@@ukgurl1000then the new supply will have a much harder time getting out. Marriage doesn’t mean happiness. My ex wanted to get married after three months thank God my divorce isn’t finalized and I couldn’t.
That's true I have to keep reminding myself its a facade and I have seen his mask slip. No one can be that cruel and live a peaceful happy life with another person. He didn't heal or take time off in between... he went straight to securing a new supply because he couldn't deal with living on his own. @@marilynmonheaux
The more coindependence the new supply has, the longer the relationship is. Survivors, don't envy the longevity of the new relationship. It's no point to join in a competition called "who has less boundaries" or "who disrespect themselves more." Keep going. Live our damn good lives.
Once the narc has persuaded you to burn your boats and become dependent on him/her, that is when the devaluation will start. Six to nine months in my experience. The devaluation will go on for years until you finally reach the end of your tether. It will swallow you up, taking your precious years until you find the courage to quit. I should have quit after 9 months, I stayed for 29 years...hoping it would get better...it never did. Go as soon as the doubt creeps in. Run for your life!
I don't compete, ever... So the whole new supply thing didn't make me jealous or made me wanna fight for him, I just said "wish you both the best, enjoy each other"... And went no contact... That clearly was not the plan, he's hoovering and putting her in my face like crazy, but I don't care anymore... Ooopss..... 😅😂
Good for you! Be strong and know your worth 💯 in the end you’ll laugh at what you put up with and be so thankful for their new supply for taking them away for long enough so you can gain strength and realization. God bless.
It's not about how patient and compassionate the new supply towards the narcissist, it's about how they are willing to give up themselves and have blurry boundaries.
Unfortunately for this poor new supply ,this relationship will not last forever! The narcissist will get tired of playing his false self and And resort to his true self, which is narcissistic behavior and actions!
Same situation for me. I was discarded brutally 2 months ago ( not knowing wtf was happening until I discovered my husband is a covert) now I know. He's shacked up with the secretary from his work, she knew he was married to me for 12 years. She's just as vile. I'm still very much so in the raw stages. I'm trying to unlove a man that's NOT REAL.
@@ladyvirgo013I was in the same situation 2.5 yrs ago . Don't worry you will get over this by the time . When I was in your place I used to think that I will never be normal n happy again but this is not true . Today I am very happy n successful n best version of myself. On the other hand ,the women my ex husband married to after me is miserable n in a bad mental health as he left her as well .he is now living with some low grade women without marriage.
My ex GF was a full on narcissist, and I rejected her last Hoover, it's been four months of no contact now, but I can't seem to stop missing her, I really hope I'm not stuck feeling like this forever
It takes time just be patient you can do it. I am 16 months out now and I rarely think of the narcissist now and never thought I would be in this happy place.
It can take a few months or a few decades, there really is no set time limit before the discard. Covert narcs last a lot longer as they are very gradual with the devalue and it also depends on how easy going the supply is. However, the discard will always come sooner or later.
Exactly, it’s the illusion on both ends. The new supply believes it’s about love and compassion and commitment, but it’s about utility (needs met). The discarded thinks that this person will come back and love me with compassion and commitment. They can’t….. they can’t for them and they can’t for you, they can’t for anyone. Try this, try to remember one serious conversation you ever had with your narc. I bet you can’t. Do you need any other proof 🤷♂️.
I do believe you are correct. Once you start saying no to the narcissist and setting boundaries watch how fast they devalue and smear you and try to hop over to some other victim.
1 month or less! They're never happy. They can only idealize for so long and it takes a lot of energy from the narcissist. A few weeks maybe. Will the new supply just give and deny their own needs. Only compare yourself to yourself!
This is what I think too. Maybe a little longer if they're getting something out of them (job, place to live, social life etc). I've known my ex narc for 4 years, we were together on and off for 2 of those, but in those 4 years I've seen him go through 6 supplies before and after me. In FOUR years. It never lasts long.
@@coley8880 exactly she’s using this guy for a place to live which I’m paying for she’s got my son it’s next to her work should be getting sex so yeah just doesn’t feel nice for me after 10 years. I’m not gonna say I was perfect.
Absolutely. The toxic ex said I'm too much for him, and I told him to go get less. It doesn't matter if it lasts or not. After a while, if you don't walk away, it becomes an unhealthy, unrewarding, topsy turvy and upsetting relationship. Even if you do walk away it can take a long time to heal. Just thankful to and sorry for the new squeeze of any narcissist, thankful that someone was as naive as I once was and "took one for the team" so I could walk away to healing, happiness and freedom. Sorry because she has no idea of the slow and insidious abuse, lies and triangulation (not just with potential romantic partners) she is going to face before the grand abusive finale at the end.
