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Today I decided to share some insight I have into the community. Except for the taboos, EVERYTHING in this video is MY OPINION, and are things that I have learned from being in the community for over a year now.
I worked on this video for weeks, evolving it from one angle to another. I think it came together really nicely, but let me know if you think I left anything out.
Any name drops in the comment section will result in deleted comments, and in some cases, blocking. We don't promote drama here. I am just discussing things that have happened, and if I wanted to drop names, I would have done it myself.
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If you can relate to anything I've discussed, I'd love to hear your experiences!
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2:34 Taboos & Etiquette
15:47 Houseplant Shopping Etiquette
24:16 Plant Pet Peeves
29:30 The Platforms
34:13 The Cliques
45:37 Agricultural Zones
46:30 It's Normal To Kill Plants
47:28 Pests & Pesticides
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The first part of this, I also want to say if you do offer a cutting or baby, actually OFFER it rather than assuming someone wants it. My dear MIL literally handed me 4 of her potted plants and told me to take them. I took some babies and gave her the pots back because I don't really care about those plants. =/ She was like "oh no they were for you" and I had to act like I didn't want to take all her beautiful plants in order to not just straight be like "I don't want all this."
I pinned this- thats how important this is
Just wondering, why couldn’t you tell her that you only wanted a few of them? (Not judging you dude, just curious)
Maybe I’m not understanding this situation- maybe she’s trying to bond? It helps to share the reasons why you don’t want something; when I exchange plants or other things with ppl (bronzers and moisturizers, amirite?) I’ll say why it doesn’t work for me, like “this plant needs more sunlight than I have in my house” or “this is toxic to cats” or “ I’ve already got a million pots” or “lol I can’t wear this” bc usually the real reasons for not wanting things are fine, and you can fine tune your knowledge of someone this way. HOWEVER, I DONT KNOW YO LIFE. Maybe MIL is an oblivious dick, or I’m not fully understanding the issue here. Your point/advice is still important tho, I always tell ppl that I’m offering things to: if you don’t want this it’s fine! It won’t hurt my feelings if you can’t use something, dude. I don’t get why people don’t just explain things like that. And yes _of course_ I’m a dang over-explainer hermoine grainger bossy type. Also I’d like to understand the contentious MIL situations many ppl have better.
I have a friend who does this all the time. She offers me cuttings and I say like ok can I have this part? and she will like uproot an entire part of her plant to give to me and literally almost throw it at me. I went home with like 5 bare rooted plants because she just pulled them out and I said stop dont worry. I felt obliged to take them because she probably wouldve just thrown them out and I didnt want that to happen. so i then had to go and buy pots and soil to put them in and spend my late night doing it so they didnt die.... cost me so much money and all i wanted was a cutting...
@@psychosonozaki677 Aw, sounds like she knows it'll make you happy. Next time just pot it up in some sphagnum moss or stick it in a glass of distilled water. But imo, there are worse things than needing to do some emergency gardening.
Pumped to watch! 👏🏽
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You both are my favorites! New plant mom here thanks to you both and the collection is already growing quickly😅
I think if someone is gonna ask for a cutting. You should say “hey if you ever have cutting of “blank plant” would you please let me know thank you”
That's how I've previously asked, like as in if you ever take cuttings off of this one please let me know and I'll buy one from you lol and quite often they will then offer to give me one a couple weeks later, but would never straight out ask for a cutting
Me and my best friend have a deal. We both buy different plants or trade or whatever and the first cutting always goes to the other. We both work together collecting plants too, so I do a lot of the selling of cuttings/plants to raise the funds and she does a lot of the sourcing because she is a bargain hunter and I'm always too impatient 😂
This however is probably not for everyone and it's mostly worked because we both started at around the same time and have similar taste in plants. And also that it's a pretty fair deal. Maybe sometimes she gets a micans and I get a albo monstera, but sometimes she gets the pink princess and I get the neon pothos. In the end it's a fair deal. And we both sort of see each other's collections as extensions of our own. For example, she traded a cutting of my hoya for a begonia she wanted. She doesn't like hoya, I'm not mad about begonia (and can't keep them alive anyway) so it was a deal that wouldn't have happened otherwise. She was happy, I didn't miss my one cutting. One day I'll trade a begonia for something 🤷♀️
Our deal is defiantly not for everyone but it makes our hobby much more fun for us and in the end much more cost effective 😊
I live in south Florida where most tropical plants grow on the side of the road. I agree stealing from a STATE park, or wildlife enclosures are definitely illegal but since pothos are considered an invasive plant here taking cuttings from the side of the road isn’t illegal
loopholes we tell ourselves
I own property in Florida with woodland bordering the road. I disagree with your statement.
