She was talking at a dinner so she was aware ppl would be eating. If the food is on the table don't expect everyone will stop eating but - as Nancy's story was so shocking - I'm sure some did stop to listen.
@@redmarilynn you can hear that they did! Anyway,what a strong,brave & ultimately kind lady to use her experiences of torments & become a social worker
How about instead of sending them to hell just stop them from abusing children (anyone) in the first place? Isn't that what a loving caring god would do?
@@Cynnas IT IS NOT GOD, IT IS IGNORANT PEOPLE TOO STUPID TO RECOGNIZE WHAT IS HAPPENING RIGHT IN FRONT OF THEM! PERIOD! I WAS FAILED BY FAMILY AND OTHERS TOO WRAPPED UP IN THEIR OWN SELFISH BS TO SEE OR DO ANYTHING! I'M SURE YOU HAVE PEOPLE JUST LIKE THIS IN YOUR LIFE TOO, YOU JUST CAN'T SEE THRU THEM ANYMORE THAN PEOPLE IN MY LIFE SAW WHAT MY MOTHER WAS DOING. OH SURE THEY KNEW "SOMETHING" WASN'T RIGHT ABOUT HER BUT "WHAT COULD THEY DO?" GOD WAS THE ONLY REASON I EVEN LIVED THRU IT AND SOMETIMES I WISH I HADN'T! IT HAUNTS YOU EVERY SECOND OF EVERY DAY! SORRY FOR YELLING BUT THIS IS FRUSTRATING AS HELL SOMETIMES. EVERYONE WANTS TO BLAME GOD NOT THE SICK FREAKS THAT ARE ACTUALLY DOING THE ABUSE BUT YEA SURE IT'S GOD'S FAULT. THAT RIGHT THERE IS THE REASON IT CONTINUES. In my mother's case, her mom died when they were very young then abused by their father. They grew up blaming God and That is why they are the way they are. They have never had love in their hearts only hate, anger and unforgiveness.
Hi, Nancy. My mother abused me sexually and in every other way, and she taught my father and older brother to do the same. My younger brothers scapegoat me and, even now, fifty years on, no one has ever acknowledged the abuse that has nearly killed me. I admire your courage.
Thanks Sarah, I am so sorry that you had to go thru the same. I was also by my Mother's father and her brother.So I know what you mean. If you ever need to talk just let me know. Ok? Sending safe and loving hugs.
Thank you Sarah. I am so sorry what happened to you. Sweeping and burying it under that rug can literally kill a person. I know it almost killed me. I was a cutter from the time I was about 7 and it continued for about 40 years or so. I have not engaged in it in some time, but it is literally how I survived.
You are very welcome! Sorry I missed your message. I've had 4 surgeries in a year and I somehow missed responding. Have you heard my radio interviews? I've been able to share more of my story thru them. If you would like to hear them let me know and I will post the links. Blessings! Nancy :)
I don’t understand how people can casually sit and eat while this woman details these horrors. I’ve been writing in journals, notebooks, and on scraps of paper for years about the emotional abuse, physical neglect and “covert” incest by my mother. Finally I have found a writing group led by a writing Coach who is willing and able to help me organize my work. Well-meaning friends will ask: “why does this still bother you?” And then turn their attention to something else.
First of all who was the idiot who thought it was a great idea to serve food at this kind of speech?! At least wait until the end of the speech or speeches! And second of all who can eat while listening to this sad and heartbreaking story of this brave woman getting molested by her own mother!
Monsters and pedophiles are able to eat during such a speech. In fact it makes them hungry... no disrespect to Nancy in any way.. but I deeply have a feeling of knowing, and it says she is speaking in front of a bunch or abuser, satin worshipers. And what is with the cardboard cut out of a black guy behind her right side.. ?? The listeners probably need it to be comfortable, symbolizing a frozen soul, a puppet, a slave to Satanist
Thanks for your response. Somehow I missed it. I appreciate your sweet comments! Alot has happened since I first began speaking. I just went through my 75th surgery and I am doing well for the most part physically. I was asked to be on a radio show this summer and share more of my story. If you would like to hear it, it is one hour long with no commercial breaks. Thanks again and stay safe with all that is going on right now! Nancy :) th-cam.com/video/uZhEUgxKDjc/w-d-xo.html
....It's a luncheon. That's pretty much what happens. And if everyone was eating there'd be way more noise than there is. And what we did hear was likely people drinking coffee or something. Hearing something like this no doubt there were people that needed to do so.
Most disrespectful audience imaginable. That lovely woman is opening her heart to share an extremely painful part of her life and ppl cant put down their dang fork??? Who were the inept event organizers? Speakers, then meal, then speakers. Not hard folks.
Until a few yrs ago I've never heard of women sexually abusing their own kids. I'm trying to understand the depraved state of mind it takes to see your own child in a sexual manner. and then to act on it,is NOTHING SHORT OF DEMONIC. That "woman" didn't have a maternal bone in her body.... what a repulsive beast smh.....
Victoria, yes you are correct! She did NOT have a maternal bone in her body. I used to watch other kids and try to mimic how to get her to act like I saw other Mother's act. I never could. It took me YEARS of therapy to come to terms with the fact she couldn't ever act like them! Ty for your kind words.
@@x5cat1 I am so, so sorry Nancy. As Mum's we love our children unconditionally, sadly not your Mum. I also had not heard about Mother's sexually abusing their children. And I am nearly 63. Thankyou for telling your horrendous story. Much love to you from me in Scotland. 💗
Unfortunately it happens :( When people hear "child abuse" they often think of physical abuse, but sexual abuse comes from the same violent place of power, dominance & control.
Thank you Davina, yes it is not as common as men, but because it is so rare, many survivors live in silence with their pain. My main goal is to share that we don't have to live in silence and one can heal after it! Thanks again from me in the United States to you in Scotland. I never dreamed that I would reach people ALL over the world!
What a brave woman. Her generation is usually so quiet about admitting to suffering from abuse. She is incredibly strong. Also, it is extremely rude to eat while a speaker is at the podium.
Awe thank you so much! Sorry I missed your response to me. I had my 76th surgery around the same time you wrote this and I just got my brace off. I really appreciate your kind words! If just one child has a easier life then it's been worth telling my personal story. Have you listened to the radio interview I have posted here on TH-cam? It is one hour long with no commercial breaks. If you can't find it just let me know and I will post the link for you! Please and blessings! Nancy :)
I was put through emotional abuse by my mother. She hated me and I know that from my earliest memories of her. She loved my brothers and always let them know that. I never got one "I love you" from her, while she told my brothers that every time she saw them. I endured many beatings from her while my brothers laughed. As she lay dying, I was her one and only caretaker and I took wonderful care of her. Her sons would only stop by for a 10 minute visit once a week, yet those "I love yous" to her sons continued until the day she died. I never got one "I love you". I never had to endure what you went through, I can't imagine that, yet abuse comes in many forms, and I'll never understand how a mother can intentionally hurt their child in any way. I am so sorry you lived through that. Many hugs to you.
I'm sorry that you didn't get what you needed either. Sick, sick people having Children and unleashing hell on them. We are very strong to endure the abuse without completely going insane. No matter what has happened our Souls are ok.
I know that I never let a day pass without letting my daughter and grandchildren know how much I love them. Yet, I know I can't forgive my mother. It's always there. She has messed up my life in so many ways. And I can tell you, when she died, a sense of relief came over me, because it was over...yet the memories and bitter, mean words she always spoke to me remain.
My two siblings and I were abused by our mother for years. I know teachers, neighbors, friends, and family members knew. We were those kids. We always had bloody lips, bruises, black eyes, nail marks, you name it! We would bounce around staying with friends, Foster care and whoever else she could dump us on. Finally when I was about 11 we were permanently removed. Nancy, I hear you and I see your beautiful, courageous heart. Sadly my two siblings who were older just couldn’t cope. They are both alcoholics, drug addicts and mostly homeless. Both have lost their children. We are survivors, you and I. Thank you for sharing. I relate more than you will ever know and I love you for overcoming in your battle💕❤️
Jamie I am SO very sorry for what you went through! Just as you said you "get it" probably more than most do. When I began therapy the first question my therapist had was "how much did your parents drink"( usually referring to my Dad because he was so violent. Yet neither parent drank alcohol ever! My Dad was just a angry man one minute and loving and joking the next. How are you doing now? Do you have contact with your family now? Would love to talk more to you, but only if you would be fine with it. You can reach me at x5catlvr@yahoo.com Nancy :)
I'm sad for yr sisters. I can relate to them. It's so easy to give up. Being strong and driven and posetive has been hard. I am so glad you are being a strong roll model. ❤️🌅🙏
So happy you survived and are thriving! Prayer works, and leading by example, but don’t forget, there’s power in words-you can speak over their lives. Positive things, even scriptures. Thank you for sharing.
Hi I missed your message at first and I wanted now to let you know this was a planned luncheon on Child Abuse. No one knew what I was going to speak on when I got up to speak. The audience was on dessert before I ever got up to speak. They didn't know ahead of time what I was going to speak about. Sometimes when people hear something hard they want to do something while hearing it to destract them from what they are hearing. It didn't bother me at all that people were eating. I never even heard it, I was too nervous to focus on that lol I was new to telling my story and I just didn't want to faint! lol Thanks for watching my story! Nancy :)
@@dantieblackbfly5443 Thanks, it wasn't! I was much too nervous to let the eating bother me. lol People also need to remember when people hear something really difficult they do things to distract themselves. It keeps them a bit busy when they hear something that is hard for the brain to identify with. As a Social Worker I understand that. So, no it didn't offend me in any way. Thanks for watching my story! Nancy :)
I was adopted as a baby. My adopted mother molested and emotionally abused me for years. I remember telling a therapist at age 11, but she just ignored me. The only person that did anything was a former juvenile probation officer. He reported my adopted mother to DFCS when I was 14. DFCS investigated, but did nothing else. If a child is telling you they are being abused; please don't ignore child.
I am so sorry that happened to you, I unfortunately understand your pain and agree 100% that children should always be believed and that all other adults, teachers, family members should ALWAYS say something even by the slightest sign that something seems off or not safe.
Omg I was thinking the same thing why can all I hear is people eating so disrespectful this woman is pouring her heart out and all these pigs can do is stuff there face nice
Omni-directional microphone setup is all wrong. Podium mics should always be insulated uni-directional with all external mics shut off! This way the speaker has the floor.
I was going to say the same thing. For the love of God people, stop shoving your faces full of food and have some common courtesy. This woman is brave for speaking out. Give her some respect.
I swear some people have NO IDEA what respect is!! when a speaker is talking you sit still, be quiet and listen!! people hacking, coughing. shuffling, moving around, clanking dishes...wtf?!
The people clearing her throat or coughing I am not trying to bash people but it’s usually smokers I have two family members that do this every time we go somewhere and it’s quiet or even not I have grown to always carry peppermint’s and cough drops with me because it drives me nuts when they do this and I’m trying to listen to something
How disturbing this lady’s childhood was. The betrayal came from all directions. The guilt and shame associated with child abuse can last a lifetime. Children need protection and when help never comes they stop asking, the signs are there but children eventually stop crying when they learn that no ones coming for them. I understand
@@horrorgaming-bj4xm Actually statistics show that the majority of Sexual Abuse happens by straight people. My Mother doesn't fall in any normal category that I know of though lol. Seriously I only talked about that part because I wanted people to know what I went through. Not because the majority of Sexual Abuse happens by gays or bisexual women. It doesn't. The majority happens from heterosexual women. My Mother shouldn't have ever married my dad. However that was what women did back then.
Yes it can last a lifetime and for a while I thought it always would! Until I found a awesome therapist at RSAC here where I lived (Rape & Sexual Assault Center) and she helped me over a long period of time to help put me back together. It wasn't just dealing with all the nightmares and flashbacks, but working on trust, boundaries! So many basic things MOST people take for granted I had NO clue about. I had NEVER been allowed to even shut the door even to go to the bathroom, so when my therapist first asked me about boundaries I said what? I know it sounds silly now, but things most people take for granted like just the feeling of safety at home I didn't know about. It took me years of therapy to finally understand why I would do JUST about anything to NOT be at home with my husband. I wanted to be away from the house doing things. I finally realized it was because I thought being at home meant I was in DANGER! I didn't know that being at home could feel even remotely safe or pleasant even. So I had to do a lot of work on other things besides just work thru my memories of what happened with my "Mother".
I am listening to this Lady talk about the abuse that she had to endure and I am at a lost for words. I am numb and cold, I feel detached from my body, I know that humans are evil, but when you listen to anyone tell you about their lives, their are no words to describe, how you feel listening. Also knowing that anyone was made to live through that kind of life and survived it and had to endure so much pain, how can you ever forget?
@@marieali2745 i can't forget, but even if I wanted to I would not. Most people don't understand that, but for myself it is simple. If I forgot then I would not be able to work with other survivors. I just went through my 75th surgery. I am dealing right now with a broken foot due to the RA destroying my bones so much they just snap with no warning. EVERY moment I live is a reminder of where I came from. For me as long as I live I need to voice what happened because until survivors( and yes I am a survivor in the true sense of the word) like me come forward more children will have to endure what I went through and that breaks my heart. Even today people don't want to admit some Mother's can Sexually and Physically torture their children and that IS what my Mother did. I kept my story as "G" rated as possible, but my Mother was a sick person. Thanks for taking the time to watch my story. I was asked to share more of my story this past year on a radio show. If you would like to hear more I am going to post the link below. It is a hour long with no commercial breaks. Thanks! Nancy :) th-cam.com/video/uZhEUgxKDjc/w-d-xo.html
Nancy Little hello. I too have gone through similar harsh experiences. Domestic violence , sexual abuse and more . I tired to forgive my abusers but whenever I have really hard days ( almost everyday ) struggling with chronic pain and emotional and mental health issues hindering me to be able to work well and enjoy the simple things of life , I Than am taken down memory lane . I end up hyperventilating , having bad anxiety attacks and days I just lay in bed doing nothing much ! How can I say I have forgiven when the affects of all the abuse lingers in me and I feel so disabled !
@@Neemi030 you be willing to talk with me privately? I don't want to give u a pat answer nor just a quick and hurried one. If so please email me at x5catlvr@yahoo.com I hope to hear from you! Blessings! Nancy :)
Usually that’s the type of noises you hear during a luncheon. Maybe you missed that part it was a luncheon with guest speakers who spoke during the luncheon.
