I started my day stressed about all the crap going on in my life, then I hear this man’s story and those words “it’s alright” when he’s at the end of the road in a life 100x worse than mine and suddenly things get perspective. It really could be worse
I don't know if I would say this video is directly charisma related, but I absolutely loved it and would love it if you guys put out more content like this. This echo's a lot of what I've learned from listening to the podcast over the past few years and my life is dramatically better for it. I'm so grateful for you both
@@Werdxp I agree with that, this just isn't the advice you'd expect if you were asking for charisma tips. I don't know if someone who isn't familiar with this channel would make that connection or not.
I don’t comment on TH-cam videos much. But I really want to come here and thank you for this incredible video. So well curated and love that you provided some links to incredibly useful wakingup clips thank you and please continue to do great work.
Hey, Charisma on Command! I've been watching your videos for several years, and this is by far one of my favorite videos I've ever seen from you guys. Thank you for this, keep it up! 💛
How can we deal with muzlams when they come to us bully us by saying *"accept ezlame otherwise you will go to hell"* ... How can we respond to diffuse the situation?
Every sentence kept hitting me and hitting me and kept going. This video was so needed I can't put it into words. I'll share this with everyone I know, amazing information into a 10 minute video.
I think the most important part of this video is thankfulness. We do not realize how lucky/blessed we are. Things can always be worse. There are other excellent points in this video, and I plan on sharing it with others, but there are always people in worse situations that can be happy just knowing that it can be worse still.
I would say that I'm a happy person in my life, I do get unhappy days too but from my experience I would give some advice: - First, having bad days/luck is okay, you can't always have a good day and that's life ! As long as you don't block on this - Second, appreciating every small moment of happiness and not looking for being super duper happy because there's small moments of life like that - Lastly, being in peace with yourself give you less stress, less envy toward others I know it may not be easy for everyone but I think it's a mindset that help in life. You only have one life, we should live it the way we want
This is one of the very best inspirational videos I have ever seen! I believe it fully encompasses why life is best when you’re grateful for what you have, and not resentful for what you don’t. Life is best lived with your glass half full instead of half empty.
I read the story about the Chinese farmer some 10+ years ago, and simple as it is, it completely changed my life view. Basically ever since, whenever I start judging something that happens as “bad”, I just remember not to judge it because every bad thing is gonna lead to a good thing, that will lead to a bad thing, that will lead to a good thing..and so on. In short, there’s no reason to judge it as we can’t know the future. Best to just move on and see what happens
Thank you, I am so grateful for a teacher like you. I honestly believe your course should be taught in school. You literally just saved me from a downward spiral. I was about to lay in bed and give into it before I clicked on this video. Thank you
I’ve been watching each video of this channel since 2016, and this video was special. So helpful and exactly what I needed right now. You really went above and beyond referencing the non-sponsored app, and the TH-cam channels (like invisible people). Thanks for the video
This channel is beyond powerful, I didn't know that I could still feel somehow enlightened in this life. I thought I'd never feel this way but I just did. Thank you
I’ve never received a free trial that was a LEGIT free offer before. No CC # needed or anything. Good on ya! I’ll watch your channel religiously now because frankly it’s easier to listen to and trust what you’re saying because of the seemingly little thing.
I wanna mention some of the general, foundational rocks, too: - get good sleep - eat healthy - exercise You could easily add, - read books - be social - smile a bunch - use big, positive, happy body language - find a healthy stress outlet - create things (even something like sketches or Lego structures) There are tons of other tools you can use to increase happiness. Here are just a handful.
My source of unhappiness is the fact that I'm really talented at a lot of things but in the moment I judge myself very harshly and don't appreciate what I achieved. And the fact that I waste my life being too scared to make a step forward on my own, get to know other people/a romantic partner
I have experienced the rut first hand, and somehow managed to got out of it. The video explains the feeling aptly, and I don't even know that there's a scientific name for the feeling I had. I did not have a 10-minutes video last time, but I hope this would help others at least know that they are not alone, and there is a way out.
As for number 2,GUYS BELIEVE ME IT IS DEFINETLEY CORRECT.Ever since March 2023/earlier this year,i have been showing myself much more compassion,empathy and support, and i genuinley feel MUCH better,and much more contented/happy
This is one of my favourite channels, and this might be my favourite video of yours so far. This is literally the first video I'm watching since finding out my grandmother died this morning. It really helped me. Thank you.
