How To Be Happy Single
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I love how she knows just what to say and share with us at the right moments. I’d love to see more videos like this :) I’ve rewatched her videos so many times to feel better and remind myself I am worth more and shouldn’t settle
I love this!
Same here, watched it over and over again..
@@lummaaziz @Lumma Aziz Great video
agreed thank you for these videos
i feel very weak being single
i rewatch it n rewatch it to give myself power
My ex girlfriend broke up with me after almost 5 years in wich 2 of those we lived together. I had/have a huge emotional dependency over her, I just started really going out, traveling and enjoying life because of her. Now that we are not together anymore I'm trying to be auto sufficient and enjoying time by myself, It's being really difficult but I'm not giving me any other option. I can't build my happiness just around other person
I feel exactly the same bro... we'll get over it
It'll get easier, I promise you. I found out about my husbands affair when I was 9 months pregnant. Now 2 months after having given birth I'm really enjoying my alone time and taking myself out on dates. I go to the movies alone, drink coffee alone and people watch. I just really enjoy my own company and listen to a lot of podcasts and TH-cam videos to help with healing and better myself FOR myself. It'll get easier and better, you just have to do the work.
Me too
I feel you bro. My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me on Boxing Day a few months back. I’m not sure how long it’s been since you and your ex broke up, but I promise you, it will get easier. We’ve got this brother 👊🏻
So true and same for me. How do you learn to be dependent on yourself more? :(
My dad always said
“a man is like a taxi or a bus, when one leaves another one shows up.” Too many fish in the sea. 🌊
Real
My boyfriend and I broke up almost a month ago. There was no problems in our relationship, everything seemed perfect, but he just fell out of love I guess. It’s been really hard for me and there’s days where I feel stuck and depressed. Watching your breakup and motivational videos is really helping me get through this rough time. Even if it’s just for awhile, I’ll feel better and get back to working on myself. I know it’ll take time, but thank you for sharing your stories and giving us great advice❤
How are you now, melissa xx
How are u now?
I'm going through this rn. He just dumped me and gave silly excuses for the breakup. I just hate how guys give up so easily.
Sorry guys
Hope you feeling better today
@@Bugglesgooare you feeling any better?
It's been 4 days since we broke up . I've been crying all night . It's hell now . 5 years of relationship , definitely not easy since my days and routines were filled up with him . I hope the day I realize my worth will come sooner .
give it 5 months and you won't miss a damn thing...
Hugs and love for you.. it's getting better. I promise ❤️
Let me tell you one thing that helped me get over my 5 year relationship. EMOTIONS CHANGE. Eventually you will not feel this way anymore, you’re not going to cry when you think about him and the pain will soothe a little everyday. Look up Matthew Hussey videos. He helped me alot. Best of luck!
oml im sry for that i cant promise its gonna be ok soon but one day it will and it sucks to be in ur posin i was crying over someone whom i was with 5 months if that can hurt this much i cant imagine that...but ure brave enough to go thru this u got this!
How are you doing now? Hope ur well.
Four months post being dumped and I’m thriving in the best mental and physical health of my life. Here’s to single life 🥂
Your videos have helped tremendously when I had a breakup two months ago. I still rewatch your last pep talk whenever I'm feeling down about my ex, thank you!! ~ a million times thank you
Always :)
Same I had mine two months ago too
How are you feeling now Clowie?
@@bendoyle5023 it gets better!