You are a survivor of child abuse. Or of rape. You're not a survivor or "incest". Incest can be consensual + between 2 adults. Like if two people that are both 18+ and are like brothers/cousins decide to have sex, that might be weird, but that's not abuse. So use the correct terminology. Have a great day
@@justinamusyoka4986 I am doing very well. Just a quick update since this video was taken six weeks ago I had my 77th surgery. My husband and I will celebrate 39 years of marriage in May. I was in therapy for many years, but I am doing extremely well now. I occasionally still have a few nightmares, but that's always around the time I have surgery coming up. I still run my online group for survivors of abuse. It's going on 21 years now. Have you heard the radio interview I did last year? It's one hour long with no commercial breaks. It goes into more detail than this video. I can't post the link right now because I am on my phone and I am not home. However I will post it tomorrow when I get home. Thanks for the questions! Sending blessings to you! Nancy :)
@@x5cat1 I'm happy to hear from you,feel your love and concern for other humans by sharing such stories which are usually hidden in many families. My own mum ,now 80 years old and I'm her first born in a family of 9,subjected me to early years of abuse in many ways and when i remind her when we are dealing with other issues,she says i should have forgotten,i shouldn't be bringing up such sad stories!! My mum used to cheat on my dad with his young brothers and neighbours in our house,the same people who would abuse me and from that time onwards,everywhere i went,people and especially relatives would abuse me.It became a bad cycle with many repercussions. So from your own observations you've seen talking and discussing this things help alot into ones healing?
Nancy Little. NANCY, GOD BLESS YOU!! YOU ARE TRULY AN INSPIRATION!! THANK YOU FOR BEING A LIFEJACKET TO ALL THOSE CHILDREN THAT YOU HAVE HELPED WHO HAVE BEEN ABUSED.
@@claireoconor7986 Thanks Claire for your sweet kind words. It means alot to me. I just did a interview today for the radio and I will be adding the link on my TH-cam channel at the end of the week. It is about a hour long and I hope you will listen to it! Thanks for watching my story! Nancy :)
@@claireoconor7986 Thanks Claire! I appreciate your sweet words! I continue to work with survivors and probably always will. Thanks for responding! Nancy :)
Sami somehow I missed your post due to my husband almost died during the time you posted. I try to respond to everyone so I am very sorry I missed yours. If you ever would like to talk please let me know and I will give you a way to email me. I am sorry you were abused and if you want to talk I am here. Thanks and blessings your way! Nancy :)
watchgoose Whoever organized this luncheon has terrible judgement. And yes, normal people will sit there and not eat their food after hearing about horrific abuse.
I was a social worker for almost 15 years. You are absolutely correct. Early intervention is the key. It is EVERYONE’S responsibility to report any sign of abuse or neglect. Too many times people don’t voice their concerns to the authorities. On the other side, social workers are sometimes so inundated and overwhelmed by their caseload that children can fall through the cracks. Agencies need to hire more people. Thank goodness there are people like you out there who are willing to reach out and volunteer. No one understands what a comfort it is to have someone just listen to these children. Bless you. ❤️🙏🏻
I wish My Childhood Special Ed study team done their job & checked on me especially the last three years of public school. I remember as a 5/1/2 not talking getting PTSD early on a school nurse had the freaking nerve to call CPS on my parents all cause my father made a mistake on sleep meds . 20 half years ago. Then There’s was no escape from abuse in the enclosed classroom not allowed to cry when missed someone told to cut it or d” be put in time out . Then at 7/1/2 two years later thought I was free from abuse only to not have it last more than 8 months. After that my 3RD aid had me miss my 2ND grade classes I missed a felid trip cause of her & child study team . Then by 9 My last & final aide very abusive to a point I had my first full blown panic attack at 9/1/2 . I do see counseling. And another aide abused another one
Many councils have laid off social workers caused by lack of funding, that's why the ones left are floundering, overwhelmed and often resign their position and seek another career path through stress. All the while there's an explosion in mental illness.
OMG as a mother and a daughter, this is something I can’t even begin to wrap my brain around! I’m practically speechless, as I just don’t have the words to describe how horrific this is!!! Bless you for speaking out in the hope of helping others. You are truly an amazing lady!
Thank you Suzi! I appreciate your comments. Yes it IS hard for most people to understand this. It is why it is so important to talk about it though. Silence is what keeps survivors afraid to speak up. When I first started therapy I had to put what happened to me down in a journal and send it to my therapist( this was way before email). I was afraid to see that "look" of shock on her face, so it was easier to write it out and let her read it before our sessions. It took many years of therapy and working thru the abuse for me to be able to stand in front of a audience and share my story. I hope it will help others to know that it was NOT their fault! I am sorry I missed your response earlier...I have had four surgeries in 18 months and I missed your response. Please accept my apology! Nancy :)
@@kathybenson9382 It was not a show. It is customary for luncheons to have the guest speaker begin when dessert is being served. They do this to keep the day from being five hours long! No one knew what I was going to be speaking about. They knew it was my life story but nothing beyond that. I was not offended in any way. If anything it helped me because I was so nervous to be sharing something so personal. I was just trying not to throw up in front of several hundred people! Lol I hope you are able to look past the noise and just focus on my story. Thanks for taking the time to watch my story! Nancy :)
Misty it was a luncheon and typically at luncheons the guest speaker begins speaking as dessert is being served. That is what happened here. I was asked this past year to be on a radio show where I was able to go into more of my life. It is a hour long, with no commercial breaks. If you would like to listen here is the link. Thanks so much! Nancy :) th-cam.com/video/uZhEUgxKDjc/w-d-xo.html
My stomach has cramped SEVERAL times just listening. The fact that people in that room CONTINUED to raise a fork full of food to their disrespectful mouths (!) had me wishing to hear someone begin to choke to death. They should all be glad that I wasn't in attendance, bc there most certainly would've been an interruption and EVERYONE called out. -I will never forget your story.
Branham I didn't even hear the noise or the people eating. lol I hadn't told my story often to strangers so I was so nervous that I just wanted to get through my story without throwing up lol thanks for listening to my story! Nancy :)
Thanks for watching my story! It was at a luncheon and the people didn't know ahead of time what I would be speaking about. Thanks for watching! Nancy :)
Thanks Brandon for your wonderful comments! I'm STILL surprised so many people have watched my story! I never heard the noise! I just was trying to not faint! Lol I wasn't sure how people would respond so it was probably a good thing people were eating because had they all been staring at me I might have fallen flat on the floor! Lol I wish a wonderful Easter! Nancy ;)
Nancy is amazing for standing there + telling her story! The utensils scraping on plates however was so distracting. This brave woman spoke on horrors afflicted to her + how she wants to help others. Yet, people couldn't stop eating for less then 15 mins + give this woman their utmost attention. Rude, unnecessary + hurtful. Really bothers me. If I heard it, then Nancy absolutely heard it. Was another form of being ignored. She IS a thriver + powered thru it nonetheless. People please think about your actions + words a little more in such sensitive situations!!
I’m assuming it was at a luncheon. Really the feeding frenzy should have ended before her presentation started. That was poor planning on behalf of the sponsor.
@@ndobbins58 Yes it was and I understand most of the audience had never heard about Mother's that sexually abuse and I believe that this is the "nervous coughing"" you hear in the background. Sadly there was no way to edit it out. However I've shared more of my story through multiple radio interviews. There is NO coughing in it. If you would like to hear more of my story just let me know and I am happy to post the links for you! Blessings! Nancy :)
Nancy you are so courageous!! I'm so sorry you went through all this abuse & pain. You have a beautiful soul. Your strength is very inspirational. Bless you.
Ms. Nancy, you are a beautiful soul. Thank you for sharing your story and helping others. You are very strong and brave. Glad you found love and someone you can trust. God bless.
Nancy your story touches me because both my sister and I were sexually abused by our mom and yet I’m just now talking about it freely at my age of 37 years. So yes it needs to be spoken of more. In the past 2 years my sister and I have been able to speak to each other about the events that had taken place with our mom. It’s such a taboo subject.
Gloria I am so very sorry to hear what you and your sister went through! I am glad you and her are able to talk about it. That is such an important step in your healing! If you ever need to talk give me a shout and I will give you a email where you and I can talk. Peace my friend! Nancy :)
I'm sorry, but are people EATING during this testimony?!?! I keep hearing silverware clinking and chewing. 😳 pay this woman some respect, stop moving and listen.
I've been hurt so many times by reaching out for help. Once a woman that was writing stuff down turned and asked me if there was anyone who hadn't raped me. It was humiliating. I still think about it from time to time. Soothe yourself first. Build yourself up, develop a relationship with God and yourself. Then if and when you go be very careful when you start looking. A woman at a Hospital who was making appointments got into an argument with me and said some nasty stuff. Some times sick people are drawn to these kind of professions just to abuse you. Even Dentists can be cruel and narcissistic. It seems once you've been victimized as an infant, it puts a mark on you that leads to repeated abuse. Be aware of this. Kids get molested in group homes that their Moms go to to escape abuse. Protect your Children and yourself. God bless everyone who reads this.
Ms. Little -- Thank you so much for sharing your story ! Your statement : "Early intervention means that child will have ONE DAY LESS of abuse" will NEVER leave me. Again, thank you !!
Thanks L Haa, I very much appreciate you letting me know what has stuck with you, I know I am NOT a public speaker. I had NEVER told my story before and it was very unnerving to share something so personal. However, I knew I needed to and based on all the comments I have recieved I am glad I did! I appreciate you reaching out. That means the world to me! Peace my friend! Nancy :)
She is so right, people do need to intervene early. Such a powerful speech. Chronic abuse does damage ability to feel safe, which in turns destroys the ability to trust.
Satanists arent any worse or better than christians/catholics. Both have radical extremeist sides but if you look up the "rules" of satanism its actually pretty chill. Id rather party with satan and all the rockstars and outcasts of society than live in gods cookie cutter world of "perfection". God created sin and if he wants to punish us for falling into temptation then hes just toying with us. Like putting candy infront of a toddler and punishing it for reaching out when you left it there to begin with
I'm a satanist and was molested and raped by my own mother as a child like Nancy. I would never hurt a child, thus it is morally wrong and is against my religion.
I was abused by a woman as well, and until recently I didnt understand the damage that abuse has on us as adults. You are right, no one really discusses abuse by female predators and the damage it does to your relationships as you get older. Thank you for sharing. This is the first time in 40 years I took the time out to listen to another woman's testimony about a similar experience. Today you have helped me. Again, thank you for sharing and helping others like you and I.
Some heros don't wear capes.... And talk about Angels among us!! Ms. Little's story is a TRUE TRUE testament to, Some people who rise above and stop being a victim, and start living as a survivor and has turned something that was so SAVAGELY bestowed upon her into something beautiful AND STILL be of service too others! That my friend... is a life not wasted
Thank you Pauline. I am sorry I missed your comment. The past 2 months have been a bit crazy! I truly believe God has me here still for a reason. There is no reason I should be alive after 72 surgeries, some I almost died from, yet I am still here. I believe this is the reason as well as volunteering and helping others still.
I am honored to know you through our little group on Facebook. I am humbled and inspired by your bravery and courage. You are truly an inspiration to so many.
In tears. This poor woman deserves a crown. I just want to hug her for being brave enough to tell her horrific life story. I grew up being abused by my stepfather in every way. Its a liveing hell. God Bless her.
There’s a word for this phobia. I cannot bear the sound of clinking utensils, so unnecessary to be noisy. Breathing sounds, oh, and gum chewers send me absolutely crazy
It is called Misophonia. My triggers are snoring, whistling and repetitive sounds. I have a violent response to them. It makes me angry and I can feel it building up in me.
Those who work with child abuse victims say that sexual abuse is far more devastating to children than verbal or even physical abuse. I believe this is because sexual abuse has a spiritual component. We have souls, we have spirits. Sexual abuse is particularly demonic and causes the child to be assaulted in his or her very core being. Those who are into the dark side know these truths. That is why sacrifice of the virgin, for example, has been seen globally with pagan religions. Yes, they sacrifice others, too, but an undefiled virgin is considered to be the best. Heaven help the children, and all of us who live in such a world!
@@robokill387 All you had to do was Google "Sacrifice of the virgins in ancient cultures" or something similar. Learn to do your own homework and research. You are now on mute as it is best to post to those who use some critical thinking. Learn to do that.
@@lemurlover7975 Julian Assange, through Wiki Leaks, reported unimaginably horrific things being done to children by the "elites." Then there was Jeffrey Epstein's private plane dubbed The Lolita Express. As Solomon said, "There is nothing new under the sun." I have prayed for your complete healing. I do hope that you have accepted - as abused children often need to understand - that the abuse was no way whatsoever your fault. And speaking of Epstein, since Bill Gates was reportedly on that plane and associated with Epstein in general, I want to give some timely info there. Long story short: Don't take Gates' vaccine. Here are some reasons why. Here is some info on Bill Gates and his horrific, amazing cash cow, vaccine: th-cam.com/video/qVYWKyslti4/w-d-xo.html This doctor produced vid tells what I think the scare tactics are really moving the unsuspecting and too trusting populace toward. th-cam.com/video/TY-vLrz9XCc/w-d-xo.html I personally think that when Gates talks here about "the final solution" through his vaccine program, that he is deliberately (probably gleefully) revealing what he is really up to. He counts on the naive and trusting to not think it was just some strange slip of the tongue. The phrase "the final solution" was, of course, made famous through Nazis who made "essential services" famous. Of course the "need"for "essential services" was used to cull and control the populace. Gates and others working with him want to put invisible tattoos on children and others to track their "health" and vaccination records. Now what are those tattoos reminescent of from last century? He is so interested in decreasing population, particularly in the vulnerable African countries. Uh, who asked him to be a depopulation czar for our planet? No one. Why don't Bill and Melinda start depopulating with themselves? Oh, wait. We are supposed to assume that they are god like beings who get to make decisions for human "population control" in the world, while they are are above such consideration. Another underlying assumption appears to be that people in Africa, especially, need to be stopped from reproducing more black people. The need to depopulate is a eugenicist myth. If all the people in the world were to stand together in one place, they would fit into a large city easily. All one has to do is fly over this country and other countries, including even little but highly productive Israel, and see the vast amount of empty, unpopulted, space that is out there. Bill and Melinda are not benefactors of humanity. They are its enemies. This less than one minute vid, with the smirks on Bill's & Melinda's faces, is incredibly creepy: th-cam.com/video/ZmP6_gy-MIE/w-d-xo.html I'll quote a You Tuber here about this vid. "The fact he smirks and claims the second one will get attention means this is orchestrated."
This woman got everything she ever deserved, a loving husband and beautiful family, despite all the hell she went through and continued to face, she’s a strong and admirable woman. I look up to her so much! God bless you
Thanks Jessica! When you first responded my husband got very ill and almost died. He was in the hospital for 5 weeks and went thru 6 surgeries. Thankfully he is ok now, but I wanted to say thanks for your sweet comments and I am sorry it took so long to respond back. Nancy :)
You are a survivor. You are a STRONG advocate NOW, for those vulnerable children who CANNOT speak. I'm so sorry this happened to you. God bless you ma'am.
