troys behavior is not normal, trembling, staring at the floor, not making direct contact, bad behavior, stuttering, not saying anything.. these are all bad signs- i honestly hope he heals from this
unfortunately you don’t have the agency to speak on this unless you know these family dynamics in black families. do not misdiagnose him he’s in a high stress situation.
@@aminamahamed-wright1412 family dynamics in black families more often than not normalize generational trauma, which is what leads to so many black kids acting out like troy does. you don't need to be an agent to see a traumatized child. he himself stated that he was abused by both his mother and the people she brought around him. i understand what you're getting at.
@@PL4YBO1CRT i understand and know and care deeply about mental health i never said generational trauma should be normalized but these things allow us nuance and be able to understand why our family dynamics are happening
@@boogie_4203 nah fr if not worse Cz remember that was some of the crack generation all different shi that’s why they stubborn don’t wanna right their wrongs because they don’t wanna be wrong in general
It honestly hurts soo much being aware of how toxic my house hold is a “this generation is sooo sensitive” being thrown in my face..like I’m sensitive bc i communicate and express how I’m feeling??? It rlly sucks
Can I just take a minute and applaud how the sister is just helping out. She is not judging her mother or throwing around shade. She hugs her mother regardless of the lies she told, and she continues to want to support her family. I love her consistency as a daughter even when she is engaged.
Me and my mom need to be on Karamo like i would love to be put up for adoption fr because I don’t even know why she had me fr and I feel like she wishes me Dead too and I have no one to count on in life
I do this for a living and the sister is a very throw the rock hide your hand and dismiss whatever I say because I’m going to agree with the most of it as long as I go unnoticed type of person, as a professional I’m above 98.9 % efficiency
Tired of the excuses we make for these people who chose not to step up to their choices .kids have to accept to forgive and have to sweep off all the pain and trauma we can't undo and that will be a part of their interactions with others.
She is no hero, she lied. Her brother is still in that house with his unstable mother. The host of this show,the mama, and sister shall reap what they have sown. May God take care of the brother. The sister lied for clout making it appear like she was going to take care of her brother. Lies and garbage! smh JESUS TAKE THE WHEEL
I love the way the sister protects the brother and understandably acknowledging the mother's struggle. Addiction is real and I pray that she can get help and save her son. Young black men have enough to endure.
The sister is an absolute beautiful human. the fact that she is her brothers voice, his safe haven, and guidance speaks volumes. I applaud her for being so young but yet so mature and nurturing. The mother tbh, needs her son taken away from her. He does not deserve this lifestyle, and people need to stop judging kids when they parents are as good as they are. Prayers to this family. ❤️
The innocence in his face breaks my heart. I really feel for this boy. He seems insecure and scared to express himself, and I fully understand him in that, constatly waiting to see if its okay to express your feelings or if you going to be manipulated or not emotionally validated💔 I hope he heals, God bless him.
The son rocking himself backstage is a trauma response, almost similar to rocking the infant stage of himself because he grew up unattached to unreliable parenting 💔 so sad
You can tell she’s still on drugs… it’s in her face, in her actions, rubbing her nose… you can tell. She can’t take accountability for her actions. The lying. Back and forth with the stories… I’m praying for that baby.
I agree, I think if someone is stopping using whatever they are addicted to, they will remember the date that they stopped. She just said “I don’t know, around a year” So I knew she was lying. From what I’ve seen most people like to remember the date they stopped using so they can celebrate each month or because it can be traumatic to stop. Especially if she was suing drugs for so long, I would think she would remember
She's doing "everything she can" about the Luther situation. Put his ass out! Can't stand a parent putting a man/woman above their kids. He literally said this man choked him like??
@@altheadawn2531 IMO Father's love is very underappreciated, everybody talks about A Mother's love but what about A Father's, what a Father would do for their children
As a 13 year old myself, I feel so horrible for Troy. As a person with anxiety, depression, etc, I know how he feels man. I’m sorry for the fact that he had a bad experience growing up, it’s honestly so sad seeing him staring into nothing overthinking, reliving the trauma, feeling the pressure and feeling as if you’ll say something bad and the consequences if you do, nothing could explain the sorrow I feel with this poor boy. I hope he’s truly better and safe and slowly healing, thank the Lord for his sister whom pushed back her trauma and outgrown it to support him. People with that type of person around this time, it’s really such a gift that you could have someone around when you going through that. Bless this family and forgive them of their sins God, amen.
that sister has a quality that is very hard to have..to be hurt by someone and still be respectful and supportive of them. she will be a great mom if she isnt already
I saw this video on tiktok, that little boy reminded me of my little 16 year old brother. His "it's okay" was soaked in so much innocence and youth it broke my heart into a million pieces. I can't even bring myself to watch this video without crying. I couldn't imagine those words being spoken to either of my brothers. He favors my little brother too much, it just hurts. I hope they're all healing. Us black families have got to break these generational curses. Much love to y'all
Okay, the mom immediately taking accountability for the accusations are a great sign. It wasn’t all “oh me me me me me” she’s clearly aware of all that had happened
When he said, "it's okay." I broke down! That poor, poor, little one! I pray he gets all the help, love, and support he needs! His sister is something like his saving grace...
