Your a great mom. When your boys are older they will be sharing how hard their mom worked to provide for them. Which will be a good thing. Hang in there.
I’ve never figured this out, lots of guilt. I always wondered how you did it? I’m always busy, cleaning cooking working sort of...they interrupt me all day, so for me, I decided to just do this as a small hobby. My husband has 5 jobs, two full time and 3 part time so yea, there’s no way I can neglect these kids...so I struggle each day w the balance, ugh! They are 5 and 7 and require more and more interaction, don’t want them to get used to me ignoring them, I’m trying.
Just a suggestion from a great-grandmother of 4: Are there a few small tasks you can teach the children for a few minutes each day such as weighing unbreakables that you will ship or putting inventory in storage containers so they feel part of helping you? Maybe a dollar for their help to teach a bit about short term savings for something they would like, and long term for larger items so they can see the increase and even gifts for somene, and giving to a charity, or church tithing, etc. depending on your lifestyle.
Don’t feel guilty. Your children are resilient and if you explain things to them you’ll be amazed at how understanding they can be and even supportive. You need to feel centered in order to be a good mom and if your business brings you balance, giving that up will only create resentment.
First of all I want you to know I have been a follower and subscriber of yours for a while and although I have never posted a comment, I never miss a video 😊 My son (also 7) had some things to say about my work during the day during quarantine VERY similar to your son's. My heart was broken. I just wanted to sympathize with you and let you know that you are not alone!!!!
I am so right there with you girl! I have a 1 year old, 3 year old, and 6 year old. The 3 year old had school twice a week, and the 6 year old was in kindergarten, so I used those days to get a lot done, and the 3 year old and 1 year old napped each day so that would give me a good 1-2 hour window to work. Now that everyone is home 24/7 I've had a hard time finding balance, and getting a routine going. Your video helped me feel like I'm not failing, and that wanting to work does not equal me being a bad mom. Balancing all of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, childcare, school, and work is pretty overwhelming. Thank you so much for your honesty and vulnerability. Your message really touched me and I appreciate you!
Have you tried giving them jobs during your work time like bagging up the inventory, taping the boxes, putting labels on shipments etc???? I think it is healthy for kids to see their mom work and contribute to the household income. Kids have to realize that unfortunately grown ups have to pay for living.... Your channel is so meaniful and truthful and i love it. Dont quit. You would probably go crazy if you didnt work...
You've got it! Kids need to see you work, it builds work ethic. I have done both, stayed home and worked outside. Now I work at home. I tell them to work when I work. Homework, cleaning, we have even given them garden chores. It makes for an all in this together sort of thing. Then we are free together later. :)
Great video with a great message for mom's and dad's alike. You are a good mom....bad moms don't ask if they are doing a good job or worry about their kid's happiness. We all have to do what we feel is life giving and working gives meaning to most of our lives. I'm a stay at home mom and sell part time also and have 2 kids. Mine are older than yours(9 and 11) but I have been selling online since before they were born. There are days I work on it for a few hours, and then days I don't....I just do the best I can with what feels good for that day, and I think that's all you can do: do what feels right, right now. Yes kids grow up fast, but you also can't wait to start your life and fill your cup when they have moved out. I love your videos and thanks for sharing!
You are amazing! We've all felt mom guilt -- make sure you're also feeling good about what you are learning and accomplishing. The serious chat with the kids about the relationship between work, money, expenditures, and doing fun things that cost $ is incredibly important. Well done!
Don’t quit! If you keep a balance with kids and work you are doing good. When you choose to resell you will have to spend a lot of hours to be successful. Your kids will understand why you work so much when they are older. One day your children will move out to go to college and leave you. Your life and goals matter so much as well!
You are an amazing mom! Your children don’t know yet, but one day, when they grow up, they will be wondering what have they done to have such a wonderful mother.
Love your heart Ashley. You are a good mom! It’s great you and your husband teach your kids a good work ethic. That is one of the best lessons you can teach them. Thanks for the openness and honesty.
I wish every parent I’ve nannied for had your mentality , you’re doing the right thing . I wish my mom worked from home when I was a kid that’s a blessing in its self
You should have just explained to them that you need to make money to afford your kids, and if you can’t work then you will have to sell your kids on eBay. I am sure that would have made it all better :)
Hahaha and then guess what his next letter would be written on? 😂 Poor thing he will understand one day but really it is a nice complement he just wants to be with his loved ones all day ❤️
Very important topic! I think you're definitely on the right track. Nothing is perfect, but I think having honest conversations like that with your children will empower them to feel knowledgeable and understand where you're coming from as parents. Good luck!
I am glad you came around and realized that mom needs time to work. I decided to stay home when my second child was born and I started selling online. My baby will be 20 this year. You learn to adjust your business around the rhythm of life. My kids learned that the mornings were their time during school breaks and afternoons were time I did things with them, went swimming, went on outings, etc. It all turned out well and now as adults they truly appreciate that I was able to be home with them but also worked to help contribute to our family. It really is just finding what works best for your family.
You're a great mom! You are setting a good foundation for your children and they will understand what you are doing when they are older and have kids of their own. I have two myself although they are a little older than yours. Keep up the good work and thank you for being a great mother. Need more moms like you.
My wife is a full-time UPS driver. I am full-time ebay and stay at home Dad. Being a stay at home dad is definitely the hardest job I ever had. When its time for me to work though "hey kids I'm going down to the basement to get some work done" 4 yr old and 7 yr old. In addition coach my sons baseball and trying to grow a youtube channel. As adults, and parents we deserve to be happy and have time to ourselves!
I think its a natural reaction for many who work from home. I had the same feelings as you, its hard at first when little ones see you at home and can't understand why you can't just stop when ever you want. Having a talk and creating the little door knob tags I think is a very smart idea. It gives the kids something to look forward to and a expectation of the answer they might get if they try to ask for some time when the stop sign is showing. Working from is the best thing that has happened for me, it did take some time to get the rest of the family to really understand this is a job and if I take 3hrs to do something with them it means I need to make up those 3hrs.
So smart of you to talk it over with someone who knows you and your children well and work it through with your husband. Don’t forget children believe they are the center of the universe and not all their whims can be indulged however much we may wish to. Also when you grow concerned about how they are doing look at evidence such as sleeping, playing, interactions and kindness not just what they’re asking for ... you’re so thoughtful and generous, you can trust yourself to get it right often enough. If you had a girl you would still have it in your future to hear a teenage girl say “I hate you!” when she doesn’t mean it at all. Your Kids know you’re someone safe to talk about whatever they’re thinking even if it’s not strictly accurate 😂🤣. Best wishes. ❤️❤️
I think a lot of us got thrown into situations that we quickly had to adapt to the challenges in order to continue. I have had to telework for 50% of my full-time job compared to maybe one telework day every couple of months. Every single day I go to work now, my 3 year old asks me where I went because she missed me and it tears at my heart to know that this is only temporary. I'm very grateful that I have this flexibility to continue to work as I'm the sole provider for our household (long story there). I resell part-time on the side and can understand your pain of trying to juggle it all. I try to be very clear that sometimes I can't do xyz because I need to do this first. My kids are pretty understanding but I always try to get everything done before bedtime in order to cuddle with my youngest in bed and read her a story. This is our precious time.
