I didn't grow up in the best home and what was a wake up call for me was getting to spend the night at a friend's house from a different socio-economic background. It helped me realize how messed up my own family was. It motivated me to get out of there and do something with my life. Your environment can really become a prison.
James R I’m sorry you had to grow up like that. Very impressive you pulled yourself out of that too! This show made me really sad, reminded me a lot of some of my friends and their homes while growing up.
I realized families had home cooked meals at tables more than just at Christmas and Thanks Giving. Other families didn't hit nor yell. Their houses were clean. Their clothes were not stained. the language they used was different. They had bedtimes and structure. Even the way they talked to each other was different. Going to my best friend's house was my sanctuary. I want better for myself, and I will never let my future children (hoping) live the life I had.
James R “different socio economic background “ means nothing. There are abusive well off families & wonderful poor families. I grew up poor. But I was well fed, clean, loved & knew it.
Martin’s parents telling him he can’t spend the night with sian anymore after she’s already pregnant is like closing the barn doors after the horses have gotten out
lol Well they're trying to make a difference and change has to start somewhere. Some parents are very lax and uncomfortable discipling their kids maybe they had controlling parents or were abused so they value freedom. Or don't know how to talk to their kids in a way that gives them structure. It's cool these people are able to come in and help because no one is a perfect parent and everyone has issues or weaknesses.
Jengaleb B Maybe but a 14 and 16 year old have no business being allowed to live and sleep together. Both set of parents need to be charged with negligence of a minor.
While I agree that he shouldn't have ever been living there in the first place, absolutley RIDICULOUS that she had a teenaged boy sleeping in her home with her 14 year old daughter. But, she absolutley needs to get that boy out if her house, even if she is already pregnant.
@@amandahugginkiss9065 Exactly. Kudos to the workers who provide concrete steps to help the parents become more functional. I bet the parents often need counceling/medication for depression.Some parents also need classes in child care and disciplining effectively.
Worse. She's babysitting the parents. There need to be serious consequences for all, but the modern ways of the state are to coddle, which just enables more errant behaviour.
I grew up in chaos. A lot of us did. I'm glad to see, given the the chance, support, and knowledge, change happens. It's never too late. Baby steps, and every step takes you closer.
Same for me! Mine and my sisters childhood was very chaotic and we both made better choices for ourselves and now our children are reaping the benefits. It’s never too late if the person is ready for change, my mother had drug issues for over two decades but has been clean for the last 11 years with no relapses.
It is too late if those involved have no desire to change- if giving the children a better life and keeping them in their lives is not more important to the adults involved than the resistance to change. Some adults simply do not have the capacity to care enough to make change happen, or to accept that it needs to. Not every family can be saved. We can all only do our best, even if when exhausting all other options with ample time, the best is to remove the children so that they have the chance of a better life.
Sometimes parenthood can really improve a person's character. I hope for her baby's sake she gave him/her up for adoption; nobody should be a parent at 14.
Being poor is no excuse to live like a dirty pig. And it is free to go to a park a walk making crafts with bits and bobs even just reading a story or watching a family movie together and most community have discounted and or free programs like soccer basketball swimming for low income family's.
True, but struggling every day to feed yourself and your family can soon lead to depression and sometimes housecleaning is the last thing you feel like doing. Please have some compassion and remember to not judge until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes.
@@sharong8511 a self inflicted struggle , 9 BILLION spent on families like this ..ignoring the obvious massively expensive cost of wages for all these so called professionals the AVERAGE benefits income is close to £26k a year more then enough to feed a family on
The teenagers are minors, why are they given so many choices and leniency ? Someone needs to take charge as children should not be put in the position of making adult decisions.
Honestly the only time I see people talking about and agreeing with that is with transgenders lol. Which yeah I agree But teens shouldn’t make choices on their own. They need parents.
@@kjlandon9140 LOL, I was thinking the exact same after reading Jacqueline's comment. Thought it was out of context, but I see, there are more people like me. hahahaha
@@PrincessKurae I believe that teens should be given choices to some degree though like what they wear and what they get to do but yes they do need some ground rules and disipline
NO child is ready for parenting at the age of 14. They are just kids themselves. There is no responsibility there NONE. They do what they want, when they want and were they want. I feel sorry for the unborn baby already. Babies take up ALLOT of your time. I can see grandma taking care of that baby for sure!
crystlfire the mom will not be the grandma she will become the mother for that baby unfortunately. It’s scary how these families live. They take no responsibility at all and don’t know how to parent as the social services are taking on that role.
@@blindsey1043 Would _you_ have been a good parent at 14? Forget about parenting, having a child that young ruins the girl's/mother's life. Abortion is accessible and often the right decision
@@leahtv7778I wanted a baby at 16 but I doubt I would've been a good parent that's so damned if they get pregnant God give people the freedom of choice I save God allow the child to be born it should be put up for adoption but never aborted
There’s a lot of people in this world who should never have kids. I do think these parents probably do love their kids but don’t care to parent them. It’s easier to just give up and leave them to their own devices. The kids know their parents don’t care, that’s why the little boy never woke up his mom when he was sick in his bed during the night. Why is shawns mother letting the boyfriend live at her house? She should have known a pregnancy was inevitable! This is all just so sad.
You are right about everything. I wish more people would recognize it and that it isn't selfish if you choose not to have kids. I have lost count how many times I have been told how selfish I am because I do not want kids. I have also been told repeatedly that I am "incredibly selfish" because I "refuse to give my mother grandchildren". I have known since I was a teen that although I like kids I am not parental material and would not be a good parent. There are many reasons that I wouldn't. This includes lifestyle and financial reasons. I have a lifestyle and finances that would not accommodate a child and I am not willing to change. Knowing this about myself I have always made sure to have safeguards in place to prevent a situation that wouldn't be desirable for either a child or myself. I also knew if safeguards failed and I did end up pregnant I would place the child for adoption. People call me selfish but I always felt that it would be more selfish of me to have kids knowing how I feel. It also amazes me how many people still think that a women's ultimate goal and ambition in life is to get married and have kids and if a woman chooses not to then they will regret it and be miserable later on.
@@jackycook64 one of my daughter´s also says she doesn´t want kids. Nothing wrong with that. People who talk to you like that are selfish themselves... they think they HAVE to pass their precious genes on.. so silly... and I also think there are enough kids out there who have no love and attention and would need to be adopted... So the big mouths could think about that a bit... (lots to wonder about... adopt one AND think about WHY they those kids don´t have a real loving home...) You are definitely not selfish at all.