The sister is parenting the brother. She is a rescuer. She has clearly been doing the work for herself and now is helping her brother more. It’s amazing. Edit: The reason I commented on this story is because I identify with it. When you have parents like that and you have siblings. You want to help them to teach them so that they don’t have to go through what you went through. When I see a rescuer like me doing what I’ve done but thriving, it’s not something you see too often.
This story brought tears to my eyes it’s so many young black men out here lost and end up doing bad things because they lacked attention, love, and security within their home. I can’t wait to finish college so I can do things like this💘
@@spattzliyah2.0 I don’t know who y’all is ..but it was a lack of love on both sides. A white person can experience this same situation. No one is to blame it’s a sad situation altogether. Go off tho I guess 🥴
I feel bad for Troy. I can't ever imagine my parents telling me that I'm nothing and wish that I was dead 💔 glad they doing better and hopefully it stays that way ❤️
😰💗💗💗some parents gotta think twice before you say anything to your children a lot of things parents don’t take seriously but there’s a lot shii you can do as a parent that could fuck up you’re kids then when they grow up you wondering why they the way they are I never judge nobody and this is the reason fr because we all grow differently 😰😰😰😰💯💯
I just discovered this show, thank you Karamo for having such a caring and responsible approach to your guests. It’s refreshing to see, much, much better than those talk shows that dramatize and exploit the guests trauma and issue.
Please keep us posted on this family! I can tell they really want to be better. Also, shout outs to the sister for stepping up. Troy was feeling so low and it was making me so sad.
Stability is so important in these teenagers' life. The daughter is so mature to take her brother in. Teenagers in this day and age have so much access to everything and so easily influenced. Glad the mom is sober and, on the road to recovery to being the mom her son needs. No one is perfect and everyone has a past so I am glad the sister reached out to Karamo to help for her family. Praying peace, love and healing for this family. #LOVEISTHEMEDICINE
Exactly if I was the sister ill do whatever I can to just tak3 care of my brother if my mother didnt have no care of my brother ill just take control and try to make him a better person
Listen babygirl !! This message I am going to give you because nobody will. I am 23 years old and I took on custody of my younger brother three years ago. He is now 12 . I am married married. So yes, I had the support of my spouse but let me tell you it is not easy !!! it comes with its obstacles ! and you will feel regret ! you will not get the help from your mother you are looking for because once she sees that you’re doing everything she can’t she’s gonna leave it all up to you, it takes a real strong person to take on custody of a broken child, while being a broken child/adult, recovering from the wounds you faced from your mothers trauma as well. There’s gonna be days where your little brother will not show you appreciation he will just “act out”, please seek help & guidance, or counseling in those moments, because that is just the trauma that needs to be broken. If you do fall through this, I pray for your strength and your courage. may peace be with your family.
I’m glad you said this. Stories like this are heartbreaking and they rob people of their youth. This young lady is engaged. She and her fiancé should be working and exploring but NOOOOO, her Mothers choice’s continue to impact her life.
That’s true I had custody of my cousin. It was a lot and to get him on track but it can be rewarding seeing them achieve something. I went through childhood trauma too and started using that experience advocating for children. I was called daddy, brother, uncle cousin by him and others including court and school. I was a strong advocate that people wanted me to help them as well.
@@co123 i definitely want to turn my experience into something greater for the youth and young-adult woman and men. Rn im just going through a period where i am healing and also helping heal my little brother. Its tough. He has ADHD and manipulative issues. And i struggle with resentment and anxiety. This is just an example of a side of it that NOBODY TALKS ABOUT! And also what the first comment said ^ alot of days i do wake up and feel robbed of youth . From 13 - present time ive been caring and providing for my siblings. I left home at 17 to get away and focus on me . I eventually got my Ged and enrolled in college then halfway through boom 💥 i had to circle back for my siblings . Which i always planned on doing . The time just wasnt right. But let me get off here venting lol i just wanna let people know ITS NOT AS EASY AS THEY MAKE IT SEEM!
@@thatbemefool 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 man i cant say it enough , i literally switched places with my 42 year old mother ! IM living like im 42 ….. she 23 😂🥴. As far as my husband, man he a real one ! Been here with us since day ☝🏼
His sister is a beautiful woman inside and out. He’s so blessed to have her as a big sister. I’m so glad the mother has gotten help and is sober and the sister and her fiancé took Troy in so their mom could get help. Praying for things to continue getting better for them all
That sister!!! She is an angel. She loves her mom enough to hold her accountable and doing so in the most loving way. She's is a prime example of "I am my brother's keeper."
