I am a stay at home mom. It was always my dream to be a sahm. HOWEVER, if my husband had TOLD me I HAD to stay home, keep the house spotless, and was not ALLOWED to work? He would not be my husband.
@@Batman20777 no, it's when someone tells you something is no longer your choice, regardless of if it's your dream or not, and you recognise that as insane and controlling and in this case, mysoginistic. It's my dream to own a dog but if some dude told me "we're getting a dog and you can't say anything about it" I'm leaving because that's a huge red flag. He doesn't respect me or see my opinions or concerns as valid. I want a partner, not an overlord. The second it's "no longer up for debate" bruh... who taught you you could say shit like that without consequence? Took all the joy out of it. I say I want a dog and three months later he brings home a dog and says "by the way you'd better not complain, this is what I want and I don't care if you don't. I'm not going to ask your opinion, I'm telling you this is how things will be. So don't you dare say anything negative" out of the blue. His words and demeanor rattled me. I would be so shell shocked. Because now it's not about the dog anymore. Now it's about his insane need to tell me what to do and disregard my voice entirely. Now it's nothing to do with the dog, my dream. Now it's to do with his attitude towards me.
Not a woman but as someone who’s been surrounded by women all their life, emotional intelligence is a huge one. A lot of men aren’t emotionally intelligent then wonder why they’re unsuccessful with women. Respect, attentive listening (meaning listening to ABSORB the information and NOT TO RESPOND), communication, and conversation skills. Myself personally, these are few of many qualities I’d like in a partner (next to kindness and consideration and empathy) but I think most people who are looking to establish a secure and healthy relationship would desire them also
Emotional intelligence is basically a garbage construct. There's very little evidence that it's anything but general intelligence(IQ) combined with agreeableness. I think the correlation is like a .95 or something. For reference 1.0 Would be a perfect correlation. It also doesn't seem to correlate with relationship longevity at all. .015. That's nothing. This is honestly not a surprise given that honestly is a great predictor of relationship strength. And people high in agreeableness have a tendency to lie to make others happy a lot. If you remove the intelligence part of emotional intelligence it seems to be if anything slightly detrimental to relationships. IQ dose predict relationship strength so EQ dose as well. It just predicts less than IQ would on its own.
A lot of men who have empathy learn it’s an undesirable flaw in non-serious guy friendships. That is what happened to me, it’s hard being vulnerable and I almost don’t like it when someone is being vulnerable to me in a non wholesome way
“The relationship is like the third person” is genuinely some of the best advice I’ve ever heard. Never thought of it like that but it makes a lot of sense. We love Philosophy Joe
@@lizadoesray Definitely not. Only seen her a handful of times, I highly doubt she wants a man to "put her in her place." Being that she's not an air head, that's not something she needs. Not saying all women that like that are air heads, but a fair few of them are.
Some women just like men like that and r into the putting me in my place hence the dominatrix profession..being dominated and put in place is very normal lol
Oh without a doubt XD There isn't a single woman I know that actually wants that. Once the relationship is established, stable and he makes good money then MAYBE that can be a conversation. MAYBE.
0:47 pro tip, once you save the number in your phone, you can add notes! So once I hear something like favourite team, birthday or stuff like that I add it to the notes. If you get deleted from my contacts I also lose the notes so i don’t have to ever think about them again! 😊
@@cherylfreakouttI always ask simple questions like fave color, flower, etc. And remember those things. Plus if she mentions that she loves an item or writer... all gift ideas.
It’s so attractive when a guy knows fashion/cares about how they dress. Also when they wear unique fragrance. It’s an instant turn on when you’re with a guy and he turns heads and gets compliments on his looks and smell.
As a married man that cooks 99% of our meals, and has worked professionally in restaurants - it's one of the best skills in the attraction game hands down. Its really not that hard to make something like a kickass vodka pasta from scratch.
From scratch? You think most men have the skills to make fresh past from scratch? Or to make a tomato based vodka sauce from fresh tomatoes? I cook A LOT and I have made pasta from scratch like ONCE. I buy dried pasta. And I make the sauce from scratch, but even that I usually use canned San marzanos as the base. And even then it’s fairly labor intensive.
Emotional Intelligence is a very important aspect in relationships and I agree with what Joe said. My parents have been married for 28 years and my Dad taught me that you got to be aware of how your actions affect your partner. I admit that I’ve struggled with it because I don’t have much dating experience but it’s something I’ve worked on improving because I believe that in order to make someone happy, you need to have the ability to understand how they’re feeling and what you have to do in order to keep them happy.
The notebook one sounds silly but honestly I would appreciate it so much, listening is such a major factor in a relationship and almost every guy I’ve talked to cannot comprehend it
Autism has really helped me in this regard. My girlfriend is always surprised when I’ll mention something or get her something that she made a passing comment about months back. Also how I remember her exact clothing sizes, her favorite things, etc. Like this is fairly normal for me as I tend to research a lot of things thoroughly, but apparently my brain has a folder with her name on it and it retains even the smallest details. Honestly it’s just nice to finally have someone that appreciates that about me.
@@here151I wish my autism worked that way. My dad and I have the autism that retains detailed info about things but not people. I forget stuff about my boyfriend or realize I don’t know certain stuff about him all the time, it’s awful 😭 I can never remember what my friends are up to either. I know I need to work on asking deliberate questions, my dumb ass just assumes people will speak up about things if they want to unprompted. And if I realize I forgot something, I’m too embarrassed to ask about it again 😭
@@amandabisby3546 see I think as long as your boyfriend and friends accept this and know or are willing to learn how to communicate with you, you should be golden. For example, I have a pretty bad filter for what I say. It’s never malicious, but I have trouble stopping myself from saying my thoughts. My girlfriend understands that so she knows I’m way too honest about everything, and has both helped me learn to shut up sometimes but also has utilized it to help her speak up about things. It’s very much a learning process (especially if you’re diagnosed later in life. I was at 21 and I’m 22 now) so as long as you can be transparent about it with your partner, you should be good to go.
