Yes, the reason I came to this video is b/c I work in a kitchen at a nursing home, and I've served food to a really nice woman who I would usually see in her room behind a table, or in bed...but today I saw her in a wheelchair and I asked someone I work with whether or not when this woman came to the nursing home if she had both her legs or not, and my co-worker told me the lady did come to rehabilitate after having an amputation (about 2 weeks ago). So in this situation I've just talked to her about food and her family and stuff, so I don't know if I should say, "I'm sorry, I didn't know what you just went through?" or what....Thanks for any suggestion, I thought your video was really good.
I have a funny story for you... A few years ago I worked at a plumbing and electrical supply house and an older man and his wife came in looking for a tool to cut PVC pipe. Ever the salesman, I pulled my favorite pair of cutters off the shelf and delivered the best sales pitch ever. The main points being, it works well, it's surprisingly cheap, and best of all you can operate it 100% with ONE HAND. And I was very animated about it because it genuinely is one of my favorite tools, now, years later I am a plumber, carpenter, and electrician for a living and this is a tool i use all the time. So throughout my little sales pitch the man is just as overly enthusiastic about the tool as I am and I keep bragging on how it's so easy to use it with one hand and finally he stops me. He says, "that's great! I only have one hand!" And then he pulls his stump out of his pocket where I hadn't even noticed it hiding this entire time. My jaw hit the floor, my face turned red, the man grinned ear to ear and his wife was rolling in the floor laughing. I said, "I swear I had no idea!" His wife said, "we know, that's what makes it hilarious!"... True story, I can't make that up.
In my personal experience, the one exception to the "ask before you help" rule is doors. Doors are 100% always the WORST. Like who decided all public doors need to weigh 97 pounds, have a handle 9 feet in the air, and swing closed like a bear trap?
Skeets McGrew Okay this actually made me laugh out loud, that description of doors. That was LITERALLY the coffee shop I went to the other day, I braced myself and was like, “well....if I die by door-squashing, then that’s how I go”. 🤣 I should correct myself in this video, you’re right - doors are the exception. I hold doors open for people no matter who they are...I think it’s more of a capability thing like when I’ve seen people try to randomly carry bags for people they don’t know or help with normal tasks that amputees or other folks are capable of doing but they, as a random person, seem to think we are incapable of. Like when I’m walking great on crutches and someone is like “omg let me get you a wheelchair!”....maybe that’s just a pet peeve for me but I’m like no, I’m perfectly capable of getting myself here to there, if I need help I’ll ask. But the doors...yeah, you are spot on! 🙌🏻
Yeah! Doors are evil! I open doors for my friend who is using a wheelchair. Or things like moving a chair out of the way so he can sit at a table. In the beginning I wasn’t sure, but I figured it’s just a sign of respect and consideration that I would do for anyone. With other stuff I ask though, I can see how that would be very annoying
Footless Jo 🤣 That would be quite the news report. "Tonight, the story of a young TH-camr's life cut short by a danger nobody expects: door squishing. Are doors a hidden killer waiting to put YOUR child in the emergency room? We talk to local door expert Hubert Dunklemeister on ways to keep your family safe, tonight at 11."
Exterior doors need a little effort to open so the wind doesn't open them. Of course automatic doors are an exception but they're more expensive and are sometimes triggered by someone walking past or standing close by. Revolving doors solve the wind problem but aren't very useful for the disabled.
Natasha Morrison thank you! I feel like this kind of applies to like...most personal things. I’ve had to learn it the hard way in other places in my life - over the past few years I’ve become an open book with mostly everything in my life because I realized there was healing for me in speaking. If someone wants to know someone respectfully they are welcome to it, I love real conversations. But on the flip side I have to stop myself from asking really personal questions with acquaintances because I remind myself - most people, for good reasons, don’t feel that way. I’m a work in progress with this too but feel like I’ve definitely gotten better over the years, lots of growing left to do I have NO doubt. 😉
@@FootlessJo That's great! Talking helps me too sometimes, but that doesn't mean that I want to talk about it to everyone (or sometimes the timing is off like you said). And I think it's natural and totally ok to be curious about someone else, but like you said we have to respect their right to keep things private if they so choose. Thanks for making all these videos!
Yeah I agree most days I'm in a good place but somedays I just want all the attention to go away and let me enjoy my life. I lost my leg (twice on one leg) in 2015 and everyday is different got me. I gave up trying relationships because of the pity factor from my partner. Just remember I love for ppl to open doors for me even b4 so please continue. If you want to know about my leg ask first it's proper manners. Please refrain from treating me like I cannot do something unless I ask for assistance. I don't mind the offer I mind the concept that I cannot live normal.
I just literally on your last video that I just watched asked if it was OK to open the door for you. And one minute later this video popped up so I watched it. Because if someone’s hands were full and they had both her legs and both their arms and hands and everything I would literally open the door for them why wouldn’t I open the door for you because I’m a nice person
Ah I missed your question haha, but I did answer it! ;-) So at this point, I SO appreciate it when people open doors, etc...just like I always have! Its a courteous thing to do, I'll still do it for other people when I can. But I know people will try to take other people's bags from them because they think they can't carry them or aren't capable, and I think that's the only difference - thinking someone isn't capable which isn't great, vs. being a kind and considerate person which is lovely!
I appreciate people holding doors for me but sometimes they don't have room to hold the door without obstructing the opening. My physical therapists were aware of this and made sure I learned how to get through the door on my own (assuming I wasn't carrying something while using a cane). When I'm using a walker I'm worried about rolling it over someone's toes if they're in the doorway while they're holding the door for me. My walker isn't very heavy but it could still hurt someone wearing sandals or shoes with soft uppers.
Today I discover your channel...i am french so..sorry for the few faults...I wanted to thank you from giving hope and positives vibes to every persons who passed through what you have been through. I don't have any disabilities but I find your channel really encouraging and inspiring. You release so much joy to everybody watching you, you are so positive !! How are you doing this ? 😄 I wish you a lot of happiness because you deserve it and I look forward to seeing your next video !
my grandmother lost her leg 2 weeks ago due to a diabetes complication. Thanks God this popped up on my recommendations. Such an inspiration. Now I already have an idea on how to talk to my grandmother.
I was searching around on TH-cam and I found your channel and I love it! I love how positive you are and I’m glad that your getting through this. It’s always been a fear of mine to loose a body part and your a true inspiration to me. As a 13 year old, you always care what people think about you and I love how you don’t care what people have to say. I love your videos and I thank you for sharing your journey ❤️
This video speaks to me as a person with a disability SO MUCH! Your answers and comments are exactly how I feel, and I've had my disability my entire life. So you're not alone.
