My Female Thoughts About Modern "Feminism."
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- The type of feminism I see today is toxic, loud, and entitled. There's a way to right wrongs, and this is not it. I share my straightforward thoughts about how modern-day woke feminism has overcorrected its cause and now has become a cesspool of hatred, bitterness, and anger that has caused immeasurable damage to all future generations of women.
Yes, I'm aware of our cultural climate right now and I know there will be people that will brazenly disagree with me on this and yes, I kinda go a little Ted Talk about this topic. But these topics are important and need to be discussed openly and freely. I welcome respectful divergent dialogue in the comments.
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I’m 15, and I SOOO agree!! I used to be sucked into the toxic feminism ideology and new age/witchcraft. Oh praise God for saving me! I feel so alienated from people my age. It really is awkward. How does nobody see this?
Amen! I have some advice for you.
Keep reading your Bible. If someone teaches you something that the Bible says is wrong, believe the Bible (what God says) verses what the teacher says.
Don't make decisions based on emotion, think things through carefully and rationally. Don't become prideful, but understand that if you have the Holy Spirit living within you, you could be much more wise than the adults around you.
Meaning that the advice that they give, will not always be good for you, and, you might understand a better way of living, due to the Bible and the Holy Spirit within you.
Don't just make good decisions, make the right ones. Right by the standard that the scripture lays out for you. In every aspect of your life live in self-control (making yourself obedient to God). All those stupid rules in the Bible, are there for your benefit. They're not there to hold you back. They're there to protect you.
Believe it or not, people believe that they are saved by Jesus but aren't even following him. If someone's version of Jesus acts in a way contrary to the Bible, they are not following the one and only God. There are people who will call themselves Christians, who will make terrible decisions. Who could tear you down in more than one way. But trust in God that he would show you, who are true believers and who are not. And do not blame God for the actions of evil people.
God bless you, and, keep you. Don't grow tired of following God. It'll be difficult. And you will feel alone at times. But you will never be alone. Every true believer is your brother and sister through Christ, and, age makes no difference. And one day you'll understand what it means to have kingdom family. Every moment you spend with God, will change the way you view the world.
There will be difficult things to understand in the Bible. But stick with God. Ask him questions and prayer. And don't stop reading his word. He will answer you in his own time. But don't stop asking him until he answers. Be patient but persistent. And if you haven't already start reading in the book of John. John chapter 1 is amazing.
If anything in this long list sounds familiar, or like something you're already aware of you are already growing in the spirit. There will be a day where you start to doubt Gods existence, or, his goodness. My advice to that is start learning some good apologetics now. Read person of interest by Jay Warner Wallace. Know the facts. Because one day you will feel like God doesn't exist. But the facts really strongly point to God.
These are just some things I've picked up over time. These are some of the things that I faced. When you face any of these things, just know that you're not alone. A lot of people have. They just don't talk about it.
Oh, to be 15 and know what you know! What a gift you have. Don’t think of it as being alienated, think of it as going through the narrow gate, which few find, as opposed to the wide gate that leads to destruction. (Matthew 7:13-14) I’m truly in awe of your wisdom, little one. God bless you!
Part of it is the strong social incentive to conform to these ideas. Others truly believe men are a problem. Both are in error.
You are actually way ahead of the pack, you are doing the right thing. GOD BLESS 😊
Your story gives me hope!! Keep looking for God face!!
As a Christian white man I can relate to this thank you for standing up for us men but it's not only Christian white men it's any straight man but there are a few women out there that stand up for us against the radical feminism thank you sister in Christ I love you I love your videos keep up the good work
Agree with you it very much any straight white men in today world is to be condemn. I've seen just men as whole being put down in the church over last few years. It insane
@@raptortown yes I would say we are definitely living in end times all we can do is keep the faith and lift our head up towards the heavens
Everything going on right now is insane! My husband and I agreed if we ever did have any children we would most definitely be homeschooling bc of everything being taught.
Modern feminism created more problems than good for women. Now they can't focus on the family and children, instead, they have to "drop their kids off" (a very telling expression) at various institutions. This movement has been driven by capitalism and a drive for economic growth, not by "caring about women's rights": The more people that work, the greater the economic growth, consumption rate etc. As far as capitalism and the modern "unlimited growth on a limited planet" (the mentality of a cancer cell) is concerned, a non-working woman is a deadweight. So they encourage women to work alongside of men covering this up with "empowerment", "liberation" "women's rights" and other such slogans. Meanwhile the future generation, the children, are brainwashed since the earliest age by teachers and supervisors into what the state wants the future generation to be like!
I agree with you on that!
Same!
Yes! PLEASE homeschool your children! AND teach them the Bible!Whenever any of these senators and congressmen and women say “open the schools back up!” or “let our children get back to school!” I say NO! Keep them home and homeschool them! Of course they can’t hear me lol! I think the best thing that came out of this whole **vid PLANdemic is shutting down the schools and having the children be homeschooled! I can’t believe what’s going on in the schools now with the CRT & LGBTQ+ being taught in the schools! There is NO place for that garbage in school! (Sorry for my rant.)
Thanks for the perspective. The Bible presents masculinity in such a beautiful way. The best men are always servant leaders, being more concerned about God's glory than anything else. They are strong protectors. (i.e. Boaz, Joseph, Noah, Etc.). Anytime they fail in this it is very obvious (i.e. David and Bathsheba, all the wives of Solomon as he objectifies them, Etc.). Jesus is the best example of valuing women. The women who are strong and brave are also put in a good light ( Abigail, Debra, Hannah, Ruth). We are destroying our society and feminizing men by not valuing their calling as servant leaders as the Bible does.
