We are also the antagonist, the secondary characters and the setting. Only you can decide how many pages are in the book. What you don't control are the volumes.
I've heard "You used to be more fun" and it stings. It's just a painful reminder that we can outgrow friendships, but that's ok. Thank you for sharing your story and wisdom ♥️
The courage you have to be so open and transparent about such a difficult topic is beyond inspiring. Thank you for sharing your story and how you learned from it 🙏🏽
I was widowed 5 years ago at the age of 54. I've spent 5 years clinging to the widow title and living safely in limbo. I needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing your inspiring story in such a thoughtful way.
Hi Tammy… I was widowed nearly 10 years ago and also had the widow title, I learnt to move on because I didn’t want my life to be wasted the same as my partner dying young. Happy to say that I am now in an extremely amazing place. Good luck in whatever you choose to do 😊🇬🇧💕
Same story here but you have to move on as you have one life to be lived and if you have children you have to consider that you are a source of inspiration for them
It's amazing how 8:59 minutes can have such an impact for the rest of our lifes. I can't imagine the amount of energy you put into each video, but please know that they are timeless masterpieces. ❤
I think it’s a testament to the transparency of this video that so many strangers feel compelled, yet safe, to share their stories in response. That’s powerful.
Sophie, this is so timely. I've been talking to my hubby a lot lately about "changing the narrative", ever since we moved to a new place. 5 years ago, I couldnt code, rollerblade, bake, or dance, and all that changed because I decided to rewrite my narrative. This is so encouraging as I continue to navigate change and growth in life!
Sophie, I can only imagine how difficult and sad that separation must have been and it's inspiring how you've turned it around into self-reflection, strengths, and shaped your life.
"Because everyone's battle is so unique and different." How right you are. I used to play down my mom's narcissm and the pain and trouble she sends the family through and sometimes, I still do. "Hey, some people don't have parents, you do." But it is painful, it is difficult. And accepting that it is a vulnerable part of your soul is the first and most important step. Sending you my support and love!
Maybe you were more fun, but fun for whom? Thank you for sharing this. You have added to the honesty that makes TH-cam so special, and proved your authenticity once again. I do hope you somehow know how much you are inspiring and supporting people all over the world with your content. Btw, I started my channel after watching your video about starting in 2021 and not only has it changed my life so much for the better, but I went over 1000 subscribers a couple of days ago.
@@MalamaLife thank you, Sophie! I remember watching your video and feeling so inspired, and I really wanted to tell you. It’s made both me and my husband happier - it’s a beautiful addition to my life, gets me out and about so much more and I‘m meeting some wonderful people here on YT. ❤️🤗 Thank you for all you do!
is it not wonderful that there is always a possibility for us to change, to grow, to turn our lives around? it's so inspiring to me that we are just one good choice away from starting the avalanche of other good choices that will benefit us. the journey doesn't have to be rushed or flawless, but it needs to be genuine and healing. lots of love from your new subscriber 🥰 your content really resonates with me. thank you so much!
This video really hit home. I can relate to feeling abandoned as a child and the spiral an adolescent goes into as a result. I changed the narrative and have so much peace and gratitude. I wish my mother well, wherever she is.
I am in a phase of my life filled with confusion, where it often feels like nothing comes easily for me. Every goal I pursue seems to come with a painful rollercoaster of challenges. Once again, I find myself feeling stuck, unsure of what I'm doing or what my next steps should be. Despite this, I am grateful to have found your video-it has reminded me of how far I've come and the progress I've made from where I once was. It gives me a sense of accomplishment and a moment of hope amidst the uncertainty....... Thank you so much...
Perfect content. Thanks Sophie! You being 31, so brave and found the true life so early in your journey. I am still struggling to break the walls of tradition, culture, acceptance and yet seeking the peace in mind, happiness and I’m almost 10 years late than you!
" I want nothing but the best for me" such strong words, we should always remember to do what's best for us cause at the end of the day we tend to be the most strict with ourselves. Thank you for sharing your story. All I see is a beautiful, strong and capable woman. ✨️💕
This is a synchronistic message. I’d been feeling as though I’d been thru ‘too much’ trauma to come back from it ever. Just last night, I realized what I now wanted was to gather myself away from this idea and leave it behind. I deserve not to have to keep carrying the story of how much I’ve been through.
I want to say that your story resonates with me. Something relates to unhappy childhood, like an identity crisis. It will evolve into a battle inside the mind always reminding us who we are and how we live this life. I just hope that all people suffering from this could find their way to live through the dark times and be happy again.
The courage for narrating your own story and the powerful messages you shared definitely touched a nerve. Thank you for creating this channel. You are inspiring people beyond measures.
I bet it was hard for you to share this story with us, but thank you for doing so. I was really inspired with the part where you moved away from Alaska to the place where you didn't know anyone. Sending you love and positive energy! ❤️✨
I seldom comment on anything but this time I am motivated to make an exception. I'll begin by saying Wow! what a beautiful, artistic, intellect she is. Wise beyond her years in her views. She has been given many gifts and is willing to share them with us through her narrative. How refreshing and inspiring even for a budding senior like me. Thank you Sophie.
