Every woman should find a partner who looks at them the way Ben looks at you. Seriously, you two are so sweet together. I hope you get to travel to all the places you want to go. Just be sure to make some content while your there for those of us who can’t currently travel.
I once met a couple who were Belgian (her) and Russian (him) -- they spoke French with each other, English at work, and their kid's daycare person spoke Spanish. The kiddo seemed totally comfortable "code switching" -- I was really impressed.
I'm American and my wife is Swiss. We just had our second child. My wife speaks to the kids in Swiss German and Spanish and I speak to the kids in English and Spanish. We plan to teach them French and Standard German when they enter school, and Standard Arabic a bit later. We'll see how it goes!
@@JohnDoe-zo8wj, the OED, the source of the definition I quoted, would disagree. The term may have accrued further meanings, but that is the one I have known for decades. Language does evolve, but there is no need to be pissy about it.
When I started watching Feli, she had a heavy German accent when she spoke English. It is interesting she now has an American accent when speaking English. Very lovely couple!
@@alexs3447 This couple is so amazing! A woman that is so well aware of her culture of origin while looking at the World with an open minded and intelligent attitude and a man who knows how to value that. That's very rare in this superficial World. Rather take a good look at this couple! Greetings from Western Europe! 🤗
@@kape2469 nice point! but how do you know if their love is deep especially in Western countries where divorces happen like 50% of the time ? This is normal white attractive people who got little thing going on between them, who they call as love. seriously in Germany where I am now (an Indian), divorces are extremely common here. people look extremely good, beautiful eyes, physique etc still get divorced. I sometimes laugh, India poeple don't really care about looks but still be lifelong , even if it depressing for us. what a world we live in..
I like Ben's enthusiasm for living in Germany, but itll be a huge commitment on his part and i feel for him in that respect. All the issues of moving to a foreign country Feli has already overcome, so that will be growing pains that Feli will need to assist Ben with in the future.
As an American who is learning a foreign language and moving aboard soon, I feel like I relate a lot to Ben, and I'm excited to see more of his experiences learning German and moving to Germany in the future!!
Hey, you should check out the channel easy German. It teaches you German, German customs, German grammar. Everything has subtitles and the videos have transcript.
I think it is incredibly kind of both of you to share what I would consider to be rather intimate details of your relationship, but I also would second what Ben says that Feli really does come across as very much herself when she is in front of the camera. If she leaves me the impression that she would be an interesting person to meet one day. I think it says quite a lot that Ben discovered that the Feli that he found on TH-cam was very much the person he went out on a date with. That says a lot about Feli. I think it's wonderful that Ben is not only willing to live in Germany but that he wants to do so, and when you have that kind of multilingual multicultural relationship I believe that you just have to consider that. Wherever you go, don't lose the Kentucky. That's you brother. It would be like Feli losing the München. Carry it with you and your children will always have the best of both.
My wife and I have good German friends whom we met while vacationing Hawaii. They really enjoy traveling (and especially visiting the US) and both speak English pretty well. What I find fascinating about their language usage is how immersed in English they become when they visit here. She is more comfortable with English than he is; but, when in the US, it’s only English for both of them… even to the point that they “discuss” (read: argue in private) grocery purchases in the supermarket in English while they’re here!
Ihr seid zwei super sympathisch junge Menschen. Es macht Freude euch zu sehen und zu hören! Ich wünsche euch ein erfülltes Leben, Kraft für das Meistern von Schwierigkeiten und immer genügend Optimismus für Neues.
I am Brazilian married to an American. It is some work to mesh both cultures, but so much fun too. I agree we are always missing family and friends, but we make up for it and make sure the time spent together is worth it. Great video Feli!
That's one lucky dude. She has amazing eyes, lovely smile and a radiant personality. Any guy able to win her affection must be special. I hope you two are still going strong, I assume you make sure things were stable before introducing him to your followers. I was 27 when I married someone outside my culture (she was 30) - from the Philippines. Life has been a grand adventure with her, now going on 20 years with 3 kids. It amazes me every time I think about that she moved to the other side of the world to be with me, leaving behind a very large family and network of friends. Thankfully, digital technology (Internet) has made it easier for her to stay connected back home.
@@JohnDoe-zo8wj I have watched several of her videos. She seems nice enough although I don’t know her personally, she doesn’t come across as high maintenance to me.
From my own experiences of parents who have different mother tongues is that they each speak with their kids in their own mother tongue from when the kids were born and the kids will grow up fluent in both languages. Good luck, guys!
Absolutely loved this video! I love the fact that both of you are so open to each other's cultures but I especially love the fact that Ben is so open and even excited about moving to your country to learn the language and the culture! I just don't see that very often for many people in my personal life so to be able to see that from other people that are American it's really refreshing and it gets me excited! I lived in Germany for a few years in my childhood I think from ages 2 or 3 until 5 or 6 and then again from Age 9 through almost 13 and Germany has my heart! Most of my happiest childhood memories took place in Germany and one day before I kicked the bucket I'm going back! I just feel like a huge part of me has been missing for the last 34 years and I know it's in Germany! I can tell you this Ben you will not regret it! There is nothing better than living abroad and getting to see life through other people's eyes and other people's cultures! It also gives you a completely different perspective on your own culture and on your own country!It will give you an appreciation for your own country but it also gives you a huge appreciation for other countries! I really cannot wait until you guys travel so I can hear what each of you think! Particularly Ben since hes not lived abroad before. Lol.
My Dad's from Ireland and we grew up corresponding with our many, many cousins via letters. This was all pre-internet. But, I consider ourselves very lucky in the sense that we have been able to visit and live in their homes and vice-versa. The world is changing quickly and my Dad is 81 year old, youngest of 11. There were always great stories to be told and we grew up listening to the music, etc. I am grateful for so much ☘️
I started learning German about 45 years ago by listening to the Deutsche Welle on shortwave radio. I went over and visited some people and did fairly well. I now watch Tagesschau and ZDF Heute Show via YT.
my wife and I use 3 languages. I'm German, She's Peruvian, so we use English as we both know it well, spanish when i miss an english word but know it in her language and german which she is learning at the moment. in the beginning we only wrote and talked in english. but since she is learning german, it is SO WEIRD to speak german to her. it doesn't sound like my normal german and not like my english to her. it really is hard to suddenly change languages with someone you communicate daily with in another language x.x but that VLOG would be awesome :D
You both are the story of my parents in the 1970s. He needs total German immersion and quick. Your children will be fluent in both languages and he will be an outsider if he is not fluent before them.
Not a problem, my German wife spoke in German to our daughter from birth. My daughter is now fluent in German and my German is still bad (I work too much to spend time on it). But I get by fine when we are in Germany and I am very happy that my daughter knows the language so that she can speak with her relatives when we visit (and translate for dad).
only if they raise their children in Germany, if they raise them in America it will be difficult to bring them up with fluent German skills while they're immersed in an English speaking country and only one German speaking parent. I grew up in Germany in an immigrant household and quickly lost command of my mother tongue once I started speaking German all the time despite having two foreign parents.
