Is Sobriety Still Worth it after 8 months?? - (Episode # 112 )
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Timestamps:
0:00 Getting Sober Again - Episode 112 - "8 Months of Sobriety Pros & Cons"
1:10 How long have you been sober? Are you thinking about getting sober?
1:23 Pros and cons of sobriety
1:30 Are your expectations too high?
1:50 Are your sobriety goals and expectations realistic?
2:20 Is there a quick solution to reach my goals?
3:20 What is the longest you've ever been sober?
3:30 Stay AWAY from negative thoughts!
3:35 Are you having trouble being positive during your sobriety?
3:55 Have you ever relapsed on your addiction?
3:56 What do I do if I relapse?
4:05 What does it mean to put an asterisk on my sobriety?
5:20 The first three days of getting sober are the hardest.
5:30 How many times have you tried getting sober
5:40 How is sobriety similar to learning how to ride a bike?
6:20 How do I face the obstacles of sobriety?
6:45 Are you properly preparing for your journey?!
6:55 After 8 months of sobriety, do i still need to practice?
7:40 Have you thought about doing a 12-step program?
9:00 Why did my 8 months of sobriety take 2 years and 8 months?
9:14 Are you ready to start your sobriety journey?
9:25 Are you tired of Self-sabotage?
9:35 Are you achieving everything you hoped to achieve?
10:00 Do you know which version of you is going to wake up in the morning?
10:05 Are you a person you can count on?
10:30 Does thinking feeling and believing make something true?
12:15 How long did i want to get sober before I finally did it?
13:35 What are your expectations for sobriety?
14:20 Does coffee work for you?
15:15 Are you wondering if sobriety is going to work for you?
15:30 What are your sobriety goals?
16:00 Am I asking the right questions?
16:20 Are you in tune with your emotions?
16:25 What is the pink cloud/honeymoon phase?
16:30 Does everyone experience the pink cloud phase?
17:00 How will I know my pink cloud phase is ending?
17:10 Did you expect sobriety alone to fix all of your problems?
18:15 After 8 months of sobriety does it get any easier to manage?
18:30 Are you blaming the wrong things on sobriety?
18:50 How do you cope with your emotions sober?
19:25 Are you BORED?
19:35 What can I do when I'm bored?
20:00 What are the next steps after I quit drinking?
20:05 How can I practice my sobriety?
20:10 What activities did you do with alcohol?
20:11 What activities can I do WITHOUT alcohol?
20:50 What are some examples of practicing?
22:05 Are you addicted to alcohol? Or are you addicting to wanting to ESCAPE
22:10 WHY do you drink alcohol?
22:30 Are you silencing your potential?
22:50 When will I begin to have success in my sobriety?
23:30 How long do you want to stay sober?
24:00 Are you making decisions that future you will thank you for?
25:10 How much time and money were you WASTING drinking alcohol?
25:30 Are your friends really your friends when you get sober?
26:20 You WILL get to a place when you don't think about alcohol anymore
26:55 The best day to start was yesterday, the next best day to start is today
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6 weeks in. Definitely had some dips in energy and mood but the constant paranoia about my health is basically gone.
That's certainly a load off!
Keep going strong Dalton!💪
Congratulations!
I’m not a big AA guy, because I don’t want to identify myself as an alcoholic. I’m actually a childhood trauma survivor that tried to numb the pain of that trauma with alcohol. But one thing that did stick with me is “Progress. Not Perfection”….
Thank you for sharing! You have a unique perspective and I'm sure there are many others who are looking for someone like you to relate to!
Only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking don't have to be an alcoholic
My thoughts are that I was never an alcoholic, just a human with a drinking problem. I'm also a childhood trauma victim, and alcohol was my best friend. I hope your sobriety is going strong 🤙🏻
I can relate to you.
Hello everyone! I've been 13 months sober and I am feeling fantastic! I'm really proud of myself. I never thought I'd be here. A year ago I thought it would be SO cool if i made it to a year. And now I'm there. 🤗
I'm 45 days in. I would've never thought in a hundred years that I make it way past a month without alcohol. It feels great! Thank you, Jae!
WOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!! 💪🏽☺️🤗🥰😭😂🏆😇💚🧡💛❤️💙🥳🥳🥳
Whatchu boutta do with all that mental clarity tho?
@@GettingSoberAgain Very easy. Gonna focus on my health more and spend more time with my mother. Oh, and get much better with my Yoga poses and Dancing.
52 days sober and counting. 😃
OOOOOOOoOoOoooOOh almost at 2 months!!
Nice going Craig!!! Your riding the wave!!!
@@MrChucktait thanks Chuck. It feels good. 😃
Slipped last Thursday and combined both shrooms with a blackout Vodka bender - literally shouting, singing, laughing, and crying through massive internal trauma for hours - blacking out only to see a video of the madness the next day. A madness so cringeworthy and sad it still has me afraid of alcohol this Tuesday. Apparently ran to the full strawberry moon howling and shouting, still embarrassed to go outside at the moment.
Nobody is going to be harder on you than you are being to yourself currently.
Embarrassment is a consequence, not a lesson. If a lesson is to be learned, then take the time that you need to make the mental, physical, spiritual and emotional connection to and for the reasons why you let yourself get to a place that you seem to regret now.