There's something so peaceful and elegant about your channel that intrigues me. During my gap year, last year, I started watching your videos and it brought immense joy to me and helps me in my journey through self discovery. Thank you for sharing your story with us. 💕
“I’m not perfect, but I feel like I’m on the right path... and that counts for something.” To wholeheartedly “feel” you’re on the right path, no matter the narrative we grew up in or the circumstances around us now, that counts for EVERYTHING. We miss out when we don’t live from our own hearts!
one of my new inspirations, I see as an introvert our similarity from dreams and personalities, so I will try to pursue all my dreams despite my depression and anxiety that makes me miserable and tearful, through my trust in god, I can achieve the life I want like you
Sophie, we share a similar story. Though I'm much older now than you, at around 11 going on 12 my family moved, and it was very traumatizing and shocking, and I did things that created more destruction. I too knew I deserved better, and I've spent all these years creating a life worthy of me. I know I haven't always been as conscious as I could be, but I do think I've created a pretty decent painting so far. Thanks for sharing your story and process. I know what you've been through on sone level. We're so vulnerable and like you said don't have the tools yet. Not many at least. But every day is the first day of the rest of our lives, always another chance.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I could not appreciate it more because I had a similar experience, that I was fostered since an infant and it was an indigenous community. Though I lived with mostly relatives and family friends and not complete strangers, my upbringing was quite turbulent that I had to frequently switch schools, and rotate families. Our physical conditions were very coarse, however, it was mainly the emotional needs of a child not being met. For a long time, I never questioned the way I grew up, always thought it is the way my life is, and internalized my pain and frustration, which led to many negative beliefs in me, such as "I don't deserve to be loved", "others have it better than me" or "no one would listen to me" and difficulty in expressing myself, etc. Your writing and videos are so beautiful, the way you articulated your story has also helped me to process mine. I can resonate so much with your words!
Thank you so much for this video. I am in the lowest point in my life after losing my mom 5 weeks ago and I really needed to hear this. This is my only life and I don't want to lose it by playing the victim. I'm going to change and become happy and truly comfortable in my skin. ❤️ Sending love and light to everyone reading this.
Sophie, this was so elegant in its honesty… I already greatly admired your channel and everything you have accomplished with it, yet now I find myself just completely in awe. Thank you for sharing your story… what an inspiration ✨
I decided to change my life recently but never thought it would be that hard. It feels like even my body refuses to leave habits of old life and begin to do things that I really want. I spent about three years in depressed state, and still overcoming it, that's what's making things harder for me. But I know I will get over it. I know I can. But it's harder than it seemed. Your story really is inspiring, and I think I just figured out some things for myself. Thank you.
Thank you Sophie, you're one of the most genuine people that I have ever come across on TH-cam! Thank you for sharing yourself with us, for being vulnerable, authentic and realistic, addressing real life issues head on, without fear! Compared to most millenials of today, you truly are a breath of fresh air.....I hope that those young people who will be blessed to see your videos will know that they can change the trajectory of their lives. Thank you so much, keep on keeping on :). Love your two dogs by the way!
These last 2 videos you posted came exactly in the right moment for me as I quit my job, where I have been working for 5 years. I felt a bit scared but also very happy, now I really feel the journey just started. I don't know what I'm doing next, but I will allow myself to reflect and choose the career that suits me most hopefully.
While I am watching your videos, it gives me the courage to change myself, my life, my narrative. Not just this video, almost your every videos. I am so happy for listening your life story, seeing your true self more than I saw ever in your other videos. We dont met, but I have a love for you, a pure love and it makes me so happy for knowing you more in this video. I am always appreciating what you've done and what you've said to us. So happy for discovering your channel, your beautiful and kind soul. With all my love 💖💟
I absolutely loved the part where you said that "our vision, will power and perserverance hold so much more power to the storyline of our own lives.". And the Jean-Paul Sartre quote nailed it. breathtaking and deeply thought-provoking video, thank you.
Thank you for your openness and honesty in sharing your story. I too lived in the victim mentality for many years, and changing that mindset has been one of the most freeing decisions of my life, although that realization came very late to me. I know now that I did not want to take responsibility for my own happiness, but looked for it in the approval and love of others. That approach was doomed to failure. I have since learned to find happiness in myself - in the enjoyment of the present moment, as well as in the gratitude I feel for all the good things in my life.