Drew, thank you so much. That is really affirming for me to hear! I know I’m sort of a recent addition to the disability community (well, chronic pain for years counts, but this is a new and more visible side anyway!), I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one who feels like this. It’s good to know I’m not alone. 😊
I came from your "How I said bye to my leg" video and I subscribed in the first 10 seconds because you are so funny and nice; you have such a positive opportunity to all the obstacles thrown at you... I love you
I have no idea how I ended up on your channel but well..can't stop watching your videos. You seem to be such a funny, and happy woman and this is truly inspiring. Thank you for sharing who you are and also sharing your story!
Lol Made me laugh because it reminded me of the story of the little old lady who was standing on the side of the street and some well-meaning guy grabbed her arm and brought her across to the other side which upset her because she had just finished crossing the road on her own LOL
Couldn’t agree with you more Jo. I’m a bilateral below knee amputee and a certified peer Visitor and I like to talk about my amputations, especially with children, who ask the best questions. Sometimes I think their parents think I will go into some long gross description on how I lost my legs, but I always keep it on their level. Also always ask permission. Quick story, not long after I lost my first leg I fell in the bathroom coming out of the shower and my dear wife rushed in to help me. I told her that I needed to figure this out on my own and if I really needed help I would let her know, she completely understood and I did figure it out on my own. My 2 cents!
The world needs to see this and not only can this be applied to amputees but it can also be applied to other people with various disabilities. You are always so eloquent when addressing these topics! If you were to ever do a Ted Talk I would be sure to be there!❤️😄
Chen Greenman awww Chen thank you so much!! I think I told you this before but that’s literally one of my top three life goals - Ted Talk! Gotta dream big, right? 😉 So thank you so much! I think you’re absolutely right, this applies to anyone - anyone we think is “different” than us in any way, I think. Thank you!
@@FootlessJo I don't even think you have to dream big I full heartedly believe you will be doing your own Ted Talk very soon and until then I will be cheering you on from the sideline! 💕😆
i got one of your videos on my recommended and ive watched so many and it's really nice because youre educating about amputation while releasing entertaining content. thanks :)
This is really helpful. Im an author and i want to write a book with a main character being an amputee, and i want to write it correctly and be sensitive but also chill about it
I had a life altering surgery in 2016 and a revision in 2017. It wasn’t an amputation but it was Scoliosis and then The Crankshaft Phenomenon. For me it changed everything and now I carry a pillow around and can’t do certain things but people who don’t know me just judge me for carrying a pillow...but the few times people ask why I tell them and instantly they don’t judge!
OPINION OF ANOTHER AMPUTEE. I am so glad to see this video. I have so many stories of peoples ignorance dealing with disabled people. Two major rules with disabled people, ALWAYS ASK if they want your help. and ALWAYS get permission. I don't mind if people ask what happened to me, I usually make up stories and leave them laughing, after the made up stories I usually tell the truth. Most people with injuries and disabilities that have had them a long time don't mind talking about it, the more time that goes by the less sensitive we are about it.
This is very informative. It seems like common sense and something we should all know but it’s so easy to speak up without thinking and be offensive without meaning to. It’s nice to have a plan for when a moment arrives.
Hi my name is Tanika and I was 8 went my right foot was amputated I am 11 now and I just wanted to say thank you so much for posting your videos they really help me keep doing what you do I hope you have a good rest of your day.
I use a wheel walker thingy, no balance don't walk properly, have been accused of being drunk, the first thing people say is Oh I'm Sorry. Sorry for what is my usual reply, not one will ask what is my problem, disease, affliction, if they took time to ask iwould be happy to tell them my story about my 12 year battle with MS, Multiple Sclerosis, most people dont have a clue on what it is or how it can effect people in many different ways. I think its fantastic that you are sharing your problems with the world..
This video is so important! Thank you for sharing this with people. Personally I don't any amputees but it's always essential to learn more about these type of situations!
Hey, your videos make me smile every time I see them come up😁 I've actually been wondering about this topic and this video is super helpful, thanks so much for making it!
It sucks when people know you are a strong person, think "hey she's fine" AND do not check on you at all. Not text, no call, nothing.... when actually all I could use is a hi how are ya. Our society is hell bent on independence and social correctness people have forgotten how to be compassionate human beings. Thanks for you so positive helpful views always brings a smile
Suzanne Brewer I hear you - truly. I always see those memes going around Facebook that say like “check on the strongest person you know, they may be fighting the hardest” and things like that...and it’s so true. We think that projecting being “put together” or strong means that someone actually is...that isn’t true. Especially the strong ones need people to call, e-mail, text, say hi. 💜
Rachel Carson-Lecuyer Thank you sooooo much! 😀 I seriously appreciate that SO much! One video seems to have hit the TH-cam algorithm jackpot haha and a lot of people are sticking around, I’m so dang grateful and honored! 💜
Hiya, I have only just come across your channel and am truly fascinated not just by your story but also by your fabulous attitude to life. It has given me a huge sense of perspective on my own issues, which startled me when I watched the first video of yours that I came across (your goodbye tour you gave to your leg). I shattered my foot 7 years ago in a horse-riding accident, and have so far had 4 operations but don't see a future where I don't have more. Currently dealing with zero proprioception in my foot but constant pain. Being able to feel pain yet my brain not actually knowing where my foot is = WEIRD AS HELL! I've become famous at uni for my ability to literally fall on anything - If I hit even a mildly slippery or bumpy surface with my left foot first, I'm straight on my ass. Simultaneously hilarious yet frustrating. The original accident meant I screwed my A-levels up so couldn't get into vet school out of A-levels which was my dream, so ended up having to do a foundation degree which I scraped the entry requirements with only 2 A-Levels (at a C and an E) and work it up to a bachelors degree. Finally managed to get into Vet School (Royal Veterinary College, London) and have got 2.5 years left until graduation. I'm absolutely terrified that my career that I am working so so hard for might get taken away from me if my foot continues to get worse. I had to fight to get cleared by occupational health just to even start at vet school. When you were faced with more operations (pre-amputation, before it was even discussed), were you able to stay positive or motivated? When you were faced with so many operations stretched out ahead, or not really knowing what else to do, did you have any good coping mechanisms while you waited on doctors/CT scans/MRIs/X-rays/all the other bullshit appointments I'm assuming you dealt with, too? Sorry for the essay - I haven't come across a channel like this before on TH-cam and all the advice I'm getting from my peers is just "get more painkillers" or "just go bang on the doctors office and demand better treatment". Neither of which help. (Naproxen = not my friend anymore. Neither is codeine). Any tips on motivation or coping mechanisms would be wonderful, but don't worry if you never figured any out! I know I haven't!
@@Xenobat You hit then nail on the head! Sometimes I feel find just muddling along and dealing with it, but other days all I want to do is curl up and cry from sheer frustration at being in constant pain. Being heard helps us feel human again, normal. Thank you for your understanding words, they really do mean a lot.