@@edithputhy4948that's on you then. I don't know a single immigrant kid here in Austria who doesn't know their mother tongue. Especially if BOTH parents don't speak German, how do you communicate at home?😂
@@NoctLightCloud I used to be much better as a little child who didn't speak German but I lost it once I joined kindergarten and switched to German only. We do have a language barrier bc my parents don't fully speak German and I don't fully speak our mother tongue so we don't understand each other 100%. Most of the time I speak German or a mix of both languages and my parents speak their native language.
Such a fun video to watch! You two look so happy together and you're so synched in to each other 🥰 I love that travel is so important to Ben and both of you want to experience different cultures. I've always loved Mark Twain's quote, "Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry and narrow-mindedness."☺️
Soooo cool! I've known many people who have moved from Europe and speak with almost no accent in English, like Feli. I don't know ANY hillbillies who are as articulate and motivated as Ben. He seems so smart and eager for new experiences and change. I love that! Best to you both!
I agree and it is good to see this eagerness. I was very much like this some time ago. It is very refreshing to see the desire to acclimate to other ways of life 😊
There was a guy I worked with at Walmart who knew just about as much German as I do, which is not very much. But we still had fun speaking German to each other, what little we knew, like numbers and common stuff (and some insults too!)
I have friends who speak Swiss German and it doesn't bother me when I'm at their house and hear them talking especially to their children. I took German for 2 years in high school and know a little German. Sometimes I would say to their kids "Was ist das?" Just to see the kids reaction. The first time I said it the kids just laughed. A 24 hour all German would be a great video!
The discussion about what language you think in reminded me of a foreign exchange student who came to my high school years ago. He was from Spain, but was VERY fluent in English. Well, one day he had a total meltdown/panic attack because he had started thinking in English. He was SO worried that he had somehow forgotten Spanish! It took a few of us to talk to him in Spanish before he calmed down and realized that he hadn't forgotten anything!
What a beautiful couple. I just found your channel and it's interesting watching and learning about Germany. I want to vacation there someday. Love your channel.
After 7-10 years living in in the USA you start thinking and dreaming in English . Now 29 years later I mix my thoughts in English and Spanish , sometimes I have to think twice if I’m speaking Spanish to someone because it comes natural in English first then Spanish . Great videos and you made me a subscriber ! keep up the great work 👏👏✌️🔥🔥
It blows my mind that You 2 met on a dating app! 🤯 I met my (now ex-wife) at a Laundromat where she was working! And I was head over heels for her. We are each other's Greatest Friend now, She's the Greatest woman I've ever known. You guys are SO AMAZING together!
Don't feel too guilty Ben. My wife is Chinese and it took me sooooo long to be able to pronounce her name properly (it's full of sounds not used in English). Then when we got married she went and changed her whole name (not just her Surname) into her adopted English name.
It is interesting to hear about your switching between languages, Feli. I had this weird thing when I switched between countries (in my case England and Germany) that at times my impression was I could feel the new synapses building up in my brain. When I started studying English at a German university, that became even weirder: 90 minutes of a seminar or lecture in English, then getting out of class and talking German with others, going to the library, doing work in English, asking the librarian for help in German, going to the next class which was in English and then going home, perhaps partying in German again, but there was this friend who had some foreigner staying with them, so we spoke partly in English again ... Having had this for a few years, i think it is the basis for my effortless settling into working as a translator: Working on easier texts, it is almost as if I copy them, just into the other language.
The very best way of learning a foreign language, is to just jump into it and speak it. Without worrying about grammatical errors, wrong pronounciations and also encourage people to correct you when you make mistakes. A truly great way is to geta job in a daycare. Because children are learning their language themselves, your own learning curve will experience a serious boost. Children also has the capacity of correcting you without belittleing you. No hidden agendas or ridiculing you, which often seems to be the goal among adults. (Just think about the first words people usually try to teach you, are vulgar, dirty or to make fun of you.) That is basically non existant among children.
I'm a lifelong Southern California resident from German parents and have always been proud of my mixed culture/background. When I had my twins in 2005, I decided to homeschool (and option that unfortunately is NOT available in Germany), and it allowed us to travel extensively (33 states and Europe to visit family in Bayern, but elsewhere as well, and Canada). They are now 17 and will be spending their senior year studying abroad, one in Japan and the other in Berlin. I feel that having been able to travel so much when they were younger definitely played a huge role in their study abroad decision. Good luck to both of you🐞❤🐞❤.🐞. Wishing you much success in your future!
So happy you two found each other and like t see both of you on these videos. It would be wonderful to watch you two make memories together and so many blessings to you for a wonderful future.
Great video. I’m originally from England and live over here (in the USA) now. It was interesting to watch your cultural differences video! Ben seems like a decent chap - lovely couple!
I have been married 33 years to the best woman I could have ever found. I hope you 2 can have a long relationship. Not saying you have to get married. The 2 of you seem very happy and that is wonderful. Congratulations on each of you finding a soul mate. It is rare indeed.
For everyone being as curious as me which celeb it might be : I’ve googled celebs from Kentucky and the only celeb around their age, that is huge and from a small town in northern Kentucky is josh hutcherson. I didn’t find the others to match on that list :)
Yeah that was my guess too. I wouldn't call Union Kentucky *directly* between Cincinnati and Lexington but it is south of the former and north of the latter.
Feli should speak 100% German so that Ben has 100% German immersion. Ben should also watch German news programs on the internet. I have a friend who is fluent in 13 languages here in the UK. He spends no time consuming English media. Instead he for example learned German by becoming a Bayern Munich supporter, watching German Satellite TV programs and sometimes attending a German Lutheran Church. He learned Polish by joining a Polish club and playing in a Polish folk band. He is married to a Brazilian girl student who liked him because he spoke Portuguese.
I agree. Ben should watch movies in German (maybe with English subtitles, but only if absolutely necessary. Subtitles distract people's attention away from the German spoken dialog & actually block learning since they become a crutch.) or with German subtitles if German audio is not available. Hearing the German dubbed English movies that Ben has already seen with English audio will help also. Knowing the English dialog already will allow the German dialog to slide into his brain easier. With practice he can figure out what the actors are saying when watching German dialog movies (without using subtitles) that are new to him. His brain will start inserting the German meanings connected to each word automatically, and his German passive vocabulary will increase faster and faster until he has no need for translations. Use movies that you can pause so that you can answer his questions without missing the subsequent dialog. With one movie per day his German comprehension will improve rapidly and (relatively) painlessly. He may need to take a formal German course to learn genders, plus accusative, dative, & genitive grammar rules, word order, etc. (Start here: en.easy-deutsch.de/tenses/#:~:text=There%20are%206%20tenses%20in,or%20%22He%20was%20talking.%22 plus the German government website for learning German ). You can help him a lot with the grammar rules, just don't make " Feli " a nasty 4 letter word. There are some things easier taught by someone who is not close to you. German & How to Drive a Car are two of them. I wish both of you the best of everything in your futures.
I so agree - take the time to watch the movie (dubbing of US series in Germany is not so good) in English and then in German. (subtitles : first in English and later in German because reading and hearing are two subjects). In a few years you can watch Tatort (if you desire) or whatever without subtitles. The internet is a great teacher.
Yep. Some people have a great gift with language. My brother was a scholar in ancient history, so knew how to write Cuneiform, knew Arabic, Hebrew, Ugarit, Urdu, Spanish, some French, German, etc.
