I would very much like to see someone do a series on the affect of using specific, popular marriage/relationship books/ programs when you're dealing with a Narcissist. Particularly "Love & Respect" and "The 5 Love Languages".
I'm going to help them become self aware through being more assertive _ Nark bites in reverse. ( reverse engineering _ take apart the whole and wait for the humpty dumpty to put themself back together again.) Free Will for MeMe and for YOU_U.
This is sound encouragement. Often I need to remember to be patient with myself and just keep moving forward. Darren, I just noticed your first video was almost four years ago, on April 22. Way to go! Thank you for this channel.
I wish I had run for help at the first clues. Don't ignore your instinct. I did not have family to understand. But doctors perhaps could have helped. When they really think you are figuring them out is when it becomes dangerous in some cases. Like mine, he became horrifically terrorizing and I was officially kidnapped. 😢10 more years.
No disrespect but your comment made me think how Narcissistic abuse is a literal and figurative kidnapping. They entrap and cut one off from all other information. They become sole source of information and thus wield all the control. They run the narrative. Period. They answer ALL questions.
What a truly inspirational video! I love how you go beyond what the narc does to the personal development of the 'victim'. Also recognising in myself how much healing I have managed to do! I feel cheered on! Yay Me! Thanks Darren ❤
I found that even when you do recover that the battle keeps going its just the devil keeps coming up with new tricks and sending new covert agents to get you right back in his trap.
So true .. But I've noticed my antenna is up now.. I don't let it get past polite conversation now, I can sense it and walk away and refuse to give them the time of day..
I’m in the midst of it, legally. When my malignant narcissistic sister started an email sentence with, “If it weren’t for me…” that’s when I turned on the TV. She was trying to give herself and em ur upon me, her power. Power over what? Ensuring that mom died, in the living conditions you never helped her to improve? Skipping off with the family business website, where I know you miss orders, anger customers and can barely update the website I built? Or is it that the door to the house I inherited, is barely functional, by you kicking it in? I guess I need to be grateful, for everything you’ve done. Please do no more. You’ll be in jail, if you do.
For me it’s was like loosing a cloak of shit! Bits of it dripped away quickly an other memories have taken longer. Feels like several tons of shit gone. Thanks for all you do👍👍👍🙏🙏🙏💯💯💯💎💎💎🪬🪬🪬🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
Refuse to believe the lies about yourself, especially the subtle between the lines ones. Refuse to believe because it creeps up on you, especially if it's been years. Remind yourself of your worth, talents and your ability to stand alone DAILY, repeat it like a mantra even if you don't believe it at times . Fake it until you make it.
He has started putting me down in front of our family and people at church. I confronted him and he said I needed to be knocked down below him. He knows he can’t control me any more and is looking for other ways to betray me.
This also happened to me. We'd be eating lunch with friends after church service and he would get up without saying a word. I'd check on him after a couple minutes and discover he'd gone to the restroom and then walked out the side door, towards the parking lot! Without a word! One Sunday he drove to service and I had to come a little bit later, to meet him for the main service. When I got there, I couldn't find him. A friend said he had walked out the back, and he'd just left! He did a few other stunts where we'd be sitting together and he'd just get up and walk out without a word, leave me there. After an hour, he would send me a text message saying he had a meeting to go to...😢 I was really surprised at his brazeness at church.
This was an excellebt series. Thank you, Darren. You've been an invaluable resource the last 8 months as I recover from and try to make sense of my relationship with my ex narc. I also really appreciate your calming and relaxing voice. Many thanks!!