I am incredibly grateful for this pep talk. When you said “that person was never my dream person but they grew on me.” I related to that so much. I have been in a five year relationship with my ex. I Knew him since I was 22 now I’m 27. We equally both made mistakes but stayed in a relationship out of comfort, hope that things will get resolved and “love.” I devoted so much time and energy to this person when he clearly showed me time after time that he doesn’t value or respect me. It is difficult because I love and trusted him and I gave him multiple chances to work on us. We haven’t spoken in two weeks and I’m going through all the notions of grief. Losing someone who was your support system, best friend and partner is rough but what’s even more rough is losing yourself throughout the years. Anyways, We lived together and he seems to be a complete different person now that’s he’s gone. He’s been traveling, drinking, partying and messaging girls. I wish him the best because he’s not a bad person but I will admit he wasn’t the right person for me. The past few weeks have been challenging but I know I will get through this. Thank you for sharing your story. Your videos have shed light that it’s okay to grief a relationship and more important it’s more than okay to focus on ourselves. We shouldn’t have to rely on other people to make us happy. 💓💓
Please tell me how you’re doing now
@@russellmeaders187 LONG POST WARNING **
Hi Russell,
I'm doing a lot better. At the time I wrote that comment my ex and I both agreed to split ways. However, I was distraught because towards the end things got very messy and I came to a realization of how I was being treated. Similar to Lumma, my ex left and I was still living at our old apartment for an additional 4 months. On top of that, I was honestly alone. All my friends and family lived back home in Los Angeles and I was stuck living in a small town in Northern California. I'm typically not the type of person to rely on my family or friends about my relationship struggles but I was at my breaking point and if it wasn't for my support system I probably would have still been stuck in that apartment.
I'm not going to lie the past five months have been tough. There have been a lot of positive but overwhelming changes. I deleted my ex and his friends off of social media around the same time I posted my comment. Neither of us has reached out to each other and I have been on my own quest on focusing on my career, personal, fitness, and spiritual goals. From time to time I do think about my ex but it's not the same feeling I had a few months ago. I no longer miss him. I appreciate the good moments in our relationship, but it's more of a bittersweet feeling when I look back on our relationship. I also learned to not dwell in the past. I feel a lot more independent and more at peace with myself. I relocated back home and just started a new job. I'm learning to love myself more and more every day. Some days are better than others. I have my moments where I backtrack but I still stand by my decision and although it took me years to realize I deserve better I'm glad it's done.
What I have learned from this past relationship is don't like someone for their potential like them for who they truly are at that very moment. This was the mistake my younger self made. Things that have helped me the past few months are walking on the beach (props of living in So Cal), journaling, lifting, and spending time with my dog/friends. I have also been taking myself out on solo dates and learning to appreciate my own company. My best advice would be to be kind to yourself during this process. A failed relationship does not determine your value or worth and it's okay to feel vulnerable and cope with the breakup. With that being said good or bad I view every relationship as a learning opportunity. Just know that with time things will get better and whatever isn't for you let it go. There are truly better things out there. This is your time to focus on yourself. Find what makes you happy, figure out what you need to work on as a person, and find out what you need/want/don't want in your future partner. Remember to set healthy boundaries and expectations with people in general.
Overall, I would rather be alone than settle with someone who doesn't value my worth or time. At the end of the day just like Lumma mentioned "become the person who validates yourself." You don't need someone to make you feel complete. Sure, having a partner is nice but make sure they are in your life for a purpose and not because you crave or need them. I know this sounds cheesy but how you treat yourself is how others will treat you. I gave my ex so many opportunities to improve and all that showed was that it was okay for him to treat me a certain way and have no direct consequences. It's been six months since the breakup and although I feel tempted to start dating I would rather focus on myself at the moment than make the same mistake.
Sending you and many others positive vibes❤ #It'sokaytobesingle
@@hryndfgsf Thank you so much for your update! I'm so glad things are going better for you, and I hope they just continue to get better from here! Best of luck to your future endeavors.
Literally going through this
hi thank you so much for the testimony and especially thank you for the update,how are you doing now? @@hryndfgsf
This is the most difficult season of my life. My first real relationship at 27 and heartbreak ,28, thankfully no kids. Forgiveness was the biggest. I never felt good enough. Beat down mentally, reminded every day of things this person held against me. Expectations to gravel at every nice gesture. I shouldn’t be surprised that he just left and told me “bye” after 14 months. How can someone just walk out , after promises … that very morning he went from telling me he loved me and rubbing my feet to questioning me for hours and leaving… idk who I was with …He was my best yet but not the best for me. Thank you for this.
I feel for you. Its been 2 yrs since my ex broke up with me who is also my first love, i struggled so hard and got better after 1 yr…but now i relapsed. He promised to marry me but left me like i was nothing. Still get nightmares, anxiety, chest pains and appetite lost up till now. Don’t know when it will really get better
@@murasue1162 How are you feeling now?