This is fricking gold dude - Sometimes you just need someone to remind you of what there is right now. Another aspect is that when you live with people who mostly live by these negative traits you explained here, you probably need to get away from them to get out of the spiral.
So true. I thought achieving my goals would make me happy. Finally achieving success and stability with wife,4kids. It has not. I still felt inadequate. Almost died 2years ago. Changed my attitude. Still not as happy as I would like...but everyday I try to see and appreciate what I have and be grateful. That keeps me going.
Wow, this is an amazing video, I really like this direction, You seem happy, doing this, I’m looking forward to more, It’s so valuable! I’ve been following You for years, this is such a nice direction! All the best! 🙏🏻✨🕊️
When I was a kid around ten I worked out a list of what I considered at the time to be "legitimate" reasons for unhappiness. The reasons are vague and they overlap, but this is what I came up with: You're expectations are not being met. You are not being taken into consideration. Hostile forces are thwarting your goals (as opposed to bad luck or incompetence).
Good job! And it is work. I'm so happy for you! Recovery is quite an accomplishment not often understood by people who've never struggled with sobriety! (Applause) Congratulations! Keep it going!
I work on reflecting on perceptions of gratefulness, but thank you so much for reminding me how to keep growing and spreading these concepts to others.
A friend used to say that if you feel yourself falling into unhappiness because of your circumstances, even dire ones, visit a pediatric burn ward and realize the waiting room is filled with people who would change places with you in a heartbeat.
It's 4 am and I stumbled across this video, or rather it is like it found me, and I am grateful because it is exactly what I needed. Thank you so much.
there's a quote i heard somewhere. -we must not think in reverse, nor forward in fear but around us in awareness a quote that you should not think to mich about the oast since it has already happened
My big mental check on myself when I am getting in those moods...when I get water from the fridge. As I watch my glass fill with pure, crystal clear, and near ice cold water I think to myself "There are literally millions of people in the world who don't even know what it's like to be able to do this whenever they want. They likely have never had ice cold and completely pure water before. They don't even know they want this ability......"
Shame is a self-judgement. You don't need that. Also, great news: we can watch this video as many times as we want! We all need reminders. I need this too. Thank you for being here. 🤝
Accepting death when I found out I had a disease made me the happiest I've ever been in my life. I took inventory of everything that I had and was blown away by how successful I was in life.
thank you so much for everything you guys do. I've been an avid follower of the channel for 5 years now and i can say without a doubt this video has hit home harder than any. thank you again!
Money can in fact make you happy, but not in the way most people generally think. Sure you can have what ever you want by having money. But true happiness comes from being “outrageously generous” - Dave Ramsay. To be able to use your money to help others in need, to use your money for purposes outside of yourself, THAT is what make you happy when it comes to money.
I love this channel, it is both informative and plain entertaining. I have an idea for you - charisma breakdown of one of the most charismatic badguys of the last years, possibly decades or - what the hell - EVER. Eduardo "Lalo" Salamanca. Ever since he appeared in Better Call Saul he quickly took over, would love to see an analysis of him. :D
"If you can't be happy while you pursue a goal, you wont be happy when you achieve it."
Yes I think this is great advice on multiple levels.
Nah thats cap, i was unhappy abt my body 2 years ago and now i feel way better
Same here. I had to pause the video and write that quote down cuz I know I’m gonna be using it in the future
@@dbbdbdbdbd599The point is the journey. Looking at yourself in the mirror as you make the minor gains and the progress etc
nothing new it is already in Gita. Bhagavat Gita. @@SilverRAM777
That "It's alright" hit me more than anything did ever in this life. You are such a positive man. Thank you for inspiring me.
I started my day stressed about all the crap going on in my life, then I hear this man’s story and those words “it’s alright” when he’s at the end of the road in a life 100x worse than mine and suddenly things get perspective. It really could be worse
6:26 timestamp
I don't know if I would say this video is directly charisma related, but I absolutely loved it and would love it if you guys put out more content like this. This echo's a lot of what I've learned from listening to the podcast over the past few years and my life is dramatically better for it. I'm so grateful for you both
Happiness and overall life direction is definitely charisma related
@@Werdxp I agree with that, this just isn't the advice you'd expect if you were asking for charisma tips. I don't know if someone who isn't familiar with this channel would make that connection or not.
