woman, you better run from this type of guy. obsessive and possesive borderline abusive as well. save your self, if not, then you ll be coming to this show again in the future talking about how nuts he is when you're married.
Nurmarsha Andini well i donno.. instead of taking matters by her own (breaking up, or whatever), she decided to come to a show for her concerns.. what makes you think that when something happened in her marriage, will make her seek help from authorities (counsellor, police) or even divorce him.. women afraid to be a single mom rather than being abused frustrates the hell out of me!!
I think she also loves him a lot and they are serious about their relationship. That's why she came to the show to ask for help, to make him change instead of breaking up by herself or something. Agree with you! In this case I also recommend her to break up tho.. Looks like this is not only the boyfriend's problem due to his bad past with other women but his own personality/character problem (due to what his friend said) :< And the fact is that it's really really hard for people at this age to change it. If they go further (like marriage or keep this situation longer) it will be much harder for both of them.
Tmr Zys Yup. He yells at her, cusses at her and even threatens to kill himself if she doesn't answer him or does what he wants. That is definitely emotional abuse right there. She needs to get out quick before it escalates into something physical.
I wish they had a segment where we follow up to where these people are now, I hope she broke up with him and found a man that respects and values her freedom
Whatever it is. But i can feel that insecurity.. I know i wont do thr same thing as him.. But the fear is real... Nowaday some ppl made it so cool to hurt someone to cheat someone that it can ruin a confident person too.. And if u get a real partner u cant enjoy it too... I feel for him and her too.. That she is trying to prove him that she cares for him and love him.. But she cant reach to him...
he treats her like he owns her, it really makes me angry. from his perspective he's just being protective, but i've been in her place, and surely she just feels unimportant to him. he can't just tell her to do things and yell at her for things that aren't her fault. she's her own person, she should do what she wants.
Exactly. I’ve been in this type of situation before except it was definitely less severe. I only bring it up to say that people can let their own insecurities ruin their relationships. I feel like the man is extremely insecure and because he feels like she is too good for him he tries to control her and tear her down so she won’t leave him but he doesn’t seem to realize that it is ruining their relationship and will be the cause of their separation. I hope he works on himself and tries to see the damage he is doing by treating her like some sort of possession instead of a person.
Whatever it is. But i can feel that insecurity.. I know i wont do thr same thing as him.. But the fear is real... Nowaday some ppl made it so cool to hurt someone to cheat someone that it can ruin a confident person too.. And if u get a real partner u cant enjoy it too... I feel for him and her too.. That she is trying to prove him that she cares for him and love him.. But she cant reach to him...
@@tingle2323 I definitely understand where you’re coming from. I feel bad for them both as well and really hope they seek counseling. Even if it’s not with each other they should both seek it on their own as no doubt he is causing her to feel insecure by belittling her like that and they both will have confidence issues if their relationship persists the way it has been. It’s just sad that insecurity and relationship trauma, if not worked through, leads to situations like these where it borders on abuse and will ruin the relationship.
Everything this guy is and did was exactly who and what my ex bf was. I was with an obsessive bf. (Thankfully he didn't get physically abusive when we were together.) He didnt get cheated on or wasnt left by any ex gfs and yet he was still very obsessive. I remember he called me everyday at specific times within the day when he went to the states, that I must pick up all his calls during those times and that I must be at home or my dorm when he called. He yelled at me and threw passive aggressive threats whenever I missed picking up or when he heard male voices in the background (whether it was my dad, brother, gay friends, bystanders). When he heard the voices in the background he told me I was flirting while he was away. The last straw was when I went out with my friends and told them I must get home because it was almost time for him to call. I remember feeling really scared because there was heavy traffic on the way home and I might missed his call. I was shaking. That was when it hit me. Why was I so scared of someone who's supposed to make me feel loved and safe. I was young and he was only my 2nd bf at the time. So I didn't know better. My friends and family helped me get out of that really bad relationship. I'm glad I got out of that. I'm now married to a very, very kind man. She must get out of that relationship. It will only be a matter of time before his behavior escalates and she would really get hurt even more.
For me, i think he needs counseling. If he changes for better, i think dey can still stay tgt. If not, it's de best tat she leaves him. Your story seems like one from de k-dramas. Hahas. Glad that u got over that obsessive lover!
Well there r many ppl who are hurt by cheaters and become like him.. Do u think it would hurt her.. He needs that security.. and need counseling.. Bcoz some ppl made it ao cool to cheat or hurt that ppl get obsessive or attached with person they love.. Stop glorifying cheating. Dont respect cheaters and give reason.. when we start to celebrate loyalty.. Automatically this kind of mindset would decrease
the boyfriend is being so unreasonable. he could have just talk to her normally rather than yelling like one hella mad dude. i wouldn't even stand a man like him i swear-
he has attachment issues... someone important to him must have left him and never came back when they probably said they would come back, maybe that's why he doesn't trust and always wants to be soooooo close to everyone in his life
Zanele Mnguni well he said he got cheated on several times in the past,I kinda feel bad for him but if he keeps that kind of behavior she will cheat on him for good or leave him
Mimi S But making her pay for the mistakes of others is disgusting. She didn't cheat, and he wants her to stay covered up. Like she said, she isn't someone he loves, she is his possession.
Leave him & run girl! You don't want to be tied down to a man that's overbearing & consistently belittles you. I have a feeling that after this he'll be yelling at her for embarrassing him on tv 🙄
@dimstar: That's because you're a fucking moron. You haven't experienced enough life, you fucking bimbo, to know that these guys NEVER change. They only get worse as time goes on, and they wind up getting physically abusive, if not outright murderous. NOTHING good will ever come of being near that psychopath. Ever. Grow the fuck up, you ignorant fool and learn some reality while you're at it.
This is so frustrating. I get that he has low self esteem but that doesnt justify his behavior. She should leave him before his attitude escalates. Thank god for her friend. Anyone notice that up until the friend mentioned it, no one would even suggest "dating violence?" I hope the girl realizes how dangerous he is and i hope he realizes that he needs professional help.
It's hard to break up with that kind of guy.. My bf is exacly the same.. Whenever i ask to break up his attitude become worse and it just make me scared just to think what will he do to me.
If he wants to kill his self. Thats his decision. Its not like he is a kid who doesnt know from right and wrong. Its not the girls fault. Its not like the girl say go kill your self. It is that guys decision and his problem. I been into that kind of guy who emotionally bully me but I refuse to be a victim. My happiness is my decision and mine alone. And I choose to be happy by getting out from that abusive relationship
I don't get it. He's so suspicious of everything and yet she's still with him. She even doubts his love so why the hell isn't she breaking up with him. This appearance on this show is unnecessary. I bet everyone of her friends would've told her to break up
she may doubt his love, but she seems to love him and wants to give him a chance to change his ways. it seems an easy choice from the outside, but when you are actually in this situation and experiencing it, it is very /very/ different
some people are really blinded when they're really in love, I met a girl years ago who was abused by her bf, she was hit till she lost almost all of her teeth but they're still together.
