Love that…”it doesn’t give any man the right to take advantage of a woman if she doesn’t know her dignity and doesn’t act in a way that bespeaks the dignity she does have. It’s a manly thing to treat a woman who has forgotten her dignity with dignity nonetheless.”
It is also presumptious and arrogant for a man to assume that he has the right to judge the dignity of another human being solely based on his own ideals. Live and let live means nothing to you, does it?
Just a fashion history side note 😅 the victorian's and ankles thing isn't true. In fact, anyone under the upper upper class would have always had their shoes and ankles showing. Their hems needed to be several inches above the ground to avoid excess wear and dirt, bc they were working/moving all day. Only the upper class could just sit still or walk super slow in indoor environs all day long. Loved your commentary here.
@@claymcdermott718 to be fair the Victorian's are why we call the "dark ages" the dark ages, even though it was extremely advanced and was the time period of amazing growth in philosophy and science. 😅 Each time period has to find another one to 💩 on.
@@RelaxAndMeditateChannel you misunderstood me. it was not commonly thought of as "dark" and backwards and dirty and stupid until the Victorians. The victorians had an ax to grind with the middle ages, mainly bc they wanted to embrace the Enlightenment ideals over those of the middle ages. This propaganda of the "Enlightenment" vs the "stupid backwards and dirty Dark Ages" was also tied to protestantism and their dislike of middle ages Catholic thought.
My husband finally was able to quit porn after 20 years of watching it. I am so proud of him. (I have full access to everything of his now, even incognito) Also, forgiveness after porn is possible. I love him with all my heart, and I have forgiven him. With Jesus, everything is possible.
My wife and I also have full access to each other's devices, and both of us can see what the internet was used for through our modem/router. We did it for our kids safety, but it definitely has worked for us too. We both always shared anyways so we figured why not.
@@bekadid we use covenant eyes. It takes screen shots every few seconds that searches for inappropriate activity in the screenshot. Totally worth the money. And HE is the one that downloaded and paid for it.
It is because of conversation deep dives like this, that I *never* miss a Daily Wire Backstage. The same kinds of discussions are had on Tim Pool’s show. I enjoyed the commentary, Matt!
What Matt described towards the end when he said while having great moments but feeling sad at the same time is the meaning of the part in the prayer that says " After This Our Exile". That feeling will always be there in us while we are here on earth because we are only "Sojourner's" in this world.
I agree with the statement with instagram posts towards the beginning of the video. It is so much easier to avoid the temptation of porn and masturbation after I deleted instagram
Watching pornography is seeing women as subjects, objects and animals. I hate how the porn discussion is so often about how it affects a man and maybe his wife, when the people in porn matter and God commanded us to selflessly love them. Not watch them demeaned and dehumanized and derive pleasure from it.
The primary evil in porn is to the user, as with prostitution. Of course prostitutes (I shall use the term for both.) also suffer as any sinner does but she nonetheless leads the, usually men, into the sin. As always we should seek their redemption and offer forgiveness.
20:09 - 20:56 I've experienced similar feelings everytime I hear my 2yo daughter laughing or whenever she pauses whatever she's doing, runs towards me, hugs me and says: "Dad, I love you" and goes back to play.
Hi Matt, as I watched this live I was wanting to get your comment on it so I’m very glad you’ve done this video. There is a bit more there where a couple of the hosts actually get into disagreement about how a wife should address the issue of a husband looking at porn. I’d love to hear your comments on that bit as well. The whole segment started with a viewer question asking for resources for porn recovery and I was jumping out of my seat hoping they would recommend Covenant Eyes and your channel. Unfortunately they did not, but I think it would be nice for DW viewers to know about those resources especially with this discussion still fresh on people’s minds.
Another interesting aspect of the later conversation was how the room seemed to be split with the Catholics saying wives should expect their husbands to remain chaste where everyone else downplayed the severity of pornography. It really highlighted the difference in theologies where Catholics believe holiness is expected (and necessary for salvation), but Protestants don't think holiness can be expected of the average man. And as a result, they all provided a subtle defense of pornography, on the basis of its prevalence and ease of access. Really goes to show that, while our judgement won't include a theology exam, our beliefs influence how we approach sin and our willingness to participate in it.
@@BrewMeister27 good observation! I agree. Also if you notice in particular Matt Walsh he will not speak about other women dirty. Like terms as ‘she’s hot’ or the jokes they made ‘let me rewind that sexscene’. It shows great character and respect to his wife. My husband is the same way and honestly when they say men will look at other women and we shouldn’t make a big deal about it, I don’t agree. My husband has no wandering eyes or even has the desire to do so. He’s committed to me and will always act proper out of respect for me wether I’m with him or not. Men absolutely can be good upstanding moral people and I think it’s more harmful to say ‘those poor men can’t control themselves’. Like Matt Frad said. A manly man will not allow degeneracy because a real masculine man understands and upholds strong morality!
I've heard the brother's keeper theory. I disagree. I don't think a woman should dress for the purpose of being provacative and expect respect, but lustful men are lustful regardless of what a woman does or doesn't wear, and he needs to rule his own body. It's this brother's keeper theory that has women wearing impracticle, hot, uncomfortable clothing in various groups. And because the groups that wear them originate from lustful men's doctrine of women being their brother's keeper, it's those very groups that have multiple wives, underage wives, adulterers, fornicators, and men that molest underage girls. Being their brother's keeper doesn't prevent these men's lustful behavior, including scrutinizing and fantasizing about women, it only oppresses the women.
Hi Matt great for your second channel. Thank you for anything you do. The debate about porn actually happened after this introduction into this topic. It was in the comments section. You only can see it if you are a daily wire member. I’ve seen this and agreed with Matt Walsh and Candace instead of Ben’s view. It was a fairly long discussion. If you have the time and the option to view the actual discussion than it would be great if you could stream it. Greetings from Germany
You give such great wisdom, Matt. I love it and the books you’ve written. I am curious, you’ve mentioned at once that the stuff in your backdrop is related to the message of your channel, but I’m having trouble figuring out how some of them are connected. Saitama, Princess Zelda, Raiden and Sub-zero. Unfortunately i can’t really tell the titles of the books. You should go through some of your items in the shelf and explain how it’s connected to your message. Love your vids, God bless!
T/Y Matt-I’m finding freedom from the bondage of sexual impurity (porn/masterbation) over the course of the past 8 months through a combination of CE, Strive21, becoming Catholic, joining a weekly virtual Sampson Society group, reading, ‘Surfing for God’ (two evangelical pastor friends of mine suggested & TONS of prayer & encouragement like Victory! No porn since early March & 5 weeks since no masterbation. Again Thank You!
Like many other comments said.....there was quite a bit more to the DW discussion about pornography that went on after you left off. And Candace and the two Catholics seemed to agree against some of what the others were saying. It was very interesting to watch. Love to hear your take on the rest of it.
It infuriates me that they are still talking about pornography as solely being for men. I have a testimony of freedom from pornography and this conversation, whilst helpful and I agree with many points, is SO isolating for the women that I now work with who are seeking out help but constantly come across stuff like this. I think it also shows a REAL unawareness of pornography which has gone beyond just naked women creating content for men... Incest and teen pornography are gaining popularity.
You are not alone, I know women who have struggled with pornography as well. It always infuriated me when in his sermon a man who say, “those men who struggle with porn, and the women who struggle with shopping”. I’ve heard that way too many times. It needs to be clear that porn is a temptation for everybody, not only men.
@@SJFoss Yes, I am now a recovery coach for women with Naked Truth Project and work with women who are fighting the battle against pornography and every one of them feels intensified shame because of the way it is/isn't spoken about as female issue!
@@bethany3914 I understand what you are saying but I'm sure the vast majority of cases are men. also, you can always ask to go on podcasts yourself and speak about these issues and push the narrative into a fairer light. complaining about a thing won't fix it, be more proactive. (I'm not throwing shade at you)
The effects of actions online are as palpable as those in the real world. It isn’t the medium, it’s the human in the equation that’s the highest value.
Thanks Matt. My struggle as a Protestant is that there isn't like "official teaching of the Protestant Church" about these issues, so when temptation hits, it's too easy to just go with the liberal view for a few minutes and think "I can't know for sure if it's wrong anyway". Trying to research Catholicism, at least you know what you believe about these things.
hey fellow Protestant. I actually think the Catholic view on this is what you're looking for. I don't think this is the best place to look, as I can almost always find something seriously wrong in what Matt says - like the quip about modesty in this video, implying that women are leading men into sin if the men decide to *abuse them* by using them for lust. Anyways, you want Theology of the Body Institute and the Ask Dr. Christopher West podcast. That's where you'll find all the answers and more importantly, all the reasons why.
@@josephbrandenburg4373 Women can lead men into sin through their clothing choices and the rest. That is Catholic doctrine. That does not mean the man should do so but does not excuse the woman. It is called scandal.
@@johnnotrealname8168 that doesn't square with what I've learned. I don't agree that it's "doctrine" in the same way the cathechism is. That's the view of some people, but I think JP2 would not have agreed with that (because it's an absolutely appalling thing to suggest)
@@josephbrandenburg4373 You must have gone to a strange school then. John Paul II definitely would agree since it is protecting the woman's body, it is not appalling what? There is a sin of scandal and immodesty as well as a sin in objectification. Both are evil.
