Living with Relationship OCD

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  • Natalie is diagnosed with OCD. At times in her life this condition has been debilitating, but with the help of exposure response prevention therapy her mental health has greatly improved. Natalie wants others to know that it is still possible to live a beautiful life with OCD.
    Connect with Natalie at / natalie.jeanettee and / natalie.jeanette
    Support SBSK at / sbsk

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  • @artcoughlin8403
    @artcoughlin8403 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1516

    So grateful to see OCD represented frankly and not sensationalized. It's an extremely painful way to live, solidarity to all my fellow OCD folks.

    • @katherineashley5712
      @katherineashley5712 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      🤗

    • @jsncrso
      @jsncrso 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Not sensationalized? LMAO a top 10 debilitating illness by the WHO? What a joke. OCD sucks, but this chick is just embellishing her illness. SBSK needs to focus on real illnesses, not crazy people

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      thank you for seeing my genuine passion as my authentic self!

    • @elizabethheintz8747
      @elizabethheintz8747 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Agreed!!! This is the best/most relatable example I’ve heard! It totally resonates!

    • @OTnerd7
      @OTnerd7 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      My goodness, I also feel the same way. So glad this is being talked about!

  • @vanessas6827
    @vanessas6827 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1256

    Well said...OCD grabs onto what you care about. It's a horrendous disorder.

    • @Vegancutie
      @Vegancutie 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

      Yes! It is a saboteur, taunting and lurking to try to catch you at a weak moment. F ocd!!

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      yes;( its really tough. hugs

    • @kinebrenna
      @kinebrenna 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Yeah agree and I can relate 100%

    • @zye....
      @zye.... 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Isn't it normal to worry about stuff that matters u the most tho?
      If it is a lot, I'd say you're maybe very insecure or either very thoughtful, so a personality trait and not a sickness.
      For me, i worry a hecking lot, both applies

    • @nerida3347
      @nerida3347 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      ​@@zye....Ocd obsessions are marked by the obsession being unreasonable , or technically knowing its impossible

  • @bridge7425
    @bridge7425 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +122

    I experienced this OCD in the beginning of all of my relationships- and I thought I was just broken. I settled on the idea that I would never get married because the anxiety was so intense and life altering. Thankfully I found help and have been with my partner for 5 years. It wasn’t an overnight change, but recovery (or at least functioning without such distress!) is possible!!!

    • @chris1806
      @chris1806 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      explain more

    • @quirogatnonerrat3214
      @quirogatnonerrat3214 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ❤❤❤❤I am so happy you found love! I wish you both a long happy and healthy life! 🎉🎉 Sending love and hugs from Romania! 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

    • @jellyrcw12
      @jellyrcw12 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So glad you're doing better

    • @dianeibsen5994
      @dianeibsen5994 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Cute pictures that your sister?

  • @gracie5451
    @gracie5451 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +596

    Thank you for bringing awareness to this extremely misunderstood disorder

    • @alaads5944
      @alaads5944 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      stop being so fragile you need to man up and act as a mature person and take responsibility, the weak don't survive and they shouldn't

    • @carlos66965
      @carlos66965 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@alaads5944 Needing attention through belittling comments is sad. Do better.

    • @pradyumnpurohit5597
      @pradyumnpurohit5597 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

      @@alaads5944 huh

    • @Ace-3.
      @Ace-3. 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      @@alaads5944why do you have to say that? It only discourages people. Either way God bless you and have a good day ❤

    • @Sunset1705
      @Sunset1705 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@alaads5944Nope, that’s not it.

  • @vivianshome
    @vivianshome 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +210

    Wow, just saw this pop up right when it was published. I’ve had this kind of OCD (alongside others) for years and never heard it discussed. It’s so exhausting, especially when you don’t know what’s going on. So glad to see this video and awareness being brought to this very real form of OCD.

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      i am so excited it is being discussed on this type of platform and still dumbfounded as to how i got this magical opportunity. xoxoxoxo

  • @Mobiustransformation
    @Mobiustransformation 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

    I started to cry when I heard you. This is exactly what happens to me, I have relationship OCD too -though is not the only one-, and knowing there are other people who just sit there, thinking for HOURS, and all those guilt and apparent laziness -which is in reality the struggle and the fear-, is... kind of comforting. I always feel like I am alone, that I am the only person in the world who has this and that there is something fundamentally wrong with me. But know I know I'm not alone. And I'm not diagnosed with OCD because I haven't went to therapy as often as I should, due to economic reasons, but I do have these exhausting thoughts and I can't stop them. I've tried with many, many unhealthy mechanisms such as psychoactive drugs, they do help me but in the end they're very brain damaging, specially if you take ridiculous doses like I do.
    As long as I hear you is like someone put a mic inside my brain haha:( I do the google searching too, I even have kind of advanced chemistry and neurology knowledge for a non-med student due to the constant research haha...

