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- www.radtalks.com Umm Reem talks about how women face sexual temptations similar to men and discusses how we can support women in this struggle.
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Finally, someone who talks about a woman's sexual desire from an Islamic point of view!
Sara yea I know right... in fact, this subject is so laid back on that most of the times I forget that women even have sexual desires just like men.. I swear sometimes it feels like girls don't feel it like men
Wesam kachouri it's a sensitive topic but it still largely exists and it's brushed off like it's not there
well.. to be fair, women were created more modest compared to men, for men when they have sex or are involved in zina, they are considered "cool" by their friends here in the western world. and this is the complete opposite of how women are treated when they commit zina. Also women are better at hiding their sexual desires than men.
Sara thats exactly what I thought.
Sara the point that muslim girls are better in practicing Islam than boys.. your point is true there have to be a talk from the girl view.. but still i think the propapility for boys to play is more..
Make marriage easy and zina hard.
Yassin299 ameen brother
May Allah make it easy for us to get nikkah and complete half our deens!
Because it's not easy in some cultures marriage is like when the freaking parents decide. Even though the guy or girl is wanting eagerly to settle down and lead a halal life. May Allah open our parents hearts to understand it's important to get their kids married off asap, when they reach the correct age! Otherwise temptations can lead some to wrong paths!
May dua for me, too!
HaSsy MiiA Aameen, i shall remember you in my duas and remember me as well my brother.
You r right brother.
Yassin299
Brother that’ll never be so, In this Dunya Haram will be much easier than the halal , it’s all test from God SWT
@@eliasvlogs2608 u idiot
I'm learning for my unborn child how to be a good father.
Rascal me too! In Sha Allah.
most important thing is source of income- not from insurance, interest etc & halaal food. in the west its VERY difficult to get genuine 100% zabiha meat & most of the processed food in the shelves contain doubtful ingredients.
its unhealthy for the body & for the soul
and this is what leads to disobedient & sinful children
Michael Corleone
Where does. God ever discuss the rape of a child??
Step 1 change that name : Rascal
Cannabis King the dynamics of this issue are not that simple. Everybody will be compensated for the hardships they face both here & the hereafter.
Female speakers, female leadership, female counsellors, female advisors ( trained)
We need all of that .
FEEMALES IMITATING MEN IS SATANIC. FEMINISM IS SATANIC. WOMEN'S "EQUALITY" IS SATANIC.
@1990m t Men are the priority and more in need of council and advice. Women's "issues" will be solved when she when SUBMITS to male authority then does 4 things:hair long, stay thin, sex anytime and keep her mouth shut.
@1990m t I'm not a religion robot idiotically following scripture that's been interpreted for them or following a Jewish agenda eg women's liberation. I use scripture to complement my gut instinct, inner conscience and my intellect.
There's plenty of Quranic, Hadithic, Biblical injunctions warning against feeMales' disobedience to men.
Male adultery (which pales in comparison to the societal damage of feeMale infidelity) would be stopped if feeMales stay thin, keep hair long, provide sex on demand and shut their big mouths. Also banning feeMales from public without a maher/male husband/father/brother and finally capital punishment for adultery.
Other than being spoilt & pampered, FeeMales' "problems" are imaginary, hence the reason that, other than submitting to a man, there is ZERO scriptural verses/commentary pertaining to feeMales issues. The modern feeMale is the most privileged & pampered class of our species in all history. THAT IS THE PROBLEM
A FEEMALE'S ADVISOR & COUNSELLOR NEEDS TO BE A MAN THAT SHE SUBMITS TO. THIS IS IN THE HADITH.
SHOW ME WHERE THE RELIGION SAYS A FEEMALE NEEDS AN ADVISOR & COUNSELLOR OUTWITH HER HUSBAND AND/OR FATHER AND/OR MALE RELATIVES
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Alhamdulloah I am not involved with a boy. I am no perfect but I try to be a steadfast fast muslimah. Aameen
Stay strong Allah is best planner I can guarantee someone is praying for you have patience Allah bless you
Ameen
May Allah bless you sister.
We muslims 1.7 billion of us are proud of you ....we boast to other nations that our women and our girls are precious
May Almighty Allah protect and guide us all
I am almost forty years old and that is considered the age of wisdom. What has life taught me? It taught me the importance of getting married young. It's the best shield for both men and women. If you are a parent, don't tell your kids to wait till they earn a fancy degree to get married. The prophet peace and blessings be upon him told men to get married if they are earning enough to support a family, and to fast until they reach that stage. The prophet pbuh didn't say they have to be rich, they just have to earn enough to take care of their families. But there is no Hadith that tells women to delay marriage (as far as I know) . So sisters remember the prophet peace and blessings be upon him said that women should accept the proposal of good Muslim men, so there is no need to wait for the gorgeous, rich doctor from your ancestral homelands to come along. Lastly I just want to add that there are so many people who entered jannah without having a college degree but there are plenty of people who committed sexual immoralities in hell.
Nikki Kiki well thats how an interest based capitalist economy messes you up. Enjoy! You'll never be happy as long as you are its victim.
@@blackhawk0071292 why are you acting as if I chose this life? And my parents? And my country?
@@blackhawk0071292 and honestly I'd rather have a degree and be my own property later in life than spend my whole life being the property of my parent or my husband. Besides the only reason my parent is making me finish uni on time is so I can have my own office and depend upon a husband who can divorce me and kick me out anytime he finds someone prettier or younger
@Niki kiki u r right people who gotta chance to be married with out problem or hurdle think it's same for everyone my sis can't get married yet because we r not rich we don't have any demand except decency and rightouness but in my country people are greedy and racist...young men are with low self esteem they can't make decission and their parents are after cast and family names اللہ المستعان
@@kushiali6578 in my country most people don't even have jobs, only the ones with influences get the jobs, nobody wants to take care of anyone financially, not even your own parents, let alone your husband, and even if they do issues arise soon enough, because he doesn't want her anymore and she has nowhere to go because her family won't take her back. Parents mostly want their daughters to marry rich and influental men, and if he's not that they will disown them. In my case I would be disowned if I married at this time at all, because my parent wants me to finish uni and have my own stable income, so no man can take my stability away from me. Also here if a woman has her own money men ussualy think they have a right over it. Men mostly don't even want to marry. Hardly anyone does nowadays, and let's be honest nobody will look at a woman if she's not beautiful. So women face a lot of pressure on that field of beauty.