@@johnnotrealname8168 I didn't go to Catholic school, I'm not Catholic. But you should look at what ToB has to say about this, it's not as black and white as you make it. Edit: as for why it's an appalling thing to suggest: saying that a woman is leading a man to sin because he can see her body (and imposing on her an obligation to cover it) is ultimately placing the blame on the body for being good. There are contexts in which it's fair to criticize people for how they dress, but it's never fair to say that she is to blame for other people's sin. Remember, God made the body. So blaming the body is blaming God. What God made is good. Perhaps the woman us guilty of mistreating the good thing in how she portrays it, but she's not responsible for how anyone else treats it. How could she be?
Thank you for the ingenuity to create this source to directly combat the damage being caused by pornography. Also, for speaking reason and understanding into the topic. Bringing free will back into a human being’s life is holy work.
Glad to see your clear charity towards our sisters at the 8:40ish mark. Our societies are generally broken, women, girls, and yes men and boys too, cannot dress in a way that will solve this issue, the Taliban in Afghanistan have shown it is not a complete answer even when backed by extreme violence. It's a bigger problem, hardened hearts objectifying men and women.
I hate cigar smoke i feel so bad for Ben Shapiro ugh.. Candace Owens. She spoke in a video alluding to the theory that Andrew Tate is not guilty all bc women decided....to sell their bodies. It's sick, shaming and degrading. With a little bit of research....she could see that those women were coerced. Andrew Tate even boasted about how they never were allowed out. The women weren't even involved in porn before. So let's not give Andrew Tate the benefit of the doubt when in multiple interviews he's admitted to what he's done..so why blame the woman? Why? She has such a huge platform. Yet she chose to victim shame and blame just because they made the poor decision to trust Andrew Tate..
I LOVE THIS!!! I’d like to offer my two cents as well…We live in a world that is highly pornographic and emotionally driven…and when I say “pornographic” let me explain. “Pornography”, to me, is EXACTLY what we promote, NOT sex. “Sex”, in its fullness, is always inclusive of the biological principle because it’s through that that sex is figured out and defined. Without the biological principle we are simply left with emotions, sensations, intimacy, affection, intercourse, body parts, and a generation of people having great sex (hopefully, lol) but with no fruit to bear (children). THIS, at the core, is what porn is. Porn takes elements of sex, enhances them for pleasure’s sake with no focus on the reproductive function even though the reproductive function is ALWAYS at the core (& climax) of the whole activity. This is pretty much what drugs are. Hard drugs/controlled substances are usually made by removing the healthy content originally attached to it and enhancing the part(s) of it that simply make people feel good. THAT is what we’ve done to sex.
I find it ironic people ask all these questions, meanwhile mother church and her heads (popes) have always taught this stuff and given the best answers. Like hello, ring a ding ding, the answers have always been in front of you!
In every way, pretty much!!! Candance is pretty much only concerned with policing women, she doesn’t believe in men following any rules whatsoever lol.
That wasn’t the part Matt. In the members block they had a deep conversation about this and that’s the part that got people talking. Hope you will review that for a bit
I saw a video awhile ago about the increase in corsetry among modern women had to do with the fact that, historically, the garment was what was on display rather than the body underneath.
I’m the type of person who stops watching porn and solved it by actually doing something about it. Most times many people watch porn because they crave sex and if that’s the case then instant cure have sex it worked for me (no promises it will work), sure I still have some kinks but I haven’t watch porn since. The only criticism I will give porn for teens and adults is it creates a unrealistic expectation of sex. I had it and it wasn’t as good as I hoped but I still enjoyed it so to all the young adults if you struggle with porn in your 20s maybe it’s time to have sex and get rid of some of those unrealistic expectations because when you have sex and realise you’re over blowing how good it is you will stop because you don’t want to be disappointed in sex.
Wow I'm impressed! Good points! It's so hopeful that there are people like you talking about these things and call out our society's degrading habits and mentality.
Sexual immorality is ALWAYS Immoral. And like other addictions, salvation and sanctification are key to overcoming sexual addiction. As for the point of mutual responsibility, the speaker in this video articulates it well. It is hard for me to respect someone who doesn't show themselves respect. If you're letting it all hang out, what is left for the imagination? Nothing. Likewise, our sexuality is a gift for our spouse. If we unwrap the gift, what is there left to explore?
My theory about this is that we need to distinguish between the issue of modesty for women and the issue of lust for men, they’re very closely related but addressing them as the same problem seems to be a logistical mistake.
100% agree……. One is a distinctively serious sin, the other one concerns the dignity of the human body and I would argue really isn’t that serious of sin. The human body is beautiful after all and we should not be told we are “causing” another to sin. That takes autonomy away from the actual sinner.
Perhaps nude paintings require another category. There is a distinction between porn and erotica and it depends on the nature of the image and its intended end
Also the message that girls should give their bodies in order to be loved needs to be combatted. The amount of times in movies, where the says, ‘well if you really love me you would…[send certain pics]’ is crazy!
@@josephbrandenburg4373 I don’t recommend this movie, but ‘Get revenge’ (the scenario I was referring to) also in the ‘one day at a time 1975’ had a similar scenario for the daughter but her boyfriend was asking for sex. It happens a lot in media and in general.
@@idongesitx1873 followup Q: are the men who ask this portrayed as heroic characters or as villains? I think it's really manipulative for people to say "if you really loved me you'd do..." so it would be odd to me that anyone could portray it positively.
@@josephbrandenburg4373 the guys were portrayed as good guys/nice nerdy guys (initially in ‘Get Revenge’ he was a philanthropist nice guys) The guy gave off the feeling, ‘I’ve done so much/we’ve dated so long and I’ve never asked for anything/I’m won’t see you for the entire summer, the least you can do…’, leaving the girl feeling pressured and battling with the idea until she gives in. Sometimes in other shows and media they make this a ‘happy ending’ even though there is definitely corecion. Young love doesn’t need to be that way
Good video. Incidentally, it would be helpful if you had a way to increase the size of your face camera when commentating on the video. The current setup is very difficult to watch on a phone.
15:10 I think you missed a key part of what Shapiro was saying. A "nude woman." A woman posing nude. A woman posing nude will be instinctively objectified by every man, even if he can almost instantly change course. Although I know that you know he was being a little hyperbolic and you don't really disagree
We may be momentarily titillated by an attractive nude form, woman or man, all of us, however it does not take away the responsibility of the viewer. There are many examples of nudity in real life that shouldn’t be shocking or offensive because the human body ISNT shocking or offensive. That’s puritanism sneaking in
It's a sad fact that we now live in an attention economy. If you're not getting attention, your economics suffer, or so it seems. This may explain why people feel the need to step it up and show a little more, be a little sassier and so forth. Maybe it's the economics of some modern females who wants to live that Sex in the City lifestyle?
Hey Matt, there was a part of their conversation where they talked about men and women looking at porn. Ben kept insisting that an overwhelming majority of people who watch porn are men. I have seen a statistic that says something along the lines of for people over the age of 30 the breakdown is around 90% men and 10% women while people under 30 it is more 60% and 40%. Do you know where this data comes from? I would like to find the actual source!
It's a good thing that I'm 65 and too old to have to tell my kids "absolutely no" you can't go sleep over your friend's for the weekend. Only because I already have knowledge that the kids 99.9% of the time will lie to their parents about what the curriculum is going to be at the sleep over.
We all know that robbing a bank is wrong. However, hacking into someone's bank account and transferring the virtual money . . . still wrong, right? We know that, yet somehow we disconnect that knowledge when it comes to porn.
First of all, I totally agree with you on everything in this video. What I need help understanding, is why is it so universally alluring for a woman to wear revealing clothes and so universally idiotic/laughable/ cringy when a man does it?
