Why Do We SELF SABOTAGE Our LP? - STOP LOSING LP! - 5 Stage Process
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I'm a very simple man, I see Coach Curtis, I click
Never heard a bigger fact
Thank you Jake
@@CoachCurtis I'm screenshotting that and pretending you said it to me :')
Agreed, my man breaks down everything!!!!
I find it extremly fascinating how Curtis is almost re-inventing the wheel with learning/teaching methods, self improvement and now we're edging ever closer to just straight up mental health.
I really want a Dr. K and Coach Curtis talk now, even more than before
Very new to this channel, that sounds super interesting to watch
If more teachers were like him, even in school
That would be an interesting conversation
YEEESSSSSSS DR K PLEEEEEAAAAASE
thats actually a very nice idea, i hope to see it soon too, although i find it kinda hard to see it actually happen though
Coach Curtis out here giving free therapy disguised as league of legends videos
Idk if you’ll see this, but Coach Curtis; your genuine compassion for the players of this game shines through with every video and every session. You sincerely care and have a drive to make better League players and just functional human beings in society. Your detail, work ethic, and effort radiates through every video. I’ve learned more than I could have ever hoped for with your videos and I just want to express that gratitude. You are an absolutely phenomenal human being with big goals and a big heart. This video alone helped me realize and expose a few of my inner, more subtle behaviors than can help me improve. Keep doing what you’re doing, you’re changing the League landscape one video at a time.
You are so kind! It is so true what you are saying
Appreciate that Caleb, your a legend. It means a lot to hear this sort of feedback, and to be able to spread what I believe to be such an important message of having a healthier relationship with the game, is something I love doing. Thanks mate
I've been telling my friends as I try to climb through diamond this season, "I don't need a coach, I need a therapist" LOL
It can feel a bit like that at times haha
As a psychology major i can say assure you, it can help you.
Just came off a 10 game loss streak, really needed this. You're a legend.
I completely agree with feeling as a therapist. There are some friends in my friend list that when I play with, I feel like I'm trying to cheer my 5-year old cousin because they just cry/complain all the time. Instead of being 2 bros going all out against enemy team and trying to make the best our of our teammates, he just flames our teammates and thinks that the enemies are gods.
Yeah it's sad to see, you got to lead the way my friend!
When Curtis describe you all long the video ...
Realizing Î'm Self sabotaging myself in league and in my irl life...
This is one of the best content îve ever seen
i participated at neace's bootcamp... we played 100 games in 21 days. In that moment, the rank anxiety didn't even exist xD
Definitely a great way to break it
I feel that therapy point. I coach and I graduated with a psychology degree, and all too often coaching devolves into a therapy session.
When people say they have mental block I ask them if they're getting enough sleep, to which the answer is usually no. Then I ask about whether they're hydrated, getting exercise, etc. This becomes, "well I have depression" and that's when you know it's not coaching anymore.
In my experiences most of the people that want coaching have unresolved issues and they're conflating their ranking to these issues. "I'm not good enough" isn't just referring to the fact they're in silver.
Idk. I literally talked to one of these people an hour ago so the topic is fresh on my mind and I felt compelled to share.
Do you think at some point the right thing to do is to tell them "you're not ready for coaching right now, you have these other problems that are in the way of you improving in league, you should look for a different kind of help"?
Just wondering, I'm sure it's a pretty awkward/difficult situation for the coach
@@joeysung311 it's really tough to say. Illness manifests in different ways. Some people are willing to listen and need to hear it, and some subconsciously push you away if you say it. Some just get coaching because they want someone to validate that they're garbage (yes, that's actually a thing).
I told the guy from earlier that he needs to take better care of himself and that he's not garbage and I was told I was just sugarcoating reality.
The treatment you give should be based on the person and it's tough to know what to say to everyone.
Hi man,
First of all I'm gonna preventively sorry for my English which is not perfect because I'm from Italy.
I wanna thank you so much for all this kind of content because it really helped me playing league in a healthier way and and love the game even more having a little taste of what a competitive way of playing is like.
