AITA for causing family drama over a cake? (React Court)
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- This came from my livestream on November 4th, 2022. Catch me live every weekday from 11AM-4PM here: / northernlion
I wanted to mix up my content a little bit and I figured, what better way to use my unique brand of judgemental gaze than to read the top posts on one of the most entertaining subreddits out there: r/AmITheAsshole? Check it out!
"You're doing a fantastic job of communicating your wants and desires, you're just failing to recognize that the wants and desires are insane." React Court summarized.
That girl is banging Anthony
Exactly; just because you say it nicely doesn’t mean you’re right
“It’s not a big ask to ask for a picture taken down” and it’s not a big ask to not look at it and/or don’t bring it up…….
I felt like that same principle could've been directly applied to the instagram video one. He asked for it to be taken down but she didn't have to
@@NightKnuckles yes but less so because the video was directly affecting the dude and it involved him directly. a picture on the wall in a house that isn't yours is hardly comparable to a compromising video of yourself. A more apt comparison would be a video of a couple kissing and some random third party asking for it to be taken down.
“You are society’s first line of defence against your wife” took me out
I need this as a "live laugh love" type piece of wall art
Me too lmaoooo
It just seems like his wife is the colossal titan
"It's rhetorically dishonest, but it made my point feel stronger so I'm glad I said it."
Possibly one of the greatest NL lines.
How does a fully grown adult survive in society if they freak out over a picture of a kiss?
Judging by the fact that they are homeless, I would say that they don't.
@@Steve_Johnson_ THIS^^^^^^ SO MUCH THIS!!!!
It's fake
@@MrBuga12 "User received Reddit Galaxy for this post"
Info: what’s wrong with your wife?
NL could literally go to a comedy club and just do react court. This shit is always gold.
React Court Live, there's an idea
@Bob H Heck, he could also stream the live performance so people can watch from anywhere!
@Bob H right? Sell tickets for, idk, $5. He'd make a killing!
If only we could give him money while he does things to make us laugh to show our appreciation
The wife in the first one literally acting like an anime schoolgirl it's insane
But the picture is just a kiss. Not something truly lude like hand holding
That is actually such a perfect analogy
a k-k-kiss!?!?! but husband-kun we've only been married for 10 years!
NL wants to send the first guy's wife to the Hyperbolic Therapy Chamber
+2
+2
Twitch chat, the abstract entity that loves to watch people sleeping and watch 24/7 subathon streams, don't really vibe with the whole concept of enforcing privacy rights. Color me surprised.
Yeah, I found it amusing that he held twitch to a higher sanity standard than reddit. As a frequent user of both, there are a whole bunch of poorly adjusted people on both.
Dude chat was actually psychotic in that post.
Redditor's lives seem so exhausting. I'm just here going "AITA for procrastinating taking out the garbage so long that the people I live with get annoyed enough to do it themselves, info: I did mean to take it out but overwatch 2 is very fun", these guys are here with lives where every birthday carries with it the same level of political intrigue as Game of Thrones.
YTA, your overwatch you're winston
yta
Overwatch 2 is not fun, YTA
Tbh listening to these help me function as a reasonable human being and not get stun locked on stupid things.
We as a community share the egglord moral compass
“Stun locked on stupid things” is such a perfect way to describe that.
@@octaviorivarola2087 this is true, I only ever seem to disagree with Dr. Eggman on a rare occasion and when the stakes of the post aren’t that high, ex. dispute over garage parking spot.
The demise of react court’s exaggeration have been greatly rumoured
Many people are in fact saying this.
Many this are saying people
Right that's not, minute a wait... 🤔
My kids without friends be like:
Actually true. No one is saying the demise is greatly exaggerated anymore, it's the demise of the exaggeration
You can only insulate the world against your wife's insanity for so long. At some point the layer of tolerance decays and she breaks the curtain through to see the world as it sees her and she's either gonna sink or swim. Tell her she's insane for getting uncomfortable over WEDDING PHOTOS IN SOMEONE ELSE'S HOUSE. What did they do in their wedding? Shake hands?
"I now pronounce you man and wife. You may now very briefly touch the groom's fingertips."
The fact that the op in the first one doesn't see that his wife is nuts says a lot.
Love blinders, man. It takes a big step back to realize your partner's flaws sometimes.
