How nice to hear Alex say he feels the best he has for 20years. Grt kudos to you both for sticking together! You deserve to be happy - you are good guys.
Alex, thank you for opening up and sharing your journey. Especially as a man and husband. You're doing the work to help break the stigma of men and mental health. Thank you so much.
I love the way Alex talks so open about things .. Physical and mental health is he most important thing to work on , the external things in life and all possessions are worth nothing compared to things like love and health .. An loving hug for you two !
So grateful for the honesty on a public forum. My daughter is battling an ADHD diagnosis at 31, and it’s brutal watching her struggle. I’m so glad the meds are working for Alex.
I could cry right now. Thank you so much for speaking so openly in this video. I’ve been subscribed to you for a while but never properly watched until recently. These days I’m feeling like all the influencers I watch are obsessed with maintaining this image of a ‘perfect’ life - and you saying that you don’t care if people think you have a perfect life or not is honestly SO REFRESHING to watch and much needed right now. The funny thing is, people like to portray that they don’t care what others think whilst still maintaining this facade of a perfect life. When really and truly, this honest and open attitude when talking about real life is something we can all respect so much❤❤ well done to you
It’s a very natural conversation, and what people do, talk and eat. Dont find it distracting at all, just lovely open and honest and also very wonderful for them to be so open and honest
It’s nice to see and hear a couple communicate about each other’s feelings. Alex you are so sweet, charming, calming, delightful, and a wonderful human being. You’re well loved .
Alex and Victoria it’s wonderful that you are both so forthcoming with the ADHD diagnosis and all of the therapy, nourishing yourselves with healthy food and positive energy. I’m glad you two are still together and in love. Perfect is definitely non existent. Lots of love sweet couple ❤❤.
Hi! Thank you for speaking up about mental health and how it’s been affecting your relationship and life, means a lot to someone going through the same thing. ❤
I honestly feel like you guys are saving lives and relationships just by sharing your chat. I am aware of my own ADHD but watching your conversation and how Alex would pick a fight for a dopamine hit was revelatory to me because it has me thinking about my familial patterns and what's going on with others in my family. And now I'm hoping to get them some help. Thank you, seriously, thank you.
Thank y’all for being so transparent about this stuff, Im sure it’s not easy to be so open but it’s nice to see couples talk about difficult moments. Also, you can visibly see the change in Alex. He looks so much more at ease and happy. Thrilled for him
After very difficult days your vlogs have been so helpful and now hearing you so open with your mental health is even more helpful. Thank you for always keeping it real ❤ (been here for 8 years and that has always been a constant)
This was so incredibly raw and vulnerable and I feel so privileged to have watched this and listened to your insights as a couple. Incredible what you’re doing ❤️
As someone who is struggling so much that it’s hard to find the joy or really feel like anyone cares about me . When I show love to anyone else I want to say thank you Victoria you’ve shown this community so much love and you’ve helped me in more ways than you know . Sending you and Alex all the love in the world . ❤
I just love how raw and real you guys have been lately. Social media is often referred to as the highlight reel, and I love that you guys are breaking that mold. ❤ I feel like I’ve grown up with you both over the years and and seeing you both be in this wonderful place is so great to see. Sending you both so much love ❤
Thanks for your honesty on this. Undiagnosed ADHD almost ruined my life too, got diagnosed almost 10 years ago when i was 42. The journey from the diagnose to understanding and accepting yourself is quite a long one, i know Alex will get there too😊. I took medication for 5 years, then dropped them due to various side effects. Now i do not need them any more, the meds sort of switched my mindset and i learned a new way of life and how to cope better. I hope you both strenght and lots of love to live a the happiest life❤
So refreshing to see such a beautiful couple spending quality time together and genuinely loving and enjoying each other’s company. You both have such beautiful spirits. Especially you Victoria. You genuinely are precious.
You have to reach rock bottom to find your way up and out. Brave to be so honest and be raw and real. Sounds like a rough and hard time for you both. Glad that you both had each other ❤
Thank you both. . I have it. I was diagnosed a long time ago but resisted meds until I saw my young daughter do a complete 180 with them in elementary school. Medication if you have it, is everything.Like putting on glasses for the first time. You can make sense of life and see clearly. I appreciate you shedding light on it, so glad you both are great and in an amazing space. :) So many super talented people I know have ADHD.
