ugh agree so strongly on "Why do we need to eat?" - eating is such a struggle... I'm coming to realize just how much ADHD affects my ability to feed myself, too. Not just remembering to feed myself, either. Executive functioning on figuring out what to eat, making sure you have the correct groceries, making sure the kitchen is clean enough to cook, not being overwhelmed by dirty dishes/kitchen, not being overwhelmed by the process of cooking... I also have to deal with chronic fatigue on top of that.
I don t go to sleep until i finish all the things i ve started or else i would dream it at night and i would wake up continuously thinking i could ve finished at least one of them and then i would think of the fact that i am always aware that this happens if i don t do it so is my conscious talking to me all the time. You explained it veeery well .
I learned a long time ago, before I was diagnosed, to stay in the front of the classroom. I sat close to the teacher when I could instead of being in the back where there were more distractions. It got me through nursing school.
You’re right on with some of the symptoms of adhd. I wasn’t diagnosed until my late 50’s early 60’s. I was having a counselor meeting to which I had invited my dad. In our conversations, the back and forth, my counselor turned to me and asked if I’d ever been diagnosed with adhd. No I hadn’t though when I look back on it the signs were there all my life. She gave me a test and that indicated I was positive for adhd. So I started on meds since I was already in therapy. I took them for three years before I felt I had a better handle on how to deal with it. I’ve been medication free for two years. I still have to deal with it on occasion, when it feels hard, when I struggle. I just sit back and watch tv until my anxiety lightens up. Tv has always been a relaxant for me. Then I get up and tackle what triggered me to spiral down. You will find what works for you. And it sounds like post it notes and a notebook works for you.
I’m 25 and got diagnosed this year as well. And the NOISE!!! The first time I took medication for my adhd I told my partner my head felt quiet for once. I never knew that it wasn’t normal, I thought I just couldn’t handle normal life or I just couldn’t function like a normal adult.
Thank you so much for posting as much as you do with these longer videos! I struggle with a lot of mental health issues that have been getting worse lately and your videos are so easy to relate to and informative. I’m so glad I found your channel!
I’m so sorry to hear about your mental health right now- I know it all too well 😣 thank you for being here!! I’m so happy that these videos bring you some kind of solace. 🤍 thinking of you!!
Your videos are the highlights of my day! I really admire how you aren’t afraid to show imperfections especially with plant care. I’m a new plant mom myself and I really look up to you and your mindset, especially after the Hoyas! Thank you for being a friend through the screen!
Oh ❤, you have been my favorite indoor plant person since I became obsessed with indoor plants, I’m a huge crazy outdoor plant guy. I’ve been diagnosed adhd for over 20 years and super hyper functioning not on meds for most of that time. I’d bet my life savings I’m also OCD and presérvate on things being “perfect”. Lately since covid and moving to another state for my husband’s job life has been so difficult to say the least, meds have really helped me thought I don’t think they are a be all solve all answer. So don’t be afraid to try if you think you might need a little help here or there. I totally use many of these skills you use to live in a world of “hyper controlled chaos” (in my mind) too. I’m very proud of you sharing this private part of your life, I feel sharing is such a big part of helping ourselves and others. Most people would never understand the stress and struggles we put on ourselves as people who are successful and are able to use coping skills that work for us. You’re amazing I really liked you before and now❤️❤️❤️❤️! Don’t be so hard on yourself, your old videos when you were afraid to show your face made me so sad…… you’re so pretty glad you have made so much growth there. I’m new to indoor plants but have always struggled with going way way way over board, where my hobby becomes a stress creating job. How do you balance that and not do to much? I’m sure it’s hard for you with it also an income source? I feel you have the same over achiever side I have too. What random advice do you have for a new indoor plant guy? So so Jealous of all your plants and indoor plant skills! ❤ ADHD OCD (former pug/ now Frenchie) Dad
Oh I saw so many of my own habits described in your video! The starting a task, getting distracted and starting another task ad nauseam so that at the end of the day I’m left with a bunch of half done projects and can’t get to bed until they are all finished (e.g., 04:00 AM.) Urghhh! I love the “box of laziness” idea. I catch myself putting crap all over my plant room surfaces and them having no room to do anything. I believe this “box” idea will help me out here. Thank you Charmain, not only for great advice about plants, but great sharing coping ideas with life! 😊
I appreciate your videos so much! Also a fellow plant enthusiast with adhd. For me I think having a grow tent has helped a lot because not only do the plants take care of themselves when I’m having a ~not energetic/motivated~ period but also when I have to prioritize work or school it’s out of sight and out of mind and won’t be a big distraction. I still have plants living outside of the grow tent but they are more common plants and plants that can survive when I neglect them. Also I think with ADHD we become more prone to collecting plants because of that obsessive nature we have and I was hooked for a while. I wanted to buy every plant I saw and needed it now! Reminding myself that plants will be there later on AND price d fluctuate helped me stop impulsively buying. As a general ADHD thing I discovered brown noises and it helps me concentrate and I even listen to it on the bus.
I dont have ADHD but this was really interesting to listen to and made me more aware how hard it can be when you have ADHD. And I think the tips can help loads of people if you struggle with focussing aswell❤️ Your content is always special in a way and ypu can always learn🥰 thank you!
I absolutely LOVE having to do lists! Even if I do something that was not on my list, I will add it just to cross it off! It helps build up some momentum for me 🥰 Thanks for sharing Charmaine 💕 you’re so unbelievably strong and I love and admire how solution oriented you are!
I was diagnosed with adhd at 31, I’m currently 35 but knew since I was a teen. I was so reluctant about meds but it has seriously helped a lot. Helps me focus on the takes I want to get done without getting distracted as easy. Plants are something healthy to hyperfocus on which has been awesome. I feel like the setbacks are pretty devastating though. Like finding spider mites sometimes makes me feel like giving up haha.
I’ve heard some wonderful things about how ADHD medicine has changed peoples lives. Right now it’s not for me, but I’m always staying open minded and doing what I think is best for myself, even it does mean having an Rx. I feel you on the setbacks though! Sometimes it’s hard to stay positive when you’re like physically and mentally drained. Feeling like you’re doing everything right and then suddenly a spider mite colony is like HEEEeEy long time no see!! 😀
Girl!!! You are my spirit animal.... everyone hassles me for my million and one note books and post it notes! Im glad its not just me.... im newly diagnosed at 37 this and it all makes sense....i understand everything you are talking about... including pen and paper over an app haha
Wow. I was diagnosed at 41. Knowing put so much into perspective. I can relate so much. I took some of your tips and I’m already a better plant parent. Thank you so much for this video!! ❤
Only 30 minutes in and I'm so into these topics!! Over years of therapy and self discovery I've learned that we all have attention deficit, hyperactivity, obsessive compulsions, depression, anxiety, manic states, etc.... That's just how our brains work and how our bodies choose to react to situations based off of acute traumas and genetic disposition. BUT when it becomes something that affects your quality of life and your ability to function, then it is a disorder and needs to be addressed. Even knowing it's a disorder, you can still manage it on your own with family and friends support and therapy. I truly believe that medication should be the last resort because of how much it alters your neurological state, especially if you take it in your teens/early 20's. Of course if you have a chemical imbalance in terms of major depression, then an antidepressant is crucial. But I'm finding now a days so many younger people flocking to medications because of the trend rather than for a legitimate use, not understanding how much it will mess with their personalities, behaviors, and perspectives. In turn, I've actually found the plant hobby to be incredibly helpful for my own attention deficit because it forces me to put all of that energy and focus on one thing. I care for around 70 indoor houseplants and water once on a weekend day and once on a weekday. In between I allow myself to kind of check on certain plants, but I don't let myself go too crazy all at once. I try to space things out at much as I can to control the obsessiveness and strengthen whatever self discipline I have left. I've also found that going into to those hyperactive/hyperfocused states leaves me depressed in the end because of so much stimulation at one time. So to help space things out I'll write lists with a dry erase marker on the side of my ikea cabinet, from pest updates to how certain plants have reacted to different light/water, brain dumps, chores to do today/weekly/monthly. I also have lists on my phone, laptop, and in a notebook... It definitely helps keep everything in order, even if it's only an "order" that my brain comprehends!