Its been 3days and I am starting to heal already. Seriously its been 3 days. I needed this heartbreak to become stronger. I've been controlling my emotion so well. I feel proud of myself.
You can do it. I believe in you
@@bluesign3034 Thank you
me too girl! stronger everyday
You don’t even know how much this series has helped me❤️
I'm so glad
"STOP GLORIFYING YOUR PAST" >>>> Best advice ever!
loving yourself more than loving anyone else is mandatory in this era. ❤️❤️
ive been going thru it past 3 months, heartbroken from my first love. i pretty much only watch your last video on heartbreak over and over again and it has helped me so much you have no idea. when im hurting from the heartbreak or feel at rock bottom and i feel so much better. if i hadnt found you i would be so stuck in my own sorrows, thank you so much for your reality check and i genuinely love your videos so much it has helped me grow tremendously. youre so right, things do get better.
I was going trough it last September. It took about six months before it really got better. I even got depression from it.
But now it’s like the sky cleared up. I have a new job and new goals I wanna reach. And Lummas videos really helped too.
You’re going to be okay. And in the future you’ll know why everything happened like it did.
Hang on❣️
I’ve been single my whole life, waiting to meet my soulmate. It’s hard and I gets super lonely sometimes. I know being single isn’t the same as having to nurse heartbreak but I think we’re all managing to better ourselves.
the day your soulmates break your heart is the day you will be looking for your OLD single life self...You will find out that self love is the best love...
I've also been single my whole life and thought that was pretty lonely. Then 1 month ago I started talking to a guy nearly everyday about everything & really thought I was making a connection and even got a crush on the dude. I thought the guy at least enjoyed talking to me too but i guess I was wrong because after a month he just stopped and barely replied anymore. I'm telling you the sadness I got from the loss of that interaction was wayyy worse than any "loneliness" i felt when I was just single with zero people i'd even consider dating. Imo just being single and feeling lonely occasionally isn't that bad when you compare it to heartbreak. And the mini-heartbreak I felt with this guy isn't anything compared to actual heartbreak when you're actually having a break up too
@@crystalDM96 its almost one year now with my first break up and now I have got MYSELF back...I was totally another person when I was in relationship and few month after that fresh breakup...I stopped fantasizing about the way I would love somebody and how they would love me back...now whenever I talk to any girls I always remind myself of that heartbreak that I suffered for five months...Yes the most painful thing I went thru ever and I am not falling for this shyt again lol....Being single now I can express myself better and I smile more...Life is getting better with myself...
Been together 7 years with my bf,,living together 2 years. We fight alot and yesterday he told me hes tired of all this and he's leaving the country in 1 week. He says its better for both of us. He says he loves me and it hurts but he is leaving to go meet his sister and brother in law to go to another country and start over his life. Today is Wednesday 16th August 2023, he told me this yesterday and he is leaving Saturday to go stay by his dad and then he's leaving the country monday. We still living in the same house. He's not a citizen of my country, he migrated here 7 years ago and we met have been together since. Nows hes leaving to go to migrate to another country and i will never see him again in my life.
So true. I settled due to low self esteem, and then put all of future relationship hopes on that person. Even when I knew they didn't have the qualities I was looking for, I let so many bad things slide. But when I finally spoke up and put forward my standards, they didn't want to do a thing.
Thank you for reminding us that it's better to be alone and build yourself up, discipline yourself and not accept less than what you deserve.
I had a terrible heartbreak 3 months ago today. I watched your 3 months of heartbreak documented video right after it happened, and now 3 months later I’m watching this video. I aspire to get to the point you’re at. thank you for making these videos and making me feel validated but also empowered.
hey how do you feel rn ?
I am going through a breakup right now and this video just gave me that real push to feel excited about this new journey to get to know myself again, my needs, my wants, my priorities and my goals. Thanks for the great vid, I was able to identify my step 1 into this single life/self-love journey.
Lumma your timing is impeccable, I really needed to hear this right now. I feel like the universe is speaking through you to so many people out there. Your journey is truly one of self-actualisation and empowerment, thank you for being you!
