There is a procedure called fallopian tube recanalization, you can look it up. Fallopian tube blockage is actually common. They do this procedure here in the states, my friend had it done. It can help with infertility issues, especially if everything is normal. It's a nonsurgical option.
@@wonderoushistoryofclassicf9193 88% sounds like a winner to me!! 😀 Of course, complications can occur with any treatment or operation. I suppose it would depend on how likely a severe complication could be. I wonder if this treatment is available in the UK? Honestly though, i would donate to a gofund me if they needed it to have the treatment.
Sue, about 4 mins in when you said 'before I go in to any of that...' I was waiting for dank to pop up from under the table and shout 'Its your boy, Raid Shadow Legends!' I wish you both the best though, sincerely.
"You never know what worse luck your bad luck has saved you from." -Cormac McCarthy I know that feeling Sue, the 'if it weren't for bad luck I'd have no luck at all.' Christ I'm terrible at this shit, i just wish i could make you and Marcus feel better.
Sue, Please keep MAKING THE VIDEOS ABOUT THIS in whatever way works for you. Please don't worry about 'the sad/the negative' that you think you're putting out there. That stuff is all part of a process and journey like this. I can't speak for everyone, but I would bet I speak for most: We are here to LISTEN and UNDERSTAND. You're helping others with this story, obviously. And you're helping the rest of us understand the humanity of a situation like this, and also helping us to know you better. You CRY whenever you want, Girl. Part of being STRONG is being VULNERABLE once in a while. Much Love to YOU (and to the Man you love)
When times get hard, when you feel terrible, look back on all the comments and know we are all here with you. I wish both Markus and yourself the best.
I must admit, I felt the kick in the chest at your news... at the end of the day though, it's still your eggs and Markus' wrigglers. All you need is a helping hand... Best of luck.
If you're uncomfortable maybe you could get a second opinion? It might just be the same information but something this permanent should be looked into from a few different angles. I wish you the best Sue. Don't feel rushed into anything and don't feel trapped. You have the power to decide what to do and sacrifice for your future child.
As a woman who decided after 1 miscarriage and 3 children that I was going to have my tubes tied, I still felt this feeling of a piece of what makes me a woman being destroyed, I would sit and cry about it sometimes even though it was my choice, I was done having children and the thought of destroying a pregnancy I didn't want would have even been more difficult for me. Obviously your situation with being sterilized is different, your doctor has found you to be completely healthy and normal other than this 1 problem with your tubes. They feel you can easily carry a child if they work around the problem, your blocked tubes. They also want to make sure that once implanted, they can assure that embryo's survival. IVF isn't an easy journey for women, the egg retrieval process alone is difficult because they pump your body full of hormones to increase egg production, and then again before and after implantation. I would write a list of questions and concerns down and contact your doctor again before your procedure and ask them to answer them, ask what the success rate is after this. A good doctor would do that knowing how scary this can be for women. But after all of this Sue, you have a high chance of holding that newborn in your arms and pouring so much love into that little person you worked so hard to bring to life, you will know it was all worth it, and if you have a good retrieval, you may have several more embryo's that you could decide to bring to life as well. I hope you find answers that set your mind at ease, we are all here to give you moral support.
I'm not very good with words, but I hope everything works out for you and Markus and the surgery goes well. You're such a sweet and strong person Sue and thank you for sharing your experience. I love your videos. Sending you both lots of virtual hugs
Oh Sue, this sounds so rough. Its a huge deal. Honoring just how big of a deal it is will probably be the only way to keep sane. I recently underwent a double mastectomy and the grief of losing a feminine part of yourself like that is very real. I hope you have a speedy recovery.
The heart breaks for you guys. But all you're going through does tell me one thing: when you finally have that baby in your arms you're going to be a fuckin great mom. Stay strong, we all know you are, much love from the US
From one person struggling with fertility issues, who wants children, to an other- I wish you all the best, Sue. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this, but I hope that all goes as well as it possibly can. Much love from across the pond, Sadie ❤️
I am very sorry to hear how the situation has evolved. Is it possible to get a second opinion? I am no doctor, but I would probably do that in a case of irreversable surgery. I wish you and Markus all the best
I'm so sorry Sue. My wife and I didn't have issues conceiving but keeping it after. We had a son who was born early but he's a strong healthy young man now. We cannot have more but that's okay. Having kids is a struggle for lots of people but in the end it's worth it. Good things are in store for both of you that I'm sure of. Sending lots of love and encouragement from America.
Bless you Sue. A fan of Markus' here to say I'm an ivf baby who just turned 20, some of my friends are also ivf babies and I know quite of a few women who have been through ivf. You are not alone. 7 billion people on this rock, I don't doubt someone else has been down this same path as you, even if it may be tricky to find. But I strongly believe you will be able to have kids, though I'm no expert, but based on what you told us, as you said, your eggs just need a taxi. I cannot imagine what you're feeling, all I can say is to keep having hope and stay strong, we're all here to listen to whatever you wish to share with us, good or bad. You got this Sue ❤
It sucks that you cant conceive naturally (extreme understatement) but I hopeful with a little help from science you can still conceive. My prayers are with you and I wish you all of the good luck in the world! You'll have a baby and you'll look back at all of this and thank the stars that you made the decision.
