15 Things We Should Let Go As We Age
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0:00 - Unhealthy Relationships
1:04 - The Belief That We Can Change Someone
1:37 - FREE 1-Page PDF
1:49 - The Belief We Can Have It All
2:36 - The Belief My Body Can Handle It
3:35 - Alcohol
4:28 - Junk Content
5:37 - Arbitrary Deadlines
6:28 - The Past
7:18 - Labels
8:18 - “Special” Days
8:48 - Fast Results
9:30 - Easy Results
10:16 - The Need To Be Liked
11:27 - Possessions
12:02 - Debt
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Dear brother I have been watching your videos everyday and I have been encourage more and more. So I would like to ask you can you help me find a way for a side hustle.
Outstanding suggestions. Very well thought out.
I'm 70. I only had 2 friends but both were toxic so I cut them loose. No regrets. My life is more peaceful with no friends. I have my daughter, granddaughter and my cat, Punky. I need nothing. Peace
Hello and thank you for that . I needed it.
It is interesting that not everyone grows wiser with age. Agreed that ties need to be severed when it causes more irritation and anger than happiness.
I find as I get older that I am just more peaceful with my own company and the company of my dogs..no drama..just peace
Exactly peace . I agree I am 53 .
Right there with you, sister. I went through a "detox" of sorts a few years ago after allowing myself to get suckered into a toxic romantic relationship. I decided to cut out the people, places and things that were polluting me. I sold my home, downsized into a beautiful 396 sf tiny home and cut some toxic people loose. This year, Im focusing on intention in every aspect of my life and working to get my health back to optimum level. I have one bestie who lives out of state but we talk and text almost daily. We have a trip to the Caribbean planned in May. I have a great job and a sweet cat....what more could I want? Freeing myself from people and things was the best thing I've ever done.
I would add these to the list as well. Unrealistic expectations, regrets, grudges and resentment, fear of change, youthful insecurities, rigid habits, worrying about the future, pleasing everyone, perfectionism and overcommitment. Remember, letting go of certain things is a personal and ongoing process. It's about creating a mindset that promotes well-being, fulfillment, and positive growth as you navigate the different stages of life.
Great added list
Good job
This video was right on point
I absolutely agree 👍
Damn you must be going through it lol
Well said young man.
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I'd add.............Let go of the desire to be loved, accepted, appreciated by others. Detachment is the gift that keeps on giving and when you expect nothing from other people you'll realise the amazing power inherent in this way of being. No matter anyone says or does, no matter what they dont do or dont say, none of it matters, nothing can throw you when you practice detachment. Trust me this saves so much trouble and drama in your life, its peace, equilibrium and tranquility.
"Detachment is the gift that keeps on giving". Great quote!
Amazing! Thank you
Buddhist say..the source of all sorrow is attachment..check out van Morrisons song about detachment
That he mentioned as no.13: The need to be liked.
The comments add so much value to this wonderful video. I’m 45, no children, never married and I’m the happiest person I know. Sure I would love a couple of great friends but finding quality and solid people like myself has proven to be very difficult. I’m going to be ok. Thanks everyone.
You rock:) same only i say I'm ageless but yes if someone isn't in their hearts and genuinely a good human, im out
I am happily married, when people ask me what is my secret to a happy marriage i tell them...dont get married. 😂..Marriage is incredibly hard and it takes a certain kind of old school thinking to make it long lasting and fulfilling. You need to be incredibly selfless and patient to have a happy marriage, if my wonderful husband dies tomorrow i will never ever marry again. Heck if i could go back in time to my younger self i would also say do not marry....maybe...unless if i meet my husband again i would marry him again. But no one else. =]
Another thing ! - do not care about how much others make and make sure you are doing fine and you are doing better than the last 10 years. Never compare your money/net worth/ salary or anything. You are... you vs you.