Show kindness to others. Early on, I noticed my husband would open doors for others, help someone if they were physically struggling with something, offer a hand to someone if we were hiking with a group, or even just hanging back to chat with whomever was the slowest. Telling a server they're doing a good job if they are dealing with a difficult customer, etc. these little things I took notice of very early on, and I felt, made him more attractive as a person
I don't shave my nuts for them. I don't shave my nuts for sex expectations. - I shave my nuts for ME. Regularly; constant upkeep. I like to be clean, I like to be bald (above AND below, as I also shave my head). I find it feels more comfortable (for me) when my boys can breathe. You don't have to see it, it doesn't need to come out - but that doesn't mean it won't be smooth down there REGARDLESS.
absolutely! that was such whack advice. I would never assume someone’s personal grooming was specifically FOR me. I’ve had guys accuse me of shaving specifically because I was planning to hook up, and I was like umm no, don’t flatter yourself, I do that for myself.
100% on the cooking. It doesn't have to be perfect, but if a man makes an effort to cook a good meal and a romantic atmosphere, I'd be so sold. Re: British oral hygiene, it's less about cleanliness and more about appearance. They're not as likely to get braces to straighten crooked teeth.
That relationship being its own person is actually great advice, there should still be space for each individual as well as the relationship. Also pretty have a suspicion that there was a fedora wearer behind the stay at home and cook and clean shit 😂
My cat of 12 years died while I was on a date. The guys' first words were, "When I see a woman cry, I get really hard"...I gave up dating for good shortly after.
Once I was with a dude and while we were at it I got a flashback to a traumatic event in my childhood I had forgotten about. I broke down, smoked on the balcony and when I came back to him in the bedroom I explained what happened. His response was, "So.. no sex now?" Ehhh.. no? ._.
I’d say the first one was on the right track but instead in your notes app write things she’s interested in or says she wants or likes so when it comes to her birthday or special occasions you know what to get her
My partner & I have been together for over 4 years. Early on, we each had a note in our notes app about things we learned about each other. Not appointments but things like middle name, fav food/desserts, allergies, & hobbies.
If they have memory issues then by the time they finish the date they've probably forgotten. Pretty sure that writing in the notebook during a date won't help get a second date. Seems a bit stalker-ish
@@mad082sssNot how memory issues work. I can remember things after a date, but ask me days, weeks, or months later and only a small fragment of information will be retained.
I feel you on the languages, Joe. I have three years of middle school Spanish and two and a half years of high school French and it’s all jumbled in my head.
Best advice = be respectful, be yourself, and be direct. If the girl is attracted you and you guys get along, great! If not, then it’s not meant to be.
I am a SAHM and homeschool our daughter. We have very traditional roles in our marriage but my husband is very involved in everything. HOWEVER, if he straight out told me he wanted or even demanded I fall into that traditional role, we would’ve never had another date.
@makenzie9023 No, it isn't. She would have flat out ignored his wants even though she wanted the same thing. She (and everyone who thinks like her) shouldn't be married.
@@alphacentauri1776 again, there’s a difference in a guy wanting a woman who WANTS to be a sahm and a guy who wants to FORCE a woman to be a sahm. ur def single tho so i dont think you need to worry about it too much 👍
No honestly, if you want a woman who's chained to the stove then PLEASE tell us right away, preferrably before we even go on a date. That's something you wanna know asap so no one has to waste any time.
Yeah, im a sahm because unfortunately i had to go on disability. I always expected to keep working but im lucky to have a man who is supportive of either one of those options!
The person who said "women wanna be put in their place by a man" is clearly a guy who wrote that. No sane woman would ever write that. Even the insane ones wouldnt say this 😂
@@annastasiaschmitt1283 fuckin same…. I’m gunna have to bring a notebook, record the conversation, or something. Cause jeez my memory sucks ass 🤦🏼♀️ forgot my age for a good 4 years till I googled it a couple days ago. I’d probably forget to breath if it wasn’t automatic
@@anjelicasamantha3469 I use my phone notes app and people’s contact notes section to remember their favorite things or things that I think are important. It helps so much.
My boyfriend and I found out a couple months into hanging out that we both kept a list in the Notes app of experiences the other mentioned having, their favorite things, things they mentioned about their hobbies, plans they had coming up, etc. It’s nice when the person you’re talking to cares enough to ask “how was helping your mom with her garden this weekend”, and I certainly don’t care what method they used to remember!
Out of all the reasons, that’s the dumbest one, lol. Do it for yourselves or do it for your date (not even for sex, but because it looks nicer). Forget other ladies. Why pay them any attention? You’re not dating them, you’re dating the guy.
I agree with all the other comments. Bitchy women will stay haters, and at the end of the day, they arent your friend or your date or the person paying for your date so their opinion is worthless. Quite frankly, I don't really shave for men. I like to see their reaction to body hair. If they act like a princess abt it, they ain't man enough for me 🤷🏻♀️
Me when I simply do not shave. Fuck them hoes judging you, be your hairy self lmfao. I do get why people want to shave (orher than societal shame) I just don't care and rather simply grooming myself and having good hygiene.
Please for the love of God i need guys to understand body language. Was dancing with a guy and I was just nooot into it and every time I leaned away or started to loosen my grip he would just force me back against him and I finally had to gently push him off me. Also, asking a girl “you feel okay/this okay?” And she says ANYTHING related to No- don’t keep going and say shit like “I got you/ don’t worry just relax” big fuck you 😅 asking if someone’s okay isn’t just something internal for you to check off that you did, listen!!
The no means no campaign just made men look for the "no" and stop there. "Well, she didn't say no"- yeah buddy, she said "not right now" "i don't think so" "i'm not sure about that" "can I think about?" "Not really"- these are all variations of NO. Even "not right now", it may be a yes for the future, but today it's NO. And then they'll complain that we drop hints and aren't clear when they just lack communication smarts.
I think the notebook thing is giving serial killer. I feel like if you’re ding it as a listening exercise for yourself that makes sense, but if you have to do it to remember anything she said, it means you didn’t care about anything she was talking about. I get not remembering everything, but if you’re actively listening, you won’t have to write everything down you’ll just remember. maybe if there are some key points you want to make sure not to forget, I can understand writing that down.
the one about wanting to be told what to do was either written by a man or a trad wife who was told by her husband to write it. do some women want that? yeah, there are weirdos out there, but the "most women want that" comment makes me think someone who's never touched a woman wrote it.
