurt.
I"m adressing your chanel from Germany. Live the life of a happy single mom with a wonderful little daughter. Took me some time to adapt to the situation, but now I am very happy with this life.
We go out into nature every sunday. Have a stable relationship, routines.
Kudos for your great content ❤
Thank you for your transparency. This is difficult to do in a social media driven world where everyone and everything is being scrutinized. Very poignant video and has had me reflecting about my life and my legacy.
Your life is not boring or lame. It seems to be grounded and filled with love. Congrats!
Having moved around for education the last 6 years I'm looking forward to that "boring" stable life of employment and living under the same roof for more than a year. Several hopefully. This was really interesting to hear from you. Would love to see more stuff like this
Sometimes a boring life is the only best life we need.I rarely comment but i'm impressed and completely agree with every single thing you shared in this video.Thank you!
Aspiring to get to that level of peace, and stability... well executed salute!
Powerful, important, first-person content. Thank you!
You're so welcome!
Hello Antonio, I just wanted to say that this is one of your best videos. It totally resonated with me, thank you!
Having a structured and focused life is hardly boring to me. You focus on what matters the most to you and stick to it nothing wrong or boring with that at all.
It's better in some ways to have a plan for your day than just do random stuff out of sudden impulse, it will make you feel like you have actually got something accomplished and done instead of going to bed with a bunch of half finished things that may never be done.
I couldn't agree more. Discipline makes you free
Ding ding ding. Thank you. Hearing your story? Now it makes perfect sense why I love my daily routine. And bonus, it frees up my mind so that I can do all the deep thinking I love to do. Thanks again for the insight. Much appreciated.
This video is so good I've listened to it twice, it is stuff that is so much more important than clothing style.
Last year I died on operating table and by grace of God pulled through. How ever I am lucky I got to peek on the other side and it was no bed of roses so live your best life now get away from toxic people and environments work out your passions and work towards it. Boring is ok but you will regret it on your death bed. So glad I have opportunity to enlighten you. I have one of the most boring life's and mirror this video with icing on top. You can do both live an exciting and stable life ie what ever you do be kind loving and respectful and you can do anything.
You have your priorities right, you are taking care of your kids and yourself, that's admirable.
I always loved this Chanel. Watching this we have things like… You’re a good man Antonio.
Glad you enjoy it!
I had to do boring when i started having health issues a few years back. I mean my life was already routine but i had way too much to do in my day. Had to incorporate more rest and an exercise routine. I'm calmer now, and am better at dealing with unexpected events. Nothing wrong with boring. Boring keeps you healthy.
I agree. I moved several times growing up. Later my parents divorced. Later I became a LEO in one of the worse big city depts. After 31 yrs. I retired. Now I look forward to just tending to my garden and looking towards trying my hand at bee keeping. I love the quiet and not having to deal with people unless I want to.
Your life is family-centered, that is not boring, it is nice and how life should be, not this instagram, TH-cam, social media obsessed fake life. Good for you Antonio.
Over the past 15 months I’ve dealt with stage 3 colon cancer treatment, and subsequent side effects that have kept me out of work and home bound. A good portion of that time I spent bedridden. This is probably the first time in my life that I’ve taken an opportunity to have a routine. It was fine for a little while, but it became monotonous. I started sleeping up to 18 hours a day and my schedule got out of whack. Now that I’m in remission and recovering from multiple surgeries, I’m able to get out of the house more, and I do it every chance I get. I have a general time I go to bed, and a general time I try to get up, but the hours in between I try to mix things up as much as possible. My best thinking and creativity comes with a little chaos. Once my disability is approved, I plan on going back to school and traveling a bit on the weekend. My goal is to get my computer programming degree within the next 3 years so I can get off disability and go to work in a less physically demanding job with higher pay than I was making before. The payoff wit the better income will be that I will be able to travel more and go out and enjoy not doing the same thing every day.
Been watching on and off for a long time. Never heard how you grew up. I’ve got a lot of respect for the man you’ve become
RMRS, liked this topic. Have often turned it over in my mind. Could say a lot on it but will try to keep it short. I am in my mid 60's. Also, a Wisconsinite. Decades ago, I came to a conclusion that what's "boring", at least for me, is a state of mind rather than actuality. If my mind says it's boring, then it would be boring. I believe if you see anything, such as grass (green, not the other kind lol) or a rock for example, ask about their nature, composition, whatever, it would not be boring. Be inquisitive. Retired a few years ago, many said "you're not going to like it", "you're going to want to do something". Not even close to being bored. There are many things I plan to do. Not even close, yet, to doing most of them. Golf, learning to cook, reading at least one book per month (voracious when I was younger), many other things to do. When my kids were in grade school and middle school at the dinner table I would, as part of conversation, tell them three (just a number) things that touched me or made me pause and think or smile or laugh during the day. Just something I may have seen (still working at that time). I would ask each of them to speak of something (3) that they noted or smiled at or laugh. For me something as simple as "I like that the day was sunny" was good enough. Or if I saw a young family walking down the street. Also, human beings are creatures of habits, it is impossible to do something "exciting" every day. Said too much, thus I'll end this by saying boredom is overrated.