@@floridahiker1503 if it’s not “legally protected” or on private property, it’s frowned upon but it’s not illegal.
@@gabyjoe1100 . Thanks. I agree.
This was a very interesting video, I had no idea about all these cliques, and drama. I assumed plant hobbyists were all laid back and friendly. I like all kinds of plants ornamental house plants to outdoor flowering, fruiting and herbs, so I follow a diverse range of plant utubers and so far all have come across as polite and friendly
Louise Ahmed most people are very nice and wonderful. Only some, like in every community, are problematic
Plant Me Ashley yes now I know from your video, I’ll be more aware. Keep posting those plant shopping tours I like seeing what US garden centres look like. I’ve only ever been to one in Toronto as I live in the UK
Good topic, Ashley! Ha ha, yes drama! OMG I went to a meeting of a plant group that had a greenhouse (fundraiser). The President discussed the controversy of “who should make the soil mixture” Should the big plant people make it or small plant people make it, because it appeared that no one replenished the soil bin. There was a whole argument over it. Really? If you are going to pot up plants, make the soil mixture you need. Isn’t that part of the joy of plants? Overhearing some of the other petty side discussions at the group (while the President was talking 😳), I decided not join the group. 😢
Most really are wonderful and so helpful. Then you share a pic of some rare plant you have and suddenly claws come out. There’s someone in every group that makes things awkward occasionally.
lol OMG I had no idea there was so much drama until the one I was in had so much going on. I was speechless 😶
Yessss this was a video I never knew I needed! I’m still fairly new to the house plant community so I appreciate all the great tips! 😊
I feel like it really depends how you ask friends for cuttings. Asking on the spot "hey can i have a cutting of xxxx" sounds very direct and in the moment but if you say " hey in the future if you ever have a spare cutting when xxxx is bigger Id love one!" it gives them time to debate it and decline if they just never want to give one and also allows for it to be forgotten in general. I would feel rude asking a friend for a cutting asap and like to keep it open-ended. as always it depends on your relationship.
Killing plants made me feel so sad in the beginning. Neem oil was shoved at me and it didn't work for me. I am glad to find yours and other youtubers explaining other ways. Love this video
Girlfriend! Saying no isn't rude or awkward! I used to have a hard time saying no to requests and I would feel really uncomfortable, but now I've changed my view on it. If someone askes me a question I will assume they want me to answer truthfully, and I will give them the answer yes or no. And if someone is upset by me saying no then it proves to me that they weren't really asking me, they were telling me to do something. And I don't care about upsetting that kind of person. I'm sharing this because learning to say no has been one of the healthiest and freeing things.
but that is definitely in person, I have no idea why someone would ask about something over the internet.
While in some cultures (Japan, especially) it IS considered rude to outright say "no", it's not considered rude in American culture, depending on how it's done (as in, "no, thank you" > "no way, stupid!"). 😀
@@jannelaineeleodinmuo2442 and then you have us chilling over in the UK and bluntly sating no is the norm 😂 I try to say no nicely, but some people just aren't having it lol
I lived In japan and people said no and laughed at me often.
My fav is when someone finds out you purchased a particularly pricey plant (most recently in my case a rooted Thai Const.) and they personally didn't want to spend that much so they asked to buy a cutting off of a plant I literally had just ordered, don't even have in my possession yet, to piggy back off the fact that I was willing to pay for the full plant and they want a cheap cutting. I'm not going to hack up my brand new plant for the sake of giving you a cheap out on getting an otherwise expensive plant. If what you're asking for is going to diminish the value and/or health of my plant and you're not adequately compensating me for that loss, it's definitely going to be a hard no.
That happens to me wayyy too much
P R E A C H. Just bought a Thai Con and an Albo over the weekend and I had people ask me for cuttings already.
I just had someone in my local plant group ask me if I was giving away any pink princess or Jose Buono. I had posted a photo of some freshly chopped cuttings. I said, I beg your pardon? And he repeated himself: “Are you giving any away for free?”
I’m like bro these are $70 cuttings and are my livelihood, please get out of here
@@OfficialMerilette Did he know that's how you made a living? Just curious?
Lol depends on your friendship relationship. My best friend and I have no problem telling each other no if we want something in each other's plant collections and we are not willing to part with it and we dont get ackward or pissed about it 🤷♀️
me watching the humidifier in the back just be like 👁👄👁. 💨🌱
Maybe she could make a cutting from it.