Wow, thank you for sharing. I'm really taking it as a blessing that the new supply "took one for the team. "...admit, it took a long time for me to see it. Now, I'm healing miraculously, focusing on my kids and living my best life. I do feel bad for the new supply. They have no idea
My ex gf was also a narcissist. My intuition told me something was wrong until a youtube popped up on narcissist. I looked it up and she fit the discription. I observed and did a variety of test. She failed miserably. I ghosted her. Its been 6 months. Couldnt be more happier. Im at peace.
Obviously he’s already bored with her because my ex which I left after 4.5 months into the relationship has been using her to hover and try to get some reaction out of me. He started to take her to my local hangout place on Fridays before I met him and that we continued to go to. Yet honestly idc because I knew he had issues but after he married 6 months later I for real real knew this Kat really serious issues. I knew I made the right choice. It also helped that his family told me God is sure looking after me because I dodged a bullet. I won!
exactly compliance my ex narc wanted me to comply with an open marriage I said that's called a divorce I said why would I sleep with other men and stay married to you like seriously what would I need you for 😂omg was he angry he didn't think I was gonna file I did it took a year to locate him it was finalized this year Jan 2023 its been 2 years no contact because I did a no show court divorce and no contest so much happier now 😊thanx anoushka
Another reason why we ask ourselves these questions after the relationship with the narcissist is over is because he has presented us with a false future made of a unique and unrepeatable love and obviously, this leads us to wonder how it was possible that such a great love ended in the blink of an eye without a reason and without a comparison, an explanation. We therefore try to have confirmation of his sick behavior pattern also through the narcissist's new relationship.
you cant really explain it that well mental healness just is so spot on and your explanations arent coming from a real narsist rather your own search which isnt the same and you speak confusing not direct
I lived with my narc girlfriend for 4 months and was treated awful! I let her talk me into moving in and when I said I wouldn’t sign another lease it was hell! I didn’t know any of this. She hovered me and after a month found a former client alcoholic and he said she could move in with him after she loved bombed him. It’s all about not paying rent. Sad!
Day 1 of no contact. Blocked all socials, phone numbers. We have 2 kids. 1 mediator so I do not have to conversate with them, and the mediator knows not to say their name. Wish me luck. This is gonna hurt.
Anoushka...thank you for continuing to make these video's while you are traveling. You are such an inspiration and god send for helping all of us make sense of all the insanity regarding these relationships. God Bless You❤
I was discarded in the worst way possible. I was beaten up very badly while I miscarried. He left me after that. It's been 11 months. He has already moved on and his having a child with someone else. While I'm still struggling to heal and move on. We Are currently going to court , because during assaulting me he broke my jaw. It all sucks
I'm glad the baby gone to heaven GOD KNEW you will be stuck with him for life like I am..I don't regret the baby I love him, but I miscarried and got pregnant two weeks later n didn't run with my baby
This is really helping me and hopefully your followers to understand the complex situation and help us all heal quicker after the painful discard. Thank you so much Anoushka.
thank u for this it was helpfull for me I had always turn the table on her because of that she escaped from me ....and now she is putting a story and put a songs that we used to listen to them togather.....just for get my attention and break 2 months no contact .....thank u miss this was encouregment to me to keep doing this ignorance and self-controlled
Very quickly…. My kids reported back how this guy mom had us meet for a couple hours, won’t leave and now is sleeping on her couch. Fast forward a month and he’s gone like the wind and she wants to reconcile with me - uhhhhh no. 🤡
Took me 10 long years to realise it was too toxic and never gonna change. I doubt this new supply is gonna be that savvy so definitely wayyyyy more than 10 years; I even think they’ll be together forever! Because knowing what I know about her history, my narcissist ex is even an upgrade for her haha 😅 Wishing them the best. Not for me, thanks. Not today, Satan! 😂
One of mine negotiated what love is: 1. being there for me, 2. Not forcing me to have to change anything. => the narcissist using you for everything and then crush you later
I cannot be 100% sure but I believe I was with for two years a covert female narcissist. I got treated very very good for the first 5 to 6 months. Then things started to happen. She was always right, never wrong, when I would tell her I loved her, she would only say "I know that". Never tell me she loved me. Belittled me many times. I was always on the bottom of her list to be with. Always in the events helping out, doing may charity functions, being with her friends, but I was on the last of the list. There were times I would feel drained when I got back home. Told me how to dress and there were times I didn't really know who I was anymore.I broke up with her three months ago, and I heard she has been seeing somebody else since last month. She’s only 5 foot one, but she has an ego of 10 feet. She is now with a new supply, and they go places a lot and he spends time at her place a lot. "She is not posting anything on social media. Not letting anyone know". I have driven by her house and always see his car there. I am having a hard time getting over her even though I broke it off. I guess it’s because she has somebody, and she’s happy with, and I am still without a partner. BTW: she is 70 and so am I. Just having a hard time gripping this.