@@jeannenora6113 Thank you! Your feedback is very much appreciated. It helps too that my mom is supportive of my decision. I cringe when some of these people start giving me reasons why I should have kids because their reasons are the dictionary definition of selfish.
jackycook64 It’s really nobody else’s business whether you choose to have children or not. If you were unable to bear a child for whatever reason or couldn’t carry a child to full term I wonder what they would respond with? I fully support your right to choose your lifestyle! Next time someone asks you why you don’t have children tell them if it was any of their business they’d be the first to know! Quite a few years back there was a newspaper columnist called Ann Landers. She once asked her readers if they could do it again would they still choose to have children. I don’t remember the exact percentage of people who responded NO! but it was a great number, far more than expected. Because it was anonymous to answer I believe it was the truth. Remember: Your Body, Your Choice. 💖
@@sharong8511 Thank you! Your feedback has been very helpful. I know I made the right decision for myself I just wish people would stop with the judgments. I used to read Ann Landers quite a bit. I wish I would have seen and cut out that column you mentioned!
While it may be unrealistic to expect them to change quickly, the children’s lives are passing day by day in critical periods in their childhood are passing and can never be regained.
@MaryJane Blues That's not true for the most part. I know so many single moms/with only part time work who have clean homes ..even TIDY 2x a day. A lot of those same moms also attend college classes.
@MaryJane Blues Handouts? That sounds like something a privileged person would say. Have you ever lived with mental health issues in poverty? The rich get handouts. Poor, sick, abused, and broken families receive barely enough to survive. This only adds to hardship and causes barriers that make it difficult to overcome or break the cycle. These people don't get handouts. They get scraps thrown down to them so that the rich feel better about having 5 cars and living in a house with empty rooms.
Stacey Kersting yes but recognize that these mothers have mental health issues and other concerns as well. It’s not very kind to be so judge mental without realizing that people have very different experiences than you and tidying may not be easily done.
She wasn't scared to go to school, she admitted she thought they wouldn't actually do anything to her. She just doesn't want to go and the mom totally fell for it. 🙄
@@dawnjackson6299 That is incorrect. Age of Majority, which is legally recognized as an adult, is still 18. At 16, a teenager gains many freedoms in which they do not require parental consent (ie. sexual consent with the exception of with those in positions of power, full-time employment, independently habitate, have a bank account), but not all the privileges restricted to 18+ adults (ie. take out a loan, enter legal contracts, vote, get married and drink alcohol without parental consent).
After the meeting with Martin's mother I got the feeling she was relieved he wasn't around for awhile, wreaking havoc somewhere else. Then when SW shows up she makes rules? Little to late he do can't sleepovers.
I feel like this really speaks on how much this epidemic of mental illness has an effect from generation to generation. The messiness, lack of motivation, and drive screams that these families are battling depression.
this episode put me in tears all the way through. I thank all of the social workers involved in trying and being willing to put themselves on the line for these families. Thank you!
These problem families have never been taught self worth. They have never been taught hey deserve a better life. If you are raised like you are worthless and have no one in your life to support you emotionally being told what to do will not work.
Self worth are the perfect words 👍 i grew up with nothing but my mum always had pride within her appearance and made sure the house was clean and the kids were respectful. Though i suffer with depression i always make sure my appearance is on point. Maybe its a cover up to how i feel inside but still self worth plays a huge part.
Sounds to me as well. It’s unfortunate really is. These adults or parents sounds like they’re making excuses of their actions. You always don’t need money to get off that couch and play with your children. Color ,parks, crafts and explore by going for a walk. Anything you can do to clean and stay motivated in playing with your child is very important. Only people on this video that is simply trying to improve is the social workers. Sounds to me that they are the only ones trying to improve the families in the communities. These children are learning to grow up fast and trying to learn to do things on a daily basis by themselves.
Rose lawson some people just don’t want help or simply can’t be helped 🤷🏻♀️ that’s the problem with the “we must help everyone” mentality. Because some people simply don’t want the help. When that is the case the social workers should have the right to just move on. They’re wasting tax money and these workers time that could be used helping people who actually need and want it.
Julie Sprik stop acting like she raised herself! Her mom created the issues, and why that is who truly knows but she is lacking in a major way in her parenting. Children don’t come to this world fully formed emotionally! Emotionally mature people are that due to being raised in a supportive and healthy manner.
Please tell Vicky and Claire that I was very impressed with the way they handled their families. I was in tears the entire time. It was so refreshing to see counselors that actually care about the outcomes. Thank them from the bottom of my heart. I am very grateful that there are people out there like them in the world. THANK YOU!
@@smol3113 You're right, Luki. She said "once a week." (@ around 28:40) I feel sad that all of these lives are so ... _out-of-control._ SMH. Poor kids, poor animals and sad, angry, broken and worn out "parents" who just can't cope. A recipe for an awful life for all.
RunningAmok But what are they worn out from? None of them appear to have a job, so they should have all the time in the world to parent their children.
yeesh, this reminds me a lot of how my step siblings are growing up.. I seriously would NEVER let that kid stay at my house, let alone give him the chance to get my daughter pregnant MULTIPLE times.
That mother should have stepped up and taken her daughter to that doctors appointment. Made sure it happened if she was so concerned about it! Complete fail on her part. That young girl needs a strong woman figure in her life to show her the safe way through things. How to care about herself.
I think it's completely up to the teen. Even if she dragged her to the appointment the doctor won't give anything to her if she says no because birth control is her choice.
laurel jade He is only half the issue, this is years of neglect on the moms part. There will be a next loser bf and friends till she can break the cycle
"Let's get it calmed down." Why is the Social Worker allowing Martin a 16 year - old young man to live in a house where a parent already has social service involvement? Where is his parents? Why hasn't his parents been referred to social services? That Social Worker needs to encourage that mother to have him trespassed from her home. He needs to go home and stay there.
@@tiffahbean I commented before the end. My point was all those kids were truant and that Socoal Worker should have referred that young man's parents for social service assistance instead of allowing him to lay up and make a baby with a teenager. Her talking to his Mother was a day late and a dollar short. Smh
I honestly do wish that more people just openly admitted and accepted the fact that they shouldn't have kids in the first place. So many people have children not because they want them or are prepared for them but because it's the socially acceptable thing to do. Then later on down the line the parents realize that they made a mistake but it's too late, and stuff like this ends up happening. The parents are miserable because they feel exhausted and helpless and just give up. The kids feel miserable because they feel like the parents just don't care, or they feel like a burden because no one wants them. It's really really sad. I'm both grateful for my parents and grateful for the fact that I've decided to never reproduce.
Sian mother failed her so bad, how you gonna allow your 14 years old daughter boyfriend to come in your house and sleep with your daughter that's just crazy
I mean doesn't the boyfriend's parents have any responsibility for what they are doing on Sharon's street and their neighbours? How can everything be put on Sharon?
It is so sad. All the adults need to be taught parenting and life skills. They don't know the very basics. It is wonderful that the social services is so involved and only has 4 families at a time. That is amazing. The boyfriend's family of the 2nd family should also be visited. He should not be sleeping out all the time. He is a minor.
@Bobbie Mead - It does in the U.S. too. Learned helplessness. But children should never suffer. What does the Dole stand for? I know it's government benefits, but why Dole? I watch a lot of English docs & it seems your country is very charitable!! Do people get food stamps too? All the council houses are jacked up. Why?