It’s amazing how many people comment on her clothing and neglect the message she is sending. Many muslim are great at being judgmental of others. I believe that people need to understand that the only perfect human being was Mohamed (SAW) everyone else has a lot of short coming but the best amongst us is that who continues to make progress and this woman is doing just that. So to all critics GROW UP..
Mashallah !!
@Syd Twyb but she isnt dressed shamelessly though
@Syd Twyb so how she need to be dressed up like she is in hijab what's your problem?????😕dumb
Masha Allah agree brother
Muslim s are experts in judging people
Just because it may be worse for men, doesn't mean the issue for women doesn't need to be discussed.
Womens desire for men is like 10% of men's desire for women
Dian Robertson 10% of my desire is still allot
@@dianrobertson2185 nahhh woman can have desires that come very close to mens, some have even more than them. How would marriage work out if a man was constantly aroused and a woman only 10% of the time?
Exactly!!!!! Do you think wives only have sexual relations with their husbands once a year? No, unless there are issues. Most couple have sex 1-3x a week so obviously women want sex a good amount too because otherwise couples would have sex less often
Dian Robertson noo lol what r u crazy? No one would be cooperatively lovingn eachother if it eas like tha
It's parenting 100%. Since a young age my parents taught be about Islam and stressed to me that being involved romantically with a girl (I'm a guy) while unmarried was completely forbidden. I had many advances in high school and undergrad from both Muslim and non Muslim girls but I'd shut it down right away from the fear of Allah and the fear of disappointing my parents. I'm not saying I'm perfect and haven't sinned in other aspects of life but I feel kids now a days don't have the correct guidance from parents and give into urges and desires they see from different sources of media and try to replicate it for themselves.
I feel bad for you
Fasting was prescribed as a means of surpressing or killing off any carnal desires. If you are of a marriageable age and looking for a marriage partner and you are starting to feel the pangs of desire, Fasting has been prescribed, lower your gaze, Fear Allah when you are alone and increase dhikr! May Allah make it easy for all of us.
Just holding talks, family support and debating is not enough. Solution is to make "nikaah" simple and 'zinaa' very difficult.
Do women have a say there?
Nikki Kiki Yes definately many girls want to get married early but what happens is they dont get a say and get pressured by there families to get further education incase the husband divorces them lol the parents teach them such a nevative mindset on life. A woman cannot be forced to get married or to marry someone she does not like in Islam but parents should facilitate marriage for their daughters and make it easy for them just as they should not force them to get married they should not force them not to get married many girls who want to get married tell their parents I like so and so I want to marry him but the parents come in the way and say he is not wealthy enough, or you need to go university.
@@TawheedFirst1 yes, you're right, there are a lot of cases like that too, or where the parents won't let their only son marry because he's their only son, but he wants to get married, just today I heard a woman saying he wants to get married but I won't let him, he's my only son, all proud and that was so sad
@Saaduddin Ansari how exactly do you expect someone to be able to feed their family without education and a job?
@Saaduddin Ansari yes, you are right, but here we generally don't have part time jobs for people under 18, and on the other hand some people don't like their kids working for example in cafes and etc because its pitied, so they'd rather their children go to university for a real job, than those types of jobs, but they don't understand that not everybody if fit for being a doctor or a dentist or a lawyer.
Why are most of the comments about the way she dressed, like can someone tell me what's wrong.
damn most of you guys have issues.
Mashallah, brother- you score those points!!
People are assuming what she is wearing. You can only see the top half so whoever is bashing her is wrong
U are right
Her arm is showing
@@dundon8549 You never saw a human ARM before? Good grief...
May Allah protect us from shaytans whispers.
Eser Turan Indeed ☺️
Eser Turan Ameen
and from ourselves. Ameen
What’s shaytans whispers
@@tiasinspirationalcorner shaytan is an Arabic word for satan, shaytan's whispers basically means satan's whispers.
I always hear scholars emphasise taking care of our parents and respecting them, obey them etc. I am all for that, but I always miss scholars talking about what parents’ should do or parents’ duties toward their children. First time I am listening to someone addressing this issue. SubhanAllah. More scholars/ulamas should address this topic. Parents’ Alhamdulillah do a lot for their kids, but in proper parenting they can vastly improve. So when scholars only focus on children’s duties toward their parents the parents get more proud and «blind» to their schortcomings. Unfortunately, I’ve seen lots of sisters obey their parents and accepting marrying men they didn’t want to marry, and it’s just so heartbreaking. Parents misuse their power without even knowing. It breaks the heart of the children.
In subcontinent Asia many parents follow old cultural views rather than Quran and Sunnah....
I agree.
Agreed. I have three children, and I am way more focused on my responsibilities towards my kids than I am focused on my "rights over them". In this way, I hope to raise kids who will, in turn, be focused on their own responsibilities towards others/the community/their religion, etc. People forget that respect does not mean allowing yourself to be abused or manipulated by anyone- including parents. I wish some parents could be placed into forced parenting classes, lol
@@laylaawest5292 lol ....
@@laylaawest5292 what country are you raising them ?
Whenever the women of Islam speaks, the compassion of Allah is near, you can feel it , thank you sister
To all you males who keep "bragging" about having stronger desires, you're literally degrading yourself to the state of any wild animal. There is something Allah has given both women and men that He has not given animals - Akhlaq. Morality and reasoning. The ability to think before pouncing on any act. If you keep justifying your desires by saying "it's greater" then there's literally no difference between you and any jungle animal. All this talk about relating why Allah allowed men to have multiple wives and the female servants you will receive in Jannah to sexual reasons is purely an animalistic state. Maybe check why Allah prescribed hijab for men FIRST in the Quran and then give your empty views.
And hey, if women want multiple men in Jannah, servants or not, she will get whatever she wants :)
I freakin love you. This is the best piece of writing I’ve read in ages and is such a great reply to some of the men out there who try to justify their lack of self-control and go on and on about their “primal instincts” ughh!!
Loveeeee thiiis
coffee lover well said
Great comment! Loved it.
i am a Muslim and i can tell you what you just wrote makes no sense. Morality and reasoning does not help you deal with your daily urges as a man. You are either a women writing this or not a complete man. If it was so simple then there would be no rapes. Of course i am not saying raping is a right thing to do but my point is, it is not as simple as you put it.
