Why do men want to be fathers? 6 Minute English
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Why do men want to have children? Evolutionary anthropologist Anna Machin wrote a book about it and tries to answer this question. Catherine and Neil - a father himself - discuss her theories and teach you six items of related English vocabulary.
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𝐕𝐨𝐜𝐚𝐛𝐮𝐥𝐚𝐫𝐲:
𝐚𝐝𝐦𝐢𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠
say something is true, even if it might make you look a little bit bad
𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐨𝐧 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠
to be very interested in and enthusiastic about something
𝐠𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠
agreeing to do something even though you don't really want to do it
𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐛𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐟𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫
a father who is not at home to spend time with his children
𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐢𝐩𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐚𝐧𝐬
people who have strict rules and they give out punishments when these rules aren't followed
𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐬-𝐨𝐧
to be very much involved in something
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Wow, 95 is a pretty high percentage! My husband didn’t agree to be present by the process. He might have fainted, if he would see it. I have to confess, that he wasn’t so keen on having a child, but he went along, because it was my biggest wish. But now he is hands-on, totally involved in work with our daughter. He helps me and loves her very much, his little princess.
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Thanks, BBC. I'm a man, and I do love my three children much too ^^
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Hi. My name is Aya, from Indonesia. It is a funny and usefull content. Always firm and not as gentle as mother, but for me father is a hero in my real life. He always give me a helping hand when im falls. Ini fact, my father is my first love, he also being a teacher in everything. He always have answered in all of my questions. The most important, my father always teachs me how to deal with every problem that is being faced. And for me, why men want to be father? It because being a father is a noble and is his own happiness. Thank you.
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Fascinating to look at this from the male perspective. Wow! That is a very high percentage!!!
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My own father never stuck around. I only met him months after I turned 21. T’was a first meeting for me, but a 2nd meeting for him, as he surprisingly still has a photo of him holding me as an infant. I didn’t think about life as a father til 19, I’m 22 now and just about every day I daydream about what my life would be like as a husband and father... That, and because of having no real father during my childhood, I vowed that I would stay with the woman who would bear my child(ren), that I’d never leave her days after its birth like my father done, that I’d have the knot tied before even thinking about trying to conceive with the girl I love (given she’s keen on the idea of being a mother). Way I see it, ladies and gentlemen, you have kids with your man/woman, that’s tying the knot right there.
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I'm a 15 year old boy and I've wanted to be a father my whole life hopefully this wish will come true!!!!!!🌟😂🍀🤞🌠
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I'm going to be an absent dad, cuz the work i'm going to do obliges me on working 4 weeks on by 4 weeks off, that's just sad And if I had my wife's birth or a funeral in the weeks i'm working, I won't be able to join them because of the work's policies 😔.
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Hi. I think different people have different thoughts about it. Some men wants to be fathers because it was their wishes. However some people who fell in love someone wants a child from them, perhaps it's the main reason
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I've always wanted to be a father, finding a life partner is far more difficult
Hi, have you met your dream yet? You mentioned this a couple of years ago Oliver. Nowadays I think it is even harder meet a partner let alone find one. I too would still like to be a father, approaching 50 as I do 💪
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can you guys explain why using the singular form after "their"? such as: their father, their partner but not their fathers/partners
each person has just one father and one partner
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That man is gonna brake the child's neck, I could not pay attention to the conversation bc of it.
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Catherine
Hello and welcome to 6 Minute English, I'm Catherine.
Neil
And I'm Neil.
Catherine
Now, Neil, you're a dad, aren't you?
Neil
I am a dad. How did you know? Is it the grey hair in my beard? Is it the wrinkles around the eyes?
Catherine
I thought that was just your age.
Neil
Well, yes, maybe.In today's programme we're going to be talking about fathers and how being a father has changed over the years. But before we hear more about this topic, our question for the day. According to recent research in the UK, what percentage of men are present when their children are born? Is it…
a) 55%
b) 75%
c) 95%
What do you think?
Catherine
I think a lot of men these days like to see their children born. It's not culturally inappropriate so I'm going to go for 95%.
Neil
Well, we'll find out if you're right at the end of the programme. Now, Dr Anna Machin is an evolutionary anthropologist. She studies, among other things, how human behaviour has changed and is changing. She's written a book called The Life of Dad. She's been studying new fathers and spoke about her research on the BBC's Woman's Hour programme. She asked why men want to become fathers. She starts by saying that there are lots of reasons but how many does she mention in her answer?