It's damn hard to open up to the world and be vulnerable and raw, but I think sharing personal experiences help people feel that they aren't alone in their struggles. All the best to you in your journey and thank you for sharing something so personal. 💗
When I met my wife (now ex), she was on the birth control shots and I was deemed "dead swimmers" due to dying for a few months (diabetes is a bitch). A month after we were married, we conceived. She knew the next day. The day after that, she went in for her shot and the preggo test they give ahead of time confirmed it. I immediately had my swimmers tested, and I was healthy. From dead to olympic quality in a month. Strange things can happen. The two of you will be banger parents. Your openness and honesty and good nature will help others going through similar. Thank you for the videos. Happy belated birthday.
I was conceived through IVF, and although it was traumatic for my mother, she says that at the end of the day it was all worth it. Keep fighting! We are cheering for you
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. For trusting us with this. It's like performing a trust fall with strangers. We'll be here to catch you. I hope that people going through this alone can find these videos and some bit of comfort. They aren't alone and neither are you. 💐😌 Bless you, Sue.
As long as you have eggs, there's plenty of hope Sue. My cousin was told she couldn't have children, and now she has a little boy and a baby girl. I'm really rooting for you guys!
What a scary bomb to drop on someone. "You can try for a baby via IVF but it means you will be sterile your entire life", I think I would have broken down crying if that was me. I wish I could say 'I know what you're going through' and offer some advice but there is no way that even if I had gone through this could I give you advice on what to do. I'm wishing you guys all the best luck because everyone deserves to be happy and I really hope you two are able to get what you want out of this.
The grief you feel is totally valid! It’s never an easy thing to be told what the doctors have said to you. My heart goes out to you, it really does 💜 I’m also struggling with infertility and tbh I’ve been really confused as to how IVF works, the NHS doesn’t have much information other than vague statements, so if you do a video on what you have been told about it, it would certainly help a lot of people! Just remember that you’re not alone and you have tremendous support during your journey! Fingers crossed for you 🤞🏻💜
I'm glad theres awareness of this since it's an actual issue sucks a shitton theres not much more of it. Rather then stupid dolts going around with period blood on there face. That's alot of deep information to take in infront of docs. The issue with docs is they always tell you something different. My advice is to try a doc here in The states (US Texas specifically or DC) or try seeing another doc to make sure. Hopefully everything works out. Or options appear. Best of wishes Sue and stay safe
Hi Sue! I mentioned before about my Auntie having ivf and I have an awesome 18 year old cousin because of it! But I wanted to mention that I have had the sterilisation surgery you are potentially facing. I had it so I couldn’t have have anymore babies though. I had a spinal injury late 2012 that was misdiagnosed and then had emergency spine surgery on Valentine’s Day 2013. I was told that if I were to carry anymore babies to full term then I had approximately an 80% chance of losing the use of my legs. I have 2 daughters with my husband, they were 2 years old and 3 months old at the time. So I chose to have the surgery, we had discussed it and decided that we were very lucky to have two healthy children and that the idea of being paralysed was just too much. Obviously a very different situation but I just wanted to let you know that the recovery from the surgery is very mild. It was a little challenging as my kids were so little but honestly I was at about 100% after a few days of trying to take things easy! Thank you for sharing your journey, you are such a doll! Thinking of you and Marcus during this time! Edited to make more distinction between my spine and sterilisation surgeries. The spine op was emergency, the other was planned.
Sue, you and Dank should talk to Nick from Rekieta Law. He and his wife have mentioned that they went through IVF and they could probably give you a run down of the ups and downs on the journey on which you've just embarked. They have 5 kids, btw, so I'm sure they'd have plenty more to tell you about, too. That said, Congratulations! Despite the difficulties you're going through, at the end you're having a baby! Have faith! I wish you both the best!
you are amazing! it must be so hard not to have anyone to relate to about the surgery. but you have the strength to talk about it publicly and be that person to relate to for other women who are going (to go) through the same thing you are. i think that just makes you the coolest person i've never met :)
Sue, it is better to be sterile than going through a eptopic pregnancy. I had a eptopic pregnancy and almost died and lost a tube in the process. It was horrendous I lost the only pregnancy I had or that I know of, and I had the tests and was found to be fine. Loosing a tube cuts your chances of falling pregnant in half. It is just a process to get where you want to be. I hope you get you dream sweetheart xx
I can't even imagine what's going through your thoughts and feelings through this, but what I do know is that you have some of the loveliest people in the world here watching and listening, and even though none of will probably ever meet you in real life, we are all here for you :)
Oh, Sue, this type of video is so important for you to share. Yes, it can be difficult and painful. But the love and support that comes back to you is vital in order to keep yourself moving forward. (I lost my wife to cancer five years ago and making our story public on Facebook and TH-cam gave us the strength to endure our trials one day at a time.) Keep fighting, Sue! Never, never give up. peace. k
Good luck, sue. Everything is going to be ok and yall will get yr baby. Just gotta go thru a bit of hell to make it happen. It will You guys rock and roll. Greetings from Oakland, CA! Btw.
my parents infertility situation (endometriosis for her and klinefelter’s syndrome for him) was only worked out with an anonymous donor, as i learned at 20; 25 now and thinking about kids. it is very healing to see someone closer to my age talking about these issues. thank you also, i’ve only seen this video but you seem like you have the kindness to be a great mom, however you get there. if the worst would come to pass, i’d just tell you that the relationship between a child and a parent who is not biological can be every bit as meaningful as that between a biological parent and child. existentially, some vital things are the same: you will be all that they have and you will know them better than any other person. It’s different, yes, but it can be real love is what I mean to say. best wishes and no shame in crying;)
I'm a bit late, but Sue remember you're allowed all the feelings you're having. Never be sorry or feel like you can't have them. I wish you all the best and all the good luck in the world.
