Why the hell are people bringing this self hatred into the lock community? I don’t even have locks and this is upsetting to me, because locks should be the most natural and black! 🤦🏾♀️
Brain washing is constantly bombarding everybody. Anti blackness and anti kinkiness is a daily occurrence. By the media and even instagram promoting light black and white curly ends sinks in everyday, whether we realize it or not. The bias is SO STRONG AND CONSTANT.
No it's because yall keep saying biracial ppl are black! Smh they are not black they are mixed they are not the same as full blooded black ppl, Lisa bonet is biracial
The obsession with edges and baby hairs is so strange to me. I don't have locs, but I don't do my edges; I find it stupid and unnecessary. Besides edges being fragile, constantly manipulating them with gel and product will make them break off faster. Edit: So, I've read some replies to this comment, and I wanna clear something up. My issue with edges is not the edges themselves, right? I think it's fine to do what you want with your hair. My particular problem is the fact that there are certain people, whether on the Internet or in real life, who make edges integral to whether or not someone's hair is done or not done and passing judgment on women. Saying that they don't care about themselves or they're not putting enough effort in because they don't do their edges or they aren't done the way they would like them to look. I've seen lots of cute styles that have edges and those that don't. In particular, my hairs are too fragile for me to constantly like slick them down. So I choose not to and I think my hair looks nice and presentable. I don't want the cultural practice of doing edges to come at the expense of overall hair health right so as long as you like continue to care for them.
Imma lay for as long as im alive. It’s just so cute. And I like doing different styles with my baby hairs. I don’t know about others but laying my edges actually grew them. I always wash my edges and oil them after laying them down. And I don’t lay them all the time
It's just a fad people want to redesign themselves and be in charge of who they are. I couldn't care less about it all, we have bigger more important problems to deal with than our hair.
Someone commented on baby hairs and called it “wet cursive” on the hairline! 😂 The only people who should have baby hair are actually babies and small children! It rare for an adult to have actually baby hair. It’s mostly women with an inch or two of damaged hairline trying to create them!
I just want you to know I was watching your video with my four year old grandson and the first thing he said was “I like her hair.” Then he went on to talk about how beautiful you are. Hatred and insecurities are taught. If only we could see ourselves and others with the admiration that my little guy had for you tonight ❤
I saw the title and just had to laugh out loud! I had a mixed coworker with hair like Lisa Bonet and she had long locs. It should be common sense that locs with a finer hair texture and locs with a kinky hair texture are not going to look the same. 🤷🏽♀️
Right. Why this strange division. Me I have a more 4b type of hair and I have Lil ringlets and more curles definitions. Of course my locs won't look like hers or Lisa bonnet one. Putting others down...cause they are not black enough..I don't understand. Wear your hair as you wish and feel good in that it. I am so tired of how people can decide a community over nothing. Lay your edges or don't do it. It's okay. It's personal preference 😅
Speaking of laid edges, I don't lay my edges anymore. I just got kinky twists put in and my stylist asked me why I don't and I explained to her how I had a bias that if my edges weren't laid, then my hair looked bad or undone/unfinished. I decided to challenge and question that bias and realize it came from texturism so I decided to stop laying them to face an insecurity. She then sent me a video where a BW on TIKTOK was saying that texturism has nothing AT ALL to do with why BW lay baby hairs which is not true! MANY BW bully other BW if their edges aren't laid CASUALLY; everyone remembers the Gabby Douglas situation I'm sure...😶 It's so hard to get black people to admit that a bias exists as a collective that plays directly into colorism, texturism, or feauturism. The denial is exhausting!🙄😑
@@ashleychamon6446 I think this because afro hair instinctively doesn't "lay". To feel bad, and to have a considerable amount of women with this hair feel like they're not doing something right, feel "messy", and to pick on other women for also not having hair that "lays" means they see something wrong about the true nature of that hair. They would see, and I used to see my hair as better or superior if it could lay... which means my hair in some way was "good hair" because it could achieve a major aesthetic of looser textured hair which is the hair that's the pinnacle of western beauty standards. I didn't feel put together without it, and that was to say the very nature of my afro hair wasn't put together because of it's true texture showing, which is a texturist notion. Historically, the whole trend of laying edges was to appear "neat and presentable" in white spaces. I decided to unpack why I didn't think afro textured hair was neat or presentable enough, and where I got that thought process from, and it was indeed texturism. Of course some people just lay their edges to frame their style, but when they can't feel beautiful, acceptable, or finished without them laid, then there's usually an underlying issue that will most likely be traced back to texturism if they have afro hair.
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682 I don’t think it has to do with looser texture hair, I have type 4 hair and my edges have also been shorter and thinner then the rest of my hair. It grows like that, and if I have braids or a ponytail they stick out. So might as well do something cute with it. 🤷🏾♀️ like only time I didn’t have baby hair on my edges was when I was relaxing my hair. I don’t think women who don’t have baby hair should be looked down upon but then again I’m don’t think women who do should be either.
@@ashleychamon6446 Yes, Ashley, I don't believe in looking down on others who lay their baby hairs either, I hope that's not how my comment came off. I understand that there are different reasons why people lay their edges, and we're all entitled to do whatever we wish with our afro hair. However, there is absolutely a collective bias on laying edges in the community even if it's not your or many others personal reasons for doing so. There are many things that we adapt to in the black community that I tend to dissect and question, because many of our trends, traditions, and behaviors derive from a complicated history; it's important to know the "why" of many things that we do and where they started. Your edges and your hair are beautiful as they are, even if you don't choose to "tame" them in some way. We don't believe in looking down on women with Afro hair for not laying their edges which is Wonderful, but it is a look collectively acknowledged as "undone".
I'm so glad I never suffered from a complex with my natural hair and its texture. Even when my coworkers would urge me to straighten my hair or say, "It looks like it needs a comb, pulled through it." I stood my ground. I won't allow anyone to make me feel bad about what is growing out of my scalp. They're just mad because my hair is natural, healthy, and long.
My mother encouraging my natural hair (to the extreme of hating perms) helped me embrace my tight coils, even though that peer pressure ain't nothing to play with. 😅
Listen it's always the bald headed live in a dirty wig types that always have something to say about other people full head of hair..you know US who actually have Edges.them other ones making baby hairs outta split ends to cover bald spots 🙄
Same watching this video just makes me feel so sad for people. When did Lisa Bonner of all people become the picture of locs? Locs and “laying edges” are the complete antithesis of one another. It is wild to want your locs to look closer to a different ethnicity that locs are not even made for. Huh?
Glad you’re talking about it. I really think the politics around locs boomed after the pandemic. Everyone was worried about crispy parts, baby hairs/laid edges, and even the curly ends. For me, my loc journey was about being free. Experiencing freedom with my hair. Not having to comb it every day and literally showing up as I am. I think the politics around locs has taken away from that idea of freedom.
I’m from the U.K. and my family are from multiple Caribbean islands and I’ve never seen super manicured locs. Before I got my locs I’d ask my uncles and aunties (on the Jamaican side) how to take care of them and they said they always retwisted 1-2 times per year, so I’ve always retwisted twice a year too. I know we are super creative and resourceful by nature but the obsession for perfection is really a drug 😩
I'm in the UK also, I don't have locs but my mother and late father both had locs. My mother has had hers for 40+ years and only retwists once a year... if she can be bothered lol. They were also both Jamaican 🤷🏾♀️
@@waheedanaomi It's defo something you see from the older gen. I have no issues with manicured locs, but I do think a lot of people obsess over the fresh retwist look.
I knew a guy that was obsessed with his locks growing long super fast. And obsessed with them looking sleek all the time. And his mom was only like you need to get your hair done every time she saw him.
Locs in the 70s and 80s were predominantly worn by Rastas and the whole point of it was about being natural and anti establishment. It then became more of an aesthetic hairstyle and a way to wear your hair naturally with an aspiration to achieve length. My Mum has had locs for well over 20 years and as Jamaicans it was associated with Rastas but after visiting Trinidad in the late 90s early 00s it was there she saw, very neat, manicured locs. This is what inspired her to loc her own hair. She has neat locs but she tends not to over twist her hair on a regular basis and prefers a fuller look as opposed to laid edges and partings. She hates seeing scalp.
@@ertfgghhhh I did question my phrasing but I think culturally even in precolonial africa black people have their own idea of what is neat or not, that isn’t necessarily Eurocentric. We have an aesthetic and an idea about what is considered beautiful, done, neat and complete. We plait our hair, with careful consideration about how to section hair. We also redo our hair after a period of time, in order to maintain our own ideas of beauty. So in this case I thought it was ok to use the word neat. In Jamaica, Rastas tend to be against grooming and vanity. I think this is unique to them and black cultures have always had their own unique ideas about these concepts.
@@moniquel6273 my father is trini and has been since early 70s. He has always been about grooming.... The problem with the wording is the same problem with the word "good hair". Is the same problem with people saying if your edges aren't pulled, your hair isn't done......
@@ertfgghhhh What I consider neat, is locs that have been sectioned and rolled from root to tip on a consistent basis. It created uniformity, in the sizing of each loc and results in a tighter packed loc. Rastas locs were traditionally free form and were the result of the natural structure of afro hair - the only grooming involved is washing the hair. There is a difference in intention in each process. Rastas are anti beauty, anti aesthetics. Whereas the other approach is an intention to achieve beauty and a desire to create beauty with natural afro textured hair.
@@moniquel6273 i would argue that both intentions are to exhibit beauty because we in our natural form is beauty. That is what i was taught as a child.....and my fathers hair has, for more than fifty yrs, been seen as beautiful by people of all cultures. When i became a young adult in the 90s, they were already scrubbing the floor like a long train. I have never seen my father tighten his locs. The problem is the eyes of the beholder. To think that neat means to tighten like fresh braids. Your hair will naturally loc on its own over time. They dont need to be tightened. People do with their hair what they want. It is no longer a lifestyle and declaration of love of being black/political.... It is now purely a style and hijacked by hiphop culture. But then again, who are we to gatekeep? Locs and dyshekis actually began in asia (india)
Girl, I was thinking THEE same thing!!! Like it seems like the Loc community has the same issues as the loose natural community as far as the obsession with having curly locs, curly ends on locs, and baby hairs. Please let’s not make relaxing locs a thing, like seriously??😩 you look so beautiful, that blue makes you look Regal. Thanks for this video ❤️❤️❤️
You took the words out of my mouth. I can only speak for myself, but I got locs because I don't want to be bothered with doing my hair. If I have time to do all that to my hair, I have time to be a loose natural. To be honest, I have lower back length locs, but I prefer to keep them wrapped up. Every queen needs a crown and I will proudly wear mine.