It isn't universal, that's why. In ancient Greece it was pretty much the opposite. Ancient Rome saw the male nude as befitting depictions of great heroes or deities. Both societies treated the female nude with a greater degree of prudery (or modesty if you prefer). It wasn't until the innovative portrayal of Aphrodite attempting to cover herself at her bath that the female nude entered Greek art, and from there it slowly gained wider acceptance - but women were never depicted nude without some kind of "excuse" like a scene in a myth, or a goddess, or something similar. Well, some of the explicit Roman "art" found in Pompeii showed prostitutes doing their work - interestingly, though, even prostitution, in Roman art, was often depicted with the breasts covered. Men, on the other hand, were a suitable subject for art without any kind of excuse, the "Kourous" was an extremely important aspect of ancient Greek art. They didn't really survive into the Roman period, though. Throughout the Renaissance, the widespread rediscovery of ancient Greek and Roman art led to an explosion in artistic interest, once again, in the male nude. The female form wasn't really regarded until later, after the Baroque period had ended (during the time of impressionists and realists, academic artists, and the like, from arounf 1800 onwards). As far as fashion is concerned, there have been plenty of times in history where men were expected to wear whatever was suitable for their work, often removing clothing that got in the way. Women, in Western societies, were often expected to cover up much more than the men. Outside of Europe, though, I don't think the idea holds up at all. There are tribes all over the world where neither sex wears much, or where only the men go about naked and the women wear skirts. Many pre-modern societies associate nudity more with childhood than with sex, because they let their children run around naked until puberty. The Japanese were perfectly comfortably watching Sumo Wrestling, but almost all of their art depicts women wearing kimonos or similar. Depictions of male nudity are really more common in art before the last century. Modern Japanese art, obviously, has followed the same trend as the West. There's really no point to any of this, I just wanted to make the fact that I spent 5 years on a BFA seem worthwhile somehow... 😭
Men showing their body is not laughed at all, maybe in American Simpsons television where everyone laughs at the fat guy? But the truth is everyone admires a beautiful and sculpted man, think of the “David” in Italy one of the most beautiful sculptures of all time. If you were to go to Venice beach on a hot summer day and look at all those sculpted men working out… as a woman, trust me, you’d have a hard time not looking. So women struggle with this too but ofcourse I try my best. I love other people and I love the human body. I don’t actually mean to lust, I am just simply obsessed with beauty. I try my best though.
this is the problem with social media; it easily shines a light on the bottom of our society. An intellectually feeble group of cultural warriors like this one would be mocked and swept away and never heeded; the system innately filtered out the ignorant and morally inferior; so you gather here.
This entire conversation needs to be aimed at men too, you’re entirely focusing on women as if they are the only ones creating lust in others eyes (which is a false dichotomy btw). But I would argue there are tons of “thirst traps” posted by men too on instagram where I’m like woah.. I gotta chill lol. There are men who post alluring things too. In general I’m usually pretty good at not dehumanizing a person, but to act like women are not tempted by lust constantly would be a flat out lie.
You may not want to live in some society because of it being too modest and strict in it sensibilities and attitudes, but sometimes those are necessary to keep evils in check. Would you rather live like a Victorian-era individual but with the majority of our scientific and technological advancements or in a world like ours that is becoming more and more openly depraved, while such depravity is often praised by society? You may not like a woman's ankle being viewed as scandalous, but isn't that the lesser evil that might give society a chance? In fact, I think--while it may contribute to increased suicide rates--Japan's culture of shame seems likely to make up a good share of the things keeping crime rates low, generally speaking.
“He was despised and rejected- a man of sorrows, acquainted with deepest grief. We turned our backs on him and looked the other way. He was despised, and we did not care. Yet it was our weaknesses he carried; it was our sorrows that weighed him down. And we thought his troubles were a punishment from God, a punishment for his own sins! But he was pierced for our rebellion, crushed for our sins. He was beaten so we could be whole. He was whipped so we could be healed. All of us, like sheep, have strayed away. We have left God’s paths to follow our own. Yet the Lord laid on him the sins of us all. He was oppressed and treated harshly, yet he never said a word. He was led like a lamb to the slaughter. And as a sheep is silent before the shearers, he did not open his mouth. Unjustly condemned, he was led away. No one cared that he died without descendants, that his life was cut short in midstream. But he was struck down for the rebellion of my people. He had done no wrong and had never deceived anyone. But he was buried like a criminal; he was put in a rich man’s grave. But it was the Lord’s good plan to crush him and cause him grief. Yet when his life is made an offering for sin, he will have many descendants. He will enjoy a long life, and the Lord’s good plan will prosper in his hands. When he sees all that is accomplished by his anguish, he will be satisfied. And because of his experience, my righteous servant will make it possible for many to be counted righteous, for he will bear all their sins. I will give him the honors of a victorious soldier, because he exposed himself to death. He was counted among the rebels. He bore the sins of many and interceded for rebels.” Isaiah 53:3-12 NLT This was written around 700 years before Jesus came into the earth, yet it describes His life perfectly. "For God so loved the world, that He gave His only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life." John 3:16 God loves you so much and showed that by sending His Son to die for us so that we may inherit eternal life. We deserve hell but He gave us heaven through faith in Jesus. He took the punishment we deserved and by putting our faith in Him we can be saved. The Key To Eternal Life: th-cam.com/video/uZdv-TtiMkg/w-d-xo.html For evidence for Christianity and answered questions, check out th-cam.com/users/drcraigvideos and th-cam.com/users/CrossExamined because if Jesus really rose from the dead it is the most important fact ever!
I'm interested in Catholicism, but I don't think I'd be accepted. I was still married when I got involved with my second husband over 20 years ago, so I'm an adulterer. It's weird because both my ex husband and I are friends and he found a wonderful wife and we're both very happy and content in our marriages, but I still feel bad that it happened that way.
Talk to a Catholic priest. We’re all sinners but God is merciful and he loves us. We just need to repent. Trust in God. The Catholic Church will welcome you with open arms
Your sins can be forgiven. Meaning that you can repent. You can’t go back in time and change things. You can move forward and be better. Everyone is welcome! Go to your local Catholic Church and ask for RCIA information to join.
This is a vastly inadequate definition of pornography, and one instance where it could well be in the eye of the beholder. As a heterosexual man, I can certainly appreciate the beauty of Michaelangelo's David, though I imagine this sculpture would have a different effect on me if I were gay. Secondly, I'm not sure you're using the terms "hardcore" and "softcore" as they're generally understood. I was under the impression that softcore porn implied nudity with no explicit sex, and could also include the kinds of simulated sex scenes you might see in a mainstream movie. Whereas hardcore porn depicts actual unsimulated sexual activity. To my knowledge, the definition of these terms hasn't changed.
They didn’t actually condemn or mention the men who watch the porn, all they did is talk about the people who make it. Anyway women don’t make it in a vacuum, there is always men in porn too or behind the scenes. So maybe daily wire should condemn the actual users of it next time instead of just the producers of an extremely profitable item. I’m not condoning porn, but I am saying that there is a HUGE market for it. These people are providing a service. Do I think it should be illegal? Yes. But still, there are millions of clients. Maybe try telling these addicts why it is bad for them and the victims in porn, too, daily wire.
8:29 this is also a twisted argument. God is the one who made her body - and he didn't make the clothes. Is God leading anyone into sin by making her that way? There are a number of arguments for "modest" clothing (in the sense you imply) -- but it should never place the burden of men's sin on the woman's shoulders. That does nothing but heap shame onto her because of something she should never be responsible for. 15:48 you're getting it closer to right here... although I think it's rather an affront on her dignity to suggest that there is never a context in which people can expect others to treat their bodies with dignity. You won't accuse a woman of being immodest in a gynecologist's office- fair enough- but you're missing something really important that these women are saying when they "don't understand their dignity" - the way _she_ sees it is that the people who objectify her are the ones who don't understand her dignity, and that she shouldn't have to be afraid of people doing that to her. What's so wrong about wanting to live in a world where you're as safe everywhere as you are in a doctor's office? There's definitely a lot of people who take advantage, or lie. There's people who just want to sensationalize and people who only want to feel the cheap thrill of exhibitionism. There's still others who are just trying to gain money and fame. But underneath it all, there's a really important desire that these people have that is being stifled by all the fakers, the liars, the perverts and the prudes. Women want to live in a world where they don't have to feel like sex objects all the time.
As a fellow art lover I agree. I simply love beauty and I love the human body and I could never see it as wrong. However unfortunately some people are pervs so sometimes I feel like I have to be careful who I show my body to. I dress modestly, but I’ll wear a bikini at the beach. Sometimes I feel a little odd but I figure I’m at the beach.. it’s an odd game, I would definitely like to say that if someone is lustful, it is their own fault. There is nothing wrong with human beings wearing bathing suits at the beach because there is nothing inherently evil or corrupt about our bodies. Only goodness 😊 I think you and I might have an idealistic way of viewing human nature, but I don’t want to speak for you
1. Dressing immodesty is best defined as dressing in a way to intentionally invoke lust in others. 2. God does 3. Men should dress modestly also. However, modesty is a core feminine virtue, but not a core masculine virtue. All should dress modestly, but it is more integral for feminity to be modest
@@Kenfren 1. What do you mean by "dressing in a way to intentionally invoke lust in others"? Candace wearing a skirt that shows her ankles can be seen as "invoking lust in others" depending on where you. (In Saudi Arabia for example,) And walking around naked in the Nyae Nyae tribe (Namibia) is consider "normal" since it does not "invoking lust in others" in their community. 2. Where did God define dressing immodestly? If you do have a passage, I would very much like to see it. 3. Men can also be feminine. Femininity is not a trait that is exclusive to women.
@@LilithinMerria 1. Yes, modesty does depend on culture and environment. In a hotter environment, wearing less isn't going to be immodest. Regarding her skirt, if you think that's immodest because you can see her ankles the sin is entirely on you. 2. Dressing immodestly is a sin, therefore God will ultimately judge you for it. More so, God, through the Catholic church, sets the guidelines and guidance on it 3. By definition, men cannot be feminine. Because feminity is a trait exclusive to females, in the same way masculinity is exclusive to males. It's definitionally impossible for a man to be feminine, and vice versa. Now, a man can be more or less feminine, but it's only relative to other men. Further, being effeminate is a sin
@@Kenfren 1. In that case, if you too see a woman wearing a short that shows the bottom of her buttocks as immodest, then the sin is on you. 2. What you provided and what we've agreed on is that the concept of dressing immodestly, from the viewpoint of human beings, differ depending on the culture one is in. You still haven't provided me a passage that shows God defining that concept. 3. That's simply not true. Femininity is not a trait exclusive to females/women. It is just primarily (in our society) associated with women/females, but not exclusively. Just like estrogen is associated to women/females, even though men have it as well.
