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- Are you an empath or a highly sensitive person who is easily affected by the emotions or energy of others? If so, then you might want to be careful around emotional energy vampires. An energy vampire is a person who feeds off your emotions, or psychic, energy. People who display energy vampire traits generally lack empathy, sensitivity, and emotional maturity. As a result of the pain or insecurity they feel inside, energy vampires are addicted to preying on the vitality of others as an attempt to heal their inner suffering. Are you in a situation, where you might be the energy vampire, or someone close to you? Are you wondering if you're an energy vampire as well? If so, then this video will show you the signs that you are dealing with energy vampires. Energy vampires' behavior can be very similar to narcissistic abuse.
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What’s anime are you watching? Comment below.
my hero academia
Bungou stray dogs or psycho pass
Edit: please write some less overrated animes
Just finished Fate Zero
Interspecies reviewer
In/spectre
Ronja The Robber’s Daughter. It’s off of a very good book?
One thing to be extremely careful is that people like this can provoke a generally calm and peaceful person into anger. And of course then YOU become the villain.
All choreographed
@@joseenoel8093 yes and no. Sometimes they don't even realize they're making you angry. Also if YOU cross the line and explode, even turn to violence, that's still on you.
They intentionally trap you in a situation to where your only options are to react or go numb.
Truer words were never spoken....
mechasentai so true
For y’all who want the tl;dr here’s the 6 Signs that You’re Dealing With An Energy Vampire
1) They like to play the victim
2) They are narcissistic
3) They want to dominate you
4) They create unnecessary drama
5) They constantly criticize you
6) They exploit your kindness
As for my own $0.02, you are never obligated to put up with this kind of behavior with ANYONE but also be aware if/when you do any of these too!! Surround yourself with people who seek to help you grow and that you feel encouraged to help them rise as well. Life is too short to bring others down just to get to the top, so spread the love and positivity!
Miki Moua 😷 eww
My freaking mom 😔
Thank you. So kind of you!!😍
Most of these relate to my close friend, but I just try to shake it off cause I don't wanna tear our friendship (group of 6 including me) apart.
Thanks for putting this together Miki. Are there any others that we have missed?
I found that people that are energy vampires sometimes shower you with complements and gifts to make you feel like you are friends and hold power over you. This is just an effort to keep you around longer and to be more willing to do what they ask.
Beware of free cell phones and gifts because they will try to hold that over kind-hearted people. They want free taxi service and other favors and if you agree to giving them a ride you find out they want to visit and stop at places when you originally only agreed to drive them home or something. Some energy vamps are low IQ but highly manipulative.
True! My sad case is that it is my boss. I am out of her spell now. Just realized the damage. She completely cut off our (her subordinates) contact from anyone higher in the company. Micromanagment and complaining to her subordinates for hours (cutting our work hours) about everything and then getting offended about some simple word is the way for her. Feel like such a fool for ever falling under her spell. But I have my family to support, sure can find another job in some time, but I like the company, just not her anymore... Do not know what to do honestly. I've had some rough superiors before, gods, how great they were as compared to her!
Exactly
This sounds more like a narcissist. Are you saying they are one and the same?
@@billyb4790i have a friend like that but i’m having a hard time figuring out if she is a narcissist or an energy vampire
I realized i was like this and became self aware, so i messaged my friends to apoligze and its going well so far
SnailTea Official Holy crap! Good job!
The most difficult thing is always realizing the problem and taking action! I hope you keep doing your best, go for it! :D
lol
Realised that I do too...but half of them is quite says my nature cause I have a lot of insecurities
Lol that means ur not...they are....nrg Vampires nvr admit wrong
You probably weren't the problem. Because a narcissist cannot own up. Ur prob a super empath one of ur parents or siblings or even ur partners parents were putting the evil spirits on them and they were putting it on u
I found this quote in my school on a painting:
You are most yourself when your wrapped up in your PURPOSE not in your POSITION.
Edit: wow the likes dude..the likes..
**mic drop**
Which school is this ?
@@jacobantony1040 *FBI has joined the chat*
Sorry...i am lost....and I dont have inspiration nor a feeling of purpose. I feel islolated from people and controlled by school that I dont know who I am anymore...
@@eduardocruz3277 most of the stuff that you learn in school, is only needed for school-Test. I forgot more than 50% of what i learned in school, because i never needed it afterwards.
i would suggest....concentrate on the topics that you want to continue after school (as hobby, job and/or studying) and keep the other stuff on a normal level. that should give you a bit more time for yourself to recharge your battery and meeting friends :)
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Hi Mocha! Everyone is commetning about the Jojo reference haha
@@Psych2go I KNOW! It's actually funny though
Great job with the art!
Also I liked the anime references! Like Chika, and all of the JoJo references.
It made my day a bit brighter! :)
My ex boyfriend. I was with him off and on for 23 years. He has gotten me to where I literally feel like I lost my mind. I constantly doubted my self worth and basically used ALL of my energy trying to make HIM happy. I recently just started to believe that I deserve much better than this.
you DO deserve better than him. I hope you're in a better situation now
You definitely deserve better. I hope you are careful for people like this. A lot of them don’t change. Make sure to be in community with caring people, and go outside. Doing basic, everyday tasks often helps. Try not to doubt how you feel, if your gut tells you something is wrong in a relationship, slowly cut the person off. There’s no shame in being clear of people that hurt you. I truly wish the best for you, and don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Christine S It’s healthy to question yourself, but usually when you question yourself and come to the conclusion that there’s something you lack, it’s not because of someone else wanting you to be better to them, but because you yourself want to be a better human.
Live for yourself and be kind to others for your own (and their) benefit.