@@ThatSophie95xX You're definitely right about feeling human again when we're heard! I'm glad my words helped and I genuinely hope things get better for you!
I hold doors open for all types of people and they hold it for me, so I think that's just a convenience thing. But a Veteran on post was a double leg amputee, he was elderly, was having trouble taking his bags off the checkout and onto his chair, so I said could I put it on there for you? And he said, that would be dandy. So I did we walked out together and I just took him to his car, it was hot and he was tired, put all his stuff in his truck he hopped in I put his chair where he told me and shook his hand and we went on with our day. I think asking before you put your hands on someone or their stuff is just common courtesy, whether they have all or none of their limbs you dont just touch people. Unless someone is falling or asks me I wouldn't just insert myself into their space.
Differently abled person and I can so relate to this video! The help or not help dilemma is an interesting one. On the one hand I want to be a strong, independent woman. On the other hand, sometimes I really do need a little assistance. I absolutely agree with asking if the person needs help with whatever task they are working on. I know from experience that sometimes un-needed help can result in more pain. As another poster commented, I agree that opening doors are kind of my exception to the rule. And that is because I am a big fan of opening doors for all people just because it's polite and I find it to be a way to connect with someone. That probably sounds weird... but I have noticed how many people walk around and avoid eye contact. So I kinda love looking someone in the eye, saying can I get that for you?, and giving a welcoming smile. Also, so many doors weigh a ton and it is absolutely ridiculous.
This is a sketchy situation. I don't mind people asking but more often than not I'd rather they didn't. Some with a traumatic amputation often are triggered (I hate that term but it is what it is) by telling the story. I try to remember that I was curious before my incident in Afghanistan and I try to remember that when people stare at or ask me questions.
You are so incredibly brave 💙 I have no idea what it feels like to have to get a amputation but your so positive through it and it kinda gives me hope for what I’m going through. Again it’s not as serious as what has happened to you but I’ve been growing up with some type of illness and we still have no idea what’s going on and I’m getting progressively worse or whatevs but seeing you being so positive makes me so happy. I love you and your story 💙
Thank you so much for sharing, Jo! This video is super informative and empowering to all types of limbed people to engage with one another with a friendly and considerate way :)
I haven't actually done my amputation yet but I can understand the looks and questions. I have a fairly large skin-graft on my right hand and my index finger is bent at 90 degrees, the most awkward is when I go to shake someones hand they always either change their mind or apologize for it. Like it's really not that big of a deal, but I can understand why it would make people feel uncomfortable. Thank you though for being so open and sharing your experiences.
I just watched your story on how it happend and i looked at my leg and huged it..😬 i think its amazing how confident you are.. !! And im totally subscribing
I decided to change my attitude about help early on, People I know, know I'll ask when I need Help. When people I don't know want to help (like holding open doors) it becomes an opportunity to allow others to be charitable. If it's not something that is a hindrance to me, why not let others have the good feeling of helping a stranger that appears could use a liitle help and kindness.
I stumbled across your channel some days ago and I find you really inspirational! I know it's not the same as an amputation, but my partner has usher syndrome and his field of view was decreased to under 10 degrees in a very short time (and he has been hard of hearing since his childhood). And sometimes, although the people are nice, they think the only thing going on in his/our lifes is his disability. And sometimes they just stare all the time when I am leading him around. It's just strange. But I think they often just pity him. They don't have to. We live an amazing life and our life is not just that.
Haha, and I am watching your other video about killing oneself when getting an amputation. We also heard of people they would kill themself if they had usher syndrome. That is just so bizarre! People can stand through more than they believe.
Thanks for sharing your wisdom and inspiration. You reminded me that as people, we are all different. You also reminded me of the importance of respecting your fellow person-give respect to others and you’ll receive respect from them in return. I came to your channel because I have a “long distance friend” who will be undergoing a foot amputation tomorrow. At this time, we’ve been communicating with each other via text-this is as per his wishes. He mentioned this to me last week. I’m not sure if it’s the right thing to text something like, “I’m thinking of you today” or something like that. Additionally he’s anti-religious(he’s expressed his anger at God for this happening). I don’t know if you’ll get this message prior to his getting the amputation. I would appreciate a bit of advice. Thanks again for your inspiration and insight. 💖
I used to get questions a lot before I got my leg. Now people mostly stare for a second then go about whatever they’re doing. SO hopefully when you start wearing your prosthetic full time questions will become less. 😊
Hey I’m not sure if you’ll get this cos it’s so long behind your vlogs! I’m in the uk and have only found your channel recently! I think you are an inspiration to us amputees. Keep up the hard work! So a particular funny comment I get often is “mummy, mummy look at that mans robot leg!!” By kids when I was up on my leg! I think it’s funny cos the parents don’t know what to say after!
My disability isn’t the most noticeable. I’m legally blind and have nerve damage in my legs so have extremely poor balance and can’t walk much really. Sympathy is the first thing people go to. It can really make you feel like you should be sad about your life when people say they’re sorry for your life. I get it but people need to be more educated form a younger age. I don’t mind when people ask if I need help, but don’t just start helping
Another great video again. I do not like when people assume I need help just because I am in wheelchair. I have run across some of the people whisper and stare I just wish they would just say something to me. Since I live in a smaller town I am like seeing a unicorn a guy with one leg. Oh the one question I do hate is when people ask if getting a cool running leg.
Nailed it Jo! 🙌🏻 Just ask first, it really helps break the awkwardness 🤗👌🏻 PS I always say yes please and thank you to anyone holding doors and if I’m on crutches I will gladly use them to hold doors open for others especially if there’s a bit of a queue. Im with you completely re: reoccurring stares - I normally just stare them down to make them feel as awkward as they’re making me feel. Ive seen those “if you stare long enough I may do a trick” t shirts but knowing me the day I would wear it no one would stare and then the days I didn’t I would get stared at non stop 🤷🏼♀️😂🤗🤗
I enjoyed your video and I hope it helps people understand we are still people. It has bothered me to all measures to go out and find everyone stare at me and obviously talking about me. It has made me uncomfortable enough in the beginning to just leave and hide at home. Then it was the strangers that just walked up and said oh you list your leg because your a vet or because of diabetes which neither was correct. I have learned to educate tolerance first. Those people I usually find something on them whether it's freckles or a scar and ask ride questions to then. I end it by saying it's not rude yo ask four-day is it ok to ask a few things about your leg. I generally tell all if my awesome awful story that could happen to any if us and find a new friend in this world. I am still human and want to be treated as such, thank you again for this. I never would have thought about doing so and I might just throw a video or two out there myself.