@@LilithinMerria before I answer your questions, I must ask two of my own, for clarity. The first is if you are a feminist. The second is if you watched Matt's video in fullness
like this commentary video. Though that is the oddest table scape ever lmao What looks like jelly beans, popcorn, brandy, wine, possible scotch. Looks so dorky and out of place.
Great video.. now let’s talk about online dating….. cuz it’s the gateway drug to porn..I do not care HOW many people found someone… it’s not real and just as backwards… and this is coming from a non Christian…..
I didn't really disagree with him on this point because he was trying to define what is and isn't art (because he seems to think that art and porn are mutually exclusive categories, which I think is possibly true - it's at least a useful distinction). But his definition is wanting, in that a lot of serious art that is intended to be art would probably be considered pornographic to him (for example, any art-nude photographer). It's also lacking because there's no way to judge the intention of the work by looking at it. In reality, the judgement consists of _projecting_ your suspicion onto the artist or photographer and then making a judgement based on that. The same is true of all the "she doesn't respect herself" stuff. Matt is projecting his opinion of her self-presentation onto her and then judging her for his _own_ prudery or lust (whichever of the two is being provoked). I think he either needs a definition that can define pornography based on the content of the image, in a definite and exact way (like the Miller Test); or he needs to provide some sort of standard for discerning the motives of the producer. In reality, I think he draws the line at the intentions of both the producer _and_ the viewer, but he doesn't say this. But when you include the intentions of the viewer, you can't blame women anymore for being "immodest", and you have to take a lot more responsibility for _how you look at people_, rather than focusing exclusively on _what_ you look at. It's probably not right to quote out-of-context like this, but I really think it applies here: "To the pure, all things are pure; but to the defiled and unbelieving, nothing is pure. Indeed, both their minds and their consciences are defiled." (Titus 1:15, BSB). My opinion is that pornography isn't a thing, it's an action. Sometimes it's a cooperative action between a pornographer and viewer. Sometimes the viewer is the only one _doing_ the pornography when he treats a woman as porn by, say, implying that she doesn't respect herself when she dresses in a way that makes _him_ feel justified in reacting lustfully. Sometimes it's only the pornographer, as when someone stumbles across a site that shows niche stuff that normal people are disgusted by (but the people who made them had pornographic intentions). And this is why a SEARS catalog can be a porno mag in the hands of a teenage boy, and in his sister's hands it's just an advertisement for much-needed underwear. I think this definition is far better because it respects the dignity of the person more, by placing most of the responsibility on the individual, rather than allowing any room for blaming others, or blaming one's circumstances. It's not a system of rules but a call to a higher degree of individual virtue. It can be combined with avoidance, but it never allows you to fall into the trap of thinking avoidance is _enough_ because it isn't. After all, if we take things too literally, then we can't use Matt. 5:28 as an argument against porn- because a woman is not a picture of a woman. But if we look closer and read it again "whoever looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart" -- and then again at Matt. 15:16-20 (I will only quote v.19) " For out of the heart come evil thoughts, ... adultery, sexual immorality..." So avoidance isn't enough. Jesus wants our hearts to be filled with good treasure (Mt. 12:35), he's not only interested in outward obedience. There's an entire chapter in Matthew dedicated to lambasting the Pharisees for that.
That’s puritanical reasoning which isn’t really reasoning at all, it’s pure fear. I bet your American aren’t you? I am American too but I’m from New Orleans and we enjoy art and beauty here
What's with the trend of male pundits, including Matt Frad and Matt Walsh, who feel it's appropriate to the message to arrogantly smoke cigars (on air), desire to drink alcohol and peddle it online, while wearing jeans and shiny boots? This just doesn't jive with my ideal of faithful virtue. I love them battling chaos and evil with academic philosophy and passion, but stop bleeding your personal corruption into the public square. It's unattractive and duplicitous to the goal of leading souls to heaven and inspiring Saints. If you need cigars and booze ON AIR, you don't really care about spreading virtue or being taken as authentic disciples of conservative virtue. It's selfish and distasteful. Satisfying your sinful desire while judging (harshly) carnal desire is hypocritical and lacking humility. Candace is the only person I care to listen to on that panel. And, why not do a split screen instead of making us watch the tiny PIP frame for the majority of your content? 🤔😠
She’s a hypocrite so she believes this is all other girls, she isn’t capable of any sin or “leading any man to sin” or whatever. She really considers herself a non-human in a way 🤪 better than a human I’d say
Also I find Candace always focuses on womens behaviour. She doesn’t acknowledge how broken down women are, they never are offered love. Men are taking sex and if a woman doesn’t titillate him he doesn’t give her the time of day. As someone livin you’re I’ll tell you you don’t have men getting to know you or helping you. It’s very devastating to be alone day after day and in our culture men are so commonly monsters to women and consumers of women. It’s exceedingly rare to be treated with any gentleness. I think Candace also should recognize how many of these women are in their twenties and are manipulated by media and celebrities. Like if you want to be harder on people then when someone’s in their thirties then maybe. But girls who are 18 to like 28 give it a rest Candace. Focus on the mens behaviour who are the predators and hold them accountable. The fact that women are blamed for male depravity is why men take zero accountability to be good men.
I think you're just a man-hater. You now your own life has not reflected this feminist myth of the "male monster". I hate how so many of these anti-porn conversations just turn into hatred of men instead of offering support. Candace is a far better woman than you. You sound like a toxic woman with a Phd in victimhood.
I do agree that men need to step up but you just said that women shouldn’t be accountable for their actions because of men. It seems like women nowadays never take any accountability for their actions. For example even if a woman aborts her child she’ll end up as the “victim” despite being a literal murderer. I think both men and women nowadays have their fair share of being beaten down but we always seem to point towards the opposite sex when it comes to shaping up. We should be in it together at the end of the day we’re the same species
@@patricklewis9787 its what women do. Always deflect. Always pass blame. Always complain. The simple truth is bro, is that women are just not reliable of forthright.
@@kristincusick1342 Oh I think the man who impregnated the woman is just as responsible, but it doesn't make the woman any less. Even in circumstances when a man doesn't want an abortion and the woman does it's his fault for letting his urges get the better him.
@@kristincusick1342 The man had the choice to abstain. He is not powerless and deserves the shame and torment of being responsible for an abortion for the rest of his life he cannot control himself like that
Love that…”it doesn’t give any man the right to take advantage of a woman if she doesn’t know her dignity and doesn’t act in a way that bespeaks the dignity she does have. It’s a manly thing to treat a woman who has forgotten her dignity with dignity nonetheless.”
Yes
It is also presumptious and arrogant for a man to assume that he has the right to judge the dignity of another human being solely based on his own ideals.
Live and let live means nothing to you, does it?
dignity, Ha! Ha!
Yes. And this is where the red pill fails when they say "enjoy the decline boys"
Matt please get Michael Knowles on Pints with Aquinas!
Yes i Love Michael
Just a fashion history side note 😅 the victorian's and ankles thing isn't true. In fact, anyone under the upper upper class would have always had their shoes and ankles showing. Their hems needed to be several inches above the ground to avoid excess wear and dirt, bc they were working/moving all day. Only the upper class could just sit still or walk super slow in indoor environs all day long.
Loved your commentary here.
I always wondered about that! Thanks for this info on this common (unintentional) lie!
thank you. people have so many false impressions about the Victorians. the reasons why i think say more about us
@@claymcdermott718 to be fair the Victorian's are why we call the "dark ages" the dark ages, even though it was extremely advanced and was the time period of amazing growth in philosophy and science. 😅 Each time period has to find another one to 💩 on.
@@Mrs_Homemaker The dark ages was well before the victorian times. it was between the Romans leaving Britain and some of the medieval period.
@@RelaxAndMeditateChannel you misunderstood me. it was not commonly thought of as "dark" and backwards and dirty and stupid until the Victorians. The victorians had an ax to grind with the middle ages, mainly bc they wanted to embrace the Enlightenment ideals over those of the middle ages. This propaganda of the "Enlightenment" vs the "stupid backwards and dirty Dark Ages" was also tied to protestantism and their dislike of middle ages Catholic thought.
My husband finally was able to quit porn after 20 years of watching it. I am so proud of him. (I have full access to everything of his now, even incognito)
Also, forgiveness after porn is possible. I love him with all my heart, and I have forgiven him. With Jesus, everything is possible.
My wife and I also have full access to each other's devices, and both of us can see what the internet was used for through our modem/router. We did it for our kids safety, but it definitely has worked for us too. We both always shared anyways so we figured why not.
@@bekadid we use covenant eyes. It takes screen shots every few seconds that searches for inappropriate activity in the screenshot. Totally worth the money. And HE is the one that downloaded and paid for it.