When ex narc discarded me he told me he wanted a woman who is submissive and compliant. I told him we that isn't me, I have my own mind so good luck with that 😆what a loser.
The Narc misses and regrets losing that ' mother figure' ..... someone who has the constancy for the running of the home, while they act like they're ' SINGLE'
Thank you. Great video. I wonder if you have ever been diagnosed as a narcissist yourself. You seem to really know key details that only a narcissist could know.
She is an alcoholic and a narcissist, i love and care for her and finding it hard not to miss her, she told me to stop texting as much then heard nothing then found she quickly went with someone else, and is all over Facebook, so my friends can see, and get reminded of her and new supply from my friends Deeply hurt because i wish it was me
The relationship you thought you had wasn't real. You were the only one in it. You will find someone else capable of loving you back...but first you will need to put the work into grieving, healing, and growing. Cut the toxic ex out completely...including keeping tabs on her.
Spot on Anoushka !!! For 1 their phone has all their secret about all or how many other secondary supply they have .......that's why they avoid for you to look at their phones......anyone and my children can play or can have my phone anytime. I have no secrets. Sad...... heartbreaking my Narc wife alienated me from my children .......I just pray to God to look over my kids and worry they would grow up to be just like her......😢 Another Narc
No, problem will arrise with stability for children. As each new child arrives, their behaviour will reflect the toxicity more and more with each child.
My narc ex did 7yrs with her ex, 3yrs with me then 5yrs with the last absolute simp. I was shorter cuz I kept calling her out. I guess they just accepted her shyt and she couldn’t really find any better a supply at the time.
I think we try to process what the hell just happened when they betray to the level they do. My husband of 12 years discarded me for a chic that's been divorced twice already at age 40. Her home has been raided for meth in the past. I do believe she may be a Narcissist as well with major daddy issues. That was a real dumb ass move on his end but he's made his bed
I know one thing through my experience when I figured out that it was draining everything I done and was never happy I was planning on leaving her I got set up then I was stuck for years for my girls then I had to watch my back constantly from flying monkeys triangulation slandering all that I escaped then the divorce took another 2 years and it was a nightmare through the fog you dont see everything then when your out of it you dont know who you are anymore and see that with there new supply its a revolving door they have no idea what's to come let them figure it out im happy to make it out but it takes alot of work with yourself to build back up again
The video caught my eye well number 1 it popped up and 2 you always have your hand over your face. Face is pretty than looking at your hand 😅 God bless 💚🙏
Thank you. I may be a form of Narcissistic supply, I can't prove it. He's my next door neighbor, he has a new GF and I still love him. Oh, by the way, I'm 75 years of age.
3 to 4 months ...I just witnessed it..Whilst mine didnt post new supply ,she hss niw posted morecpassuve aggresive quotes about never dating again and being in a place but not giving a s--t etc etc and more uoset drama 😂
She since unblocked me in Tik Tok amd Facebook for about a week I looked at her profile , still says dingle but I ignored her she thrm blocked me again ??
2 months Dealing with narcissistic man 😂😂😂he chose new supply 🎭I telling him this F*CK 0ff n St*pd..in his life never insult by someone only me can say that 😂😂😂I'm Virgo ♍🤟🤞
I think my exs new supply is 100% like his mother and his mother is not someone he's to fond of for many reasons. They look the same, same lack of intelligence, both can't drive, same height, same body typeand same personality. I think it's funny as heck. Lfmao
One thing i don’t get about them coming back …if they have dozens of supply throughout their lifetime they will fo back to all of them???? So the new supply is also put aside until they are hoovered back?
that’s it the guy that she’s with now she’s known for years from the bar. She drops his name in a few times over the years because we was not getting on for the last couple years and I wanted to end it. I think she made sure she had somewhere to go to get her new supply and she used to say things like yeah he’s a big softy, but he’s not my type because he’s full of himself, but he always gets hurt. He’s too soft so she’ll just be bombing him because that’s how our relationship started. I just wish I knew what I know now. It would’ve never got this far. I would’ve ended it before we had a kid. I changed my kid for the world, but I’m very worried about him too.