Dr Anna Machin
There's lots of different reasons why men want to be fathers ... for some of them it's just a stage in life they've reached. They've got the house, they've got the job, now it's time to have a family. Sometimes they admit that actually they're not that keen, but their partner wants a baby, so they're kinda going along with it. And a reasonable number actually say they do it because they want to undo what their father did to them, so rewrite history in relation to fathers and the experience of fathering, to be a better father than their father was.
Neil
How many reasons does she mention?
Catherine
She mentioned three reasons. The first was that it was that time in life - the guys had a home and a job and having children was the thing to do next.
Neil
Another reason was that it was what their partners wanted, even if they weren't that keen themselves. If you're not keen on something it means you are 'not enthusiastic about it', it's not really something you want to do, but because it's what their partner wants they agree to it, or as Dr Machin said, they're going along with it.
Catherine
Yes, going along with something, is a phrase that means 'agreeing to do' something even though you don't really want to do it. It's interesting that Dr Machin said that some men admit to this. To admit to something is to 'say or agree that something is true even if you're perhaps ashamed of it or you don't want it to be true'.
Neil
There was one more reason she mentioned and that was that some men become parents because they want to be a better father than their own father had been. Let’s listen again.
Dr Anna Machin
There's lots of different reasons why men want to be fathers ... for some of them it's just a stage in life they've reached. They've got the house, they've got the job, now it's time to have a family. Sometimes they admit that actually they're not that keen, but their partner wants a baby, so they're kinda going along with it. And a reasonable number actually say they do it because they want to undo what their father did to them, so rewrite history in relation to fathers and the experience of fathering, to be a better father than their father was.
Neil
So what is it about some father's own dads that they didn't like? Here's Dr Machin again.
Dr Anna Machin
Well, in some cases, you know, the father would be neglectful, some fathers were absent and others they just felt they were a very, I suppose, we'd say a 1950s father so distant, disciplinarian not actually involved in their children's daily life and certainly not involved in their care. So today's generation fathers, even in the 10 years that I've been studying dads we've seen a massive evolution in how hands-on fathers are.
Neil
She talks there about some negative characteristics associated with dads in the past. She suggests that some fathers didn't have a very close relationship with their sons, they were absent which means they weren't at home a lot and 'didn't spend time' with their children.
Catherine
Yes, and some fathers were seen as a disciplinarian. That describes someone whose main communication with their children was to give them strict rules and tell them off or punish them if they did something wrong.
Neil
These days, according to Dr Machin, fathers are much more hands-on. This phrase means they are 'much more involved' with their children and share bringing up their children with their partners.
Catherine
And talking of sharing, Neil, come on - it's time to know the answer to today's question.
Neil
Yes, indeed. According to recent research in the UK, what is the percentage of fathers who are there when their children are born? Was it 55%, 75% or 95%?
Catherine
And I said a very optimistic 95%.
Neil
Being optimistic is good obviously because you are correct.
Catherine
That's fantastic!
Neil
And now, for something else fantastic, our review of today's vocabulary…
Catherine
We started off with admit to for when you say something is true, even if it might make you look a little bit bad. And before we go on I have to admit, Neil, that it was me who ate your biscuit.
Neil
Which one?
Catherine
The one that you left on the desk.
Neil
That's all right. I wasn't really keen on it anyway. It had been on the floor.
Catherine
What? Yuck!
Neil
Yeah, well, it serves you right! And to be keen on something is our next phrase, meaning 'being very interested in and enthusiastic about' something.
Catherine
Then we had to go along with something. This is when you agree to do something even if you are not keen on it.
Neil
An absent father is one who is not at home to spend time with his children.
Catherine
And some fathers are disciplinarians. They 'have strict rules and they give out punishments' but these days more fathers are hands-on which means they are 'very much involved' in looking after and bringing up their children.
Neil
Well, that's all we have time for today. Join us again next time and remember you can find us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, TH-cam and of course our website bbclearningenglish.com. See you soon. Goodbye!
Catherine
Bye!
Thank you so much
Grey hair in beard and wrinkles around the eyes. Wow. How true. Neil, you are genius! Ha-Ha!
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I'm 27 from China, I don't want to be a father, cuz I don't think I can offer my child a good future!
To make a mark in life.
I don't want to be a father. I don't mean that I'll never get marry but even if I got married I don't have a plan to have a baby
I want to be a mom but first of all I have to find the father and marry him
95 not true
Certainly not true
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Where is the subtitle ?
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No man in the world want to be father
Who want to become a father ?. Haha
Because men cannot be mother
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