I have 2 boys and I lost my oldest due to fun violence last June and it makes me so upset that she would say that she would say she hates him and wishes he was dead when mother's like me love our kids and I want mine back but that Will never happen...as parents we have to watch what we say to our kids because it sticks with them...love your kids, encourage your kids...I do see great things for the young man, it's his environment that makes him act out...prayers always🙏
My condolences to you. I lost my oldest as well to gun violence right before my very eyes. The pain will never go away. I hope that family push forward
That sweet boy. His body language tells you that he feels small, Insecure, and unheard. I hope the sister gets custody of her brother or at least he lives with her
PLEASE CONTINUE TO GIVE US UPDATES ON TROY, WE ARE INVESTED IN HIM AND HIS WELL BEING NOW!! THANK YOU, KARAMO!! YOU ARE DOING GREAT THINGS!!!❤️👑🌟❤️👑⭐️❤️👑💫
It was obvious that the mom has a struggle and she was lying about her problems. First is admitted and the daughter has been enabling her. I'm soooooo happy that they're finding a resolution
I honestly think she just wants her baby brother. I think she just will enable her mom to a place where she has no choice but to give her Troy. Not from a selfish place but just because she knows she can provide better.
this one got me crying. im 24 and took my brother in about a year ago after our parents drug him around like a burden or luggage and neglected him his whole life. we're on track now and he has his own place and everything. working too and he knows im right down the road. his mannerisms were like Troy when he got here and it was so heartbreaking. my little brother is a head taller than me now, but he was close to me in weight and we were both underweight. these sorts of situations are so heartbreaking and suffocating. i felt like i swapped ages with my parents and it was difficult at first. but we have good friends now around us and we help each other with what we have. it's just painful that this happens so frequently. i love the big sister in this video so much. she gives me strength. I tried to get my brother when i was 19, but things didn't work out then. My brother is only 5 years younger than me so he isn't the baby I carried on my hip growing up. But it is difficult to show him to be a kind and responsible man when I've been left by family and only just recently graduated. But he's growing into a wonderful person and I'm so happy. To Kaia and Troy, best of luck. It can be painful, but it is worth it.
Troy is such a beautiful boy . I'm happy he has Kiah as a sister and I hope that he can finally feel safe and live a normal teenager life . God bless this family .
I knew mom was still on drugs and could tell before the results. Nonetheless, she seems sincere. The daughter is very passionate and is the glue to this whole thing. They're on the right path as everyone was calm and seemed open minded to healing.
My heart went out to this young king. He could hardly lift his head up. I understand wholeheartedly why he became a product of his environment. His Sister was a Gem. Beautiful inside and out. I pray the best for this family and the mom stay clean.
I am a big sister that had to care for a brother and a sister due to the addictions of our parents. I feel you sis. You will help him get there and it will come together fast because Troy is a teen. I pray that all goes well for you and yours. If it gets rough a few times just hang in there and work through. I know you and Troy can do it. I hope Mom can get the desire in her heart to get off the cocaine. She is beautiful and still has a lot of living to do as well. Great work Karamo!!!!! Keep us up on their progress and let us know if they need a helping hand.
I love the way you conduct these interviews and treat the families with such respect and dignity as well as making sure the child was heard and his feelings were validated. As well as taking him off stage for the drug test results just shows how compassionate you really are ❤
This is my blood family and this breaks my heart. Her family has prayed for years that she gets the help that is needed to be there for her kids/grandkids. Her kids are wonderful and very smart. Always love Stephanie❤
I work with children and I see children like Troy everyday and it breaks my heart. I want to give him a big hug because I feel so bad for him. I pray he gets the help he needs.
I was going through this situation just a couple months ago. My mother chose her new man over me, and kicked me out cause I was too toxic apparently, can't shut up, and I didn't do anything. Telling you now, I wanted a job at 16 to start saving up, but she told me no live your life. I tried to live my life, but I couldn't having to raise and take care of my siblings. She didn't work, so she could have took care of them but she preferred to stay in her room on the phone from the moment she woke up till the moment she went to bed. I cooked and did laundry and cleaned behind a family of 6 and when he moved in I did such for a family of 7,but when she told me she was pregnant around my birthday I couldn't do it. I refused to raise another child that I didn't birth. So I did start trying to live my life after that,we got into plenty of arguements where I tried to get her to understand my point of view or how I felt or when there was something she could have done, and when she was being a hypocrite,which happened often. I tried working at Taco Bell for about a week, but I had to quit because working in a Spanish dominated territory, Nobody spoke English except the manager, and she was never there. And I remember, this day, October 19th, she kicked me out to live with my grandmother. She told me she would keep and raise my cat, but I had to kill my fish because that was going to be no one else's responsibility, despite brothers saying that they wanted to keep the fish, so I did as such which was heartbreaking and moved in with her mother and fyi staying in that house got very Depressive, houses have a certain tone to it when you know the people who have died in it. So I moved to Arkansas, where I connected with my dad's side of the family who I haven't seen since I was under the age of 10 because of her, and the rest of my mom's side of the family. I mean, at least now my great aunt, Catherine picks me up, and we'll hang out from time to time. I'll be at her house for most of the time, but I originally lived with my dad's mom and staying at the house by yourself in the middle of the woods for 12 hours, doesn't really do good on the mind. At least I'm able to find a job down here and I start in on the 6th of March. Wish me luck cause this could be the changing point of my life
There is no accountability from mom... He doesn't trust his mom... This is sad ... She needs to be removed from that child to restore the damage before it's too late.
The anxiety & Stress she is directly Putting on her son is PROFOUND !!! I watched this first hand with my mom & brother it’s not pretty … and he needs someone to intervene.. thank God his sister is at the moment but she’s going to eventually want to stop being the “MOM” she’s going to want to live her own life …
Honestly, I began watching your show today, and I must say that I appreciate what you are doing. Direct and understanding. I also looked up your background and saw that you worked about a decade in social services, which makes this show genuine. Thank you for helping our community. God bless you.