It sounds like you were having a spiritual blast that mental and emotional you don't seem to vibe with out of context.
If your friends weren't making videos and mocking you, would you have found purpose for your actions? Why did you consume what you did in the first place? What do you and did you need to work through?
There will always be many questions. How and when you ask is another layer of the importance to the answers that are provided.
@ Dusk, that sounds like me every weekend before 2 weeks ago today 🤣😂😂. I ain't going back. I wish you all the best....I'm now 2 weeks sober
@@GettingSoberAgain Doing a lot better now. Thanks for the genuine response. Yes, I absolutely agree we judge ourselves hardest.
Yes a spiritual blast indeed. I found a lot of the issue is not having enough creative meaningful expression among working entirely remote and pretty socially isolated this year. Met up with some coworkers and old friends in person recently and found those experiences to make a world of difference. My issue is too much isolation and not enough social life.
Ah haha the videos were actually out of concern to show me the next day, no mockery. I was sleeping in the grass looking at the stars in the end of the experience which really revealed a need to get out more and enjoy new things or look further than focusing too much in one place - at work in my office. Some more focus on the frontier of aspirations.
I feel an inner calling for adventure and exploration of the world and sometimes forget this maybe instinctual aspiration to keep exploring, expressing creativity (mostly a charcoal pencil artist myself), and learning new things -- and not getting too caught up in only observing the explorations and creations of others outside of daily surviving routines.
@@bookwormlady1920 Haha yes I can imagine - too easy. The paradigm of jumping straight into the alcohol at the start of the weekend can basically cram it all into a single day if not a single Friday night with a weekend of recovery.
For me, the stress of social anxiety and awkwardness (and probably some form of rare personality or highly functioning autism that needs more internal acceptance & community involvement) has been the alcohol driving force - which is ironically an excess of internal judgement before, during, after socializing - so hardly involved with external communication funny enough. That quick internal judgement to shut down the self should be seeking therapy, not booze.
There are many healthier social lubricants out there that hit the core of the issues within the mind and body - habitual daily exercise, especially in the morning. What I really dislike like about alcohol is the hit to the willpower, absolutely crushing it beyond just hangovers because the lifestyle can become too lazy and comfortable drinking and recovering back and forth. The longterm willpower has to be revitalized and it may take some journaling of the mind (documenting and finding more clarity, order, and ultimately meaning among the chaos of rapid ideas) to really uncover what deeper meaningful aspirations lie within to shine greater than the extremely brief sunshine of alcohol that ultimately betrays such meaning and vibrancy. Alcohol does bring out meaningful conversations BUT it's not required, those should be happening sober more often and embraced - meeting the people that vibe back and forth with that is more important. A great life routine can encourage just as much and likely more.
Sounds like the mushrooms did their job to me :)
Isolation is not good for any of us. It leads to obvious depression, but also lethargy, fatigue and a host of other symptoms.
I'm glad you're on a better track. Don't let your job or career bring down your quality of life. Having money but being in isolation isnt a healthy tradeoff
Congratulations! Going on 3 months for me. Longest I have ever gone
That's awesome!!! Congrats to you and your future success :):):)
Congrats!
7 months- I’m right behind you. I had 1/2 beer 2 months ago at a restaurant after a stressful day. I was so glad I left some - but haven’t drank since. First I had to not need alcohol and now I don’t want it either.
🦾TT🔧 KEEP FIGHTING THE GOOD FIGHT
Thanks for this video Jae and congrats on 8 months! After I got a month sober, I started slipping up again. I would drink for 2-3 days, get sober for 4-5 days, repeat. You mentioned that you were using alcohol as a method of escaping responsibilities, and that really resonates with me. I'm adding a daily affirmation/reminder to myself that there are no excuses and no compromises that should lead me to drinking. Time for another day 1!
3 weeks and going strong.. Thanks to Jae and this community !!!
YAAAAAAS! Thank you for keeping us updated, and for your emails, your positivity and inspiration
I defiantly agree to this!!! Seeing that number is motivating.
Oh yea Cherie.. 21 days is better than zero days... keep pushing on🤗
3 weeks!!! Nice going Cherie!!!
Nice work Cherie! Stay strong 💪
Congrats to you pal... I’m gonna get there too!!!
Of course you will!! I can't wait to hear more and more from you!
Gwin Willis thank you... we got this...
Congrats on 8 months ✨ woOoHooo 🥳
💃💅🐱 Thank you Leeloo!
Saved me $$ on my A/C. I no longer need to keep the house colder than 74°. Alcohol had my body running hot. Used to keep it from 68-71°
That's the first time I've heard that! Great observation....
Thanks, this really resonated with me. I’m starting day 10 no alcohol. It’s been challenging to stay on track and I know there will be challenges yet to come. I am losing weight without even trying and sleeping better than I have in a long time. My mood swings are still intense and I’m taking advantage of all the support I can. Also, I’m working on keeping things real simple and slowing down.
Slowing down is super important. In addition to all of life's growth opportunities that we missed, we also have files full of emotions and mismanaged life events in all shapes and sizes. We are our own boss, employee, HR, and PR person.