Probably one of the best advice especially in today’s open salary conversations.. there are more reasons why someone in your same position earns more & it shouldn’t make you feel less than
I am 77 y/o and l have apply all of your wise recommendations all my life, l feel bless to have a wonderful old aged , I don’t know what’s to have chronic pain, diabetes , over weight, I eat only to satisfy my hunger, but never to be full , sleep 7 hours, don’t smoke and drink only on special occasions, use pot for relaxation and meditation, walk when whether permitted,otherwise I’m a good walker, never though that age ‘ll make me to look back in my youthful years , and I still enjoying my memories dated back to my childhood ,
And memories are the windows of our past and storages for the future
The value in letting go of the need to be liked cannot be overstated.
Currently, people are compromising their personal value system due to the pressure of social media.
Trying to fit in or be liked by people they don't even know.... this ethereal crowd. Group-think pressure.
Breaking free of that is a matter of self-respect.
Great insight
It's comforting to realise we have the power to let go of things that used to keep us in a kind of bondage. I have to admit though that I do still eat french fries like a savage. :)
As a gay man, people try to change me. Whether to be straight and have a family vs just being happy with who I am. I’d rather be alone. I’m not trying to please anyone anymore. I’m 53 and happy with who I am.
Good on you keep living the way you want as your life. I am 72 soon & I believe you can have go see do as long as you don't hurt anyone along the way. I fully believe we should all respect each other & just do unto others as we want to be treated. We are all God's children in my books he loves us all & doesn't discriminate ❤ To me love is love 🤗❤️
Your videos are definitely not junk content. Huge fan! Thanks for producing these.
You are spot on; his content is so solid and helpful.
Getting older, I've started to let go of that fear of missing out and found joy in it instead. It's freeing! Now, I focus more on what I really want to do, not just scrolling through what everyone else is doing online. I make time to unplug and do things I love, like outdoors and creating content. It's all about enjoying the moment and feeling at peace with where I am. Your video really reminded me to appreciate my own path, without worrying about everyone else's. Loved it!
You sound like me 😊 I say you can do whatever you like in life as long as you don't hurt anyone along the way ❤
It’s 82 and this was Life Confirming. Have to share it with younger relatives.
I just subscribed and so far, enjoy your wisdom. I've pretty much lived my life as you suggested. No debt, married 50 years to my sweetheart, great family, no debt (don't believe in it, never did) always lived in my means. Still learning, working and investing. And not because I have to but because I want to. I love life, it's a gift, every minuet and every hour. There are no promises for a tomorrow, I can attest to that. I'm a walking miracle! I can count on one hand who my good friends are and my family are the best people I could ever wish for. I'm fortunate and I thank God every night for it!!
❤ all you wrote I feel the same way. I believe in our Great Creator "God" not worried what others think say everyone to their own. I thank God for everything & more & truly believe "appreciation" is the true key to life as if you appreciate you don't destroy...your life, others or the world. Have it all if you have love. Family to me is everything. I am not worried about who is my friend or not I do what I like 😂 I say mix with positive good beings stay away from toxic their problem. Love life it's great like you say & true gift...we have to run with it make most if it every day & count our blessings 🌟
I would state "Special Days" differently. Don't wait for special days to celebrate, but creating more special days is a way of celebrating. I observe all kinds of little holidays in little ways now. For example, today is the Feast of St. Bridget, one of Ireland's lesser known patron saints, and it's the day I plant vegetable seeds indoors that I'll transplant to the garden on St. Patrick's Day.
Amen. Everyday is a special day!!!
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Love that you jump right into the list!
He is certainly right about the age thing. When I hit 55 my body went out on strike, it’s still on strike🤨
Thanks Tae. at 67, I needed to be reminded of several of these. Especially the first one.
moral: you live only once, don't live it following other's standards.👍
Reincarnation is the only thing that makes sense, so no. This is one lifetime in a series of many.
Otherwise life is pointless misery.
every day you are healthy is a day you could celebrate - that is correct!