This is one of my favourite videos of yours. I have been binge watching your channel, I find it thought provoking and calming. Thus video in particular came up in my suggested watches at just the right time. I have found myself completely changing the trajectory of my life and the way I embrace different situations. I love the new person I am becoming and watching your channel has truly helped me continue on my path. I cannot thank you enough! xxx
I have thought that my discomfort was telling me that something was wrong with me, it never occurred to me that it’s me growing and becoming the person I should be. I’m glad I found this video exactly when I needed it, your story has inspired me more than I can describe.❤️
You have such a beautiful voice! I felt completely at ease listening to you tell your story. Congrats on breaking the chains to your old story and embracing the new one ❤
After 20 years of marriage I am getting divorced and was having a pity party for myself because my husband is trying to cut me off financially. I saw myself as a victim but after watching this video I realized I should change my narrative to empower myself to make my own money rather than complain that I don’t have any. Thank you!!!❤️
Your last few words really resonated with me. I'd lived a similar life as you did, in that I was blind to my own freedom and agency; I blamed everyone else but me for everything that went wrong in my life. I used my circumstances as a crutch for every perceived failure and I pinned all my negative traits on my upbringing. It wasn't until I hit rock bottom and was given a fresh start once more, that I found the courage to accept accountability. Because as much as I negated the darker aspects of my life, so did I shy away from what was good. I began to realize that the vivid life my friends were living wasn't because they had better circumstances than I did, it was simply because they were grateful for everything that happened.
Sophie my lovely you made me cry! I adore this video, my absolute favourite from you! And even if I wasn't adopted I can relate a lot with your pain, I had my own share as well and I also had to choose at one point, do I want to keep playing the angry victim or just start working on my self and accept my past. I chose to bring out the best of me and see my past from an observer's point of view, without judgement, it was what it was, I cannot change that but I can change my present and my future because I deserve peace and happiness. i am glad I did that choice, my life it's much better now and same is my relationship with the ones around me. The change was very hard but was worth the pain! Thank you Sophie for reminding me all this! Much love!
I'm so glad you can relate to this message Mihaela! I think it's really liberating that no matter what happens, we always have a choice on how to view it. much love to you ❤️
How strong and smart you are. You push me to keep going in my way of change , you gave me the hope that I am looking for . sometime I am so weak I can not control my emotions and my bad feelings , I say that I will never forget the past and I will never have a stable mental health , I will always remember the past and my wounds never heal but with your video I have now I have the motivation to think in a positive way . thank you for sharing with us all of that♥️♥️♥️
Got the same exact comment from a supposed “ friend ” who obviously had a lot of remarks stored in during my transformation. I thought to myself: I am here to become the woman of my dreams, not hers or anyone else’s “. I know that 16yo me would be in awe of who I am. Needless to say, lots of things and people were decluttered back then and I couldn’t be happier! It takes courage and you showed it so gracefully! Love you 😍
Your story today is compelling and pictures an excellent outlook on how each of us can create our own narrative. I have steadfastly maintained to be myself and not worry what others think. That mantra combined with respecting others-humans, animals, and the environment is what I try to keep foremost in my mind.
Thank you for sharing something so personal with us. Once again, it helps us on our bad days to keep things in context and in perspective. I definitely needed to hear this as a reminder because sometimes we just feel helpless and tired of whatever situation we are dealing with at that moment. Feeling lost or without direction. While I'm not adopted, I had parents who didn't want me, was abandoned by my "father", and had a mother who made it clear that she didn't want me as a son. She took care of me, (I say that loosely) but the result of her not actually wanting me was verbal, emotional, psychological abuse. It could have been worse, so I'm thankful it wasn't. I guess the point is that everything is a double edged sword, even in your past experiences with your parents. On one side of the spectrum, your parents left you and your sister, and on the other side of the spectrum, they may have been abusive in every way possible if they didn't leave. I don't think you have an idea of how your videos actually affect others in the world, and for that, I say thank you.
@@MalamaLife Thank you..! I send you some love too..! =) Trying to make the most of the rest of my time, but who knows.. I wasted a lot of time in the past, not caring/not trying, being discouraged, with low confidence and ambition, but it's a lot better now. I need to GTFO of here.. haha.
Your story really moved me, thanks for sharing this. I think you are whatever you transformed in yourself, after all that you went through. Hardships are our true friends in life as they give you courage and chance to explore yourself. Thanks for being a great motivation to everyone through this channel. I really look forward every week to hear your soothing voice and some motivation in life, take care! ❤❤
i fairly believe that this is not a coincidence, all the morning i was thinking of the same stuff she's talking about, and when i opened youtube to search for a relatable topic, this video was the 1st on the timeline. omg. thanks for the message.
I just completed an amazing Leadership program with Michael Bernoff. Part of this event, Michael would have the audience listen to peoples stories (within the audience) that they were reliving on a daily - weekly - monthly basis. The transformation of the event was the letting go of their story. Thank you for sharing, Sophia.