I can see where you’re coming from but I find the issue comes in with where people draw the line when it comes to “affecting your life”. It’s different for everyone and while the tides are changing, there are still so many frustrating stereotypes and the demonization of medications that prevents people from taking them out of fear
I just ran across your channel and what caught my eye is the fact you are open about your mental health. I suffer myself with Bipolar disorder/ OCD and anxiety really bad. I myself was medicated for a while then I stopped because of how it made me feel. I am a new plant parent and my need to stay organized kind of make it more difficult because I know some plants are finicky and I have to try and remember moving them constantly can make them unhappy. I suffer from the same OCD as you..I lose lots of sleep if it's not in order. I'm up now at 3a.m. because I forgot to put the mop up once it dried out..I have dreams about whether I finished a task or not...I love the video and the plants are my therapy...thank you
Great video! I have ADHD unfortunately and do not know how I would get by managing my horde of plants without the Planta app. It really does a good job of reminding me which plants are in need of watering or simply reminding me what plants I have in my collection. On top of that it is good for keeping plant names on record since I would never remember those as well. 😅
Thank you for making such beautiful, real content. I was diagnosed with ADHD and OCD at 26, and I will be 28 in Dec. plants became my most recent hyperfixation in January. I went from 3 plants to 75 in like 3 months. Then came the thrips. Then came the spider mites. I am desperately trying to hold onto my love for plants but the dopamine is fading. Videos like yours help, thank you. Anywho, I digress, I could write you a whole novel about how much the combination of ADHD and OCD is the actual worst, but you already know. Sure there are the ‘good’ things, but, ugh. Idk. I’m rambling now. But just wanted to thank you❤️
The OCD is so real..you describe my day to the T..I'm all over the place the same way, but it gets done..I'm doing a million things at the same time in about 20 minutes...this is my madness but I don't want to forget...
Algorythm for the win, Plants, ADHD, and BC, Canada. Watching my first "Unplantparenthood" and I'm already hooked. Only a person with ADHD gets all your plant tips. I too have watering vessels in every plant room and dilute fertilizer for every watering. Forgiveness has also been really freeing. I would like to try the no drainage and definitely need to downsize but that seems too overwhelming at this time. This is not medical advice, I know medication is highly personal, and what works for one may not work for another but I thought I would share my story as I wish I had known sooner about my situation. Anyway, I struggled with depression and anxiety and was treated for decades, but hindsight I never really felt optimal. A couple of years ago at age 46 I had a reading from an Astrologer, and when I asked him about my health he mentioned I had memory issues, me: ya, him: you know due to ADHD. At the time I was like "nah" ADHD is little boys bouncing off the walls and that was not me, but then a few months later an article by the CBC on Adult ADHD in women came through my newsfeed, and when I read it I was like holy crap this is me! I spoke to my Pshychiatrist and did some testing, and yep scored high for ADHD. Through many sessions we decided that my depression and anxiety stemmed from the ADHD and that if we treated the ADHD then the depresion and anxiety should resolve. We came up with a plan to move off the current meds and move onto stimulents and I can say that for the most part my anxiety and depression have been corrected with ADHD meds. Old habits die hard so I still deal with stuff, but with therapy, I'm finally able to see that light at the end of the tunnel. Sorry this is long, it was actually twice as long but I was getting away from my point and it was becoming depression, lol. If anyone is unsure if they have ADHD, or wants to know more about it I recommend reading through the CADDRA guidelines linked below, it talks about how to diagnose, how to differentiate between different disorders, ADHD often has overlapping symptoms with other disorders and the guidelines help to define overlapping characteristics with ADHD vs. distinct characteristics of other disorders like anxiety, depression, autism, borderline, etc., it talks about common medical conditions that may have overlapping symptoms with ADHD, like anemia, thyroid disfunction, and hypoglycemia, etc, and talks about both pharmaceutical and psychosocial treatment. Damn I did it again, I was about to finish and I kept going, lol. www.caddra.ca/wp-content/uploads/Canadian-ADHD-Practice-Guidelines-4.1-January-6-2021.pdf
I truly understand your struggle/battle with ADHD and depression. I also, deal with Lupus and migraines. ADHD the brain constantly jumping around starting something, jumping to something else not finishing each tasks than leads to depression because emotionally, we beat ourselves up soo hard on wanting to get stuff done, but it doesn’t. I found medication and people around me whom love me and understand my ADHD doing house chores with me helps me stay on tasks and my mind from jumping around. The only time my ADHD with medication rocks is at when when my mind is forced to stay on tasks to care for others are at both of my jobs, but house tasks is not a full necessity. I started using a planner and I only write down a few tasks on my free days and that’s all I focus on when I am done I check it off. ADHD is like a tv jumping from channel to channel than u start watching something than u jump to something else. I can’t be without my planner to keep me on tasks. You are NOT alone!!! I understand your struggles and I 💜 you!
I got diagnosed with ADHD (the first time, I got re-assessed in my midteens and again in my early twenties) at 4 years old. Cleaning I make hard boundary lines. I will clean one room, and anything that needs to leave that room gets put in a pile near the door. Otherwise, if I leave the office to take a coffee cup to the sink I'll see the dishes that need to be done and unload the dishes but I'll see dishes around the kitchen and I will start to collect them. But I will inevitably need to throw something away from one of the dishes and notice that the trash is full. So I'll take the trash bag out and go to put it by the garage door to go out and I'll see that the floors need to be vacuumed. So I'll go upstairs to the library to get the Roomba, but that's where my prop boxes are and I'll realize I haven't checked on them for a few days. For things I remember to do that don't have a physical reminder I can place near the door of the room, I will add it to a to-do list with Alexa, since we have an echo in multiple places around the house. Or if I have a pen and paper nearby, I'll write it down. But, yes, as far as my actual to-do list, paper and crossing off allll day every day. The dopamine hit from filling in the little circle after finishing a task is peak. I will break my tasks down to mini-tasks because I'm more likely to do a bigger task if I get to cross off like 5 times along the way than if I only get to cross off once at the end. Digital to-do lists do nothing for me, and Alexa only works because I can speak to it without stopping what I'm doing or going on my time suck phone. But I will transcribe the Alexa list to my paper to-do list later on and actually work the tasks from there. I love listening to others' non-medicine coping mechanisms. I personally found that no single thing helps quite like a medicine formula and dose that works for me. But I was in college before I started learning coping mechanisms and it improved so much. Like without medicine or coping mechanisms, I was at a 2. Medicine would get me to a 5 or 6. But coping mechanisms + medicine could get me to like 7 or 8. I've been on meds for ADHD for years, so when my doctor recommended I go on anxiety meds this year, my big thing was I'm not willing to stop my ADHD meds. But I know a lot of people the option for ADHD meds comes way later and they don't feel comfortable adding it to their regime. The great thing about coping mechanisms is there's no real risk. You don't have to worry about side effects or it mixing with your other meds in a weird way. And if you can't or haven't yet been diagnosed with ADHD, you can use coping mechanisms anyway. You don't need an rx.
