In case that you didn't know; 2:47 'Gaijin' (外人) , literally means gai (外, 'outside') and jin (人, 'person'). It's a Japanese word for foreigners and non-Japanese citizens in Japan, espeically for those who don't look Japanese or east-Asian. Some of us, especially little kids, often use the word to bully, exclude or ostracize someone who they think doesn't belong there or the same team. 3:07 'Hāfu' (ハーフ), literally means 'half', is a Japanese term used to refer to a person ethnically half Japanese and half non-Japanese. Sorry, I should've put it on the video. And thanks for watching!
It's better for Japanese person to avoid the thought of marrying a foreigner. Otherwise, these cases would arise even more. For a person like half-japanese that you interviewed seems to have no interest of japanese way of life and finds himself of being difficult in getting assimilated. He better live in other country. Parents in Japan have a hard time showing love to their children. Because of the post work pressure. The work environment and timings needs to be changed in Japan. By the way, I'm from India.
Not Only Japanese parent can abduct kids in Japan, But Also foreign parent can abduct kids if it's in Japan. Actually my wife is foreigner, she was abducted by her mother, when she was around 11years old. She knew about the Japanese parental abduction. She always talked about it and was afraid of it. After 3rd child birth, my wife seemed to be mentally ill. Even though I am not cheating her, she thought that I am cheating. And my wife seemed to think that her kids will be abducted by me and her imaginary girlfriend of me. My wife went to police and accused the fake story that I and the imaginary girlfriend sexually abused kids. She told police that I brought her imaginary girlfriend, and that I let "the girlfriend" sexually abuse kids, while she was in hospital because of the 3rd son's hospitalization. But it was 7months ago, and her mother was staying our home from Europe when the 3rd son was in hospitalization. And police told me that kids didn't say they are sexually abused, after they got questions from child specialized investigator. Even police didn't believe her story, she can still abduct kids. I always think about jumping in front of the train, when I am going to work. And unfortunately I still can't dislike my wife. I just hate Japan itself.
The abduction of my son from the United States to Japan by his Japanese mother destroyed my life and his forever. Tears run down my face watching this piece, posted to TH-cam only 10 days after his 18th birthday. He was my son until he was 4 1/2 years old and I fought for him in U.S. courts, in the U.S. Department of State, in the U.S. Congress, and in numerous battles spread across the Internet, and it all came to naught. His mother, Machiko Terauchi, is a fashion industry consultant based in Tokyo, and her parents' family is relatively prosperous. But there is no support of substance from the U.S. government or International Law, and the Japanese State is utterly indifferent to the well-being of children to a degree impossible for me to conceive of until I became a victim of the systemic abduction of children, still now disguised as "custody determination". I'm profoundly grateful to Nobita for this and for his previous pieces on parental child abduction.
The law, here in the United States and most everywhere, can *require* of family court that an advocate be present who speaks as an equal on behalf of a child's rights and interests. Adults are and have their advocates in court; so of course, if a child is regarded as a human being - and the most *vulnerable* party in the court at that - they are also deserving of representation, defense of their interests, and advocacy. Of all persons involved in a family court's decisions, children are the most deserving of *legal* protection from the depressing selfishness and insistence of adults aiming at having their way and failing to respect the dependent interests of children. In Japan, this notion is "unheard of". Children can have no advocate in court so their interests are utterly overwhelmed by the dueling adults. Perhaps they have no rights? Well to be fair, in that case perhaps no one does. Profound callousness toward - and unconscious intolerance of - children underlies this issue.
@@frillylily8005 The thing that is first in importance about this is to recognize that immense damage has already been done. People often very sympathetically say "Perhaps he will find you; perhaps you will find him." I appreciate their good wishes. But our close relationship has been successfully broken by those who took it upon themselves to destroy the loving experiences he was accumulating as a child prior to his abduction. I still want to see him, but with the recognition that those years passed, too. It's also imporant to know that the Japanese police routinely arrest and hold (for 23 days!) parents who try to seek their children in Japan, with the justification that the two are legally strangers once a "custody" determination has been decided *in Japan*. In my case, his mother and the Japanese family court ignored the custody order I had already sought and obtained legally here in the country where he was born and lived for four and a half years before being taken. I know now, but didn't know then, that that's a routine way that conflict over jurisdiction is handled by Japanese family court.
My son (American) was raised in Japan. After college in the States he married an American and moved to Tokyo. They had a daughter. He tricked his wife into signing documents saying they were for a visa when actually they were documents to become a Japanese national. Then he divorced his wife, sent her to the States, took custody of his 3 year old daughter and changed his daughter's and his passports to become Japanese. Then he changed their last name officially to Ohara. The child has not seen her mother, grandparents, aunts, uncles (about 25 family members). I have not seen my granddaughter for 7 years. A lot of people are hurting because of this. My granddaughter is now turning 11 and has no idea so many people love her. The child's mother is a shell of her former self. The system where there is no help is cruel.
This video was hard to watch. My child was also abducted, by my ex Japanese wife. Tried my best to see my son, even offered money to support. But, no good. She never let me see him. Not even the law in Japan could help me. Hardest part was working with children, knowing that you can't be able to see your own child again hurts so much.
My parents are divorced, both US citizens, and as a child I had mixed feelings about coparenting. It was a lot of work and change in a child’s life, but things like this make me grateful their decision. I wouldn’t be strong enough to endure what the people in this video, or similar, had to endure.
I have a cousin in this situation. I am french, and my uncle was married to a Japanese woman. When they divorced, my uncle didn't see my cousin for years. Nowadays, he is only allowed to speak to him in monthly video calls of 2 hours. During one of the calls, it became apparent that his mother was prompting him what to say during the calls, by sitting off camera and showing him notes. She tried to make him say he didn't love his father and didn't want to see him anymore, but he broke down in tears.
This is so horrible. I'm so sorry! One day your cousin will be an adult and I hope he will still be able to have a relationship with your side of the family then.
It hurts now but your uncle will have the child when he becomes an adult. He will see what his mother has done and it will backfire on HER. Trust me, as kids grow up they see the forest through the trees.
My female Japanese friend had to run away from domestic violence in the US. She had to leave her 3 kids in the states with her violent ex. She can’t do anything about it because of the law. At least she can see her kids when she goes visit to states.
Incredible, how evil someone can be! Well, everyone will be judged one day. All those, who don't believe in Jesus, will have to pay for their sins forever.
64 years ago my mother kidnapped my sisters and I from our father’s grandparents, at gun point; then fled with us to another state where she abandoned us. We ended up being adopted into two different families and not seeing one another for 25 years. This decision was made because our father was in the navy, on an aircraft carrier, and this was not the first time we had been kidnapped. The trauma of parental kidnapping lasts a lifetime. The child is deprived of 1/2 their family, or in our case all of their family, due to the selfishness of a parent. Children should not be used as pawns to punish a spouse. Adults can be mighty selfish and vindictive; and it is often the child which suffers.
(8:17) It disturbs me that they automatically assume the husband is an abuser. This could lead to situations where the mother abuses the child and pins all the blame on the father.
@@danika9411I can't speak for them, but in the US there is usually a bias against the father. I feel like it is beginning to change, but has existed.
@@Bargadiel BS. Unless the father is abusive, he can share custody. Problem is, only 10% of USA father's ask for custody. They prefer visitation = easier.
For me this was your best video. Japan needs to work towards a system of shared custody and shared care. The woman who spoke about the child pretending they don’t want to see the other parent in order to placate the parent they currently live with , she was really wise.
This is a very common situation. The Japanese partner takes the child back to Japan. It is near impossible for a foreigner to get permanent residence in Japan and the Japanese know this, that is why the run back to Japan. You can’t do shared custody if, as a foreigner you are not allowed to stay in the country. Everyone thinks the Japanese are so sweet and innocent 😂
@@soullessnight6539 It is possible for non Japanese to get permanent residency - but they need to have already been living in Japan and have been granted permanent residency before the divorce. In my experience the foreign women married to Japanese men apply for it as soon as they can, while the foreign men with Japanese wives don’t tend to think about it.
I need my boyfriend to see this. He is Japanese and his ex-wife abducted their 3 children. Since she definitely refused to bring him his kids, he fell in a deep deep depression. I tried to help him get through but he wouldn't even try anymore. Unlike foreign parents, and probably like many Japanese dads, he is not willing to fight. He is afraid to be a trouble maker, maybe they have been brainwashed and hates him etc. So he just gave up. But he will never be happy if he isn't reunited with them. Plus the mum is quite an abuser. He wouldn't call her that as he is her brainwashed victim too, but his family explained me and she is crazy. I worry for his kids as much as I worry for him. I really need him to fight but he doesn't even talk about it anymore and it's hard to bring the subject...
After hearing this from you....I feel extremely sad and I will say that please don't give up on your friend. 😢 Try to find a way where your friend doesn't feel being forced....instead he feels motivated to fight for their children's right....because he has you by his side....I pray for his success in this matter.
This is yet another reason I fear pairing up with a Japanese woman. She can do a runner with the kids at any point and the Japan government won't give you recourse.
@@farisan6664 thank you for your kind message, I try but it's hard as he is the one giving up on everything. Even on me, even though we still love each other after all these years of depression he doesn't have the strength to care for someone else
I remember of a case of a Puerto Rican woman whose son was abducted by his Japanese father. When she couldn't get her son back she tried to commit suicide. Last I heard she was in jail and her parents were trying to get her out of Japan. I wonder if she'll ever see her son again. 😔
I live in Canada. I saw my Korean friend's Japanese wife secretly left Canada with their Canadian daughter. She never came back to Canada with the kid. I think this Japanese family law is inhumane and pathetic. Clearly these cases should be filed and prosecuted under international criminal court.
I had a client back in America that was a victim of child kidnapping. Just like the speaker in this video, her children were going with their dad to Japan to visit family, and just never came back. They were legally divorced in the United States, and the ex-husband required to share custody and pay child support, but he ran to Japan and never came back. I think about that woman a lot, and how terrible it must be to never be able to see your children.