OMGGGG!!! I will not settle in 2022, I don’t want a grower. If they don’t meet my standards then I’m good. Learning to validate myself - thank you girl 💕💕
my breakup will be 3 weeks tomorrow and your videos have been genuinely helping me so much and i appreciate that you show raw and truthful emotions instead of hiding them 💟
thank you so much for this. i've been through situationships and unnecessary heartbreaks because my self-esteem is so low and i keep settling for less. i've been so traumatized by these experiences i seek for validation. i am learning how to be on my own again with no more guys, no more casual flings in my life. i hope i stop crying soon
I needed this one aaaahhhh!! Going through a breakup, but I think I'll like being single again. I love youu, Lumma!! ❤
Love you too!
Wow this couldn’t have come at a better time! Just gotten broken up with after 3 years, and it’s been so hard for me. I keep clinging onto hope that we’ll be together again, and feel like I’m dying. Thank you for this video! 💕
Me too. I can't accept that we won't be together again
@@RonniePomPoms yeah it sucks so hard😢 we’ve had the entire summer planned too. And now, idk what to do without him.
her other videos on breakups have helped me too! it’s hard for me to not cling onto hope that maybe he’ll come back but hope is what’s still hurting us 💟
@@abbey996 he always came back the three times we’ve broken up in two weeks and never more. I guess I’m still hoping he’ll text me in two weeks, but we both know that this was our final breakup. So I don’t think he’ll ever come back.
You're not alone sis, hugs from afar 🤗
My ex broke up with me a month ago, I thought we were fine, but he apparently knew for weeks. He told me he loved me the same day he broke up with me. I don't understand why it's been so hard for me to move on. He acted like a jerk both during and after the breakup, and everything felt so rushed when we got together in the first place. I truly believe that he only wanted me because I could offer comfort, support, companionship, etc. I feel really used right now, and honestly kind of unlovable. I'm not sure how to move forward because he keeps popping into my mind, the memories we made, the promises he made. Any replies with words of advice would be greatly appreciated, because I'm not sure what to do. Thank you.
I dated my ex for almost 5 months, but it ended abruptly because of a misunderstanding/him accusing me of cheating. We broke up 2 weeks and 4 days ago, and as of now- there’s not a day where I don’t think about him/not miss him- but I don’t want him back. The way he spoke to me in our last conversation was a no-no. I apologized so many times for causing a misunderstanding. He didn’t apologize for his actions, but I’ve forgiven him. I hope he realizes his mistake someday so that he doesn’t hurt another girl the same way he hurt me. He left me in the dark as I was already struggling with my mental health. I’m not saying that he should’ve stayed with me during my mental health issues, but… he knew I was in a dark hole and him leaving so easily over a misunderstanding …
Pls continue this pep talks😭
Listening to your series has become my hobby nowadays ❤
Ik you made this vid a long time ago and probably won’t see my comment, but your videos have helped me SO much with my breakup. Every other motivational TH-cam video doesn’t feel as personal as yours does and I’m super grateful you’ve given me advice to help me move forward 💗💗💗
I remember watching this like 7 months ago just upset cause the advise was not a comfort for me. Now I’m watching it being single for almost a year and I’m like yasssss I agree! 😂
Just had the saddest breakup yesterday after 3 years of being together. The hardest part is the loneliness at nights, sleeping alone with no cuddles, no watching a movie together, no waking up to their face every morning. I hope I get over this boy and find the man I need in my life,and enjoy my single hood, and not be scared of it, rather embrace it.
Lumma, I'm a new subscriber here, accidentally bumped into your vlog about heartbreak, I cried for you. I just broke up with my fiancé 3 weeks ago, even though it was a mutual agreement between us, it is still hurts. Your Vlogs really helps and I love your energy. so much Thank you for sharing your wonderful thoughts and advise. You are the most beautiful person in and out I've ever known.