I wanna add just one thing to the second behaviour:
If you struggle with selfconfidence in league of legends it's probably because either
1 you give too much weight to the game
Or 2 you're just not confident in your life, and if this is the case then I recommend as a friend to go to a psychologist and talk, maybe even get to therapy.
Having a healthy relationship with yourself and being confident in your abilities means living a better life, not necessarily league-correlated.
Don't be afraid of going deep on yourself because maybe league is just an alarm of something not healthy outside of it.
Just a tip from someone who experienced this in first person.
Have a nice day everyone, good climb!
I love how your job as a coach slowly evolved into a coach-therapist, it just shows how much the mental game matters as much as the physical game itself, thanks for the great content! :)
Slowly changing over my role haha, no problem mate
Not Playing League, and this came up into my feed unexpectedly.
I still watched it, and I do believe that this is most likely the single-handedly best coaching session any PvP/Moba player could ever get.
Great content man.
one thing that helped me to start watching my replays when i was tilted was to watch them a few days after i player the games. Usually when im tilted and i watch my replays on the same day i tend to blame my teammates or to not pay too much atention to my mistakes. But when i watch my replays after a week or just a few days, the tilt is just gone and i can truly see the result of the game for what it is and not with a "victim" mindset.
Makes you more critical like you would be of other players because you don't remember exactly what you did and have a less biased view. I completely agree with this 👍🏼
Bro I climbed right up to dia 2 and I'm still anxious about playing ranked, these videos really helped me push myself to stop being stuck in gold/platinum and I don't even main midlane. Whenever I feel like I got into a mental block, this is the best place to come to. Cheers!
No problem Cristi!
this could not have been released at a better time, thanks curtis!
My pleasure mate
Lol omg, I hear this so much in games when I have my chat on "What you on about! I'm not even trying." This is just so spot on I absolutely love these videos not only are they helping me on my own personal journey to discover a healthy relationship with league of legends and my mental health but it also explains a lot as to why people act the way they do.
your videos are getting better, and more concise / straight to the point. Thanks to you I'm able to send a single video like this over to a friend who has a terrible mentality and can help them immensely when it would take hours if not days even weeks to get them to truly internalize these concepts.
God bless this man. Sharing to all my friends right now!
Appreciate that Andrew
Thanks for gathering one more viewer to channel
Thank you so much Coach. I have been in such a bad state mentally recently due to League of Legends and it has affected my life outside of games as well. This video has significantly helped. Hopefully a spot in the MLA opens up soon.
My pleasure man, hopefully I will see you around the MLA soon
Damn you really opened my eyes
I saw myself in that deserve part
I really gotta drop my ego start reviewing and improving
Ty Coach❤️
Hopefully this puts you on the right path
Best league coach I've ever seen! Such a high quality content. Such an amazing person!! Thank you so much!!! You make me want to become a better person, not only in league, but in life as well.
Thank you for tuning in man!
The league psychology I need. Thank you so much, Curtis!
No problem :)
This is the best video i have ever listened. Not only in league category like in any cathegory. I haven't seen such helpful +enjoyable+super life related+sooo enjoyable(again) thing before. I love this man. Thank you coach curtis. I am happy somebody like you , in this case it is you, exist.
Amazing video. Such a reality check for me, and it was much needed, sincerely. Thank you so much Curtis, you're the best!
I can't thank you enough for this video. I struggle with all of the problems constantly and this has kind of shattered my perception of the game (in a good and positive way). It not only helps me realize things about League and why I can't climb at a rate I want to, but it also massively helps me understand the core problems behind me and even my life. It might be just what I needed to change all this toxic behaviour, both in and out of the game. Keep up the great work!
Amazing video. This applies to real life and how even nowadays people are so allergic to adversity. It’s hard to admit ones own mistakes. Great job man, i love your work. I am actually a 4th year med student about to start my psychiatry rotation and i would say you would make a great therapist boss! ;-)
PS: PLS MAKE A YASUO GUIDE WHEN YOU GET THE CHANCE!!
Goodluck with your studies man! My pleasure, I will try do a Yasuo collab one day
POGGERS 100k !