Sending big love and hugs. I had to stop watching to comment. I had fertility issues and so did my sister many years ago at this point. I had 1 child but was unable to have more. My sister had blocked tubes and had surgery to clear blockage. It didn't work and all her IVFs failed. At that time they didn't know about the 'fluid' problem, so perhaps that was why they failed. Exactly what you said in your first video - which I ADORE how you phrased it - "my eggs need a taxi" is spot on! If your tubes are blocked - the reality is that most of the surgeries to unblock are not successful anyway. Although easy words for me to speak -- try not to stress out about the "sterility" issue and focus on the fact that the know SOOOO MUCH more than even 20 years ago!!!!! XOXOXO
My heart bleeds for you Sue. You are strong, beautiful woman, and you're making me cry like a little girl. I admire your resolve and perservence. Good luck, you got this!
I started following this journey fully expecting it to lead to a mini Dankular at some point... despite your doubts, I still feel like the splendid curse of a mini Dakular is inevitable. I must apologise for my optimism :)
I have a beautiful niece through IVF.... Think of this operation as stopping you getting an ectopic pregnancy...which you really dont want....Plus you have ultimate control of pregnancies...which might not be good now....but one day you might be glad. IVF is very very good these days. Can totally understand your grief. I think you should express it all. No one is watching this who doesnt want to know...In fact I think its essential. Cant wait to see your journey....hopefully to dirty nappies.
In Spain all soft drinks are referred to as coca cola, so its normal to hear "which coca cola do you want" meaning which fizzy drink would you like. The same is true in South America.
Sue, truly you are so strong, such a big decision and such stressful decisions. Much love from the depths of the interwebs! We are all here for you. I cried a bit, not gonna lie, but don't feel bad over that. You are doing the absolute best you can, and more than anyone could ever ask of you.
IVF can sometimes take a few tries. I've had family who needed to do it several times to conceive, but at the end of the road they had beautiful children who they love very much.
I have an acquaintance that went through hell with surgeries after surgeries to get pregnant. She finally did it and was very happy for awhile. The couple treated the kid like he was a made out of glass, catered to his every whim.. The couple broke up when the boy was in his teens and my acquaintance continued to raise him as a single mother. The kid is 18 now and I'm sorry to say but he is a total spoiled brat and he makes her cry on an almost daily basis, he walks all over her, insults her every chance he gets. absolutely no respect! But the mom STILL caters to his needs because he is her dear baby boy. her miracle child, the miracle child that had to change 3 schools in the last 5 years because he got in conflict with his teachers and now is still 2 years away from finishing high school. My English is not the best but I hope for people reading I got the moral of my acquaintance's situation across. Children are truly a gift and blessing in our lives, but never forget, they can be only as good as you teach them to be, pregnancy and giving birth is just the first step on the road to happiness, not the last.
For all the types of bravery in the world I could have or have witnessed, I cannot fathom the strength it took to do this, or the fear you had to overcome. I hope everything works out for you both, this story needs a happy ending because this is fucking soul crushing. I hope you both get this. Best of luck
Look into freezing your eggs, that way you can have kids later on. Sue ,all of this is hard to take in for you, it's worrying, heartbreaking and upsetting and that's just dealing with this, study as much of it as you can, that will one, make sure they don't make mistakes and two that they don't do something you didn't want. Plus stress is something you have to lower, which will help boost egg production. If you look into freezing the eggs then you'll be able to be a mum, all over again after the IVF works. PS I'm 40, they always said I would never have children, it broke me, grieving before I had even thought about having kids, I have birth to my son when I was 20 , he's now 20 himself and 6 ft 5 lol. I know what that grieving process is like, I know it's probably made you cry but one day you're going to be holding your little baby and you aren't going to be thinking about it. Take care, study, and keep safe and keep awesome :) x
I have to say thank you for these videos. My husband and I have been trying for almost a year with no luck and other issues that seemed to start when we started. These videos are helping me to know it will be ok.
in all honesty these things can be so hard to deal with, its good to have a support system and be able to talk about it. Ive heard of some people who have trouble conceiving because of genetic problems or because they had an abortion earlier in life and it makes me sad that prospective parents have to go through so much while others conceive very easily. I know it can be frustrating when your body is blocking you from having one of the most wonderful experiences of the human condition and I hope the best for you and Marcus. I will be watching the videos of your journey and look forward to seeing your success.