My ex boyfriend and I started of in a very weird way. He had an accident that pushed us to be closer. He was very dependent of everyone around and I was more than happy to help him. We were not together too long, about 5 months, which during that time he was very open about wanting to move in together, a life together and have children. I was always very reserved about those decisions because I did not wanted to move too fast into something so new. We had just one discussion over something I considered small. He went on a trip, and told me the day before he was leaving. I was upset because he would tell me everything and all of the sudden he did not tell me this. He tagged me as needy, dramatic and paranoid when I was just asking him to be more communicative. After our argument he one night said that we were not compatible and broke up with me. He was my first “serious “ relationship . I introduced him to my family as per his request and he introduced me to his. I felt I was broken for a period of time , but then I realized that vocalizing your needs of communicating with your partner should not be a reason for someone to call you desperate. We tried to be friends but I was hurting myself by staying with someone who was being selfish by not recognizing my feelings . When I told him we could not be friends as I did not feel comfortable, he said I played with his feeling and he blocked me everywhere. I believe it was the best for both. I still love him and miss him, but I’ll learn to grieve and put myself first and take care of myself
I haven’t had a relationship in almost 3 years… I was married before, got cheated on and divorced… I’m glad for the time I’ve had to heal but being alone for a good amount of time after healing has been pretty rough… trying my best to accept it but it’s definitely been a rough time… so this was on point and timely 💯❤️
The reality is like you say, you have to become the person ypu want to attract. I had a decent job married to a woman who was alpha professional, now divorced, then dated a similar version of her and now broken up. What I took from both of those people in those relationships is to do what I have always wanted to do, I studied part time and kept my well paid job. Also took up surfing just as a physical
Challenge. I already have a BJJ black belt with 20 years experience, played top level Rugby and Tennis. But the Law degree and surfing has brought me more opportunities and Abundance I have ever had. I started my degree at 45 so it’s never too late. 👌🏽 But don’t believe that you can enjoy being single, maybe for a short while but we thrive in all aspects when we are in happy relationships. We are designed to be co dependant, that is the real truth. Don’t believe co dependence is bad, don’t believe people who aren’t dependant are better it just is what it is.
Going through a break up after 12 yrs. ! It's definitely a rollercoaster of emotions - the crying sessions have gotten better. Loved listening to this. I cannot wait to genuinely feel the happiness of being alone and learning more about myself.
Learning to separate my feelings from facts 🙂
❤❤❤
Yes , Im single with lots of negative energy and push everyone away after toxic relationship/betrayed 😢
Can’t believe this vdo and advise came from 20 yo woman, im 40 now I don’t even know what to do with my life and future dates and how to move on anymore and the past from that jerk still haunts me!!
Thank you for your vdo ❤
just got out of a 4 year relationship.. he left me for my best "friend". i was convinced he was my soulmate. it's been 4 days. today has definitely been the best one but man this whole process has been so hard.
You're one of the kindest souls ever! My Gf broke up with me after living with each other for 2 years even though she betrayed me with another friend I also trusted. It was honestly the most challenging time of my life! I cried every day for 2 weeks. A lot of good things I got out of this are going to therapy and being able to talk about my feelings and connect with people more quickly and on a more genuine level. I also had the same sense of not knowing how to be alone, and that was the hardest, but now I'm enjoying doing things alone and getting back to what I want to do. I hope your journey is going strong, and I hope one day someone sweeps you up from your feet :)
Girl, I'm going THROUGH it through it. Unimaginable pain. These videos dull the pain constructively for me. Thank you for your energy
@Lumma Aziz You have a scammer in the comments
@SANI MOHAMMED Absolutley the fuck not
the whole series has helped me heal so much-- thank you for this video Lumma and for being my *virtual* older sis 💗 ily!
You’re such an inspiration. I’ve been through the most horrible of heartbreaks, and you just telling me what I need to hear. Sometimes you know you need a sister to tell it to you again lol
so true girl
My ex and I broke up 3 weeks ago. We were together for 7 years, lived together for 2.5 years. We did everything together and she was my everything. She’s the best person I have ever met in my life. We both still love each other more than anything and both want to be together. Our paths in life has changed and at the moment our end goals are different which has caused us to part ways even though our love is more than still there. I’ve been through break ups before. My last one before this was 4 years and she cheated on me twice but nothing hurts more than leaving each other when both of us want to spend the rest of our life’s together. Everyday is a struggle and some days I can’t seem to do anything but lay in bed after work. It will get better I just can’t even begin to imagine how being away from her and her being with another guy will get any better. I can’t express how sick that idea and thought makes me feel :(
Currently going through a break up situation. It was never an official relationship, but we were really close. There's issues that transpired in our relationship that we both need to heal from. The goal is to eventually be able to be friends, but I'm not sure how long that will be. I'm willing however to take as much time as I need. I want to be fully over them before re-entering their life. so over them that if for some reason we never reconnect, I'll be able to be okay with that. I spent all year being sad over them. They consumed my thoughts and emotions. It's time for me to find myself again. I'm so excited for this journey. I know it'll hurt along the way, but one day it won't.