Thank you for making this video!! This is something I have struggled with tremendously since I became a SAHM/WAHM 1 year ago when my 2nd child was born. I struggle with the guilt of wanting to work more/make money money/achieve more...frankly, I think it’s just my personality and how I’m wired. I’ve always been an achiever. So even though I love my kids SO much, I need something outside of “momming” to make me happy. I’ve also struggled the last year because it seems that my husband, even though he is a wonderful, caring man, does not share the same guilt and issues, and I think that is common for men. It’s probably silly, but I feel jealous that my husband can get away for hours on the weekends to do simple things like mow the lawn, work on our basement, run errands, etc...sometimes these things take all day without him realizing it, while I’m stuck inside (again) caring for the kids and struggling to get 5 items listed and clean, etc, all while wrangling the kids simultaneously. 😔 We just recently had a conversation that I need time for myself to get work done too...it has just always seemed that my work has not been as “important”, even though to me, it is very important- the money I make from reselling helps pay our bills each month and it is important for me to have something for myself for my mental health. Ugh. Anyway, thank you for sharing- just wanted to let you know you are not alone! ❤️ Good idea to talk with the kids and explain why you need to work. Someday they will look back and be thankful for what you did for your family, and will see you as the total badass you are! 💪🏻
Oh my gosh, THIS. Yes! I feel so much the same way. It’s such a struggle sometimes. My husband and I have frequent conversations about this and I do need to remind him that hey, I have to get some things done too 😂. But he also has things he needs to do that are also important... hence the juggling act. Hang in there!! We got this, right? ❤️🙏🏻
This was EXCELLENT! I heard you loud and clear! I'm a stay-at-home working-from-home wife and mom, and I homeschool our ONLY child (which adds to his need for my time and attention). I found ways to make sure he was having good social opportunities too, but all that stopped of course, with this year's regulations and stay in place orders. It can be hard, and I feel like I need space to work alone more, but then I'm concerned about him while I'm busy. It's quite a thing to balance. I just bought a well laid out planner this week so that I can really PLAN our homeschool / business (and even housework and play) better this coming school year.
Please remember...not only are you providing for your family and of course satisfying that need to have something for yourself...you're helping 54,000+ people achieve a dream of starting their own Ebay business and staying encouraged while doing it ! I started this adventure when I lost my job due to Covid. I've watched a TON of videos on here to try and understand how online selling works but your videos are like my gospel ! You're genuine and honest with your advice and explain all the small details. I appreciate that. I should also say..I understand mom guilt. I've been there a few times. :) You're doing exactly the right thing in creating a balance. I won't say your mom guilt will go away. It will stay there sitting in the back of your mind and poking your heart every now and then. When it does just go back and watch this video :) Very encouraging words.
The last thing you need from us is validation. Through your narrative, you've shown yourself to be a caring, loving, thoughtful, adaptable human being - that in turn makes you a pretty good parent. All a parent can do is be the best person possible which in turn gives them an example of how to live. Lead by example and take the time to explain - and even then mistakes will happen. It makes them stronger.
Teaching those life skills now is so awesome, it's not all fun and games sometimes. Thanks for sharing makes me realize someone else has same struggles too. Look forward to your videos
I think you’re a creative, kind, smart mom🥳. Smart to discuss these issues and to be transparent. Head up moving forward. Thanks for sharing -- you are a gem😇
Great video! I have 4 kids 5 and under and the Mom guilt is real! You’re totally right, there is no perfect balance, you just have to do the best you can and I’ve learned for us I just have to have a lot of flexibility in my schedule as far as when I can fit work in. Thanks for sharing and being an encouragement!
I think you handled it perfectly! My son took time to adjust to my reselling hobby (I have a FT career too). For me it's a hobby and I told him I really enjoy it, like he enjoys playing videogames. We still have tons of family time, especially right now. 😄 My son is an only child, so it's always tag team between my husband and me, which helps, because he's playing with his dad while I work on reselling. But, FT jobs + reselling + at-home learning + pandemic is crazy! This is just a season and it will get better. 💖
That is amazing! I deal with the guilt all the time and struggle with balancing everything. It certainly helps to have a supportive hubby! I wish mine was supportive like that, Id be able to accomplish that much more if he were.
I have been watching your videos for almost two years, which is when I started reselling in eBay. I learnt a lot about selling clothing from you, which makes you a great mentor! Eventually, I stopped selling clothing because I started selling Rotherham things that I found easier to sell, but I continued watching your your videos because I found you to be so sincere, so enlightening in more ways than just selling. This video verifies my believe! Thanks for the work you do, for being such a great person, and reseller! You are inspiring in many ways!
I am a Stay at Home Dad ,I ended up getting temporary laid off from my job and ended up doing eBay / Mercari full-time. I have 2 daughters 11 and 15. They are old enough to understand what I do and they pretty much do their own thing. When they were younger between ages of 1 through 5, I was working from home also, so I can relate to what you are going through right now. I am sure it is really hard to find the time to balance being a Wife, Mom, and Entrepreneur all at the same time. You have to put aside time for yourself, if not you will go crazy. Love watching your videos, I have learned a lot from you. Take Care and stay safe.
Aww Ash! I just wanna give you a hug 😢🤗 You definitely handled it well and I’m glad you’ve discussed you trying to navigate a work life balance a lot on your channel lately ...Because that’s reality for most people and it can be very tricky. But amen I totally agree learning how to be independent is a crucial topic especially at an early age and we have to learn to share our time and definitely learn that it’s okay to do the things we enjoy simply because we enjoy them (aka your job!) 🤗 I got into this career because of the freedom it gives and for the flexibility for our future family! They probably won’t realize it soon, but one day they will understand and be beyond grateful for the sacrifices you and your husband have had to make. But at the end of the day, you will always put them first ☺️ But it totally think it’s doable, you’re living proof that you TOTALLY can have work life balance. Doesn’t mean it’s easy, but you figure it out 💁♀️❤️ Sending you my love as always, take care! 🥰
Omg I literally clicked this bc I have been dealing with the EXACT SAME FEELINGS AND SCENARIO. And it is SO hard mentally and emotionally...my youngest one was recently diagnosed with autism and all his appointments and therapies take up SO much time and in between that is obviously all normal mom duties and time you make to be present and play with your kids...unfortunately his dad hasn’t really stepped up the way he should have when it comes to being a Father so again just about all of the daily duties land on me solely which makes my guilt even worse bc I feel I need to make up for his dad not being around in terms of attention and feeling like he knows he’s my number 1...and to top of off his half sister is now in high school and is at the age of not wanting to hang out or play with her baby brother (bc of such a big age difference) Honestly I have been REALLY struggling. Like you I too am already guilt prone and have such a high fear of having regrets when it comes to his childhood that is already such a small amount of time as is...so I want to thank you for just being open/honest and shedding some much needed attention to such a deep and important issue that I know a lot of moms out there are dealing with and trying to juggle...✌️💕
Ashley your precious little ones are so blessed to have a caring sensitive Mommy like you. Oh how I know about guilt in having to work. I became a single Mom and the major support of my children. I had to work outside the home which broke my heart but I couldn’t let them go without the necessities of life. I worked three jobs two of which I could take my children with me. I would work at night writing newspaper articles when they were sleeping. I could take them with me to the studio when I recorded commercials and the radio staff loved them. I was an administrative assistant during the day when they were in school. They grew up to be wonderful loving hardworking husbands and fathers. One dear son just celebrated a 28th wedding anniversary and the dear son will be celebrating a 22 years wedding anniversary. I’m so proud of them but I am still riddled with guilt of having to work so much. I so wished I had a home based business so we all could have been together first thing after they returned home from school. Instead a sitter would greet them instead of me. Ashley I love your attitude toward wanting to be a good mother and communicating with your children. It’s the most challenging but rewarding job in the world. You remind me of the Proverbs 31 wife and mother in the Bible. Btw I’m in my seventies and I am learning so much from you about EBay as I want to start selling to supplement my Social Security. You are a precious beautiful young lady. Thank you.