Dear Sue, I hope everything goes smoothly. You are so brave to come out and talk about this struggle you are going through. We love you. Keep your head up
Sue, Hi beautiful! First, HAPPY BIRTHDAY SUE!!!!!! BESIDES THAT... HI, I've had a lot of issues with miscarriages. So I know sorta of what you're going through. However, I'm not going to say, "I'm sorry... That sux..." You know the cliche bullshit. Because you don't need that! Sterilization is a very serious issue! Yes you are right to feel the way you do! So I would say wait on surgery until you get your eggs tested to see if that are viable. Then once you know your eggs are viable, getting sterilized will not be so scary because IVF will be successful.. nearly guaranteed (besides the natural things that embryos might not stick). If getting sterilized will make such a huge difference for your IVF to be successful, then make sure that it will be successful by checking the eggs. Checking eggs.. should include if they can be ferilized... (Fertilized egg in a petri dish) because that is one issue that many women have if they are considered infertile. Besides, I think you would have more peace of mind if you know your hormones, follicles, egg fertilization properties are well. Hugs beautiful! I know how sad and scary this all is but you're such a strong amazing woman to share this with us. It will help so many other people going through this same issue. If you, your self can't get pregnant at all, you can always have someone carry the baby for you! I understand that you want to experience pregnancy (you will be beautiful pregnant, btw) but if it is just a baby that you want, you can do something else to have kids! ButOnce your IVF sticks and your pregnant! I'll be sending you and Marcus and your Lil peanut some baby clothes and other accessories. Plus stuff you will need when giving birth and breast feeding. ( I make baby clothes for consignment store here in California)and mommy clothes. Stroller accessories.. a maitai (American Indian baby holder) some other things. Plus I'm a certified kitchen for CBD and THC.. so I can send you goodies, I make the best cookies!! That will help you and the baby with anxiety.. because birth is scary for the baby too.. but we can cross that bridge later. Any way beautiful. Keep your chin up (like your are) keep kicking Marcus butt (like your are) think about what I said in the beginning (about your eggs). I'll be sending you lots of love and sunshine. Congrats on your infertility, you're stronger than most women, it's just showing you just how amazing you truly are and you're showing the rest of us how to be a REAL women. Always look for that silver lining. Hugs and love, Casey and Lys
You're currently between a rock and a hard place, but if it means you might have kids, break down that rock and pull through! The feeling you have about sterilization is completely normal, but since it actually helps you bear a child, we'll just need to endure it. I say "we", because you're definitely not alone, Markus and us followers will be with you all of the way, ready to support if need be. Everything is going to turn out fine Sue!
It's fab that you are putting this up for other women. I have a friend in a VERY similar situation, so I will definitely show her this to show she's not alone. Thank you, I will keep my fingers crossed for u x
Sue as always i wish you and Marcus all the best. You are braver than you give yourself credit for. So i used to live next to an airforce base. A chemical ran off the base and poisoned everyone around there. The chemical was linked to fertility issues. I was terrified. Had to talk to my then girlfriend now wife about it. Basically having to say i may struggle to give you kids. When we had failed attempts i was scared. But you were braver than me. You went and sought help. I buried my head. Luckily we fell pregnant. It sounds like you are in a tough spot and i understand how terrifying the word sterilised is. I can only tell you you are being very brave with what you are doing and sharing your story. My fairest luck speed to you on swiftest wings. You have so much support here
Sue, I know it’s a sensitive subject, and very varied, but maybe a video on how to support/be a friend when your friend is going through a time like this?
@Sue Hulk the first successful ivf pregnancy was an English woman with no fallopian tubes. Please seek out fertility support groups, they helped me and my wife so much. 1in8
I admire your courage to be able to talk about such a personal thing publicly, I know I probably never could. Fingers crossed for everything coming up, make sure Markus spoils you to make things better.
Hey Sue, why was surgically clearing the blockages not an option? I don't know much about the topic and maybe your Doctor explained why it is not an option in your case? Thank you for sharing this journey, it is so brave. xoxo
I saw another commenter who said there is a nonsurgical process called recanalization that straightens things out, so to speak. I wonder if that would help?
I was adopted and love my parents more than you could possibly imagine. Try to have kids, but if you can't, pick up a runt like me. We'll love you all the same.
Sue you are such a lovely person and this is such a brave journey you've decided to share with the world, I have no doubt by sharing this journey you will be helping many others. Massive amount of respect and I wish you all the best. I have no doubt you will become an amazing mum one day xx
Talk to more doctors @sue thats all... This seems like a rushed option given by people who feel they couldnt be bothered... Get more info from the doctors... This sounds like a "here's an answer now get out of my office" kind of answer..
You’re strong and we’re all rooting for you. 💚
Thank you my love xxx
@READY TO GLARE dude, i'm pretty sure i've seen a few of your videos before, cool to see you here & keep up the good content as well
There is a procedure called fallopian tube recanalization, you can look it up. Fallopian tube blockage is actually common. They do this procedure here in the states, my friend had it done. It can help with infertility issues, especially if everything is normal. It's a nonsurgical option.
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Do you know what the success rates are with recanalization?
@@tulipalll According to a quick Google search it's 88 percent effective. However complications can occur apparently.
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88% sounds like a winner to me!! 😀
Of course, complications can occur with any treatment or operation. I suppose it would depend on how likely a severe complication could be.
I wonder if this treatment is available in the UK?
Honestly though, i would donate to a gofund me if they needed it to have the treatment.
Sue, just remember 1 in 8 couples experience fertility issues.
Thanks Doc. 🙂
@Cosmin Costea my wife and I are the 1 in 8. Two ectopic pregnancies and removal of both tubes, means our children are even more expensive lol.
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Sue, about 4 mins in when you said 'before I go in to any of that...' I was waiting for dank to pop up from under the table and shout 'Its your boy, Raid Shadow Legends!'
I wish you both the best though, sincerely.
"You never know what worse luck your bad luck has saved you from." -Cormac McCarthy
I know that feeling Sue, the 'if it weren't for bad luck I'd have no luck at all.'
Christ I'm terrible at this shit, i just wish i could make you and Marcus feel better.
Same
We are gonna look back at this once you’ve had a beautiful baby. And it’ll all be worth it. Love you both. Stay strong.
Sue,
Please keep MAKING THE VIDEOS ABOUT THIS in whatever way works for you. Please don't worry about 'the sad/the negative' that you think you're putting out there. That stuff is all part of a process and journey like this. I can't speak for everyone, but I would bet I speak for most: We are here to LISTEN and UNDERSTAND. You're helping others with this story, obviously. And you're helping the rest of us understand the humanity of a situation like this, and also helping us to know you better.