I feel it is seeping into the loc community because many naturals only want locs because because their hair won’t grow ( yes their hair is growing but no length retention). This is why so many comb them out , their locs were never about acceptance of self. I do not have locs, I think they are beautiful but I have commitment issues.
That’s why I don’t buy it when the natural hair community comes for protective styles or the wig community… Like I see how y’all talk about kinky textures. I see how y’all shun them. (Obvi not all of y’all but Lord it is PREVALENT! Don’t let someone have short 4c hair because then they are ignored. Immediately.) The self hatred didn’t stop just because you took the wig off: it’s a HEART thing. The one with a wig one may love herself more than you do, because her heart towards herself is healed (grace of God).
I literally had someone say to me today "I can't see your scalp!" Yeah, I know. That's the whole point of my locs growing. I usually get my locs retightened every 8 weeks and it's currently due. I personally love all the new growth, it makes my hair look thicker and fuller 😍. And coming from a place where I didn't know if my hair would even grow back after falling out due to an illness, any and all hair growth is cherished and appreciated.
i wouldhve said something so out of line and just as disrespectful to them. i wouldhve been like well i can see your stup1dity gtfo my face yo. pple are exhausting AF
I’ve been loced since 2000 and even back then in NYC, you saw the Sis and Bro with thick new growth. Having manicured locs 24/7/365 with pulled down front hair laid wasn’t even a thing back then in NYC. Furthermore, I work in Corporate America and my “unmanicured” locs never stopped me for being gainfully employed during my whole career.
This is wild! The nicest locs come from the kinkiest hair. All my loc goals come from the 4c girlies. The Lisa Bonnet Locs make me think of white folks/grinch fingers 🥴
Same!! it was news to me today that Lisa’s hair was dread goals for many. But it makes sense bc when I think of it that faux dread “bohemian” look was in. But for some reason I didn’t think much of it. I didn’t know it was connected to this.
This is why blk Americans don't belong in the loc community. Not all blk people habe 4c hair. Yet y'all think y'all the authority on what's blk or not. The amount of fully blk people with lose textured hair with locs disagree with your nonsense
It is so disgusting and disturbing that somehow texturism has come to the loc community I knew that as soon as people with looser hair textures became loc influencers it was coming. I got locs to get away from natural hair texturism cause locs were so esthetically black/type 4 exclusive. My locs made me feel like my natural self and unapologetically kinky then here comes this shit. 😢🤬🤮
I got locs to get away from texturism too. I was still in school and being bullied for having 4c hair. My edges weren’t laid and people said I looked homeless. When I got locs instead of insults I was getting compliments. It completely changed my self confidence. The fact that this texturism and laid edges is coming to the only hair community I felt safe in makes me want to cry. It’s been a long journey to learn to love my hair. I feel like all the progress I’ve made is being taken away.
No because tell my why when I was researching locs in 7th grade a white man popped up💀. It really comes from within as well because I literally fought with my mom for a year to get them at first. Even when she agreed she’d always research retwisting and ask me when I’d get them “done”. Now that my hair is longer she even wants them herself - I’m semi free form now so there’s still no shortage of “when are you fixing them” comments. Honestly it’s really sad, I felt when they said whiteness is a gravitational pull because it seems impossible to escape. We make a new space for ourselves that over time is dominated by those that proximate white the closest.
@@angelica69 just like other things, it’ll come and go I think. ppl appropriate and move on to the next “trendy style” from the bc. so don’t feel any sense of stress if u can help it 💓
This is exactly how I felt when I saw Halle Bailey hair in the Little Mermaid and the but extensions in her locs. I was so happy to see little black girls who grew up wearing locs being seen as a princess and being seen as feminine when a lot of the time that isn't granted to them and when they put those straight extensions in her hair that kinda masks her locs it felt like they were saying that her hair isn't pretty/feminine enough. Especially with Disney's history of policing black actresses hair China Anne McClain has spoken about how Disney director has pressured her to perm her hair or wear weave when she was on Ant Farm similar thing was said to Raven Symone, Monique Coleman and many more. So I do question why they had her put in hair extensions, cause in the film industry everything is done with a purpose what is the purpose of this. BTW this is no hate towards Halle Bailey.
@@LaiLai.. I didn't think about it like that, that is so true. But this just motivates me more to create film and animation that caters to the voices and people who never gets seen.
I used to work at the mouse. Disney has always had a thing imho with the “All American” (aka very Eurocentric) look, and honestly it’s something they’ve JUST started to relax on in the last few years (in the parks) I’m sure to a degree it’s the same with their tv, movie and stage productions, they want the mass appeal that keeps Dis fans on the hook, and stepping too far from that All American norm alienates the more closed minded people who also tend to be major Disney fans and consumers. You can see this in the backlash surrounding the change of theming in Splash Mountain to a Tiana bayou theme, and you def saw it with the reactions to Halle as Ariel and having a black Tinkerbell, etc etc.
honestly I think a big part of it is about how it moves in the water and adding the extensions just makes it fuller and more flowy so I’m not mad at it
I always regret it after the fact when I get a retwist (I rarely do, typically for occasions)bc of how flat and thin it looks… locs look so much better thick and wild
Omg yes. Especially if you’ve had a style in, the take down always has me 😖 at how skinny they tend to look after being imprisoned for a few. Not a fan lol
Protect y’all’s space. I was around for the rise and fall of the natural hair movement. I watched the type 2B, 3A girlies come in and take over once the natural hair movement started to gain mainstream traction. When type 4 content creators (and the supporters) tried to call this out we were gaslit and accused of being divisive. That natural hair was for everyone when we all knew good and dang well type 2s and 3s have never been discriminated against in the community. They were always uplifted in the BC for “having Indian in their family”. That standard was the reason for the movement in the first place. In the span of a few years type 4 creators were completely pushed out of the space that they built and type 2 and 3 girls were supported . Got all the recognition and all the sponsorships. And I can’t be completely angry at the type 2s and 3s because it was blk folks that yet again placed them in that elevated position to be able to take over. Type 4s didn’t have enough support to even try and hold the line. History is repeating itself. Fight back and fight hard against those that want to come in and stratify the Loc community. Don’t allow yourselves to be gaslit as we were. Hold the line for type 4s.
i swear no ones hair looks like these influencers, even people with natural type 2 or 3 hair. it took me years to find a video of one with her actual naked productless hair, before she proceeded to spend like 2-4 hours washing it to be that bouncy defined 3b/3c texture thats so glamorised. and how long will that keep for? maybe two nights if youre lucky? we need to put the NATURAL back into natural hair for real i wonder how many little girls out there feel so badly about themselves cause their hair stays looking more like the starting point than the finished product.
like it was at the point where i was just like i guess im a whole new category bc when id look up 3c hair care it would look nothing like my hair, because their routines are on already done hair. +1 we have to support our 4type sisters cause i can only imagine the frustration and fuckery yall go through
@@lisdexamphetaminethis is so Fuckin REAL!! I’m a type 4b/4c girlie that’s had locs since I was a child but I remember me and my best friend in high school trying desperately to figure out WTF her hair texture was. Spent WEEKS doing it and we couldn’t find tutorials for her curls ANYWHERE. Come to find out later she’s 3b and we just couldn’t find a 100% Black dark/brownskin girl doing 3b styles on hair WITHOUT products. Not only are the type 4s pushed out, but as you said, the type 3s being represented don’t even look right !!!!
How is texturism combing out your OWN hair to show YOUR natural curl pattern at the end of your locs? No perm was added. Simple comb and maybe some water sis. It’s more of a stray from traditional constricts which is to be expected as time goes on and more, fairly creative individuals join the community. I have traditional locs as I am Jamaican and was raised by a Rasta but I would never sit here and holler isms because my sister wants to wear her hair to fit her liking. You have your whole leg out in a picture, I guess sexualism has you in a chokehold 😒
I think this is a bit of a reach love. I had locs for 10 years, got them back in 2010 when it wasn’t such a fad like now. I combed the tips of mine out, not because of texturism, it was after all my loose natural hair at the tips, I just wanted them to coil like usual. That’s just switching your style up trust I love my Afro hair. Locs are not our natural texture u intentionally not comb it out to get the meshed hair and length. So combing the tips just allows your natural texture to still remain at the ends.
@@andreamitchell485 I don't think it's the case for everyone. But some people are combing out their locs to mimic looser hair textures that are harder to loc or take longer to loc so the ends are naturally loose (at least for a while). Some want this look and are disappointed when their texture doesn't give the desired results. Everyone has their own reasons though.
@@andreamitchell485 this!!! I comb mine out because I miss my natural hair and it’s the only way to feel like I’m replicating the styles I miss, without taking them out.
I started my locs about 2 months ago and I started them because after having a baby, for the first time I’ve felt ugly. So I decided to start a journey…mind, body and soul. I’ve always kind of disliked my hair because it’s thin. I’ve always wanted nice thick hair and it bothered me when I was permed, then loose natural and now I’m deciding to embrace it with locs…just accepting that my hair won’t look like those women with thick locs down to the butt. Anyways…the journey is spiritual…to heal self hate.
I hope you grow to love your hair and this journey more and more ❤ and your locs will definitely thicken up! Wait and see how it looks a year from now :)
I am a paralegal and I have been growing my LOCs since 2004. With that being said in my field of work just Growing locs was considered a rebellion 😂🤣 and the way we police each other hair is #insane it's giving (jealousy & envy) Go natural do you and LOVE your hair texture it's who U are. So don't hate on folks that don't fit your expectations. That's freedom. 🎉❤💜 sometimes I'm wild sometimes I'm not.
I'm the opposite, I hate re-twist because I don't like my scalp showing, once my hair grows out, I love them again. I usually go months without a re-twist until the new growth threatens the LOC quality, then I'll do a tightening(sis.loc'd)
Of all the antiblackness I've had to unlearn texturism is by far the hardest and it is so hard for me personally to get over. Also, its just that you get treated sooo much better when your hair more closely aligns to western standards
I noticed this when I started locin my hair.. personally I love my hair texture and I didn’t get locs to escape my self hate ( I just like locs and was getting bored with my hair) but with the perming the edges and curly ends fetish..I just hate that so many self hating people are bringing their problems in this community as well. But I dunno how to have this conversation without ppl thinking I’m hating
Yeah,I also noticed a difference between older people with locs, often times they choose locs because they did not want such a great effort in maintaining: no obsessive retwisting or washing. Just let it and love it!
