The moment the narcissist realizes they may have lost you for good

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  • @joebhouse
    @joebhouse  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Don't forget to follow me on Instagram - instagram.com/joe_b_house/

  • @HELLo_tHERE_plAyLists
    @HELLo_tHERE_plAyLists หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    Your closure - when they show you who they are believe them

  • @pumiabroad
    @pumiabroad หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    10 days no contact and I am proud of myself 💃💃💃🇿🇦
    Update:
    Today I am celebrating a full month of no contact.

    • @LadyLibra-kp8ox
      @LadyLibra-kp8ox 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      LET’S GOOOO!!!!💪🏾💪🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 You got this!!! Congratulations!!! Now watch your life bloom!! Remember, no contact means NO contact. The real test comes when they hoover. Your strength and resilience will be truly tested then. They WILL hoover. It doesn’t matter how much time has passed. They WILL hoover. No matter what….NO CONTACT. I’m rooting for you👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @nickf2170
    @nickf2170 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Getting me back?....that would be a miscalculation on their part.

  • @sonlightpsalm942
    @sonlightpsalm942 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

    The narcissist was or is in your life for one reason.
    It's so you'll wake up from the illusion that you need validation or love through their affirmation, which they'll never give you. They're there to teach you that you have to find affirmation through reparenting your inner child and unconditionally loving yourself because you're a beautiful person and have intrinsic value.
    Learning to love yourself is not easy, but essential on this journey called life.
    Remember, you don't have to hate the narcissist. You have to understand them, as well as yourself, or you're bound to repeat the process of abuse.
    Don't be a victim like the narcissist ( or so they say), become an overcomer! 😊❤😊
    Tip: Love God the Creator 1st.
    Love yourself 2nd, then your neighbor, so you'll have the necessary boundaries that you didn't learn as a child. 😊
    Don't feed the narcissist your time, devotion, sympathy, or money. Walk away from the abuse, and learn to value yourself 😊

    • @jeannieotb8491
      @jeannieotb8491 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Yes dont be an enabler. Stop them i their tracks. Boundaries. Don't let them in. xx

    • @debbiehepler2007
      @debbiehepler2007 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@sonlightpsalm942 well said thanks

    • @lillybellmarisa9996
      @lillybellmarisa9996 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Perfect Said Amen 🙏🏼

    • @Job.Well.Done_01
      @Job.Well.Done_01 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Well- written truth.

  • @ms.k7487
    @ms.k7487 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    Time does change the dynamics. However, even if you move on, the rumination seems to get worse. Even though you know it was all a façade. I've been in contact and would never take him back! It's the disbelief that someone could be so cruel to you that doesn't disappear.

    • @miraclesforus
      @miraclesforus หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Well said..

    • @CarelNuñez
      @CarelNuñez หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Indeed 🤍

    • @petemoore8923
      @petemoore8923 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      Yes. The cruelty left me in awe. This completely devastated my daughters ages 9 and 5 and she didn’t even blink when they were howling crying.

  • @agusia1217
    @agusia1217 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    😊 THE MOMENT I DECIDED TO WALK AWAY I GOT MY CLOSURE 😊 I'M MOVING ON 😊

  • @qubex
    @qubex 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +88

    I went absolutely no contact 449 days ago and I can’t stop ruminating.

    • @raylanier4519
      @raylanier4519 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      It’s been over a year and I think of her constantly

    • @AndreaDawnBrewer
      @AndreaDawnBrewer 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

      It gets easier, but I know what you mean. Find hobbies to redirect your focus. It will help a lot!

    • @ceyciemateo9411
      @ceyciemateo9411 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Invest in a recovery coach

    • @Cheezin1
      @Cheezin1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      You won! And you fkn know bout this s*t, lets Go💪

    • @qubex
      @qubex 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ceyciemateo9411 I’ve already got a therapist that helps me a lot.

  • @justlookalittledeeper9953
    @justlookalittledeeper9953 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    Love what you said about time being an ally of ours but always the enemy of the narcissist.

    • @user-yk3vc1ih9s
      @user-yk3vc1ih9s 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Time and karma are the narcs enemies

  • @caribooskidoo3997
    @caribooskidoo3997 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Each day just keeps getting better and better!