The cooking thing is so real. I don't want a man who is completely dependent on me to feed him like he's some sort of infant. Also, bonus advice: if SHE cooks for you, CLEAN UP THE KITCHEN AFTERWARD. This is more than just dating advice, honestly. I just came home from a Thanksgiving dinner where my mom, me, and my sister spent 3 days preparing a dozen dishes for 8 people and while my dad, BIL and friend helped put the food away so it wouldn't spoil (it was literally already in containers, all they needed to do was pop the lids on and put them in the fridge) and one of our guests-- who was a longtime friend of my BIL, not some acquaintance-- pointedly and explicitly REFUSED to lift a finger to help afterward because "he was a guest". If someone invites you to their home, prepares you a delicious meal, helps watch your kids, and then suggests that it would be nice to have the food put away put a lid on the damn stuffing and don't be a jerk.
I asked my doctor and he said it’s not really that good to use. That and you’re supposed to have some amount of stuff on your tongue for bacteria reasons. It’s kinda like the lady suggesting getting teeth whitening. Ya it “looks” nice, but it’s not healthy, nor is it even natural. Obviously you want to be hygienic and not let things get out of hand or gross. But we often insinuate perfection with healthy when that’s really not the case. And I think it would be good to remind (or teach) people what is normal/healthy because various ads and beauty industries have made us think otherwise. Your teeth aren’t supposed to be as reflective as a mirror and as white as snow. Our perceptions have been warped by marketing and not enough education.
@ ya I just listen to my dentist with the tongue scrapper! Doesn’t need to be perfect just not let the gunk fill up :) cause it does cause bad breath! I agree lots of people go over board with whitening the teeth and that causes damage in the long run. Brushing, flossing, tongue brushing or scrap is good :)
I learned how to speak Spanish in high school. Went to Mexico and was stoked I could communicate. Everyone laughed at me and now I forgot everything (no I’m not white, I don’t say grassy ass at restaurants)
My freshman year in college, I had a blind date that told me that I could continue to work as a doctor (I was pre-med at the time), but once "we" have kids, I was to stop working and stay home. I took my purse, paid the waitress for my coffee and took a cab back to campus. He told people he couldn't understand why I left. They called him an idiot.
From a mom perspective: Come on in and ask her how. Let her know how thankful you are for it. Be helpful. Learn. Bond. Take advantage of it and not for granted. ❤ and then learn to make a girl some bomb ass food
Ask your mom to teach you to cook. Watch her as she cooks. It’s fine if in her home she is the head chef. But if you’re of age to be dating, you need to know how to cook for yourself.
You would be surprised how many guys get hard when you’re in tears or in a depressed or sad moment. I don’t get it, but it’s damn annoying and kinda gross! I wonder if they think - ‘oh I can cheer you up… with my WANG’ urgh
My two theories- some of us look pretty when we cry. My eyes become much more starkly greener, but that's no excuse still to get hard at my distress. Second theory, this person watches WEIRD ASS P0rn that involves sending women to tears. Either way, Id avoid, bc a guy who cares about you wil not find your distress arousing, and if he does, he is disturbed and doesn't take you seriously.
I guarantee it’s not intentional majority of the time. As to why it can happen? Not sure. There’s no arousal. I’d assume it’s due to increased heart rate resulting in more blood flow as a whole. It’s not necessarily linked to sexual feelings. I’m sure there’s someone that did the science behind it tho
I feel like women need to learn about men just as much as men need to learn about women lol. Do you really think it’s intentional or related to arousal every time?
We do! Women have never been turned on by corny dancers. Some find it funny, cute, endearing, put up with it, hate it, but none find it arousing. Being a good dancer tho? Swoon.
I have always been sensitive to perfumes and colognes. When people go noseblind to their own fragrance, they start putting an excessive amount on. One spritz is all you need. My eyeballs shouldn't taste it.
Agreed, but what do you have to say to the women out there who want a man to buy them everything and take care of them? Because I feel like it goes both ways.
The notebook thing sounds excessive, but I write notes in the notes app about my man, and it’s extremely helpful. Especially for fleeting things or things that I’m not familiar with already: sports info, certain brands he likes, etc.. I don’t use it so much anymore, but it was great in the beginning, especially during holidays
4:11 so Americans tend to think that if you don't have BRIGHT WHITE, PERFECTLY STRAIGHT teeth, then your teeth are bad. We've been fooled through advertising to think this for decades. Orthodontists in the US prescribe braces at much higher rates than the rest of the world, because we tend to think of the tiniest bit of crookedness as bad. In truth, stains aren't indicative of bad oral hygiene. Yes, British people are less likely to get their teeth whitened than Americans, but their teeth are just as healthy, if not more so. They aren't constantly worried about their teeth being perfectly white and straight. It's funny the British are singled out in this way, because most of the world doesn't use braces or whitening to the extent America does (that includes developed nations). In most countries, you don't get braces for mild crookedness if it won't cause trouble later in life, but in the US we get them for the tinniest misalignment. Because of the ubiquity of American movies and culture, there's pressure on foreign actors to get their teeth fixed to American standards, even if they're healthy and fine, because we lose our shit if they're not BLEACHED WHITE. it's kinda unhealthy.
4:30 No.. My ex boyfriend would literally, NOT EXAGGERATING, brush his teeth for no more than 5 seconds. And didn’t floss. Btw I learned this years into the relationship. Also I realized I’m a lesbian so that relationship was doomed to fail anyway, but oral hygiene is still advice everyone should hear.
Or in my partner and I's case, just don't shave at all if you don't want to. My take on dating: be yourself, and that way when you find someone who likes you, you know they like YOU and not some facade you put up.