Besides, relationship problems tend to get better once the people in the relationship change, but if it’s been going on for waaay too long and your partner doesn’t recognize the improvement (if there is any) then it’s time to cut ties.
Question yourself, but also others. Stay a little skeptical of everything.
Oh my god.. you've spent you 23 years with someone like that? Girl, you deserve someone better.. do yourself a favor and just get rid of this man, whatever it is you're feeling towards him, know that he made you feel bad all the time thats not love or anything good. There will be someone better for you out there.. if not, then it's okay, at lesst you gotta live your life loving yourself alot, know that you're so worth it.. anywho, have a nice day💕
Be single and enjoy your life❤️
Your last sentence, "Energy vampires behavior can be very similar to narcissistic abuse" is an understatement, it's part of the narcissist's handbook. They try their best to drain all the positive energy from a few friends or adult children. They thrive on playing the victim. They create mountains out of molehills, display a chronic negative attitude, are domineering and clueless about how toxic they really are. People eventually flee them to keep their sanity.
For some reason people like this make you doubt everything about yourself.
I'm never sure if it's me or them ._.
Its so draining bro
Negative portal.
EXACTLY
So true!!
I feel like more like a piece of sh*t than before. Whatever I do is never good enough. I mean I know Ive gone through sh*t but still I try to be kind and care about people. I know Im not posh :'( .
Emotional Vampires can be so obnoxious and dangerous for the mental health too deeply, that their behavior can make you to feel depressed and exhausted
You're on your trail to recovery
Sounds exactly like someone I know, I literally had to stop being around them so I could gain my mental strength back
They're soul suckers aren't they lol
Wow, this was so accurate. It's disturbing how well they can be disguised as a harmless victim figure in your life. The second I put the clues together, I kicked this "friend" out of my life pronto. As a highly empathetic person, you unfortunately have to be on high-alert for these kinds of people :/ It's really unfortunate and makes us want to be less giving to the next person.
Koul I know the feeling.
If you wanna keep being giving and awesome try studying up on red flags. Then if anyone has them, tell them about it and what you think. If they cooperate, friend! If they don’t, no friend.
Surround yourself with some kind people that are giving so you can in turn keep giving without regret! :D
@@theplumscrub1627 Thank you, this is actually great advice! Sometimes, part of the problem is that you see problematic behavior, but you don't give them the. opportunity to fix it by not bringing it up to them. A person who truly cares about you will probably be willing to compromise and work with you to better the relationship, like you're saying.
Koul I’m glad I could help. :]
I identify as an empathic person as well, and can confirm. They're attracted to empathic people like moths to a flame, because we are easy targets due to our deeply caring nature.
If your life isn't enriched in their presences and you feel drained every time you get together - *like a 12 round boxing match*
Time to cut them loose.
How when it's ur 89 yr old mom
@Susan Ananda in truth, you can do what you want.. thats your choice. You can try limiting your time with your bro instead or set boundaries
@Susan Ananda yes .going through same thing . How the hell u just supposed to leave ur 89 yr old mother alone in a wheelchair.when you are all she has. Yet. She angers me. Frustrate me . But God a mighty . This is my mother. And I know her time is short. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭.
I just liked your comment.. I don't usually like comments
I seen you on spiritual so s
It"s sad when these people are family...
very sad and hard..peace to you...
@@susanpettitt713 Thanks...
Curtistine Miller true tho.
@@pureroseangemuse7910 yep...
🤣🤣🤣
Pretty sad when it’s the person you trust the most.
Yeah☹️
I'm trying to distance myself from this friend that genuinely drains my energy everyday with her problems, she's extremely needy, very emotional, and she's always the victim of a bunch of stuff happening to her, she's a loud mouth, she talks a lot about a lot of things that i don't care about at all. she benefits from my kindness by constantly reassuring her, giving her advice and I really feel like I always have to say the right thing so she feels okay. I'm so done with this shit, instantly cutting her off dont seem like the right thing, but I'm gonna distance myself from her gradually, i feel like it's only right..
Trust me I also want to do the same. I also have a friend just exactly like your friend. And i really want to distance myself from her. She was a very good friend of mine before but she is a drainer now.
I have a friend who I’ve been distancing myself from because of these too. I’ve always been there for her whenever she vents, and this kind of thing would happen ALL THE TIME. Like, I just want to excuse myself to be away from her but it’s not that easy for me 😭
"(the artist is a jojo fan)"
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hahaha yeah, the examples were on point!
@@alejandrocarvajal9068 .
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These energy vampires really have good and defined eyebrows and eyelashes 🤤
Those eye brows look like someone we know Oo
I have really *thicc* eyebrows. Im not an energy vampire though, or a vampire at all.
Im just an antisocial teen lol
Daniel Embree Nah, it must be due to *STANDO POWAH*
It's a trick
🤣🤣🤣💯💯💯
It all starts with you. Control what you can, learn to set boundaries.
*6 Signs You're Dealing with Energy Vampires:*
1. They have sharp-colored eyes
2. They have Sharp fangs
3. Afraid of the Sun
4. Kills your Dog
5. Steals your Girl
6. Afraid of the Joestars
_oh wait.._
HAHAHAHAHA
You just described that person I guess...
And says "MUDA!" and "WRRRYY!" a lot
Ths sun is a star
Those are regular vampires
I always called myself an energy vampire because my mood tends to mimic the energy level of people around me. I had no idea it was something else, especially this bad. Soooo gonna stop using that term now.
That acctualy means your an empath if you have the same feelings as the the people around you
Murder Kitten I think that’s my problem too half the time!