My ex messaged me how happy she is with her new man after dumping me. What confuses me she then continues to talk about i need to remove her from my life i reply but your the one messaging me so that doesnt make any sense. Im polite say im glad you found happiness and wish you all rhe best. Then starts messaging me saying i destroyed the relationship and i should of changed. I find it funny that she makes herself look crazy. Is this narcissistic behaviour and is this normal they do this while in a new relationship
In our culture and soicology i hered something that means suspection or something about doubt ...thats about someone who is emotionaly doubtfull or obssed with his/her spouse maners...how you interpret it ?!!! I saw some couplos fighting argument even beating and devorce or end up relationship....my question is: someone who is doubtfull to his/her partner is realy sick or natural...?!!! Because we have a deases in our sycolocy entiteled by doutfulness...thst means fear of bitreness...about some one who is obssesed with...i want to know...is it realy abnormal sens or somone who is as partner is the main problem...!!!?
and what if the new supply narcist or manipulator ? and the woman did wrong test of the new supply? it can be probably my case .... my wife tested the new man 1 year during our marriage - "tested" it is her exact wording ... but now I heard he had many women and has couple of children.... maybe he is better manipulator ...?
Well she’s younger than me … by about 35 years! No way I could compete! They’re as bd as each other so she’s welcome to him. I don’t wish him ill, but I do want him to pay for all the misery he’s caused!
I have a question , my ex narc left me 1,5 month ago , she reached out after a month of no contact and I told her I was feeling good again slowly. This triggered her ego and now she is kinda trying to showing thru socials that she is jumping from man to man . Can it be that she enjoy many new supply to avoid the pain of reflecting her own actions and not take accountability? Cause honestly, even if single ( also if she not cause she moved back with her ex husband) that would make her look like a prostitute …. I mean she is acting like she is the best woman on earth and than behaving so ?
Their expiration date is usually 3-6 months, 9 tops
what happens if he marries within 6 months?
@@ukgurl1000then the new supply will have a much harder time getting out. Marriage doesn’t mean happiness. My ex wanted to get married after three months thank God my divorce isn’t finalized and I couldn’t.
That's true I have to keep reminding myself its a facade and I have seen his mask slip. No one can be that cruel and live a peaceful happy life with another person. He didn't heal or take time off in between... he went straight to securing a new supply because he couldn't deal with living on his own. @@marilynmonheaux
I was the drama and stress... For calling him out on the things he was doing and hiding...
Let me guess, he also called you "crazy" right
I was too... And now he's forever mad at me for not being a mindless doormat... Ohh well..... 😅😂
The more coindependence the new supply has, the longer the relationship is. Survivors, don't envy the longevity of the new relationship. It's no point to join in a competition called "who has less boundaries" or "who disrespect themselves more." Keep going. Live our damn good lives.
Easier said than done.
Great point
That's why I'm not jealous or insecure because he don't respect women like his cousin Said none of them special ❤❤❤❤
This right here ❤
@@antonettemartin3351they can’t respect any women. I don’t know one women he respects at all not even his daughters.
Once the narc has persuaded you to burn your boats and become dependent on him/her, that is when the devaluation will start. Six to nine months in my experience. The devaluation will go on for years until you finally reach the end of your tether. It will swallow you up, taking your precious years until you find the courage to quit. I should have quit after 9 months, I stayed for 29 years...hoping it would get better...it never did. Go as soon as the doubt creeps in. Run for your life!
New supply is your saver 🎉
I don't compete, ever... So the whole new supply thing didn't make me jealous or made me wanna fight for him, I just said "wish you both the best, enjoy each other"... And went no contact... That clearly was not the plan, he's hoovering and putting her in my face like crazy, but I don't care anymore... Ooopss..... 😅😂
Good for you! Be strong and know your worth 💯 in the end you’ll laugh at what you put up with and be so thankful for their new supply for taking them away for long enough so you can gain strength and realization. God bless.
Narcisistic just want a substitute MOTHER.
The four s:
Supply
Sex
Services
Safety
Haha yep!!!
Ultimately this is why they always disgard subconsciously , as they had no power over their care giver..
It's not about how patient and compassionate the new supply towards the narcissist, it's about how they are willing to give up themselves and have blurry boundaries.
Sometimes, setting clear boundaries and actually enforcing them could require the rights support
They go for the nicest most vulnerable supply. Poor souls. The dynamic is insane...evil selfish person vs good unassuming person.
Until she says no.
Just be happy with the new supply😉It’s your time to let go and find peace so you can find a real happy relaxing life 🎉
Amen
you set a boundary, they try to adjust, but they dont want to adjust. so they are working for a new supply on the side. great detail right there
Unfortunately for this poor new supply ,this relationship will not last forever! The narcissist will get tired of playing his false self and And resort to his true self, which is narcissistic behavior and actions!