For me the most difficult thing about mastering a new language is listening and understanding. The other three are very close but I'd say reading is the easiest, then writing, then speaking.
I'm an American living in Germany, I met the German guy I'm dating on Hinge so I guess it is available in Berlin at least! Looking forward to more videos with y'all :)
It can be a struggle - US or Germany, Germany or the US. I know. I live it. I am from the US, my wife is from Germany (kind of like you guys). We met in California. I was working; she was there on an extended visa. She was offering German tutoring and I wanted to brush up on my school German before taking a trip to Germany. So, I fell in love with the teacher and we married in California. After a couple of years of back and forth (mostly her) and Green Card drama we discussed my moving to Germany - also, for 'a while', ' a couple of years', 'we could go back and forth,', etc. I was able work/career-wise to make the move and 27 years later we're still in Germany. I'm not one of those who gets languages easily. I work at it even today. BTW, I'm in München and love it.
I really loved how articulate you are with your answers! I'm so glad it wasn't a speed round. You are an interesting couple and your chemistry makes the watching really entertaining (I like that you speak with each other and not only with the public, I mean this was a whole conversation, it gives a cozy and comfortable feeling). And please do the 24h german challenge, it's been done plenty of times but the reason it's that it works! Can't wait to see how you do! Good luck for everything!
Speak only German to Ben for a day. Deana and Phil have done that and it's fun to watch. Thanks for the snapshot about your start, was interesting to see how you met.
Congrats to having a boyfriend like Ben - you both do most probably match to each other like nobody else - I hope you both still feel the same to each other after all that time of learning to know each other. All my best wishes to you both.
You both make what I would call a good and mature couple. Mature probably beyond your years and with great support. I'm a white man in my 60's with a wife many years younger, African American and three monumentally wonderful children. Each of us have great specialties and flavors to bring. I'm personally happy for you! Be well, and keep the smiles and humor always. I love your story.
I don't remember exactly how I got directed to this channel, but I'm glad that I did. The fact that you two were able to find each other gives me renewed hope that there is someone out there for me. I would give anything to find a woman who would look at me the way you look at Ben. Due to another of your videos (the one about what it's like to date a German), I now know that I should be searching for a German woman for myself. I just wonder if I will be able to find one, who is age appropriate, on Hinge.
Nice to see that you’re so happy. The cool thing about the US is “boom” you’re now American, but can continue being German too. Welcome, new fellow Yankee.
Ihr seid echt süss zusammen und ja ich kauf ihm das zu 100% ab dass du vor der Kamera genau gleich bist wie im normalen Leben. Darummag ich dein Content auch so, weil er 100% authentisch is 🙌😍
Love your channel, Feki. My story, Im an American growing up in California, but unfamiliar with Spanish or the Mexican culture til my college years when I learned Spanish and married a lovely Mexican lady who spoke no English at that time. Were now 30 years into an intense linguistic-cultural immersion and going strong. My definition of fluency in when you can argue in your 2nd language and occasionally win. The long road indeed. John, near Manzanillo
My wife is German and I am from the US. We were married 55 years ago. We met in a university in the US (she was the girl next house). Her family (more than just her parents) moved to the US in 1956 but still were very German. I picked up German fairly quickly because I am linguistically gifted (speak French and Spanish) I had a lot of interest in learning German. For me it's just a cousin language to English. I had a lot to learn culturally. Still learning it.
You two are so cute together! Love it! And he's such a good sport--it would be awesome to see Ben trying to understand Feli in German for 24 hours! :-)
My 2 youngest children are stationed in Germany…US Air Force and Army. My son married a German girl and my daughter is living with her German boyfriend in Germany. I’m enjoying your podcast. My son and his wife Pia are moving to the States in April. I’m going to visit my daughter and her boyfriend Hagen this February.
English and German are much more closely related than many realize, which is why Feli has already been speaking perfect English for a while now and Ben has no problem picking up words and expressions even as a total beginner in German.
@@michaelrmurphy2734 actually, both are Germanic at the core and English has been massively influenced by Latin to the point where it's become hybrid while German has been influenced only to the point where it's still mostly Germanic.
@@Fugazinome riiiiight (richtig), "Completely different grammar" 😂😂. That's why older English grammar (Shakespearean to start with and then going further into the past) is pretty much identical to that of Modern Standard German. "There are some German words akin to English words" - virtually 90% of the words in English that are not taken from Latin are akin to their German counterparts. At least read the Wikipedia article on Germanic languages, dude.
I would like to see a video of you speaking German to Ben for 24 hours. I’m sure that would be hard for both of you, but it sounds like he’s already picking up on the language quite a bit. 😊 Ich liebe Deutsch und spreche beide Sprachen, also würde ich es wirklich genießen. Ich komme aus den USA.
Our family lived in Germany for 12 years. My daughter went to German schools and actually spoke English with an accent. When we returned to the states she attended University and told the story: She came to her dorm room one day and found a new roommate who was talking on the phone and crying. She tried to give the girl some space...when the call was over, my daughter asked her new roommate if everything was okay. The new girl was shocked because she was a German exchange student and my daughter had asked the question in German. My daughter said she hadn't even realized that her brain had switched based on the language the girl was speaking on the phone. It's weird and she can't explain how it happens, but she still does that occasionally (and she is 54 years old now) when she hears someone speaking German.
The videos with Ben have been some of my favorites. He seems super cool and a great match for you. I really enjoy watching the two of you talk and laugh.
Having kids in mixed families sometimes produces funny turns in life. My kids switched between Germany and Australia a few times before they became adults. And now the one born in AUS lives in Germany and the one born in Germany lives in AUS. These young people learn to become very flexible regarding the terms "Heimat" and Heimatland, mothertongue and fathertongue and it is a good thing, that they have the chance, to choose from the better of both countries. I myself am also from (just outside) Munich and met my hubby in Central Africa.
Super adorable couple! Ben seems to have an aptitude for language. Since you brought it up about the possibility of kids in the future I'll just share my observations of international couples I've known where the mother-to-be is west European and the dad American that they usually choose to have their babies here in Europe. The European maternity benefits are generally much more generous ; and maybe not so surprisingly most young mothers prefer to have their own mothers nearby for support. What the family chooses to do after the children have passed the infancy stage is more of a blank page. But don't wait too long to make a decision, because the children will soon be at that impressionable age where they mainly begin to identify as being German or American.
I agree that many of us think there is time to travel and whatnot before kids. I understand this desire but now that so many years have passed realize that you should not wait. I have missed opportunities and wish I approached life a little bit differently.
That app really did a great job 😂 my friend went the us shortly before pandemic for her masters and she tried that app, now she’s married for over a year.
While talking with my wife about youre video, I just remembered something else about different ways in different countries: Some years ago my wife and I were in a Square Dance Club here in Germany. Our club also did gigs at events. On a company event, which had an American theme to it, we did some entertaining, and after us dancing we were invited to the bar for drinks. I asked for a beer and got a bottle of Millers. The barmaid gave me the bottle and went of to the next customer. I looked at my bottle and at her back and finally asked about a bottle opener.... she took the bottle and just opend the cap with her hands.... Well again I learned something new. A German bottle of beer can't be opend that way....