What a beautiful couple. I am currently dating someone who potentially has ADHD, but refuses to get help. Everything you said, makes so much sense. Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story x
Bless you both for sharing the meal convo vs doing a timelapse. You are truly changing lives with these conversations surrounding relationships, ADHD, mental health, medication, therapy, substances and sustenance. Thank you! 🫶🏽
I got diagnosed last year at the age of 50! Life hasn’t been the same since, so happy now and my confidence has skyrocketed! Congratulations Alex, it only gets better from here ❤
please what were your symptoms ? does ADHD effects finding job ? I'm 40 and I struggle whole my life but my therapist says its just anxiety disorder but I know something is wrong with me . I have GAD
@@SiSaMej If you do a few online tests you will find them very helpful! It’s hard to list symptoms as it affects every area of your life! It clicked with me when I watched Helen Anderson’s video on TH-cam called an update on my ADHD! Listening to that was when the penny dropped with me. Hope it helps and best of luck ❤️
Love is working through things together. It’s so obvious to see how devoted you are to each other. You’re always going to have tough times, it’s how you handle them that matters. ❤
It’s so wonderful to see that you are both so “there” for each other - and went through such a terrible time - and glad the meds have really helped Alex. Dealing with mental health issues will 80% of the time siting them up - so glad this hasn’t done that to you both ❤
Thanks for another honest and helpful view of your lives. It's so easy for people to forget that they only see a small segment of your lives and too quick to judge. I've loved this about the both of you for years and will continue to follow your success. I'm so happy that you are both the happiest you have been and long may it continue. I'm 62 and have a partner who suffers with a form of schizophrenia and some symptoms didn't fit the diagnosis, and because of your openness, we have found it too suffers the same as Alex and my partner has made huge steps, with a new lease of life. So a huge thank you! Xx
I am a mom of a trans teen who has ADHD/dyslexia and totally related to your conversation. We have been in search solutions for years and will keep up our search until we find it! thanks for giving has so much hope.
Hey Victoria, absolutely love the natural honesty in your vlogs. Love everything you post and so happy you and Alex are good now. On a more selfish note please can I ask further the recipe for those protein/ ginger snack balls they look delicious xx
I just received my ADHD diagnosis a few weeks ago at 46. I've known for several years now, but it took that long to access a specialist for an assessment. I'm also fairly certain I'm Autistic as well but cannot afford an assessment. Life is hard when you don't know, but it's absolutely excruciating when you can't afford your basic necessities as it's happening. My heart goes out to all those who are unable to access the care that they need in life.
Hearing you both talk about this so openly just brings tears to my eyes because same. I was finally diagnosed with ADHD after 30 plus years of struggle and copying technics, which changed and failed, to be given medication and someone to talk too and omg it’s changed everything for me and my fiancé. It explains all my issues, frustrations and overall sense of person and to have him understand and see and work together just, we can breathe again. I love your videos, insta, TikTok, everything so much and you seem like such a lovely person inside and out, Alex too!
Thoroughly enjoyed this. Also, happy that you’re in such a healed place now that you were able to freely share your experience. These are the things that help give hope to others. You guys are adorable together. Also would like to say that breakfast was very tasty and healthy looking! You have motivated me!
A new follower here!!! Over from Amelia’s channel 😇 I have seriously enjoyed all of your open conversations with Alex lately - I am starting the process of an ADD diagnosis at 22 and it’s been challenging but this video gave me some motivation to stay hopeful/enthusiastic!!! Thank you so much.
Thank you so much for your courage to be so vulnerable about the difficult aspects of your lives. It’s easy to think that people we follow on social media have perfect lives, but the truth is that we are all human and we all have struggles. Thank you for reminding us of your humanity. This vlog has been an inspiration to me and to so many others! I admire you guys.
I relate to you both so much - I have bipolar disorder and I put my now husband through absolute hell before I was properly diagnosed and medicated. The people who truly love you will stick around through thick and thin. So grateful that you two found that in each other! I must admit I was gutted when I saw you were in Cornwall the literal weekend before my hubby and I were there last month! Thrilled that you had such a lovely time though (and way better weather than we did!) Sending love and hugs to you, Alex, and Bo xx
So refreshing to see a man open up like this. About neurodivergence AND emotions in general. Hopefully more will in time 🙂 Also on the spectrum here. Diagnosed when I was 32, 38 now. So much more self aware and self loving now, just wish I had known sooner so big chunks of my life weren't so confusing and unsupported 💙
Thank you for your honesty. Explaining to someone who doesn’t have ADHD is really hard. My partner tries to understand but sometimes he just doesn’t get it. Having been diagnosed at 66, finding out something new every day helps me understand myself and I too am happier than I have ever been. Btw Im unmedicated but find meditation, reiki and not feeling guilty when I have a nothing day is me going forward 😍
Absolutely loved your honesty with the struggle you have both been going through! Thank you for sharing your journey, glad you are both doing much better!
I really appreciate you both sharing. I am 57 and diagnosed with ADD about 20 years ago. It is true that the minute you take the medication, you feel the difference. Now, working through depression and anxiety. Watching you both gives me inspiration to get my life on track again. ❤❤
I haven’t commented here in ages, but it fills my heart with joy to see that you are doing so great. Mental health is so important and it’s so great that you’re so open w it to help others. Sending both of you a huge hug xx
Such a sweet couple. I have a sister who is mentally ill and will not take her medication. It’s unbelievably hard living with her. I love when I hear a good story about someone benefitting from getting help but you have to want help x
Your chat about ADHD was so relatable. My boyfriend was also diagnosed around the same time as Alex and our relationship has also never been better. I am so happy for you both, Alex seems so much happier. Thank you so much for sharing.
Lovely to see honest conversation, thank you for sharing ❤ 2 years in the system so far. Hopefully the end is in sight 🙌🏼 really encouraging to hear Alex is getting on so well with his medication.
I have adhd, generalized anxiety/ depression. Plus bpd and ptsd are new, those are trauma based, it’s a literally hell some days. Bpd people have the highest suicide rates. It’s the deadliest mental health to have. But my brain wiped out most of my memory to protect itself . I was in a constant flight mode.