Because they are very lazy. How hard is it to pick up after yourselves and vacuum the rooms once a week at least. By some ajax or comet and scrub clean the tub, sinks and other areas.
i am happy for the family with the two boys. big improvement and walking to school is awesome. love that. no driving at all. kids have smiles on their faces
the girl should see that her boyfriend is not ready for a parenting role he cant even look at her when she is talking about her future. hes watching cartoons. they both can do well but need to really be shown what is ahead and how to prepare for it. learn respect to parents and each other
People in the comments don't really seem to get it. I'm not trying to excuse the dysfunction, buy y'all are scandalized too easily and its not helpful.
I raised 3 teenage kids (they were each a year apart) as a single mom and yes it's crazy with a lot of kids in the house, each kid with 2 or 3 friends, BUT there were RULES and they either followed them or weren't allowed friends over. I was lucky and we lived in town in a big house with a nice yard for a fire pit and small garden. We didn't have any money even though I worked full time ++, but the girls learned to sew and my son started working at 13 as a dishwasher (he begged me) and we loved shopping at thrift stores togehter. Maybe I was just blessed with amazing kids who are all now amazing independent happy adults, but they all knew about and used birth control! There's a balance between allowing some stuff and not other. It's great the U.K. does this. I hope it works out for all involved.
Great kids don't fall from trees. They come from great parenting. Sadly, even though most people are able to reproduce, not everyone is fit to parent. Kudos to you for giving the world well adjusted members of society
Your 16 year old soon to be BRICK-IN-LAW is holding a lighter and a cigarette in one hand leaning into a television that's inches from his face staring at Sponge Bob Square Pants. Looks like everyone's on board!!!
JFC. That social worker should have taken Sean away a long time ago. Mom: "Let's go to the doctor's so you can't get pregnant" Sean: "No." Mom "Well, Ok then." Sean: *gets pregnant* Sean should have been taken away right then and there when she refused to go to the doctor's and the mother did nothing.
Because depression and poverty. There isn't the money to fix it up, and even if there were, depression prevents it from getting done and often recognizing it as something that needs to be done. Regardless, peeling wallpaper is not an inherent danger to health. Bare floorboards, as long as they are not splintering, aren't as well. There are far more important issues to be dealt with than cosmetics.
I don't understand it either. Some people just honestly don't see keeping a clean house as a priority. But it absolutely is- a dirty home can lead to not only depression, but actual physical health problems.
@@NasikaSakura it doesn't cost much to buy cleaning products and use some elbow grease to clean your hovel. There are tons of ways to clean your house with cheap household items. It's just that no one prioritizes it.
opalfish sparklequasar those numbers are too high especially the Families 120 k times ?? how many children. All I see is a non stop cycle change doesn’t come overnight but we have to start somewhere.
I have 2 daughters 26 and 20...their Daddy looks and the young men coming around trying to talk and visit to not even think about his daughter anymore. My girls have been explained that there is absolutely a time and place for everything...live your life the fullest,go conquer the world 💜 be beautiful,walk in beauty
Always sad to see how these families have multiple pets because they cannot form stable emotional relationships with their kids. You feed and water a dog, he will love you. For a kid, that's not enough.
I wish social workers in America were like social workers in Britain. They seem to really care about helping families and not just taking the kids away
Really enjoyed this documentary and I'm pleased that there were positive changes and outcomes for both families involved. I felt a lot of really strong emotions of disgust and anger in the beginning, but I had to remind myself that there is a lot going on behind the scenes with these families. There is no quick fix.
WILLIAM LANE lol reminds me of when I was a teenager, I started getting super depressed and let junk pile up everywhere. I came home one day and my mom and thrown most of it out and put my clothes in bags to either keep or be donated. Tbh if I have a kid one day who does the same thing I’d do exactly what my mom did 🙏
What has happened to the people in the UK---all these people in government support, teenagers pregnant, not going to school, planning to not go to college and not having a better life then when they are growing up??? This world is going crazy!!
Council houses are the British version of the projects. Some are lovely and some are squalid, the residents seem to have free reign over wall, floor and window coverings, or lack Thereof and some residents seem hideously entitled. There's a series, how to get a council house, and another, council house crackdown. Fascinating in a horrid way.
I often wonder about that myself you could be dirt poor but still keeping clean house. Here's a problem I think you're depressed you're living in an oppressed environment and you just give up! I can buy myself a candle and that can motivate me and make me clean my whole house and then light the candle! I know that sounds inane. But I believe there's some truth to live in in a oppressed environment and become depressed probably leads to alcohol and not caring. Where I live they had built this beautiful apartment building 20 floors beautiful Within 20 years it had to be knocked down.
Win Rosie I think you’re right! I’ve had problems with being really unorganized and messy for years because of clinical depression. But lately I’ve been able to really keep things straight because I notice the whole atmosphere is better when things aren’t in disarray and chaotic. I also like to light a candle after I’ve finished cleaning up too 😊
@@jessica_jam4386 so much more to my story, I don't have a routine that is my problem and it seems as though I am on a hamster wheel. I am an artist and have quite a few Hobbies however, I'm too overwhelmed! I know what I have to do to fix it all, but become paralyzed with fear...WTF! So today I will have to retrain my mind body and soul become more mindful! Put some Al Green on and dance my way through cleaning and then light a candle!✌🤟
dawn jackson A real man doesn’t have to make the kid to be a parent. And in his situation he stepped up to the plate he got together with mom n she came with kids.
@Tatsujiro Kurogane so you obviously belong to the sewage non-Anglo trash class obviously. You are an oxygen stealer. Please exit this planet and make room for someone more worthy than you.
So sad. These people have never been taught how to be responsible adults. They're just repeating learned behavior/the cycle. They're not lazy, they just don't know anything else.
Would you be willing to go through the requirements, (applicable degrees, certifications, specialized training, etc.,) hard work and time commitment to be a social worker or a related position ? Would you be willing to also pay more taxes to support hiring more people to work in social services and the support networks associated with the demographic's needs? We do have similar social services and many social workers who spend a lot of their personal time trying to help people who sometimes don't want it or think they need it. Or, worse yet, are 2nd-4th or more generation of government subsidy recipients and think it's normal to live that way.
@@alpacaperson1629 really are in this regard. Our social services don't even go into the homes anymore. CPS and APS do. But, by that time, it's a serious mess.
They already said she probably wouldn't be allowed to assume responsibility. That's why Sian may not be allowed to keep it. She doesn't have a reliable support system and Sharon doesn't want the baby.