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Thanks guys for the kind words. I love my brother and mother. We are healing and moving forward
Love it ❤
Also love the hair
You are gorgeous!!
I'm so proud of you and your brother. The Most High will keep you all.
Praying for you and your wonderful family.
he’s definitely traumatized, you can tell by him staring at the floor and the stuttering is from the nervousness of hoping not to say anything bad.
And the sister is so sweet on here
Plus he fidgeting so the memories bothers him he tryna distract
Yup. He’s horribly traumatized.
He’s one of the most beautiful men I’ve ever seen.
Black Single Mothers are the most Depressed Human Beings in this World
troys behavior is not normal, trembling, staring at the floor, not making direct contact, bad behavior, stuttering, not saying anything.. these are all bad signs- i honestly hope he heals from this
The way he walked in and the hug felt like a call for help, the hug mostly too. It felt like a scream for help.
unfortunately you don’t have the agency to speak on this unless you know these family dynamics in black families. do not misdiagnose him he’s in a high stress situation.
@@aminamahamed-wright1412 family dynamics in black families more often than not normalize generational trauma, which is what leads to so many black kids acting out like troy does. you don't need to be an agent to see a traumatized child. he himself stated that he was abused by both his mother and the people she brought around him. i understand what you're getting at.
@@PL4YBO1CRT i understand and know and care deeply about mental health i never said generational trauma should be normalized but these things allow us nuance and be able to understand why our family dynamics are happening
Possible signs of anxiety, he walked in the room with his head down and has a bunch of cameras In his face
The younger generation is trying to heal while the older generation doesn't take accountability
💯💯
Sad!
deadass!! they swear they can do no wrong because things were “better back then”, when they just as traumatized as us!
@@boogie_4203 nah fr if not worse Cz remember that was some of the crack generation all different shi that’s why they stubborn don’t wanna right their wrongs because they don’t wanna be wrong in general
It honestly hurts soo much being aware of how toxic my house hold is a “this generation is sooo sensitive” being thrown in my face..like I’m sensitive bc i communicate and express how I’m feeling??? It rlly sucks
Can I just take a minute and applaud how the sister is just helping out. She is not judging her mother or throwing around shade. She hugs her mother regardless of the lies she told, and she continues to want to support her family. I love her consistency as a daughter even when she is engaged.
I'd bet that the mother used to have a respectable life. Drugs messed her up.
Me and my mom need to be on Karamo like i would love to be put up for adoption fr because I don’t even know why she had me fr and I feel like she wishes me Dead too and I have no one to count on in life
I do this for a living and the sister is a very throw the rock hide your hand and dismiss whatever I say because I’m going to agree with the most of it as long as I go unnoticed type of person, as a professional I’m above 98.9 % efficiency
Tired of the excuses we make for these people who chose not to step up to their choices .kids have to accept to forgive and have to sweep off all the pain and trauma we can't undo and that will be a part of their interactions with others.
@@justineb1335
Well I have a happy pill for that .....works wonderfully 🙂
That sister made me cry. Everybody needs a sister like that
Real facts .
Tears. She is such a good person
She is no hero, she lied. Her brother is still in that house with his unstable mother. The host of this show,the mama, and sister shall reap what they have sown. May God take care of the brother. The sister lied for clout making it appear like she was going to take care of her brother. Lies and garbage! smh JESUS TAKE THE WHEEL
@@thickveganafro4279 you know this how?
Nigga Crying😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
the pain in his voice & the way he said “ it’s ok “ 🥺🥺 .
He sounded like he was holding back tears. There is no way the boyfriend would be living with me if he put his hands on my kid.
i would've crieddddd omgg
ik he look so sweet
I literally said “ awe “ out-loud and I never do that 😪 this really is truly sad!!.
No way he still be living 😂😂😂
I love the way the sister protects the brother and understandably acknowledging the mother's struggle. Addiction is real and I pray that she can get help and save her son. Young black men have enough to endure.
Yea but that was the wrong time to defend her addiction IMO
You are such a beautiful person!! Thank God for you!!!
Am with you
@@trenellcarter1663 11à
What about young Black girls?
The sister is an absolute beautiful human. the fact that she is her brothers voice, his safe haven, and guidance speaks volumes. I applaud her for being so young but yet so mature and nurturing. The mother tbh, needs her son taken away from her. He does not deserve this lifestyle, and people need to stop judging kids when they parents are as good as they are.
Prayers to this family. ❤️
She really is beautiful inside and out.
Wow, what a beauty indeed! So young yet so mature❤
The innocence in his face breaks my heart. I really feel for this boy. He seems insecure and scared to express himself, and I fully understand him in that, constatly waiting to see if its okay to express your feelings or if you going to be manipulated or not emotionally validated💔 I hope he heals, God bless him.
The son rocking himself backstage is a trauma response, almost similar to rocking the infant stage of himself because he grew up unattached to unreliable parenting 💔 so sad
Correct 👍🏼, I trust they’re getting the needed help
I caught that
I feel like rocking back-and-forth is like a self soothing mechanism
I never knew why I rock. I learned after going through therapy.
@@jazzlynestrada4198 Sometimes it’s ADHD, but this isn’t.