@@5leepyh3ad40 Hehe that's probably me too. But I kind of just meant like, if I'm super tired and then like energetic people come around I'll actually wake up and liven up. Or if I was hyper even on like coffee or something and everyone else is tired I'll end up getting tired too. Super weird. That's what I thought the term "energy vampire" was fitting, but noooo definitely not
This is simply called being highly empathetic. In the spiritual world, its called being an energy chameleon
Oo same! I never tried to ask about it since it wasnt that bad. But sometimes it feels like you have no emotion of your own.. like you need somebody to mimic to fit in. When i start wondering about that the people around me start to notice how different i act now and how i used to be more hyper(because most of them were hyper). Now i dont mimic people that much anymore having the ability to get mood swings lol, to care for my own emotions too. Dont get me wrong I still feel empathy for others its just now i also care for myself too 😊
Two of my closest friends were enemy vampires. After being friends with them for 15 years, I finally walked away from my friendship with them when I realized their negative vampirish behaviors were pulling me down too much emotionally, and putting my mental health in jeopardy. I thought ending the friendship would be difficult. I thought I would miss them. What I experienced was a sense of emotional freedom, and like I had my life back. I have never been sorry I walked away from the emotional vampires in my life. I'm glad I put myself first and loved myself enough to realize enough was enough.
This made me realize how unbearable I am as a person, thank you.
Depressed Retard I hope you look for your strengths and make those weaknesses smaller! Be better! :D
@@jumanaaljofi3046 I'm actually much better now, thanks for the concern anyways ❤️
@@jumanaaljofi3046 your tone is really condescending .. dont give advice 😬 yikes
@@jumanaaljofi3046 how are they playing the victim card? The first step to redemption is realization.
nononononooooooo
Could you guys make a video on the different types of intimacy? i require that knowlage. It would help me alot too.
Sure! If this comment gets lots of likes then we know you guys would like to see one :)
@@Psych2go Alright, Cool!
Id love a video like this
TALK ABOUT AESTHETIC ATTRACTION! NOT ENOUGH PEOPLE UNDERSTAND IT!
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Nevermind, I just just scrolling through your videos and found the one that mentions Aesthetic attraction :P
Sometimes we allow ourselves to get treated this way because we don’t think we deserve better. We do. #youareenough ♥️
I don’t even know y but I love y
Ok
I started handling an energy vampire in my family by writing things down in private places about behaviors I experienced, for healing and closure. It also helped me to consider my other relationships, and to stop overly seeking validation by finding a sense of worth in my relationship with God as a Christian.
I had a close friend like this, Needless to Say we Ain't Close No More
Same here. This person still makes subtle attempts to 'win me back' as a close friend. Being an empath aint easy.
@@lucila5466 for real. I get pulled in with sloths, thinking there gonna change. Then I end up waist time.
Same, it's been about 10 years since we last spoke, I'd honestly be glad to never talk to them again.
Lol my dad has always been like this. We've used the term energy vampire as a joke before since he always starts arguments and after it's over he seems so happy and bubbly. It's like he needs others to suffer to feel happy. A pathetic way to live your life , one I will resent
Same here. They love playing the victim and making you feel guilty...
My dad is the same exact way. When my fiance and I needed a place to stay and save up money for a couple of months (to prepare for our baby), my dad eagerly says yes, no need to pay rent. Then turns around and bitches about my fiance (even though he never sees him). He also says I should show my appreciation by cleaning up the house, even though we clean it all the fucking time. Then turns around and says we should appreciate his generosity. He always dominates the conversation (never listens to or even acknowledges what I have to say) and in general never asks about me. Whenever we do talk about me, he slips in passive aggressive comments about my fiance and I (even though we have never done anything to truly wrong him). He doesn't acknowledge the times he almost got us into trouble, but emphasizes a couple of remarks we've made in the past. If we aren't constantly kissing his ass, we' re in the wrong. He only allows us to be here to be his housemaids. But acts like he's letting us into his house out of the generosity of his heart. Now I remember why I was so keen on moving away from him in the first place. Total narcissistic and manipulative sociopath.
I resent that too!!! Rebuke it run away from it grab your SAGE AND SILVER!!
@@cassieh5506 that sounds exactly like my mom and you sound like me so keen to remove your self out of their presence their energy is negative and totally draining!!!
It's easy to say "Cut them off" but it's hard to do it, harder when you live with them and it's your "family"
I really try to get away from them, but they keep "Affecting me" in so many ways. ):
That's true, specially when all your friends don't see any negative quality on that emotional vampire, you are the only one that is crazy because you have a negative impression of him or her. It's hard to cut off the emotional vampire because all your friends are agree with him/her opinions, point of view and demand. So if you end the relationship, you end the relationship with all your friendship circle and you end alone in your solitude without any relationship
Read up on Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
@@alextint5987 you need better friends
@@schizoidkid666 how about better family?
@@schizoidkid666 Yes, It's better to be alone to create own happiness and then share it with positive and healthy people
It’s a slap in the face when the people closest to you fit these descriptions to a T! Dealing with these people has helped me set clear boundaries, limit my time with them if not entirely and taught me that a title doesn’t mean anything! Mother, father, brother, sister, ect. Being able to differentiate between an energy vampire and a good soul has become a goal of mine. Eventually killing them with positivity normally keeps them off my back 🤣 they hate it like vampires hate the sun! ☀️
Killing them with positivity? Tried it for yrs doesn't work, they just take advantage and suck it up along with the negative.
I have a long time energy vampire AKA friend who fits every criteria except 3 and 5. I wrote her a letter explaining how she was draining me, how it made me feel, and what to do in order to stop. I also put first and foremost how I still cared about her and it wasn't some kind of attack but an expression of my personal boundaries. She has respected my boundaries for about a month but she's starting to revert to her emotional vampire ways again. I may have to give her a reminder soon.