@@gazepskotzs4 😲
Hehehe, I loved the part, “I am not wearing pants.” It reminded me of the first video that I watched from you channel that people were worrying about your pants. Great video!
Tilila G thank you!
I love this video! I started my houseplant Instagram over 2 years ago, as a way to share my love of plants, and recently started my TH-cam channel. Also, being in the horticulture industry, a lot of what you talked about is unbelievably true, not only when it comes to houseplants. One thing I have noticed lately is my habit of shaming myself for not having “perfect” plants. But just like everything else in life, comparing yourself to others doesn’t help anyone, as we are all in different situations. Thanks for making wonderful content!!! 💕💕💕💕💕
What? Asking for a cutting is fine. TAKING it isnt. Personally i love when someone asks for a cutting. It means i grew a great specimen, and i am more than happy to share the genetics! It is different if you asked for a cutting from a small/ not mature specimen. That would be rude because you are asking them to risk killing their plant.
THIS!
Right? It’s always fine to ask politely for anything as long as you accept a no. I’ve heard many people say that it’s not and I just assumed it might be a cultural difference or something
but like, also dont be greedy.... be willing to share, especially if you got a good deal (and you know it) and if its someone close to you. plants continuously grow and taking cuttings doesnt do anything other than encourage more growth. to me that sounds like plants are to share...
Pleaseeee do a video on starting a planty instagram, I have an account created but every time I think about posting on it and getting started I get overwhelmed 😭
For sure!
just do it! I started mine last year and have made so many friends through it :)
Agreed with DesertPlantDiarist at first I was nervous but the planty peeps are the SWEEETEST
Lily M I totally feel the same lol just made an instagram account and don’t know where to start lol
@@desertplantdiarist4822 oh i follow you on Instagram ... Cool
Man, this was enlightening. I didn't know some of this happens. I love PlantTube cause it is a chill zone and I would like it to remain that way!
oh my god I'm literally bottom watering some of my Potted Elephant plants as I'm watching this. They are amazing! I'm all worked up now lol
Your eyes are so beautiful ☺ love the close framing
This video was very informative and you were so calm and composed while sharing your experience, I admire you.
Ps on a side note- as you said neem oil is used as a preventive measure, I do agree with you, but certain solutions in the market do come with a bit of diluted insecticide mixed with them.
I applaud you for your great content in being yourself and do keep it up!
HI, my name is Lisa and I am so proud of you for speaking about these topics You are so right I am old enough to be your grandmother I started watch youtube plant channels because the pandemic hit. I found so many young people and people my age who love plants like yourself I hate drama .My kid would come home momma I thought they were my friends well two faced people are like that I said whats that mom its someone pretending to be your friend just so they can talk about you or someone else to start hate or drama . So just be honest and true to yourself and dont let words hurt you and never through the first stone to start trouble. Ashley just stay true to yourself and keep giving us your tips and showing us your beautiful plants. I dont care what people say about you or anyone else I have a mind of my one and can form my on opinion about someone. There is to much hate in this world and people who like to start hate and trouble . So dear your plant friends who truly care about you want care what someone else says if they are truly your friend . From what I have seen from watching you is your a beautiful young lady who loves life and plants who cares for others so please remember stay true to your self love your husband and your cat and keep sharing your love for plants you are helping people be better plant parents .I cant wait to see your loving family in your new home with all your beautiful plants. And for everyone reading this stop the hate life is to short I know I lost a 15 year old grandson both my parents and my husband who died from cancer as well as my dad my oldest sister from diabetes and a aunt from covet . So you see there is no room for hate live life to the fullest love your family and friends because .life is short . Sorry Ashley I didnt mean for this to be a novel but you were so right I am so proud of you for speaking out. God Bless You all.
Holy Moly, I JUST bought a Pink Princess cutting from someone on Facebook last Wednesday. Before I sent her money she did mention she had a mini crisis w her daughter. After I sent her the money she messaged me asking if it was OK if she mailed out my cutting on Monday bc her daughter was sick & she was afraid of the plant being held at the post office over the weekend. I'm a mom. I understand how quick kids get sick so I told her no problem, I hope her daughter feels better &. Just let me know the tracking number on Monday when she gets it. Today is Monday. Not only did she send me the tracking number as promised but she thanked me for being so patient & understanding. She said not everyone was. This is a fantastic video by the way. Thank you.
I can ask my friend, if they are willing to make cuttings. in my friendships I see no problems, because we are honest to each other. of cause it depends on you friendships, but generally I see no problem in asking friends for cuttings xD just be honest to your self and to friends. (we (friends of mine and me)also can say, "no, this cutting is primarily for selling, sorry perhaps in future".)