This is why I NEVER wore faux locs due to the actual spiritual meaning of growing real locs. I always felt it was disrespectful to see BW wear fake ones. I eventually got them (accidentally) and got so attached to them that I didn’t want to take them out. How you wear your hair is so spiritual and it’s annoying to see BW sensationalize and exotify something that is supposed to be really sacred. And can we talk about Black women’s obsession with Lisa Bonet, when she’s never EVER claimed to be a Black woman. Zoe Kravitz even says she felt uncomfortable in her Blackness. Why do BW obsess over people that don’t acknowledge them?
COLONIZERS WILL DO WHAT THEY FEEL THEY ARE ENTITLED TO DO. IT ( THEY ) ARE A CANCER . WHAT DOES CANCER DO?? ( If you don't attack it at the source ?) THATS RIGHT!! IT SPREADS!!
I agree with everything you said! The idea of perming locs is absolutely and ridiculously counterintuitive. I couldn't even believe that people were starting to do that. I didn't even know about the extensions at the ends thing! Yikes. BTW, I LOVE your hair! It's so mesmerizing. Even my husband said that he loves your hair!
Your makeup and style is always sooooooo creative and unique ❤❤ Anyways regarding the video, I’ve been working on wearing my hair unstretched, but I’ve been putting gel on the ends of my hair and I have like 4b/4c Whiteness is absolutely a gravitational pull that’s so spot on and it sucks 😔😑
Dear God… no! You have got to be kidding me! I don’t have locks but don’t bring this toxic biracial obsession into the lock community. 😢 the lock community is the last pure black community that WAS peaceful.
This is what happens when american blk ppl involve their politics in everything. This space isn't for y'all but here we are. Y'all don't even people like myself black even though I am, simply because my parents arw from the islands. The same island y'all associated with locs ans weed for decades. Y'all are gross
Excuse me? Wow. So pure black huh? We chose to be biracial? Being biracial is not antiblack you know. We are still black. At least your predjudice/black supremacy is not covert. Its right out here. What a horrible person you are. Im done i dunno how to love my blackness with black people like you.
If you think biracial people are the only ones with so called good hair, you're sadly mistaken. Y'all act as if you don't have the ability to ignore people.
Been freeforming for 1.5 years my hair looks like wool, in that dreadfro stage and I think it’s kool cuz most people don’t have texture like this. Never liked looking other people since I was little. loving the journey and the process. Freeforming to me is a lifestyle that is free from all the standards, boxes, color, texturism just enjoying life and my unique place in this world overall. I get a lot of compliments from different races of people and they mention things like it’s kool or say they wish they hair could do this.
STOP 🛑 policing BWs hair ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️ Damn if we do damn if we don’t , can BW just live ????? We are constantly being criticized about our looks (weight , hair , skin ,and etc ) it’s just never ENOUGH!!!!! 🤬😡🤬😡🤬 LET US LIVE ‼️‼️‼️‼️
I enjoyed your video as usual. I will say that I noticed girls/ladies with the faux locs, which are looser, would wear those. Then, if you ask them if they ever thought about getting real locs, it's a quick no. Lastly, I love your hair with the bigger look rather than the Eurocentric hang time. I have manicured micro locs and I absolutely hate the scalpy look when I get a fresh re-twist.
Mayowa, I’m glad you made this video. I long for the day that people stop chasing these ‘aesthetics’. They need to give it a rest. To me, locs are a way to let go of societal pressure, it pains me to see people manipulate them through influence
Saw a video of a girl with kinky hair adding wavy (type 1) wefts to the ends of her locs. She described it as a permanent change. To each their own but it felt odd to me
I remember being a teenager asking my mom to do my baby hair. I would see her and my sister doing theirs. She told me I didn't have "that kind of hair". She was being honest but, I later cut my hair and rocked a brush cut for years. Now I have my 3rd set of locs and I am still trying to unlearn some behaviors/thought processes.
I love how big your free form locs are. I take months to retwist my locs but I hear how I NEED a retwist all the time from my partner. I hear comments about textures and features from him almost all the time and have called him out on his colorist and texturist remarks. He has deflected many times. Keep making the videos and spreading information. Thanks and I am happy that I find you today ! New subbie. 😊
1. love the thumbnail for this video lmaoooo 2. when i saw that video of the girl cutting her loc extensions to add loose/straight hair, i thought i was a hater for thinking it was insane & ugly. 3. please continue keeping your foot on the necks on people that spread colorism and texturism. it has helped me reassess some of my behaviors as well as the behaviors of people around me. these things are so ingrained in our daily lives that you have to actively do the work to unpack how these thoughts and behaviors stem from white supremacy. thank you for your work
Beautiful look and beautiful video. Your videos have helped me so much to unlearn the systematic self hatred. Black women love your natural hair and looks and stop chasing these european beauty standards. They could never.
I am so glad that I found you again! I changed my YT Channel handle because my WHOLE LIFE changed and I lost connection with you, but I digress…I have been following you for a while firstly due to my own loc journey moving from Sisterlocks to freeform locs. I love seeing your growth and I appreciate that you are still here serving it up. Love the video 🎉You never disappoint because your content is so inspiring and inclusive with self-love and self-acceptance for those of us who are unpacking our own issues with spiritualism, naturalism, and how we show up in all our black glory. Long story short, I ditched my high maintenance self-installed Sisterlocks around 2 years ago because I wanted to have a love affair with my natural glory starting with my crown and I haven’t looked back since. I had no idea what my hair would do but I was determined to love it and leave it. To my amazement, it started locking up pretty quickly and it continues to evolve as do I. Never have I experienced such a range of emotions and feelings about my identity but no regrets. I try not to get caught up with thoughts about why didn’t I try free-forming sooner or comparison which only serves to support loc envy whenever I see someone like you with much fuller/thicker locs but if/whenever it pops up, I simply try to sit with it and get curious about what triggered it in the first place. I’m far from perfect but I do love myself and my locs nearly unconditionally because much like my locs, I am a wonderfully created creation in progress. Stay blessed beautiful one
It’s so amazing to find your channel we have the exact same hair texture. I used to dream when I was little of having a curly hair and when I woke up I would cry so much. It was stupid, I wish someone would have encouraged me to live my hair but I had to make that choice myself as I grew up. I never liked doing edges but people sometimes would comment and say I should, and when my hair was in it’s simple form I would get questions about what I would do next to my hair. This is over and done I am now 3 months into my lock journey and learning to love my hair everyday ❤. Thank you for your content you’re amazing
I’ve had locs for like a year and my favorite part of my journey was when I DIDNT have access to a loctician for extended periods of time. It was something really beautiful about appreciating my hair in its raw ass natural state. I’d love to hear more of your thoughts on professionalism and black hair because for me regular retwists are necessary for work. Love you videos, thank you for sharing your perspective!
I love you, you are black and have no apologies for being black and the fact that you make it clear that people are free to do their thing. You trying to educate us on black hair. Big up to you.😊
My husband love to tell me I look like a runaway slave when I go months without retwisting… it offends me yea but I’m learning to me in my natural state and others want me to dye it , twist every 6 months blah blah blah… I love your videos momma keep going
Thank you for this video. I have had my microlocks for about 1.5 years now (my second time locking in my life). And I've been hyperfixating on my babyhairs and overall frizz. I have a lot of grow out from loosing hair due to stress in 2020. Didnt help that my grandmother told me i need to "do something about my hair" because it looks like a rats nest 😑. I know I have internal bias and self hate twards the way my hair is. I need to relax and let my hair be my hair.
I love your honesty. I got caught up as well when I had locs. People I didn’t even know reminded me to re-twist. And I kept that scalp visibility. I had to check myself.
Yup. People will compliment you on your locs being “neat” and you can hear that subtle shade in their voices about locs that aren’t “neat.” It reminds me of being told you’re not like those other Black people.
You are definitely speaking facts!! L👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾I’ve recently started my loc journey, almost 2 months in and needless to say it’s an entirely different level of learning self love and unpacking a lot of BS. I’ve always been such a spiritual person, so I’ve been about self love, happiness, joy, self work and all that goodness lol, although for a decade now I’ve been really taping into it more and more once I stopped fighting the thoughts of “unpopular” opinions in my head. I just got to the point of I don’t care anymore like this is how I feel, these are the truths that I know and I’m a bask in it lol. Learning to love our darker shade of brown complexion (yes I went there lol) and the texture of our hair is a journey we SHOULD OF NEVER had to nor have to go through but here we are, and with that it has made me admit that yes I love myself as a plus size, darker complexion woman BUT also loving yourself out of allllll that conditioning/brainwashing of our hair WHEW!! It’s an entirely different ballgame!! There has been people way younger than me and I’m 36 that can’t even stand what’s coming out of their scalp and question why I won’t get mine “redone”🙄lol, I say, I don’t mind my roots, yes, I don’t mind a retwist at some point BUT I don’t see the need for me myself to do it so regularly, I love my roots and starting this journey has made me realize how much more I love my roots…I’m a kinky sista lol, I’m getting emotional just thinking about all the kinkyness of my new growth😍😍😍. I just love it!!
This is such important dialogue! I think you’re on point as usual 💅🏾Most of my family has locs and you really see a lot of variety, the younger generation definitely has this thing about a constantly neat parts and laid edges vs the older generation and I think the correlation with texturism is undeniable. I have semi freeforms and catch myself also wetting my hair alot to get that more “vertical” look with my hair, to make it more “presentable” or “pretty”. I also think grooming and styling and manipulation is something we love to do as a culture and I think we can do so with pride (our hair can do so much!)- but antiblackness is insidious and has deep roots in our diaspora so we really have to critically think about the cultural impact of certain styles, esp in an antiblack world
Great discussion….I really love & appreciate the way you call out the discrimination Black people experience just for existing…..it’s real and we’re not being sensitive, the constant bullying & oppression needs to be addressed
I really liked the more natural look when I had locs. I was told to retwist ALL of the time. Sometimes as an insult. They didn’t understand that I did NOT want one.
I've always been opposite💜 I LOVED my afro❤❤ My biggest concern about getting locs was that I didn't want them to look straight nor flat👎🏽👎🏽 When I first put in my twists in order to let my 4c hair loc - I HATED the way the twists/locs curled at the ends & I've been RELIEVED that my ends have budded. I also LOVE my froey semi free form locs (I don't retwist, but I do twist the roots 2 - 3 times per year)❤❤ My only problem now is that I LOVE the nappy roots, but I'm wondering how long I can let my hair grow out without worry about the locs breaking off 🤔 I've only been loc'd almost a year - So it's trial & error🤷🏽♀️💜😂‼️
I tried to go semi-freefrom because I love the unmanicured look as well but unfortunately my new growth grows away from my dreads. I have to crochet them,retwist,or even braid it down the loc to fully combine the two. If yours grow with your dreads then you're good but if you notice that it doesn't, i'd suggest finding ways to combine. Leaving mine for months(6month I think) without any maintenance was a bad idea lol. It got super thin and some broke off since the base wasn't reinforced to support the length . 3 years in :) I know a lot more and considering starting over or making them thicker but to get them combined is very expensive. good luck on your journey.