Hanifah Salsabila do you even know, how hard it is to leave? your comment is so ignorant. put yourself in her shoes. she looks like she wants to give him a chance, but anyone can see this toxic relationship is about to turn to violence.
ELAINE HUANG agree, idk if they're still together, bcs i didn't wanted to stay in contact with such people, but i hope she opened her eyes amd saw the truth.
She needs to leave this guy NOW - this man is already physically and verbally abusing her and if they get married it will only escalate and he will become more abusive and more controlling. His behaviour has nothing to do with "loving her too much". If he actually loved her, he wouldn't be treating her this way. There are so many redflags about his behaviour, its ridiculous.
Melinda Tan I know right. Women can't do anything about their bodies. And also considering the work environment they need to talk directly to their customers. The guy is too obsess and paranoid. This may eventually lead to physical abuse next. Plus marriage isn't fun and games. Whether you are married or divor.ced it can hurt a person reputation. Unless h change girl must break up with him.
@@meeyuyu4805 당연히 그럴수밖에 없죠. 보통의 데이트 폭력, 의처증, 의부증들은 증상의 정도를 떠나 본인이 문제가 있단 사실 자체를 부인하니 치료적 접근 또한 어려운거죠. 그래서 사전에 차단하고 격리할 수 있으면 좋지만 그러수 없으니 발생한 범죄를 기반으로 솎아내는 수밖에 없다는 말쓸을 드리는겁니다.
I once dated such type of a man, he was my first love, it started when I was 18 and he 36, his patents had given him up for adoption at 3, and he was often neglected and abused by his foster families...he ran away from his foster home at about 13, suffered a lot and developed an intense fear of abandonment thus he became extremely controlling and jealous...He was very protective of me so I kind of looked over his irrational behaviour at times...Hoping that once we would settle down, it would all be better and he could get the sense of security he wanted, but the abuse only got worse by the day, he never hit me although he verbally abused me a lot, made my feel like I was the source of all problems in our relationship, he didn't want me to work so that I could remain financially dependant on him, it was hurtfull having someone undermine you all the time, he often accused me of being overtly emotional when he was not any better, once he forced me to shave all my hair off because some guy said I looked good with that hair, however I was somewhat troubled too, and I became extremely manipulative and started to lie compulsively to avoid angering him, he would break stuff and shout like a maniac during one of his violent episodes of rage, he always made me feel like a whore just because I was too shy to talk to guys he accused me of being a lesbian(I am bi) and cheating on him with his secretary(really HIS sectretary), He wouldn't let me go out with my friends even, and snatched the phone when I wanted to call them.I could go on and on but let us end here. After 2 years I realised that I had given up my freedom to be his captive and that it wasn't worth it, ironically he was the one who cheated, so I packed my stuff and went back with my parents, It was very cathratic yet difficult, he called me saying he would change and that he would committ suicide if I did not go back to him, I finally told him I didn't feel sorry for him anymore, and left to a another city...
everyone hates him, but you have to look at him from a different perspective. he's obviously an anxious person, and he's pushing his anxieties onto his girlfriend. he seems to have a social disorder that makes him feel like anyone that comes in contact wants to hurt his girlfriend, and he's unable to differentiate a predator from a regular person. he's really anxious, and that's what's damaging their relationship. if anything, he should seek proper counseling. but due to korea's close minded views of psychological problems, he most likely won't get the help he needs. he seems to be suffering from an actual problem like severe anxiety, and that's not his fault. it's not right for him to be controlling and demanding towards his girlfriend, but i think there's an underlying issue that's causing it. instead of hating him, we should hope he gets better.
This is honestly the first comment I've seen that has a broad view on the subject. I'm surprised that all of the comments under you are semi-negative. Good job coming from that perspective. I do think that he needs to get some help. I don't think all of his concerns are invalid, however, I think he's reacting to them in an overly anxious way like you said.
mental illness is no excuse for being a bad person, especially not to your loved ones. shitty behaviour makes you a shitty person. i say this as both someone suffering from multiple mental illnesses, and whose family is quite abusive. my dad always uses his 'bipolar disorder' to justify his actions. it's just wrong and besides the point. people like that just lack an awareness of how much they are hurting others.
I agree with you. But I'd like to add that his partner doesn't have any obligatory to stay with him. She can help him if she wants, but not as his dating partner. Violence in a personal relationship is one of its kind, and I believe it will be difficult for a person to play two roles: as a victim and as a helper. Better cut off the romantic attachment so we can see where we draw the lines. I guess most people react strongly to the guy because violence in a personal relationship, by the intimate partner, has been around for decades and many women stay in the relationship because they think it's their responsibility. Even if we look at it through mental health perspective, there are two persons who need help: the victim and the perpetrator. If we're not careful, we might neglect the victim. And from my experiences working in a crisis center, that is indeed the case. Also, this is off topic, but your username makes me chuckle.
I don't see why this guy thinks he can tell her what and what not to wear/do. I mean he THINKS he doing something good but clearly she doesn't think the same so I don't see why he has to keep bossing her about and throw stuff at her and he can't be doing something good if he's shouting at her all the time and it's like boy....she's not your child you don't have to know where she is all the time even the friend said they have to send pictures of them to show him where you are....this just frustrates me so much
I really hate hearing this type of stuff😟 he is so obsessive he needs to get professional attention and the woman should also seek professional attention so she doesn't fall in the same type of unhealthy relationship
I'm not sure if you have OCD or not please don't say things about OCD if you're not qualified to talk about it, it can hurt the image of people like me a lot because we can be seen as abusive or dangerous. he definitely needs counselling to work through whatever this is though
I have OCD too and I'm well aware of it. Ocd is not just about fear of contamination or having evil thoughts. It can be any thoughts that cause fear and distress and a person is totally consumed by those thoughts. It's just my assumption that he has some form of ocd i didn't mean to hurt anybody. Just my observation
hmm I see!! I appreciate your opinion as someone else with OCD but as far as I see it we shouldn't label people without knowing because it's given people around me the impression that this behaviour is associated with OCD before.........
you can’t love anyone until you love yourself. they both need to step back. he needs to work on himself first and she needs to heal from the pain, and embrace her individuality again.
why does so many people think that whatever a woman wears is what causes her to get any type of assault?!!! why should a woman cover herself up and not be able to wear something she wants it's this kind of WRONG thinking that shows what kind of person you are
Exactly. Even women who wear the burqa get assaulted. How much skin you show has nothing to do with how likely you are to get assaulted. That's just victim-blaming.