Alhamdulilah it's not a surprise that our Muslim females are falling into temptation. I'm a youngman and I refuse to believe that young men are less guilty of committing haram sexual acts than females. We shouldn't be any less accountable than our sisters in this regard! Because we are perfectly capable or resisting, no excuses! It ticks me off when our young men fool with haram relationships and pre marital sex and we are so easy on them but are overly harsh on our sisters with out considering their voulnerability and struggle. we men have to own up and have understanding that our sisters are also fighting the lustful desires and temptation that plague our society and are forced to hide it. They too have strong carnal desires especially in the modern world. We need to take start considering the struggle of our sisters more seriously and work to uniting young Muslims so we can get married the propper way within means of course.
I have so much testosteron i can make 20 women pregnant in one night
I wish her talk was longer.
me too 😭😭😭 her preach was really powerfull
It’s a Shame most parents want a rich husband for their daughters.
Exactly that one of the main prb
But no 1 cares
Prove: even ur comment is least liked
@Tracchofyre A) need,want ok but luxury not every 1 cn gve
B) 2ndly look around in this lockdown scenario u think we will get rich proposals, girl's parents can also act realistic a atleast a bit
@Nafi Ssa which country u r from lemme knw cz if Pak or ind so i can give u answer better in my language
Most parents do not understand Islam at all that's why
@ what do you mean?
Like divorced women are frowned upon?
It may be worse for boys, but it still exists for girls. The problem is that people are waiting too long for marriage after the youth reach sexual maturity. Marriage is also seen more as a position of rank than a necessary social and religious institution. So preferred color, profession and the like start becoming factors. The problem is also that girls give in to more aggressive and often no good guys because they are more interested in rank, power and charisma, and it gets worse the longer they wait to marry. Girls who are interested in guys should suggest marriage rather than fall into temptation. The problem is also that many Muslim associated cultures don't accept that their girls might be actively interested in a guy on her own, and they fall into that 'finding someone worthy of my daughter' syndrome that many parents fall into, instead of looking for sound, moral guys to marry their daughters.
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Couldn't have said it better myself.
The sexual desires that women have is actually stronger than what men have.
it's not that straight forward and simple. they have more capacity for sexual enjoyment. However, to turn a girl on, you need more than just looks and appearance.
Rory Nicholson Hello.who in the world told its a shameful act for a 55yrs old man to marry a 12yrs girl. Marriage doesnt have age.mind explaining how its shame?
The Quran says you must have reached your reasonable growth limit to marry. 4:6
"And test the orphans [in their abilities] until they reach marriageable age. Then if you perceive in them sound judgement, release their property to them. And do not consume it excessively and quickly, before they grow up (lit. become big). And whoever, [when acting as guardian], is self-sufficient should refrain [from taking a fee]; and whoever is poor - let him take according to what is acceptable. Then when you release their property to them, bring witnesses upon them. And sufficient is Allah as Accountant."
Proof that bidaaran an = before
بِدار: (اسم)
بِدار : مصدر بادَرَ
بادره الشيء أو إليه : سبقه إليه
سَبَقَهُ إِلى الشيء سَبَقَهُ ِ سَبْقًا : تقدَّمَهُ
This girl is my inspiration. I want to become an Islamic speaker for the youth and let them know that everything will be okay if they sin. The youth are still young and learning, and are on different journeys to figure themselves out, and that's what adults and parents need to understand. I want to be there for the youth and make them feel calm and safe as possible while I notify them about what's right from wrong in Islam. It is important to make them feel comfortable and happy whenever the topic of Islam is brought up. I want to make them feel that way while gradually increasing their Taqwa as well. Informing the youth in a proper and appropriate way about their religious Islam is crucial in this day and age. I am only 18, but I strongly care for the Muslims around me that are my age and younger, even older. I want to be the person who can finally speak up about these issues, because Astagfirullah as years pass, sins grow to become a trend. I mean look at us 2020. Smh. We have to do something about this to make the next generations as knowledgeable about Islam as possible, in the most positive way there is. We have to make they feel safe and give them a helping hand that can change their lives, and iA they could even be able to change other muslims' lives as well.
Be honest , smart and some little manipulative skill to detect people bs . learn from sales people, mentors, and also Scholars.
As long as you are not publishing yourself and mixing with men go on
Invest your time and money into acquiring extensive Islamic knowledge, we need more women like her and ustadha Yasmine Mogahed in today's world.
Our parents are just really old school they really think we could go for most of our lives without talking to the opposite sex
I completely agree with you
No ones comparing about who's sexual desire is more or less. Calm down. As I believe each person is different from one another,so the situation itself as well varies from one another. Jazakum Allah.
@dave sagar what u on about mate
mate what your response to that comment made no sense to me, so thats why i said what u on about.
@dave sagar bro idk what you believe in, but respect peoples religion, mashallah im muslim, i might not be the best muslim but im trying, so please no need for such hate or disrespect for any religion, all the best bro.
@dave sagar bro for once please listen to quran, just for 2 mins, any surah, just listen, Islam is the best and the true religion of all religions that exist and one that make sense and logical , idk if you have read the quran but i hope you take out the time to read it if you like.
@dave sagar Islam is truly peaceful religion , read the quran and not the media.
I’m currently 15 almost 16 but around the date of my 15 bday me and my parents went to mosque. And of course there are different sections for males and females. But today there was a social gathering at the mosque meaning both men and woman were in the same area. Me and my friends were together in an area not a lot of people come to, (Mostly like teens) and were hanging out. Anyways as the gathering was ending all the older kids were asked to help clean up, and i was helping out with putting away chairs (the storage was around the restricted area the teens hang out in). As i was putting the chairs away, a boy- little older than me, maybe first year university or maybe a senior in highschool? Anyways he asked if he could help and since i needed it, i said sure. It was kind of suspicious that he was alone, however i never really thought anything of it. I’m not a girl that talks to guys often so it got awkward for me to continue talking to him but he kept on trying to start a conversation, as if he were trying to get to know me. We were practically finished with all the chairs and i was about to leave. i said thank you and goodbye. But of course it didn't end there. He pulled me back and did all sorts of things to me. It was terrifying. I look back and question why I didn’t make a single sound or a call for help.. but after it was done he left and I was in such a bad state I tried to go to the bathroom without getting noticed. And cried for I don’t know how long in the stalls. My mom texted that we were going home. At this moment I just felt that my whole entire life turning for the worse. I had never felt so heavy in my life.
