Oh Rhi, I’m so glad to hear you had a good experience and finally have the answers you needed. One point I picked up on that really resonated was the “am I wasting their time?” feeling. It’s really common due to the rejection sensitive dysphoria aspect of ADHD. There was something else I was going to say but in typing this I’ve totally forgotten…ooh, I remembered… Watch out for diagnosis grief. I know a few people, myself included, who suffered with it. It’s easily said but less easily done but try to see the future and the endless possibilities of your ADHD super power rather than thinking “what would life be like if I’d known 30 years ago?” Much love. You got this!
I've just been diagnosed with ADHD and Autism this year and I'm 51. I have four children, three with the sane diagnosis and one with just ADHD. I was so emotional when I found out about my diagnosis, I also worried that I was making it up and I was wasting people's time. However, I'm so glad that I did it, as there's a reason for my struggles, and I can give myself more grace.
Why is it that people have to fight to get an assessment done to diagnose autism. By the way you’re a wonderful mum and doing a wonderful job with all your children.❤❤❤
I think videos like this show the difference between a kid/adult with ADHD and a kid/adult who is just completely apathetic. Diagnosis for it, like everything else medically related in the US, has a cost that varies by state. I looked it up out of curiosity and it can vary hugely depending on where you live and what hospital or other facility you can access. It can be anything from a few hundred to several thousand dollars per person. If you have the right insurance, it's covered for both adults and children, diagnosis and treatment, but you have to jump through hoops of red tape in some cases.
I’ve been diagnosed with depression and anxiety since a teen but I tick the boxes for every adhd trait. So many people are misdiagnosed I’m waiting on my assessment for adhd x
Congratulations on your diagnosis, Rhi 🎉 I feel it does deserve a congrats because it is so stressful just initiating it, (what with the procrastination, the imposter syndrome, the rejection syndrome), let alone going through the appointments, tests and the assessment. You're doing amazing! 😍 You've helped me so much starting my own ADHD assessment journey. Even tracking my struggles/traits is a big thing for me 🤣 I relate to all your things; people pleaser, perfectionist. It's hard. I hope you can give yourself oodles of kindness and grace and let the process, process(!) in your mind. And like another commenter posted, let any grief come out, honour those feelings 🙏🏼 Much love, Beki x
This was a brilliant vlog Rhi listening to you chat is inspiring and comforting. Your a fantastic mum with amazing children you and daddy 4 have created such a wonderful and safe life for them. Seeing how you have found your path is so reassuring for the future of our Nd kids. X
Aww absolutely!!!!! Looking forward to the next ones and of course the Disney ones ❤ there isn't anything more magical is there than seeing your kiddos faces fully immersed in the magic 🥰 X
You know what, you going for this assessment (I’m just starting to watch the video but can’t wait to comment😂) is really useful for us all who are adults, suspect something but don’t know if, why, what good it would do to get assessed.
It’s good for you to know, in depth with the questions not so much, advice to seek help absolutely, assessment should be open not pre warned if that makes sense. My niece is in the process of having to advocate for her daughter, luckily we have a headmistress in the family who can advise who to speak to., but it shouldn’t be like this. I hope this has given you some relief and understanding of you .
congrats on getting answers. Will you do more adhd vids now? I would love to know not only about organisation methods and how you get things done but then how you actually implement them and stick to it. I know every method going but ive yet to ever stick to something more than two weeks. Any tips!
Hi Rhi, Thank you for your honesty. I am 48 and currently waiting for an assessment at our hospital and have been told that there is a 5 year wait. I am in Wales too and wondered which health board you are under, please? Lots of Love xxxx
Omg I am laughing (not at you) because you have some points that described me, the actor searching happens all the time and I can't settle until I know where I know them from and what else they've been in and who they are with. The interrupting is my hugest downfall, I'm meeting so people in DLP next month and I'm dreading how I will come across to people because of these traits. I too am going down the ADHD testing route as been referred by GP after two medical people suggested I do have it.