It's a lot of work, but you're the one for the job
Andy Grammer sings DON'T GIVE UP ON ME. It's a song that I play every freakin' morning to motivate me. Another way of changing my frame of mind
@Jae, thanks for posting this episode again..the song I mentioned here I have not been able to play since Binky died. I just played it, bittersweet, I guess I'm healing.
8 months is gangster!! I just hit 30 days today. It's the longest I've gone since I was a wee lad
Nice work bruv! We are gonna have to figure out how to do some zoom interviews if you keep this up!
@@GettingSoberAgain Lol bruv. An interview's too formal innit. I'm up for a chat tho mate :)
@@gwillis01 Well aren’t you sweet. Thanks Gwin 😊 feels good
I am almost 8 months sober! 229 DAYS 🙌💜
Every day I find a new reason to maintain sobriety. I just saw a Steve Aoki (EDM) show and what motivated me to remain sober another day was seeing the bar tab for my friends at the end of the night and watching how ridiculously drunk people were getting. I was reminded that I WAS JUST LIKE THAT when I drank. Those people wont remember a moment of the show but I will and I am proud of that. Stay strong y'all!
Thanks for coming to my show! Lol
Good for you! Once you start taking pride in your sobriety, you're ON THE RIGHT TRACK!
One year sober because of being on probation. Thirty days sober by my own choice is my record. Ready to crush those records. Lived this way, way too long and lucky to be alive and well, considering the choices I have made. Luck runs out and I want to take it out of the equation, at least as far as drinking goes.
Let's do it!!
Congrats, Jae! I'm looking forward to reaching 8 months, ....my first year. 90 days and 1 week for me now. Old habits are hard to die, but I'm smothering them out with healthier things, thought patterns. Here's the WORK!
We don't put our 40-hour work week in in 2 days, we do less than one-fifth of it per 7 days. This work can be exhausting and that's why we "take it easy" as the cliché goes.
Congratulations Jae! That's a huge accomplishment, 8 months! Great video. Two things especially jumped out: Rewire your brain and that we were escaping our responsibilities-so basically our lives. Heard that!.So many spot-on points. Good luck to everyone!
I was afraid I rambled a bit too much lol, thanks for being kind =)
Great video. I’m 14 weeks sober, beating my previous record of 12 weeks. How ever my mind is starting to question the sobriety especially now because of patio season. Your message at the end is just what I needed at this moment. It is helping me reinforce the idea of continuing to stay alcohol free. When I think about the last 14 weeks , do I regret not drinking ? No I don’t so why should I start again? Keep up the videos, thanks !
Dear comment lurkers, You are not alone and this is a great community here at getting sober. We care about you , please dont stop trying! I found jae's channel on night 30 and today i have now reached 1 year of sobriety. Come say hi at our livestream sometime!!!!
I dream at night and I wake up alert
That alone makes sobriety worth it to me.
My ability to cope with life as it is showing noticeable strengthening and positive change.
Again we are on the same page.
My face don't look so world weary.
Keep a dream journal?
Starting at 21:50 is some of the best words you've uploaded - it hit me in my gut.
Boom!!! 💪🏽😉
Really need prayers and thoughts day 1
We need your string of success as much as you do. 💪🏽
You’ve started Kris and that’s an achievement in itself. We all start somewhere. Take it easy and be kind to yourself.
Thinking about my body and the torcher I've been putting it through now seems rather selfish.
Thanks for sharing with us Jae and congrats. It's been quite the journey over here. Most days have been good but there are those days when I've gotten tempted. Due to stress, rough work day or because "I deserve this treat." When in doubt, I count up the days and say "I can do one more." Holding strong on day 71 and this is the longest I've been sober.
That's awesome!!! Your doing great SweetiePie!!!
Congrats on making it to 8 months! Thursday will be 4 months for me.
That's awesome!!! It was at about the 4 month mark that I felt the most confident about going back to the bar to shoot pool and start doing some of the testy socializing that I was previously not confident in approaching
@@GettingSoberAgain it is getting easier being around people drinking. I still don't feel comfortable going to bars but my girlfriend still drinks and is respectful that I choose not to.
@@jakeleroy3186 I have heard a lot of success stories from people like you who arent putting pressure on anyone not to drink, who are staying their course and inspiring others to make the choice for themselves too!
I wish you both strength, focus and discipline along your journey
@@gwillis01 thank you!
My previous record was 7 months, (although I hadn't planned to "stop" then, it was just a break.) This time I am planning to stop alcohol, and just finished 4 weeks. The sweet cravings didn't happen for me but, the last time I stopped for 5 weeks was 6 months ago, (edit: I actually wanted to continue that beyond but, didn't and that was a wake up!) I regularly had a couple pieces of dark chocolate/cocoa bar in the evening, when I'd normally have my drink. Loving your channel and your videos. Sharing it often. edit to add: I also started thinking, "I first started drinking 10 years ago, I want to quit." Then at my next birthday I thought, its been a good 10 years I should quit." This year on my birthday I realized, "It has been a legit 10 years since I became a regular drinker, mostly daily drinking...crap, I need to quit!" and shortly after found your channel. Thank you.