Thank you for talking about the succulent poaching! As someone who has seen the direct impact of this, Its nice knowing people haven’t forgotten about the problem! I have worked, many of times, with the Warden who discovered this issue. He is a wonderful person and is very passionate about what he does. I highly suggest reading the NPR article where he talks about the discovery of this issue, “The Case of the Stolen Succulents”! Thank you again for bringing light to a not very talked about subject!
Ya ofc!! I didnt even know it was a thing until i was researching! Its so wild!
I agree. I never knew such a thing even existed. But living in Cali, I have seen them and thought how beautiful they are and to find out that they're vital to the ecosystem was very informative. Just stealing plants in general isn't okay.
Girllll kudos for this wonderful video!! I want to start my plant TH-cam channel.. but Im freaked out cause of the craziness out there. But you calmed me down a bit.. thank you so much Ashley! 😍🙏💚
Omg yes start a channel!!
@@PlantingAshley you're the sweetest!!! 😭😍😍.. thank you!🙏💚💚
This is common sense and good manner's. Although some of it feels a bit high school although I'm 58 what do I know.
I love following you! I was into succulents only for 2 years until about a month or so ago one of your videos started playing before I had a chance to search my next topic and it was your graduation plant haul with your parents and you brought me into a whole new plant world!! I have now switched my focus quite a bit to houseplants. I never owned one prior to watching your videos and I now am a proud plant mom to quite a few. I went right out to Lowes and Home Depot and now have some beautiful plants that I absolutely love looking at and learning about everyday. THANK YOU for being you and sharing your love and excitement of houseplants!!
Meaghan Crowley omg thanks so much!! Im glad that my video was interesting enough that even tho you didnt pick it, you let it play and watched! Thats so cool!
Very informative video. Wished I would have watched it alone time ago 😅😅
OMG the Instagram youtube chat. I totally forgot about that tbh :P
I really enjoyed your talks on hording plants.
Also plant cuttings.
Ew the fact that people think they should talk about how someone looks or what theyre wearing during plant content WTF
Just as late as yesterday, I removed myself from pretty much all local/national houseplant groups on FB.
I'm quite a nerd, so when I get a hobby, I research the fuck out of it. Which means, I'm quite able to reply to people needing help on FB. However, a group of people decided to get mad at me and have been sending me PM's and harassing me on EVERY post they saw me reply to. Even people asking for help, have gotten mad at me when replying to their questions. That really got me down and really bugged me. Honestly, I just wanted to help with issues which people post, because I did not have that help when I started myself. To then get harassed for it was just too much. That's quite the pet peeve for me. If you ask for help, accept the help, no matter who it comes from.
Im sorry that happened :( the facebook group has amazing pockets of good, but its way to way to easy to get bullied and harassed for my taste. I would encourage you to experience the instagram scene :) the houseplant community over there is incredible!!
What does this mean when you refer to tea? T? I see commenters mentioning “tea groups.”
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You grew your plants in a north facing window? I only have north facing windows and a north facing balcony. I help the plants out with grow lights and grow bulbs throughout my home. So nice to hear someone has success keeping indoor plants with a north facing window :)
All of my plants love the north facing window specially the monsteras. 😊💚🌿
I only have around 55 followers on my plant instagram, the following is an actual DM conversation:
Anon Messager: OMG I luv ur page so much ur plants are so amazing (100 emojis)
Me: Aw Thankyou so much! I'm still a newbie so that means a lot :)
A.M: ur polka dot begonia is amazing (more emojis)
Me: Thankyou so much, it's one of my absolute favourites :)
A.M: wud u send me cutting of it???
Me: aw I'm so sorry, I usually would. I just sent cuttings of my Tradascantia to someone on fb, but my Begonia Maculata Wightii recently went through a rough patch so i'm still rehabing her so she doesn't have enough healthy growth for me to cut anything off. I'm so sorry :(
A.M: PLEASE??????? my daughtr has cancer n all she wants is a polka dot begonia for her bedroom
Me: I'm so so sorry your daughter is going through that, that is truly awful. I am sending you all my love and i hope she recovers well. IF you like I can help you search for a good deal on the Begonia! I have some free time and I would be happy to help :) What country do you live in, so that I can find places that will ship to you.
A.M: but if u send it can be a birthday presnt!! please i rlly rlly want this plant!!!!!! (100 crying emojis)
Me: I'm so sorry, but I really can't take a cutting of my Begonia. She's not healthy enough to take a cutting from the only healthy growth she has. She would die if i took cuttings from her right now. If you tell me your budget I can help you find one.