I felt bad until I read "child support". The woman in this case didn't have to pay anything. The fact that the women overwhelmingly get custody in the US, and the father many times has to fight over visitation, makes me wonder what really happened there.
@@maxxfoster9245 ok but what did he do? Did they agree on that? I'm not saying he's right, but rather that the circumstances seem a bit suspect when you bring child support and visitation into it in the US system
@@blah23vr234v I'm not actually sure if he agreed to the child support, but as she's the mother, regardless of child support obligations, she should be able to see her children. Because Japan courts don't reciprocate US rulings. She will never she the children she birthed again. She was given the child support due to giving up her career, not because he/she had any wrongdoing on their plate.
@@maxxfoster9245 how often was the father seeing the kids before that? A man would not so easily just quit working altogether to be a full time dad. Surely you can see where this looks a little strange from the outside. Again, idk the whole story
As a foreigner living in Japan for 5 years, most of the people I knew who went through a divorce, did not allow their children to see their ex-wife/ex-husband. They have too much pride to even consider coparenting.
I usually have a lot to say on your videos but this one has me speechless. It's heartbreaking when a child is separated from one of his or her parent(s) and depending on the reason it really shows how much it hurts the child. Also, I find it truly sick whenever a "parent" says their life was ruined in some way cuz of their child's existence. Their actions led up to the child's existence yet there's some who think its right to blame the child. Thanks for the video TJR
My children were kidnapped last year by thier mother. She still lets me talk to one my children at least. It breaks my heart when my daughter says she wants to come back home or go back to America becuase I know that thier mother will never let my children come back. I am still fighting through the legal system, but as we all know there is little hope.
Do man need to take care about kids lol Marry another girl and start a family Be a man dude There isn't emotional attachment for a father to his kids unless they are around . Your kid might be living happy life there, don't be miserable.
@@pikachuthunderbolt3919 Complete nonsense. As untrue as it can possibly be. Children attach to their caregiving parents from birth, the earlier in their growth, the more complete the attachment. The separation of children from their parent is damage that cannot be undone, precisely because the psychological attachment requires the ongoing relationship and presence of the parents. When the break occurs, the child suffers immense pain and permanent damage is done.
Many thanks for uploading this video. I have been experiencing a Parental Child Abduction that was conducted by my Japanese ex-wife. Ms. Umemura is one of the top lawmakers who are addressing to improve Jpana's family law, I strongly support her. Also, I hope Ms. Yukiko Kada will have a chance to appear in your further video for this matter.
This video made me cry. I cant imagine the suffering these people have been through. I feel so bad for Catherine and the kid who was abducted by his Japanese mom too...
I am a foreigner in Japan, my husband is Japanese. I love and trust him, but one of the reason we decided to not have children, was because I don't want this to happen with me or with my children. This is just one of the reason. And of course we talked it through with my husband. So not having children is acceptable for him too.
I have a friend who is a Korean teacher of an American man going through this situation. His former wife took their two kids and left. Though the courts have sided with the father, no actual progress has been made reuniting him with his children. Parental child abduction isn't as common in Korea as it is in Japan, but still devastating. It's scary to think things like this happen.
i know one foreign guy personally in japan who got custody over his kids when he divorced his japanese wife. but the main reason he won in court is because he is very well off. he's the japan representative of a foreign company, lives in very lavish company housing in central tokyo, and is very well paid. most other parents do not seem to have that luxury.
I've been living in Japan for 1.5 years, but my very Western-minded Japanese husband and I have decided we have to move to my country of Canada. The number one reason is because we can't stand the idea of raising kids in Japan. Worrying about our future kids as adults getting caught up in this horrible abduction situation is part of that. Also, it absolutely infuriates me when I see people trying to justify this blatant child abuse with "I don't want to interact with my ex." My god, how selfish can you get?
@@maskmanfive3774 Choosing Canada over Japan doesn't mean I love everything about Canada. If you care about individualism, Western values, personal freedom, etc., which I assume you do if you're anti-woke, you wouldn't want to live in collectivist Japan.
Japanese women have become increasingly disinterested in international marriages after Japan signed the Hague Convention. They strongly believe that children are better off living with their mothers. Japanese men rarely fight over custody.
I pray she never gets to see her children. Because i dont want those kids to get rejected by their mother in future like i got rejected by my mom after waited for 16 years to meet her. The reason why i got rejected badly by my mom was because now she(mother) got another kids by remarried to another guy. So, now she dont need her kids from her first marriage( of course). These mothers are just selfish they just cry for a limited time period and after getting another baby they easily can forget the first one. And not just forget but also reject them and act like they dont know them and push them out of life like they never existed.
@@nicollettegreye8522it's sad that happened to you but you have to acknowledge that your mother's actions are an unusual exception to the way mothers behave. I know that makes your pain worse but it's still the truth.
Yes I can totally understand. My daughter's Japanese Grandmother abducted my daughter right after she was born. I was fortunate that my family has connections in the Canadian government. The fact that my former mother in law held my daughter for Ransom it was considered kidnapping in Canada so the consulate was involved and then we went out with the Canadian government to Seize my daughter back. The Japanese federal police were there to assist and many of the police officers were very helpful and smiling when my ex wife and daughter came out to join us. Sad story and affected my daughter to this day. Now we will return to Japan since she is legal age now. Japan should know better they are acting like NORTH KOREA.
@@benevbright It's disgusting that all you have as an answer is critisism. Not even the manners or decency to say something about the actual topic. I hope you research about basic manners and learn a bit.
Hey Nobita. I just donated to you as someone who has been watching your content for a long time. With every video, I see your efforts to make positive changes to Japan and make otherwise unaware people aware of serious topics like this. You're doing good work and I appreciate it. Thank you for your informative videos.
The mother's or father's anger should not affect the child's feelings towards the parent. Even though parents are divorced, every child has the right to love from mother and father.
I wish Mizuho all the luck on this. Divorce and child custody can also be a very rocky situation out here in the States too, depending on the state where the divorce takes place. Never forget to get both sides when it comes to a divorce, because either side can be more than willing to make up a complete fabrication in order to get what they want.
This is so sad 😢 i have Japanese students who are single parents, divorced, and I wonder if they see their father- was it their father's choice to abandon them or the abduction..? It's definitely a hard sensitive issue, and also need to think carefully if wanting to have a Japanese partner
Not intending for this to be mean, but now so many of the mental health issues seen in Japan are beginning to make sense. There is not one country that has perfect rules, poop happens all over the world... but wow... am speechless. Was not aware of the sole custody law. I am from a divorced family and have also been divorced myself. At all times the best interest of the child should be taken into consideration. I consider it a matter of character development to deal with the interpersonal dynamic of a divorced couple so that THEIR issues will not become the issues of the child. It's really sad that a country which so advertises 'community wholeness and wellbeing' does it's utmost to undermine child wholeness and well being.
As a mother, this is truly heartbreaking. I can't even being to imagine the pain. I am originally from Iran where men by default have the custody of the kid and can take them away from the mother or even kill the kids with little to no penalties, they basically "own" the kid. It is the same system as in Japan, except that no abduction is needed... My own father did this to me at age 5 and then brainwashing me on how evil my mother has been. Ironically, now that I am an adult and living far away from them in Europe, they have gotten back together and has cut me from their lives. I can't even start to explain how messed up it feels as the child who has gone through that. Props to the guy in this video for keeping his cool talking about his abusive mother. My life mission is to NOT be like them and put my children ahead of my ego first. It is a bumpy road to learn this coming from that shit show of a family, so wish me luck!
Thank you for posting this video. My son was illegally abducted from US to Osaka, Japan in 1999 when he was only 2 years old. I had custody in US, and the Japanese court recognized the US custody order. However, the Japanese government would not enforce its ruling. I "settled" my case in 2004 by giving up custody and paying child support in exchange for meaningful access. I NEVER GOT ACCESS, LET ALONE MEANINGFUL ACCESS. My son should be 26 years old now.....I don't even know whether he is even alive.... Justice should be done against the abductors. Both the child and the left-behind parents are victims.
@@laroseblanche9435@laroseblanche9435 someone who has been "programmed" most of his or her life to think that the left behind parent is evil may not bother to look for him or her
I have a deep respect for Nobita for bringing these issues to his videos. It seems like there are a number of faults in the Japanese legal system, perhaps due to fear of changing from tradition, which is unfortunate. Tradition is something that makes Japan beautiful, but some things need to adapt for future generations to be fair and humane for all.
Absolutely heartbreaking, I’ve read a lot about parental abduction in Japan, particularly between Australian and Japanese couples and it’s just harrowing. I don’t understand how there can be no empathy for the other parent, I wonder if the perspective is ‘if I don’t do it, they’ll take the children from me, so I have to be first’? I can’t begin to comprehend the kind of cruelty it takes to do that not only to someone you once loved, but to your own children. Is the assumption that the other parent is like an animal who just stops caring when the child is out of sight? Why do they have to take the extra steps to villainise the other parent? It’s just horrific. I would understand if the partner was abusive, of course, but in so many of these situations it just seems to be pure cruelty. So, so so sad. I hope these parents can reconnect with their children one day, my heart absolutely breaks for them.
Basically it comes down to the deeply racist precepts that are core to the Japanese identity. Similarly in Saudi Arabia it is the deeply paternalistic and misogynistic core of that society that encourages child abduction. This really should be a consideration when dating a Japanese woman.
it was very interesting to hear Anthony’s opinion on this matter. I wonder if there is some sort of group or organization of people who went through this issue as kids? I totally agree with what was mentioned about the children’s rights being affected by this.
This is so heart wrenching. I‘m American and I have a son with my Japanese husband. While our marriage is good, I’d be lying if I said I am not afraid of this happening. To have a government be so against you seeing your own children, I couldn’t bear it. I feel so much for anyone who has to go through this, parent and child, and I deeply hope for a resolution to their anguish.