I might've missed an episode so please direct me to that video if my questions are already covered in it. In this instance, I speak of a situation where one recognises that another, say one's colleague or maybe even one's supervisor has and exhibits narcissistic tendencies/behaviours and rather than have to contend directly with that person or play into their hands, one chooses to conceal their true self until such times as it is no longer necessary to be in contact with or be under the influence of that individual? I consider myself to be a reasonable person and so by some reckoning a reasonably easy person to get along with. I've spent a good deal of my professional life working in both the retail industry and also the security industry which means I've experienced many people who might consider themselves as being under stress, as these people can be when they've ended up in the complaints department. I've seen and have dealt with people at their less than best but as a result of this interpretation I've written many of them as merely having a bad day and myself being too lazy to carry grudges, I've often chosen to leave it alone and move on. After having listened to some of your videos it occurs to me that I might've been in regular and relatively close quarters with quite a few people over the years who either were Narcissists or at least shared such traits and at that time I either didn't notice or didn't care that much or maybe they just didn't notice me as a threat to their world view and so didn't react to me in a controlling or hostile manner. I've never really saw them as a threat to mine... What does that say about me? Oblivious? Ignorant? I've long held to the understanding that whilst I can't easily control how others may think, feel, perceive or conduct themselves around me, I can at least control my self especially where these issues are concerned. It could be that through this passive method of self-defence, situations that might've otherwise resulted in someone arcing up may have been mitigated if not entirely diffused. Something worked because during my time in either industry I can count on one hand the number of times I've had to actively contend with overly enthusiastic persons and my professional reputation amongst my employers and colleagues was always as someone who got the job done with as little fuss or bother as was possible... In an industry that was largely word of mouth, I kept on being called back so maybe I was doing something right or maybe I was just rather lucky or maybe a combination of both. I've enjoyed the videos of yours that I've seen so far and I'll go out of my way to see some more. thankyou for your efforts and in guiding me to some insights in those around me.
There Was a Funny Short Where The FireDept Answers Call From A Guy Suffering an Allergic Reaction From Peanuts Only to Discover Him Horking Down a Jar of Peanut Butter and Drinking Benadryl 😋 If It Makes You Sick Dont Keep Consuming It.
Starting to wonder if there's a university these ppl attend and exams they have to pass to attain the title of narcissist.. they all seem to have the same MO and I keep wondering how they manage to have the energy for it.. it's so exhausting..so calculating.. why would anyone spend that much time and energy on something that is going to be their ultimate demise in the end.. but it seems with most it's their first and only go to
Roman soldiers would smell Roman Chamomile flowers before a battle for a boost of courage and energy. It does calm and ground you. Smells nice too. Then there is another flower with many medicinal benefits but has been maligned for decades.
Why do you think Darren should check it out? You should check it out, if you're interested in it! Aromatherapy is a valid therapy, as are essential oils. But since I have lots of food and plant allergies, I became a homeopath, as Homeopathy is nutritional, 12 essential mineral salts already in your body, so you can't be allergic to them. It's a very profound healing system that I've relied on for the last 16 years.
@@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753 indeed I have flower medicine! The reason I requested Darren to check out because, mindsets can be changed for good from flower remedies. So is NPD.
They Ghost you (that's what my ex did to me even though I made a lot of attempts to talk to her). I haven't talked to her since the day after I left her which was on July 30, 2016.
@@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753 ~ She wasn't talking to me much at all for months before I left her so when she ghosted me I was already acclimated to her silent treatment. But I still love her which makes it an unusual situation. I think she actually did love me for the first ten years of our seventeen year relationship, but then she started going through menopause and over a period of a few years of that she became a completely different person. Her adult daughter noticed it and commented about it more than once. We were both worried about the way her behavior changed so much. It took me about five years to get completely over it.
The transcript of this video is now available on my Substack. darrenfmagee.substack.com/p/reclaiming-your-power
I would very much like to see someone do a series on the affect of using specific, popular marriage/relationship books/ programs when you're dealing with a Narcissist. Particularly "Love & Respect" and "The 5 Love Languages".
They get worse, but you get better.
I'm going to help them become self aware through being more assertive _ Nark bites in reverse.
( reverse engineering _ take apart the whole and wait for the humpty dumpty to put themself back together again.)
Free Will for MeMe and for YOU_U.
They got worse because you got better
Yep.✌️
It is extremely hard to recover from a narcissistic mother, but I'm on my spiritual healing journey 🙏 ❤. Thank you, Darren
It's so worth it. Good luck.
@wendysimpson6395 Thank you, and best wishes to you
This is sound encouragement. Often I need to remember to be patient with myself and just keep moving forward. Darren, I just noticed your first video was almost four years ago, on April 22. Way to go! Thank you for this channel.
This was just the reminder that was needed that i've grown so much and am on the right path. Thank you Darren!!
Simply saying no after 20yrs of YES started months of silent treatment which has been GLORIOUS.