I have always told our daughter, now 22, that 4th wave feminism wants superiority since they already have equality 😐 And as the wife of an amazing Godly man, the mom of a amazing young man and a 22 year homemaker, this idea of feminism has no place in my world.
Thank you! I agree! Sadly, superiority is now the goal rather than equality.
❤ 👏👏 another GenX nerd who has awesome grown men. I even know what I'd do if one of them bought into the whole woke thing.
Great job, mommas! I'm the momma of 7 girls and 5 boys. We are grateful for the awesome complimentary differences wherewith God has made us!
Even women are being attacked by transgender men.
We need to stand up and speak up! I can see the change and I speak up in public in front of my kids. People need to hear the truth bc their fed nothing but lies!
I was a feminist bc my mom is a feminist and my grandmother was a feminist who talked down to their husbands. Praise God who opened my eyes to feminism.
Transgender man=woman who thinks she is a man
I think you meant transgender woman.
Very well said Melissa! I sometimes feel I'm the only women around me with this mindset ...
You are not alone, sister :D
Been saying this is crazy for a while. I hate the double standard.
You’re not alone . I do not support feminism.
I haven’t finished watching, (and I’m sure this is a no no to do). ….But it seems as if everyone is turning on everyone. Men are turning on women and women are turning on men, Women on women, men on men etc. etc. etc.Republicans and Democrats etc. etc. etc. this is such a great video Melissa. So refreshing to see that there are people that teach their children values
Yes! Preach! You're 100% correct.
You are so right. I am 70 and have never seen such disrespect. People are changing. Their hearts are seared. No humanity or moral compass. Example. In my little town in central Ohio people don't stop to cross the street. They just assume you are going to stop for them. Our elderly are treated so horribly. It is disconcerting.
@@dwisecup51 I agree, I’m 62 years old and C-such sad disrespect of everyone it’s a me me me culture
The warmth of christianity is running out.
We see the change of hearts of the secular world...
It's aweful to behold. And yet, perhaps necessairy. We have forgotten how much God had already saved us. Or at least, i had when I fell away from believing.
Now we see it...
Marxist tactic to divide.
I have two sons and I’m troubled by the way some modern women speak about men. It’s awful and I’m totally against radical feminism. Thank you THANK YOU for talking about this. This is a very important topic that needs to be talked about more. Blessings to you!
Yeah some feminist have a death wish on men simply because they are men:/
Exactly! I’m a teen i obviously don’t have kids but I see it at school everywhere they started putting up women power and power feminism in my school. It’s sad like men are literally essential for life. Like we need men. It’s so sad that I hear so many girls say, “ I think men are just hypocrites and horrible.” Like it’s like no one‘s attracted to men anymore and it’s sad.
Modern feminism created more problems than good for women. Now they can't focus on the family and children, instead, they have to "drop their kids off" (a very telling expression) at various institutions. This movement has been driven by capitalism and a drive for economic growth, not by "caring about women's rights": The more people that work, the greater the economic growth, consumption rate etc. As far as capitalism and the modern "unlimited growth on a limited planet" (the mentality of a cancer cell) is concerned a non-working woman is a deadweight. So they encourage women to work alongside of men covering this up with "empowerment", "liberation" "women's rights" and other such slogans. Meanwhile the future generation, the children, are brainwashed and conditioned since the earliest age by teachers and supervisors into what the state wants the future generation to be like!
Also a mom of two boys here and it is terrifying to think they'll have to face a world like this. I highly reccomend the Pilgrims Progress. theres a book and a 2019 kids movie. both are fantastic.
I have younger brothers. I am also very troubled by the culture, and the way it’s normalizing hating men
I had a friend that said to me “all men are trash.” When I responded and said that not all men are trash, she went on an entire rant. It was so vehement and passionate that I thought for a second I was wrong, but when I got out of the friendship I realized
“that’s just a super toxic attitude, and I was right to say what I said.”
You are so right. This has been slowly growing for decades. There's the thought that women are right, men are wrong, even in Christian circles. Both genders are responsible for treating each other well, to love each other as Christ loved them.
Yes. I've noticed an inherent (and it seems unconscious) Christian feminism in some churches when men are constantly blasted and chastised from the pulpit and women are always encouraged and told they can do anything.
Young men in church aren't always told the same but are expected to sacrifice and give all their energy at the smallest demand of their strength.
Thank you. I see too many of my age group mocking men, hating men. I’m seeing more men be less manly. It’s really sad. Can I also say, it’s one thing to have a teasing nature with your husband, but I shake my head when I see my friends put down and talk Ill of their husbands. When appropriate I always mention I would be heartbroken if my husband did that to me, why would I do that to him. I actually lost a “friend” because I told her I talk to my husband about all of my life even my friendships. She told me I was weird and juvenile and “this isn’t kindergarten”. I was shocked. He’s my best friend. If someone doesn’t get that they can step
Guess feminism is working. No wonder divorce is at an all time high.
Maybe their husbands are in the wrong. There are a lot of horrible men out there. Some of them even try to look squeaky clean in the public eye and turn into a vile monster behind closed doors.
