Awesome. My child came out to me about a year and a half ago. Sometimes I thinks young adults are surprised when we aren't surprised. I believe in God and I believe that he doesn't make mistakes. So to me being gay or straight are both normal. The most beautiful thing in this world is love. The more of it there is the better we all will be.
That's exactly what my Mom says. If God wouldn't want me to be gay, I wouldn't be. If God wouldn't want me to be with a woman, he wouldn't have given me my wonderful fiancée.
Alastair, thank you for that heartfelt and well-thought-out response. I'm struggling with the whole coming out process and I'm way older than you. I have so many questions and comments, but mostly I'd like to say of all the videos like this that I've watched recently, yours is by far the best and most hopeful. Thanks
Todd it is a difficult thing, I am 55 and still coming out. It is to late for my mum she has dementia but I came out to my dad only 4-5 weeks ago (doh) as he asked my sister if I had a family in Thailand which broke my heart as I had found out a month earlier that my Thai partner of 8 yrs (engaged 4 yrs) had a Thai bf for the last year and a half which hurt me enough and then the feeling of guilt I felt with not telling dad of not only my sexuality but my relationship I had for so long, but he was cool as and said he had never had a problem with homosexuality and he loved me and was proud of me. I am now out to all my family bar 1 brother who outed me 2 Christmases ago to family friends of which I have yet to talk with him about outing me when I wasn't out to him. In regards to coming out to the community as a whole don''t care to its nobodies business though if Im asked Í will see where i am at with that. As for my family they have been excepting and loving as always and have told me that I have grown and come out of my shell so to speak since telling them. The big regret is I have missed out on so much over a long time basically living a lie but thats life and we do what we do, so just do whats best for yourself....
Alastair is more of an introvert than Zach, and this is the most I have ever heard him say before! He looks so relaxed and comfortable here, and I think he's found the perfect partner in Zach. They fill in the blanks for one another, and that is great. Hello, too, to B - the world's cutest dog.
Wow! I have watched videos with Alistair from the beginning and from the first one I watched to this one, it is amazing how comfortable and well spoken he's become in front of the camera. That's one of the best coming out stories I've heard and I've watched too many to count. I'm a gay dad and have a transgendered son and I just want you guys to know that I'm very proud of you both and the messages you two put out to the world. Keep your videos coming.
What a supportive, balanced and grounded video; well done guys! I had a really tough time during my coming-out process, many years ago. I think you're absolutely right when you say that coming-out means first coming-out to yourself. I also had a strong Christian religious upbringing and initially immersed myself in my faith to try and 'cure' my feelings. In the end I suffered depression and began to hate myself. I learnt a very sobering lesson from this - You can't love God and hate yourself at the same time, it doesn't work that way. I'm still a Christian, I love my faith very much, it's pretty central to my life, but now I can also say that I love the man I've been with for 18 years and feel very blessed about it too. It's sometimes, but unfortunately all too often the case, that gay Christians feel rejected by their spiritual community. This has the effect of pushing us away from God, and away from a nurturing spiritual community, which we may also need access to; personally I think this is tragic. There is most definitely a place for God in gay relationships, and I always encourage those who may be feeling a little disheartened and who are searching, not to give up on God's infinite unconditional love for all of us.
So impressive. The more I see of Alastair the more I can see why Zach loves him (and vice versa). Zach, you do take such good videos. Low-key and professional. I was transfixed.
I actually wished that Zach was in the video asking the questions since we all knew it was him asking the questions anyway. They have done q & a together before. Perhaps they wanted to create a different look with this video.
Zach, that is one brave, amazing dude you married there. I’m sure this was more than a little outside of Alastair’s comfort zone, but him doing it anyway to share with us and help others is not only moving, but really an example to all of us. Thanks for the video guys! I actually have someone important to share this with.
I literally NEVER have commented on a TH-cam video before, but I just want to say a quick comment. Your videos are simply wonderful. They're thoughtful, genuine, and helpful. From what I can see, you two are amazing people. I wish you nothing but the best. :)
Alastair, first of all I love that name...now, I’ve commented on so many of Zach’s videos and I truely care about you two and your relationship. You two have been such an inspiration for me to come out and be myself. Thank you so much for that. I had forgotten what Happy felt like, but now I’m just me. Seriously thank you
Thanks for sharing, Alastair, and love your calm demeanor and easy laughter! Hope you do a Q&A soon. Your perspective as a gay West Point grad could really help a lot of young gays considering service. Take care, sir!