This is such a great video and I really appreciate you making it. Thank you, really.
I agree. You've got many great videos on your channel, but I think this is hands down one of, if not the best.
This is actually one of the BEST videos you ever done. Ben and Charlie, thank you so much
"We'll see" is strong. I currently couldn't get over this lady. I don't even know if she's good for me or not. "We'll see"
I don’t comment on TH-cam videos much. But I really want to come here and thank you for this incredible video. So well curated and love that you provided some links to incredibly useful wakingup clips thank you and please continue to do great work.
Hey, Charisma on Command! I've been watching your videos for several years, and this is by far one of my favorite videos I've ever seen from you guys. Thank you for this, keep it up! 💛
How can we deal with muzlams when they come to us bully us by saying *"accept ezlame otherwise you will go to hell"* ... How can we respond to diffuse the situation?
I haven't cried this hard in months. Thank you.
lol this bot comments can be hilarious sometimes
Lol
That guy with the pancreatic cancer, the way he was telling his story, i just started crying hard... dunno if its a bot or not, but i really felt it
@@ed.86Exactly.
Every sentence kept hitting me and hitting me and kept going. This video was so needed I can't put it into words. I'll share this with everyone I know, amazing information into a 10 minute video.
Yep same here 💯
I think the most important part of this video is thankfulness. We do not realize how lucky/blessed we are. Things can always be worse. There are other excellent points in this video, and I plan on sharing it with others, but there are always people in worse situations that can be happy just knowing that it can be worse still.
Absolutely. I agree 💯
4:16 "Isolated upward comparison", wow! Put it so precisely. Always thought about the idea but never in those exact words!
Struggling through a breakup right now and this is the video I needed. Thank you
"Attitude of gratitude" helps...being thankful for every little thing we have in life also helps.
I would say that I'm a happy person in my life, I do get unhappy days too but from my experience I would give some advice:
- First, having bad days/luck is okay, you can't always have a good day and that's life ! As long as you don't block on this
- Second, appreciating every small moment of happiness and not looking for being super duper happy because there's small moments of life like that
- Lastly, being in peace with yourself give you less stress, less envy toward others
I know it may not be easy for everyone but I think it's a mindset that help in life. You only have one life, we should live it the way we want
Great video. Love the stoic mindset. Focus on only things you can control.
💯
This is one of the very best inspirational videos I have ever seen! I believe it fully encompasses why life is best when you’re grateful for what you have, and not resentful for what you don’t. Life is best lived with your glass half full instead of half empty.
Intentions are everything, the why and how one approaches people and situations in this life. It all start with your intent.
Underappreciated comment, especially nowadays.
I read the story about the Chinese farmer some 10+ years ago, and simple as it is, it completely changed my life view. Basically ever since, whenever I start judging something that happens as “bad”, I just remember not to judge it because every bad thing is gonna lead to a good thing, that will lead to a bad thing, that will lead to a good thing..and so on. In short, there’s no reason to judge it as we can’t know the future. Best to just move on and see what happens
Thank you, I am so grateful for a teacher like you. I honestly believe your course should be taught in school. You literally just saved me from a downward spiral. I was about to lay in bed and give into it before I clicked on this video. Thank you
I’ve been watching each video of this channel since 2016, and this video was special. So helpful and exactly what I needed right now.
You really went above and beyond referencing the non-sponsored app, and the TH-cam channels (like invisible people). Thanks for the video
This channel is beyond powerful, I didn't know that I could still feel somehow enlightened in this life. I thought I'd never feel this way but I just did. Thank you
Thank you for this video. I wasn't even fully aware of how much I needed to hear it, but it's really helped out quite a bit.
I got the vidéo in my recommandations exactly the day I need it because I am over thinking about that past and getting depressed. Thank you bro ❤
I’ve never received a free trial that was a LEGIT free offer before. No CC # needed or anything. Good on ya! I’ll watch your channel religiously now because frankly it’s easier to listen to and trust what you’re saying because of the seemingly little thing.
Waking up offers free subscriptions if you request it, I've done so several times my life already when I felt I needed it the most!
This is hands down one of the best videos I've ever watched! Thank you for making this!