It is because of conversation deep dives like this, that I *never* miss a Daily Wire Backstage. The same kinds of discussions are had on Tim Pool’s show. I enjoyed the commentary, Matt!
thats gay bro.
What Matt described towards the end when he said while having great moments but feeling sad at the same time is the meaning of the part in the prayer that says " After This Our Exile". That feeling will always be there in us while we are here on earth because we are only "Sojourner's" in this world.
“ She has come to the conclusion that her body is good. She is Sacred “
That is SO true ...well, unless she's fat.😂
You need Candice Owens on your show ❤
Candice Owen’s should be a stay at home mother, why can’t her husband do what she does
what she does is … being Candace Owens
so might be kinda hard? 🤷♀️
@@jakeTommy2346
Bruh
She’s wonderful
@@theangrydome but women with children shouldn’t work outside the home
I agree with the statement with instagram posts towards the beginning of the video. It is so much easier to avoid the temptation of porn and masturbation after I deleted instagram
I deleted instagram too and I am a girl. It made me feel so bad about myself
Exodus 90 has worked for me (for all of my material vices, frankly). I pray for you all, Brothers in Exodus.
Watching pornography is seeing women as subjects, objects and animals. I hate how the porn discussion is so often about how it affects a man and maybe his wife, when the people in porn matter and God commanded us to selflessly love them. Not watch them demeaned and dehumanized and derive pleasure from it.
The primary evil in porn is to the user, as with prostitution. Of course prostitutes (I shall use the term for both.) also suffer as any sinner does but she nonetheless leads the, usually men, into the sin. As always we should seek their redemption and offer forgiveness.
So true. God bless.
I agree!!! The focus really needs to be on the user. We are the ones who need to STOP.
20:09 - 20:56
I've experienced similar feelings everytime I hear my 2yo daughter laughing or whenever she pauses whatever she's doing, runs towards me, hugs me and says: "Dad, I love you" and goes back to play.
Hi Matt, as I watched this live I was wanting to get your comment on it so I’m very glad you’ve done this video.
There is a bit more there where a couple of the hosts actually get into disagreement about how a wife should address the issue of a husband looking at porn. I’d love to hear your comments on that bit as well.
The whole segment started with a viewer question asking for resources for porn recovery and I was jumping out of my seat hoping they would recommend Covenant Eyes and your channel. Unfortunately they did not, but I think it would be nice for DW viewers to know about those resources especially with this discussion still fresh on people’s minds.
Another interesting aspect of the later conversation was how the room seemed to be split with the Catholics saying wives should expect their husbands to remain chaste where everyone else downplayed the severity of pornography. It really highlighted the difference in theologies where Catholics believe holiness is expected (and necessary for salvation), but Protestants don't think holiness can be expected of the average man. And as a result, they all provided a subtle defense of pornography, on the basis of its prevalence and ease of access. Really goes to show that, while our judgement won't include a theology exam, our beliefs influence how we approach sin and our willingness to participate in it.
@@BrewMeister27 I observed this as well, though I’m not Catholic.
@@BrewMeister27 good observation! I agree. Also if you notice in particular Matt Walsh he will not speak about other women dirty. Like terms as ‘she’s hot’ or the jokes they made ‘let me rewind that sexscene’. It shows great character and respect to his wife.
My husband is the same way and honestly when they say men will look at other women and we shouldn’t make a big deal about it, I don’t agree. My husband has no wandering eyes or even has the desire to do so. He’s committed to me and will always act proper out of respect for me wether I’m with him or not. Men absolutely can be good upstanding moral people and I think it’s more harmful to say ‘those poor men can’t control themselves’. Like Matt Frad said. A manly man will not allow degeneracy because a real masculine man understands and upholds strong morality!
I've heard the brother's keeper theory. I disagree. I don't think a woman should dress for the purpose of being provacative and expect respect, but lustful men are lustful regardless of what a woman does or doesn't wear, and he needs to rule his own body. It's this brother's keeper theory that has women wearing impracticle, hot, uncomfortable clothing in various groups. And because the groups that wear them originate from lustful men's doctrine of women being their brother's keeper, it's those very groups that have multiple wives, underage wives, adulterers, fornicators, and men that molest underage girls. Being their brother's keeper doesn't prevent these men's lustful behavior, including scrutinizing and fantasizing about women, it only oppresses the women.
Hi Matt great for your second channel. Thank you for anything you do.
The debate about porn actually happened after this introduction into this topic. It was in the comments section. You only can see it if you are a daily wire member. I’ve seen this and agreed with Matt Walsh and Candace instead of Ben’s view.
It was a fairly long discussion. If you have the time and the option to view the actual discussion than it would be great if you could stream it.
Greetings from Germany
What date was this show? I am a DW member. Thanks.
1:18:45 in the most recent Backstage
@@jordant5968 Thanks very much.
They talked even more in depth on this issue in the members block. I would love to see you comment on that.
You give such great wisdom, Matt. I love it and the books you’ve written. I am curious, you’ve mentioned at once that the stuff in your backdrop is related to the message of your channel, but I’m having trouble figuring out how some of them are connected. Saitama, Princess Zelda, Raiden and Sub-zero. Unfortunately i can’t really tell the titles of the books. You should go through some of your items in the shelf and explain how it’s connected to your message. Love your vids, God bless!
I’ve been 6 months free! Thank God
Congratulations Diego!!
No. You have to listen the members block. That's where it got dicey and really needed your commentary
T/Y Matt-I’m finding freedom from the bondage of sexual impurity (porn/masterbation) over the course of the past 8 months through a combination of CE, Strive21, becoming Catholic, joining a weekly virtual Sampson Society group, reading, ‘Surfing for God’ (two evangelical pastor friends of mine suggested & TONS of prayer & encouragement like Victory!
No porn since early March & 5 weeks since no masterbation.
Again Thank You!
Hi Matt, thank you for your work
Like many other comments said.....there was quite a bit more to the DW discussion about pornography that went on after you left off. And Candace and the two Catholics seemed to agree against some of what the others were saying. It was very interesting to watch. Love to hear your take on the rest of it.
Matt we love what you share here. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING AS YOU DO. This channel is so needed today. You have a gift of sharing :).
Brother keeper. I am so glad you are going over. So helpful.
It infuriates me that they are still talking about pornography as solely being for men. I have a testimony of freedom from pornography and this conversation, whilst helpful and I agree with many points, is SO isolating for the women that I now work with who are seeking out help but constantly come across stuff like this. I think it also shows a REAL unawareness of pornography which has gone beyond just naked women creating content for men... Incest and teen pornography are gaining popularity.
Candace actually has a video on her channel where she discusses how porn is being used to normalize incest
You are not alone, I know women who have struggled with pornography as well. It always infuriated me when in his sermon a man who say, “those men who struggle with porn, and the women who struggle with shopping”. I’ve heard that way too many times. It needs to be clear that porn is a temptation for everybody, not only men.
@@SJFoss Yes, I am now a recovery coach for women with Naked Truth Project and work with women who are fighting the battle against pornography and every one of them feels intensified shame because of the way it is/isn't spoken about as female issue!
@@bethany3914 I understand what you are saying but I'm sure the vast majority of cases are men. also, you can always ask to go on podcasts yourself and speak about these issues and push the narrative into a fairer light. complaining about a thing won't fix it, be more proactive. (I'm not throwing shade at you)
Wouldn't that be mansplaining to most women? Jeez, damned if you do, damned if you don't.
The effects of actions online are as palpable as those in the real world. It isn’t the medium, it’s the human in the equation that’s the highest value.
Pornography is a symptom of a greater problem.
I agree!!!! Desire for intimacy and loneliness in our culture! We are so lonely, we want to be touched!
Thanks Matt. My struggle as a Protestant is that there isn't like "official teaching of the Protestant Church" about these issues, so when temptation hits, it's too easy to just go with the liberal view for a few minutes and think "I can't know for sure if it's wrong anyway". Trying to research Catholicism, at least you know what you believe about these things.
hey fellow Protestant. I actually think the Catholic view on this is what you're looking for. I don't think this is the best place to look, as I can almost always find something seriously wrong in what Matt says - like the quip about modesty in this video, implying that women are leading men into sin if the men decide to *abuse them* by using them for lust.
Anyways, you want Theology of the Body Institute and the Ask Dr. Christopher West podcast. That's where you'll find all the answers and more importantly, all the reasons why.
@@josephbrandenburg4373 Women can lead men into sin through their clothing choices and the rest. That is Catholic doctrine. That does not mean the man should do so but does not excuse the woman. It is called scandal.
@@johnnotrealname8168 that doesn't square with what I've learned. I don't agree that it's "doctrine" in the same way the cathechism is. That's the view of some people, but I think JP2 would not have agreed with that (because it's an absolutely appalling thing to suggest)
@@josephbrandenburg4373 You must have gone to a strange school then. John Paul II definitely would agree since it is protecting the woman's body, it is not appalling what? There is a sin of scandal and immodesty as well as a sin in objectification. Both are evil.
@@johnnotrealname8168 I didn't go to Catholic school, I'm not Catholic. But you should look at what ToB has to say about this, it's not as black and white as you make it.