(edit) im currently 17 i've overcome a lot of my trauma, however lately, its been hard.. but i wanted to let anyone whos ever been in the same place as me. Please tell someone you trust like a parent a teacher a friend. it may seem scary at first. you might think they'll convict u of avoiding it in the first place. and honestly maybe they will. However, something always turns out. But tell them as soon as you can. My biggest mistake was never telling anyone until it was too late, and when i did tell someone (my teacher in the mosque, she publicly humiliated me not in the sense of using my name, however kind of pointing fingers instead. however i should've told my parents earlier, and i never did. Because of me, a guy like that is still out there.
He did this all in the masjid and in public? Or was it in a secluded area? How disgusting and shameful, how I'd like to teach that fool a lesson!
FloatingMan it was like a staircase leading to a lower level yeah. thankyou
You could have shout,u r muslim girl u r born strong we as men we r raised strong because of women like you i don't understand why when it comes to muslim women they don't resist in any form u could have shouted at that exact time so that guy could not have the chance to run.The only mistake u do here was to remain silent whenever u got married teach ur daughter how to fight and if u can't you will raise another you.
shah farhan yeah I understand but the reason I didn’t scream was because I was in trauma. My brain wasn’t processing what was happening because it happened really fast.
@@aleezalovesyou001 i know the feeling sister dw.It happened to me as a young boy by another man in madinah right in front of the prophets grave! I froze and couldnt do anything about it because we were in a tight crowd which was moving and by the time i turned around and realised what happened the guy had gone.
late marriage is main cause.
I agree
Yes u do agree too
Agree
Bob M comon not at17
@@bobm3250 17 is too young. Even 21. What the hell is wrong with you? To get married is not about age, it is about someone's mental state. Example, if someone is 15 but they are FULLY mature and have the mind a of adult and is interested in getting married then sure I guess. But if someone is 24-25 and is not fully ready to be in a intimate/romantic relationship, then it is not best. Point is that someone has to be ready with the right education.
The most obvious and straight forward solution is never discussed- EARLY MARRIAGE! Also, remaining in ONE'S OWN COUNTRY AND ONE'S OWN CULTURE! Yes, this problem exists everywhere, but on a MUCH SMALLER SCALE OVERSEAS. I know most people don't want to hear this, but these are the best solutions.
We need more videos like this one please. Things are very very very bad with girls and women.
Mashallah. One of the most intelligent lectures from a sister among many useless videos on youtube. worth watching it was
4:10 Why is the punishment same for both sexes? Quran tells both men and women to lower their gaze. Some men have greater fitnah than women and some women greater than men, but only Allah knows exactly and it's not a competition. Nafisas Pearls also speaks on how women can deal with this topic, she has a great channel MashAllah
It's a known fact that the Man has a greater sexual desire than the Woman, hence one of the reason why Allah(swt) has permitted him to have more than one wife and for the Woman, no more than one husband. Wallahu-alam.
In my experience, women are more sexual than men :D
GudMuzlim786 I think alla did not know that a woman can satisfies 20 men in a day same time tell the man to satisfy 20 women in a day.then alla will know who has more desire men or women. its just a man made religion that's why there are so many restrictions on women.
GudMuzlim786 you know although marrying more than women is allowed, it's extremely disliked if you don't show EQUAL balance between both women. If you don't, then you're just adding up sins for yourself by marrying more than one women if your not capable of it. Plus the Prophet (pbuh) wasn't married to multiple women in one go, so why would any other man?! it's clearly something that is not really liked
I'm talking about our natural makeup. Naturally, the man has a greater sexual desire than the woman and this is also scientifically proven. Although it is possible that the woman may be influenced by the environment around her which may affect her sexual desire and this is more common today than it was long time ago. Mainly the widespread of this haram un-Islamic culture and the Media are to blame. And it is important to remember for all brothers and sisters, that whatever Allah(swt) has made haram cannot be made into halal and vice versa.
+zufae5 Whatever Allah(swt) has mentioned must be followed and obeyed whether one knows the reason behind it or not. This is because only Allah(swt) knows what is truly best for us as He alone is our Lord and Creator. We human beings are full of imperfections and flaws and so we are bound to make mistakes. Whereas Allah(swt) cannot as He is Al-Aleem(The All-Knowing), As-Sami(The All-Hearing) and Al-Baseer(The All-Seeing).
"Say, "He is Allah, [who is] One, Allah, the Eternal Refuge. He neither begets nor is born, Nor is there to Him any equivalent." - *{Quran: 112: 1-4}*
"And whoever does righteous deeds, whether male or female, while being a believer - those will enter Paradise and will not be wronged, [even as much as] the speck on a date seed." - *{Quran: **04:12**4}*
+Sage You have a really good point and I agree. If you study and practice Islam, you will find that Islam largely revolves around Justice before anything else. And so Allah(swt) mentions in the Qur'an about always being just and fair, even in Marriage.
"...marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]." - *{Quran: **04:03**}*
WOW! So beautifully explained. Thumbs up for proposing more female leaders. In Islam, we are in dire need of female leadership.
I would love to take on this topic inshallaah, its needed. and Alhamdulillaah I do not fear the criticism of the people because I believe in the good of what we do, no matter how it may seem to others. If you're not part of the solution then you're part of the problem... we have enough problems. Jazkallaah Khair.
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RealTalk Muslim ur 2 years and 11 months late
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Alhamdullah... Insha Allah We need more sisters with knowledge to speak .. Youth as well as new Shahadah sisters
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ماشاءاللہ، great lecture
Sister, May Allah increase u in knowledge!
First of all she's dressed perfectly.. Second her msg is amazing may Allah bless her ameen❤
What comments about the dress ? I can't find any , can you tell me what they are commenting ?
@dave sagarwhat are you saying bro... Do you think the prophet would talk to a woman like that? Islam is the opposite of what you're doing right now. May Allah guide you back to the right path because if you carry on like this idk if He'll open the doors of Jannah for you you... Only God knows.
May Allah protect our daughter's and sisters. And educate the men to protect our women and treat other women like our daughter's and sisters
Women need to protect THEMSELVES WITH ALLAH'S HELP AND PROTECTION...NOT MEN!!
..WHAT ARE TALKINH!?!
...IF REGARDING ADULTRY YOUR CONCERN IS... THEN ITS ALKSHS FEAR, OBEDIENCE AND SELF CONTROL...WITH LOVE TOWARDS LIMITATIONS AND RESTRICTIONS TO PROTECT ONE FROM SIN , ZINA , ADULTERY ETC.WHTAEVER YOU NAME!