Thank You Alastair for your well said and openness to share your coming out story with us all, and I am proud and honored to say having you being apart of our military team, with your views and thought process, people, our country/ world and how you let us see the world thru your eyes deeply thank you.
Alastair, you are one brave man to bare your soul on video for all to see. I, for one, appreciate how heartfelt and somewhat uncomfortable this was for you. You have my gratitude for being so uniquely brave. Also, thank you for your service to our country and may you enjoy those butter bars on your collar!
I'm so proud of u guys. You boys have come a long way! So happy you found each other. I'm a 64 year old gay man who came out BEFORE Stonewall. It was 1966! I was 13. Coming out can be just as stressful today. You've handled the whole thing beautifully. All the best to you my brothers! Love GG
I think you have a certain level of 'gravitas' that comes across well and clearly regardless of your reluctance to be ... so public. That carries a lot of weight for you as a person and for your message. You are simply a very likeable fellow with a lot going for you that is easy for many folks to identify with from their own perspectives and positions. That is CURRENCY--weight--impact--influence ... for you to use constructively, as you see fit, imho. I just encourage you to continue being 'brutally' honest with yourself and your viewers. Perhaps most importantly, I encourage you both to continue to emphasize the highest priorities of being loving, empathetic, patient, humble, routinely putting the other one more or less first; and fun with one another as extremely high values and ways of being in the world and in your relationship.
Thank you so much Alastair and Zach. Alastair this was such an honest, heartfelt (yet humorous at times) coming out story. Guys this is very helpful for anyone struggling with coming out, especially in Australia at present as we are in the middle of a very dangerous stupid vote on whether same sex couples should get married. This is making a lot of gay people struggle with thoughts self hatred, and worse. Your closing statements were right on the point. Thanks for taking the time and sharing this.
Congratulations for being yourself. Me, I'm a retired army officer and I hid my true identity for years and lied on the application when asked about homosexuality otherwise back then I would've never been allowed in the military. I suppressed everything and now I'm an old guy and getting into a relationship at this point in my life isn't going to happen. I grew up Christian too and tried to pray the gay away but it never happened and I never woke up in the early morning as a lusting heterosexual. It's a very lonely life. I need to clarify something here, I'm not a man wanting to be a woman, I don't know why ignorant heterosexuals think that about us. I love being a man because that's what I am first. Being gay is just a minute part of who I am. BTW I love women but I don't feel sexual towards them. Close friends of mine know and my sister, however those that don't know don't need to know
Absolutely one of the best, intelligently reliving of a coming out story. I've never been more impressed with you, more than I am today! Thank you for this, for being confident and for not bashing Christ in the process (pray the gay away). Awesome job.. honestly!
Very nicely done. I love your advice at the end. Zach has definitely been a big influence in getting that "shyness of the camera" out of you. You only have one life, live it to your fullest. much love to you two!!
Alastair! You are the greatest! One of the most sincere, funny, and no drama coming out stories that I have ever heard in TH-cam. The story about the letter to your mother, with the Q&A section, should be on a manual of how to come out for dummies; the comments about the email to your grandfather were just the cherry on top. If I could give you starts (and not just a single "like"), I would give you 5 (i.e., all of them). Very proud of having you representing the gay community on line.
I’m a new (ish, about 3 weeks) subscriber and i appreciate ya’lls vlog. Thank you for sharing your life with all of us. I have been with my husband for 16 years ( we were 26) and we moved pretty quick too. I will tell you, the 1st year of sharing of lives together was the hardest for me bc of it moving so darn fast. All I can tell you is that communication is key. And just like a any relationship there will be ups and downs but trust and communication is key. Thanks again for sharing your lives with all of us.
You guys are very lucky to have found each other. I can see from this video what you saw in this man Alastair. Honesty, integrity, a real man. love each other always!
Lucky you man. I went to the Philippine Military Academy, and in my second year when I was a 3rd class cadet I spent 3 months in West Point in an exchange program along with other foreign cadets. I wish I was able to know you and even had a chat with you about this thing. Coz in truth, coming out in our academy, qnd as future leaders of our armed forces was definitely not choice here in the Philippines. I never knew anyone in the academy who was the same as I, so knowing you ang sharing this would've given me air to breath a little amidst all the turmoil inside.
Nicely done. Glad to know more brothers in arms who are not only able to come to terms with who they are, but also share their stories and make an impact on others lives.
USMC here. Hey Alastair, thank you for sharing a very personal part of your life with us. You truly are making a positive impression on LGBTQ youth and adults watching your story. Great job, keep it up!!! To quote Shakespeare: "To thine own self be true". All the best to you, Zach and B.