Thank you again for being so open and honest, it's such a gift to people who are struggling and also shows you as two very genuine people who also struggle to find a way through life at times. Much love to you both, I hope you always continue to find a way through together xx
So happy for you and Alex! My husband recently got diagnosed and we have struggled a lot in our relationship due to this. Currently he is on a waiting list for meds. I am counting the days till he is that one step closer to feeling better in himself x
I’ve always appreciated how honest are in your vlogs Vic. So happy to see you’re both feeling so much happier ❤ the hyping each other up was so sweet over food 😊
Really refreshing to hear this being spoken about from both sides. Would you ever consider a podcast or dedicated video discussing this? As the partner of someone with ADHD this made me feel less alone and my partner was listening too and it made him feel less alone ❤️ x
It’s so nice to hear you and Alex talk. I relate to this so so much since my partner has severe mental health issues and unfortunately haven’t found what will work YET! This gives me hope tho ❤
The end was important as it shows what it takes to make a (your) couple work: you waited some time to get married, enough to know each other so well, supported and listened to each other and wanted to make it work... lovely couple, Wishing you both the best
So happy for Alex. It took me years to find the right meds to help me in my mental health issues! He is loved. I’m holding you both in my prayers concerning your marriage!! My daughter has been diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. So glad she can find some help in her life as well!!
Yours and Alex’s honesty is always so refreshing to see, the effect you’re having on so many people to feel seen and to open up conversations is a wonderful use of your platform!
So happy to see you and Alex are able to embrace the challenges and found a solution ❤ You guys are amazing, I m sure this will help a lot of people who is struggling❤ Thank you for making YT meaningful ❤
I so appreciate Alex sharing the book Rec Scattered Minds, immediately downloaded it and can't wait to dive in. As someone with ADHD, I know how all encompassing and shameful it can be. So appreciate the rec!
I have been following you for a long time, and my heart feels so much love for both of you. Dealing with your issues and being able to openly talk about it and feel free to say whats on each others mind, is such a warm feeling. I am so happy that you both are supportive of each other, and I am sure you both have had so much to deal with. But please know, you both are angels, living through your life experiences in a beautiful and healthy way!
So great that you two found a way back to each other. Life and marriage is not easy. I am the Alex in the relationship and bring proactive on understanding yourself is important. Thank you for the authenticity ❤
I have watched your videos for so long now and i always admired u but now i respect u so much more for sticking with someone u love through hard times it takes big courage and determination. Hope you and Alex are forever happy ❤❤
So delighted for both of you ......finding a medication or dietry adjustment to assist an imbalance in mental health is a fortunate place to be .....thanks for the continual check in ♥️
Thank you for speaking so honestly about how ADHD has affected your marriage. My husband was recently diagnosed and we have struggled in our marriage. I sometimes wondered why it was so hard for us to get along and after him regularly taking medication things have gotten a bit better. When you speak of the fights and how they make you feel, I definitely feel less alone in this struggle. It's really very hard being married to someone with ADHD.
I’m so happy for you guys, so so happy for you, thanks for sharing, it should have been so hard and it’s Amazing to see the progress both of you have made. Hope you the best ❤
This is a true love that support each other and understanding each other emotion and care for each other, you both are amazing people that really care for your own spouses.❤❤❤
Honestly, your open and honest communication with each other (and us) while having brunch is something many of us should start to do. Sharing those difficult times together, really listening to each other, all couples could only hope to be this connected. You are both very special souls. Lovely to see how happy you both are.
Wow listening so the symptoms I would have thought it was bipolar disorder. This is good to hear because my nephew has similar symptoms and this can be what’s happening. Thank you ❤
Everyone should take so much from you both after watching this, you are both such an inspiration to watch and listen to. Your openness and honesty about your journey is so admirable. You both deserve the upmost happiness and health ❤❤❤ xx
so amazing you two just sat and chatted so openly about life and what's been happening for you both. Im so happy for you both that you've found light in each other and your relationship. Your smiles say it all. Also loving the little HC collection, I'm slowly adding to mine and it really is so versatile.
So, so lovely to watch you speak so openly about your journey, especially seeing your growth over the last decade I’ve been watching you both! It’s so inspiring. I relate so much to Alex and his analogy of water running through his hands. I will be stealing that one! Thank you both for sharing so much with us, even though you absolutely don’t have to. Sending you lots of love always! 🫶
I started crying for the sheer joy of you two hanging in there together, finding a solution and sharing it. I know how I feel about my privacy. I know it's a big deal for you to share this information. There will be, I'm sure, people who may have given up. They happen by here, or someone shares the video, and you may have saved some lives or, for the very least, given them hope. Hope is your gift, and that's major. Much love to you both ❤️ ❤❤ I love your love!
I love that you all were so open and honest with such raw and emotional challenges you faced earlier this year! It’s so beautiful to see that you all worked through it and your marriage is stronger than ever. So happy for you and Alex. Also love the Holland Cooper items especially the brown belt and that gorgeous white dress. You’ve got me excited about Phlur’s Missing Person so I’m going to try it. Thanks for always providing such great content.
Thank you so much for being so raw and real about your journey. My husband and I are going through this as well. We are just coming out the other side and are finally in a really good place now. Thank you for making us feel not alone and acknowledging how hard it is as a partner. Love everything you do.
