Certainly, this was a planned way to get an angry response from you. You handled it perfectly. I feel that those women probably have a more sinister agenda than most people hearing this could imagine. Do not rule out the possibility that they may be people for reasons best known to them, who may be trying to break up your family and provoking you to respond in a way that may get you jailed may just be one of the attempts they are planning. You and your husband should stay alert to all micro aggression or nonsensical or poor treatment from any quarter whether at work or not , or even at children's school or nursery.
I agree. My othe thought was. They seem like they were involved in human trafficking. 😮 Who better to use than old ladies who seem harmless. They were probably trying to bait her into an argument t9 distract her so someone could snatch her baby.
Thanks for sharing your perspective! There is a part of me that thought her words were more calculated and intentional! If that's the case then she certainly has her karma waiting for her! I appreciate you watching and commenting!
Wheeewwwww!!! I dont know how I would've have responded. I dont think it would have been with as much poise. I appreciate how you educated her about her words for sure!
I get it, I really do feel like there are sooooo many ways to respond, and I do hope that she learned something after it was all said and done! Thanks for watching, and thanks for your understanding! It actually feels good to vent about this whole thing lol
Hello Tiff thank you so much for sharing this story. The story you right was very insane. I cannot believe that these ladies approached you three times. And I know you probably have heard in your life that three times is a charm. When that woman approached me on that third time all the talking down in my head would’ve ceased, and I would’ve let both of those ladies know under no circumstances was that cool and wherever she, or both of them got the idea that they can buy little black folks they better go back and read the history books point blank end of story and get out of my face would’ve been the next thing I would’ve said to both of them. I as a 70 year old black woman I have no patience for ignorance. And as you get older Tiff you will; realize that as well. I am a Christian woman. I try to hold my peace, but I’m tired of feeling like we have to hold our peace and be kind about how we feel when the moment calls for something different. We are always covering up how we feel in the moment when we are in front of someone white and frankly after all these years, I’m tired of it. I’ve had enough. I have to give you your props girl you are most Christlike. You handled it beautifully a lot better than I would’ve.
Thanks so much for taking the time to share your perspective! I agree 100% that it can be incredibly exhausting having to always take the higher road or tip toe around others when we are not given that same courtesy! And yesssss the fact that she didn't realize how said conversation could be offensive Speaks loads to her level of privilege as well. I appreciate you watching and taking rhe time to comment!
Arabs tried to buy me from my Mother when I was a child too. She said no. That was over 40 years ago. You have a Right to Report and prosecute Attempted Child Trafficking. If you should choose to prosecute, I am willing to be a witness of this type of crime against minors that is not new. And even now I am attempting to prosecute for crimes against me and my own kids now. I did not watch your video because I didn't want to trigger trauma in myself. But I want you to know that you have a Right to hold Child Traffickers and anyone else who commits a crime against you Accountable, with evidence and the appropriate Prison sentence. May Father God and Mother Wisdom Bless and Cover your family.Amen
Well done for handling the situation the way you did. The comments made by the two women were very problematic. Well done for telling them why their comments were offensive 💅🏿 I wouldn’t of wanted to talk to them at all, but to say it three times?! Yeah they needed an education 101 😂
Thank you for sharing. I welcome any content you are willing and comfortable sharing. In my opinion you addressed this issue perfectly. Hopefully, both of the women learned from this situation.
You responded in the most classy way possible. Those women were most definitely being racist asshats trying to get a rise outta you. Proud of you Chíca.’ Andy says “you should tell Tiff she was “most Christ like” as there were several documented instances when Christ himself cussed a bunch of Priests out for not being good Priests. Then Christ questioned himself, but realized that anger is a part of being human, and ignoring it and pretending it doesn’t exist doesn’t make you more akin to God… she that we aren’t perfect. Thank you for sharing this. My first reaction probably would not have included patience or restraint. It take true strength to do what you did so beautifully.
Thanks so much my girl for watching the video and taking the time to leave your perspective, I really appreciate it! And many other people said they thought i was too nice as well. All in all, I just hope those women learned a thing or two from the encounter! And if not, karma will always be there knocking!
She was living in her privilege. You respectfully checked her as you should have. Words matter. It doesn't matter what she meant by it, very offensive.
I think that it was great that you walked away first time and calming down was a smart but hard thing to do and you were going to let it go. When they came back and said something I don’t think you did anything wrong for saying something when they did it again. You have to stick up for yourself and your kids. I hope that maybe they learned something from what you said them.
Wow- the nerve of some people. You did handle it well. I am not sure if I could have been so polite about it. At my age I have zero tolerance for that type of behavior. Yes , we as black women have to educate people unfortunately. What is common sense to us, is not common sense to others. We will keep praying for the ignorance we have to face in this crazy world we live in. I think sometimes individuals don’t understand some words/acts are offensive until they are called out on it. Good job sis- sometimes we have to let Jesus take the wheel!