Thank you for all your content and all you do for our community! You’re gorgeous and your commentary is TOP TIER, I love running into educated black women who can articulate themselves beautifully (as you do)! ❤❤❤ KEEP IT COMING!!! BINGING YOUR VIDEOS AS WE SPEAK!!!
Some of this is that Meaghan Good faux loc style which is based on the Lisa Bonet mixed girl loc style becoming so big. And it’s a cute style I have never seen it on anyone it didn’t flatter. But it seems like there’s pressure now for real 4C locs to look like that. Which is yes anti blackness cause it’s like a “natural” aesthetic that looks more white. I have gotten it over my locs a couple of times when I wanted bright color cause I don’t want to bleach my hair. But I’ve stopped because it’s like why spend all that time and money for an aesthetic that is already an imitation of what I already have?
I truly ♥️ your content!!! My hair is between the "2 worlds" but I was raised with a Texturist so I was able to embrace my Africaness via locs!!! My locs are are spiritual bc it allowed me to embrace my natural being!!! Keep your voice, bc it is Needed!!! Thank you, from an elder to you, in age 😉!!!
@@bunnytime8235 yeah I think Halle’s scalp is almost always freshly retwisted. However, Halle does have type 4 kinky locs, that don’t have loose curls jutting out at the ends. This is how Disney has decided to style her hair in the mermaid film, actually with straight hair coming out of the locs.
@@digitallychelsea oh okay, thank you for clarifying and being so kind about it! I see what you mean now that I saw some other pictures of her from the movie
Yeah man, I’ve grown my hair out for the past 5 years and it is for spiritual reasons. When I hear people talk about their locs as an aesthetic, it bothers me. I can’t even bring myself to dye my locs a different color. I have a fixation on keeping my hair as healthy as possible and applying that to my lifestyle as well. It’s a practice of self-love for me. Hair isn’t everything but I see the different styles as political.
Watching your video. From a chocolate brown female that's hair is curled at the ends and closer to this Lisa Bona texture. This hair tangle is very easy. Not nappy but tangles. It is straight wavy but curls itself into a knot naturally on the ends. Crazy to manage 😮 It's a workout 💪 However, I plan to lock my hair once I retire from the military. But I can barely keep braids in. I'm mixed with Irish 30%, but my only my hair tells that story. I'm definitely a proud Black female, but my hair is so hard to manage being in between.
This makes me kinda sad. When i put my second set in i loved how the stype emphasised my curls. My hair locked in a way where i still had a lot of loose strands and it felt like the best of both worlds because as much as i adored my curls i love having locs more. Locs should be a way to celebrate your hair, not used as a new way to hate yourself.
I loveveee your locs!!!! They frame your gorgeous face so well!! I think the best part about locs is the variation in texture! With locs, I feel way more confident then I ever have! I'm so aware of my surroundings now, more than ever! They also feel so protecting! It's such an amazing feeling! 😌
I love this video! I would like to point out that these Locticians are charging 200+ dollars for a re-twist. They’re also making TikTok‘s disrespecting freeform locs.
My ex has the tightly coiled hair and I loved his locks so much that I wanted locks too. I tried locking, but honestly it never looked the way I had envisioned it would. My hair has a looser curl, and my locks always had these fly-away strands everywhere, particularly at the scalp and my ends looked stringy. I eventually gave up and cut it all off. Lisa Bonet's locks are beautiful but, IMHO I prefer locks with tighter coiled hair.
i mean not saying it was ok but i remember when we used to call those loose/straight locs “grinch fingers” so ive been confused af that now the girls want them to look like that.
Whew tell it. Since I started swimming a lot i have really been struggling with my locs cause there’s no way to keep a fresh retwist and laid edges when they get wet frequently. I’ve been obsessed with keeping my locs smooth and “neat” and feel insecure when they’re fuzzy. I got faux red boho (what people are calling the Lisa Binet locs look) locs over my locs for The Little Mermaid premiere because I didn’t want to dye and damage my locs… taking that shit out almost ruined my hair and I lost a lot of locs and I think this kind of snapped me out of my delusions. I love my locs they’ve e been through so much with me. I’ve been saying to myself recently locs are nappy they are kinky why am I trying to make them look like they’re not.
i find this so interesting because i am someone with “3c-4a” hair and i’m just learning to appreciate the way my hair is loc’ing. at one point i thought that i shouldn’t have started my journey because i didn’t think my hair looked right compared to “4b 4c”locs. the idea of people perming their locs is so odd to me because i idolize “type 4 hair”.
I just started my locs 3 months ago and I adore them. I thought this would be more of a struggle because of how badly people talked about the process. I had loose natural hair for 14 years though so I already embraced my hair before starting. However I’ve never felt more beautiful than I do now and the fact that I started them myself is top tier. My hair locs so well because of how textured it is. I don’t do anything to feel beautiful now and I didn’t know that’s exactly what I needed. You look stunning by the way I’m loving the eyeshadow. Ethereal goddess ☺️
Locs are supposed to be fun and we can do what we can w them. There should be no reason in the world people care this much about what others are doing w their hair!!! All loc journeys are different and I love my journey because it’s fun! There are no rules.
I'm surprised that these are the types of locs that the newer generation loc community is trying to achieved. To me the whole point of having dreadlocks or locs it compliments kinkier or nappier hair texture. In my opinion locs on Afro texture hair looks better whereas a looser curl pattern reminds me of Caucasian people trying to emulate locs which can be seen as unkempt since their hair is not meant to lock.
Spot on, again love. In the 70's & 80 they were call bongos worn by women and men. Both would cover with tams; and most were Rastafarians. Think young Bob, Rita Marley & family, David Hines (Steele pulse) Black Uhuru, Gregory Issac, or Basquiat. The idea of manicured or locksmithing was unheard of you did it yourself. Usually because your family and friends were on your head soo much about it. I combed my first set out. Locks didn’t become mainstream in the US until the 90's. It was considered alternative to ratchet in Jamaica and elsewhere. I hadn't pick up on a texturism view, but stands to reason dominant culture would come for locks too. Monks in India (sadhus) had long bongos that the colonizing English hated them so much they called them; dreadlocks. Other people in west and east Africa also dreaded their hair. Using hair & butter from animals, and red clay. Too much manipulation/ retightening will cause traction alopecia. Locking too narrow/thin (sister locks) break them off. Lenth is extremely important to others. Ironically the longer they've gotten the more stink eye from bw, which is unsettling. They can become heavy and cause dreadaches. I have waist length now on the crown the perimeter is just natural, they weigh 2.5 lbs. I tend to wrap it in a tignon or turban to retain moisture. They attract too much attention from men, can get caught in doors, intimidates dogs, fire. I can use them as a pillow at night, a neck scarf, cat-o-nine tails for defense, and a loof in the bath. It's a spiritual vibe for me; nothing wrong with how it was purposed to be. It always reverts back to its natural state anyhow. It's about showing up as my authentic self confident and grounded in my Afroness. Stay up princess ♠️🏴🐈⬛
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Why the hell are people bringing this self hatred into the lock community? I don’t even have locks and this is upsetting to me, because locks should be the most natural and black! 🤦🏾♀️
It's because people used to loc for pro-Black beliefs, but now people loc for (anti-black ) aesthetics.
Brain washing is constantly bombarding everybody. Anti blackness and anti kinkiness is a daily occurrence. By the media and even instagram promoting light black and white curly ends sinks in everyday, whether we realize it or not. The bias is SO STRONG AND CONSTANT.
No it's because yall keep saying biracial ppl are black! Smh they are not black they are mixed they are not the same as full blooded black ppl, Lisa bonet is biracial
@@assianeu197 sadly true, and I was hoping that would never happen. Smh
Just disgusts me to my core, seriously.
The obsession with edges and baby hairs is so strange to me. I don't have locs, but I don't do my edges; I find it stupid and unnecessary. Besides edges being fragile, constantly manipulating them with gel and product will make them break off faster.
Edit: So, I've read some replies to this comment, and I wanna clear something up. My issue with edges is not the edges themselves, right? I think it's fine to do what you want with your hair. My particular problem is the fact that there are certain people, whether on the Internet or in real life, who make edges integral to whether or not someone's hair is done or not done and passing judgment on women.
Saying that they don't care about themselves or they're not putting enough effort in because they don't do their edges or they aren't done the way they would like them to look. I've seen lots of cute styles that have edges and those that don't. In particular, my hairs are too fragile for me to constantly like slick them down. So I choose not to and I think my hair looks nice and presentable. I don't want the cultural practice of doing edges to come at the expense of overall hair health right so as long as you like continue to care for them.
Same! It’s nonsense.
Imma lay for as long as im alive. It’s just so cute. And I like doing different styles with my baby hairs. I don’t know about others but laying my edges actually grew them. I always wash my edges and oil them after laying them down. And I don’t lay them all the time
I ain’t never had baby hair a day in my life. My hair refuses to lay down so instead of making it do sum it’s not meant to, I gave up on that shit.
It's just a fad people want to redesign themselves and be in charge of who they are. I couldn't care less about it all, we have bigger more important problems to deal with than our hair.
Someone commented on baby hairs and called it “wet cursive” on the hairline! 😂 The only people who should have baby hair are actually babies and small children! It rare for an adult to have actually baby hair. It’s mostly women with an inch or two of damaged hairline trying to create them!
I just want you to know I was watching your video with my four year old grandson and the first thing he said was “I like her hair.” Then he went on to talk about how beautiful you are. Hatred and insecurities are taught. If only we could see ourselves and others with the admiration that my little guy had for you tonight ❤
damn, I fcking love that, thank you for sharing xx
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this is the sweetest thing 🥺
us big boys think shes hot too!
That's so true, aww:))
I saw the title and just had to laugh out loud! I had a mixed coworker with hair like Lisa Bonet and she had long locs. It should be common sense that locs with a finer hair texture and locs with a kinky hair texture are not going to look the same. 🤷🏽♀️
Right. Why this strange division. Me I have a more 4b type of hair and I have Lil ringlets and more curles definitions. Of course my locs won't look like hers or Lisa bonnet one. Putting others down...cause they are not black enough..I don't understand. Wear your hair as you wish and feel good in that it. I am so tired of how people can decide a community over nothing. Lay your edges or don't do it. It's okay. It's personal preference 😅
I never noticed that beautiful brown your eyes were, so pretty!