NOOOOOOO if a man leaves his pubic hair, if he encounters a woman who hates it, he can literally get rid of it in a few minutes. But if he encounters a woman who actually likes male bodies and despises the shaved pubes and thinks it looks like a damaged little boy and it repulses her, he can’t grow a normal near healthy beautiful trimmed bush in a few minutes. It’ll take weeks. Who on God’s green earth told men to start shaving their pubes? WHY DO YOU PREFER THAT? Can you actually explain it to me? It looks hideous on them. And then the stubbles are so painful and can literally cause us extreme harm! And it makes them more susceptible to STDs. What is the plus side?
Other than the obvious misogynistic advice, I agree with a lot of the others! I love my alone time, confidence is sexy, as well as being multilingual. My only advice for dating would be to maintain a life outside of just the relationship. Have autonomy and goals that are just for you, or try new hobbies. Centering life around a relationship can become limiting. It should be centered around balance and compassion for mutual growth.
it's very attractive when a guy takes care of himself. When they smell good, etc. And I don't mean drowning themselves in axe either! The "Stop getting boners when women cry" sadly hit home with me 🥲😂 one of my exes used to have this issue. He was verbally abusive, but once I started crying, he didn't want to argue anymore due to becoming AROUSED by my tears and the sound of me sobbing.
Sounds like he was a dacrophile - someone who derives pleasure from seeing their partner (or a person) cry. Your ex seems like a POS and I’m glad you’re no longer with him, sending love and light your way
If i found out a man had a notebook and logged every conversation, I’d think I was the next victim of a serial killer.
Fr lol, I'll just try to remember details I think i'll make it without the notebook lol
fr the thought of this is terrifying LMAOO
Fr same 😭
I need to do that after meeting with my boss
Entire conversations is wild, but if they had just key details like my favorite place to eat and thing to order, it's more endearing than creepy.
Joe! At least 85% of the women i know would rather watch a serial killer documentary than Emily in Paris lol
Right? I'll take that or an action movie before any romcom type shit 😂
+1
Right 🤣🤣 like we’re watching those John Wayne Gacy tapes together 🤣
Facts
Fsctsssss
I am a stay at home mom. It was always my dream to be a sahm. HOWEVER, if my husband had TOLD me I HAD to stay home, keep the house spotless, and was not ALLOWED to work? He would not be my husband.
@@hollyholfeld I LOVE THIS, you ate down
This !!!
SAME!
So when a nigga says to for you to do your dream it’s automatically you don’t wanna do it no more
@@Batman20777 no, it's when someone tells you something is no longer your choice, regardless of if it's your dream or not, and you recognise that as insane and controlling and in this case, mysoginistic. It's my dream to own a dog but if some dude told me "we're getting a dog and you can't say anything about it" I'm leaving because that's a huge red flag. He doesn't respect me or see my opinions or concerns as valid. I want a partner, not an overlord. The second it's "no longer up for debate" bruh... who taught you you could say shit like that without consequence? Took all the joy out of it. I say I want a dog and three months later he brings home a dog and says "by the way you'd better not complain, this is what I want and I don't care if you don't. I'm not going to ask your opinion, I'm telling you this is how things will be. So don't you dare say anything negative" out of the blue. His words and demeanor rattled me. I would be so shell shocked. Because now it's not about the dog anymore. Now it's about his insane need to tell me what to do and disregard my voice entirely. Now it's nothing to do with the dog, my dream. Now it's to do with his attitude towards me.
Not a woman but as someone who’s been surrounded by women all their life, emotional intelligence is a huge one. A lot of men aren’t emotionally intelligent then wonder why they’re unsuccessful with women. Respect, attentive listening (meaning listening to ABSORB the information and NOT TO RESPOND), communication, and conversation skills.
Myself personally, these are few of many qualities I’d like in a partner (next to kindness and consideration and empathy) but I think most people who are looking to establish a secure and healthy relationship would desire them also
Yeah that’s just being a well adjusted human? Not exclusive to just men?
Emotional intelligence is basically a garbage construct. There's very little evidence that it's anything but general intelligence(IQ) combined with agreeableness. I think the correlation is like a .95 or something. For reference 1.0 Would be a perfect correlation. It also doesn't seem to correlate with relationship longevity at all. .015. That's nothing. This is honestly not a surprise given that honestly is a great predictor of relationship strength. And people high in agreeableness have a tendency to lie to make others happy a lot.
If you remove the intelligence part of emotional intelligence it seems to be if anything slightly detrimental to relationships. IQ dose predict relationship strength so EQ dose as well. It just predicts less than IQ would on its own.
It's too much of a hassle for most of them lol
A lot of men who have empathy learn it’s an undesirable flaw in non-serious guy friendships. That is what happened to me, it’s hard being vulnerable and I almost don’t like it when someone is being vulnerable to me in a non wholesome way
“The relationship is like the third person” is genuinely some of the best advice I’ve ever heard. Never thought of it like that but it makes a lot of sense. We love Philosophy Joe
A man 100% wrote that "I want a man to put me in my place" advice.
Or Pearl
@@lizadoesray Definitely not. Only seen her a handful of times, I highly doubt she wants a man to "put her in her place." Being that she's not an air head, that's not something she needs. Not saying all women that like that are air heads, but a fair few of them are.
Some women just like men like that and r into the putting me in my place hence the dominatrix profession..being dominated and put in place is very normal lol
@jonnnywilson9117 ur right. She doesn't want a MAN to put women im THEIR place,not her specifically
Oh without a doubt XD
There isn't a single woman I know that actually wants that. Once the relationship is established, stable and he makes good money then MAYBE that can be a conversation. MAYBE.
0:47 pro tip, once you save the number in your phone, you can add notes! So once I hear something like favourite team, birthday or stuff like that I add it to the notes. If you get deleted from my contacts I also lose the notes so i don’t have to ever think about them again! 😊
I do this for all my friends and family! Makes gift giving a breeeeze ☺️ glad I’m not the only one
You’re an evil genius 🤣
I do this too. It's so simple but very effective, even in business.
@@cherylfreakouttI always ask simple questions like fave color, flower, etc. And remember those things. Plus if she mentions that she loves an item or writer... all gift ideas.
This is GREAT advice. Why have I never thought of using the notes option in the contacts??!
Joe: I wish I spoke two languages
Also joe: we have a sponsor “Babbel I’ve been using babbel all year… “
I'm in love with you
Bro bro taking his time learning to say “ en donde esta la biblioteca. “
@@llamaboginicommunity reference?