A “friend” of mine was a TOTAL Energy Vampire, I was always exhausted after dealing with her. She was honestly more like an energy leech than a vampire, once you were in her sights she latched onto you and would do whatever she could to hold onto you, draining you in the process. Always playing helpless or the victim or whatever. I would consider myself a generally nice person, but I would often lose my temper with her because if I wasn’t spending every goddamn second with her I was being “stand-offish,” “rude,” and “a bad friend.” One time during highschool, it was summer break and she was supposed to stay ONE night at my house, but ended up staying for nearly a week because her family did not want to deal with her. I finally had enough and was about two seconds away from screaming at her to leave when my mom intervened and told her a lie about me having to visit my grandma, which got her to leave. My grandma is usually the one I’m trying to escape from, but in that moment, there was nowhere I would have rather been. I’m pretty sure I slept for about 14 hours after she left. I know this kinda paints her in an unflattering light, but I’m not exaggerating when I say she was honestly the hardest person to be around. She moved away and I don’t talk to her anymore. Thankfully I don’t know any other Energy Vampires, just people who are on different social wavelengths than me, which can be exhausting too, but more because they are extroverts and I am not
Hey babe lol introverted people are my favorite yet I’m sorry to say I’m part of the Vampire Energy person I create unwanted drama I don’t gossip please hear me out I’m serious hope to be friends 😖🥺😶😔 if not I understand
This sounds so Much like my Family
Much like my mother...I find myself constantly trying to protect my energy from her...its awfull...no one should go throught this...she loves to play the victim...
I'm sorry you are both going through this 😥
tori :3 I feel you. My mother is exactly like this and just gets louder and louder usually screaming to try to silence or drown you out when you actually prove your point that they are in the wrong
My mom just yelled im worthless
@@NW0KU well she must be going through a hard time finding her self worth ,you are worth so much don't listen to that rubbish I'm here if you need to talk 💕
I just broke off a 12 year friendship with an energy vampire. As soon as I started enforcing my boundaries and holding them accountable for their actions things went downhill. Any time they hurt me they turned it around into being my fault, and if I asked them not to do something they'd overexaggerate compliance so I felt bad saying anything at all.
They were triggering me into self-harm episodes and they made me feel like I had to self-harm to not react in ways they didn't like. Only they got mad at me for that too, and told me how I wasn't trying to work on my problems, and that I was doing therapy wrong because I wasn't improving fast enough for them. All while refusing to go to therapy themselves and getting upset when I told them to seek it for themselves. What they considered "nice" was their desires being catered to, while I just suffered in silence because they couldn't deal with the possibility they weren't as nice, and well pathetic as they were in their self-image.
Since breaking it off with them my mental health has greatly improved. Ofc after it all they're calling me abusive, and even convinced a few mutual friends because they go out of their way to present as extremely passive and shy or... the perfect victim. But perfect victims don't actually exist.
That sounds awefully familiar. The friend I was dealing with in a friendgroup (that I left recently) would change the whole dynamic in a room. They were always dominating conversation, sharing their life experiences as if anyone not knowing about the things they learned would be the end of the world for everyone. They would serve backhanded insults but would never take accountability if someone addressed their unkind and unaware behaviour with them. And they would always blame others for not being "strong" or mentally/emotionally developed enough to deal with and endure their "intellect" aka verbal abuse and insults. And if that did not work they would portray themselves as actually being "weak" and "shy" and not powerful enough to harm others with their words and therefore the insulted person must have been really dumb to not notice that they did not mean any harm.
I was also never good enough for them and if I was behaving contradicting to their expectations of me they would just nag me and make me feel bad until I conceeded that my feelings/actions or behaviors were probably wrong. Behaving like them was rewarded, going against them was met with ice cold disgust and contempt, designed to make me feel insignificant and stupid. When I started to back away to actually find myself again/ to feel better again, they ended things with the insult that I just was not "ready" to be in their life.
Its truly an aweful and incredibly damaging experience.
(Sorry for this getting so long.
I hope you are doing very well! 💜)
Not only do they take take take, but its the constant mindgames they play, everything they say is to provoke a certain emotional response in you to get you to act accordingly. Everything you say can be used against you. I know a narcissist and if you say you want something, immediately he comes up with something he wants first. And its always something small, just so he can get you to jump through his little hoop to show himself he's still top priority. If you say what don't want (or fear) oh boy... he'll make sure that happens.
And the sad part is that they are so emotionally inept and full on themselves that they don't even notice it's them who are being avoided or that people are just being polite and not like them. Kinda sad imho
The strange part about the person who is an energy vampire in my life is that when they are with me in person they are completely different. They are actually nice, fun, and always a blast to be around but when it comes to texting them and long conversations over time they are really bad about playing with my feelings and trying to manipulate me.
If you knew how much he is bad at the beginning, you would immediately leave him.
It was the moments when feelings and thoughts are fighting in my opinion and it was a great life lesson about people.
Omg same with me too, but this was in my relationship so I couldn’t see it. I guess I was blinded because of love
How my friend is too
to whoever is reading this, you’re valid and loved ❤️ you’re worth it. People don’t hear that enough
So are you Doggo!
Thanks! You're loved as well
To whoever has trouble accepting Woof DOGGO's comment: Shut up and feel apreciated RIGHT NOW!
This comment means nothing to those it's directed at. : /
@@MyouKyuubi That's why I tried to give it a little bit more umph.
Nice profile name you have there, by the way.
- the description of this is so accurate, it’s draining to even listen to the listed behaviors. thank you for helping build our discernment & awareness, nevertheless.
I wish I knew what an 'energy vampire' was years ago! It would have saved me several bad experiences, since I'm one of those people that is always eager to help others.