There are no words to describe your beauty and bravery.I am honored to have stumbled across your page.Congratulations on not only being a survivor but also a success story.I survived...and I guess we'll see about the rest.💙
Every single adult that recognized the signs of child abuse and ignored them was definitely held accountable. At some point their conscience killed them at night. But THANK GOD you survived to tell this story and save many lives! God will continue to use you!!!
Thanks Rose and Carrie. I hope it helped to listen to the videos. We CAN heal from all of the abuses that we went through. It takes hard work, but so very worth it! Christina I LOVE you darling! Love, Nancy
Dear ladies, I hope by talking about it with other abuse victims you can find a little solace. I so wished you had been brought up in happy normal homes. You all still bear the scars and you will never forget the pain, torture, humiliation and sadness, not to mention the injuries you and many other children suffered. Unfortunately, you were not helped by the teachers who witnessed your sorry conditions every day at school. One comforting thought though, is that your children will have had a happy childhood with parents who love them to bits. Bless you all
I would love to volunteer. I just moved to South Jersey but still close to my home city Philadelphia. I was abused by my stepfather and spoke up about it when I was 14. He did end up going to prison for it. I had a lot of people like you on my side who believed me and I would love to be there for someone else.
@@RaisingHellAgain "The rest of us" have not generally suffered from this kind of abuse. And a presentation is not "over and over." Part of this kind of problem involves people like you who make it hard for a person who has gone through this to tell the truth about it.
Bless you strong lovely caring woman. I’m so sorry for what they did to you, through all that you deserve allot of peace in your life and mind from now and I hope you are finding that as you deserve all the love in the world. Thank you for sharing ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@redmarilynn Thanks! I have chosen to speak for one reason only. As long as us survivors keep quiet there will be NO change! No changes that people will continue to look as us as freaks. They will have the WRONG belief that Mother's don't Sexually Abuse their children.! There will be NO intervention for victims. So this is why i speak out. I did NOT have a "Sexual Relationship" with my Mother like people who don't understand this abuse. I was raped repeatedly by my Mother. So I speak out in hopes that more people will become aware that this happens! Thank you VERY much for watching my story and responding!
Its not a professioally set up venue..no stage area that would be better microphoned away from the close quarters of the group. It probably wasn't intended for this type of forum but these days everything goes up. Not necessarily the best of times(dinner!) for such a story..but probably helped her feel more comfortable being her first time speaking of this publically..(I read here that she had only spoken of it to her husband & her counsellor).. If all eyes had been totally focused on her, she may not have got through so well. And anyway..we heard her clearly.
@@yvonnerahui8729 This was at a Child Abuse Luncheon and no it wasn't really set up for this, but it is ok. I managed to get through it for the most part without coming apart emotionally or physically. Just a month earlier I had gone thru my 58th surgery and basically was learning to walk again. So, not only was I nervous about telling complete strangers something so personal I was also walking for a very short time again!
"Mrs. Nancy believed me" 😭😭😭 And Robert, God bless you for being such an awesome husband and standing by Nancy all this time. Men like you are few and far between ❤️
Thank you Starling Swallow! A month ago I had my 76th surgery and he was right beside me. I am very aware God blessed me with a awesome man! I hope you are doing well! Have you heard my radio interview I was asked to do this past year? It is one hour long with no commercial breaks. I am going to post the link below if you would like to hear more. Thanks again! Nancy :) th-cam.com/video/uZhEUgxKDjc/w-d-xo.html
@@ebonyejohnson Yes he blessed me with a great man. I was picky and I was not going to marry a man like my Father was. I did not want to be stuck in a miserable marriage like my Mother was. It took her 55 yrs to finally get out of it. I am blessed with such a wonderful man! Nancy :)
I'm glad that everything that you've been through did not break you but it made you. It made you stronger, Kinder and smarter but you never went to go become someone that you are not. You held up your head and you straighten up your crown and you kept going like a queen you are💜❤💚💙💛💗
This is 5 yrs old but you made something beautiful & angelic out of your torment. Helping other children is one of your life purposes & those children need you & won't ever forget you. If you're a child reading this & the same thing is happening to you, tell somebody. Don't keep it a secret or be in any fear of what they're telling you so you'll stay quiet. They're the ones afraid, afraid they'll get caught. Make it stop today.
I've sadly watched my grandkids go thru all kinds of abuse. No matter how many times my husband and I contacted DCFS they paid no attention to us. Finally, we were able to obtain custody of the children. However, even today they still suffer.
Yeah they dont give a damn about Children they should look into, instead they take kids from who they dont need. Or steal kids for other prouposes for money ext.. everything is corrupt.
This is one of the saddest stories I've ever heard. You're strong and you're a survivor. Im glad you made it through it. The sad thing about this is the fact that i can imagine children that are still going through this.. This lady has ben through too much her whole life. Just focus on the Lord. My prayers are with you.
My mother told me that she was using a diaphram when she got pregnant with me and that she and my father were going to be divorced.(so, she did not want any more children. She made it very clear how much she did not want me, by never giving me any hugs and never saying anything positive to me. It was always, "You get more and more stupid, everyday. You can never do anything right!" My parents never taught me anything. They just expected me to know everything automatically...for instance, when I was 11 and ironing a blouse for the first time, my mother said, "you're not doing that right!" She pushed me away, and told me that I was "useless." I remember, sitting down to dinner and starting to eat with my family. I ate some of what my mother cooked and said, "mommy, this tastes really good!". Her response was, "then shut-up and eat it!!" When I was fifteen and going on my first date (my sister fixed me up with her friend's brother on a blind date). I was in my bedroom getting ready. The dress that I was wearing was something that I made myself in sewing class. My mother came into my room, and looked me up and down and told me, "He sure is going to be disappointed when he sees you!" I never felt good about myself, because my mother always put me down. Whenever my hair would grow past my shoulders and people would tell me how pretty it looked, she would chop it off. She would give me a short haircut and perm it, so that I looked like a poodle. (hated going to school the next day) Now, as an adult, I understand why she acted that way. She had a very, very low self-esteem and she took it out on me. As a young adult, I was a complete mess. Started drinking alot, smoking alot, doing drugs, ect. When I turned 30, someone whom I respected alot, (and knew that I was deeply troubled) took me aside, and told me, "Donna, I want you to do something tonight before you go to bed". I want you to say the words, "Jesus Christ, please take control of my life". Well, I was very sceptical, but I told her, "well, ok, I guess". She said, "Donna, just say those words". I did say those words and let me tell you all something....it changed my life by a million percent. I won't go into all of the miracles that happened to me, but I say this, "if you want to be happy, peaceful and joyful, inside....Say The words, "Jesus Christ, take control of my life". When I tell people that I use to be very insecure and had a low self-esteem", they say, "YOU?? No Way". That's because, I have a high self-esteem now, and I don't mean that in an arrogant way....I mean, that when you have the love of Jesus Christ inside of you and you just KNOW that he is supporting you......there is no way that you won't feel good about yourself. I went from never feeling any love at all and not knowing what love was, to waking up the next day after talking to Jesus for the first time and feeling overjoyed and full of love. I would not say that I am "religious", because I don't really practice a "religion"....but, I would say, "spiritual" is more the word. If you want to be happy, say those words!!!!!!!!
You are such a strong women and you was a strong little girl I wasn’t sexually abused but I was physically abused by my father when I was young my dad has two girls and he beat us like we were nothing to him it was horrible I tried to commit suicide at the age of 16 because I felt death was better than being abused. I was screaming for help when I was a little girl my parents never said they loved me or myself we never got hugs or anything just abuse and was put down . This is why I work with children because it takes ONE adult to change a child life
You are a beautiful, strong and amazing woman to survive such terrible trauma and go on to help others. I hope you are doing ok these days. Much respect. Bless your soul.
Thanks Jo! I am really sorry I didn't see your response earlier... I have had 4 surgeries in 18 months. This makes 76 now, the last just 8 weeks ago. I am healing as well as I can for everything I have been through. Have you heard the radio interview I was asked to do last year? It's one hour long with no commercial breaks. If you would like to know more about my life and how I was able to leave my parents home I am going to post the link below for you. Thank you again for your sweet comments! Nancy :) th-cam.com/video/uZhEUgxKDjc/w-d-xo.html
I've read in the comments that people were very distracted and offended by the sounds of eating at this dinner talk, but I was so completely absorbed in Nancy's talk of abuse and advocacy, I didn't hear any of that. Thank you, Nancy Little!
Thanks Jacky I appreciate it. I never heard the noise or coughing i was too nervous about telling complete strangers something so private. I am not a public speaker, but I did it because i believe it is very important for people to know this happens more than people realize! I appreciate knowing that you were able to look past the noise! Nancy :)
I was also so into her talk that I didn’t hear any of it either! I cried for her and prayed for her! I was sexually abused by my dad but I can’t even imagine what she went through, it’s heart breaking!!
@@TeresaAlley thanks! I am glad at least one person wasn't bothered by the background noise. Thanks for your sweet words. I am really sorry what you went through with you dad. Abuse no matter who it is affects a person in so many ways that it is hard to explain to people if they haven't gone through it themselves! I am glad you took the time to watch my story! Nancy :)
God Bless you Nancy! I am amazed at how you came through it all and are now helping other children. You are a wonderful person and I believe God has great plans for you!
How can people eat through this painful life story? So disrespectful. Ms Nancy if you read this,thank you for sharing your story with us. You’ve inspired me and I’m sorry you had to go through all that you did.
Sandi yes it was unbelievable! It is one reason that I chose to speak out because people don't like admiting that Mother's Sexually Abuse their children and they certainly don't like admiting that Doctors who are sworn to "do no harm" Sexually Abuse children as well!
@@x5cat1 I am so sorry that this happened to you. I can not imagine these horrific events happening at the hands of a mother and a doctor. I am happy you're heart is pure and not evil or full of hate because of all the trauma you went through. God bless you! A warm hug sent your way!
My mother hated me. I was the plain one. I got beat if I ever sassed, which kids do, but my oldest sister was so gorgeous and could cuss my mom, and she'd make her a big dinner to please her. When she was in the psychiatric hospital, we all had to visit, but, when I attempted suicide, they refused to visit. Even my grandmother hated me. I've never known love in family. I'm so sorry what you went through, and you didn't deserve it. Please know that. Please continue seeking help. You're valuable and precious
YOU didnt deserve that. I LOVE you. Please know that they are the ones with the problem..not you! You are perfect just the way you are. And beautiful inside and out!💟💟💟
Debbie I hope that you can find the love that Jesus offers so that you can begin to heal from the horror you have went thru, I love you and God loves you more!!
That's so tearful. I wish I was there to just tell you I care when no one told that. Loving a kid is the easiest thing but seldom do adults tell a kind word to them. I am sorry the world was bad to you. Please don't hate us. We are all survivors and we must fight back forever. How are you now? Hope you found some sweet people or friends. Trust the good ones.
I am so sorry for the loss of your childhood. No one deserves this, as the ONLY people we have to protect us is our parents, especially, our mothers. Thank you for sharing this powerful and painful story.
Just this month, I have started to realize what I went through and have been having many flashbacks. My abuser (my grandmother) molested me until the age of 9 years old. I was forced to shower with her, while she would "help me," poke at me, comment about my body and my development (I hit puberty very early and was bullied for it). She was incredibly manipulating and abusive toward me, and the rest of the women she helped raise in my family. Only now am I feeling the effects of this. Thank you for speaking out about your story Nancy, it helped me to find someone that experienced covert incest with a female guardian... I don't think it is talked about enough :(
Hi Kathryn, my grandma used to beat me and stab my fingernail and toenail skin until all of my fingers and toes bled while spending long periods of time in the bathroom with me trying to scrub all the bruises off of my body in the bathtub and crying because they would not come off. So I can understand you and I want you to know that you are not alone. Also she did bake with me too and teach me musical theater which I really liked and still like, so it is a bit of a mixed bag. She kept her husband's rapes of her daughter and son a secret and then her daughter became my mother who raped and trafficked me. My mother sexually abused me too. I want to share some resources with you to help you out. First of all there is the CARDV hotline. 1-541-754-0110. I call them to get help with healing the trauma and violence I survived. Second prayer hotline, to comfort and pray with me 1-866-273-4444. Third Life Church Online to help with moral and spiritual support in chat rooms during services. Fourth Chicago Alliance Against Sexual Exploitation, they are there with lawyers to help you find a lawyer for your state to prosecute the criminal women who abuse the children because you have many years after you turn 18 to prosecute any sexual molesters and get them into jail and/or sue them. Go to the websites of the third and fourth resources. If people were paying her to rape you as part of your abuse, this means she is a human trafficker and you were a slave, so that can be reported to the National Human Trafficking Hotline at 1-888-373-7888. If your mom is now molesting other children in the family because you are no longer available to molest, you need to contact the police or CPS or the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children and tell them its about Exploited but not missing children, The number is 1-800-843-5678. Once you get a lawyer, have them find Susanne Robertson, who was raped by a nun in a girls orphanage in the 1960s and just now took her to court for it because state laws changed. She can give you tips on how to make and win a case against a female rapist. Remember, God loves you and Jesus wants you here.
I literally have no words. The neglect was bad enough but add the sexual abuse on top of that and it's just beyond anything. Thank you so much for being brave enough to share your story Nancy and for being the light in the darkness for those going through the same thing.
Thanks Lara for your sweet words! You are so very welcome. Have you heard the radio interviews? They are both 1 hour long and no commercial breaks. Each one shares more of my story and I've been asked to continue my story this fall for a 3rd installment. I will post both links at the bottom if you would like to listen to them. Thanks again! Sending love and healing thoughts to you. Nancy :) Radio Interview #1 May 2019 th-cam.com/video/uZhEUgxKDjc/w-d-xo.html Radio Interview #2 June 2021 th-cam.com/video/wQVAITUYGdg/w-d-xo.html
Nancy...Thank you so much for sharing your testimony. I was adopted into a home where I was sexually abused by my adoptive father also beginning at the age of 3 years old and later on by 2 other males in that home and then beat senseless almost every day by my adoptive mothers 3rd husband...it was share torture and terror in that home...WE are survivors!!!
A true surviver. Thanks for sharing your story with us and I'm sorry that some in the audience couldn't give you and your story the deserved respect. Gold bless x
Thanks Adriano! Appreciate you comments, but I didn't even notice the noise. I was much too nervous to even notice! lol Thanks for your kind words and I appreciate you taking the time out to listen to my life story! Nancy :)
Thank you, Karen , for telling your story. I work in an school and am very sensitive to other children's responses and attitudes. It is so hard to prove anything when the child is possibly sworn to secrecy. I just keep praying, looking for specific signs and trying to be there ...showing love and kindness. God Bless you for your mission to help other children !!! Such an inspiration.❤️💞❤️✝️
Awe thank you so much for your sweet words! They truly mean a lot to me! Just a short update... I just had my 76th surgery 6 weeks ago. My husband and I celebrated our 38th years together in May. I am still running my online group after 20 years. Have you seen my radio interview? It's posted on TH-cam too. I had a hour to share so I was able to share more of my story. If you can't find the link let me know and I will post it for you. Thanks again! Nancy :)
That’s how it was then. I would go to school with black eyes and teachers would just try not to look. This why I became a foster mom for 34 years ..... SOMEONE needs to help these children! I wasn’t impressed with any case workers, only a couple really cared about the children ...pitiful!