Could u really have pride living like this, that even if you wanted better had no skill or knowledge to make it better without possibly failing again and again. And then what when you don't have anyone, one to guide you, two to help you three) show you out of the darkness... It's called Empathy
We can't decorate--so we would even pick up, wash the clothes, read to your little boys, not let them write on the walls---get real people---stop being lazy and take care if your children or do not have any chikdren!!!
these comments are so belittling and hateful. hateful and degrading. before you go calling people all these sorts you should take a look in the mirror because it says more about you than it does them to judge in such a way. :/ gosh. crazy people, crazy world. no compassion, it is no wonder why people go off their rails in a world like this. show kindness not hatred and bigotry.
Shawn needs reform school and the boy needs to go home or go to reform school too and the mother needs some psychiatric help. But a 14 year old having her boyfriend stay all night is WRONG. After 13 minutes I can’t stomach anymore!
Her daughter was pregnant 3 months ago but lost the baby. She’s barely 16. By mom’s own admission, her daughter’s boyfriend stays over most nights. So mom tells her daughter to get on birth control. Doesn’t take her to the doc, doesn’t do anything at all to ensure that her daughter actually does it. The boyfriend cheated on her daughter and the daughter was getting mean emails from the other girl involved. Mom’s solution? Let her daughter drop out of school. The boyfriend is about to get the entire family evicted. The mother does NOTHING. This mother is neglectful to the level of being horribly abusive. Parents like her should be jailed. Parents like her slack off like this because nobody holds her accountable. They’re being told that Martin is getting them evicted and the boy just rolled his eyes and laugh. Shameful. Despicable. 😡
I would have took my daughter to the clinic and made sure she did what she needed to..she just sits there and watches her go and says "she probably won't go"...
Lisa Cundiff I know right! She acts totally defeated about everything. I’m American so I’m not too familiar with Britain’s public assistance system. If the 16 year old daughter has a baby and continues to live with her mother, do either of them receive additional money? What I’m asking really is, does the mother not care about her getting prego because it comes with money? Lord I hope not. Lol!
I didn't grow up in the best home and what was a wake up call for me was getting to spend the night at a friend's house from a different socio-economic background. It helped me realize how messed up my own family was. It motivated me to get out of there and do something with my life. Your environment can really become a prison.
James R I’m sorry you had to grow up like that. Very impressive you pulled yourself out of that too! This show made me really sad, reminded me a lot of some of my friends and their homes while growing up.
Yes.
I realized families had home cooked meals at tables more than just at Christmas and Thanks Giving. Other families didn't hit nor yell. Their houses were clean. Their clothes were not stained. the language they used was different. They had bedtimes and structure. Even the way they talked to each other was different. Going to my best friend's house was my sanctuary. I want better for myself, and I will never let my future children (hoping) live the life I had.
James R same
James R “different socio economic background “ means nothing. There are abusive well off families & wonderful poor families. I grew up poor. But I was well fed, clean, loved & knew it.
Martin’s parents telling him he can’t spend the night with sian anymore after she’s already pregnant is like closing the barn doors after the horses have gotten out
lol Well they're trying to make a difference and change has to start somewhere. Some parents are very lax and uncomfortable discipling their kids maybe they had controlling parents or were abused so they value freedom. Or don't know how to talk to their kids in a way that gives them structure. It's cool these people are able to come in and help because no one is a perfect parent and everyone has issues or weaknesses.
Jengaleb B Maybe but a 14 and 16 year old have no business being allowed to live and sleep together. Both set of parents need to be charged with negligence of a minor.
@@Heh3469 Then half the country would be charged.
Cindy Hedgepath I agree 100% I just think they should have decided that long before she got pregnant the 2nd time.
While I agree that he shouldn't have ever been living there in the first place, absolutley RIDICULOUS that she had a teenaged boy sleeping in her home with her 14 year old daughter. But, she absolutley needs to get that boy out if her house, even if she is already pregnant.
the moments she was refusing to go to the doctors I knew she knew she was already pregnant!
Dear god nooo. I haven’t gotten to that part.
13 year old got pregnant.. lost the baby... same, now 14 year old gets pregnant... omg. That POOR baby being brought into a HORRID life.
@Cathy Burnham uhh its not social services that parented that girl and moved her boyfriend in...
"They've been fed, cleaned, watered" They watered the kids??
They are plants growing
It's just an expression.
like they're houseplants
Man oh man😔😔😔
Y’all are lost in the pond. 😂
The social worker is parenting the parents
Better than the kids.
Sometimes parents need that of they've never had parents themselves
@@amandahugginkiss9065 Exactly. Kudos to the workers who provide concrete steps to help the parents become more functional. I bet the parents often need counceling/medication for depression.Some parents also need classes in child care and disciplining effectively.
Worse. She's babysitting the parents. There need to be serious consequences for all, but the modern ways of the state are to coddle, which just enables more errant behaviour.
I grew up in chaos.
A lot of us did.
I'm glad to see, given the the chance, support, and knowledge, change happens.
It's never too late.
Baby steps, and every step takes you closer.
Same for me! Mine and my sisters childhood was very chaotic and we both made better choices for ourselves and now our children are reaping the benefits. It’s never too late if the person is ready for change, my mother had drug issues for over two decades but has been clean for the last 11 years with no relapses.
It is too late if those involved have no desire to change- if giving the children a better life and keeping them in their lives is not more important to the adults involved than the resistance to change. Some adults simply do not have the capacity to care enough to make change happen, or to accept that it needs to. Not every family can be saved. We can all only do our best, even if when exhausting all other options with ample time, the best is to remove the children so that they have the chance of a better life.
I can already see that 14 year girl looking at her phone while her baby screams, and her screaming at it to shut up, before returning on her phone.
Sometimes parenthood can really improve a person's character. I hope for her baby's sake she gave him/her up for adoption; nobody should be a parent at 14.
Being poor is no excuse to live like a dirty pig. And it is free to go to a park a walk making crafts with bits and bobs even just reading a story or watching a family movie together and most community have discounted and or free programs like soccer basketball swimming for low income family's.
I agree with you!
True, but struggling every day to feed yourself and your family can soon lead to depression and sometimes housecleaning is the last thing you feel like doing. Please have some compassion and remember to not judge until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes.
@@sharong8511 a self inflicted struggle , 9 BILLION spent on families like this ..ignoring the obvious massively expensive cost of wages for all these so called professionals the AVERAGE benefits income is close to £26k a year more then enough to feed a family on
i live of a low income myself and i agree does not cost much money to keep your home clean its honestly being lazy
steph jones yes we had no money back in the 80s but we had lots of crafts and fun .
The teenagers are minors, why are they given so many choices and leniency ? Someone needs to take charge as children should not be put in the position of making adult decisions.
Honestly the only time I see people talking about and agreeing with that is with transgenders lol. Which yeah I agree
But teens shouldn’t make choices on their own. They need parents.
@@kjlandon9140 LOL, I was thinking the exact same after reading Jacqueline's comment. Thought it was out of context, but I see, there are more people like me. hahahaha
Jacqueline Gunther It’s called boundaries
@@PrincessKurae I believe that teens should be given choices to some degree though like what they wear and what they get to do but yes they do need some ground rules and disipline
One of them is even 14! Like wtf?!