Same, especially since one of my immediate family member is an “energy vampire” and have been like this to me for years. Just a few weeks ago I put my foot down and told her that she emotionally drains me. By then, I have gave her years of emotional support (in the expense of my mental health because god forbid my problems were “only grad school” and $1.2K even though I was a poor grad student).
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Thank yall for having me to work on this topic
@@hampeace69420 Thank you for getting it done in a timely and creative manner :)
Psych2Go
haha thank you for giving me the opportunity to work on this!
Always stay true to yourself. I've learned not to lower to their level or let them impact me. Also, I've cut many of them out of my life. I've work on my inner circle.. empowering, caring, supportive people
Go Scott! I'm trying to get like you ASAP
I really enjoy the way this channel draws facial expressions with varying intensity to get the point across. It’s very engaging
So many videos about signs on dealing with energy vampires, I found this video short, to the point and is simply the best explanation of all. Fabulous!!!! Thank you!!!
Dio was such an energy vampire before becoming an actual vampire.
,_, everyone picked their family as an energy vampire.. or I’m the first to watch it to this point and I’m the first
Sounds relatable..
Mine are, family like this, who needs enemies!
definitely my sister ,_,
Don't let them ruin the game you picked as your comfort game. Even if you get tricked into it by some other problems first. I guess it's too late for me to do that.
Signed, an addict.
Great video! Yes indeed you have to stay away from energy vampires. I have ran across a few throughout the years. My advice is know the signs and red flags. Also, don't let your guard down and don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. I enjoyed this video. Keep up the great work!
Right on time, thank you Psych2Go! I've been friends with someone for half a year now and we got along very well. Last week they began to show me their negative side (very similar to what is described in the video). I was proud of myself for recognizing the toxic behavioral signs/changes so quickly but later i realized they've been there all along, just not as intense. I'm still happy i noticed them before they got too bad. I don't want to be friends with a person who is possesive, manipulative and most certainly an energy vampire. I am determined to cut contact with them as much as possible. I am willing to do this the ugly way if necessary (excluding physical violence).
I used to be in a friend group with someone who was like this. It lasted 5 years until I realized that being alone was better than having an abusive friend. It's still hard to be around her, it feels like just her aura is so draining
It feels like their is sucking your aura. Do to a situation I have to be around one at times. I am getting better at setting boundaries and working on some boundary meditations.
Sometimes it's better to be alone than be around someone who makes you feel alone.
Had an energy vampire at school once and ended his reputation by giving a savage comeback and when he tried to speak I just walked away saying "Don't say another word you already lost" lol best day ever.
I knew he was an energy vampire cuz he kept criticizing me because of my sexuality (I'm Pan), also he kept punching whenever he thinks Im right on my opinion and often times he would guilt trip me because he'd rather "spend time" with me and leave everything behind just to be with me.
Stay strong! Be in the light! You are powerful!
Thank you for this video, this is me and it is scary that nearly everything said in this video a friend pointed out to me before I researched/watched this video. This has really brought to light how detrimental unconscious/unwilling to notice behaviour can have on the people in our lives. I want to make steps to change the relationships in my life personally, professionally.
The best way to deal with this type of ppl is to have No Reaction towards their behaviour 😊... till they grow tired and realise what they did is totally meaningless
0:01 parents,friends,teachers pretty much everyone
Or maybe it's something wrong with me😞
Nothing is wrong with you. If you feel like someone is toxic, they are and it's not your fault.
I get you, but at the same time, everyone is a lot of people
I do find that self awarness and the ability to emotionally support others are not very common
It's not everyone. You are just being with the wrong people. Analyse and look for the people that accept for who you are.
@Titanbrah Cunt YO SAME 😂 but i do feel like i lost something, which is confidence 😂 I liked it more when It wasnt so nerve wrecking to be more confident..
There is nothing wrong with you . You're unique just the way you are. Life can be cruel most of the time but that doesn't mean you have to accept what life gives you , fight for your own happiness,work hard for your own future, being alive is already part of winning in life so keep doing your best even if it's not a good day for some days but you still have like meme , vines or cute video to keep your spirit alive right ? Like we all do. So you're worth it , you're value don't let others make you lose a grip on your own life 💜
I'm tired of dealing with people like this... family, friends, & co-workers
I limit my time with them. I watch what I share with them.
My mother is exactly like this
Waht should I do?
Show her this video and see how she reacts first. Sometimes, people are not aware themselves and that's why they continue certain behaviour.
Same here!!!
So is my dad, but im moving and leavin his ass behind
@@Psych2go i wish we studied psychology in school, do y'all at the team agree?
Nawwww 😿sending love 🥰from New Zealand 🇳🇿
I've had 3 energy vampires in my life. 2 of them I simply said "enough, I will no longer be your friend, I want distance from you." Those 2 tried to manipulate me, by crying and trying to keep me by their side but my mind was already made up. The third one, she was turning everyone I knew against me, picking up fights but playing it as if I was the big bad wolf. Well, I simply decided to live to my formed reputation to put her into her right place.
This was literally my adoptive brother, he was being an asshole ever since he moved into our house. Stole my gf's kiss and even kicked my dog. And then when I try getting back at him my dad would always take his side.
wait...
Let me guess,was his name "dio"?
Jojo
Honestly, I'm pretty sure he stole my research on an artefact and killed my dog about 10 or so years ago
If he kicks your dog again,you tell me!!! I will eat his butt!!
