Surviving Conversion Therapy (twice): my personal experience
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 23 ก.ย. 2017
- In this deeply personal video, I share my journey through conversion therapy, not once, but twice. Growing up in a strict Christian family, coming out as gay was met with attempts to 'cure' me. This is the story of my struggle with my identity, the painful experiences of conversion therapy, and how I eventually found the strength to embrace who I am. I share overcoming the challenges of being forced into therapy designed to change who I am and how I came to celebrate my true self. If my story can help even one person feel less alone, then sharing it will have been worth it.
*2021 UPDATE* The mental health issues I've suffered thus far are something I am still discovering. You will see later on in our videos where a scary night in Mexico led us to get help. I am with a licensed psychiatrist where I have learned I have cPTSD, OCD, intrusive thoughts and depression. Whether it is viewed by a parent with a gay child or someone who is battling acceptance within themselves.
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We are Adam (North American) and Bernardo (Brazilian) and we are husbands whose paths crossed back in 2016, when we both still lived in Brazil. Since the very beginning, we shared a common passion for travel and nature, which has only grown over the years and led us to this unexpected journey on TH-cam, which has allowed us to connect with an amazing community that we’re beyond grateful for. “Go out and make memories” is our motto of living and a constant reminder for us that true happiness doesn’t come from the material wealth we accumulate, but from the memories we create and share with our loved ones throughout our existence. We invite you to join us in our crazy journey in life and hopefully we can inspire you to go out and make some memories on your own. Welcome aboard!
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Thank you for this story. I cried because my father told me he would kill me if he ever found out I was truly gay. I waited till he died before coming out. I’m 73 now and there are still times I struggle with who I am. Your story really helped me. Thank you again
Wow. Your life was full of struggles too. I hope you're happy now🙏🏻.
Чакаць смэрцы айца гэта жах,ўжо вы мяне прабачце гэта дзіка
🦢❤🦢❤ Congrats even though I am a little late!
Stay strong Garydevine7137. I was 56 when I came out, after 35 years of marriage and having 2 grown sons. I started living my true life , then I had a severe stroke at 62j just as I started being true to myself my family has been very supportive now I’m 18 months into stroke recovery, life lesson; be true to yourself, live while you can, you’ll have no regrets… you never know what tomorrow will bring🌈
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Those parents who put their children through "gay conversion therapy" should apologize to their kids for doing these hurtful things to their kids.
No, they should be prosecuted!
Amen to that.
Sag mal lebt ihr da drüben in der neuen Welt noch im Mittelalter??
The parents who did that should be: in jail.
@@haglasu1468 nagut, man muss sich nur mal anschauen, was für Leute von Europa da rüber gegangen sind. Bei den meisten Weißen in den USA ist mir absolut klar, was für Vorfahren sie hatten und warum die aus Europa weg sind. Es ist ja auch wissenschaftlicher Konsens, dass die meisten Auswanderer üble Unterschicht waren und viele eben auch evangelikal.
I spent 17 years in ex-gay reparative therapy (all of my own accord). I went to Exodus conferences for years. I went to ex-gay support groups. I went to Love in Action's live-in program in Memphis (the adult program). I went to a therapist for 15 years. Your story resonates with me. I just begged God to make me straight for years... it was never my parents (they didn't even know). I tried everything. And none of it worked of course. Took me to the age of 40 to "come out" to myself even. Thank you for sharing your journey.
That it is terrible for what you went .Campaing again that sicekening Exodus or other like that.
@Rulya קארן Mórrigan Ard Mhacha I was already in my 20s and 30s. I was out of the house. My parents didn't know I was in ex-gay therapy. Even when I went to Love in Action, my parents thought I was going to some sort of "retreat" at first. Only after a time there did I reveal to them why I was there.
My parents were sheltered. Heck, my mother didn't know what the word "masturbation" meant. She'd never heard that word before. She didn't know what "pornography" was. She'd never heard that word before.
@@graperonto Hi, I know it's a bit late but I'll say this. So I went to your channel and watched your recent videos and it's quite sad of what you had to go through but when you kept saying same sex attraction it kinda felt to me that you still haven't fully accepted that you are gay and i kinda noticed you still have some kind of trauma with conversion therapy which I understand. It's perfectly ok to be a virgin or a celibate and stay single forever but don't let religious people or the church tell you that doing the act is wrong because it's not since it's your private life and your choice to do it with someone of the same sex or not. Just say that your a gay Christian and love yourself dear.
God bless you.
This has brought me to tears, I am nearly 60 and still cannot have the courage to tell people I'm gay! You are wonderful my friend x
its okay. perhaps not everyone has to come out. Unless if you are so obvious and people are laughing behind your back and think you are a coward. if not, it may be fine to stay closeted. i have yet to come out too.
You grew up in a different era. Society was much less tolerant back in the 70’s and 80’s. That made coming out much more difficult back then. What you do in your own bedroom is your own business. You don’t need to tell anyone anything if you don’t feel like doing so. Quite frankly, since you are close to 60 yr old, unless you are married to a woman, otherwise your family and friends probably have figured out that you might be gay already, so why bother telling them now.
Bobbert:my name is Joe, I'm 57, so if you posted that about a year ago, I'm basically your age.