Yes 😂 truly glorious isn't it ! Also 20 years in ,good on us
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Exactly!!! YES! Don't let them know how happy you are with it!
Healing takes time, patience and pain but it’s worth every effort ❤ thank you Darren 😊 God bless you ❤
💯^Infinitely
I wish I had run for help at the first clues. Don't ignore your instinct. I did not have family to understand. But doctors perhaps could have helped.
When they really think you are figuring them out is when it becomes dangerous in some cases. Like mine, he became horrifically terrorizing and I was officially kidnapped. 😢10 more years.
No disrespect but your comment made me think how Narcissistic abuse is a literal and figurative kidnapping. They entrap and cut one off from all other information. They become sole source of information and thus wield all the control. They run the narrative. Period. They answer ALL questions.
I can't help but listen to a man that has those amazing iconic space ships behind him!
Thank you very much, explains many things
This is a great series of talks. 💯
What a truly inspirational video! I love how you go beyond what the narc does to the personal development of the 'victim'. Also recognising in myself how much healing I have managed to do! I feel cheered on! Yay Me! Thanks Darren ❤
Thank you so much Darren. So hard to deal with and get worse with age, especially the covert type tends to get more overt over time.
I found that even when you do recover that the battle keeps going its just the devil keeps coming up with new tricks and sending new covert agents to get you right back in his trap.
Yes this has happened to me
@penijoni1316 you can catch evil spirits just by being around someone who has them if you dont have your spiritual armor on.
So true .. But I've noticed my antenna is up now.. I don't let it get past polite conversation now, I can sense it and walk away and refuse to give them the time of day..
@@1MNUTZlove it!
I’m in the midst of it, legally. When my malignant narcissistic sister started an email sentence with, “If it weren’t for me…” that’s when I turned on the TV.
She was trying to give herself and em ur upon me, her power. Power over what? Ensuring that mom died, in the living conditions you never helped her to improve? Skipping off with the family business website, where I know you miss orders, anger customers and can barely update the website I built? Or is it that the door to the house I inherited, is barely functional, by you kicking it in? I guess I need to be grateful, for everything you’ve done. Please do no more. You’ll be in jail, if you do.
For me it’s was like loosing a cloak of shit!
Bits of it dripped away quickly an other memories have taken longer.
Feels like several tons of shit gone.
Thanks for all you do👍👍👍🙏🙏🙏💯💯💯💎💎💎🪬🪬🪬🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧
Well said
That first sentence. Said everything to me.
Smiles Gratitude & Much Peace
thanks again!👍
Like your models in your display case
Refuse to believe the lies about yourself, especially the subtle between the lines ones. Refuse to believe because it creeps up on you, especially if it's been years. Remind yourself of your worth, talents and your ability to stand alone DAILY, repeat it like a mantra even if you don't believe it at times . Fake it until you make it.
There's no need to fake it. We all have inherent worth, whether another person recognizes it or not.
He has started putting me down in front of our family and people at church. I confronted him and he said I needed to be knocked down below him. He knows he can’t control me any more and is looking for other ways to betray me.
This also happened to me. We'd be eating lunch with friends after church service and he would get up without saying a word. I'd check on him after a couple minutes and discover he'd gone to the restroom and then walked out the side door, towards the parking lot! Without a word! One Sunday he drove to service and I had to come a little bit later, to meet him for the main service. When I got there, I couldn't find him. A friend said he had walked out the back, and he'd just left! He did a few other stunts where we'd be sitting together and he'd just get up and walk out without a word, leave me there. After an hour, he would send me a text message saying he had a meeting to go to...😢 I was really surprised at his brazeness at church.
This was an excellebt series. Thank you, Darren. You've been an invaluable resource the last 8 months as I recover from and try to make sense of my relationship with my ex narc. I also really appreciate your calming and relaxing voice. Many thanks!!
I just finished this short series.
I
FEEL
SEEN
thank you.
And I DON’T mean that sarcastically 🙃
what a ludic description of what life should be despite the energy theives out there
Thank you for this presentation
Great video Darren, I admire your content,
Thank you 🙏
Just simple 🙏 for your wisdom sharing
Im going to be MY AWSOME SELF!
Covert narcs are the worst
We need a close up of the Star Trek display cabinet.