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      aw oh my goodness. hopefully happy tears! oh yes, i would be on my bed, junior year of college, wrapped in my blanket, crying and staring at the ceiling, thinking... the worst. every day was spent that way, and thats all i wanted to do because i "needed to figure things out" definitely navigate treatment the way you see fit but what you are the most comfortable with! stay healthy here for you!

    • @gjnybrbb
      @gjnybrbb 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I actually believe that psychodelics did play a huge role in the development of my OCD. After one trip I had so much anxiety that it contaminated my whole life for the next several years. Themes changed but the core fear of that I have done or have thought something extremely wrong and life crashing is always deep inside me just waiting to get triggered. It's hard to be in a relationships, it's very hard to get friends because I always fear that vulnerability that is required to be close with other people

  • @chillcatz
    @chillcatz 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    OCD is annoying af, I was diagnosed as a child, and it's been a hell of a journey for me! We all eventually find our ways of coping and soon after, conquering this condition! I advocate for those who are currently battling it in their daily lives!
    You got this, Natalie ❤

  • @nji2300
    @nji2300 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    I just wanted to say that watching this video was extremely comforting to me. I was recently diagnosed with OCD (relationship type) and hearing her talk about what she has dealt with in a relationship like what I am going through right now made me feel SO much less alone. Thank you for bringing light to this topic

  • @vitoriakipnis4149
    @vitoriakipnis4149 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +105

    As someone with autism that wasn’t able to see the ocd in me, I think I’m finally realizing there are more things other then cleanliness and organizing… this is very informative. Thank you

    • @Plethorality
      @Plethorality 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Than. And yes.

    • @EMILYHERRERA
      @EMILYHERRERA 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      Autism has some of these behaviors that exist just due to being autistic, not also having OCD. The two things can occur together, but they are two different things.

    • @esm1817
      @esm1817 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Yeah, I can see why autistic adults are so often diagnosed with OCD either as a preexisting diagnosis or a comorbid diagnosis.

    • @elleg3651
      @elleg3651 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@PlethoralityYou must be a genius😮

    • @blondie3743
      @blondie3743 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      There are so many subtypes of OCD, it's sorta like a spectrum like autism. In terms of traits and symptoms they are very similar but there are some key differences

  • @commandery3574
    @commandery3574 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    i'm really truly so grateful for this video,. a therapist i trust recently diagnosed me with OCD, and at first it was a struggle to accept the diagnosis but now i feel it is right. when she said "OCD grabs on to what you care about" that really resonated so deeply within me. it's a struggle every day not to let to thought and emotions scrape my mind bare and raw. i struggle everyday with extremely obsessive and difficult thought loops and thought trains. i have to force myself to do things because i have goals i want to accomplish, but OCD is so much more than germs. it's the fucking endless loop your mind goes and for some reason it just can't let go of it and feel normal. sometimes it feels like you can't breathe. thank you for this video.

  • @balaam_7087
    @balaam_7087 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Hi Natalie, and thank you for sharing your story. It was nice to hear your experience first hand, and you express yourself rather well. There’s no telling how many other people with similar difficulties you’re helping through videos like this, and that’s something to be proud of.

  • @MarianaArboledaF
    @MarianaArboledaF 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Why am i crying??? You're such an amazing person. Thank you

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      AW what! i cried too hehe. days later when reality hit me such a huge dream was reality🥰

  • @AliFinNoble
    @AliFinNoble 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Next do morbid thoughts OCD. I've only ever seen one other person talk about it. It was right around the time I was diagnosed and it was incredible I thought I was a horrible awful person who was going to hurt the people I love. I'm doing much better but I now have a physical disability which means these morbid thoughts often are no longer associated with the people around me but are just about myself. Its hard but the older i get the easier it has become.

    • @ribby109
      @ribby109 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Allegra Kastens, if you don’t already follow her, may be a good resource for you. She talks a lot about the more taboo obsessions and has a pretty large following/community.