As I am still young, I'm worried about myself and about my future. I'm honestly lost but thanks to your inspiring words and story about your life, I am now doing the things that I've set aside for too long. I am loving your videos so much! Thank you sooo muchhh! I'm learning a lot from you! 🫶🫶🫶
I teared up at the end of the video 🥺🥺 , thank you for sharing this with us, it came at the exact time when I was thinking that we always believe the story we tell ourselves, so we must be careful with the story we choose to embrace, changing the narrative of our story might look like a meaningless step, but it's the first step into changing our lives, it depends on everyone but the foundation of our narrative should come from a place of gratitude not a place of entitlement, a narrative where we feel as the hero and the survivor of our circumstances not a victim, that's what changing the narrative means to me, and as I am writing this comment I am reminding myself of it because it's easy to fall back into the past narrative if we don't constantly remind ourselves with the new one. Have a good week Sophie I am looking forward to seeing your next video 🎁
Dear Sophie, many thanks for sharing your story and inspiring us. I was crying when hearing your story and glad you made your life move on your own way. Wish you all the best, because you are well deserved it!
I’ve made plenty of unwise choices in my life but… they were mine to make & I am daily grateful that I was free to make them anyway. I see my past from a distance now though it really does not seem that long ago. That’s aging and growing some wisdom as we get closer to the end of life than to the beginning. I’m glad you had a second chance with your mother-a true privilege. Good video.
Thank you so much for having the courage to share your story Sophie, it is truly inspiring. Your channel is seriously such a gift and this video has come at the perfect time. It's such a beautiful reminder that we hold the pen, the brush, and the tools to create the thoughts that shape our life and that part of transformation is uncomfortable growth.
Sorry for your loss in the past 💕 beautiful area where you live live love the photography. So glad your mind set changed for a more positive out look thanks for sharing young lady :)
“Don’t just be yourself, create yourself.” Very powerful and it really got me thinking. Thank you for this wonderful video. ♥️
I'm happy to hear that :)
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Yup.. always thought that it's an overrated/overused advice.. " Just be yourself" what if you are a jerk.. do you keep being a jerk...? 🤔🤦🏽
“We are not just the main character in our life, we are the author” 👌🏻🥺💗
We are both!
Watch Europa the last battle it completely changed my entire life
We are also the antagonist, the secondary characters and the setting. Only you can decide how many pages are in the book. What you don't control are the volumes.
I love her voice. It's so soothing and can help when you're having a bad day and you just need some advice from a big sis.
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I've heard "You used to be more fun" and it stings. It's just a painful reminder that we can outgrow friendships, but that's ok. Thank you for sharing your story and wisdom ♥️
So true! Even the closest friendships can grow apart
Go to hell then and never get back !
May Jesus Christ burn the devil spirit which is inside of you.
@@MalamaLife it can be good part of urs lives too.If that was a true friendship,it would never end.
Yup same what im going through right now, feel so sad, but change is inevitable
"discomfort is a sign of your growth"
That was deep and eye opening for me. Thx
❤️ glad it resonates with you
"You are the author of your story" . True words. I hope everyone feeling lonely here will build your life better.
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"to accept what was and finally move on."....that's powerful.
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The courage you have to be so open and transparent about such a difficult topic is beyond inspiring. Thank you for sharing your story and how you learned from it 🙏🏽
Thanks Khaliliah ❤ that means a lot
I couldn't of said that better Khalilah.
@@Perfectpeace19 Probably not. She says the same thing on all the channels.
I was widowed 5 years ago at the age of 54. I've spent 5 years clinging to the widow title and living safely in limbo. I needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing your inspiring story in such a thoughtful way.
Big hugs ❤
Hi Tammy… I was widowed nearly 10 years ago and also had the widow title, I learnt to move on because I didn’t want my life to be wasted the same as my partner dying young. Happy to say that I am now in an extremely amazing place. Good luck in whatever you choose to do 😊🇬🇧💕
Same story here but you have to move on as you have one life to be lived and if you have children you have to consider that you are a source of inspiration for them
My patient told me she just found love at the age of 64!!! Now she is 86 hopping to get well soon in order to reunite with her partner.
It's amazing how 8:59 minutes can have such an impact for the rest of our lifes. I can't imagine the amount of energy you put into each video, but please know that they are timeless masterpieces. ❤
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I agree. I have a few of Sophie’s videos saved in a favorites playlist because there are so many wonderful lessons that I like to revisit
I think it’s a testament to the transparency of this video that so many strangers feel compelled, yet safe, to share their stories in response. That’s powerful.
❤️ thanks Erik!
Sophie, this is so timely. I've been talking to my hubby a lot lately about "changing the narrative", ever since we moved to a new place. 5 years ago, I couldnt code, rollerblade, bake, or dance, and all that changed because I decided to rewrite my narrative. This is so encouraging as I continue to navigate change and growth in life!
I'm happy for you! the narrative we tell ourselves is so important! it can be life changing ❤️
Did you learn to code on your own?
Sophie, I can only imagine how difficult and sad that separation must have been and it's inspiring how you've turned it around into self-reflection, strengths, and shaped your life.
thanks Cerita ❤️
"Because everyone's battle is so unique and different." How right you are. I used to play down my mom's narcissm and the pain and trouble she sends the family through and sometimes, I still do. "Hey, some people don't have parents, you do." But it is painful, it is difficult. And accepting that it is a vulnerable part of your soul is the first and most important step. Sending you my support and love!