I randomly clicked on one of your video this morning and I spend half of the day watching your content ! You give some much precious advices ! If only I knew this 10 years ago I would be in a much better state right now 😆 thank you for sharing all of this with us
I often imagine looking down at humanity (observing) and seeing how people worry about a special drinking cup or some clothing piece someone decided to wear. How silly! We are all vulnerable, mortal creatures. Only 3-4 generations down the line we will be forgotten. Do you know or remember your great grandmother or her grandparents? We are insignificant beings. Don’t take yourself or others so seriously. Focus on making life easier, helping, living…
My three favorite channels: Tae Kim, Stock Brotha, & How Money Works. Make my week complete! 🔥 🔥 🔥
Only God can satisfy the soul of a man. 🙏🏼✝️
Ive noticed as I have gotten older I do not even want alcohol and I've never had a bad experience just isnt worth the money.
So true . So true . I am an immigrant and o worked hard to get to where I am . I was getting brainwashed in the past couple of years thinking being made to think Iby social media that I am a looser because I don’t make money the smart way etc .. I make money and I like what I do . Your short video reverberated with my inner thoughts . Thank you.
Turtle tortoise has been my spirit animal.
You like what you do…….Says it all.
The point is to avoid toxic people or animals from a young age...Toxic people ate more dangerous than drugs.
well said. I'm gonna watch it once a month to remind Myself
All true and reminds me of the book : "The Road Less Traveled."
He is so right. I never use an alarm clock and can work part time as an RNA, or artist, with more skills. I have 5-6 psych meds and a lot of medical complications. I'll never get a BA at Illinois Tech in Art and Design. I'll have to adjust. I had a 4.69 in high school and won't realize my dreams. I've been mentally and physically ill for over 50 years and can at least survive
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You are brilliant have a wonderful brain please do not pull yourself down as I can tell that you are a special human being with all you write & way yoy expressed yourself. We all have special gifts don't have to have fancy degrees after our names. Tell yourself "all's well" everything in my life is working out for my (our) highest good, out of this situation only good can come for me (us), I am (we are) safe ❤🤗 Don't feel anyone is above you in anyway you're great. Love yourself, look after yourself. Rise above it all. You could gradually wean yourself off medications I believe if you want to. I feel (have witnessed) some meds given can be detrimental to life especially if they are anti-psychotic ones, even a Counsellor years ago told me this herself. Mind over matter powerful can heal your entire body life yourself. You are stronger than you think. 🙏 💜
Love your practicality and HUMOR!
Wow, Special days, that advice is golden!!! People get so hung up in that to the point that if they receive a gift out of that context, it's almost like it's not special, so yes!! Loved that advice thanks for putting out there!
So much wisdom. Keep up the good work. TQ.
Cheers.
The content is really valuable! Something to look up to! Thanks Tae!
This video is a gold mine of great advice. Loved it!
Your videos are so well edited! So much time goes into each video and the quality is recognized.
Very solid, Tae! Great video
I have been into personal and business finance for a little over a year now and you are my new favorite channel. The minimal videography and the very clear effort do not go unnoticed. keep it up!
Love your content. Keep being you and shining your light on the world!❤
"There's so much in life that is out of our control "
...that summarizes it all
This was a great video! So many helpful things to think about.
Great video with a lot of valuable lessons, thank you !! Even though we probably know a lot of these, it's equally important to remind ourselves.
Awesome, thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Thank you! Wow there are a lot of things I’ve been happening in life time for me to REALLY REALLY let it go!!! Or let anyone go too!
Thankyou, I needed to hear this.
Thank you …many great reminders !
So well done! And very compassionately presented. I love this.
This is a great channel and you are making very good content. Thank you, yellow man!!
I love your lessons. I must work harder to be mindful. I am 68.
Well, thank you. You sound pretty thoughtful and wise for what appears to be only about forty years. Stay the course.
