The things that make me upset about these situations: Not calling the police Not allowing people to stay at the home with them Not telling people who the stalker is Not allowing help They take care of these men
@@billiismith6054 they are not blaming her. They are saying at some point we have to take responsibility for things we do and dont do. She could have helped herself in a few different ways. Its never the victims fault because you can't control someone's actions, however she could have done more to help herself. In many cases women have a sense to protect me rather than themselves and thats wrong on all levels.
Ok! The way I flew to these comments! 35 and 19 and she was taking care of.him. I wonder did anyone try to stop the relationship when she was a teen...
Let's not mix apples and oranges.. Yes it is a red flag ..but it's not a red flag for a murder. When it comes to murder, behavior and background is usually red flags... 35 year Olds date 19year Olds isn't a new thing... so hold your horses a little bit.
I thank God for another moment to repent and make it right. Im in constant prayer. My biggest fear is dying in my sin.. Not having a chance to repent 😢❤
What happened to reporting to the police. Getting pepper spray or a gun. Taking defense classes and securing your premises. She should have done something to defend herself at least😢
I was in an abusive relationship before and I can’t tell you- you don’t want to make them mad by going and putting paperwork on them. You literally keep ANY weapons of any kind out of the house, for fear that they’ll use them ON YOU! The police NEVERRRR DOES ANYTHING when you DO call them! You don’t want your friends & family involved, because you think he’ll hurt them too! It’s easier said than done! Trust me! My abuser (husband) poked me a couple times with a knife and told me to call the police so he can make them kill him in front of me….
Some of these comments are disturbing. This is about a woman who lost her life and people are victim blaming and talking about what her name means and etc. 2 kids are without both of their parents. Could LaJoya have handled things better yes but it's still very unfortunate.
I knew it was him, he was already doing too much in the first interview. The stalking. She didn’t take it serious enough for me. Did he not have a job to go to?!
Now you got a stalker why are you being so secretive. Speak tf up. If she would’ve spoken up sooner she probably would’ve still been alive. That’s just so crazy to me smh. And 16 years her senior. He was too old for her to begin with. She 19 you 35 red 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
I know this young ladies family. When this happened it was a travesty. The boyfriend/ killer came to funeral and he was so weird. His energy was dark and evil. May she rest in peace 🙏🏽
D been stalked by 3 men in one neighborhood in the mid 90's. I called was told it was nothing they could do. In the mid 2000s I realized I was being stalked by a man I knew. During the same period some started leaving notes on my car. The 4th letter I called the police service for job. They found out who it was and it stopped. December 2023, and twice in July'24 someone broke through my locked( latched and Master locked) privacy fence in 230- 3am in the morning. I discover the 1st 2 times around 6am. I called the police and they took a report by phone. Why? B/C nothing was stolen from my yard. The 3rd time ,230am I heard it! I called the police . I waiting 30 minutes because I was afraid of just afraid of the police. A lot of times eventhough we called they police from help. We end up arrested( for nothing) or unalived! I stated my fear of the unknown(perp) and the known cops.
She probably met him and he loved bomb her with gifts and attention. Then she realized he was controlling. That why he said “ she’s playing me” he felt like she owed him prayers
Some people don't care. Based on the details of this story, he was a manchild. He couldn't even stand on his own 2. The boy needed a young adult lady 2 provide 4 him. Sad.
Soooooo she was adamant about James leaving even after strange text and he volunteered to stay. Then he leaves and she texts him in the middle of the night saying someone is breaking in? Seems like we only have James side of the story. Dude sure is a good storyteller.
Anyone else thinks the friend was almost useless and seemed to be no help or use at all in helping Lajoya secure her safety. What the use of telling someone, if your own friends don’t do anything to help you 🙄 And she even gaslit her into thinking it was just imagination and paranoia when she said she was missing things in her house and someone was messing with her fb etc. Smh 🤦♀️
I believe the friend was jealous of her and didn’t care enough to tell the police what was happening upon questioning. I would have been at the police station accusing him!
Why didn’t you call the police?! You couldn’t have handle😢 this scary situation on your own. Ladies please call for help you can’t predict one’s action! Don’t take it lightly when someone is stalking and threatening your life!
This sounds so much like my story . I never called the police on him and I should have . I was 19 as well. 15 years older than me. So many things I didn’t understand. Thank God I’m alive!