@@Pedun42 would love to get some love blinders in my living room to block out all the sunshine that could come through. Great for scary movies.
@@greenoftreeblackofblue6625 Love blinders, man. I can't get enough of them.
I might be reading into it a bit too much but I get the feeling that Anthony might be a minority and OP's wife is racist.
@@Bone8380 sanest TH-cam commenter
I get 10x amount of housework done when NL posts react court
So true, my wife loves it and doesn't even know. All she knows is I cook us a nice dinner and leave the kitchen spotless afterwards. Thanks NL
@@robmack519 The one making dinner should clean the kitchen! That might actually be a AITA topic to post...
@@OnetastyJoe Have you considered that it's their house their rules tho
@@LittleMissSyreid ah but see, im a single mother of three from /r/choosingbeggars and your in a crossover episode!
@@OnetastyJoe true, but I mean that I clean more than the mess I make cooking. Like any dishes that were already in the sink, whatever messes the kids left, any clutter that's gathered on the counters, etc.
"What I'm realizing from these posts is...being divorced is really f*** up." I can't imagine having kids with one of my ex's.
I made it 2 minutes in before becoming completely stunlocked by the wife who was offended at the kissing photo when they were staying at the couples house out of their own generosity. Imagine...
Her bedroom her rules
And it was a wedding photo! That’s the most universally acceptable kissing photo possible! What does she do when she goes to a real wedding? Throw up?
Never have I heard of a "recreational poop" but gosh dangit I completely understand what he's talking about lol.
Cake Lady is TA for not proof reading her post for even one millisecond.
I really don't get people arguing about the guy wanting a video of him dancing silly to be removed from social media.
Admittedly, european talking, so indeed pretty sure RGPD would apply.
Yes, he should have expected it to be filmed. Also, not everyone is behaving perfectly 100%of the time on the off chance they'd be filmed in ways they don't want to be seen by potentially a lot of folks. OP's in their rights to keep the video in their private circles. However, once it's shared publicly, the husband's part of that shared video. That feels to me like ground enough to ask that said photo not be shared publicly, or at least with him in the video.
To be fair, twitch folks would watch a streamer sleep on camera, so pretty sure they don't get the concept of right to privacy lol ( don't take this seriously, just a free shot)
I'm just curious what the situation is with this 'conservative' girlfirend and family. do they disagree with drinking? because he obviously does drink. Has he been acting like he doesn't? because he's going to have bigger problems down the line keeping that up. Do they have a problem seeing him having fun? Dancing? that's not conservative, that's 'ultra-orthodox'. Honestly, if they're really *that* conservative, you think they'd have a problem with the concept of divorce in the first place.
@@Nowolf I mean, don't get me wrong, I'd agree with that. But to be fair, this isn't really the problem at hand in OP's situation. Admittedly, even if he provided no reason other than "I'd rather not have this video of me shown publicly online" that'd be good enough justification (of course there's also ways to ask for this, being willing to maybe compromise if he could be cropped or sthg, but I don't think he was necessarly mean about it).
In that sense, someone could think the pants they wore thay day looked bad on them. Maybe they feel self conscious about x or y. Basically, someone could have a multitude of reasons to not want to have their image shared publicly online (emphasis on publicly). And so in that sense, the justification isn't needed as much as the fact that they simply would like it removed from public view in my eye.
@@TemperanceL2 nah, I can agree with the idea that the nice, and reasonable considering your connection with the person, thing to do is obvious. but the motivations on his part are definitely cause for concern, especially, again, considering that co-parenting thing. I mean, it's one thing to be so conservative that you don't drink, or dance; it's another thing to have the expectation that other people in your life don't.
@@Nowolf have you never met ultra-conservative Christians...? Also, that little detail from the post is _really_ not relevant to what he was asking; it frankly doesn't matter _why_ he wanted the video removed from social media, if he doesn't want it online for anyone with an internet connection to see, then it should be deleted, period. You can have the opinion that his reasoning is bad and that he is setting himself up for future failure, I think I'd agree with that, but again, that isn't the point of the post and is irrelevant to his question concerning is right to privacy.
@@Nowolf Yeah, not to reiterate but the serious point here is: it literally doesn't matter why he doesn't want that video circulating.