I have had feelings that I am adhd but tbh I am too scared to get a referral because how long it will take and also I feel that it will mean I won’t get to where I want to be in life But if I am it would explain so much!
I may have missed it, but did you mention if you are going to take medication. I’d be interested in seeing you vlog your experience. I found medication helped me as a child but not not I am in my late 30s
I know SO many women who tick all these boxes. I don’t know how I feel about this.. I feel like if we all get evaluated a large proportion of the population would be on the Autism spectrum or have some type of ADHD (or other psychiatric diagnosis). It also sounds like they base their diagnosis on what we answer exclusively? But the access to medication is a good thing (I think). It’s a psychiatric debilitating diagnosis, it’s considered a disability… The autism assessment sounds much more thorough and less likely to give a misdiagnosis. I feel like if everyone in the country would be screened it would become a new variant of normal. A type rather than a psychiatric disorder. I might be talking rubbish but I’m just thinking…
@@MummyofFourUK that would be amazing, my sons going to have an assessment for ADHD and dyspraxia and would love to be a bit prepared as to what will happen x
Oh Rhi, I’m so glad to hear you had a good experience and finally have the answers you needed.
One point I picked up on that really resonated was the “am I wasting their time?” feeling. It’s really common due to the rejection sensitive dysphoria aspect of ADHD.
There was something else I was going to say but in typing this I’ve totally forgotten…ooh, I remembered…
Watch out for diagnosis grief. I know a few people, myself included, who suffered with it. It’s easily said but less easily done but try to see the future and the endless possibilities of your ADHD super power rather than thinking “what would life be like if I’d known 30 years ago?”
Much love. You got this!
Thanks my love. Have you seen the podcast episode I recorded the day after this? I definitely felt a little different x
I've just been diagnosed with ADHD and Autism this year and I'm 51. I have four children, three with the sane diagnosis and one with just ADHD. I was so emotional when I found out about my diagnosis, I also worried that I was making it up and I was wasting people's time. However, I'm so glad that I did it, as there's a reason for my struggles, and I can give myself more grace.
I was convinced at times it was all in my head x
Why is it that people have to fight to get an assessment done to diagnose autism. By the way you’re a wonderful mum and doing a wonderful job with all your children.❤❤❤
The fight is exhausting isn't it, I had to fight so hard for my kids x
I think videos like this show the difference between a kid/adult with ADHD and a kid/adult who is just completely apathetic. Diagnosis for it, like everything else medically related in the US, has a cost that varies by state. I looked it up out of curiosity and it can vary hugely depending on where you live and what hospital or other facility you can access. It can be anything from a few hundred to several thousand dollars per person. If you have the right insurance, it's covered for both adults and children, diagnosis and treatment, but you have to jump through hoops of red tape in some cases.
I’ve been diagnosed with depression and anxiety since a teen but I tick the boxes for every adhd trait. So many people are misdiagnosed I’m waiting on my assessment for adhd x
Hope you get answers soon x
Congratulations on your diagnosis, Rhi 🎉
I feel it does deserve a congrats because it is so stressful just initiating it, (what with the procrastination, the imposter syndrome, the rejection syndrome), let alone going through the appointments, tests and the assessment.
You're doing amazing! 😍
You've helped me so much starting my own ADHD assessment journey. Even tracking my struggles/traits is a big thing for me 🤣 I relate to all your things; people pleaser, perfectionist. It's hard.
I hope you can give yourself oodles of kindness and grace and let the process, process(!) in your mind. And like another commenter posted, let any grief come out, honour those feelings 🙏🏼
Much love, Beki x
Aww, thanks so much Beki, you are very kind. I really appreciate it x
@@MummyofFourUK You're welcome 🤗
Beki x
Hope you now feel better about yourself. I feel now you are kind to yourself and most of all switch off. Well done for this xx
Thanks lovely x
Thank you for sharing this in such detail with us all. So interesting and im sure will help many. Thanks Rhi and well done!