I loved every word of your comment response. Thank you for sharing! I'm sure there are many others that relate to YOUR experience as do I. Please don't be a stranger!
Congratulations Jae on your 8 months. 💪 Day 87 for me. Hope everyone is well and will catch up properly tomorrow ( bedtime in Europe now 💤💤
Nighty Night
Go TJ.... sleep tight..
Today makes 4 months sober. The longest I’ve ever gone without alcohol in my adult life, and I hope to never drink again. I’ve tried many times, but I know now, that I just don’t have the ability to drink casually.
For the most part it’s been great. Not as magical as I had hoped but I DO love that I am truly feeling my feelings now (good and bad). When I am feeling super happy and full of love for my kids and the happy moments with them, I truly feel it all and I know it’s real and not an artificial high… But with that, I am REALLY feeling the lows with nothing to numb the he heartache and sorrows. But at least I now know I can get through those moments without alcohol. It’s a simple, obvious thing, but yeah, sometimes you just have to feel your feelings and they pass. Good and bad.
Good for you working THROUGH those feelings. Think of heartache like this: what if when your heart was broken, you were simply placed in a medically induced coma for a year. you'd snap out of it and be exactly as heartbroken as you were because the pain would still 1 day fresh.
Keep on the journey 🙏🏼 your kids will only be kids for so long, and then it's SO LONG ✌️
I had a TBI in 2015 and didn't drink while I was in hospital/rehab which was probably total 7/8 months. then tried to cover up and escape from the pain and memory of it with alcohol. now I decided that I need to be sober because it's better for me. probably ruined a lot of things but I want to be better.
It will be one month tomorrow for me after many years of drinking.
Great job on 8 months sober!!!! Wooohooo!!! Im 6 months sober, pretty sure this is my longest run being sober and I'm 34.
That's great to hear! Be proud of yourself, most people don't get to 6 months
@@GettingSoberAgain thanks for encouragement. Means a lot.
Hey Jae, congratulations on 8 months sober. I love this one. I definitely could relate to so much of it. I am so proud of you for making 8 months. I think sometimes people might just expect it of you because you run the channel (as I almost did) thinking you are superhuman or somehow immune to temptation. You are such a strong and inspirational human being. I want to thank you for your prayers for me and for the community that you have created and know you are in my prayers daily as well. You have not only been a vital part of my sobriety but also a guiding light in so many parts of my life. I will forever be grateful that the universe brought me to your channel and allowed me to soak up your wisdom. Thanks also for building this community of beautiful people who have also helped me more than they will ever know. You and your community are helping me to stand in my power and stop running away from my responsibilities or more to the point drinking away my responsibilities. Stay beautiful and peace love and unity to you and all.
Just thought I'd share something with you that helped me grasp an even deeper understanding about how addiction can be more than just as it seems. It's Christina Lopes, "How to clear negative energy from your body ". It talks about many things but in a few places it talks specifically about addiction and in other places the knowledge can be applied anyway. I think there are many here that can benefit and maybe even you might get something new from it who knows lol. Say hi to Jade and SamE for me, I miss them.
Congratulations, Jae! I agree that "results may vary" but in my case, it's just having to commit to quitting. No , it's not easy but envisioning what you want to be is. Create that mental image, write it down, and read it every day. Especially when you feel like drinking or using. Much love, everyone. In 30+ years of drinking my record is about 120 days. Before that about a year ago, I had been a daily drinker for most of those years. Currently, I'm 78 days sober...again.
I'm always happy to hear from you! So close to the illusive 90 days...again :)
@@GettingSoberAgain OMG, you're almost at that one year, mark man. Keep crushing it!
@@gwillis01 Thank you!
Hi Jae!!! Congratulations on 8 months!!! That is awesome!!! You are the inspiration that keeps us all going!!! Umm if I'm honest I haven't been feeling the greatest. I lost my sister to cancer 3 weeks ago and because she lived in Australia I couldn't get to her when she was sick. And I haven't been able to get alcohol off my mind because of the beautiful weather. I think I'm fighting off depression and I'm scrambling to keep myself busy to keep my mind off things. It just is what it is and I'm trying to deal with it the best I can. I don't think I would still be sober if I didn't have this channel to communicate with you all. Main thing is to stay focused and stay sober. Peace, and love to everyone.
I certainly feel the sentiment of struggling to stay sober during the warm party months.
I'm really sorry you lost someone so close to you. I'll never know what it's like to lose a sibling but it sounds like it's more than anyone would want to handle.
You are an inspiration, know this.
The thoughts that sustain my sobriety include thinking about how deeply disappointed I would be the next day after giving up all this momentum. Though there will always be the devil on my shoulder that says "is sobriety making you feel better than a quick dopamine release of alcohol", I know that this more measured pace of life, focus and productivity are beyond all of the collective celebrations of nothingness that alcohol had consistently been.
You are practicing grief without alcohol. It may be new, awkward and painful, but it's a medal of honor bestowed upon those earned.
💪🏽🤎🤎🙏🏽
@@GettingSoberAgain words from the wise. ;) thank you so much Jae. 🤗
Hey Chuck
My prayers are with you during your difficult times. May God watch over you and give you the positive energy you need to keep making good choices.