Lumma, I just want to thank you for sharing your experiences on such a critical topic. Your words have made me feel confident about myself. My ex girlfriend dumped me few weeks back. I was so emotionally attached to her. She saw my future with her; our kids, our house & many more plannings. She broke me down at my lowest. Lumma, your words have made me feel better about myself. I feel empowered and confident that I will achieve my goals and dreams without anyone’s validation.
I pray that God blesses you with good health and happiness.
Thank you so much
i really needed to hear all of this, dealing with the healing process still after a very difficult breakup and this reminder was really amazing and helped keep me grounded.
Please son't stop making these kind of videos, they are so cozy and heartwarming i come here for the reassurance and energy
I've never been lucky in love. But this time i thought I found the one. But he turned out to be just like everyone else. People think I am the issue for all my failed relationships, but all i do is really love them. And it's affecting me, and my mental health so much. I don't know how to go on any more, but hopefully I'll be okay someday.
OMG, I just broke up with my boyfriend, and this words just give me healing THANK YOU Lumma 💕💕
It’s lovely to see how much you’ve blossomed into such a confident young woman. Props to you Lumma! Big love
Thanks for your video. I recently had a very painful breakup just a week ago. I’m still feeling like subconscious mind is telling “hope he comes back” and depressed rn. But I wanna believe myself that I’ll be okay like you said and wanna be the best version of myself. But actually I’ve never did any hobbies for myself. I tried so many different hobbies but I never enjoy doing something alone. I wanna enjoy to be alone, be happy without him. Don’t wanna put hopes. I really don’t wanna dwell in the past. And somehow need to find out how to be happy with myself
I just watched this right after the 3 month heartbreak video. And that's my first time watching your video. I'm so happy for you, girl. Time heals everything. Hope you always stay happy.
I emailed you like 7 hours ago or something. I was thanking you for how much you’ve already helped with a breakup that happened just yesterday and then when it started to get hard again I see that you’ve posted this video, literally our savior. Thank you
If you are single you have to accept your situation and learn to be happy in this state. If you don't, you'll be miserable. But whatever you achieve it won't change your state of being single!
My boyfriend of 3 years blocked me everywhere, today is 1 week since he did it. I'm still not over him. I understand that my days revolved around him so I'm finding it very hard to get over. He used to lie a lot to me which was the main reason for our fights.
Listening to this cause i keep jumping form relationship to relationship and its not working well. Got dumped again. I want to learn how to be by myself and better myself. Cause im really not in a good place to be dating anyone. So im going to try and be single till i get my stuff together. This really motivated me!
I'm just rewatching all these videos that would help me with my heartbreak. I love this so much because the way you speak in this video really shows the confidence that you have attained and I want it too. I know future me will be like this. I am excited for my future.
I just discovered your TH-cam channel and I love it. My ex who I thought I was gonna marry just broke up with me and I am trying to move in. I know it’s gonna take some time but I appreciate your videos and it gives me hope that I’ll be okay. :)
Your videos helped me get through the worst break up of my life. I was in a worst state emotionally and mentally & I thought I was never gonna get through it or things are never going to change. But your video diary of 3 months changed my perspective a lot it helped me understand that healing takes time and definitely it’s amazing being on the other side now. Thank you so much and more power to you ❤
Thank you Lumma! This video, and your video on getting over a heartbreak literally saved my life. Thank you for sharing your gifts of wisdom and encouragement with the world. Just wanted to let you know that you are truly having a massive, positive impact on so many lives. Including mine. Thank you!
Hi Lumma!
I recently broke up with my bf and just found out your video by constantly searching for dealing with break-up solutions.