A bit late but I don't speak anything but Californian English but I worked for Siemens and had a couple of meetings in Germany where all of the European but the meeting was held in English. I was always amazed listening to German Engineers explain things English.
I’m an American living in Germany 🇺🇸❤️🇩🇪 I moved here one year ago for my now husband and I knew almost no German. The town we live in is in East Germany and not many people can or like to speak English. I would be lying if I said it was easy, but it’s so rewarding. Every day is an adventure (even if it sometimes a stressful one) 😅
You guys are cute. Appreciate the thoughtfulness you give each other. My cousin and her Columbian husband have been back and forth with their young daughters, but plan to stay in the USA to school the girls. German schools do provide a great option for you….when that time comes. Currently, I’m researching the Marburg area as a travel home base upon retirement.
You two make a beautiful couple! I like Ben. Feli, I normally wouldn’t say this, but knowing your language perfectionism….it’s proper to say “he & I” instead of “him & I”. The rule that helps me remember it is to drop the “& I”. You wouldn’t say “Him reacted to a reaction video”.
My son took German in school. His friends thought they were so smart. They would send him emails in German not knowing I spoke German growing up so I think I scared them when I answered them making sure to first tell them it was his mom. Luckily they didn't say anything he cared if I saw in the emails but it was funny that his friends tried to get away with it. My son laughed when I told him what I did. I live a little south of you now that I moved, I was closer. I've been to different parts of Germany and really enjoyed it. Lovely country and people.
My cousin met her husband on Match (15yrs ago). They’ve been happily married ever since. There really wasn’t any other dating sites at the time (that did some background check), and people tended to be very weirded out since it was so new and other (probably not so professional) services had sketchy history-> especially worried for my cousin on the first date that she would be safe and he wouldn’t be a psycho.. lol. Well, he wasn’t, and he has made my cousin so very happy after a broken marriage.
When I came to Germany 30 plus years ago, I lived in the country and NO ONE spoke English. I lived in Germany for ten years and spoke only German. In later years, when I had telephone conversations with family or friends in the US, I found myself describing things that I no longer remembered the English word for. “You know that round thing that you throw into a hoop? Oh yeah, basketball.” Honest. That’s how it was for me. Now I have been living in Sweden for over 23 years. Almost always, when I “forget” a Swedish word, my brain takes me directly to the German word. Almost NEVER to the English word. Explain that.
Happens to most people who learn a 2nd language then a 3rd language. Foreign languages are stored separately in the brain. When a word is unknown the brain defaults to the most recently learned languages before going to the original language. Think of it as one language layered on top of another language. When there is a hole in the top layer you fall through the hole to the next layer. 😃
This is awesome! Many, many immigrants don't have the option of going back, much less with their American partner. I love this. I love the universal aspect of it.
I meant my Polish wife 23 years ago on Match. We now live in Poland after 15 years in the USA. Recommendation when your going to Germany,. Try to make another trip on the way. Also , kids are easier any many ways to travel when they are very young, versus when they get a few years on them.
Feli I shared the same experience as your boyfriend. My first travel experience outside of the USA was to go to Germany to meet and tour beautiful Munchen, and was very interesting history and Friedrichshafen and was able to see the Beautiful Bavarian countryside too. The German people were very friendly and loved and appreciated an American visitor to speak native German. I studied German as I also speak Spanish and of course English. So after learning those 2 foreign languages I felt very comfortable in Your Country FELI. My fathers side of his family were from Bavarian heritage as my last name is a very common word in Germany. Love your videos FELI. Best Wishes for you and your boyfriend dear.😉 Auf Wiederstein - FELI
Being 35 and in a relationship, I missed out on a lot of the dating-app scene, but I will say, living vicariously through friends doing it was...wild. Some of the people that my friends met and were contacted by were just...insane. I definitely appreciated experiencing it through others, since I just got to enjoy seeing others do it without the frustration. Also, Ben, I hope I broke down in your town! I was driving to Chicago to see visit my German teacher and my car died about 30 minutes south of Florence, KY and spent 3 hours watching trains pass at a Shell gas station while waiting for a tow...
Here's an interesting topic to cover, Felicia.: Music. For years there's been German songs and/or German words used in songs without some never being totally explained by either side. How about if YOU break down some of these for us? It will take some exhausting research but I believe we will all enjoy hearing the TRUE translation of the word; words and /or meaning of the song given by a German who leaves NOTHING out of her essays about German culture; dialect; or differences. Here are a few to start you with: "Grusse." ( Used in "Don't Bring Me Down."); "99 Lift Balloons"; and "Ich Hasse Dich."
I thought that this would not be very interesting, but I was really wrong. Very cool and informative, and as a new sub I was able to find out a lot about you guys and your story. Just remember, making rigid and unyielding plans is usually not a great idea.Your current approach seems to be reasonable and flexible,thus making any unforeseen changes much more likely to be amenable to both of you. Mazel Tov!
Every woman should find a partner who looks at them the way Ben looks at you. Seriously, you two are so sweet together. I hope you get to travel to all the places you want to go. Just be sure to make some content while your there for those of us who can’t currently travel.
Agreed you should totally be travel vloggers.
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@@JohnDoe-zo8wj Clearly not only boys if he's attracted to Feli
I once met a couple who were Belgian (her) and Russian (him) -- they spoke French with each other, English at work, and their kid's daycare person spoke Spanish. The kiddo seemed totally comfortable "code switching" -- I was really impressed.
I'm American and my wife is Swiss. We just had our second child. My wife speaks to the kids in Swiss German and Spanish and I speak to the kids in English and Spanish. We plan to teach them French and Standard German when they enter school, and Standard Arabic a bit later. We'll see how it goes!
@@JohnDoe-zo8wj ?? code-switching: the practice of alternating between two or more languages or varieties of language in conversation.
@@JohnDoe-zo8wj, the OED, the source of the definition I quoted, would disagree. The term may have accrued further meanings, but that is the one I have known for decades. Language does evolve, but there is no need to be pissy about it.
@@lelandunruh7896All the absolute best to you, your wife and children! I thank you!!
@@michaelhemsley1470 Thanks very much! We just had our third child, so life is crazy and fun around here!
When I started watching Feli, she had a heavy German accent when she spoke English. It is interesting she now has an American accent when speaking English. Very lovely couple!
She still sounds like a foreigner.
You two are happy! Take joy in each other's company. Nothing else matters.........
Bitte schon!
@@jamesvandemark2086 Just bored following this young romance and all their ups and downs . Sorry must just be too old for this mumbo jumbo
So close, no matter how far
@@alexs3447 This couple is so amazing! A woman that is so well aware of her culture of origin while looking at the World with an open minded and intelligent attitude and a man who knows how to value that. That's very rare in this superficial World. Rather take a good look at this couple! Greetings from Western Europe! 🤗
@@kape2469 nice point! but how do you know if their love is deep especially in Western countries where divorces happen like 50% of the time ? This is normal white attractive people who got little thing going on between them, who they call as love. seriously in Germany where I am now (an Indian), divorces are extremely common here. people look extremely good, beautiful eyes, physique etc still get divorced. I sometimes laugh, India poeple don't really care about looks but still be lifelong , even if it depressing for us. what a world we live in..