I was in the USAF from the 70's to the 90's and it is really strange to hear you say "Westpoint gay community", in my day it was you are gay you are out with an other than honorable discharge. I am so glad you have this opportunity and things have changed for the better. You are amazing Alastair.
Who you are is no other person's business, and no one is obliged to explain himself/herself. You both are exceptionally nice and decent persons. Love, in it's purest form, will affirm and see you through.❤️
Zach's voice off screen sounds like, some celebrity guy, Sylvester Stallion.... it's deep and southern like it! Moving relatable story.. love the three of you (Zach, Ali and B) 😻😻
Dude Alastair! Your such an inspiration. I'm going through the same thing with dealing with balancing my gay life with my faith. Thanks for the hope you gave me in this video. You and Zach are so awesome.
I love you two. Keep yourselves happy. I came out in Texas in the late '60s and faced death threats, humiliations and bashings as well as loving support. I refused to go back in the closet, and at 19 met a 21 yr old Army guy who was serving in Vietnam. His love & kindness blew me away. He returned to duty but he was killed by 'friendly fire'. Don't ever give up. Love is the way. Lastly, do know we are so proud of you both and your families. Love always, Joseph Roehl
Zach and Alastair: You both are a huge asset to the gay community on YT and everywhere really. You guys are sincere, open and honest. This type of content is needed and helps so much during critical times when not much else can provide any reassurance.
You did a great job, AJ. Thanks for sharing. I have mad love for you both and wish you two nothing but the very best. And, I want to thank you for your service.
Thank you for your story Sir. Everyday is a struggle being an openly Gay Infantrymen but life is getting better. I never meet an openly gay male officer and I am overjoyed to have seen witnessed your journey. Mad respect Sir!
Well said Alastair. Thank you for sharing your story and reactions. As always, congratulations on finding each other! It sure is grand when you find the right one!!
thanks for being real. i have just started the process and sometimes have no clue what i am doing. i do know it's what i need to do live completely and i am beyond grateful y'all have given me the courage to be real
"You need to be okay with yourself before taking criticism of others" Thank you Alastair for yours words. You may be way younger than I am but you sure are wiser as it took me a hell lot of more than 24 years to figure this out (if only, it would've saved me a lot of stress, pain and sorrow). It sure does take strength and courage to come out and you have done it perfectly and with dignity. I wish you all the best to you and Zach.
Alastair, thanks so much for sharing your story with us! It's very inspiring to everyone, with a message of being yourself, being proud of and loving yourself! 👍🏻💕😍😁
Great story Alastair!! I'm sure kids that are struggling with coming out would appreciate this story. It was very courageous of you not to just come out but share it with everyone. Thank you for the share.
I've been waiting on this video since I first subscribed! Loved hearing Alastair's story and how he feels about homosexuality. What a great guy. Thanks for sharing with us Alastair and for interviewing him Zach. Love you both.
Alastair Patton haha well it was well worth the wait! I always appreciate you and your husband's words of wisdom. It's helped me with my own coming out. Thank you both :)
It is so strange and inspiring to hear of a positive coming out story that involves West Point. The love of my life passed away a decade ago -- he was at West Point while I was at Duke. Captain of West Point's basketball team, I actually saw him play my sophomore year, a year before I actually met him - Coach K is a West Point graduate. His experience was nothing like yours. I remember hiding is his closet - LITERALLY hiding for hours in his apartment closet at Fort Bragg - when his buddies would stop by unexpectedly. I am proud for you, and for the path he inadvertently paved as he slowly came out during the height of 'don't ask, don't tell'. Jason was an amazing person, and I'm fortunate to have truly known him. Thanks for reminding me...
You have such an incredibly important message. We have come so far, but the way things are today - I fear we could creep backwards as a society. You men are exactly the example we need! Huge kudos to you both.
This was a great video and I am so glad to hear about Alastair's coming out. Please continue to share his experiences, stories and advice. You guys are inspirational!
Great video Alastair and Zach! Alastair you're so confident that your testimony will certainly be helpful for people still in the closet. Thanks for them.👍
Alastair, thank you so much for sharing your story ❤️ And what a story! I didn't know you hadn't yet come out to your family when you met Zach; and now you guys are married! Much love and respect to you. Would you consider doing a Q&A? The part where you differentiate between "jealousy" and "attraction"; I'd never heard it phrased like that before, and I'd love to hear more of your thoughts and feelings on the coming out process
Alistair, I am not your father, but i couldn't be more proud to call you an acquaintance, You and husband enjoy your life, you deserve it, great video, thanks, Douglas ,Toledo, Oregon, USA
Great video Allister and Zack. I have been watching Zack since he started and watching your relationship grow here. now, seeing your coming out story, we can see more of you both as you grow. Always looking forward to Zack 's big smile and your shy smile on each video that comes out. Keep them coming guys and hey to B also.