    • @blondie3743
      @blondie3743 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I have the Morbid thoughts myself and I get you completely. I feel so disgusted by myself and I'm always afraid god will judge me for the way I am.

  • @Wolfstar26
    @Wolfstar26 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    i have had severe OCD most of my life and was only recently diagnosed as an adult. it's amazing to hear a fellow OCDer perfectly describe everything that i experienced growing up and now.

  • @clarec3
    @clarec3 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    This was so interesting! She is extremely articulate at explaining the various aspects of OCD, Thanks so much!

  • @LeandraGraves
    @LeandraGraves 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Thank you for being so honest about ROCD. It’s my main subtype, and as open as I try to be about having OCD(I have a soft white underbelly interview about my OCD), there is so much shame attached to having ROCD specifically, I always have fear getting into the details. So I appreciate you bravely bringing it into the light🖤
    I have also had such a difficult time separating my magical thinking from having religious faith. What a mess that can be.

    • @calliewright2946
      @calliewright2946 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      That last sentence - same over here! Listening to this video, the magical thinking part ahe described hit home so much for me - but instead of "is this a sign," for me it's "is this God trying to tell me something?" Is that similar for you?
      I am and remain a person of faith but it's so frustrating to navigate. I'm learning to trust in a God who said He didn't give us a spirit of fear, so this must not be Him speaking, but.....argh.

    • @blondie3743
      @blondie3743 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Oh God same girl. I'm very spiritual and it's hard to navigate cause im afraid it's magical thinking OCD manifesting (even though im not currently diagnosed with it)

  • @iloveyou4680
    @iloveyou4680 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    I struggle with contamination OCD as my main theme, then hit & run OCD, checking OCD (stove,door locks) & relationship OCD & even though she sounds bubbly in describing this, it is because she is not currently in a "OCD episode". There are times were we can keep the thoughts "at bay" but when we cant keep them at bay, we cant eat, we cant sleep, and all we can think about is "WHAT IF". I didnt realize i had OCD because google definition is way off.

  • @excusememr_
    @excusememr_ 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    it’s refreshing to hear someone describe exactly what i go through on a daily basis
    it truly is debilitating and a struggle to live with
    i’m so glad there’s awareness being brought to this

  • @michaelmcardle906
    @michaelmcardle906 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is so great. Thank you for sharing. OCD is never satisfied. Such a great explanation.

  • @morganmariephotography
    @morganmariephotography 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I went through very intense ROCD episode a few years ago before I received my OCD diagnosis. Since receiving treatment my life has improved significantly. I resonate with Natalie's story so much to the point where it literally brings me right back to my episode. In a way it was very cathartic to hear such a similar story to mine articulated so eloquently back to me. It feels as though you've given a voice to the feelings that have lived in my mind for so long. It's truly healing. Thank you.

  • @katrinakollmann5265
    @katrinakollmann5265 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    When I found out about ADHD and especially Autism, it blew my mind too. ♡ Happy for you and your therapyyyyy

  • @IanGreenPiano
    @IanGreenPiano 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is such an amazing story. Thank you for sharing. What a beautiful young lady, so bright and full of life. So honest, and sincere. What a blessing to learn of her story.

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      what a blessing to read these words! wow ah these compliments made my night thank u!!!

  • @Pixargirl85
    @Pixargirl85 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for doing this. It’s amazing to me how good at talking and explaining everything you feel and OCD stuff. Wish you all the best ❤

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ah!! thank you so so much i was definitely nervous but i felt so welcomed🥰

  • @moortje26
    @moortje26 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i didnt realize there were that many subtypes! also what you said about the types of ocd you have can change, that it keeps on grabbing onto the next problem once you worked through one, reaaaaally relatable! damn it hits pretty hard this video..

  • @sophieheptinstall-bolton7994
    @sophieheptinstall-bolton7994 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I live with Fibromyalgia, M.E, OCD, complex PTSD & acute anxiety and I am a single parent to a 14 year old and a 2 year old. Pain can often be our greatest teacher but it took me many years to learn that. Here in the UK if you ever fancy a visit. Love your channel, thank you for spreading awareness. ,🥰

  • @royhendershot
    @royhendershot 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Great story Natalie. You did an awesome job explaining everything. I hope you the best in dealing with your relationship. We are all family. Have a blessed day.