NO child is ready for parenting at the age of 14. They are just kids themselves. There is no responsibility there NONE. They do what they want, when they want and were they want. I feel sorry for the unborn baby already. Babies take up ALLOT of your time. I can see grandma taking care of that baby for sure!
crystlfire the mom will not be the grandma she will become the mother for that baby unfortunately. It’s scary how these families live. They take no responsibility at all and don’t know how to parent as the social services are taking on that role.
The grandmother wouldn't be able to care for a baby either. Something is broken in Sian and her mother and extensive therapy is needed for them.
there are kids that grew into wonderful parents it may not be common but it is possible there's always a an exception to the rule
@@blindsey1043 Would _you_ have been a good parent at 14? Forget about parenting, having a child that young ruins the girl's/mother's life. Abortion is accessible and often the right decision
@@leahtv7778I wanted a baby at 16 but I doubt I would've been a good parent that's so damned if they get pregnant God give people the freedom of choice I save God allow the child to be born it should be put up for adoption but never aborted
There’s a lot of people in this world who should never have kids. I do think these parents probably do love their kids but don’t care to parent them. It’s easier to just give up and leave them to their own devices. The kids know their parents don’t care, that’s why the little boy never woke up his mom when he was sick in his bed during the night.
Why is shawns mother letting the boyfriend live at her house? She should have known a pregnancy was inevitable! This is all just so sad.
You are right about everything. I wish more people would recognize it and that it isn't selfish if you choose not to have kids. I have lost count how many times I have been told how selfish I am because I do not want kids. I have also been told repeatedly that I am "incredibly selfish" because I "refuse to give my mother grandchildren". I have known since I was a teen that although I like kids I am not parental material and would not be a good parent. There are many reasons that I wouldn't. This includes lifestyle and financial reasons. I have a lifestyle and finances that would not accommodate a child and I am not willing to change. Knowing this about myself I have always made sure to have safeguards in place to prevent a situation that wouldn't be desirable for either a child or myself. I also knew if safeguards failed and I did end up pregnant I would place the child for adoption. People call me selfish but I always felt that it would be more selfish of me to have kids knowing how I feel. It also amazes me how many people still think that a women's ultimate goal and ambition in life is to get married and have kids and if a woman chooses not to then they will regret it and be miserable later on.
@@jackycook64 one of my daughter´s also says she doesn´t want kids. Nothing wrong with that. People who talk to you like that are selfish themselves... they think they HAVE to pass their precious genes on.. so silly... and I also think there are enough kids out there who have no love and attention and would need to be adopted... So the big mouths could think about that a bit... (lots to wonder about... adopt one AND think about WHY they those kids don´t have a real loving home...)
You are definitely not selfish at all.
@@jeannenora6113 Thank you! Your feedback is very much appreciated. It helps too that my mom is supportive of my decision. I cringe when some of these people start giving me reasons why I should have kids because their reasons are the dictionary definition of selfish.
jackycook64
It’s really nobody else’s business whether you choose to have children or not. If you were unable to bear a child for whatever reason or couldn’t carry a child to full term I wonder what they would respond with? I fully support your right to choose your lifestyle! Next time someone asks you why you don’t have children tell them if it was any of their business they’d be the first to know!
Quite a few years back there was a newspaper columnist called Ann Landers. She once asked her readers if they could do it again would they still choose to have children. I don’t remember the exact percentage of people who responded NO! but it was a great number, far more than expected. Because it was anonymous to answer I believe it was the truth.
Remember: Your Body, Your Choice. 💖
@@sharong8511 Thank you! Your feedback has been very helpful. I know I made the right decision for myself I just wish people would stop with the judgments. I used to read Ann Landers quite a bit. I wish I would have seen and cut out that column you mentioned!
While it may be unrealistic to expect them to change quickly, the children’s lives are passing day by day in critical periods in their childhood are passing and can never be regained.
First of all tidy the bloody house that will improve a lot of things
Claire works as a cleaner. That kind of blew my mind.
@MaryJane Blues That's not true for the most part. I know so many single moms/with only part time work who have clean homes ..even TIDY 2x a day. A lot of those same moms also attend college classes.
@MaryJane Blues Handouts? That sounds like something a privileged person would say. Have you ever lived with mental health issues in poverty? The rich get handouts. Poor, sick, abused, and broken families receive barely enough to survive. This only adds to hardship and causes barriers that make it difficult to overcome or break the cycle. These people don't get handouts. They get scraps thrown down to them so that the rich feel better about having 5 cars and living in a house with empty rooms.
Stacey Kersting yes but recognize that these mothers have mental health issues and other concerns as well. It’s not very kind to be so judge mental without realizing that people have very different experiences than you and tidying may not be easily done.
Honestly! Who whats to put in the effort if you life in an environment like that? No fun waking up no fun going home..
I’ve gotten threatening nasty messages too but I still got through school and graduated... who the hell lets their 14 yr old drop out???
These parents dont parent, they enable.
@Taylor Michelle
A loser, that’s who.
uhm I rather have my daughter home than her taking suicide by ppl bullying her dumbass
Ajplus B homeschool then
She wasn't scared to go to school, she admitted she thought they wouldn't actually do anything to her. She just doesn't want to go and the mom totally fell for it. 🙄
Where the hell are Martins parents?
Was thinking the same damn thing!!🙄🤦🏻♀️
16 is an adult in the U.K.
@@dawnjackson6299 That is incorrect. Age of Majority, which is legally recognized as an adult, is still 18. At 16, a teenager gains many freedoms in which they do not require parental consent (ie. sexual consent with the exception of with those in positions of power, full-time employment, independently habitate, have a bank account), but not all the privileges restricted to 18+ adults (ie. take out a loan, enter legal contracts, vote, get married and drink alcohol without parental consent).
After the meeting with Martin's mother I got the feeling she was relieved he wasn't around for awhile, wreaking havoc somewhere else. Then when SW shows up she makes rules? Little to late he do can't sleepovers.
I feel like this really speaks on how much this epidemic of mental illness has an effect from generation to generation. The messiness, lack of motivation, and drive screams that these families are battling depression.
Or, they're making excuses and are lazy slobs living off of entitlement programs.
Jennifer Wilcox wow, if only it was that easy. Please educate yourself on trauma and generational poverty.
For the first family I just felt like crying 💔 the poor babies look so sad.
I ADOPTED A GROW WOMAN FOR 3 HOURS ONCE !!! HER NAME WAS CINNAMON !!
this episode put me in tears all the way through. I thank all of the social workers involved in trying and being willing to put themselves on the line for these families. Thank you!
These problem families have never been taught self worth. They have never been taught hey deserve a better life. If you are raised like you are worthless and have no one in your life to support you emotionally being told what to do will not work.