You can tell she’s still on drugs… it’s in her face, in her actions, rubbing her nose… you can tell. She can’t take accountability for her actions. The lying. Back and forth with the stories… I’m praying for that baby.
I agree, I think if someone is stopping using whatever they are addicted to, they will remember the date that they stopped. She just said “I don’t know, around a year”
So I knew she was lying. From what I’ve seen most people like to remember the date they stopped using so they can celebrate each month or because it can be traumatic to stop. Especially if she was suing drugs for so long, I would think she would remember
her face literally told me everything I needed to know, I hope she gets help & I hope the son finds peace
She's doing "everything she can" about the Luther situation. Put his ass out! Can't stand a parent putting a man/woman above their kids. He literally said this man choked him like??
I would beat Luther so bad he would run away from my house putting his hands on my baby
Ikr, I'm surprised Luther isn't dead. Se allowed that man to put his hands on her son
She wasn’t doing enough for me AT ALL. TERRIBLE MOTHET.
This is an example of what a woman allows for conveniences.
@@prazinpamable adults** don't matter the gender lol
The daughter has such a peaceful presence about her. What a beautiful soul.
Troys "it's okay." absolutely broke my heart.
Am crying
She can get that man out of her house, but her man comes before her son. This happens so much it's disgusting.
Yup
How does ur man come before your son like what?
That makes no sense u put ur kids before anything especially if they’re young
@@3xclusive_khlo no they were saying what the mom was doing
@@jpproductions4746 ohh my fault gng
You can look at the mom, and her mannerisms,... It is very obvious that she is still using drugs.
She definitely is
@@Skylar_cookie697 RACIS-
100% she is not fit to take care of children
@@Dukeb0ah bro
I guess you are the drugs test
Don’t ever put a man before your children. Call them names and say awful things to them!! A mother love goes a long way every child need it.
PERIODTT 💯❤️ you said it‼️
Facts.
A father's love of the foundation
@@altheadawn2531 I’m glad I had both It takes two but the father definitely needs to be in his sons life.
@@altheadawn2531 IMO Father's love is very underappreciated, everybody talks about A Mother's love but what about A Father's, what a Father would do for their children
As a 13 year old myself, I feel so horrible for Troy. As a person with anxiety, depression, etc, I know how he feels man. I’m sorry for the fact that he had a bad experience growing up, it’s honestly so sad seeing him staring into nothing overthinking, reliving the trauma, feeling the pressure and feeling as if you’ll say something bad and the consequences if you do, nothing could explain the sorrow I feel with this poor boy. I hope he’s truly better and safe and slowly healing, thank the Lord for his sister whom pushed back her trauma and outgrown it to support him. People with that type of person around this time, it’s really such a gift that you could have someone around when you going through that. Bless this family and forgive them of their sins God, amen.
shut yo young ass up
I love the sister energy. She is and is going to be the backbone plus support that this young man will need.
that sister has a quality that is very hard to have..to be hurt by someone and still be respectful and supportive of them. she will be a great mom if she isnt already
I noticed that too. She wasn't yelling and screaming at her mom at all.
The sister is the chosen one shining her light and leading the way to healing.
@@NarcSharkCeolpla by LJ😊 he❤❤
The better is ❤
I saw this video on tiktok, that little boy reminded me of my little 16 year old brother. His "it's okay" was soaked in so much innocence and youth it broke my heart into a million pieces. I can't even bring myself to watch this video without crying. I couldn't imagine those words being spoken to either of my brothers. He favors my little brother too much, it just hurts. I hope they're all healing. Us black families have got to break these generational curses. Much love to y'all
What a lovely daughter, inside and out. I hope the mother and brother get the help they both need.
6:11 when he said "it's ok.." i really felt it
Seeing Troy the way he is hurts. He is crying out for help and for someone to hear him. I hope he gets what he needs.
The daughter is a special person!!! I pray God heals the family and bring a wholeness that only HE CAN!
He needs to stay with his sister
Oh yes
@@brittneywhite9996 i agree i love the sister , i feel so bad for troy 😢
Amen,He Is GOD!
She has such sweet kids. I hope they get the help they need.
Okay, the mom immediately taking accountability for the accusations are a great sign. It wasn’t all “oh me me me me me” she’s clearly aware of all that had happened
As the eldest sister, I would do ANYTHING for my younger siblings. No shame, no questions asked.
I love my siblings sm. I want to let them grow up with the love and care I never had. I'll do anything for them.
When he said, "it's okay." I broke down! That poor, poor, little one! I pray he gets all the help, love, and support he needs! His sister is something like his saving grace...
The sister is parenting the brother. She is a rescuer. She has clearly been doing the work for herself and now is helping her brother more. It’s amazing.
Edit:
The reason I commented on this story is because I identify with it. When you have parents like that and you have siblings. You want to help them to teach them so that they don’t have to go through what you went through. When I see a rescuer like me doing what I’ve done but thriving, it’s not something you see too often.
Beautiful 😭😭😭💛💛💛
He’s a handsome child. If she doesn’t get herself together and start mothering him, he can end up being a lost cause.
Ummmm handsome?
@@bmwjourdandunngoddess6024 yes?
He serious needs MENTOR. His Father isn't in his life at all.