The new supply knew the ex was married for a decade, and still cheated, smeared, and celebrated. They're nothing like me
They picked someone with less psychological savy someone closer to them willing to cheat no matter the consequence.
Exactly!! Karma by itch
Head held high Lovely 🙋
Same situation for me. I was discarded brutally 2 months ago ( not knowing wtf was happening until I discovered my husband is a covert) now I know. He's shacked up with the secretary from his work, she knew he was married to me for 12 years. She's just as vile. I'm still very much so in the raw stages. I'm trying to unlove a man that's NOT REAL.
@@ladyvirgo013I was in the same situation 2.5 yrs ago .
Don't worry you will get over this by the time .
When I was in your place I used to think that I will never be normal n happy again but this is not true . Today I am very happy n successful n best version of myself.
On the other hand ,the women my ex husband married to after me is miserable n in a bad mental health as he left her as well .he is now living with some low grade women without marriage.
When I saw the new supply I laughed, never considered comparison. Good bye
My ex GF was a full on narcissist, and I rejected her last Hoover, it's been four months of no contact now, but I can't seem to stop missing her, I really hope I'm not stuck feeling like this forever
You won't, it just takes time and that's okay
It takes time just be patient you can do it. I am 16 months out now and I rarely think of the narcissist now and never thought I would be in this happy place.
It has been a year for me. The pain is real.
You will get out someday. Just be patient with yourself and manage to continue to live your life well.
Yes. Know exactly how you feel. It's been a year for me and no contact from my ex. The most painful time in my life. But it gets better over time.
It can take a few months or a few decades, there really is no set time limit before the discard.
Covert narcs last a lot longer as they are very gradual with the devalue and it also depends on how easy going the supply is.
However, the discard will always come sooner or later.
Exactly, it’s the illusion on both ends. The new supply believes it’s about love and compassion and commitment, but it’s about utility (needs met). The discarded thinks that this person will come back and love me with compassion and commitment. They can’t….. they can’t for them and they can’t for you, they can’t for anyone. Try this, try to remember one serious conversation you ever had with your narc. I bet you can’t. Do you need any other proof 🤷♂️.
Not one in 25 yrs
@@ArchAngel435 Thats actually so scary when you think about it
I just feel sorry for the new supply. She thinks she has a winner. I hope she soon will see through his false facade and break free.
Ohhhh she will
She is his former divorce client...Got her a huge alimony from a cheating husband 😂
I do believe you are correct. Once you start saying no to the narcissist and setting boundaries watch how fast they devalue and smear you and try to hop over to some other victim.
That's so true. She asked me for 1400.00. I told her no, and now she's shacking up with her new Supply. I'm free from that demon.🎉 🎉
That would depend on how long it takes for the new supply to catch on to their game
1 month or less! They're never happy. They can only idealize for so long and it takes a lot of energy from the narcissist. A few weeks maybe. Will the new supply just give and deny their own needs. Only compare yourself to yourself!
This is what I think too. Maybe a little longer if they're getting something out of them (job, place to live, social life etc). I've known my ex narc for 4 years, we were together on and off for 2 of those, but in those 4 years I've seen him go through 6 supplies before and after me. In FOUR years. It never lasts long.
@@coley8880 your right!
We should talk lol
@@coley8880 exactly she’s using this guy for a place to live which I’m paying for she’s got my son it’s next to her work should be getting sex so yeah just doesn’t feel nice for me after 10 years. I’m not gonna say I was perfect.
Absolutely. The toxic ex said I'm too much for him, and I told him to go get less.
It doesn't matter if it lasts or not. After a while, if you don't walk away, it becomes an unhealthy, unrewarding, topsy turvy and upsetting relationship. Even if you do walk away it can take a long time to heal. Just thankful to and sorry for the new squeeze of any narcissist, thankful that someone was as naive as I once was and "took one for the team" so I could walk away to healing, happiness and freedom. Sorry because she has no idea of the slow and insidious abuse, lies and triangulation (not just with potential romantic partners) she is going to face before the grand abusive finale at the end.
Right it doesn’t matter how long they last he will abuse and neglect her on a regular basis after a year or two.
Wow, thank you for sharing. I'm really taking it as a blessing that the new supply "took one for the team. "...admit, it took a long time for me to see it. Now, I'm healing miraculously, focusing on my kids and living my best life. I do feel bad for the new supply. They have no idea
My ex gf was also a narcissist. My intuition told me something was wrong until a youtube popped up on narcissist. I looked it up and she fit the discription. I observed and did a variety of test. She failed miserably. I ghosted her. Its been 6 months. Couldnt be more happier. Im at peace.