On my walker it's so random where people will jump up and open a door for me. At first I found it awkward to have people, especially those way older than me, rush to help. But now, I know they just want to do a good deed and make me and them feel better for that moment. I smile and say thanks. If someone asks I usually say 'I got it.' unless it's the door at my pain management office which breaks that air hinge that helps open the 200lb door. Then I really hope someone will help 😁
Random Person heck yes!!! You guys will ABSOLUTELY come along for that day! I cannot wait. I have a feeling it’ll be a little ways off but maybe I can even just get back around horses soon!!
I wish my school had done that when a girl born without her right forarm arrived at our school in first grade 6 year old me spend all year thinking she was an alien...
BBC on TH-cam just made a video about male amputees, their experiences and how they feel about their bodies, definitely a video to check out (this vid made me think about it) 🙈
I wore a scoliosis brace for four years in 8th grade and 3 years of high school. People would stare but kids were so honest, they would come up and ask what happened, they were a joy.
I found making jokes help sometimes for example I was at the clinic the other day and there was a child that was looking at me and told there parents I had a robot legs and she was tell him he should eat his vegetables and he was not going to when he gets home and as a joke I told him you don't eat your vegtables your foot will fall off and the parent jumped right in and agreed with me and the kids were telling them you don't eat them it could happen to them and I laughed and the children agreed to eat there food it was a funny joke and kind of had to be there
I have a good friend who lost her arm in an auto accident. She honestly adjusted to it faster and better than some of us did. She delights in making horrible jokes about it when people stare and they either get really embarassed and walk away, or smile, kind of get that she's ok, and stop focusing on that.
I'm an Army brat so I grew up around amputees on base my entire life. I honestly dont notice and I certainly would never ask anyone about a cast let alone an amputation. I think maybe little kids would ask, but not anyone older than like 8.
I have such a hard time. I don’t want to stare, but I don’t want to avert my eyes. And I’m so conscious of trying to look at them normally that it becomes an issue. This happens with Muslim women, amputees, mothers with disabled children. Anyone that gets the looks. I try super hard to smile at them and if I’m in a place where I can talk to them I want to. But I also don’t want to pity them. It’s so difficult because I’m so conscious that they aren’t treated normally and WANT to do it but don’t know how to do it naturally. I’m 16 though, so I’m sure with life I’ll learn how to create as much comfort in my presence as possible. I think I’m pretty good at bringing an accepting aura but I always want to be better.
I also have multiple disabilities, but they’re internal so I don’t get this all the time, but I often get seen as lazy or dramatic when I need to leave a situation or don’t do something due to a headache condition
One time my family was at a parade and a women who lost her leg from an a war injury came walking by us and my nephew who was 5 asked the women it she was a robot and I was so embarrassed but she just laughed and said yes I am part robot. I apologised to her and she was not mad because he was 5 and had never seen a prosthetic limb she told me she would rather people ask her about it and move on instead of starring and whispering about her like she can't hear them
Btw here’s a little tip if you get an itchy foot I know it sounds crazy but put on your false foot and itch it and it will get rid of the itch. p.s my mum’s an amputee that’s how I know this.
I have tourettes and sometimes it makes me unable to stand up and there have been times where people have picked me up without my permission and put me somewhere that it's more comfortable for them (people who know me) when it's best to just leave me where I am and I feel like this has to be a problem a lot for amputees to just be picked up by people? Maybe maybe not? Idk but that falls under the lines of just helping someone as apposed to asking if they need help
I’m not sure if this is rude or not or you already shown/talked about it in the past but I would really like to see the amputated leg and how you use the plastic leg attach on with it to walk normally.
I wish people would just ask me whatever. It doesn't happen often because most people can't tell but it actually makes it weirder when people are awkward about it. Honestly, personally (and this is just how I feel), I'd rather someone just come out and ask instead of even asking permission first
I recently had major surgery but it wasn't visible to people because it was in my chest area so they couldn't see my bandages. I had to have help at school carrying my backpack but it just looked like I was making someone carry my bag around 💀 people stared a lot.
Okay, so I may or may not have just binge-watched every single one of your videos on this channel in a matter of few hours. Now for your other channel...
Diana Tedesco weirdly I’ve NEVER been to aspen. Been everywhere else in Colorado! We aren’t watching them this weekend, are you though? My brother is super into them but watching sports hasn’t been my thing so much, but I really appreciate what those athletes can do!
Have you ever felt uncomfortable talking to amputees, or wondering what you should or should not say?
No, I don't talk to anyone I don't know and I don't know any amputees so I have never come across that scenario.
Yes, the reason I came to this video is b/c I work in a kitchen at a nursing home, and I've served food to a really nice woman who I would usually see in her room behind a table, or in bed...but today I saw her in a wheelchair and I asked someone I work with whether or not when this woman came to the nursing home if she had both her legs or not, and my co-worker told me the lady did come to rehabilitate after having an amputation (about 2 weeks ago). So in this situation I've just talked to her about food and her family and stuff, so I don't know if I should say, "I'm sorry, I didn't know what you just went through?" or what....Thanks for any suggestion, I thought your video was really good.
I have a funny story for you... A few years ago I worked at a plumbing and electrical supply house and an older man and his wife came in looking for a tool to cut PVC pipe. Ever the salesman, I pulled my favorite pair of cutters off the shelf and delivered the best sales pitch ever. The main points being, it works well, it's surprisingly cheap, and best of all you can operate it 100% with ONE HAND. And I was very animated about it because it genuinely is one of my favorite tools, now, years later I am a plumber, carpenter, and electrician for a living and this is a tool i use all the time. So throughout my little sales pitch the man is just as overly enthusiastic about the tool as I am and I keep bragging on how it's so easy to use it with one hand and finally he stops me. He says, "that's great! I only have one hand!" And then he pulls his stump out of his pocket where I hadn't even noticed it hiding this entire time. My jaw hit the floor, my face turned red, the man grinned ear to ear and his wife was rolling in the floor laughing. I said, "I swear I had no idea!" His wife said, "we know, that's what makes it hilarious!"... True story, I can't make that up.
Austin Patrick Hahahaha omg! No way! That made me laugh. That’s amazing, you can’t plan those moments 😆
Yep, It's fun messin' with folks that still have all their parts.
If I was the female that you met coming out of the restroom. I hope I would have offered a shoulder to lean on to help get you where your going.
Just subscribed from the “bye to my foot” video that showed up in my recommended, and there’s already a sparkling fresh video! Woo!
myckeli same!!!
Thank you sooooo much! :-)
Same
Sameeee
In my personal experience, the one exception to the "ask before you help" rule is doors. Doors are 100% always the WORST. Like who decided all public doors need to weigh 97 pounds, have a handle 9 feet in the air, and swing closed like a bear trap?