Hey Nobita, I educate parents on custodial interference in the U.S. Parental abductions prevention begins at the local level of reporting these crimes. Laws have existed for 50 years in the states but often times, law enforcement says its a civil matter when it's not. I would love to reach out to Anthony about his story. Clearly, he was a victim of parental alienation brainwashed to reject his father. Thank you!
I once saw a case in Hawaii where an American wife betrayed her Japanese husband and took their 3 year old child back to her home state in the east. He was not reunited with his son until 15 years later.
I think it's common in all coutries, women use children to take revenge on their ex-partner. Even if they do not have sole custody, they do everything to make it difficult for fathers to have contact with their children. This is very common in Poland.
Be careful who you procreate with folks. Always have a backup plan when things go South. When you are dealing with someone from a different culture, you have to be more cautious
My brother co-parents his children with their mother and it absolutely is the next best thing to a traditional 2 parent home where the couple married and living together. The kids are super well adjusted and healthy and I remain ever grateful and proud of how both my brother and his children's mother work together to give them the best life possible. Outside legitimately abusive situations I don't believe a parent who refuses to coparent/share custody of their child with their spouse truly love their child. They only see them as a tool to punish their ex and think only of themselves (I don't want anything to do with my ex). Its cruel.
I was like him, except 30 yrs before. I understand the mental abuse he endured. His mother should be in prison for her abuses, lies and manipulation. This is a human rights issue. My mother took me away from my father, from an Asian country and brought me to a western country and she threatened me throughout my entire life to send me back to Asia and my Asian father as though they were hell and the devil. She said I was the devil's child.
That’s exactly what I worry the most , my wife will torture humiliate and manipulate our boys so that they feel guilty for being born from a abusive man - myself 😢
This is sad. I understand if a parent flees with their child if the other parent is abusive. But to blatantly lie to your child, take them to another country, telling them their other parent was crazy just to have the abducting parent to be abusive. I feel so sorry for kids that go through this. This is absolutely crazy that no one bats an eye. You have to be extremely cold hearted to do this to a child and the parent left behind
Depends on the state. I know in my state they’re strictly enforced. You can’t just take the kid out of the state without the other parents permission. Technically considered kidnapping otherwise.
cannot agree. though there are always parents of any nationality who will be selfish and vindictive by using children, the US has laws which are VERY enforceable and ARE often enforced. in Japan, custody laws are ignored. research previous japanese minister koizumi. it's unreal in Japan. it isn't known as a parental abduction 'black hole' for nothing.
@@trevordavidh True that in Japan, family court decisions are not enforced. But there is very little family law at all, and none that is used to defend children from coercion in family court. In that sense, knowing that they know what the consequences of their rulings will be, the family court becomes the perpetrator, but "legally".
I also see people be mature and coparent like adults all the time in the US. I live in the South which has a high divorce rate. It's a legitimate cultural difference. Also social services here is more evidence based. They focus on keeping children with birth parents as long as the issues can be dealt with through education and intervention. Shared custody is very common here and is expected that divorced parents today will sacrifice and not leave the state without permission so that the child has access to both parents. It wasn't always this way, but we've evolved.
I dated a Taiwanese/ Japanese mixed girl in Taiwan who grew up in Japan and was a dual national. She suffered tons of abuse man it gave her major mental problems. She tried to stab me with a knife. I regret trying to rescue that poor soul she was so broken
Don't regret that you were trying to rescue her. You had good intentions, don't lose that part of yourself. You were just not the right person up for that task.
It's about time that people stop thinking about themselves and start thinking about the bigger picture. The mindset of a people needs to be called in to question and needs to be made clear to everyone by raising awareness of the issue. Parents need to be called out for their bad behavior and should be brought into counseling. Parents need to understand that their child requires both parents for proper development in their character. Somewhere in the world, children are visiting their parents' graves and parents are visiting their children's graves. We need each other and so does society, if there is to be true peace.
@@victortesla4198if i remember correctly I've heard of this issue a good decade ago, this is very common in Japan more common than in America, stop trying to lighten this issue in the name of your passport bros. When it comes to bs Japan does not discriminate between the two genders especially when they're gaijin (foreigners).
My wife took my kids back to Japan 3 years ago and only me who have been trying so hard to contact my children with fully support about money but my ex still playing game with me and in the same time that she try to destroy my spirit but she still wants to get money and everything for herself. I don’t understand mind set of Japanese women much but as far as I know from my Personal exp, it’s deeply toxic and selfish.
Do man need to take care about kids lol Marry another girl and start a family Be a man dude There isn't emotional attachment for a father to his kids unless they are around . Your kid might be living happy life there, don't be miserable. Children should be thankful of being well fed and taken care whether by one parent or any other guardian That's how mammals are
Woke up in the morning still I heard this song Must be somewhere from my dreams, I don't know Made me feel so good, sun was shining bright God, I love you that you brought this little song to give me.. Faith In the morning I need that faith To go on, yeah Give me some faith Can't get enough of that sweet feeling, give me faith Oh yeah, I keep the faith…
My wife’s excuses her behavior by claiming that husband , me, is a dangerous man Selfish pervert who abused her both physically and mentally. The paradox is that they are deeply programmed by the Japanese family law systems: lawyers Judges , mediators, there is simply too much money and no mindfulness or consideration in the process . My wife claiming our boys are better off without me , and safer . Ever since we split up I never insisted I wanted to be with her on the same terms as before , I realized way too late that continuing living with that women will be detrimental for our family , so I proposed to remain as parents and not as couple , whether married or divorced, it’s a matter of agreement yet, knowing her pride and Japanese law on her side , it’s way much easier to alienate me from our sons , rather then try to coparent. 😢 I see my wife as a victim of this society in Japan, and even if I she married me only to have pretty half children , I can’t do much about it other then reflect and regret that it all ended up in such way. My wife of course is not justified for not allowing me to see our boys , and I knew before she took boys and left that it’s either she who will do it or me😢… I was not able to do it , and I am sure no father or mother who truly sincerely loves their children will commit such an atrocity. It’s wicked my dear wife, yes I am talking to you Akiko Trush… Tsukamoto … while the world we love tears it self apart 😢
Thank you for for this. A good point was made, that Japan's level of human rights are reflected from this, as children's best interests are not respected. I wish for change ASAP.
In the US women can keep fathers from seeing their children too. I know one woman in the US who successfully filed a restraining order against her ex just so she didn't have to see him again. Can't imagine the damage it's going to do her son. Absolute selfishness.
You can get a short term restraining order without evidence, but not a long term one. And a restraining order does not prevent visitation. Even a parent who has done something wrong can get supervised visitation. Quit your nonsense.
Do man need to take care about kids lol Marry another girl and start a family Be a man dude There isn't emotional attachment for a father to his kids unless they are around . Your kid might be living happy life there, don't be miserable. What a male need is a companion of a female but not kids. Children should be thankful of being well fed and taken care whether by one parent or any other guardian That's how mammals are
The great difference, I think, is that Japanese family court doesn't operate in the way "courts of law" do. Courts of law require evidence be presented by a claimant. In Japan, all a person has to do to completely eliminate the parental rights of the other parent is to keep the child away from that parent (hide) for a short period, after which "continuity" in the child's place of residence can be claimed. There is no right of visitation in Japan, and anyone who attempts to visit their child once their custodial rights have been eliminated can be and will be charged with a "violent" crime, which is charged in a criminal court, not a family law "court". No evidence supporting a restraining order is necessary; all that is needed is to make claims, statements, and they are accepted without questioning. (Thus really Japanese family court is not really a court at all.)
I thought Japan expects children to take care of their parents in their elderly years. If so, how can they possibly justify depriving one parent of a relationship with their biological child?
Maybe they are only concern with the Japanese side of the family. Also I understand they are having the same problem as South Korea (low birth census). So I guess they will do anything to hold on to that child.
I personally hate having to worry about this. I have a daughter with a Japanese man and although he shows no signs of being this cruel so far, we can never guess how fast and how much people can turn. I hate that there is no way to protect myself from this - the only viable way being to abduct my daughter first preventively. Which I'm not sure I could bring myself to do. I even told my husband that when if I had known about this problem I probably wouldn't have had children in Japan. The "what if" really triggers my anxiety. And it's not my husband's fault that I feel this anxiety. It's the country and its laws that are to blame.
Exactly so! This is how the system of abduction-disguised-as-custody-determination in Japan thrives right down to today: it purposefully pits the parents against one another and essentially *requires* that a parent abduct the child, because that is the only means of prevention available to them. Perhaps there may be a means by which a legal document could be created with the help of a decent lawyer such that you both avow the rights of custody remain with both of you, in order to quell your anxiety and in that way essentially save your marriage from that kind of distress and worry. Worth investigating?
Kids are not possessions that one parent gets to keep in a breakup. If 2 parents fall out of love, so be it, but they need to grow the hell up and let the kids see their mother/father instead of poisoning the kid against the parent who doesn't get custody.
Do man need to take care about kids lol Marry another girl and start a family Be a man dude There isn't emotional attachment for a father to his kids unless they are around . Your kid might be living happy life there, don't be miserable. What a male need is a companion of a female but not kids. Children should be thankful of being well fed and taken care whether by one parent or any other guardian That's how mammals are
What Anthony has had to endure from both his mother and others is awful and isolating. He said he has friends in similar situations, so hopefully he doesn't feel alone. He seems thoughtful and level-headed considering what he's been through. Hopefully he will continue to bring more of the country's attention to the issue as a survivor and living example. Perhaps he and the politician who was interviewed could work together to promote more awareness about it in Japan.