Thank you SO much for sharing your story and your experience! Honestly if I wasn’t on my anti-depressants and my anxiety meds, I likely would probably opt for an Rx for my ADHD. But with my anxiety, even the thought of adding another medicine freaks me out. I know it’s all mental, but luckily my psychiatrist has been so helpful in validating my coping mechanisms and helping me stay afloat. But I’m staying open minded to everything as it comes- especially since things only seem to get a bit more complicated as I age. I do find some kind of odd solace knowing there are many of us out there that we can lean on for support.
I make so many plans for the day and things I need to do around the house, like cleaning or plant chores. But do I do them. Nope I have no motivation. Having bi polar depression sucks. Today I have to repot my fav crystallinum that’s literally way too too heavy. I got a new deep special clear pot for it and everything and I got a sole tech solution light, and have I hung it up yet?!?! NO!!! Ugh makes me feel like Shit I can’t wait to wake up and it’s all done. I needed this video thank you!!!! Thank you for always being so open and honest about mental health. I love you sooo much. And excuse me how could I forget to include my main man little Pudgey poo!! I love you Pudge!!
Been waiting for you to talk about your ADHD! Thank you for making this video. I got diagnosed with ADHD and autism this year and life makes a lot more sense 😂 and I love hearing how it [ADHD] affects other people and what they do to work around it. Your thought stream and how you end up doing a million things in 30 minutes is very much me, and I’ve found that bottom watering (two bowls and multiple plants at a time) helps me with the plants I still have in drainage, or quickly throwing everything in the shower. But tbh semi-hydro has saved my life since I only need to refill once (maybe twice for smaller plants) a week-Saturdays after work! Also, I personally have found apps on my phone helpful simply as reminders, but I’m also the type of person who avoids social media if I can, so the opposite of you 😂 Anyway, I really appreciate all that you’ve said in this video. Yes, we struggle with our neurodiversity at times, but I think our love of research and hyperfocusing on the things we love is a great benefit. Ok ramble over 💕
I don't have adhd(although I have struggled with anxiety in the past)but I feel the same way about physically crossing off my lists! So satisfying ☺️ I listen to relaxing music when I'm doing plant chores, lately it's been classical guitar artists
Personally, I'm 0 or 100 when it comes to plant care. It's all or nothing. So on my good days I do everything to the max. Then on bad days...it's all too overwhelming and I wait until another good day comes 😌 It definitely is the best hobby but on some days I think "what the fuck was I thinking " And I have 2 boys and 4 animals on top of that 😊 You're the best for all your videos
Ok I'm late to these (been binging your videos from earliest to latest!) I have the same sprayer and used to hate trying to actually fill a pot, until I realized you can unscrew that little spray tip and it will make a nice flow of water that will actually fill a pot quick without making a mess! Hope you see this and hope it helps. Thank for for talking about everything you do, I also have late diagnosed ADHD and everything you talk about I feel/do the same and it's so validating to know that we're not alone.
Just partway through this video. I also have ADHD and I know what it's like to get pushed and pulled by ADHD and sometimes you just can't help it even if you want to resist it. I agree STRONGLY that writing things down helps SO MUCH. I also agree that phones are just distractions. I prefer a paper journal for that too. I've only been doing it for about two years and I found it really helpful. I use a combination of paper journal and google calendar so i have reminders of upcoming appointments - especially doctors appointments that are made far in advance. I agree that from the outside the system might seem like too much work, but it's much less work than the chaos of not having the system haha
oh and yeah i use google keep for shopping lists which is shared with my partner. a lot of people use similar apps that sync with their partner so you can check things off the same list (except he never checks things off 🙄)
@@unplantparenthood hahaha yeah i've been missing for a while i know. My ADHD has been particularly bad this past month or so. I went off birth control and I feel like that was a mistake 😬hah I think I'm gonna go back on because hooboy. I knew ADHD was affected by your cycle but since my cycle is going crazy as it's trying to regulate itself after going off BC, I don't think I can handle it right now! especially because my work doesn't have set hours so I just go off the rails 😬 So yeah. Feels good to have a relatable ADHD story time right up front in this video hahaha. Making a physical mess in my house is a lot more rare (I've always had some level of fatigue even before I had chronic fatigue), but I FOR SURE have my own version of the messy house video you show at the beginning. Even still while medicated, on bad days, but man has medication helped me so much. I think the bad days really are related to my cycle - even before I went off my IUD... it was just hard to track where I was on my cycle when I had no period 😅
@@unplantparenthood I'm now too distracted by writing comments and not listening to the video 😂 but i'll be giving my TH-cam Premium watch time by rewatching this video i think hahaha. I'm waiting for my medication to fully kick in for me to start work for the day. I can't drink caffeine (it gives me migraines) so I have to rely on my ADHD meds to wake up for the day
JUGS OF WATER NEXT TO YOUR PLANTS YES! I have like five jugs of water next to my plants. I have one Ikea cabinet with almost all my plants in it. Watering all my plants takes like 1.5 or 2 jugs, and I mix semi hydro nutrients too. So I basically have enough for two full waterings at any time so in case I forget to refill water jugs between waterings, which I do. Also, I want to water with room temp water and let any chlorine bubble off or whatever so yeah. And yes, I also don't bother keeping track of fertilizer. It's survival of the fittest. I don't have too many uncommon plants. They get fertilized when they get fertilized lol.
Just to clarify a point... you absolutely can be dx by a general practitioner here in Canada. They just chose to gatekeep the diagnosis especially for women. They force us to go to extremes for proper dx.
Such an informative subject for so many of us. More people deal with mental health, than we like to admit. It took me a long time to come to terms with my mental health; rebellion, substance abuse, isolation so many things. But, finding the balance I feel like can be such a help. Even if it takes 31 years. This video is going to help so many people, me included. The lists are crucial with an overactive mind. But, I think what also helped me a lot. Was actually writing the thoughts I have, the negative ones, down but writing them in a positive light. Say in my head I say “I look so fat today”. I’ll write down “I look incredible today”. Those little things started to help wiring my brain to think more positive- even if I didn’t feel it at that moment. It’s help so much over the years. Definitely agree with the writing something down physically over a phone. Make sure to cleanse your phone daily too- that can be super draining to us. There are crystals in our phone and they absorb soooo much energy. Love and light as always! ❤
FYI, I DO eat once a day. There are a lot of people that eat once a day. I started because I couldn’t afford the grocery bill anymore but found a whole fasting movement that’s been part of society for years and for some people it’s healthier. (I’m not a doctor, so see doctor to discuss) It is healthier for me. Less migraines, I’ve lost weight, no longer hungry all the time, don’t have that “after meal crash or bloat”. And it’s cheaper and more economic!