Thanks again (to both of you!) for being so open and honest about mental health struggles. It feels so nice to see those who have reached such career success acknowledge that if you don't properly take care of your mental health, you will see the negative effects in every other part of your life. Lots of love to you both!
This is so beautiful to see you coming through a hard time as a couple! I’m so happy for you and becoming stronger 😊and Alex you are incredible for your honesty about your mental journey ❤
Gosh, thank you for being vulnerable in your marriage. It gives many of us the confirmation that all relationships, great or otherwise, are all normal and that a relationship is a practice that keeps evolving.
So kind of you two to openly discuss such intimate details of your lives. Your vulnerability sharing isn't just making your audience authentic but is also helping you guys be a better version of self whilst creating really good karma and ... we all know that WE REAP WHAT WE SOW. Love, Sia {Life Coach, Hormone Health Coach, Spiritual Coach, Energy Healer & Teacher, Tarot Card Reader & Teacher, Switch Word & Energy Circles Practitioner, Drawing & Handwriting Analyst, Feeding Thy Soul Blog}
So happy to see you both getting through a hard time and sharing it with everyone in order to help … there are too many pretentious vlogs out there … you guys are real and relatable good on you both 💕💕
So many lovely makeup bits, just love em! Thank you and Alex for the mental health update. I’m so glad to hear how well Alex is doing❤️also happy to hear how happy you are sweet Victoria🥰just a note, that HC trench I spied in the video…just stunning, I think I have to give that a peek on the website! Lol
Funnily enough I booked my first therapy session after seeing Noah Kahan in February and I was diagnosed with adhd at age 25 a few months after that. My diagnosis and medication journey have been really eye opening. I’m on Ritalin now and the feeling of a clear mind is wild to me. Here in Germany my private insurance covered the diagnosis but if I had been publicly insured I would have had to wait almost two years to get a spot. I also started therapy at the same time because my undiagnosed adhd had spiralled into depression. Looking back at my life and wondering what could have been if I had been diagnosed earlier doesn’t really help so therapy is super helpful for that too. I can relate to the lack of hunger on medication - I know that I have to eat so I prepare breakfast or lunch but cannot eat as much as I used to because I feel full after a bite or two. Once the medication has worn off in the evening I’m hungry again and eat more. Getting used to everything takes time and even with the diagnosis I feel like it’ll take a few months until I have reached some kind of new normal. I’m really grateful for people online talking about adhd, especially in women because I was never the stereotypical hyper energetic child so I don’t know if I would have sought a diagnosis if I hadn’t found adhd content creators and deeply related to the symptoms they talked about.
You both are just the best ❤️❤️❤️ thank you for showing us a realistic, inspiring and positive outlook on life. You’re both perfect individually and together ❤️
It would be really good to hear alex talk about how the meds work as ive heard some really good stuff thus far. Does the constant mental dialogue literally stop when u start the meds? Great vid as always victoria ❤
Really appreciate the openness as people show life up to a wedding and don’t show reality of maintaining a marriage. Also picking up what you said about the Noah khan event, you drove, sat in the seats, hugged all of that sitting or standing next to eachother (not eye contact) They often say not staring at eachother can really help guys in particular when communicating so maybe that suits you both Even then slightly to one side so have the option to look at eachother but not directly opposite xx
As a fellow ADHDer the sound of the cutlery on the plates 😬😬😂😂 ❤ so glad you’re both happy , my partner supports me so much and it really is a team effort ❤having a diagnosis is like learning who you are for the first time now I feel like yes I have adhd but now I have regulated adhd and I can spot when I’m starting to be unregulated and I know how to live my life now that supports my adhd ❤ it can feel quite lonely sometimes and I can feel like I’m always overcompensating or annoying people the thought that I’m hard work for my partner is heartbreaking so any tips please share Alex! Xx
So nice to hear you guys have these chats and ai completely understand it’s easier when you’re sat chillin with food. But with someone with Misophonia I couldn’t listen to that segment fully as it was a bit torturous
How nice to hear Alex say he feels the best he has for 20years. Grt kudos to you both for sticking together! You deserve to be happy - you are good guys.
I know the relief is just so high! xx
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Alex, thank you for opening up and sharing your journey. Especially as a man and husband. You're doing the work to help break the stigma of men and mental health. Thank you so much.
I love the way Alex talks so open about things .. Physical and mental health is he most important thing to work on , the external things in life and all possessions are worth nothing compared to things like love and health .. An loving hug for you two !
Thank you so so much - love to you xx
So grateful for the honesty on a public forum. My daughter is battling an ADHD diagnosis at 31, and it’s brutal watching her struggle. I’m so glad the meds are working for Alex.
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I could cry right now. Thank you so much for speaking so openly in this video. I’ve been subscribed to you for a while but never properly watched until recently. These days I’m feeling like all the influencers I watch are obsessed with maintaining this image of a ‘perfect’ life - and you saying that you don’t care if people think you have a perfect life or not is honestly SO REFRESHING to watch and much needed right now.