Blue and Teal eye makeup really brings out the the rich brown eyes
Right? So gorgeous
right this makeup is really making them jump out in this video like wow
Speaking of laid edges, I don't lay my edges anymore. I just got kinky twists put in and my stylist asked me why I don't and I explained to her how I had a bias that if my edges weren't laid, then my hair looked bad or undone/unfinished. I decided to challenge and question that bias and realize it came from texturism so I decided to stop laying them to face an insecurity.
She then sent me a video where a BW on TIKTOK was saying that texturism has nothing AT ALL to do with why BW lay baby hairs which is not true! MANY BW bully other BW if their edges aren't laid CASUALLY; everyone remembers the Gabby Douglas situation I'm sure...😶 It's so hard to get black people to admit that a bias exists as a collective that plays directly into colorism, texturism, or feauturism. The denial is exhausting!🙄😑
Why do you think laying edges has to do with texturism?
@@ashleychamon6446 I think this because afro hair instinctively doesn't "lay". To feel bad, and to have a considerable amount of women with this hair feel like they're not doing something right, feel "messy", and to pick on other women for also not having hair that "lays" means they see something wrong about the true nature of that hair.
They would see, and I used to see my hair as better or superior if it could lay... which means my hair in some way was "good hair" because it could achieve a major aesthetic of looser textured hair which is the hair that's the pinnacle of western beauty standards. I didn't feel put together without it, and that was to say the very nature of my afro hair wasn't put together because of it's true texture showing, which is a texturist notion. Historically, the whole trend of laying edges was to appear "neat and presentable" in white spaces. I decided to unpack why I didn't think afro textured hair was neat or presentable enough, and where I got that thought process from, and it was indeed texturism.
Of course some people just lay their edges to frame their style, but when they can't feel beautiful, acceptable, or finished without them laid, then there's usually an underlying issue that will most likely be traced back to texturism if they have afro hair.
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682 Very well said!!!👏🏿❤️
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682 I don’t think it has to do with looser texture hair, I have type 4 hair and my edges have also been shorter and thinner then the rest of my hair. It grows like that, and if I have braids or a ponytail they stick out. So might as well do something cute with it. 🤷🏾♀️ like only time I didn’t have baby hair on my edges was when I was relaxing my hair. I don’t think women who don’t have baby hair should be looked down upon but then again I’m don’t think women who do should be either.
@@ashleychamon6446 Yes, Ashley, I don't believe in looking down on others who lay their baby hairs either, I hope that's not how my comment came off. I understand that there are different reasons why people lay their edges, and we're all entitled to do whatever we wish with our afro hair. However, there is absolutely a collective bias on laying edges in the community even if it's not your or many others personal reasons for doing so. There are many things that we adapt to in the black community that I tend to dissect and question, because many of our trends, traditions, and behaviors derive from a complicated history; it's important to know the "why" of many things that we do and where they started. Your edges and your hair are beautiful as they are, even if you don't choose to "tame" them in some way. We don't believe in looking down on women with Afro hair for not laying their edges which is Wonderful, but it is a look collectively acknowledged as "undone".
I'm so glad I never suffered from a complex with my natural hair and its texture. Even when my coworkers would urge me to straighten my hair or say, "It looks like it needs a comb, pulled through it." I stood my ground. I won't allow anyone to make me feel bad about what is growing out of my scalp. They're just mad because my hair is natural, healthy, and long.
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My mother encouraging my natural hair (to the extreme of hating perms) helped me embrace my tight coils, even though that peer pressure ain't nothing to play with. 😅
Listen it's always the bald headed live in a dirty wig types that always have something to say about other people full head of hair..you know US who actually have Edges.them other ones making baby hairs outta split ends to cover bald spots 🙄
You had good parenting! Bravo 👏🏽
Same watching this video just makes me feel so sad for people. When did Lisa Bonner of all people become the picture of locs? Locs and “laying edges” are the complete antithesis of one another. It is wild to want your locs to look closer to a different ethnicity that locs are not even made for. Huh?
Glad you’re talking about it. I really think the politics around locs boomed after the pandemic. Everyone was worried about crispy parts, baby hairs/laid edges, and even the curly ends.
For me, my loc journey was about being free. Experiencing freedom with my hair. Not having to comb it every day and literally showing up as I am. I think the politics around locs has taken away from that idea of freedom.
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I’m from the U.K. and my family are from multiple Caribbean islands and I’ve never seen super manicured locs. Before I got my locs I’d ask my uncles and aunties (on the Jamaican side) how to take care of them and they said they always retwisted 1-2 times per year, so I’ve always retwisted twice a year too. I know we are super creative and resourceful by nature but the obsession for perfection is really a drug 😩
I love manicured locs! 😍😍 but I’m also someone who loves fresh cuts! New hairstyles! And freshly washed hair!
I'm in the UK also, I don't have locs but my mother and late father both had locs. My mother has had hers for 40+ years and only retwists once a year... if she can be bothered lol. They were also both Jamaican 🤷🏾♀️
My fathers from Jamaica too! I don't re-twist anymore!
@@waheedanaomi It's defo something you see from the older gen. I have no issues with manicured locs, but I do think a lot of people obsess over the fresh retwist look.
I knew a guy that was obsessed with his locks growing long super fast. And obsessed with them looking sleek all the time. And his mom was only like you need to get your hair done every time she saw him.
Locs in the 70s and 80s were predominantly worn by Rastas and the whole point of it was about being natural and anti establishment. It then became more of an aesthetic hairstyle and a way to wear your hair naturally with an aspiration to achieve length. My Mum has had locs for well over 20 years and as Jamaicans it was associated with Rastas but after visiting Trinidad in the late 90s early 00s it was there she saw, very neat, manicured locs. This is what inspired her to loc her own hair. She has neat locs but she tends not to over twist her hair on a regular basis and prefers a fuller look as opposed to laid edges and partings. She hates seeing scalp.
The word "neat" is a problem
@@ertfgghhhh I did question my phrasing but I think culturally even in precolonial africa black people have their own idea of what is neat or not, that isn’t necessarily Eurocentric. We have an aesthetic and an idea about what is considered beautiful, done, neat and complete. We plait our hair, with careful consideration about how to section hair. We also redo our hair after a period of time, in order to maintain our own ideas of beauty. So in this case I thought it was ok to use the word neat. In Jamaica, Rastas tend to be against grooming and vanity. I think this is unique to them and black cultures have always had their own unique ideas about these concepts.
@@moniquel6273 my father is trini and has been since early 70s. He has always been about grooming....
The problem with the wording is the same problem with the word "good hair". Is the same problem with people saying if your edges aren't pulled, your hair isn't done......
@@ertfgghhhh What I consider neat, is locs that have been sectioned and rolled from root to tip on a consistent basis. It created uniformity, in the sizing of each loc and results in a tighter packed loc. Rastas locs were traditionally free form and were the result of the natural structure of afro hair - the only grooming involved is washing the hair. There is a difference in intention in each process. Rastas are anti beauty, anti aesthetics. Whereas the other approach is an intention to achieve beauty and a desire to create beauty with natural afro textured hair.
@@moniquel6273 i would argue that both intentions are to exhibit beauty because we in our natural form is beauty. That is what i was taught as a child.....and my fathers hair has, for more than fifty yrs, been seen as beautiful by people of all cultures. When i became a young adult in the 90s, they were already scrubbing the floor like a long train. I have never seen my father tighten his locs. The problem is the eyes of the beholder. To think that neat means to tighten like fresh braids. Your hair will naturally loc on its own over time. They dont need to be tightened.
People do with their hair what they want. It is no longer a lifestyle and declaration of love of being black/political.... It is now purely a style and hijacked by hiphop culture. But then again, who are we to gatekeep? Locs and dyshekis actually began in asia (india)
Girl, I was thinking THEE same thing!!! Like it seems like the Loc community has the same issues as the loose natural community as far as the obsession with having curly locs, curly ends on locs, and baby hairs. Please let’s not make relaxing locs a thing, like seriously??😩 you look so beautiful, that blue makes you look Regal. Thanks for this video ❤️❤️❤️
You took the words out of my mouth. I can only speak for myself, but I got locs because I don't want to be bothered with doing my hair. If I have time to do all that to my hair, I have time to be a loose natural. To be honest, I have lower back length locs, but I prefer to keep them wrapped up. Every queen needs a crown and I will proudly wear mine.
I feel it is seeping into the loc community because many naturals only want locs because because their hair won’t grow ( yes their hair is growing but no length retention). This is why so many comb them out , their locs were never about acceptance of self. I do not have locs, I think they are beautiful but I have commitment issues.
That’s why I don’t buy it when the natural hair community comes for protective styles or the wig community…
Like I see how y’all talk about kinky textures. I see how y’all shun them. (Obvi not all of y’all but Lord it is PREVALENT! Don’t let someone have short 4c hair because then they are ignored. Immediately.)
The self hatred didn’t stop just because you took the wig off: it’s a HEART thing.
The one with a wig one may love herself more than you do, because her heart towards herself is healed (grace of God).
@@godiswithyou.5358 there is no winning in the natural hair community. best to do what makes us happier
It was Lauryn Hill's locs for me ❤.
"Slick wet dog" 😂😂😂
Its like a gravitational pull for some frfr
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I literally had someone say to me today "I can't see your scalp!" Yeah, I know. That's the whole point of my locs growing. I usually get my locs retightened every 8 weeks and it's currently due. I personally love all the new growth, it makes my hair look thicker and fuller 😍. And coming from a place where I didn't know if my hair would even grow back after falling out due to an illness, any and all hair growth is cherished and appreciated.
Same
Smh they said that? I'm not surprised
People can be so ignorant
i wouldhve said something so out of line and just as disrespectful to them. i wouldhve been like well i can see your stup1dity gtfo my face yo. pple are exhausting AF
Love it when my locs get fluffy😊
You're so glowey and bright eyed, your energy ❤
Right! Like look how white her eyes are 🤩
I’ve been loced since 2000 and even back then in NYC, you saw the Sis and Bro with thick new growth. Having manicured locs 24/7/365 with pulled down front hair laid wasn’t even a thing back then in NYC.
Furthermore, I work in Corporate America and my “unmanicured” locs never stopped me for being gainfully employed during my whole career.
This is wild! The nicest locs come from the kinkiest hair. All my loc goals come from the 4c girlies. The Lisa Bonnet Locs make me think of white folks/grinch fingers 🥴
LITERALLY MY EXACT THOUGHTS! Locs with looser hair texture just don’t hit the same. Lauryn hill stays being my loc goals 😩
Same!! it was news to me today that Lisa’s hair was dread goals for many. But it makes sense bc when I think of it that faux dread “bohemian” look was in. But for some reason I didn’t think much of it. I didn’t know it was connected to this.