Imagine getting mad at your married friend telling her husband 😂 There's actually a video of that same theme of a single middle aged woman who complains that her married friends don't have time for her so she maligns them. Point being, it's time to cut ties. You deserve friends who are appreciative and not bitter.
LMBO, "they can step". Great line...
there was evidence of this in entertainment all the way back in the 90's. I used to watch home improvement and the way the wife's character would constantly demean the husband would grate on my nerves. it was played for comedy, but what better way to plant the seeds that men are stupid, need to be corrected, only care about stereotypical things, and were basically he-man knuckle draggers without two brain cells to rub together. thank you for putting this out there. I am so fortunate to have the husband I do and I always thank God for him. again, thanks for this!
Right? Like the Husband/Father is a total imbecile and just floundering thru life without his incredible capable talented wife. What a load of crap.
Men are DESIGNED to Lead, Protect, Provide.
Women are Made to create, care, cultivate
Why is this wrong.. we are DESIGNED THIS WAY.
Thank you for your comment and I totally agree with you, but this goes back way past the 90s. You can see it in the 60s TV shows and really see it in the 70s.
Thank you for teaching your daughters the right way! Misandry is just as bad as misogyny. The pendulum has swung way too far to the other extreme these days. There is toxic masculinity, yes, but not all masculinity is toxic. Also, toxic femininity is a real thing too!
In regards to what feminism has become, I think Obi Wan Kenobi put it very well when he said to Anakin “You have allowed this dark lord to twist your mind, until now, until now you’ve become the very thing you vowed to destroy.”
I couldn’t agree more! As a mother of two sons- It is heartbreaking!!! Thank you for sharing this!!!
As a mom of 4 boys, there are popular movies I will not let my youngest boys watch due to the way they put down boys and I tell them that. It is either one extreme or the other nowadays. I personally have seen the men are evil extreme and the women are evil extreme in my life and it just blows me away. Not everyone is like that but man there are a lot of "Christian" and "Secular" societies that are doing it to a level that is insane.
I'm just curious, would you be willing to share a few of those titles?
@@bros4654 For one of the first Frozen movies their undertones of men are stupid and are not needed is just part of why I have watched it once then said never again. (I get the argument all the time well it's about empowering sisters but it's not just that) That is the main one that stands out in my head as most of the time if I watch it and don't agree with the undertone storyline then I tend to forget it. But that movie is so popular its hard not to remember its name.
Modern feminism created more problems than good for women. Now they can't focus on the family and children, instead, they have to "drop their kids off" (a very telling expression) at various institutions. This movement has been driven by capitalism and a drive for economic growth, not by "caring about women's rights": The more people that work, the greater the economic growth, consumption rate etc. As far as capitalism and the modern "unlimited growth on a limited planet" (the mentality of a cancer cell) is concerned, a non-working woman is a deadweight. So they encourage women to work alongside of men covering this up with "empowerment", "liberation" "women's rights" and other such slogans. Meanwhile the future generation, the children, are brainwashed since the earliest age by teachers and supervisors into what the state wants the future generation to be like!
Christian feminism...
I think there's a lot of finger pointing and yelling happening in "feminism" at the moment. I went to a women's college that really pushed prioritizing women in everything and I'm totally over it. Yes, women are awesome, but not at the expense of men. We live in the same world and need to be able to respect each other and work together instead of putting others down.
I’ve just discovered your channel and subscribed because of this
My mother abandoned 4 kids- 3 girls and 1 boy- and my father raised us for most of our childhood. He worked hard to feed and cloth us and he was older than most men who had families. To this day, I think about him and what he taught us. We all loved him so much and still do thought he’s gone now. Thank you DAD for everything you did for us.
This needed to be said. We are ALL made in God's image and God's children. Period.
It definitely needs to be said. Minor correction on your statement though, Although we are all made in the imagine of God, we are not all Gods children. Some are only Gods adopted children through Christ. Many will not choose to be reconciled with Him.
I agree with Bleeding heartsfade. We can be given the right to become children of God if we receive Jesus Christ. Otherwise we are God's creatures but not his children
amen
I love how my husband can open a jar when I can't. I love how he can reach the top shelf to bring something down that I need. I love the fact that my husband is masculine to my feminine. I love the fact that when my husband starts working on something he does not stop until he has either fixed it or built it. I love the fact that when my husband is out in front leading the way God intended him to do I can sit back and not stress or be anxious because he is in control and I can just chill. I love the fact that my husband is not ruled by his emotions the way mine rule me, he is in control when everything around me is chaos. I love the fact that my husband is strong enough that if I need him too he can steady me as I walk either up the stairs or down the stairs at church so I don't take a face plant and embarrass myself. I love the fact that his body complements mine. I love how God designed him in such a way that makes me take a step back and just go "WOW!".
You've got to the core of the matter: Complimentarianism. God made men and women equal but different. We are designed to compliment each other. Men & women have different strengths, different personality traits, different roles to play especially with regards to reproduction. In the Bible God makes it very clear that men are to be the head of the home. Paul elaborates on this and urges men to love their wives sacrificially, just as Christ sacrificed Himself for us.
As a 71 year old man I want to say “”THANK YOU”” for being nice to men. I’ve had to listen to that feminist stupidity most of my life and as a young boy it ruined my social life.
@@raccoondon488 I am sorry bout your social life..I love my husband. I love everything about him. and thank you for the copliment.
@@juliemauger6183 amen.
Amen! God's gift to women...as we were intended to be God's gift to men...