Such a great video. I speak from experience when I say these principles truly can change your live...if you let them 👀
I wanna mention some of the general, foundational rocks, too:
- get good sleep
- eat healthy
- exercise
You could easily add,
- read books
- be social
- smile a bunch
- use big, positive, happy body language
- find a healthy stress outlet
- create things (even something like sketches or Lego structures)
There are tons of other tools you can use to increase happiness. Here are just a handful.
Great additions!
"we suffer more in Imagination than in reality" - Seneca
My source of unhappiness is the fact that I'm really talented at a lot of things but in the moment I judge myself very harshly and don't appreciate what I achieved.
And the fact that I waste my life being too scared to make a step forward on my own, get to know other people/a romantic partner
I feel the same. But fighting this state of mind could give some kind of goal.
I have experienced the rut first hand, and somehow managed to got out of it. The video explains the feeling aptly, and I don't even know that there's a scientific name for the feeling I had.
I did not have a 10-minutes video last time, but I hope this would help others at least know that they are not alone, and there is a way out.
Oh man, the man’s story was so tear inducing
I love all your videos, but I think this one is my favorite of all of them. Thank you
Why is this your best video you just saved my life G
As for number 2,GUYS BELIEVE ME IT IS DEFINETLEY CORRECT.Ever since March 2023/earlier this year,i have been showing myself much more compassion,empathy and support, and i genuinley feel MUCH better,and much more contented/happy
This is one of my favourite channels, and this might be my favourite video of yours so far. This is literally the first video I'm watching since finding out my grandmother died this morning. It really helped me. Thank you.
I dont know if this video help me relatively in short time but I know this is the mindset that will grant me happiness.
This is fricking gold dude - Sometimes you just need someone to remind you of what there is right now.
Another aspect is that when you live with people who mostly live by these negative traits you explained here, you probably need to get away from them to get out of the spiral.
Amazing. Thank you for this video. Gives perspective to look at life from a different side.
So true. I thought achieving my goals would make me happy. Finally achieving success and stability with wife,4kids. It has not. I still felt inadequate. Almost died 2years ago. Changed my attitude. Still not as happy as I would like...but everyday I try to see and appreciate what I have and be grateful. That keeps me going.
I love every video from this channel, but this one here is easily my favorite!
Wow, this is an amazing video, I really like this direction, You seem happy, doing this, I’m looking forward to more, It’s so valuable! I’ve been following You for years, this is such a nice direction! All the best! 🙏🏻✨🕊️
Same feedback to share, great content, would love to see more going in this direction !
When I was a kid around ten I worked out a list of what I considered at the time to be "legitimate" reasons for unhappiness. The reasons are vague and they overlap, but this is what I came up with:
You're expectations are not being met.
You are not being taken into consideration.
Hostile forces are thwarting your goals (as opposed to bad luck or incompetence).
How long ago was this...?
How have you modified this list...?
Would you like some feedback after you share more...?
Just wanted to comment here to proudly share that, 10 days from now, I will have been sober for 4 years.
I may not know you but I’m proud of you! Hope you have an awesome day
That’s awesome. Keep up the good work, I believe in you :D
Amazing achievement. I’m on this journey myself. I hope to someday have your courage. Wishing you all of the best in life. 🫂
Good job! And it is work. I'm so happy for you! Recovery is quite an accomplishment not often understood by people who've never struggled with sobriety! (Applause) Congratulations! Keep it going!
John. We need you back in the Resistance
I must say your channel is helping me to grow and so many people , God bless you..!
"Wanting is the source of all suffering" -- Buddha
I work on reflecting on perceptions of gratefulness, but thank you so much for reminding me how to keep growing and spreading these concepts to others.
Thank you for your work. For real. Can't find the exact words to show you my grattitude...
This is seriously the greatest video i have ever seen in my 28 years of life. Thank you, i needed it ❤
A friend used to say that if you feel yourself falling into unhappiness because of your circumstances, even dire ones, visit a pediatric burn ward and realize the waiting room is filled with people who would change places with you in a heartbeat.
This is my favourite of your videos! I hope the youtube algorithm will be extra kind to this one.
It's 4 am and I stumbled across this video, or rather it is like it found me, and I am grateful because it is exactly what I needed. Thank you so much.
I'm glad this video came to me, I needed to hear this.
Solid video here guy's. Stoicism has helped me deal with things and still does. This channel is one of my favourites.