What an inspiring person you are!! Your children are so blessed to have you and to know of the many sacrifices you made for them. 🥰❤️🙏🏻 thank you for your kind words!!
Just came across your channel and this video reminded of when my son was younger.I am a single mom and he wouldn’t understand that working from home was still work. But as he got older he doesn’t even want to hang out with me 😓 I feel so guilty working or even go to the gym
Good applications. I work from home and started that when I was pregnant for our son. Very similar thoughts, emotions, experiences however, as you have already outlined, you do teach them so many lessons because they SEE you working on a business. Our son is now 19 years old and he absorbed those lessons where they come ‘natural’ to him now in university. We did a family weekly/monthly goal chart for fun things or times and he earned Stars for helping meet those goals and that would lead to a Bonus for him with Star points. He’d get to place a Star on the chart and watch his participation cause a positive affect and the Bonus (he’d choose within boundaries we established). He could earn low level Bonus, mid-range, and full-on Bonuses (he’d earn all 3). Your children will remember mom and dad were always there for the truly important moments. And, along the way learn LIFE lessons. Our son never received an allowance- he was taught how to earn his own money from a young age and how to negotiate for more! From placing my labels on product to assisting me at an appointment to working a vendor booth with me and public speaking before kindergarten! You keep doing what is best for your family.
I would like suggest a few things. One have a written schedule for you, your husband and kids schedule. The schedule should have manipulatives. Example your schedule is in a chart. As you complete that days schedule, the kids can move a picture of you to the next box of your scheduled activity. It involves them and gives a visual they can consult. They should have a bunch of activities they can do while you you work. The picture could be of blocks or blocks with them playing with blocks. It could be read a book, a picture of them reading a book, I’m sure you get the idea. Also, use a clock/timer with an alarm/bell they can watch. When your work time is over you can look at what pictures are on the their schedule and talk about what book they read and what is was about or the blocks chosen and what they built. If it is a tv show what their favorite part was. The timer really helps them with time as time is an abstract concept without a visual for children. There are others ideas out there. Make video about what you do and ask for other ideas, I’m constantly amazed at peoples creativity. Then use what works best for your individual child/children. Best Wishes!
Yep I sure know about the guilt us working parents have, I have 3 sons the oldest is autistic their dad was abusive so during our divorce I had to get a full time job for income and insurance and everyday I would go to work I felt like the worst mom in the world, I had to have a heart to heart with my sons and they would help each other and for a while it was such a struggle, but we all did our part so we would never have to put up which their dads abuse. Now they are young men and last year I was able to pay off our house they are doing well and have turned out to be awesome human beings. When I start saying how I feel I wasn’t a good enough mother to them they are quick to point out that I have always been there for them. So please continue to do what makes you happy.
Imagine the story your little boy would write if you and your husband lost their job or business. These are truly momentous times and many parents are in a far worse position. We all have to make sacrifices for our children’s future. Stay strong as the next few years are going to get even tougher
oh yes and because of you I kept going and I help the animals so you are helping the animals here OK thank you so much, you are so nice and beautiful and awesome!! blessed ..so don't worry , I don't mean to tell you what to do , but you are such an awesome girl lady mom,thankyou your friend Lena Teresa animalf
I work from home as well with my little one reselling and it is definitely hard sometimes! But you seem so organized and so good at it. You are a wonderful mom. I think that working as your own boss causes you to question things more. It’s easier to quit too when things seem imbalanced and oh the mommy heart 👩👧👦
Look at the long term. I had a career and worked 50 plus hours a week. We had great quality time together and I was able to include them in my job sometimes. They are grown now and are great adults and we have a wonderful relationship. Don’t sweat it!
My son who is 6 said to me during all of this which I have been working so much more because I was afraid of what my full time job income was going to look like this if/when the economy goes to shit he said "You dont always have to do this mom like sell stuff all the time and work" and explained to him it really makes me happy and this is how mommy makes sure our family and your boys have everything you need and want exc. Then he helped me list and we make it a regular thing of him helping. He even sold his first thing on offer up and was so excited! lol It was an old toy he didnt use anymore.
I think they’ll understand when they’re a little older. They’re young now so they don’t understand that mommy has to work to make money in order to provide for them and put a roof over their head and food on the table and buy them things they need and want. I wouldn’t beat yourself up too bad about this because, honestly, it’s necessary.
I have a 7 year old and 4 year old.. My 7 year old told my husband Im on my computer all the time ...I resell and am in real estate. I have home schooled them through the pandemic and thought I was doing well. My heart broke when he said that :( I realized that I dont have a good schedule and I need to re evaluate.
You saying that your oldest is strong willed made me smile. I knew my daughter was going to be strong willed, and stubborn, very stubborn. Strong child = strong adult He will understand that momma needs to work. He'll get it when you can't get him something that we wants but he has to go through that experience. The balance is delicate. Me growing up was a different experience. My mom worked and partied almost every day. So we bounced from babysitter to babysitter. I still have insomnia to this day, partiality because of my ultra sensitivity to light but the other half was staying up waiting for my mom to pick us up. My sister and I would count cars. Like we would say, OK she'll be here in the next 10 cars, ok the next 10, 15. We would then just count certain colored cars. It only worked a handful of times. When I think about it, it's sad lol. So you're doing a fantastic job, you're family is doing the Right job. My mom not so much. The missus and I went on similar paths in that we got all the party out of us before we had a child. I didn't want to bounce my child from house to house. There's no bitterness with my mom, she's paying for it now but I help her. And that's another thing to since yall are doing a great job, the boys will be forgiving as time goes by. Don't beat yourself up too much over it too much
I think you're doing a wonderful job. Your love for your kiddos is evident and I'm sure you will figure out what works best for you. We have a daily routine, I block schedule and batch tasks (I work from home and homeschool, pre- COVID), and both I and the kids have a good handle on what's coming next in our day. After lots (and lots) of practice, if for some reason I have to work when they're awake, they do a pretty good job of playing independently. Ditto on the oxygen mask. I absolutely love serving my family, but the guilt became too much and God's grace really helped me to re- evaluate what *I* needed. I use a planner and my digital calendar to streamline the things in my day that have to get done (and keep me on track). Sometimes, they want to help. My oldest is also 7 and she likes to help measure, put away inventory, and other age appropriate tasks. My 2 year old likes to "measure" and clean. ☺️ It took us a while to get here, but our days run much more smoothly, now. Praying for your sweet family and wishing you all the best. 💗
Thank you sooo much for this insight into your life!! You sound amazingly organized and have achieved what I’m seeking, so it’s inspiring for me to read! And I’m glad I’m not alone in all this! 🥰❤️
Oh my goodness such great tips to help stay organized! Kudos to you I am sure it hasn't been easy but you def gotta pat yourself on the back very happy to hear your days are running much more smoothly now :) Take care and sending my love to you and your family! :)
@@EssentialEndeavours Thank you so much! You are too kind! 💗 It's been trial and error, for sure, but I'm so grateful for every minute of it. Wishing you all the best!