@@GettingSoberAgain I know I'll make it OK. Especially with my friends here.
@@Craig-kh7dd thanks Craig!!! Your thoughts are much appreciated 🙏
@Jae Congratulations on your 8! I thank the universe every day that you "miraculously" popped up on my screen a few months back at exactly the right time. You dug me right out of a pit I couldve easily gone down...again.
Thank you.😇🕊
Im at day 17 right now, feels great! The mental improvements and increased energy have been amazing! I find i have way more clarity of thought, i can articulate myself more effectively, and my memory is improving. Nothing but pros. I feel more capable as a father and partner, and im actually able to do my hobbies again with the evening freetime thats opened up. I have more energy, less anxiety and time to spare now that I'm not drinking. I stumbled into not drinking, ive known for a long time it would help improve my life, i didn't take the plunge until 17 days ago. Between the stop drinking app, a close sober friend who has been great to talk to and these youtube videos on sobriety, i feel i have all the support i need to lean on and utilize to sustain motivation and drive whenever times get tough.
Finally at day 9 ! Been watching your videos all year. Thanks a lot. Drinking is a lie.
All year?!?! 💪🏽👍🏽🙏🏽🤞🏽🤎 I'm glad to hear you're building up positive momentum. I don't get to hear as many success stories as I like. I hope you will become one of them :)
Congrats Buddy! I have just recently decided to get sober. I am currently 17 days sober. Your videos have helped tremendously and for that, I thank you :)
WOAAAAAH ok! Let's go 17 days!!! WOOOOO. How many videos have you watched?
Are you Subscribed? or are you Subscribed AND Joined??
@@GettingSoberAgain Thanks man! I am subscribed. I've watched about 10 videos so far. I love watching the benefit videos the most!
90 days man. Wanted to check back in. Thanks again !
I’m three weeks sober this time around. I often stop alcohol for a month here and there. This time is a lot easier because I’ve retired from my day job. Much less stress!
I imagine this helps tremendously! What was your profession?
I believe the ups and downs of sobriety are the deep rooted trauma in all our cells that are finally so greatful to be recognized and finally teleased.Not stuffed back down into our traumatized bodies.If we sit with our pain and listen to what our bodies are telling us we can heal.
I believe you're right 👍🏼
Hey me and you got sober same time. Eight months is monumental. I personally replaced alcohol for medical Marijuana and it changed my life
California sober works for some! So long as it's not continuing to keep life out of balance, I wish you luck 💪🏽
"Lets go out for a drink." Ugh. I hate that one. Been having to just switch it to coffee. A certain type of man will reeeallly lose interest at that point. Lol. But that's for the best. Catastrophes avoided.
During my days in the darkness, I would have likely slithered back into the shadows myself 😂😂
Finally someone I can listen to (and motivate me) that is real and does not use religion as a cure all.
Realness is our religion! Thanks for stopping by. You should have come to our Livestream! We were just live for 2.5 hours :)
Set your notifications to "all" so you know when to come hang next time
I stayed sober for nearly 3 months in late 2016/early 2017.
Only 5 days sober, but these videos and the I Am Sober app community are helping me make this time matter more. I'm nearly 31 and been "trying" to quit since 24. It's time.
Well if you manage to get it done at this age, you'll be a whole DECADE ahead of me!!! I SUPPORT THISSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hahah, I like this line of thinking. Happy Friday, Jay, and happy Day 6 to ME :) (first day 6 in...years)@@GettingSoberAgain
Good work Jae. I'm 3 months in. Have tried several times over the last 3 years with my greatest streak around 10 months I think. Each time I try again it seems easier and somehow I seem stronger each time. This time I feel it is easier to avoid some of the cravings and I think I have come to terms with the issue that got me last time which was the need to go out and drink with my friends on special occasions. I have a friend who doesn't drink who is helping me this time and that really helps.
That's great new! My friend Sam has been sober with me the last 3+ months and my mom too! It really does help :)
I can completely agree with you on this, not talking responsibilities and have to practice. It's a concerted effort and mindfulness.
I like this guy. I’m in week two of sobriety and no cravings to drink. I’ve been invited to parties but not interested, and I’m good with relaxing and focusing on goals. Feels good to wake up with money in my pocket and a clear head
I like you too 😀 keep up the good work and keep us updated while you're at it 🙏🏼
Hi Jae, new Australian subscriber here. I’m a bit of a different case I think, I’ve never been a daily drinker, I don’t drink at all during the working week, but I’ve recently come to realise how dependent I’ve become on drinking on the weekends to relax and enjoy myself.
A little while back I had to go 14 days without alcohol for a small medical procedure, and it surprised me how stressed and frustrated that prospect made me. It Also surprised me how I good I felt and how it cleared my head up after doing it, even though I’m only a weekend drinker. More energy, better mood, more productive, even found my vocabulary becoming more agile.
I went back to my Friday and Saturday night bottle of wine thereafter of course, but I’ve recently found myself becoming frustrated and tired of how fatigued and lifeless its making me feel, sapping me of energy and enthusiasm, holding back my health and fitness goals, and interfering with my sleep (I have sleep issues even sans alcohol) so that I always end up starting my week tired....to the point where last weekend, I decided not to drink....just because. Not sure why it came up - I don’t recall googling anything on the topic - but your ‘20 benefits from going 30 days sober’ video popped up in my feed. I watched on a whim, and I found it enthralling.