Self worth are the perfect words 👍 i grew up with nothing but my mum always had pride within her appearance and made sure the house was clean and the kids were respectful. Though i suffer with depression i always make sure my appearance is on point. Maybe its a cover up to how i feel inside but still self worth plays a huge part.
The only persons making an effort here are the social workers.
As usual
Sounds to me as well. It’s unfortunate really is. These adults or parents sounds like they’re making excuses of their actions. You always don’t need money to get off that couch and play with your children. Color ,parks, crafts and explore by going for a walk. Anything you can do to clean and stay motivated in playing with your child is very important. Only people on this video that is simply trying to improve is the social workers. Sounds to me that they are the only ones trying to improve the families in the communities. These children are learning to grow up fast and trying to learn to do things on a daily basis by themselves.
Rose lawson some people just don’t want help or simply can’t be helped 🤷🏻♀️ that’s the problem with the “we must help everyone” mentality. Because some people simply don’t want the help. When that is the case the social workers should have the right to just move on. They’re wasting tax money and these workers time that could be used helping people who actually need and want it.
The kids are also trying they are not tended to properly!
Julie Sprik stop acting like she raised herself! Her mom created the issues, and why that is who truly knows but she is lacking in a major way in her parenting. Children don’t come to this world fully formed emotionally! Emotionally mature people are that due to being raised in a supportive and healthy manner.
I cant understand one word "claire" and her man are mumbling.....
She said BLAA TITY BLAA BLAA.
I WAS ABOUT TO COMMENT ABOUT THAT TILL I SAW THIS COMMENT HAHA
Her mouth isn’t really opening. She is just mumbling.
I wonder if they are dealing with the after affects of drug abuse
Me either.🤣🤣🤣
Please tell Vicky and Claire that I was very impressed with the way they handled their families. I was in tears the entire time. It was so refreshing to see counselors that actually care about the outcomes. Thank them from the bottom of my heart. I am very grateful that there are people out there like them in the world. THANK YOU!
I feel sorry for the kids who have these lousy, lazy parents.
clean the cat loo twice a week??????? No wonder the cats pee elsewhere. I have 2 cats, 3 loos and clean them EVERY day.. sheesh
Jeanne Nora yep you have to. It’s gross not to
I thought they said once every 1-2 weeks lol but I'm not gonna go back and find it so I hope you're right bc EW
@@smol3113 You're right, Luki. She said "once a week." (@ around 28:40) I feel sad that all of these lives are so ... _out-of-control._ SMH. Poor kids, poor animals and sad, angry, broken and worn out "parents" who just can't cope. A recipe for an awful life for all.
RunningAmok But what are they worn out from? None of them appear to have a job, so they should have all the time in the world to parent their children.
Same here, 4 cats and daily cleaning!
yeesh, this reminds me a lot of how my step siblings are growing up..
I seriously would NEVER let that kid stay at my house, let alone give him the chance to get my daughter pregnant MULTIPLE times.
It's amazing that each social worker only has 4 families and can devote that much time to them. Here the social workers are completely overloaded
That mother should have stepped up and taken her daughter to that doctors appointment. Made sure it happened if she was so concerned about it! Complete fail on her part. That young girl needs a strong woman figure in her life to show her the safe way through things. How to care about herself.
RDA Rusty unfortunately, that mother is broken. This is a sad show.
There is one channel. Something to.....doctormommajones. Should watch it. I do & I'm a guy.
@@AllenTax yes!!!!
That’s easier said than done, unfortunately.
I think it's completely up to the teen. Even if she dragged her to the appointment the doctor won't give anything to her if she says no because birth control is her choice.
14 years old. How about no.
If I had my way, I'd make Sian's boyfriend go away.
My husband would've picked him up by the scruff of his neck and toss him out the front door.
laurel jade
He is only half the issue, this is years of neglect on the moms part.
There will be a next loser bf and friends till she can break the cycle
laura s Totally & that for most. She needs actual help. Support,tools and such.
To late now her mother should not have allowed it in the first place.
That's what parenting is for, that mom is literally pathetic. The cycle continues, another generatiom of dysfunction (on tax dollars) to come
"Let's get it calmed down." Why is the Social Worker allowing Martin a 16 year - old young man to live in a house where a parent already has social service involvement? Where is his parents? Why hasn't his parents been referred to social services? That Social Worker needs to encourage that mother to have him trespassed from her home. He needs to go home and stay there.
@@tiffahbean I commented before the end. My point was all those kids were truant and that Socoal Worker should have referred that young man's parents for social service assistance instead of allowing him to lay up and make a baby with a teenager. Her talking to his Mother was a day late and a dollar short. Smh
@@tiffahbean Sian. You can see it painted on her bedroom door. :)
I honestly do wish that more people just openly admitted and accepted the fact that they shouldn't have kids in the first place. So many people have children not because they want them or are prepared for them but because it's the socially acceptable thing to do. Then later on down the line the parents realize that they made a mistake but it's too late, and stuff like this ends up happening. The parents are miserable because they feel exhausted and helpless and just give up. The kids feel miserable because they feel like the parents just don't care, or they feel like a burden because no one wants them. It's really really sad. I'm both grateful for my parents and grateful for the fact that I've decided to never reproduce.
Sian mother failed her so bad, how you gonna allow your 14 years old daughter boyfriend to come in your house and sleep with your daughter that's just crazy
It's time for Martin to bounce!
I mean doesn't the boyfriend's parents have any responsibility for what they are doing on Sharon's street and their neighbours? How can everything be put on Sharon?
I mean she allows it just so she can keep her daughter at home. She needs to put her foot down and let her daughter go if need be.
Sharon is the tenant. She's responsible for everything that happens on the property she rents.
It is so sad. All the adults need to be taught parenting and life skills. They don't know the very basics. It is wonderful that the social services is so involved and only has 4 families at a time. That is amazing. The boyfriend's family of the 2nd family should also be visited. He should not be sleeping out all the time. He is a minor.
I'm happy for the Thompson family, and I like the way they have an intervention team willing to spend the time to help families stay together.
I'd love to have those 2 boys!! So cute. They deserve a rescue. As all kids do. 😓
They should be placed in caring homes... breaks my heart to see that
Rachel Rubin did you see how happy those little boys looked when they were outside playing football,?even the boyfriend looked half decent
@Bobbie Mead - It does in the U.S. too. Learned helplessness. But children should never suffer. What does the Dole stand for? I know it's government benefits, but why Dole? I watch a lot of English docs & it seems your country is very charitable!! Do people get food stamps too? All the council houses are jacked up. Why?
Ravenz trzecie oko 😭 noooooo really?!?
So do the animals
I always wonder why these family's houses are so cluttered and dirty...
She is a part time cleaner so when she gets done doing that she doesnt want to clean her house.
Because they are very lazy. How hard is it to pick up after yourselves and vacuum the rooms once a week at least. By some ajax or comet and scrub clean the tub, sinks and other areas.