The funny thing is, people like to portray that they don’t care what others think whilst still maintaining this facade of a perfect life. When really and truly, this honest and open attitude when talking about real life is something we can all respect so much❤❤ well done to you
It’s a very natural conversation, and what people do, talk and eat. Dont find it distracting at all, just lovely open and honest and also very wonderful for them to be so open and honest
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It’s really so sad how Alex’s diagnosis wasn’t picked up sooner but how amazing that a different therapist picked up on it so quickly.
It’s nice to see and hear a couple communicate about each other’s feelings. Alex you are so sweet, charming, calming, delightful, and a wonderful human being. You’re well loved .
This is so kind xx
You are too Victoria. Sorry 😢
Alex is a catch! What a charming guy!
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Alex and Victoria it’s wonderful that you are both so forthcoming with the ADHD diagnosis and all of the therapy, nourishing yourselves with healthy food and positive energy. I’m glad you two are still together and in love. Perfect is definitely non existent.
Lots of love sweet couple ❤❤.
I’m so glad we are too - life definitely tested us! xx
Hi! Thank you for speaking up about mental health and how it’s been affecting your relationship and life, means a lot to someone going through the same thing. ❤
So much love to you xx
I honestly feel like you guys are saving lives and relationships just by sharing your chat. I am aware of my own ADHD but watching your conversation and how Alex would pick a fight for a dopamine hit was revelatory to me because it has me thinking about my familial patterns and what's going on with others in my family. And now I'm hoping to get them some help. Thank you, seriously, thank you.
Thank y’all for being so transparent about this stuff, Im sure it’s not easy to be so open but it’s nice to see couples talk about difficult moments. Also, you can visibly see the change in Alex. He looks so much more at ease and happy. Thrilled for him
After very difficult days your vlogs have been so helpful and now hearing you so open with your mental health is even more helpful. Thank you for always keeping it real ❤ (been here for 8 years and that has always been a constant)
This was so incredibly raw and vulnerable and I feel so privileged to have watched this and listened to your insights as a couple. Incredible what you’re doing ❤️
As someone who is struggling so much that it’s hard to find the joy or really feel like anyone cares about me . When I show love to anyone else I want to say thank you Victoria you’ve shown this community so much love and you’ve helped me in more ways than you know . Sending you and Alex all the love in the world . ❤
I just love how raw and real you guys have been lately. Social media is often referred to as the highlight reel, and I love that you guys are breaking that mold. ❤ I feel like I’ve grown up with you both over the years and and seeing you both be in this wonderful place is so great to see. Sending you both so much love ❤
Props to you both for speaking so openly about struggles like this!
Thanks for your honesty on this. Undiagnosed ADHD almost ruined my life too, got diagnosed almost 10 years ago when i was 42. The journey from the diagnose to understanding and accepting yourself is quite a long one, i know Alex will get there too😊. I took medication for 5 years, then dropped them due to various side effects. Now i do not need them any more, the meds sort of switched my mindset and i learned a new way of life and how to cope better. I hope you both strenght and lots of love to live a the happiest life❤
So refreshing to see such a beautiful couple spending quality time together and genuinely loving and enjoying each other’s company. You both have such beautiful spirits. Especially you Victoria. You genuinely are precious.
You have to reach rock bottom to find your way up and out. Brave to be so honest and be raw and real. Sounds like a rough and hard time for you both. Glad that you both had each other ❤
Oh this is so true thank you xx
Thank you both. . I have it. I was diagnosed a long time ago but resisted meds until I saw my young daughter do a complete 180 with them in elementary school. Medication if you have it, is everything.Like putting on glasses for the first time. You can make sense of life and see clearly. I appreciate you shedding light on it, so glad you both are great and in an amazing space. :) So many super talented people I know have ADHD.
What a beautiful couple. I am currently dating someone who potentially has ADHD, but refuses to get help. Everything you said, makes so much sense. Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story x
Alex’s journey is so educational and meaningful. Your chats enrich your content so much. Love it. Thank you!
Bless you both for sharing the meal convo vs doing a timelapse. You are truly changing lives with these conversations surrounding relationships, ADHD, mental health, medication, therapy, substances and sustenance. Thank you! 🫶🏽
I got diagnosed last year at the age of 50! Life hasn’t been the same since, so happy now and my confidence has skyrocketed! Congratulations Alex, it only gets better from here ❤
please what were your symptoms ? does ADHD effects finding job ? I'm 40 and I struggle whole my life but my therapist says its just anxiety disorder but I know something is wrong with me . I have GAD
@@SiSaMej If you do a few online tests you will find them very helpful! It’s hard to list symptoms as it affects every area of your life! It clicked with me when I watched Helen Anderson’s video on TH-cam called an update on my ADHD! Listening to that was when the penny dropped with me. Hope it helps and best of luck ❤️
I’m so happy for you, Alex. 🎉 I also have ADHD. Medication is such a game changer. It’s like night and day.
It really has been! xx
So special to witness a couple who is as open as you both are with each other, and to Alex for being such a stand up man! Well done to you both.
