12:20 Dan’s take on overthinking and being insecure about what others think of you or say of you and therefore not being able to function was so relatable
The only reason why we feel insecure/fearful/anxious is because due to our awareness of the mind. Some few steps I feel people who feel insecure should try to do daily: 1) Have regular sleep cycles (Sleep at 10pm, Wake up at 4am onwards) 2) In the morning go for an hour walk in nature(if possible); at night wear your exercise clothes and go to sleep. Prepare your exercise shoes and socks all the night before. 3) No screen time including your phones, laptop, iPad an hour before sleep & after waking up. 4) 5 mins before falling asleep just be thankful/grateful. You can mentally tell yourself what you are grateful/thankful for and fall asleep. Catch the MOOD and fall asleep. Within 30 days you should feel so much more better. The mental chatter would reduce drastically and your awareness will be shifted to this moment. Not a sec before, not 1 week after. But just in this moment right now as you read this comment.
Can consider talking abt the new generation (maybe millennial or gen Z) current life goals/SG dreams? Like last time our parents had the 5Cs (car, condo, credit card, country club & cash) but I think those are no longer relevant in such times? What are the new goals we have or are working towards to? Thank you! Loving the content here 👍🏼
im ngl, this is kinda random but im so thankful for your podcasts because i think im one of the younger watchers? so maybe i dont think about these issues much but your episodes really help me to understand more about the people around me as well as myself! (in a way i think my frontal lobe develops a little bit with every video that i watch) ❤
Live by your standards and not by others'. The World is beautiful if you make it beautiful. The world is not complex if you make it simple. Stand tall and be confident. Do not allow others to drag you down. You are your worst enemy. Be authentic , grounded and humble ( but Confident ) . The rest will fall in place. Don't expect others to like you , love you or respect you. But you better like , love and respect that person you see in the Mirror. You are your own insecurity , not others. All the best and Cheers !!
recently I commented on a ig story about someone mentioning 4.5k is too little for Singapore. However, I did mention 4.5k for a individual person is more than enough. The biggest issue is people lack financial knowledge. So, my question which I hope you guys can talk about it is , what should you do with your first job's pay and make it a habit... It would be interesting to hear your thoughts
I’m curious what John means when he says it’s a value thing, does he mean in a more religious purity kinda sense? just curious although i know that you guys try not to bring your own religious beliefs onto the show and it is really appreciated!
Don't think it's necessarily about religion though, it's just personal values in general. I think most people (especially in a conservative society like Singapore) wouldn't be open to being in a relationship with a stripper or someone who does sex work.
I understand what John means by “values”. It’s beyond insecurities. There’s no judgement from me if that person is a drug addict, stripper or prostitute. but would I do what they do, that’s clearly no because it doesn’t align with my personal values. But I will still befriend them. Eg I believe that drugs will destroy lives, hence I won’t touch it. But I can still be friends with a drug addict. I just can’t marry someone who does drugs as he does not share the same values as me.
It’s 100% a values issue with the stripper question lol. Like some people have boundaries. Some are reasonable and some are stemming from insecurities. People date based on similar values. You would have to see having sex with sex workers as not cheating by that’s same logic.
Wah gg to jared, pls know that u dont need to let ur partner do everyting she/he wants to prove that ur secure. You a weird ass dude for letting ur partner give people lap dances, But since ur the one thats married ,maybe im the problem
i feel like they're already putting a negative connotation on 'insecure'. all the situations they've listed eg wife want to be a stripper, wife's male friend want to feel her boobs, is all something i wont be fine with. if that makes me "insecure" i'll gladly accept that yes i am insecure.
12:20 Dan’s take on overthinking and being insecure about what others think of you or say of you and therefore not being able to function was so relatable
Please do an episode on how you define toxic ex-relationships (friends, partner, family etc)
The only reason why we feel insecure/fearful/anxious is because due to our awareness of the mind.
Some few steps I feel people who feel insecure should try to do daily:
1) Have regular sleep cycles (Sleep at 10pm, Wake up at 4am onwards)
2) In the morning go for an hour walk in nature(if possible); at night wear your exercise clothes and go to sleep. Prepare your exercise shoes and socks all the night before.