This is why blk Americans don't belong in the loc community. Not all blk people habe 4c hair. Yet y'all think y'all the authority on what's blk or not. The amount of fully blk people with lose textured hair with locs disagree with your nonsense
Grinch fingers??😂😂
Same I always think locs with looser hair textures werelike Walmart and the type 4c locs were Chanel
It is so disgusting and disturbing that somehow texturism has come to the loc community I knew that as soon as people with looser hair textures became loc influencers it was coming. I got locs to get away from natural hair texturism cause locs were so esthetically black/type 4 exclusive. My locs made me feel like my natural self and unapologetically kinky then here comes this shit. 😢🤬🤮
I got locs to get away from texturism too. I was still in school and being bullied for having 4c hair. My edges weren’t laid and people said I looked homeless. When I got locs instead of insults I was getting compliments. It completely changed my self confidence. The fact that this texturism and laid edges is coming to the only hair community I felt safe in makes me want to cry. It’s been a long journey to learn to love my hair. I feel like all the progress I’ve made is being taken away.
No because tell my why when I was researching locs in 7th grade a white man popped up💀. It really comes from within as well because I literally fought with my mom for a year to get them at first. Even when she agreed she’d always research retwisting and ask me when I’d get them “done”. Now that my hair is longer she even wants them herself - I’m semi free form now so there’s still no shortage of “when are you fixing them” comments. Honestly it’s really sad, I felt when they said whiteness is a gravitational pull because it seems impossible to escape. We make a new space for ourselves that over time is dominated by those that proximate white the closest.
@@angelica69 The problem isn't the problem your reaction is, stay strong and proud!
@@angelica69 just like other things, it’ll come and go I think. ppl appropriate and move on to the next “trendy style” from the bc. so don’t feel any sense of stress if u can help it 💓
@@_ghoul3z Thanks! I agree as soon as it’s not trendy those same people will move on to something new.
This is completely off topic, but, you have big beautiful eyes
I was thinking the exact same thing
Yea. She needs to do more videos this close to the camera 😁
This is exactly how I felt when I saw Halle Bailey hair in the Little Mermaid and the but extensions in her locs. I was so happy to see little black girls who grew up wearing locs being seen as a princess and being seen as feminine when a lot of the time that isn't granted to them and when they put those straight extensions in her hair that kinda masks her locs it felt like they were saying that her hair isn't pretty/feminine enough. Especially with Disney's history of policing black actresses hair China Anne McClain has spoken about how Disney director has pressured her to perm her hair or wear weave when she was on Ant Farm similar thing was said to Raven Symone, Monique Coleman and many more. So I do question why they had her put in hair extensions, cause in the film industry everything is done with a purpose what is the purpose of this. BTW this is no hate towards Halle Bailey.
YES
It makes more sense for a mermaid to have locs because they are water creatures. The hair will eventually loc up being in that environment.
@@LaiLai.. I didn't think about it like that, that is so true. But this just motivates me more to create film and animation that caters to the voices and people who never gets seen.
I used to work at the mouse. Disney has always had a thing imho with the “All American” (aka very Eurocentric) look, and honestly it’s something they’ve JUST started to relax on in the last few years (in the parks)
I’m sure to a degree it’s the same with their tv, movie and stage productions, they want the mass appeal that keeps Dis fans on the hook, and stepping too far from that All American norm alienates the more closed minded people who also tend to be major Disney fans and consumers. You can see this in the backlash surrounding the change of theming in Splash Mountain to a Tiana bayou theme, and you def saw it with the reactions to Halle as Ariel and having a black Tinkerbell, etc etc.
honestly I think a big part of it is about how it moves in the water and adding the extensions just makes it fuller and more flowy so I’m not mad at it
I always regret it after the fact when I get a retwist (I rarely do, typically for occasions)bc of how flat and thin it looks… locs look so much better thick and wild
Yes, they do. I got a retwist one time and almost cried bc I felt I messed up my hair
Same 😂 I just got my hair retwisted and I was so sad. I hate how it looks. Lol I only get a retwist like every 4 months.
Omg yes. Especially if you’ve had a style in, the take down always has me 😖 at how skinny they tend to look after being imprisoned for a few.
Not a fan lol
This is so real. I just got my locs retwisted for graduation and I miss my bushy hair. I won’t retwist again until Christmas at this point 😫
Protect y’all’s space. I was around for the rise and fall of the natural hair movement.
I watched the type 2B, 3A girlies come in and take over once the natural hair movement started to gain mainstream traction. When type 4 content creators (and the supporters) tried to call this out we were gaslit and accused of being divisive. That natural hair was for everyone when we all knew good and dang well type 2s and 3s have never been discriminated against in the community. They were always uplifted in the BC for “having Indian in their family”. That standard was the reason for the movement in the first place.
In the span of a few years type 4 creators were completely pushed out of the space that they built and type 2 and 3 girls were supported . Got all the recognition and all the sponsorships.
And I can’t be completely angry at the type 2s and 3s because it was blk folks that yet again placed them in that elevated position to be able to take over. Type 4s didn’t have enough support to even try and hold the line.
History is repeating itself. Fight back and fight hard against those that want to come in and stratify the Loc community. Don’t allow yourselves to be gaslit as we were. Hold the line for type 4s.
i swear no ones hair looks like these influencers, even people with natural type 2 or 3 hair. it took me years to find a video of one with her actual naked productless hair, before she proceeded to spend like 2-4 hours washing it to be that bouncy defined 3b/3c texture thats so glamorised. and how long will that keep for? maybe two nights if youre lucky? we need to put the NATURAL back into natural hair for real i wonder how many little girls out there feel so badly about themselves cause their hair stays looking more like the starting point than the finished product.
like it was at the point where i was just like i guess im a whole new category bc when id look up 3c hair care it would look nothing like my hair, because their routines are on already done hair. +1 we have to support our 4type sisters cause i can only imagine the frustration and fuckery yall go through
The Basics 101
I agree!!!👏🏿❤️
@@lisdexamphetaminethis is so Fuckin REAL!! I’m a type 4b/4c girlie that’s had locs since I was a child but I remember me and my best friend in high school trying desperately to figure out WTF her hair texture was. Spent WEEKS doing it and we couldn’t find tutorials for her curls ANYWHERE. Come to find out later she’s 3b and we just couldn’t find a 100% Black dark/brownskin girl doing 3b styles on hair WITHOUT products. Not only are the type 4s pushed out, but as you said, the type 3s being represented don’t even look right !!!!
Yeah I’ve seen people (mainly women) combing the ends of their locs out hoping to achieve curly ends. Texturism once again has people in a chokehold.
How is texturism combing out your OWN hair to show YOUR natural curl pattern at the end of your locs? No perm was added. Simple comb and maybe some water sis. It’s more of a stray from traditional constricts which is to be expected as time goes on and more, fairly creative individuals join the community. I have traditional locs as I am Jamaican and was raised by a Rasta but I would never sit here and holler isms because my sister wants to wear her hair to fit her liking. You have your whole leg out in a picture, I guess sexualism has you in a chokehold 😒
I think this is a bit of a reach love. I had locs for 10 years, got them back in 2010 when it wasn’t such a fad like now. I combed the tips of mine out, not because of texturism, it was after all my loose natural hair at the tips, I just wanted them to coil like usual. That’s just switching your style up trust I love my Afro hair. Locs are not our natural texture u intentionally not comb it out to get the meshed hair and length. So combing the tips just allows your natural texture to still remain at the ends.
@@andreamitchell485 I don't think it's the case for everyone. But some people are combing out their locs to mimic looser hair textures that are harder to loc or take longer to loc so the ends are naturally loose (at least for a while). Some want this look and are disappointed when their texture doesn't give the desired results. Everyone has their own reasons though.
@@andreamitchell485 girl you making to much sense 😂
@@andreamitchell485 this!!! I comb mine out because I miss my natural hair and it’s the only way to feel like I’m replicating the styles I miss, without taking them out.
Off topic but your eye makeup really brings out your eyes in this video. They’re beautiful
I started my locs about 2 months ago and I started them because after having a baby, for the first time I’ve felt ugly. So I decided to start a journey…mind, body and soul. I’ve always kind of disliked my hair because it’s thin. I’ve always wanted nice thick hair and it bothered me when I was permed, then loose natural and now I’m deciding to embrace it with locs…just accepting that my hair won’t look like those women with thick locs down to the butt. Anyways…the journey is spiritual…to heal self hate.
I had fine hair when I started my locs,its fine but I have a lot of it! I have a videos see if we are the same texture..
I hope you grow to love your hair and this journey more and more ❤ and your locs will definitely thicken up! Wait and see how it looks a year from now :)
Grow to love every strand Sis...congratulations on the baby...be patient with the journey ❤
I am a paralegal and I have been growing my LOCs since 2004. With that being said in my field of work just Growing locs was considered a rebellion 😂🤣 and the way we police each other hair is #insane it's giving (jealousy & envy) Go natural do you and LOVE your hair texture it's who U are. So don't hate on folks that don't fit your expectations. That's freedom. 🎉❤💜 sometimes I'm wild sometimes I'm not.
I'm the opposite, I hate re-twist because I don't like my scalp showing, once my hair grows out, I love them again. I usually go months without a re-twist until the new growth threatens the LOC quality, then I'll do a tightening(sis.loc'd)
Sis, you just made me feel so good. I knew it wasn't the only person who felt like they didn't need their sistalocs retightened constantly.
@@MrsUniverSOUL
Constant retightening causes tracton alopecia, especially in sister locks.
Of all the antiblackness I've had to unlearn texturism is by far the hardest and it is so hard for me personally to get over. Also, its just that you get treated sooo much better when your hair more closely aligns to western standards
I noticed this when I started locin my hair.. personally I love my hair texture and I didn’t get locs to escape my self hate ( I just like locs and was getting bored with my hair) but with the perming the edges and curly ends fetish..I just hate that so many self hating people are bringing their problems in this community as well. But I dunno how to have this conversation without ppl thinking I’m hating
Truth hurts isn't just an expression lol You're not a hater. Those who get upset are just butthurt and feel threaten
Idk, Perming and locing seem very contradictory
Yeah,I also noticed a difference between older people with locs, often times they choose locs because they did not want such a great effort in maintaining: no obsessive retwisting or washing. Just let it and love it!