oh my goodness thank you so much I do try to show my daughter will things about working you don't like yes it's good to teach your kids write thank you so much for inspiring me and I'm an adult so yes thank you so much you're awesome and you're so nice we like you so much my daughter likes you so much too
wow. that letter would have cut me too. but youll be fine, think of this, i went to irac in 2009 and it was hard but daddy had to work and you did real good talking about it, god will help ya. as long as you guys talk as a family and listen as a family. and a good mom as you are with a great heart youll be great at the parent thing and even your job too. anyway keep your head up high and thank god for your family friends and your online job. love ya sis be strong
Young people deserve all the love and attention possible. I ran away from home at 16 due to a mentally and physically abusive household. I had to fend for myself ever since. While we should listen to children and care for them, a work-at-home parent such as yourself has already made a huge commitment to the family. The ability to stop and help the family at any time is a benefit that cannot be understated. The convenience and flexibility of a home business offers are epic. While we should negotiate with young people and work things out, if it were up to them, they would eat chocolate all day and play video games endlessly! Perhaps not your children? You are doing an amazing thing to be available, at home, to your family. There is no quality of life working 9 to 5 on salary. The only hope for your children is sacrifice. Putting food on the table, paying for expenses, saving for braces and college is super expensive. My mom made those sacrifices and back when I was a child, I spent most days at home by myself or with my siblings. Both my parents worked and we had no babysitter. Times are different now. That would not longer be permitted legally. You are an extraordinary mom, hang in there.
As a single mom of two I’m well aware of mom guilt! One interesting thing happened as mine got older, all the times I stressed myself out to make sure I attended alllll their concerts and games, they never remembered! WHA?!? The message is, find a balance because they won’t remember half of it anyway. Do the best you can ;)
Sounds like they are smart enough to help with little tasks to speed up the 'work.' I know my kids are older, 10 and 14, but I tell them that if I'm left to do everything it will be a long time before we can sit down and watch a movie or go to the beach. Time Economics.
You should not feel guilty. You need to do what you need to do to provide. However, I can say that I stayed home for 9 years and returned to work as a teacher when my kids were in intermediate grades. I don't regret being home with them at all. I wouldn't have traded it for anything in the world. My mom passed away when I was 12 years old and one never knows how much time we have on this earth. My 2 boys are my mark in the world that I leave behind. I couldn't do both ...or at least do both well...so our funds were very low for 9 years but my kids didn't know the difference.
Maybe have them help you and show them what you do...they might be more understanding and they can spend time with you. Show them the money you make and see how a business works..involve them..I know they are young..but kids understand more than we realize ... :) Just an idea...if they are getting rid of toys or clothing..let them help you list them..then show them how much money they got and let them save it for something they really want...( silly idea probably but thought id share it) Im proud of you.....your kids might not realize it now..but as they get older...they will be too... youre doing great...dont feel guilty! :)
Balance is what we all need(ed) as moms! They need to know they are most important in your life and they need to know you honor your responsibilities. It sounds like you figured out a great balance that works for now! When they go back to school, you can invest more time in the business!
My ex is constantly making comments to me in front of my kids and to them when they are alone how all I care about is “my eBay” and reselling and i just do it for fun cuz I rather do that then spend time with them. I had to sit my kids down and explain to them that this is how I am able to feed them, pay my bills, buy them all the toys and restaurants and activities they ask for. While I’m happy to spend my money on them I couldn’t buy them everything they want - and why they never feel like they are lacking in what they want - I couldn’t do it without all the work i put into reselling. They need to understand that I need to work hard to make money - the only diff is that they see the work vs just knowing I go to an office and they don’t actually see the work.
Kids say all kinds of stuff, 3 months from now they'll say "you bug us too much". Adults have to work, plain and simple. if you don't need the money to survive, scale back, if you need it then give junior an ipad and a facebook account and tell him to kick rocks.
A book! Art supplies! Facebook is not really healthy or helpful. Get their brains and creativity juices flowing! Or play outside for excercize and health.
Your Son is going to do GREAT things in this life..Maybe even be President of the United States! :)) HAHA! Always good enjoying my morning coffee with some Hustle at Home Mom!
don't worry you are so awesome we love you and appreciate you inspiring me!! us my daughter, I told her you were being driven crazy, just kidding, just really busy!!but now I guess it's a little bit different but you also made a deal with your kid one time about," if he's good you'll go to.um.oh panda expess.omg I say the same thing to my kid about the airplane OMG yeah so you have to but you're so blessed to have a husband and kids and that's awesome so don't worry it just relax you're awesome and perfect K thank you for helping everybody you're so nice💛💜💚🐕🐾🌻🌴🐈💞🐢🌈🎬💕🐝
That’s life. I’m not trying to be negative but if you can afford to devote 100% to your kids do it. If you can’t then work to provide for them 🤷♀️ Don’t overthink it. Most kids that age won’t remember. Trust me.....they won’t.
Why don't you let them help you, introduce them to what you do and show them how to help and make it a little educating as well. Have them help you and then let them help your husband that way they can see how hard you work for the family and that you all work together, then take a little time off and play with them outside or in their room. As long as you share some of your work time with them they will understand what you do.
You’re doing great...you should check out commonwealth picker’s you tube channel, he has the perfect setup with his kids...I wish I’d have done this when my kids were small :) the kids are Homeschool hustlers, I think..
Ok, first I love your videos, however as a mom of 2 grown successful children I have to say if you have a first grader, young children you can’t expect to take a “nap or read a book while your children are around. I can’t imagine or ever took a nap or read a book when my children were up and around. Meaning not sleeping. However explaining to them that mom needs to carve some time out for work that benefits the family.But they can’t be expected to understand that at their age either. I sacrificed a lot when my children were younger to be available. This is a difficult time, but I do know if you have a supportive husband as it seems you do you are fortunate.
Hi! Thank you for your comment! I respectfully disagree, but maybe we can agree to disagree 🥰. My kids have my full time and attention most of the day, where we do activities, splash pad, park, all the things. But then we have some quiet time for a little while where they read or build Legos while I rest, read, or work. Then we pick back up and make dinner together, have a family night out, what have you. They seem to understand far more than I thought they would when we discussed it. But then again, this is what seems to work for me and our family! Definitely no “one size fits all” solution for everyone! ❤️
My daughter is 23 and she has the reselling bug! She already writes down all the estate and garage sale dates and times. When my daughter was little, I worked 55 hours a week in the corporate world as a single parent and she turned out just fine. Just remember it's about quality vs quantity time.
I'm a guy that likes listening to what you have to say. I have learned a lot, thank you very much and all the best in these times. Keep up the good work.
I’d say just quit eBay. Too much work between eBay and family. Family is first. Your kids will grow and never come back. Enjoy their young days. Just sell your inventory in flea markets so you at least get some money back
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Your a great mom. When your boys are older they will be sharing how hard their mom worked to provide for them. Which will be a good thing. Hang in there.
You are doing everything right! Clearly, you are a wonderful mother. Hang in there. Life will get better.
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Your channel's literally made me start a *Personal* *Finance* channel here on TH-cam. Thanks for the motivation *Hustle at Home Mum*
I’ve never figured this out, lots of guilt. I always wondered how you did it? I’m always busy, cleaning cooking working sort of...they interrupt me all day, so for me, I decided to just do this as a small hobby. My husband has 5 jobs, two full time and 3 part time so yea, there’s no way I can neglect these kids...so I struggle each day w the balance, ugh! They are 5 and 7 and require more and more interaction, don’t want them to get used to me ignoring them, I’m trying.
Figgy Flips oh my gosh! 5 jobs!! Does he get time to eat and sleep?! That’s insane! God bless him.