My mom was extremely religious and anti-gay while I grew up, knowing I was gay.
I was 32 before I came out to my father. It was in a very bad way, but I'm not sure coming out is ever done "the correct way".
But, in order to do so, and here's the crucial aspect: I FINALLY reached a point where I over "living my life (very miserably) to OTHER'S EXPECTIONS", And decided "if my parents disowned me and disinherited me, I WOULD SURVIVE"!
I was sick and tired of being sick of hiding who I really was-just because I was afraid of my parent's reaction s..
I cannot adequately express how much the "weight was lifted off my shoulders" after that!!! I could breathe, I could START ACTUALLY LIVING!
My mother was accepting (passed), my father is tolerant with the attitude of "you're still my son, and I love you". It's better than nothing. When I married my partner legally, my father refused to come to the wedding, and did my future FIL, and all my/our relatives of that generation likewise refused.
In short, Bobbert, you need to do what is RIGHT for you, if that means staying in the closet, fine.
But in your death bed, Please, please don't have regrets for your stance. If you don't think YOU, yourself, will be accepting of the closeted person you have been, then seriously think about coming out.
If it's not safe where you are to do so, MOVE to where it is.
Remember: you only live once, and on your death bed YOU have to be happy with the stance you took.
BEST wishes as you decide..
But if you come out from the closet into the light, you might be thrilled (or disappointed, granted) with life!
Bless...
Joe
@@kevinhamilton6256 Thank You Joe for your kind and inspirational words, they are much appreciated and respected. I remain 'closeted' and the current Covid restrictions on meeting like minded guys (or anyone for that matter) is an additional 'spanner in the works' for ones social life, yep I brok through the '60' year last May, still feel like I was as a 20 year old gay guy, in a world then which was even more homophobic, I was in my 40's before I had my first gay sexual encounter, after I plucked up the courage to take my feeble and weedy physique to a gay sauna, up until that point I remained celibate!
Have a great 2021 with hopefully a renewed spirit of hope. Bob x
@@kevinhamilton6256 That is one of the BEST responses man! You have done a great service to others with your lived insightfulness.
I’m a mom and I’m proud of you. My son came out at 16. I hugged him and reassured him he’d always have my love.
I survived conversion therapy. I want to give you the biggest hug, Adam.
I want to give you a big hug as well :) Big hug!!!
so glad u did...NEVER let anyone tell you how to be.......
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I couldn't believe what my mother said to me when I came out: "I'm not sure if this is right or not, but we've always trusted you and let you be yorself, and there hasn't been a moment when you have disappointed us, so if you feel it is ok, then is alright, I can trust your decisions"
Except, of course, that it isn't a decision.
@Rulya קארן Mórrigan Ard Mhacha Keep your hair on. Don't go all ballistic because there are differences of opinion.
@Rulya קארן Mórrigan Ard Mhacha You must be all bald now.
@@danhanqvist4237 it is
@@danhanqvist4237 thank you! The larger conversation that is not being had is : why is it important to view homosexuality as a lifestyle, ? The description of homosexuality as a lifestyle is a blatent oversimplification of human sexuality in general and homosexuality in particular. The purpose of this indoctrination of the collective societal psyche is paramount to the self validating delusion of heterosexuality possessing moral validity. The reason that we never hear the term " heterosexual lifestyle " is because there is no need to catogorize heterosexuality with such descriptively inherent connotative oversimplification in order to subconciously justify contempt and hatred. Thoughts anyone?
The twisted part is, the parents really believe they are doing something “good or right” I’m so sorry this happened to you. You are so strong… thank you for having the courage to share your story. We love you.
I am convinced that any person that says they "turned straight" were really just bisexual all along. Gay conversion "therapy" should be banned nationwide (worldwide preferably).
I agree! I can only dream that.
There's no such thing as "Bisexual" when most clearly know their sexual PRIMARY attraction. There's more "confused until clear" people sexually. Straight folks are such idiots in general, thinking they are the "only" RIGHT sexuality.
You are right about that! Conversion therapy should be banned from old Europe as well. We, in Europe, have supporters of these perverted converion therapies in Italy, Germany and even in the Netherlands. To put the matter in a nutshell, these therapies should be made illegal in the whole world.
@@deepblue188 On one hand I'm glad the US isn't the only country with conservative religious crazies but I'm also disappointed that these people exist in the progressive countries of the EU. How many LGBTQ youth will have to be mentally scarred in order to ban "conversion therapy" ?
I do totally agree, fortunately now it is forbidden in Germany!
"And I can’t change，Even if I tried, Even if I wanted to. "
Parabéns jovem lindo vídeo
You shouldn't change be who you are be proud of you. I AM.
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Kyle G you are gorgeous. I would marry you Kyle G
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I am 71 years old and this story brought me to tears. God bless you young man!
Thank God your parents came around. ❤️🌈
I agree Diane :)
Dad didn't though. Not really. Well no. He didn't go to the wedding. That would have hurt a lot and it shows that it was about him (dad,) and his conditions of loving.
I am SOBBING! You don’t understand how much this can help someone in the same or similar situation!! I adore you x
Jack, wow, thanks for actually watching this video. It means a lot. I hope it can help people in the similar situation.