You two make an incredibly cute and heartwarming couple, all the best!
I like Ben's enthusiasm for living in Germany, but itll be a huge commitment on his part and i feel for him in that respect. All the issues of moving to a foreign country Feli has already overcome, so that will be growing pains that Feli will need to assist Ben with in the future.
As an American who is learning a foreign language and moving aboard soon, I feel like I relate a lot to Ben, and I'm excited to see more of his experiences learning German and moving to Germany in the future!!
@Riley Weller congrats on your move! Can you share what language you are trying to learn?
Hey, you should check out the channel easy German. It teaches you German, German customs, German grammar. Everything has subtitles and the videos have transcript.
please leave me alone
Ben is a really nice guy. I'm glad that you've found each other, you seem to match very well and I wish you all the best for your relationship.
You two seem so good together and for each other....I hope the best for you both.
We most definitely need 24 hours in German! Ben seems like a great catch. So happy for you!
I think it is incredibly kind of both of you to share what I would consider to be rather intimate details of your relationship, but I also would second what Ben says that Feli really does come across as very much herself when she is in front of the camera. If she leaves me the impression that she would be an interesting person to meet one day. I think it says quite a lot that Ben discovered that the Feli that he found on TH-cam was very much the person he went out on a date with. That says a lot about Feli.
I think it's wonderful that Ben is not only willing to live in Germany but that he wants to do so, and when you have that kind of multilingual multicultural relationship I believe that you just have to consider that.
Wherever you go, don't lose the Kentucky. That's you brother. It would be like Feli losing the München. Carry it with you and your children will always have the best of both.
they look so good together! like they were meant for each other!
My wife and I have good German friends whom we met while vacationing Hawaii. They really enjoy traveling (and especially visiting the US) and both speak English pretty well. What I find fascinating about their language usage is how immersed in English they become when they visit here. She is more comfortable with English than he is; but, when in the US, it’s only English for both of them… even to the point that they “discuss” (read: argue in private) grocery purchases in the supermarket in English while they’re here!
Ihr seid zwei super sympathisch junge Menschen. Es macht Freude euch zu sehen und zu hören! Ich wünsche euch ein erfülltes Leben, Kraft für das Meistern von Schwierigkeiten und immer genügend Optimismus für Neues.
I am Brazilian married to an American. It is some work to mesh both cultures, but so much fun too. I agree we are always missing family and friends, but we make up for it and make sure the time spent together is worth it. Great video Feli!
Feli is uniquely sure of herself. Makes her a fun person to listen to.
That's one lucky dude. She has amazing eyes, lovely smile and a radiant personality. Any guy able to win her affection must be special. I hope you two are still going strong, I assume you make sure things were stable before introducing him to your followers. I was 27 when I married someone outside my culture (she was 30) - from the Philippines. Life has been a grand adventure with her, now going on 20 years with 3 kids. It amazes me every time I think about that she moved to the other side of the world to be with me, leaving behind a very large family and network of friends. Thankfully, digital technology (Internet) has made it easier for her to stay connected back home.
@@JohnDoe-zo8wj I have watched several of her videos. She seems nice enough although I don’t know her personally, she doesn’t come across as high maintenance to me.
What does it all have to do with "high maintenance" or do I understand sth wrong???
From my own experiences of parents who have different mother tongues is that they each speak with their kids in their own mother tongue from when the kids were born and the kids will grow up fluent in both languages. Good luck, guys!
Absolutely loved this video! I love the fact that both of you are so open to each other's cultures but I especially love the fact that Ben is so open and even excited about moving to your country to learn the language and the culture! I just don't see that very often for many people in my personal life so to be able to see that from other people that are American it's really refreshing and it gets me excited! I lived in Germany for a few years in my childhood I think from ages 2 or 3 until 5 or 6 and then again from Age 9 through almost 13 and Germany has my heart! Most of my happiest childhood memories took place in Germany and one day before I kicked the bucket I'm going back! I just feel like a huge part of me has been missing for the last 34 years and I know it's in Germany! I can tell you this Ben you will not regret it! There is nothing better than living abroad and getting to see life through other people's eyes and other people's cultures! It also gives you a completely different perspective on your own culture and on your own country!It will give you an appreciation for your own country but it also gives you a huge appreciation for other countries! I really cannot wait until you guys travel so I can hear what each of you think! Particularly Ben since hes not lived abroad before. Lol.
My Dad's from Ireland and we grew up corresponding with our many, many cousins via letters. This was all pre-internet. But, I consider ourselves very lucky in the sense that we have been able to visit and live in their homes and vice-versa. The world is changing quickly and my Dad is 81 year old, youngest of 11. There were always great stories to be told and we grew up listening to the music, etc. I am grateful for so much ☘️
I started learning German about 45 years ago by listening to the Deutsche Welle on shortwave radio. I went over and visited some people and did fairly well. I now watch Tagesschau and ZDF Heute Show via YT.
Tagesschau is the propaganda instrument in Germany. Don't believe everything they say!
Es gibt auch die 3Sat app! Emphele ich 👍
my wife and I use 3 languages. I'm German, She's Peruvian, so we use English as we both know it well, spanish when i miss an english word but know it in her language and german which she is learning at the moment. in the beginning we only wrote and talked in english. but since she is learning german, it is SO WEIRD to speak german to her. it doesn't sound like my normal german and not like my english to her. it really is hard to suddenly change languages with someone you communicate daily with in another language x.x but that VLOG would be awesome :D
Yeah, same here. English established itself over many years as the "relationship language" with my gf/wife. Speaking anything else is weird/awkward
I like listening to you both very much. It helps me learn English and understand English better. Love from Germany 🖤❤️💛
Same here, love from France 💙🤍❤
True, probably because Felix's English is really good.
For the kids it happens naturally. Lucky ones!
You both are the story of my parents in the 1970s.
He needs total German immersion and quick. Your children will be fluent in both languages and he will be an outsider if he is not fluent before them.
Not a problem, my German wife spoke in German to our daughter from birth. My daughter is now fluent in German and my German is still bad (I work too much to spend time on it). But I get by fine when we are in Germany and I am very happy that my daughter knows the language so that she can speak with her relatives when we visit (and translate for dad).
only if they raise their children in Germany, if they raise them in America it will be difficult to bring them up with fluent German skills while they're immersed in an English speaking country and only one German speaking parent. I grew up in Germany in an immigrant household and quickly lost command of my mother tongue once I started speaking German all the time despite having two foreign parents.
@@edithputhy4948that's on you then. I don't know a single immigrant kid here in Austria who doesn't know their mother tongue. Especially if BOTH parents don't speak German, how do you communicate at home?😂
@@NoctLightCloud I used to be much better as a little child who didn't speak German but I lost it once I joined kindergarten and switched to German only. We do have a language barrier bc my parents don't fully speak German and I don't fully speak our mother tongue so we don't understand each other 100%. Most of the time I speak German or a mix of both languages and my parents speak their native language.
Such a fun video to watch! You two look so happy together and you're so synched in to each other 🥰 I love that travel is so important to Ben and both of you want to experience different cultures. I've always loved Mark Twain's quote, "Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry and narrow-mindedness."☺️
I also love that quote...