Many parents make it hard to talk about marriage or that you are even talking to someone for marriage. They get all judgemental without realising that it becomes worse for the children. They start slandering you, calling names, putting you down then you feel worthless. They think you should snap out of a situation and you shouldnt have emotions
Allah has created everything in pairs. it is only normal to have feelings and desires. however islam teaches us to have selfcontrol and know our boundaries and limits. may Allah guide us all and and grant us better understanding of his deen ameen.
I agree we should talk about sexuality even if our parents didn’t. But most of us don’t know how
I found you to be the first speaker so far I have researched ,to talk about girls...thank you so much ...I was really in dire need of it.....
First time, I listen someone who identified and tried to resolve an fierce issue as this
Wow fantastic. Thank you sister. We need more people talking about this topic in the open refreshing and honest way you've just done.
Dear lord your black
I feel the dawah among boys is far more stronger than girls. I see in the Uk those boys who come to masjid often enough have a decent exposure to religious knowledge. This is often not accessible to girls who at best get relayed or second hand message from their father and not from a scholar or a senior person from the masjid. Mothers in most cases can only enforce obvious rituals and do not provide any kind of inside knowledge of Islam. As a result of all of this girls who may apparently look religious, have very little knowledge about Islam. Often Hijab is worn like a piece of garment. Someone termed it a cult. Many girls taking up hijab with no real love for Islam as this love was never inculcated in them. The point I am making is that I am not surprised when good hijabi girls not only just going out with boys, but actually actively looking for a boy friend. We need more female dayee who can interact with girls and teach them about Islam. Mothers are ill equipped. Fathers are hesitant. Just because a girl dresses appropriately does not mean she has a deep love for Islam or understanding of Islamic virtues
Well said
We need more parents providing their daughters a great islamic education before sending them off to uni to learn knowledge that only benefits them materialistically.When we talk about womens education lets prioritise islamic education before worldy education for our women who shouldn't have the responsibility to earn and provide for their family.
Very true
This is what happens when girls are forced to wear the hijab but never taught to love islam. Some parents, and cultures, care more about appearances (hijab etc) than the soul, unfortunately.
forgiveness is good, but this just makes one intentionally prey on their desires and ask for forgiveness intentionally knowing that they can be forgiven, it's a way of doing sin while having an excuse that it's ok to do so, quite contradicting
warmaxxx my thoughts exactly
warmaxxx Allah's rules are not contradicting my friend, we r supose to try n not sin 1st of all, but if we do which we might bcoz wer human, and we do make mistakes, even the best of us, then Allah will forgive if we ask sincerely and promis not to do it again, then again we must try our best not to sin again
Respect for this woman. May Allah bless her and give the Muslim community more girls like her!
- We know too much about religion and know too little about each other and most cases about our own selves
- it's a fight against, your wants / desire / opportunity with what you will achieve for yourself in the next life, what kind of person are you going to conclude as on the day of judgement,
- forgetfulness will only take you deep into darkness and loss.
- falling in love is one of the single most powerful and empowering feelings and feels much better than guilt, a relationship of constant love with God rather than constant guilt is healthier.
parents need to talk about this with the children a lot sooner. great vid
Many Muslim families are waiting too long for marriages. The right age for marriage for boys should be between 22-26 and for girls should be 18-23. Waiting for the "right" person, good looking, color, height, weight, age, status, how much money he/she makes or what family they belong to are all worldly things that would not bring much, except for sorrow and grief in later life!
I'm 22 and im not mature enough to marry, thinking of marriage makes me have a legit panic attack
Nikki Kiki I'm exactly the same! I could never get married at 22, I really don't even want a relationship or a family of my own
@@sma4030 and there are a lot of people like that. There are also people who aren't mentally stable enough to have kids, there are people that dislike kids, there are people that have issues with marriages, because they can't imagine such a close relationship. There are people that are completely incapable of love. I don't think marriage would make things better for them. It's hard to live with someone, let alone have kids, that bind you forever to that person. It's scary.
Nikki Kiki definitely! And marrying a stranger because of their Akhlaq is scary too. I don't understand how its expected of everyone to look up to that family life. It truly isn't for everyone and def not for my 22 year old self.
@@sma4030 yeah, I was a person that always tried to see good in people, and tried to look for the good and bring it out even if it seemed impossible for any good to be in those people and it only changed me, in making me more reserved, becuse no matter how good someone seemed they had the worst ways of hurting me. So I can't imagine trusting that someone is good anymore from only a few talks, and then ending up regretting it for the rest of my life. Maybe in older times people used to be less hypocritical, but today you never know who will stab you in the back and how.
Females should also be allowed to propose men. Don't forget, Hazrat Khadija R.A proposed the Holy Prophet PBUH when they got married. There is example for you in the Prophet PBUH's life right there. Unfortunately for some reason in most muslim countries it is considered shameful or even not allowed for a women to propose a man. Does a woman not have a heart? Is she not human? Does she have no right to be married or try for marriage if no one comes to propose her? In an ideal muslim scenario, if a woman likes someone, she should tell her parents, her parents meet the boy's parents and tell them that their daughter wishes to be wed by their son, the male's family considers it completely normal and then depending on their son, accept or reject the proposal. If the boy's character is good, the girl's character is good, they wish for a normal married life... what's the harm in it? Unfortunately most people think when a woman proposes, that is humiliating and it shows the woman as a woman driven by desires. You are wrong sir.. they are human, of course they have desires. Even you as male have desires. Having desires does not make you shameful. You become shameful when you try to satisfy those desires in the wrong and not halal ways. What would be better? She marries the halal way, Allah is smiling on her and her husband or you deprive her and she is forced into either something wrong or if not something wrong then a life where she is depressed crying in the corner of her for some prince charming to finally show up for a proposal? THINK about it! What would Allah want! Would he want that she's married and happy or depressed?
At a basic level, the issue isn't complicated. Men and women are naturally attracted to each other. And so Islam recommends marriage at a young age. Otherwise, to avoid anything that leads to temptation (hence the modest dressing, not do "zina" with eyes, fasting, etc.). The problem nowadays is that marriage isn't as easy as it used to be and temptations are all around, every day.
The problem is staring you in the face. We all call ourselves Sunni Muslims but we pick and choose which Sunni we will follow. The Prophet (SAW) said there are three things we should never delay...Salah, Janaazah and Marriage. Following all of the Sunni will solve this problem.