It's crazy ever comment is saying exactly what I way thinking! People gnawing on food and scraping their plates while this woman tells this heart wrenching story! I bet they're all social workers and are desensitized
Who gives a shit it's about the message, you people seriously need to shut the fuck up & listen to what she's speaking about, acting like you've never been to a banquet or similar event where there are simultaneous things going on, get the fuck over it
She had really been through some hard times, and it's a blessing that she made it out. Can't understand why would a mother molest her own daughter! And,why would you do this to a child!
LeNora I wish I knew the answer to that question! I also don't understand why my Dad who knew from the time I was at least 3 years old chose to walk by and act like what was going on wasn't. He told me it "broke his heart to listen to my Mother yank my sister and I out of bed at 2 am for some idiotic infraction (like not turning the toothpaste over so one can read the name)and beat us. However it didn't break his heart to get up to stop it! Both my parents have passed so I believe they will answer to God for their behavior and I just have to leave that in his hands or it would drive me crazy. Thanks for responding! Peace! Nancy :)
I think its from malignant narcissism and antisocial personality disorder (sociopathy). The mother needs "absolute power." That is what my mother who molested me told me her reasoning was for torturing my genitals. She told me that I was a vulnerable person and that my genitals were the most sensitive and vulnerable part of my body, so torturing my genitals when I was a child gave her absolute power, which she craved. She came from an abusive home where both she and her brother were raped by my grandfather and she had no power back then. She was also isolated and humiliated a lot by her mother who was covering up the abuse. She started molesting girls her own age at sleep overs which ruined all of her friendships and made her cry and feel lonely. She also was very aroused by boys at school all day long she said. She also worshipped Satan and secretly practiced witchcraft so her involvement with demons I think pushed her down that path to self-destruction and the destruction of others. Plus she had wanted to kill me since I was a fetus which she constantly screamed about and sometimes did murder attempts of me because she was mad she did not murder me when I was still a fetus. She also wanted me to be the scapegoat for all of her problems. She tried to make me her parent figure when I was 6 years old. She sometimes called me "mother" when I cared for her, and other times "husband" when she molested me. I'm female. Sometimes she introduced me as her son to other adults and other times her daughter. But mostly she introduced me as her "slave girl." Plus she could get sexual arousal out of raping me when there were not any men around to give her sexual arousal; she thought molesting me was just a form of her own masturbation. She also saw me as a source of money or food or drugs, while thinking and shouting about how she will either starve or go to jail for all her crimes etc so she routinely put me in situations to get raped by pedophiles to collect the money from them for food or drugs for herself (not me). I had to forage for my own food outside, like a street orphan. But if I tried to run away from home, police were called and I was captured and beaten by police and by her and by pedophiles and brought home to the slums to be raped some more. Sometimes she was bored with only having sex with men so she thought that gang raping children while also having simultaneously having sex with pedophile men who were gang raping us too was more interesting and fun. So she gang raped me and later my younger sister. She and they then made child porn out of the gang rapes which involves forcing some children to rape me and then adults rape me too and she thought it was "art" rather than torture, and everyone complained how I'm bleeding and crying and how can they make a lot of money with this child porn because I am supposed to smile and look happy while everyone rapes me and tears apart my internal organs. She preferred to call these tortures "orgies," which they were not because they were gang rapes. She also was lazy and wanted a slave to do her dishes and chores for her so she thought beating and raping me will keep me enslaved and doing her chores. She also used me as bait or a buffer so that she wouldn't get raped and murdered herself. She'd say "rape my little daughter and not me," and they would, thinking and saying that this is a new experience that they have wanted to try, so she avoided some rapes and some attempted murders by gunshot by having them rape me instead of raping or shooting her. She also avoided paying them for damaging their property by telling them to rape me instead of shoot her or rape her or make her pay something for the damaged property. She damaged lots of people's property lots of times. Mostly by crashing the car into it, while I was in the car trying to not die. Fortunately the car had seatbelts. I have PTSD now from all that and I can't drive because of it. But I am alive :) woohoo. Anyway taking the train can be fun and I was always a big fan of Thomas the Tank Engine :) Choo Choo! :)
If you meet anyone else who got molested, I would say have them call the CARDV hotline to describe past and current violence they survived: 1-541-754-0110. I call them a lot. I also get help from a prayer hotline, which prays for me 24-7 and their number is 1-866-273-4444. I attend Life Church Online for moral and spiritual support in the chat rooms during services. My mother sexually abused me too, in addition to trafficking me to pedophiles throughout my childhood, and adulthood. I want to give other survivors resources to help them heal from the trauma and prosecute these female criminals. Women can be put in jail for abusing you as a child even if there was no money involved or other pedophiles involved besides your incestuous mother. My mother was such a violent psychopath that it took me a long time to escape her. I did it though and we are now 100% no-contact, which I highly recommend to protect your sanity and your healing. Going no-contact works to promote your healing, even if you are homeless, which I was. Now I'm in grad school. If you talk to Legal Aid, they can set you up with a free consultation or contact someone like this to get a legal referral to someone in your state or talk to the Chicago Alliance Against Sexual Exploitation to talk to a lawyer there. Sexual abuse done to you in your childhood can still be prosecuted years and sometimes decades after you turn 18, depending on the state statutes of limitations where she molested you. The woman who molested or raped you can still go to jail and/or may be sued for crimes she did decades ago. You can talk to the National Human Trafficking Hotline if your mom exposed you to predators who paid her to do rape to you in the past. You should be able to take her and them to court and get the rapists into jail. If you don't know whether or not they paid her, I'd just report anyway and let them do an investigation. The number is 1-888-373-7888. You can also tell the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children at 1-800-THE-LOST (1-800-843-5678) to report the child molestation if you see it happening to another child in your family by the same family rapists. Also, there is your local CPS and the Police as well as this CARDV hotline. Furthermore, you might want to have them find Susanne Robertson, who was raped by a nun at a girl's orphanage in the 1960s and successfully took her to court for the abuse in 2019 because the New York state laws changed and allowed for that. Remember, God loves you. :)
Because of my job as a social worker for sexually abused children, I've learned that sexual abuse of children by their parents is commonly generational. This type of behavior may have been going on for generations. Nancy, you've stopped the cycle and protected more people than you even know. Thank you! You're beautiful!
Jehovah Jireh! Lord, LORD! This precious lady is a Queen.... so strong. Such a BLESSING to thrive in such a sadistic environment. I love you precious Sister. God is using you dear.
How sad and tragic for this brave lady her childhood has been a nightmare i can’t begin to imagine what she went through but i admire and respect her courage for speaking out about it
My heart breaks for that abused little girl. I want so badly to hold her in my arms and show her real love from a mother. It’s unbelievable how this stuff goes on and nobody notices. I pray for true happiness for the rest of your life Nancy.
Thanks Susan! I appreciate your kind words! I am fixing to find out next week when my 78th surgery will be. Have you heard any of the radio interviews and the podcast? Each one is different and I was able to share more of my story. If you would like the links let me know and I will post them for you! Blessings! Nancy :)
I think people should stop eating and start showing the respect this strong woman deserves! Bless you, and thank you for being such a poweful woman
Thank you Alexis for your kind words. It was difficult to talk about it as before this only my husband and 1 friend knew.
I agree. Put the forks down. She pauses alot cause the audience are so rude.
She was talking at a dinner so she was aware ppl would be eating. If the food is on the table don't expect everyone will stop eating but - as Nancy's story was so shocking - I'm sure some did stop to listen.
@@redmarilynn you can hear that they did! Anyway,what a strong,brave & ultimately kind lady to use her experiences of torments & become a social worker
NANCY LITTLE how can I get in touch with you pl
There is a special place in hell for people who abuse children.
I hope u are right.
How about instead of sending them to hell just stop them from abusing children (anyone) in the first place? Isn't that what a loving caring god would do?
@@Cynnas IT IS NOT GOD, IT IS IGNORANT PEOPLE TOO STUPID TO RECOGNIZE WHAT IS HAPPENING RIGHT IN FRONT OF THEM! PERIOD! I WAS FAILED BY FAMILY AND OTHERS TOO WRAPPED UP IN THEIR OWN SELFISH BS TO SEE OR DO ANYTHING! I'M SURE YOU HAVE PEOPLE JUST LIKE THIS IN YOUR LIFE TOO, YOU JUST CAN'T SEE THRU THEM ANYMORE THAN PEOPLE IN MY LIFE SAW WHAT MY MOTHER WAS DOING. OH SURE THEY KNEW "SOMETHING" WASN'T RIGHT ABOUT HER BUT "WHAT COULD THEY DO?" GOD WAS THE ONLY REASON I EVEN LIVED THRU IT AND SOMETIMES I WISH I HADN'T! IT HAUNTS YOU EVERY SECOND OF EVERY DAY! SORRY FOR YELLING BUT THIS IS FRUSTRATING AS HELL SOMETIMES. EVERYONE WANTS TO BLAME GOD NOT THE SICK FREAKS THAT ARE ACTUALLY DOING THE ABUSE BUT YEA SURE IT'S GOD'S FAULT. THAT RIGHT THERE IS THE REASON IT CONTINUES. In my mother's case, her mom died when they were very young then abused by their father. They grew up blaming God and That is why they are the way they are. They have never had love in their hearts only hate, anger and unforgiveness.
Hell is for children.
@@lizadolittle6736 Amen!
Hi, Nancy. My mother abused me sexually and in every other way, and she taught my father and older brother to do the same. My younger brothers scapegoat me and, even now, fifty years on, no one has ever acknowledged the abuse that has nearly killed me. I admire your courage.
Thanks Sarah, I am so sorry that you had to go thru the same. I was also by my Mother's father and her brother.So I know what you mean. If you ever need to talk just let me know. Ok? Sending safe and loving hugs.
Thank you Sarah. I am so sorry what happened to you. Sweeping and burying it under that rug can literally kill a person. I know it almost killed me. I was a cutter from the time I was about 7 and it continued for about 40 years or so. I have not engaged in it in some time, but it is literally how I survived.
😪💚 Stay strong xx
Sarah Colwell wow. I cried reading this. God bless.
That’s terrible
I wish people would stop coughing, eating, and making gross sounds while this brave woman speaks! Thank you for sharing your story Nancy!♥️
You are very welcome! Sorry I missed your message. I've had 4 surgeries in a year and I somehow missed responding. Have you heard my radio interviews? I've been able to share more of my story thru them. If you would like to hear them let me know and I will post the links. Blessings! Nancy :)
I don’t understand how people can casually sit and eat while this woman details these horrors. I’ve been writing in journals, notebooks, and on scraps of paper for years about the emotional abuse, physical neglect and “covert” incest by my mother. Finally I have found a writing group led by a writing Coach who is willing and able to help me organize my work. Well-meaning friends will ask: “why does this still bother you?” And then turn their attention to something else.
First of all who was the idiot who thought it was a great idea to serve food at this kind of speech?! At least wait until the end of the speech or speeches! And second of all who can eat while listening to this sad and heartbreaking story of this brave woman getting molested by her own mother!
I know, I would NOT be able to eat during this poor lady's story.
Monsters and pedophiles are able to eat during such a speech. In fact it makes them hungry... no disrespect to Nancy in any way.. but I deeply have a feeling of knowing, and it says she is speaking in front of a bunch or abuser, satin worshipers. And what is with the cardboard cut out of a black guy behind her right side.. ?? The listeners probably need it to be comfortable, symbolizing a frozen soul, a puppet, a slave to Satanist
Right?? I said the same thing
Trina as volunteers without pay, this is probably a free meal for them.
You have common sense!!I think if they face the same destiny,then they will realised.
Imagine going through all of this and coming out as a beautiful human being. Your strength is awesome and I admire your courage.
Thanks for your response. Somehow I missed it. I appreciate your sweet comments! Alot has happened since I first began speaking. I just went through my 75th surgery and I am doing well for the most part physically. I was asked to be on a radio show this summer and share more of my story. If you would like to hear it, it is one hour long with no commercial breaks. Thanks again and stay safe with all that is going on right now! Nancy :)
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The background noise is awful! No respect for this brave woman.
JJ Hawks plus someone chawing on their food.
JJ Hawks My thoughts exactly... if you respect something like this... you stifle your coughs n shit... I hope they gave her respect afterwards...
....It's a luncheon. That's pretty much what happens. And if everyone was eating there'd be way more noise than there is. And what we did hear was likely people drinking coffee or something. Hearing something like this no doubt there were people that needed to do so.
@Wendy Alien it's RUDE
@@Jayjen35 absolutely inappropriate, no excuses for that behavior.. it was rude
Most disrespectful audience imaginable. That lovely woman is opening her heart to share an extremely painful part of her life and ppl cant put down their dang fork???
Who were the inept event organizers? Speakers, then meal, then speakers. Not hard folks.
Your racism is showing...
@@heidiewert9145 😆
Or eat and then have speakers because who would want to eat after hearing stories like this?
Because we all know that white ppl love to eat they eat like they never had any food before smh
Heidi Ewert how?
This woman should have the undivided attention of her audience and not distracted by a lunch they were eating.
Not to mention the coughs, sneezes, and farts
They only got relatively quiet when she said her mother molested her
Until a few yrs ago I've never heard of women sexually abusing their own kids. I'm trying to understand the depraved state of mind it takes to see your own child in a sexual manner. and then to act on it,is NOTHING SHORT OF DEMONIC.
That "woman" didn't have a maternal bone in her body.... what a repulsive beast smh.....
Victoria, yes you are correct! She did NOT have a maternal bone in her body. I used to watch other kids and try to mimic how to get her to act like I saw other Mother's act. I never could. It took me YEARS of therapy to come to terms with the fact she couldn't ever act like them! Ty for your kind words.
Victoria Welch pornhub n lowself esteem.
@@x5cat1
I am so, so sorry Nancy.
As Mum's we love our children unconditionally, sadly not your Mum.
I also had not heard about Mother's sexually abusing their children. And I am nearly 63.
Thankyou for telling your horrendous story.
Much love to you from me in Scotland. 💗
Unfortunately it happens :( When people hear "child abuse" they often think of physical abuse, but sexual abuse comes from the same violent place of power, dominance & control.
Thank you Davina, yes it is not as common as men, but because it is so rare, many survivors live in silence with their pain. My main goal is to share that we don't have to live in silence and one can heal after it! Thanks again from me in the United States to you in Scotland. I never dreamed that I would reach people ALL over the world!
What a brave woman. Her generation is usually so quiet about admitting to suffering from abuse. She is incredibly strong.