I am too old to have children now, but I cannot imagine. I would go ballistic if somebody tried to keep my child from me. I would end up killing somebody or doing something so crazy that I would end up in prison. This is so wrong! I try not to bad mouth other cultures that are different from my own. I try to see things from the other side's perspective, but I cannot see how Japan treats children as property and how much abuse they allow children to endure as anything buy wrong. It's just wrong! I love Japan and have always been fascinated with the language and culture BECAUSE it's so different from mine. There is much about it that is beautiful but this... this breaks my heart. :(
Happened to a friend of mine I was in the marine corps with. She pretty much took his kid back to Japan and cut off contact. Took him years to get visitation
I really don't get this; if it's done because there could be child abuse why not have that solution as the exception? Studies show multi parent households are the best for developing children but co-parenting is the next best. This is, at best, just not setting the child up for the best possible scenario, and at worst giving the child to the parent who would be the abuser. (idk how they determine who gets the kid, is it whoever is the one who takes the child first?)
That Aussie PM’s answer was classic for a slimy self serving manipulative type of amoral politician. Just based on that one clip I’m Sure it reflects in other area’s. But people get what they vote for.
Japan and other East Asian countries still has a view that a child can only belong to this new parent if they have separated. There is less interest and emphasis on the mental well being of the said children, with little regard to the damage being separated from one of the parents causes. As these societies have become wealthier and individuals more prosperous, it’s no wonder that fewer of them want to procreate and bring children into such environments.
I have a Japanese co worker that when her parents divorce they just split the kids the dad got the older daughter and the mother get the younger daughter. And they don’t have anything to do with each others .the girls are raised without siblings
It's so obvious that a parent who would/thinks it's ok to separate their child from the other parent is extremely selfish. They need mental help and better understanding the responsibility of what being a parent means and the negative impact they are deliberately putting onto their children. Just because it's how it's done doesn't mean it's right. And using Domestic violence as a blanket reason to not implement joint custody post divorce is just such a cop out reason. The fact that a lot of Japanese people don't challenge this is very problematic in itself. The generational trauma that gets passed on from a child being treated like this is so much more serious than what a 15 minute video could explain. But it requires a major overhaul of the entire justice and legal system for joint custody to be properly implemented in Japan. I really do hope that countries such as the US, Canada, Australia and the UK which have much more power on the global political landscape can take this issue more seriously and pressure the Japanese government. Children are our future and they must be protected.
Wow, that's so weird. I know a brazilian mother of a turkish boy and she still lives in Turkey bc he was born there and there's his father in Turkey. So she had to stay there after divorce. This is Haia, right?
This story is sad, for sure. But it's far worse in the US because the divorce rate is much higher. Some people marry two or even three times, hoping they'll get things right. But it's the kids who suffer. You can Google the statistics. In the US, the law states that both parents have rights, custody is a separate issue based on which parent can provide the best environment. Often it's shared, or fractionally divided, e.g. 60/40. This is decided by a court of law, not unilaterally by a parent. Abduction as sanctioned by Japanese law is effectively a corrupt manifestation of the 外 - 内 mentality which permeates Japanese society. That's why the police 外 say it's an internal 内 matter (the couple). The disavowed parent is placed in the 外 category.
The thing that shocks me the most is that none of the governments seems to give a fuck Controversial take but I feel like the Japanese government should be sanctioned for enabling child abductions
It's sad because the other extreme exists in the states, where children are abducted against their will by the courts and forced to live with the other parent (I had to testify in court in a case like this, where there had been split custody but the dad had been abusing his daughter her whole childhood. she had stopped going home with him so he sued the mother for sole custody, saying she was 'brainwashed'. in this case i was able to help somewhat as a third party who had seen him being abusive my whole childhood, but without third party testimony he definitely would have won). In this case, the rule of 'if you hate a parent it's because you are brainwashed' and the courts being if anything TOO involved are the issue, whereas in Japan, the problem is that no one else is involved at all and whoever snatches them first has them, as if children's lives are decided by "possession is 9/10ths of the law." I think the only way we can have balance in these things is by involving a lot of perspectives but also listening to what the children are saying. For instance, the boy in the video, if people listened to him as a child, even though he was brainwashed, they would have figured out quickly that his mother was abusing him. If this had been looked into properly, the situation could have been discovered.
I agree these are terrible things to happen and I hope things will improve soon. I have 2 questions, however. How prevalent are these cases and why does it seem as if it's almost always an issue between a Western husband and a Japanese wife? If anyone has any information on these, please share it. I hope Japanese government is working on this problem so that the fathers and children can be united soon.
I imagine the perspectives of Japanese parents would primarily show up in Japanese content, and there is likely a cultural element where affected Westerners are significantly more likely to raise awareness and fight for their kids.
Edit for the people in the comments. You are wrong and I have explained why. 6:30 this women is wrong. I'm Australian, still in Australia. I was technically kidnapped by my mother when I was very young but my dad won the court case and she was forced to bring us back. I'm happy to talk about this with you if you want. I don't want this misinformation that this problem doesn't exist in Australia to be spread
As i can see the Western this is the most common thing that happens, divorced women abducts their children only to take a revenge against their former husbands, they are a bunch of bitches.
@joaopedrobaggio4475 Yeah it's a very evil tactic. The only reason my mom lost the court case is because she refused to show up in court. Otherwise it was very likely I would have been stuck with my mother who took us into the middle of bumfuck nowhere
@@boigercat and i believe that she will hurt you phisically and mentally, i am glad that it doesn't happened, the western society must rethink the divorce laws and other family issues, this is destroying our world.
I think you may have missed the context a bit... I think when the Jp colleague was talking about "parents kidnapping their children" not happening in Australia. I don't think that meant that kidnapping/parental abduction doesn't happen period. I think the question means the concept of parents taking their children away from the other parent (ie. kidnapping) is "not a crime" does not happen in Australia.
The irony is children are better off with the father than mother as the huge percentage of social problems stem from single mother's homes but successful,disciplined and healthy mental adults came from single father's or two normal parents with strong father influence. Two female parents have the worst outcome.
Since people from different countries and governments are involved, an international system of countries like NATO should have a legal organism for these matters. Even though Japan isn't in the United Nations, Japan's government has been known to friendly cooperate with it in legal subjects, I believe it's a problem that tears apart people's lives but I'm afraid it's not too grand on scale for international organisms to get involved. In my personal opinion, this should be prosecuted with the same legal force and ruthlessness as human trafficking.
This has been going on for decades with Japanese abducting their child and running back to Japan. This isn’t a small or uncommon problem, it is happening all the time. The Japanese Government does nothing. I saw these things on Australian news all the time growing up. The Australian would win custody through the courts but what good does that do when the Japanese government won’t let you physically go get your child. Never marry a Japanese.
Japan is in the UN. NATO is more a military alliance so I don't see how it would be relevant. What is relevant is the Hague Convention which Japan has signed and ratified. The Hague Convention is very strict on this matter but the Japanese government doesn't respect it at all. So until the Japanese government do something to honor their signature, it's gonna be hard to see any change.
![Japan’s Parental Child Abduction [ENG CC]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/c-iJXWb4xYY/mqdefault.jpg)
![Japan’s Parental Child Abduction [ENG CC]](/img/tr.png)
In case that you didn't know;
2:47 'Gaijin' (外人) , literally means gai (外, 'outside') and jin (人, 'person'). It's a Japanese word for foreigners and non-Japanese citizens in Japan, espeically for those who don't look Japanese or east-Asian. Some of us, especially little kids, often use the word to bully, exclude or ostracize someone who they think doesn't belong there or the same team.
3:07 'Hāfu' (ハーフ), literally means 'half', is a Japanese term used to refer to a person ethnically half Japanese and half non-Japanese.
Sorry, I should've put it on the video. And thanks for watching!
It's better for Japanese person to avoid the thought of marrying a foreigner. Otherwise, these cases would arise even more. For a person like half-japanese that you interviewed seems to have no interest of japanese way of life and finds himself of being difficult in getting assimilated. He better live in other country. Parents in Japan have a hard time showing love to their children. Because of the post work pressure. The work environment and timings needs to be changed in Japan. By the way, I'm from India.
Thank you for another great video on this urgent subject!
Especially important is that you gave the perspective of a child. He spoke very well about his experience.
are you talking about former japanese table tennis player divorce from her husband now
For a Japanese, you are only Japanese if you have the same fisionom. There's no half Japanese.
Not Only Japanese parent can abduct kids in Japan, But Also foreign parent can abduct kids if it's in Japan.
Actually my wife is foreigner, she was abducted by her mother, when she was around 11years old. She knew about the Japanese parental abduction. She always talked about it and was afraid of it.
After 3rd child birth, my wife seemed to be mentally ill. Even though I am not cheating her, she thought that I am cheating. And my wife seemed to think that her kids will be abducted by me and her imaginary girlfriend of me.
My wife went to police and accused the fake story that I and the imaginary girlfriend sexually abused kids. She told police that I brought her imaginary girlfriend, and that I let "the girlfriend" sexually abuse kids, while she was in hospital because of the 3rd son's hospitalization. But it was 7months ago, and her mother was staying our home from Europe when the 3rd son was in hospitalization. And police told me that kids didn't say they are sexually abused, after they got questions from child specialized investigator.
Even police didn't believe her story, she can still abduct kids.
I always think about jumping in front of the train, when I am going to work. And unfortunately I still can't dislike my wife. I just hate Japan itself.
The abduction of my son from the United States to Japan by his Japanese mother destroyed my life and his forever. Tears run down my face watching this piece, posted to TH-cam only 10 days after his 18th birthday. He was my son until he was 4 1/2 years old and I fought for him in U.S. courts, in the U.S. Department of State, in the U.S. Congress, and in numerous battles spread across the Internet, and it all came to naught. His mother, Machiko Terauchi, is a fashion industry consultant based in Tokyo, and her parents' family is relatively prosperous. But there is no support of substance from the U.S. government or International Law, and the Japanese State is utterly indifferent to the well-being of children to a degree impossible for me to conceive of until I became a victim of the systemic abduction of children, still now disguised as "custody determination". I'm profoundly grateful to Nobita for this and for his previous pieces on parental child abduction.