I wish I had listened to this thirty years ago. It would have solved many problems in my life. I was in denial and kept my sexuality a secret. I admire you for your openness and honesty, and admire you for your bravery. You faced your demons, I hid them.
@@Stepsof2Foreigners Christianity is DISGUSTING religion, I sympathize with you, I am from Ukraine, now I live in Belgium because I fled from my country and asked for asylum, I was granted refugee status under the Geneva Convention, now I can live freely, not be afraid every day that people find out that I'm gay , society causes a lot of suffering, without even realizing that their homophobia spoils the lives of innocent people
@@Stepsof2Foreigners I'm happy for you, that your parents accept you, you are very good person
My parents ran conversion therapy at the local church. To cure me they bought me a female prostitute. It had the opposite effect they were striving for.
Wow!!! They brought a female prostitute, not minding that she could possibly infect you with STD. Just goes to show how homophobic some parents can be. This is sad. Hope you are doing Okay though?
@@feyiplus4500 I'm fine. They dont like me and I dont like them. They have selective memory and wanted to change history rewrite what they did. I said no. So they dont talk to me because I'm a horrible person and they believe they are the only sane people left in the world. You can't reason with that. They are miserable in their life nobody wants to talk to them.
@@corxiiifelinike2643 I moved out long ago. They still are mad about things that happened when I was a child. They hold grudges against all people. They are miserable and no one wants to speak to them.
Ali Sarsour صرصور they are narcissists. These kind of people have a mental disorder. I’m not joking. They have an enzyme in their brain that prevent them to be open minded. And they won’t be able to comprehend that they are wrong.
Wow, sorry to hear that. Mine didn't go that far but I'm sure they might have thought about it. You doing okay now?
Hola, chicos. Nunca había visto este video, aunque varias veces estuve tentado a hacerlo. Hoy me atreví a verlo porque el título era llamativo para mí: Terapia de CONVERSACIÓN gay. Creí que muy atinadamente este título había sido elegido para todos a quienes nos ingresará escuchar su testimonio; sin embargo, quedé más sorprendido, pues ahora que leo la descripción veo que "conversación" se repitió, lo cual me hace suponer que no fue intencional. Con esto quiero decir que por pura coincidencia (si es que no me equivoco) la tradución que este chico hizo (conversión=conversación) resultó en una curiosa y agradable fórmula retórica para los hispanohablantes: en lugar de una equivocada terapia de CONVERSIÓN, el producto fue una terapia de CONVERSACIÓN gay, algo que hace falta en nuestros contextos machistas, y por lo visto no sólo latinoamericanos. Espero que este muchacho pueda leer esto, pues me gustaría que se enterara de que tanto su testimonio como su traducción aportan a la lucha de una o varias personas más.
Además de lo anterior, también considero hacer la observación sobre los algoritmos de TH-cam que clasifican este producto audiovisual: está clasificado como "explicación" biológica, lo cual me parece un error, producto de las clasificaciones semánticas de la programación, pero también de la "programación" lingüístico-cultural de la que estamos hechos. Hay que abogar por cambios más profundos en nuestros esquemas de pensamiento, y sería maravilloso hacerlo juntos y desde nuestras trincheras a la vez.
Gracias a este chico por su testimonio.
Me paso lo.mismo lo ignore vomo 3 veces al video 😂
I’m sitting here, sobbing. You didn’t deserve ANY of this! You are perfect the way you are!
Watching this video, I saw you regress back to that scared confused kid. Then I watched you return to the man you are. Amazing!
Awe, thank you. The video was a bit difficult to do but glad it's out there now :)
Stepsof2Foreigners I'm blushing..., You're welcome. It's nice to see someone at peace with himself. And so in love!
I’ve sent this video to nearly everyone in my whats app ! I’ve been watching you and your husbands videos. The love you have for each other is beautiful. Back to the coming out video this made me so mad 😡 and very happy by the end . Just so up setting that up had to go though that crazy shit to be the beautiful human being you are today. Am really happy that your parents love a support so much as you said they had to change the mind set not an easy thing to do ! Thank you for making this video really touched my heart we need more couples like you two in the world 🏳️🌈❤️❤️❤️❤️👍👍👍👍👍
I remember when my brother came out gay. My country is severely homophobic so when he came out to my mother she was was shock and as a Christian had a hard time accepting it. I ask my mother what my brother said to her and she said ask him. When i called my brother he said to my me' i have something to say to you' and i said 'what, you're gay?' I told him I already knew a long time ago and I don't have a problem with it. I am probably the only one who immediately accept my brother for who he is in my family.
Shanice, thank you. We wish we had more people like you. Keep being that wonderful person you are.
This is the part that I don't understand. "As a Christian" how can someone have a "hard time accepting" other people for who they are? Sounds like your mother isn't really a true Christian. You were the only one in your family who acted truly Christian, so good on you for that. I'm sure he was so happy to have you during that time in his life.