  • @lorawhite1017
    @lorawhite1017 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    I didn't loose a dam thing but a minultive, controlling sob

  • @Stephanie.101
    @Stephanie.101 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    65 days no contact and I’m actually getting better. Some days are good, some are bad had nightmares about them a couple of times too but I’m definitely way much better now than when they were actively in my life

    • @spindrifter7519
      @spindrifter7519 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Keep it up, it's definitely worth it.

  • @louiseelliott6404
    @louiseelliott6404 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Thanks Joe. Ultimately what was your weakness becomes your strength and what appeared to be the narcissist’s strength was never that because deep down they were always weak and still are ……

  • @cajuncrackerranch7990
    @cajuncrackerranch7990 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Thanks Joe 🙏
    and so the true pursuit of happiness begins…
    No drama
    No lies
    Just the wind
    No chaos
    No cheating
    For the win
    Let the pursuit of happiness begin.
    Peace and prosperity ✌️

  • @user-vp7kn3js4x
    @user-vp7kn3js4x หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    They realise nothing. That would require them to be self aware.
    Healing from these creatures is as mythical as they are.

    • @vodkavuitton
      @vodkavuitton หลายเดือนก่อน

      The bottom line to their madness is they are broke 😂😂 the world is not the same as it used to be so they are stuck in the past & have not mastered how to keep their funds coming in this new economy that couldn’t care less about their popularity. They are BROKE ✌🏿

  • @debbiehepler2007
    @debbiehepler2007 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Joe thank you for continuing these. I’ve been watching for a year and I still need the extra encouragement you give to keep on going.

    • @jeannieotb8491
      @jeannieotb8491 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Try andrew on narc daily and narc con. Both also very good for extra help. xx

  • @user-ce5bg9jx3f
    @user-ce5bg9jx3f 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    After listening to your videos today I blocked him on both cell phone and Facebook. In the end it would always have the same ending. We try to rationalize their ways but their ways have no feeling or character about them. Thank you for letting me see this.
    If they truly loved you their attention would never have changed to pull them away. They only pull away because they want to be pulled away!🌹

  • @MimiTells-t7w
    @MimiTells-t7w 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Miss you 😢 I hope everything is okay. ❤

  • @janicemurphy4373
    @janicemurphy4373 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    That’s so sick 🤢 that someone needs to destroy you that, bad so bad to make themselves feel better, sick sick sick!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @caramelfrappuccino234
      @caramelfrappuccino234 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yessss I said that exact same thing earlier today.

  • @lioubovgrant1935
    @lioubovgrant1935 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Good morning ! 🌞Joe treating us with a new magical video this morning ! Lets have a cup of Joe ☕☕ with Joe and enjoy it ! Thank you Joe ! 🤗 ❤ Happy weekend ! 😎 ⛱

  • @shawndarodgers939
    @shawndarodgers939 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you Joe I needed this today as my exnarc is losing his mind after 4 months of NO CONTACT we have never went this long and Im truly done for good. I appreciate your words ❤

    • @pinkchilldivestmentor
      @pinkchilldivestmentor หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hey stop calling him ‘my’ call him ‘the’. Dehumanize narcs💯💯

  • @zandershutterhandmishra6770
    @zandershutterhandmishra6770 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    This is the first case, an abuser left victim!😂

  • @angiemcguinness355
    @angiemcguinness355 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Thanks Joe

  • @patbirkett4131
    @patbirkett4131 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My wife and have separated now for nearly 5, she’s been living her best life!
    Ive been in hotels pretty much that whole time other than the odd day being at home.
    It’s been hell

  • @Sparky-if9sn
    @Sparky-if9sn หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Joe where have you been man?!?!?

    • @ghostrecon3834
      @ghostrecon3834 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He periodically disappears for a month or two every now and then.

  • @CookieMonster-hm8hx
    @CookieMonster-hm8hx 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Great analysis - something to refer back to - I like how time away from the narc is on our side as long as they are not actively involved.