You CRY whenever you want, Girl. Part of being STRONG is being VULNERABLE once in a while.
Much Love to YOU (and to the Man you love)
When times get hard, when you feel terrible, look back on all the comments and know we are all here with you. I wish both Markus and yourself the best.
I must admit, I felt the kick in the chest at your news... at the end of the day though, it's still your eggs and Markus' wrigglers. All you need is a helping hand... Best of luck.
If you're uncomfortable maybe you could get a second opinion? It might just be the same information but something this permanent should be looked into from a few different angles.
I wish you the best Sue.
Don't feel rushed into anything and don't feel trapped. You have the power to decide what to do and sacrifice for your future child.
I agree, maybe a second opinion can help you with deciding on something permanent like sterilization
As a woman who decided after 1 miscarriage and 3 children that I was going to have my tubes tied, I still felt this feeling of a piece of what makes me a woman being destroyed, I would sit and cry about it sometimes even though it was my choice, I was done having children and the thought of destroying a pregnancy I didn't want would have even been more difficult for me. Obviously your situation with being sterilized is different, your doctor has found you to be completely healthy and normal other than this 1 problem with your tubes. They feel you can easily carry a child if they work around the problem, your blocked tubes. They also want to make sure that once implanted, they can assure that embryo's survival. IVF isn't an easy journey for women, the egg retrieval process alone is difficult because they pump your body full of hormones to increase egg production, and then again before and after implantation. I would write a list of questions and concerns down and contact your doctor again before your procedure and ask them to answer them, ask what the success rate is after this. A good doctor would do that knowing how scary this can be for women. But after all of this Sue, you have a high chance of holding that newborn in your arms and pouring so much love into that little person you worked so hard to bring to life, you will know it was all worth it, and if you have a good retrieval, you may have several more embryo's that you could decide to bring to life as well. I hope you find answers that set your mind at ease, we are all here to give you moral support.
I'm not very good with words, but I hope everything works out for you and Markus and the surgery goes well.
You're such a sweet and strong person Sue and thank you for sharing your experience. I love your videos.
Sending you both lots of virtual hugs
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I had not heard of this condition before your videos but now I'm all invested in hearing good news!
Your openness and honesty is both beautiful and refreshing.
Oh Sue, this sounds so rough. Its a huge deal. Honoring just how big of a deal it is will probably be the only way to keep sane.
I recently underwent a double mastectomy and the grief of losing a feminine part of yourself like that is very real. I hope you have a speedy recovery.
The heart breaks for you guys.
But all you're going through does tell me one thing: when you finally have that baby in your arms you're going to be a fuckin great mom.
Stay strong, we all know you are, much love from the US
Cant believe im just now going on mrs dankulas youtube channel. Danks a lucky man. And you're great. Good luck.
nothing is lost until you lose hope, and your friends and family (and audience) will be there to help you find it when you think you've lost it
You're great! Such a great message to send, it's really courageous of you to do so :)
I had to consult with IVF here in the States due to my anatomy. Sending you and Markus lots of positive thoughts and prayers. 🌹🌹🌹🤗
From one person struggling with fertility issues, who wants children, to an other- I wish you all the best, Sue. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this, but I hope that all goes as well as it possibly can.
Much love from across the pond,
Sadie ❤️
I am very sorry to hear how the situation has evolved. Is it possible to get a second opinion? I am no doctor, but I would probably do that in a case of irreversable surgery.
I wish you and Markus all the best
I know my husband and I are wishing you all the best! We love you guys! ❤️❤️❤️
I'm so sorry Sue. My wife and I didn't have issues conceiving but keeping it after. We had a son who was born early but he's a strong healthy young man now. We cannot have more but that's okay. Having kids is a struggle for lots of people but in the end it's worth it.
Good things are in store for both of you that I'm sure of. Sending lots of love and encouragement from America.
Bless you Sue. A fan of Markus' here to say I'm an ivf baby who just turned 20, some of my friends are also ivf babies and I know quite of a few women who have been through ivf. You are not alone. 7 billion people on this rock, I don't doubt someone else has been down this same path as you, even if it may be tricky to find. But I strongly believe you will be able to have kids, though I'm no expert, but based on what you told us, as you said, your eggs just need a taxi. I cannot imagine what you're feeling, all I can say is to keep having hope and stay strong, we're all here to listen to whatever you wish to share with us, good or bad. You got this Sue ❤
All the best Sue, My wife and I are also doing IVF. So I know what you are going thru. We've met before personally all the best to both of you. x
It sucks that you cant conceive naturally (extreme understatement) but I hopeful with a little help from science you can still conceive. My prayers are with you and I wish you all of the good luck in the world! You'll have a baby and you'll look back at all of this and thank the stars that you made the decision.
It's damn hard to open up to the world and be vulnerable and raw, but I think sharing personal experiences help people feel that they aren't alone in their struggles. All the best to you in your journey and thank you for sharing something so personal. 💗
When I met my wife (now ex), she was on the birth control shots and I was deemed "dead swimmers" due to dying for a few months (diabetes is a bitch). A month after we were married, we conceived. She knew the next day. The day after that, she went in for her shot and the preggo test they give ahead of time confirmed it.
I immediately had my swimmers tested, and I was healthy. From dead to olympic quality in a month.
Strange things can happen. The two of you will be banger parents. Your openness and honesty and good nature will help others going through similar. Thank you for the videos. Happy belated birthday.