Also, it is extremely rude to eat while a speaker is at the podium.
Thanks for your wonderful kind words. Yes unfortunately this was at a luncheon so I had no control over that part of it.
JennBott be
Barbara you don't know she probably was sexually assaulted
Yes by her imagination and lies.
+Barbara Waters why do you say that??.
Nancy, you're an amazing woman. I bet you you have helped countless children and teenagers. Many blessings to you.
Awe thank you so much! Sorry I missed your response to me. I had my 76th surgery around the same time you wrote this and I just got my brace off. I really appreciate your kind words! If just one child has a easier life then it's been worth telling my personal story. Have you listened to the radio interview I have posted here on TH-cam? It is one hour long with no commercial breaks. If you can't find it just let me know and I will post the link for you! Please and blessings! Nancy :)
@@x5cat1 --11+++@
@@x5cat1 god bless. You Nancy your amazing i hope your doing well. Happy Thanksgiving and marry Christmas
Yes she is indeed.🌹😊🌹
You get a great time with itunes on your email ✉️📨✉️ guy gggy
I couldnt eat while someone was telling their story of abuse.
Naomi Beery if the food is free 😂🤦🏾♀️
Disrespectful
Naomi Beery one slob sounds like he’s chewing rocks!!
They came to eat, obviously!!!!!
Muricans.
The clanging cutlery is aggravating to me and disrespectful to her.
Seems to be a charity dinner with guest speakers.
Annoying but it is what it is
Yes microphones were to low But her story is so powerful 🗣🙏🏻
God Bless this Lady. A horrible childhood.
So is the coughing 😷
Couldn't finish watching that because of it. I really wanted to hear what she had to say. That was very distracting and annoying!
I was put through emotional abuse by my mother. She hated me and I know that from my earliest memories of her. She loved my brothers and always let them know that. I never got one "I love you" from her, while she told my brothers that every time she saw them. I endured many beatings from her while my brothers laughed. As she lay dying, I was her one and only caretaker and I took wonderful care of her. Her sons would only stop by for a 10 minute visit once a week, yet those "I love yous" to her sons continued until the day she died. I never got one "I love you". I never had to endure what you went through, I can't imagine that, yet abuse comes in many forms, and I'll never understand how a mother can intentionally hurt their child in any way. I am so sorry you lived through that. Many hugs to you.
I'm sorry that you didn't get what you needed either. Sick, sick people having Children and unleashing hell on them. We are very strong to endure the abuse without completely going insane. No matter what has happened our Souls are ok.
I know that I never let a day pass without letting my daughter and grandchildren know how much I love them. Yet, I know I can't forgive my mother. It's always there. She has messed up my life in so many ways. And I can tell you, when she died, a sense of relief came over me, because it was over...yet the memories and bitter, mean words she always spoke to me remain.
Joan Milano you are angel I could never imagine Loving You My Mother after that
Thank you.
Joan, Why did u become her caregiver after the way she treated you? Not judging, just curious
My two siblings and I were abused by our mother for years. I know teachers, neighbors, friends, and family members knew. We were those kids. We always had bloody lips, bruises, black eyes, nail marks, you name it! We would bounce around staying with friends, Foster care and whoever else she could dump us on. Finally when I was about 11 we were permanently removed. Nancy, I hear you and I see your beautiful, courageous heart. Sadly my two siblings who were older just couldn’t cope. They are both alcoholics, drug addicts and mostly homeless. Both have lost their children. We are survivors, you and I. Thank you for sharing. I relate more than you will ever know and I love you for overcoming in your battle💕❤️
Jamie I am SO very sorry for what you went through! Just as you said you "get it" probably more than most do. When I began therapy the first question my therapist had was "how much did your parents drink"( usually referring to my Dad because he was so violent. Yet neither parent drank alcohol ever! My Dad was just a angry man one minute and loving and joking the next. How are you doing now? Do you have contact with your family now? Would love to talk more to you, but only if you would be fine with it. You can reach me at x5catlvr@yahoo.com
Nancy :)
I'm sad for yr sisters. I can relate to them. It's so easy to give up. Being strong and driven and posetive has been hard. I am so glad you are being a strong roll model. ❤️🌅🙏
Sending tons of love to you
So happy you survived and are thriving! Prayer works, and leading by example, but don’t forget, there’s power in words-you can speak over their lives. Positive things, even scriptures. Thank you for sharing.
We're thrivers who have survived the worst
The audience is loud with forks and slurping and choking. What kind of people would just be so rude.
They are at catered lunch with a presentation. People eat at those.
Hi I missed your message at first and I wanted now to let you know this was a planned luncheon on Child Abuse. No one knew what I was going to speak on when I got up to speak. The audience was on dessert before I ever got up to speak. They didn't know ahead of time what I was going to speak about. Sometimes when people hear something hard they want to do something while hearing it to destract them from what they are hearing. It didn't bother me at all that people were eating. I never even heard it, I was too nervous to focus on that lol I was new to telling my story and I just didn't want to faint! lol Thanks for watching my story! Nancy :)
Nancy Little I'm sorry you had to endure abuse and I'm glad
the eating wasn't a distraction.
@@dantieblackbfly5443 Thanks, it wasn't! I was much too nervous to let the eating bother me. lol People also need to remember when people hear something really difficult they do things to distract themselves. It keeps them a bit busy when they hear something that is hard for the brain to identify with. As a Social Worker I understand that. So, no it didn't offend me in any way. Thanks for watching my story! Nancy :)
yes, very rude!
I was adopted as a baby. My adopted mother molested and emotionally abused me for years. I remember telling a therapist at age 11, but she just ignored me. The only person that did anything was a former juvenile probation officer. He reported my adopted mother to DFCS when I was 14. DFCS investigated, but did nothing else. If a child is telling you they are being abused; please don't ignore child.
I agree. Report, believe, be responsible to helpless kids
Children are to be seen, and heard, and BELIEVED!!!!
I am so sorry that happened to you, I unfortunately understand your pain and agree 100% that children should always be believed and that all other adults, teachers, family members should ALWAYS say something even by the slightest sign that something seems off or not safe.
I'm so sorry you went through that..you are a strong brave lady.🙏🏼
If you need a friend I'm here.
Omg I was thinking the same thing why can all I hear is people eating so disrespectful this woman is pouring her heart out and all these pigs can do is stuff there face nice
I know right? How can you even eat while hearing her story. Unbelievable !!!
@ Lynette fuller..they are having a luncheon not a prayer meeting..
Omni-directional microphone setup is all wrong. Podium mics should always be insulated uni-directional with all external mics shut off! This way the speaker has the floor.
All of who can eat while this poor woman speak about abuse sexuality her mother are crazy
Crazy? How about insensitive low lifes!
I was thinking exactly the same thing?!
They are so noisy why can't they be quite coughing clearing their throats
I was going to say the same thing. For the love of God people, stop shoving your faces full of food and have some common courtesy. This woman is brave for speaking out. Give her some respect.
I was just thinking this!
I wanna know who the hell can EAT through this!?!!?!!
Pigs
THANK YOU! I would have dropped my spoon the second she said abuse....... Come on now!
Jennifer Flanagan
Because they are molesters themselves. They are the real sexual predators.
Sick people
Deer Heart I know, right !!! Lmbo 😂😂😂....I laughed at your comment, because it's so true. I imagine ONLY pigs Would have the nerve...smh 😵
I swear some people have NO IDEA what respect is!! when a speaker is talking you sit still, be quiet and listen!! people hacking, coughing. shuffling, moving around, clanking dishes...wtf?!
Jennifer S. It’s a bad microphone
I would save it for those who would throw tomato 🍅 or untastels!
That could be kids making that noise!
I was thinking the same thing..pretty crappy!
The people clearing her throat or coughing I am not trying to bash people but it’s usually smokers I have two family members that do this every time we go somewhere and it’s quiet or even not I have grown to always carry peppermint’s and cough drops with me because it drives me nuts when they do this and I’m trying to listen to something
How disturbing this lady’s childhood was. The betrayal came from all directions. The guilt and shame associated with child abuse can last a lifetime. Children need protection and when help never comes they stop asking, the signs are there but children eventually stop crying when they learn that no ones coming for them. I understand
Lisa- Bug Showalter I understand, too. Just wanted to say that and I hope you have healed.
Melissa G Melissa G I try everyday and thank you so much. Healing spirit for you as well
@@AugustBug56 TY so very much for your words! It means so much that you watched and responded! Nancy :)
@@horrorgaming-bj4xm Actually statistics show that the majority of Sexual Abuse happens by straight people. My Mother doesn't fall in any normal category that I know of though lol. Seriously I only talked about that part because I wanted people to know what I went through. Not because the majority of Sexual Abuse happens by gays or bisexual women. It doesn't. The majority happens from heterosexual women. My Mother shouldn't have ever married my dad. However that was what women did back then.
Yes it can last a lifetime and for a while I thought it always would! Until I found a awesome therapist at RSAC here where I lived (Rape & Sexual Assault Center) and she helped me over a long period of time to help put me back together. It wasn't just dealing with all the nightmares and flashbacks, but working on trust, boundaries! So many basic things MOST people take for granted I had NO clue about. I had NEVER been allowed to even shut the door even to go to the bathroom, so when my therapist first asked me about boundaries I said what? I know it sounds silly now, but things most people take for granted like just the feeling of safety at home I didn't know about. It took me years of therapy to finally understand why I would do JUST about anything to NOT be at home with my husband. I wanted to be away from the house doing things. I finally realized it was because I thought being at home meant I was in DANGER! I didn't know that being at home could feel even remotely safe or pleasant even. So I had to do a lot of work on other things besides just work thru my memories of what happened with my "Mother".
Whoever is coughing....LEAVE
Shari A Hand around the Water.
How do you hold in a cough without choking
Maliza Maria You cough once and then get up and leave.
@@strawberryseeds They went on to burping, gagging, passing gas...horrendous table manners!
Stacey Kersting if you heard all that you need a hearing test 🙄
This woman has endured a lot of hardships she's very strong
Thank you Undrya for taking the time to watch my story and for responding! I appreciate your sweet comments!
Nancy :)
I am listening to this Lady talk about the abuse that she had to endure and I am at a lost for words.
I am numb and cold, I feel detached from my body, I know that humans are evil, but when you listen to anyone tell you about their lives, their are no words to describe, how you feel listening.
Also knowing that anyone was made to live through that kind of life and survived it and had to endure so much pain, how can you ever forget?
@@marieali2745 i can't forget, but even if I wanted to I would not. Most people don't understand that, but for myself it is simple. If I forgot then I would not be able to work with other survivors. I just went through my 75th surgery. I am dealing right now with a broken foot due to the RA destroying my bones so much they just snap with no warning. EVERY moment I live is a reminder of where I came from. For me as long as I live I need to voice what happened because until survivors( and yes I am a survivor in the true sense of the word) like me come forward more children will have to endure what I went through and that breaks my heart. Even today people don't want to admit some Mother's can Sexually and Physically torture their children and that IS what my Mother did. I kept my story as "G" rated as possible, but my Mother was a sick person. Thanks for taking the time to watch my story.
I was asked to share more of my story this past year on a radio show. If you would like to hear more I am going to post the link below. It is a hour long with no commercial breaks. Thanks! Nancy :)
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Nancy Little hello. I too have gone through similar harsh experiences. Domestic violence , sexual abuse and more . I tired to forgive my abusers but whenever I have really hard days ( almost everyday ) struggling with chronic pain and emotional and mental health issues hindering me to be able to work well and enjoy the simple things of life , I Than am taken down memory lane . I end up hyperventilating , having bad anxiety attacks and days I just lay in bed doing nothing much ! How can I say I have forgiven when the affects of all the abuse lingers in me and I feel so disabled !
@@Neemi030 you be willing to talk with me privately? I don't want to give u a pat answer nor just a quick and hurried one. If so please email me at x5catlvr@yahoo.com
I hope to hear from you! Blessings! Nancy :)
The greedy banging, and clanging of dishes is very rude and disrespectful!
There were lots of speakers that day and it was a luncheon
Usually that’s the type of noises you hear during a luncheon. Maybe you missed that part it was a luncheon with guest speakers who spoke during the luncheon.
bwahaha so true!
Yes it is respect her .What is wrong with you ppl .Put the food down .Bless you mam 🙏✌💗
@@shawn170204 I go to NA meetings they are not loud like that !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
As a survivor of incest myself, i applaud your courage to tell your story.
My God Bless You.
You are a survivor of child abuse. Or of rape. You're not a survivor or "incest". Incest can be consensual + between 2 adults. Like if two people that are both 18+ and are like brothers/cousins decide to have sex, that might be weird, but that's not abuse. So use the correct terminology. Have a great day
@@notyourbusiness961 be it rape or abuse the fact that it was done by a family member makes it incestuous. So yeah!!
God bless you xxx
onelastchance Same - followed years later by repeated severe anxiety attacks.
@@dukeofpreston3228 your concept of God should be revisited
Your last name is Little but as a Survivor, you're a Giant!! God Bless You!!!
Awe you are the very first person to say that to me! Thank you so much! Blessings and love to you! Nancy :)
God bless you too ! That was a beautiful sentiment ❤️
@@x5cat1 How is the emotional healing happening,any kind of deliverance?
@@justinamusyoka4986 I am doing very well. Just a quick update since this video was taken six weeks ago I had my 77th surgery.
My husband and I will celebrate 39 years of marriage in May.
I was in therapy for many years, but I am doing extremely well now. I occasionally still have a few nightmares, but that's always around the time I have surgery coming up.
I still run my online group for survivors of abuse. It's going on 21 years now.
Have you heard the radio interview I did last year? It's one hour long with no commercial breaks. It goes into more detail than this video. I can't post the link right now because I am on my phone and I am not home. However I will post it tomorrow when I get home. Thanks for the questions! Sending blessings to you! Nancy :)
@@x5cat1 I'm happy to hear from you,feel your love and concern for other humans by sharing such stories which are usually hidden in many families.
My own mum ,now 80 years old and I'm her first born in a family of 9,subjected me to early years of abuse in many ways and when i remind her when we are dealing with other issues,she says i should have forgotten,i shouldn't be bringing up such sad stories!!
My mum used to cheat on my dad with his young brothers and neighbours in our house,the same people who would abuse me and from that time onwards,everywhere i went,people and especially relatives would abuse me.It became a bad cycle with many repercussions.
So from your own observations you've seen talking and discussing this things help alot into ones healing?
I wish I could give her a big hug. I was abused very bad too. She's an amazing and strong women.
Thanks very much for your sweet comments. It means alot to me! Nancy :)
Nancy Little. NANCY, GOD BLESS YOU!! YOU ARE TRULY AN INSPIRATION!! THANK YOU FOR BEING A LIFEJACKET TO ALL THOSE CHILDREN THAT YOU HAVE HELPED WHO HAVE BEEN ABUSED.