I was just diagnosed with ADHD as an adult! We are so similar its actually weird 😆. After trying a plethora or depression and anxiety meds for the past two decades. I now take Vyvanse and I can't believe I can function this way! It's been life changing! I got into plants because of my "hyperfocusing" trait. I get completely obsessed with a thing and buy all the things to do with that thing😆. Plants have stuck with me though longer than any other hyperfocus. I'll probably be back with a few comments because I couldn't watch this whole video until i wrote this. 🙃 why am I the way that I am?😅😅😅
yeah, I have ADHD too and I have two theories why plants have stuck with me while other attempted hobbies haven't. First is that plants are still there and still need care so I have to keep coming back. I'm not the type of person who can handle watching them slowly die haha. Second is that the slow, chill hobby that is easy for me to do as a chronically ill person. I can do it sitting on my couch! (mostly lol) so yeah it really just goes with my lifestyle. And plants demand my attention in a way that cross stitching can just sit in a box and i can forget about it way easier haha
I have to say I totally understand how you feel! A two hour nap is just not enough! A good long nap refreshes the day, makes me feel ambitious again! I am going to try your post it’s idea because I’ll be doing fish tanks then remember about a plant I was letting callous, then shit I have clothes in dryer that only needed 10 min to not shrink them, then f$&@ I forgot I was filling a fish tank😮 I totally get it🤫
I have ADHD and I have made the cooking game analogy as well. Everything is frustrating and you try to let it not spill over to other people and situations.
I need to see a therapist/psychiatrist. I need to. But I'm struggling so much with finding one who takes my insurance and is accepting new patients. It's like pulling teeth. But I keep yanking, because I can feel the need getting stronger every day.
I hear you Cierra!! It took a long time to find a GP that took me seriously and got me connected to my psychiatrist now. You just have to keep pushing and advocating for yourself. It can be a frustrating process, but it’s worth it!
Are you looking over my shoulder and watching me? I do everything you’ve said lol. I love this video thank you for being you and being honest and giving tips! I definitely need more sticky notes Also bins that don’t have rhyme or reason are called doom boxes lol
ADHD in children i find the hardest to cope. Mainly with there behaviour, stubborn, temper and unwilling to listen. Cannot pay attention and sit still and always fiddle with something. Sometimes the older you get the symptoms can die down a bit can be controlled but still need some help definitely in the early stages when you know you have it. There seems to be so many health issues these days like anxiety, autistic, depression etc i wonder why. Definitely when i was growing up never heard anyone suffer these things and still can get on with life.
Omg I swear you just picked out my brain and put it in a platter! That is me exactly 🤣 I laugh but we both know it’s no picnic. I have ASD, ADHD, bipolar & severe anxiety which has led to agoraphobia & most likely complex ptsd. I feel your pain. On the good side I loooove your videos, I respect your knowledge and wish you didn’t live in another hemisphere as it would have been nice to chat. I a huge fan of both you & Alice. Is there a way to make this a private comment? I rarely comment, paranoia lol. Hoping you have a happy and peaceful day. Jaime (Australia) x
I been diagnosed since I was a kids I do all the things u mentioned . I was watching your video while cleaning my living room moved a cutting to enclosed container noticed I didn't finish cleaning lol came in the kitchen living room still messy WAaaa also while at work I do the same things,, and where am I gonna put all my plants when I bring them in lol
Oh girl, that story is my life 😂 I am waiting for my adhd assessment appointment to come through but I am pretty convinced I have adhd at this point but want the official diagnosis as I’m curious as to what medication could do for me! This video is very good though, love all the tips and the information is really well said 👏 thank you for the content you put out 🥰
Thanks for lifting the lid on practicalities of living with ADHD. Do you find you grow through periods of hyper fixation too? I have that and I know that plants are my current one. Before that, it was painting, stock trading and nail art 🤦🏽♀️. Admittedly it’s lasted for 2 years but I’m worried I’ll move onto something else soon. On a separate note, have you ever thought of putting your anthuriums in pon right from the start? I’ve even done it with the tiniest of seedlings and they size up fast. Takes away all the annoyance from moss growing and you’re less likely to overdry the roots. Just a thought!
I just cleaned the moss off of some roots. You make it look so easy. I had so much moss left on the roots that it’s not funny. How do you make it looks so easy? This was my first and hopefully my last. The plant came in moss.
I love how you care for you plants!❤ I wish I could be in your friend circle. I just don’t have any friends who are into this new hobby of mine and I have so many questions! 😢
I definitely wanted to make it a point to make sure I didn’t make people think they had ADHD if they don’t, but I think if you find your quality of life is being affected, there’s nothing to lose in at least looking into it with your GP!
@@unplantparenthood I totally get that. I own an Etsy shop and work from home. I’m about to start my 13th year of owning my shop and I have done this “dance” with tasks forever. I wonder how much time I would save myself if I just actually completed a task before starting on a new one. I need to try some tricks to keep me focused on what I’m working on. But it was so on point to how my days go when you described your daily struggles. It sounds like you’ve come up with some tricks that help. I definitely need to do that.
i feel like people push their problems way too easily towards adhd and just live with them, instead of actually working on themself to start solving them.
These are great ones to turn the volume up and have going in the background whilst you do other things, for me it’s usually cleaning. It’s like listening to a podcast and I’m still able to support Charmaine - I believe views don’t count unless the video is watched in full.
I accidentally hit the dislike button, sorry😬😔 I like your videos, especially your long ones❤️ hope it doesn’t do anything bad to your rating. I’m not even sure how TH-cam works for that stuff.
This playlist really do slap tho 👋🥺 Also I call my lists of random thoughts “parking lots” (not my idea someone else called it this & I liked it) but I haven’t been good about writing them in the app on my phone…so will now be trying the notebooks/post-its 🥲 thanks queen !!!!
I am not diagnosed ADHD but every time I listen to stories from people that are diagnosed I relate so hard. I am fortunate enough that it’s not a major life disruption, but I never get through a task from start to finish without accidentally starting 3 other tasks 🥲
I just cleaned the moss off of some roots. You make it look so easy. I had so much moss left on the roots that it’s not funny. How do you make it looks so easy? This was my first and hopefully my last. The plant came in moss.
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Sooooo relatable with trying to do 50 things at once
ugh agree so strongly on "Why do we need to eat?" - eating is such a struggle... I'm coming to realize just how much ADHD affects my ability to feed myself, too. Not just remembering to feed myself, either. Executive functioning on figuring out what to eat, making sure you have the correct groceries, making sure the kitchen is clean enough to cook, not being overwhelmed by dirty dishes/kitchen, not being overwhelmed by the process of cooking... I also have to deal with chronic fatigue on top of that.
I don t go to sleep until i finish all the things i ve started or else i would dream it at night and i would wake up continuously thinking i could ve finished at least one of them and then i would think of the fact that i am always aware that this happens if i don t do it so is my conscious talking to me all the time. You explained it veeery well .
I learned a long time ago, before I was diagnosed, to stay in the front of the classroom. I sat close to the teacher when I could instead of being in the back where there were more distractions. It got me through nursing school.
I always sat in the back so I could draw and doodle! But I probably would’ve done much better had I sat in the front 😆
You’re right on with some of the symptoms of adhd. I wasn’t diagnosed until my late 50’s early 60’s. I was having a counselor meeting to which I had invited my dad. In our conversations, the back and forth, my counselor turned to me and asked if I’d ever been diagnosed with adhd. No I hadn’t though when I look back on it the signs were there all my life. She gave me a test and that indicated I was positive for adhd. So I started on meds since I was already in therapy. I took them for three years before I felt I had a better handle on how to deal with it. I’ve been medication free for two years. I still have to deal with it on occasion, when it feels hard, when I struggle. I just sit back and watch tv until my anxiety lightens up. Tv has always been a relaxant for me. Then I get up and tackle what triggered me to spiral down. You will find what works for you. And it sounds like post it notes and a notebook works for you.