Just a suggestion from a great-grandmother of 4: Are there a few small tasks you can teach the children for a few minutes each day such as weighing unbreakables that you will ship or putting inventory in storage containers so they feel part of helping you? Maybe a dollar for their help to teach a bit about short term savings for something they would like, and long term for larger items so they can see the increase and even gifts for somene, and giving to a charity, or church tithing, etc. depending on your lifestyle.
Don’t feel guilty. Your children are resilient and if you explain things to them you’ll be amazed at how understanding they can be and even supportive. You need to feel centered in order to be a good mom and if your business brings you balance, giving that up will only create resentment.
First of all I want you to know I have been a follower and subscriber of yours for a while and although I have never posted a comment, I never miss a video 😊 My son (also 7) had some things to say about my work during the day during quarantine VERY similar to your son's. My heart was broken. I just wanted to sympathize with you and let you know that you are not alone!!!!
I am so right there with you girl! I have a 1 year old, 3 year old, and 6 year old. The 3 year old had school twice a week, and the 6 year old was in kindergarten, so I used those days to get a lot done, and the 3 year old and 1 year old napped each day so that would give me a good 1-2 hour window to work. Now that everyone is home 24/7 I've had a hard time finding balance, and getting a routine going. Your video helped me feel like I'm not failing, and that wanting to work does not equal me being a bad mom. Balancing all of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, childcare, school, and work is pretty overwhelming. Thank you so much for your honesty and vulnerability. Your message really touched me and I appreciate you!
Very great advice. You handled it right.
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If it brings you joy and contributes to family comfort, that’s nothing to feel guilty about.
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Have you tried giving them jobs during your work time like bagging up the inventory, taping the boxes, putting labels on shipments etc???? I think it is healthy for kids to see their mom work and contribute to the household income. Kids have to realize that unfortunately grown ups have to pay for living.... Your channel is so meaniful and truthful and i love it. Dont quit. You would probably go crazy if you didnt work...
You've got it! Kids need to see you work, it builds work ethic. I have done both, stayed home and worked outside. Now I work at home. I tell them to work when I work. Homework, cleaning, we have even given them garden chores. It makes for an all in this together sort of thing. Then we are free together later. :)
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Great video with a great message for mom's and dad's alike. You are a good mom....bad moms don't ask if they are doing a good job or worry about their kid's happiness. We all have to do what we feel is life giving and working gives meaning to most of our lives. I'm a stay at home mom and sell part time also and have 2 kids. Mine are older than yours(9 and 11) but I have been selling online since before they were born. There are days I work on it for a few hours, and then days I don't....I just do the best I can with what feels good for that day, and I think that's all you can do: do what feels right, right now. Yes kids grow up fast, but you also can't wait to start your life and fill your cup when they have moved out. I love your videos and thanks for sharing!
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You are amazing! We've all felt mom guilt -- make sure you're also feeling good about what you are learning and accomplishing. The serious chat with the kids about the relationship between work, money, expenditures, and doing fun things that cost $ is incredibly important. Well done!
Don’t quit! If you keep a balance with kids and work you are doing good. When you choose to resell you will have to spend a lot of hours to be successful. Your kids will understand why you work so much when they are older. One day your children will move out to go to college and leave you. Your life and goals matter so much as well!
You are an amazing mom! Your children don’t know yet, but one day, when they grow up, they will be wondering what have they done to have such a wonderful mother.
Love your heart Ashley. You are a good mom! It’s great you and your husband teach your kids a good work ethic. That is one of the best lessons you can teach them. Thanks for the openness and honesty.
I wish every parent I’ve nannied for had your mentality , you’re doing the right thing . I wish my mom worked from home when I was a kid that’s a blessing in its self
You should have just explained to them that you need to make money to afford your kids, and if you can’t work then you will have to sell your kids on eBay. I am sure that would have made it all better :)
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Hahaha and then guess what his next letter would be written on? 😂 Poor thing he will understand one day but really it is a nice complement he just wants to be with his loved ones all day ❤️
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Very important topic! I think you're definitely on the right track. Nothing is perfect, but I think having honest conversations like that with your children will empower them to feel knowledgeable and understand where you're coming from as parents. Good luck!
I am glad you came around and realized that mom needs time to work. I decided to stay home when my second child was born and I started selling online. My baby will be 20 this year. You learn to adjust your business around the rhythm of life. My kids learned that the mornings were their time during school breaks and afternoons were time I did things with them, went swimming, went on outings, etc. It all turned out well and now as adults they truly appreciate that I was able to be home with them but also worked to help contribute to our family. It really is just finding what works best for your family.
You're a great mom! You are setting a good foundation for your children and they will understand what you are doing when they are older and have kids of their own. I have two myself although they are a little older than yours. Keep up the good work and thank you for being a great mother. Need more moms like you.
Your friend and their counsel was wise. Having wise friends says a lot about you. Well done.
My wife is a full-time UPS driver. I am full-time ebay and stay at home Dad. Being a stay at home dad is definitely the hardest job I ever had. When its time for me to work though "hey kids I'm going down to the basement to get some work done" 4 yr old and 7 yr old. In addition coach my sons baseball and trying to grow a youtube channel. As adults, and parents we deserve to be happy and have time to ourselves!
I just subscribed to your channel too! 😊
Wow how long have you been doing eBay to make it to were you can do it full time
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I can relate so much... You got me in tears. Mom life is tough!! Thank you for sharing and making me feel normal.
I think its a natural reaction for many who work from home. I had the same feelings as you, its hard at first when little ones see you at home and can't understand why you can't just stop when ever you want. Having a talk and creating the little door knob tags I think is a very smart idea. It gives the kids something to look forward to and a expectation of the answer they might get if they try to ask for some time when the stop sign is showing. Working from is the best thing that has happened for me, it did take some time to get the rest of the family to really understand this is a job and if I take 3hrs to do something with them it means I need to make up those 3hrs.
So smart of you to talk it over with someone who knows you and your children well and work it through with your husband. Don’t forget children believe they are the center of the universe and not all their whims can be indulged however much we may wish to. Also when you grow concerned about how they are doing look at evidence such as sleeping, playing, interactions and kindness not just what they’re asking for ... you’re so thoughtful and generous, you can trust yourself to get it right often enough. If you had a girl you would still have it in your future to hear a teenage girl say “I hate you!” when she doesn’t mean it at all. Your Kids know you’re someone safe to talk about whatever they’re thinking even if it’s not strictly accurate 😂🤣. Best wishes. ❤️❤️
Absolutely amazing parenting! You are setting them up to lead the world.
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I think a lot of us got thrown into situations that we quickly had to adapt to the challenges in order to continue. I have had to telework for 50% of my full-time job compared to maybe one telework day every couple of months. Every single day I go to work now, my 3 year old asks me where I went because she missed me and it tears at my heart to know that this is only temporary. I'm very grateful that I have this flexibility to continue to work as I'm the sole provider for our household (long story there). I resell part-time on the side and can understand your pain of trying to juggle it all. I try to be very clear that sometimes I can't do xyz because I need to do this first. My kids are pretty understanding but I always try to get everything done before bedtime in order to cuddle with my youngest in bed and read her a story. This is our precious time.