Edit: as for why it's an appalling thing to suggest: saying that a woman is leading a man to sin because he can see her body (and imposing on her an obligation to cover it) is ultimately placing the blame on the body for being good. There are contexts in which it's fair to criticize people for how they dress, but it's never fair to say that she is to blame for other people's sin.
Remember, God made the body. So blaming the body is blaming God. What God made is good. Perhaps the woman us guilty of mistreating the good thing in how she portrays it, but she's not responsible for how anyone else treats it. How could she be?
Pray the Rosary everyday!
You should watch the daily wire exclusive content. They spend the entire 20 minutes dissecting pirnography even more deeply
Thank you for the ingenuity to create this source to directly combat the damage being caused by pornography. Also, for speaking reason and understanding into the topic. Bringing free will back into a human being’s life is holy work.
Glad to see your clear charity towards our sisters at the 8:40ish mark. Our societies are generally broken, women, girls, and yes men and boys too, cannot dress in a way that will solve this issue, the Taliban in Afghanistan have shown it is not a complete answer even when backed by extreme violence. It's a bigger problem, hardened hearts objectifying men and women.
The taliban? What? Those societies generally want women to veil themselves. Although that is based on their cultures.
50 shades of stupid. That should be a t-shirt
Good talk, good vibes, good to see there a people in the world that want real romantic and marital love.
I hate cigar smoke i feel so bad for Ben Shapiro ugh.. Candace Owens. She spoke in a video alluding to the theory that Andrew Tate is not guilty all bc women decided....to sell their bodies. It's sick, shaming and degrading. With a little bit of research....she could see that those women were coerced. Andrew Tate even boasted about how they never were allowed out. The women weren't even involved in porn before. So let's not give Andrew Tate the benefit of the doubt when in multiple interviews he's admitted to what he's done..so why blame the woman? Why? She has such a huge platform. Yet she chose to victim shame and blame just because they made the poor decision to trust Andrew Tate..
She’s a shill
I LOVE THIS!!!
I’d like to offer my two cents as well…We live in a world that is highly pornographic and emotionally driven…and when I say “pornographic” let me explain. “Pornography”, to me, is EXACTLY what we promote, NOT sex. “Sex”, in its fullness, is always inclusive of the biological principle because it’s through that that sex is figured out and defined. Without the biological principle we are simply left with emotions, sensations, intimacy, affection, intercourse, body parts, and a generation of people having great sex (hopefully, lol) but with no fruit to bear (children). THIS, at the core, is what porn is.
Porn takes elements of sex, enhances them for pleasure’s sake with no focus on the reproductive function even though the reproductive function is ALWAYS at the core (& climax) of the whole activity. This is pretty much what drugs are. Hard drugs/controlled substances are usually made by removing the healthy content originally attached to it and enhancing the part(s) of it that simply make people feel good. THAT is what we’ve done to sex.
I find it ironic people ask all these questions, meanwhile mother church and her heads (popes) have always taught this stuff and given the best answers.
Like hello, ring a ding ding, the answers have always been in front of you!
Can we talk about make modesty? Men need to be modest in what they watch and how they behave and in their humbleness.
In every way, pretty much!!! Candance is pretty much only concerned with policing women, she doesn’t believe in men following any rules whatsoever lol.
thank you for choosing to serve humanity in the way you do
That wasn’t the part Matt. In the members block they had a deep conversation about this and that’s the part that got people talking. Hope you will review that for a bit
“We are our brothers keeper.” Wow.
Huh, wonder when Jeremy's Razors will drop their soft porn ad 🤔🤔🤔
I saw a video awhile ago about the increase in corsetry among modern women had to do with the fact that, historically, the garment was what was on display rather than the body underneath.
I’m the type of person who stops watching porn and solved it by actually doing something about it. Most times many people watch porn because they crave sex and if that’s the case then instant cure have sex it worked for me (no promises it will work), sure I still have some kinks but I haven’t watch porn since. The only criticism I will give porn for teens and adults is it creates a unrealistic expectation of sex. I had it and it wasn’t as good as I hoped but I still enjoyed it so to all the young adults if you struggle with porn in your 20s maybe it’s time to have sex and get rid of some of those unrealistic expectations because when you have sex and realise you’re over blowing how good it is you will stop because you don’t want to be disappointed in sex.
Wow I'm impressed! Good points! It's so hopeful that there are people like you talking about these things and call out our society's degrading habits and mentality.
Porn should be banned or at least not as easily accessible.
It should be banned, half of our problems would be solved overnight if we banned it.
Sexual immorality is ALWAYS Immoral.
And like other addictions, salvation and sanctification are key to overcoming sexual addiction.
As for the point of mutual responsibility, the speaker in this video articulates it well. It is hard for me to respect someone who doesn't show themselves respect. If you're letting it all hang out, what is left for the imagination? Nothing.
Likewise, our sexuality is a gift for our spouse. If we unwrap the gift, what is there left to explore?
My theory about this is that we need to distinguish between the issue of modesty for women and the issue of lust for men, they’re very closely related but addressing them as the same problem seems to be a logistical mistake.
100% agree……. One is a distinctively serious sin, the other one concerns the dignity of the human body and I would argue really isn’t that serious of sin. The human body is beautiful after all and we should not be told we are “causing” another to sin. That takes autonomy away from the actual sinner.
Perhaps nude paintings require another category. There is a distinction between porn and erotica and it depends on the nature of the image and its intended end
21:40 - No! No I don't know what happens. Tell me! What happens?
Also the message that girls should give their bodies in order to be loved needs to be combatted. The amount of times in movies, where the says, ‘well if you really love me you would…[send certain pics]’ is crazy!
And the way males have sex is straight up RAPEY
I make it a point to never watch movies, so can you list an example?
@@josephbrandenburg4373 I don’t recommend this movie, but ‘Get revenge’ (the scenario I was referring to) also in the ‘one day at a time 1975’ had a similar scenario for the daughter but her boyfriend was asking for sex. It happens a lot in media and in general.
@@idongesitx1873 followup Q: are the men who ask this portrayed as heroic characters or as villains?
I think it's really manipulative for people to say "if you really loved me you'd do..." so it would be odd to me that anyone could portray it positively.
@@josephbrandenburg4373 the guys were portrayed as good guys/nice nerdy guys (initially in ‘Get Revenge’ he was a philanthropist nice guys) The guy gave off the feeling, ‘I’ve done so much/we’ve dated so long and I’ve never asked for anything/I’m won’t see you for the entire summer, the least you can do…’, leaving the girl feeling pressured and battling with the idea until she gives in. Sometimes in other shows and media they make this a ‘happy ending’ even though there is definitely corecion. Young love doesn’t need to be that way
Good video. Incidentally, it would be helpful if you had a way to increase the size of your face camera when commentating on the video. The current setup is very difficult to watch on a phone.
15:10 I think you missed a key part of what Shapiro was saying. A "nude woman." A woman posing nude. A woman posing nude will be instinctively objectified by every man, even if he can almost instantly change course. Although I know that you know he was being a little hyperbolic and you don't really disagree
We may be momentarily titillated by an attractive nude form, woman or man, all of us, however it does not take away the responsibility of the viewer. There are many examples of nudity in real life that shouldn’t be shocking or offensive because the human body ISNT shocking or offensive. That’s puritanism sneaking in
You should bring Mr Mark Queppet here.
He was very helpful to me
It's a sad fact that we now live in an attention economy. If you're not getting attention, your economics suffer, or so it seems. This may explain why people feel the need to step it up and show a little more, be a little sassier and so forth. Maybe it's the economics of some modern females who wants to live that Sex in the City lifestyle?
our brain doesn’t like the sensory overload.
Hey Matt, there was a part of their conversation where they talked about men and women looking at porn. Ben kept insisting that an overwhelming majority of people who watch porn are men. I have seen a statistic that says something along the lines of for people over the age of 30 the breakdown is around 90% men and 10% women while people under 30 it is more 60% and 40%. Do you know where this data comes from? I would like to find the actual source!
As a woman I agree that women really do hardcore struggle with this
It's a good thing that I'm 65 and too old to have to tell my kids "absolutely no" you can't go sleep over your friend's for the weekend. Only because I already have knowledge that the kids 99.9% of the time will lie to their parents about what the curriculum is going to be at the sleep over.
I went to sleepovers as a kid in the 80s and 90s and even back then nothing good was going on lol
@@shaunsteele8244 That was when nothing good was going on. Now, probably nothing happens.
20:10 loved this
We all know that robbing a bank is wrong. However, hacking into someone's bank account and transferring the virtual money . . . still wrong, right? We know that, yet somehow we disconnect that knowledge when it comes to porn.
Thanks Matt!
First of all, I totally agree with you on everything in this video. What I need help understanding, is why is it so universally alluring for a woman to wear revealing clothes and so universally idiotic/laughable/ cringy when a man does it?