I love your content and you as a person, these chill, informative videos help a lot
Coach Curtis! Hard stuck gold player for 5 seasons finally hits plat with 62% win rate! This video hits the nail on the head. The mentality of reflection is huge!! I’m still not immune to self sabotage but I’m getting better.
Thank you 9x my friend! Looking forward to pushing farther this season!
One step at a time brother
Hey Curtis. I just wanna say, that your content helped me a lot throughout my ranked journey. So thank you so much for making these videos! Also big CG on 100k Subscribers... Well deserved!
Bro, youre a great coach, not only explaining so many connections and interactions but finding the real problems behind so many things and people have, this video being an example.
I realized myself how i get calmer and more focused on game basics and real problems instead of emotional blaming after watching a Video here thinking more of strategies and consequences.
That tends to change again a while after, specially following unfair feeling lose streaks, so please dont stop making Videos. :D
Edit: my personal obsession and problem with people is if they dont want to play the game, giving up, flaming and dragging the others down. One side of the lane has to lose, its not the problem if the own side is the one, the problem is refusing just to deal with the situation and instead blaming and giving up.
Congratulations on 100.000 subs coach Curtis!!!🎉🎉
Still the best Coach on TH-cam. Plus the man has been Challenger since S4 (Rank 31 right now), so you know he practices what he preaches.
When I was starting to really get into lol, I basically became the scapegoat for a friend group I was in. This led me to be scared of performing poorly because it was so ingrained in me that I would get flamed, leading to me being scared of playing ranked or trying out new things and having low self-esteem around my abilities. I have known this has been an issue for a long time, since losing games leads to more anxiety, and therefore I haven't played ranked for a month. At least. But I haven't had any idea what to do about it. So thanks for posting this. It has given me motivation again to break this mindset.
Im litterly crying right now you have no idea how much this video helps me
I'm actually so glad you posted this video because i've been the same rank for a little over a month and it was really getting to me mentally. This video got me to catch myself before it got out of hand! Now, instead of worrying about my lp, i'm going to starting improving at the game to just be a better player.
Hey Curtis, wanted to thank you for all the time and effort you put into these videos. Have really helped me both in game and personally.
One thing I’m struggling with currently is doing what I set out to do in-game. I’ll watch my games back and see I made a mistake, I’ll write down what that mistake was in a little document and reflect on it. I’ll put the document up on my second monitor, or maybe a visual to be a reminder for myself. But when I get into game, I end up just not remembering, either because I’m too focused on something else or I just don’t remember. I start beating up on myself that I’ve literally made something actionable for me to improve on and failed to do it. I can’t see myself even working toward the goals I set out for myself in game, yelling at the guy in the replay.
Maybe its because the change is so subtle that I don’t notice that I’m actually better than I was a week, a month ago.
Current example: I’m not using my trinkets at 3 minutes. I end up sitting on two wards for such a long time. I talked to multiple coaches - about where to ward, when to ward, how warding influences what you can do and how you want to tailor your vision for what you want to do with your lane. And then I’m just thinking about the lane phase and trades and my lane opponent and my abilities and testing my current champion identity theory - stuff that I already should know and shouldn’t have to consciously think about, right? I end up overloading my brain on all the things to think about, all the variables, and struggle to focus on one thing at a time because so many things are so interconnected and each concept is a process etc etc. Then I’m not looking at the minimap, or if I do, don’t process the information. I have so much trouble on isolating a specific learning objective and then acting on it. Am I just doing things in the wrong order, or moving too fast? How do I know I’ve internalized something enough to leave it off / at the bottom of my mental stack? If I’m doing so many things wrong, how do I improve on each one sequentially? How do I stop overthinking shit? Think you could make a video on this, or is there one that already addresses this that I’ve missed?
Hello, me! If you don't mind me asking, how is it going now? Did you find the answer to any of the questions? If so, can you share them? thank you!
The mentality you thought me brings me to Grandmaster I'm looking forward to improve even more and hit Challenger soon
This is the best one video. Im not saying that your others video are bad, i always watch them at the day of the release, but this is a best one. Very helpful, thank you.