  • @Wrestlingmann
    @Wrestlingmann 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm glad ROCD is being talked about. OCD isn't just washing hands or touching objects. It comes in all sorts of flavors. If you get the chance one day I would love to see you talk to somebody with Existential OCD. For me it's debilitating, I just rarely hear it talked about v

  • @DrinkinZima
    @DrinkinZima 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This channel is so important! It’s great to learn about different people and conditions.
    So many amazing people on this channel.

  • @bigsarge2085
    @bigsarge2085 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Interesting and informative. Thank you, all.

  • @emreed9190
    @emreed9190 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I haven’t even watched yet but wow I am so grateful to see more representation on this subtype of OCD! I have struggled with it for 8 years and for the first 3 years or so I had no clue what was going on because there wasn’t information out there!

  • @anthonymatute6057
    @anthonymatute6057 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Well Said… thank you so much for being so brave and strong talking about OCD. You are such an amazing person

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      aw! thank you so much. it aligns with my values, brings me joy and purpose

    • @anthonymatute6057
      @anthonymatute6057 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@nataliej.d thank you, you are very welcome!

  • @toddbees6961
    @toddbees6961 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This was so helpful for me going through hard times mentally recently. Thank you so much.

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      best news that i was able to help❤‍🩹❤‍🩹

  • @mandyb2245
    @mandyb2245 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    These subtypes happened to me a lot as a Christian teenager back in the 90's. I was obsessed with being a good Christian and worried constantly about falling short and this, that, and the other. College helped lessen those for me in my 20's, but in high school it was horrible. I was undiagnosed, too, and I sincerely thought the devil was attacking me and making me worry all the time. I used to worry about EVERYTHING. Who I liked, what I liked and enjoyed, everything I thought, everything I felt I was afraid was sinful and I'd pray all the time asking forgiveness for everything.
    It wasn't until my early 30's that I discovered that I had severe anxiety disorder and that my OCD was a manifestation of that. Leaving religion in 2016 helped a lot too. I still worry about a lot of things, but my beliefs and thoughts and likes and dislikes are not in those categories.

    • @gemmag.2988
      @gemmag.2988 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I am a recovered OCDer who was in hospital for 3 months 30 years ago. When I was acutely ill I could not pray and others had to pray on my behalf. Now that I am well I get so much contentment from having a close relationship with God. I appreciate my Catholic faith in a way I could never do when I was younger and so ill. Each to their own I guess.

  • @littleearthquakes3183
    @littleearthquakes3183 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    this is one of the best descriptions of my life. Its exhausting

  • @UmbrellaBird789
    @UmbrellaBird789 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I experience a lot of rumination. Fun fact, the word ruminate is also used when cows chew, swallow, and re-chew their food for a super long time. Just like me bringing up the same thought problems over and over again 😂

  • @sonnybobsquarepants266
    @sonnybobsquarepants266 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I admire the courage you have to do this interview. You are so beautiful! Watching from New Zealand

  • @lindsayboykin
    @lindsayboykin 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I really appreciate how accessible she made some of this stuff. and it took courage for me to write this out because I, too, fear the algorhythms of the internet gods learning about me.

  • @Goldenretriever-k8m
    @Goldenretriever-k8m 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The quote at the beginning was referring to lost earnings and quality of life.. but it’s absurd. Sure mentally, but there are dozens and dozens of physical illnesses that are much more debilitating that I can think of right now. And I say this as someone with OCD, Tourette’s, ADHD, and depression.

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      hi! yes it is in the top ten most disabling illnesses listed by the World Bank and WHO! sure, you can think of others that seem to be more debilitating, but this fact is backed up by lots of research! it does not invalidate any other illness that exists, but i mentioned it so that people can understand the severity. 💘

  • @sahraJ215
    @sahraJ215 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    My mental health is personally very debilitating, and I feel a lot of relation and connection to what you're saying.

  • @magneticflux7833
    @magneticflux7833 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I saw a dog with ocd. Poor guy kept licking windows and slobbering all over and he wouldn't stop.
    It was on the show it's me or the dog. It was really a fascinating case since the behaviour wasn't from it being a people problem. It's kinda sad too. Kudos to living with that it can't be easy

  • @kyleescott1055
    @kyleescott1055 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    As someone with OCD, this video feels like a hug.

  • @pamlacooper3288
    @pamlacooper3288 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you, you are so intelligent and articulate and I find I have some of these issues. Your ability to communicate and share are so appreciated. I have gained skills to work with my brain over time. My big epiphany was that my brain is a muscle my spirit uses like any other muscle in my body.