@@donkeyhobo34 thank you
@@rachelbooker7493 I want to get you pregnant
The most unrealistic is the fact Joe thinks women will choose Emily in Paris instead of serial killer stuff. Crazy
I'm not super into romance movies and I'm a wimp, so true crime gives me huge nightmares. Fake scary movies do the same. I just want cartoons lol
It’s so attractive when a guy knows fashion/cares about how they dress. Also when they wear unique fragrance. It’s an instant turn on when you’re with a guy and he turns heads and gets compliments on his looks and smell.
yesssss
Are you describing your husband or all the guys you date?
I think this is lovely as well
@@BertleMcGertlefound the incel
Absolutely, on campus I will literally turn my head and stop walking if a guy smells good, it’s so rare😂
The pulling up the sleeves while cooking 🤌
Pulling up the sleeves while doing anything 😏
Yes, also the apron. 100% agree, always go with the apron.
Super hot
@@amyzanlungo556 both, both are good 😊
As a married man that cooks 99% of our meals, and has worked professionally in restaurants - it's one of the best skills in the attraction game hands down. Its really not that hard to make something like a kickass vodka pasta from scratch.
From scratch?
You think most men have the skills to make fresh past from scratch?
Or to make a tomato based vodka sauce from fresh tomatoes?
I cook A LOT and I have made pasta from scratch like ONCE.
I buy dried pasta.
And I make the sauce from scratch, but even that I usually use canned San marzanos as the base. And even then it’s fairly labor intensive.
You’re spot on in your comments 😂Nobody wants a creepy hair tie man hahaha I would totally yell WHERE IS YOUR WIFE ?!
Emotional Intelligence is a very important aspect in relationships and I agree with what Joe said. My parents have been married for 28 years and my Dad taught me that you got to be aware of how your actions affect your partner. I admit that I’ve struggled with it because I don’t have much dating experience but it’s something I’ve worked on improving because I believe that in order to make someone happy, you need to have the ability to understand how they’re feeling and what you have to do in order to keep them happy.
The only man i trust with a mic😂
Who hurt you
Crazy how being sexist towards men is so normalized
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@@Nakaamaaa lot of his fanbase are now lonely horny girls that found him on TikTok, it's pretty sad
@@Nakaamaa Why’re you so emotional? 🤣 Chill baby girl, Im great over here. Just made an opinion but its got your panties in a bunch
The notebook one sounds silly but honestly I would appreciate it so much, listening is such a major factor in a relationship and almost every guy I’ve talked to cannot comprehend it
Autism has really helped me in this regard. My girlfriend is always surprised when I’ll mention something or get her something that she made a passing comment about months back. Also how I remember her exact clothing sizes, her favorite things, etc.
Like this is fairly normal for me as I tend to research a lot of things thoroughly, but apparently my brain has a folder with her name on it and it retains even the smallest details. Honestly it’s just nice to finally have someone that appreciates that about me.
@@here151fr bro
I have cte so my memory sucks so the notebook idea isn’t bad honestly
@@here151I wish my autism worked that way. My dad and I have the autism that retains detailed info about things but not people. I forget stuff about my boyfriend or realize I don’t know certain stuff about him all the time, it’s awful 😭 I can never remember what my friends are up to either.
I know I need to work on asking deliberate questions, my dumb ass just assumes people will speak up about things if they want to unprompted. And if I realize I forgot something, I’m too embarrassed to ask about it again 😭
@@amandabisby3546 see I think as long as your boyfriend and friends accept this and know or are willing to learn how to communicate with you, you should be golden. For example, I have a pretty bad filter for what I say. It’s never malicious, but I have trouble stopping myself from saying my thoughts. My girlfriend understands that so she knows I’m way too honest about everything, and has both helped me learn to shut up sometimes but also has utilized it to help her speak up about things. It’s very much a learning process (especially if you’re diagnosed later in life. I was at 21 and I’m 22 now) so as long as you can be transparent about it with your partner, you should be good to go.
Show kindness to others. Early on, I noticed my husband would open doors for others, help someone if they were physically struggling with something, offer a hand to someone if we were hiking with a group, or even just hanging back to chat with whomever was the slowest. Telling a server they're doing a good job if they are dealing with a difficult customer, etc. these little things I took notice of very early on, and I felt, made him more attractive as a person
I don't shave my nuts for them. I don't shave my nuts for sex expectations. - I shave my nuts for ME. Regularly; constant upkeep. I like to be clean, I like to be bald (above AND below, as I also shave my head). I find it feels more comfortable (for me) when my boys can breathe. You don't have to see it, it doesn't need to come out - but that doesn't mean it won't be smooth down there REGARDLESS.
👏🏻👏🏻 yes
absolutely! that was such whack advice. I would never assume someone’s personal grooming was specifically FOR me. I’ve had guys accuse me of shaving specifically because I was planning to hook up, and I was like umm no, don’t flatter yourself, I do that for myself.
Shaving the pubes is like saying, “I watch a lot of porn”. Not judging that but thats the message.
If only men could see that women also don’t do everything for a man 😂
Bro my sack rebushes every two weeks. But I think I'm going to leave it because it's winter and I work outside.
100% on the cooking. It doesn't have to be perfect, but if a man makes an effort to cook a good meal and a romantic atmosphere, I'd be so sold. Re: British oral hygiene, it's less about cleanliness and more about appearance. They're not as likely to get braces to straighten crooked teeth.
That relationship being its own person is actually great advice, there should still be space for each individual as well as the relationship.
Also pretty have a suspicion that there was a fedora wearer behind the stay at home and cook and clean shit 😂
My cat of 12 years died while I was on a date. The guys' first words were, "When I see a woman cry, I get really hard"...I gave up dating for good shortly after.
Omg 😂
Jesus 😮😂
He should have said it in French. 😂
@@ElLebza ?
Once I was with a dude and while we were at it I got a flashback to a traumatic event in my childhood I had forgotten about. I broke down, smoked on the balcony and when I came back to him in the bedroom I explained what happened. His response was, "So.. no sex now?" Ehhh.. no? ._.