Is there a way to get in contact with your son since he’s 18 now?
The law, here in the United States and most everywhere, can *require* of family court that an advocate be present who speaks as an equal on behalf of a child's rights and interests. Adults are and have their advocates in court; so of course, if a child is regarded as a human being - and the most *vulnerable* party in the court at that - they are also deserving of representation, defense of their interests, and advocacy. Of all persons involved in a family court's decisions, children are the most deserving of *legal* protection from the depressing selfishness and insistence of adults aiming at having their way and failing to respect the dependent interests of children.
In Japan, this notion is "unheard of". Children can have no advocate in court so their interests are utterly overwhelmed by the dueling adults. Perhaps they have no rights? Well to be fair, in that case perhaps no one does.
Profound callousness toward - and unconscious intolerance of - children underlies this issue.
@@frillylily8005 The thing that is first in importance about this is to recognize that immense damage has already been done. People often very sympathetically say "Perhaps he will find you; perhaps you will find him." I appreciate their good wishes. But our close relationship has been successfully broken by those who took it upon themselves to destroy the loving experiences he was accumulating as a child prior to his abduction. I still want to see him, but with the recognition that those years passed, too.
It's also imporant to know that the Japanese police routinely arrest and hold (for 23 days!) parents who try to seek their children in Japan, with the justification that the two are legally strangers once a "custody" determination has been decided *in Japan*. In my case, his mother and the Japanese family court ignored the custody order I had already sought and obtained legally here in the country where he was born and lived for four and a half years before being taken. I know now, but didn't know then, that that's a routine way that conflict over jurisdiction is handled by Japanese family court.
Try your best to find your son now!!!! He is 18, so he doesn't need his mother's permission. It is not too late.
I’ll be praying the HS helps you contact your son and visit him soon. 🙋🏻♀️🙏🏽❤️
My son (American) was raised in Japan. After college in the States he married an American and moved to Tokyo. They had a daughter. He tricked his wife into signing documents saying they were for a visa when actually they were documents to become a Japanese national. Then he divorced his wife, sent her to the States, took custody of his 3 year old daughter and changed his daughter's and his passports to become Japanese. Then he changed their last name officially to Ohara. The child has not seen her mother, grandparents, aunts, uncles (about 25 family members). I have not seen my granddaughter for 7 years. A lot of people are hurting because of this. My granddaughter is now turning 11 and has no idea so many people love her. The child's mother is a shell of her former self. The system where there is no help is cruel.
I really hope the daughter can meet her family
It’s your son who is not allowing his wife to meet their daughter ? You bring his father can’t go to Japan and meet with him her ?
This video was hard to watch. My child was also abducted, by my ex Japanese wife. Tried my best to see my son, even offered money to support. But, no good. She never let me see him. Not even the law in Japan could help me.
Hardest part was working with children, knowing that you can't be able to see your own child again hurts so much.
Feel free to talk to me , my three sons also are abducted. It’s been 3 .5 years now . I am still in court but looks like it is lost case
My parents are divorced, both US citizens, and as a child I had mixed feelings about coparenting. It was a lot of work and change in a child’s life, but things like this make me grateful their decision. I wouldn’t be strong enough to endure what the people in this video, or similar, had to endure.
I have a cousin in this situation. I am french, and my uncle was married to a Japanese woman. When they divorced, my uncle didn't see my cousin for years. Nowadays, he is only allowed to speak to him in monthly video calls of 2 hours. During one of the calls, it became apparent that his mother was prompting him what to say during the calls, by sitting off camera and showing him notes. She tried to make him say he didn't love his father and didn't want to see him anymore, but he broke down in tears.
This is so horrible. I'm so sorry! One day your cousin will be an adult and I hope he will still be able to have a relationship with your side of the family then.
It hurts now but your uncle will have the child when he becomes an adult. He will see what his mother has done and it will backfire on HER. Trust me, as kids grow up they see the forest through the trees.
So manipulative, abusive and controlling Japanese hypocritical mentality..
My female Japanese friend had to run away from domestic violence in the US. She had to leave her 3 kids in the states with her violent ex. She can’t do anything about it because of the law. At least she can see her kids when she goes visit to states.
Incredible, how evil someone can be! Well, everyone will be judged one day. All those, who don't believe in Jesus, will have to pay for their sins forever.
64 years ago my mother kidnapped my sisters and I from our father’s grandparents, at gun point; then fled with us to another state where she abandoned us. We ended up being adopted into two different families and not seeing one another for 25 years. This decision was made because our father was in the navy, on an aircraft carrier, and this was not the first time we had been kidnapped. The trauma of parental kidnapping lasts a lifetime. The child is deprived of 1/2 their family, or in our case all of their family, due to the selfishness of a parent. Children should not be used as pawns to punish a spouse. Adults can be mighty selfish and vindictive; and it is often the child which suffers.
(8:17) It disturbs me that they automatically assume the husband is an abuser. This could lead to situations where the mother abuses the child and pins all the blame on the father.
Unfortunately we have a similar situation in most western countries ..
@@jeffb.140 Not the one I live in thankfully ( germany ). Which western countries do you mean?
@@danika9411I can't speak for them, but in the US there is usually a bias against the father. I feel like it is beginning to change, but has existed.
@@Bargadiel BS. Unless the father is abusive, he can share custody. Problem is, only 10% of USA father's ask for custody. They prefer visitation = easier.
NO Western country allows this. Stop lying.
取り上げていただきありがとうございます。とてもよくまとまっていて素晴らしいです。私も子を婚姻中に配偶者に奪われた母親です。子供と4年断絶されてます。本当に今の日本は酷い状況です。こんなことがまかり通ることが信じられません。
I am so sorry about this. There are thousands of parents just like you. Thousands, even millions of tragedies.
I hope that you get to see them again
For me this was your best video. Japan needs to work towards a system of shared custody and shared care. The woman who spoke about the child pretending they don’t want to see the other parent in order to placate the parent they currently live with , she was really wise.
This is a very common situation. The Japanese partner takes the child back to Japan. It is near impossible for a foreigner to get permanent residence in Japan and the Japanese know this, that is why the run back to Japan. You can’t do shared custody if, as a foreigner you are not allowed to stay in the country. Everyone thinks the Japanese are so sweet and innocent 😂
@@soullessnight6539 Everyone has forgotten the 1940's 🤐
@@soullessnight6539 It is possible for non Japanese to get permanent residency - but they need to have already been living in Japan and have been granted permanent residency before the divorce. In my experience the foreign women married to Japanese men apply for it as soon as they can, while the foreign men with Japanese wives don’t tend to think about it.
@@Oishionna i think western women are quite naive and trusting so they don't
I need my boyfriend to see this. He is Japanese and his ex-wife abducted their 3 children. Since she definitely refused to bring him his kids, he fell in a deep deep depression. I tried to help him get through but he wouldn't even try anymore. Unlike foreign parents, and probably like many Japanese dads, he is not willing to fight. He is afraid to be a trouble maker, maybe they have been brainwashed and hates him etc. So he just gave up. But he will never be happy if he isn't reunited with them. Plus the mum is quite an abuser. He wouldn't call her that as he is her brainwashed victim too, but his family explained me and she is crazy. I worry for his kids as much as I worry for him. I really need him to fight but he doesn't even talk about it anymore and it's hard to bring the subject...
After hearing this from you....I feel extremely sad and I will say that please don't give up on your friend. 😢 Try to find a way where your friend doesn't feel being forced....instead he feels motivated to fight for their children's right....because he has you by his side....I pray for his success in this matter.
This is yet another reason I fear pairing up with a Japanese woman. She can do a runner with the kids at any point and the Japan government won't give you recourse.
@@farisan6664 thank you for your kind message, I try but it's hard as he is the one giving up on everything. Even on me, even though we still love each other after all these years of depression he doesn't have the strength to care for someone else
@@thundervelvet5983 then I think to let him what he wants or thinks... By giving him some space he might realise something then....
What a shame . That’s the reason why this horrible law is still in place , Japanese whose children been taken don’t even try to ….
I remember of a case of a Puerto Rican woman whose son was abducted by his Japanese father. When she couldn't get her son back she tried to commit suicide. Last I heard she was in jail and her parents were trying to get her out of Japan. I wonder if she'll ever see her son again. 😔
I had no idea the men also did this
@@FrappuccinoDrinks🤦🏾♂️
🤦♂️@@FrappuccinoDrinks
They do! It happened to a moroccan friend of mine, he took her 2 childs @@FrappuccinoDrinks
I live in Canada. I saw my Korean friend's Japanese wife secretly left Canada with their Canadian daughter. She never came back to Canada with the kid. I think this Japanese family law is inhumane and pathetic. Clearly these cases should be filed and prosecuted under international criminal court.
I had a client back in America that was a victim of child kidnapping. Just like the speaker in this video, her children were going with their dad to Japan to visit family, and just never came back. They were legally divorced in the United States, and the ex-husband required to share custody and pay child support, but he ran to Japan and never came back. I think about that woman a lot, and how terrible it must be to never be able to see your children.
I felt bad until I read "child support". The woman in this case didn't have to pay anything. The fact that the women overwhelmingly get custody in the US, and the father many times has to fight over visitation, makes me wonder what really happened there.
@blah23vr234v I had not mentioned this in my original post, but she gave up her career to become a full-time mom.
@@maxxfoster9245 ok but what did he do? Did they agree on that? I'm not saying he's right, but rather that the circumstances seem a bit suspect when you bring child support and visitation into it in the US system
@@blah23vr234v I'm not actually sure if he agreed to the child support, but as she's the mother, regardless of child support obligations, she should be able to see her children. Because Japan courts don't reciprocate US rulings. She will never she the children she birthed again. She was given the child support due to giving up her career, not because he/she had any wrongdoing on their plate.