I’m sorry but LaJoya wasn’t very bright. Unfortunately, he unwillingness to take action led to her own demise. There is no way I wouldn’t have called the cops of someone is trying to break into my house- that’s crazy!!!
Poor LaJoya. I wonder if her family supported her dating a man that much older than her. That was the first big mistake. People say report to the police and I agree, but they don't really do a lot. It doesn't mean he wouldn't have gotten her. These crazos will not be deterred by a protection order...I watch enough of these shows to know. I wish she would have protected herself and recognized the very real danger she was in. Eva--do better.
16 year age gap wow wow you know what it’s her choice her life you can tell Latoya knows the choices she makes so full aware of her own actions You know the routine before friends or family the main love interest is the suspect that’s where it all begins Can you imagine Latoya dinner date with her friends than the guy named Zack interrupting trying to get too friendly suspicions behaviour very creepy vibes Jose Is like every woman’s nightmare you name is passive, prossive, controlling, manipulative all of the typical usually stuff I mean his in a car watching her in the dark in plain sight 😅yh wasn’t hiding out in the open. Would explain why his past relationship won’t mentioned probably didn’t last or the ex survived moved away from me I guess Latoya was the unlucky one Jose notepad was beyond obsessed very creepy and dangerous 😳he blames her for nothing the usually I look for someone to blame that’s a lot of hate. Jose also had a lot of rage he was like how dare you leave me for another man nobody leaves me He decided well times up time to act now well did the dirt😳 when she was sleeping even in own home you are not safe no sleep constantly thinking what’s going happen if you let down your guard Rip Latoya 🙏
Evvverybody sayin, "im not victim blaming BUT"😢🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ Everbody sayin what theyyyy wld do, that cldnta been me, i wlda did/dnt... STFUUUUUPPPP!!! STOP JUDGING AS IF YALLLL CLD🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Be aware of who you consider Christian....most so called Christians are not true believers and they don't really care about God...they just go to church as a social club and pastors are there for gain and profit. The bible says the devil himself comes as an angel of light, he will come as a christian or a pastor. Don't reject God because you been deceived and offended by the servents of the devil in disguise. God is very good and will forgive you if you believe in Jesus Christ his Son and you will have eternal life in a perfect world in a perfect new body.
The way he looked in appearance looked to good him being clean and innocent and why would speaker he's 35 then said he 45. Speakers be messing alot in these stories about different things all the time.
I suspected that the victim, LaJoya, was a Cancer woman when the narrator mentioned that she had a stalker. I checked her obituary, and she was a Cancer. Cancer women seem to always attract obsessive and dangerous stalkers. Sleep in peace, LaJoya.
She did it to herself for not reporting his unwelcome actions to the police. At least she should've protected herself against assailant by buying a gun legally and also allowed a family member to reside with her instead of living a lonely life.
She probably knew how dangerous he was and how useless the police are before your are murdered and therefore probably thought calling the police and reporting will set him off the hinges.
No, she did not do it to herself. That monster did it. She was scared and didn't want to set him off. We have no idea what she went through with that man. Victim Blaming at its finest.
@@prinzonic9896there are so many cases of women who did ALL OF THAT and are still dead. A lot times police say they can’t do anything until something happens.
I dont always think these victims are as innocent and great of ppl as they show them to be on this show. You cant play with ppl emotions and think everything just gone be coo RIP to the victim but some things can definitely be avoided
I agree, but n this case, this dude lived off a young lady 16yrs his jr. He was a loser. I can't let that go. Nothing she did excuses him 4 murdering her. He could've left if she was that bad.
The things that make me upset about these situations:
Not calling the police
Not allowing people to stay at the home with them
Not telling people who the stalker is
Not allowing help
They take care of these men
Left the window unlocked.. don’t understand
Ppl DID know...
Saddest part is, ur blaming her😢😢😢
@@billiismith6054, my sentiments exactly! 😥😥
@@billiismith6054 they are not blaming her. They are saying at some point we have to take responsibility for things we do and dont do. She could have helped herself in a few different ways. Its never the victims fault because you can't control someone's actions, however she could have done more to help herself. In many cases women have a sense to protect me rather than themselves and thats wrong on all levels.
The actress playing Lajoya looks a lot like her. They're both beautiful 😍 RIP Lajoya Kamiel McCoy 🙏🌹
She really didn’t do enough to even try to protect herself. People are crazy.