My former best friend's boyfriend is exactly like this, and he's the reason I was unable to continue the friendship after 11 years as best friends. It's so suffocating to be around.
The whole of South Korea and beyond knows his face and personality so I hope he changes for the better. If he doesn't let's hope he'll remain single forever. I applaud his gf for staying strong and seeking some form of intervention
No, he won't. There are always plenty of girls for any men, no matter how bad or ugly he is. He'll be just fine, unfortunately. Men don't get punished for having flaws at dating, only women do.
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I hope they don't get marry in the future. Imagine the physical abuse she is going to have then. Girl better break up with him unless he changes his ways!
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If he really loves her, he will actually listen to what she says. Doesn't he want her to live freely and happily? If not, then she should go find someone else
i feel bad for being similar to him, my low self-esteem and my insecurities always end my relationships. Then I realized that I have to love myself first and then love someone else!
과거 바람펴서 헤어졌단 말도 이 사연 다 보니까 의심되네 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 전 여자친구들이 그냥 남사친이 있는 술자리를 몇번 갔던걸로 의심하고 거기에 좀 파인 옷 입으면 ㅈㄹ하고 이래서 전 여친들이 참다참다 너 바람피냐? 는 말에 그래 나 바람핀다 ㅇㅅㄲ야 그니까 헤어지자 이런 말이 나온게 아닐까 하는 합리적의심까지 듦 ㅋㅋㅋ 그리고 본인 집착 인정하기 싫으니까 여자친구 거짓말은 파보려고도 하지 않고 음 내 말이 맞았군 이러면서 현여친이랑 친구들한테 말하고 다닌 거 같음 저정도 집착이면 전 여친들 반응이 디폴트지 현여친 반응이 디폴트는 아님 현여친분이 진짜 착하시네요 지금도 현여친일지는 모르겠지만 집착은 정말 데이트폭력 나아가서는 가정폭력의 발단이 됩니다. 집착 의심이 의처증 의부증의 시작이거든요. 이 증세는 대체로 폭력으로 나아갈 확률이 진짜 높습니다. 지금 여친은 놓아주고 자유롭게 두시고 본인 치료에 전념하셔야 할듯
She looks so worn down and lifeless. He’s borderline abusive, i’d even go as far as saying he is abusing her. I know it may not seem like he is, but its controlling and obsessive behaviour and you can clearly see how it’s affecting her.
They're taking this too lightly. I work at a violence against women's shelter for intimate partner violence and he's displaying abusive behaviors. I hope she's free of him now.
disgusting. He blames her when someone touches her, how can he even claim that he loves her???? His crazy attachment sounds like the beginnings of a classic abusive relationship, not love. He has crazy insecurities, how pathetic he uses the excuse that he cares about her when he hurts her.
he's just insecure and is afraid of the one person he truly loves about, leaving. he's not a bad person. he just needs to fully love himself before thinking about marrying her (or anybody).
Don't come at me for bringing BTS up but now I finally understand what RM meant with ,, You have to love yourself before you love someone else" this guy has self-esteem and that affects the relationship badly. If he would think of himself as someone who deserves her then I think it wouldn't have come this far.
전 남친이랑 똑같다 같이 있어도 배달오면 내가 나가는거 못하게해씀 배달원이 남자라는 이유 하나로 만나면서 연애초반때 빼고 더운 여름에도긴바지 종아리도 안보이는 롱치마.. 영상통화로 옷 검사.. 편의점에서 나갈때 인사한번 했다가 남자한테 왜 인사하냐고 별 지랄지랄 본인 친구 소개시켜주는데 남자친구 친구니깐 기 살려주려고 신경써서 꾸미는데 친구한테 잘 보이고 싶냐고 지랄해서 거의 생얼로 가고 지 친군데 악수하자고 그러면 거절하라고..ㅋㅋ 이성 친구도 없는데 병적으로 친척동생도 남자니깐 번호 삭제 하라하고..가스라0ㅣ티쩔고... 진짜 지치더라.. 근데 사랑이 뭐라고 금방 끊어내지 못한게 후회될뿐 스토리 얘기하자면 차고 넘친다 참고로 난 부끄러운 행동한적x
When ur boyfriend yells at you for wearing opened clothes instead of yelling to the people around who stare at you is when you know you two should breakup.
He has issues, but issues can be fixed. I love the way they handled this. If they said the things that people are writing in the comments... Things would get a lot worse.
This is the most reasonable comment here but after 1 year it only has 7 likes including mine. No wonder kbs has the like/dislike count hidden. You can't come at every situation with a pitchfork, think about both sides of the story
They didn't deal with it well at all. He displayed all the typical redflags of a wife-beater and was already abusive and controlling towards her. His so-called "issues" are just an act to make people feel sorry for him and get him off the hook. He knows exactly what he's doing. This kind of relationships cannot be fixed, ask any actual counselor. The only real solution was to leave him. I hate that they tried to make them stay together. Completely irresponsible.
It doesn't matter if he is insecure or had a bad childhood (he didn't say this, but I think it's a possibility). Yes, then you can understand where he is coming from and maybe feel bad for him, but being insecure or having a bad childhood is NO EXCUSE for abusing and mistreating your significant other/someone else. He needs professional help and she should not sit around as his verbal and eventual literal punching bag. Men like these need to be left alone. NO ONE should EVER date them. IF someone with a past like this seeks help, gets past their issues (as much as possible), and enters a new relationship where they NEVER EVER act this way, then it's okay to date them, but many people never change and no one should wait around for their S/O to change their abusive behavior. They should leave them immediately.
I feel like this guy just feels the need to be surrounded by people to feel happy. I have a friend like that at school and we've known each other for six years. All she does is talk talk and talk expecting me to always listen to her. And when I get annoyed, she acts all possessive. These types of people probably didn't get enough attention when they were young.
I hate insecure guys. They manipulate you emmotionally. Emotionally draining. He is emotionally abusing her. No wonder he was dump many time. Dump that guy. Find another better.
I hope she's done with him. It's nice that she wants to mend their relationship but you really can't change a person like this unless they're truly sure of themselves..
I don't blame this guy cos i can totally relate to him. I was like that too with my Gf. I was always suspicious of her, never gave her my trust. I asked her to wear this and not that, i told her to be careful with her male friends. I got mad at her when she fought back. I yelled at her in public. I cussed at her. She had a difficult time with me but she tried to bear with it as long as she could ~ n the reason for doing all those things was i always looked down on myself. I thought i wasn't good looking and do not have anything special compared to her male friends ~ it was my frustration of not being good enough for her. I realised thst too late but i hope this guy realises soon n keeps her by his side..