This is why I NEVER wore faux locs due to the actual spiritual meaning of growing real locs. I always felt it was disrespectful to see BW wear fake ones. I eventually got them (accidentally) and got so attached to them that I didn’t want to take them out. How you wear your hair is so spiritual and it’s annoying to see BW sensationalize and exotify something that is supposed to be really sacred.
And can we talk about Black women’s obsession with Lisa Bonet, when she’s never EVER claimed to be a Black woman. Zoe Kravitz even says she felt uncomfortable in her Blackness. Why do BW obsess over people that don’t acknowledge them?
History that's why
COLONIZERS WILL DO WHAT THEY FEEL THEY ARE ENTITLED TO DO.
IT ( THEY ) ARE A CANCER .
WHAT DOES CANCER DO??
( If you don't attack it at the source ?)
THATS RIGHT!!
IT SPREADS!!
I agree re the faux locs...
I love me sum faux locs. I really could loc up my hair with how much I invest into faux lovs
Lisa Bonnet isn’t a black woman though; she’s mixed race. Why would she claim to be something she’s not
I agree with everything you said! The idea of perming locs is absolutely and ridiculously counterintuitive. I couldn't even believe that people were starting to do that. I didn't even know about the extensions at the ends thing! Yikes. BTW, I LOVE your hair! It's so mesmerizing. Even my husband said that he loves your hair!
Your makeup and style is always sooooooo creative and unique ❤❤
Anyways regarding the video, I’ve been working on wearing my hair unstretched, but I’ve been putting gel on the ends of my hair and I have like 4b/4c
Whiteness is absolutely a gravitational pull that’s so spot on and it sucks 😔😑
Dear God… no! You have got to be kidding me! I don’t have locks but don’t bring this toxic biracial obsession into the lock community. 😢 the lock community is the last pure black community that WAS peaceful.
This is what happens when american blk ppl involve their politics in everything. This space isn't for y'all but here we are. Y'all don't even people like myself black even though I am, simply because my parents arw from the islands. The same island y'all associated with locs ans weed for decades. Y'all are gross
Excuse me? Wow. So pure black huh? We chose to be biracial? Being biracial is not antiblack you know. We are still black. At least your predjudice/black supremacy is not covert. Its right out here. What a horrible person you are. Im done i dunno how to love my blackness with black people like you.
If you think biracial people are the only ones with so called good hair, you're sadly mistaken. Y'all act as if you don't have the ability to ignore people.
Pure Black Community? 🙄
@@ginaschlitz6337 insanity indeed
Been freeforming for 1.5 years my hair looks like wool, in that dreadfro stage and I think it’s kool cuz most people don’t have texture like this. Never liked looking other people since I was little. loving the journey and the process. Freeforming to me is a lifestyle that is free from all the standards, boxes, color, texturism just enjoying life and my unique place in this world overall. I get a lot of compliments from different races of people and they mention things like it’s kool or say they wish they hair could do this.
Ik ur hair clip is a butterfly but ur makeup is really giving butterrrrfllyyyyyyyyyyyy metallic magic. Amazing ur looking fucking smoking
STOP 🛑 policing BWs hair ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
Damn if we do damn if we don’t , can BW just live ?????
We are constantly being criticized about our looks (weight , hair , skin ,and etc ) it’s just never ENOUGH!!!!! 🤬😡🤬😡🤬
LET US LIVE ‼️‼️‼️‼️
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Indeed! Can I, my hair, and couchie just breathe! Dam enough already!
I enjoyed your video as usual. I will say that I noticed girls/ladies with the faux locs, which are looser, would wear those. Then, if you ask them if they ever thought about getting real locs, it's a quick no. Lastly, I love your hair with the bigger look rather than the Eurocentric hang time. I have manicured micro locs and I absolutely hate the scalpy look when I get a fresh re-twist.
Mayowa, I’m glad you made this video. I long for the day that people stop chasing these ‘aesthetics’. They need to give it a rest. To me, locs are a way to let go of societal pressure, it pains me to see people manipulate them through influence
Its amazing how much your Page has grown 💪🏾💯❤️
Growing up I feel like I know 3-4 light skinned girls with locks who are toxic af, but no one notices because they're ✨spiritual✨ 😂
😂😂🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣💀💀
😂😂😂
Y’all are obsessed with light skinned people
Saw a video of a girl with kinky hair adding wavy (type 1) wefts to the ends of her locs. She described it as a permanent change. To each their own but it felt odd to me
The purple is making your eyes pop! I love it! and all of the decolonization that your doing.
First of all let me have my fangirl moment. You are looking so beautiful as always sis. 😍✨
You spitting nothing but truth. But also REAL TALK. You sre stunnnning. This lip looook is soo slay slay slayyyy.
I might be the minority but I never really loved Lisa bonets locs, it jus never looked fully locked.
I thought it was just me!
Same!
Same. Locks on any other texture than type 4 doesn’t look good to me.
Girl! Your makeup is distractingly beautiful❤❤❤
I remember being a teenager asking my mom to do my baby hair. I would see her and my sister doing theirs. She told me I didn't have "that kind of hair". She was being honest but, I later cut my hair and rocked a brush cut for years. Now I have my 3rd set of locs and I am still trying to unlearn some behaviors/thought processes.
I love how big your free form locs are. I take months to retwist my locs but I hear how I NEED a retwist all the time from my partner. I hear comments about textures and features from him almost all the time and have called him out on his colorist and texturist remarks. He has deflected many times.
Keep making the videos and spreading information. Thanks and I am happy that I find you today ! New subbie. 😊
1. love the thumbnail for this video lmaoooo
2. when i saw that video of the girl cutting her loc extensions to add loose/straight hair, i thought i was a hater for thinking it was insane & ugly.
3. please continue keeping your foot on the necks on people that spread colorism and texturism. it has helped me reassess some of my behaviors as well as the behaviors of people around me. these things are so ingrained in our daily lives that you have to actively do the work to unpack how these thoughts and behaviors stem from white supremacy. thank you for your work
Beautiful look and beautiful video. Your videos have helped me so much to unlearn the systematic self hatred. Black women love your natural hair and looks and stop chasing these european beauty standards. They could never.
I am so glad that I found you again! I changed my YT Channel handle because my WHOLE LIFE changed and I lost connection with you, but I digress…I have been following you for a while firstly due to my own loc journey moving from Sisterlocks to freeform locs. I love seeing your growth and I appreciate that you are still here serving it up. Love the video 🎉You never disappoint because your content is so inspiring and inclusive with self-love and self-acceptance for those of us who are unpacking our own issues with spiritualism, naturalism, and how we show up in all our black glory. Long story short, I ditched my high maintenance self-installed Sisterlocks around 2 years ago because I wanted to have a love affair with my natural glory starting with my crown and I haven’t looked back since. I had no idea what my hair would do but I was determined to love it and leave it. To my amazement, it started locking up pretty quickly and it continues to evolve as do I. Never have I experienced such a range of emotions and feelings about my identity but no regrets. I try not to get caught up with thoughts about why didn’t I try free-forming sooner or comparison which only serves to support loc envy whenever I see someone like you with much fuller/thicker locs but if/whenever it pops up, I simply try to sit with it and get curious about what triggered it in the first place. I’m far from perfect but I do love myself and my locs nearly unconditionally because much like my locs, I am a wonderfully created creation in progress. Stay blessed beautiful one
It’s so amazing to find your channel we have the exact same hair texture. I used to dream when I was little of having a curly hair and when I woke up I would cry so much. It was stupid, I wish someone would have encouraged me to live my hair but I had to make that choice myself as I grew up. I never liked doing edges but people sometimes would comment and say I should, and when my hair was in it’s simple form I would get questions about what I would do next to my hair. This is over and done I am now 3 months into my lock journey and learning to love my hair everyday ❤. Thank you for your content you’re amazing
I’ve had locs for like a year and my favorite part of my journey was when I DIDNT have access to a loctician for extended periods of time. It was something really beautiful about appreciating my hair in its raw ass natural state. I’d love to hear more of your thoughts on professionalism and black hair because for me regular retwists are necessary for work. Love you videos, thank you for sharing your perspective!
I like your makeup.
I love you, you are black and have no apologies for being black and the fact that you make it clear that people are free to do their thing. You trying to educate us on black hair. Big up to you.😊
Love the makeup look!! The eyebrow, color detail, and eyeshadow shape is *chef’s kiss* 👏🏾
I need people to work through their insecurity, instead of projecting on black women minding their business.
I love your Texturism videos. 👏🏾
My husband love to tell me I look like a runaway slave when I go months without retwisting… it offends me yea but I’m learning to me in my natural state and others want me to dye it , twist every 6 months blah blah blah… I love your videos momma keep going
That is...not ok and very anti-black to say. I wouldn't let that slide.
Thank you for this video. I have had my microlocks for about 1.5 years now (my second time locking in my life). And I've been hyperfixating on my babyhairs and overall frizz. I have a lot of grow out from loosing hair due to stress in 2020. Didnt help that my grandmother told me i need to "do something about my hair" because it looks like a rats nest 😑. I know I have internal bias and self hate twards the way my hair is. I need to relax and let my hair be my hair.
I love your honesty. I got caught up as well when I had locs. People I didn’t even know reminded me to re-twist. And I kept that scalp visibility. I had to check myself.
Yup. People will compliment you on your locs being “neat” and you can hear that subtle shade in their voices about locs that aren’t “neat.” It reminds me of being told you’re not like those other Black people.
Yesssssss the eyeshadow matching the hair accessories is everything
You are definitely speaking facts!! L👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾I’ve recently started my loc journey, almost 2 months in and needless to say it’s an entirely different level of learning self love and unpacking a lot of BS. I’ve always been such a spiritual person, so I’ve been about self love, happiness, joy, self work and all that goodness lol, although for a decade now I’ve been really taping into it more and more once I stopped fighting the thoughts of “unpopular” opinions in my head. I just got to the point of I don’t care anymore like this is how I feel, these are the truths that I know and I’m a bask in it lol. Learning to love our darker shade of brown complexion (yes I went there lol) and the texture of our hair is a journey we SHOULD OF NEVER had to nor have to go through but here we are, and with that it has made me admit that yes I love myself as a plus size, darker complexion woman BUT also loving yourself out of allllll that conditioning/brainwashing of our hair WHEW!! It’s an entirely different ballgame!! There has been people way younger than me and I’m 36 that can’t even stand what’s coming out of their scalp and question why I won’t get mine “redone”🙄lol, I say, I don’t mind my roots, yes, I don’t mind a retwist at some point BUT I don’t see the need for me myself to do it so regularly, I love my roots and starting this journey has made me realize how much more I love my roots…I’m a kinky sista lol, I’m getting emotional just thinking about all the kinkyness of my new growth😍😍😍. I just love it!!