Having a boring lifestyle is truly beneficial for us, since an unstable lifestyle is usually quite unhealthy and in many cases generates trauma. This was a very insightful video!
Your best most insightful video. People say my life is boring too! I like to cycle and run a lot, I don’t drink at the pub that often. I enjoy being in nature and when I cycle I’m often out for several hours at a time most days all year! I do all my thinking in this space. I don’t think I’m boring, it’s my life.
No disrespect to other style channels because I like all of them in different respects, but this is the content im looking for at this phase in my life.
Thanks RMRS!
Hey amazing video I just want to say I'm 28yr old black man from Dallas Texas I been sub to u since u was at like 5k subscribers and your views help me have a outlet for my love and passion for style even though I grew up in a bad neighborhood I overcame my environment n IAM now a underwater welder and I live a boring life and I love it
Hell yeah, brother! Keep your eyes on the prize!
Congrats man, that’s an awesome career!!
@@MrDevilstar52 thanks bro and same to u
@@sk8girldecks11 thanks man I love it I anything that got me working with my hands I'm all for it
Of my friends, 3 of us have a boring life and career. Guess how many of us are stable and not regularly having stress attacks. 12:30 a channel ran by a doctor either psychiatrist or therapist I don’t remember what recently did a video on how discipline is an emotion separate from will power it was pretty interesting, channel is called healthy gamers.
once again,thank you for your videos,and you dont live a boring life at all,its a blessed life you live.
Love it. I love getting some sunlight first thing though. Unfortunately it's been cold as hell so not gonna lie I've been laying in
Thank you for creating/sharing this. I really appreciate your honesty. Boring life leads to having more control of your life.
I like that you're expanding your topics! I need a structured organized life, but I also need to have changes here and there.. like travel, hanging out with different friends, etc. I keep my life interesting by learning new things all the time, like men's style 😉
Interesting video. Grew up on a farm until age 20, then had a very exciting life and travelled the world until I was 40 and did amazing things until my wife and I had children. Then I deliberately gave up that exciting life and stayed at home 20 years to bring them up alongside my wife. Something not many men did back then and it was a boring life but looking back it was a fantastic decision. We suddenly got hit by severe adversity but we gave our children just the stable life they needed to get through it and our sons are great guys as a result. Now they have left home so my wife and I are going back to work at age 60 in very interesting intellectual fields.
I always say I have lived my life in 20 year blocks of time and now I am into the last 20 and going to make the most of it - by going to work every day in a job I enjoy. Kind of boring getting up and going to work every day you might think but a lot less boring than just retiring and being aimless.
Some may call it boring. I would call it "semper fidelis." You're being faithful to your family and yourself by being consistent. Feels like a rare quality in this day and age and I for one am glad to see it being preached like this. Thanks for the great life lesson.
I’m a 31-year-old man who has achieved finally a very similar lifestyle with structured routines, and work life balance sufficient to take care of my body and health by exercising and cooking daily, I have to say that I quite enjoy my “boredom”. Although I would not classify this type of living situation as boring, I would say that it is satisfying. Certainly not exciting, dramatic, or whimsical, but I keep myself entertained with fun hobbies, and good people that I have chosen to invest my time and energy into. I try to explain to young men like my nephews, that all the shit they see on social media is not a sustainable way to live your life unless you’re getting paid to travel and try exotic foods and nightlife as an influencer. I am happier now than I ever was during my tumultuous young adulthood in college years, from caustic relationships, to financial stress, to balancing a full-time job and engineering school. This is a great video. Well done.
"Boredom breeds curiosity and curiosity breeds new innovations"
-SunTzu
Thank you from single mothers. You are a gem. A real hero Thanks for being normal and a leader showing real American lifestyle where men are admired for helping in making this a better life.
I came here real down . But I got to admit hearing you out gave me perhaps a slightly different outlook .I'm hoping this was the little nudge I needed . Thanks
Great video Antonio. It helps to know other men are going through the same things I am. I too have had moments where I have blown up in front of my children. Being a father, husband, bread winner and bill payer, can be very stressful.