Maybe you were more fun, but fun for whom? Thank you for sharing this. You have added to the honesty that makes TH-cam so special, and proved your authenticity once again. I do hope you somehow know how much you are inspiring and supporting people all over the world with your content.
Btw, I started my channel after watching your video about starting in 2021 and not only has it changed my life so much for the better, but I went over 1000 subscribers a couple of days ago.
Thank you for your sweet comment Lauren 🥺❤ that means a lot. And so happy to hear about your YT journey! Congrats!!
@@MalamaLife thank you, Sophie! I remember watching your video and feeling so inspired, and I really wanted to tell you. It’s made both me and my husband happier - it’s a beautiful addition to my life, gets me out and about so much more and I‘m meeting some wonderful people here on YT. ❤️🤗 Thank you for all you do!
You now have another subscriber Lauren :)
You’re so sweet
@@nicholajayne thank you so much!!
This is literally a piece of art and I’m so thankful I made this incredibly beautiful and amazing message for us! Ily!
🥺❤ thank you
is it not wonderful that there is always a possibility for us to change, to grow, to turn our lives around? it's so inspiring to me that we are just one good choice away from starting the avalanche of other good choices that will benefit us. the journey doesn't have to be rushed or flawless, but it needs to be genuine and healing. lots of love from your new subscriber 🥰 your content really resonates with me. thank you so much!
Yes! I think the choice is always there :) Thank you for your comment and for supporting me❤️
“To accept what was and finally move on” super powerful!!
Love the way you narrate and it's important to be a narrater of your own story.
😁❤ thanks!!
This video really hit home. I can relate to feeling abandoned as a child and the spiral an adolescent goes into as a result. I changed the narrative and have so much peace and gratitude. I wish my mother well, wherever she is.
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"change always comes with discomfort" 🙏 such deep truths, thank you for this✨
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I am in a phase of my life filled with confusion, where it often feels like nothing comes easily for me. Every goal I pursue seems to come with a painful rollercoaster of challenges. Once again, I find myself feeling stuck, unsure of what I'm doing or what my next steps should be. Despite this, I am grateful to have found your video-it has reminded me of how far I've come and the progress I've made from where I once was. It gives me a sense of accomplishment and a moment of hope amidst the uncertainty.......
Thank you so much...
Perfect content. Thanks Sophie! You being 31, so brave and found the true life so early in your journey. I am still struggling to break the walls of tradition, culture, acceptance and yet seeking the peace in mind, happiness and I’m almost 10 years late than you!
"Don't avoid it, embrace it." It was the best line for me. 진실한 이야기 전해주셔서 고맙습니다. 목소리만 들어도 치유되는거 같아요.
" I want nothing but the best for me" such strong words, we should always remember to do what's best for us cause at the end of the day we tend to be the most strict with ourselves. Thank you for sharing your story. All I see is a beautiful, strong and capable woman. ✨️💕
I still hear sadness in your voice. I hope u can continue to build a beautiful life
I appreciate it. I'm not sad, just emotional :)
This is a synchronistic message. I’d been feeling as though I’d been thru ‘too much’ trauma to come back from it ever. Just last night, I realized what I now wanted was to gather myself away from this idea and leave it behind. I deserve not to have to keep carrying the story of how much I’ve been through.
I want to say that your story resonates with me. Something relates to unhappy childhood, like an identity crisis. It will evolve into a battle inside the mind always reminding us who we are and how we live this life. I just hope that all people suffering from this could find their way to live through the dark times and be happy again.
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The courage for narrating your own story and the powerful messages you shared definitely touched a nerve. Thank you for creating this channel. You are inspiring people beyond measures.
The Change was Scary but also Freeing at the Same time!-
It felt like..these words were said SPECIALLY for me to hear them!
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I love your videos so much. Thank you for sharing your story. You're such an inspiration 🖤
Thanks for watching them
@@MalamaLife my pleasure! 🖤
I bet it was hard for you to share this story with us, but thank you for doing so. I was really inspired with the part where you moved away from Alaska to the place where you didn't know anyone. Sending you love and positive energy! ❤️✨
❤️ thanks Kristina. Thanks for watching
I seldom comment on anything but this time I am motivated to make an exception. I'll begin by saying Wow! what a beautiful, artistic, intellect she is. Wise beyond her years in her views. She has been given many gifts and is willing to share them with us through her narrative. How refreshing and inspiring even for a budding senior like me. Thank you Sophie.
Thank you so much for you kind comment Rob. Appreciate it and happy you enjoyed the video
There's something so peaceful and elegant about your channel that intrigues me. During my gap year, last year, I started watching your videos and it brought immense joy to me and helps me in my journey through self discovery. Thank you for sharing your story with us. 💕
I'm so happy to hear that ❤ so cool we're on this journey together
“I’m not perfect, but I feel like I’m on the right path... and that counts for something.”