Glad the detail was helpful, I really do hope it helps someone xx
This was a brilliant vlog Rhi listening to you chat is inspiring and comforting. Your a fantastic mum with amazing children you and daddy 4 have created such a wonderful and safe life for them. Seeing how you have found your path is so reassuring for the future of our Nd kids. X
Aww, thanks so much lovely, I'm so glad you are genuinely enjoying the videos and your kind words mean the world x
Aww absolutely!!!!! Looking forward to the next ones and of course the Disney ones ❤ there isn't anything more magical is there than seeing your kiddos faces fully immersed in the magic 🥰 X
You know what, you going for this assessment (I’m just starting to watch the video but can’t wait to comment😂) is really useful for us all who are adults, suspect something but don’t know if, why, what good it would do to get assessed.
Hope it was helpful x
It’s good for you to know, in depth with the questions not so much, advice to seek help absolutely, assessment should be open not pre warned if that makes sense. My niece is in the process of having to advocate for her daughter, luckily we have a headmistress in the family who can advise who to speak to., but it shouldn’t be like this. I hope this has given you some relief and understanding of you .
congrats on getting answers. Will you do more adhd vids now? I would love to know not only about organisation methods and how you get things done but then how you actually implement them and stick to it. I know every method going but ive yet to ever stick to something more than two weeks. Any tips!
I'll 100% be doing more ADHD videos here and over on my podcast channel. Please do let me know if you have any specific questions x
Hi Rhi, Thank you for your honesty. I am 48 and currently waiting for an assessment at our hospital and have been told that there is a 5 year wait. I am in Wales too and wondered which health board you are under, please?
Lots of Love xxxx
I don't share where we live online sorry lovely, but I'm in Wales. I'd say just call the department who are due to see you and chase the appointment x
Omg I am laughing (not at you) because you have some points that described me, the actor searching happens all the time and I can't settle until I know where I know them from and what else they've been in and who they are with. The interrupting is my hugest downfall, I'm meeting so people in DLP next month and I'm dreading how I will come across to people because of these traits. I too am going down the ADHD testing route as been referred by GP after two medical people suggested I do have it.
Until recently I'd giggle in the same way hearing others talk about ADHD like "this is all me" 😂
Bless ❤really found this interesting i didnt realise Dylan had been diagnosed too, did i miss a video about him? X
I didn't talk about it at the time (for various reasons) but may discuss it on the podcast soon x
Thank you Rhi! You are a very beautiful lady and a wonderful Mum.🇦🇺🦘❤️🌷
You are so kind x
I have had feelings that I am adhd but tbh I am too scared to get a referral because how long it will take and also I feel that it will mean I won’t get to where I want to be in life
But if I am it would explain so much!
Omg the films! I thought I was the only one
I do it all the time 😂
I may have missed it, but did you mention if you are going to take medication. I’d be interested in seeing you vlog your experience. I found medication helped me as a child but not not I am in my late 30s
They have suggested it and I'm weighing up what to do...
I know SO many women who tick all these boxes. I don’t know how I feel about this.. I feel like if we all get evaluated a large proportion of the population would be on the Autism spectrum or have some type of ADHD (or other psychiatric diagnosis). It also sounds like they base their diagnosis on what we answer exclusively? But the access to medication is a good thing (I think). It’s a psychiatric debilitating diagnosis, it’s considered a disability… The autism assessment sounds much more thorough and less likely to give a misdiagnosis. I feel like if everyone in the country would be screened it would become a new variant of normal. A type rather than a psychiatric disorder. I might be talking rubbish but I’m just thinking…
Autism and adhd is a neurological condition not a Psychiatric disorder
I think a lot more of the population are neurodivergent than we realise X
Hi Rhi, do you know if a children’s assessment is interview style too? X
I don't but I'd love to chat to a parent on the podcast who has a child who has gone though the process and can share x
@@MummyofFourUK that would be amazing, my sons going to have an assessment for ADHD and dyspraxia and would love to be a bit prepared as to what will happen x
Brave wonan
xx
My gossshhh! I found myself nodding to every symptom that you mentioned. I guess I’m off to my ADHD assessment. 🫣
It was a chat with a friend that had me nodding along the same way. The video is on my channel if you want to take a look x