@@maxxfoster9245 how often was the father seeing the kids before that? A man would not so easily just quit working altogether to be a full time dad. Surely you can see where this looks a little strange from the outside. Again, idk the whole story
As a foreigner living in Japan for 5 years, most of the people I knew who went through a divorce, did not allow their children to see their ex-wife/ex-husband. They have too much pride to even consider coparenting.
You mean they have fragile egos. Very sad.
I usually have a lot to say on your videos but this one has me speechless. It's heartbreaking when a child is separated from one of his or her parent(s) and depending on the reason it really shows how much it hurts the child. Also, I find it truly sick whenever a "parent" says their life was ruined in some way cuz of their child's existence. Their actions led up to the child's existence yet there's some who think its right to blame the child.
Thanks for the video TJR
My children were kidnapped last year by thier mother. She still lets me talk to one my children at least. It breaks my heart when my daughter says she wants to come back home or go back to America becuase I know that thier mother will never let my children come back. I am still fighting through the legal system, but as we all know there is little hope.
Passport bro . Rock on .
Do man need to take care about kids lol
Marry another girl and start a family
Be a man dude
There isn't emotional attachment for a father to his kids unless they are around .
Your kid might be living happy life there, don't be miserable.
@@pikachuthunderbolt3919easy said , but it may be true , our children might or may not be happy
You in Japan ? Me too . I am also In Court with 0 chances
@@pikachuthunderbolt3919 Complete nonsense. As untrue as it can possibly be. Children attach to their caregiving parents from birth, the earlier in their growth, the more complete the attachment. The separation of children from their parent is damage that cannot be undone, precisely because the psychological attachment requires the ongoing relationship and presence of the parents. When the break occurs, the child suffers immense pain and permanent damage is done.
Many thanks for uploading this video. I have been experiencing a Parental Child Abduction that was conducted by my Japanese ex-wife. Ms. Umemura is one of the top lawmakers who are addressing to improve Jpana's family law, I strongly support her. Also, I hope Ms. Yukiko Kada will have a chance to appear in your further video for this matter.
This video made me cry. I cant imagine the suffering these people have been through. I feel so bad for Catherine and the kid who was abducted by his Japanese mom too...
I am a foreigner in Japan, my husband is Japanese. I love and trust him, but one of the reason we decided to not have children, was because I don't want this to happen with me or with my children. This is just one of the reason. And of course we talked it through with my husband. So not having children is acceptable for him too.
I have a friend who is a Korean teacher of an American man going through this situation. His former wife took their two kids and left. Though the courts have sided with the father, no actual progress has been made reuniting him with his children.
Parental child abduction isn't as common in Korea as it is in Japan, but still devastating. It's scary to think things like this happen.
i know one foreign guy personally in japan who got custody over his kids when he divorced his japanese wife. but the main reason he won in court is because he is very well off. he's the japan representative of a foreign company, lives in very lavish company housing in central tokyo, and is very well paid. most other parents do not seem to have that luxury.
I've been living in Japan for 1.5 years, but my very Western-minded Japanese husband and I have decided we have to move to my country of Canada. The number one reason is because we can't stand the idea of raising kids in Japan. Worrying about our future kids as adults getting caught up in this horrible abduction situation is part of that. Also, it absolutely infuriates me when I see people trying to justify this blatant child abuse with "I don't want to interact with my ex." My god, how selfish can you get?
And you have no concerns raising kids in Canada ...???!!!!! With the Crazies woke over there ... I dunnow what's worse.
@@maskmanfive3774 Choosing Canada over Japan doesn't mean I love everything about Canada. If you care about individualism, Western values, personal freedom, etc., which I assume you do if you're anti-woke, you wouldn't want to live in collectivist Japan.
Agreed😢!
Japanese women have become increasingly disinterested in international marriages after Japan signed the Hague Convention.
They strongly believe that children are better off living with their mothers. Japanese men rarely fight over custody.
The moms final statement at the end nearly brought tears to my eyes. I pray she gets to see her children soon
I pray she never gets to see her children. Because i dont want those kids to get rejected by their mother in future like i got rejected by my mom after waited for 16 years to meet her. The reason why i got rejected badly by my mom was because now she(mother) got another kids by remarried to another guy. So, now she dont need her kids from her first marriage( of course). These mothers are just selfish they just cry for a limited time period and after getting another baby they easily can forget the first one. And not just forget but also reject them and act like they dont know them and push them out of life like they never existed.
@@nicollettegreye8522it's sad that happened to you but you have to acknowledge that your mother's actions are an unusual exception to the way mothers behave. I know that makes your pain worse but it's still the truth.
@@nicollettegreye8522 I’m sorry that happened to you. That woman is not good enough to be called your mother.
Yes I can totally understand. My daughter's Japanese Grandmother abducted my daughter right after she was born. I was fortunate that my family has connections in the Canadian government. The fact that my former mother in law held my daughter for Ransom it was considered kidnapping in Canada so the consulate was involved and then we went out with the Canadian government to Seize my daughter back. The Japanese federal police were there to assist and many of the police officers were very helpful and smiling when my ex wife and daughter came out to join us. Sad story and affected my daughter to this day. Now we will return to Japan since she is legal age now. Japan should know better they are acting like NORTH KOREA.
Did your mother in law go to jail in Japan?
@@jackxiao9702i don't think so
I hope you research about the flag in you photo and how asian countires are traumatized about it.
@@benevbright It's disgusting that all you have as an answer is critisism. Not even the manners or decency to say something about the actual topic. I hope you research about basic manners and learn a bit.
I'm so sorry this happened to you! I'm glad it turned out alright in the end. I hope your family can continue to heal.
Hey Nobita. I just donated to you as someone who has been watching your content for a long time. With every video, I see your efforts to make positive changes to Japan and make otherwise unaware people aware of serious topics like this. You're doing good work and I appreciate it. Thank you for your informative videos.
The mother's or father's anger should not affect the child's feelings towards the parent. Even though parents are divorced, every child has the right to love from mother and father.
Not in Japan
Not in Japan.
I wish Mizuho all the luck on this. Divorce and child custody can also be a very rocky situation out here in the States too, depending on the state where the divorce takes place. Never forget to get both sides when it comes to a divorce, because either side can be more than willing to make up a complete fabrication in order to get what they want.
Wow, I didn’t know this was on-going problem. I hope this problem gets fixed 😢
This is so sad 😢 i have Japanese students who are single parents, divorced, and I wonder if they see their father- was it their father's choice to abandon them or the abduction..? It's definitely a hard sensitive issue, and also need to think carefully if wanting to have a Japanese partner
Not intending for this to be mean, but now so many of the mental health issues seen in Japan are beginning to make sense. There is not one country that has perfect rules, poop happens all over the world... but wow... am speechless. Was not aware of the sole custody law. I am from a divorced family and have also been divorced myself. At all times the best interest of the child should be taken into consideration. I consider it a matter of character development to deal with the interpersonal dynamic of a divorced couple so that THEIR issues will not become the issues of the child. It's really sad that a country which so advertises 'community wholeness and wellbeing' does it's utmost to undermine child wholeness and well being.
As a mother, this is truly heartbreaking. I can't even being to imagine the pain. I am originally from Iran where men by default have the custody of the kid and can take them away from the mother or even kill the kids with little to no penalties, they basically "own" the kid. It is the same system as in Japan, except that no abduction is needed...
My own father did this to me at age 5 and then brainwashing me on how evil my mother has been. Ironically, now that I am an adult and living far away from them in Europe, they have gotten back together and has cut me from their lives. I can't even start to explain how messed up it feels as the child who has gone through that. Props to the guy in this video for keeping his cool talking about his abusive mother.
My life mission is to NOT be like them and put my children ahead of my ego first. It is a bumpy road to learn this coming from that shit show of a family, so wish me luck!
Thank you for posting this video. My son was illegally abducted from US to Osaka, Japan in 1999 when he was only 2 years old. I had custody in US, and the Japanese court recognized the US custody order. However, the Japanese government would not enforce its ruling. I "settled" my case in 2004 by giving up custody and paying child support in exchange for meaningful access. I NEVER GOT ACCESS, LET ALONE MEANINGFUL ACCESS. My son should be 26 years old now.....I don't even know whether he is even alive.... Justice should be done against the abductors. Both the child and the left-behind parents are victims.
So sorry this happened to you. I hope you can reunite with your son one day😢
@DawnDingayan-sc2sf Thank you!!!!!🙂
@@vio3366 Thank you very much!!!☺
Omg...so sadistic mindset. And i wonder why he is not look for you as adult.
@@laroseblanche9435@laroseblanche9435 someone who has been "programmed" most of his or her life to think that the left behind parent is evil may not bother to look for him or her
I have a deep respect for Nobita for bringing these issues to his videos.
It seems like there are a number of faults in the Japanese legal system, perhaps due to fear of changing from tradition, which is unfortunate.
Tradition is something that makes Japan beautiful, but some things need to adapt for future generations to be fair and humane for all.
Absolutely heartbreaking, I’ve read a lot about parental abduction in Japan, particularly between Australian and Japanese couples and it’s just harrowing. I don’t understand how there can be no empathy for the other parent, I wonder if the perspective is ‘if I don’t do it, they’ll take the children from me, so I have to be first’? I can’t begin to comprehend the kind of cruelty it takes to do that not only to someone you once loved, but to your own children. Is the assumption that the other parent is like an animal who just stops caring when the child is out of sight? Why do they have to take the extra steps to villainise the other parent? It’s just horrific. I would understand if the partner was abusive, of course, but in so many of these situations it just seems to be pure cruelty. So, so so sad. I hope these parents can reconnect with their children one day, my heart absolutely breaks for them.
Basically it comes down to the deeply racist precepts that are core to the Japanese identity. Similarly in Saudi Arabia it is the deeply paternalistic and misogynistic core of that society that encourages child abduction. This really should be a consideration when dating a Japanese woman.
this is a really good topic, that nobody talks about.. well done ^ ^
it's been all over the print & tv media over the past couple of years - you can see the video uses excerpts from news programs
it was very interesting to hear Anthony’s opinion on this matter. I wonder if there is some sort of group or organization of people who went through this issue as kids? I totally agree with what was mentioned about the children’s rights being affected by this.