Thanks so much for taking the time to comment that sis, and to validate my feelings. There was a small part of me that started second guessing myself and thinking that I was tripping, and the mental acrobatics of it all really can be so exhausting. You're right that common sense isn't so common these days, and I'm certainly trying to just let Jesus take the wheel these days!
I think you handled it very well because sometimes they all look at us like we don't know how to conduct ourselves but God be the glory he is inside of us he teaches us every day we have a path to follow in his Direction and sometimes they try to be sarcastic and don't think that we will respond intelligent manner but don't play with my kids, you did good
And that's just it my friend! I had to fight the urge to come out of character but ultimately I am very proud with how i responded to her! I appreciate you commenting and giving me that encouragement because sometimes it can feel tough! I appreciate you watching.
I do not think she meant anything by it i am a white woman that's with a black man and sometimes I look at things a little different than he does but we also have a joke that he tell that sounds like that i think they were telling you he is so cute i want to take him home, i think they went a little over board, i don't think they meant anything by it
Thanks for sharing your perspective. Even if she didn't mean anything by it, she definitely should think about what she says and the impact/weight her words carry.
Whyyyyyy do Christians believe that being Christian means worrying how people view us. Jesus didn’t. This was far too apologetic. “I know you didn’t mean anything”, no you don’t. Set you boundary and move on. Period. There is nothing you can say to educate those women. Ma’am your comments and proximity is not safe for my son and myself please move back. Your responsibility is to you son. Period.
Thanks so much for sharing your perspective! I think the mental acrobatics I went through before speaking to her impacted my response. There was a small part of me that was thinking "am I tripping" and then like you said maybe being a little too concerned with being nice or having grace. You have a good point. Thanks for validating my feeling.s
Certainly, this was a planned way to get an angry response from you. You handled it perfectly. I feel that those women probably have a more sinister agenda than most people hearing this could imagine. Do not rule out the possibility that they may be people for reasons best known to them, who may be trying to break up your family and provoking you to respond in a way that may get you jailed may just be one of the attempts they are planning.
You and your husband should stay alert to all micro aggression or nonsensical or poor treatment from any quarter whether at work or not , or even at children's school or nursery.
I agree. My othe thought was. They seem like they were involved in human trafficking. 😮 Who better to use than old ladies who seem harmless. They were probably trying to bait her into an argument t9 distract her so someone could snatch her baby.
Thanks for sharing your perspective! There is a part of me that thought her words were more calculated and intentional! If that's the case then she certainly has her karma waiting for her! I appreciate you watching and commenting!
In this twisted world we live it, I wouldn't put it past anyone!
Hi Tiffany. So sorry this happened to you😔. The level of restraint you had to exercise with this incident is highly commendable. ❤
Thanks so much saying that, and for watching the video! It feels comforting to know others have seen it the way i did; it makes me feel less alone.
Wheeewwwww!!! I dont know how I would've have responded. I dont think it would have been with as much poise. I appreciate how you educated her about her words for sure!
I get it, I really do feel like there are sooooo many ways to respond, and I do hope that she learned something after it was all said and done! Thanks for watching, and thanks for your understanding! It actually feels good to vent about this whole thing lol
Hello Tiff thank you so much for sharing this story. The story you right was very insane. I cannot believe that these ladies approached you three times. And I know you probably have heard in your life that three times is a charm. When that woman approached me on that third time all the talking down in my head would’ve ceased, and I would’ve let both of those ladies know under no circumstances was that cool and wherever she, or both of them got the idea that they can buy little black folks they better go back and read the history books point blank end of story and get out of my face would’ve been the next thing I would’ve said to both of them. I as a 70 year old black woman I have no patience for ignorance. And as you get older Tiff you will; realize that as well. I am a Christian woman. I try to hold my peace, but I’m tired of feeling like we have to hold our peace and be kind about how we feel when the moment calls for something different. We are always covering up how we feel in the moment when we are in front of someone white and frankly after all these years, I’m tired of it. I’ve had enough. I have to give you your props girl you are most Christlike. You handled it beautifully a lot better than I would’ve.
Thanks so much for taking the time to share your perspective! I agree 100% that it can be incredibly exhausting having to always take the higher road or tip toe around others when we are not given that same courtesy! And yesssss the fact that she didn't realize how said conversation could be offensive Speaks loads to her level of privilege as well. I appreciate you watching and taking rhe time to comment!
Arabs tried to buy me from my Mother when I was a child too. She said no. That was over 40 years ago. You have a Right to Report and prosecute Attempted Child Trafficking. If you should choose to prosecute, I am willing to be a witness of this type of crime against minors that is not new. And even now I am attempting to prosecute for crimes against me and my own kids now. I did not watch your video because I didn't want to trigger trauma in myself. But I want you to know that you have a Right to hold Child Traffickers and anyone else who commits a crime against you Accountable, with evidence and the appropriate Prison sentence.