First I was literally so impressed out that you are on such an young age and found out that pivotal thing in relationship.
Cause for me, embracing the fact that I should be perfectly by myself in this life felt so harsh and tried to avoid it by craving someone to love me right.
Now I realized that what I should look for in the relationship is, someone I want to give my love, not someone who can give me love.
And I guess this is on the same line like you said, I can want somebody but I definitely not should need somebody.
If I can’t stop keeping me from this toxic addiction, I’d never possibly get out of loneliness, settling for no reason while I only can get tiny bit of love they offer(which is not the way I want).
Thanks for these amazing videos.
100% honestly, I rewatch this vid every single morning to reassure myself and I really want to say this is more than helpful.
By watching this, I really could feel your welcoming and warming energy towards others and I really appreciate it.
Send love across the ocean❤
Lumma, I am watching this as I am writing down/making my vision journal for 2023. I got clear about what I want in a guy and I am going to try to enjoy myself,experiences, etc until that guy comes in
Thank you Lumma, I'm Fern. Your fan from Thailand. Your content helps me a lot to get through my breakup. I am healing now. It's only 3 weeks, but I feel so much better because of your content.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I love this! Please do more videos like this! Love you.
Will do x
@@lummaaziz you are really my inspiration to move on and be happy. Thank you so much!
Watching you transform is so beautiful I’m so proud of you you have given me so much motivation
found out today that my ex of 6 years is already in a new relationship after not even 2 months, what a joyful experience this has been. 🙃
Mine too, 6 years living together and 2 months into the break up as well! I guess they move on to get over us and likely because they can’t be alone.
@@RR-fn6dm my ex got preggo after 2 months of break up...all i can say is people who can move on that fast has had many many relationship in the past and they don't feel that first time break up emotional...experience can make you painless...
@@SiddikaKobir yes I definitely agree! I bet my ex either marries her or they get pregnant. It’s gonna suck but I am glad I am on the path I am on for growth.
omg samee
That’s called a rebound sis
i love it, it's beautiful. i think my past relationship healed the parts of me that could not have been healed without this beautiful experience. I found a great lover, a friend, a human. Of course it wasn't working in the dynamics of a romantic relationship and that's completely fine. I do believe that right now being single is the biggest blessing to use this clarity and see if something great comes along and then meet it in a beautiful dance for as long as its meant to last.
become the person that validates yourself.
You bring me so much comfort as I go through this time in my life. I am still healing from my breakup which happened two months ago. I love love your relationship advice videos and constantly am revisiting them as I go through ups and downs. Thank you so much
It's funny how mindset could change the way we deal with things. Thank you Lumma
Thank you bby I just went through the worst breakup of my life and your videos have really helped ❤️
These video are helping so much right now. I’m going thru so much depression in my life right now and this made my day a little better
your videos helped me get over my breakup with my ex and learn how to move on, so thank you so much for making these because your advice is really helpful
One thing I’m going to put to the side rn is dating. At first I jumped on to the dating apps cuz we said we would try that to experience it but I don’t want to lol after heartbreak i just want to focus on me and not use someone else to make me happy or feel validated. I want to get to a place where all by myself I have zero doubts, no insecurities, and know she dropped the ball and any girl who ends up with me will be absolutely blessed. I know I believe that but I just need to feel it, and live it so I can be at peace. Then if the right person or even if she comes into my life again and the times is right I will be ready to embrace it. But on my terms
Hey Lumma, I just got broken up with last week and your videos have really helped. But I'm struggling with finding comfort in the future... every path forward seems uncomfortable and painful - regardless if we get back together, or if i move on, or if i eventually find someone else, or if i'm alone -- the path seems uncomfortable and painful. I'm trying to find comfort in focusing on working on being the best version of myself but i'm getting very tired... How did you cope with thoughts of the future and how uncertain and uncomfortable everything is when you broke up? How do you push through this constant discomfort?
i needed this, i was dwelling on being lonely for too long i focused too much on comfort by others instead of working on myself.