This is so heart wrenching. I‘m American and I have a son with my Japanese husband. While our marriage is good, I’d be lying if I said I am not afraid of this happening. To have a government be so against you seeing your own children, I couldn’t bear it. I feel so much for anyone who has to go through this, parent and child, and I deeply hope for a resolution to their anguish.
Hey Nobita, I educate parents on custodial interference in the U.S. Parental abductions prevention begins at the local level of reporting these crimes. Laws have existed for 50 years in the states but often times, law enforcement says its a civil matter when it's not. I would love to reach out to Anthony about his story. Clearly, he was a victim of parental alienation brainwashed to reject his father. Thank you!
I once saw a case in Hawaii where an American wife betrayed her Japanese husband and took their 3 year old child back to her home state in the east.
He was not reunited with his son until 15 years later.
I think it's common in all coutries, women use children to take revenge on their ex-partner. Even if they do not have sole custody, they do everything to make it difficult for fathers to have contact with their children. This is very common in Poland.
That’s true
Absolutely brutal but extremely important. Good work Nobita! I am extremely sorry the children of your country suffer like this.
Be careful who you procreate with folks. Always have a backup plan when things go South. When you are dealing with someone from a different culture, you have to be more cautious
Anthony's mom is clearly a narcissist
My brother co-parents his children with their mother and it absolutely is the next best thing to a traditional 2 parent home where the couple married and living together. The kids are super well adjusted and healthy and I remain ever grateful and proud of how both my brother and his children's mother work together to give them the best life possible. Outside legitimately abusive situations I don't believe a parent who refuses to coparent/share custody of their child with their spouse truly love their child. They only see them as a tool to punish their ex and think only of themselves (I don't want anything to do with my ex). Its cruel.
I was like him, except 30 yrs before. I understand the mental abuse he endured. His mother should be in prison for her abuses, lies and manipulation. This is a human rights issue. My mother took me away from my father, from an Asian country and brought me to a western country and she threatened me throughout my entire life to send me back to Asia and my Asian father as though they were hell and the devil. She said I was the devil's child.
Tragedy
That’s exactly what I worry the most , my wife will torture humiliate and manipulate our boys so that they feel guilty for being born from a abusive man - myself 😢
This is sad.
I understand if a parent flees with their child if the other parent is abusive.
But to blatantly lie to your child, take them to another country, telling them their other parent was crazy just to have the abducting parent to be abusive.
I feel so sorry for kids that go through this.
This is absolutely crazy that no one bats an eye.
You have to be extremely cold hearted to do this to a child and the parent left behind
Thank you for shining a light on this topic.
We see the same kind of thing all the time in the US.
there's technically laws preventing it, but they're barely enforced.
Depends on the state. I know in my state they’re strictly enforced. You can’t just take the kid out of the state without the other parents permission. Technically considered kidnapping otherwise.
cannot agree. though there are always parents of any nationality who will be selfish and vindictive by using children, the US has laws which are VERY enforceable and ARE often enforced. in Japan, custody laws are ignored. research previous japanese minister koizumi. it's unreal in Japan. it isn't known as a parental abduction 'black hole' for nothing.
@@trevordavidh True that in Japan, family court decisions are not enforced. But there is very little family law at all, and none that is used to defend children from coercion in family court. In that sense, knowing that they know what the consequences of their rulings will be, the family court becomes the perpetrator, but "legally".
I also see people be mature and coparent like adults all the time in the US. I live in the South which has a high divorce rate. It's a legitimate cultural difference. Also social services here is more evidence based. They focus on keeping children with birth parents as long as the issues can be dealt with through education and intervention. Shared custody is very common here and is expected that divorced parents today will sacrifice and not leave the state without permission so that the child has access to both parents. It wasn't always this way, but we've evolved.
I dated a Taiwanese/ Japanese mixed girl in Taiwan who grew up in Japan and was a dual national. She suffered tons of abuse man it gave her major mental problems. She tried to stab me with a knife. I regret trying to rescue that poor soul she was so broken
That's brutal
@@jeffb.140 from bullies in school too being sexually abused . I used to think she was exaggerating but I don't think she is
Don't regret that you were trying to rescue her. You had good intentions, don't lose that part of yourself. You were just not the right person up for that task.
This is very sad
It's about time that people stop thinking about themselves and start thinking about the bigger picture. The mindset of a people needs to be called in to question and needs to be made clear to everyone by raising awareness of the issue. Parents need to be called out for their bad behavior and should be brought into counseling. Parents need to understand that their child requires both parents for proper development in their character. Somewhere in the world, children are visiting their parents' graves and parents are visiting their children's graves. We need each other and so does society, if there is to be true peace.
Careful, passport bros. Think very hard about the well-being of your future children.
The problem is a lot of passport bros are going overseas to avoid this very thing in the first place. Women do it in the west more than Japanese do.
@@victortesla4198if i remember correctly I've heard of this issue a good decade ago, this is very common in Japan more common than in America, stop trying to lighten this issue in the name of your passport bros. When it comes to bs Japan does not discriminate between the two genders especially when they're gaijin (foreigners).
@@Correctgistlover I've lived nearly 10 years in Japan. You don't know wtf you are talking about.
My wife took my kids back to Japan 3 years ago and only me who have been trying so hard to contact my children with fully support about money but my ex still playing game with me and in the same time that she try to destroy my spirit but she still wants to get money and everything for herself. I don’t understand mind set of Japanese women much but as far as
I know from my
Personal exp, it’s deeply toxic and selfish.
Why did u interest in her on first place? What make u attract to her?
Do man need to take care about kids lol
Marry another girl and start a family
Be a man dude
There isn't emotional attachment for a father to his kids unless they are around .
Your kid might be living happy life there, don't be miserable.
Children should be thankful of being well fed and taken care whether by one parent or any other guardian
That's how mammals are
@@laroseblanche9435 first time when we just met, she was the real angel.
How old are they ? Come Japan and try to meet them . Are you married still ?
@@djDimaTrusH 1st one 16 and second one 7 years old. Now I am in Japan but so soon i have to go back to my country.
These women hate their exes more than they love their kids.
It happens to women too. Did you skip the part where the Australian mother was speaking?
My ex kidnapped my daughter from Sydney in Australia. Now she’s hiding behind the system
Woke up in the morning still I heard this song
Must be somewhere from my dreams, I don't know
Made me feel so good, sun was shining bright
God, I love you that you brought this little song to give me..
Faith
In the morning
I need that faith
To go on, yeah
Give me some faith
Can't get enough of that sweet feeling, give me faith
Oh yeah, I keep the faith…
This is very saddening and heartbreaking 😢
My wife’s excuses her behavior by claiming that husband , me, is a dangerous man Selfish pervert who abused her both physically and mentally. The paradox is that they are deeply programmed by the Japanese family law systems: lawyers Judges , mediators, there is simply too much money and no mindfulness or consideration in the process . My wife claiming our boys are better off without me , and safer . Ever since we split up I never insisted I wanted to be with her on the same terms as before , I realized way too late that continuing living with that women will be detrimental for our family , so I proposed to remain as parents and not as couple , whether married or divorced, it’s a matter of agreement yet, knowing her pride and Japanese law on her side , it’s way much easier to alienate me from our sons , rather then try to coparent. 😢 I see my wife as a victim of this society in Japan, and even if I she married me only to have pretty half children , I can’t do much about it other then reflect and regret that it all ended up in such way. My wife of course is not justified for not allowing me to see our boys , and I knew before she took boys and left that it’s either she who will do it or me😢… I was not able to do it , and I am sure no father or mother who truly sincerely loves their children will commit such an atrocity. It’s wicked my dear wife, yes I am talking to you Akiko Trush… Tsukamoto … while the world we love tears it self apart 😢
P.S Who on earth will assure me our boys have proper care and love during my absence from their life . Three boys , ゆり、ニコライ、レオコスメトルーシュ
Thank you for for this. A good point was made, that Japan's level of human rights are reflected from this, as children's best interests are not respected. I wish for change ASAP.
The human world is cruel. I’m amazed we keep continuing each generation, given the amount of suffering that exists.
The most important lesson from this video and others like it: Never EVER pro create with a Japanese citizen. 😂
In the US women can keep fathers from seeing their children too. I know one woman in the US who successfully filed a restraining order against her ex just so she didn't have to see him again. Can't imagine the damage it's going to do her son. Absolute selfishness.
Well, if the father is a sexually incest abusing, the child should never have contact.
You can get a short term restraining order without evidence, but not a long term one. And a restraining order does not prevent visitation. Even a parent who has done something wrong can get supervised visitation. Quit your nonsense.
Do man need to take care about kids lol
Marry another girl and start a family
Be a man dude
There isn't emotional attachment for a father to his kids unless they are around .
Your kid might be living happy life there, don't be miserable.
What a male need is a companion of a female but not kids.
Children should be thankful of being well fed and taken care whether by one parent or any other guardian
That's how mammals are
The great difference, I think, is that Japanese family court doesn't operate in the way "courts of law" do. Courts of law require evidence be presented by a claimant. In Japan, all a person has to do to completely eliminate the parental rights of the other parent is to keep the child away from that parent (hide) for a short period, after which "continuity" in the child's place of residence can be claimed. There is no right of visitation in Japan, and anyone who attempts to visit their child once their custodial rights have been eliminated can be and will be charged with a "violent" crime, which is charged in a criminal court, not a family law "court". No evidence supporting a restraining order is necessary; all that is needed is to make claims, statements, and they are accepted without questioning. (Thus really Japanese family court is not really a court at all.)
They have change the law this week.
So, joint custody is now a possibility for any parent in Japan.
I thought Japan expects children to take care of their parents in their elderly years. If so, how can they possibly justify depriving one parent of a relationship with their biological child?