To me, a boring life means saving time to do the things my children and wife need me to do.
I found your videos from watching Alpha M. Keep up the good work. Thanks.
It’s not that it’s boring. I myself am a creature of habit and enjoy routine. My question is: how does that not exhaust you? I do a lot of this stuff but not all of it and I found a groove but it was making me tired just listening to how much you do. Good for you man. You’re killin’ it 👍 that’s what a good man should be doing
As a person with adhd and autism living a typical structured life isnt for me, I get bored easily, I have intense interests until I move on to other interests. I love the variety.
Very refreshing. Taking about your life, with no BS.
Not trying to show how incredibly fantastic your fake life is. Hopefully, it will catch on. Great man Great personality. Loving life. And more power to you! 🫡
Lol brother you are not alone regarding that picnic basket! You eliminated the problem. I do however understand what you mean though. Good onya for always wanting to improve. We as men should always be striving to be better.
I'm all about boring. Consistency and routine makes life much better. Often when I'm driving for a few hours, I'll turn off the radio and just drive. I do the same thing when I run, no headphones. Helps me to focus and clear my thoughts
I live a boring life but I don't find it boring. Eventually I get sick of something and I make a change. Great advice.
Love love loved this video. 4 years ago I quit drinking and smoking and honestly did some house cleaning ( got rid of all the toxic people in my life, including some family members). Because of all these changes I live a boring life and I love it. Thanks again for this video. I'm a new subscriber after viewing your content today.
I would say it is a Responsible Life! ...a Mature Life! ...and you are a GREAT Daddy! It doesn't get better than that!
Kudos Brother!!
AWESOME VIDEO. I’d like to see more like this! As a viewer i appreciate you sharing your truth and your life. That takes courage.
An Uneventful life is something I can appreciate and is overlooked.
Again, solid video.
Hi. I enjoyed the video. I like the new direction of videos you have lately. It’s not just about looking good but feeling good. Love the honesty. I get mad with my 2 kids all the time. It’s hard being a man! I hear ya!
OK before even watching this video a boring life means EVERYTHING is going well and you are on track there is no drama LIFE IS GOOD!!!!! lets look at it like this, you are the guy in the military your job is to push the button when all HELL breaks loose otherwise it's an EXTREMLY boring job. THIS video hits it right on the nail head. You may think your life is boring but in reality, you are living a GOOD LIFE.
STOP and appreciate that life! And today for no reason tell everyone that is a part of that life how proud you are of them and just how much they mean to you. And give them a heartfelt hug. Do it today!!
I live a boring life too, Since I had my own family, everything seems just a routine. Done some crazy things when I was young, but I'd choose this kind of life every day and twice on Sundays. I'm happy and contented. This video is very inspirational. thanks for sharing.
As a marine myself this was a excellent segment please keep the course thank you 😊
Thought I’ve heard you said Wausau. As in WI. If yes, nice little town. I have wonderful memories during my 7-8 yrs living there.
Where else will you get a word definition that sounds like a fragrance description. Brilliant! 😉
Great video, nothing boring about living an honorable life. Thanks for your service. US Navy retired here. Hooyah! ⚓️
Such a great video! Well said. I just dont think enough people have the same thoughts. Most people have to have action around them 24/7. They just dont know hwat to do with they time alone.
As an romanian Orthodox living in Germany i always loved holiday in Romania with my whole family. After i lived some toxic modern relationships i found and married an orthodox woman and found peace.
The modern world and passions are provoking a lot of drama. I loved my time as a soldier but after i startet family my focus moved to family and i got a relaxed secure job.
This is a fantastic video. Good job! As a person who lived out in the boondocks I can also confirm that when you don’t have much going on, you start to become more creative and start thinking more sharply. Its so ironic.
Excellent video!!
Wow it's good to know I'm not alone. Same exact situation. I also had a f-ed up childhood, guess this is the reason why I choose boring but relax life.
When we're older and wiser, we call this type of life the "proper" life to have. When we're in our twenties, we'd regard this as a boring life. In my mid-40s now, had plenty of excitement in my 20s, but once you've settled down and have a nice family, you won't trade it for anything. Somehow I got much more drive, perseverance, industriousness and persistence after I had my first child. Maybe that's just our normal paternal instincts.. to be able to push ourselves day-in day-out to ensure we don't let down our family and we're able to build them a good life and a bright future. At the same time, my attachment for material wants have also significantly reduced and I find more happiness and satisfaction in providing for my family rather than owning a flashy car or a flashy watch.
Great message, needed for me and others. A boring life allows for the beautiful things in life to flourish.