I’m 25 and got diagnosed this year as well. And the NOISE!!! The first time I took medication for my adhd I told my partner my head felt quiet for once. I never knew that it wasn’t normal, I thought I just couldn’t handle normal life or I just couldn’t function like a normal adult.
Thank you so much for posting as much as you do with these longer videos! I struggle with a lot of mental health issues that have been getting worse lately and your videos are so easy to relate to and informative. I’m so glad I found your channel!
I’m so sorry to hear about your mental health right now- I know it all too well 😣 thank you for being here!! I’m so happy that these videos bring you some kind of solace. 🤍 thinking of you!!
Your videos are the highlights of my day! I really admire how you aren’t afraid to show imperfections especially with plant care. I’m a new plant mom myself and I really look up to you and your mindset, especially after the Hoyas! Thank you for being a friend through the screen!
Omg, I am diagnosed this year as well at my 32. Thank you for sharing ❤
Oh ❤, you have been my favorite indoor plant person since I became obsessed with indoor plants, I’m a huge crazy outdoor plant guy.
I’ve been diagnosed adhd for over 20 years and super hyper functioning not on meds for most of that time. I’d bet my life savings I’m also OCD and presérvate on things being “perfect”.
Lately since covid and moving to another state for my husband’s job life has been so difficult to say the least, meds have really helped me thought I don’t think they are a be all solve all answer. So don’t be afraid to try if you think you might need a little help here or there. I totally use many of these skills you use to live in a world of “hyper controlled chaos” (in my mind) too.
I’m very proud of you sharing this private part of your life, I feel sharing is such a big part of helping ourselves and others.
Most people would never understand the stress and struggles we put on ourselves as people who are successful and are able to use coping skills that work for us.
You’re amazing I really liked you before and now❤️❤️❤️❤️!
Don’t be so hard on yourself, your old videos when you were afraid to show your face made me so sad…… you’re so pretty glad you have made so much growth there.
I’m new to indoor plants but have always struggled with going way way way over board, where my hobby becomes a stress creating job. How do you balance that and not do to much? I’m sure it’s hard for you with it also an income source? I feel you have the same over achiever side I have too. What random advice do you have for a new indoor plant guy?
So so Jealous of all your plants and indoor plant skills!
❤ ADHD OCD (former pug/ now Frenchie) Dad
Oh I saw so many of my own habits described in your video! The starting a task, getting distracted and starting another task ad nauseam so that at the end of the day I’m left with a bunch of half done projects and can’t get to bed until they are all finished (e.g., 04:00 AM.) Urghhh! I love the “box of laziness” idea. I catch myself putting crap all over my plant room surfaces and them having no room to do anything. I believe this “box” idea will help me out here. Thank you Charmain, not only for great advice about plants, but great sharing coping ideas with life! 😊
I appreciate your videos so much!
Also a fellow plant enthusiast with adhd. For me I think having a grow tent has helped a lot because not only do the plants take care of themselves when I’m having a ~not energetic/motivated~ period but also when I have to prioritize work or school it’s out of sight and out of mind and won’t be a big distraction. I still have plants living outside of the grow tent but they are more common plants and plants that can survive when I neglect them. Also I think with ADHD we become more prone to collecting plants because of that obsessive nature we have and I was hooked for a while. I wanted to buy every plant I saw and needed it now! Reminding myself that plants will be there later on AND price d fluctuate helped me stop impulsively buying. As a general ADHD thing I discovered brown noises and it helps me concentrate and I even listen to it on the bus.
I dont have ADHD but this was really interesting to listen to and made me more aware how hard it can be when you have ADHD. And I think the tips can help loads of people if you struggle with focussing aswell❤️
Your content is always special in a way and ypu can always learn🥰 thank you!
I absolutely LOVE having to do lists! Even if I do something that was not on my list, I will add it just to cross it off! It helps build up some momentum for me 🥰
Thanks for sharing Charmaine 💕 you’re so unbelievably strong and I love and admire how solution oriented you are!
I was diagnosed with adhd at 31, I’m currently 35 but knew since I was a teen. I was so reluctant about meds but it has seriously helped a lot. Helps me focus on the takes I want to get done without getting distracted as easy. Plants are something healthy to hyperfocus on which has been awesome. I feel like the setbacks are pretty devastating though. Like finding spider mites sometimes makes me feel like giving up haha.
I’ve heard some wonderful things about how ADHD medicine has changed peoples lives. Right now it’s not for me, but I’m always staying open minded and doing what I think is best for myself, even it does mean having an Rx.
I feel you on the setbacks though! Sometimes it’s hard to stay positive when you’re like physically and mentally drained. Feeling like you’re doing everything right and then suddenly a spider mite colony is like HEEEeEy long time no see!! 😀
Girl!!! You are my spirit animal.... everyone hassles me for my million and one note books and post it notes! Im glad its not just me.... im newly diagnosed at 37 this and it all makes sense....i understand everything you are talking about... including pen and paper over an app haha
same!! i got my official diagnosis today, but my therapist treated me for it since a year now! thanks for talking about this!
Wow. I was diagnosed at 41. Knowing put so much into perspective. I can relate so much. I took some of your tips and I’m already a better plant parent. Thank you so much for this video!! ❤
Only 30 minutes in and I'm so into these topics!! Over years of therapy and self discovery I've learned that we all have attention deficit, hyperactivity, obsessive compulsions, depression, anxiety, manic states, etc.... That's just how our brains work and how our bodies choose to react to situations based off of acute traumas and genetic disposition. BUT when it becomes something that affects your quality of life and your ability to function, then it is a disorder and needs to be addressed. Even knowing it's a disorder, you can still manage it on your own with family and friends support and therapy. I truly believe that medication should be the last resort because of how much it alters your neurological state, especially if you take it in your teens/early 20's. Of course if you have a chemical imbalance in terms of major depression, then an antidepressant is crucial. But I'm finding now a days so many younger people flocking to medications because of the trend rather than for a legitimate use, not understanding how much it will mess with their personalities, behaviors, and perspectives.
In turn, I've actually found the plant hobby to be incredibly helpful for my own attention deficit because it forces me to put all of that energy and focus on one thing. I care for around 70 indoor houseplants and water once on a weekend day and once on a weekday. In between I allow myself to kind of check on certain plants, but I don't let myself go too crazy all at once. I try to space things out at much as I can to control the obsessiveness and strengthen whatever self discipline I have left. I've also found that going into to those hyperactive/hyperfocused states leaves me depressed in the end because of so much stimulation at one time. So to help space things out I'll write lists with a dry erase marker on the side of my ikea cabinet, from pest updates to how certain plants have reacted to different light/water, brain dumps, chores to do today/weekly/monthly. I also have lists on my phone, laptop, and in a notebook... It definitely helps keep everything in order, even if it's only an "order" that my brain comprehends!
On top of this video, this is an extremely helpful comment and I appreciate you alot for it! Thank you!