Wow! Kudos, to you BOTH!! I stumbled upon your Videos about 6 months ago, and have been a Fan, ever since! Keep moving forward, and stay True!!! Totally Awesome!!
thank you for sharing your coming out story. when you are honest with yourself, you can be assured that nothing can hurt you (but you). continue to be yourself.
Wonderfully expressed as I'd expect anything from either of you two to be. You're both providing important conversations and advice and I hope you continue to do so. Good luck with your posting Alastair and I wish you and Zach all the happiness in the world as you journey together.
I want to thank you both for being so inspirational to me. I live in a very traditional environment in England and I was forbidden thirty years ago by my army officer parents to ‘come out’ as it was, and still is to them, totally unacceptable to do so. I’m in my fifties now and have led a very lonely and loveless life but your wonderful story brings me joy and I am so very happy for you both. God bless you and keep you always.
Great story. Love that he shared it. As a former Army Infantry Soldier whose military career was indirectly ended because of my orientation I love the fact that Alastair is able to be open both at West Point and to his platoon (making an assumption on that one since he did not directly indicate that but he did say he was living life as an openly gay man). That would have been unthinkable in my day in the Army (late 80's early 90's, before Don't Ask, Don't Tell). Would love to hear him talk about how his soldiers reacted, how his chain of command reacted, etc.
"Part of coming out is coming out to yourself."
Well said!
You did great Alastair, thanks for sharing your story! Have a great weekend guys!
Awesome. My child came out to me about a year and a half ago. Sometimes I thinks young adults are surprised when we aren't surprised. I believe in God and I believe that he doesn't make mistakes. So to me being gay or straight are both normal. The most beautiful thing in this world is love. The more of it there is the better we all will be.
Jason Tiver that's a really good viewpoint. It's always hard to accept who you really are and come to terms with what will make you happy
That's exactly what my Mom says. If God wouldn't want me to be gay, I wouldn't be. If God wouldn't want me to be with a woman, he wouldn't have given me my wonderful fiancée.
You're amazing!
Jason Tiver watch Matt and Blue. They have an amazing son named Crow! 😊
Alastair, thank you for that heartfelt and well-thought-out response. I'm struggling with the whole coming out process and I'm way older than you. I have so many questions and comments, but mostly I'd like to say of all the videos like this that I've watched recently, yours is by far the best and most hopeful. Thanks
Todd it is a difficult thing, I am 55 and still coming out. It is to late for my mum she has dementia but I came out to my dad only 4-5 weeks ago (doh) as he asked my sister if I had a family in Thailand which broke my heart as I had found out a month earlier that my Thai partner of 8 yrs (engaged 4 yrs) had a Thai bf for the last year and a half which hurt me enough and then the feeling of guilt I felt with not telling dad of not only my sexuality but my relationship I had for so long, but he was cool as and said he had never had a problem with homosexuality and he loved me and was proud of me. I am now out to all my family bar 1 brother who outed me 2 Christmases ago to family friends of which I have yet to talk with him about outing me when I wasn't out to him. In regards to coming out to the community as a whole don''t care to its nobodies business though if Im asked Í will see where i am at with that. As for my family they have been excepting and loving as always and have told me that I have grown and come out of my shell so to speak since telling them. The big regret is I have missed out on so much over a long time basically living a lie but thats life and we do what we do, so just do whats best for yourself....
Alastair is more of an introvert than Zach, and this is the most I have ever heard him say before! He looks so relaxed and comfortable here, and I think he's found the perfect partner in Zach. They fill in the blanks for one another, and that is great. Hello, too, to B - the world's cutest dog.
The part about not differentiating between jealousy and attraction... wow. That was literally me.
I am now trying to work out if I feel jealous tbh
Same
Wow! I have watched videos with Alistair from the beginning and from the first one I watched to this one, it is amazing how comfortable and well spoken he's become in front of the camera. That's one of the best coming out stories I've heard and I've watched too many to count. I'm a gay dad and have a transgendered son and I just want you guys to know that I'm very proud of you both and the messages you two put out to the world. Keep your videos coming.