  • @susanroberts
    @susanroberts 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Loved hearing the post tonight. I feel that I’ve suffered with this my whole life but could never put them in words. I need to speak with my Dr. Thank you for sharing your life with us. I appreciated you very much. 💝🥰

  • @marleenninaka1303
    @marleenninaka1303 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hi everyone: It's so nice to see you all again on TH-cam. I want to meet you all one day. Take care and stay safe.

  • @tippytoads
    @tippytoads 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Interesting! I did not know OCD included an excessive need for validation from other folk. I have had insane doubts about relationships, constantly asking friends/family, googling and posting Reddit posts. I never knew these were symptoms!

  • @NATUREFORTRESS
    @NATUREFORTRESS 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I really enjoy her personality. I think she would be a good friend.

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      aw! thank you so so much

    • @NATUREFORTRESS
      @NATUREFORTRESS 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@nataliej.dYou are most welcome. The way you handled that interview and your openness made me feel warm in my heart. And I'm even more elated that you saw my comment and replied! =D

  • @THE-MUFFIN-MAN-v9s
    @THE-MUFFIN-MAN-v9s 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I have had debilitating ocd and anxiety I was hospitalised for it, I dropped out of school, stopped eating got depressed, got a ED from it til I met a amazing therapist who told me I could get rid of it ! Now I’m back in school and I have about 80 % less anxiety and going grate

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      oh my goodness. thank you for sharing. i remember almost taking a semester off because i was struggling so much- i felt like i couldn't do it all, and it makes sense that many can't. i was too nervous to eat, and wanted to be in bed all day long. i'm SO happy you are thriving now, you are here🥰

  • @mesholberatsonallibi
    @mesholberatsonallibi 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    i used to geniunly think and so did my mom that i had bpd bc of my INTENSe Worrys about ppl leaving me but that was bc of my cptsd and the obession and complulsioms were a lot like hers

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      i am glad you are getting clarity! sending strength

  • @hannahblomgren8230
    @hannahblomgren8230 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    … I’m going to pursue an OCD diagnostic panel now. I had no idea that I could relate to something so deeply and that there would be so many similarities in my thinking. I really think this is what I have going on.

  • @Monica-vv1zt
    @Monica-vv1zt 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I completely relate to this as I have pure O. Before I was put on medication, I was a nervous wreck. I can manage my OCD a lot better but there are times when I'm feeling stressed or anxious that my OCD starts playing up. Having OCD is just exhausting especially the compulsions and ruminations. It never fully goes away but with therapy and medication you can manage it and not pay attention to it. Pure O is definitely extremely misunderstood.

  • @Ranger1812
    @Ranger1812 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I discovered I have Pure O when you uploaded the video on that. I’m currently reading The War of the Worlds by H.G. Wells and by golly is reading made so much more difficult with OCD. I’m so excited to read but it becomes a real struggle when doing so.

  • @fynntasticmovienight
    @fynntasticmovienight 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I really appreciate how she explained things. Actually related to a lot of this, was not expected that.

  • @nattykitkatty
    @nattykitkatty 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm fascinated how she says that her OCD makes her distrust her own memories and experiences, and then when she discovered the OCD community group, she said she was "99% sure" that was what she had. Like, her anxiety even made her doubt her experience WITH anxiety.
    I'm saying this as a person with OCD-I noticed her say that because I feel the exact same way.

  • @amber76OH
    @amber76OH 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    ✋️ hi...I'm one person you helped. I'm quite a bit older than you, but have a lot of similar mental struggles. Nothing ever diagnosed, besides depression/general anxiety. I recently left my psych that I had been with for just over a year. I was exploding inside feeling like she wasn't helping me, or even trying to help. It's excruciating. I have a few different ideas of what is wrong with me, however I never even thought to present to her in the way you described presenting your thoughts to your doctor. This seems ridiculous to say/type out loud, however it made sense to me. I figured the way seeing a psych worked was that I only describe how I feel or what I go through, and they diagnose. I never even imagined having a say in what my diagnosis is. Again, I know it sounds stupid, but I honestly didn't. I feel like the only person I ever share this stuff with is tired of hearing all of the things I think are wrong with me, so why would a psychiatrist believe me. I feel like a hypochondriac, or even like I'm not smart enough to tell my psych what I think the diagnosis may be.
    You honestly inspired me to try again. It's not fair for me to expect my doctor to work miracles with my mental health, when im hardly contributing and can be VERY good at masking. No wonder she never knew the severity of my issues.
    Thank you, honey, you truly have made a big difference in my perspective today, and I just love that so much. I appreciate you for being brave with your struggles for the sake of others 💛

  • @stefanipost8996
    @stefanipost8996 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wow.. I now know exactly why I’ve been single my whole life… I have never been involved with anyone romantically because I simply questioned and second guessed everything. This describes my lifelong fears of allowing my to fall in love…no matter how much I wish for it…I have always “ found” reasons why it would end up breaking my heart…therefore sabotaging it all.