6:27 after hearing that, one dad immediately went home to talk with his daughter :D
😂😂
youth hotlines for someone having a crush lmaooo
Sex education is important, start when they’re young (when they’re around 10-11), and it’s the parents job to educate their kids about the birds and the bees, not the school’s job, not their friends’ job, not the internet’s job. Kids will research these things online (or get misinformed by friends) if parents aren’t educating them, and that’s how they fall into the trap of porn and everything else that will lead to zina. I know, I was a very smart and very curious kid and looked up porn at age 11. Luckily my mom was very gentle and open minded when she found out and proceeded to answer whatever question I had about this ‘taboo’ topic (she tried her best, and did not make me feel like I was disgusting or dirty for wanting to know). I am still a virgin and am keeping myself pure for marriage, so it worked. When I have kids someday, sex will be an open topic in the household, I will never shame their curiosity.
But isn't 11 too young?
*Stxr__Shxp** it’s probably too young if they live in a controlled and wholesome environment, eg., they go to religious private school, etc. But if they go to public or co-ed schools, then it’s not too young at all. I went to a co-ed private school and the kids were already talking about sex amongst themselves at that age and bragging about the stuff they saw online.
I am a guy almost 23 year old,,i pray salah almost all five times a day also watch islamic vedios ,read quran do good deeds also but sometimes i fall in such a temptation it becomes impossible for me to hold on ,,and then i watch porn or masterbate and this thing is killing me,,,
What should i do in order to leave this thing
Check out NoFap, it's a great website full of support, it'll help you reduce porn to the minimum, good luck
What I did to quit it mostly is to remove those websites that have porn entirely. Even if you tell yourself “I’m not gonna masturbate just gonna watch” you’re going to find yourself naturally going back to it more and more, until you give in. I also blocked th0ts on insta, fb, and snap. Go a couple of days without opening those websites and then it will be a natural thing for you not to open it at all. As for girls in real life, you have to lower your gaze and not touch the girls.
Thanks sir i will follow this thing in sha allah ,May allah guide me and All muslim brother
abu hamza yes, it is our duty is help Muslim brothers and sisters including sincere disbelievers
Get rid of pubic hair down below. Use cream if u don't have razor. U will feel light. Also this convert called Billal he lights a match and puts it near his hand just to remind himself how hot the fire of Hell will be.
You should also talk about women bringing proposals to men. Society has made it mens' responsibility almost all the time.
I agree. A woman has the right to ask a man for his hand in marriage.
I wish more sisters, mother's and families hear to this. Stigma coming from mothers leads daughters to nowhere 💔
Just because motherhood holds immense superiority and rewards in Islam doesn't mean mothers can do away with wrong parenting , can do away with criticizing girl child, do away with side lining their emotional needs. Had this been accepted, most girls would not have gone astray
I'm a Hindu man who has a huge respect for all the religions across the world.
I strongly believe in women equality.
Women like sex as much as men
I am dead against those who say men are more sexual than women. Men are not supposed to have multiple sex partners if not their women.
Pleaseeeee stop double standards and fooling women around.
@Sabir in this age and time women want equality on all levels.
If you can marry 4 women, then women can marry 4 men too.
If not, stick to one and u anyhow going to get 73 virgins in heaven.
Subhanallah
very proud to have a sister like you!
I as a man don’t believe I am exempted when I commit this sin or I don’t share this responsibility ! May Allah forgive me
I think it's unfair that parents expect their sons and daughters to be like emotionless Jedi master and I feel sorry for those who have very restrictive parents but fail to understand what their children desire. What's important is that parents discuss these topics with an open mind with their children
The first step to solve this problem is what this sister is doing. TALKING ABOUT IT. educate Muslim's that these things happen and not to react like your going to kill your son or daughter. Educate young so they're atleast prepared when older. And most importantly that no matter what they do Allah swt will accept there repentance. Muslim's especially from cultured backgrounds have made this issue something that's almost a dirty thing to talks about this needs to change. Keep up this great work sister Allah Hu Allam.
You missed the Shari'ah solution which is marriage and/or fasting.
Milo Bozovich..... parents don't allow their daughters to marry at younger age and if the girl has these temptations.... she can't talk about these temptations.... she hides it from them......because she does not want her parents to judge her in wrong way..... it takes courage to speak loud about it..... and fasting yeah... now it is the only option girls can choose.....
So why don't men take that as a "cure"? Why are so many women raped? Why is it that so many married men gawk at girls that aren't even 18, or haven't even started developing their secondary sexual characteristics?
@Shafiullah Noory you're right, I'm sorry, why do 3 out of 5 Muslim man look at my little seven year old sister with desire while dragging their few wives and daughters along?
@Shafiullah Noory why did a man force himself upon me and then say well you were asking for it? "oh, honey that's just the way men are" so WHY DO MEN DON'T TAKE THE CURE SINCE THEY ARE OBVIOUSLY THE MAJORITY OF THE ONES WITH THE ILLNESS?
@Shafiullah Noory why do Arab men come to my country so they can drinking the middle of Ramadan, do drugs, buy girls, or act as if they are calling you to be their tour guide, and then start grabbing you by the ass, and giving you cookies afterwards as if you are their dog? I was there, they had no issue grabbing me by the ass, but they had an issue with talking to me directly, maybe because they were talking about buying me? And buying "a few more of those redheaded ones"
Incredible. First time I've heard someone talk about women's sexual desire! Well done sister
All we need is two solutions:
- Get married at younger age. Govt. should sponsor the couple until they start earning.
- Women and society in general should accept polygamy more easily, so that Nikkah is easier than Zina.
Poly gamy LM*AO no.
Polygamy?!?!?!?...might aswell shoot me now!
Polygamy is natural in men even modern science agrees with that, but i assume you guys are muslim & just the fact that Allah Himself allowed muslim men to marry up to 4 is enough as an evidence? May Allah guide us.
If you don't want polygamy, you shouldn't "accept" it. I would rather live a life tormented by sexual frustration than ever be in a polygamous relationship.
Women have sexual desires? Nobody told my wife that, I lead a miserable life.