Sounds like you have a good few stories yourself. I appreciate it, man
What a supportive, balanced and grounded video; well done guys! I had a really tough time during my coming-out process, many years ago. I think you're absolutely right when you say that coming-out means first coming-out to yourself. I also had a strong Christian religious upbringing and initially immersed myself in my faith to try and 'cure' my feelings. In the end I suffered depression and began to hate myself. I learnt a very sobering lesson from this - You can't love God and hate yourself at the same time, it doesn't work that way. I'm still a Christian, I love my faith very much, it's pretty central to my life, but now I can also say that I love the man I've been with for 18 years and feel very blessed about it too. It's sometimes, but unfortunately all too often the case, that gay Christians feel rejected by their spiritual community. This has the effect of pushing us away from God, and away from a nurturing spiritual community, which we may also need access to; personally I think this is tragic. There is most definitely a place for God in gay relationships, and I always encourage those who may be feeling a little disheartened and who are searching, not to give up on God's infinite unconditional love for all of us.
Such a warm-hearted, level-headed young man. My best to both.
So impressive. The more I see of Alastair the more I can see why Zach loves him (and vice versa). Zach, you do take such good videos. Low-key and professional. I was transfixed.
Alastair just gained a lot of fans from this video I think. I'm glad he did it.
Congratulations on your coming out story Alastair. Meanwhile, Zach's back there laughing adorably.
I actually wished that Zach was in the video asking the questions since we all knew it was him asking the questions anyway. They have done q & a together before. Perhaps they wanted to create a different look with this video.
He's so handsome
I like the way Alastair is really thoughtful (wise) and sincere.... and a keeper.
Great video Alastair. I'm amazed you've only been out a year, yet was brave enough to hold Zach's hand at West Point. Big props my man.
Zach, that is one brave, amazing dude you married there. I’m sure this was more than a little outside of Alastair’s comfort zone, but him doing it anyway to share with us and help others is not only moving, but really an example to all of us. Thanks for the video guys! I actually have someone important to share this with.
I needed this! Thanks Alastair for sharing and Zach for recording it. I was surprised that you hadn't come out to your family prior to meeting Zach.
I literally NEVER have commented on a TH-cam video before, but I just want to say a quick comment. Your videos are simply wonderful. They're thoughtful, genuine, and helpful. From what I can see, you two are amazing people. I wish you nothing but the best. :)
Awesome video! Thanks for sharing your story!
Carson And Nate thank you guys for your stories!
Carson And Nate you too are same....both of you are a good partner
Appreciate it
What a disgusting comment. People should pray for you
Carson And Nate morning coffee home chilling ralexing 🌞🐕 😋 iove you too 🐕
Now we need a video of Alastair speaking Spanish!!😛💖💖
YES PLEASE!!!
Alastair, first of all I love that name...now, I’ve commented on so many of Zach’s videos and I truely care about you two and your relationship. You two have been such an inspiration for me to come out and be myself. Thank you so much for that. I had forgotten what Happy felt like, but now I’m just me. Seriously thank you
"part of coming out is coming out to yourself" very well said, thanks for another great video
Thanks for sharing, Alastair, and love your calm demeanor and easy laughter! Hope you do a Q&A soon. Your perspective as a gay West Point grad could really help a lot of young gays considering service. Take care, sir!
You said exactly what I was thinking as well. Very soothing demeanor. Alastair, you would make a great mentor.
Michael Contreras watch Matt and Blue. They have an amazing son named Crow! 😊 THANK U
Thank You Alastair for your well said and openness to share your coming out story with us all, and I am proud and honored to say having you being apart of our military team, with your views and thought process, people, our country/ world and how you let us see the world thru your eyes deeply thank you.
Alastair, you are one brave man to bare your soul on video for all to see. I, for one, appreciate how heartfelt and somewhat uncomfortable this was for you. You have my gratitude for being so uniquely brave. Also, thank you for your service to our country and may you enjoy those butter bars on your collar!
I'm so proud of u guys. You boys have come a long way! So happy you found each other. I'm a 64 year old gay man who came out BEFORE Stonewall. It was 1966! I was 13. Coming out can be just as stressful today. You've handled the whole thing beautifully. All the best to you my brothers! Love GG
Garrett Glaser I really appreciate your comment. It's crazy how times have changed
Garrett Glaser I’ve seen this comment a bunch of times o diferentes videos is this spam or you just copied and paste all the time ??
Notification fam! I have to say that Alastair has come a long way w/ the shyness since the 1st video. Appreciate his story.