Skeets McGrew Okay this actually made me laugh out loud, that description of doors. That was LITERALLY the coffee shop I went to the other day, I braced myself and was like, “well....if I die by door-squashing, then that’s how I go”. 🤣 I should correct myself in this video, you’re right - doors are the exception. I hold doors open for people no matter who they are...I think it’s more of a capability thing like when I’ve seen people try to randomly carry bags for people they don’t know or help with normal tasks that amputees or other folks are capable of doing but they, as a random person, seem to think we are incapable of. Like when I’m walking great on crutches and someone is like “omg let me get you a wheelchair!”....maybe that’s just a pet peeve for me but I’m like no, I’m perfectly capable of getting myself here to there, if I need help I’ll ask. But the doors...yeah, you are spot on! 🙌🏻
Yeah! Doors are evil! I open doors for my friend who is using a wheelchair. Or things like moving a chair out of the way so he can sit at a table. In the beginning I wasn’t sure, but I figured it’s just a sign of respect and consideration that I would do for anyone. With other stuff I ask though, I can see how that would be very annoying
Footless Jo 🤣 That would be quite the news report. "Tonight, the story of a young TH-camr's life cut short by a danger nobody expects: door squishing. Are doors a hidden killer waiting to put YOUR child in the emergency room? We talk to local door expert Hubert Dunklemeister on ways to keep your family safe, tonight at 11."
Exterior doors need a little effort to open so the wind doesn't open them. Of course automatic doors are an exception but they're more expensive and are sometimes triggered by someone walking past or standing close by. Revolving doors solve the wind problem but aren't very useful for the disabled.
@@skeetsmcgrew3282 It's even better to read this comment aloud in a commentator voice. XD
I love the concept of asking if it's ok to ask questions, and also "don't assume you have a right to their story."
Natasha Morrison thank you! I feel like this kind of applies to like...most personal things. I’ve had to learn it the hard way in other places in my life - over the past few years I’ve become an open book with mostly everything in my life because I realized there was healing for me in speaking. If someone wants to know someone respectfully they are welcome to it, I love real conversations. But on the flip side I have to stop myself from asking really personal questions with acquaintances because I remind myself - most people, for good reasons, don’t feel that way. I’m a work in progress with this too but feel like I’ve definitely gotten better over the years, lots of growing left to do I have NO doubt. 😉
@@FootlessJo That's great! Talking helps me too sometimes, but that doesn't mean that I want to talk about it to everyone (or sometimes the timing is off like you said). And I think it's natural and totally ok to be curious about someone else, but like you said we have to respect their right to keep things private if they so choose. Thanks for making all these videos!
Yeah I agree most days I'm in a good place but somedays I just want all the attention to go away and let me enjoy my life. I lost my leg (twice on one leg) in 2015 and everyday is different got me. I gave up trying relationships because of the pity factor from my partner. Just remember I love for ppl to open doors for me even b4 so please continue. If you want to know about my leg ask first it's proper manners. Please refrain from treating me like I cannot do something unless I ask for assistance. I don't mind the offer I mind the concept that I cannot live normal.
I just literally on your last video that I just watched asked if it was OK to open the door for you. And one minute later this video popped up so I watched it. Because if someone’s hands were full and they had both her legs and both their arms and hands and everything I would literally open the door for them why wouldn’t I open the door for you because I’m a nice person
Ah I missed your question haha, but I did answer it! ;-) So at this point, I SO appreciate it when people open doors, etc...just like I always have! Its a courteous thing to do, I'll still do it for other people when I can. But I know people will try to take other people's bags from them because they think they can't carry them or aren't capable, and I think that's the only difference - thinking someone isn't capable which isn't great, vs. being a kind and considerate person which is lovely!
I appreciate people holding doors for me but sometimes they don't have room to hold the door without obstructing the opening. My physical therapists were aware of this and made sure I learned how to get through the door on my own (assuming I wasn't carrying something while using a cane). When I'm using a walker I'm worried about rolling it over someone's toes if they're in the doorway while they're holding the door for me. My walker isn't very heavy but it could still hurt someone wearing sandals or shoes with soft uppers.
robertvirginiabeach thank you for letting us know.
Today I discover your channel...i am french so..sorry for the few faults...I wanted to thank you from giving hope and positives vibes to every persons who passed through what you have been through. I don't have any disabilities but I find your channel really encouraging and inspiring. You release so much joy to everybody watching you, you are so positive !! How are you doing this ? 😄 I wish you a lot of happiness because you deserve it and I look forward to seeing your next video !
Just subscribed 20 minutes ago and have been loving your videos!!
I truly appreciate that!!!
i absolutely love you. your attitude and positivity is sooo contagious. love ya chickaaaa, hope you're doing well!
Thank you so much MacKenzie!
my grandmother lost her leg 2 weeks ago due to a diabetes complication. Thanks God this popped up on my recommendations. Such an inspiration. Now I already have an idea on how to talk to my grandmother.
I was searching around on TH-cam and I found your channel and I love it! I love how positive you are and I’m glad that your getting through this. It’s always been a fear of mine to loose a body part and your a true inspiration to me. As a 13 year old, you always care what people think about you and I love how you don’t care what people have to say. I love your videos and I thank you for sharing your journey ❤️
Can i just say: it's amazing to see how much your channel is growing right now? It makes me so happy!! Great job Jo!
This video speaks to me as a person with a disability SO MUCH! Your answers and comments are exactly how I feel, and I've had my disability my entire life. So you're not alone.
Drew, thank you so much. That is really affirming for me to hear! I know I’m sort of a recent addition to the disability community (well, chronic pain for years counts, but this is a new and more visible side anyway!), I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one who feels like this. It’s good to know I’m not alone. 😊
I came from your "How I said bye to my leg" video and I subscribed in the first 10 seconds because you are so funny and nice; you have such a positive opportunity to all the obstacles thrown at you... I love you
I have no idea how I ended up on your channel but well..can't stop watching your videos. You seem to be such a funny, and happy woman and this is truly inspiring. Thank you for sharing who you are and also sharing your story!
Lol Made me laugh because it reminded me of the story of the little old lady who was standing on the side of the street and some well-meaning guy grabbed her arm and brought her across to the other side which upset her because she had just finished crossing the road on her own LOL
Hahaha OMG! No! That's terrible!
Never heard that, that's hilarious
WELL THEN, the guy really Ace Ventura'd that one. XD Poor grandma.
Couldn’t agree with you more Jo. I’m a bilateral below knee amputee and a certified peer Visitor and I like to talk about my amputations, especially with children, who ask the best questions. Sometimes I think their parents think I will go into some long gross description on how I lost my legs, but I always keep it on their level. Also always ask permission. Quick story, not long after I lost my first leg I fell in the bathroom coming out of the shower and my dear wife rushed in to help me. I told her that I needed to figure this out on my own and if I really needed help I would let her know, she completely understood and I did figure it out on my own. My 2 cents!