If you have problems for religious/cultural reasons, read “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God” - the psychological basis of religious belief
homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html
I grew up in New York and kn ew I was different at the age of 6. It was scary and wanted to like girls. I am 72 years old and was so difficult back in the 50s nd 60s. I am so glad you are doing this presentation for others. I was at the Stonewall in June 69. It took me a while to come out at age 17. I admire your relationship and have been in a relationship for 51 tears. Sorry you had to go through what you did but you are stronger for it. Congratulations be proud and out and about.
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it’s been 15 years and my parents still have the same mindset, no matter how happy i am, no matter my personal and professional achievements. i never gave up on myself though, i love me
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Absolutely ! Love yourself and be who you are.it took me 48 years to accept who I was , and become the person I am today :-)
Thank you so much TV. I agree with you completely and I'm glad I can accept myself at the age of 33.
AL Lucas im 46 and I cannot accept myself who i am. This feeling gets so hard to hide it
@@hectorabcdefg9076 The sooner you learn to accept yourself, the better your life will become. I came out to my parents when I was 16 and to everyone else as well. Since then my life has become so much better. I had to learn how to say FCK you to all the haters and the people that didn't approve and to accept that not everyone will approve of my sexuality but I had to do it for myself in order to truly be happy and lift that weight off of my shoulder. You can't please everyone in this world but you can come to terms with and love yourself. That's what really counts!
I'm 58 and still working on it.
'Be proud of who I am not who you want me to be' 🥀🥀🥀🥀
I agree my friend... be who you are and love who you want.
So sorry you had to go through this! No one should ever have to go to! You deserve nothing but peace and happiness from here on out 🙏🙏🙏
After following you guys for so long, I only watched this video now for the first time, and I was so incredibly moved by your experience and how you were able to tell it to us. Much of it was hauntingly familiar, having grown up in a Christian Brethren home, and going through counselling/conversion therapy with the Church elders myself...feeling the guilt of shame on my family and the years of confusion. Now happily married for 11 years, my parents love my husband and accept him as their son... I could never have dreamed it's possible. In fact, I never allowed myself to dream it to be possible. People fear what they don't know, interaction itself helps people accept and understand. After all, I came from a place of not accepting myself, but now I wouldn't change it for an easier adolescence. Thank you again for the honesty and realness.
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This has got to be the realest and most heart felt coming out story I have ever heard.
Wow, that's such a nice compliment. Thank you! I'm glad you think that and it's a great compliment to hear.
I watched your video with tears in my eyes. I felt like I wanted to put my arms around you, hold you and make all this pain just go away. I'm 65 years old, live in the Netherlands and never had such problems coming out, even in those days when I was about 19. Disgraceful that being gay is still such an issue and people have to go through so much pain to sort this out for themselves. You're a beautiful, loving, sensitive man and I'm so happy for you you've found a great guy like Bernardo to share your life with! I wish you both a happy, loving and fulfilling life together! And thank you for sharing your story!
This guy is so BEAUTIFUL , and such a nice person within. Nice to see he is with a partner and that his family accepts and loves him.
When my parents found out I was gay they said they still loved me and that would never change , but from that day forward I wasn't allowed to have any friends over or go to any friends. And I was in the popular group with hundreds of friends. After that even my siblings pretty much ignored me and only in the last few years have they even tried having relationships of any kind. I went from being very popular to being a loner until i got out on my own. I'm still alone and get lonely at times but I will never be straight nor will I pretend to be. I'm glad you had a happy ending. So many dont. Hugs !
There's someone out there for you.
The goodness in our hearts is what matters in life. If people are bigoted and hateful is just reflects who they are, and their empty hearts. Be happy life is short
I'm not a crier Adam but you made me cry...thanks for sharing your story. It really touched my heart.
Cadê a legenda Adam?
Legenda por favor
Adam, your such a fine man. God bless you son.
How kind of you Mark. I really appreciate it :)
Some gay people are good people. since I'm gay myself, I know what I'm talking about
and a cutie, too :-)
"I'm gay again."
It hurts to hear him say that.
I'm looking for partner
What a great story, thank you for sharing, Adam. Giving parents the time to understand and accept is so important, and your parents sound amazing. My husband and I were also lucky to have conservative but accepting parents. In fact, all our straight siblings are sadly divorced, and we're the only intact marriage among all us kids. Love is love. What matters is that we treasure it when we find it.
I have this feeling about you being a great human being! You deserve all the happiness and joy of this damaged world.
I'm so happy for you and Bernardo. Really happy that you found YOU and accepted YOU. All the best.
Thanks so much Bob. I'm so glad I found myself as well. I went through some years where I had no idea who I was. Big hugs to you.
tears burst out, I knew I was gay, but it’s not possible to just come out to your parents in China, sometimes I think I am totally lost in who I am, where my future path is. For one time, my mom saw me messaging something to my friends, and she sensed that and talked to me alone, crying and asking me to change, because no one she knew was gay, and she is sad because she didn’t know what happened to me, and I said I won’t do this anymore. But deep down I know this just won’t change. I knew that i am myself, I just want to live a life for being authentic to myself.😭😭😭
Im so touched by your coming out story . Your wounds and pain means a lot . I cried . Thank you so much for sharing , I was so touched , inspired, influenced more than you imagine . I really love you by the way who you are , by the way you live , by the huge sincerity I feel from you I really love to see your whole video I’m so happy to see you two love each other you two are such a great example for true love .
the moment you say "Baptist" -damn! I already know what's coming! I feel you...