Thank you for making this video!! This is something I have struggled with tremendously since I became a SAHM/WAHM 1 year ago when my 2nd child was born. I struggle with the guilt of wanting to work more/make money money/achieve more...frankly, I think it’s just my personality and how I’m wired. I’ve always been an achiever. So even though I love my kids SO much, I need something outside of “momming” to make me happy. I’ve also struggled the last year because it seems that my husband, even though he is a wonderful, caring man, does not share the same guilt and issues, and I think that is common for men. It’s probably silly, but I feel jealous that my husband can get away for hours on the weekends to do simple things like mow the lawn, work on our basement, run errands, etc...sometimes these things take all day without him realizing it, while I’m stuck inside (again) caring for the kids and struggling to get 5 items listed and clean, etc, all while wrangling the kids simultaneously. 😔 We just recently had a conversation that I need time for myself to get work done too...it has just always seemed that my work has not been as “important”, even though to me, it is very important- the money I make from reselling helps pay our bills each month and it is important for me to have something for myself for my mental health. Ugh. Anyway, thank you for sharing- just wanted to let you know you are not alone! ❤️ Good idea to talk with the kids and explain why you need to work. Someday they will look back and be thankful for what you did for your family, and will see you as the total badass you are! 💪🏻
Oh my gosh, THIS. Yes! I feel so much the same way. It’s such a struggle sometimes. My husband and I have frequent conversations about this and I do need to remind him that hey, I have to get some things done too 😂. But he also has things he needs to do that are also important... hence the juggling act. Hang in there!! We got this, right? ❤️🙏🏻
This was EXCELLENT! I heard you loud and clear! I'm a stay-at-home working-from-home wife and mom, and I homeschool our ONLY child (which adds to his need for my time and attention). I found ways to make sure he was having good social opportunities too, but all that stopped of course, with this year's regulations and stay in place orders. It can be hard, and I feel like I need space to work alone more, but then I'm concerned about him while I'm busy. It's quite a thing to balance. I just bought a well laid out planner this week so that I can really PLAN our homeschool / business (and even housework and play) better this coming school year.
Please remember...not only are you providing for your family and of course satisfying that need to have something for yourself...you're helping 54,000+ people achieve a dream of starting their own Ebay business and staying encouraged while doing it ! I started this adventure when I lost my job due to Covid. I've watched a TON of videos on here to try and understand how online selling works but your videos are like my gospel ! You're genuine and honest with your advice and explain all the small details. I appreciate that.
I should also say..I understand mom guilt. I've been there a few times. :) You're doing exactly the right thing in creating a balance. I won't say your mom guilt will go away. It will stay there sitting in the back of your mind and poking your heart every now and then. When it does just go back and watch this video :) Very encouraging words.
Oh this is so nice! Thank you so much!
The last thing you need from us is validation. Through your narrative, you've shown yourself to be a caring, loving, thoughtful, adaptable human being - that in turn makes you a pretty good parent. All a parent can do is be the best person possible which in turn gives them an example of how to live. Lead by example and take the time to explain - and even then mistakes will happen. It makes them stronger.
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Teaching those life skills now is so awesome, it's not all fun and games sometimes. Thanks for sharing makes me realize someone else has same struggles too. Look forward to your videos
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I think you’re a creative, kind, smart mom🥳. Smart to discuss these issues and to be transparent. Head up moving forward. Thanks for sharing -- you are a gem😇
Great video! I have 4 kids 5 and under and the Mom guilt is real! You’re totally right, there is no perfect balance, you just have to do the best you can and I’ve learned for us I just have to have a lot of flexibility in my schedule as far as when I can fit work in. Thanks for sharing and being an encouragement!
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I think you handled it perfectly! My son took time to adjust to my reselling hobby (I have a FT career too). For me it's a hobby and I told him I really enjoy it, like he enjoys playing videogames. We still have tons of family time, especially right now. 😄 My son is an only child, so it's always tag team between my husband and me, which helps, because he's playing with his dad while I work on reselling. But, FT jobs + reselling + at-home learning + pandemic is crazy! This is just a season and it will get better. 💖
100% relate to this video... this current situation has thrown a wrench into everyone’s best laid plans, and we are all doing the best we can.
That is amazing! I deal with the guilt all the time and struggle with balancing everything. It certainly helps to have a supportive hubby! I wish mine was supportive like that, Id be able to accomplish that much more if he were.
I have been watching your videos for almost two years, which is when I started reselling in eBay. I learnt a lot about selling clothing from you, which makes you a great mentor! Eventually, I stopped selling clothing because I started selling Rotherham things that I found easier to sell, but I continued watching your your videos because I found you to be so sincere, so enlightening in more ways than just selling. This video verifies my believe! Thanks for the work you do, for being such a great person, and reseller! You are inspiring in many ways!
This is just so kind of you!! Thank you for tuning in all these years!!
I am a Stay at Home Dad ,I ended up getting temporary laid off from my job and ended up doing eBay / Mercari full-time. I have 2 daughters 11 and 15. They are old enough to understand what I do and they pretty much do their own thing. When they were younger between ages of 1 through 5, I was working from home also, so I can relate to what you are going through right now. I am sure it is really hard to find the time to balance being a Wife, Mom, and Entrepreneur all at the same time. You have to put aside time for yourself, if not you will go crazy. Love watching your videos, I have learned a lot from you. Take Care and stay safe.
Aww Ash! I just wanna give you a hug 😢🤗 You definitely handled it well and I’m glad you’ve discussed you trying to navigate a work life balance a lot on your channel lately ...Because that’s reality for most people and it can be very tricky. But amen I totally agree learning how to be independent is a crucial topic especially at an early age and we have to learn to share our time and definitely learn that it’s okay to do the things we enjoy simply because we enjoy them (aka your job!) 🤗 I got into this career because of the freedom it gives and for the flexibility for our future family! They probably won’t realize it soon, but one day they will understand and be beyond grateful for the sacrifices you and your husband have had to make. But at the end of the day, you will always put them first ☺️ But it totally think it’s doable, you’re living proof that you TOTALLY can have work life balance. Doesn’t mean it’s easy, but you figure it out 💁♀️❤️ Sending you my love as always, take care! 🥰
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Thank you for this video! From a mom who struggles with this everyday.
Omg I literally clicked this bc I have been dealing with the EXACT SAME FEELINGS AND SCENARIO. And it is SO hard mentally and emotionally...my youngest one was recently diagnosed with autism and all his appointments and therapies take up SO much time and in between that is obviously all normal mom duties and time you make to be present and play with your kids...unfortunately his dad hasn’t really stepped up the way he should have when it comes to being a Father so again just about all of the daily duties land on me solely which makes my guilt even worse bc I feel I need to make up for his dad not being around in terms of attention and feeling like he knows he’s my number 1...and to top of off his half sister is now in high school and is at the age of not wanting to hang out or play with her baby brother (bc of such a big age difference) Honestly I have been REALLY struggling. Like you I too am already guilt prone and have such a high fear of having regrets when it comes to his childhood that is already such a small amount of time as is...so I want to thank you for just being open/honest and shedding some much needed attention to such a deep and important issue that I know a lot of moms out there are dealing with and trying to juggle...✌️💕
Ashley your precious little ones are so blessed to have a caring sensitive Mommy like you. Oh how I know about guilt in having to work. I became a single Mom and the major support of my children. I had to work outside the home which broke my heart but I couldn’t let them go without the necessities of life. I worked three jobs two of which I could take my children with me. I would work at night writing newspaper articles when they were sleeping. I could take them with me to the studio when I recorded commercials and the radio staff loved them.
I was an administrative assistant during the day when they were in school. They grew up to be wonderful loving hardworking husbands and fathers. One dear son just celebrated a 28th wedding anniversary and the dear son will be celebrating a 22 years wedding anniversary. I’m so proud of them but I am still riddled with guilt of having to work so much. I so wished I had a home based business so we all could have been together first thing after they returned home from school. Instead a sitter would greet them instead of me. Ashley I love your attitude toward wanting to be a good mother and communicating with your children. It’s the most challenging but rewarding job in the world. You remind me of the Proverbs 31 wife and mother in the Bible. Btw I’m in my seventies and I am learning so much from you about EBay as I want to start selling to supplement my Social Security. You are a precious beautiful young lady. Thank you.