@@bmwjourdandunngoddess6024 that’s exactly what was written. What’s the problem? He is a very handsome young man.
@@bmwjourdandunngoddess6024 what do you mean? “ ummm handsome?
This story brought tears to my eyes it’s so many young black men out here lost and end up doing bad things because they lacked attention, love, and security within their home. I can’t wait to finish college so I can do things like this💘
All cuz of a black woman. Yet y'all always blame black men
@@spattzliyah2.0 I don’t know who y’all is ..but it was a lack of love on both sides. A white person can experience this same situation. No one is to blame it’s a sad situation altogether. Go off tho I guess 🥴
@@jakaylaj7804 With yt ppl it’s different
@@bmwjourdandunngoddess6024 Why is everything have to do with race? The color of your skin doesn't determine the outcome of abusive situations.
@Jakayla J I'm sorry but I'm from South Side of Chicago and I will say that Black People are only ones that does Stupid things to their kids
I hope Troy gets the help he needs. Poor baby looks traumatized.
I feel bad for Troy. I can't ever imagine my parents telling me that I'm nothing and wish that I was dead 💔 glad they doing better and hopefully it stays that way ❤️
“made me feel like nothing”. that part right there. heart wrenching.
I hope the mother gets help so she can help her son. Such a good supporting daughter/sister
Seeing the love she has for her brother is really touching. Wishing them the best. Shes a gem ❤
The daughter is a very beautiful human, inside and out.
I love how Karamo makes everyone feel comfortable and reassures them.
I love the big sister. She is her brother’s rock. Mom needs help. She’s in denial. I hope this family gets the help they need.
What a gorgeous daughter. I hope they all find peace
I have 4 boys I'm raising alone and I would love to take in this young man too. We need to raise better loving respectful men.
Yessssss sis I 100% agree
respect and prayers to you
😰💗💗💗some parents gotta think twice before you say anything to your children a lot of things parents don’t take seriously but there’s a lot shii you can do as a parent that could fuck up you’re kids then when they grow up you wondering why they the way they are I never judge nobody and this is the reason fr because we all grow differently 😰😰😰😰💯💯
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the second i saw that baby face i got rlly sad bc he just looked like he had gone through rough stuff. he’s just a kid! :(
When he mumbled a "it's okay" my heart broke
“Cleaning. If she picks up something I didn’t see she’ll start yelling” bru I never felt something so close
Yeah parents do that a lot it’s really annoying if they already picked it up why complain?
The sister is a beaut, an absolute stunner, the Afro and her face, I was like “WOW”😮😮💯👌🏽
Yes she looks like Thelma
She's the best sister/daughter they could ask for.
I just discovered this show, thank you Karamo for having such a caring and responsible approach to your guests. It’s refreshing to see, much, much better than those talk shows that dramatize and exploit the guests trauma and issue.
My mother told me the same thing when I was 16 I’m 26 now and it still hurts. Keep Your head up Young King 👑
This young man's body language and responses broke my heart. I really hope that the family can heal and move forward - without Luther!
What does he mean Luther left then moved back in, like what 8:49
Please keep us posted on this family! I can tell they really want to be better. Also, shout outs to the sister for stepping up. Troy was feeling so low and it was making me so sad.
I feel bad for that little boy. He’s so sweet. I hope him and his sister are doing okay .
the sister is so pretty and her brother is adorable. Thank you to that sister for hearing everyone out
bro when he said "it's okay" in that soft voice his heart was totally breaking...absolutely shocking the way the mom reacts backstage
Stability is so important in these teenagers' life. The daughter is so mature to take her brother in. Teenagers in this day and age have so much access to everything and so easily influenced. Glad the mom is sober and, on the road to recovery to being the mom her son needs. No one is perfect and everyone has a past so I am glad the sister reached out to Karamo to help for her family. Praying peace, love and healing for this family. #LOVEISTHEMEDICINE
His mother is not in recovery. She failed the drug test
You could tell she was using drugs so why lie ? The sister seems so kind and sweet . That little boy needs love and guidance ❤
And he needs attention you can look at his actions and tell his mom doesn’t pay him any attention
Exactly if I was the sister ill do whatever I can to just tak3 care of my brother if my mother didnt have no care of my brother ill just take control and try to make him a better person
@@anvachritrue the sister should just take him and take care of him
Listen babygirl !! This message I am going to give you because nobody will. I am 23 years old and I took on custody of my younger brother three years ago. He is now 12 . I am married married. So yes, I had the support of my spouse but let me tell you it is not easy !!! it comes with its obstacles ! and you will feel regret ! you will not get the help from your mother you are looking for because once she sees that you’re doing everything she can’t she’s gonna leave it all up to you, it takes a real strong person to take on custody of a broken child, while being a broken child/adult, recovering from the wounds you faced from your mothers trauma as well. There’s gonna be days where your little brother will not show you appreciation he will just “act out”, please seek help & guidance, or counseling in those moments, because that is just the trauma that needs to be broken. If you do fall through this, I pray for your strength and your courage. may peace be with your family.
I’m glad you said this. Stories like this are heartbreaking and they rob people of their youth. This young lady is engaged. She and her fiancé should be working and exploring but NOOOOO, her Mothers choice’s continue to impact her life.
