Thank you. I was in an abusive marriage. I left him 15 years ago but still have a hard time around him. This puts in perspective some of the things that I have learned and thought about.
I was in an abusive emotional relationship up until my husband died. I did separate from him for about 2 years and 9 months before he died. The only reason I moved back was to help care for him. He was dying of cancer and was not going into a hospital. I could not blame him for that. He had first been diagnosed in ‘83 and had a final 3rd episode in 2006. He decided he couldn’t keep going through surgeries. In 2007 he died, however, he managed to still make me feel “worthless, and of little value to anyone then or in the future”. His words are paraphrased. I left him because our 5th child (daughter) ran away from home, not once but twice. The second time I couldn’t get her home. Even though I left, I couldn’t get her to move in with me, she had chosen a different life style. My boys knew they were leaving as fast as they could, my daughter felt chased out. So did I. His actual intent, I found out later was to have everyone out and have me all to himself. And I still worked, he at one time tried to get my friend to talk me out of working so he could work more hours. My husband had no value in what I did. Ever.
Thank you. I was in an abusive marriage. I left him 15 years ago but still have a hard time around him. This puts in perspective some of the things that I have learned and thought about.
I was in an abusive emotional relationship up until my husband died. I did separate from him for about 2 years and 9 months before he died. The only reason I moved back was to help care for him. He was dying of cancer and was not going into a hospital. I could not blame him for that. He had first been diagnosed in ‘83 and had a final 3rd episode in 2006. He decided he couldn’t keep going through surgeries. In 2007 he died, however, he managed to still make me feel “worthless, and of little value to anyone then or in the future”. His words are paraphrased. I left him because our 5th child (daughter) ran away from home, not once but twice. The second time I couldn’t get her home. Even though I left, I couldn’t get her to move in with me, she had chosen a different life style. My boys knew they were leaving as fast as they could, my daughter felt chased out. So did I. His actual intent, I found out later was to have everyone out and have me all to himself. And I still worked, he at one time tried to get my friend to talk me out of working so he could work more hours. My husband had no value in what I did. Ever.