He doesn’t know love. He just wants control and to possess. If she marries him, she’ll die being violently abused. He’s showing all the traits of an abusive personality.
He needs counseling. He does not need to be in a relationship. He can’t even love himself, so how can he claim to love his girlfriend. She needs counseling, too for she has issues that run deep as well. What mentally healthy woman would allow herself to be demeaned, berated, and belittled on a daily basis?
A lot of these comments are pointing out the obvious that this guy is really out of line etc, but I'm curious as what is good advice for him to overcome these issues and to treat the girl with the care she deserves. I sort of related to the thinking about ridiculous scenarios part, so I would like to know what actually helps to counter these actions.
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woman, you better run from this type of guy. obsessive and possesive borderline abusive as well. save your self, if not, then you ll be coming to this show again in the future talking about how nuts he is when you're married.
Natasha Osman why not call police for his violence? It frustrates me..
Nurmarsha Andini well i donno.. instead of taking matters by her own (breaking up, or whatever), she decided to come to a show for her concerns.. what makes you think that when something happened in her marriage, will make her seek help from authorities (counsellor, police) or even divorce him.. women afraid to be a single mom rather than being abused frustrates the hell out of me!!
I think she also loves him a lot and they are serious about their relationship. That's why she came to the show to ask for help, to make him change instead of breaking up by herself or something.
Agree with you! In this case I also recommend her to break up tho.. Looks like this is not only the boyfriend's problem due to his bad past with other women but his own personality/character problem (due to what his friend said) :< And the fact is that it's really really hard for people at this age to change it. If they go further (like marriage or keep this situation longer) it will be much harder for both of them.
Natasha Osman Not "borderline abusive", he IS abusive towards her. I agree, she should leave this relationship.
Tmr Zys Yup. He yells at her, cusses at her and even threatens to kill himself if she doesn't answer him or does what he wants. That is definitely emotional abuse right there. She needs to get out quick before it escalates into something physical.
I wish they had a segment where we follow up to where these people are now, I hope she broke up with him and found a man that respects and values her freedom
april00026000 they have, it's called HELLO NEWS
I think it's sad, even if they do break up I hope he gets help so he doesnt keep cycling through relationships
Whatever it is. But i can feel that insecurity.. I know i wont do thr same thing as him.. But the fear is real... Nowaday some ppl made it so cool to hurt someone to cheat someone that it can ruin a confident person too.. And if u get a real partner u cant enjoy it too... I feel for him and her too.. That she is trying to prove him that she cares for him and love him.. But she cant reach to him...
This is so heartbreaking to see her being treated like that 😢
he treats her like he owns her, it really makes me angry. from his perspective he's just being protective, but i've been in her place, and surely she just feels unimportant to him. he can't just tell her to do things and yell at her for things that aren't her fault. she's her own person, she should do what she wants.
Dog owners don't even treat their dogs like this. This is outright abuse.
Exactly. I’ve been in this type of situation before except it was definitely less severe. I only bring it up to say that people can let their own insecurities ruin their relationships. I feel like the man is extremely insecure and because he feels like she is too good for him he tries to control her and tear her down so she won’t leave him but he doesn’t seem to realize that it is ruining their relationship and will be the cause of their separation. I hope he works on himself and tries to see the damage he is doing by treating her like some sort of possession instead of a person.
Whatever it is. But i can feel that insecurity.. I know i wont do thr same thing as him.. But the fear is real... Nowaday some ppl made it so cool to hurt someone to cheat someone that it can ruin a confident person too.. And if u get a real partner u cant enjoy it too... I feel for him and her too.. That she is trying to prove him that she cares for him and love him.. But she cant reach to him...
@@tingle2323 I definitely understand where you’re coming from. I feel bad for them both as well and really hope they seek counseling. Even if it’s not with each other they should both seek it on their own as no doubt he is causing her to feel insecure by belittling her like that and they both will have confidence issues if their relationship persists the way it has been. It’s just sad that insecurity and relationship trauma, if not worked through, leads to situations like these where it borders on abuse and will ruin the relationship.
Everything this guy is and did was exactly who and what my ex bf was. I was with an obsessive bf. (Thankfully he didn't get physically abusive when we were together.) He didnt get cheated on or wasnt left by any ex gfs and yet he was still very obsessive. I remember he called me everyday at specific times within the day when he went to the states, that I must pick up all his calls during those times and that I must be at home or my dorm when he called. He yelled at me and threw passive aggressive threats whenever I missed picking up or when he heard male voices in the background (whether it was my dad, brother, gay friends, bystanders). When he heard the voices in the background he told me I was flirting while he was away. The last straw was when I went out with my friends and told them I must get home because it was almost time for him to call. I remember feeling really scared because there was heavy traffic on the way home and I might missed his call. I was shaking. That was when it hit me. Why was I so scared of someone who's supposed to make me feel loved and safe. I was young and he was only my 2nd bf at the time. So I didn't know better. My friends and family helped me get out of that really bad relationship. I'm glad I got out of that. I'm now married to a very, very kind man.
She must get out of that relationship. It will only be a matter of time before his behavior escalates and she would really get hurt even more.
For me, i think he needs counseling. If he changes for better, i think dey can still stay tgt. If not, it's de best tat she leaves him. Your story seems like one from de k-dramas. Hahas. Glad that u got over that obsessive lover!
Well there r many ppl who are hurt by cheaters and become like him.. Do u think it would hurt her.. He needs that security.. and need counseling.. Bcoz some ppl made it ao cool to cheat or hurt that ppl get obsessive or attached with person they love.. Stop glorifying cheating. Dont respect cheaters and give reason.. when we start to celebrate loyalty.. Automatically this kind of mindset would decrease
the boyfriend is being so unreasonable. he could have just talk to her normally rather than yelling like one hella mad dude. i wouldn't even stand a man like him i swear-
이정도면 저 사연자분은 이후의 피해자를 막기 위해 공중파에 남친 박제해둔거 아닌가.. 괜찮은 생각인것 같기도..
ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ ㅇㅈ
공개처형
헤어지는것 밖에 없는것 같아요... 남자분은 고치기 힘든 병을 가지고 있고 상담 꼭 받으세요.. 여자분 빨리 헤어지고 말리가세요...
녹화내내 남자의 상기된표정이 무서워보이네요.. 나오긴 했지만 나중에 본인이 잘못됐다는 질타를받았을때 여자친구에게 또 다른 표현으로 돌아갈듯..
he has attachment issues... someone important to him must have left him and never came back when they probably said they would come back, maybe that's why he doesn't trust and always wants to be soooooo close to everyone in his life
Zanele Mnguni well he said he got cheated on several times in the past,I kinda feel bad for him but if he keeps that kind of behavior she will cheat on him for good or leave him
yeah...nowadays people are too afraid that they won't receive the love they give..