@@claireoconor7986 Thanks Claire for your sweet kind words. It means alot to me. I just did a interview today for the radio and I will be adding the link on my TH-cam channel at the end of the week. It is about a hour long and I hope you will listen to it! Thanks for watching my story! Nancy :)
@@claireoconor7986 Thanks Claire! I appreciate your sweet words! I continue to work with survivors and probably always will. Thanks for responding! Nancy :)
Sami somehow I missed your post due to my husband almost died during the time you posted. I try to respond to everyone so I am very sorry I missed yours. If you ever would like to talk please let me know and I will give you a way to email me. I am sorry you were abused and if you want to talk I am here. Thanks and blessings your way! Nancy :)
Who was the genius that thought serving food at this kind of event was remotely a good idea!??
Sickening...
I would not be able to eat.!!
Exactly....this is awful. I would not be able to stomach any food while listening to her story. That was bad timing for eating. 😣
She deserved undivided attention
The lunch could wait 15 mins later
Esp for someone who was failed by her own parents and society in childhood
Food is a part of every gathering isnt it?Wakes after funerals weddings etc..
This is no different.
OMG, Yes! Insane!
@@coreyrees7037 Yes, after the funeral, after the wedding!
How can people even eat when listening to the things she is saying.???!!!!
MY VERY FIRST THOUGHT !!!
she was the speaker at a luncheon. were they supposed to sit there and not eat their food?
watchgoose
Whoever organized this luncheon has terrible judgement. And yes, normal people will sit there and not eat their food after hearing about horrific abuse.
nicola watkins serve the damn food after her speech outrageous!!
I would not be able to eat. 😣
I was a social worker for almost 15 years. You are absolutely correct. Early intervention is the key. It is EVERYONE’S responsibility to report any sign of abuse or neglect. Too many times people don’t voice their concerns to the authorities. On the other side, social workers are sometimes so inundated and overwhelmed by their caseload that children can fall through the cracks. Agencies need to hire more people. Thank goodness there are people like you out there who are willing to reach out and volunteer. No one understands what a comfort it is to have someone just listen to these children. Bless you. ❤️🙏🏻
I wish My Childhood Special Ed study team done their job & checked on me especially the last three years of public school. I remember as a 5/1/2 not talking getting PTSD early on a school nurse had the freaking nerve to call CPS on my parents all cause my father made a mistake on sleep meds . 20 half years ago. Then There’s was no escape from abuse in the enclosed classroom not allowed to cry when missed someone told to cut it or d” be put in time out . Then at 7/1/2 two years later thought I was free from abuse only to not have it last more than 8 months. After that my 3RD aid had me miss my 2ND grade classes I missed a felid trip cause of her & child study team . Then by 9 My last & final aide very abusive to a point I had my first full blown panic attack at 9/1/2 . I do see counseling.
And another aide abused another one
Many councils have laid off social workers caused by lack of funding, that's why the ones left are floundering, overwhelmed and often resign their position and seek another career path through stress. All the while there's an explosion in mental illness.
OMG as a mother and a daughter, this is something I can’t even begin to wrap my brain around! I’m practically speechless, as I just don’t have the words to describe how horrific this is!!! Bless you for speaking out in the hope of helping others. You are truly an amazing lady!
You can't wrap your head around it because you are NOT mentally ill.
Thank you Suzi! I appreciate your comments. Yes it IS hard for most people to understand this. It is why it is so important to talk about it though. Silence is what keeps survivors afraid to speak up. When I first started therapy I had to put what happened to me down in a journal and send it to my therapist( this was way before email). I was afraid to see that "look" of shock on her face, so it was easier to write it out and let her read it before our sessions. It took many years of therapy and working thru the abuse for me to be able to stand in front of a audience and share my story. I hope it will help others to know that it was NOT their fault! I am sorry I missed your response earlier...I have had four surgeries in 18 months and I missed your response. Please accept my apology! Nancy :)
Dinner and a show. So disrespectful. Cramming that food down.
@@kathybenson9382 It was not a show. It is customary for luncheons to have the guest speaker begin when dessert is being served. They do this to keep the day from being five hours long! No one knew what I was going to be speaking about. They knew it was my life story but nothing beyond that. I was not offended in any way. If anything it helped me because I was so nervous to be sharing something so personal. I was just trying not to throw up in front of several hundred people! Lol
I hope you are able to look past the noise and just focus on my story. Thanks for taking the time to watch my story! Nancy :)
I feel the same way. I just can't imagine.
Could you imagine eating through this story, how disrespectful. And it sounds like they were really going to town stuffing face like wow
Misty it was a luncheon and typically at luncheons the guest speaker begins speaking as dessert is being served. That is what happened here. I was asked this past year to be on a radio show where I was able to go into more of my life. It is a hour long, with no commercial breaks. If you would like to listen here is the link. Thanks so much! Nancy :)
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Agree
So that's what bothered you the most about this video Mother Theresa? Lol
@@jonlaroche5239 , the disrespect of coughing all the time.If you really need to cough that much, you should leave the room
just get over it and get to the heart of her story for heaven's sake
My stomach has cramped SEVERAL times just listening. The fact that people in that room CONTINUED to raise a fork full of food to their disrespectful mouths (!) had me wishing to hear someone begin to choke to death. They should all be glad that I wasn't in attendance, bc there most certainly would've been an interruption and EVERYONE called out. -I will never forget your story.
Branham I didn't even hear the noise or the people eating. lol I hadn't told my story often to strangers so I was so nervous that I just wanted to get through my story without throwing up lol thanks for listening to my story! Nancy :)
Thanks for watching my story! It was at a luncheon and the people didn't know ahead of time what I would be speaking about. Thanks for watching! Nancy :)
@@x5cat1 💖💖💖💖
Thanks Brandon for your wonderful comments! I'm STILL surprised so many people have watched my story! I never heard the noise! I just was trying to not faint! Lol I wasn't sure how people would respond so it was probably a good thing people were eating because had they all been staring at me I might have fallen flat on the floor! Lol I wish a wonderful Easter! Nancy ;)
NANCY LITTLE God bless you dear!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Nancy is amazing for standing there + telling her story! The utensils scraping on plates however was so distracting. This brave woman spoke on horrors afflicted to her + how she wants to help others. Yet, people couldn't stop eating for less then 15 mins + give this woman their utmost attention. Rude, unnecessary + hurtful. Really bothers me. If I heard it, then Nancy absolutely heard it. Was another form of being ignored. She IS a thriver + powered thru it nonetheless. People please think about your actions + words a little more in such sensitive situations!!
I’m assuming it was at a luncheon. Really the feeding frenzy should have ended before her presentation started. That was poor planning on behalf of the sponsor.
@@ndobbins58 Agreed.
@@ndobbins58 Yes it was and I understand most of the audience had never heard about Mother's that sexually abuse and I believe that this is the "nervous coughing"" you hear in the background. Sadly there was no way to edit it out. However I've shared more of my story through multiple radio interviews. There is NO coughing in it. If you would like to hear more of my story just let me know and I am happy to post the links for you! Blessings! Nancy :)
Nancy you are so courageous!! I'm so sorry you went through all this abuse & pain. You have a beautiful soul. Your strength is very inspirational. Bless you.
I dont understand how someone can eat during this speech.. I would want to throw up from the lump in my throat. Omg..this is sad...may god bless you
her story turned my stomach and people are slurping away 😣
Is that the same god that allowed it to happen?
Ana Santana
I had these thoughts, too!
ste rupert - also her parents did it and allowed it. And her neighbors, her teacher and her family
Exactly! I feel sick
Ms. Nancy, you are a beautiful soul. Thank you for sharing your story and helping others. You are very strong and brave. Glad you found love and someone you can trust. God bless.
Nancy your story touches me because both my sister and I were sexually abused by our mom and yet I’m just now talking about it freely at my age of 37 years. So yes it needs to be spoken of more. In the past 2 years my sister and I have been able to speak to each other about the events that had taken place with our mom. It’s such a taboo subject.
Gloria I am so very sorry to hear what you and your sister went through! I am glad you and her are able to talk about it. That is such an important step in your healing! If you ever need to talk give me a shout and I will give you a email where you and I can talk. Peace my friend! Nancy :)
Damn. We're so used to the men being the perpswe forget women do this too.
Never hold your peace
Hi Gloria 💕 Thank you very much for your words. You are not alone. One kiss from Europe. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Mother daughter sa is sooo freakin hot 🥵
I'm sorry, but are people EATING during this testimony?!?! I keep hearing silverware clinking and chewing. 😳 pay this woman some respect, stop moving and listen.
Absolutely heartbreaking . You are a brave and remarkable woman .
Thanks Sarah, I appreciate your kind words!
if no one has said their sorry. I am. I'm sorry. I live with the horror you did to. I'm a broken adult. Be well Ms. Nancy, be well.
Hope you get some help Tracy, It is out there! Peace my friend!
I've been hurt so many times by reaching out for help. Once a woman that was writing stuff down turned and asked me if there was anyone who hadn't raped me. It was humiliating. I still think about it from time to time. Soothe yourself first. Build yourself up, develop a relationship with God and yourself. Then if and when you go be very careful when you start looking. A woman at a Hospital who was making appointments got into an argument with me and said some nasty stuff. Some times sick people are drawn to these kind of professions just to abuse you. Even Dentists can be cruel and narcissistic. It seems once you've been victimized as an infant, it puts a mark on you that leads to repeated abuse. Be aware of this. Kids get molested in group homes that their Moms go to to escape abuse. Protect your Children and yourself. God bless everyone who reads this.
I wish you well Tracy!
I hope everyone here gets the help they sorely need. 💗
Lori Miller I would love to email you. I have been through abuse myself. I wish there was a group of abused people that we could all talk.
💔 prayers for every child who is suffering abuse🙏
AMEN and amen amen amen and AMEN
Ms. Little --
Thank you so much for sharing your story !
Your statement :
"Early intervention means that child will have ONE DAY LESS of abuse" will NEVER leave me.
Again, thank you !!
Thanks L Haa, I very much appreciate you letting me know what has stuck with you, I know I am NOT a public speaker. I had NEVER told my story before and it was very unnerving to share something so personal. However, I knew I needed to and based on all the comments I have recieved I am glad I did! I appreciate you reaching out. That means the world to me! Peace my friend! Nancy :)
@@x5cat1 wow congratulations on sharing your story for the first time ever
She is so right, people do need to intervene early. Such a powerful speech. Chronic abuse does damage ability to feel safe, which in turns destroys the ability to trust.
Absolutely right
Seriously! STOP EATING! STOP COUGHING!
SHOW SOME RESPECT!
Well the coughing would be hard if they have a cough , but the eating is vile
Trent Pertillar pig sounds’ grunting! Ugh
Trent Pertillar. the coughing sounds like an old man.
It’s because the audience are the sexual predators.
I think your Mother and doctor were Satanists. I'm so glad you met Robert and had a daughter. You are a soldier of light and a true hero💕
One of the 11 principles of Satanism is to protect small children...
So, no... Those "people" are worse than beasts.
Satanists arent any worse or better than christians/catholics. Both have radical extremeist sides but if you look up the "rules" of satanism its actually pretty chill. Id rather party with satan and all the rockstars and outcasts of society than live in gods cookie cutter world of "perfection". God created sin and if he wants to punish us for falling into temptation then hes just toying with us. Like putting candy infront of a toddler and punishing it for reaching out when you left it there to begin with
I'm a satanist and was molested and raped by my own mother as a child like Nancy. I would never hurt a child, thus it is morally wrong and is against my religion.
My thoughts exactly. At least Nancy found love kindness and compassion.
I was so focused and absorbed in her story I didn't even notice the noise of people eating. I only realised that when I read the comments
Same for me!! I was totally focused on every word to hear what was going on in the background
Same here!!
Pizzalover same here!
Me either........only heard her... horrible
Same here
I was abused by a woman as well, and until recently I didnt understand the damage that abuse has on us as adults. You are right, no one really discusses abuse by female predators and the damage it does to your relationships as you get older. Thank you for sharing. This is the first time in 40 years I took the time out to listen to another woman's testimony about a similar experience. Today you have helped me. Again, thank you for sharing and helping others like you and I.
I hope you are well and happy.
Some heros don't wear capes.... And talk about Angels among us!! Ms. Little's story is a TRUE TRUE testament to, Some people who rise above and stop being a victim, and start living as a survivor and has turned something that was so SAVAGELY bestowed upon her into something beautiful AND STILL be of service too others! That my friend... is a life not wasted
Thank you Pauline. I am sorry I missed your comment. The past 2 months have been a bit crazy! I truly believe God has me here still for a reason. There is no reason I should be alive after 72 surgeries, some I almost died from, yet I am still here. I believe this is the reason as well as volunteering and helping others still.
So beautiful..what a thoughtful, articulated comment!
TOTAL SOCIAL MISFITS SMACKING THEIR LIPS AND CLANGING FORKS WHILE THIS POOR WOMAN IS POURING HER HEART OUT, DON'T EVEN HAVE THE WORDS...
We all agree. No need to shout.
@@gussetblaster6786 shout from the rafters as these adults were purely disrespectful.
Exactly what I thought. Like how awkward
Why were they even serving food when she was talking it couldn't have waited until after?
Show some respect you ignorant shits . Did you have NO compassion for Nancy at all ?? Disgusting
I am honored to know you through our little group on Facebook. I am humbled and inspired by your bravery and courage. You are truly an inspiration to so many.
Which little group ?
In tears. This poor woman deserves a crown. I just want to hug her for being brave enough to tell her horrific life story. I grew up being abused by my stepfather in every way. Its a liveing hell. God Bless her.
And god bless you
A hero , not a victim .
Yes to all the comments. That sniffling, gulping, smack ing of gums, and loudness of utensils clanginging together is GROSSSSSSSSSS!
There’s a word for this phobia. I cannot bear the sound of clinking utensils, so unnecessary to be noisy. Breathing sounds, oh, and gum chewers send me absolutely crazy
These people are chewing like fucking pigs in a farm. Disgusting and uncivilized.
It is called Misophonia. My triggers are snoring, whistling and repetitive sounds. I have a violent response to them. It makes me angry and I can feel it building up in me.
She's at a conference. There is usually a speaker at meal time.
@@SpaceCadet2569 Yes whistling does it for me, I didn't realise it had name.
Those who work with child abuse victims say that sexual abuse is far more devastating to children than verbal or even physical abuse. I believe this is because sexual abuse has a spiritual component. We have souls, we have spirits. Sexual abuse is particularly demonic and causes the child to be assaulted in his or her very core being. Those who are into the dark side know these truths. That is why sacrifice of the virgin, for example, has been seen globally with pagan religions. Yes, they sacrifice others, too, but an undefiled virgin is considered to be the best. Heaven help the children, and all of us who live in such a world!
What pagan religions do that?
@@robokill387 All you had to do was Google "Sacrifice of the virgins in ancient cultures" or something similar. Learn to do your own homework and research. You are now on mute as it is best to post to those who use some critical thinking. Learn to do that.