I was hunched over my phone watching this and immediately straightened up 😂😂
And so happy for you and Alex ❤
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Love is working through things together. It’s so obvious to see how devoted you are to each other. You’re always going to have tough times, it’s how you handle them that matters. ❤
Thank you both for opening up and sharing about your relationship and mental health.❤❤
It’s so wonderful to see that you are both so “there” for each other - and went through such a terrible time - and glad the meds have really helped Alex. Dealing with mental health issues will 80% of the time siting them up - so glad this hasn’t done that to you both ❤
Thanks for another honest and helpful view of your lives. It's so easy for people to forget that they only see a small segment of your lives and too quick to judge. I've loved this about the both of you for years and will continue to follow your success. I'm so happy that you are both the happiest you have been and long may it continue. I'm 62 and have a partner who suffers with a form of schizophrenia and some symptoms didn't fit the diagnosis, and because of your openness, we have found it too suffers the same as Alex and my partner has made huge steps, with a new lease of life. So a huge thank you! Xx
I am a mom of a trans teen who has ADHD/dyslexia and totally related to your conversation. We have been in search solutions for years and will keep up our search until we find it! thanks for giving has so much hope.
Sending you so much love and hope!! xx
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Hey Victoria, absolutely love the natural honesty in your vlogs. Love everything you post and so happy you and Alex are good now. On a more selfish note please can I ask further the recipe for those protein/ ginger snack balls they look delicious xx
I just received my ADHD diagnosis a few weeks ago at 46. I've known for several years now, but it took that long to access a specialist for an assessment. I'm also fairly certain I'm Autistic as well but cannot afford an assessment. Life is hard when you don't know, but it's absolutely excruciating when you can't afford your basic necessities as it's happening. My heart goes out to all those who are unable to access the care that they need in life.
Thanks for sharing an update on Alex's journey, I'd been wondering how he was feeling. Glad to hear good news.
Hearing you both talk about this so openly just brings tears to my eyes because same. I was finally diagnosed with ADHD after 30 plus years of struggle and copying technics, which changed and failed, to be given medication and someone to talk too and omg it’s changed everything for me and my fiancé. It explains all my issues, frustrations and overall sense of person and to have him understand and see and work together just, we can breathe again. I love your videos, insta, TikTok, everything so much and you seem like such a lovely person inside and out, Alex too!
Thoroughly enjoyed this. Also, happy that you’re in such a healed place now that you were able to freely share your experience. These are the things that help give hope to others. You guys are adorable together. Also would like to say that breakfast was very tasty and healthy looking! You have motivated me!
You two made me cry. Your honesty and vulnerability is refreshing and beautiful
A new follower here!!! Over from Amelia’s channel 😇 I have seriously enjoyed all of your open conversations with Alex lately - I am starting the process of an ADD diagnosis at 22 and it’s been challenging but this video gave me some motivation to stay hopeful/enthusiastic!!! Thank you so much.
Thank you so much for your courage to be so vulnerable about the difficult aspects of your lives. It’s easy to think that people we follow on social media have perfect lives, but the truth is that we are all human and we all have struggles. Thank you for reminding us of your humanity. This vlog has been an inspiration to me and to so many others! I admire you guys.
I relate to you both so much - I have bipolar disorder and I put my now husband through absolute hell before I was properly diagnosed and medicated. The people who truly love you will stick around through thick and thin. So grateful that you two found that in each other! I must admit I was gutted when I saw you were in Cornwall the literal weekend before my hubby and I were there last month! Thrilled that you had such a lovely time though (and way better weather than we did!) Sending love and hugs to you, Alex, and Bo xx
So refreshing to see a man open up like this. About neurodivergence AND emotions in general. Hopefully more will in time 🙂 Also on the spectrum here. Diagnosed when I was 32, 38 now. So much more self aware and self loving now, just wish I had known sooner so big chunks of my life weren't so confusing and unsupported 💙
Thank you for your honesty. Explaining to someone who doesn’t have ADHD is really hard. My partner tries to understand but sometimes he just doesn’t get it. Having been diagnosed at 66, finding out something new every day helps me understand myself and I too am happier than I have ever been. Btw Im unmedicated but find meditation, reiki and not feeling guilty when I have a nothing day is me going forward 😍
Absolutely loved your honesty with the struggle you have both been going through! Thank you for sharing your journey, glad you are both doing much better!
Seriously love you guys! And this is from a person that doesn't say mushy things out loud let alone to "strangers" on the internet. 💜💜💜
Ohh thank you! And thank you for being here!! xx
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I really appreciate you both sharing. I am 57 and diagnosed with ADD about 20 years ago. It is true that the minute you take the medication, you feel the difference. Now, working through depression and anxiety. Watching you both gives me inspiration to get my life on track again. ❤❤
Yes, Scattered Minds is PHENOMENAL 👏🏻❤️ Loving the vulnerability, guys. Xxxxx
I haven’t commented here in ages, but it fills my heart with joy to see that you are doing so great. Mental health is so important and it’s so great that you’re so open w it to help others. Sending both of you a huge hug xx
Such a sweet couple. I have a sister who is mentally ill and will not take her medication. It’s unbelievably hard living with her. I love when I hear a good story about someone benefitting from getting help but you have to want help x
Your chat about ADHD was so relatable. My boyfriend was also diagnosed around the same time as Alex and our relationship has also never been better. I am so happy for you both, Alex seems so much happier. Thank you so much for sharing.
I really admire you both for your honesty, it's refreshing and it makes you so relatable. Wishing you both peace and happiness.
Lovely to see honest conversation, thank you for sharing ❤
2 years in the system so far. Hopefully the end is in sight 🙌🏼 really encouraging to hear Alex is getting on so well with his medication.