I don't mind watching things in English, but this video has Portuguese subs and that's really great as I wanna share this channel with some Brazilian friends that can't keep up with the language but desperately need it. Thank you mate!
Curtis é deus demais, aprendi mt coisa com ele.
@@Khora O cara é bom demais no que ele faz
Thank you so much for making a video about self-sabotaging! I'm struggeling with this for so long now. Often times I didn't even do reviews because I thought "it doesn't matter anyway" but it was just my subsconcious telling me that "I don't have what it takes" or that "I am just not talented enough" just like you mentioned in the second example. The mind can be such a snake sometimes, just telling one what to do but not the (often times fundamentally flawed) reasons behind it! Thanks for clarifying this topic in relation to League, this is really helpfull!
i wanted to be better at league, but sensei curtis got me better at life!
Wow Curtis, amazing video. You are always on point.
You describe some of my solo queue problems like "past seasons performance entitlement". You could make a single video on that.
I think the reason that you can't compare your actual perfomance to your other seasons perfomances is that this game is constantly changing and age, reflexes and not being updating concepts on a regular basis play a major role. People may be playing the game all day during year, meanwhile you come after a break and think "you deserve" your past rank. Understanding this has relieved me of some mental pressure related to league.
I feel like each season is different, and I need to play some nice quantity of games before getting tuned again. And game is getting harder everytime. Like gold is now old platinum. You could make other video on that too, since it helps with the perfomance pressure and solo q anxiety
The shifting of champ pool being a defense mechanism hit me so hard, after 2 lost md5s to master I literally changed lane because of " not having fun as an adc" and just now I understood that it was always fear of failure, ty so much curtis, u are the best
Coach Curtis may be LoL focused but through that, is the best teacher of teaching these fundamentals to life through LoL examples.
I actually needed this video and will watch it when I start to doubt myself, I had a ranked anxiety at D3 because that’s the farthest I’ve ever made, so I started playing scared and not continuing to do what I did to win.
Oh crap... You caught me off-guard. The part about shifting Champ pools hit home for me. I haven't really seen my behavior that way yet.
This video feels more wholesome for some reason, a true coach
Love these Therapist Curtis videos.
Best video you've ever put out. This is exactly what more coaches need to consider.
I know this video is years old but it is still very helpful. I do ALL of these things and then step away from league for long periods just to come after 1 year and of course I have lost all of my progress by then. I noticed though that I have way less ranked anxiety than I usually have and I figure it is because I challenged myself to "just play" for the victorious skin that was reserved for gold + players (which I've never been). I think it is very very neat to be able to earn the skin by playing a lot of ranked games even in Bronze and it motivated me to just put in the games, telling myself "it doesnt matter if I win, I just need to play games". Watching this video it was probably still not the most helpful approach, focussing on improvement would have been even better, but I was amazed that I played almost 200 games this season, something I have NEVER done, not even close. I wondered why I lost so many LP recently and I realize now, it is because I earned these points already and after reaching this goal, everything went downhill, I didn't even notice the connection until now. I am back to focussing on winning, on LP and I am worse for it.
So, I just wanted to say thank you for this video, it is really helpful! I struggle with negative self-talk from mental health issues that have nothing to do with League, but certainly influence my League experience. I still find it difficult to critically review myself while not beating myself up.
Grats on the 100k! Well deserved :).
I want to say thank you for all the effort you’re putting in each of your video, because it really REALLY helps. I learned so much you can’t imagine haha. Step by step you’re making me closer to the higher rank. Love from Russia ❤️
This is a great video to talk about league solo queue thanks Curtis, there is a great video Bryan_F made about competitive fighting games explaining " You're not exceptionally bad" which I think is a very good wholesome video covering a similar thought of not giving up and that self sabotaging idea is a problem for a lot of people. Also don't feel bad about making this video in a way it might inspire ego but I think it's done well.
the effort , the time taken , the way you explain , this truly is a masterpiece , i have some of the cases you mentioned and ill follow your lead on this and i wanna thank you for making this , for other people and my self ., deserved a like and a subscribed consider the bell on
I think the third example is way too common in my games and I definitely need to improve on that. Thanks for the great content as always Coach!