The world needs to see this and not only can this be applied to amputees but it can also be applied to other people with various disabilities. You are always so eloquent when addressing these topics! If you were to ever do a Ted Talk I would be sure to be there!❤️😄
Chen Greenman awww Chen thank you so much!! I think I told you this before but that’s literally one of my top three life goals - Ted Talk! Gotta dream big, right? 😉 So thank you so much! I think you’re absolutely right, this applies to anyone - anyone we think is “different” than us in any way, I think. Thank you!
@@FootlessJo I don't even think you have to dream big I full heartedly believe you will be doing your own Ted Talk very soon and until then I will be cheering you on from the sideline! 💕😆
i got one of your videos on my recommended and ive watched so many and it's really nice because youre educating about amputation while releasing entertaining content. thanks :)
This is really helpful. Im an author and i want to write a book with a main character being an amputee, and i want to write it correctly and be sensitive but also chill about it
I had a life altering surgery in 2016 and a revision in 2017. It wasn’t an amputation but it was Scoliosis and then The Crankshaft Phenomenon. For me it changed everything and now I carry a pillow around and can’t do certain things but people who don’t know me just judge me for carrying a pillow...but the few times people ask why I tell them and instantly they don’t judge!
OPINION OF ANOTHER AMPUTEE. I am so glad to see this video. I have so many stories of peoples ignorance dealing with disabled people. Two major rules with disabled people, ALWAYS ASK if they want your help. and ALWAYS get permission. I don't mind if people ask what happened to me, I usually make up stories and leave them laughing, after the made up stories I usually tell the truth.
Most people with injuries and disabilities that have had them a long time don't mind talking about it, the more time that goes by the less sensitive we are about it.
This is very informative. It seems like common sense and something we should all know but it’s so easy to speak up without thinking and be offensive without meaning to. It’s nice to have a plan for when a moment arrives.
Hi my name is Tanika and I was 8 went my right foot was amputated I am 11 now and I just wanted to say thank you so much for posting your videos they really help me keep doing what you do I hope you have a good rest of your day.
I feel like the whole world needs to see this !! It's so helpfull !!
Dries Brosens thank you so much for commenting that and for watching! I’m so glad you found it helpful in any way! Your support means a ton to me! 💜
I use a wheel walker thingy, no balance don't walk properly, have been accused of being drunk, the first thing people say is Oh I'm Sorry. Sorry for what is my usual reply, not one will ask what is my problem, disease, affliction, if they took time to ask iwould be happy to tell them my story about my 12 year battle with MS, Multiple Sclerosis, most people dont have a clue on what it is or how it can effect people in many different ways. I think its fantastic that you are sharing your problems with the world..
Your "saying goodbye to my foot" video just appeared on my recommend and I really enjoy your videos! New subscriber :)
This video is so important! Thank you for sharing this with people. Personally I don't any amputees but it's always essential to learn more about these type of situations!
Hey, your videos make me smile every time I see them come up😁 I've actually been wondering about this topic and this video is super helpful, thanks so much for making it!
It sucks when people know you are a strong person, think "hey she's fine" AND do not check on you at all. Not text, no call, nothing.... when actually all I could use is a hi how are ya. Our society is hell bent on independence and social correctness people have forgotten how to be compassionate human beings. Thanks for you so positive helpful views always brings a smile
Suzanne Brewer I hear you - truly. I always see those memes going around Facebook that say like “check on the strongest person you know, they may be fighting the hardest” and things like that...and it’s so true. We think that projecting being “put together” or strong means that someone actually is...that isn’t true. Especially the strong ones need people to call, e-mail, text, say hi. 💜
I could swear that she just had 28,000 subs yesterday. Now 35,000?? Congrats on the success!
Rachel Carson-Lecuyer Thank you sooooo much! 😀 I seriously appreciate that SO much! One video seems to have hit the TH-cam algorithm jackpot haha and a lot of people are sticking around, I’m so dang grateful and honored! 💜
Hiya, I have only just come across your channel and am truly fascinated not just by your story but also by your fabulous attitude to life. It has given me a huge sense of perspective on my own issues, which startled me when I watched the first video of yours that I came across (your goodbye tour you gave to your leg). I shattered my foot 7 years ago in a horse-riding accident, and have so far had 4 operations but don't see a future where I don't have more. Currently dealing with zero proprioception in my foot but constant pain. Being able to feel pain yet my brain not actually knowing where my foot is = WEIRD AS HELL! I've become famous at uni for my ability to literally fall on anything - If I hit even a mildly slippery or bumpy surface with my left foot first, I'm straight on my ass. Simultaneously hilarious yet frustrating.
The original accident meant I screwed my A-levels up so couldn't get into vet school out of A-levels which was my dream, so ended up having to do a foundation degree which I scraped the entry requirements with only 2 A-Levels (at a C and an E) and work it up to a bachelors degree. Finally managed to get into Vet School (Royal Veterinary College, London) and have got 2.5 years left until graduation. I'm absolutely terrified that my career that I am working so so hard for might get taken away from me if my foot continues to get worse. I had to fight to get cleared by occupational health just to even start at vet school. When you were faced with more operations (pre-amputation, before it was even discussed), were you able to stay positive or motivated? When you were faced with so many operations stretched out ahead, or not really knowing what else to do, did you have any good coping mechanisms while you waited on doctors/CT scans/MRIs/X-rays/all the other bullshit appointments I'm assuming you dealt with, too?
Sorry for the essay - I haven't come across a channel like this before on TH-cam and all the advice I'm getting from my peers is just "get more painkillers" or "just go bang on the doctors office and demand better treatment". Neither of which help. (Naproxen = not my friend anymore. Neither is codeine). Any tips on motivation or coping mechanisms would be wonderful, but don't worry if you never figured any out! I know I haven't!
@@Xenobat You hit then nail on the head! Sometimes I feel find just muddling along and dealing with it, but other days all I want to do is curl up and cry from sheer frustration at being in constant pain. Being heard helps us feel human again, normal. Thank you for your understanding words, they really do mean a lot.
@@ThatSophie95xX You're definitely right about feeling human again when we're heard! I'm glad my words helped and I genuinely hope things get better for you!
I hold doors open for all types of people and they hold it for me, so I think that's just a convenience thing. But a Veteran on post was a double leg amputee, he was elderly, was having trouble taking his bags off the checkout and onto his chair, so I said could I put it on there for you? And he said, that would be dandy. So I did we walked out together and I just took him to his car, it was hot and he was tired, put all his stuff in his truck he hopped in I put his chair where he told me and shook his hand and we went on with our day. I think asking before you put your hands on someone or their stuff is just common courtesy, whether they have all or none of their limbs you dont just touch people. Unless someone is falling or asks me I wouldn't just insert myself into their space.