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That’s true I had custody of my cousin. It was a lot and to get him on track but it can be rewarding seeing them achieve something. I went through childhood trauma too and started using that experience advocating for children. I was called daddy, brother, uncle cousin by him and others including court and school. I was a strong advocate that people wanted me to help them as well.
@@co123 i definitely want to turn my experience into something greater for the youth and young-adult woman and men. Rn im just going through a period where i am healing and also helping heal my little brother. Its tough. He has ADHD and manipulative issues. And i struggle with resentment and anxiety. This is just an example of a side of it that NOBODY TALKS ABOUT! And also what the first comment said ^ alot of days i do wake up and feel robbed of youth . From 13 - present time ive been caring and providing for my siblings. I left home at 17 to get away and focus on me . I eventually got my Ged and enrolled in college then halfway through boom 💥 i had to circle back for my siblings . Which i always planned on doing . The time just wasnt right. But let me get off here venting lol i just wanna let people know ITS NOT AS EASY AS THEY MAKE IT SEEM!
@@thatbemefool 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 man i cant say it enough , i literally switched places with my 42 year old mother ! IM living like im 42 ….. she 23 😂🥴. As far as my husband, man he a real one ! Been here with us since day ☝🏼
His sister is a beautiful woman inside and out. He’s so blessed to have her as a big sister. I’m so glad the mother has gotten help and is sober and the sister and her fiancé took Troy in so their mom could get help. Praying for things to continue getting better for them all
That sister!!! She is an angel. She loves her mom enough to hold her accountable and doing so in the most loving way. She's is a prime example of "I am my brother's keeper."
I have 2 boys and I lost my oldest due to fun violence last June and it makes me so upset that she would say that she would say she hates him and wishes he was dead when mother's like me love our kids and I want mine back but that Will never happen...as parents we have to watch what we say to our kids because it sticks with them...love your kids, encourage your kids...I do see great things for the young man, it's his environment that makes him act out...prayers always🙏
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry sending love 💕
Keep these Black boys in a ver controlled environment and keep them away from misogynoir/misogyny. Lots needs to CHANGES.
God bless you, your other son, and God bless your son's beautiful soul ❤️ 🙏🏾
My condolences to you. I lost my oldest as well to gun violence right before my very eyes. The pain will never go away. I hope that family push forward
The sister is amazing and the fact that her fiance is so supportive of her wanting to take in her brother,Troy will be just fine
I had tears alll through this show, I can see Troy's pain. I pray this family continues to heal and be well. Thank you for the update.
That sweet boy. His body language tells you that he feels small, Insecure, and unheard. I hope the sister gets custody of her brother or at least he lives with her
Poor kid just wanted to play hide and seek 😕 shows how young he is, his innocence was taken
Its it just me or is ki'a....looking hella!beautiful...she is rocking that afro....well spoken..etc
I don’t like Afro wigs. Terrible . I prefer natural Afros
@@Zee-ob1pe it is natural u a hater
@@Zee-ob1pegood thing no one cares what you like 💕 She’s beautiful
@@Zee-ob1pe it’s her natural hair. Even if it is a wig don’t nobody give a damn about what you like.
@@Zee-ob1pe this is about you .
He is sooo adorable, I hope he gets on the right track
6:05 😢 the pain on his face as he's remembering what she said... I'm so sorry.
Generational curses are REAL. Particularly in our community. I hope this young king gets the help and support he deserves
PLEASE CONTINUE TO GIVE US UPDATES ON TROY, WE ARE INVESTED IN HIM AND HIS WELL BEING NOW!! THANK YOU, KARAMO!! YOU ARE DOING GREAT THINGS!!!❤️👑🌟❤️👑⭐️❤️👑💫
It was obvious that the mom has a struggle and she was lying about her problems. First is admitted and the daughter has been enabling her. I'm soooooo happy that they're finding a resolution
Right? She was defending her mother and the young child being so quiet. It’s all so terrible. She was sitting up there lying.
I honestly think she just wants her baby brother. I think she just will enable her mom to a place where she has no choice but to give her Troy. Not from a selfish place but just because she knows she can provide better.
this one got me crying.
im 24 and took my brother in about a year ago after our parents drug him around like a burden or luggage and neglected him his whole life.
we're on track now and he has his own place and everything. working too and he knows im right down the road. his mannerisms were like Troy when he got here and it was so heartbreaking. my little brother is a head taller than me now, but he was close to me in weight and we were both underweight. these sorts of situations are so heartbreaking and suffocating. i felt like i swapped ages with my parents and it was difficult at first. but we have good friends now around us and we help each other with what we have.
it's just painful that this happens so frequently. i love the big sister in this video so much. she gives me strength.
I tried to get my brother when i was 19, but things didn't work out then.
My brother is only 5 years younger than me so he isn't the baby I carried on my hip growing up. But it is difficult to show him to be a kind and responsible man when I've been left by family and only just recently graduated. But he's growing into a wonderful person and I'm so happy.
To Kaia and Troy, best of luck. It can be painful, but it is worth it.
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Troy is such a beautiful boy . I'm happy he has Kiah as a sister and I hope that he can finally feel safe and live a normal teenager life . God bless this family .
She’s such a great daughter and big sister,God Bless them all.