I’d say the first one was on the right track but instead in your notes app write things she’s interested in or says she wants or likes so when it comes to her birthday or special occasions you know what to get her
My partner & I have been together for over 4 years. Early on, we each had a note in our notes app about things we learned about each other. Not appointments but things like middle name, fav food/desserts, allergies, & hobbies.
The notebook is a great idea for people who have memory issues and/or forget things easily. :)
Until they forget the notebook somewhere 😅
@@dhf161that’s why I use the notes app on my phone😅
If they have memory issues then by the time they finish the date they've probably forgotten. Pretty sure that writing in the notebook during a date won't help get a second date. Seems a bit stalker-ish
I put notes on my phone in the contacts!
@@mad082sssNot how memory issues work. I can remember things after a date, but ask me days, weeks, or months later and only a small fragment of information will be retained.
I feel you on the languages, Joe. I have three years of middle school Spanish and two and a half years of high school French and it’s all jumbled in my head.
Best advice = be respectful, be yourself, and be direct. If the girl is attracted you and you guys get along, great! If not, then it’s not meant to be.
Good parting words, reminds me of what Bruce Lee said:
"Absorb what is useful, discard what is not, add what is specifically your own"
I am a SAHM and homeschool our daughter. We have very traditional roles in our marriage but my husband is very involved in everything. HOWEVER, if he straight out told me he wanted or even demanded I fall into that traditional role, we would’ve never had another date.
What tf does it matter if the results are the same?
@@alphacentauri1776 she chose that life, she wasn’t forced into it. it’s an important difference
@makenzie9023 No, it isn't. She would have flat out ignored his wants even though she wanted the same thing. She (and everyone who thinks like her) shouldn't be married.
@@alphacentauri1776 again, there’s a difference in a guy wanting a woman who WANTS to be a sahm and a guy who wants to FORCE a woman to be a sahm. ur def single tho so i dont think you need to worry about it too much 👍
@makenzie9023 no need to be so insecure that you have to result to ad hominems
No honestly, if you want a woman who's chained to the stove then PLEASE tell us right away, preferrably before we even go on a date. That's something you wanna know asap so no one has to waste any time.
You sound single
@@BertleMcGertle so are those men
@@BertleMcGertle you sound dumb
“Chained to the stove” always resorting to the extreme lol just learn how to cook
Hear, hear. Show your red flags straight away! Might still be some Friday night left to salvage.
10:58 SPONSOR ENDS HERE
Yeah, im a sahm because unfortunately i had to go on disability. I always expected to keep working but im lucky to have a man who is supportive of either one of those options!
5:31 AMEN! IF THERE IS NO FOREPLAY IT GETS BORING
The person who said "women wanna be put in their place by a man" is clearly a guy who wrote that. No sane woman would ever write that. Even the insane ones wouldnt say this 😂
They would never say it because they’re always selling purity.
My thoughts exactly. A guy DEFINITELY wrote that.
i see you're a very optimistic person
Bold of you to assume us with ADHD can remember things. 😂😂
Right!? I was thinking of my partner who has asked me countless times if we have a sewing kit. lol
@@annastasiaschmitt1283 fuckin same…. I’m gunna have to bring a notebook, record the conversation, or something. Cause jeez my memory sucks ass 🤦🏼♀️ forgot my age for a good 4 years till I googled it a couple days ago. I’d probably forget to breath if it wasn’t automatic
@@anjelicasamantha3469 I use my phone notes app and people’s contact notes section to remember their favorite things or things that I think are important. It helps so much.
That's why the notebook was suggested
Was just about to say this 😭😭
My boyfriend and I found out a couple months into hanging out that we both kept a list in the Notes app of experiences the other mentioned having, their favorite things, things they mentioned about their hobbies, plans they had coming up, etc. It’s nice when the person you’re talking to cares enough to ask “how was helping your mom with her garden this weekend”, and I certainly don’t care what method they used to remember!
I'm not shaving my legs on a first date for sex related reasons. I shave so when I inevitably wear dress/skirt other ladies won't judge me.
Seriously! I gave up dating,stopped wearing makeup and shaving my legs and it's been liberating.
Out of all the reasons, that’s the dumbest one, lol. Do it for yourselves or do it for your date (not even for sex, but because it looks nicer). Forget other ladies. Why pay them any attention? You’re not dating them, you’re dating the guy.
I agree with all the other comments. Bitchy women will stay haters, and at the end of the day, they arent your friend or your date or the person paying for your date so their opinion is worthless. Quite frankly, I don't really shave for men. I like to see their reaction to body hair. If they act like a princess abt it, they ain't man enough for me 🤷🏻♀️
I do it so when I rub my legs together like a cricket it's all smooth and nice
Me when I simply do not shave. Fuck them hoes judging you, be your hairy self lmfao. I do get why people want to shave (orher than societal shame) I just don't care and rather simply grooming myself and having good hygiene.
3:56 I’m not gonna lie, this would 100% get me
Joe looks like El Chapo with the stache, tan jacket and hat. 😅🤣
Please for the love of God i need guys to understand body language. Was dancing with a guy and I was just nooot into it and every time I leaned away or started to loosen my grip he would just force me back against him and I finally had to gently push him off me. Also, asking a girl “you feel okay/this okay?” And she says ANYTHING related to No- don’t keep going and say shit like “I got you/ don’t worry just relax” big fuck you 😅 asking if someone’s okay isn’t just something internal for you to check off that you did, listen!!
The no means no campaign just made men look for the "no" and stop there. "Well, she didn't say no"- yeah buddy, she said "not right now" "i don't think so" "i'm not sure about that" "can I think about?" "Not really"- these are all variations of NO. Even "not right now", it may be a yes for the future, but today it's NO. And then they'll complain that we drop hints and aren't clear when they just lack communication smarts.
Quite important but also learn to stick up for yourself. Idk how people don’t learn this. Just too self centred, I guess?