The red flag was him being 35 and her being 19. Then her helping him with finding a job. Like why wouldn’t he already be well off. That’s insane.
Ok! The way I flew to these comments! 35 and 19 and she was taking care of.him. I wonder did anyone try to stop the relationship when she was a teen...
Absolutely!!
Let's not mix apples and oranges.. Yes it is a red flag ..but it's not a red flag for a murder. When it comes to murder, behavior and background is usually red flags... 35 year Olds date 19year Olds isn't a new thing... so hold your horses a little bit.
The actor of Lajoya is beautiful af
She looks like the real girl to me
@simplygem8449 yeah it was hard for me to tell them apart.I'm like how is she acting and she's deceased
19 & 35. That’s a predator. Idk the story yet I’m only a quarter in but I already see a big red flag.
I thank God for another moment to repent and make it right. Im in constant prayer. My biggest fear is dying in my sin.. Not having a chance to repent 😢❤
AMEN 🙏🏾
He should get life in prison with out the possibility of of parole
Exactly 😮
What happened to reporting to the police. Getting pepper spray or a gun. Taking defense classes and securing your premises. She should have done something to defend herself at least😢
Exactly 💯💯
Right! And she wouldn’t let anyone else help her.
Tasers and pepper spray dont work like they used to. We need the strap
I was in an abusive relationship before and I can’t tell you- you don’t want to make them mad by going and putting paperwork on them. You literally keep ANY weapons of any kind out of the house, for fear that they’ll use them ON YOU! The police NEVERRRR DOES ANYTHING when you DO call them! You don’t want your friends & family involved, because you think he’ll hurt them too! It’s easier said than done! Trust me! My abuser (husband) poked me a couple times with a knife and told me to call the police so he can make them kill him in front of me….
She was a dv victim! It’s all about power and control! She finally woke up; yet she was passive
Some of these comments are disturbing. This is about a woman who lost her life and people are victim blaming and talking about what her name means and etc. 2 kids are without both of their parents. Could LaJoya have handled things better yes but it's still very unfortunate.
Everyone knows the guy was wrong. But her not telling and acting so secretive about everything was dangerous and asking for trouble
They are very disturbing, blaming the victims of domestic violence. They are just as bad as the abusers
@@MegaCassie83, the ending of your comment reads ignorance. 🤷♀🤷♀
I knew it was him, he was already doing too much in the first interview. The stalking. She didn’t take it serious enough for me. Did he not have a job to go to?!
He should've went and got a job a McDonald's or sum...too old to be depressed about money
I was thinking the same. Approaching 40 and depressed over a job.
Exactly! He could have worked at a Bank, but he was too possessive, and that would have meant he would not have full control over LaJoya! 😥😥
Now you got a stalker why are you being so secretive. Speak tf up. If she would’ve spoken up sooner she probably would’ve still been alive. That’s just so crazy to me smh. And 16 years her senior. He was too old for her to begin with. She 19 you 35 red 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Poor lady, may she rest in peace and may he rot in hell
I know this young ladies family. When this happened it was a travesty. The boyfriend/ killer came to funeral and he was so weird. His energy was dark and evil. May she rest in peace 🙏🏽
oh wow. makes it all the more real.
Damn man I think I know her do you know if she went to Wilson Middle school
D been stalked by 3 men in one neighborhood in the mid 90's. I called was told it was nothing they could do. In the mid 2000s I realized I was being stalked by a man I knew. During the same period some started leaving notes on my car. The 4th letter I called the police service for job. They found out who it was and it stopped.
December 2023, and twice in July'24 someone broke through my locked( latched and Master locked) privacy fence in 230- 3am in the morning. I discover the 1st 2 times around 6am. I called the police and they took a report by phone. Why? B/C nothing was stolen from my yard. The 3rd time ,230am I heard it! I called the police . I waiting 30 minutes because I was afraid of just afraid of the police. A lot of times eventhough we called they police from help. We end up arrested( for nothing) or unalived! I stated my fear of the unknown(perp) and the known cops.
I am sorry you experienced various situations that caused you fear.
She probably met him and he loved bomb her with gifts and attention. Then she realized he was controlling. That why he said “ she’s playing me” he felt like she owed him prayers
😢i hope she get justice pray her family
Lajoya DOES NOT mean “joy”. That’s not even a word in Spanish.