To wholeheartedly “feel” you’re on the right path, no matter the narrative we grew up in or the circumstances around us now, that counts for EVERYTHING. We miss out when we don’t live from our own hearts!
one of my new inspirations, I see as an introvert our similarity from dreams and personalities, so I will try to pursue all my dreams despite my depression and anxiety that makes me miserable and tearful, through my trust in god, I can achieve the life I want like you
"You are not the character of your life , you are author of your life so creat your life." Sweet line ..💙💜
I am not gonna lie, you are such a good painter I’ve never seen such talent
literally the only video about changing your life that makes real sense
Sophie, we share a similar story. Though I'm much older now than you, at around 11 going on 12 my family moved, and it was very traumatizing and shocking, and I did things that created more destruction.
I too knew I deserved better, and I've spent all these years creating a life worthy of me. I know I haven't always been as conscious as I could be, but I do think I've created a pretty decent painting so far. Thanks for sharing your story and process. I know what you've been through on sone level. We're so vulnerable and like you said don't have the tools yet. Not many at least. But every day is the first day of the rest of our lives, always another chance.
Every day is the first day of our lives. I'll remember this :)
Love is a Tapestry; Success is a journey. You are precious... 💞
I think i found gold with this chanel.. thankyou malama. Youre so deep...
Thank you for sharing your experience. I could not appreciate it more because I had a similar experience, that I was fostered since an infant and it was an indigenous community. Though I lived with mostly relatives and family friends and not complete strangers, my upbringing was quite turbulent that I had to frequently switch schools, and rotate families. Our physical conditions were very coarse, however, it was mainly the emotional needs of a child not being met. For a long time, I never questioned the way I grew up, always thought it is the way my life is, and internalized my pain and frustration, which led to many negative beliefs in me, such as "I don't deserve to be loved", "others have it better than me" or "no one would listen to me" and difficulty in expressing myself, etc. Your writing and videos are so beautiful, the way you articulated your story has also helped me to process mine. I can resonate so much with your words!
Thank you so much for this video. I am in the lowest point in my life after losing my mom 5 weeks ago and I really needed to hear this. This is my only life and I don't want to lose it by playing the victim. I'm going to change and become happy and truly comfortable in my skin. ❤️ Sending love and light to everyone reading this.
Sophie, this was so elegant in its honesty… I already greatly admired your channel and everything you have accomplished with it, yet now I find myself just completely in awe. Thank you for sharing your story… what an inspiration ✨
aw thank you so much Sara. I appreciate your comment so much
I decided to change my life recently but never thought it would be that hard. It feels like even my body refuses to leave habits of old life and begin to do things that I really want. I spent about three years in depressed state, and still overcoming it, that's what's making things harder for me. But I know I will get over it. I know I can. But it's harder than it seemed.
Your story really is inspiring, and I think I just figured out some things for myself.
Thank you.
Your not changing your sitting and wallowing
Thank you Sophie, you're one of the most genuine people that I have ever come across on TH-cam! Thank you for sharing yourself with us, for being vulnerable, authentic and realistic, addressing real life issues head on, without fear! Compared to most millenials of today, you truly are a breath of fresh air.....I hope that those young people who will be blessed to see your videos will know that they can change the trajectory of their lives. Thank you so much, keep on keeping on :). Love your two dogs by the way!
You're so sweet ❤️
These last 2 videos you posted came exactly in the right moment for me as I quit my job, where I have been working for 5 years. I felt a bit scared but also very happy, now I really feel the journey just started. I don't know what I'm doing next, but I will allow myself to reflect and choose the career that suits me most hopefully.
Wishing you all the best! excited for you!!
Lots of resource in doing what You luv
Your lifestyle is literally what I'm working on creating. Thank you for creating such a beautiful video and for providing encouraging words 🙌
u're totally right , " it never too late to change if you are not happy with the current trajectory of your life "
While I am watching your videos, it gives me the courage to change myself, my life, my narrative. Not just this video, almost your every videos. I am so happy for listening your life story, seeing your true self more than I saw ever in your other videos. We dont met, but I have a love for you, a pure love and it makes me so happy for knowing you more in this video. I am always appreciating what you've done and what you've said to us. So happy for discovering your channel, your beautiful and kind soul.
With all my love 💖💟
big hugs to you ❤️ thank you for your kind words! it really means a lot.
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Thank you so much 🙏❤️
So beautiful, the narration, the graphics, the message... love what it embodies 🥰
Thank you so much :)
Instead of calling it your “battle”, try your “your journey” 💕
Thank you SO much for allowing us to get to know you better on a deeper level. Please do more of these if you feel like it, I really liked this
Thanks for being here to hear my story 😁
I absolutely loved the part where you said that "our vision, will power and perserverance hold so much more power to the storyline of our own lives.". And the Jean-Paul Sartre quote nailed it. breathtaking and deeply thought-provoking video, thank you.
You gave me a hope in my difficult times! You gave me a strong motivation!You should be very proud for yourself and your journey!