This weekend I’m doing the same again. It’s a bit tough, but I’m happy that I’m doing it. Tonight, while making a nice dinner for my wife and I - an activity that would usually include a couple of ritual glasses of wine - I played your ‘25 benefits about going 90 days sober’ video. I really like you that you don’t talk in buzzwords or ‘systems’ or ‘x simple steps to quit drinking’, and that you just share honest reflections, which I think are really helpful.
I don’t aim to completely eliminate alcohol from my life (yet?), I still plan to enjoy a nice glass of wine on occasion, but I definitely want to eliminate it as an essential part of my weekly routine, which it has become.
Thanks very much for the inspiration, look forward to more videos, and good luck to all who are following along.
Cheers, Warren.
@@gwillis01 thank you very much!
Thank you for your comments on a few of my videos! I am happy that you are taking the steps to living your best life and finding a better balance! I wish you luck, and please feel free to come hang with us on Friday and Sunday 7pm Eastern time (which i think is 9am Saturday where you are).
@@GettingSoberAgain thanks Jae! I’ll see how early I’m up! I think it’s great you take the time to respond to so many comments, mustn’t be easy. You’re obviously very passionate about what you’re doing here. Keep up the great work!
The mind is a powerful thing...
Heaven and Hell both have a P.O. Box in your brain
Congrats to all on this journey!!! 👏
Thanks for the inspiring videos. I’ve done many 30 day cleanses over the past few years but never had intentions on quitting for good. After watching several of your videos I’ve decided to make a real commitment to quit this time. On day 2 now and feeling great. I honestly don’t even miss it so far. Looking forward to a much brighter and clearer future. Thank you again.
I'm very happy to be of service to your journey. We all need a little encouragement from time to time and I felt the way you feel. I will be happy to hear of your progress as the days weeks and months continue on!
@@GettingSoberAgain I will definitely keep you updated.
13 days! Feel amazing 👏
2 weeks today!!!
Is it only me, who leaves out alcohol when getting sick? I mean, with cough, stuffed nose and fever it's just hard to make it through the day, can't even think of a can of beer, glass of wine… maybe it's just my particular case since liquor and vodka haven't ever been my thing, as they're considered to be kind of warming (always sounded like a wife's tale to me tbh).
At this point your multiple attempts to get sober sound really familiar to me, it took me three years to veer off my binge drinking path. First time in 2020 after my mom had passed away I didn't feel like drinking at all for a month or two maybe (I was afraid of drinking to enhance my grief). Then a year later I got really sick with fever so I just couldn't think of a can of refreshing IPA. Relapsed four months later… In the beginning of 2023 got sick again for the entire three weeks, hadn't had a drink for a month after. And another flu/cold episode happened in Oct last year and I'm sober for almost five months now, don't even see myself going back to drinking neither at home nor when going out. Had bad dreams about relapsing though, like I would have a drink in a company realizing "oh crap, what have I done!? I've promised myself not to…"😅
Edit: and yeah, I'm so grateful that I've come across your channel and this community a couple of months ago. The videos have some kind of therapeutic effect.
You know what you're doing wrong, and you know from our videos what to do right 🫡
Do right by yourself and let's put a nice streak together 😎
Here's the playlist to our most recent episodes!
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Congratulations Jae!!!! You’re a real inspiration bro!!
There you go being nice again :) I love it!
Just stumbled across your videos, Jae. Awesome advice. I am just starting my journey and have already fell multiple times. Congrats on your sobriety. I too will make it there one day!
Awesome! Thank you! make sure to watch episode 103 and 87 if you're just starting out :) message me often
Practice makes perfect. You can do it!👍💪
Sitting with your own emotions and experiencing possible discomfort, is a skill that you have to cultivate.
What makes you uncomfortable about time with yourself?
@@GettingSoberAgain well nothing really these days, but for most of us, it can be difficult to be alone with ones emotions without distractions, especially if you are hard on yourself.
Congratulations! Moving forward..
10 months yesterday!
Everything you've said is so real, honest, true and eloquent.
I really appreciate you!
REAL is the best deal! No more time for smoke and mirrors. Thank you or being so kind!
90 days sober the most I've ever done since I was 14 all thanks to you I love watching all your videos to keep me motivated
What a great day!!! 90 days is a life changing streak! KEEP THE STREAK ALIVE!
@@GettingSoberAgain allways I'll never go back to how I was I can't thank you enough
Watching this on Saturday night!
How was your weekend?
@@GettingSoberAgain Good bro! Was a serious challenge but I got through it and now pumping through the work week :D
I am proud of you!!!!!!!
You ARE Ms.Awesome
You should be proud of yourself Jae and you're a breath of fresh air I love your honesty and explanations thankyou so much God bless you man 🙏
😇🙏🏽😭🙏🏽😇
These are very helpful and realistic. I love the insights. Thanks
I'm glad you like this older video we put out back in the day! This was probably mid 2021
Click here to watch our NEWEST videos on sobriety!