😂😂😅😅
Means jewel in Spanish according to a translator
@@MissMcD La Joya (Spanish: "The Jewel"). Two separate words.
It's not the literal translation but her name means joy.
She said, IN SPANISH @ThePrettytexan
I'm 36 years old 💯 my daughter is 18🤷🏽♀️💯 how can you find yourself with a 19 year old at nearly 40??
Some people don't care. Based on the details of this story, he was a manchild. He couldn't even stand on his own 2. The boy needed a young adult lady 2 provide 4 him. Sad.
Soooooo she was adamant about James leaving even after strange text and he volunteered to stay. Then he leaves and she texts him in the middle of the night saying someone is breaking in? Seems like we only have James side of the story. Dude sure is a good storyteller.
Anyone else thinks the friend was almost useless and seemed to be no help or use at all in helping Lajoya secure her safety.
What the use of telling someone, if your own friends don’t do anything to help you 🙄
And she even gaslit her into thinking it was just imagination and paranoia when she said she was missing things in her house and someone was messing with her fb etc. Smh 🤦♀️
On point, her friend conscious with deal with her, behind not properly being there for Latoya, SMH I'm with you
Men. Learn to control your emotions
He was not a man. He was a manchild. Real men have control over their emotions.
He's a horrible person.. May God rest her soul..
La joya doesn’t mean joy in Spanish ,it means the gem.
I h guess if u have a gem, you have joy
I think she knew who was stalking her and what he was capable of and didnt want to call the useless police jusr to upset him more. Rip
I was thinking the same thing. No matter what, if a person is crazy enough they will go to any lengths to get to the person.
This Eva girl was not a good friend to Lajoya
Honestly! knowing this bloody guy had been stalking her friend for some time, but still not encouraging her to seek help, WTF
Yessss! So completely agree. I just posted a similar comment. Unbelievable. What a ‘ friend’ 🐒
I believe the friend was jealous of her and didn’t care enough to tell the police what was happening upon questioning. I would have been at the police station accusing him!
I've had tons of friends and family i tried to give advice to. They never want it & will stop speaking to you if you ever try
@@NegritaBrujitano!!! Friends never listen & some get very angry and stop speaking if u give advice about "their" life
Ladies....be careful
Thank you❤
What a monster 👹 !!!!
21:26 “Call 911!” - No
Huh?
She took care of him...wtf kind of ish is dat....
Calling the police would,ve been the 1st thing i do then get a protective order.
Why didn’t you call the police?! You couldn’t have handle😢 this scary situation on your own. Ladies please call for help you can’t predict one’s action! Don’t take it lightly when someone is stalking and threatening your life!
I don’t know who told her that LaJoya means Joy, it does not. La Joya means the jewel.
This sounds so much like my story . I never called the police on him and I should have . I was 19 as well. 15 years older than me. So many things I didn’t understand. Thank God I’m alive!
Don’t have kids with people without marriage. Loose hips can be quite dangerous when kids are involved.
I can’t watch these without seeing iveykay from instagram 😂😂😂😂
I’m sorry but LaJoya wasn’t very bright. Unfortunately, he unwillingness to take action led to her own demise. There is no way I wouldn’t have called the cops of someone is trying to break into my house- that’s crazy!!!
Poor LaJoya. I wonder if her family supported her dating a man that much older than her. That was the first big mistake. People say report to the police and I agree, but they don't really do a lot. It doesn't mean he wouldn't have gotten her. These crazos will not be deterred by a protection order...I watch enough of these shows to know. I wish she would have protected herself and recognized the very real danger she was in. Eva--do better.
Book sense and no common sense!!!!
So you took your children's mother away from them because you couldn't get your crap together?!
Grow up!!! Attempt to be a man for your kids.
Beautiful woman..but she chose that fool and gave him two kids. I pray he gets his real justice in prison.
I wonder why she didn’t call the police when he was stalking her?