Messy mind ... messy house
@@veroniquekelly6928 --For sure!!
Laziness , depression or both
What I dont understand why Hot In Here is being used as background music lol.
Gurllll, i caught that 😂😂😭
😂😂😂😂
I just passed that section as I read this comment 😂😂😭
i am happy for the family with the two boys. big improvement and walking to school is awesome. love that. no driving at all. kids have smiles on their faces
the girl should see that her boyfriend is not ready for a parenting role he cant even look at her when she is talking about her future. hes watching cartoons. they both can do well but need to really be shown what is ahead and how to prepare for it. learn respect to parents and each other
So many of these people barely open their mouths when they talk. Really hard to understand them lol
So annoying!! Lol
I think it's you.
@@susanosborne7133 No they have mush mouth
@@BloodNote Some of the longstanding lower class British don't seem to open their mouths.
mumble rappers to be
What do you mean ‘it’s her choice’ at this point? She’s 14 and has already been pregnant. Your the PARENT! She’s the CHILD! Not the other way around.
Oh but it is her choice...14 or NOT..its unfortunate but facts
People need help. It is unrealistic to expect them to do better if they are unaware of what " better" is.
People in the comments don't really seem to get it. I'm not trying to excuse the dysfunction, buy y'all are scandalized too easily and its not helpful.
I raised 3 teenage kids (they were each a year apart) as a single mom and yes it's crazy with a lot of kids in the house, each kid with 2 or 3 friends, BUT there were RULES and they either followed them or weren't allowed friends over. I was lucky and we lived in town in a big house with a nice yard for a fire pit and small garden. We didn't have any money even though I worked full time ++, but the girls learned to sew and my son started working at 13 as a dishwasher (he begged me) and we loved shopping at thrift stores togehter. Maybe I was just blessed with amazing kids who are all now amazing independent happy adults, but they all knew about and used birth control! There's a balance between allowing some stuff and not other. It's great the U.K. does this. I hope it works out for all involved.
And your kids were blessed with a great mom who taught them to still be decent humans and appreciate what they did have in life. God Bless
@@CountrySteve2 wow, thanks for that.
Great kids don't fall from trees. They come from great parenting. Sadly, even though most people are able to reproduce, not everyone is fit to parent. Kudos to you for giving the world well adjusted members of society
Your 16 year old soon to be BRICK-IN-LAW is holding a lighter and a cigarette in one hand leaning into a television that's inches from his face staring at Sponge Bob Square Pants. Looks like everyone's on board!!!
JFC. That social worker should have taken Sean away a long time ago. Mom: "Let's go to the doctor's so you can't get pregnant" Sean: "No." Mom "Well, Ok then." Sean: *gets pregnant* Sean should have been taken away right then and there when she refused to go to the doctor's and the mother did nothing.
If the teen refuses to even go and see the doctor, what in the world are you supposed to do?
The children have been “watered”, he’s NOT ready to be a dad 😭
Social worker needs to get rid of boyfriend n the apartment
What’s with these places having bare rotting floorboards and wallpaper ripped off the walls? Looks disgusting and depressing as hell.
Because the British government voted against a law that would have meant landlords need to make sure housing is fit for human habitation.
Social! Government housing. What do you think council housing means?
Because depression and poverty. There isn't the money to fix it up, and even if there were, depression prevents it from getting done and often recognizing it as something that needs to be done. Regardless, peeling wallpaper is not an inherent danger to health. Bare floorboards, as long as they are not splintering, aren't as well. There are far more important issues to be dealt with than cosmetics.
I don't understand it either. Some people just honestly don't see keeping a clean house as a priority. But it absolutely is- a dirty home can lead to not only depression, but actual physical health problems.
@@NasikaSakura it doesn't cost much to buy cleaning products and use some elbow grease to clean your hovel. There are tons of ways to clean your house with cheap household items. It's just that no one prioritizes it.
that older boy smacked the little boy in the face/eye for no reason . the parents did nothing at 16:40
ALL those teens look neglected honestly!! Birds of a feather!
What's up with that one girl's hair?? Lol
9 BILLION POUNDS on a 120,000 families$?
Give them all some Norplant and see if things improve.
opalfish sparklequasar those numbers are too high especially the Families 120 k times ?? how many children. All I see is a non stop cycle change doesn’t come overnight but we have to start somewhere.
Dont have kids if you not gonna take care of them right!!
I've been to a few 3rd world countries and never saw such filthy homes as these ones!
That poor little boy when his brother hit him. You could tell it hurt. I just wanna hug all over them.
I cant imagine being 14 and pregnant, she will need so much support and help. I wish her the best!
I have 2 daughters 26 and 20...their Daddy looks and the young men coming around trying to talk and visit to not even think about his daughter anymore. My girls have been explained that there is absolutely a time and place for everything...live your life the fullest,go conquer the world 💜 be beautiful,walk in beauty
At 26 and 20 they are adults and should have a voice and choice in dating this isn't the 1800s
Always sad to see how these families have multiple pets because they cannot form stable emotional relationships with their kids. You feed and water a dog, he will love you. For a kid, that's not enough.
Exactly! My mom has five dogs and that is my exact opinion on her
I wish social workers in America were like social workers in Britain. They seem to really care about helping families and not just taking the kids away
I would imagine American social workers really care about helping families too.
Really enjoyed this documentary and I'm pleased that there were positive changes and outcomes for both families involved. I felt a lot of really strong emotions of disgust and anger in the beginning, but I had to remind myself that there is a lot going on behind the scenes with these families. There is no quick fix.
subtitles direly needed >.
If my 13 year old daughters bedroom gets that bad I will HELP her clean it whether she wants me to or not!
WILLIAM LANE lol reminds me of when I was a teenager, I started getting super depressed and let junk pile up everywhere. I came home one day and my mom and thrown most of it out and put my clothes in bags to either keep or be donated. Tbh if I have a kid one day who does the same thing I’d do exactly what my mom did 🙏
The same thing kind of happened to me. I was actually grateful. I was a messy kid lol. Luckily my kids are fairly neat.
IKR? Anything that's not picked up in an hour gets bagged n donated.
Sien getting pregnant is the worst possible scenario. Absolutely awful 💔
What has happened to the people in the UK---all these people in government support, teenagers pregnant, not going to school, planning to not go to college and not having a better life then when they are growing up??? This world is going crazy!!
The Tories did triple the cost of university tuition. I'm a Tory myself, but I think that was a crummy thing to do.
The lack of flooring in the homes is confusing, but good grief these people are filthy housekeepers.
Council houses are the British version of the projects. Some are lovely and some are squalid, the residents seem to have free reign over wall, floor and window coverings, or lack Thereof and some residents seem hideously entitled. There's a series, how to get a council house, and another, council house crackdown. Fascinating in a horrid way.
@@jessiec1194 Yes the documentaries on the UK and social housing is very fascinating in a terrifying way.