I can see where you’re coming from but I find the issue comes in with where people draw the line when it comes to “affecting your life”. It’s different for everyone and while the tides are changing, there are still so many frustrating stereotypes and the demonization of medications that prevents people from taking them out of fear
I just ran across your channel and what caught my eye is the fact you are open about your mental health. I suffer myself with Bipolar disorder/ OCD and anxiety really bad. I myself was medicated for a while then I stopped because of how it made me feel. I am a new plant parent and my need to stay organized kind of make it more difficult because I know some plants are finicky and I have to try and remember moving them constantly can make them unhappy. I suffer from the same OCD as you..I lose lots of sleep if it's not in order. I'm up now at 3a.m. because I forgot to put the mop up once it dried out..I have dreams about whether I finished a task or not...I love the video and the plants are my therapy...thank you
Great video! I have ADHD unfortunately and do not know how I would get by managing my horde of plants without the Planta app. It really does a good job of reminding me which plants are in need of watering or simply reminding me what plants I have in my collection. On top of that it is good for keeping plant names on record since I would never remember those as well. 😅
I too have the planta app. It’s great for narrowing down which plants to attend to. Check with moisture meter and snooze those not dry enough yet.
I love no drainage too! It is so easy to maintain. 🙌
Thank you for making such beautiful, real content. I was diagnosed with ADHD and OCD at 26, and I will be 28 in Dec.
plants became my most recent hyperfixation in January. I went from 3 plants to 75 in like 3 months. Then came the thrips. Then came the spider mites. I am desperately trying to hold onto my love for plants but the dopamine is fading. Videos like yours help, thank you.
Anywho, I digress, I could write you a whole novel about how much the combination of ADHD and OCD is the actual worst, but you already know. Sure there are the ‘good’ things, but, ugh. Idk. I’m rambling now. But just wanted to thank you❤️
The OCD is so real..you describe my day to the T..I'm all over the place the same way, but it gets done..I'm doing a million things at the same time in about 20 minutes...this is my madness but I don't want to forget...
Algorythm for the win, Plants, ADHD, and BC, Canada. Watching my first "Unplantparenthood" and I'm already hooked. Only a person with ADHD gets all your plant tips. I too have watering vessels in every plant room and dilute fertilizer for every watering. Forgiveness has also been really freeing. I would like to try the no drainage and definitely need to downsize but that seems too overwhelming at this time. This is not medical advice, I know medication is highly personal, and what works for one may not work for another but I thought I would share my story as I wish I had known sooner about my situation. Anyway, I struggled with depression and anxiety and was treated for decades, but hindsight I never really felt optimal. A couple of years ago at age 46 I had a reading from an Astrologer, and when I asked him about my health he mentioned I had memory issues, me: ya, him: you know due to ADHD. At the time I was like "nah" ADHD is little boys bouncing off the walls and that was not me, but then a few months later an article by the CBC on Adult ADHD in women came through my newsfeed, and when I read it I was like holy crap this is me! I spoke to my Pshychiatrist and did some testing, and yep scored high for ADHD. Through many sessions we decided that my depression and anxiety stemmed from the ADHD and that if we treated the ADHD then the depresion and anxiety should resolve. We came up with a plan to move off the current meds and move onto stimulents and I can say that for the most part my anxiety and depression have been corrected with ADHD meds. Old habits die hard so I still deal with stuff, but with therapy, I'm finally able to see that light at the end of the tunnel. Sorry this is long, it was actually twice as long but I was getting away from my point and it was becoming depression, lol. If anyone is unsure if they have ADHD, or wants to know more about it I recommend reading through the CADDRA guidelines linked below, it talks about how to diagnose, how to differentiate between different disorders, ADHD often has overlapping symptoms with other disorders and the guidelines help to define overlapping characteristics with ADHD vs. distinct characteristics of other disorders like anxiety, depression, autism, borderline, etc., it talks about common medical conditions that may have overlapping symptoms with ADHD, like anemia, thyroid disfunction, and hypoglycemia, etc, and talks about both pharmaceutical and psychosocial treatment. Damn I did it again, I was about to finish and I kept going, lol. www.caddra.ca/wp-content/uploads/Canadian-ADHD-Practice-Guidelines-4.1-January-6-2021.pdf
I truly understand your struggle/battle with ADHD and depression. I also, deal with Lupus and migraines. ADHD the brain constantly jumping around starting something, jumping to something else not finishing each tasks than leads to depression because emotionally, we beat ourselves up soo hard on wanting to get stuff done, but it doesn’t. I found medication and people around me whom love me and understand my ADHD doing house chores with me helps me stay on tasks and my mind from jumping around. The only time my ADHD with medication rocks is at when when my mind is forced to stay on tasks to care for others are at both of my jobs, but house tasks is not a full necessity. I started using a planner and I only write down a few tasks on my free days and that’s all I focus on when I am done I check it off. ADHD is like a tv jumping from channel to channel than u start watching something than u jump to something else. I can’t be without my planner to keep me on tasks. You are NOT alone!!! I understand your struggles and I 💜 you!
I got diagnosed with ADHD (the first time, I got re-assessed in my midteens and again in my early twenties) at 4 years old. Cleaning I make hard boundary lines. I will clean one room, and anything that needs to leave that room gets put in a pile near the door. Otherwise, if I leave the office to take a coffee cup to the sink I'll see the dishes that need to be done and unload the dishes but I'll see dishes around the kitchen and I will start to collect them. But I will inevitably need to throw something away from one of the dishes and notice that the trash is full. So I'll take the trash bag out and go to put it by the garage door to go out and I'll see that the floors need to be vacuumed. So I'll go upstairs to the library to get the Roomba, but that's where my prop boxes are and I'll realize I haven't checked on them for a few days. For things I remember to do that don't have a physical reminder I can place near the door of the room, I will add it to a to-do list with Alexa, since we have an echo in multiple places around the house. Or if I have a pen and paper nearby, I'll write it down.
But, yes, as far as my actual to-do list, paper and crossing off allll day every day. The dopamine hit from filling in the little circle after finishing a task is peak. I will break my tasks down to mini-tasks because I'm more likely to do a bigger task if I get to cross off like 5 times along the way than if I only get to cross off once at the end. Digital to-do lists do nothing for me, and Alexa only works because I can speak to it without stopping what I'm doing or going on my time suck phone. But I will transcribe the Alexa list to my paper to-do list later on and actually work the tasks from there.
I love listening to others' non-medicine coping mechanisms. I personally found that no single thing helps quite like a medicine formula and dose that works for me. But I was in college before I started learning coping mechanisms and it improved so much. Like without medicine or coping mechanisms, I was at a 2. Medicine would get me to a 5 or 6. But coping mechanisms
+ medicine could get me to like 7 or 8. I've been on meds for ADHD for years, so when my doctor recommended I go on anxiety meds this year, my big thing was I'm not willing to stop my ADHD meds. But I know a lot of people the option for ADHD meds comes way later and they don't feel comfortable adding it to their regime. The great thing about coping mechanisms is there's no real risk. You don't have to worry about side effects or it mixing with your other meds in a weird way. And if you can't or haven't yet been diagnosed with ADHD, you can use coping mechanisms anyway. You don't need an rx.