Thank you Lumma, your videos and your wise words of encouragement is the reason I am moving forward after my ex broke up with me.. This has made me realize my value. I love myself too much to hurt myself :) anymore with the memories and the pain.. To anyone going through a tough time right now, just know that brighter days are ahead, coming from a girl who cried all week for a guy who broke her heart.
Hope you hit your 100k target, girl! You deserve it, your videos are fab xx
Sent this to my friends going through a breakup. Saw your 3 months of breakup video before,going through mine. Cried along too... But this really hits!
I have watched all 3 of your videos and yiu are the best thing that happened to me since my break up like listening to you gives me so much courage and confidence
Ended 3 years relationship 3 months ago. Honestly im healing and i feel really good by myself.
hey lumma, I watch ur How to Deal with a Breakup video. it was so uplifting✨ This is the third video of urs I have watched, I enjoy every second of it and definitely subscribe! ✨✨ keep making videos!
Your videos are the reason that I don’t interact w him and moving on from my ex. May god bless you for making these videos!😫🙏🏻💖
I REALLY NEED TO COMMENT... THIS IS THE BEST PEP TALK EVER LUMA.... KEEP IT UP.. YOU ARE OUR GURU FOR RESURRECTION AND SELF LOVE.. I LOVE YOU. ANOTHER FILIINO HERE
You are amazing! Thank you, I am going through a tough time right now, so your tips and shared experiences really help me.
Lmaooo Lumma when you said “…that goofy ass person” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 for real though!!!
i genuinely love you. you are an earth angel. thank you for helping me get through a break up
Thank you Lumma for your inspirational and insightful advice on how to let go, move on, and be the dream person you want to be! I’ve been struggling in believe I need to be in a relationship and the pressure of being a single independent woman in this society. After watching your video, it resonated with me and give me the confidence I need to keep on living and everything will eventually flow naturally. I believe you, I just need to believe in myself more and give myself more self love than ever before! I appreciate you and your videos very much! 🥰
Thank you for the advice from your video. It really does show that we can be on our own. And it is possible to take care of ourselves without being in a relationship. We need to learn some independence first and then think of experiencing life with someone.
Thank you so much for your videos! They help a lot. This has been one of the toughest times in my life but I’ve been doing well all things considered. I’m doing my first therapy session tomorrow and I’m ready to add that to the list of things that will turn me into the best me I can be, and I’m excited about that! 😃
You're amaze Lumma! Thanks for sprinkling your amazing self all over YT.
You have no idea how much your videos have helped me ❤️. I have watched them multiple times because they really do make me feel so much better. Thank you 🙏🏻
Thank you sooo much! Your vides are almost the only thing that helps me😭It’s the first days of my breakup and it’s so hard to go through it all alone
Love this and love how you phrase things to really make perfect sense 🙌🏻 thank you for taking the time to post these messages 🥰
My bf broke up with me via text after 15 months. He said we’d get married and totally future bombed me to the core. I then realised that he was narcissistic and emotionally abusive which is so scary. I’m now 28 and turning 29 in November. Although I enjoy being single and can’t emotionally give to anyone right now, I’m very paranoid and conscious that I’ll be single for a long time
You're amazing girl! It's the first time I've been really single in my life and I'll be 33 in a month!? I'm so happy single! Yeah does it get lonely sometimes? Yes but I'm finally able to get to know ME! And I love it! Me & everyone around me has been saying that they can and have seen me growing and it feels great. I love now that I'm able to make my own decisions about life and figure out what I love and what I don't love. And it has given me time to love myself which was my goal for a really long time. Thanks for your videos gorgeous! And by the way, I bought the silver necklace with my name on it from your site!! And I'm INLOVE!! I wear it all the time! Not alot of people have my name. If they do,, it's usually not spelled the same lol. Like yours. You have a beautiful name btw! So it was nice to have one made just for me! 💝🥰😘
Thank you for this. My ex of 5 years broke up with me for another guy. I’m 19 and I planned on being with her forever I had plans. When she I felt like the world was collapsing around me bc I don’t got any friends at the moment bc I only talked to her . I’m gonna improve my body and do more with my life now . I still feel really sad bc it just happened a week ago. But these videos make me feel better.
I feel so much better listening to you, Lumma.
Please make more pep talk videos, they are sooo helpful! Thank you so much!