Kick your dog why would anyone kick a dog what is the purpose of that you sound like a lier*
This is my husband totally, I deal with it by being incredibly secure in who I am and by being extremely mentally strong. And when he becomes to much to handle and over steps his boundaries I draw a line in the sand and remind him that we are In a mutually equal relationship. This can result in passionate discussions but I don't go down to his level and I stay respectful. I also time and choose my words of what I want to say when we talk. Try not to make anything into a personal attack. I remind him gently not to overwhelm himself and I stay as calm as possible when talking to him about my needs as a wife and human being. I know it's a lot but when I said "I do" I meant it even if there where times it would not be easy, so I am willing to do the work marriage requires. Compromise is everything In a relationship along with trust and respect. If you don't have these things then you don't have a marriage. Love is the umbrella for all of this. When is love ever easy???
I guess she's explaining my girlfriend today. 🤨🤔
Lolol
Shakti Goswami sounds like u need to drop her
Dump her ass
Why am i quoting Eleven
Oh *snap-*
Is this me or my boyfriend... Nvm I don't want to be dominant
I'm still recovering from one.
We became friends some 7 years ago, when I had a big crush on them. The crush faded away with time, but they always were one of my most important friends, since that crush helped me overcome depression, and I wanted to pay my friendship in return. We were close and knew each other very well, and we had shared a lot. There were signs of their "energy vampirism" even at that time that hit almost every point in this video, but I thought nothing of it and forgave such petty flaws. It was easy for me to do back then, when we lived in totally different cities at the time, but then she moved into my city and we started hanging out so much more. It was then when they started "leeching" on me like there was no end. I didn't realize what was going on, I didn't understand the situation. I thought I was the villain and I had to change to someone I wasn't. When combining that to the busiest autumn of my life, I burnt out and dipped into depression.
Slowly but surely I started realizing what was the case: either they were an "energy vampire" and they were leeching on me and our other friends (who were much kinder than me, even easier targets), or I was delusional and mad. I eventually accepted that it wasn't the latter. However I had no mental tools to confront them about it. During a trip to northern Norway last summer, (we went there with a couple of our other friends) I got fed up with their shit and we ended up having the most vicious fight with the "energy vampire" I've ever had with anyone in my entire life.
That ended our friendship, and I have not regretted leaving them since.
There is just so much detail in the story that I could write a novel, but here are the main points. As I said, I am still recovering from them. There are so many ways they affected me and who I am today, that unwinding my mind and doing the damage control to my psyche and self esteem has become a task that would be likened to climbing a mountain. A very, very tall mountain.
Sorry you'd to go through that... I went through something similar. Glad you're out of that situation.
writing this experience down in something like a novel maybe could help you getting closer to ending that chapter.. and maybe helping too spreading awareness and such
Wow just want to say amazing lineart guys!!😮👌
Thanks for the video😊
How I’ve delt with energy vampires:
So, I’ve been around a LOT of toxic people. I’ve learned to notice certain behavioral patterns that indicate toxicity. I’ll share two stories about it and how I coped, for anyone struggling. Energy vampires are sometimes excruciatingly hard to cut off if you’ve known them for a while and they seem to have changed from a kind person to the person they are now.
I’ll call this person E. I was going through a really tough breakup at the time, when E asked me out. Due to the fact I was emotionally starved for affection, I accepted. I didn’t have a crush on E, they just gave me affection that I had lacked for a while, and they were one of my best friends at the time. We only dated for 3 months. They started off making snarky remarks about one of my close friends (whom I am still friends with.) but gradually started to insult ALL of my friends, except their friends that I was also friends with. Basically, if my friend wasn’t in their friend group, they’d talk badly about them. I asked them to stop it multiple times, but they’d scream and cry over it, saying that I was being irrational about the situation and that it wasn’t a big deal. I stopped hanging out with some of the people they talked badly about less often, they basically chose who I could hang out with. I tried to talk to the previous ex before, ask how they were doing just to make sure that they were alright. E was violently crying and begging me to never talk to the ex again, saying that they’d hurt themselves if I did talk to the ex. I guess I just sucked up the situation, because I asked how the ex was doing anyway. E decided to read my every text with the ex and basically spy on the entire conversation, DEMANDING that I show them what was being said. Which, all that was discussed was basically “how’s life? Glad to hear you’re doing better. Nice chat, bye”
They also claimed that they were in the right with this situation, and that I was just too nice to realize the friends I was with were horrible people.
They’d also trace and steal my artwork, claiming it as their own and not crediting me. Again, I asked them to stop. They’d throw their crying fit and play the victim card. I could never discuss even remotely upsetting topics, they’d think that I was insulting them and they would start crying. I couldn’t talk about anything to them, because they’d victimize themselves and I’d be forced to comfort them.
However, with enough reassurance from close friends and family, I finally worked up the courage to break up with E. They cried, screamed, whatever they could. I went through with it. They never actually hurt themselves either. I couldn’t bear being friends with them afterwards, since nothing really changed. I blocked them on every social media / game, but they made new accounts to continue harassing me. I’d just block those too and move on. Eventually, E stopped bothering me.
Next story.
We’ll call this person M. M and I had been friends for about 3 years, before we started dating. Everything went smoothly for around 4 months. At 5 months, their true colors started to seep out. I’d buy them loads of things and give them a ton of gifts, but get little to nothing in return. Little became nothing rather fast. We were a long distance couple, so we planned to meet up in real life eventually. I started saving up money for a plane ticket, they said they did too. By the time I had worked up enough spare money, I realized that they hadn’t saved up ANYTHING and had been purchasing expensive games, artwork, and other ridiculous things instead. I tried not to over think it much, and just assumed that maybe they had saved up enough money but forgot to tell me, as ridiculous as that sounds.