Everyone wants to be loved in return , however excessive love is not good and healthy for both
Zanele Mnguni yeah 🙁
Mimi S But making her pay for the mistakes of others is disgusting. She didn't cheat, and he wants her to stay covered up. Like she said, she isn't someone he loves, she is his possession.
의처증이 있는 남자랑을
헤어져야 한다
이건 못고치는 정신병이다
남자랑을이 아니라 남자랑은이 맞는거죠
여자도 포함이지 먼소리냐
정신병있나
@@alqp0809 저남자를 보고 얘기하는건데 피해의식쩌네ㅡㅡ
@@ghghdr767 할일없으면자라
@@alqp0809 너만큼 할일없을까
Soyou the queen of empowering women
I truly love her
I don't know her but I became a fan when she said "how can we control the bulge" 😂😂
@@elledumble lmfao me too i laughed so hard
Leave him & run girl! You don't want to be tied down to a man that's overbearing & consistently belittles you. I have a feeling that after this he'll be yelling at her for embarrassing him on tv 🙄
And that kind of man usually tend to keep their behaivior though they promised her not to be so.
The girl should run fast as she can from him
senthil caesar and get a restraining order
I disagree
@dimstar: That's because you're a fucking moron. You haven't experienced enough life, you fucking bimbo, to know that these guys NEVER change. They only get worse as time goes on, and they wind up getting physically abusive, if not outright murderous.
NOTHING good will ever come of being near that psychopath. Ever.
Grow the fuck up, you ignorant fool and learn some reality while you're at it.
This is so frustrating. I get that he has low self esteem but that doesnt justify his behavior. She should leave him before his attitude escalates. Thank god for her friend. Anyone notice that up until the friend mentioned it, no one would even suggest "dating violence?" I hope the girl realizes how dangerous he is and i hope he realizes that he needs professional help.
Wth she should break up with him
YMRmonkey Plays 우너 숭이 even more reasons to break up. Thats nonsense
Juliana Galletti I
I don’t think it’s that simple
It's hard to break up with that kind of guy.. My bf is exacly the same.. Whenever i ask to break up his attitude become worse and it just make me scared just to think what will he do to me.
If he wants to kill his self. Thats his decision. Its not like he is a kid who doesnt know from right and wrong. Its not the girls fault. Its not like the girl say go kill your self. It is that guys decision and his problem. I been into that kind of guy who emotionally bully me but I refuse to be a victim. My happiness is my decision and mine alone. And I choose to be happy by getting out from that abusive relationship
I don't get it. He's so suspicious of everything and yet she's still with him. She even doubts his love so why the hell isn't she breaking up with him. This appearance on this show is unnecessary. I bet everyone of her friends would've told her to break up
she may doubt his love, but she seems to love him and wants to give him a chance to change his ways. it seems an easy choice from the outside, but when you are actually in this situation and experiencing it, it is very /very/ different
some people are really blinded when they're really in love, I met a girl years ago who was abused by her bf, she was hit till she lost almost all of her teeth but they're still together.
Hanifah Salsabila gurl have you ever been in a toxic as fuck relationship? nah.
Hanifah Salsabila do you even know, how hard it is to leave? your comment is so ignorant. put yourself in her shoes. she looks like she wants to give him a chance, but anyone can see this toxic relationship is about to turn to violence.
ELAINE HUANG agree, idk if they're still together, bcs i didn't wanted to stay in contact with such people, but i hope she opened her eyes amd saw the truth.
4년전인데 지금쯤이면 헤어졌겠지? 저만큼의 의심병이면 나중에 진짜 큰일난다. 본인이 그것이 알고싶다에 나올지도...
Girl..break up with him already...you deserve someone better
I agree
She needs to leave this guy NOW - this man is already physically and verbally abusing her and if they get married it will only escalate and he will become more abusive and more controlling. His behaviour has nothing to do with "loving her too much". If he actually loved her, he wouldn't be treating her this way. There are so many redflags about his behaviour, its ridiculous.
Hear hear
It's not even a love it's pure obsession
이친구들 아직 만나고있을런지 아닌지모르겠지만 둘은 아님니다 이건 사랑이아니고 집착입니다 남자분 고쳐야해요...충분이 멋있는 나이이고 멋진사람인대 자존감 업시켜요..
방송이라 과장이 아니라면 반드시해여지세요 나중에 크게싸우거나 더욱문제가 심해질듯 저건 사랑이 아니라 소유욕 집착이라봄
Soyou is so savageeeee at the breasts part hahaha!!
Melinda Tan I know right. Women can't do anything about their bodies. And also considering the work environment they need to talk directly to their customers. The guy is too obsess and paranoid. This may eventually lead to physical abuse next. Plus marriage isn't fun and games. Whether you are married or divor.ced it can hurt a person reputation. Unless h change girl must break up with him.
I'm so glad she burst out with that because it's true lmao! Where are we supposed to put them?
"they're bulging out, what can we do" 😂😂😂 LMAO EXPECTED FROM SAVAGE SOYOU😂💖i miss sistar 💕
ahahahahahahahahah I LOVE HER. She is right ~ 😂
왜 사귀세요? 남자친구분은 병입니다
정신과 치료 받아보시는거 어떠신지
범죄는 이런사람으로 시작됩니다
큰일나기전에 헤어지세요
헤어지면 무슨일이 벌어질지....두려울듯...
맞아요
여자 입장에선 헤어지고 싶어도 무서워서 말 못할꺼 같아요
The friend is woke af she should convince the girl to put an end to the relationship right away
'이런 남자랑은 헤어져라'가 솔루션이 아니라 이런 남자가 널리고 널렸는데 언젠가 누군가의 남편이 되고 아버지가 된다는게 큰 사회적 문제인 겁니다. 안타깝지만 최선의 방법은 누군가의 희생으로 저런 사람들을 최대한 사회와 격리시키는 수밖에 없습니다.
사회적 문제라면서 왜 해결방법은 개인의 희생 ㅎㅎ 사회가 적극적으로 치료를 도와줘야하지 않을까요
@@meeyuyu4805 당연히 그럴수밖에 없죠. 보통의 데이트 폭력, 의처증, 의부증들은 증상의 정도를 떠나 본인이 문제가 있단 사실 자체를 부인하니 치료적 접근 또한 어려운거죠. 그래서 사전에 차단하고 격리할 수 있으면 좋지만 그러수 없으니 발생한 범죄를 기반으로 솎아내는 수밖에 없다는 말쓸을 드리는겁니다.