If there was a really ugly picture of you taken on SnapChat by a friend and they tossed it up on their story,...Then you politely let them know that you share friends and don't want anyone seeing that picture,...then they said "eh, sorry free country."
You'd be reasonably upset that something that is focused on you in an unsavory light was up on the internet without your consent; now pretend you have to raise a child with this person you can't trust.
Again, no matter what his reasoning is; that is beyond the scope of the matter; we could speculate thousands of scenarios on why the dude wants it to be kept private, but truthfully none of them justify leaving it up (seemingly) purely out of spite.
Like NL said, it reads like someone who is trying to start unnecessary conflict with their ex, because truthfully there isn't another reason for not respecting the other person's privacy.
NL coming to the realization that divorce sucks almost all the time was his most based moment
It's something that's hard to fully grasp if you've never been part of a divorced household
@@goclbert +2
@@goclbert my mom is going thru her 2nd divorce in 10 years. It was tough as hell the first time when I was a teen, now I'm a grown ass man and it's somehow worse. Can confirm divorce sucks almost all the time, from every direction.
-Did you hear the rumors?
-Yeah, but they sounded greatly exaggerated to me....
Hey NL! Never thought I’d see my own AITA post on react court! I’m happy to let you know that my wife is being sent to the Dr.Phill ranch for a little bit of a mindset adjustment. Happy pegging!
There’s no way this is real
@@TheIbney00 Your reality, your rules.
@@jjjjasonnnn thanos
This whole thread just makes me think of a Thanos version of Ram Ranch.
Info: can we get a breakdown of NL's distinction between a "recreational" and a normal poop 😂
For me, a normal poop is one where I have to walk quicker than a normal walk to get to the bathroom. A recreational poop is where you can sit on the toilet for 30 minutes playing a game or doomscrolling. The poop is optional.
it's the difference between feeling like going to the toilet and having to
For a normal poop, my phone stays in my pocket. For a recreational poop, my phone is in my hand right until I need to wipe.
@@MrMiddleWick +2
The boiled triangles are one of my favorite pieces of NL lore
This guys wife in the first one sounds like Carrie's mom or something if shes withering at every observation of human affection
the nl vs picky eaters arc returns
As an extreme picky eater I have to agree with NL. My pickiness is mental to the extreme, and I have had to go to therapy about it. Like if say a person eats something they don't like, they just go "oh I don't like this" but can still eat it at least most of it. I can't. One bite of something I don't like is already too much. At two bites I'm forcing myself to not puke. At three bites I will be rushing to the closest bathroom to puke. I've had to work at it to try and expand my possible menu all my life precisely because of what NL says. I often times was the person causing everyone else to be uncomfortable because I didn't like anything in a restaurant menu. My parents would adjust family outings for me, as well as vacations, to make sure I had something to eat. I couldn't ever go to a friend's house for lunch, because I wouldn't eat anything and their parents would look at me weird. I always had to make it after lunch. I did have to make the effort to at least find several universal menu items I can eat, and am I glad I did it before I finished college. I still always try to look online menus of everything, but it is extremely liberating to me that now 99% of the time I can look up the menu online and immediately pinpoint two or three items I can eat and be at ease. Now whenever my parents want to go to a restaurant with me and my sister or we're at a family vacation we can visit the restaurants they want, and though they still worry about me I can now say don't worry I looked it up I already know what I'm gonna order.
@@haresage6110 everyone on the internet is a man until proven otherwise with boob video.
im glad that you found things you can enjoy almost anywhere, but there's no reason for you to feel ashamed or for people to shame you for your needs. Your family adjusting things so that you were accommodated is the kind of thing that should happen more often. That's approaching the situation in a loving and inclusive manner, rather than the norm which is cold and alienating.
@@sanraikou I thank you for your sentiments but it's just how the world works. Regardless I've had the fortune now to travel to a lot of places, and the United States I gotta say is actually the most inclusive place I've been in. Anywhere I go in that country I know I'm covered food-wise.
@@JGD714 the world ain't built for us, but we find a way. I still have a lot to build before I can find comfort, but hopefully the building will be starting soon.
this is as crazy as a Reddit post, but I still believe it, and I’m not sure how to feel about it to be honest
I just came from watching this on Twitch VoD and this was in my subbox but I have to say Zoomers in the chat were insane in the wedding video one. People absolutely should have a right to not be filmed in public, just as people have a right to film in public. I 100% agree with NL that it must be a generational thing, as I was already a teen to adult when social media was becoming big and the idea of possibly being filmed all the time was something I had to think about with a functional brain. You don't need to ask everyone for permission when filming, both morally and legally, but I also think you have an obligation to take something down with someone in it if they request it for whatever reason.