A.M: i dont have budget PLEASE SHE IS IN HOSPITOL
Me: Please understand, I am so so sorry about your daughter but my plant is not big enough to take a cutting from.
A.M: u could just send her ur plant please it wud make her so happy please do this
Me: I understand, but I have some very serious medical issues myself. I am a disabled person and struggle a lot with mental health. My plants make me happy, they are my own form of therapy and mean the absolute world to me. Giving away one of my most beloved plants would effect me badly. I hope you can understand. I'm so sorry I couldn't help you.
A.M: u r selfish n greedy u r rich n have hundreds of plants and u wont give a little girl dieing of cancer just 1 plant!! it is just 1 plant please dont be like that just giv 1 plant please u can by other 1
Me: I am sorry you think i'm greedy or selfish. I am NOT rich. I told you I am disabled, I live on disability benefits and have to save hard for each of my plants and I do not have hundreds of plants, I only have around 20 plants and I had to wait and save for each of them and they mean a lot to me. Honestly I was planning to follow you and hopefully help you in the future when I was able, but you are being horrible to me now for no reason. I have offered to help you in every way I can.
A.M: HELP BY GIVING ME THE PLANT
A.M: ITS JUST A FUCKIN PLANT
Me: I've told you I cannot help you by giving you the plant. They are not "just plants" to me. They are things I have spent time caring for, tending to and loving. Please stop this now.
A.M: U R SELFISH FUCKIN BITCH IM REPORTING U
A.M: HAV FUN BEING BANNED U FUCKIN BITCH
A.M: SLUT (100s laughing emojis)
A.M: iv seen ur other page u fuckin slut
A.M: ur fuckin ugly to lose sum weight u fat pig
A.M: STOP FUCKIN IGNORE ME FAT BITCH
Me: Please stop this.
A.M: u send my kid the plant she is dieing she has cancer please give me the plant
A.M: the polka dot one please
A.M: ?????????????????????????????
A.M: HELO???????
Me: Listen this is a new account, I don't want to start blocking and reporting people. Please just stop this and we'll forget it happened. If i'm giving away cuttings at some point in the future I will post it on my instagram. Let's just stop now ok?
A.M: HAHAHAHA U REPORT ME???? IL FIND UR FUCKIN HOUSE BITCH
A.M: FUCKIN FAT SLUT
A.M: MY MANS FUCKIN GANG BITCH
A.M: IL FIND U N U GET FUCKED UP!!!!!!
Me: I'm going to block you and report you for harassment. This is not ok.
A.M: HAHAHAHAHAHAHA U FUCKIN DED BITCH FUCKIN DISABLE RETARD BITCH
A.M: (typing)
BLOCKED.
Goblin Princess Kyo oh my god really? Thats horrible :( im sorry that happened to you :(
@@PlantingAshley Sadly, yup! It ended up similar to how messages go on my main account where i post my ametuer modelling shots and turn down peoples advances. Same anger, same insults. It makes me understand why a lot of the really popular people don't answer DM's if mine is so tiny at 55 followers and even I get this sort of abuse. I can only imagine how bad it is for people who have thousands and thousands of followers.
The fact that I found this video and the number one rule happened to me yesterday and I felt soooo obligated to say yes that I’m actually cutting my Wilbur graves for the person who asked me today after work (FOR FREE) is just unbelievable to me. How fucking true Ashley. How true! I knew it felt awful.
wow, some of these were shocking. To be jealous of someone having lots of beautiful plants is absolutely horrendous to me. Do they have any idea how difficult it can be to take care of the plants? I have a few and each one has its own needs and require its own nurturing. People need to stop following trends or wanting to be like others. Do You!!! Its mind blowing to me.
Ashley, I think the messages you are sending in this video are very wise and much appreciated. You found a way to connect some general social guidelines to the plant world in a way that makes a lot of sense. Thank you for your voice and sharing your opinions!
I’ve only been in the plant community for about 8 months and these are all really helpful! I’m happy to say I’ve not done any of the “don’ts”. I’ve been binging your content for the last month and subbed after the first video I watched!
So helpful, can I have a cutting of your million dollar albo?... lmao jk... gag.... just subscribed. This all needed to be said. 😎 go girl. I just got myself a node cutting and one with a Leaf and I’ve already had someone ask, it was days after I got it and didn’t even have roots yet. Having to say no to cuttings is so awkward.