R Quig I'm not the most comfortable on camera haha
I think you have a certain level of 'gravitas' that comes across well and clearly regardless of your reluctance to be ... so public. That carries a lot of weight for you as a person and for your message.
You are simply a very likeable fellow with a lot going for you that is easy for many folks to identify with from their own perspectives and positions. That is CURRENCY--weight--impact--influence ... for you to use constructively, as you see fit, imho.
I just encourage you to continue being 'brutally' honest with yourself and your viewers.
Perhaps most importantly, I encourage you both to continue to emphasize the highest priorities of being loving, empathetic, patient, humble, routinely putting the other one more or less first; and fun with one another as extremely high values and ways of being in the world and in your relationship.
R Quig YOU SHOULD CHECK OUT MATT AND BLUE AND YOU WILL NEVER WANT TO COME BACK IF YOU WATCH WHEN THEY ADOPT THEIR SON FROM THE BEGINNING (;
A beautiful man ☺
Tom McElligott I
he is brave inside & out, he is a true soldier
Thank you so much Alastair and Zach. Alastair this was such an honest, heartfelt (yet humorous at times) coming out story. Guys this is very helpful for anyone struggling with coming out, especially in Australia at present as we are in the middle of a very dangerous stupid vote on whether same sex couples should get married. This is making a lot of gay people struggle with thoughts self hatred, and worse. Your closing statements were right on the point. Thanks for taking the time and sharing this.
Beautifully said. Thank you for your honesty and transparency. It was both refreshing and encouraging.
Zach cracking up in the background is hilarious.
Congratulations for being yourself. Me, I'm a retired army officer and I hid my true identity for years and lied on the application when asked about homosexuality otherwise back then I would've never been allowed in the military. I suppressed everything and now I'm an old guy and getting into a relationship at this point in my life isn't going to happen. I grew up Christian too and tried to pray the gay away but it never happened and I never woke up in the early morning as a lusting heterosexual. It's a very lonely life. I need to clarify something here, I'm not a man wanting to be a woman, I don't know why ignorant heterosexuals think that about us. I love being a man because that's what I am first. Being gay is just a minute part of who I am. BTW I love women but I don't feel sexual towards them. Close friends of mine know and my sister, however those that don't know don't need to know
It was really nice hearing Alastair's story. Thank you for sharing that with us!
Absolutely one of the best, intelligently reliving of a coming out story. I've never been more impressed with you, more than I am today! Thank you for this, for being confident and for not bashing Christ in the process (pray the gay away). Awesome job.. honestly!
You are a hero to young people and I'm so honored to have the privilege of hearing your story.
Very nicely done. I love your advice at the end. Zach has definitely been a big influence in getting that "shyness of the camera" out of you. You only have one life, live it to your fullest. much love to you two!!
Alastair! You are the greatest! One of the most sincere, funny, and no drama coming out stories that I have ever heard in TH-cam. The story about the letter to your mother, with the Q&A section, should be on a manual of how to come out for dummies; the comments about the email to your grandfather were just the cherry on top. If I could give you starts (and not just a single "like"), I would give you 5 (i.e., all of them). Very proud of having you representing the gay community on line.
Thanks Alastair for sharing your story. I'm sure it will help others and happy that you and Zach are a wonderful path together!
I’m a new (ish, about 3 weeks) subscriber and i appreciate ya’lls vlog. Thank you for sharing your life with all of us. I have been with my husband for 16 years ( we were 26) and we moved pretty quick too. I will tell you, the 1st year of sharing of lives together was the hardest for me bc of it moving so darn fast. All I can tell you is that communication is key. And just like a any relationship there will be ups and downs but trust and communication is key.
Thanks again for sharing your lives with all of us.
You guys are very lucky to have found each other. I can see from this video what you saw in this man Alastair. Honesty, integrity, a real man. love each other always!
Lucky you man. I went to the Philippine Military Academy, and in my second year when I was a 3rd class cadet I spent 3 months in West Point in an exchange program along with other foreign cadets. I wish I was able to know you and even had a chat with you about this thing. Coz in truth, coming out in our academy, qnd as future leaders of our armed forces was definitely not choice here in the Philippines. I never knew anyone in the academy who was the same as I, so knowing you ang sharing this would've given me air to breath a little amidst all the turmoil inside.
Nicely done. Glad to know more brothers in arms who are not only able to come to terms with who they are, but also share their stories and make an impact on others lives.
USMC here. Hey Alastair, thank you for sharing a very personal part of your life with us. You truly are making a positive impression on LGBTQ youth and adults watching your story. Great job, keep it up!!! To quote Shakespeare: "To thine own self be true". All the best to you, Zach and B.