I have adhd, generalized anxiety/ depression. Plus bpd and ptsd are new, those are trauma based, it’s a literally hell some days. Bpd people have the highest suicide rates. It’s the deadliest mental health to have. But my brain wiped out most of my memory to protect itself . I was in a constant flight mode.
Thank you again for being so open and honest, it's such a gift to people who are struggling and also shows you as two very genuine people who also struggle to find a way through life at times. Much love to you both, I hope you always continue to find a way through together xx
So happy for you and Alex! My husband recently got diagnosed and we have struggled a lot in our relationship due to this. Currently he is on a waiting list for meds. I am counting the days till he is that one step closer to feeling better in himself x
I’ve always appreciated how honest are in your vlogs Vic. So happy to see you’re both feeling so much happier ❤ the hyping each other up was so sweet over food 😊
Really refreshing to hear this being spoken about from both sides. Would you ever consider a podcast or dedicated video discussing this? As the partner of someone with ADHD this made me feel less alone and my partner was listening too and it made him feel less alone ❤️ x
It’s so nice to hear you and Alex talk. I relate to this so so much since my partner has severe mental health issues and unfortunately haven’t found what will work YET! This gives me hope tho ❤
The end was important as it shows what it takes to make a (your) couple work: you waited some time to get married, enough to know each other so well, supported and listened to each other and wanted to make it work... lovely couple, Wishing you both the best
So happy for Alex. It took me years to find the right meds to help me in my mental health issues! He is loved. I’m holding you both in my prayers concerning your marriage!! My daughter has been diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. So glad she can find some help in her life as well!!
Thank you so much for sharing! It means more than you'll ever know 💕
So does this comment xx
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Yours and Alex’s honesty is always so refreshing to see, the effect you’re having on so many people to feel seen and to open up conversations is a wonderful use of your platform!
So happy to see you and Alex are able to embrace the challenges and found a solution ❤
You guys are amazing, I m sure this will help a lot of people who is struggling❤
Thank you for making YT meaningful ❤
You and Alex are so mindful and so inspiring to each other and to us.. thank you for always sharing this with us!!
I so appreciate Alex sharing the book Rec Scattered Minds, immediately downloaded it and can't wait to dive in. As someone with ADHD, I know how all encompassing and shameful it can be. So appreciate the rec!
I have been following you for a long time, and my heart feels so much love for both of you. Dealing with your issues and being able to openly talk about it and feel free to say whats on each others mind, is such a warm feeling. I am so happy that you both are supportive of each other, and I am sure you both have had so much to deal with. But please know, you both are angels, living through your life experiences in a beautiful and healthy way!
So glad Alex you opened up and spoke we don’t realise how bad it effects different people
Y’all are amazing for sharing these private moments with us. Truly makes me feel less alone, thank you for sharing your struggles.
So great that you two found a way back to each other. Life and marriage is not easy. I am the Alex in the relationship and bring proactive on understanding yourself is important. Thank you for the authenticity ❤
I have watched your videos for so long now and i always admired u but now i respect u so much more for sticking with someone u love through hard times it takes big courage and determination. Hope you and Alex are forever happy ❤❤
So delighted for both of you ......finding a medication or dietry adjustment to assist an imbalance in mental health is a fortunate place to be .....thanks for the continual check in ♥️
Thank you for speaking so honestly about how ADHD has affected your marriage. My husband was recently diagnosed and we have struggled in our marriage. I sometimes wondered why it was so hard for us to get along and after him regularly taking medication things have gotten a bit better. When you speak of the fights and how they make you feel, I definitely feel less alone in this struggle. It's really very hard being married to someone with ADHD.
I’m so happy for you guys, so so happy for you, thanks for sharing, it should have been so hard and it’s Amazing to see the progress both of you have made. Hope you the best ❤
This is a true love that support each other and understanding each other emotion and care for each other, you both are amazing people that really care for your own spouses.❤❤❤
Honestly, your open and honest communication with each other (and us) while having brunch is something many of us should start to do. Sharing those difficult times together, really listening to each other, all couples could only hope to be this connected. You are both very special souls. Lovely to see how happy you both are.
A real, real discussion guys! Thank you for keeping-on your journey 🌟🌟
Wow listening so the symptoms I would have thought it was bipolar disorder. This is good to hear because my nephew has similar symptoms and this can be what’s happening. Thank you ❤
Everyone should take so much from you both after watching this, you are both such an inspiration to watch and listen to. Your openness and honesty about your journey is so admirable.
You both deserve the upmost happiness and health ❤❤❤ xx
so amazing you two just sat and chatted so openly about life and what's been happening for you both. Im so happy for you both that you've found light in each other and your relationship. Your smiles say it all.
Also loving the little HC collection, I'm slowly adding to mine and it really is so versatile.
So, so lovely to watch you speak so openly about your journey, especially seeing your growth over the last decade I’ve been watching you both! It’s so inspiring. I relate so much to Alex and his analogy of water running through his hands. I will be stealing that one! Thank you both for sharing so much with us, even though you absolutely don’t have to. Sending you lots of love always! 🫶
I started crying for the sheer joy of you two hanging in there together, finding a solution and sharing it. I know how I feel about my privacy. I know it's a big deal for you to share this information. There will be, I'm sure, people who may have given up. They happen by here, or someone shares the video, and you may have saved some lives or, for the very least, given them hope. Hope is your gift, and that's major. Much love to you both ❤️ ❤❤ I love your love!