What an inspiring person you are!! Your children are so blessed to have you and to know of the many sacrifices you made for them. 🥰❤️🙏🏻 thank you for your kind words!!
Just came across your channel and this video reminded of when my son was younger.I am a single mom and he wouldn’t understand that working from home was still work. But as he got older he doesn’t even want to hang out with me 😓 I feel so guilty working or even go to the gym
As a mom, this really spoke to me. Thank you!
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Good applications. I work from home and started that when I was pregnant for our son. Very similar thoughts, emotions, experiences however, as you have already outlined, you do teach them so many lessons because they SEE you working on a business. Our son is now 19 years old and he absorbed those lessons where they come ‘natural’ to him now in university. We did a family weekly/monthly goal chart for fun things or times and he earned Stars for helping meet those goals and that would lead to a Bonus for him with Star points. He’d get to place a Star on the chart and watch his participation cause a positive affect and the Bonus (he’d choose within boundaries we established). He could earn low level Bonus, mid-range, and full-on Bonuses (he’d earn all 3). Your children will remember mom and dad were always there for the truly important moments. And, along the way learn LIFE lessons. Our son never received an allowance- he was taught how to earn his own money from a young age and how to negotiate for more! From placing my labels on product to assisting me at an appointment to working a vendor booth with me and public speaking before kindergarten! You keep doing what is best for your family.
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I would like suggest a few things. One have a written schedule for you, your husband and kids schedule. The schedule should have manipulatives. Example your schedule is in a chart. As you complete that days schedule, the kids can move a picture of you to the next box of your scheduled activity. It involves them and gives a visual they can consult. They should have a bunch of activities they can do while you you work. The picture could be of blocks or blocks with them playing with blocks. It could be read a book, a picture of them reading a book, I’m sure you get the idea. Also, use a clock/timer with an alarm/bell they can watch. When your work time is over you can look at what pictures are on the their schedule and talk about what book they read and what is was about or the blocks chosen and what they built. If it is a tv show what their favorite part was. The timer really helps them with time as time is an abstract concept without a visual for children. There are others ideas out there. Make video about what you do and ask for other ideas, I’m constantly amazed at peoples creativity. Then use what works best for your individual child/children.
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Yep I sure know about the guilt us working parents have, I have 3 sons the oldest is autistic their dad was abusive so during our divorce I had to get a full time job for income and insurance and everyday I would go to work I felt like the worst mom in the world, I had to have a heart to heart with my sons and they would help each other and for a while it was such a struggle, but we all did our part so we would never have to put up which their dads abuse. Now they are young men and last year I was able to pay off our house they are doing well and have turned out to be awesome human beings. When I start saying how I feel I wasn’t a good enough mother to them they are quick to point out that I have always been there for them. So please continue to do what makes you happy.
Imagine the story your little boy would write if you and your husband lost their job or business. These are truly momentous times and many parents are in a far worse position. We all have to make sacrifices for our children’s future. Stay strong as the next few years are going to get even tougher
oh yes and because of you I kept going and I help the animals so you are helping the animals here OK thank you so much, you are so nice and beautiful and awesome!! blessed ..so don't worry , I don't mean to tell you what to do , but you are such an awesome girl lady mom,thankyou your friend Lena Teresa animalf
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I work from home as well with my little one reselling and it is definitely hard sometimes! But you seem so organized and so good at it. You are a wonderful mom. I think that working as your own boss causes you to question things more. It’s easier to quit too when things seem imbalanced and oh the mommy heart 👩👧👦
Look at the long term. I had a career and worked 50 plus hours a week. We had great quality time together and I was able to include them in my job sometimes. They are grown now and are great adults and we have a wonderful relationship. Don’t sweat it!
Exactly... you do the best you can. All you can do is all you can
My son who is 6 said to me during all of this which I have been working so much more because I was afraid of what my full time job income was going to look like this if/when the economy goes to shit he said "You dont always have to do this mom like sell stuff all the time and work" and explained to him it really makes me happy and this is how mommy makes sure our family and your boys have everything you need and want exc. Then he helped me list and we make it a regular thing of him helping. He even sold his first thing on offer up and was so excited! lol It was an old toy he didnt use anymore.
Love this!
We're experiencing the same thing over here. Great pointers Ma!
Thanks!
I think they’ll understand when they’re a little older. They’re young now so they don’t understand that mommy has to work to make money in order to provide for them and put a roof over their head and food on the table and buy them things they need and want.
I wouldn’t beat yourself up too bad about this because, honestly, it’s necessary.
Her best bet is to give her kids up for adoption if her job is priority
My boys are 4 and 9 I always share the phrase "if you don't work you dont eat".they understand
Great video. Thanks for sharing.
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Totally know what you mean!!! Balance of work and life is really important and easy to say family is everything... But you've got to pay the bills
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This is actually a big challenge I didnt understand at first.
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I have a 7 year old and 4 year old.. My 7 year old told my husband Im on my computer all the time ...I resell and am in real estate. I have home schooled them through the pandemic and thought I was doing well. My heart broke when he said that :( I realized that I dont have a good schedule and I need to re evaluate.
You saying that your oldest is strong willed made me smile. I knew my daughter was going to be strong willed, and stubborn, very stubborn. Strong child = strong adult
He will understand that momma needs to work. He'll get it when you can't get him something that we wants but he has to go through that experience. The balance is delicate. Me growing up was a different experience. My mom worked and partied almost every day. So we bounced from babysitter to babysitter. I still have insomnia to this day, partiality because of my ultra sensitivity to light but the other half was staying up waiting for my mom to pick us up. My sister and I would count cars. Like we would say, OK she'll be here in the next 10 cars, ok the next 10, 15. We would then just count certain colored cars. It only worked a handful of times. When I think about it, it's sad lol.
So you're doing a fantastic job, you're family is doing the Right job.
My mom not so much. The missus and I went on similar paths in that we got all the party out of us before we had a child. I didn't want to bounce my child from house to house. There's no bitterness with my mom, she's paying for it now but I help her. And that's another thing to since yall are doing a great job, the boys will be forgiving as time goes by.
Don't beat yourself up too much over it too much
I think you're doing a wonderful job. Your love for your kiddos is evident and I'm sure you will figure out what works best for you. We have a daily routine, I block schedule and batch tasks (I work from home and homeschool, pre- COVID), and both I and the kids have a good handle on what's coming next in our day. After lots (and lots) of practice, if for some reason I have to work when they're awake, they do a pretty good job of playing independently. Ditto on the oxygen mask. I absolutely love serving my family, but the guilt became too much and God's grace really helped me to re- evaluate what *I* needed. I use a planner and my digital calendar to streamline the things in my day that have to get done (and keep me on track). Sometimes, they want to help. My oldest is also 7 and she likes to help measure, put away inventory, and other age appropriate tasks. My 2 year old likes to "measure" and clean. ☺️ It took us a while to get here, but our days run much more smoothly, now. Praying for your sweet family and wishing you all the best. 💗
Thank you sooo much for this insight into your life!! You sound amazingly organized and have achieved what I’m seeking, so it’s inspiring for me to read! And I’m glad I’m not alone in all this! 🥰❤️
@@HustleatHomeMom You're very welcome! Hang in there! You've got this! 💗
Oh my goodness such great tips to help stay organized! Kudos to you I am sure it hasn't been easy but you def gotta pat yourself on the back very happy to hear your days are running much more smoothly now :) Take care and sending my love to you and your family! :)
@@EssentialEndeavours Thank you so much! You are too kind! 💗 It's been trial and error, for sure, but I'm so grateful for every minute of it. Wishing you all the best!