Excellent video gentlemen....very proud of you both, and Alastair...Thank You for your service !!
Beautifully said Alastair Thanks for sharing and thanks to Zach for his coaching!!! XOXO!!!
I was in the USAF from the 70's to the 90's and it is really strange to hear you say "Westpoint gay community", in my day it was you are gay you are out with an other than honorable discharge. I am so glad you have this opportunity and things have changed for the better. You are amazing Alastair.
Good job Alastair and Zach! This is great! Love you guys!
Who you are is no other person's business, and no one is obliged to explain himself/herself. You both are exceptionally nice and decent persons. Love, in it's purest form, will affirm and see you through.❤️
01:40 "The only way I was actually going to be happy, would be to be myself "
Articulate and well-spoken, Alastair!
what a beautiful message Alastair!! thank you for sharing your story ☺
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Zach's voice off screen sounds like, some celebrity guy, Sylvester Stallion.... it's deep and southern like it!
Moving relatable story.. love the three of you (Zach, Ali and B) 😻😻
Dude Alastair! Your such an inspiration. I'm going through the same thing with dealing with balancing my gay life with my faith. Thanks for the hope you gave me in this video. You and Zach are so awesome.
I love you two. Keep yourselves happy. I came out in Texas in the late '60s and faced death threats, humiliations and bashings as well as loving support. I refused to go back in the closet, and at 19 met a 21 yr old Army guy who was serving in Vietnam. His love & kindness blew me away. He returned to duty but he was killed by 'friendly fire'. Don't ever give up. Love is the way. Lastly, do know we are so proud of you both and your families. Love always, Joseph Roehl
Zach and Alastair: You both are a huge asset to the gay community on YT and everywhere really. You guys are sincere, open and honest. This type of content is needed and helps so much during critical times when not much else can provide any reassurance.
You did a great job, AJ. Thanks for sharing. I have mad love for you both and wish you two nothing but the very best. And, I want to thank you for your service.
Thanks for sharing Alastair. It's hard for all of us at first but it does get better. All my love to you guys. Take care!
Thank you for your story Sir. Everyday is a struggle being an openly Gay Infantrymen but life is getting better. I never meet an openly gay male officer and I am overjoyed to have seen witnessed your journey. Mad respect Sir!
Well said Alastair. Thank you for sharing your story and reactions. As always, congratulations on finding each other! It sure is grand when you find the right one!!
thanks for being real. i have just started the process and sometimes have no clue what i am doing. i do know it's what i need to do live completely and i am beyond grateful y'all have given me the courage to be real
Thanks for sharing Alastair.Love you and Zack.You guys rock.
That last line is so powerful! Thank you for sharing.
Wonderful video, Alastair (and you too, Zach)! Thanks for having the integrity-- and the serenity-- to share this.
I hope that many people who are struggling with their "coming outs" watch this vid... Thank you Alistair for sharing this... Amazing!
"You need to be okay with yourself before taking criticism of others"
Thank you Alastair for yours words. You may be way younger than I am but you sure are wiser as it took me a hell lot of more than 24 years to figure this out (if only, it would've saved me a lot of stress, pain and sorrow).
It sure does take strength and courage to come out and you have done it perfectly and with dignity.
I wish you all the best to you and Zach.
Alastair, thanks so much for sharing your story with us! It's very inspiring to everyone, with a message of being yourself, being proud of and loving yourself! 👍🏻💕😍😁
Thank you for sharing this personal journey. I hope many young men considering coming out will feel strong and empowered by your experience, Alistair.
Great story Alastair!! I'm sure kids that are struggling with coming out would appreciate this story. It was very courageous of you not to just come out but share it with everyone. Thank you for the share.
I've been waiting on this video since I first subscribed! Loved hearing Alastair's story and how he feels about homosexuality. What a great guy. Thanks for sharing with us Alastair and for interviewing him Zach. Love you both.
Blake M it's been a long time in the making haha
Blake M CHECK OUT MATT AND BLUE AND YOU WILL NEVER WANT TO COME BACK WATCH WHEN THEY ADOPT THEIR SON FROM THE BEGINNING (;
Alastair Patton haha well it was well worth the wait! I always appreciate you and your husband's words of wisdom. It's helped me with my own coming out. Thank you both :)
Blake M I think your feet stink !
Zach and Alastair, you are so good for each other. Love, Love, love!
Very sweet video. Alastair, your honesty and openness is wonderful. I love Zach laughing in the background. So fun! Hugs to both of you!