Things on public social media go viral at seemingly random, and you see all these memes that have come from things put online without the video stars consent, all to make fun of the person in the video. It's psycho to think you should just accept being recorded without your consent by being alive as a human being, makes no sense.
I don’t think it’s generational thing, I just think Twitch Chat is full of psychos. But I fully agree with you and NL otherwise.
This is as close as mankind can get to an objectively correct take
I might just be insane zoomer pilled but if you're dating someone who has a serious issue with a video of you being silly drunk in a wedding video maybe it's not worth it
It baffles me that NL's logic on the wedding video was "why doesn't she just take the video down" but for the one with the homeless couple with the wedding picture of their hosts kissing he thought it was insane to expect them to take down the picture. I see these 2 things as nearly the same situation but he ended up on totally opposite sides of the issues. For the record, I think they should both be left up and I'm the same generation as NL (I'm 38). If that ex-husband was the focus of the video instead of just in the background I'd agree that it would be the right thing to take it down, but she shouldn't be prohibited from sharing a nice video of her kids and mom just because she accidentally caught her ex being embarrassing in the background.
Hell, I thought this was a basic understanding in society? Everyone's gone insane ffs.
3:00 is a classic case of your house your rules, open and shut case
First post may be biggest "your house your rules" in react court thus far. Some people are hilariously disagreeable
I refuse to accept people like this exist even though I've met them
On the topic of picky eating and the segment about "food for the general populace," I don't eat sea food at all. However I discovered that Inari or something like that is Sweet Tofu and Rice. It is delicious and it is something I can eat when I go out to get Sushi. This place I went to recently serves vegetarian Sushi too which is awesome. I love Rice and Seaweed so having a restraint serve that combo with a filling of Cucumber made me really happy.
Tempura veggie sushi is just delicious
@@TheRoonage for you* not everyone enjoys the same thing as others
congrats on being a normal, functioning person
i'm not even joking; genuinely thank you. We've all got our weirdly specific food hangups but normal adults don't let them ruin a dining experience for everyone.
@@esqx0878 yeah how dare that guy give a recommendation for deep-fried vegetarian sushi right?
@@Wolfgang_von_Caelid It's not my point, I hate when people when they say that something tastes amazing or is delicious because taste is subjective.
"Can't you just crop it?" is as honestly brutal of a response as "I diagnose you with weird and petty, drink water and count to 10." when you really think about it, and that's kinda fubar.
React Court got me goin pog crazy
This is the perfect content to just listen to
I will say though, I loved glancing at that picky eating post and waiting for him to get to the part about the guy finding out most* bread is made of wheat
I thought the post was fake until that point. I feel like that's something so stupid that no one could make it up
The fact that it was "some sort of whole grain or sourdough" too. If he can't tell the difference between those, he 100% hasn't tried one of them (probably sourdough) and is lying about being open to trying stuff, because those breads are as different as possible. Also sourdough is a legendary sandwich bread so he really should check it out.
"Conservatism being cringe" goes hard this episode
I can’t believe the climactic line from a sci-fi epic made it into the video: “Mankind is wired to seek conflict in order to have something to overcome.”
Children shouldnt be expected to "give" adults anything for their birthday. Imagine being good at something and your family just keeps asking you to do it for them, quick path towards resentment
NL's picky eater takes are honestly what I live for
The part where he orders the burger with no toppings and French fries was a such a soul read
Was pretty funny watching NL trying to save the version of himself that never expanded his palate.
There's only so many friends and family she can sell cake to. It sounds like her mother should teach her to branch off of family and find actually customers
S tier banter here, thank you for entertaining me during my recreational poop
I just love NL going off and being passionate about common sense. More of that please.