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What a great channel, thanks for making them and helping people along the way, you have a great way of getting through to people without sounding to preachy.
You make perfect sense on all your comments.
Dang Shane! You really know how to recharge my batteries. Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to leave a wonderful comment! Come hang out for our Livestreams on Friday and Sunday at 7-9pm Eastern and say hello 😎
Congratulations 🎉8 months is huge!
thank you! I'm currently 28 months 😎😎😎
12 days in! I think that's the longest I've gone in 21 years. I started four years ago with naltrexone, which got me off the few drinks at lunch/half a fifth at night wagon, but on 11/22 I was finally ready to be done with it all together. I can't say I physically feel better yet, and my depression hasn't improved much, but I'm proud of myself and that is a great motivator.
That's incredible to hear!!! We have so many people just like yourself that have finally built up some really great momentum! Keep it up and keep us in the loop
@@GettingSoberAgain Thank you so much! :)
5 weeks now, the only difficulty is I am realizing all of my friends are drunks and I no longer enjoy their company.
You are definitely not alone in feeling that way. Most of us who didn't diversify our friend groups are experiencing the same thing. It's weird talking to people who still drink and party and their memories are shot to hell. Not remembering conversations...
I was pretty stubborn about thinking I could have just 1. Every time, I was wrong. 1 would turn into a 12pk or more. As you have said Jae, practice makes progress & progress over perfection. I wish you all a successful sober journey 🤙🏻
That's a great quote 😁😁😁 Thanks for practicing positivity today 🤗
Congrats Jae! I’m now 3 months sober and already feeling better… Great community 😃 keep it up man❤️
You should sign up for your FREE sobriety shout out on our new website so we can celebrate your 90 days sober! www.gettingsoberagain.com
Really love you Jae! We thank you so much for all you share.
You are changing lives for people suffering addiction of their own or of a loved ones.
Awwww you're the best thank you!! I love my work and I hope it shows!
Speaking of which, I left you a comment on your channel 😉
I had a streak of 30 days and slipped up for 4 days. Thank you for creating these videos Jae. 30****, gotta get back on the horse. Drinking just isn’t fun for me anymore and I’m tired of making an ass of myself in the same repetitive cycle for 20 years.
well let me ask you a question: are you capable of forgiving yourself? are you capable of being kind to yourself? are you capable of moving forward with integrity?
If you answered yes to all three of these questions, please proceed with kicking butt in sobriety!
@@GettingSoberAgain My goal is to not drink today
My record is what I’m living right now. 91 days! Going to get a coin tomorrow. I drank everyday, killed part of my liver by 25.
Look at you now! 👀 #glowup
Thank you
=) what's the latest with you Eddie?
I've been binge drinking for about 5 years now. I justified myself by saying I only do it at night and I've never been in trouble for it. Though I haven't been in trouble for it with the Law, my relationship does suffer for it. I have been blessed with a very patient man who doesn't berate me though it's probably what I deserve. I used to drink at least half a large bottle of vodka every night when I was at my worst. For me it is hard to stop once I get started, most nights I don't remember what I've done and I fall asleep in my computer chair. The thing is I'm one of those people that doesn't get hangovers either. I don't experience headaches, I usually feel fine the next day. However if I drank maybe a whole large bottle of vodka I may feel nauseous the next day until I eat something. More recently feeling nauseous has been happening more frequently though I have cut down quite a bit in the last year. Which tells me my body isn't processing the alcohol like it used to.
I used to be 160 lbs and now after 5 years I weigh 250, at my highest I was 267, but I cut back so I believe I lost 17lbs from cutting back. I have changed so much. For the first 26 years of my life I never drank and never felt the need to. But then my sister began to drink and I went through some hard years and I began to drink every single night. The thought of not having alcohol filled me with such dread I went to great lengths to be sure I had it. I'm so sick of it though. I don't care for myself like I need to, I don't care for my animals like I need to. I decided yesterday, after waking up for the third day in a row feeling like trash, that I wanted to quit. So I began googling why binge drinking is bad and what i was doing to myself. I realized how much I have given up by drinking like I was. I don't read anymore, I don't have any hobbies anymore, I feel so worthless. All these years I've made so many excuses by lying to myself how bad the drinking has been. I look back on my family history and see how many people were alcoholics and died from liver failure. Both sets of grandparents were alcoholics, and 2 of them died from it. Two great aunts died from it. Many more aunts and uncles addicted. My parents had the strength to say no to alcohol, so I want to emanate them.
This is my second day, I can already tell I'm feeling better, though I am extremely tired. I'm going to do the 30 day challenge. Thank you for your encouraging videos!
Thank you for being here with us! It takes a lot of bravery to put yourself out there but remember that sharing your story gives you relief and gives another person the bravery to face their own truth
7 days sober today, longest time I've been sober in prolly 8 or 9 years.
YESSS!!! BIG FLEX TIME!!! What brought you to these 7 days? and... if you went back to drinking, how many more years would it be before you got another 7 days (if you think you could even get back to 7 days that is...)
2 weeks in and feeling great!!
let's keep it up Jodie!!