It isn't universal, that's why. In ancient Greece it was pretty much the opposite. Ancient Rome saw the male nude as befitting depictions of great heroes or deities. Both societies treated the female nude with a greater degree of prudery (or modesty if you prefer). It wasn't until the innovative portrayal of Aphrodite attempting to cover herself at her bath that the female nude entered Greek art, and from there it slowly gained wider acceptance - but women were never depicted nude without some kind of "excuse" like a scene in a myth, or a goddess, or something similar. Well, some of the explicit Roman "art" found in Pompeii showed prostitutes doing their work - interestingly, though, even prostitution, in Roman art, was often depicted with the breasts covered. Men, on the other hand, were a suitable subject for art without any kind of excuse, the "Kourous" was an extremely important aspect of ancient Greek art. They didn't really survive into the Roman period, though.
Throughout the Renaissance, the widespread rediscovery of ancient Greek and Roman art led to an explosion in artistic interest, once again, in the male nude. The female form wasn't really regarded until later, after the Baroque period had ended (during the time of impressionists and realists, academic artists, and the like, from arounf 1800 onwards).
As far as fashion is concerned, there have been plenty of times in history where men were expected to wear whatever was suitable for their work, often removing clothing that got in the way. Women, in Western societies, were often expected to cover up much more than the men.
Outside of Europe, though, I don't think the idea holds up at all. There are tribes all over the world where neither sex wears much, or where only the men go about naked and the women wear skirts. Many pre-modern societies associate nudity more with childhood than with sex, because they let their children run around naked until puberty. The Japanese were perfectly comfortably watching Sumo Wrestling, but almost all of their art depicts women wearing kimonos or similar. Depictions of male nudity are really more common in art before the last century. Modern Japanese art, obviously, has followed the same trend as the West.
There's really no point to any of this, I just wanted to make the fact that I spent 5 years on a BFA seem worthwhile somehow... 😭
Men showing their body is not laughed at all, maybe in American Simpsons television where everyone laughs at the fat guy? But the truth is everyone admires a beautiful and sculpted man, think of the “David” in Italy one of the most beautiful sculptures of all time. If you were to go to Venice beach on a hot summer day and look at all those sculpted men working out… as a woman, trust me, you’d have a hard time not looking. So women struggle with this too but ofcourse I try my best. I love other people and I love the human body. I don’t actually mean to lust, I am just simply obsessed with beauty. I try my best though.
this is the problem with social media; it easily shines a light on the bottom of our society. An intellectually feeble group of cultural warriors like this one would be mocked and swept away and never heeded; the system innately filtered out the ignorant and morally inferior; so you gather here.
This entire conversation needs to be aimed at men too, you’re entirely focusing on women as if they are the only ones creating lust in others eyes (which is a false dichotomy btw). But I would argue there are tons of “thirst traps” posted by men too on instagram where I’m like woah.. I gotta chill lol. There are men who post alluring things too. In general I’m usually pretty good at not dehumanizing a person, but to act like women are not tempted by lust constantly would be a flat out lie.
Great takes. Thank you.
In case you didn’t notice, Michael Knowles just decoded the matrix movie for you in about 5 seconds
Which episode on the DW+ app is this I need to see the whole thing
I'm pretty sure it's the latest backstage
You may not want to live in some society because of it being too modest and strict in it sensibilities and attitudes, but sometimes those are necessary to keep evils in check. Would you rather live like a Victorian-era individual but with the majority of our scientific and technological advancements or in a world like ours that is becoming more and more openly depraved, while such depravity is often praised by society? You may not like a woman's ankle being viewed as scandalous, but isn't that the lesser evil that might give society a chance?
In fact, I think--while it may contribute to increased suicide rates--Japan's culture of shame seems likely to make up a good share of the things keeping crime rates low, generally speaking.
Jesus said to lust after a woman in your heart its Adultery.
Facts, this goes for all of us when we watch pornography.
If only you had access to the members' block. That is where the fireworks went off.
“He was despised and rejected- a man of sorrows, acquainted with deepest grief. We turned our backs on him and looked the other way. He was despised, and we did not care. Yet it was our weaknesses he carried; it was our sorrows that weighed him down. And we thought his troubles were a punishment from God, a punishment for his own sins! But he was pierced for our rebellion, crushed for our sins. He was beaten so we could be whole. He was whipped so we could be healed. All of us, like sheep, have strayed away. We have left God’s paths to follow our own. Yet the Lord laid on him the sins of us all. He was oppressed and treated harshly, yet he never said a word. He was led like a lamb to the slaughter. And as a sheep is silent before the shearers, he did not open his mouth. Unjustly condemned, he was led away. No one cared that he died without descendants, that his life was cut short in midstream. But he was struck down for the rebellion of my people. He had done no wrong and had never deceived anyone. But he was buried like a criminal; he was put in a rich man’s grave. But it was the Lord’s good plan to crush him and cause him grief. Yet when his life is made an offering for sin, he will have many descendants. He will enjoy a long life, and the Lord’s good plan will prosper in his hands. When he sees all that is accomplished by his anguish, he will be satisfied. And because of his experience, my righteous servant will make it possible for many to be counted righteous, for he will bear all their sins. I will give him the honors of a victorious soldier, because he exposed himself to death. He was counted among the rebels. He bore the sins of many and interceded for rebels.”
Isaiah 53:3-12 NLT
This was written around 700 years before Jesus came into the earth, yet it describes His life perfectly.
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Liked everything about this video except the cigars.
6:05 micro-brain tier argument. Next thing, it'll be the violent video games that cause all the shootings, right?
I'm interested in Catholicism, but I don't think I'd be accepted. I was still married when I got involved with my second husband over 20 years ago, so I'm an adulterer. It's weird because both my ex husband and I are friends and he found a wonderful wife and we're both very happy and content in our marriages, but I still feel bad that it happened that way.
Talk to a Catholic priest. We’re all sinners but God is merciful and he loves us. We just need to repent. Trust in God. The Catholic Church will welcome you with open arms
Your sins can be forgiven. Meaning that you can repent. You can’t go back in time and change things. You can move forward and be better. Everyone is welcome! Go to your local Catholic Church and ask for RCIA information to join.
You definitely will 100% be accepted and can join.. go talk to your local priest
Do you think murder is intrinsic evil but still watch movies where people get murdered?
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This is a vastly inadequate definition of pornography, and one instance where it could well be in the eye of the beholder. As a heterosexual man, I can certainly appreciate the beauty of Michaelangelo's David, though I imagine this sculpture would have a different effect on me if I were gay.
Secondly, I'm not sure you're using the terms "hardcore" and "softcore" as they're generally understood. I was under the impression that softcore porn implied nudity with no explicit sex, and could also include the kinds of simulated sex scenes you might see in a mainstream movie. Whereas hardcore porn depicts actual unsimulated sexual activity. To my knowledge, the definition of these terms hasn't changed.
"Pornography isn't created for the sake of beauty"?
Only the sith deal in absolutes
That's a great definition of corn bra!!!
They didn’t actually condemn or mention the men who watch the porn, all they did is talk about the people who make it. Anyway women don’t make it in a vacuum, there is always men in porn too or behind the scenes. So maybe daily wire should condemn the actual users of it next time instead of just the producers of an extremely profitable item. I’m not condoning porn, but I am saying that there is a HUGE market for it. These people are providing a service. Do I think it should be illegal? Yes. But still, there are millions of clients. Maybe try telling these addicts why it is bad for them and the victims in porn, too, daily wire.
8:29 this is also a twisted argument. God is the one who made her body - and he didn't make the clothes. Is God leading anyone into sin by making her that way?
There are a number of arguments for "modest" clothing (in the sense you imply) -- but it should never place the burden of men's sin on the woman's shoulders. That does nothing but heap shame onto her because of something she should never be responsible for.
15:48 you're getting it closer to right here... although I think it's rather an affront on her dignity to suggest that there is never a context in which people can expect others to treat their bodies with dignity.
You won't accuse a woman of being immodest in a gynecologist's office- fair enough- but you're missing something really important that these women are saying when they "don't understand their dignity" - the way _she_ sees it is that the people who objectify her are the ones who don't understand her dignity, and that she shouldn't have to be afraid of people doing that to her. What's so wrong about wanting to live in a world where you're as safe everywhere as you are in a doctor's office?
There's definitely a lot of people who take advantage, or lie. There's people who just want to sensationalize and people who only want to feel the cheap thrill of exhibitionism. There's still others who are just trying to gain money and fame. But underneath it all, there's a really important desire that these people have that is being stifled by all the fakers, the liars, the perverts and the prudes. Women want to live in a world where they don't have to feel like sex objects all the time.
As a fellow art lover I agree. I simply love beauty and I love the human body and I could never see it as wrong. However unfortunately some people are pervs so sometimes I feel like I have to be careful who I show my body to. I dress modestly, but I’ll wear a bikini at the beach. Sometimes I feel a little odd but I figure I’m at the beach.. it’s an odd game, I would definitely like to say that if someone is lustful, it is their own fault. There is nothing wrong with human beings wearing bathing suits at the beach because there is nothing inherently evil or corrupt about our bodies. Only goodness 😊 I think you and I might have an idealistic way of viewing human nature, but I don’t want to speak for you
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with this way of viewing the world
My questions are: 1) What is dressing immodestly? 2) Who define dressing immodestly? 3) What about a man dressing immodestly?