Communicate with your wife more about it. Explore what she wants
My mum is muslim and my dad is christian but I chose to be Muslim
Now make it a mission to make your dad accept islam, but approach him with knowledge & good arguments, look up Da'wah videos here on youtube, there are many good muslim brothers in this field, like the ones from Speakers Corner, some channel names that are very benefitting & that you can learn alot from: DUS Dawah, SCDawah Channel, EFDawah, Ali Dawah, Mohammed Hijab, ManyProphetsOneMessage. InshaAllah these are a few that really helped me in my Dawah (Inviting others to islam) & by the will of Allah it will help you invite your father to the truth & invite even more christians & non muslims! May Allah assist you in your beautiful journey & grant you Jannah :)
People make marriage so hard of course things are happening!
Although man's drive is stronger, keep in mind that women are approached way more and a guy is more likely to say yes to a woman than the other way around. Imagine if you're a guy and ladies keep going up to you. Point is that its difficult for BOTH.
Early marriage is the way. Over here, high schoolers, heck even MIDDLE SCHOOLERS and some elementary ones are into each other. Just get them married and they can keep living in their own homes or a parent's home and meet whenever they want. When they get a job they can move out.
I would like to clarify that a man’s drive isn’t necessarily stronger than a woman’s.
Getting married early can help with helping peoples mind focus on their work and better socialize, not your mind being clouded by urge.
@@aashamoushum1852 it is a biological fact
aasha moushum lol this one knows better than what than fact.
@@daniyalahmed687 yes the biological fact is that men want casual relationships more often but thats how u see sexuality as. Women don't seek casual and multiple relationships but want hell alot of intimacy in their long term monogamous relationships. Don't confuse male sexuality with female's
Do u think sexual temptation by opposite sex can prevented by this Hijjab concept I really don’t think so...unless u clean ur mind what’s the point of covering women
Hijab is a sign of faith and submission to god
@@zain6930 hijab has got nothing to do with faith ...acording to islamic law female should be covered top to bottom leaving their eyes so they should not expose their body parts and males should not get sexual attracted..but on the other hand males are allowed to have mutliple wifes as well as sex partners too....
Mashallah .. Nice step to take care of our generation with proper guidance
Subhan Allaah wa bihamdih.
These days the fitna is in making halal hard and haram easy, why do we not wed our youth? Why do we expose ourselves to these issues by not wedding youth, in the end we as humans mature from boys and girls to men and women. So why do we deny the human right to marry each other, subhan Allah. May Allaah guide us all and make us not Fitna upon those who do not (yet, wa Allahu a'lam) believe, aamiin.
masha’Allah! I really appreciate the fact that a sister is speaking on this. The Muslim community needs more women talking about subjects we either objectify or ostracise. Culture is not Islam! We as Muslims need to understand that what effects non Muslims isn’t just explicit to their communities, and we need to have open mindedness on the subjects that effect HUMANS in general, rather than being dismissive about the realities that go on in our ummah. May Allah SWT make it easy for us aameen!
The more I notice how hypocrite our society is(what she exactly addresses), the more I lose my will to get married...
Most societies are hypocrites, especially the western ones!
Just marry a really woke guy
@@yusuffulat6954 why would i marry a guy?
Man greatest trial and hardest thing that can affect his religion is Women just like prophet said. and not the opposite. it is harder on man to refuse a woman. that's why it is a man who said no to a woman is shaded by Allah in day of judgment because it is much harder.
Yes we agree with what u said but it doesn't not necessarily mean woman have no struggle in this matter! And yes women in general are never told about the reward that they will get let alone intimate rewards! And yes Allah has addressed men in general and Everything that pertains to men women are indirect subjects so don't be mistaken about it. Since u r not female I guess so you don't know a female's need for a man.
@@noorageen4339 I was just explaining why we talk more about men when it come to this matter why you have to get mad?
also what you mean by "women in general are never told about the reward that they will get" that's false statement most the rewards in the Quran are described for both believing men and women. Allah knows best.
When non-Muslims question Muslims they say that ostracization is a cultural thing.
But this lady says that it is a global Muslim thing.
Who is lying?
Who people love, who they want to be with, should only be their decision alone, and no one's business
Make the halal easy so the Haraam becomes difficult..
It’s a lot more difficult living in the west with these tests?
a video i needed when i was 13
Is it allowed for the mother to snoop on her daughter's emails? Does Islam protect the privacy of a child who has reached puberty from the mother? Despite what she found... Parents should also not feel that they have the right to snoop just because they are parents. I just felt this needed to be said because this was not mentioned. I do not believe haraam relationships are ok, but the mother's behaviour should also be called out.
Privacy? How much privacy does a teenager need? You don’t give a minor unrestricted freedom Jo. That is not responsible as a parent.
Becareful sister who speaking here, with the idea that girls who go to school and while studying, don't have any connection with any person of the opposite sex are abnormal. We hope that our children, boys and girls of school age, are not viewing relationship with the opposite sex as normal in schools. I as a man who was raised in the West and went to school from 5th grade to college, admit that high school is particularly hard, but I never had any connection with a person of the opposite sex, no talking or dating, until I finished college and married my wife 8 year ago. So let's not put in children and adolescents minds ideas that can hurt their future. Yes, the desires of teenagers are undeniable but we have to as parents talk to them about controlling those desires until the time time and circumstances that are appropriate for it. Thank you
P.s. also both boys and girls are tempted but most people of the world looking to control girls only. Is that b.c girls have a byproduct of pregnancy at the end of the day....
It's not just about the young girls. There are women who married very young but to the wrong man, got saddled with kids, divorced. Now are committing zina because nobody wants to marry them. So marrying young is key but to a good, God-fearing man. Young girls who marry non-Muslim men, players, smokers, drinkers, stingy men, violent tyrants. Will undoubtedly end in divorce and will lose their faith anyway. SO STAY AWAY FROM EVIL MEN. ❤️❤️
There are two issues here and they are global
A. Marriage delayed with reasons like
1. Must complete education
2. Must get stable (probably high paying) job
3. May have to get a house
B. An environment that promotes intermixing (e.g coeducation and letting young girls roam freely) and basically promotes fornication through mass media (songs and movies)
Unless people learn to marry early from now, fornication will become the norm in any society. In Muslim socities, fornication is frowned upon. Just think about it, more and more people are/will commit fornication secretly. When most of the young people in a community have done it, they won't be surprised when they find out when someone else has done it. When they have internalized that fornication is atleast ok (if not a good thing) then when they themself have children, they will not really stop them (may teach them about safe sex). Once such a state is reached, then finally some people will come out on the street and protest against "some" people having "backward" views on sex. Eventually since most society already secrely accepts fornication, they will come out and accept it openly also. Sexual revolution will occur in Muslim socities since there are very strong forces molding the society in that direction. It may take a few more decades, but the end is inevitable. The reasons are given above. If people don't want that Muslim socities also produce mostly bastered children, then find ways and learn to marry them early.