NL: these redditors always jump to insane conclusions with such little information about the situation
also NL: yeah she’s going to leave you for someone who likes dijon mustard
I must have read the picky eater post before the second to last update was posted, because I assumed he meant all the bread was like whole wheat or rye. But sourdough??? That’s white bread with a crunchier crust basically. Dude needs to expand their horizons, my god
id rather eat rat vomit than sourdough
if a kid is going to spend any amount of time away from their parents, just get them a phone so they can contact them when needed
sure a lot of us had no phone when we were away from home during our childhood, but the only reason for that is because they just weren't around yet
having a phone, even if its just a flip phone, is an extra level of safety you can provide for your child, why would you choose not to let them have that
I hate my wife + phone bad
To the first post, there was a conspiracy theory in the comments about how the wife is trying to force the situation so that they need to move to her family instead. Makes more sense than just "she's insane", I guess. I'd say that she comes from a "conservative" household is probably underselling the insanity going on in that family.
We’re 2 mins in and I’m already pissed at OP, we’re in for a good one
The picky eater one was so good. I can't shake the idea that they went to like Au Bon Pain or something and that's just so fuckin funny to me
It seems like one of the most common factors in these stories are peoples convservative families causing problems for no reason 🤔🤔🤔
I don't know if I'm just impressionable or if my moral compass is nearly identical as NL's but I feel like 99% of the time I'm agreeing with him on all these posts (and consequently, I think nearly everyone on Reddit or Twitch who are commenting on them are completely insane with their takes sometimes).
I was with the dude that didn't want to eat, till I reread the post he could've told her while they're ordering that he can't find anything to eat, and she probably would've said we could eat somewhere else because in the end they did, it;s something I'd do tbh, thinking it was the right thing to do, but I would get why the other person would get mad and wouldn't be so hang up on it and make a reddit post about.
TH-cam-only Andy here, what brand boots did NL talk about in the beginning?
Blundstones
NL out of context "What is your wife's favorite movie?"
The dad probably just disagrees with the mom's parenting choice of no phone til age 12. I get it from a parental concern perspective, but you're also guaranteeing your kid is going to feel left out and ostracized as a result. Not having a phone or having a bad phone is absolutely the type of dumb shit kids get bullied for.
public petition to view this subreddit in dark mode, or at least not light mode
Coming from someone who has an eating disorder that is basically defined as a picky eating disorder, your advice from experience helps a ton
Ryan gently suggesting the first guys wife should be institutionalized is too good
If you have to pawn your husbands birthday gift to pay $20 for a cake you probably weren’t in a financial position to buy a cake in the first place.
Blundstones are indeed amazing. Rossi's are also great. Aussie work boots are the best.
AITA is a step on the path to a worldwide monoculture
Inb4 the one world government uses AITA to decide to execute/release people
@@psychotropicstate If NL is the judge I think it'll be ok
the bread guy, did he really have to go to reddit? Couldnt he have just talked to her? Its not a real problem. Neither of them are the asshole.
This is the best NL series by far. Please make more ryan gary 🙏
Imagine charging your parents
sorry, but why didn't she pay for the cake, it's his birthday. sure, if it's a $300 cake then maybe he should pay some as he asked for it, but we're talking about a 16 yr old, how expensive can it be.
Fair, absolutely fair take.
I'll eat pretty much anywhere, but dinosaur chicken nuggets are bussin'.
Something you will never see in this sub
"I understand and will try to be better"
I’m on the zoomer/millennial cusp. When I was 20, I was recovering from a nasty headcold and went to a party. Didn’t drink THAT much, but because I was already sick, I wound up passed out in the backyard. Went to work the next day with a massive hangover and what should I see while wasting time on Instagram but a picture of me out cold in the backyard. Barely even knew the girl who posted it (and the caption was a fucking Twentyone Pilots lyric). I lost it. Was reasonably polite, but very firmly told her to take it down and informed her I found it extremely weird.
Fellow zoomers, the powers that be are increasingly trying to document every single aspect of your life. Twitter constantly uses your camera to see how you react to posts for their algorithm. Ring doorbells sell footage to the police. You should not accept this, and not accepting it begins in the microcosm of your private life.
1hr+ long react court? Let's go
NL talking about not being able to find a place for everyones food wants so they go to McDonald's. That's my one thing I won't go to McDonald's.
Ok, I think NL was out of line on the picky eater. People like what they like, he shouldn't be forced to eat something he doesn't want, he just needs to communicate better with his gf. If he knows he probably won't like a place, do the footwork, check the menu, and talk about it. It's not a palate issue it's interpersonal.