Adam, i understand you co my two sons is also a gay . when my son accept and confess that hes a gay i cry at at first but later on i accept them with all my heart .your on my side Adam.
Oh thanks for accepting them Sara. We just need people to have acceptance.
why did you cry?
that is so beautiful. thanks for accepting 😭👍👍
don't get why people cry...be happy his real life not his fake one is just starting
@@hyakintos she realized what her sons were dealing with and it made them sad so it probably made her sad at the time.
Things have changed so much since I was a teen. THANK GOD. It's still hard for parents to accept things about a child that contradict their notions of who their offspring should be.
People should focus on what kind of person their kid is, not who they love. It's not a choice. The fact is God made you just as you are. Accept the gift of life and be the best you you can be.
Some things in life are easy to say but hard to do bro
You are such a lovely and good person, Adam. 🌈❤ I was raised in a Christian cult family too, so I understand. I was put through exorcisms in my early teens, and I barely escaped with my life. You and I were psychologically brainwashed and tortured by religious sadists and zealots in our formative years. I know these are harsh words to describe it. You were expressing your normal and natural self and being punished for it without cause or sympathy. This was our family and friends who believed they were doing right. These were the people we trusted to love us, and they did not. It's no wonder we have PTSD, Adam. I'm so happy you escaped and found Bernardo. We will be managing painful aspects of this likely until we die. It is profoundly serious trauma. I think of monotheists as psychopathic terrorists. Sorry, but I do. I hope you have excellent therapy for as long as you want, and I hope you become deeply proud of who you've become as a gay man. I think you are utterly amazing, and I love you and admire you very much. With love, from a gay Buddhist monk. 🙏❤🌈🎆
PS I hope you realize over time that you do not need to be "allowed to be gay" by family or need anybody's permission to be the wonderful gay man who you are. I hope you can shed all remnants of that way of thinking. I was raised by and been around Italians for 55 years, brother. Every-freaking-body talks with their hands for goodness sake. It is completely normal to talk with your hands. Also, on our paths, we both abused cannabis and other drugs in order to survive. There is no shame in that. I'm actually glad you did and stayed alive. I hope you can find a way to either walk away from substance abuse or at least use in moderation like many normal people do. Again, I can't tell you enough how much you have brought joy into my life. I've been watching you for a long time, man. I just love everything about you. From my side, I carry you and hold you in my heart. Thank you for sharing and helping everyone with your story. ❤🏳🌈
This was a very moving video Adam. I appreciate the fact that you shared so much of your story with all of us. Of course I was born in a very different time and could never come out to my mother and father. After their deaths I cam out to my brother and he severed all ties with me along with his wife and children. When I was in my twenties most gay men were abandoned by their family almost 100% of the time. As you already know from my past comment on you and Bernardo's channel that I am now married to my partner and I now have a very happy life. The pain and powerful feelings that you talked about still being strong after all this time will never go away completely. But this is a good thing because you remember where you came from and the journey that you have made. I was also raised in a strong southern Baptist home so I have complete understanding from where you came from. I think that you are so lucky to have the parents and siblings that you have because they seem to be so strong to be able to look past their religious beliefs and see you in a clear light and not see you as something different or wrong. I wish only the best for you and BL and I look forward to you two moving to the USA. By the way I am also looking forward to B's coming out story and the part that his sister played in that. Bless you both.
OMG. I see Adam so differently now. At first when I started following this couple I thought another handsome couple, sexy, and white (did not know Bernardo (misspell I know it) was Brazilian until after watching the first vlog) gay couple, but now after hearing Adam’s coming out story he looks so different to me now. He came through so much. He deserves to have a happy and successful life with his boyfriend. Cheers to you Adam and your relationship good luck to the both of you :)!!
Finalmente consegui assistir a sua historia, pois não sei nada de inglês
, chorei bastante pq é a história de muitos que estão por esse mundo há fora.
Eu graças a Deus não pessei pelo que você passou Adam, mais claro tive os momentos
principalmente no Ensino Médio de tormento, pelas piadas sem graça, olhares e igonarancia dos meninos,
ainda mais do crush, que era o pior, acabando me fazer sentir horroroso.Mas enfim superamos, que bom deu tudo certo em nossas familias e hoje somos livres, beijos, sucesso e muitas felicidades para os dois. Vocês são meu exemplo de casal.
Que linda história Adam. Parabéns pela superação. É a história de muitos meninos gays que não assumem quem são por medo do que os outros pensam, principalmente medo de decepcionar os pais. Eu me orgulho de você
Adam, I'm highly impressed by your being so honest, so sincere and si elegant. Honest to God, you are touching. Really. That video should be available in all Senior High Schools all over USA and Canada as well. Congratulations and bravissimo. May God bless, protect and keep you two in His love for ever. 👍👋👍
Thank you! you are a beautiful man. Peace to your soul!