  • @Phoebe907
    @Phoebe907 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I suffered from Relationship OCD for nearly 3.5 years of my past relationship. I didn't learn it was OCD until it was too late. I'm really glad to see it being represented, I hope it helps someone who may not know what they are going through.

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      aw. i'm so sorry! i have had this shared with me in the last few days, and you should commend yourself for even being in that relationship for that long and struggling at the same time. that is a huge accomplishment - extremely hard to do because i have been there myself for a year and a half. but, it is never too late because you can bring all of this into your next one with so much more knowledge. xoxox

    • @Phoebe907
      @Phoebe907 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@nataliej.d Awh thank you! It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done, that’s for sure. Pure mental anguish every single day! Could not “logically” understand why I kept questioning the relationship, but it finally one day made sense. And you’re so right! Thank you for sharing your story! You seem like such a lovely person!

  • @isaacwerner9057
    @isaacwerner9057 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I'm diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) and OCD. I am medicated for both. However, when I am off my medication it is the most debilitating and dreadful feeling ever. My OCD stems around physical sensations. Kind of like an advanced hypochondriac, I obsess over bodily functions. I'll get a cold and get congested, and I hyper focus on that heavy congested feeling in my chest. I convince myself that I can't breathe properly. So as a compulsion, i breath more rapidly, which limits my natural breathing and makes my anxiety worse and eventually leads to anxiety attacks. It's miserable. Thankfully, I've found a medication that greatly reduces the symptoms.

  • @AngelaVEdwards
    @AngelaVEdwards 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I have heard about people who have that OCD where they're driving and they hit a bump and then spend _hours_ going around and around and around to check and double check and triple check that no one was there and got hit. OCD is a disorder based on _fear._ That's what makes it so bad and harmful. It's a fear-based disorder.

  • @mijiqai
    @mijiqai 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for this! :) I recently discovered there is a massive chance I have OCD and what you said really spoke to me. I can seriously relate. You are super strong and so are we all :)

  • @KytexEdits
    @KytexEdits 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I would define mine like this "An anxiety disorder which deeply and thoroughly reprogrammes the brain as a response to intense fear, but in a maladaptive way that ends up worsening over time, characterized by doing or thinking things you're entirely aware are irrational, yet you can't help it, on a level nobody who hasn't had OCD can understand".

  • @MWVMusic
    @MWVMusic 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    as a 10 year ocd sufferer (at least where it was truly debilitating) this is super accurate. She put things in a very realistic light of what this experience is like. Made me feel way less alone and if anyone ever asks me what it’s like, I will show them this.

  • @xiolaamapola3180
    @xiolaamapola3180 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I have had OCD for over half my life n it's just like she says n I feel she is a great representation of how OCD usually is. Not like every kid on tik tok saying they are "so OCD" cuz they prefer their water cold (as opposed to tepid).

  • @m.ccheddarbox874
    @m.ccheddarbox874 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    She did such an amazing job really articulating how OCD effects her. The behavior and thoughts she described have so many similarities to my boyfriends. He has a lot of mental health issues and I wouldn't be surprised if this was another one.

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thank you so much! I was nervous I was boring

  • @ThatGirlFromTheInternet
    @ThatGirlFromTheInternet 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I was recently diagnosed with OCD after years of shutting myself in my room so I could "clean", which meant getting my room spotless and then finding 1 drawer that was a little messy so I'd have to dump all the stuff out and rearrange it. There was always a new drawer the next day. For years. I haven't even received treatment for it but it's nice to know that I'm not "bad" if I relax and don't clean for a day. Any time I bring this up to my family they say "I wish I had that problem!". No. No you don't.

  • @CarmenGutierrez-p8d
    @CarmenGutierrez-p8d 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The search for certainty that you know will never exist.