어찌 헤어질래 무섭다 헤어지는것도 힘들듯
그런데 저여자분도 이상한게 저런남자랑 왜 헤어지지않고 여기까지나왔을까
지금쯤은 헤어졌을까
when she said he threw a toilet paper roll at her...really cooked those virtual potatoes...
I once dated such type of a man, he was my first love, it started when I was 18 and he 36, his patents had given him up for adoption at 3, and he was often neglected and abused by his foster families...he ran away from his foster home at about 13, suffered a lot and developed an intense fear of abandonment thus he became extremely controlling and jealous...He was very protective of me so I kind of looked over his irrational behaviour at times...Hoping that once we would settle down, it would all be better and he could get the sense of security he wanted, but the abuse only got worse by the day, he never hit me although he verbally abused me a lot, made my feel like I was the source of all problems in our relationship, he didn't want me to work so that I could remain financially dependant on him, it was hurtfull having someone undermine you all the time, he often accused me of being overtly emotional when he was not any better, once he forced me to shave all my hair off because some guy said I looked good with that hair, however I was somewhat troubled too, and I became extremely manipulative and started to lie compulsively to avoid angering him, he would break stuff and shout like a maniac during one of his violent episodes of rage, he always made me feel like a whore just because I was too shy to talk to guys he accused me of being a lesbian(I am bi) and cheating on him with his secretary(really HIS sectretary), He wouldn't let me go out with my friends even, and snatched the phone when I wanted to call them.I could go on and on but let us end here.
After 2 years I realised that I had given up my freedom to be his captive and that it wasn't worth it, ironically he was the one who cheated, so I packed my stuff and went back with my parents, It was very cathratic yet difficult, he called me saying he would change and that he would committ suicide if I did not go back to him, I finally told him I didn't feel sorry for him anymore, and left to a another city...
I love korean culture, but society wise its an issue. It's sad
These guys happen EVERYWHERE. There are millions of them in the US.
Yeah this is definitely not something exclusive to Korean culture.
Some are exceptions not all lol
@@aquariaaustin2077 Yeah but it seems like it gets ignored or dismissed a lot in SK
@@kj6597 I agree
everyone hates him, but you have to look at him from a different perspective. he's obviously an anxious person, and he's pushing his anxieties onto his girlfriend. he seems to have a social disorder that makes him feel like anyone that comes in contact wants to hurt his girlfriend, and he's unable to differentiate a predator from a regular person. he's really anxious, and that's what's damaging their relationship.
if anything, he should seek proper counseling. but due to korea's close minded views of psychological problems, he most likely won't get the help he needs. he seems to be suffering from an actual problem like severe anxiety, and that's not his fault.
it's not right for him to be controlling and demanding towards his girlfriend, but i think there's an underlying issue that's causing it. instead of hating him, we should hope he gets better.
His girlfriend doesn't have to be a martyr because of HIS pathetic inferiority complex. It's HIS fault, she needs to save herself.
This is honestly the first comment I've seen that has a broad view on the subject. I'm surprised that all of the comments under you are semi-negative. Good job coming from that perspective. I do think that he needs to get some help. I don't think all of his concerns are invalid, however, I think he's reacting to them in an overly anxious way like you said.
mental illness is no excuse for being a bad person, especially not to your loved ones. shitty behaviour makes you a shitty person. i say this as both someone suffering from multiple mental illnesses, and whose family is quite abusive. my dad always uses his 'bipolar disorder' to justify his actions. it's just wrong and besides the point. people like that just lack an awareness of how much they are hurting others.
I agree with you. But I'd like to add that his partner doesn't have any obligatory to stay with him. She can help him if she wants, but not as his dating partner. Violence in a personal relationship is one of its kind, and I believe it will be difficult for a person to play two roles: as a victim and as a helper. Better cut off the romantic attachment so we can see where we draw the lines.
I guess most people react strongly to the guy because violence in a personal relationship, by the intimate partner, has been around for decades and many women stay in the relationship because they think it's their responsibility. Even if we look at it through mental health perspective, there are two persons who need help: the victim and the perpetrator. If we're not careful, we might neglect the victim. And from my experiences working in a crisis center, that is indeed the case.
Also, this is off topic, but your username makes me chuckle.
She should break up with him and he should seek counseling. She deserves better than that. They should both start anew, not with eachother.
I don't see why this guy thinks he can tell her what and what not to wear/do. I mean he THINKS he doing something good but clearly she doesn't think the same so I don't see why he has to keep bossing her about and throw stuff at her and he can't be doing something good if he's shouting at her all the time and it's like boy....she's not your child you don't have to know where she is all the time even the friend said they have to send pictures of them to show him where you are....this just frustrates me so much
beanie Don't make excuses for abuse
I really hate hearing this type of stuff😟 he is so obsessive he needs to get professional attention and the woman should also seek professional attention so she doesn't fall in the same type of unhealthy relationship
I think the man needs proper counseling. This looks like some form of obsessive compulsive disorder.😞
nah, I have obsessive compulsive disorder and OCD is not like this at all- this is paranoia, he's just suspicious and abusive
I'm not sure if you have OCD or not please don't say things about OCD if you're not qualified to talk about it, it can hurt the image of people like me a lot because we can be seen as abusive or dangerous. he definitely needs counselling to work through whatever this is though
I have OCD too and I'm well aware of it. Ocd is not just about fear of contamination or having evil thoughts. It can be any thoughts that cause fear and distress and a person is totally consumed by those thoughts.
It's just my assumption that he has some form of ocd i didn't mean to hurt anybody. Just my observation
hmm I see!! I appreciate your opinion as someone else with OCD but as far as I see it we shouldn't label people without knowing because it's given people around me the impression that this behaviour is associated with OCD before.........
i have ocd too, i really hate when someone always relate all issue with ocd,
I wonder what happened to the girl after this show *worried* (you guys know what I mean)
I'm worried too :(
you can’t love anyone until you love yourself.
they both need to step back.
he needs to work on himself first and she needs to heal from the pain, and embrace her individuality again.
아이비 고민 아니래.. 나한테 과분하다. 너무 좋아서 그런다. 이런말에 넘어가지 마세요. 그 마음이 진짜면 뭐해요. 표현 방식이 완전히 뒤틀렸는데..
why does so many people think that whatever a woman wears is what causes her to get any type of assault?!!! why should a woman cover herself up and not be able to wear something she wants
it's this kind of WRONG thinking that shows what kind of person you are
Exactly. Even women who wear the burqa get assaulted. How much skin you show has nothing to do with how likely you are to get assaulted. That's just victim-blaming.
My former best friend's boyfriend is exactly like this, and he's the reason I was unable to continue the friendship after 11 years as best friends.
It's so suffocating to be around.