3) No screen time including your phones, laptop, iPad an hour before sleep & after waking up.
4) 5 mins before falling asleep just be thankful/grateful. You can mentally tell yourself what you are grateful/thankful for and fall asleep. Catch the MOOD and fall asleep.
Within 30 days you should feel so much more better. The mental chatter would reduce drastically and your awareness will be shifted to this moment. Not a sec before, not 1 week after. But just in this moment right now as you read this comment.
ive been training my superpowers guys… if u invite me back for another ad i think i can duplicate your salaries 💪🏻
Yes please!
Can consider talking abt the new generation (maybe millennial or gen Z) current life goals/SG dreams? Like last time our parents had the 5Cs (car, condo, credit card, country club & cash) but I think those are no longer relevant in such times? What are the new goals we have or are working towards to? Thank you! Loving the content here 👍🏼
im ngl, this is kinda random but im so thankful for your podcasts because i think im one of the younger watchers? so maybe i dont think about these issues much but your episodes really help me to understand more about the people around me as well as myself! (in a way i think my frontal lobe develops a little bit with every video that i watch) ❤
This channel is so underrated
F*cking underrated
How do yall keep a straight face in the ads? How many takes did it take?
Would love to see an episode discussing staying in Singapore vs emigrating. Especially when it comes to housing and starting a family etc.
Live by your standards and not by others'. The World is beautiful if you make it beautiful. The world is not complex if you make it simple. Stand tall and be confident. Do not allow others to drag you down. You are your worst enemy. Be authentic , grounded and humble ( but Confident ) . The rest will fall in place. Don't expect others to like you , love you or respect you. But you better like , love and respect that person you see in the Mirror. You are your own insecurity , not others. All the best and Cheers !!
recently I commented on a ig story about someone mentioning 4.5k is too little for Singapore. However, I did mention 4.5k for a individual person is more than enough. The biggest issue is people lack financial knowledge. So, my question which I hope you guys can talk about it is , what should you do with your first job's pay and make it a habit... It would be interesting to hear your thoughts
It'll be interesting to invite Ghib Ojisan on the show one of these days.
I second this. Hope TDK invites him on the show.
What will the episode be about though?
Man this one really hits home, especially with the Dunning Kruger chart thingy
great episodeee but felt like yall were gonna go more into things and it ended :(
Algoooo ooo!! What's JP's watch? Tutor blackbay?
I’m curious what John means when he says it’s a value thing, does he mean in a more religious purity kinda sense? just curious although i know that you guys try not to bring your own religious beliefs onto the show and it is really appreciated!
Don't think it's necessarily about religion though, it's just personal values in general. I think most people (especially in a conservative society like Singapore) wouldn't be open to being in a relationship with a stripper or someone who does sex work.
I understand what John means by “values”. It’s beyond insecurities.
There’s no judgement from me if that person is a drug addict, stripper or prostitute. but would I do what they do, that’s clearly no because it doesn’t align with my personal values. But I will still befriend them.
Eg I believe that drugs will destroy lives, hence I won’t touch it. But I can still be friends with a drug addict. I just can’t marry someone who does drugs as he does not share the same values as me.
Now u will need to make another ep for Knowledge vs Confidence. Like for example a person who have a lot of Knowledge, but little to no confidence.
Able to do an episode on open relationship? Why not be single rather than in open relationship?
It’s 100% a values issue with the stripper question lol. Like some people have boundaries. Some are reasonable and some are stemming from insecurities. People date based on similar values. You would have to see having sex with sex workers as not cheating by that’s same logic.
Wah gg to jared, pls know that u dont need to let ur partner do everyting she/he wants to prove that ur secure. You a weird ass dude for letting ur partner give people lap dances, But since ur the one thats married ,maybe im the problem
i feel like they're already putting a negative connotation on 'insecure'. all the situations they've listed eg wife want to be a stripper, wife's male friend want to feel her boobs, is all something i wont be fine with. if that makes me "insecure" i'll gladly accept that yes i am insecure.
i'll buy some bots for the haircut!
First again! I love my body.
Algooooooooooooooooooo