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      it gets better, it has for me with lots of self-work!

  • @martybob55
    @martybob55 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You speaking to future medical professionals would be helpful…. NATALIE. YOU’RE A ROCK STAR!

  • @toddsqui
    @toddsqui 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is such a healing video for me, thank you so much Natalie! 🙏

  • @goldengirlgains
    @goldengirlgains 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    wow definitely learning a lot watching this

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      best news

  • @grote__julia
    @grote__julia 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Sending love to anyone struggling! ❤

  • @HanzIsGerman
    @HanzIsGerman 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Grew up with a OCD stay at home mom. She cared about us as kids and loved us but her OCDs were constantly more important than her children. She has cleaning OCDs to this day. I developed major anxiety and ocds myself but I have mentally overcome it. Having experienced it myself, the best way I can explain it is your mind feels like it’s not yours and you have to constantly battle someone in your head who isn’t even a part of you. Like an intruder that you can’t get rid of.

  • @lalalallamas
    @lalalallamas 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I wish this would have come out when I was in the throws of rocd 😅 but it was actually a different video on this channel that made me realize I have ocd, so I could finally start healing after years of rocd. So thankful for this channel for bringing attention to the things people don't talk about ❤

  • @RatsPicklesandMusic
    @RatsPicklesandMusic 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My RSD relates to some of your relationship OCD for sure!! 🖤

  • @TRal55
    @TRal55 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My takeaway with these videos is how relatable these debilitating disorders are. What rational adult doesn't experience these kinds of mental compulsions? It's a difference of severity and ability to function despite it, but it certainly isn't beyond the scope of understandability for the average thinking, feeling adult. It's all about how the brain copes with a chaotic and painful world

  • @lovingmayberry307
    @lovingmayberry307 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    After hearing your description of Magical OCD, I realized, I've got it! In fact, I'd venture to guess that MOST ppl have Magical OCD!!!

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      No, you have to spend A LOT of time thinking about it. It can't be an occasional thought.

  • @1minutecomicswalahollywood648
    @1minutecomicswalahollywood648 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Hello,
    I am a new subscriber. ❤

  • @buggiesmama11
    @buggiesmama11 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The more I see and watch things about this disorder.... the more I realize how severe I have it

  • @aleetimes3
    @aleetimes3 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I recognized my relationship anxiety but didn't realize it could be OCD I so identify with alot of what she is saying

  • @auntdiane1578
    @auntdiane1578 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I live it every day 😢. Prayers to this young lady.

  • @sheilaemadian
    @sheilaemadian 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I have OCD and also emetophobia. I feel the two are tied together as they are both an anxiety disorder and about control or fear of not having control.

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      aw that sounds awful! for sure. something i learned from treatment was that OCD & anxiety are on the same spectrum, and the spectrum is a big one. I believe there are many more that fall on that spectrum than we know.

  • @MathandMakeup
    @MathandMakeup 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am beginning to wonder if i have ocd tendencies . I related to a lot of this. I began to research once i heard about this from my sister. Thanks for the informative video!!!.

  • @nerida3347
    @nerida3347 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Ocd, out of all my mental issues, has to be the most life ruining one. Im barely managing, but im trying

  • @LuizFernando-pv9ed
    @LuizFernando-pv9ed 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I've always had a hard time understanding sarcasm. That's why I never knew how to interact superficially, taking everything to the extreme: either you're my friend or you're not. The most difficult thing is words, as I always tried to understand the meaning of what was said by other people; The problem is that what was said did not always refer to what the person feels, and our problem is circular: how am I going to interpret what the other person feels without taking into account what is said? As she says in the video: “after that moment when he asked me to be his girlfriend, I found myself at a dead end, because I didn't know what I felt about it.” That's what it's all about: what are these labels? What do all these relationships mean? Wouldn't it be easier to just enjoy the moment without saying anything? Simply, just the presence of each other and no words? Words are a drug!

  • @AA-ur2tx
    @AA-ur2tx 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    As a mental health and clinical research professional, this young lady beautifully explained OCD and different aspects of the disorder that are not commonly known. Most people think OCD is all about overt rituals and are unaware of the inner compulsions. It can go much, much deeper, being a fear-based disorder, anxiety and depression are involved, as this interview highlights. This woman goes through so much with 6 subtypes, and she handles and understands it very well. Bravo to her! Thank you for bringing this to people's attention.