Wow, im not one to comment on youtube videos. But this video is the greatest thing that has happened to my league carreer since i hit level 30 for the first time. I had all these problems, and I didnt realize it myself until i saw this video, thank you very much!
Yay 100 000 subscribers. You deserve all of them without any doubt.
I think one of the reasons some people not review themselves is especially hidden in "I am trash" mentality. The thought that I had in my head while listening to you was "I am bad at the game in many ways that I can't even imagine. My very best was silver4, how am I going to point out my mistakes or missed opportunities or recognise that my win was not because I did right thing but because enemy screw up harder, when I have little idea of what I do and why? And Coach Curtis said he don't coach people below gold, so I am doomed - not being able to recognise my mistakes and without external help." It returns me to the "setting a process" thing you talk about, I think. I do agree that mentality is a huge part in getting better, I feel it from my own experience, can relate to many things in this video, especially to "I don't have it" and "I will never get better at league, I am not able, and to top it off - I am aging". And not that surprising - the same things happens in other parts in my life like you mentioned about your own struggles with gym and other things. And that's where it really goes into therapist's domain - you need to fix a person first, the problem is outside of the game. It is good that you point to it and make people more aware, that's why I value your work and videos that much.
i was D3 in S2 or S4 (can't even remember) and now i returned and stuck in silver - people just hella good at this game, my ego in under attack so hard, i play without really trying cuz 'I belong to diamond' but actually not anymore
Oof, nice facts here, I tend to see this too. A lot of mental block that hold back really talented player, I'll definetly use/share your video to help players ! Thanks !
Maybe your best and most important video to date. Great job!
I acualy taught to mysalf about these types of concepts and i am verry glad i hera it from someone who does this with passion and doesnt care about charging money ... i realy appriciate your effort to make this community a better place , but i will say that mental strength is probably 40 % of your general strength / ability to be better at the game ... the other 60 % is just raw ability to play and game knowledge
The best coach of the internet has blessed us again with an upload ❤🙏
Thank you for more mentality videos hope you will bring more of these
Curtis the therapist this video is exactly made for me ! Thanks Coach! We also need a therapistCurtis emote on MLA!
We do! I will get some done soon Kirito
I see a patron in a lot of friends that they cant stop playing after a big losing streak.. sometimes they even get to high lp master and they loose all those lps in a day.. Greetings From Argentina Curtis great content!
i just discover you with the reddit post video and man you'r doing god's work here, the ocuple video i watched already help me out a toon especialy this one has a 5 year hardstuck platinium
this kind of video is great for growing into mental maturity. thank u for making this video.
Hey Curtis! This video came at the right time. I just hit plat 4 60% wr. And I've been thinking that I don't belong in plat (coming from hardstuck g4 last season). This really helped me a lot! Omw to d4 now.
Best League video i've ever seen (playing and consuming yt League content since season 4)
Love the content man! I appreciate how you openly share your knowledge for free and genuinely seem to want to help people. Keep doing your thing!
My pleasure mate
Indeed i am self sabotaging my self, i tilt so hard some time that i give up. Idk what to do sometime
Coach Curtis: literally the only good thing left about League of Legends
Hey this really motivated me. Now I really want to just improve at league for the sake of breaking my mental block that I just realized existed. I will start improving and I hope to come back to one of your videos when I am proud of my improvement.
Been watching ur channel for 4 days, have a better undestandinz of zhr game and a better mindset and 3 objectives to improve on (since thats what u said is optimal, if i remember correctly) , properly review and am motivated to improve. Ur the greatest coach for league to have ever seen and ur so inspiring and motivational. I feel better mentally just watching u. Ur content is so enormous and so in debth, its so insane. Not to be sus, but ily man. Great job!