Tremendous video! Our country is becoming more and more toxic every day. You made so many completely valid points. All girls should watch this. My 10 yr. old granddaughter will be seeing this when she gets home from school today. Thank you for speaking to this issue.
This is a great, informative video. We need to stamp out this toxic feminism. I really do though think some women want to become the thing they were fighting against, male oppression
This was a breath of fresh air! I love that my daughter is being raised by a loving father (my wonderful husband) and that she will learn to love and respect men. I grew up without a father and I missed that but it is a huge blessing i can offer my baby girl. Men are important!
This one is a very interesting topic!! Modern feminism created more problems than good for women. Now they can't focus on the family and children, instead, they have to "drop their kids off" (a very telling expression) at various institutions. This movement has been driven by capitalism and a drive for economic growth, not by "caring about women's rights": The more people that work, the greater the economic growth, consumption rate etc. As far as capitalism and the modern "unlimited growth on a limited planet" (the mentality of a cancer cell) is concerned, a non-working woman is a deadweight. So they encourage women to work alongside of men covering this up with "empowerment", "liberation" "women's rights" and other such slogans. Meanwhile the future generation, the children, are brainwashed since the earliest age by teachers and supervisors into what the state wants the future generation to be like!
Thank you for saying exactly what I feel and think. I'm an ex-new ager coming back to Jesus and have been reading the book you recommended, Faithfully Different, and I'm so thankful for people like yourself and Natasha Crain for being brave enough to say these things!.
What books?
@@Vyre-He-Who-Quiets I'm reading the book, "Faithfully Different" by Natasha Crain.
I won't ask you what it's about, since I can go look that up, but what do you appreciate most from this book?
I’m 70 yrs. And I’ve been saying this for years. Thank you.♥️
I have a beloved husband and beloved son. I love my men. I will speak out about hating men. Thank you for this video!!
as a teenager growing up in this social climate, i can say that within 2 minutes of this video you're spot on. too many people in the church don't talk about this.
I think another TH-camr, whom I would categorize under “literary snob” and “common senser” (as opposed to conservative), put it succinctly:
“No one idealizes masculine characteristics more than [modern] feminists do.”
-The Authentic Observer (TH-cam)
And it fascinates me that most modern feminists simultaneously idealizes masculine characteristics whilst pushing “strong female representation”; yet also constantly decry gender-neutral abusive traits (like narcissism) under the label “toxic masculinity”. It’s all very absurd.
Edit: also, love the shout-out to Baggage Claim. Been following her for a while. 👍🏼
I also enjoy Authentic Observer. She's a hoot.
@@bros4654 The aforementioned quote came from the first and only video I’ve watched of hers, suggested by YT (probably because my channels are 25% fandom nerds), her response to Amazon’s apparent portrayal of Galadriel. It’s been fascinating to me to watch otherwise “liberal” women begin pushing back against the current “strong female character” and “masculine men are toxic” tropes in film and literature.
Great point!
Thank you for standing up for men!
Baggage Claim has some great videos on these topics. I remember growing up and men/dads in sitcoms were always seen as stupid or incompetent, so I don't think this is new, but it has gotten worse. God created men and women to complement one another. We are both amazing and strong. My husband's strengths are my weaknesses and vice versa. We balance one another out, as God intended.
Thank you for explaining it so perfectly!!! What's also really sad for me is that this toxic feminism has infected the church.
I cheered when BATWOMAN got cancelled, and looking forward to the RETCONNING old Doctor Who.
WRITE great characters, regardless of gender and the audience will be there, but the microsecond they create Entitled characters, both male and female, it will fail.
Are they retconning Dr Who? I thought that was an April Fool's joke.
@@nickkladky8396 Not from what I read, Russel T Davies is going to retcon the TIMELESS CHILDREN episode and get back on track.
I was so shocked when they bought in a woman for the role. And I almost wept when they put down the male roles so much in the series. I felt they should have written Jenny as taking up the role or even Astrid and made one of them the new doctor if they wanted to have the title given to a female. After all Astrid had her own tardis towards the end of Peter’s second run.
Feminism definitely changed. I got away from the movement in the early 90s, when I realized that they hated my babies simply because they were born male.
Thank you for this. I agree; you can’t even begin to talk about women and men without vitriol and spittle flying everywhere. And I’m glad you stopped the video and explained the truth to your kids. Thank you for this channel!
It's comforting to see so many people in the comments who share this same understanding.
Thank you for saying what I have been trying to articulate for decades. I'm dismissed as being "old-fashioned" or having my age keep people from hearing me. I fail to see, as someone who grew up in the 1960's, why women would think that women's value was only the things that were more masculine. I have encountered, repeatedly, the societal pressure and demonization of things traditionally 'feminine' and the overvaluing of things seen as 'masculine' when practiced by women and yet bad when practiced by men.
Me too, I’m 70 and the change’s I’ve seen even since the 1970s are mind boggling you’re not alone my friend ♥️
Yes! Masculinity is only good when it's practiced by women, and vice versa. Ridiculous!
I have two boys. I completely feel this. I try to honor my husband on Social Media and IRL all the time. Men are amazing! We don’t need to hate them to correct what has been done.
I’m with you, it’s getting ridiculous.
You are so right when it comes to the white man being hated in today's times. About a year ago I made a pot on my social media speaking of how this upsets me. You nailed it & I'm so glad I'm not the only one who has noticed this.
You’re not alone ♥️
Black men and women deal with a lot of oppression too.