  • @MrMaxedout00
    @MrMaxedout00 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I have to say big thank you to joe your videos and understanding of the condition you pulled me form the deep well that I was thrown into and now nearly at the top and never could say thanks enough . I would ask everyone to go through all them and by the end you will have a clear understand of what the hell happened . He will save you life and help you get to where you need to be . (Free)

  • @stylist62
    @stylist62 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Haven’t seen him, he instantly found someone got engaged married to me still, she gave me a call, never have heard from him, 1 1/2 year, he was grooming someone cleaned out my storage filled it with cheap junk trash so I would know

  • @withmessagesofvirtueiamunt2380
    @withmessagesofvirtueiamunt2380 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    They will know for certain they have lost you when you found the King of Innocence. All you have to do is talk about innocence in any form or fashion and they will become uncomfortable and play devils advocate against unwavering teachings.

  • @jeffrey268
    @jeffrey268 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is astute and , sadly, quite correct. Thanks for sharing clarity.

  • @gangGreenthumb
    @gangGreenthumb 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I really miss your content. I hope you'll come back, but take care of yourself if you need a break.

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’m dead he’s taking everything I’m glad he won now I sleep

  • @matarcher3145
    @matarcher3145 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    We need a new video!

    • @ghostrecon3834
      @ghostrecon3834 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@Job.Well.Done_01how do you know this?

  • @BeTheLight624
    @BeTheLight624 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you!

  • @Acceptancetoday
    @Acceptancetoday 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    When he kicked me out of the apartment his daughter provides for him when I refused to say he was God, refused to say we are all God, he went into a rage claiming no one ever was helped by the Bible, the commandments are bullshit…..threw my dog on the floor and made me leave…….a page turned in my brain when my religion was completely disrespected and I was done…..a gift from God. When we talked next in a day he tried to skip over the entire horrible experience and I just said we can only be friends. I will no longer give him 1 k a month believing we had a future. I’m peacefully done, I could pinch myself, the energy connecting us is gone.

  • @user-wc1ci3qb2z
    @user-wc1ci3qb2z 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Excellent

  • @user-wc9zj3hr5c
    @user-wc9zj3hr5c หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm in recovery
    I feel addicted to your videos
    Where are you?
    I know I'm weak... and not.
    Who knows ?

  • @GodisGreat6527
    @GodisGreat6527 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Your voice is beautiful

  • @shieldoffaith7099
    @shieldoffaith7099 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Hey Jo jo missing you bbz ❤

  • @EdwardHaren
    @EdwardHaren หลายเดือนก่อน

    She is all I have left, I gave her my word I wouldn't leave her, stemming from a conversation about her personality disorder. She's cheated or raped whatever and she is gone. I am here for her but. I won't be no more confusion of pain.

  • @tinalight7106
    @tinalight7106 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Hi Joe🪷

  • @beemonroe4330
    @beemonroe4330 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    🗞️ ☕️ 🥯

  • @blueprintfitness8389
    @blueprintfitness8389 หลายเดือนก่อน

    New vid soon?

  • @fitnesslk
    @fitnesslk 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Always the same fkn topic

    • @debbiehepler2007
      @debbiehepler2007 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

      If you don’t like it go away.

    • @jeannieotb8491
      @jeannieotb8491 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      we need it. Go away if you don't. you must be a narcissist yourself or you would understand that!

    • @vodkavuitton
      @vodkavuitton หลายเดือนก่อน

      They are weirdos watching someone & using everything they observe to paint someone as a narcissist 😂😂 it’s like they believe that is the code to break someone’s spirit who couldn’t care less if they was a psychopath 🤷🏿‍♀️ they are a psychopath not bothering their weird ass & they need to stop begging for attention period. They will crash all the way out because they are too prideful to just stop harassing someone & will exhaust every one of their pathetic options. Regardless their time is up ✌🏿 let them no longer mistake me for somebody who gives af

    • @fitnesslk
      @fitnesslk วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@jeannieotb8491 😂 are you a triggered super empath or a beta empath ? Why so hars comments ? Meybe YOU are the narcissist ! I didnt acuse anyone you ran straight to ad hominem ! "Clap clap" smh

    • @fitnesslk
      @fitnesslk วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@debbiehepler2007 i like the topic thanks for your concern lol 😅 are you an agree person ? Its still alwaya the same topic he speaks the same topic in circles with new words.... not much classification.... you do understand that your comment is a little to much defensive right? Did alot of Narcs trigger you in the past ? Dont let everyone trigger you ! Woek on your self ! Dont attack critisism thats pretty valid, if you have something oposite to say about what i say then say it instead of behaving like a black life matters/body shame movement type of a person 😅