Lucky man
I ended it very quickly with a narcist, I told her to get lost . Called her out and she went on for new victim
The average to discard is 18 months
Yes.
Agreed!
Just wish them luck and found peace and your value back😊
18 months
Obviously he’s already bored with her because my ex which I left after 4.5 months into the relationship has been using her to hover and try to get some reaction out of me. He started to take her to my local hangout place on Fridays before I met him and that we continued to go to. Yet honestly idc because I knew he had issues but after he married 6 months later I for real real knew this Kat really serious issues. I knew I made the right choice. It also helped that his family told me God is sure looking after me because I dodged a bullet. I won!
exactly compliance my ex narc wanted me to comply with an open marriage I said that's called a divorce I said why would I sleep with other men and stay married to you like seriously what would I need you for 😂omg was he angry he didn't think I was gonna file I did it took a year to locate him it was finalized this year Jan 2023 its been 2 years no contact because I did a no show court divorce and no contest so much happier now 😊thanx anoushka
Another reason why we ask ourselves these questions after the relationship with the narcissist is over is because he has presented us with a false future made of a unique and unrepeatable love and obviously, this leads us to wonder how it was possible that such a great love ended in the blink of an eye without a reason and without a comparison, an explanation. We therefore try to have confirmation of his sick behavior pattern also through the narcissist's new relationship.
you cant really explain it that well mental healness just is so spot on and your explanations arent coming from a real narsist rather your own search which isnt the same and you speak confusing not direct
I lived with my narc girlfriend for 4 months and was treated awful! I let her talk me into moving in and when I said I wouldn’t sign another lease it was hell! I didn’t know any of this. She hovered me and after a month found a former client alcoholic and he said she could move in with him after she loved bombed him. It’s all about not paying rent. Sad!
Thank you for validating my thoughts that pulling back my energy to myself would rather serve me well.
Took me far too long to realise….. went no contact and all I’ve had in return is……”what did I do?”……
I love that, "we still love them, but we're never going to say that". 😂
Thank you for having compassion for the new supply. Many people tear them down when most likely theyre just victims too.
It’s too much work adjusting to the one that knows and it’s too much work adjusting to the new one. 😀
Thank You for helping US to Understand this!
I know, I know, I know; but still it hurts so much! Thanks for explaining.
Day 1 of no contact. Blocked all socials, phone numbers. We have 2 kids. 1 mediator so I do not have to conversate with them, and the mediator knows not to say their name. Wish me luck. This is gonna hurt.
You doing good these people are evil 😈
Anoushka...thank you for continuing to make these video's while you are traveling. You are such an inspiration and god send for helping all of us make sense of all the insanity regarding these relationships. God Bless You❤
I was discarded in the worst way possible. I was beaten up very badly while I miscarried. He left me after that. It's been 11 months. He has already moved on and his having a child with someone else. While I'm still struggling to heal and move on. We Are currently going to court , because during assaulting me he broke my jaw. It all sucks
You're well shot of that psychopath. ❤
I'm glad the baby gone to heaven GOD KNEW you will be stuck with him for life like I am..I don't regret the baby I love him, but I miscarried and got pregnant two weeks later n didn't run with my baby
He got into a near-fatal accident that was his fault and sent his girlfriend to intensive care. Then he broke up with her. Of course he did.
Thanks ma'am good reading i claim it strongly 🙏🌹
The bottom line is you have to. Love your self more than anything silly
Thank you Anoushka
This is really helping me and hopefully your followers to understand the complex situation and help us all heal quicker after the painful discard. Thank you so much Anoushka.
Thank you for your videos helping a lot on my healing journey
Thank you Anoushka for openning my eyes 🙏🏼
Jeg ved det godt Anoushka hvad du taler om, ha en god dag 😊
Anoushka, I just found your channel. Thanks for snapping me out of it! You seem like a lovely person.
I learn so much from your videos, thank you!
Thank you my Angel😘
thank u for this it was helpfull for me I had always turn the table on her because of that she escaped from me ....and now she is putting a story and put a songs that we used to listen to them togather.....just for get my attention and break 2 months no contact .....thank u miss this was encouregment to me to keep doing this ignorance and self-controlled
Very quickly…. My kids reported back how this guy mom had us meet for a couple hours, won’t leave and now is sleeping on her couch. Fast forward a month and he’s gone like the wind and she wants to reconcile with me - uhhhhh no. 🤡
Took me 10 long years to realise it was too toxic and never gonna change. I doubt this new supply is gonna be that savvy so definitely wayyyyy more than 10 years; I even think they’ll be together forever! Because knowing what I know about her history, my narcissist ex is even an upgrade for her haha 😅 Wishing them the best. Not for me, thanks. Not today, Satan! 😂
One of mine negotiated what love is: 1. being there for me, 2. Not forcing me to have to change anything. => the narcissist using you for everything and then crush you later
Well I think they going’s on for 1,5 year now …. And the first half year of that he was still dealing with me …😮
She don’t want a partner , she wants a slave .. I will not walk on my knees , I’m out ,, Next man !!