You are correct!! I am 55 y and now i am very selective with my relations, family, friends,..
Reuming, less then a hand. I am happy!
Great list. We need to let go of these things to move forward and live an abundant life. People pleasing and perfectionism have always been hard for me to give up, but I am learning. I would also add comparing ourselves to others. We should not try to keep up with in others, but should live the unique life that God has called us to.
You are so wise. I’m so happy you figured some important life lessons early. Mostly wanting to be liked. We will always struggle a little with that, but hopefully not enough to destroy our lives. Thank you.
Great video and aligns with a lot of my philosophies
Tae, you are very wise. I enjoyed your video. Thankfully, I've let go of all of these things except your very first. Thanks
Fantastic advice! Thank you.
This was invaluable. I am 74, and have embraced ever one of these points. Especially hate “ labeling”.
What a great video. It is awesome how you have thoughtful ideas about personal finance that are more holistic in nature. Money affects all parts of our lives, and you do a great job at covering the intersectionality.
Holy crap i stumbled across this video, and am blown away with the information, its simple, but how true, and the messages are invaluable. I will be a follower for life!! THANK you for this!!
Keep up the good thinking. Be happy & proud of yourself ❤
Good advice. I am happy to subscribe.
Thank so much for sharing ❤😊😊
Great video and worthful advice!!!
Thank you Tae. You drop gems here and hope many gat to see it across the world to help them as it doing for me. Your new subscriber, keep on the good work.
Health before wealth.
Top tier talk, here. Bravo!🎉
Be yourself & be happy with your life ❤ don't worry what others have or do.
What an awesome video!! Great info!
Thank you for this video.
Nice video dude, good job.
Love this video!❤
Boy did I need this right now!
Tae, thank you for another great, insightful video. I don’t know how you’ve become so wise at your tender age!
This was brilliant. I've done most of this and am much better off for it. Thanks for bringing it to my conscious though.
WISDOM, this is just what I need to hear going on 32 years old pretty soon.
Thank you ❤❤❤
This is the best video, thanks❤
Great video, everything so true and I am a new viewer…
Very useful many thanks from Mexico
Thanks so much.
Excellent video
Great video. Keep it going
All great points.
As usual great content
Hi, I have a question with regards to your video on back door Roth IRA. I followed the exact steps and was able to add money from my traditional IRA to Roth IRA as you demoed. Now let’s say I need to add money next year as well, do I still have to add it first to traditional IRA and then to Roth IRA? I have a savings account with Vanguard and it allowed me to add money as a transfer to Roth IRA directly with using traditional IRA as an intermediary.
Good Word ❤
One of your best :)
👍🏾 all great advice
Great content 👌 👏
Very good!
Loved this list thank you
Dude, I really appreciated this video! I get overwhelmed so easy after a weekend trip and then it just sits in the computer and a 🎉 vid might get edited. 😂😂
I've noticed at 40, finally, that not everyone is your friend or looking out for your best interest. I've been burned by lots of new people I thought were new friends but are just out for a quick buck or can even set you up in a big lie to take you down. Trust but verify!
great advice again Tae…. PERFECT example is telling a crApple device user to switch to android…. no matter HOW MUCH you tell them they are WASTING their hard earned money for the new gadget….they have been brain washed by the crApple community…. 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️….
Good day Tae!
I have subscribed to your channel for some time and realized that your videos are must watch. So, I would like to ask you to let me to translate your videos into Russian language. What do you think?
Agree all points. 💯 % ❤
I agree about arbitrary deadlines. My relatives, neighbors told me as a teen that I should be married at 25 by hook or by crook 😂 this was early 90s. Good thing reverse psychology works for me. I am now in my 40s, still not married.
It's all about finding your balance. Give and take. But it's never going to be 50/50. It's like a see saw, if it were evenly balanced, no one would get the thrill of the up and down motions😁
Good stuff
So true…everything!