Well said! The "myth of progress" is real and very divisive. It seems it is not enough to simply stand for equality but one must push for oppression of the past oppressive group or be castigated as an oppressor. It's sad but, in a way, it makes sense(not logically, of course). Once progress is achieved, the progressive is faced with becoming, in a way, conservative or continuing to progress forcing things into, as you put it, over correction simply to remain ideologically progressive. I pray God gives me wisdom to raise my 2 boys to be able to live productively for Christ in a culture that is fully toxic toward them.
As a 35 year old guy, I'm noticing that this culture has really sapped our motivation to build and participate in society. You get tired of laboring in a place where you're not wanted.
If we don't improve, it won't be long before men are all living alone in the forest and wondering where the Ent-wives went.
I 💯 agree with you! Just remember that the enemy is going to attack every single thing that God created, the family structure ✅, the TWO genders God created and our roles✅, the church✅, and just so much more, you are right it’s up to us to stick with the Truth. Specially when we are racing children!! 🙏🙏🙏
Sis, so happy you're speaking about this. I see the rise of femininity! Its everywhere... spiritual thing.
Spot on, Melissa. I have a daughter and a son, and am married to an amazing, loving, very masculine man. I agree with you 100%
This was so eloquently put, thank you for another great upload Melissa!! Honestly I've gotten along far better with males growing up and had far more betrayals from "my fellow woman" that really prevented me from ever being a feminist lol! But I also had to learn how to NOT lump people together based on bad experiences, especially after I ended an abusive relationship. That experience showed me how and why it is so easy for women to judge men altogether based on one bad experience because there are such deep wounds caused by misogyny and abuse, but as you said, that's never justification for violating the golden rule -- and I would never want to be judged for someone else's actions just because I happen to share some biological traits with them. I am so thankful for, and full of love towards, all the positive male figures in my life... especially my best friend of over seven years who became my husband!
As an aside, I think we also need to stop boxing in characteristics as gender-specific in addition to respecting which ones truly are. I think that's another over-correction that fuels this toxic feminist deconstructionist attitude. My husband and I are opposites of a lot of gender role cliches, I'm very handy, logical, and strong in a crisis whereas my husband is very mathematical, spontaneous and at times emotional. But emotions are a HUMAN thing not a girl thing, and believe me I have days where I have my emotions out of whack! But we have to remember Jesus was a gentle shepherd, he is a doting father in equal proportion to his strength and boldness. My husband loves being a cinnamon roll with me and being cute, silly, doting. But believe me, I have seen that cold ready-for-battle face on him when the situation called for it, especially when there was wrongdoing happening at his old workplace! We balance each other out really well, and I can see how much our marriage together has made me a better person and I wouldn't change a thing about him! Sorry for rambling, I just really wanted to make a statement defending the variety of personalities men have, because I feel like Western culture often treats compassionate and sensitive men as non-straight and only real men are buff mochismo etc. Idk how our culture developed all this gender fluidity and effeminate men while simultaneously making it harder for good godly men to show sensitivity without being judged??? It's such a strange oxymoron! I digress...
Yay, Melissa! Thank you so much for talking about this!! There are so many of us who agree with you! I have a son and two daughters, and I've had to explain these things to my kids, too. Toxic femininity is real. Hooray for testosterone, and hooray for the wonderful differences between men and women! ❤️
Melissa, thank you for making this video! You put into words what I’ve been thinking the last couple of years.
Hey ladies on May 6th, Canon Press is releasing a documentary called Eve in Exile. It’s a must watch ! It covers so much of this topic. The book is awesome!
Thank you sister Melissa, thank you so much for all your work. May our Lord bless you and your family 🙏🏼
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Anytime we disrespect anyone based on their skin color or their gender we become a Bigot. That is the bottom line. Saying, as a woman, that I need to hate men in order to love women is ridiculous. What kind of example is that, particularly for women who are the parent of siblings of both sexes? Thanks again Melissa for making sense of a timely subject. BTW..my manly husband really respects your podcasts as well!
Absolutely and totally agree. I have been thinking about this and talking about this for a long time. All the progress we made as a society to allow girls to enjoy "boy interests" and boys to enjoy "girl interests" without requiring them to change who they are, has vanished into them against us or non-identity with either. So sad to have lost ground so quickly and thoroughly. The world does appear to be winning sometimes.
You made very good points. I’m definitely in favor of equal work for equal pay, ending violence against women and girls, and a good amount of paid leave for working moms-among other things. However, putting all men in a box as the enemy is counterproductive to making real change. Yes, we should definitely hold some accountable. But, all men are not evil.
I truly believe Black women are more disrespected than White Christian men.
Loved this Ted Talk Melissa 🤣 but seriously I love that you said this. What is going on in the world right now is so weird. But I still pray that God heals them mentally, emotionally, & physically.
Amen Melissa!! Thank you for addressing this...I'm tired of it too! The male bashing needs to stop.
Sad that this conversation is so necessary. Good job.
Hello from Albuquerque, NM! 👋 I totally agree with everything that you said. I too felt the same way that you did when I was unknowingly participating in new age. My old self wouldn't have recognized the new me lol! Thanks be to God for showing me the correct way, which is his way. God bless you!
Thank you for speaking TRUTH!!!!!!!! God Bless you Melissa❤️
So happy that you spoke about this! I always felt uneasy about feminism but couldn't really pin point why. This was just such a refreshing summary on how over corrected it is.