The whole of South Korea and beyond knows his face and personality so I hope he changes for the better. If he doesn't let's hope he'll remain single forever. I applaud his gf for staying strong and seeking some form of intervention
No, he won't. There are always plenty of girls for any men, no matter how bad or ugly he is. He'll be just fine, unfortunately. Men don't get punished for having flaws at dating, only women do.
걍 헤어져 저런걸 왜 만나 나중에 저런것들이 데이트폭력하는거야 계속 집착하면 나중에 손이 올라가고그러지
저여자분 아빠가이프로봤으면 얼마나 속상해하셨을까
미친놈같은데 또 안쓰럽네... 예전에 사귀었던 사람들이 바람폈던 상처가 있고 자존감도 너무 낮아서.. 남자가 상담을 받아야할거같고. 안쓰러운것과 별개로 여러분은 헤어지는게 나을것같음.
이런거 볼때마다 속상하네요...전여잔데 남자분한테 너무 공감되요...
저는 연애 9년을하고 결혼했어요
제가 집착이 심하고 불안정해서 싸우기도 많이하고 신랑 많이 힘들게 했어요
결국은 선택인거 같아요...신랑은 저를 보듬어주기로 했고 저도 고쳐나가기로 마음먹었어요..처음엔 제가 정상인줄 알았는데..아니더라구요...
지금은 연애할때보다 사이가 더 좋고 믿음도 강해요~
두분 계속 같이 하시려면 정말 많은 노력이 필요해요..절대 혼자 바뀐다고 될일은 아닌거같아요.. 남자분 여자친구와 계속 함께 하고 싶다면 가스라이팅 보다는 진심어린 대화를 많이 하고 소통하는법을 배우세요...
헐... 집착을 ... 사랑이라고하면서 올가미를 씌우고... 미저리네요... 남자분... 그냥 방목해도 이 여자분 괜찮을것같아요~ 지금은 세월이지나 행복한 사랑을 하시고 계신가요~? 좋은 인연이셨으면 좋겠네요~ 수갑채우지말고 방목하는 사랑 해보세요~ 즐거움이 두배가, 사랑이 세배가 될지도 모르잖아여~~
7:53 아놔 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 친구분 짱짱 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
헤어지는게 답이다.안전이별.
의심병 못고친다. 남자분 정신과가서 상담
받아보기를.., 집안도 문제있을듯 근데
저여자는 저러고도 사귀는거 보면 지팔지꼰.
뉴스에 볼까싶다.
여자분은 가스라이팅을 당하셔서 못 헤어지고 계속 사귀고 계신 것 같은데 지팔지꼰이라고 나쁘게 표현하는 건 좀 아닌 것 같아요
I hope they don't get marry in the future. Imagine the physical abuse she is going to have then. Girl better break up with him unless he changes his ways!
이건 아주 큰 고민이고 남자가 과감하게 행동을 변화하지 않는이상 헤어지는게 맞고 저 남자는 행동변화 없이는 이성을 만나면 안된다. 잠재적 범죄자의 행동 유형이 나올듯 보인다. 진짜 변화해야 한다. 아주 심각하다.
Thanks to you gyus finally, i found my first kserial ever from my childhood . Jewel in the palace in hindi ghar ka chirag.. was the most famous serial at that time on dd national in india . Love you jewel in the palace crew for making my childhood so beautiful.
If he really loves her, he will actually listen to what she says. Doesn't he want her to live freely and happily? If not, then she should go find someone else
She is confusing love with excessive concern about her and his controlling ways. Don't walk , Run Far Fast from this type of man.
this show should be stress relief for me but I'm seriously getting so stressed oml
결혼하면 법적으로 부부이기때문에 구속이 더 심해져요~지금은 헤어질수도 있다는 생각을 해서 꼬리를 내리지만 결혼하면 넌 내손에 있다는 생각에 더 쥐락펴락 하려고 할거예요~
애라도 생기면 발목잡혀 더 심해지는게 집착인데
절대 더 나아지지 않습니다
Her best friend is a good person. Keep being besties!
i feel bad for being similar to him, my low self-esteem and my insecurities always end my relationships. Then I realized that I have to love myself first and then love someone else!
She's really a good person to even try to fix things with him, treating her like that is unacceptable and is very much abuse.
과거 바람펴서 헤어졌단 말도 이 사연 다 보니까 의심되네 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 전 여자친구들이 그냥 남사친이 있는 술자리를 몇번 갔던걸로 의심하고 거기에 좀 파인 옷 입으면 ㅈㄹ하고 이래서 전 여친들이 참다참다 너 바람피냐? 는 말에 그래 나 바람핀다 ㅇㅅㄲ야 그니까 헤어지자 이런 말이 나온게 아닐까 하는 합리적의심까지 듦 ㅋㅋㅋ 그리고 본인 집착 인정하기 싫으니까 여자친구 거짓말은 파보려고도 하지 않고 음 내 말이 맞았군 이러면서 현여친이랑 친구들한테 말하고 다닌 거 같음
저정도 집착이면 전 여친들 반응이 디폴트지 현여친 반응이 디폴트는 아님 현여친분이 진짜 착하시네요 지금도 현여친일지는 모르겠지만 집착은 정말 데이트폭력 나아가서는 가정폭력의 발단이 됩니다. 집착 의심이 의처증 의부증의 시작이거든요. 이 증세는 대체로 폭력으로 나아갈 확률이 진짜 높습니다. 지금 여친은 놓아주고 자유롭게 두시고 본인 치료에 전념하셔야 할듯
She looks so worn down and lifeless. He’s borderline abusive, i’d even go as far as saying he is abusing her. I know it may not seem like he is, but its controlling and obsessive behaviour and you can clearly see how it’s affecting her.
He's clearly abusive. I feel so sorry for her and I hope she left him.
They're taking this too lightly.
I work at a violence against women's shelter for intimate partner violence and he's displaying abusive behaviors.
I hope she's free of him now.
성격이 뒤틀렸네 의심에 자격지심 집착 소유욕.... 사람 피곤하게 하는것만 갖고있네.... 여친이 착하니까 받아주는데 사랑이라고 생각하고 받아주다간 큰일납니다 받아주다가 안받아주면 저런 사람들 돌아버려요!! 빨리 끊으세요
disgusting. He blames her when someone touches her, how can he even claim that he loves her???? His crazy attachment sounds like the beginnings of a classic abusive relationship, not love. He has crazy insecurities, how pathetic he uses the excuse that he cares about her when he hurts her.
he's just insecure and is afraid of the one person he truly loves about, leaving. he's not a bad person. he just needs to fully love himself before thinking about marrying her (or anybody).
That's a toxic relationship please break up
She's gotta throw the whole boyfriend out...