Great accomplishment Jae👍👍👍 I am at day 17 and the rest of my life yet to go. ......😉 my biggest struggle is getting over my fiancé, I love her so much and THAT s what is a struggle....but I’m getting there😉👍
Regardless of your relationship past present or future, does the person who will love you want the drunk and desperate version of you or the version of you who has a grasp on their mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health? Who does your inner child want to live with? Keep up the good work
Preach! I think this was my favorite video to date. I know it's a little older. I'm over 9 months now 😊
Hey alright!!! I always try to make the videos timeless, so I'm glad you enjoyed!
Day 35 sober.
Big flex! You're doing the damn thing 😉
@@GettingSoberAgain Thank you.
Amazing how parallel we two are .. my self destructive obsession was slightly different than yours but… I bet a lot of people have “been there, Done that “
When we lower our vibration, we tend to resonate in a similar fashion 😎
I love your black and white videos
🥰🥰🥰
Sometimes I like to train myself to enjoy boredom. It can be kind of interesting. But if I reach for a drink, or the distraction of the doomscroll, then I never get to the point where boredom becomes interesting. You'd be surprised what you can find when you let yourself experience true boredom.
#DOOMscroll
22:00 same. I was never addicted to alcohol, so gross. But I was addicted to escaping and having “fun”. Eventually it became habitual which was the hardest thing to break. Drinking was just something we did everywhere we went and for any reason. And now I’m free!…Lord willing 🙏🏼 😊
You're freeeeeeeee!!! When you gonna upload more cat videos?
The most I've ever managed is 90 days but I'm ready to go again now ...Day 2...
Did you watch episode 103 on preparing for sobriety?
Day 198 sober for me. Really stoked to be sober.
Way more energy! Major sweet craving: Found Yasso Frozen Yogurt to satisfy. Continuing to take Naltrexone anti-craving med made for alcohol and opiods... working for me: By the grace of God, this really works! Side effect is insomnia to some degree... worth the trade off to me.
With extra energy I am working out everyday and counting calories... lost 7 pounds in 6 weeks so far. Adding muscle and 86'ing belly fat. Yay!
I attend AA every morning. This is a help for me.
Thanks for your channel Jae! Also super helpful to compare notes on your journey and what to look forward to.😊
ooOOoooOh I'm not familiar with Yasso, I'll have to check it out!
to help with the sleep, I sometimes take Diphenhydramine, which is also sold as the name brand Benadryl.
sometimes I only take a half pill, sometimes no pill, sometimes a whole pill. just depends on how badly I need sleep.
I guess part of it is that I'm just kind excited to be alive so its hard to want to shut off lol
@GettingSoberAgain Thanks for the tip! That sounds like it may do the trick!
I hear ya! So cool to be back participating in life instead of getting hammered and hungover and repeating.
@@derekhath380 no problem. It's pretty cheap. You can get the generic CVS or Walgreens brand. Something like 100 tablets for like $5
It's just an antihistamine, so it kind of serves a dual purpose anyway if you happen to have allergies 👍🏼
Real talk I like the way you express yourself and the journey.
The 12 steps didn't work for meetings didn't work for me
Either.
The black & white color works for me .
It keeps you focused
On the messages keep it black and white.
It's like watching the twilight zone it looses its penang
I listened to other but for me you're spot on
I'm glad my style vibes well for you! It's a honor to be of service to you while our paths experience this temporary convergence
Today is the day I've left a bad relationship new yob need a new outlook on life an ur rite bro the money you chase is now in ur pocket yesterday was yesterday bad or good alcohol was her catalyst an it always will be, not bashing.Its kinda an illness sort of speak ill ur money's gone right!!
The longest I’ve been sober was eight months.
Back to two days
Todays my first day not drinking. I believe its the root of my depression. I dont even drink socially anymore just alone or 1 person
For many of us, we have basically swept depression under the rug after quitting alcohol!
We have over 150 videos and livestreams now and an awesome community in the comment section. All the videos are made to be timeless, so please go back and check out some of the others and leave comments for either me, or any of the other members in the comment section!
Episode 103 will be a helpful next step for you "Preparing for Sobriety" th-cam.com/video/3QUxIW8X5bA/w-d-xo.html
@@GettingSoberAgain thank you. I'll watch for sure.
@@johnsheetz6639 DID YOU WATCH YET? lol jk
Take your time.
Goodnight
My record is 35 days so far. I relapsed around 36 day after 2 weeks of binge drinking i stopped and went sober again. Im on my 14th day tomorrow.
44 days woohoo feels longer like 44 months......but then i go somewhere id not been to since getting sober and it feels like 44 minutes since being there last.....time is a funny thing...
You said it Jo!
Jerry Seinfeld has a great bit about "Night Guy vs. Day Guy" that is worth checking out. There's a stand up clip from his sitcom and also an interview on Leno; both on TH-cam
SPOILER: Night guy ALWAYS screws over day guy
lolllll here it is! th-cam.com/video/W-Cz-LK16g4/w-d-xo.html
As a daily rum drinker, I'm now 2 days into sobriety. Not far but it's further than I expected it to be this time last week. 😂
hallelujah!
Practice!!!!BAM!!!
BOOM!