I guess I'm from a different generation of online plant people. When I started heavily growing houseplants, the only place to go to share about plants was on Garden Web way back when Spike owned the website, and you were sent to Disney when you cussed. There wasn't Instagram or youtube, you used Photobucket or ImageShack. Since then GW has been shuffled to different parent companies and I don't even think they have plant exchange forums anymore. I have gotten a lot of plants over the years through plant friends and I have rarely met one not willing to share if you have something comparable to trade. Although, plant sales have never been allowed on Garden Web, so maybe that is why it is so foreign to me that it would be considered rude in this day and age. Asking for a plant or cutting for postage would be considered rude to me although there are still people who do it.
Ya i think it really depends on the situation and place. Imagine ppl asking you for a cutting of your fav plant 10 times a day.. minimum. Thats the kindof stuff im talking about
I fully understand your point of view and respect that. I'm not on Instagram so I don't know the rules. I just assumed it was a place to show off pictures. I didn't realize there was a marketplace also.
This was freaking awesome. Im glad you did this because it definitely would have helped me when I first started collecting plants.
ESPECIALLY when it comes to Facebook. There’s so much drama and negativity in some of the plant groups. It can be really hard to navigate and be apart of. Especially when you are new to groups. I found it very discouraging in the beginning because dozens of people would drag you or insult you for asking a simple question. It was terrible.
Thanks so much broderick!! Also my first cutucuense is giving me a new LEAAAAF!!!
Broderick Adams yeah the facebook community cant be sure unfriendly to newcomers
As a beginner in all the Facebook plant groups during quarantine, genuinely the most helpful plant video I've watched! Literally a survival guide, thank you 🙏🙏
Thank you for posting this! We need more videos like this. There is alot of things we can learn about plants and buying plants! Great job Ashley 👍
Facebook can be a pretty toxic community. Lots of hidden stuff and things you can’t talk about without being harassed and being kicked out of groups. There is a few groups and people that I like on there. My friend on there wanted a refund and they called her a scammer and started harassing her and making fun of her job; it was ridiculous. But It’s the best place to get plants for a deal for me
My friend on Instagram was canceled and cyber bullied a few weeks ago because he sold a plant that he grew from seed that he thought was a rare species, but it ended up being a more common species. He got accused of being a scammer, because he sold it to someone who was fairly popular in the plant community, the person he sold the plant to told everyone to harass him and it got to the point where someone doxed his address and IP.
Thats horrible :( someones tried to cancel me before too. It doesnt feel good at allll
Yaaaasss I’d love a fertilising video !
Awh man, i’d love to be your plant friend!! Along with growing amazing plants, growing positivity is also fantastic! Keep it up girl👌🏼
When you said “Facebook groups focused on starting drama” I was like “OMG SHE TALKING ABOUT THE TEA GROUPS”.
My friend and I have recently started to become very aware of the toxicity in a lot of these plant groups. I love plants. But some people are more collectors than hobbyists, and some of the collectors are so competitive...
I’ve gone to a store to get a plant from a new shipment only to be told by an employee that one person came in and bought the whole pallet. Related, I’ve seen costa farms baskets of Hoya or Cebu sold for astronomical prices because people will buy them all up from the local box stores so they can control the supply and demand. I’ve been in purges and seen one or two people snag almost every single plant, probably copying and pasting “sold” the moment a plant was posted...
PS5 scalpers are bad, but plant scalpers are just hilarious 😂
OMG I love your plant, can I have a piece of it (all creeper-like) ..... imagine this instead, "OMG I love your hair, can I have a piece it?!" That's what I hear LOL
"X, Y, Z" we stan
LMNOP
I only really use FB for social media and watch YT but I’m interested to find some Instagram groups since FB is a 💩 show in half my groups... even the “NO drama” groups. I thought all groups were like this. Thank you for showing me the light 😂
Excellent video, you are so spot on. I love how practical and straight-forward you are.
I like the spill the tea channels. Someone's who honest. Honest doesn't have to be drama.
Another long video yay!
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Girl yes!! You are 100% right! Lol even though I don’t have a click, I’m just a TH-cam watcher that has a small plant collection and I just do me and my plants 😂 but you.. you are cool!! Haha love you!! Don’t let people get to you at all and it seems like you don’t! You are a very strong person !! Respect ✊
I swear we think so much alike. I'm sure you hear that often. Also on the bad reviews no everything will be shipped perfect. No one has control of shipping times or weather so unless you do all your due diligence leaving a bad review can really damage a decent company/shop/seller. Some times it really isn't the sellers fault either. Thank you for sharing the etiquette and does & don't 's
I don’t know, I don’t think it’s annoying or rude to ask if you can have a cutting. Everyone can ask me for it, in the end I decide if I’ll give it to them or not. It’s not rude to ask for something, it’s rude if you don’t accept a no.