Thanks so much Karim. That means a lot to me. Big hugs from Brazil.
hello you two love. I admire you two you exude such a heart warmth, since I am gay myself, I would like to tell you that I have you two immediately closed in my heart. i wish you chew still love all the luck of this earth. Of course, understandable
Thank You !!! For taking the opportunity to share your painful story …It was most affective and soooo not necessary for your sanity … From the Mississippi Delta as a Southern Baptist at 23 I came out to myself … but no one else … At 31 … I attempted suicide and had to “ come out” to my family … It took them years to accept me … and just before my parent’s death … they finally admitted that I was born this way …kind and loving … Those were their adjectives for me … Thank God …
Back to you … I Admire you Soooo Much for your tenacity to be who you and I were born to be …. Un
Adam, this punched me in the gut, as my story is very similar. My Dad's a minister, my great grandfather, and brother as well. I was a church pianist, and came out at 18, after my mother was told something by "God" knows who. I'm married to an Italian and ended up in Italy. Watching your videos makes me cry incessantly, as I know all too well your experience, your pain and your joy. Thank you for the courage to make and post these videos. You are helping thousands of men around the world know they are not alone in their issues.
Will Bernardo do a coming out story? I'm really curious how gays are treated in Brazil, specially in the previous decades. If not then it's still fine. I adore you guys no matter what. Adam, im really impressed of how strong of a person you've become. Thanks for sharing your story.
Crosby Ragnar thank you for watching and commenting Crosby. I've asked him about his coming out video but he is a little hesitant. He thinks his coming out story is "normal". I think everyone's coming out story is important to other people.
It would be great to watch "normal" coming out story. it would be even better to show how it could be in normal way. I'm serious. My coming out stroy is also normal and sometimes I think that I'm not normal that it was so normal. Maybe you think that is crazy but I really thought in youn age that it's not normal to be gay without this crazy shit. And because people can watch only dramatic stories think that it has to be dramatic and a lot of shitty things.
That was so sad. The world just need more love. Real love. Im happy to see that you end up being a happy man. I wish you the best S2
Thanks so much for watching and commenting Renato :)
Was outed by some church members at the age of 13. Put into conversion therapy by myself in one of the church members basements for a month during summer break. It was traumatizing and I’m still not ready to speak on some of the things they did to me. But I’m now 18, slowly recovering, still gay and not fully out to my family yet. Still on bad terms with my parents ever since that incident in 2014. I’ve been diagnosed with depression and anxiety, but I’m still pushing to live another day. Still crying tears of pain and joy now 😭 Love you! You’re a brave human, don’t let anyone take that away from you!
It took me 50 years to come out and I still was not accepted. This and the bullying I had to endure left me permanently damaged. I am glad that your life sorted it self out with your family and that you found your soul mate. You come across as a very nice man and I wish you well.
Adam we do not know one another but I grew up Roman Catholic your story really hit Home and I am so proud of you on what you had to endure but in the end you found and became comfortable with your self. I have watched many of your videos together and the live caring respect you have for one another and the display of affection is like myself as I am ITALiAN and always have been touchy freely and talked with my hands. You certainly get the drift of my thoughts so I will leave it at many Blessings much love many hugs between you both forever and ever.
Am proud of you and I don't even know you.
That's so sweet, thank you!
Amo voces muinto meu sonho e conhecer vocês mas não sei falar ingles
I’m so sorry for you. It’s a miracle that you still speak to your parents. They imposed torture on you.
I didn’t go through “gay therapy” but I can relate so much to your story. I also grew up with the church determining who you are is wrong. Trying to change myself on who I should be attracted to. Trying to pray the gay away. It was a very lonely time in my life. I was always a shy person but this only made it worse. I never felt like I fit in or that I belonged. I constantly felt like the outsider anywhere I went. It took me many years to learn to love myself and accept myself for who I am. I have my good days and bad days, but I can relate to your story so much. Thank you for sharing.
I'm for the LGBT community I think your courageous 🌹God bless you
Adam, baby, I'm in tears watching your story! I gripped my heart the whole way through. I cannot imagine what that must have been like for you, but it's so great to hear your parents changed, and accepted you for the amazing human being your are.
Thanks so much Rob for the beautiful comment. I didn't mean to make you cry. It was a difficult period of my life but I'm thankful for it. I learned so much about myself during this period.
Adam, it's fine. Your story is truly touching, and it's so inspirational to the younger generation to show them that it's not all doom and gloom when coming out. Yeah, it started out tough, but it all worked out in the end. I feel sad for those who don't have such happy endings. And I feel sickened for the parents who choose to disown their children for their sexuality. One day, maybe not in our lifetime, there will be change and much more acceptance.
You’re adorable! I do hope you’ve fully realised what a light you are! Keep loving yourself man; it gets better as you know! Very proud of you! ❤️
I’m so proud of you! Your story is so important to share. God Bless You.
This is a great video. Wow, this is making me cry. There are still 36 states in the US that have no bans on conversion therapy. Let's try to make that number 0.
Devyn, that is my goal. :)
This is one of the most amazing and inspiring videos I have ever since in a long time, it almost made me cry. People judge too much without having no idea what we need to go through.
Wow, so sweet Edwar. Thanks so much for watching it. Big hugs from Brazil.
Stepsof2Foreigners Thank you so much for sharing your story. It helped me gain more confidence for coming out to important people in my life!