You should totally do a dos and donts list!
I randomly found this TH-cam channel and I am in LOVE. You’re so positive and inspiring and you really lightened up my dark day today!!!!! 💕💕💕😘😘😘
Differently abled person and I can so relate to this video!
The help or not help dilemma is an interesting one. On the one hand I want to be a strong, independent woman. On the other hand, sometimes I really do need a little assistance. I absolutely agree with asking if the person needs help with whatever task they are working on. I know from experience that sometimes un-needed help can result in more pain. As another poster commented, I agree that opening doors are kind of my exception to the rule. And that is because I am a big fan of opening doors for all people just because it's polite and I find it to be a way to connect with someone. That probably sounds weird... but I have noticed how many people walk around and avoid eye contact. So I kinda love looking someone in the eye, saying can I get that for you?, and giving a welcoming smile.
Also, so many doors weigh a ton and it is absolutely ridiculous.
So are amazing - This was actually so helpful and I think more people should know this. I’ve subscribed! ♥️
This is a sketchy situation. I don't mind people asking but more often than not I'd rather they didn't. Some with a traumatic amputation often are triggered (I hate that term but it is what it is) by telling the story. I try to remember that I was curious before my incident in Afghanistan and I try to remember that when people stare at or ask me questions.
You are such a Blessing Jo!! You inspire so many of us!! Thank you!!💕
Pointless but I love your nail polish. And thanks for the tips, they are super helpful. :-)
You are so incredibly brave 💙 I have no idea what it feels like to have to get a amputation but your so positive through it and it kinda gives me hope for what I’m going through. Again it’s not as serious as what has happened to you but I’ve been growing up with some type of illness and we still have no idea what’s going on and I’m getting progressively worse or whatevs but seeing you being so positive makes me so happy. I love you and your story 💙
Thank you so much for sharing, Jo! This video is super informative and empowering to all types of limbed people to engage with one another with a friendly and considerate way :)
Thank you for being an inspiration to all of us. We love you girl♡ and new subscriber and when I subscribed I knew it that it's totally worth it
unicorn fun memes Awh you are so sweet! That is so encouraging to me, I truly appreciate you!
thank you for sharing! hope you always healthy. love you💕
Thanks for sharing your point of view!
Thank you for posting this! I agree with this (as a new amputee)
I haven't actually done my amputation yet but I can understand the looks and questions. I have a fairly large skin-graft on my right hand and my index finger is bent at 90 degrees, the most awkward is when I go to shake someones hand they always either change their mind or apologize for it. Like it's really not that big of a deal, but I can understand why it would make people feel uncomfortable. Thank you though for being so open and sharing your experiences.
I just watched your story on how it happend and i looked at my leg and huged it..😬 i think its amazing how confident you are.. !! And im totally subscribing
i dont know how you have 48k sups, you should have millions of followers, u r the best, i lovee you (i dont speak english lol)💓
Thanks for sharing your story. You made an excellent point that just because a person has lost a limb(s)
I decided to change my attitude about help early on, People I know, know I'll ask when I need Help. When people I don't know want to help (like holding open doors) it becomes an opportunity to allow others to be charitable. If it's not something that is a hindrance to me, why not let others have the good feeling of helping a stranger that appears could use a liitle help and kindness.
I stumbled across your channel some days ago and I find you really inspirational! I know it's not the same as an amputation, but my partner has usher syndrome and his field of view was decreased to under 10 degrees in a very short time (and he has been hard of hearing since his childhood). And sometimes, although the people are nice, they think the only thing going on in his/our lifes is his disability. And sometimes they just stare all the time when I am leading him around. It's just strange. But I think they often just pity him. They don't have to. We live an amazing life and our life is not just that.
Haha, and I am watching your other video about killing oneself when getting an amputation. We also heard of people they would kill themself if they had usher syndrome. That is just so bizarre! People can stand through more than they believe.
When three of the amputee youtubers I fallow post in the same hour so I have to choose which one to watch first...
Thanks for sharing your wisdom and inspiration. You reminded me that as people, we are all different. You also reminded me of the importance of respecting your fellow person-give respect to others and you’ll receive respect from them in return.
I came to your channel because I have a “long distance friend” who will be undergoing a foot amputation tomorrow. At this time, we’ve been communicating with each other via text-this is as per his wishes. He mentioned this to me last week. I’m not sure if it’s the right thing to text something like, “I’m thinking of you today” or something like that. Additionally he’s anti-religious(he’s expressed his anger at God for this happening). I don’t know if you’ll get this message prior to his getting the amputation. I would appreciate a bit of advice. Thanks again for your inspiration and insight. 💖
Thanks for the information. I never know what to say and this helped a lot.
Kathy B.
Thanks for the advice Jo. I really like your videos. You take care.
Allen Troxel thank YOU Alex for watching and for caring! 🙌🏻
I used to get questions a lot before I got my leg. Now people mostly stare for a second then go about whatever they’re doing. SO hopefully when you start wearing your prosthetic full time questions will become less. 😊
Hey I’m not sure if you’ll get this cos it’s so long behind your vlogs! I’m in the uk and have only found your channel recently! I think you are an inspiration to us amputees. Keep up the hard work!
So a particular funny comment I get often is “mummy, mummy look at that mans robot leg!!” By kids when I was up on my leg! I think it’s funny cos the parents don’t know what to say after!
I'm right there with you.
My disability isn’t the most noticeable. I’m legally blind and have nerve damage in my legs so have extremely poor balance and can’t walk much really. Sympathy is the first thing people go to. It can really make you feel like you should be sad about your life when people say they’re sorry for your life. I get it but people need to be more educated form a younger age. I don’t mind when people ask if I need help, but don’t just start helping
Another great video again. I do not like when people assume I need help just because I am in wheelchair. I have run across some of the people whisper and stare I just wish they would just say something to me. Since I live in a smaller town I am like seeing a unicorn a guy with one leg. Oh the one question I do hate is when people ask if getting a cool running leg.
Nailed it Jo! 🙌🏻 Just ask first, it really helps break the awkwardness 🤗👌🏻 PS I always say yes please and thank you to anyone holding doors and if I’m on crutches I will gladly use them to hold doors open for others especially if there’s a bit of a queue. Im with you completely re: reoccurring stares - I normally just stare them down to make them feel as awkward as they’re making me feel. Ive seen those “if you stare long enough I may do a trick” t shirts but knowing me the day I would wear it no one would stare and then the days I didn’t I would get stared at non stop 🤷🏼♀️😂🤗🤗
I enjoyed your video and I hope it helps people understand we are still people. It has bothered me to all measures to go out and find everyone stare at me and obviously talking about me. It has made me uncomfortable enough in the beginning to just leave and hide at home. Then it was the strangers that just walked up and said oh you list your leg because your a vet or because of diabetes which neither was correct. I have learned to educate tolerance first. Those people I usually find something on them whether it's freckles or a scar and ask ride questions to then. I end it by saying it's not rude yo ask four-day is it ok to ask a few things about your leg. I generally tell all if my awesome awful story that could happen to any if us and find a new friend in this world. I am still human and want to be treated as such, thank you again for this. I never would have thought about doing so and I might just throw a video or two out there myself.