♥️ thank you so much
Thank you for your openness and honesty in sharing your story. I too lived in the victim mentality for many years, and changing that mindset has been one of the most freeing decisions of my life, although that realization came very late to me. I know now that I did not want to take responsibility for my own happiness, but looked for it in the approval and love of others. That approach was doomed to failure. I have since learned to find happiness in myself - in the enjoyment of the present moment, as well as in the gratitude I feel for all the good things in my life.
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This is one of my favourite videos of yours. I have been binge watching your channel, I find it thought provoking and calming. Thus video in particular came up in my suggested watches at just the right time. I have found myself completely changing the trajectory of my life and the way I embrace different situations. I love the new person I am becoming and watching your channel has truly helped me continue on my path. I cannot thank you enough! xxx
I am so sorry for what you had to experience at the age of 11 😔 so much love to you and your sister ❤
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I have thought that my discomfort was telling me that something was wrong with me, it never occurred to me that it’s me growing and becoming the person I should be. I’m glad I found this video exactly when I needed it, your story has inspired me more than I can describe.❤️
You have such a beautiful voice! I felt completely at ease listening to you tell your story. Congrats on breaking the chains to your old story and embracing the new one ❤
I don't even care or notice what she says. I just enjoy her voice, the background music and video. It is so comforting.
After 20 years of marriage I am getting divorced and was having a pity party for myself because my husband is trying to cut me off financially. I saw myself as a victim but after watching this video I realized I should change my narrative to empower myself to make my own money rather than complain that I don’t have any. Thank you!!!❤️
❤️ wishing you all the best
Your last few words really resonated with me. I'd lived a similar life as you did, in that I was blind to my own freedom and agency; I blamed everyone else but me for everything that went wrong in my life. I used my circumstances as a crutch for every perceived failure and I pinned all my negative traits on my upbringing. It wasn't until I hit rock bottom and was given a fresh start once more, that I found the courage to accept accountability. Because as much as I negated the darker aspects of my life, so did I shy away from what was good. I began to realize that the vivid life my friends were living wasn't because they had better circumstances than I did, it was simply because they were grateful for everything that happened.
Sophie my lovely you made me cry! I adore this video, my absolute favourite from you! And even if I wasn't adopted I can relate a lot with your pain, I had my own share as well and I also had to choose at one point, do I want to keep playing the angry victim or just start working on my self and accept my past. I chose to bring out the best of me and see my past from an observer's point of view, without judgement, it was what it was, I cannot change that but I can change my present and my future because I deserve peace and happiness. i am glad I did that choice, my life it's much better now and same is my relationship with the ones around me. The change was very hard but was worth the pain! Thank you Sophie for reminding me all this! Much love!
I'm so glad you can relate to this message Mihaela! I think it's really liberating that no matter what happens, we always have a choice on how to view it. much love to you ❤️
How strong and smart you are. You push me to keep going in my way of change , you gave me the hope that I am looking for . sometime I am so weak I can not control my emotions and my bad feelings , I say that I will never forget the past and I will never have a stable mental health , I will always remember the past and my wounds never heal but with your video I have now I have the motivation to think in a positive way . thank you for sharing with us all of that♥️♥️♥️
You have such a beautiful way of choosing your words and speaking ! It goes straight into our hearts 🤍
Lots of prayers 🤍
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Absolutely love this, if you do 1 on 1/coaching let me know! I definitely need it.
Thank you so much 😊❤️
Got the same exact comment from a supposed “ friend ” who obviously had a lot of remarks stored in during my transformation. I thought to myself: I am here to become the woman of my dreams, not hers or anyone else’s “. I know that 16yo me would be in awe of who I am. Needless to say, lots of things and people were decluttered back then and I couldn’t be happier! It takes courage and you showed it so gracefully! Love you 😍
good for you! people don't like change, but the ones who love you will understand and accept your changes too :)
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us, Sophie ❤️ You are such an inspiration ✨
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I have similar story as you and I also turned my life around, but again listening to youyou said reminds me of how much power we have thank you ❤
This is beyond inspiring, Sophie. Thanks for sharing your story. You are courageous and resilient.
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you don't know how much your words affected on me .thank you 💌
Your story today is compelling and pictures an excellent outlook on how each of us can create our own narrative. I have steadfastly maintained to be myself and not worry what others think. That mantra combined with respecting others-humans, animals, and the environment is what I try to keep foremost in my mind.
Thanks Wilfred. I appreciate that! I agree with you on your mantra
your voice is so calm , makes me feel good and relaxed i loved this phrase don't just be yourself create yourself
Thank you for sharing something so personal with us. Once again, it helps us on our bad days to keep things in context and in perspective. I definitely needed to hear this as a reminder because sometimes we just feel helpless and tired of whatever situation we are dealing with at that moment. Feeling lost or without direction.
While I'm not adopted, I had parents who didn't want me, was abandoned by my "father", and had a mother who made it clear that she didn't want me as a son. She took care of me, (I say that loosely) but the result of her not actually wanting me was verbal, emotional, psychological abuse. It could have been worse, so I'm thankful it wasn't. I guess the point is that everything is a double edged sword, even in your past experiences with your parents. On one side of the spectrum, your parents left you and your sister, and on the other side of the spectrum, they may have been abusive in every way possible if they didn't leave.