I knew mom was still on drugs and could tell before the results. Nonetheless, she seems sincere. The daughter is very passionate and is the glue to this whole thing. They're on the right path as everyone was calm and seemed open minded to healing.
Why lie then ?
I feel bad for Troy and what he's going through. I hope Stephanie gets help to become a better mother. Troy needs a stable mother in his life.
Beautiful kids....so sad they have been hurt it will continue to cause them emotional problems in life.
My heart went out to this young king. He could hardly lift his head up. I understand wholeheartedly why he became a product of his environment. His Sister was a Gem. Beautiful inside and out. I pray the best for this family and the mom stay clean.
6:03 the way troy responded was what did it for me. that absolutely broke me.
I was crying when he said it’s ok like all the pain in his heart ♥️
I am a big sister that had to care for a brother and a sister due to the addictions of our parents. I feel you sis. You will help him get there and it will come together fast because Troy is a teen. I pray that all goes well for you and yours. If it gets rough a few times just hang in there and work through. I know you and Troy can do it. I hope Mom can get the desire in her heart to get off the cocaine. She is beautiful and still has a lot of living to do as well. Great work Karamo!!!!! Keep us up on their progress and let us know if they need a helping hand.
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Mother has some beautiful genes, gorgeous daughter, handsome young man,the Lord be with this beautiful family.
I love the way you conduct these interviews and treat the families with such respect and dignity as well as making sure the child was heard and his feelings were validated. As well as taking him off stage for the drug test results just shows how compassionate you really are ❤
The girl is the definition of grace
This is my blood family and this breaks my heart. Her family has prayed for years that she gets the help that is needed to be there for her kids/grandkids. Her kids are wonderful and very smart. Always love Stephanie❤
I work with children and I see children like Troy everyday and it breaks my heart. I want to give him a big hug because I feel so bad for him. I pray he gets the help he needs.
This episode was emotional, mainly, due to the son/brother & how sad he looked!!!
She looks like a 70s beauty queen with that fro. 🤩😍 I wish NOTHING but the best for this family.
I was going through this situation just a couple months ago. My mother chose her new man over me, and kicked me out cause I was too toxic apparently, can't shut up, and I didn't do anything. Telling you now, I wanted a job at 16 to start saving up, but she told me no live your life. I tried to live my life, but I couldn't having to raise and take care of my siblings. She didn't work, so she could have took care of them but she preferred to stay in her room on the phone from the moment she woke up till the moment she went to bed. I cooked and did laundry and cleaned behind a family of 6 and when he moved in I did such for a family of 7,but when she told me she was pregnant around my birthday I couldn't do it. I refused to raise another child that I didn't birth. So I did start trying to live my life after that,we got into plenty of arguements where I tried to get her to understand my point of view or how I felt or when there was something she could have done, and when she was being a hypocrite,which happened often. I tried working at Taco Bell for about a week, but I had to quit because working in a Spanish dominated territory, Nobody spoke English except the manager, and she was never there. And I remember, this day, October 19th, she kicked me out to live with my grandmother. She told me she would keep and raise my cat, but I had to kill my fish because that was going to be no one else's responsibility, despite brothers saying that they wanted to keep the fish, so I did as such which was heartbreaking and moved in with her mother and fyi staying in that house got very Depressive, houses have a certain tone to it when you know the people who have died in it. So I moved to Arkansas, where I connected with my dad's side of the family who I haven't seen since I was under the age of 10 because of her, and the rest of my mom's side of the family. I mean, at least now my great aunt, Catherine picks me up, and we'll hang out from time to time. I'll be at her house for most of the time, but I originally lived with my dad's mom and staying at the house by yourself in the middle of the woods for 12 hours, doesn't really do good on the mind. At least I'm able to find a job down here and I start in on the 6th of March. Wish me luck cause this could be the changing point of my life
May God bless you dear till you find your feet
Wishing you all the very best!
Stay strong, Lyssa. Don’t be like your mom. Focus on what’s right and wrong! You got THIS!
There is no accountability from mom... He doesn't trust his mom... This is sad ... She needs to be removed from that child to restore the damage before it's too late.
Am I the only one that is feeling the Pam Grier Fro? She has the face and body....love it!!
Wheeew this was deep!!! This family is in my prayers!!! I have faith that things are going to work out ❤❤❤
Spot on
the little brother is adorable he has such a kind face
That sister is such an angel… working on her generational trauma and trying her best to help her brother
Great news ! Wishing mom the best. And the son as well. Good sister when she said she would take care of her brother until mom gets better.
The anxiety & Stress she is directly Putting on her son is PROFOUND !!! I watched this first hand with my mom & brother it’s not pretty … and he needs someone to intervene.. thank God his sister is at the moment but she’s going to eventually want to stop being the “MOM” she’s going to want to live her own life …
Some mothers don’t understand Hoe profoundly they impact their children’s lives by making poor choices as parents
I just wanna hug this baby! I'm a boy mom and I cannot imagine my son going through this BS‼️
Honestly, I began watching your show today, and I must say that I appreciate what you are doing. Direct and understanding. I also looked up your background and saw that you worked about a decade in social services, which makes this show genuine. Thank you for helping our community. God bless you.
This so sad, I hope he is able to heal from such pain and trauma. He's not a bad child, he's a damaged child. He is scared and hurt.