Man if I had the money for it, I would totally join the midlane academy lol, these videos are absolutely phenomenal and always show up right when I need them. I've been struggling with ranked anxiety for a few months now, and even at this moment i've only played one game today because I'm absolutely terrified to lose, even though I learn more from those losses. I'm excited to try to break my mental blocks and maybe get to diamond this season, only 270 lp and some promos to go lol.
100k! congrats! you deserve much more ♡
Congratulations on 100k subscribers bro!
still only up from here!
This is a very educational video i can already see improvement over just a few games
In BR league serve I noticed that most players are exactly how you described, myself included. And when I started to change those things in myself I immediately saw that almost no one are trying to change themselves. So I'm taking a step back from league, and just like you I gonna try to make others players chante these terrible mindset.
besides your content, I love how incredibly genuine you are. Thank you for these videos :)
perfect dose of life coach in the evening
The problem is lots of people overfocus on their bad teammates and/or their own mistakes making league as an overall negative experience for them. I think they should learn the ability of:
1) Being more easy-going with the mistakes you make accepting them; learning to have fun in a high pressured game.
2) Feeling motivated each game in order to slowly climb.
3) You can have habits, but understanding that each game is situational. (You can play more agressive if their jungler is a shyvana but not if it's a shaco, for example). Versatility. (Based on In-game experience and different strategies for optimization.)
Personally, before a ranked, I watch one of the most legendary audiovisual scenes that would boost my confidence up into thinking I'm actually great, I'm insane, I'm "built different" (xD) ; so this translates me into playing the ranked with more confidence and more in control. Internally I know I'm not but you have to be thinking that way during in game... I think it helps (since It helps me to feel motivated for better results).
It's not an arrogant approach if you can stay humble realising your own mistakes (while having fun); trying to understand the losses. It's important to spot what behaviours of you are holding you down. If you don't have enough game knowledge to realise which behaviours, then is when you need a good Coach like Curtis that would guide you.
But careful because not everyone has the same knowledge when coaching.
Hmmm and here i was thinking that i was losing lp through the 5 stages of depression
Amazing content as always. Spot on with pretty much all your points
Coach, i love your videos. Please don't stop making this kind of content for us ;) s2
I’m a therapist, and this would be exactly how I would approach coaching. Sadly, my profession does not keep me immune from falling into these self-sabotaging behaviors myself.
this title describes my league carrier very very well...or an alternative titel would be like:
I know how to self destruct
Damn, this video is rly helpful i actually didn't expect it to help me this much!
because I am not a good coach - Sir I felt that TBH you are a good coach and I have benefitted greatly
that zed one is so common it's hilarious. I've lost count of the sheer amount of lanes that get handed to me by mage players who just refuse to learn how to play into zed and then fling a barrage of insults at me for playing a "Broken no skill overpowered champ". Just stumbled upon this great video.
Thanks for this one, incredibly insightful
Hello Coach Curtis, I don't usually comment on videos but your videos are so informative. I feel and I know that I am improving!
It would be really nice though if you could tell (in the description box or something) for what rank the main information of your video is the most useful. I know that in general all the advice are applicable to all elos. But many of them are so dense of information and there are so many videos that we get pretty lost. Micro game play for example doesn't really matter in bronze or silver and it'll help if those advice were a little bit more sorted
Nice video Curtis. Congrats on 100k!
LOVE the videos dude! keep up the good work!
This is pure gold, thank you.
This was literally me last night dropped from g1 to g3 in one night, needed this 😂
Tbh this dude is the best coach ever
There is one thing I'd like to tack on, almost as a "I disagree slightly" to one of your points. Specifically, when people get sympathy from others for how their game goes and "they were gonna lose no matter what." I think that as long as someone agrees and even looks for ways in which they could have done better during a game, it's still a healthy mindset to look back at a game and go, "Okay, my botlane went 0/10 by 15 minutes, yeah the game was hard. Did I do everything I could to try and win?" Because to me, there's nothing inherently wrong with pointing out things that make the game hard for you. But, as you said, Coach, it's using that as the sole excuse as to why you lost and why there was no chance to win. There is always something you can do to improve your chances at winning a game, even if you don't think there was.