  • @KazerOnYoutube
    @KazerOnYoutube 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i have this too!! my brain becomes so obsessed over people especially partners or an ex of mine that it takes over my whole mind & takes years to get over those ppl only bc i then become obsessed w someone else it’s so hard sometimes and i’ve tried so many ways to go about healthy ways of dealing w my obsessions

  • @chadyepipia8383
    @chadyepipia8383 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I did a research and don't worry if you have OCD, which is a disability You're not the only with it. A few celebrities have OCD like Cameron diaz, Justin Timberlake, Leonardo DiCaprio, David Beckham and he also have ADHD too and Daniel Radcliffe who is known as Harry potter, he have OCD too and also he has Dyselxia.

  • @jessicaarancibia6477
    @jessicaarancibia6477 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    She is a strong woman. ❤️👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      AW the best compliment

  • @Godless-Being
    @Godless-Being 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I mean, I’ve heard of OCD you know like when military vets come from war but relationship OCD is new to me

    • @chica27ful
      @chica27ful 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Do you mean PTSD?

  • @AProbablyPostman
    @AProbablyPostman 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    ROCD is so rough. I never had a relationship longer than a few weeks until I figured out what was going on.

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      i hope you are experiencing more clarity. it is so tough, but happiness is attainable xo

  • @bookermarshall9007
    @bookermarshall9007 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Excellent explanations. Thank you for sharing!!!

  • @Rosa-kf6yy
    @Rosa-kf6yy 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What an articulate young lady.

  • @AspieMoonWoman
    @AspieMoonWoman 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think the difference between feeling anxious of relationships and ocd here. Is that if you're afraid of commitment you will actually find reasons to get out. And once you do. You feel relieved. Like its a weight off of ur chest.
    But in ocd. It will turn into a spiral of doubts and confirmations leading to the relation being bumpy...it wont end but it will stay troubled.
    Cause you're there still but you're not fully there due to the endless obsessions. And checkings.
    I only say that cause i relate to getting deep anxiety from relations. So i panic when things seem serious too."being called girlfriend " Wich leads me to leave quickly and move on. But i dont spiral in thoughts.
    I dont have OCD thats why i have this reasoning. Theres an element of repetition and being stuck in OCD.

  • @micheletaskey5796
    @micheletaskey5796 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    OCD can be rough. I have a similar thought pattern of feeling guilty and having to do random things like count what I'm doing to feel okay.
    Btw I'm so glad they talked about not fitting into the cleaning stereotype, cuz I don't either.

  • @thewiseowl8804
    @thewiseowl8804 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    She defined it well.

  • @lh3540
    @lh3540 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have a lot going on, but my OCD side quest is this tactile arachnophobia where I have to wash my hands 90 times if I'm near a spider. I absolutely understand it's magical thinking, and counting compulsions are useless. I would strongly reject exposure therapy for some of these things, I was in a constant meltdown living in a basement unit. My mental health improved immensely after I moved to the third floor with no bugs.

  • @aerozeppelin134
    @aerozeppelin134 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Every time she said something it shocked me more cuz I can relate to every part of it basically jeeezzz

  • @colettebeauchamp2111
    @colettebeauchamp2111 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I can say with certainty that you did help at least 1 person.

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

  • @arefidris4448
    @arefidris4448 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for bringing awareness this the first time i konw i have ocd

  • @potatomuffin4420
    @potatomuffin4420 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Folks should know too. OCD is OCD is OCD.
    It's all the same disorder regardless of theme.
    It's something you can recover from to.
    You can get out of the hole. It's just a lot of hard uncomfortable work.

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      yes yes yes!

    • @potatomuffin4420
      @potatomuffin4420 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@nataliej.d your story is great! Keep on moving!

  • @blazebenny6402
    @blazebenny6402 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It would be fun if natalie uploaded some youtube videos on her youtube channel😃😊

    • @nataliej.d
      @nataliej.d 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      something to consider!

  • @YellowCase2024
    @YellowCase2024 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    So petrified of losing the relationship ~ it’s been 25+ years and I’m still thinking it will end eventually

    • @kittytreats6536
      @kittytreats6536 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I randomly clicked on your profile and you have some very cute and beautiful videos. Even the gloomy videos are very pretty.

    • @YellowCase2024
      @YellowCase2024 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@kittytreats6536 Aw!! Thanks!!!!

    • @YellowCase2024
      @YellowCase2024 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kittytreats6536 I enjoy taking video and editing it.