Soooo cool! I've known many people who have moved from Europe and speak with almost no accent in English, like Feli. I don't know ANY hillbillies who are as articulate and motivated as Ben. He seems so smart and eager for new experiences and change. I love that! Best to you both!
I agree and it is good to see this eagerness. I was very much like this some time ago. It is very refreshing to see the desire to acclimate to other ways of life 😊
There was a guy I worked with at Walmart who knew just about as much German as I do, which is not very much. But we still had fun speaking German to each other, what little we knew, like numbers and common stuff (and some insults too!)
I have friends who speak Swiss German and it doesn't bother me when I'm at their house and hear them talking especially to their children. I took German for 2 years in high school and know a little German. Sometimes I would say to their kids "Was ist das?" Just to see the kids reaction. The first time I said it the kids just laughed. A 24 hour all German would be a great video!
Try "Wa isch da?" next time 😉
You both are so good together. Is it just me or does Ben just light-up the room when he talks and smiles?
I am also in an international relationship.
USA====>Japan 🇺🇸🇯🇵
I find it fascinating to hear the experience of others in a similar situation.
Omg the way you two look at each other is heart melting, super sweet and cute to see ❤️ 😊
The discussion about what language you think in reminded me of a foreign exchange student who came to my high school years ago. He was from Spain, but was VERY fluent in English. Well, one day he had a total meltdown/panic attack because he had started thinking in English. He was SO worried that he had somehow forgotten Spanish! It took a few of us to talk to him in Spanish before he calmed down and realized that he hadn't forgotten anything!
So true , specially if you talk more English , watch tv in English and have more speaking English friends .. it happened to me 😅.
What a beautiful couple. I just found your channel and it's interesting watching and learning about Germany. I want to vacation there someday. Love your channel.
Kann Ben überhaupt schlechte Laune haben. Er wirkt immer so sunny open minded. 😊 Thank you for this video.
As a Kentucky boy I now understand why she is so into you! You make a cute couple! May the winds of coupledom bless you with good fortune.
After 7-10 years living in in the USA you start thinking and dreaming in English . Now 29 years later I mix my thoughts in English and Spanish , sometimes I have to think twice if I’m speaking Spanish to someone because it comes natural in English first then Spanish . Great videos and you made me a subscriber ! keep up the great work 👏👏✌️🔥🔥
It blows my mind that You 2 met on a dating app! 🤯
I met my (now ex-wife) at a Laundromat where she was working! And I was head over heels for her. We are each other's Greatest Friend now, She's the Greatest woman I've ever known.
You guys are SO AMAZING together!
My ex wife who's German, will talk to me in English, and I'll talk to her in German. It really throws people off sometimes. 🙂
Hahaha I love that!
Don't feel too guilty Ben. My wife is Chinese and it took me sooooo long to be able to pronounce her name properly (it's full of sounds not used in English). Then when we got married she went and changed her whole name (not just her Surname) into her adopted English name.
It is interesting to hear about your switching between languages, Feli. I had this weird thing when I switched between countries (in my case England and Germany) that at times my impression was I could feel the new synapses building up in my brain. When I started studying English at a German university, that became even weirder: 90 minutes of a seminar or lecture in English, then getting out of class and talking German with others, going to the library, doing work in English, asking the librarian for help in German, going to the next class which was in English and then going home, perhaps partying in German again, but there was this friend who had some foreigner staying with them, so we spoke partly in English again ...
Having had this for a few years, i think it is the basis for my effortless settling into working as a translator: Working on easier texts, it is almost as if I copy them, just into the other language.
The very best way of learning a foreign language, is to just jump into it and speak it. Without worrying about grammatical errors, wrong pronounciations and also encourage people to correct you when you make mistakes.
A truly great way is to geta job in a daycare. Because children are learning their language themselves, your own learning curve will experience a serious boost. Children also has the capacity of correcting you without belittleing you. No hidden agendas or ridiculing you, which often seems to be the goal among adults. (Just think about the first words people usually try to teach you, are vulgar, dirty or to make fun of you.)
That is basically non existant among children.
I'm a lifelong Southern California resident from German parents and have always been proud of my mixed culture/background. When I had my twins in 2005, I decided to homeschool (and option that unfortunately is NOT available in Germany), and it allowed us to travel extensively (33 states and Europe to visit family in Bayern, but elsewhere as well, and Canada). They are now 17 and will be spending their senior year studying abroad, one in Japan and the other in Berlin. I feel that having been able to travel so much when they were younger definitely played a huge role in their study abroad decision. Good luck to both of you🐞❤🐞❤.🐞. Wishing you much success in your future!
You're a beautiful couple, both very likeable people, and respectful towards one another. Wishing you all the best for your relationship.
So happy you two found each other and like t see both of you on these videos. It would be wonderful to watch you two make memories together and so many blessings to you for a wonderful future.
Great video. I’m originally from England and live over here (in the USA) now. It was interesting to watch your cultural differences video! Ben seems like a decent chap - lovely couple!
I have been married 33 years to the best woman I could have ever found. I hope you 2 can have a long relationship. Not saying you have to get married. The 2 of you seem very happy and that is wonderful. Congratulations on each of you finding a soul mate. It is rare indeed.
You two look so happy together! Yes to the VLOG please!
For everyone being as curious as me which celeb it might be : I’ve googled celebs from Kentucky and the only celeb around their age, that is huge and from a small town in northern Kentucky is josh hutcherson. I didn’t find the others to match on that list :)
Yeah that was my guess too. I wouldn't call Union Kentucky *directly* between Cincinnati and Lexington but it is south of the former and north of the latter.
Colton Ryan
Maybe Jennifer Lawrence? Indian Hills, KY...
Feli should speak 100% German so that Ben has 100% German immersion. Ben should also watch German news programs on the internet.
I have a friend who is fluent in 13 languages here in the UK. He spends no time consuming English media. Instead he for example learned German by becoming a Bayern Munich supporter, watching German Satellite TV programs and sometimes attending a German Lutheran Church. He learned Polish by joining a Polish club and playing in a Polish folk band. He is married to a Brazilian girl student who liked him because he spoke Portuguese.
I agree. Ben should watch movies in German (maybe with English subtitles, but only if absolutely necessary. Subtitles distract people's attention away from the German spoken dialog & actually block learning since they become a crutch.) or with German subtitles if German audio is not available. Hearing the German dubbed English movies that Ben has already seen with English audio will help also. Knowing the English dialog already will allow the German dialog to slide into his brain easier. With practice he can figure out what the actors are saying when watching German dialog movies (without using subtitles) that are new to him. His brain will start inserting the German meanings connected to each word automatically, and his German passive vocabulary will increase faster and faster until he has no need for translations. Use movies that you can pause so that you can answer his questions without missing the subsequent dialog. With one movie per day his German comprehension will improve rapidly and (relatively) painlessly. He may need to take a formal German course to learn genders, plus accusative, dative, & genitive grammar rules, word order, etc. (Start here: en.easy-deutsch.de/tenses/#:~:text=There%20are%206%20tenses%20in,or%20%22He%20was%20talking.%22 plus the German government website for learning German ). You can help him a lot with the grammar rules, just don't make " Feli " a nasty 4 letter word. There are some things easier taught by someone who is not close to you. German & How to Drive a Car are two of them. I wish both of you the best of everything in your futures.