Awesome. I'm so glad it helped you. Big hugs.
I just found your channel two days ago and I have been hook on your videos for these past two days. I have seen other coming out stories on TH-cam but definitely this is my favorite video. Thanks for being so open about your experience, it's encouraging for me.
Thanks for sharing your story. It was really moving & I'm so glad you found yourself! ❤️
Quando falamos de feridas abertas, acredito que inconscientemente temos muitas questões que sequer pensamos racionalmente. Por isso, hoje, tento respeitar todas as pessoas, independentemente do que elas estão passando. Não sabemos o que se passou na vida dela. Ouvir mais, principalmente nesses casos, é o melhor a ser feito.
Obrigado por compartilhar conosco.
Torço muito pela felicidade de vocês, Adam e Bernardo. 👬
I can hear the nervousness in your voice, I'm glad you're open to sharing your story. Hugs and kisses from Palestine ❤️
Thanks so much Kareeem. Big hugs from USA and Brazil
Thank you for sharing your story. I applauded your bravery for opening up about your story. I was touched and cried when I saw the pain on your face when you were telling what you went through at the conversion therapy. I am glad that your parents have been so accepting of what you are. Please do not stop spreading your happiness and love together with Bernardo. Love conquers everything.
Mate, that is a beautiful message. Thanks for doing it. Ur so brave putting that out there and I hope lots of kids see it and it helps them to understand they aren't alone and there are support networks.
This was a well done video. You should be proud of yourself.
So kind of you to say that John. Thanks so much!
اهلا ناس
مرحبا بكم
Very important you share your story with us Adam. A lot of boys and girls go through great difficulties when they understand that they are gay. Seeing you happy loving Bernardo will help these people know that love is stronger and that being gay is something absolutely normal. The videos of you are wonderful because they help to show how a gay couple is happy, with good heart and of good nature. Me and Jeyme face difficulties but today we are very happy. Me and him have been together for 8 years. We are happy that you have overcome the difficulties and today you are a happy man and have met a good person like Bernardo. Jeyme is sending you a kiss. Keep posting videos. This is very important and has helped many gay people, okay ?! A big hug for you both. (Tentando fala um pouco em inglês!....kkkkkkkkkk)
I don't even know how to show how happy I was, I'm 15 years old, I'm in the same situation as you, I really feel lost and lonely, but this video was very, very good for me, I never felt so good, and I never cried so much in a video 😂💔, I'm sorry, I know it wasn't easy, I'm going through this now, and I want to thank you very very very much, it was like an inspiration.❤❤😢❤💔👌👏👏
Very moving and very touching story, thank you Adam.
Being a gay, I haven't come out to my parents, but I've told some of my friends. Just as you said, to confess to others who you truly are, to understand who you're born to be, is the happiest thing and greatest relief. In comparison to facing the truth, confusion is much more painful. I'm glad that I've watched and listened to so many coming out stories. And as usual, your video gives me impetus to chase the life that I wanna have. Obrigado
Mark Deng stay strong! ❤
Amigo, muito obrigado. The life you have always wanted it out there. It took me a while to get there but I eventually did. You will know when the right time is for you to come out. I hope the video of me coming out has given you a little help.
I Can't speak English. I hope you understands my messy English. ......But your eyes ... .....My tears don't stop falling....your so sweet and Strong man..very good man...
you and bernardo make me happy~smile.
Thank you so so so so much.
I will always support you.
God bless you♡♡
I am giving you a huge hug from the bottom of my heart! I love you both!
Your story is heartbreaking, thanks for sharing. I know this will help otherrs. Glad you were able to come out and be happy.
That was sool much more intense than I was expecting. 😮 I have so much more respect for you after hearing this.
Wow, thanks so much Simon. Thanks for watching this special video.
The only words that i can say... WoW and God blessed you both...👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Thank you again :)
I'm proud of you. Thank you for this story.
Just watched this video again and again it makes me so proud and happy of you and for you. You and Bernardo are such a God send to young men struggling with who they are. Love you both and again I have to thank you both for sharing with everyone, you have no idea just how much you gentlemen have come to mean to everyone. God bless you both, take good care of yourself and of each other.
You r frank enough Adam to confess ur story.... thanx a lot.... wish u a very happy life....
Thank you. I thought the story was important.
Wow you are so brave for posting this video. My coming out story wasn't nearly as intense as yours, but I remember how hard it was to even find the words to admit my sexuality to myself, much less other people. Thank you so much for using your platform to share your story. I am truly inspired!
Thanks so much Donavan. TH-cam can be a great thing when it can help others struggling with the same issue. I can only hope it can help others. Thanks for watching the video.
great video. I was about to cry, at one point you made me go back and remember sad moments, especially in that part where we are still knowing who we are and who we want to be.
Adam,
Thank you so much for sharing your moving and beautiful life experience. It brought tears to my eyes at certain points. Wishing you and Bernardo all the best. Be proud and hold you head sky high!
Oh, man! That's really terrible! Why is the world this way? I came across to your channel and just found that your boyfriend is also Brazilian. That's cool! I'm from Brazil as well. I wish you both the best!