Anyway, they started to almost never spend absolutely any time with me. I’d ask to play games, they’d say that they were busy hanging out with others in real life. No big deal. That began happening every single time I asked them if they wanted to play a game together, roughly 2 times a week. We stopped voice chatting as well. It hurt me to realize that I wasn’t at all a priority to them, despite the fact that I had put so much aside to help them. I’d spend hours late up at night when I should’ve been resting because I had a busy day talking to them trying to comfort them. I made them almost 100% my priority, and stopped doing a lot of things that I previously enjoyed. They were a mentally ill person, suffering from severe depression, insomnia, and loads of other phobias. (at least so I think.) I felt obligated to help them with everything because, well, I didn’t want them to hurt themselves. I also have mental illnesses but am on medication for said illnesses, so I have it under control. However, I still need to vent and talk about what’s bugging me. I’d ask if I could talk to M, they’d say they were busy. If they didn’t say that they were busy, they’d quickly change the topic about themselves and say that I was being whiny and could take care of myself whilst they needed help. M would insist that their problems were more important and severe than anyone elses, and would always talk about themselves. You could say anything and they’d ignore it and talk about how bad their life is.
Couldn’t confront them about anything. They’d insist that they don’t know any better. Because of the fact that I was so attached to them before they changed, it was so, so hard for me to let them go. I got excruciatingly sick, and they ignored me entirely for the entire duration I was sick. That sickness has currently screwed up my entire life, and I’m still repairing the damage (emotional and physical trauma.) So them not being there for me stung so much worse than anything I could’ve imagined. I was too sick to actually talk or move, I’d vomit. However, I finally agreed with myself that what they were doing to me wasn’t in any way okay. I broke up with them. We fought several times before I just decided to cut them out of my life entirely. I surrounded myself with people who love me and it’s helped a great amount.
Because of the fact that I was emotionally starved for affection for the second time, I decided to start dating someone else as a non-serious relationship that was for healing purposes from both of our exes, we agreed on that together. It’s helping both of us heal in great amounts and we’re super happy together.
For anyone struggling: Things get better. I know that every single person says that, but things do change. Nothing stays permanent forever. You’ll experience new things and learn stuff, and will be able to better reflect on your own situations. There’s tons of videos for how to tell if you need to move on from a partner or friend, and I recommend those alot. Domics and Jaiden Animations have good videos on the topics. Obviously this channel also has great videos for the topic too lol, but Jaiden and Domics’ videos are in greater detail and share their own experiences. You’ll get through this, I promise. ❤️
Hey dad... are you a energy vampire?
Dad: what?
Me, having the cross ready
Energy vampires scare me. I’m an empath, and so it’s EXTREMELY draining to be around them. Like, I still want to heal them SO badly, but I know that I can’t. At least not in this stage of my life.
I think my dad’s ex-fiancé was one. I could never get over the feeling that there was a danger there. Like my energy was completely drained whenever she was around. I’m SO glad they broke up.
Nobody:
Class after I open a gum pack: *energy vampires level 100*
“We”Re FrIeNdS rIgHt?”
0:12 Oh hey, that person kinda reminds me of Jona- _WAIT A DARN SECOND_
;)
KONO DIO DA
Me: *sees these signs*
also me: ,,Hello Parents"
lmao your not alone
Thank you!
All those things were my old friendship group and I feel better about distancing myself from them.
This sounds so unsettling familiar to me. Gosh, this is so scary how accurate and relatable this is to my life.
Best method to deal with these people- get educated- counter their statements or actions with reasonable facts and K N O W L E D G E.
kuzemaie doesn’t work 😭😭😭
Lol no reasoning with these people, i promise you that.
@@M3DIT4TE exactly. They only have their truth. Best is to just run away. If not shorter and lesser interactions. Meet less often and for shorter periods of time. They are extremely good getting under your skin. You got to realizē that before it's too late. By that I mean your mental state completely destroyed as where you start thinking there is something wrong with you and go on some anti depresant pills or even worse. Crazy house or suicide. This come from personal exp. It is important to heal your mind. The longer you've been in a relationship or any contact with such a people the longer you must heal yourself. It's like physical wounds. Your mind also needs healing. Meditation and drawing helps me. Find what helps you and do it as often and as much you can. If this person still tries to interact with you through social media try to avoid. Even if u r curious. Do not read and respond. It's not your obligation.
I have met too many of these kinds of people. And then, once you realize what they are, the hardest part is ripping them out of your life. It’s been months since I dealt with one, an I’m still dealing with the backlash, emotionally and them stalking me.
This fits my father in law to the letter. My husband and I did our best for years until we realized what he was. He’s still around but more in the background and not the forefront of our lives and I’m currently going to therapy to sort out the damage done. It’s helping little by little.
Take care of your mental health guys. You’re worth more than how people treat you :)
Thank you for sharing! You are brave for reaching out for help. How has therapy helped you so far? :)
Psych2Go thank you it truly means a lot to me. Therapy has helped quite a lot so far. It’s opened my eyes and widened my thought process. It’s helped me not stay in my bubble when I’m scared and to be brave. Still working on things but slowly. It’s about the journey. :) your channel is truly wonderful and I’m grateful for all the things you guys do and the knowledge you guys bring.
Psych2Go I do have to say, I am super grateful for everything you guys do. If it wasn’t for what you guys do I would not have recognized that I needed professional help and would have gone on with my days thinking the pain and sadness is normal and that I’d never work myself out. You guys helped me recognized my problem and it made me realized I needed to fix it for my mental health and my future. You guys do great things for people to have the knowledge needed to help others and themselves. I’m truly truly grateful for you all. Keep up the wonderful work!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️❤️
I love this new art style of this video 👌
Mr. Corndog Gaming
awww glad u love it
That's a lot of JoJo references and I like it xD
Gregorian M.G
I was enthusiastic to work on this one :)))
3:37 _k-kakyoin...._
MochaThrone ur art is so good
@@wakemeupinside83 ty!
