I couldn't agree more, been meaning to suggest the same. Love your pod, from a 67 yr old lesbian in the UK who was a queer activist in the 80's and they'll be plenty like me in America
Mal is such a good interviewer! She listens intently and asks great questions even when the topic doesn’t directly relate to her. This podcast is my favorite discovery of 2024
Hey Mal, i’m so grateful to you for doing these podcasts. You have no idea how meaningful it is to be able to hear someone else’s story and to relate in some way or just learn a new perspective on things. It’s been so impactful to me and has allowed me to sort through my feelings so thank you 🩷
I agree with what you said, Mal. Being in a queer relationship often means we already challenge societal norms, making us more comfortable with discussing things that might make strangers uncomfortable. As a result, we’re more open to having deeper or unconventional conversations with our partners and exploring things that many straight couples might never consider.
As always, a fantastic interview and very timely conversation given the current political/societal climate we're in. I deeply appreciated the early part of the conversation about the generational differences within the queer community. I was deeply in the closet from 18-28 at the height of the Reagan era, where I hid and suppressed my orientation/identity through promiscuity and addiction. Coming out at 28 (1990) was selective, given feelings of still not being safe and the lack of legal protection. When Carmen shared about what things were like when they came out (2002), I was just turning 40 and didn't feel like I could still be fully accepted, even though I was fully out. My mid-40's through late 50's have been the free-est I've actually felt. Began identifying as non-binary/queer in late 50's, got top surgery at 60! With the anticipation of another era of the orange satan and return of transphobia, I am grateful for my journey (much like what Carmen has been able to anchor in) yet am quite terrified for young folks, esp trans youth, trying to find their way safely.
Mel, the common point of all your exchanges is their intelligence as well as this touching fiber that all your guests exude.. Bravo! Fear is a legitimate emotion, once identified we must welcome it ...nuance it with apprehension and not give others the opportunity or the power to control it..
The quarter life crisis was hitting hard, but this was so comforting. There's so much anxiety these days and accepting that we're all clowns in this fucked up circus is just the reminder I needed! Thanks for the great episode
Some advice re:egg freezing. It's a great choice for straight women as they haven't found their male partner yet but for lesbians, I would consider embryo freezing. That's what myself and my partner did. We picked our sperm donor and retrieved eggs and then just made embryos. The sneaky problem with egg freezing is that you go through all the same work but you don't know how many embryos they will make if any at all and then sometimes people wait years and then go with the one round of egg retrieval from years earlier only to get maybe one or two embryos that don't stick. If you make embryos now you'll know how many you have and if you didn't get many you can do another round of retrieval while you're still 31/32 (which means your eggs are more likely to be chromosomally normal). We ended up with 8 embryos and froze them for three years then had our baby daughter from that set.
I feel seen. It’s also very difficult for me to look people in the eyes when I’m talking to them. I do look here and there but my eye contact is sparse especially when I’m speaking. I’m good at looking at someone when they’re speaking though.
100% agree with Cameron. As a masc lesbian I am discriminated against everywhere. This is in the liberal city I live, almost anywhere I travel to. You tell me it's great for gays, it's a gay neighborhood, still likely not accepting of me. Makes me happy to come home to a liberal city in the states and only be discriminated against most of the time.... People don't realize we aren't all treated the same.
Please could you have an older guest - 60-70? I would love too see and hear another additional perspektiv of life . Thanks
Specially queer perspectives!
Late Life Lesbian has had some later in life individuals on her podcast.
I couldn't agree more, been meaning to suggest the same. Love your pod, from a 67 yr old lesbian in the UK who was a queer activist in the 80's and they'll be plenty like me in America
Please have seniors on. We're out here totally alone. Love your pod, always interesting. Thanks Mal.❤
🌈Soooo happy to see u again, Carmen E. I've missed you, hope ur feeling better. You're the best. 💕💕
Mal is such a good interviewer! She listens intently and asks great questions even when the topic doesn’t directly relate to her. This podcast is my favorite discovery of 2024
thank youuu🥹 this makes me so happy. can’t wait for another year!!
Hey Mal, i’m so grateful to you for doing these podcasts. You have no idea how meaningful it is to be able to hear someone else’s story and to relate in some way or just learn a new perspective on things. It’s been so impactful to me and has allowed me to sort through my feelings so thank you 🩷
It's so nice to hear wisdom from people ahead of you in life, it makes me feel comforted and more ready for the years ahead 😊
when they said “everybody feels like shit” - that was the most comforting thing i’ve heard in a whileeeeee.
I agree with what you said, Mal. Being in a queer relationship often means we already challenge societal norms, making us more comfortable with discussing things that might make strangers uncomfortable. As a result, we’re more open to having deeper or unconventional conversations with our partners and exploring things that many straight couples might never consider.
Long time listener/audience member of Cameron’s. So nice to hear about their life now and watch them again. Great conversation!