Thanks so much Eduardo. Yes, we both live in Brasilia and you?
I live in the countryside of São Paulo.
Thank you for sharing your story. It must have been horrible for you to get through all of this crap
kévin Robinet Hey Kevin. Thanks for watching the video. It was horrible but it made me who I am today so I don't regret it. It made me sympathize with others and respect everyone's feelings.
Thank you for sharing such a painful story... It helps me and probably a lot of other people. You're a beautiful person just the way you are and don't let anyone change you just so you fit better in their life!
Adam, thank you for taking the time to sharing your story. It is a powerful one and will certainly help many in their journey.
Believe it or not, I've been waiting so hard for your new video so long.
When i woke up and see that i got a notification from your channel, i click into it see and its about 'COMING OUT' which suddently came something into my mind.
My dad is not very supportive of me and he's homophobic. This thoughts
Is eating me alive every seconds because he won't accept me. I had a terrible childhood with him where i suffered a lot of painful physically and emotionally. I wish i had my mom to support me😢. As you know it, coming out to dad is not as easy as coming out to mom, DAD may react negatively with physical abuse (He's alcoholic). I really do wish to came out to my DAD through mom but 😢😢😢. Sorry its very long comment for me ever on TH-cam . I don't know something came up to my mind to express what i am feeling after watching your videos. Your video does help me that we're special like them too and we should be proud.
Emilio Diaz jr thank you🙏
deesons8 , thanks for sharing . slowly you go getting cure , but also there are wounds that nerver cure and we must learn to live with that . Not every mother or father is ready to know their child are gay . Sometimes is better to keep it for yourself .
Hey! Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart for your comment. I'm so glad you were able to watch the video and to connect with it on some level. If you ever need anything, please do not hesitate to message me. Coming out to our dads is difficult because we are men and it's hard for them. I hope you are doing well now.
Juanjop S thanks. Such motivation are priceless
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This was a very sad and upsetting video which had a very positive ending. Thank you for being brave enough to share your story with us. We look forward to hearing Bernardo's coming out story when he is ready.
Thanks Rob for watching the video. The beginning and middle are sad but the ending is full of happiness. He will do his when he is confident and ready.
Very touching story. Thanks for sharing your journey! Glad your parents came around to accept the "true" you. Best of luck & good health to you & Bernardo! :)
That was a beautiful story. I am extremely excited for you and your family. I wish you all nothing but much happiness and love and joy.
My coming out story.. Mum my boyfriend is coming over... the end
Mysterious Girl But you’re not gay you’re a girl
Mysterious Girl LoL!
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A friend did the same thing. He noticed how his older brother introduced to his parents the girl he was dating and introduced friends who just happened to be girls. Older brother never said the words "girlfriend" or "jpst a friend". It was clear from context. My friend did the same with the guys he knew. His parents figured it out. :-)
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After listening to this video, I really felt like I wasn't alone because currently I'm going through high school with the struggle to coming out to my parents. I know my parents aren't really ready for the fact that I am gay so I'm waiting for the right time to come out of my closet.. When my mother found out that I went and joined the pride parade, she wasn't able to really accept who I was as she cried one night. I kept on asking myself "Who am I?" when I already knew deep within me that I'm gay :'(( I fear the worst is yet to come later on in life because there are still people--perhaps even my closest friends who don't support being gay and I may lose them for who I am... I am scared as person in a chinese family that may leave me and send me away... I had to break up with my best friend because I had feelings for him but those feelings remain :(( Thank you for this amazing coming out video!! I feel a lot more comfortable and feel that it is okay to be who you are than my past painful years 💙🌈😭
Daniel Ng did you hate your mom
Daniel Ng, speaking as a 52 year old, if you loose friends due to them finding out your gay, they're not true friends, parents (mothers especially) have pre programmed idias of son , wife, grandchildren etc, they will be confused, shocked it,ll get better, they will cope, just focus on enjoying life, stay strong, find great friends as your back up who are true friends, best regards, you,ll be fine been there , got the T shirt a long time ago ~!
This actually made me cry. This is really emotional! I’m so glad that you’re happy now and you found the love of your life. ❤️ 😞 😢
Your story really touched me and mine is very similar to yours . My dad recently found out about me and now I’m going through these prayers with our pastor . I just hope I’m able to pass through this and come out to him later on
Hi Adam! It is a great video :) Thank you for sharing your story. Regards from Boston!
Good evening Wiluve, thank you very much for watching the video. Regards all the way from Brazil.
Hi Adam, many thanks for your coming out story. I am still very touched and have tears in my eyes. You are a great person and I wish you all the best from my heart.
Greetings from Germany
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I've watched your videos for years, so I can't believe I'm only seeing this now. Thanks for sharing your story. My sister loves Proud of your Boy, it has a lot of meaning to her so it was lovely to her your story. Lots of love to you!
Vital viewing for so many with a shared experience, and also for those that care about them. Thanks Adam, even years later, for sharing this journey, and I am so ecstatic about where you are now, what you have achieved, the inspiration that you have been (to millions!), and the wonderful, beautiful, absolutely heart-warming relationship that you have with Bernardo, and with your parents. You guys always make me smile, even through tragedy. Thank you both for this channel. ❤