I cannot be 100% sure but I believe I was with for two years a covert female narcissist. I got treated very very good for the first 5 to 6 months. Then things started to happen. She was always right, never wrong, when I would tell her I loved her, she would only say "I know that". Never tell me she loved me. Belittled me many times. I was always on the bottom of her list to be with. Always in the events helping out, doing may charity functions, being with her friends, but I was on the last of the list. There were times I would feel drained when I got back home. Told me how to dress and there were times I didn't really know who I was anymore.I broke up with her three months ago, and I heard she has been seeing somebody else since last month. She’s only 5 foot one, but she has an ego of 10 feet. She is now with a new supply, and they go places a lot and he spends time at her place a lot. "She is not posting anything on social media. Not letting anyone know". I have driven by her house and always see his car there. I am having a hard time getting over her even though I broke it off. I guess it’s because she has somebody, and she’s happy with, and I am still without a partner. BTW: she is 70 and so am I. Just having a hard time gripping this.
She is not happy, she will start up with the new guy shortly. She is figuring him out now
Believe me, she did you a favor of hooking up with the new victim. She's not worth your love.
My ex narc had ex's and others on yap when I was with her..crazy
My ex had no relationship last past the two year mark. He’s been dating around for 35+ years.
That seems to be my ex’s pattern as well. A 3-6month love bombing and a discard around 12-18 months.
My soon to be ex narc put her husband in a convalescent home and is out dating my ex narc. Hopefully they are both narcs and live happily ever after..
When ex narc discarded me he told me he wanted a woman who is submissive and compliant. I told him we that isn't me, I have my own mind so good luck with that 😆what a loser.
Tap that is
How long ? The same amount of time they got bored of you.
I was the new supply at one point. Took a few years until the mask came off. Once i started questioning things everything changed….
This will be intresting...yh my narc she said i was ugly disgusting..then still wanted to be intimate with me
Does the narc ever miss his wife and family that he so arrogantly left without not an emotion in his soul or have regrets they divorce?
The Narc misses and regrets losing that ' mother figure' ..... someone who has the constancy for the running of the home, while they act like they're ' SINGLE'
Very true.
They miss what you provided them with. Unfortunately they consider your supply replaceable.
No
No....
Thank you. Great video. I wonder if you have ever been diagnosed as a narcissist yourself. You seem to really know key details that only a narcissist could know.
Less than two months if *I* was any indication.
She is an alcoholic and a narcissist, i love and care for her and finding it hard not to miss her, she told me to stop texting as much then heard nothing then found she quickly went with someone else, and is all over Facebook, so my friends can see, and get reminded of her and new supply from my friends
Deeply hurt because i wish it was me
The relationship you thought you had wasn't real. You were the only one in it.
You will find someone else capable of loving you back...but first you will need to put the work into grieving, healing, and growing.
Cut the toxic ex out completely...including keeping tabs on her.
Spot on.
Excellent❤
Depends on how much money the guy has.
Spot on Anoushka !!! For 1 their phone has all their secret about all or how many other secondary supply they have .......that's why they avoid for you to look at their phones......anyone and my children can play or can have my phone anytime. I have no secrets. Sad...... heartbreaking my Narc wife alienated me from my children .......I just pray to God to look over my kids and worry they would grow up to be just like her......😢 Another Narc
What if the narcissist new supply is a narcissist?? Is that a perfect relationship?
There is a video about it … nope, lots of toxicity and fights. But often lasts many years, since they are both feeding with each others drama
@@mememe1111-n9gjust like all of them they break up eventually just this time the Narc actually gets abused and neglected.
No, problem will arrise with stability for children. As each new child arrives, their behaviour will reflect the toxicity more and more with each child.
Couldn’t care less! He ain’t getting no more Supply over here., He had it good and couldn’t handle it. Too bad for him. Better for me!
My narc ex did 7yrs with her ex, 3yrs with me then 5yrs with the last absolute simp. I was shorter cuz I kept calling her out. I guess they just accepted her shyt and she couldn’t really find any better a supply at the time.