As always, a fantastic interview and very timely conversation given the current political/societal climate we're in. I deeply appreciated the early part of the conversation about the generational differences within the queer community. I was deeply in the closet from 18-28 at the height of the Reagan era, where I hid and suppressed my orientation/identity through promiscuity and addiction. Coming out at 28 (1990) was selective, given feelings of still not being safe and the lack of legal protection. When Carmen shared about what things were like when they came out (2002), I was just turning 40 and didn't feel like I could still be fully accepted, even though I was fully out. My mid-40's through late 50's have been the free-est I've actually felt. Began identifying as non-binary/queer in late 50's, got top surgery at 60! With the anticipation of another era of the orange satan and return of transphobia, I am grateful for my journey (much like what Carmen has been able to anchor in) yet am quite terrified for young folks, esp trans youth, trying to find their way safely.
this is incredible - what a journey, thank you for sharing! ❤
Cameron is only 43 lolol… I’m 49, and just 6 years younger to me feels SOOOO YOUNG lol!!! I love her tho so this is so great 💖
Mel, the common point of all your exchanges is their intelligence as well as this touching fiber that all your guests exude.. Bravo!
Fear is a legitimate emotion, once identified we must welcome it ...nuance it with apprehension and not give others the opportunity or the power to control it..
Very helpful, thanks for sharing! 🌸
She is real life Shane from The L word
your hair looks really good in this episode Mal ! :)
So good! Thanks!
The quarter life crisis was hitting hard, but this was so comforting. There's so much anxiety these days and accepting that we're all clowns in this fucked up circus is just the reminder I needed! Thanks for the great episode
The circus that is life 🤡🤡🤡
Another great episode thank you Mal as always ❤️ 👏
I love love the themes of this interview ❤️
I also love how the funny interruptions in the conversations, it sort of lightened the mood 😊
Thankyou! thankyou! I thought the "are you her mother!!!!" only happened to us!
happens every time we go through Clear at the airport 🙁 brutal!!! - mathilde
*listens intently in Millennial*
Another great epi🙂 By any chance could we get Rachel Scanlon and McKenzie Goodwin and/or their wives on in the new year?!
Some advice re:egg freezing. It's a great choice for straight women as they haven't found their male partner yet but for lesbians, I would consider embryo freezing. That's what myself and my partner did. We picked our sperm donor and retrieved eggs and then just made embryos. The sneaky problem with egg freezing is that you go through all the same work but you don't know how many embryos they will make if any at all and then sometimes people wait years and then go with the one round of egg retrieval from years earlier only to get maybe one or two embryos that don't stick. If you make embryos now you'll know how many you have and if you didn't get many you can do another round of retrieval while you're still 31/32 (which means your eggs are more likely to be chromosomally normal). We ended up with 8 embryos and froze them for three years then had our baby daughter from that set.
Oh man all the considerations I could have if there were tens of thousands of dollars to spend on making one 😂
Amazing episode!
Mal ur hair looks so gorgina today! Love this episode! I wish I new more queer women in their 40s
40+ year old lesbian...🌈🏳️🌈
Yes! More later in life stories
thank youuuuu🥹 @amika round brush tool is my god.
@ 🥰 thanks for replying!! Huge fan ❤️
I feel seen. It’s also very difficult for me to look people in the eyes when I’m talking to them. I do look here and there but my eye contact is sparse especially when I’m speaking. I’m good at looking at someone when they’re speaking though.
Love this episode 🤍
100% agree with Cameron. As a masc lesbian I am discriminated against everywhere. This is in the liberal city I live, almost anywhere I travel to. You tell me it's great for gays, it's a gay neighborhood, still likely not accepting of me. Makes me happy to come home to a liberal city in the states and only be discriminated against most of the time.... People don't realize we aren't all treated the same.
Belinda!!! 😍
Love the adorable advert look lol
just me and bugs talking about our aura frames 🥰
Mal, perfect baby names: Sofia, Isabela and for a boy David.🤗🤗😉👍🏻
No People were out. I came out at 15.. in the 80s!! When it was not popular or a cool thing to do.
charming - many perspectives - love [comment engagement 💜]
No girl.. getting older is not something you should speak about under 50.
Invite Alexandra Swarens
Oh I can tell you stories about how we were hunted for being gay in the 70’s 80’s. 63 in Canada
Growing up as a woman wanting to be a priest is sooo gaaaayy 😅
Ah, the classic mother daughter forced confusion 😅
She does look like Kevin Bacon...lol... I'm not saying that to be mean...
Kevin Bacon is very attractive!!
@MadeItOutPodcast just like women look like just Justin Beiber
Thought this was the "i'm in queer media" lady
holding space for her
Long time
Does mal realize how beautiful she is?sadly I’m old and male so,I’ve no chance
Wow, I've never experienced a Holy F_ck!!!!!!!!!!!
You young people with your pronoun things are just ridiculous.
"They / them" was simply androgynous
So stop.
Adapt to life changes or become irrelevant, like you.
They’re not going to stop. Don’t let it ruffle your feathers too much.