I might've missed an episode so please direct me to that video if my questions are already covered in it. In this instance, I speak of a situation where one recognises that another, say one's colleague or maybe even one's supervisor has and exhibits narcissistic tendencies/behaviours and rather than have to contend directly with that person or play into their hands, one chooses to conceal their true self until such times as it is no longer necessary to be in contact with or be under the influence of that individual?
I consider myself to be a reasonable person and so by some reckoning a reasonably easy person to get along with. I've spent a good deal of my professional life working in both the retail industry and also the security industry which means I've experienced many people who might consider themselves as being under stress, as these people can be when they've ended up in the complaints department. I've seen and have dealt with people at their less than best but as a result of this interpretation I've written many of them as merely having a bad day and myself being too lazy to carry grudges, I've often chosen to leave it alone and move on.
After having listened to some of your videos it occurs to me that I might've been in regular and relatively close quarters with quite a few people over the years who either were Narcissists or at least shared such traits and at that time I either didn't notice or didn't care that much or maybe they just didn't notice me as a threat to their world view and so didn't react to me in a controlling or hostile manner. I've never really saw them as a threat to mine... What does that say about me? Oblivious? Ignorant?
I've long held to the understanding that whilst I can't easily control how others may think, feel, perceive or conduct themselves around me, I can at least control my self especially where these issues are concerned. It could be that through this passive method of self-defence, situations that might've otherwise resulted in someone arcing up may have been mitigated if not entirely diffused.
Something worked because during my time in either industry I can count on one hand the number of times I've had to actively contend with overly enthusiastic persons and my professional reputation amongst my employers and colleagues was always as someone who got the job done with as little fuss or bother as was possible... In an industry that was largely word of mouth, I kept on being called back so maybe I was doing something right or maybe I was just rather lucky or maybe a combination of both.
I've enjoyed the videos of yours that I've seen so far and I'll go out of my way to see some more. thankyou for your efforts and in guiding me to some insights in those around me.
Thank you sir
Both my mother and former father-in-law were covert narcs. All of this is spot on. My father was a grandiose narc, and most of it matches him too.
There Was a Funny Short Where The FireDept Answers Call From A Guy Suffering an Allergic Reaction From Peanuts Only to Discover Him Horking Down a Jar of Peanut Butter and Drinking Benadryl 😋
If It Makes You Sick Dont Keep Consuming It.
Your paint color is beautiful I’ve been wanting to say 😊
Starting to wonder if there's a university these ppl attend and exams they have to pass to attain the title of narcissist.. they all seem to have the same MO and I keep wondering how they manage to have the energy for it.. it's so exhausting..so calculating.. why would anyone spend that much time and energy on something that is going to be their ultimate demise in the end.. but it seems with most it's their first and only go to
Thank you
He left me too bad
narcissists see others as territory
psychopaths see others as food
Can you check out flower medicines? This might help victims.
Roman soldiers would smell Roman Chamomile flowers before a battle for a boost of courage and energy. It does calm and ground you. Smells nice too. Then there is another flower with many medicinal benefits but has been maligned for decades.
I 🧡 thyme. The smell, the mild flavor.
Why do you think Darren should check it out? You should check it out, if you're interested in it! Aromatherapy is a valid therapy, as are essential oils. But since I have lots of food and plant allergies, I became a homeopath, as Homeopathy is nutritional, 12 essential mineral salts already in your body, so you can't be allergic to them. It's a very profound healing system that I've relied on for the last 16 years.
@@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753 indeed I have flower medicine! The reason I requested Darren to check out because, mindsets can be changed for good from flower remedies. So is NPD.
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I prefer to remain blind 😂 I m nothing like my family that s why I got out of the way
They Ghost you (that's what my ex did to me even though I made a lot of attempts to talk to her). I haven't talked to her since the day after I left her which was on July 30, 2016.
You left her? So why do you think she would EVER want to talk to you?
@@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753 ~ She wasn't talking to me much at all for months before I left her so when she ghosted me I was already acclimated to her silent treatment. But I still love her which makes it an unusual situation. I think she actually did love me for the first ten years of our seventeen year relationship, but then she started going through menopause and over a period of a few years of that she became a completely different person. Her adult daughter noticed it and commented about it more than once. We were both worried about the way her behavior changed so much. It took me about five years to get completely over it.
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