Thank you for speaking about this. I have a better understanding and know now how to approach this when speaking to other people. Women and men are so different but not one is more important to God than the other. We play different roles in society and it's meant to be that way. We should embrace and trust that God has made it that way with a divine purpose.
I think over corrected actually misses the point. The consequences of feminism have been an over correction, but the thing is that's sort of the goal. You can find people all the way at the beginning of the movement talking about their goals to abolish gender. Some people only see the world as power, and they see man will allows have more power because biology. So they seek to change biology to get equality. There was an author way back in the french revolution talking about how women having babies needs fixed to obtain equality.
There are certainly many people that call themselves feminists with good motives. But the ideology itself was always about turning women into men, queer you might say. When you look at it that way, the over correction is clearly just the next step in that process.
i am a single 53 year old white male and this has almost destroyed any hope i have of havinga relationship with a woman
Hi Jeff when you say "this" has destroyed, do you mean _feminism_ has destroyed any hope? Because at first I thought you meant "this video" has destroyed...etc.
Hi Jeff. Look into Christian women from Phillipines. Lots of good, Godly women in that country, who for the most part are not poisoned by toxic feminism.
I agree with everything you said! Thank you for doing this video!
I am not usually one to share but I had to on this subject because when I was younger I too had this way of thinking about men, I have come a long way since then praise God 🙏 for opening my mind. I am a survivor of domestic violence and rape I had reason for this way of thinking but I had alot of healing to do and now I am behind the way you are sharing on this video, do unto others as done onto you or something to that effect 😆 LOL, FOLLOW Jesus and his way 💙 ❤ 😀 Thanks Melissa 😊
Thank you so much ma'am. I'm happy you said this and I'm totally in support of it 👌✨
Thank you for this video!! This has really been bothering me. I agree with you 100%! I use the toxicness we see as a teachable moment with my 2 boys and 1 daughter. Our differences are to be celebrated and are necessary and complimentary. God knows best.
Thank you, Melissa, for injecting a good dose of Christian common sense into the craziness!
Thank you for being brave enough to post this. This is what the word desperately needs to hear. Thank you Melissa 💙
I'm sick of entertainment putting and culture in general putting down men. They're portrayed and treated as dumb, childish cavemen. The father of family is always highlighted as incompetent, mocked, and disrespected. This has been going on for ages. Look at The Simpsons, Family Guy, American Dad, etc. Even cartoons are into it! (Fairly Odd parents I'm looking at you) I refuse to watch never again films or anything else that dishonour men.
I've been watching Pablo Rosales videos here on TH-cam, and he's got a lot to say regarding this topic. If you understand some Spanish you can take a look at his clip, they're under the name Inspirados TV.
My mother is pretty feminist, but for better or worse she got married, had kids, cooked dinner every night, did the shopping, cleaned the house, and never left her husband. Responsibility exists whether we like it or not.
I never wanted to be a boy when I was little... I have always loved being a girl. But I was jealous of the boys because I was lead to believe they had one key thing I didn't have: safety in freedom. I was constantly led to fear the world, basically, purely because I was a girl. "That's not safe for a girl to do alone" was repeated so many times - like probably half the times I voiced a desire to do something I really wanted to do. For instance travelling. I honestly feel like I missed out on A LOT of things and ended up with ingrained fear that is still with me today even though I'm a fully grown adult ALL because I'm a girl (and other people in the family weren't interested in going with me so therefore I didn't get to do it) and really, the world has got even more unsafe, you know? I'm not mad at my parents, I know they love me with all their heart and wanted so much to keep me safe and I love them back with all my heart and don't blame them for making mistakes. They are some of the best parents to ever exist, and they weren't even entirely wrong. Also, it wasn't just them that drilled this message in to me. Many people from many places did. So that's a snippet of thought from my past. I did not ever want to BE a boy. I just wanted the safety in freedom they had. (and I agree with you in this video about hating men. My family is roughly half boys half girls including our parents and out of all of them, my older brother was my best friend until he passed away. I would not be who I am today without my dad and my brothers as well as my mom and my sister!!! and don't get me wrong, I feel like I missed out on a lot, but I had so many other things that made my life a really good one. there's not much I'd change.)
thanks for standing up for the correct thought process!
I have two son. I will never tell them they are less because they are male. It is such a hateful ideology that has come to light in recent years. We are supposed to love our neighbors and pray for those who persecute us. Unfortunately people aren't taught the "golden rule" anymore. Even so, it is encouraging that you have taken a stand the way you have. If more people stand in truth, truth will prevail. His truth! Love you. Love your video. May God continue to use your voice.
Thank you so much for speaking to this (and many other issues). Everything you said, and even the way you said it, resonate with me. One of my biggest concerns as a female raised by a single female, is understanding the true extent of value men have to offer. I love men but maybe I don't fully understand Biblical masculinity and femininity. You and are about the same age so maybe you feel me here somewhat? I'd love an indepth video on Biblical gender roles. It's never sat right with me that Christian women's events are often held during the day. Are they catering to another generation or was I not supposed to have a career? Idk! Just recently it has started to occurred to me why some churches give my Mom the stink eye when she says she's divorced (even though she has a Biblical reason for doing it)... so ya, I'd love for some content on those topics. Thanks for all you do!
I have spent a lot of time digging into gender roles trying to contrast different cultures and the Bible. Would be awesome to here Melissa's thoughts on it. Especially the ex-new age contrast.