Thank you SO much for sharing your story and your experience! Honestly if I wasn’t on my anti-depressants and my anxiety meds, I likely would probably opt for an Rx for my ADHD. But with my anxiety, even the thought of adding another medicine freaks me out. I know it’s all mental, but luckily my psychiatrist has been so helpful in validating my coping mechanisms and helping me stay afloat. But I’m staying open minded to everything as it comes- especially since things only seem to get a bit more complicated as I age. I do find some kind of odd solace knowing there are many of us out there that we can lean on for support.
I always enjoy your videos! Thanks!💚🌱😊
Woohoo! Love Wednesday uploads. 🙌
I make so many plans for the day and things I need to do around the house, like cleaning or plant chores. But do I do them. Nope I have no motivation. Having bi polar depression sucks. Today I have to repot my fav crystallinum that’s literally way too too heavy. I got a new deep special clear pot for it and everything and I got a sole tech solution light, and have I hung it up yet?!?! NO!!! Ugh makes me feel like Shit I can’t wait to wake up and it’s all done. I needed this video thank you!!!! Thank you for always being so open and honest about mental health. I love you sooo much. And excuse me how could I forget to include my main man little Pudgey poo!! I love you Pudge!!
Been waiting for you to talk about your ADHD! Thank you for making this video. I got diagnosed with ADHD and autism this year and life makes a lot more sense 😂 and I love hearing how it [ADHD] affects other people and what they do to work around it.
Your thought stream and how you end up doing a million things in 30 minutes is very much me, and I’ve found that bottom watering (two bowls and multiple plants at a time) helps me with the plants I still have in drainage, or quickly throwing everything in the shower. But tbh semi-hydro has saved my life since I only need to refill once (maybe twice for smaller plants) a week-Saturdays after work!
Also, I personally have found apps on my phone helpful simply as reminders, but I’m also the type of person who avoids social media if I can, so the opposite of you 😂
Anyway, I really appreciate all that you’ve said in this video. Yes, we struggle with our neurodiversity at times, but I think our love of research and hyperfocusing on the things we love is a great benefit. Ok ramble over 💕
I don't have adhd(although I have struggled with anxiety in the past)but I feel the same way about physically crossing off my lists! So satisfying ☺️
I listen to relaxing music when I'm doing plant chores, lately it's been classical guitar artists
I have ADHD too. Thank you for talking about this. It's very informative. I can relate.
Personally, I'm 0 or 100 when it comes to plant care. It's all or nothing. So on my good days I do everything to the max. Then on bad days...it's all too overwhelming and I wait until another good day comes 😌
It definitely is the best hobby but on some days I think "what the fuck was I thinking "
And I have 2 boys and 4 animals on top of that 😊
You're the best for all your videos
Ok I'm late to these (been binging your videos from earliest to latest!) I have the same sprayer and used to hate trying to actually fill a pot, until I realized you can unscrew that little spray tip and it will make a nice flow of water that will actually fill a pot quick without making a mess! Hope you see this and hope it helps. Thank for for talking about everything you do, I also have late diagnosed ADHD and everything you talk about I feel/do the same and it's so validating to know that we're not alone.
Just partway through this video. I also have ADHD and I know what it's like to get pushed and pulled by ADHD and sometimes you just can't help it even if you want to resist it. I agree STRONGLY that writing things down helps SO MUCH. I also agree that phones are just distractions. I prefer a paper journal for that too. I've only been doing it for about two years and I found it really helpful. I use a combination of paper journal and google calendar so i have reminders of upcoming appointments - especially doctors appointments that are made far in advance.
I agree that from the outside the system might seem like too much work, but it's much less work than the chaos of not having the system haha
Yay you’re here!! I was hoping you’d be here in the comments for this video 🤪
oh and yeah i use google keep for shopping lists which is shared with my partner. a lot of people use similar apps that sync with their partner so you can check things off the same list (except he never checks things off 🙄)
@@unplantparenthood hahaha yeah i've been missing for a while i know. My ADHD has been particularly bad this past month or so. I went off birth control and I feel like that was a mistake 😬hah I think I'm gonna go back on because hooboy. I knew ADHD was affected by your cycle but since my cycle is going crazy as it's trying to regulate itself after going off BC, I don't think I can handle it right now! especially because my work doesn't have set hours so I just go off the rails 😬
So yeah. Feels good to have a relatable ADHD story time right up front in this video hahaha. Making a physical mess in my house is a lot more rare (I've always had some level of fatigue even before I had chronic fatigue), but I FOR SURE have my own version of the messy house video you show at the beginning. Even still while medicated, on bad days, but man has medication helped me so much. I think the bad days really are related to my cycle - even before I went off my IUD... it was just hard to track where I was on my cycle when I had no period 😅
@@unplantparenthood I'm now too distracted by writing comments and not listening to the video 😂 but i'll be giving my TH-cam Premium watch time by rewatching this video i think hahaha. I'm waiting for my medication to fully kick in for me to start work for the day. I can't drink caffeine (it gives me migraines) so I have to rely on my ADHD meds to wake up for the day
oh, i love your brown shirt btw! ❤
JUGS OF WATER NEXT TO YOUR PLANTS YES! I have like five jugs of water next to my plants. I have one Ikea cabinet with almost all my plants in it. Watering all my plants takes like 1.5 or 2 jugs, and I mix semi hydro nutrients too. So I basically have enough for two full waterings at any time so in case I forget to refill water jugs between waterings, which I do. Also, I want to water with room temp water and let any chlorine bubble off or whatever so yeah. And yes, I also don't bother keeping track of fertilizer. It's survival of the fittest. I don't have too many uncommon plants. They get fertilized when they get fertilized lol.
I think Bisma’s are low corm producers. Lol! I’ve repotted mine twice and have only found one and it’s a decent size too 🤷♀️ Great video Charmaine 💜
Just to clarify a point... you absolutely can be dx by a general practitioner here in Canada. They just chose to gatekeep the diagnosis especially for women. They force us to go to extremes for proper dx.
Such an informative subject for so many of us.
More people deal with mental health, than we like to admit. It took me a long time to come to terms with my mental health; rebellion, substance abuse, isolation so many things. But, finding the balance I feel like can be such a help. Even if it takes 31 years. This video is going to help so many people, me included.
The lists are crucial with an overactive mind. But, I think what also helped me a lot. Was actually writing the thoughts I have, the negative ones, down but writing them in a positive light. Say in my head I say “I look so fat today”. I’ll write down “I look incredible today”. Those little things started to help wiring my brain to think more positive- even if I didn’t feel it at that moment. It’s help so much over the years.
Definitely agree with the writing something down physically over a phone. Make sure to cleanse your phone daily too- that can be super draining to us. There are crystals in our phone and they absorb soooo much energy.
Love and light as always! ❤
FYI, I DO eat once a day. There are a lot of people that eat once a day. I started because I couldn’t afford the grocery bill anymore but found a whole fasting movement that’s been part of society for years and for some people it’s healthier. (I’m not a doctor, so see doctor to discuss) It is healthier for me. Less migraines, I’ve lost weight, no longer hungry all the time, don’t have that “after meal crash or bloat”. And it’s cheaper and more economic!