On my walker it's so random where people will jump up and open a door for me. At first I found it awkward to have people, especially those way older than me, rush to help. But now, I know they just want to do a good deed and make me and them feel better for that moment. I smile and say thanks. If someone asks I usually say 'I got it.' unless it's the door at my pain management office which breaks that air hinge that helps open the 200lb door. Then I really hope someone will help 😁
also you are so inspirational! thank you You're Amazing!!!!
Hello! I’m early! I just wanted to say that you are REALLY inspiring!! You are so strong and ahhhh you’re just amazing!! ❤️❤️👌
You are very strong 😊👍🏼♥️
Thanks so much for this video. I needed it.
Ok sort of unrelated to this video but if you do get to ride again please make a video about it! I would love to see! You're so inspiring
Random Person heck yes!!! You guys will ABSOLUTELY come along for that day! I cannot wait. I have a feeling it’ll be a little ways off but maybe I can even just get back around horses soon!!
I wish my school had done that when a girl born without her right forarm arrived at our school in first grade
6 year old me spend all year thinking she was an alien...
BBC on TH-cam just made a video about male amputees, their experiences and how they feel about their bodies, definitely a video to check out (this vid made me think about it) 🙈
I wore a scoliosis brace for four years in 8th grade and 3 years of high school. People would stare but kids were so honest, they would come up and ask what happened, they were a joy.
Excellent vlogging, Jo!
I found making jokes help sometimes for example I was at the clinic the other day and there was a child that was looking at me and told there parents I had a robot legs and she was tell him he should eat his vegetables and he was not going to when he gets home and as a joke I told him you don't eat your vegtables your foot will fall off and the parent jumped right in and agreed with me and the kids were telling them you don't eat them it could happen to them and I laughed and the children agreed to eat there food it was a funny joke and kind of had to be there
You're so strong💪🏼 and amaizing❤️
have you tried putting it in rice? haha jk😂 well done with all these videos!
Thank you for making this.
My dad is a triple amputee, and people don't even approach him because, I personally think, they're scared.
I have a good friend who lost her arm in an auto accident. She honestly adjusted to it faster and better than some of us did. She delights in making horrible jokes about it when people stare and they either get really embarassed and walk away, or smile, kind of get that she's ok, and stop focusing on that.
I'm an Army brat so I grew up around amputees on base my entire life. I honestly dont notice and I certainly would never ask anyone about a cast let alone an amputation. I think maybe little kids would ask, but not anyone older than like 8.
I'm thankful for this video cuz I've been talking to someone with an amputation, and didn't know how to address the elephant in the room.
as a paraplegic I agree with the ask if help is needed, but above all when the answer is no thanks respect that.
I have such a hard time. I don’t want to stare, but I don’t want to avert my eyes. And I’m so conscious of trying to look at them normally that it becomes an issue. This happens with Muslim women, amputees, mothers with disabled children. Anyone that gets the looks. I try super hard to smile at them and if I’m in a place where I can talk to them I want to. But I also don’t want to pity them. It’s so difficult because I’m so conscious that they aren’t treated normally and WANT to do it but don’t know how to do it naturally. I’m 16 though, so I’m sure with life I’ll learn how to create as much comfort in my presence as possible. I think I’m pretty good at bringing an accepting aura but I always want to be better.
I also have multiple disabilities, but they’re internal so I don’t get this all the time, but I often get seen as lazy or dramatic when I need to leave a situation or don’t do something due to a headache condition
One time my family was at a parade and a women who lost her leg from an a war injury came walking by us and my nephew who was 5 asked the women it she was a robot and I was so embarrassed but she just laughed and said yes I am part robot. I apologised to her and she was not mad because he was 5 and had never seen a prosthetic limb she told me she would rather people ask her about it and move on instead of starring and whispering about her like she can't hear them
Btw here’s a little tip if you get an itchy foot I know it sounds crazy but put on your false foot and itch it and it will get rid of the itch. p.s my mum’s an amputee that’s how I know this.
I have tourettes and sometimes it makes me unable to stand up and there have been times where people have picked me up without my permission and put me somewhere that it's more comfortable for them (people who know me) when it's best to just leave me where I am and I feel like this has to be a problem a lot for amputees to just be picked up by people? Maybe maybe not? Idk but that falls under the lines of just helping someone as apposed to asking if they need help
Thank you Jo!
I’m not sure if this is rude or not or you already shown/talked about it in the past but I would really like to see the amputated leg and how you use the plastic leg attach on with it to walk normally.
I wish people would just ask me whatever. It doesn't happen often because most people can't tell but it actually makes it weirder when people are awkward about it. Honestly, personally (and this is just how I feel), I'd rather someone just come out and ask instead of even asking permission first
I actually find wheelchairs and prosthetics really cool I do really want to study medicine when I am older
I recently had major surgery but it wasn't visible to people because it was in my chest area so they couldn't see my bandages. I had to have help at school carrying my backpack but it just looked like I was making someone carry my bag around 💀 people stared a lot.
I'm touch by your story I have friends that when though the same thing you are very bless and beautiful regardless
Literally, never wondered how to talk to anyone.
YES DOS AND DONTS
Okay, so I may or may not have just binge-watched every single one of your videos on this channel in a matter of few hours. Now for your other channel...
Kai Nicole oh my gosh haha! That’s sooooo sweet of you! 💜 Thank you!!!
@@FootlessJo no, you have no idea how much you have already helped me!
If I saw her hopping I would help her get to her Yabe or whatever she needed to be.
Completely random question but the winter X games are in Aspen this weekend do u plan on watching them on?
Diana Tedesco weirdly I’ve NEVER been to aspen. Been everywhere else in Colorado! We aren’t watching them this weekend, are you though? My brother is super into them but watching sports hasn’t been my thing so much, but I really appreciate what those athletes can do!
Only question: where is the purple sweater/cardigan from? I’m obsessed.
Sarah Steeley Awh I’m so glad you like it! I got it from a sale at H&M awhile back! 😀
And now I know why lol 😂 H&M is life 🙌🏼
Early squad!
Awww thank you!
Hey I'm early!
I think simplest answer to that question is just like anyone else