You go girl!! God created mankind in His own image therfore we should respect what God has made.
Thank you so much for sharing my video, Melissa! Really appreciate the support. :)
It was simply brilliant! I hope to see your channel blow up. A lot of what you say makes a lot of sense and it's refreshing!
... Plus I've learned a lot more about the Megan Markle debacle lol
Keep teaching theology, keep speaking the truth, and keep being a voice! Great video Melissa! I look up to you.
Thank you for making this video. So many women need to watch this.
I couldn’t agree more! I remember the feminists having real issues to gain work equality in the 60’s into 70’s, but after the fight was won, they began attacking the traditional role of women in the family, belittling being “just” a mom and wife. We have moved away from the Lords intentions for our lives. Families are the core, husbands the leaders. Personally, I find a lot of this is more in the spirit of Rebellion against traditional families, marriage, and of course, God. Somehow, these women just can’t see the irony of their message. Great video, and needed by many women today. 🙏
Bingo, it's all about destroying the family. Feminism has done a lot of good, but it's motives were never good. Ever notice how feminists are so into LGBTQ? Both are anti-family.
So many feel this way and our voices have been silenced. We need to lovingly share our position on these issues.
I agree with a lot of what you say and REALLY appreciate your work over the years. I think the reason for hatred of white men and especially those who claimed to be Christian, is related to the history. We have to understand, if a person or group mistreated your mother or grandmother, it would be easy to see how you would feel negatively towards them, even if you didn't experience the mistreatment directly. We don't get people to stop hating or come to repentance by broad brushing them and minimizing their issues. I think it's unfruitful for Christians to use "wokeness" as a disparaging term. We are supposed to speak truth and when we use blanket terms like that we create barriers to people who might otherwise listen. We should say what we mean, which you get at in a lovely way through your analogy about driving and saying do unto others as you would have them do to you (period). Every time I hear people say "woke" this and "woke" that I get the impression that they're using a dog whistle to appeal to a specific group of people rather than trying to help others. I don't think that's true of this channel but it would be refreshing for more Christian content creators to speak to cultural issues without taking on the left-right paradigm and language. I'd be interested to know what others think.
I hope one day we look back on this and are embarrassed with the way society treats men. Like most of us do with racism today. God made us all in His image ❤
Truth.
I ran a battered women's shelter for 25 years. I can assure all that hatred and reverse seismic is not the answer at all. It does not heal the broken hearted or make things right. We have "over corrected" as you said.
You did a great job at explaining this very unfortunate mess. My old heart feels grateful to you for telling an uncomfortable truth. I was feeling very lonely in my belief but you put it out there. Thanks much little one.
Thank you so, so much! This was a needed rant in my opinion!
Our current culture is proving once again that even with thousands of years of history behind us, we still can’t handle the knowledge of good and evil while in disobedience and rebellion with our Creator…
I am a man and you are one of my favorite biblical teachers. You make things very understandable for non theologians. Keep on keepin on.
Much Love in Christ sis, Ty for speaking TRUTH to this issue Melissa. God bless!
AMEN Sister! I’m a female and I totally agree with you!
Men are getting hammered for being who they are!
I really feel for young men and boys in our society, they are so confused as they don’t know what’s expected of them! Preach it girl!
Men are valuable and should be celebrated for who they are!!
This feels weird to hear. In college, I was called "the devil" once by passing strangers and "the worst" by a close friend after her sociology class. Being a white, German, straight, Christian, male it's pretty easy for even my closest friends to find a put down.
play it as often as you need to! she speaks for a lot of people.
They don't sound like real friends.
I am so sorry you had those experiences. Hugs.
This has been true for a longtime. The feminist movement had some legitimate concerns to be addressed, and some men are awful, most men need to step it up, but feminism is a toxic idol. Dennis Miller said in the 90's "I'm the White Anglo-Saxon male: I'm everybody's ahole." It's only gotten worse since then, it's infiltrated the church too. I just heard otherwise godly men joking that the wives were the real bosses of the family. There shouldn't be "bosses" in any family, the man is supposed to be head of the family, but if you have a "boss" for a spouse you've chosen poorly.
Explain "most men have to step it up"?
Can't tell you how many times I've heard from the podium at churches "happy wife, happy life"
@@raptortown still very, very vague. Not preached in my church.
Also happy spouse, happy house.
It takes 2 to tango.
I fail to see why churches would put the burden for stepping up on men alone. Unless they're woke, and that's linked to radical 4th wave feminism.
Yes, there are many that need to step up. But you can't generalize without an underlying distrust of men.
So, why single out the men?
I love my mother deeply, but I'm already fortifying myself for the fawning praise we're going to hear all day this Sunday.
(Mother's Day, for those of you who watch in the future.)
@@ambassadorkees what part of what I said is vague? Happy wife happy life is just the casual saying that gets tossed around. I do agree with you on happy spouse happy house but from the churches in my area (all being non denominational) go along with this settlement of happy wife happy life. But this my experience.
As for why the burden on men alone I think there many reason to why. I can't say 100% certainly but believe it a mix of culture bleeding it way inside the church, marriage and divorce rate in this country, and male to female ratio. I've seen more apologetics teachers starting to pick on the impact it had on the body christ as a whole which could lead to the men belittling, condescending, ect. almost as if the church has become an outlet to hate men for women.
Having thought about what you said, I want to add a caveat to what I previously wrote. I believe you are correct in your assertion that much of this bat-crap craziness it is an "over-correction" of the worst tendencies of the male sex. But there are many, politically, who are amplifying and harnessing the discontent and turning it to a seething hatred in order to use it politically.