I was conceived through IVF, and although it was traumatic for my mother, she says that at the end of the day it was all worth it. Keep fighting! We are cheering for you
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. For trusting us with this. It's like performing a trust fall with strangers. We'll be here to catch you.
I hope that people going through this alone can find these videos and some bit of comfort. They aren't alone and neither are you.
💐😌 Bless you, Sue.
You got love in the world, people are defined by how they cope with hardship, just fight on. Life is always worth it.
As long as you have eggs, there's plenty of hope Sue. My cousin was told she couldn't have children, and now she has a little boy and a baby girl. I'm really rooting for you guys!
What a scary bomb to drop on someone. "You can try for a baby via IVF but it means you will be sterile your entire life", I think I would have broken down crying if that was me. I wish I could say 'I know what you're going through' and offer some advice but there is no way that even if I had gone through this could I give you advice on what to do. I'm wishing you guys all the best luck because everyone deserves to be happy and I really hope you two are able to get what you want out of this.
Found u from watching ur husband. Now I love u both!
The grief you feel is totally valid! It’s never an easy thing to be told what the doctors have said to you. My heart goes out to you, it really does 💜 I’m also struggling with infertility and tbh I’ve been really confused as to how IVF works, the NHS doesn’t have much information other than vague statements, so if you do a video on what you have been told about it, it would certainly help a lot of people!
Just remember that you’re not alone and you have tremendous support during your journey!
Fingers crossed for you 🤞🏻💜
I'm glad theres awareness of this since it's an actual issue sucks a shitton theres not much more of it. Rather then stupid dolts going around with period blood on there face.
That's alot of deep information to take in infront of docs.
The issue with docs is they always tell you something different. My advice is to try a doc here in The states (US Texas specifically or DC) or try seeing another doc to make sure.
Hopefully everything works out. Or options appear. Best of wishes Sue and stay safe
I wish you the best of luck. May your legacy live forever. Also, happy late Birthday
Just jump right into it like your old man does YOU BOTH ARE BRILLIANT
You'll never be more tired, more helpless, and happier than when you have babies. Best of luck, most sincerely.
Hi Sue! I mentioned before about my Auntie having ivf and I have an awesome 18 year old cousin because of it! But I wanted to mention that I have had the sterilisation surgery you are potentially facing. I had it so I couldn’t have have anymore babies though.
I had a spinal injury late 2012 that was misdiagnosed and then had emergency spine surgery on Valentine’s Day 2013. I was told that if I were to carry anymore babies to full term then I had approximately an 80% chance of losing the use of my legs. I have 2 daughters with my husband, they were 2 years old and 3 months old at the time. So I chose to have the surgery, we had discussed it and decided that we were very lucky to have two healthy children and that the idea of being paralysed was just too much.
Obviously a very different situation but I just wanted to let you know that the recovery from the surgery is very mild. It was a little challenging as my kids were so little but honestly I was at about 100% after a few days of trying to take things easy!
Thank you for sharing your journey, you are such a doll! Thinking of you and Marcus during this time!
Edited to make more distinction between my spine and sterilisation surgeries. The spine op was emergency, the other was planned.
Sue, you and Dank should talk to Nick from Rekieta Law. He and his wife have mentioned that they went through IVF and they could probably give you a run down of the ups and downs on the journey on which you've just embarked.
They have 5 kids, btw, so I'm sure they'd have plenty more to tell you about, too.
That said, Congratulations! Despite the difficulties you're going through, at the end you're having a baby! Have faith! I wish you both the best!
Nothing but the best. This is extremely personal and you handled it beautifully. So much love from Seattle.
you are amazing! it must be so hard not to have anyone to relate to about the surgery. but you have the strength to talk about it publicly and be that person to relate to for other women who are going (to go) through the same thing you are. i think that just makes you the coolest person i've never met :)
The strength you have shown in these videos will make you a wonderful mother. I wish you all the best.
Sue, it is better to be sterile than going through a eptopic pregnancy. I had a eptopic pregnancy and almost died and lost a tube in the process. It was horrendous I lost the only pregnancy I had or that I know of, and I had the tests and was found to be fine. Loosing a tube cuts your chances of falling pregnant in half. It is just a process to get where you want to be. I hope you get you dream sweetheart xx
Sue, there are other options; surrogacy, adoption....you are such a beautiful soul. Things will be good!
Best wishes, Sue!
I can't even imagine what's going through your thoughts and feelings through this, but what I do know is that you have some of the loveliest people in the world here watching and listening, and even though none of will probably ever meet you in real life, we are all here for you :)
Oh, Sue, this type of video is so important for you to share. Yes, it can be difficult and painful. But the love and support that comes back to you is vital in order to keep yourself moving forward. (I lost my wife to cancer five years ago and making our story public on Facebook and TH-cam gave us the strength to endure our trials one day at a time.) Keep fighting, Sue! Never, never give up. peace. k
Good luck, sue. Everything is going to be ok and yall will get yr baby.
Just gotta go thru a bit of hell to make it happen. It will
You guys rock and roll.
Greetings from Oakland, CA! Btw.
my parents infertility situation (endometriosis for her and klinefelter’s syndrome for him) was only worked out with an anonymous donor, as i learned at 20; 25 now and thinking about kids. it is very healing to see someone closer to my age talking about these issues. thank you
also, i’ve only seen this video but you seem like you have the kindness to be a great mom, however you get there. if the worst would come to pass, i’d just tell you that the relationship between a child and a parent who is not biological can be every bit as meaningful as that between a biological parent and child.
existentially, some vital things are the same: you will be all that they have and you will know them better than any other person. It’s different, yes, but it can be real love is what I mean to say.
best wishes and no shame in crying;)
You may not realize it now, but you are an inspiration to many, Sue. Best of luck :)
I'm a bit late, but Sue remember you're allowed all the feelings you're having. Never be sorry or feel like you can't have them.