My friends constantly ask me for cuttings and I either give it to them right away or I tell them they’ll have to wait because I want the plant to grow some more first. I would never feel obligated to give away anything. Same with strangers. Everyone can ask, they just need to accept a no. I don’t know, I heard this so often now and it really confuses me how politely asking for something could ever be considered rude. Maybe it’s a cultural thing.
The only thing I hate in the plant community are plain lies.. 5min craft is one of the best examples of that (sometimes they have very innovative ideas, but mostly it’s just not true..)
I feel sorry for those that think it’s real and then it not working for them.
Why can’t we all just be honest and help eachother succeed and grow in this community?
I really hate neem oil.. i really really hate the smell.. i use dish soap, diatomaceous earth and rubbing alcohol.. mainly.. I normally deal with mealybug and spidermites.. but its been clear for about 2 months.. im so happy about it! Thanks for the recommendation on the capitan jacks.. i was looking for something to treat my plants when i bring them in for winter..
So when I comes to the pests side of things, if you have a bioactive vivarium for your geckos.... and you have pests pop up In there.... you aren't able to use pesticides :/ as live animals live in there, I have no idea what to do about it 😅 I've been removing spider mites for weeks, and was using neem oil on the leaves only, and I'm at a loss with what to do about it lol if anyone has any advice please let me know
Hello Ashley I am new to youtube house plant info I think you made a lot of good points. And I actually don't live far from you . Good info thank you Hello FromEastern Oregon
PREACHHHHHH! ......(Love your set up btw)
Awesome video! I love that you’re so real, genuine and you took the time to make this video! Great tips and rule to follow 🙌🏻 looking forward to seeing more from you
I never thought of asking for a cutting from a plant. That’s so uncomfortable. I’ve offered cuttings or to propagate when I think the plant is ready.
LOVE THIS VIDEO! the part about messaging people to sell you a plant reminds me of the time I made a post looking for a certain plant I was trying to find for a year. ONE person commented telling ME to message him...59 people proceeded to message him asking for it. He ended up deleting his comment and blocking all of them for vulturing trying to buy something he specifically stated was for a certain person.
I totally get the instagram comment thing. I actually took my post down the other day because the persons comment made me feel so embarrassed and made me feel so dumb 😩 love your videos girl 💕
When you got to the theft part I was like "shit have I been stealing?" At my local Lowe's i get stuff thats on the floor or are about to be thrown away. The succulents at Lowes are so close together than when a pot is picked up and put back the leaves are broken off i just pick those ones. Some people have been told by staff that its ok but not all places. I also make sure to buy something while im there
I would ask for the fallen leaves.
Guilty of leaf collecting from the floor and shelves and under pots in trays... I always ask, at lowes and other places and have been told that they didnt mind at all. I will even buy a small pot to put the leaves in. With this said there is a difference between leaves that are not attached and people that will pluck leaves to get the propagation and even pull certain plants out of arrangements. People are ruthless now days. Common sense and basic courtesy are traits that are hard to find in a world where everyone feels like their wants and needs are priority over anything else. I try my best to treat people the way I would want to be treated. I like that Ashley has set her boundaries and stick to them!!!
I consider that theft. What's more, THEY would probably consider that theft.
They SELL plants, that's how they make their money. You shouldn't take things without asking.
I used to work at a Home Depot and as an employee we weren't even allowed to take plants that didn't sell. I had to trash compactor some of them. My trainer told me if I was caught taking them I would get fired. You certainly shouldn't take products as a customer if employees can't even.
@@jannelaineeleodinmuo2442 not sure who your comment was left for. There is a few replies on here.
It’s totally fine if it’s a big box store. It’s just not ok if it’s a local nursery.
I dont mind if people ask me for cuttings, it's just shows that they are interested, if I don't want to give away or sell cuttings, I just say no, 🤷 simple
People are so sensitive now a days
Just subscribed, i watched a couple and your vids and you make an awesome channel, Greetings from the Netherlands!
Ashley, I have mad respect for you making this video. Tellin it how it is! We could be friends IRL.
You already KNOW that we’re all watching the ads 😹
A really eye opening tasteful video!!!! thanks!!!!
Hello! I just found your channel a few days ago and I love it! I've recently been bit by the plant bug and I'm all over your and Harli.G.s videos
Thank you Ashley for your genuine views of your experience. Very much appreciated xo
I think all plant collectors need to watch this..You are my favorite just bc of all this...
How does one find these magical Instagram groups? They sound magical. I'm so over the Facebook drama. I got into plants because they were helping my mental health, but there is no need (for the recent negativity in particular) for all the hate on Facebook.