@@WildWillieWiccan yep dubbed movies are a great way to learn.
I so agree - take the time to watch the movie (dubbing of US series in Germany is not so good) in English and then in German. (subtitles : first in English and later in German because reading and hearing are two subjects). In a few years you can watch Tatort (if you desire) or whatever without subtitles.
The internet is a great teacher.
Yep. Some people have a great gift with language. My brother was a scholar in ancient history, so knew how to write Cuneiform, knew Arabic, Hebrew, Ugarit, Urdu, Spanish, some French, German, etc.
For me the most difficult thing about mastering a new language is listening and understanding. The other three are very close but I'd say reading is the easiest, then writing, then speaking.
I'm an American living in Germany, I met the German guy I'm dating on Hinge so I guess it is available in Berlin at least! Looking forward to more videos with y'all :)
It can be a struggle - US or Germany, Germany or the US. I know. I live it. I am from the US, my wife is from Germany (kind of like you guys). We met in California. I was working; she was there on an extended visa. She was offering German tutoring and I wanted to brush up on my school German before taking a trip to Germany. So, I fell in love with the teacher and we married in California. After a couple of years of back and forth (mostly her) and Green Card drama we discussed my moving to Germany - also, for 'a while', ' a couple of years', 'we could go back and forth,', etc. I was able work/career-wise to make the move and 27 years later we're still in Germany. I'm not one of those who gets languages easily. I work at it even today. BTW, I'm in München and love it.
I really loved how articulate you are with your answers! I'm so glad it wasn't a speed round. You are an interesting couple and your chemistry makes the watching really entertaining (I like that you speak with each other and not only with the public, I mean this was a whole conversation, it gives a cozy and comfortable feeling). And please do the 24h german challenge, it's been done plenty of times but the reason it's that it works! Can't wait to see how you do! Good luck for everything!
Speak only German to Ben for a day. Deana and Phil have done that and it's fun to watch. Thanks for the snapshot about your start, was interesting to see how you met.
You two are a great couple. Best of luck with your future plans
You two seem very happy and just ooze adorableness together.
Congrats to having a boyfriend like Ben - you both do most probably match to each other like nobody else - I hope you both still feel the same to each other after all that time of learning to know each other. All my best wishes to you both.
Great content! My husband and I move to Germany from the USA last year and we want to stay here forever!
You both make what I would call a good and mature couple. Mature probably beyond your years and with great support. I'm a white man in my 60's with a wife many years younger, African American and three monumentally wonderful children. Each of us have great specialties and flavors to bring.
I'm personally happy for you! Be well, and keep the smiles and humor always. I love your story.
The gratitude you both Ave in general is so heartwarming!
I don't remember exactly how I got directed to this channel, but I'm glad that I did. The fact that you two were able to find each other gives me renewed hope that there is someone out there for me. I would give anything to find a woman who would look at me the way you look at Ben. Due to another of your videos (the one about what it's like to date a German), I now know that I should be searching for a German woman for myself. I just wonder if I will be able to find one, who is age appropriate, on Hinge.
Nice to see that you’re so happy. The cool thing about the US is “boom” you’re now American, but can continue being German too.
Welcome, new fellow Yankee.
Definitely Ben needs more screentime. You have a completly different glint in the eyes, different smile when you are around him
Ihr seid echt süss zusammen und ja ich kauf ihm das zu 100% ab dass du vor der Kamera genau gleich bist wie im normalen Leben. Darummag ich dein Content auch so, weil er 100% authentisch is 🙌😍
Love your channel, Feki. My story, Im an American growing up in California, but unfamiliar with Spanish or the Mexican culture til my college years when I learned Spanish and married a lovely Mexican lady who spoke no English at that time. Were now 30 years into an intense linguistic-cultural immersion and going strong. My definition of fluency in when you can argue in your 2nd language and occasionally win. The long road indeed. John, near Manzanillo
My wife is German and I am from the US. We were married 55 years ago. We met in a university in the US (she was the girl next house). Her family (more than just her parents) moved to the US in 1956 but still were very German. I picked up German fairly quickly because I am linguistically gifted (speak French and Spanish) I had a lot of interest in learning German. For me it's just a cousin language to English. I had a lot to learn culturally. Still learning it.
Wow, you guys seem so good together. I'm happy for both of you and jealous of what you have together.
You two are so cute together! Love it! And he's such a good sport--it would be awesome to see Ben trying to understand Feli in German for 24 hours! :-)
My 2 youngest children are stationed in Germany…US Air Force and Army. My son married a German girl and my daughter is living with her German boyfriend in Germany. I’m enjoying your podcast. My son and his wife Pia are moving to the States in April. I’m going to visit my daughter and her boyfriend Hagen this February.
English and German are much more closely related than many realize, which is why Feli has already been speaking perfect English for a while now and Ben has no problem picking up words and expressions even as a total beginner in German.
Both are based on Latin, of course.
@@michaelrmurphy2734 actually, both are Germanic at the core and English has been massively influenced by Latin to the point where it's become hybrid while German has been influenced only to the point where it's still mostly Germanic.
Completely different grammar.There are some German words akin to English words,but that’s about it.
@@Fugazinome riiiiight (richtig), "Completely different grammar" 😂😂. That's why older English grammar (Shakespearean to start with and then going further into the past) is pretty much identical to that of Modern Standard German. "There are some German words akin to English words" - virtually 90% of the words in English that are not taken from Latin are akin to their German counterparts. At least read the Wikipedia article on Germanic languages, dude.
@@JohnnyCBCS Sehr lustig,ich habe gut gelacht.Vielen Dank für die Erleuchtung.
I would like to see a video of you speaking German to Ben for 24 hours. I’m sure that would be hard for both of you, but it sounds like he’s already picking up on the language quite a bit. 😊
Ich liebe Deutsch und spreche beide Sprachen, also würde ich es wirklich genießen. Ich komme aus den USA.
Dito - und ich bin Deutscher (der fließend Englisch spricht)....
Our family lived in Germany for 12 years. My daughter went to German schools and actually spoke English with an accent.
When we returned to the states she attended University and told the story: She came to her dorm room one day and found a new roommate who was talking on the phone and crying. She tried to give the girl some space...when the call was over, my daughter asked her new roommate if everything was okay. The new girl was shocked because she was a German exchange student and my daughter had asked the question in German. My daughter said she hadn't even realized that her brain had switched based on the language the girl was speaking on the phone. It's weird and she can't explain how it happens, but she still does that occasionally (and she is 54 years old now) when she hears someone speaking German.
The videos with Ben have been some of my favorites. He seems super cool and a great match for you. I really enjoy watching the two of you talk and laugh.
Having kids in mixed families sometimes produces funny turns in life.
My kids switched between Germany and Australia a few times before they became adults. And now the one born in AUS lives in Germany and the one born in Germany lives in AUS. These young people learn to become very flexible regarding the terms "Heimat" and Heimatland, mothertongue and fathertongue and it is a good thing, that they have the chance, to choose from the better of both countries.