I always have thought someone was wrong with them! Now I really know. There're already out my life so I clear. But this is than probably where my depression came from, that's were it all started.
Yes, I'm agree. Dealing with those people can make you start an emotional crisis or depression
For me, I became an energy vampire from my depression
Its a never ending story...
I like this art style! :o
I do like the usual art style too so It looks like It's gonna be balanced ^w^
TheLostStar FlowerDraws
glad u like itt
Woaw. The more I watch these videos, the more I feel good ... Thanks I'm not crazy.
0:28 Sees DIO Pose
Me: DIO!! YAROU!!!!!!!
I've had a "friend" like this, who kept abusing me, he also wanted to be superior of me, and then when i was being bullied at school, he started sharing everything i told him, untill i said to myself "do you really want to spend time and energy with such a selfish guy?" so i'm not a friend with him anymore and i didn't even feel bad for him, i believe, that it was the right thing i've done and since then, i'm carefully observing new friends, if they're again trying to abuse me
They have a selfish personality...and narcissistic
@@chilitocluclu kinda funny that u say selfish personality and narcissist as if narcissists are different then selfish lol
@@angrydiver_1443 LOL
@@chilitocluclu you do hopefully realise why your comment is funny, i hope you don t lol unknowingly.
Really greatfull for the beautiful msg
Whoever drew for this video, I highly appreciate you. I love all the anime references in here! It's hilarious! 😂♥️
North Melon
awww thank you!! ❤️
That moment when you realize that you are the energy vampire... :/
Joel Larrabee At least you are aware of it & recognize it. Some ppl just don’t acknowledge or self reflect. It’s a good start I’d say.
Unfortunately, an empathic person can become an energy vampire overtime when they've been exposed to other vamps for too long.
My husband is 😢 I’m hoping I can finally leave this month.
All the best for you 🖤
Chocolate Penguin thank you 🙏
Goos luck!
good luck ❤️
That's one of my sisters to a T. One moment she can be your best friend, but then she tries to throw you off by insulting (or "joking") about your looks or making you look stupid, especially in front of others she wants to impress.
She no matter what ALWAYS plays victim though if you call her out on her bullshit.
She's a police officer (figures) and one time I got arrested and bailed once at home she proceeded to threated and choke me...as if that's abiding the law. She threw me against the staircase from behind (illegal police choke hold) as I was trying to leave the house and I had a massive cut to my arm from it too.
After about a month we spoke on the phone and she DEMANDED an apology from me through tears for the way I supposedly made HER act.
It's so fucking sad cuz while she was always a bit of a bully, she was always my big sister and I never thought she'd grow up to be a raging sociopath.
I broke up with a person like this last night. I was feeling down, but now I'm so glad I'm out. Thank you Psych2Go.
I already broke up with my bestie for this, anyone else did this too? No? Only me? Ok.
Buttercup Not only you, I also had a friend like that when I was younger.
Me too and no regrets!
Don't worry, I did that a few days ago. Ur not alone
You're not alone
No. I've had to keep one of my good friends at a distance because of this. The only reason I haven't cut them out of my life completely is because I'm afraid of it being damaging to them, seeing that they don't have many friends to begin with, but that could just be the energy vampirism at work.
Now I know someone who's an energy vampire
*my family*
Just a Fan
*_My mom_*
No.
*my whole family.*
Just a Fan deadass.
I can’t help but feel compassion for people who feel and act this way. I can’t hate.
Informative brief video!! 😊
That moment you realize...you’re an energy vampire 😳😂
@@neat3239 As they say, the first step is admitting it. If you have the self-awareness necessary to see what you're doing and how you're behaving, then you have the first tools you need to begin working on it and reshaping your behaviour. It's not going to be an easy, overnight change though; it's a process that's going to take a lot of hard work and perseverance, but it's extremely vital work that'll enable you to handle your emotions and relationships in a healthier way, _and_ it can help you spot others who exhibit that same behaviour. It's just a who win in the end
@DKilluminati2k15 you should probably do something about yourself first.
@natasha Teo gosh same
I am, I hate myself for it I didn't even know I was doing this shit. Sorry. Sorry. Sorry.
@DKilluminati2k15 thank you ♡
Good thing I dont Have A Friend like that...
I have someone who's always negative. Like, genuinely can't say anything positive or have fun in the casual things. I know everyone needs to vent once in a while, but they have generally positive vibes
I’ve been dealing with energy vampires my entire life. The city of Virginia Beach is full of them. I cut everyone off and am living the best life without them. 🙏
When you think it's someone in your family and slowly realize it's you who's been the vampire all along
well at least your self aware , that’s the first step to self improvement ❤️
I feel like three people in my life might be energy Vampires
My Mom
My "best friend"
Me
You are self aware of your faults SO I think that might cancel out you being an actual energy vampire.
@@crywhit4619 I don't think that would make me cancel out on being one
Same, I feel exhausted every time I'm with them
So it all comes down to whoever sucks the hardest?
Seriously though, feeling like a burdon can be easily confused with actually draining other people's energy. And real energy vampires know how to make you feel like you're one to them and others.
@@madao7865 Yup. And it's me.
This is spot on. The constant «drama», everyone else is to blame stuff. I wanted to take care of her and protect her, but she is a compulsive liar. It is like caring for a nest of wasps. I did see the red flags, so I am lucky to sail away, I doubt she will ever pay back the 10K loan though
I just cut off a 10 year friendship I couldn’t do it anymore I can’t project myself in the direction I need to move forward into with them in my life