I love that you all were so open and honest with such raw and emotional challenges you faced earlier this year! It’s so beautiful to see that you all worked through it and your marriage is stronger than ever. So happy for you and Alex.
Also love the Holland Cooper items especially the brown belt and that gorgeous white dress. You’ve got me excited about Phlur’s Missing Person so I’m going to try it. Thanks for always providing such great content.
I love being a fly on the wall at your dinner table. I could listen to you guys talk all day ❤
Thank you so much for being so raw and real about your journey. My husband and I are going through this as well. We are just coming out the other side and are finally in a really good place now. Thank you for making us feel not alone and acknowledging how hard it is as a partner. Love everything you do.
Thanks again (to both of you!) for being so open and honest about mental health struggles.
It feels so nice to see those who have reached such career success acknowledge that if you don't properly take care of your mental health, you will see the negative effects in every other part of your life.
Lots of love to you both!
This is so beautiful to see you coming through a hard time as
a couple! I’m so happy for you and becoming stronger 😊and Alex you are incredible for your honesty about your mental journey ❤
Gosh, thank you for being vulnerable in your marriage. It gives many of us the confirmation that all relationships, great or otherwise, are all normal and that a relationship is a practice that keeps evolving.
Thank you so much for letting us in to your struggles and triumphs
It’s been so long we didn’t hear Alex talk ! He’s always quiet in your vlogs.. that’s refreshing.. keep it going 😅🤍👍🏼
So kind of you two to openly discuss such intimate details of your lives. Your vulnerability sharing isn't just making your audience authentic but is also helping you guys be a better version of self whilst creating really good karma and ... we all know that WE REAP WHAT WE SOW. Love, Sia {Life Coach, Hormone Health Coach, Spiritual Coach, Energy Healer & Teacher, Tarot Card Reader & Teacher, Switch Word & Energy Circles Practitioner, Drawing & Handwriting Analyst, Feeding Thy Soul Blog}
So happy to see you both getting through a hard time and sharing it with everyone in order to help … there are too many pretentious vlogs out there … you guys are real and relatable good on you both 💕💕
So many lovely makeup bits, just love em! Thank you and Alex for the mental health update. I’m so glad to hear how well Alex is doing❤️also happy to hear how happy you are sweet Victoria🥰just a note, that HC trench I spied in the video…just stunning, I think I have to give that a peek on the website! Lol
Funnily enough I booked my first therapy session after seeing Noah Kahan in February and I was diagnosed with adhd at age 25 a few months after that. My diagnosis and medication journey have been really eye opening. I’m on Ritalin now and the feeling of a clear mind is wild to me. Here in Germany my private insurance covered the diagnosis but if I had been publicly insured I would have had to wait almost two years to get a spot. I also started therapy at the same time because my undiagnosed adhd had spiralled into depression. Looking back at my life and wondering what could have been if I had been diagnosed earlier doesn’t really help so therapy is super helpful for that too. I can relate to the lack of hunger on medication - I know that I have to eat so I prepare breakfast or lunch but cannot eat as much as I used to because I feel full after a bite or two. Once the medication has worn off in the evening I’m hungry again and eat more. Getting used to everything takes time and even with the diagnosis I feel like it’ll take a few months until I have reached some kind of new normal.
I’m really grateful for people online talking about adhd, especially in women because I was never the stereotypical hyper energetic child so I don’t know if I would have sought a diagnosis if I hadn’t found adhd content creators and deeply related to the symptoms they talked about.
I am so pleased you both managed to stick with it while Alex got medication sorted. Absolutely gorgeous couple together❤
You both are just the best ❤️❤️❤️ thank you for showing us a realistic, inspiring and positive outlook on life. You’re both perfect individually and together ❤️
It would be really good to hear alex talk about how the meds work as ive heard some really good stuff thus far. Does the constant mental dialogue literally stop when u start the meds? Great vid as always victoria ❤
Really appreciate the openness as people show life up to a wedding and don’t show reality of maintaining a marriage.
Also picking up what you said about the Noah khan event, you drove, sat in the seats, hugged all of that sitting or standing next to eachother (not eye contact)
They often say not staring at eachother can really help guys in particular when communicating so maybe that suits you both
Even then slightly to one side so have the option to look at eachother but not directly opposite xx
As a fellow ADHDer the sound of the cutlery on the plates 😬😬😂😂
❤ so glad you’re both happy , my partner supports me so much and it really is a team effort ❤having a diagnosis is like learning who you are for the first time now I feel like yes I have adhd but now I have regulated adhd and I can spot when I’m starting to be unregulated and I know how to live my life now that supports my adhd ❤ it can feel quite lonely sometimes and I can feel like I’m always overcompensating or annoying people the thought that I’m hard work for my partner is heartbreaking so any tips please share Alex! Xx
So nice to hear you guys have these chats and ai completely understand it’s easier when you’re sat chillin with food. But with someone with Misophonia I couldn’t listen to that segment fully as it was a bit torturous