Thanks for sharing Ashley!
oh my goodness thank you so much I do try to show my daughter will things about working you don't like yes it's good to teach your kids write thank you so much for inspiring me and I'm an adult so yes thank you so much you're awesome and you're so nice we like you so much my daughter likes you so much too
I needed this today! Thank you
wow. that letter would have cut me too. but youll be fine, think of this, i went to irac in 2009 and it was hard but daddy had to work and you did real good talking about it, god will help ya. as long as you guys talk as a family and listen as a family. and a good mom as you are with a great heart youll be great at the parent thing and even your job too. anyway keep your head up high and thank god for your family friends and your online job. love ya sis be strong
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Young people deserve all the love and attention possible. I ran away from home at 16 due to a mentally and physically abusive household. I had to fend for myself ever since. While we should listen to children and care for them, a work-at-home parent such as yourself has already made a huge commitment to the family. The ability to stop and help the family at any time is a benefit that cannot be understated. The convenience and flexibility of a home business offers are epic. While we should negotiate with young people and work things out, if it were up to them, they would eat chocolate all day and play video games endlessly! Perhaps not your children? You are doing an amazing thing to be available, at home, to your family. There is no quality of life working 9 to 5 on salary. The only hope for your children is sacrifice. Putting food on the table, paying for expenses, saving for braces and college is super expensive.
My mom made those sacrifices and back when I was a child, I spent most days at home by myself or with my siblings. Both my parents worked and we had no babysitter. Times are different now. That would not longer be permitted legally. You are an extraordinary mom, hang in there.
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I needed to hear this reminder!
As a single mom of two I’m well aware of mom guilt! One interesting thing happened as mine got older, all the times I stressed myself out to make sure I attended alllll their concerts and games, they never remembered! WHA?!? The message is, find a balance because they won’t remember half of it anyway. Do the best you can ;)
Sounds like they are smart enough to help with little tasks to speed up the 'work.' I know my kids are older, 10 and 14, but I tell them that if I'm left to do everything it will be a long time before we can sit down and watch a movie or go to the beach. Time Economics.
Yea she can make her kids employees
working dad syndrome is just as real, trust me I feel you.
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You should not feel guilty. You need to do what you need to do to provide. However, I can say that I stayed home for 9 years and returned to work as a teacher when my kids were in intermediate grades. I don't regret being home with them at all. I wouldn't have traded it for anything in the world. My mom passed away when I was 12 years old and one never knows how much time we have on this earth. My 2 boys are my mark in the world that I leave behind. I couldn't do both ...or at least do both well...so our funds were very low for 9 years but my kids didn't know the difference.
I love that I get to be with my boys! This is great perspective, thank you!
Maybe have them help you and show them what you do...they might be more understanding and they can spend time with you. Show them the money you make and see how a business works..involve them..I know they are young..but kids understand more than we realize ... :) Just an idea...if they are getting rid of toys or clothing..let them help you list them..then show them how much money they got and let them save it for something they really want...( silly idea probably but thought id share it) Im proud of you.....your kids might not realize it now..but as they get older...they will be too... youre doing great...dont feel guilty! :)
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Balance is what we all need(ed) as moms! They need to know they are most important in your life and they need to know you honor your responsibilities. It sounds like you figured out a great balance that works for now! When they go back to school, you can invest more time in the business!
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My ex is constantly making comments to me in front of my kids and to them when they are alone how all I care about is “my eBay” and reselling and i just do it for fun cuz I rather do that then spend time with them. I had to sit my kids down and explain to them that this is how I am able to feed them, pay my bills, buy them all the toys and restaurants and activities they ask for. While I’m happy to spend my money on them I couldn’t buy them everything they want - and why they never feel like they are lacking in what they want - I couldn’t do it without all the work i put into reselling. They need to understand that I need to work hard to make money - the only diff is that they see the work vs just knowing I go to an office and they don’t actually see the work.
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Love your videos!! Quick question!: how do you manage your kids store? How do you do?
Kids say all kinds of stuff, 3 months from now they'll say "you bug us too much". Adults have to work, plain and simple. if you don't need the money to survive, scale back, if you need it then give junior an ipad and a facebook account and tell him to kick rocks.
A book! Art supplies! Facebook is not really healthy or helpful. Get their brains and creativity juices flowing! Or play outside for excercize and health.
Your Son is going to do GREAT things in this life..Maybe even be President of the United States! :)) HAHA! Always good enjoying my morning coffee with some Hustle at Home Mom!
Lot Better than mom, there's holes in my shoes or mom I'm starving ...damn that
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don't worry you are so awesome we love you and appreciate you inspiring me!! us my daughter, I told her you were being driven crazy, just kidding, just really busy!!but now I guess it's a little bit different but you also made a deal with your kid one time about," if he's good you'll go to.um.oh panda expess.omg I say the same thing to my kid about the airplane OMG yeah so you have to but you're so blessed to have a husband and kids and that's awesome so don't worry it just relax you're awesome and perfect K thank you for helping everybody you're so nice💛💜💚🐕🐾🌻🌴🐈💞🐢🌈🎬💕🐝
That’s life. I’m not trying to be negative but if you can afford to devote 100% to your kids do it. If you can’t then work to provide for them 🤷♀️ Don’t overthink it. Most kids that age won’t remember. Trust me.....they won’t.
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Why don't you let them help you, introduce them to what you do and show them how to help and make it a little educating as well. Have them help you and then let them help your husband that way they can see how hard you work for the family and that you all work together, then take a little time off and play with them outside or in their room. As long as you share some of your work time with them they will understand what you do.
You’re doing great...you should check out commonwealth picker’s you tube channel, he has the perfect setup with his kids...I wish I’d have done this when my kids were small :) the kids are Homeschool hustlers, I think..
Ok, first I love your videos, however as a mom of 2 grown successful children I have to say if you have a first grader, young children you can’t expect to take a “nap or read a book while your children are around. I can’t imagine or ever took a nap or read a book when my children were up and around. Meaning not sleeping. However explaining to them that mom needs to carve some time out for work that benefits the family.But they can’t be expected to understand that at their age either. I sacrificed a lot when my children were younger to be available. This is a difficult time, but I do know if you have a supportive husband as it seems you do you are fortunate.
Hi! Thank you for your comment! I respectfully disagree, but maybe we can agree to disagree 🥰. My kids have my full time and attention most of the day, where we do activities, splash pad, park, all the things. But then we have some quiet time for a little while where they read or build Legos while I rest, read, or work. Then we pick back up and make dinner together, have a family night out, what have you. They seem to understand far more than I thought they would when we discussed it. But then again, this is what seems to work for me and our family! Definitely no “one size fits all” solution for everyone! ❤️
My daughter is 23 and she has the reselling bug! She already writes down all the estate and garage sale dates and times. When my daughter was little, I worked 55 hours a week in the corporate world as a single parent and she turned out just fine. Just remember it's about quality vs quantity time.
I'm a guy that likes listening to what you have to say. I have learned a lot, thank you very much and all the best in these times. Keep up the good work.
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I’d say just quit eBay. Too much work between eBay and family. Family is first. Your kids will grow and never come back. Enjoy their young days. Just sell your inventory in flea markets so you at least get some money back
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