방목 이거는 여성분들 엄청좋아하죠
여자친구를 클럽에도 보내주고
여자가 그럴만한 사람이나 바람을피지
절대 바람이나 딴생각을할 스타일은 아닌거같음...ㅋㅋ
결혼하면.. 더 힘들거에요
You should never tolerate someone yelling at you in public for any reason. That’s absurd!
Their friends are a whole mood😅
조심해야함 이런사람이 헤어지자고 하면 살인함
Don't come at me for bringing BTS up but now I finally understand what RM meant with ,, You have to love yourself before you love someone else" this guy has self-esteem and that affects the relationship badly. If he would think of himself as someone who deserves her then I think it wouldn't have come this far.
this guy is the example of an abuser and no one (guy or girl) should ever be in an abusive relationship
전 남친이랑 똑같다
같이 있어도 배달오면 내가 나가는거 못하게해씀
배달원이 남자라는 이유 하나로
만나면서 연애초반때 빼고 더운 여름에도긴바지
종아리도 안보이는 롱치마..
영상통화로 옷 검사..
편의점에서 나갈때 인사한번 했다가
남자한테 왜 인사하냐고 별 지랄지랄
본인 친구 소개시켜주는데 남자친구 친구니깐
기 살려주려고 신경써서 꾸미는데
친구한테 잘 보이고 싶냐고 지랄해서
거의 생얼로 가고
지 친군데 악수하자고 그러면 거절하라고..ㅋㅋ
이성 친구도 없는데 병적으로 친척동생도 남자니깐
번호 삭제 하라하고..가스라0ㅣ티쩔고...
진짜 지치더라..
근데 사랑이 뭐라고 금방 끊어내지 못한게
후회될뿐
스토리 얘기하자면 차고 넘친다
참고로 난 부끄러운 행동한적x
The girl at 2:36 looks so done 😂😂
When ur boyfriend yells at you for wearing opened clothes instead of yelling to the people around who stare at you is when you know you two should breakup.
헤어지자고 하면 죽이겠다 아주
omg just break up with him already, people like this are no good, i've been blind like that too and I know it's going to ruin her life
동성친구한테도 저정도 인거보면 자랄때 가정환경이나 부모의 양육에 영향을 받은거같아요..
The friend in the sunglasses is the real MVP
He has issues, but issues can be fixed. I love the way they handled this. If they said the things that people are writing in the comments... Things would get a lot worse.
This is the most reasonable comment here but after 1 year it only has 7 likes including mine. No wonder kbs has the like/dislike count hidden. You can't come at every situation with a pitchfork, think about both sides of the story
They didn't deal with it well at all. He displayed all the typical redflags of a wife-beater and was already abusive and controlling towards her. His so-called "issues" are just an act to make people feel sorry for him and get him off the hook. He knows exactly what he's doing. This kind of relationships cannot be fixed, ask any actual counselor. The only real solution was to leave him. I hate that they tried to make them stay together. Completely irresponsible.
It doesn't matter if he is insecure or had a bad childhood (he didn't say this, but I think it's a possibility). Yes, then you can understand where he is coming from and maybe feel bad for him, but being insecure or having a bad childhood is NO EXCUSE for abusing and mistreating your significant other/someone else. He needs professional help and she should not sit around as his verbal and eventual literal punching bag. Men like these need to be left alone. NO ONE should EVER date them. IF someone with a past like this seeks help, gets past their issues (as much as possible), and enters a new relationship where they NEVER EVER act this way, then it's okay to date them, but many people never change and no one should wait around for their S/O to change their abusive behavior. They should leave them immediately.
She might be scared to leave him. He seems like the type to hurt her of she tries to leave him.
I feel like this guy just feels the need to be surrounded by people to feel happy. I have a friend like that at school and we've known each other for six years. All she does is talk talk and talk expecting me to always listen to her. And when I get annoyed, she acts all possessive. These types of people probably didn't get enough attention when they were young.
저건 사랑하는 게 아니야. 헤어져. 말을 그렇게 세게 하냐 좋아한다면서 여자를 그렇게 다루니. 미친넘
This is exactly the time a real therapist should be on this show this is abusive and violent
I hate insecure guys. They manipulate you emmotionally. Emotionally draining. He is emotionally abusing her. No wonder he was dump many time. Dump that guy. Find another better.
6:46 look at euiwoong's expression hahahahaha and who are still watxhing this is 2018?
I hope she's done with him. It's nice that she wants to mend their relationship but you really can't change a person like this unless they're truly sure of themselves..
I don't blame this guy cos i can totally relate to him. I was like that too with my Gf.
I was always suspicious of her, never gave her my trust. I asked her to wear this and not that, i told her to be careful with her male friends. I got mad at her when she fought back. I yelled at her in public. I cussed at her. She had a difficult time with me but she tried to bear with it as long as she could ~ n the reason for doing all those things was i always looked down on myself. I thought i wasn't good looking and do not have anything special compared to her male friends ~ it was my frustration of not being good enough for her. I realised thst too late but i hope this guy realises soon n keeps her by his side..
어릴때 부모로부터 사랑을못받으면
자존감이낮아지고
부모로부터 못받은 사랑을 타인에게받으려고집착하게됨
상담해야됨
He doesn’t know love. He just wants control and to possess. If she marries him, she’ll die being violently abused. He’s showing all the traits of an abusive personality.
이미 인생에서 지워버려야 할 사람임. 알면서 저러는거고 사랑이 아님. 자기애적 성격장애 가진 사이코임
13:21 제가 원래 자존감이 낮아요.
원래 ㅋㅋㅋ
원래 낮으니깐
너가 맞춰라?
지가 부족하면 지가 스스로을 채워야지
왜 상대를 깍아내리는지
겁나 못나고, 이기적인 사람이네
자존감이 낮으면 연애 하지마
뭐하는 짓이야
He needs counseling. He does not need to be in a relationship. He can’t even love himself, so how can he claim to love his girlfriend. She needs counseling, too for she has issues that run deep as well. What mentally healthy woman would allow herself to be demeaned, berated, and belittled on a daily basis?
3:41 *LITERALLY MY REACTION*
i would dump him at an instant, but would lowkey be afraid that he would murder me, you know those "if i can't have you no one can" types~
Ever time he say “it’s because I love you too much” I shudder.
저건 병이다. 정신과 상담이 절실해보임..결혼하면 의처증에 맨날 두들겨팰듯
A lot of these comments are pointing out the obvious that this guy is really out of line etc, but I'm curious as what is good advice for him to overcome these issues and to treat the girl with the care she deserves. I sort of related to the thinking about ridiculous scenarios part, so I would like to know what actually helps to counter these actions.