I wish you all the best and all the good luck in the world.
Sending big love and hugs. I had to stop watching to comment. I had fertility issues and so did my sister many years ago at this point. I had 1 child but was unable to have more. My sister had blocked tubes and had surgery to clear blockage. It didn't work and all her IVFs failed. At that time they didn't know about the 'fluid' problem, so perhaps that was why they failed. Exactly what you said in your first video - which I ADORE how you phrased it - "my eggs need a taxi" is spot on! If your tubes are blocked - the reality is that most of the surgeries to unblock are not successful anyway. Although easy words for me to speak -- try not to stress out about the "sterility" issue and focus on the fact that the know SOOOO MUCH more than even 20 years ago!!!!! XOXOXO
I don't have much usefull to offer but you are strong and just know that you are loved♥️ Markus is a rock you can hang on to💋
My heart bleeds for you Sue. You are strong, beautiful woman, and you're making me cry like a little girl. I admire your resolve and perservence. Good luck, you got this!
I started following this journey fully expecting it to lead to a mini Dankular at some point... despite your doubts, I still feel like the splendid curse of a mini Dakular is inevitable.
I must apologise for my optimism :)
I know a woman that tried IVF for 4 years before it worked. It eventually paid off. Hang in there Sue!
im so sorry.. this video made me cry. I hope you have kids
I have a beautiful niece through IVF.... Think of this operation as stopping you getting an ectopic pregnancy...which you really dont want....Plus you have ultimate control of pregnancies...which might not be good now....but one day you might be glad.
IVF is very very good these days. Can totally understand your grief. I think you should express it all. No one is watching this who doesnt want to know...In fact I think its essential. Cant wait to see your journey....hopefully to dirty nappies.
💕💕Thankyou for sharing this with everyone, I hope everything works out💕💕💕
In Spain all soft drinks are referred to as coca cola, so its normal to hear "which coca cola do you want" meaning which fizzy drink would you like. The same is true in South America.
ILY XXXXXX
You’re awesome Cinbell!
I'm not even a woman and I find your bravery so inspiring, you're a god damn legend! Stay strong mate.
Hell yeah
Sue, you're honestly incredible
Baby girl, I wish you all the best x
Sue, truly you are so strong, such a big decision and such stressful decisions. Much love from the depths of the interwebs! We are all here for you. I cried a bit, not gonna lie, but don't feel bad over that. You are doing the absolute best you can, and more than anyone could ever ask of you.
IVF can sometimes take a few tries. I've had family who needed to do it several times to conceive, but at the end of the road they had beautiful children who they love very much.
I wish you all the GOOD luck in the world Sue. Really sorry you have to go through this.
Sending lots and lots of love to you and Markus in this stressful time for you both 💜
The ANX is the hardest part KEEP YOUR HEAD and you'll be fine
My prayers are with you. Much love from the States. #SueStrong
I have an acquaintance that went through hell with surgeries after surgeries to get pregnant. She finally did it and was very happy for awhile. The couple treated the kid like he was a made out of glass, catered to his every whim.. The couple broke up when the boy was in his teens and my acquaintance continued to raise him as a single mother.
The kid is 18 now and I'm sorry to say but he is a total spoiled brat and he makes her cry on an almost daily basis, he walks all over her, insults her every chance he gets. absolutely no respect! But the mom STILL caters to his needs because he is her dear baby boy. her miracle child, the miracle child that had to change 3 schools in the last 5 years because he got in conflict with his teachers and now is still 2 years away from finishing high school.
My English is not the best but I hope for people reading I got the moral of my acquaintance's situation across. Children are truly a gift and blessing in our lives, but never forget, they can be only as good as you teach them to be, pregnancy and giving birth is just the first step on the road to happiness, not the last.
For all the types of bravery in the world I could have or have witnessed, I cannot fathom the strength it took to do this, or the fear you had to overcome. I hope everything works out for you both, this story needs a happy ending because this is fucking soul crushing. I hope you both get this. Best of luck
Look into freezing your eggs, that way you can have kids later on. Sue ,all of this is hard to take in for you, it's worrying, heartbreaking and upsetting and that's just dealing with this, study as much of it as you can, that will one, make sure they don't make mistakes and two that they don't do something you didn't want. Plus stress is something you have to lower, which will help boost egg production. If you look into freezing the eggs then you'll be able to be a mum, all over again after the IVF works. PS I'm 40, they always said I would never have children, it broke me, grieving before I had even thought about having kids, I have birth to my son when I was 20 , he's now 20 himself and 6 ft 5 lol. I know what that grieving process is like, I know it's probably made you cry but one day you're going to be holding your little baby and you aren't going to be thinking about it. Take care, study, and keep safe and keep awesome :) x
I have to say thank you for these videos. My husband and I have been trying for almost a year with no luck and other issues that seemed to start when we started. These videos are helping me to know it will be ok.
Could always adopt
in all honesty these things can be so hard to deal with, its good to have a support system and be able to talk about it. Ive heard of some people who have trouble conceiving because of genetic problems or because they had an abortion earlier in life and it makes me sad that prospective parents have to go through so much while others conceive very easily. I know it can be frustrating when your body is blocking you from having one of the most wonderful experiences of the human condition and I hope the best for you and Marcus. I will be watching the videos of your journey and look forward to seeing your success.