May Father God and Mother Wisdom Bless and Cover your family.Amen
Wow, I'm so incredibly sorry to hear this. Thanks for sharing your story, and I appreciate the support.
You handled it well. That woman sounds insane because she decided to keep saying it after you ignored her.
Exactly sis! I was going to ignore it but when she circled back I was dumbfounded! Thanks for validating my feelings!
Well done for handling the situation the way you did. The comments made by the two women were very problematic. Well done for telling them why their comments were offensive 💅🏿 I wouldn’t of wanted to talk to them at all, but to say it three times?! Yeah they needed an education 101 😂
Education 101 was needed for sure! Haha. I definitely was considering ignoring it, and I was proud of mt response in the end! Thanks for watching!
Thank you for sharing. I welcome any content you are willing and comfortable sharing. In my opinion you addressed this issue perfectly. Hopefully, both of the women learned from this situation.
Thanks so much my friend! I appreciate you being a part of my community, and I also hope both women learned a thing or two from this interaction!
You handled it very well. Thanks for sharing your experience.
Thanks very much for watching and commenting. I appreciate it!
You responded in the most classy way possible. Those women were most definitely being racist asshats trying to get a rise outta you. Proud of you Chíca.’ Andy says “you should tell Tiff she was “most Christ like” as there were several documented instances when Christ himself cussed a bunch of Priests out for not being good Priests. Then Christ questioned himself, but realized that anger is a part of being human, and ignoring it and pretending it doesn’t exist doesn’t make you more akin to God… she that we aren’t perfect. Thank you for sharing this. My first reaction probably would not have included patience or restraint. It take true strength to do what you did so beautifully.
Thanks so much my girl for watching the video and taking the time to leave your perspective, I really appreciate it! And many other people said they thought i was too nice as well. All in all, I just hope those women learned a thing or two from the encounter! And if not, karma will always be there knocking!
She was living in her privilege. You respectfully checked her as you should have. Words matter. It doesn't matter what she meant by it, very offensive.
I agree that words really do matter! We must work to guard our tongues. Very offensive indeed. Thanks for watching!
I think that it was great that you walked away first time and calming down was a smart but hard thing to do and you were going to let it go. When they came back and said something I don’t think you did anything wrong for saying something when they did it again. You have to stick up for yourself and your kids. I hope that maybe they learned something from what you said them.
Thanks so much for taking the time to watch and comment! It's my hope that they learned something from this encounter as well!
Wow- the nerve of some people. You did handle it well. I am not sure if I could have been so polite about it. At my age I have zero tolerance for that type of behavior. Yes , we as black women have to educate people unfortunately. What is common sense to us, is not common sense to others. We will keep praying for the ignorance we have to face in this crazy world we live in. I think sometimes individuals don’t understand some words/acts are offensive until they are called out on it. Good job sis- sometimes we have to let Jesus take the wheel!
Thanks so much for taking the time to comment that sis, and to validate my feelings. There was a small part of me that started second guessing myself and thinking that I was tripping, and the mental acrobatics of it all really can be so exhausting. You're right that common sense isn't so common these days, and I'm certainly trying to just let Jesus take the wheel these days!
I think you handled it very well because sometimes they all look at us like we don't know how to conduct ourselves but God be the glory he is inside of us he teaches us every day we have a path to follow in his Direction and sometimes they try to be sarcastic and don't think that we will respond intelligent manner but don't play with my kids, you did good
And that's just it my friend! I had to fight the urge to come out of character but ultimately I am very proud with how i responded to her! I appreciate you commenting and giving me that encouragement because sometimes it can feel tough! I appreciate you watching.
Nonsense.
Utterly! The mental acrobatics of it all in me second guessing myself if I was tripping or not!
I do not think she meant anything by it i am a white woman that's with a black man and sometimes I look at things a little different than he does but we also have a joke that he tell that sounds like that i think they were telling you he is so cute i want to take him home, i think they went a little over board, i don't think they meant anything by it
Thanks for sharing your perspective. Even if she didn't mean anything by it, she definitely should think about what she says and the impact/weight her words carry.
Of course you wouldn't, go away 🤨.
Whyyyyyy do Christians believe that being Christian means worrying how people view us. Jesus didn’t. This was far too apologetic. “I know you didn’t mean anything”, no you don’t. Set you boundary and move on. Period. There is nothing you can say to educate those women.
Ma’am your comments and proximity is not safe for my son and myself please move back. Your responsibility is to you son. Period.
Thanks so much for sharing your perspective! I think the mental acrobatics I went through before speaking to her impacted my response. There was a small part of me that was thinking "am I tripping" and then like you said maybe being a little too concerned with being nice or having grace. You have a good point. Thanks for validating my feeling.s