My family was way into the demonic as well as being sexually abusive and abusive in other ways to me.
@@robokill387 there's the Baal temple prostitution of children from long ago, something still going on like this in Southeast Asia
@@lemurlover7975 Julian Assange, through Wiki Leaks, reported unimaginably horrific things being done to children by the "elites." Then there was Jeffrey Epstein's private plane dubbed The Lolita Express. As Solomon said, "There is nothing new under the sun."
I have prayed for your complete healing. I do hope that you have accepted - as abused children often need to understand - that the abuse was no way whatsoever your fault.
And speaking of Epstein, since Bill Gates was reportedly on that plane and associated with Epstein in general, I want to give some timely info there. Long story short: Don't take Gates' vaccine. Here are some reasons why.
Here is some info on Bill Gates and his horrific, amazing cash cow, vaccine:
th-cam.com/video/qVYWKyslti4/w-d-xo.html This doctor produced vid tells what I think the scare tactics are really moving the unsuspecting and too trusting populace toward.
th-cam.com/video/TY-vLrz9XCc/w-d-xo.html I personally think that when Gates talks here about "the final solution" through his vaccine program, that he is deliberately (probably gleefully) revealing what he is really up to. He counts on the naive and trusting to not think it was just some strange slip of the tongue. The phrase "the final solution" was, of course, made famous through Nazis who made "essential services" famous. Of course the "need"for "essential services" was used to cull and control the populace.
Gates and others working with him want to put invisible tattoos on children and others to track their "health" and vaccination records. Now what are those tattoos reminescent of from last century?
He is so interested in decreasing population, particularly in the vulnerable African countries. Uh, who asked him to be a depopulation czar for our planet? No one. Why don't Bill and Melinda start depopulating with themselves? Oh, wait. We are supposed to assume that they are god like beings who get to make decisions for human "population control" in the world, while they are are above such consideration. Another underlying assumption appears to be that people in Africa, especially, need to be stopped from reproducing more black people.
The need to depopulate is a eugenicist myth. If all the people in the world were to stand together in one place, they would fit into a large city easily. All one has to do is fly over this country and other countries, including even little but highly productive Israel, and see the vast amount of empty, unpopulted, space that is out there. Bill and Melinda are not benefactors of humanity. They are its enemies.
This less than one minute vid, with the smirks on Bill's & Melinda's faces, is incredibly creepy: th-cam.com/video/ZmP6_gy-MIE/w-d-xo.html I'll quote a You Tuber here about this vid. "The fact he smirks and claims the second one will get attention means this is orchestrated."
This woman got everything she ever deserved, a loving husband and beautiful family, despite all the hell she went through and continued to face, she’s a strong and admirable woman. I look up to her so much! God bless you
Thanks Jessica! When you first responded my husband got very ill and almost died. He was in the hospital for 5 weeks and went thru 6 surgeries. Thankfully he is ok now, but I wanted to say thanks for your sweet comments and I am sorry it took so long to respond back. Nancy :)
You are a survivor. You are a STRONG advocate NOW, for those vulnerable children who CANNOT speak. I'm so sorry this happened to you. God bless you ma'am.
Trent Pertillar you are not only a survivor you are a #thriver..
How could a mother sexually abuse her children?
Especially a daughter! This brave woman became a social worker despite her torment as a child.
Especially a daughter...? I think you mean any child.
How could any parent do that to their child/children in general??? This makes me so sad 😞
This is my problem. People don't think it is as bad for boys as it is for girls. Respect everybody equally.
This is my problem. People don't think it is as bad for boys as it is for girls. Respect everybody equally.
Nie Belangrik Exactly what a vile comment! “Especially a daughter” wtf is that supposed to mean
There are no words to describe your beauty and bravery.I am honored to have stumbled across your page.Congratulations on not only being a survivor but also a success story.I survived...and I guess we'll see about the rest.💙
Hi Astin ty so very much for your kind words. I am glad you survived. If you ever want to chat. Let me know ok?
NANCY LITTLE You are more than welcome and I most definitely will.❤
I am so terribly sorry you had that life! You never got to know & feel ‘A Mother’s aLove’
You are beautiful
Every single adult that recognized the signs of child abuse and ignored them was definitely held accountable. At some point their conscience killed them at night. But THANK GOD you survived to tell this story and save many lives! God will continue to use you!!!
Thanks Rose and Carrie. I hope it helped to listen to the videos. We CAN heal from all of the abuses that we went through. It takes hard work, but so very worth it!
Christina I LOVE you darling!
Love,
Nancy
Dear ladies, I hope by talking about it with other abuse victims you can find a little solace. I so wished you had been brought up in happy normal homes. You all still bear the scars and you will never forget the pain, torture, humiliation and sadness, not to mention the injuries you and many other children suffered. Unfortunately, you were not helped by the teachers who witnessed your sorry conditions every day at school. One comforting thought though, is that your children will have had a happy childhood with parents who love them to bits. Bless you all
I would love to volunteer. I just moved to South Jersey but still close to my home city Philadelphia.
I was abused by my stepfather and spoke up about it when I was 14. He did end up going to prison for it. I had a lot of people like you on my side who believed me and I would love to be there for someone else.
@@RaisingHellAgain "The rest of us" have not generally suffered from this kind of abuse. And a presentation is not "over and over." Part of this kind of problem involves people like you who make it hard for a person who has gone through this to tell the truth about it.
Bless you strong lovely caring woman. I’m so sorry for what they did to you, through all that you deserve allot of peace in your life and mind from now and I hope you are finding that as you deserve all the love in the world. Thank you for sharing ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@redmarilynn Thanks! I have chosen to speak for one reason only. As long as us survivors keep quiet there will be NO change! No changes that people will continue to look as us as freaks. They will have the WRONG belief that Mother's don't Sexually Abuse their children.! There will be NO intervention for victims. So this is why i speak out. I did NOT have a "Sexual Relationship" with my Mother like people who don't understand this abuse. I was raped repeatedly by my Mother. So I speak out in hopes that more people will become aware that this happens! Thank you VERY much for watching my story and responding!
i dont know whats worse, the scraping of plates or the constant coughing through this story, good luck and best wishes for a happier life now xx
kellisha dodds agreed
Its not a professioally set up venue..no stage area that would be better microphoned away from the close quarters of the group. It probably wasn't intended for this type of forum but these days everything goes up. Not necessarily the best of times(dinner!) for such a story..but probably helped her feel more comfortable being her first time speaking of this publically..(I read here that she had only spoken of it to her husband & her counsellor).. If all eyes had been totally focused on her, she may not have got through so well.
And anyway..we heard her clearly.
@@yvonnerahui8729 This was at a Child Abuse Luncheon and no it wasn't really set up for this, but it is ok. I managed to get through it for the most part without coming apart emotionally or physically. Just a month earlier I had gone thru my 58th surgery and basically was learning to walk again. So, not only was I nervous about telling complete strangers something so personal I was also walking for a very short time again!
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My heart goes out to you sweet lady. How mortifying. God Bless you
"Mrs. Nancy believed me" 😭😭😭 And Robert, God bless you for being such an awesome husband and standing by Nancy all this time. Men like you are few and far between ❤️
Thank you Starling Swallow! A month ago I had my 76th surgery and he was right beside me. I am very aware God blessed me with a awesome man! I hope you are doing well! Have you heard my radio interview I was asked to do this past year? It is one hour long with no commercial breaks. I am going to post the link below if you would like to hear more. Thanks again! Nancy :)
th-cam.com/video/uZhEUgxKDjc/w-d-xo.html
God is so good for blessing her with him💜
@@ebonyejohnson Yes he blessed me with a great man. I was picky and I was not going to marry a man like my Father was. I did not want to be stuck in a miserable marriage like my Mother was. It took her 55 yrs to finally get out of it. I am blessed with such a wonderful man! Nancy :)
I'm glad that everything that you've been through did not break you but it made you. It made you stronger, Kinder and smarter but you never went to go become someone that you are not. You held up your head and you straighten up your crown and you kept going like a queen you are💜❤💚💙💛💗
Thank you so much for being strong. Thank you so much for sharing your story . God bless you....💚💙💗💜❤
This is 5 yrs old but you made something beautiful & angelic out of your torment. Helping other children is one of your life purposes & those children need you & won't ever forget you. If you're a child reading this & the same thing is happening to you, tell somebody. Don't keep it a secret or be in any fear of what they're telling you so you'll stay quiet. They're the ones afraid, afraid they'll get caught. Make it stop today.
The clanging of the dinnerware, plus the slurping, throat clearing, and coughing of the audience was repulsive.
Shockingly so! 🤢
Well at least you got something out of the video. Wow that's your comment...very empathetic of you...lmao
I SO agree with you! So rude and annoying.
That's fat Americans for you
L U N C H E O N; Eating = what people do at a L U N C H E O N!!!!!!!!!!!! Speaker or no speaker!
I've sadly watched my grandkids go thru all kinds of abuse. No matter how many times my husband and I contacted DCFS they paid no attention to us. Finally, we were able to obtain custody of the children. However, even today they still suffer.
Me and my husband are hoing thur the same situation
I'm so happy for you and your grandkids that you are the guardian because u saved them .
Thank you for saving them from that turmoil. I waited my entire childhood to be saved. 💞
Thank God for people like you.
Yeah they dont give a damn about Children they should look into, instead they take kids from who they dont need. Or steal kids for other prouposes for money ext.. everything is corrupt.
I can't understand how demons live amoung us and people breed with them
This is one of the saddest stories I've ever heard. You're strong and you're a survivor. Im glad you made it through it.
The sad thing about this is the fact that i can imagine children that are still going through this.. This lady has ben through too much her whole life. Just focus on the Lord. My prayers are with you.
thank you :)
I hope your parents and that "doctor" are rotting in a jail somewhere. My prays are with you and all children of abuse and neglect.
My mother told me that she was using a diaphram when she got pregnant with me and that she and my father were going to be divorced.(so, she did not want any more children. She made it very clear how much she did not want me, by never giving me any hugs and never saying anything positive to me. It was always, "You get more and more stupid, everyday. You can never do anything right!" My parents never taught me anything. They just expected me to know everything automatically...for instance, when I was 11 and ironing a blouse for the first time, my mother said, "you're not doing that right!" She pushed me away, and told me that I was "useless." I remember, sitting down to dinner and starting to eat with my family. I ate some of what my mother cooked and said, "mommy, this tastes really good!". Her response was, "then shut-up and eat it!!" When I was fifteen and going on my first date (my sister fixed me up with her friend's brother on a blind date). I was in my bedroom getting ready. The dress that I was wearing was something that I made myself in sewing class. My mother came into my room, and looked me up and down and told me, "He sure is going to be disappointed when he sees you!" I never felt good about myself, because my mother always put me down. Whenever my hair would grow past my shoulders and people would tell me how pretty it looked, she would chop it off. She would give me a short haircut and perm it, so that I looked like a poodle. (hated going to school the next day) Now, as an adult, I understand why she acted that way. She had a very, very low self-esteem and she took it out on me. As a young adult, I was a complete mess. Started drinking alot, smoking alot, doing drugs, ect. When I turned 30, someone whom I respected alot, (and knew that I was deeply troubled) took me aside, and told me, "Donna, I want you to do something tonight before you go to bed". I want you to say the words, "Jesus Christ, please take control of my life". Well, I was very sceptical, but I told her, "well, ok, I guess". She said, "Donna, just say those words". I did say those words and let me tell you all something....it changed my life by a million percent. I won't go into all of the miracles that happened to me, but I say this, "if you want to be happy, peaceful and joyful, inside....Say The words, "Jesus Christ, take control of my life". When I tell people that I use to be very insecure and had a low self-esteem", they say, "YOU?? No Way". That's because, I have a high self-esteem now, and I don't mean that in an arrogant way....I mean, that when you have the love of Jesus Christ inside of you and you just KNOW that he is supporting you......there is no way that you won't feel good about yourself. I went from never feeling any love at all and not knowing what love was, to waking up the next day after talking to Jesus for the first time and feeling overjoyed and full of love. I would not say that I am "religious", because I don't really practice a "religion"....but, I would say, "spiritual" is more the word. If you want to be happy, say those words!!!!!!!!
I was sexually abused by my step-father, but that is a different story.
Zaraa Zaraa, You're welcome and I am soooooooo happy to hear that you have found Jesus and that your life is alot happier!
Yay!!!
JESUS💝
Amen, dear sister. "When your mother and father forsake you, I will take you up."
Bless you, Gayle!
You are such a strong women and you was a strong little girl I wasn’t sexually abused but I was physically abused by my father when I was young my dad has two girls and he beat us like we were nothing to him it was horrible I tried to commit suicide at the age of 16 because I felt death was better than being abused. I was screaming for help when I was a little girl my parents never said they loved me or myself we never got hugs or anything just abuse and was put down . This is why I work with children because it takes ONE adult to change a child life
Jesus loves You , rejoice
Bless you love, I hope you thrive sis.
Wish I could reach through and hug you. You're beautiful. Strive to thrive and prove they dont have control over you anymore.
Xoxoo
You are a beautiful, strong and amazing woman to survive such terrible trauma and go on to help others. I hope you are doing ok these days. Much respect. Bless your soul.
Thanks Jo! I am really sorry I didn't see your response earlier... I have had 4 surgeries in 18 months. This makes 76 now, the last just 8 weeks ago. I am healing as well as I can for everything I have been through.
Have you heard the radio interview I was asked to do last year? It's one hour long with no commercial breaks. If you would like to know more about my life and how I was able to leave my parents home I am going to post the link below for you. Thank you again for your sweet comments! Nancy :)
th-cam.com/video/uZhEUgxKDjc/w-d-xo.html
@@x5cat1 Thank you. I will listen. I wish you much strength in your continued recovery. :-)
I've read in the comments that people were very distracted and offended by the sounds of eating at this dinner talk, but I was so completely absorbed in Nancy's talk of abuse and advocacy, I didn't hear any of that. Thank you, Nancy Little!
Thanks Jacky I appreciate it. I never heard the noise or coughing i was too nervous about telling complete strangers something so private. I am not a public speaker, but I did it because i believe it is very important for people to know this happens more than people realize! I appreciate knowing that you were able to look past the noise! Nancy :)
I was also so into her talk that I didn’t hear any of it either! I cried for her and prayed for her!
I was sexually abused by my dad but I can’t even imagine what she went through, it’s heart breaking!!
@@TeresaAlley thanks! I am glad at least one person wasn't bothered by the background noise. Thanks for your sweet words. I am really sorry what you went through with you dad. Abuse no matter who it is affects a person in so many ways that it is hard to explain to people if they haven't gone through it themselves! I am glad you took the time to watch my story! Nancy :)
God Bless you Nancy! I am amazed at how you came through it all and are now helping other children. You are a wonderful person and I believe God has great plans for you!