Ok the cooking advice is SPOT ON!!!! 👌🔥
The nibble- chomp followed by the slap @5:45 sentttttt me LMAOOOO
I think the notebook thing is giving serial killer. I feel like if you’re ding it as a listening exercise for yourself that makes sense, but if you have to do it to remember anything she said, it means you didn’t care about anything she was talking about. I get not remembering everything, but if you’re actively listening, you won’t have to write everything down you’ll just remember. maybe if there are some key points you want to make sure not to forget, I can understand writing that down.
i just have really shit memory :(
1:20 Lolol she already knows they not gon remember
Remember what?
@@MrAreyoulocal exactly
the one about wanting to be told what to do was either written by a man or a trad wife who was told by her husband to write it. do some women want that? yeah, there are weirdos out there, but the "most women want that" comment makes me think someone who's never touched a woman wrote it.
Yeah it immediately gave me imposter vibes lmao Very clearly a man either with a fetish or looking to sabotage other men.
The cooking thing is so real. I don't want a man who is completely dependent on me to feed him like he's some sort of infant. Also, bonus advice: if SHE cooks for you, CLEAN UP THE KITCHEN AFTERWARD. This is more than just dating advice, honestly. I just came home from a Thanksgiving dinner where my mom, me, and my sister spent 3 days preparing a dozen dishes for 8 people and while my dad, BIL and friend helped put the food away so it wouldn't spoil (it was literally already in containers, all they needed to do was pop the lids on and put them in the fridge) and one of our guests-- who was a longtime friend of my BIL, not some acquaintance-- pointedly and explicitly REFUSED to lift a finger to help afterward because "he was a guest". If someone invites you to their home, prepares you a delicious meal, helps watch your kids, and then suggests that it would be nice to have the food put away put a lid on the damn stuffing and don't be a jerk.
I did the notebook thing with a guy I dated because my memory sucks. It made him laugh, but he also appreciated that I was making an effort.
11:20 where's your wife? WHERE'S YOUR WIFE??
BRUSH YOUR TONGUE ‼️‼️‼️ it is the BEST advice that’s where bad breath comes from PLS EVERYONE GET A TONGUE SCRAPPER
@ tongue scrapper changed the game for me for sure !!
I asked my doctor and he said it’s not really that good to use. That and you’re supposed to have some amount of stuff on your tongue for bacteria reasons. It’s kinda like the lady suggesting getting teeth whitening. Ya it “looks” nice, but it’s not healthy, nor is it even natural. Obviously you want to be hygienic and not let things get out of hand or gross. But we often insinuate perfection with healthy when that’s really not the case. And I think it would be good to remind (or teach) people what is normal/healthy because various ads and beauty industries have made us think otherwise. Your teeth aren’t supposed to be as reflective as a mirror and as white as snow. Our perceptions have been warped by marketing and not enough education.
@ ya I just listen to my dentist with the tongue scrapper! Doesn’t need to be perfect just not let the gunk fill up :) cause it does cause bad breath! I agree lots of people go over board with whitening the teeth and that causes damage in the long run. Brushing, flossing, tongue brushing or scrap is good :)
This. This. THIS!
My wife and I watching and laughing at our mismatched plates and super hero glass cups 😂😂
“Your relationship is third. You can’t forget about you, she can’t forget about her” Joe, your therapy is showing 😌
Never a dull moment with these things! 😂 hilarious end to my day
Pretty solid advice, however some of these are the BARE MINIMUM! 🥴
I learned how to speak Spanish in high school. Went to Mexico and was stoked I could communicate. Everyone laughed at me and now I forgot everything (no I’m not white, I don’t say grassy ass at restaurants)
Damn, you ran into the wrong people my guy
Most people are thrilled to hear others speak their native tongue. I’m so sorry that happened to you
As a woman, wtf is Emily in Paris? Give me serial killer shows.
I agree with Joe on the hair tie thing. My first thought would be “who does that belong to?”
Yeah, unless the guy has long hair and is already wearing a hair band on his wrist I'd be like ....no????
My freshman year in college, I had a blind date that told me that I could continue to work as a doctor (I was pre-med at the time), but once "we" have kids, I was to stop working and stay home. I took my purse, paid the waitress for my coffee and took a cab back to campus. He told people he couldn't understand why I left. They called him an idiot.
The cooking advice is the only one that gets me. I cannot cook at all. It's always my mom cooking for me and my dad.
From a mom perspective:
Come on in and ask her how. Let her know how thankful you are for it. Be helpful. Learn. Bond. Take advantage of it and not for granted. ❤ and then learn to make a girl some bomb ass food
So when they finally pass are you going to just starve to death? LEARN TO COOK FOR YOURSELF, I assume you're an adult
Ask your mom to teach you to cook. Watch her as she cooks.
It’s fine if in her home she is the head chef. But if you’re of age to be dating, you need to know how to cook for yourself.
British person here, our teeth probably were bad in the 1990s and before. We got turkey teeth now 😂
Joe's reenactment of the cooking date has me laughing so hard because it's too accurate of a woman's fantasy 😂😌
You would be surprised how many guys get hard when you’re in tears or in a depressed or sad moment. I don’t get it, but it’s damn annoying and kinda gross! I wonder if they think - ‘oh I can cheer you up… with my WANG’ urgh
My two theories- some of us look pretty when we cry. My eyes become much more starkly greener, but that's no excuse still to get hard at my distress. Second theory, this person watches WEIRD ASS P0rn that involves sending women to tears.
Either way, Id avoid, bc a guy who cares about you wil not find your distress arousing, and if he does, he is disturbed and doesn't take you seriously.
I guarantee it’s not intentional majority of the time. As to why it can happen? Not sure. There’s no arousal. I’d assume it’s due to increased heart rate resulting in more blood flow as a whole. It’s not necessarily linked to sexual feelings. I’m sure there’s someone that did the science behind it tho
If someone is crying, your first reaction should be to give them a hug, listen to them talk about wats wrong and see if you can do something to help.
I feel like women need to learn about men just as much as men need to learn about women lol. Do you really think it’s intentional or related to arousal every time?
@@kikialeaki1850okay, teach me then. I’m open to being taught like you suggested.