Great story Alastair, thank you so much for sharing!
It is so strange and inspiring to hear of a positive coming out story that involves West Point. The love of my life passed away a decade ago -- he was at West Point while I was at Duke. Captain of West Point's basketball team, I actually saw him play my sophomore year, a year before I actually met him - Coach K is a West Point graduate. His experience was nothing like yours. I remember hiding is his closet - LITERALLY hiding for hours in his apartment closet at Fort Bragg - when his buddies would stop by unexpectedly. I am proud for you, and for the path he inadvertently paved as he slowly came out during the height of 'don't ask, don't tell'. Jason was an amazing person, and I'm fortunate to have truly known him. Thanks for reminding me...
Such a level headed guy. Wise beyond you age!
Hiya Alistair,i tried praying all my life.I am still alone.So glad you decided to be so brave.It was different in the 70 s.Glad to see some progress
You have such an incredibly important message. We have come so far, but the way things are today - I fear we could creep backwards as a society. You men are exactly the example we need! Huge kudos to you both.
Great video Alastair. You are a super role model for guys who are just now coming out. Thanks for sharing with all of us. Love to you and Zach. And B.
This was a great video and I am so glad to hear about Alastair's coming out. Please continue to share his experiences, stories and advice. You guys are inspirational!
Okay, well...that was awesome. Really liked the interview format and how professionally you answered his questions. Great job!
So nice getting to know Alastair, thanks for sharing.
Great video Alastair and Zach! Alastair you're so confident that your testimony will certainly be helpful for people still in the closet. Thanks for them.👍
Thank you a lot for sharing your story with us !
Alastair, thank you so much for sharing your story ❤️ And what a story! I didn't know you hadn't yet come out to your family when you met Zach; and now you guys are married! Much love and respect to you. Would you consider doing a Q&A? The part where you differentiate between "jealousy" and "attraction"; I'd never heard it phrased like that before, and I'd love to hear more of your thoughts and feelings on the coming out process
Alistair, I am not your father, but i couldn't be more proud to call you an acquaintance, You and husband enjoy your life, you deserve it, great video, thanks, Douglas ,Toledo, Oregon, USA
Well spoken way to go. I love you guys. Keep the videos coming.
Great video Allister and Zack. I have been watching Zack since he started and watching your relationship grow here. now, seeing your coming out story, we can see more of you both as you grow. Always looking forward to Zack 's big smile and your shy smile on each video that comes out. Keep them coming guys and hey to B also.
Love seeing more of Alastair's personality come through on camera! Thanks for sharing.
Wow Alastair! You are wiser beyond your years. Great advice for folks who are struggling.
Wow! Kudos, to you BOTH!! I stumbled upon your Videos about 6 months ago, and have been a Fan, ever since! Keep moving forward, and stay True!!! Totally Awesome!!
"Is there a gay agenda? I haven't received the booklet yet." 😂😂😂 I gotta use that on my mom when I come out.
Thank's for sharing this great vid! it will help a lot of ppl who don't know how.
I dont even know you but im so proud of you
Wow! I didn't realize I never saw this video. Great point at the end about coming out to yourself first. So true!
Great Job Alastair!!! You did fantastically.
thank you for sharing your coming out story. when you are honest with yourself, you can be assured that nothing can hurt you (but you). continue to be yourself.
Wonderfully expressed as I'd expect anything from either of you two to be. You're both providing important conversations and advice and I hope you continue to do so.
Good luck with your posting Alastair and I wish you and Zach all the happiness in the world as you journey together.
Refreshingly honest and direct. I'm more than twice your age, and that's exactly what I went through. Kudos to you for highlighting what it's like.
I want to thank you both for being so inspirational to me. I live in a very traditional environment in England and I was forbidden thirty years ago by my army officer parents to ‘come out’ as it was, and still is to them, totally unacceptable to do so. I’m in my fifties now and have led a very lonely and loveless life but your wonderful story brings me joy and I am so very happy for you both. God bless you and keep you always.
Great story. Love that he shared it. As a former Army Infantry Soldier whose military career was indirectly ended because of my orientation I love the fact that Alastair is able to be open both at West Point and to his platoon (making an assumption on that one since he did not directly indicate that but he did say he was living life as an openly gay man). That would have been unthinkable in my day in the Army (late 80's early 90's, before Don't Ask, Don't Tell). Would love to hear him talk about how his soldiers reacted, how his chain of command reacted, etc.
That was great. Thank u for your honesty. It will help those struggling with the same issues.