How can people eat through this painful life story? So disrespectful.
Ms Nancy if you read this,thank you for sharing your story with us. You’ve inspired me and I’m sorry you had to go through all that you did.
Having a speaker like this when a meal is being served is not a good idea. I wonder why they did it like this?
They hungry
Bless this woman who has lived through so much pain.
What’s so strange about this is her Doctor joining in on the molestation of her as well. Unbelievable!
Sandi yes it was unbelievable! It is one reason that I chose to speak out because people don't like admiting that Mother's Sexually Abuse their children and they certainly don't like admiting that Doctors who are sworn to "do no harm" Sexually Abuse children as well!
So many Doctors and Dentists are narcissists. It's been studied.
Sandi did the get help judgement sanitarium or jail. it's a female Nassar,(±{
Did this doctor abuse other children? How did your mother introduce this to her? Did the doctor molest other children?
@@x5cat1 I am so sorry that this happened to you. I can not imagine these horrific events happening at the hands of a mother and a doctor.
I am happy you're heart is pure and not evil or full of hate because of all the trauma you went through.
God bless you! A warm hug sent your way!
My mother hated me. I was the plain one. I got beat if I ever sassed, which kids do, but my oldest sister was so gorgeous and could cuss my mom, and she'd make her a big dinner to please her. When she was in the psychiatric hospital, we all had to visit, but, when I attempted suicide, they refused to visit. Even my grandmother hated me. I've never known love in family. I'm so sorry what you went through, and you didn't deserve it. Please know that. Please continue seeking help. You're valuable and precious
YOU didnt deserve that. I LOVE you. Please know that they are the ones with the problem..not you! You are perfect just the way you are. And beautiful inside and out!💟💟💟
Debbie I hope that you can find the love that Jesus offers so that you can begin to heal from the horror you have went thru, I love you and God loves you more!!
That's so tearful. I wish I was there to just tell you I care when no one told that. Loving a kid is the easiest thing but seldom do adults tell a kind word to them. I am sorry the world was bad to you. Please don't hate us. We are all survivors and we must fight back forever. How are you now? Hope you found some sweet people or friends. Trust the good ones.
I am glad this woman was strong enough to give back.
I am so sorry for the loss of your childhood. No one deserves this, as the ONLY people we have to protect us is our parents, especially, our mothers. Thank you for sharing this powerful and painful story.
Ty for responding! I hope that it opens up people's eyes to know this does happen. I wishyou well! Nancy :)
All that damn smacking his food , coughing, seriously!!!
That man needs to go outside
get over it, this video is not about what bothers you...
Her parents should be in prison!
They should have been done with there meal in 10 minutes come on
I know right!
UGH!
Just this month, I have started to realize what I went through and have been having many flashbacks. My abuser (my grandmother) molested me until the age of 9 years old. I was forced to shower with her, while she would "help me," poke at me, comment about my body and my development (I hit puberty very early and was bullied for it). She was incredibly manipulating and abusive toward me, and the rest of the women she helped raise in my family. Only now am I feeling the effects of this. Thank you for speaking out about your story Nancy, it helped me to find someone that experienced covert incest with a female guardian... I don't think it is talked about enough :(
Kathryn MacDonald I am so sorry for your pain x
Sending you love and peace💖
Hi Kathryn, my grandma used to beat me and stab my fingernail and toenail skin until all of my fingers and toes bled while spending long periods of time in the bathroom with me trying to scrub all the bruises off of my body in the bathtub and crying because they would not come off. So I can understand you and I want you to know that you are not alone. Also she did bake with me too and teach me musical theater which I really liked and still like, so it is a bit of a mixed bag. She kept her husband's rapes of her daughter and son a secret and then her daughter became my mother who raped and trafficked me. My mother sexually abused me too. I want to share some resources with you to help you out. First of all there is the CARDV hotline. 1-541-754-0110. I call them to get help with healing the trauma and violence I survived. Second prayer hotline, to comfort and pray with me 1-866-273-4444. Third Life Church Online to help with moral and spiritual support in chat rooms during services. Fourth Chicago Alliance Against Sexual Exploitation, they are there with lawyers to help you find a lawyer for your state to prosecute the criminal women who abuse the children because you have many years after you turn 18 to prosecute any sexual molesters and get them into jail and/or sue them. Go to the websites of the third and fourth resources. If people were paying her to rape you as part of your abuse, this means she is a human trafficker and you were a slave, so that can be reported to the National Human Trafficking Hotline at 1-888-373-7888. If your mom is now molesting other children in the family because you are no longer available to molest, you need to contact the police or CPS or the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children and tell them its about Exploited but not missing children, The number is 1-800-843-5678. Once you get a lawyer, have them find Susanne Robertson, who was raped by a nun in a girls orphanage in the 1960s and just now took her to court for it because state laws changed. She can give you tips on how to make and win a case against a female rapist. Remember, God loves you and Jesus wants you here.
I literally have no words. The neglect was bad enough but add the sexual abuse on top of that and it's just beyond anything. Thank you so much for being brave enough to share your story Nancy and for being the light in the darkness for those going through the same thing.
Thanks Lara for your sweet words! You are so very welcome. Have you heard the radio interviews? They are both 1 hour long and no commercial breaks. Each one shares more of my story and I've been asked to continue my story this fall for a 3rd installment. I will post both links at the bottom if you would like to listen to them. Thanks again! Sending love and healing thoughts to you. Nancy :)
Radio Interview #1 May 2019
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Radio Interview #2 June 2021
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Nancy...Thank you so much for sharing your testimony. I was adopted into a home where I was sexually abused by my adoptive father also beginning at the age of 3 years old and later on by 2 other males in that home and then beat senseless almost every day by my adoptive mothers 3rd husband...it was share torture and terror in that home...WE are survivors!!!
Cheers to Healing! Yes, survivors we are. Has it affected you in your life with trusting people?
Cheers to Healing! I am so sorry you had to go through that. I am so proud of you. I hope you are holding your head up high. You are loved❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
A true surviver. Thanks for sharing your story with us and I'm sorry that some in the audience couldn't give you and your story the deserved respect. Gold bless x
Thanks Adriano! Appreciate you comments, but I didn't even notice the noise. I was much too nervous to even notice! lol Thanks for your kind words and I appreciate you taking the time out to listen to my life story! Nancy :)
Thank you, Karen , for telling your story. I work in an school and am very sensitive to other children's responses and attitudes. It is so hard to prove anything when the child is possibly sworn to secrecy. I just keep praying, looking for specific signs and trying to be there ...showing love and kindness.
God Bless you for your mission to help other children !!! Such an inspiration.❤️💞❤️✝️
Oh my word. This is so incredibly tragic, heartbreaking. It makes this ladies empathy and achievements so much more heroic, God bless you.
Awe thank you so much for your sweet words! They truly mean a lot to me! Just a short update... I just had my 76th surgery 6 weeks ago. My husband and I celebrated our 38th years together in May. I am still running my online group after 20 years. Have you seen my radio interview? It's posted on TH-cam too. I had a hour to share so I was able to share more of my story. If you can't find the link let me know and I will post it for you. Thanks again! Nancy :)
That’s how it was then. I would go to school with black eyes and teachers would just try not to look.
This why I became a foster mom for 34 years ..... SOMEONE needs to help these children! I wasn’t impressed with any case workers, only a couple really cared about the children ...pitiful!
It's crazy ever comment is saying exactly what I way thinking! People gnawing on food and scraping their plates while this woman tells this heart wrenching story! I bet they're all social workers and are desensitized
Who gives a shit it's about the message, you people seriously need to shut the fuck up & listen to what she's speaking about, acting like you've never been to a banquet or similar event where there are simultaneous things going on, get the fuck over it
I think it was a fundraiser, so lots of people with $$ who don't care.
She had really been through some hard times, and it's a blessing that she made it out. Can't understand why would a mother molest her own daughter! And,why would you do this to a child!
LeNora I wish I knew the answer to that question! I also don't understand why my Dad who knew from the time I was at least 3 years old chose to walk by and act like what was going on wasn't. He told me it "broke his heart to listen to my Mother yank my sister and I out of bed at 2 am for some idiotic infraction (like not turning the toothpaste over so one can read the name)and beat us. However it didn't break his heart to get up to stop it! Both my parents have passed so I believe they will answer to God for their behavior and I just have to leave that in his hands or it would drive me crazy. Thanks for responding! Peace! Nancy :)
Amen
I think its from malignant narcissism and antisocial personality disorder (sociopathy). The mother needs "absolute power." That is what my mother who molested me told me her reasoning was for torturing my genitals. She told me that I was a vulnerable person and that my genitals were the most sensitive and vulnerable part of my body, so torturing my genitals when I was a child gave her absolute power, which she craved. She came from an abusive home where both she and her brother were raped by my grandfather and she had no power back then. She was also isolated and humiliated a lot by her mother who was covering up the abuse. She started molesting girls her own age at sleep overs which ruined all of her friendships and made her cry and feel lonely. She also was very aroused by boys at school all day long she said. She also worshipped Satan and secretly practiced witchcraft so her involvement with demons I think pushed her down that path to self-destruction and the destruction of others. Plus she had wanted to kill me since I was a fetus which she constantly screamed about and sometimes did murder attempts of me because she was mad she did not murder me when I was still a fetus. She also wanted me to be the scapegoat for all of her problems. She tried to make me her parent figure when I was 6 years old. She sometimes called me "mother" when I cared for her, and other times "husband" when she molested me. I'm female. Sometimes she introduced me as her son to other adults and other times her daughter. But mostly she introduced me as her "slave girl." Plus she could get sexual arousal out of raping me when there were not any men around to give her sexual arousal; she thought molesting me was just a form of her own masturbation. She also saw me as a source of money or food or drugs, while thinking and shouting about how she will either starve or go to jail for all her crimes etc so she routinely put me in situations to get raped by pedophiles to collect the money from them for food or drugs for herself (not me). I had to forage for my own food outside, like a street orphan. But if I tried to run away from home, police were called and I was captured and beaten by police and by her and by pedophiles and brought home to the slums to be raped some more. Sometimes she was bored with only having sex with men so she thought that gang raping children while also having simultaneously having sex with pedophile men who were gang raping us too was more interesting and fun. So she gang raped me and later my younger sister. She and they then made child porn out of the gang rapes which involves forcing some children to rape me and then adults rape me too and she thought it was "art" rather than torture, and everyone complained how I'm bleeding and crying and how can they make a lot of money with this child porn because I am supposed to smile and look happy while everyone rapes me and tears apart my internal organs. She preferred to call these tortures "orgies," which they were not because they were gang rapes. She also was lazy and wanted a slave to do her dishes and chores for her so she thought beating and raping me will keep me enslaved and doing her chores. She also used me as bait or a buffer so that she wouldn't get raped and murdered herself. She'd say "rape my little daughter and not me," and they would, thinking and saying that this is a new experience that they have wanted to try, so she avoided some rapes and some attempted murders by gunshot by having them rape me instead of raping or shooting her. She also avoided paying them for damaging their property by telling them to rape me instead of shoot her or rape her or make her pay something for the damaged property. She damaged lots of people's property lots of times. Mostly by crashing the car into it, while I was in the car trying to not die. Fortunately the car had seatbelts. I have PTSD now from all that and I can't drive because of it. But I am alive :) woohoo. Anyway taking the train can be fun and I was always a big fan of Thomas the Tank Engine :) Choo Choo! :)
If you meet anyone else who got molested, I would say have them call the CARDV hotline to describe past and current violence they survived: 1-541-754-0110. I call them a lot. I also get help from a prayer hotline, which prays for me 24-7 and their number is 1-866-273-4444. I attend Life Church Online for moral and spiritual support in the chat rooms during services.
My mother sexually abused me too, in addition to trafficking me to pedophiles throughout my childhood, and adulthood. I want to give other survivors resources to help them heal from the trauma and prosecute these female criminals. Women can be put in jail for abusing you as a child even if there was no money involved or other pedophiles involved besides your incestuous mother.
My mother was such a violent psychopath that it took me a long time to escape her. I did it though and we are now 100% no-contact, which I highly recommend to protect your sanity and your healing. Going no-contact works to promote your healing, even if you are homeless, which I was. Now I'm in grad school.
If you talk to Legal Aid, they can set you up with a free consultation or contact someone like this to get a legal referral to someone in your state or talk to the Chicago Alliance Against Sexual Exploitation to talk to a lawyer there. Sexual abuse done to you in your childhood can still be prosecuted years and sometimes decades after you turn 18, depending on the state statutes of limitations where she molested you. The woman who molested or raped you can still go to jail and/or may be sued for crimes she did decades ago.
You can talk to the National Human Trafficking Hotline if your mom exposed you to predators who paid her to do rape to you in the past. You should be able to take her and them to court and get the rapists into jail. If you don't know whether or not they paid her, I'd just report anyway and let them do an investigation. The number is 1-888-373-7888.
You can also tell the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children at 1-800-THE-LOST (1-800-843-5678) to report the child molestation if you see it happening to another child in your family by the same family rapists. Also, there is your local CPS and the Police as well as this CARDV hotline.
Furthermore, you might want to have them find Susanne Robertson, who was raped by a nun at a girl's orphanage in the 1960s and successfully took her to court for the abuse in 2019 because the New York state laws changed and allowed for that. Remember, God loves you. :)
Because of my job as a social worker for sexually abused children, I've learned that sexual abuse of children by their parents is commonly generational. This type of behavior may have been going on for generations. Nancy, you've stopped the cycle and protected more people than you even know. Thank you! You're beautiful!
This is absolutely unfathomable. God bless and keep you.
Jehovah Jireh! Lord, LORD! This precious lady is a Queen.... so strong. Such a BLESSING to thrive in such a sadistic environment. I love you precious Sister. God is using you dear.
Laura Butler AMEN
I love JEHOVAH
How sad and tragic for this brave lady her childhood has been a nightmare i can’t begin to imagine what she went through but i admire and respect her courage for speaking out about it
@@maureengillies9495 Thanks darling! Yes it was a nightmare, but I am doing so much better now!
Oh let's have dinner while she tells her abuse story. WTF???
Nancy you are so inspirational. Thank you for speaking out!
My heart breaks for that abused little girl. I want so badly to hold her in my arms and show her real love from a mother. It’s unbelievable how this stuff goes on and nobody notices. I pray for true happiness for the rest of your life Nancy.
Thanks Susan! I appreciate your kind words! I am fixing to find out next week when my 78th surgery will be. Have you heard any of the radio interviews and the podcast? Each one is different and I was able to share more of my story. If you would like the links let me know and I will post them for you! Blessings! Nancy :)
Nancy, my heart goes out to you and I pray you continue to help children in such hellish circumstances. You are brave, strong and extremely valuable.
Thanks Lupe I will always continue to help children and I also help adult survivors as well. Thanks for your kind words! Nancy :)