I myself am also from (just outside) Munich and met my hubby in Central Africa.
I have loved your channel for awhile and Ben is the best addition! I love watching y'all together!!
Super adorable couple! Ben seems to have an aptitude for language.
Since you brought it up about the possibility of kids in the future I'll just share my observations of international couples I've known where the mother-to-be is west European and the dad American that they usually choose to have their babies here in Europe. The European maternity benefits are generally much more generous ; and maybe not so surprisingly most young mothers prefer to have their own mothers nearby for support. What the family chooses to do after the children have passed the infancy stage is more of a blank page. But don't wait too long to make a decision, because the children will soon be at that impressionable age where they mainly begin to identify as being German or American.
I agree that many of us think there is time to travel and whatnot before kids. I understand this desire but now that so many years have passed realize that you should not wait. I have missed opportunities and wish I approached life a little bit differently.
Y’all are a match for real and Geaux Bengals!! 😊 can’t wait for this season to start
Germany is a beautiful country 🇬🇧❤️ 🇩🇪
Great Britain too ❤️
@@louiesfrauchen874 Lampukistan too.
That app really did a great job 😂 my friend went the us shortly before pandemic for her masters and she tried that app, now she’s married for over a year.
While talking with my wife about youre video, I just remembered something else about different ways in different countries: Some years ago my wife and I were in a Square Dance Club here in Germany. Our club also did gigs at events. On a company event, which had an American theme to it, we did some entertaining, and after us dancing we were invited to the bar for drinks. I asked for a beer and got a bottle of Millers. The barmaid gave me the bottle and went of to the next customer. I looked at my bottle and at her back and finally asked about a bottle opener.... she took the bottle and just opend the cap with her hands.... Well again I learned something new. A German bottle of beer can't be opend that way....
Watching you two makes me so happy.
Thats really cool that all ur friends spoke English to each other, when should be speaking German, to make Ben feel included 👍
A bit late but I don't speak anything but Californian English but I worked for Siemens and had a couple of meetings in Germany where all of the European but the meeting was held in English. I was always amazed listening to German Engineers explain things English.
I’m an American living in Germany 🇺🇸❤️🇩🇪 I moved here one year ago for my now husband and I knew almost no German. The town we live in is in East Germany and not many people can or like to speak English. I would be lying if I said it was easy, but it’s so rewarding. Every day is an adventure (even if it sometimes a stressful one) 😅
Communication is so important, and y'all already understand that it takes work to get good at it. Fun channel!
I see a small resemblance between you two, which to me signals a long lasting relationship . Best wishes
Oh gosh haha are you saying we've already started to look alike like dogs and their owners? 😂
You guys are cute. Appreciate the thoughtfulness you give each other. My cousin and her Columbian husband have been back and forth with their young daughters, but plan to stay in the USA to school the girls. German schools do provide a great option for you….when that time comes. Currently, I’m researching the Marburg area as a travel home base upon retirement.
You two make a beautiful couple! I like Ben.
Feli, I normally wouldn’t say this, but knowing your language perfectionism….it’s proper to say “he & I” instead of “him & I”. The rule that helps me remember it is to drop the “& I”. You wouldn’t say “Him reacted to a reaction video”.
My son took German in school. His friends thought they were so smart. They would send him emails in German not knowing I spoke German growing up so I think I scared them when I answered them making sure to first tell them it was his mom. Luckily they didn't say anything he cared if I saw in the emails but it was funny that his friends tried to get away with it. My son laughed when I told him what I did. I live a little south of you now that I moved, I was closer. I've been to different parts of Germany and really enjoyed it. Lovely country and people.
My cousin met her husband on Match (15yrs ago). They’ve been happily married ever since. There really wasn’t any other dating sites at the time (that did some background check), and people tended to be very weirded out since it was so new and other (probably not so professional) services had sketchy history-> especially worried for my cousin on the first date that she would be safe and he wouldn’t be a psycho.. lol.
Well, he wasn’t, and he has made my cousin so very happy after a broken marriage.
When I came to Germany 30 plus years ago, I lived in the country and NO ONE spoke English. I lived in Germany for ten years and spoke only German. In later years, when I had telephone conversations with family or friends in the US, I found myself describing things that I no longer remembered the English word for. “You know that round thing that you throw into a hoop? Oh yeah, basketball.” Honest. That’s how it was for me. Now I have been living in Sweden for over 23 years. Almost always, when I “forget” a Swedish word, my brain takes me directly to the German word. Almost NEVER to the English word. Explain that.
Happens to most people who learn a 2nd language then a 3rd language. Foreign languages are stored separately in the brain. When a word is unknown the brain defaults to the most recently learned languages before going to the original language. Think of it as one language layered on top of another language. When there is a hole in the top layer you fall through the hole to the next layer. 😃
This is awesome! Many, many immigrants don't have the option of going back, much less with their American partner. I love this. I love the universal aspect of it.
You two look so right together ❤ Enjoy the journey.
This is very interesting about how people meet. And there is something about how people connect. ❤❤❤
I meant my Polish wife 23 years ago on Match. We now live in Poland after 15 years in the USA. Recommendation when your going to Germany,. Try to make another trip on the way. Also , kids are easier any many ways to travel when they are very young, versus when they get a few years on them.
Feli I shared the same experience as your boyfriend. My first travel experience outside of the USA was to go to Germany to meet and tour beautiful Munchen, and was very interesting history and Friedrichshafen and was able to see the Beautiful Bavarian countryside too. The German people were very friendly and loved and appreciated an American visitor to speak native German. I studied German as I also speak Spanish and of course English. So after learning those 2 foreign languages I felt very comfortable in Your Country FELI. My fathers side of his family were from Bavarian heritage as my last name is a very common word in Germany. Love your videos FELI. Best Wishes for you and your boyfriend dear.😉 Auf Wiederstein - FELI
Being 35 and in a relationship, I missed out on a lot of the dating-app scene, but I will say, living vicariously through friends doing it was...wild.
Some of the people that my friends met and were contacted by were just...insane. I definitely appreciated experiencing it through others, since I just got to enjoy seeing others do it without the frustration.
Also, Ben, I hope I broke down in your town! I was driving to Chicago to see visit my German teacher and my car died about 30 minutes south of Florence, KY and spent 3 hours watching trains pass at a Shell gas station while waiting for a tow...
Here's an interesting topic to cover, Felicia.: Music. For years there's been German songs and/or German words used in songs without some never being totally explained by either side. How about if YOU break down some of these for us? It will take some exhausting research but I believe we will all enjoy hearing the TRUE translation of the word; words and /or meaning of the song given by a German who leaves NOTHING out of her essays about German culture; dialect; or differences. Here are a few to start you with: "Grusse." ( Used in "Don't Bring Me Down."); "99 Lift Balloons"; and "Ich Hasse Dich."
I thought that this would not be very interesting, but I was really wrong. Very cool and informative, and as a new sub I was able to find out a lot about you guys and your story. Just remember, making rigid and unyielding plans is usually not a great idea.Your current approach seems to be reasonable and flexible,thus making any unforeseen changes much more likely to be amenable to both of you. Mazel Tov!
I think it's great that you are learning each other's languages, it is literally how the other culture views the world ... and