I was just diagnosed with ADHD as an adult! We are so similar its actually weird 😆. After trying a plethora or depression and anxiety meds for the past two decades. I now take Vyvanse and I can't believe I can function this way! It's been life changing! I got into plants because of my "hyperfocusing" trait. I get completely obsessed with a thing and buy all the things to do with that thing😆. Plants have stuck with me though longer than any other hyperfocus. I'll probably be back with a few comments because I couldn't watch this whole video until i wrote this. 🙃 why am I the way that I am?😅😅😅
yeah, I have ADHD too and I have two theories why plants have stuck with me while other attempted hobbies haven't. First is that plants are still there and still need care so I have to keep coming back. I'm not the type of person who can handle watching them slowly die haha. Second is that the slow, chill hobby that is easy for me to do as a chronically ill person. I can do it sitting on my couch! (mostly lol) so yeah it really just goes with my lifestyle. And plants demand my attention in a way that cross stitching can just sit in a box and i can forget about it way easier haha
Also practice self care , do something to pamper yourself and be kind to YOU ! You deserve it 🫶❤️🤍✨
I have to say I totally understand how you feel! A two hour nap is just not enough! A good long nap refreshes the day, makes me feel ambitious again! I am going to try your post it’s idea because I’ll be doing fish tanks then remember about a plant I was letting callous, then shit I have clothes in dryer that only needed 10 min to not shrink them, then f$&@ I forgot I was filling a fish tank😮 I totally get it🤫
I have ADHD and I have made the cooking game analogy as well. Everything is frustrating and you try to let it not spill over to other people and situations.
Thank you for this awesome video!
FYI Licensed Professional Counselors (and some other mental health professionals) can diagnose ADHD too. :)
I need to see a therapist/psychiatrist. I need to. But I'm struggling so much with finding one who takes my insurance and is accepting new patients. It's like pulling teeth.
But I keep yanking, because I can feel the need getting stronger every day.
I hear you Cierra!! It took a long time to find a GP that took me seriously and got me connected to my psychiatrist now. You just have to keep pushing and advocating for yourself. It can be a frustrating process, but it’s worth it!
Are you looking over my shoulder and watching me? I do everything you’ve said lol. I love this video thank you for being you and being honest and giving tips! I definitely need more sticky notes
Also bins that don’t have rhyme or reason are called doom boxes lol
Thank you so much for making this video! Very helpful ❤
I’m glad you found it helpful!! Thank you for watching 🩵
ADHD in children i find the hardest to cope. Mainly with there behaviour, stubborn, temper and unwilling to listen. Cannot pay attention and sit still and always fiddle with something. Sometimes the older you get the symptoms can die down a bit can be controlled but still need some help definitely in the early stages when you know you have it. There seems to be so many health issues these days like anxiety, autistic, depression etc i wonder why. Definitely when i was growing up never heard anyone suffer these things and still can get on with life.
Omg I swear you just picked out my brain and put it in a platter! That is me exactly 🤣 I laugh but we both know it’s no picnic. I have ASD, ADHD, bipolar & severe anxiety which has led to agoraphobia & most likely complex ptsd. I feel your pain. On the good side I loooove your videos, I respect your knowledge and wish you didn’t live in another hemisphere as it would have been nice to chat. I a huge fan of both you & Alice. Is there a way to make this a private comment? I rarely comment, paranoia lol. Hoping you have a happy and peaceful day. Jaime (Australia) x
Where do you buy the plastic pots with no drainage?
I been diagnosed since I was a kids I do all the things u mentioned . I was watching your video while cleaning my living room moved a cutting to enclosed container noticed I didn't finish cleaning lol came in the kitchen living room still messy WAaaa also while at work I do the same things,, and where am I gonna put all my plants when I bring them in lol
Oh girl, that story is my life 😂 I am waiting for my adhd assessment appointment to come through but I am pretty convinced I have adhd at this point but want the official diagnosis as I’m curious as to what medication could do for me! This video is very good though, love all the tips and the information is really well said 👏 thank you for the content you put out 🥰
Thanks for lifting the lid on practicalities of living with ADHD. Do you find you grow through periods of hyper fixation too? I have that and I know that plants are my current one. Before that, it was painting, stock trading and nail art 🤦🏽♀️. Admittedly it’s lasted for 2 years but I’m worried I’ll move onto something else soon.
On a separate note, have you ever thought of putting your anthuriums in pon right from the start? I’ve even done it with the tiniest of seedlings and they size up fast. Takes away all the annoyance from moss growing and you’re less likely to overdry the roots. Just a thought!
I just cleaned the moss off of some roots. You make it look so easy. I had so much moss left on the roots that it’s not funny. How do you make it looks so easy? This was my first and hopefully my last. The plant came in moss.
I love how you care for you plants!❤ I wish I could be in your friend circle. I just don’t have any friends who are into this new hobby of mine and I have so many questions! 😢
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Don’t think you understand how impactful this video/topic was/is for so many of us!!!! 🦾🌱👏🏽 #ADHD
14:00 ... you have described me and my daily actions to a T. That is ADHD??? I thought I was just unorganized. I guess I need to do some research.
I definitely wanted to make it a point to make sure I didn’t make people think they had ADHD if they don’t, but I think if you find your quality of life is being affected, there’s nothing to lose in at least looking into it with your GP!
@@unplantparenthood I totally get that. I own an Etsy shop and work from home. I’m about to start my 13th year of owning my shop and I have done this “dance” with tasks forever. I wonder how much time I would save myself if I just actually completed a task before starting on a new one. I need to try some tricks to keep me focused on what I’m working on. But it was so on point to how my days go when you described your daily struggles. It sounds like you’ve come up with some tricks that help. I definitely need to do that.
How many oz are these clear square cups you use???
could I see what elements of the repot sand
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💯 Hey, did your adhd get worse after your covid illness? Mine has.
i feel like people push their problems way too easily towards adhd and just live with them, instead of actually working on themself to start solving them.
OMG... This sounds too much like me....
I guess you are no longer doing 40 min or shorter lol. Kudos to everyone here, I have a short attention span.
I’ve posted about four 40 minute videos in the last month or so :)
These are great ones to turn the volume up and have going in the background whilst you do other things, for me it’s usually cleaning. It’s like listening to a podcast and I’m still able to support Charmaine - I believe views don’t count unless the video is watched in full.
I didn't know that is adhd. Im 66 I have know problem with what you are saying
I accidentally hit the dislike button, sorry😬😔 I like your videos, especially your long ones❤️ hope it doesn’t do anything bad to your rating. I’m not even sure how TH-cam works for that stuff.
This playlist really do slap tho 👋🥺
Also I call my lists of random thoughts “parking lots” (not my idea someone else called it this & I liked it) but I haven’t been good about writing them in the app on my phone…so will now be trying the notebooks/post-its 🥲 thanks queen !!!!
Parking lot!!! So genius. It’s such a perfect analogy.
But yes try the pen and paper!! It has been my saving grace. Or the posTITS if you prefer 😆
Lol not me editing my comment to make it more G-rated before seeing your reply 😆
I SAY : I Have B.T.S.D....S💚 ALL My Green Therapists Are Such A BLESSING T💚 ME!!! 🪴🪴🪴🪴🪴🪴🪴
I am not diagnosed ADHD but every time I listen to stories from people that are diagnosed I relate so hard. I am fortunate enough that it’s not a major life disruption, but I never get through a task from start to finish without accidentally starting 3 other tasks 🥲
my solution is usually to turn my brain off and zone out for hours at a time. She’s thriving 😅🙃
I just cleaned the moss off of some roots. You make it look so easy. I had so much moss left on the roots that it’s not funny. How do you make it looks so easy? This was my first and hopefully my last. The plant came in moss.