Sometimes I think the venn diagram of redditors who write these posts and chatters in NL's stream is a circle.
Some people saying you have to see the cake I don't agree but fine sure. Although you really gonna keep the extra money you got from selling the watch, when you already paid your daughter? Like I don't understand at least give that money back to him then it's kinda like "hey I used your gift to pay for the cake like you should of. Here's the other value from the watch." Like kinda make it a life lesson. Keeping the money does make it seem like you should value money over the relationship.
Anyway of you disagree you're probably in the right
Maybe the rumors WERE greatly exaggerated...
Who the hell expects to have to pay for their own birthday cake?
Every working adult
@@nmyhv1 Every working adult with no friends or family*
and who the hell bakes a cake for their dad's birthday and expects to be paid?
Yeah that whole situation was fucking weird. I'm just glad it's not my family...
@@Pulatapus2016 A teenager who looks at their baking like a part time job, not like a hobby.
i breathe react court
The react court of demise's exaggeration was greatly rumored
"he doesn't have exotic tastes"
what exotic tastes? wheat??? bread that isn't just sugar and butter?
You can't expect someone to pay for a birthday cake when they ask, you say yes, and you don't ask for money in return. It is weird that a 16 year old isn't getting funding for making a cake for her family. It is also weird that the mother has to sell a birthday gift to pay for a cake.
I'm guessing the daughters cakes are more expensive than a traditional duncan hines cake mix with normal icing. I still have trouble thinking of them as equivalent in price to a watch. Maybe she is pricing with profit in mind, which is again weird knowing its her father.
Peoples desire to share personal moments on social media should never take precedent over another persons discomfort with how they are presented on social media. Particularly in innocent moments such as this.
For context, an asshole on a plane or a creep in the dm's seem like fair game. A person you share a deep connection to providing reasonable context and justification is not fair game. Your dopamine hits from facebook likes do not justify another's stress.
Question? Is a private wedding a public setting?
As a really picky eater, it’s insane that another of my kind doesn’t have the skills to just order like an appetizer or something
Yooo that bday cake story is absurd. Who would tell that story and think they look at all reasonable in that situation? To top it off, the cake cost less than the watch and she kept the change instead getting a different gift.
Wait, for the phone one...her kid with her ex-husband is her youngest kid? Because she's saying what she did for her other kids when they turned 12. Does she have multiple ex husband's? The plot thickens...
What boots are NL talking about in the beginning?
Blundstones. Australian made work boots. They're amazing. Extremely tough and very comfortable.
Check out Redbacks as well, local favourite here in Australia, more work oriented though both are great.
I thought he was going to drop a "Didn't care, didn't ask, plus you lost your apartment" on the first one.
That last story is why we should normalize approval voting. First past the post voting is detrimental for society, but also ranked voting may require a costly increase in infrastructure (never mind the paradoxes you introduce). One-candidate-one-vote-per-person systems are both simple and remove a lot of weaknesses of FPTP systems.
Oh besides being less picky.
The wedding one is what made me believe NL is Canadian
the thing about picky eating for me is i feel like i just dont like most of the things a massive majority of people LOVE so when i dont like it, its really hard cause most foods have the most popular things in foods. like i hate mayo, mushrooms and cheese and most sauces like buffalo and ranch and those are all things a whole bunch of people love and are on lots of foods. i eat basically any type of cuisine at least a few dishes each and so most the time there is stuff i can eat but it is limited and people do make me feel bad for it even though i obviously wish i wasnt picky it sucks but my body literally gags everytime i eat new food that ive never had anything like it before and i have to force myself to eat it and sometimes its okay or good but most the time its not and like i said it sucks but at least im not like that dude who cant eat wheat bread lmao. ALSO those people who like to think or act like they are better in some way because they can eat more food its really cringe and a weird thing to act like youre better lmao
you sound like you need to go to therapy :)
About the drunk wedding photo thing. That guy should have at least asked her nicely, and maybe she would not have acted so defensively about it. Yelling at her for taking a harmless video of her kids and getting angry for being in the background of that video is beyond insane. Guy sounds like an absolute twat.
Ooh man, that would be hilarious if the bf was talking about Preta Manger
We really need laws about posting recordings of people on social media without their consent.