This is the first time I actually don’t need a video to explain a topic to me. I’ve already mastered this one.
Thank you, I know I’ll keep coming back to this video.
Sometimes the journey is more important than the goal. The things you lean and skills you pick up and the people you meet along the way
Thank you. I was felling really bad about myself.
I needed this today 🙏
The videos really helped me and keep helping me! So I'm grateful to you as well. Thank you!
It feels like this video came right when I needed it to. Thank you.
For once I can say I watched a video I want to repeat watching every day. I feel this will help me, so thank you.
there's a quote i heard somewhere.
-we must not think in reverse, nor forward in fear but around us in awareness
a quote that you should not think to mich about the oast since it has already happened
(Respond to my replies after you edit your comment, and I will (eventually) delete mine...
This is honestly one of the best videos I've watched in a while and this is what I'm here on TH-cam for. Great work.
My gosh, I have been struggling the last couple of weeks and I needed something like this!
One of the best channels on TH-cam
key point:
Gratitude is the solvation for most of the sufferings and negative thoughts.
Guys, you simply SMASHED it on this video!
I've been a subscriber for many years now and you guys keeping getting better!
Thank you. You help change and shift the lives of so many.
Can we all just please agree that this video is BEAUTIFUL?!
Thank you. I needed this video and probably would have gone through the same circle every single time if I hadn't decided to give into my curiosity.
THIS CHANNEL IS TRULY AMAZING
My big mental check on myself when I am getting in those moods...when I get water from the fridge. As I watch my glass fill with pure, crystal clear, and near ice cold water I think to myself "There are literally millions of people in the world who don't even know what it's like to be able to do this whenever they want. They likely have never had ice cold and completely pure water before. They don't even know they want this ability......"
I'm ashamed that I needed this, but I definitely needed this.
Shame is a self-judgement. You don't need that. Also, great news: we can watch this video as many times as we want! We all need reminders. I need this too. Thank you for being here. 🤝
Accepting death when I found out I had a disease made me the happiest I've ever been in my life.
I took inventory of everything that I had and was blown away by how successful I was in life.
One of the best content you have put out! I've personally been practicing stoicism and this content speaks volume
This video is already one of, if not my favorite from you lot!
This was a well thought out, brilliant video. Thank you so much for this. Will watch this again from time to time! 🙏🏻
Hey this video didn't end with an ad for your course! Great
I feel grateful for you,too
I have bought a copy of the Meditations of Marcus Aurelius on Kindle from Amazon.
One day I intend to get round to reading it.
This video was really powerful
One of the best yet, and there's lots to look at
Beautiful video, if everyone on this planet truly understood this, it would be a huge benefit for humanity
thank you so much for everything you guys do. I've been an avid follower of the channel for 5 years now and i can say without a doubt this video has hit home harder than any. thank you again!
bro joined youtube before I was born 😭
6:20 I cried, I cried so hard. I'm so selfish, I need to be thankful for what I have now.
Thank you for such an important video 🥹
Your editor is always on point. Kudos to them.
Waking up is amazing, so glad you are spruiking it. High quality non of the supernatural nonsense
Great video, exactly what I need right now
What a great video ❤. On point. Feel so good after watching this❤
Invaluable tips! Grateful for your advice, Ben!!
Most underrated video in TH-cam ranking 1
I lift up my eyes to the mountains- where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.
--Psalm 121:1-2
The heavens and the earth exist. Who made them? checkmate humanist.
Money can in fact make you happy, but not in the way most people generally think. Sure you can have what ever you want by having money. But true happiness comes from being “outrageously generous” - Dave Ramsay. To be able to use your money to help others in need, to use your money for purposes outside of yourself, THAT is what make you happy when it comes to money.
Amazing video . Thanks man ❤
I love this channel, it is both informative and plain entertaining. I have an idea for you - charisma breakdown of one of the most charismatic badguys of the last years, possibly decades or - what the hell - EVER. Eduardo "Lalo" Salamanca. Ever since he appeared in Better Call Saul he quickly took over, would love to see an analysis of him. :D
Yes!!! I’d love to see that as well.
Absolutely true, thanks for reminding me.
This is really good advice and I will surely keep it in mind. I hope the free video will remain free for a while so I can check it
I needed to see this video. Thank you.