Maybe they are only concern with the Japanese side of the family. Also I understand they are having the same problem as South Korea (low birth census). So I guess they will do anything to hold on to that child.
I personally hate having to worry about this. I have a daughter with a Japanese man and although he shows no signs of being this cruel so far, we can never guess how fast and how much people can turn. I hate that there is no way to protect myself from this - the only viable way being to abduct my daughter first preventively. Which I'm not sure I could bring myself to do. I even told my husband that when if I had known about this problem I probably wouldn't have had children in Japan. The "what if" really triggers my anxiety. And it's not my husband's fault that I feel this anxiety. It's the country and its laws that are to blame.
Exactly so! This is how the system of abduction-disguised-as-custody-determination in Japan thrives right down to today: it purposefully pits the parents against one another and essentially *requires* that a parent abduct the child, because that is the only means of prevention available to them.
Perhaps there may be a means by which a legal document could be created with the help of a decent lawyer such that you both avow the rights of custody remain with both of you, in order to quell your anxiety and in that way essentially save your marriage from that kind of distress and worry. Worth investigating?
Kids are not possessions that one parent gets to keep in a breakup. If 2 parents fall out of love, so be it, but they need to grow the hell up and let the kids see their mother/father instead of poisoning the kid against the parent who doesn't get custody.
Do man need to take care about kids lol
Marry another girl and start a family
Be a man dude
There isn't emotional attachment for a father to his kids unless they are around .
Your kid might be living happy life there, don't be miserable.
What a male need is a companion of a female but not kids.
Children should be thankful of being well fed and taken care whether by one parent or any other guardian
That's how mammals are
Very well made!
What Anthony has had to endure from both his mother and others is awful and isolating. He said he has friends in similar situations, so hopefully he doesn't feel alone. He seems thoughtful and level-headed considering what he's been through. Hopefully he will continue to bring more of the country's attention to the issue as a survivor and living example. Perhaps he and the politician who was interviewed could work together to promote more awareness about it in Japan.
Excellent video. Children will believe their parents sometimes even in abusive relationships.
これは早急に解決すべき問題ですね。
If one parent is bold enough to kidnap the child, why is the assumption that they themselves arent the abuser?
Well... Japanese women are very well known for this matter unfortunately. I heard so many similar stories from who married to Japanese women.
I am too old to have children now, but I cannot imagine. I would go ballistic if somebody tried to keep my child from me. I would end up killing somebody or doing something so crazy that I would end up in prison. This is so wrong! I try not to bad mouth other cultures that are different from my own. I try to see things from the other side's perspective, but I cannot see how Japan treats children as property and how much abuse they allow children to endure as anything buy wrong. It's just wrong! I love Japan and have always been fascinated with the language and culture BECAUSE it's so different from mine. There is much about it that is beautiful but this... this breaks my heart. :(
Moral of the story Don't marry a Japanese wife no matter how beautiful she is you won't be able to see your child rather adopt one.
Happened to a friend of mine I was in the marine corps with. She pretty much took his kid back to Japan and cut off contact. Took him years to get visitation
I really don't get this; if it's done because there could be child abuse why not have that solution as the exception? Studies show multi parent households are the best for developing children but co-parenting is the next best. This is, at best, just not setting the child up for the best possible scenario, and at worst giving the child to the parent who would be the abuser. (idk how they determine who gets the kid, is it whoever is the one who takes the child first?)
That Aussie PM’s answer was classic for a slimy self serving manipulative type of amoral politician. Just based on that one clip I’m Sure it reflects in other area’s. But people get what they vote for.
What a pathetic response from the Australian Prime Minister Anthony Albanese, he absolutely has no spine
Japan and other East Asian countries still has a view that a child can only belong to this new parent if they have separated. There is less interest and emphasis on the mental well being of the said children, with little regard to the damage being separated from one of the parents causes.
As these societies have become wealthier and individuals more prosperous, it’s no wonder that fewer of them want to procreate and bring children into such environments.
I have a Japanese co worker that when her parents divorce they just split the kids the dad got the older daughter and the mother get the younger daughter. And they don’t have anything to do with each others .the girls are raised without siblings
It's so obvious that a parent who would/thinks it's ok to separate their child from the other parent is extremely selfish. They need mental help and better understanding the responsibility of what being a parent means and the negative impact they are deliberately putting onto their children. Just because it's how it's done doesn't mean it's right. And using Domestic violence as a blanket reason to not implement joint custody post divorce is just such a cop out reason. The fact that a lot of Japanese people don't challenge this is very problematic in itself. The generational trauma that gets passed on from a child being treated like this is so much more serious than what a 15 minute video could explain. But it requires a major overhaul of the entire justice and legal system for joint custody to be properly implemented in Japan. I really do hope that countries such as the US, Canada, Australia and the UK which have much more power on the global political landscape can take this issue more seriously and pressure the Japanese government. Children are our future and they must be protected.
Wow, that's so weird.
I know a brazilian mother of a turkish boy and she still lives in Turkey bc he was born there and there's his father in Turkey. So she had to stay there after divorce.
This is Haia, right?
This story is sad, for sure. But it's far worse in the US because the divorce rate is much higher. Some people marry two or even three times, hoping they'll get things right. But it's the kids who suffer. You can Google the statistics. In the US, the law states that both parents have rights, custody is a separate issue based on which parent can provide the best environment. Often it's shared, or fractionally divided, e.g. 60/40. This is decided by a court of law, not unilaterally by a parent. Abduction as sanctioned by Japanese law is effectively a corrupt manifestation of the 外 - 内 mentality which permeates Japanese society. That's why the police 外 say it's an internal 内 matter (the couple). The disavowed parent is placed in the 外 category.
The thing that shocks me the most is that none of the governments seems to give a fuck
Controversial take but I feel like the Japanese government should be sanctioned for enabling child abductions
There is no place where there are normal people. All are crazy in different way.
It's sad because the other extreme exists in the states, where children are abducted against their will by the courts and forced to live with the other parent (I had to testify in court in a case like this, where there had been split custody but the dad had been abusing his daughter her whole childhood. she had stopped going home with him so he sued the mother for sole custody, saying she was 'brainwashed'. in this case i was able to help somewhat as a third party who had seen him being abusive my whole childhood, but without third party testimony he definitely would have won). In this case, the rule of 'if you hate a parent it's because you are brainwashed' and the courts being if anything TOO involved are the issue, whereas in Japan, the problem is that no one else is involved at all and whoever snatches them first has them, as if children's lives are decided by "possession is 9/10ths of the law." I think the only way we can have balance in these things is by involving a lot of perspectives but also listening to what the children are saying. For instance, the boy in the video, if people listened to him as a child, even though he was brainwashed, they would have figured out quickly that his mother was abusing him. If this had been looked into properly, the situation could have been discovered.
Sounds like time to hire the yakuza and get some gang justice.
this is so tragic!
Brutal. So sad..
This is sad.
❤ the topic and how family issues are viewed by the JP goverment.
So sad
I agree these are terrible things to happen and I hope things will improve soon. I have 2 questions, however. How prevalent are these cases and why does it seem as if it's almost always an issue between a Western husband and a Japanese wife? If anyone has any information on these, please share it. I hope Japanese government is working on this problem so that the fathers and children can be united soon.
I imagine the perspectives of Japanese parents would primarily show up in Japanese content, and there is likely a cultural element where affected Westerners are significantly more likely to raise awareness and fight for their kids.
@@niwa_s That's a great point. I'll look for it in Japanese articles. Thank you!
Edit for the people in the comments. You are wrong and I have explained why.
6:30 this women is wrong. I'm Australian, still in Australia. I was technically kidnapped by my mother when I was very young but my dad won the court case and she was forced to bring us back. I'm happy to talk about this with you if you want. I don't want this misinformation that this problem doesn't exist in Australia to be spread
It actually saddens me that she thinks this doesn't happen in her home country yet she is in Japan aware of this situation.
As i can see the Western this is the most common thing that happens, divorced women abducts their children only to take a revenge against their former husbands, they are a bunch of bitches.
@joaopedrobaggio4475 Yeah it's a very evil tactic. The only reason my mom lost the court case is because she refused to show up in court. Otherwise it was very likely I would have been stuck with my mother who took us into the middle of bumfuck nowhere
@@boigercat and i believe that she will hurt you phisically and mentally, i am glad that it doesn't happened, the western society must rethink the divorce laws and other family issues, this is destroying our world.
I think you may have missed the context a bit... I think when the Jp colleague was talking about "parents kidnapping their children" not happening in Australia. I don't think that meant that kidnapping/parental abduction doesn't happen period. I think the question means the concept of parents taking their children away from the other parent (ie. kidnapping) is "not a crime" does not happen in Australia.
The irony is children are better off with the father than mother as the huge percentage of social problems stem from single mother's homes but successful,disciplined and healthy mental adults came from single father's or two normal parents with strong father influence. Two female parents have the worst outcome.
Since people from different countries and governments are involved, an international system of countries like NATO should have a legal organism for these matters. Even though Japan isn't in the United Nations, Japan's government has been known to friendly cooperate with it in legal subjects, I believe it's a problem that tears apart people's lives but I'm afraid it's not too grand on scale for international organisms to get involved.
In my personal opinion, this should be prosecuted with the same legal force and ruthlessness as human trafficking.
This has been going on for decades with Japanese abducting their child and running back to Japan. This isn’t a small or uncommon problem, it is happening all the time. The Japanese Government does nothing. I saw these things on Australian news all the time growing up. The Australian would win custody through the courts but what good does that do when the Japanese government won’t let you physically go get your child. Never marry a Japanese.
Japan is in the UN. NATO is more a military alliance so I don't see how it would be relevant.
What is relevant is the Hague Convention which Japan has signed and ratified. The Hague Convention is very strict on this matter but the Japanese government doesn't respect it at all. So until the Japanese government do something to honor their signature, it's gonna be hard to see any change.
Thank you