I think we try to process what the hell just happened when they betray to the level they do. My husband of 12 years discarded me for a chic that's been divorced twice already at age 40. Her home has been raided for meth in the past. I do believe she may be a Narcissist as well with major daddy issues. That was a real dumb ass move on his end but he's made his bed
When they go that low I strongly believe that’s what they feel they truthfully deserve
@@shaybae111 I believe that as well
I know one thing through my experience when I figured out that it was draining everything I done and was never happy I was planning on leaving her I got set up then I was stuck for years for my girls then I had to watch my back constantly from flying monkeys triangulation slandering all that I escaped then the divorce took another 2 years and it was a nightmare through the fog you dont see everything then when your out of it you dont know who you are anymore and see that with there new supply its a revolving door they have no idea what's to come let them figure it out im happy to make it out but it takes alot of work with yourself to build back up again
The video caught my eye well number 1 it popped up and 2 you always have your hand over your face.
Face is pretty than looking at your hand 😅
God bless 💚🙏
Thank you. I may be a form of Narcissistic supply, I can't prove it. He's my next door neighbor, he has a new GF and I still love him. Oh, by the way, I'm 75 years of age.
You where to perfect so there needed a new “love”😜
What does that mean?
3 to 4 months ...I just witnessed it..Whilst mine didnt post new supply ,she hss niw posted morecpassuve aggresive quotes about never dating again and being in a place but not giving a s--t etc etc and more uoset drama 😂
She since unblocked me in Tik Tok amd Facebook for about a week I looked at her profile , still says dingle but I ignored her she thrm blocked me again ??
3 times in 90 days and I was outta there.i use to give people 3 chances. Now, you only get one.
3-6 mnths
2 months Dealing with narcissistic man 😂😂😂he chose new supply 🎭I telling him this F*CK 0ff n St*pd..in his life never insult by someone only me can say that 😂😂😂I'm Virgo ♍🤟🤞
I think my exs new supply is 100% like his mother and his mother is not someone he's to fond of for many reasons. They look the same, same lack of intelligence, both can't drive, same height, same body typeand same personality. I think it's funny as heck. Lfmao
OMG! Same here!! 😂
Oh yeah, same too
One thing i don’t get about them coming back …if they have dozens of supply throughout their lifetime they will fo back to all of them???? So the new supply is also put aside until they are hoovered back?
Is it a good idea to reach out to old supply / ex girlfriend? Probably back fire.
Backfired for me!
that’s it the guy that she’s with now she’s known for years from the bar. She drops his name in a few times over the years because we was not getting on for the last couple years and I wanted to end it. I think she made sure she had somewhere to go to get her new supply and she used to say things like yeah he’s a big softy, but he’s not my type because he’s full of himself, but he always gets hurt. He’s too soft so she’ll just be bombing him because that’s how our relationship started. I just wish I knew what I know now. It would’ve never got this far. I would’ve ended it before we had a kid. I changed my kid for the world, but I’m very worried about him too.
I want to do the journaling is it free?
My ex messaged me how happy she is with her new man after dumping me. What confuses me she then continues to talk about i need to remove her from my life i reply but your the one messaging me so that doesnt make any sense. Im polite say im glad you found happiness and wish you all rhe best. Then starts messaging me saying i destroyed the relationship and i should of changed. I find it funny that she makes herself look crazy. Is this narcissistic behaviour and is this normal they do this while in a new relationship
In our culture and soicology i hered something that means suspection or something about doubt ...thats about someone who is emotionaly doubtfull or obssed with his/her spouse maners...how you interpret it ?!!! I saw some couplos fighting argument even beating and devorce or end up relationship....my question is: someone who is doubtfull to his/her partner is realy sick or natural...?!!! Because we have a deases in our sycolocy entiteled by doutfulness...thst means fear of bitreness...about some one who is obssesed with...i want to know...is it realy abnormal sens or somone who is as partner is the main problem...!!!?
and what if the new supply narcist or manipulator ? and the woman did wrong test of the new supply? it can be probably my case .... my wife tested the new man 1 year during our marriage - "tested" it is her exact wording ... but now I heard he had many women and has couple of children.... maybe he is better manipulator ...?
Well she’s younger than me … by about 35 years! No way I could compete! They’re as bd as each other so she’s welcome to him. I don’t wish him ill, but I do want him to pay for all the misery he’s caused!
Primary and secondary supply? and how many secondary supply does he have?
A lot !
I have a question , my ex narc left me 1,5 month ago , she reached out after a month of no contact and I told her I was feeling good again slowly. This triggered her ego and now she is kinda trying to showing thru socials that she is jumping from man to man .
Can it be that she enjoy many new supply to avoid the pain of reflecting her own actions and not take accountability?
Cause honestly, even if single ( also if she not cause she moved back with her ex husband) that would make her look like a prostitute …. I mean she is acting like she is the best woman on earth and than behaving so ?
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