I often wonder about that myself you could be dirt poor but still keeping clean house. Here's a problem I think you're depressed you're living in an oppressed environment and you just give up! I can buy myself a candle and that can motivate me and make me clean my whole house and then light the candle! I know that sounds inane. But I believe there's some truth to live in in a oppressed environment and become depressed probably leads to alcohol and not caring. Where I live they had built this beautiful apartment building 20 floors beautiful Within 20 years it had to be knocked down.
Win Rosie I think you’re right! I’ve had problems with being really unorganized and messy for years because of clinical depression. But lately I’ve been able to really keep things straight because I notice the whole atmosphere is better when things aren’t in disarray and chaotic. I also like to light a candle after I’ve finished cleaning up too 😊
@@jessica_jam4386 so much more to my story, I don't have a routine that is my problem and it seems as though I am on a hamster wheel. I am an artist and have quite a few Hobbies however, I'm too overwhelmed! I know what I have to do to fix it all, but become paralyzed with fear...WTF! So today I will have to retrain my mind body and soul become more mindful! Put some Al Green on and dance my way through cleaning and then light a candle!✌🤟
I hope Brandon and Robbie are doing okay, AND that the pets are all okay now.
The step father stepped right up. Good for him! More involved then many biological fathers!
dawn jackson A real man doesn’t have to make the kid to be a parent. And in his situation he stepped up to the plate he got together with mom n she came with kids.
"Well there is one reason... cos hes only 5!" Im dead lol
First time I have seen a grandma at that age with facial piercings...Is that popular there?
This type of support is brilliant. If only Canada-and the US took this and implemented it.
@Tatsujiro Kurogane so you obviously belong to the sewage non-Anglo trash class obviously. You are an oxygen stealer. Please exit this planet and make room for someone more worthy than you.
So sad. These people have never been taught how to be responsible adults. They're just repeating learned behavior/the cycle. They're not lazy, they just don't know anything else.
If only America had this social services like this.
Would you be willing to go through the requirements, (applicable degrees, certifications, specialized training, etc.,) hard work and time commitment to be a social worker or a related position ? Would you be willing to also pay more taxes to support hiring more people to work in social services and the support networks associated with the demographic's needs? We do have similar social services and many social workers who spend a lot of their personal time trying to help people who sometimes don't want it or think they need it. Or, worse yet, are 2nd-4th or more generation of government subsidy recipients and think it's normal to live that way.
Yeah American Families are just the same as British too!
@@alpacaperson1629 really are in this regard. Our social services don't even go into the homes anymore. CPS and APS do. But, by that time, it's a serious mess.
The social services workers are the parents the parents never had.
Sanity has left the chat
Why do these people, who are unable to take care of them selves and their kids, always have so many pets...
Way she goes lol
Its an insecurity issue, insecure people hate being alone.
Because they are stupid
Let`s guess who is caring for that baby. I bet it is Sharon.
They already said she probably wouldn't be allowed to assume responsibility. That's why Sian may not be allowed to keep it. She doesn't have a reliable support system and Sharon doesn't want the baby.
I would be so depressed if my home looked like either of these households. Absolutely no pride for the homes others' taxes are paying for.
It's a reflection of their mental well being, how rude can you be.
Downward cycle of depression and despair. Very difficult to break out of.
@@LuxMeow I suffer from depression. It's not an excuse to be a slob and drain on society.
Lux Meow And? Houses are still nasty. Doesn’t change the fact of the matter.
Could u really have pride living like this, that even if you wanted better had no skill or knowledge to make it better without possibly failing again and again. And then what when you don't have anyone, one to guide you, two to help you three) show you out of the darkness...
It's called Empathy
We can't decorate--so we would even pick up, wash the clothes, read to your little boys, not let them write on the walls---get real people---stop being lazy and take care if your children or do not have any chikdren!!!
At the end of that day she made that choice WOOOOT 14 YEARS YOUNG she doesnt have no choice.
the boyfriend needs to be put in another home for boys because she is going to keep getting pregnant
It’s so unfair that fertility is wasted on women that are unable to put being a mom first
4:08 is no one gonna mention the huge bruise on that little boys face?! That’s messed up.
In my experience this is years and generations of “this is fine”. Those are the hardest to change. They don’t think there is a problem.
They know it's wrong but are in too deep to see the way out and think "why bother?".
these comments are so belittling and hateful. hateful and degrading. before you go calling people all these sorts you should take a look in the mirror because it says more about you than it does them to judge in such a way. :/ gosh. crazy people, crazy world. no compassion, it is no wonder why people go off their rails in a world like this. show kindness not hatred and bigotry.
@Tatsujiro Kurogane Nobody is worthless to Jesus Christ.
The clean freak that I am Shawn room is literally fucking killing me
Martin looks like a bright spark.
Why does the boys mother not move her lips when she's talking? I can't hear what she's trying to say because of her poor pronunciation
LAZY
She might have a speech problem or she is just camera shy.
@Lauren Davis most educated answer.
Shawn needs reform school and the boy needs to go home or go to reform school too and the mother needs some psychiatric help. But a 14 year old having her boyfriend stay all night is WRONG. After 13 minutes I can’t stomach anymore!
Her daughter was pregnant 3 months ago but lost the baby. She’s barely 16. By mom’s own admission, her daughter’s boyfriend stays over most nights. So mom tells her daughter to get on birth control. Doesn’t take her to the doc, doesn’t do anything at all to ensure that her daughter actually does it. The boyfriend cheated on her daughter and the daughter was getting mean emails from the other girl involved. Mom’s solution? Let her daughter drop out of school. The boyfriend is about to get the entire family evicted. The mother does NOTHING. This mother is neglectful to the level of being horribly abusive. Parents like her should be jailed. Parents like her slack off like this because nobody holds her accountable. They’re being told that Martin is getting them evicted and the boy just rolled his eyes and laugh. Shameful. Despicable. 😡
I would have took my daughter to the clinic and made sure she did what she needed to..she just sits there and watches her go and says "she probably won't go"...
Lisa Cundiff I know right! She acts totally defeated about everything. I’m American so I’m not too familiar with Britain’s public assistance system. If the 16 year old daughter has a baby and continues to live with her mother, do either of them receive additional money? What I’m asking really is, does the mother not care about her getting prego because it comes with money? Lord I hope not. Lol!
46:25 That poor cat!
Sharon was really just trying her best ):
This scares me 🥺 i Hope this Kids are doing well!
wtf everyone in the family has piercings. Even the little boy.
Mycenaea I like piercings but theirs seems kinda creepy 😆
I have seen piercings in a lot of neighborhoods I’m surprised tattoos weren’t seen.
Martin’s a nightmare isn’t he...?
He seems like a nice enough guy, though his energies are misdirected.
God bless these angels like health care professionals. Social workers have a big heart just want the best for these troubled families.
Martin get out of that house now.
The music at the end credits is a nightmare!