3:12 Sebastian maniscalco came out for a few mins
Joe, you should definitely do a whole show review on Emily in Paris. Pls & thx
"I think I like bras more than anything"- Santagato, Joe
LMAO
Joe getting a little naughty with the table. Little slap a roo!😄
Learn to dance
Apparently they love that 😂 didn’t know it until I got good at it
We do! Women have never been turned on by corny dancers. Some find it funny, cute, endearing, put up with it, hate it, but none find it arousing. Being a good dancer tho? Swoon.
Love the advice to learn how to cook three meals, plus Joey's additional tips! 👏 👏 👏
I have always been sensitive to perfumes and colognes. When people go noseblind to their own fragrance, they start putting an excessive amount on. One spritz is all you need. My eyeballs shouldn't taste it.
My advice to men: I am not your mother, act like a self-sufficient adult and there will be no problems
Agreed, but what do you have to say to the women out there who want a man to buy them everything and take care of them? Because I feel like it goes both ways.
I love all your videos, I always laugh but I do miss when you went BOW at the end of every video :D
The nibbling part almost took me out🤣 been having a gnarly cough for a week now
The notebook thing sounds excessive, but I write notes in the notes app about my man, and it’s extremely helpful. Especially for fleeting things or things that I’m not familiar with already: sports info, certain brands he likes, etc.. I don’t use it so much anymore, but it was great in the beginning, especially during holidays
Some of these are wild who TF wrote these? Your takes on these are accurate IMO
“Sometimes you just wanna watch the John Wayne Gacey tapes” HE GETS ME! HE UNDERSTANDS 😂😂
I watched the whole thing, and the only thing I've come away with is "ATATATATATATAT" 😂
So glad I found you…you made my day definitely subscribing.
16:21 I know what you mean. My best friend is from France and he knows 5 languages
So early! Love the content!
If I found out a dude kept a notebook with all of our conversations in, I’d think HE was John Wayne Gacy! 😂🤦🏻♀️
Your videos are so funny and entertaining you’re my favorite creator
4:11 so Americans tend to think that if you don't have BRIGHT WHITE, PERFECTLY STRAIGHT teeth, then your teeth are bad. We've been fooled through advertising to think this for decades. Orthodontists in the US prescribe braces at much higher rates than the rest of the world, because we tend to think of the tiniest bit of crookedness as bad. In truth, stains aren't indicative of bad oral hygiene. Yes, British people are less likely to get their teeth whitened than Americans, but their teeth are just as healthy, if not more so. They aren't constantly worried about their teeth being perfectly white and straight. It's funny the British are singled out in this way, because most of the world doesn't use braces or whitening to the extent America does (that includes developed nations). In most countries, you don't get braces for mild crookedness if it won't cause trouble later in life, but in the US we get them for the tinniest misalignment. Because of the ubiquity of American movies and culture, there's pressure on foreign actors to get their teeth fixed to American standards, even if they're healthy and fine, because we lose our shit if they're not BLEACHED WHITE. it's kinda unhealthy.
Yes! 100%! (British person here and agree with everything you said).
4:30 No.. My ex boyfriend would literally, NOT EXAGGERATING, brush his teeth for no more than 5 seconds. And didn’t floss. Btw I learned this years into the relationship.
Also I realized I’m a lesbian so that relationship was doomed to fail anyway, but oral hygiene is still advice everyone should hear.
So many facts went over your head dear Joe, but the last few takes were crazy
15:13 unironically insanely good advice
Joe gave great advice actually. He's trying to save yall ladies (I'm married it's too late for me).
You’re joking but a dude reacted to me crying exactly like that when I was 20
Therapy is a huge turn on 😂
2:08 Or just shave regularly??? I hate pubic hair, I'm so glad my lover shaves
Or in my partner and I's case, just don't shave at all if you don't want to.
My take on dating: be yourself, and that way when you find someone who likes you, you know they like YOU and not some facade you put up.
@elliottlupin right! Exactly
NOOOOOOO
if a man leaves his pubic hair, if he encounters a woman who hates it, he can literally get rid of it in a few minutes.
But if he encounters a woman who actually likes male bodies and despises the shaved pubes and thinks it looks like a damaged little boy and it repulses her, he can’t grow a normal near healthy beautiful trimmed bush in a few minutes.
It’ll take weeks.
Who on God’s green earth told men to start shaving their pubes?
WHY DO YOU PREFER THAT?
Can you actually explain it to me?
It looks hideous on them. And then the stubbles are so painful and can literally cause us extreme harm!
And it makes them more susceptible to STDs.
What is the plus side?
Not even 5 minutes in, and I'm in love 🤣🙌
I’m bald me having a hair tie would be odd
The notebook thing sounds like stalker behavior
Joey: "Today, this one's for the fellas. Fellas, lemme hear you!"
Greg: ". . . HEY!! 😃"
I love Greg so much 💖😂😂😂
How did Pick-me-Pearl get into the show 😂
a table runner is a game changer
Naw. His ex probably just forgot to take it when she moved out
I couldn’t get your promo code for aura frames to work
Funny episode, feel like Joe was in a good mood for this one 😆
Greg’s laugh is always a highlight
I don’t know what you ate on this day, but this was the funniest video you’ve done for a while
Other than the obvious misogynistic advice, I agree with a lot of the others! I love my alone time, confidence is sexy, as well as being multilingual. My only advice for dating would be to maintain a life outside of just the relationship. Have autonomy and goals that are just for you, or try new hobbies. Centering life around a relationship can become limiting. It should be centered around balance and compassion for mutual growth.
it's very attractive when a guy takes care of himself. When they smell good, etc. And I don't mean drowning themselves in axe either!
The "Stop getting boners when women cry" sadly hit home with me 🥲😂 one of my exes used to have this issue. He was verbally abusive, but once I started crying, he didn't want to argue anymore due to becoming AROUSED by my tears and the sound of me sobbing.
Sounds like he was a dacrophile - someone who derives pleasure from seeing their partner (or a person) cry. Your ex seems like a POS and I’m glad you’re no longer with him, sending love and light your way
Exactly, clocked in an earlier comment. Guys who get hard when a woman cries are disturbed.
6:04 well... We know who she voted for 😒
The better option😊
@@BowtieBoy05a felon rapist is a better option to you? Ok psycho