Do you disagree?
優さん I know what you mean and I agree. It’s almost as they secretly are ok with fornication (for men) Because I can’t see a 24-30 year old dude not partaking in any sexual activity and not married and parents oblivious to this mere fact
Do you think it's ok for young men to "roam freely"?
@@straw1berry11 what do you mean by roam freely?
The plans that the western nation hatched against Muslim socities to social engineer them are progressing well but not as fast as they would want. Also, they are concerned that some traditional elements could pose serious challenge to this process. Overall, since they have affectively penetrated into the society (youth) via the different type of media, they are satisfied that although it may take some time, it will eventually succeed. Success here means a permanent change in the Muslim socities, away from Islamic norms, for the majority. The transformation is already completed for the ruling elite. Never mind whether it is the children of the Arab sheikhs that enjoy hedonistic way of life in the west, or the children of (most) politicians and people of influence in Pakistan. This youth that has been converted fully into western way of life and often just a mere cosmetic element of religion in them (so they are accepted by the masses), will eventually rule over these societies and do the creation of new laws when they are in the government.
@user-ww2lc1yo9c I quoted you, hence the quotation marks around "roam freely". Perhaps reread your text?
@user-ww2lc1yo9c I read your entire paragraph, and not once did you answer my question... A yes/no and an explanation would've sufficed.
I appreciate this issue being addressed-- But is there more information anywhere on what it is that parents should do when encountering some of the problems highlighted?
Kaneta K Choudhury have a conversation
Finally I'm glad that you talked on this topic please my dear brothers understand the needs and desires of your wife is same as We BOYS have love them, praise them, compliment them, boost their confidence talk politely smile when talking give them flowers give them Surprise gift take them for dinner,drive all they are HUngRY for LOVe and Respect come on my brother's please talk and discuss about each others problems pray Salah together(Allah swt smiles) and treat your wife's like how u will want your sister's or daughter's to be treated by their husband's this can be fix and spend quality Times with your family make more stronger bond with your family than b4 otherwise A BOY or A GIRL will definitely trust or hangout with someone who is way professional 2 play their emotions then it will B more worse because at that time that girl or guy will be his /her favorite they will share everything Please I beg u guys please make time for family and your loved ones Happiness is everything in life Remember every problems can be solve easily have patience brothers Please don't make 3rd person enjoy their evil side with your people and you suffer save your people who or whatever u have and say Alhamdulliah re unite make things exciting re store that spark which you had at begining read how our prophets treated their wife's subhaAllah atleats give a try I trust and believe in my brothers let's do this help each other grow together love and support 2 everyone
affan jamil wish every man was like you, i lost the hope until i saw your comment
@@flower2124 please don't lost hope dear I know how it is stay strong you are a Girl always girl is a warrior ☺ the fear we don't face it becomes our limit everything thing will be fine and we all mUSlimS will together fix thing In sha Allah of course it won't be easy and it will take time Allah and for sure victory ✌ will be ours ☺ whenever you feel lost start praying right there and talk to Allah swt ☺ if there no person to I'm there for you ☺ Please smile ☺ that's the best cure for every problems I'm with you on every single step and Allah is with us
Damn did you drink some feminist potion before writing this dude?
White knight
These all problems surfaced because the Marriage has been difficult as it was ever been. I totally agree that parents should be able to talk to their children freely, and know their problems.
We are un 2020, and we muslims still debating sexual issues. Poor Prophet Muhammad(pbuh), 1440 after your message , though you brought the truth.... « muslims »still lost.
Hahaha so true
Oh , my God I love this lecture so much ❤️
You are not a believer at the time of fornication
Now that is scary and concerning
It might sound like a good idea, but the scary part is that, what if you die in that state?
I'm really like this I wish I knew this 18 yrs ago
The support given to a man is given even if a woman divorces that man for being rude and disrespectful. This famous tradition in the Muslim community is not Islamic, it is a cultural and possibly even a political issue just like the purpose of sheas and Sunnis. Most problems in the Middle East are cultural/moral and political matters. A woman shouldn’t be harmed for what a man wouldn’t be harmed for doing. We are taught this throughout the scriptures we love but fail to represent. It seems We Muslims can’t even stand for ourselves, to even fix our community for the sake of Allah.
All the comments I see are about how people are upset from negative comments , but I see none !
Mashallah sister! Your words touched my heart. I really wanted someone to talk about it and you really did that!😍😘😘😘😘🤗😇
Sorry for my comment! I should not have say what I said. May the sister (lecturer) forgive me! May Allah forgive me! Ameen!
And how so?
ruma moon WTF?
ruma moon Don't take her that serious!
She might be a *fitna*!
+Muslim604 A Muslim never uses bad words.
ruma moon I didn't use bad words; it's just an expression.
And you're the one who called a woman "an item of sexual temptations"... Just saying
She’s so right, it’s so hard for me but I will just have to keep being patient
Why its so hard for u?
May Allah save u from temptations
Me too, i keep fasting❤️
Same. May Allah SWT make it easy for us
Her second point, We should discourage the bad things and encourage good ones(method matters).
May Allah ﷻ guide us!
Thank you! Empathetic communication is a life skill like any other and needs to be taught at 99.9% of our schools that are not teaching it.
workshops for girls and boys, men workshops, and women workshops. I've experienced, in my community when brothers go outside of marriage nothing happens.... the community leaders passively, sweet it under the rug. really! what I seen , no Taqwah in Allah fir those that cannot lower their gage.
I remember a young muslim girl once messaged me at night telling me about her sexual urges and how she couldn't control it
I wonder what happened of her
I get the impression from this speaker that to have unIslamic relationships outside marriage is 'normal'. Instead of emphasising on the seriousness of the matter and put across how much Allah hates this practice, she is actually watering down the issue and apologising to the females who have these haram relationships. It's a disgrace. The persons who has these relationships must be made to feel disgusted with themselves, made to repent and promise not to continue. May Allah protect us and our children.
I think u got her wrong,....poius girls too have sexual desires
thanks for bringing this topic forward and should be tought in all mosques / community centers
there is some irony here...'girls who are serious about their Faith..' if they fear Allah and are praying 5 times a day, lowering their gaze..then they are serious about their faith.