Google domestic violence cases
16 year age gap wow wow you know what it’s her choice her life you can tell Latoya knows the choices she makes so full aware of her own actions
You know the routine before friends or family the main love interest is the suspect that’s where it all begins
Can you imagine Latoya dinner date with her friends than the guy named Zack interrupting trying to get too friendly suspicions behaviour very creepy vibes
Jose Is like every woman’s nightmare you name is passive, prossive, controlling, manipulative all of the typical usually stuff I mean his in a car watching her in the dark in plain sight 😅yh wasn’t hiding out in the open. Would explain why his past relationship won’t mentioned probably didn’t last or the ex survived moved away from me I guess Latoya was the unlucky one
Jose notepad was beyond obsessed very creepy and dangerous 😳he blames her for nothing the usually I look for someone to blame that’s a lot of hate. Jose also had a lot of rage he was like how dare you leave me for another man nobody leaves me
He decided well times up time to act now well did the dirt😳 when she was sleeping even in own home you are not safe no sleep constantly thinking what’s going happen if you let down your guard
Rip Latoya 🙏
LaJoya!!
I've always loved older me..12 year max.. but the problem is the man
Evvverybody sayin, "im not victim blaming BUT"😢🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Everbody sayin what theyyyy wld do, that cldnta been me, i wlda did/dnt... STFUUUUUPPPP!!! STOP JUDGING AS IF YALLLL CLD🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
A lovely bunch of God-fearing Christians 👍
Exactly
Be aware of who you consider Christian....most so called Christians are not true believers and they don't really care about God...they just go to church as a social club and pastors are there for gain and profit. The bible says the devil himself comes as an angel of light, he will come as a christian or a pastor. Don't reject God because you been deceived and offended by the servents of the devil in disguise. God is very good and will forgive you if you believe in Jesus Christ his Son and you will have eternal life in a perfect world in a perfect new body.
I'm lost....😂
God Reigns, ALWAYS
The way he looked in appearance looked to good him being clean and innocent and why would speaker he's 35 then said he 45. Speakers be messing alot in these stories about different things all the time.
The friend should have spoke up sooner as well
They finally got the actor/actress to look Just like the Actual People... 25? All he gotta do is admit & show "Remorse"🤦🏽♀️🤬🤬🤦🏽♀️ he'll be out😢
I’m sorry but she got her self killed because all she had to do was say something to somebody or the police instead of keeping it to herself
I suspected that the victim, LaJoya, was a Cancer woman when the narrator mentioned that she had a stalker. I checked her obituary, and she was a Cancer. Cancer women seem to always attract obsessive and dangerous stalkers. Sleep in peace, LaJoya.
She made no attempt to protect herself. Kind of willy nilly attitude.
why didnt she report to the police
40:59 omg why does that woman sound like a 8year old child 😮
The lady with all the hair is really distracting....
Agreed!
She did it to herself for not reporting his unwelcome actions to the police. At least she should've protected herself against assailant by buying a gun legally and also allowed a family member to reside with her instead of living a lonely life.
She probably knew how dangerous he was and how useless the police are before your are murdered and therefore probably thought calling the police and reporting will set him off the hinges.
No, she did not do it to herself. That monster did it. She was scared and didn't want to set him off. We have no idea what she went through with that man. Victim Blaming at its finest.
@ladyluck538 , she was scared and didn't want to set him off at the expense of her life?! You gotta be kidding me.
@@prinzonic9896there are so many cases of women who did ALL OF THAT and are still dead. A lot times police say they can’t do anything until something happens.
5:28 CLICKED OFF smdhhh
The psychotherapist voice keeps pissing me off!! Like it's so forced and uncomfortable for me😩😩 I despise her voice
Why are all these episodes strictly based on African American people?
Because this show comes from a tv network called tv one they play all black tv shows! It on cable
Hmm. Probably bc these stories aren't typically covered by Dateline and 48 Hours (although LaJoya's story was).
Cause that’s the point of the show, to highlight stories about African American people
Because Snapped is predominantly for non blacks, why, Black folk can't have our ooown?
Lajoya Mccoy
Jesus, he was lowdown &:pure EVIL.😭🙏
@4:35---( "LaJoya means Joy in Spanish" ). false. LaJoya doesn't mean anything in Spanish.
it's just a made up name.
I dont always think these victims are as innocent and great of ppl as they show them to be on this show. You cant play with ppl emotions and think everything just gone be coo RIP to the victim but some things can definitely be avoided
Tell me you're a rapist pedo abuser without telling me
I agree, but n this case, this dude lived off a young lady 16yrs his jr. He was a loser. I can't let that go. Nothing she did excuses him 4 murdering her. He could've left if she was that bad.