That first post is basically what I would post before trying to go and have the conversation with the friend. And then I would show the responses to my wife. And that’s why I’m never getting a wife.
if they had the ablility to comprimise have a converstaion and agree on something they probably would not be divorced?
15:12 I'm actually on the side of the mom. That dad is a douche. He *expects* to get a gift, and fights furiously to not pay the daughter as a simple "hey, good job!" It's her small business and it shows he thinks she's doing good for herself. Then he tells everyone in the family about the whole thing. I feel bad for the young girl that just wanted to bake a cake. Some people give their kids a salary, money for simply existing pretty much. This would be her getting money for doing something, showing the value of work to someone still growing. Yeah, the mom could've just given her the money, but she probably wanted the "thanks" from the one receiving the cake.
Was the daughter asking for a $100 or something? 😂
He EXPECTS the gift because it's his birthday, who wouldn't ? Now like one of the commenters said, to go around your husband's back and sell his birthday gift just to spite him when she could pay the daughter herself is very petty, also he thanked the daughter when he went to her first and asked for a cake as an affirmation of ability to bake, also as a man and stepdad who considers her his daughter (by calling himself the dad) he probably wanted to be pampered a bit and it was a special day, men his age don't get much affection thrown his way outside these days
Tl:dr : the mother should've paid, instead she wanted to throw a bomb in the family out of either pettiness or boredom
@@drake9634 They were both petty imo. I'm nearing my 30s and I don't even remember the last time I wanted a gift 🤷🏾
Neither needed to make this a whole shitshow
Don’t forget that you’re only getting the side of the person who thought it was acceptable to return a birthday gift in retaliation. I’m willing to bet we’re missing some details that show who OP really is.
The being recorded debate has to be somewhat generational, right? I don't even like having pictures of me posted on social media. If someone put a video of me online without my consent, I'd be very upset...
On the birthday cake one, I agree that a proper ruling would require an image of the cake.
If this is some out of box single layer sponge cake then I am sorry, just write that one off as a favour and present an IOU or something. On the other hand, if this was some made from scratch decadent layer cake or some other professional level cake, yea pay her if only to encourage a passion.
It was the rare AITA post where I actually would have liked some info. If, despite being 16, the daughter has a side hustle where people are paying her to bake nice-ish cakes for them, then I can see why she’d like to be paid. Personally, I think there should be a family discount, but it’s not the end of the world. But if she just likes to bake and expects payment because it’s not solely for her? Insane.
But regardless, mom definitely could have handled the situation better lmao.
I would agree if he just asked her for the cake on a random day for an event or work party or something but for her stepdad’s birthday that feels crazy. A cake would be a cute and meaningful gift to him. And he refers to himself as her dad so it seems clear he is close enough to his stepdaughter to consider her his own daughter. When I was younger I used to cook really nice dinners (3-4 course meals, each dish homemade) for my parents for birthdays/anniversaries and I wouldn’t ask them to pay me lmao.
If someone needed to pay for the cake, the wife should have done it. Did the daughter give the dad a cake AND a present? Because, if not, I assume the cake would be the present.
@@BrownEyedPrincess1 well, at least when it's useful to his wallet. we can't be certain how close he feels on other days.
@@Nowolf not sure if this is satire or a classic AITA moment where someone jumps to a harsh conclusion based on 0 evidence / solely to ”get the own” :D
Anyone else not even close to a picky eater? Like will literally eat anything as long as it’s well made? Picky eaters are crazy to me, it’s hard to sympathize.
There really isn’t even one food that consistently grosses you out? For me it’s shrimp (hate that their bodies are kind of crunchy, feels like I’m eating a giant bug).
@banditnosey not a single one, and the fact that you don't like shrimp is absolutely wild to me. Shrimp is delicious. Grilled, cocktail, in a pasta, on a pizza, they're so freaking good.
@@yungruuku Different strokes! Just can’t stand the taste or the texture. I’m a fan of seafood overall though.
@banditnosey as I've gotten older the more I learned that it really just doesn't matter at all. If the person is kind hearted they can like or hate whatever they want, their likes and dislikes don't define them (although too often they allow them too)
@banditnosey im glad you like seafood, though!!
Why is the step-dad paying for his own cake? Shouldnt the mom being buying the cake for him.
Chat was being silly for the wedding dance one. Egg base.