Hahaha I was trying to read your shirt all video. Big up yuh self muma!
This is such important dialogue! I think you’re on point as usual 💅🏾Most of my family has locs and you really see a lot of variety, the younger generation definitely has this thing about a constantly neat parts and laid edges vs the older generation and I think the correlation with texturism is undeniable.
I have semi freeforms and catch myself also wetting my hair alot to get that more “vertical” look with my hair, to make it more “presentable” or “pretty”. I also think grooming and styling and manipulation is something we love to do as a culture and I think we can do so with pride (our hair can do so much!)- but antiblackness is insidious and has deep roots in our diaspora so we really have to critically think about the cultural impact of certain styles, esp in an antiblack world
Great discussion….I really love & appreciate the way you call out the discrimination Black people experience just for existing…..it’s real and we’re not being sensitive, the constant bullying & oppression needs to be addressed
This blue on you is everything 😍😍😍
I really liked the more natural look when I had locs. I was told to retwist ALL of the time. Sometimes as an insult. They didn’t understand that I did NOT want one.
I've always been opposite💜
I LOVED my afro❤❤
My biggest concern about getting locs was that I didn't want them to look straight nor flat👎🏽👎🏽
When I first put in my twists in order to let my 4c hair loc - I HATED the way the twists/locs curled at the ends
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I've been RELIEVED that my ends have budded.
I also LOVE my froey semi free form locs (I don't retwist, but I do twist the roots 2 - 3 times per year)❤❤
My only problem now is that I LOVE the nappy roots, but I'm wondering how long I can let my hair grow out without worry about the locs breaking off 🤔
I've only been loc'd almost a year -
So it's trial & error🤷🏽♀️💜😂‼️
I tried to go semi-freefrom because I love the unmanicured look as well but unfortunately my new growth grows away from my dreads. I have to crochet them,retwist,or even braid it down the loc to fully combine the two. If yours grow with your dreads then you're good but if you notice that it doesn't, i'd suggest finding ways to combine. Leaving mine for months(6month I think) without any maintenance was a bad idea lol. It got super thin and some broke off since the base wasn't reinforced to support the length . 3 years in :) I know a lot more and considering starting over or making them thicker but to get them combined is very expensive. good luck on your journey.
Thank you for all your content and all you do for our community! You’re gorgeous and your commentary is TOP TIER, I love running into educated black women who can articulate themselves beautifully (as you do)!
❤❤❤ KEEP IT COMING!!! BINGING YOUR VIDEOS AS WE SPEAK!!!
I really enjoy hearing you speak your views and your thinking on hair, blackness, and the body. . Thank you for your transparency
Another great informative video! I didn't even know this was going on in the loc community... so 😔.
Some of this is that Meaghan Good faux loc style which is based on the Lisa Bonet mixed girl loc style becoming so big. And it’s a cute style I have never seen it on anyone it didn’t flatter. But it seems like there’s pressure now for real 4C locs to look like that. Which is yes anti blackness cause it’s like a “natural” aesthetic that looks more white. I have gotten it over my locs a couple of times when I wanted bright color cause I don’t want to bleach my hair. But I’ve stopped because it’s like why spend all that time and money for an aesthetic that is already an imitation of what I already have?
Just learned a new term/ style/ layer/nuance
I was today years old when.I learned the distinction between lots and wicks. So informative.
I truly ♥️ your content!!! My hair is between the "2 worlds" but I was raised with a Texturist so I was able to embrace my Africaness via locs!!! My locs are are spiritual bc it allowed me to embrace my natural being!!! Keep your voice, bc it is Needed!!! Thank you, from an elder to you, in age 😉!!!
Disney literally doing this in The Black Little Mermaid 🥴🥴🥴
what do you mean? halle’s hair has always looked like that
@@bunnytime8235 yeah I think Halle’s scalp is almost always freshly retwisted. However, Halle does have type 4 kinky locs, that don’t have loose curls jutting out at the ends. This is how Disney has decided to style her hair in the mermaid film, actually with straight hair coming out of the locs.
@@digitallychelsea oh okay, thank you for clarifying and being so kind about it! I see what you mean now that I saw some other pictures of her from the movie
Yeah man, I’ve grown my hair out for the past 5 years and it is for spiritual reasons. When I hear people talk about their locs as an aesthetic, it bothers me. I can’t even bring myself to dye my locs a different color. I have a fixation on keeping my hair as healthy as possible and applying that to my lifestyle as well. It’s a practice of self-love for me.
Hair isn’t everything but I see the different styles as political.
I have been natural a bit now. I LOVE color in hair but I have not dyed my hair since 2019. What I do now is just use colored braids.
To some people they are just a moment. Their hair doesn't carry the same value to them as your hair does to you...try not to be bothered
Yooooo 🤯🤯 I can't even believe that this is a thing😩😩 PERMING UR LOCS IS WILD!
Watching your video. From a chocolate brown female that's hair is curled at the ends and closer to this Lisa Bona texture. This hair tangle is very easy. Not nappy but tangles. It is straight wavy but curls itself into a knot naturally on the ends. Crazy to manage 😮 It's a workout 💪 However, I plan to lock my hair once I retire from the military. But I can barely keep braids in. I'm mixed with Irish 30%, but my only my hair tells that story. I'm definitely a proud Black female, but my hair is so hard to manage being in between.
This makes me kinda sad. When i put my second set in i loved how the stype emphasised my curls. My hair locked in a way where i still had a lot of loose strands and it felt like the best of both worlds because as much as i adored my curls i love having locs more. Locs should be a way to celebrate your hair, not used as a new way to hate yourself.
I loveveee your locs!!!! They frame your gorgeous face so well!! I think the best part about locs is the variation in texture! With locs, I feel way more confident then I ever have! I'm so aware of my surroundings now, more than ever! They also feel so protecting! It's such an amazing feeling! 😌
I didn’t even know Lisa Bonet’s locs were aspirational. Really interesting video.
You are so super beautiful, and I love this channel! Let me get a cup of coffee so I can hear this chat, great topic and points.☕️💕
I love this video! I would like to point out that these Locticians are charging 200+ dollars for a re-twist. They’re also making TikTok‘s disrespecting freeform locs.
My ex has the tightly coiled hair and I loved his locks so much that I wanted locks too. I tried locking, but honestly it never looked the way I had envisioned it would. My hair has a looser curl, and my locks always had these fly-away strands everywhere, particularly at the scalp and my ends looked stringy. I eventually gave up and cut it all off. Lisa Bonet's locks are beautiful but, IMHO I prefer locks with tighter coiled hair.
i mean not saying it was ok but i remember when we used to call those loose/straight locs “grinch fingers” so ive been confused af that now the girls want them to look like that.
Whew tell it. Since I started swimming a lot i have really been struggling with my locs cause there’s no way to keep a fresh retwist and laid edges when they get wet frequently. I’ve been obsessed with keeping my locs smooth and “neat” and feel insecure when they’re fuzzy. I got faux red boho (what people are calling the Lisa Binet locs look) locs over my locs for The Little Mermaid premiere because I didn’t want to dye and damage my locs… taking that shit out almost ruined my hair and I lost a lot of locs and I think this kind of snapped me out of my delusions. I love my locs they’ve e been through so much with me. I’ve been saying to myself recently locs are nappy they are kinky why am I trying to make them look like they’re not.
That blue looks lovely on you. I also have free-form locks with your texture. Hers look nice but yours are beautiful.
i find this so interesting because i am someone with “3c-4a” hair and i’m just learning to appreciate the way my hair is loc’ing. at one point i thought that i shouldn’t have started my journey because i didn’t think my hair looked right compared to “4b 4c”locs. the idea of people perming their locs is so odd to me because i idolize “type 4 hair”.
I just started my locs 3 months ago and I adore them. I thought this would be more of a struggle because of how badly people talked about the process. I had loose natural hair for 14 years though so I already embraced my hair before starting. However I’ve never felt more beautiful than I do now and the fact that I started them myself is top tier. My hair locs so well because of how textured it is. I don’t do anything to feel beautiful now and I didn’t know that’s exactly what I needed. You look stunning by the way I’m loving the eyeshadow. Ethereal goddess ☺️
I really love the way your style your free forms 😍 they really suit you and when you accessorize ✨️👌🏼
Locs are supposed to be fun and we can do what we can w them. There should be no reason in the world people care this much about what others are doing w their hair!!! All loc journeys are different and I love my journey because it’s fun! There are no rules.
Hair is art. Do want you want with your hair. Lisa Bonnet is gorgeous. Have a good day and truly learn to love yourself. Nothing else will matter.
Big ups from Jamaica 🇯🇲
6:40 I hate when people say things to me and my kids about our hair needing to be done -- sometimes it hurts but most times I don’t care lol!
I'm surprised that these are the types of locs that the newer generation loc community is trying to achieved. To me the whole point of having dreadlocks or locs it compliments kinkier or nappier hair texture. In my opinion locs on Afro texture hair looks better whereas a looser curl pattern reminds me of Caucasian people trying to emulate locs which can be seen as unkempt since their hair is not meant to lock.
Spot on, again love. In the 70's & 80 they were call bongos worn by women and men. Both would cover with tams; and most were Rastafarians. Think young Bob, Rita Marley & family, David Hines (Steele pulse) Black Uhuru, Gregory Issac, or Basquiat. The idea of manicured or locksmithing was unheard of you did it yourself. Usually because your family and friends were on your head soo much about it. I combed my first set out. Locks didn’t become mainstream in the US until the 90's. It was considered alternative to ratchet in Jamaica and elsewhere. I hadn't pick up on a texturism view, but stands to reason dominant culture would come for locks too.
Monks in India (sadhus) had long bongos that the colonizing English hated them so much they called them; dreadlocks. Other people in west and east Africa also dreaded their hair. Using hair & butter from animals, and red clay.
Too much manipulation/ retightening will cause traction alopecia. Locking too narrow/thin (sister locks) break them off. Lenth is extremely important to others. Ironically the longer they've gotten the more stink eye from bw, which is unsettling. They can become heavy and cause dreadaches. I have waist length now on the crown the perimeter is just natural, they weigh 2.5 lbs. I tend to wrap it in a tignon or turban to retain moisture. They attract too much attention from men, can get caught in doors, intimidates dogs, fire. I can use them as a pillow at night, a neck scarf, cat-o-nine tails for defense, and a loof in the bath. It's a spiritual vibe for me; nothing wrong with how it was purposed to be. It always reverts back to its natural state anyhow. It's about showing up as my authentic self confident and grounded in my Afroness. Stay up princess ♠️🏴🐈⬛
Purple looks good on you. Thank you for your commentary.