Sue, where there's a will there's a way :) . We are all behind you! D
Congratulations sue. I’m so glad, you’re going to be a great mother 🙂
Dear Sue,
I hope everything goes smoothly. You are so brave to come out and talk about this struggle you are going through. We love you. Keep your head up
I honestly love the contrast between your channels.
my mother's tubes were blocked and she had endometriosis and she finally got pregnant with me naturally after 14 years of trying.
There is always hope. Hold on to it and never let go.
Sue,
Hi beautiful! First, HAPPY BIRTHDAY SUE!!!!!! BESIDES THAT...
HI, I've had a lot of issues with miscarriages. So I know sorta of what you're going through. However, I'm not going to say, "I'm sorry... That sux..." You know the cliche bullshit. Because you don't need that! Sterilization is a very serious issue! Yes you are right to feel the way you do! So I would say wait on surgery until you get your eggs tested to see if that are viable. Then once you know your eggs are viable, getting sterilized will not be so scary because IVF will be successful.. nearly guaranteed (besides the natural things that embryos might not stick). If getting sterilized will make such a huge difference for your IVF to be successful, then make sure that it will be successful by checking the eggs. Checking eggs.. should include if they can be ferilized... (Fertilized egg in a petri dish) because that is one issue that many women have if they are considered infertile. Besides, I think you would have more peace of mind if you know your hormones, follicles, egg fertilization properties are well.
Hugs beautiful! I know how sad and scary this all is but you're such a strong amazing woman to share this with us. It will help so many other people going through this same issue. If you, your self can't get pregnant at all, you can always have someone carry the baby for you! I understand that you want to experience pregnancy (you will be beautiful pregnant, btw) but if it is just a baby that you want, you can do something else to have kids!
ButOnce your IVF sticks and your pregnant! I'll be sending you and Marcus and your Lil peanut some baby clothes and other accessories. Plus stuff you will need when giving birth and breast feeding. ( I make baby clothes for consignment store here in California)and mommy clothes. Stroller accessories.. a maitai (American Indian baby holder) some other things. Plus I'm a certified kitchen for CBD and THC.. so I can send you goodies, I make the best cookies!! That will help you and the baby with anxiety.. because birth is scary for the baby too.. but we can cross that bridge later.
Any way beautiful. Keep your chin up (like your are) keep kicking Marcus butt (like your are) think about what I said in the beginning (about your eggs). I'll be sending you lots of love and sunshine. Congrats on your infertility, you're stronger than most women, it's just showing you just how amazing you truly are and you're showing the rest of us how to be a REAL women. Always look for that silver lining.
Hugs and love, Casey and Lys
You're currently between a rock and a hard place, but if it means you might have kids, break down that rock and pull through! The feeling you have about sterilization is completely normal, but since it actually helps you bear a child, we'll just need to endure it. I say "we", because you're definitely not alone, Markus and us followers will be with you all of the way, ready to support if need be. Everything is going to turn out fine Sue!
It's fab that you are putting this up for other women. I have a friend in a VERY similar situation, so I will definitely show her this to show she's not alone. Thank you, I will keep my fingers crossed for u x
Sue as always i wish you and Marcus all the best.
You are braver than you give yourself credit for. So i used to live next to an airforce base. A chemical ran off the base and poisoned everyone around there. The chemical was linked to fertility issues. I was terrified. Had to talk to my then girlfriend now wife about it. Basically having to say i may struggle to give you kids. When we had failed attempts i was scared. But you were braver than me. You went and sought help. I buried my head. Luckily we fell pregnant. It sounds like you are in a tough spot and i understand how terrifying the word sterilised is. I can only tell you you are being very brave with what you are doing and sharing your story. My fairest luck speed to you on swiftest wings. You have so much support here
Sue, I know it’s a sensitive subject, and very varied, but maybe a video on how to support/be a friend when your friend is going through a time like this?
Wishing you and Markus all the best. Keep your chin up and have faith it’ll all work out in the end, and you’ll be the best mum in the world 💚
The Lads of Markus are here to support you
@Sue Hulk the first successful ivf pregnancy was an English woman with no fallopian tubes. Please seek out fertility support groups, they helped me and my wife so much. 1in8
I admire your courage to be able to talk about such a personal thing publicly, I know I probably never could. Fingers crossed for everything coming up, make sure Markus spoils you to make things better.
Lot's of support and love for you and Markus, it all will work out in the end.
Hey Sue, why was surgically clearing the blockages not an option? I don't know much about the topic and maybe your Doctor explained why it is not an option in your case? Thank you for sharing this journey, it is so brave. xoxo
I saw another commenter who said there is a nonsurgical process called recanalization that straightens things out, so to speak.
I wonder if that would help?
I wish you and Markus the best of luck. I hope things only get better for y’all from here.
Thank you so much for sharing, it can be quite cathartic to share instead of bottling up any misgivings or ill feelings.
I was adopted and love my parents more than you could possibly imagine. Try to have kids, but if you can't, pick up a runt like me. We'll love you all the same.
Sue you are such a lovely person and this is such a brave journey you've decided to share with the world, I have no doubt by sharing this journey you will be helping many others. Massive amount of respect and I wish you all the best. I have no doubt you will become an amazing mum one day xx
Talk to more doctors @sue thats all... This seems like a rushed option given by people who feel they couldnt be bothered... Get more info from the doctors... This sounds like a "here's an answer now get out of my office" kind of answer..