Andrew Tate, that is an issue indeed.
Ironically these guys and feminists actually agree on quite a bit. I think the issue is that many people view the world as power dynamics between people rather then right and wrong.
"Well women can try to put MEN down all they want but their definitely not that smart, strong or powerful in any aspect and yes even sexually true real MEN know the difference as I am"!!! "By the way I am an ALFAMACHO. I praise my MALE GOD in HOLY BIBLE for that"
Melissa I appreciate your intelligence and insight so much. Well done and thank you!
Great attitude. Wish all women felt this way. I love Jesus and thank God my wife feels the same way you do.
Dear Melissa, your video is exactly on point. Thank you.
I love my man! And I love his manly traits! His power, his sweat, his muscles, his need to protect, and provide..all toxicity I love! I am a feminist to my core!
You love his sweat??? Okay, I think you're going a bit overboard. 🤭
@@kelle0285 no…I even love the way he smells after a hard days work! There is something very sexy about it!
Hi. I'm a man (DON'T HATE ME PLEASE). This situation reminds of the punishment God gave to Eve in Genesis for eating the forbidden fruit. Other than pregnancy being painful, He said that Eve would desire to manipulate and control Adam (her husband), but that he will lord over her. Adam also got punished by not being able to receive his due for the work he did, forced to work by the "sweat of his brow"- which is the rason why many men (myself included) have a tendency to want to cheat our way through things. What's even worse is that these things are socially acceptable.
I so appreciate this video from Melissa. Thank you.
Thank you Melissa for standing in the gap for this generation. My boys were born in 1980 and 82 and I watched this sick progression into male bashing first hand. TV shows portrayed men as simple stupid dolts and females as all wise and knowing and then the public re-education camps...aka public schools; started working towards the same ideology. They put so many young boys into the classification of ADHD and encouraged parents to put them on a Ritalin..(it is a formulation that is similar to Meth) The reason I know this is my boys had a friend that took Ritalin because the school said he was ADHC and he shared some of his meds with my kids. Well...kids have a curiousity gene that gets them in trouble alot of times. I could elaborate on the consequences of this but I think this isn't the time to do that.
Be that as it may, I witnessed the concerted attempt during their school years thru the 80's and 90's to immasculate boys. Boys are wired different than girls....this is a God given attribute and why males need females and females need males. We balance one another. Young boys are rough and tumble and they fight some times...OMG violence...and 9 times out of 10 if you just let them handle stuff between themselves. fist to fist, they end up friends or at least with an understanding of boundries.
This is NOT ACCEPTED behaviour in the hands off no 'violence' new age way of doing kids in public schools. They want everything handled 'verbally'...girls are verbal creatures and this works pretty well for them for the most part. But not so much for boys. I really do believe that this is one of the main reasons we are seeing some boys going 'postal' as it were, in school resulting in (REAL) violence.
How about that satanic, disgusting Medusa ad from Amazon?! As a Christian, boy momma, it makes me wanna 🤢🤮! Love your videos!
I hadn't seen that one yet. The ending caught me a bit off guard.
And now I feel guilty for adding to the view-counter, lol
Yes, thank you soo much. When Paul put the women in their place in his letters, it's because they were doing exactly that, they were pushing down men. Agree, the bible is not favouring one or the other gender. If Esther hadn't spoken up, the ppl of Israel woudln't have been saved. Had Daniel not spoken up, just as much so. Thank you Melissa, spot on. Ladies, lets appreciate the men for who they are!
Melissa, I always enjoy your work and have been following you for a couple of years, also your videos with Doreen Virtue. God bless you!
Speaking as a Christian male, the identity politics in media has gotten so bad that I straight up do not consume most modern western media, and pretty much zero mainstream western media. Also, speaking as a man, a big issue among men due to this third-wave feminist stuff is we do not feel romantically satisfied in the slightest, which certainly does not help with male depression rates and the like. At the risk of sounding "sexist" or whatever, women, being women, is attractive. I'm not talking about girly girl vs. tomboy, but rather women who are comfortable being women, and are not trying to emulate men. This whole "think like a man to be successful/respected" mentality many modern women seem to have is just, not remotely attractive. Nor does it honor God's design for men and women to be different.
Just, to be honest, many men my age (early 20's) do not see being in a relationship as remotely worthwhile. We want to be able to lead in a relationship, we want to be relied on and appreciated for what we bring to the table, and we want to be with a woman who we can love and take care of and honor and get emotional support from and so on. We don't want to be badgered and shamed for our masculine traits, and basically made to date a facsimile of a man. Personally, I have never dated, and I am perfectly happy being celibate so long as the cultural climate is like this around women. But many men really do want to be in a relationship and its sad how much modern feminism harms us in this area.
EDIT: Basically, to tie this into what you said. The feminization of masculine traits so women can have them too really harms the male experience in a romantic relationship and leaves us emotionally and romantically unfulfilled, contributing to male depression and generally damaging us too. As well as, most horribly, spitting in the face of God's design.
Always wonder why women want to think like men. I for one don’t. My husband is amazing at so many things im not. ( figuring out how much wood we need for a project) I’m amazing at so many things he’s not (making our home peaceful and inviting). Either of us could learn to do what the other is good at but that’s a lot of work and exhausting. I think people
Are trying to be everything all
The time.