Whoops newbie error, ask questions before watching the entire video 🙈 sorry!
Wow that's interesting because I wouldn't think that it would be rude if a friend asked me for a cutting😅😂thank u so much for telling us all these things👍❤
I think it depends on which friend and which plant 😅 for me atleast
It depends on the plant. If someone admires my Swedish Ivy that grow like crazy and is easy to propagate, then it is no problem. But I have some rare plants that were expensive or hard to get. They grow slowly and are a challenge to propagate. Asking me to cut this plant that took a while to get where it is anyway, and me knowing that you probably will lose the cutting anyway, puts me in the position of saying 'No' and then it is awkward. I recently had a notary public come to my home (sent by the bank because I was refinancing) and she admired my plants. I gave her a cutting of a Tradescantia and that was no problem. But then she saw a philo that is rare and I had sent to me from Florida is that is a very slow grower. I said I did not want to cut it. Then she said, "just cut me a leaf from the bottom", which told me she had no idea how it would propagate anyway. If I want a cutting I simply as if the person sells cuttings. That gives them the option of saying 'no' or saying 'yes' or giving it to me for free.
Thank you for making this video! I’m new to the plant community, and all of this information is soooo helpful! It was beyond plant advice, branching (HA!) into relationship advice. Much appreciated! ❤️
I do have a question on how the Facebook market plant groups work. What does NIL mean? I’ve tried looking into their rule book and all but I can’t figure it out? I’m a newbie!
Next in line. Used after someone comments SOLD on an ad if it falls through you are “next in line”
wow i didnt even know that!
SNAPS TO YOU! you did so well on this video. I think you did a great job of explaining things in a way that was helpful and very...non condescending(is that even a sentence?). I learned a few things from this video and I’m sure that many others have as well. Best wishes!
SNAPS TO YOU! you did so well on this video. I think you did a great job of explaining things in a way that was helpful and very...non condescending(is that even a sentence?). I learned a few things from this video and I’m sure that many others have as well. Best wishes!
this had so much good info and I loved how genuine you were about it all!!
I only have one friend basically and she is starting to get into plants because of me and I always offer her plants I dont have much but I love how we have the same hobbies you and harli g make me feel so welcomed 💕🌸
Hi Ashley! You are a very smart lovely person! You deserve much more subscribers!!
Awe thanks!
so is no one gonna mention the plant black market or has everyone been silenced by now :O
Thanks for the first one (have not listened to the whole thing yet). I have had people come to my home and see my plants and some very rare ones and ask. I hate cutting my plants, even when they need to be cut and I feel really awkward when someone asks. This is so rude and people should not do it. Maybe ask, "Do you sell cuttings?". That way the plant owner can simply say 'no' or if they want to they can say, "Here let me cut this and give it to you" or say, "yes and I charge $X".
Knowing and understanding your zone is essential to providing the best care for all plants. Thank you
You have a great attitude. Your thoughts are very much appreciated. This no drama girl appreciates the heads up on the different platforms.
I agree pretty much with all your opinions thanks for this video it helped remind me that not everyone is my friend and that its normal to kill plants
I am new here and subscribed right away!!! Great video. I’m just tipping my toes in the house plants community. I am learning and consuming a lot of information and glad I found you.
Loving this video!! so much dramas...😩and I’m learning so much from this😅
I was wondering if you’ve ever had any problems with your cat chewing on toxic plants? A while ago I purchased a golden pothos not knowing how toxic they were, and my cat ended up ingesting and vomiting and drooling, costing me over $500 in vet bills. Any tips for having plants in the house with a cat that loves plants?
Natalie i actually adopted my cat with her already being full grown and she doesnt touch my plants! Idk why i guess they just dont interest her!
Plant Me Ashley oh man you are so lucky! My silly cats just love any plant they can sink their teeth into.
I have 2 cats and I trained them from the get go with a water spray bottle. When they get near any plant I spritz them. It might sound mean but it works and they don’t go near my plants anymore and I’d rather them get a little spray of water rather than get sick and die potentially
Great video. I really enjoyed it and the incredible amount of info you shared I am not a plant mom yet -- only have three baby ones -- and your information will be a big help.
A lot of this I thought was common sense. LOL! But you have also enlightened me. Thanks for this vid.
Some of Reddit’s communities are pretty good. R/takeaplantleaveaplant is a good one for trading
I wanna know who the drama plant people are, because I’ve literally never seen anyone be nasty (not saying I don’t believe it)
Join some local plant groups on FB and you’ll find them eventually.
I am a thefter. you wouldnt believe the amount of dragonfruit i find on the road