1. Dressing immodesty is best defined as dressing in a way to intentionally invoke lust in others.
2. God does
3. Men should dress modestly also. However, modesty is a core feminine virtue, but not a core masculine virtue. All should dress modestly, but it is more integral for feminity to be modest
@@Kenfren 1. What do you mean by "dressing in a way to intentionally invoke lust in others"?
Candace wearing a skirt that shows her ankles can be seen as "invoking lust in others" depending on where you. (In Saudi Arabia for example,)
And walking around naked in the Nyae Nyae tribe (Namibia) is consider "normal" since it does not "invoking lust in others" in their community.
2. Where did God define dressing immodestly? If you do have a passage, I would very much like to see it.
3. Men can also be feminine. Femininity is not a trait that is exclusive to women.
@@LilithinMerria 1. Yes, modesty does depend on culture and environment. In a hotter environment, wearing less isn't going to be immodest. Regarding her skirt, if you think that's immodest because you can see her ankles the sin is entirely on you.
2. Dressing immodestly is a sin, therefore God will ultimately judge you for it. More so, God, through the Catholic church, sets the guidelines and guidance on it
3. By definition, men cannot be feminine. Because feminity is a trait exclusive to females, in the same way masculinity is exclusive to males. It's definitionally impossible for a man to be feminine, and vice versa. Now, a man can be more or less feminine, but it's only relative to other men.
Further, being effeminate is a sin
@@Kenfren 1. In that case, if you too see a woman wearing a short that shows the bottom of her buttocks as immodest, then the sin is on you.
2. What you provided and what we've agreed on is that the concept of dressing immodestly, from the viewpoint of human beings, differ depending on the culture one is in.
You still haven't provided me a passage that shows God defining that concept.
3. That's simply not true. Femininity is not a trait exclusive to females/women. It is just primarily (in our society) associated with women/females, but not exclusively. Just like estrogen is associated to women/females, even though men have it as well.
@@LilithinMerria before I answer your questions, I must ask two of my own, for clarity.
The first is if you are a feminist. The second is if you watched Matt's video in fullness
Yes the virtual world allows you to pretend it isn’t real.
like this commentary video. Though that is the oddest table scape ever lmao What looks like jelly beans, popcorn, brandy, wine, possible scotch. Looks so dorky and out of place.
Ban abortion and pornography
And everyone should wait till serious relationships to have sex. 😳😳😳
Great video.. now let’s talk about online dating….. cuz it’s the gateway drug to porn..I do not care HOW many people found someone… it’s not real and just as backwards… and this is coming from a non Christian…..
Please explain the correlation.
"Art isn't created for the sake of masturbation."
Try telling that to a mainstream pop artist.
I didn't really disagree with him on this point because he was trying to define what is and isn't art (because he seems to think that art and porn are mutually exclusive categories, which I think is possibly true - it's at least a useful distinction). But his definition is wanting, in that a lot of serious art that is intended to be art would probably be considered pornographic to him (for example, any art-nude photographer). It's also lacking because there's no way to judge the intention of the work by looking at it. In reality, the judgement consists of _projecting_ your suspicion onto the artist or photographer and then making a judgement based on that. The same is true of all the "she doesn't respect herself" stuff. Matt is projecting his opinion of her self-presentation onto her and then judging her for his _own_ prudery or lust (whichever of the two is being provoked).
I think he either needs a definition that can define pornography based on the content of the image, in a definite and exact way (like the Miller Test); or he needs to provide some sort of standard for discerning the motives of the producer. In reality, I think he draws the line at the intentions of both the producer _and_ the viewer, but he doesn't say this. But when you include the intentions of the viewer, you can't blame women anymore for being "immodest", and you have to take a lot more responsibility for _how you look at people_, rather than focusing exclusively on _what_ you look at.
It's probably not right to quote out-of-context like this, but I really think it applies here: "To the pure, all things are pure; but to the defiled and unbelieving, nothing is pure. Indeed, both their minds and their consciences are defiled." (Titus 1:15, BSB). My opinion is that pornography isn't a thing, it's an action. Sometimes it's a cooperative action between a pornographer and viewer. Sometimes the viewer is the only one _doing_ the pornography when he treats a woman as porn by, say, implying that she doesn't respect herself when she dresses in a way that makes _him_ feel justified in reacting lustfully. Sometimes it's only the pornographer, as when someone stumbles across a site that shows niche stuff that normal people are disgusted by (but the people who made them had pornographic intentions). And this is why a SEARS catalog can be a porno mag in the hands of a teenage boy, and in his sister's hands it's just an advertisement for much-needed underwear.
I think this definition is far better because it respects the dignity of the person more, by placing most of the responsibility on the individual, rather than allowing any room for blaming others, or blaming one's circumstances. It's not a system of rules but a call to a higher degree of individual virtue. It can be combined with avoidance, but it never allows you to fall into the trap of thinking avoidance is _enough_ because it isn't. After all, if we take things too literally, then we can't use Matt. 5:28 as an argument against porn- because a woman is not a picture of a woman. But if we look closer and read it again "whoever looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart" -- and then again at Matt. 15:16-20 (I will only quote v.19) " For out of the heart come evil thoughts, ... adultery, sexual immorality..." So avoidance isn't enough. Jesus wants our hearts to be filled with good treasure (Mt. 12:35), he's not only interested in outward obedience. There's an entire chapter in Matthew dedicated to lambasting the Pharisees for that.
great video, appreciate you keep up the good work.
Some of this "look at me" Christianity is porn.
Porn is extreemly dangerous! Return to Christ!
I think naked art is also sinful and pornography ….
That’s puritanical reasoning which isn’t really reasoning at all, it’s pure fear. I bet your American aren’t you? I am American too but I’m from New Orleans and we enjoy art and beauty here
@@user-lt1jd1ye3v ok.. ? Sin is sin.
God makes the rules, not me.
13:05
Genuine question: what IS the difference between porn and naked art? What exactly is the purpose of naked art?
JPII's Theology of the Body talks specifically about this- I suggest you start there :)
What's with the trend of male pundits, including Matt Frad and Matt Walsh, who feel it's appropriate to the message to arrogantly smoke cigars (on air), desire to drink alcohol and peddle it online, while wearing jeans and shiny boots? This just doesn't jive with my ideal of faithful virtue. I love them battling chaos and evil with academic philosophy and passion, but stop bleeding your personal corruption into the public square. It's unattractive and duplicitous to the goal of leading souls to heaven and inspiring Saints. If you need cigars and booze ON AIR, you don't really care about spreading virtue or being taken as authentic disciples of conservative virtue. It's selfish and distasteful. Satisfying your sinful desire while judging (harshly) carnal desire is hypocritical and lacking humility. Candace is the only person I care to listen to on that panel. And, why not do a split screen instead of making us watch the tiny PIP frame for the majority of your content? 🤔😠
LMAO.
You know Christ turned water into wine, right?
Alcohol is perfectly fine in moderation.
Alcohol use and tobacco use aren’t inherently sinful. 🤷♂️
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Do you all think Candace is dressed modestly in this talk?
Blessings!
She’s a hypocrite so she believes this is all other girls, she isn’t capable of any sin or “leading any man to sin” or whatever. She really considers herself a non-human in a way 🤪 better than a human I’d say
But i like racist jokes. They're often the funniest. The root of comedy is misery.
Also I find Candace always focuses on womens behaviour. She doesn’t acknowledge how broken down women are, they never are offered love. Men are taking sex and if a woman doesn’t titillate him he doesn’t give her the time of day. As someone livin you’re I’ll tell you you don’t have men getting to know you or helping you. It’s very devastating to be alone day after day and in our culture men are so commonly monsters to women and consumers of women. It’s exceedingly rare to be treated with any gentleness. I think Candace also should recognize how many of these women are in their twenties and are manipulated by media and celebrities. Like if you want to be harder on people then when someone’s in their thirties then maybe. But girls who are 18 to like 28 give it a rest Candace. Focus on the mens behaviour who are the predators and hold them accountable. The fact that women are blamed for male depravity is why men take zero accountability to be good men.
I think you're just a man-hater.
You now your own life has not reflected this feminist myth of the "male monster".
I hate how so many of these anti-porn conversations just turn into hatred of men instead of offering support.
Candace is a far better woman than you. You sound like a toxic woman with a Phd in victimhood.
I do agree that men need to step up but you just said that women shouldn’t be accountable for their actions because of men. It seems like women nowadays never take any accountability for their actions. For example even if a woman aborts her child she’ll end up as the “victim” despite being a literal murderer. I think both men and women nowadays have their fair share of being beaten down but we always seem to point towards the opposite sex when it comes to shaping up. We should be in it together at the end of the day we’re the same species
@@patricklewis9787 its what women do. Always deflect. Always pass blame. Always complain.
The simple truth is bro, is that women are just not reliable of forthright.
@@kristincusick1342 Oh I think the man who impregnated the woman is just as responsible, but it doesn't make the woman any less. Even in circumstances when a man doesn't want an abortion and the woman does it's his fault for letting his urges get the better him.
@@kristincusick1342 The man had the choice to abstain. He is not powerless and deserves the shame and torment of being responsible for an abortion for the rest of his life he cannot control himself like that
Too many interruptions.👎