I don't think you have an idea of how your videos actually affect others in the world, and for that, I say thank you.
I'm so sorry to hear about your family. I hope that you can see past it and still create something beautiful for yourself. Sending you my love
@@MalamaLife Thank you..!
I send you some love too..! =)
Trying to make the most of the rest of my time, but who knows.. I wasted a lot of time in the past, not caring/not trying, being discouraged, with low confidence and ambition, but it's a lot better now.
I need to GTFO of here.. haha.
Ur story is so inspiring..... the first step of improvement is to identify the problem and then accept and ur video taught me that.
❤️ I'm so happy to hear that
Your story really moved me, thanks for sharing this. I think you are whatever you transformed in yourself, after all that you went through. Hardships are our true friends in life as they give you courage and chance to explore yourself. Thanks for being a great motivation to everyone through this channel. I really look forward every week to hear your soothing voice and some motivation in life, take care! ❤❤
aw thank you very much ❤️ I'm so happy to hear it
“There will always be haters but their opinion aren’t more important or more accurate".”
Keep your head up
You are wise beyond your years and thank you, I needed to receive this today 💗
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i fairly believe that this is not a coincidence, all the morning i was thinking of the same stuff she's talking about, and when i opened youtube to search for a relatable topic, this video was the 1st on the timeline. omg. thanks for the message.
I just completed an amazing Leadership program with Michael Bernoff. Part of this event, Michael would have the audience listen to peoples stories (within the audience) that they were reliving on a daily - weekly - monthly basis. The transformation of the event was the letting go of their story. Thank you for sharing, Sophia.
that's powerful! sometimes talking about it and sharing it with others is healing
As I am still young, I'm worried about myself and about my future. I'm honestly lost but thanks to your inspiring words and story about your life, I am now doing the things that I've set aside for too long.
I am loving your videos so much! Thank you sooo muchhh! I'm learning a lot from you! 🫶🫶🫶
The only constant in life is change. Thank you for sharing your life's experiences. You're so amazing! ❤️
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I teared up at the end of the video 🥺🥺 , thank you for sharing this with us, it came at the exact time when I was thinking that we always believe the story we tell ourselves, so we must be careful with the story we choose to embrace, changing the narrative of our story might look like a meaningless step, but it's the first step into changing our lives, it depends on everyone but the foundation of our narrative should come from a place of gratitude not a place of entitlement, a narrative where we feel as the hero and the survivor of our circumstances not a victim, that's what changing the narrative means to me, and as I am writing this comment I am reminding myself of it because it's easy to fall back into the past narrative if we don't constantly remind ourselves with the new one. Have a good week Sophie I am looking forward to seeing your next video 🎁
I think it's so important to remind ourselves :) I love how you phrased it. I'm so happy that you enjoyed the video. Thank you ❤️
Cried while watching dis vlog... Uve evolved..
Changed as a person... Suffering makes u stronger they say .. I'm inspired... ❤️
This was just what my soul needed to hear and feel. Thank you for creating and sharing you Sophie 💜
❤️ thank you
You inspire me . Its really not late . start now and get out of your comfort zone
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Dear Sophie, many thanks for sharing your story and inspiring us. I was crying when hearing your story and glad you made your life move on your own way. Wish you all the best, because you are well deserved it!
thank you so much ❤️ best wishes to you
I’ve made plenty of unwise choices in my life but… they were mine to make & I am daily grateful that I was free to make them anyway. I see my past from a distance now though it really does not seem that long ago. That’s aging and growing some wisdom as we get closer to the end of life than to the beginning. I’m glad you had a second chance with your mother-a true privilege. Good video.
Hi, you can be proud of yourself to open-up to us about your story. It's not easy well done lady !
Thank you for watching ❤🥰 that means a lot
A friendly reminder: happiness is not a state it's rather conscious effort you have to make every day
Thank you so much for having the courage to share your story Sophie, it is truly inspiring. Your channel is seriously such a gift and this video has come at the perfect time. It's such a beautiful reminder that we hold the pen, the brush, and the tools to create the thoughts that shape our life and that part of transformation is uncomfortable growth.
I just love the way you are living your life🌺🌺🌺🌺
I felt called to look up this topic before bed :) glad you created it! ❤
And by creating yourself you change the trajectory of your life, you rewrite your story ❤️ I needed those worlds today, thank you!
Sorry for your loss in the past 💕 beautiful area where you live live love the photography. So glad your mind set changed for a more positive out look thanks for sharing young lady :)
Thank you so much Mary
Much Needed Thank you so much, I was at my low, and didn't feel like doing anything. It comforted me after a very long period.
This teared me up. Thank you for this. I needed this ❤
Thank you for watching ❤️
i needed this today. thank you. i can’t continue using my past as an excuse to not live my life to the best it can be right now❤