I am silent whenever my husband disrespects me. I’ve been silent for two decades now. After 20 years, I have lost myself and I am beaten into the ground. I am advising everyone here, speak up! Don’t let anyone show you disrespect of any kind! While you are still strong enough, stay away from situations and people who are disrespectful. And if you meet people and you can tell, they are disrespectful, don’t get to know them. Run for your life.
I’m a quiet person by nature and I’m even more silent because society has become so toxic. So toxic people call me stuck up or arrogant because of my silence. This is the exact reason why I am the way I am.
You are doing the right thing, there is nothing wrong with you. Toxic people get upset because they want your attention and you are not giving it to them.
I am now a God loving person. When i was working as a secretary in a renowned company, one of my supervisors acted too rude when he wanted his paperwork typed fast that moment. Without reasoning I did that what you advise in this video. I took the few pages of typing work to finish them for him but, as soon as a finger started to type, i heard a voice, for the first time, there in the office, very clear and loud: "How can you accept this rude way of talk!". Without doubt i knew that the voice was spiritual and correcting me. I grabbed the paperwork and brought it back to him, and putting it down on his desk i said: "No, I don't work under pressure!". I automaticaly became angry, but only after i heard the voice. This incident provoked a few meetings by the bosses, and, i was astonished: they were angry too. In the final end, he got fired. Now i am 75 years of age. God speaks to us, but we don't listen. If we listen life becomes easy.
It becomes a long game after you've allowed it several times previously. They start with so much love bombing, that paralyses you when the disrespect comes. If you counter the disrespect from the onset, they take their stupid long game / disrespect somewhere else. Life is too precious playing long games on worthless relationships. You can dedicate that time to building better long term relationships.
@@Relss40respond, not react. If youre dumping your partner just bc they disrespect you then you will never have a solid relationship. People disrespect all the time and theres no getting around it. Doesnt mean you have to push people away. Learn how to respond and set boundaries instead of pushing people away. Learn how to love unconditionally. Reacting makes conflicts worse than they need to be
@@jms5752and the professor?The manager who keeps on belittling the other person? Don’t look at the cashier example only hence the comment “it takes age and wisdom to understand this”
@@jms5752 he said that in general there are situations when you need to stand and others not. and takes time to become better at this. choosing when to be silent and when to act.
Its easier to say but it doesn’t get the good result always. My sister is one of the kindest person. She always used to be silent but it started killing her inside. She started to get sick. Doctor told her not to keep things inside otherwise she will get sick. Now when she started to speak out, she is much better.
There were moments Jesus confronted very firmly, only when He went to the cross did He not open His mouth, because He knew His purpose to die for us, His love for us. But He never dumbed down to the Pharisees. He called them out! Yet He knew when to confront, when to be silent
Jesus knew root ot of ENVY from the Pharisees - False Religion won turned away from honesty many wept because their Leader had opened their eyes for wot was to behold them afterwards False Religion Leaders Churches Anti-Civilization -followers Anti- Governments Leaders people vote for for Democracy as it is to date Jesus he protested to the Surface Illusions he wanted to give the ppl deeper insight knowing he had but a small window of time to minister Honesty Thou shalt not kill the list is long Begins Thou shalt Nots ..? Jesus Buddah wisdom deep honest proclaiming Live Honestly is not easy but the rewards are miracles on Earth as is in the Heavens - Universe for God - Child God-Man God-Woman nuggets of Aspiring Creators are paving the charge of higher power to bring a better life Health Living Standards Cheaper Cost list is profoundly WOW Factuality Amongst the surface illusions seeped in noise and chaos as in Jesus day as is todate day Self Leadership Independence is Why Jesus was killed for & the Pharissees used dishonesty to manipulare polticise Rome Goverment Honesty vsTruth
@@pippipster6767 He did but only prayed that His Father forgive His torturers, assured the thief that he would join Him in paradise that day, and gave His mother the apostle John as a son, and gave John Mary as a mother
Fine advise for interactions with strangers you will never met again, however a narcissist will use this against you. You need to make a stand with these energy vampires at the first sign of disrespect.
This MAY be the case, but it does works. Narcs are energy vampires who wants your energy, so not reacting how they want you to act can cause them to approach you in a different way. The key is not to let them control your emotions.
@@NancyBrown1975 It's just no contact blown off so no more noise Talking BS blah blah b in awareness It depends how much of the betrayal governed each other Be Honest I chose my choice to rid out 4years l8tr chose to shut down the betrayal governed by my mindset It needs to be a process method No contact leave Country leave County ..?.Wen both are not available Wot to do? The worst is the abusive one All 1-5 All see from a sharp distance There's more than one Narcissists Detestable humanoids Either Flight or Fight ?The Mind wen put to the test The best evolves Mind Power UP
❤ silently being attractive is a skill set that I have been developing not allowing other people's opinions or beliefs to become my feelings and beliefs about myself
Silence can fester, become a lifestyle, address with firmness, speak the truth in love for God, yourself and others. Don’t be a doormat! Discern how to confront this.
This was amazing , at 58 yrs old of course I've learned and grown over the years and can reflect back on my 20's & even 30's and know that I handle things very differently today , But as Much As I Practice Silence and Not Reacting to the Behaivors & Words of Others ,It is Not Easy but the Benifits are Great ! Silence is the Cornerstone of Character ! Thx for another Great One Mr.Rohn 🙏🙏🙏
I made a video smiliar to this topic, I stated that when people see you have great ideas compiled with a great work ethic, you can get over hurdles that they couldn’t, sometimes a person will throw negativity in your direction on purpose. It’s like their trying to setup a roadblock, they see exactly where your headed and want to block your pathway.⚖️
Until the light of your unshakable strength of character and emotional fortitude, shines through the darkness of their disrespect and deep low self esteem, be the lighthouse in the storm. 💚Pau amor i llum I nati on.💚
Decernment is wisdom and that is life long journey in the mean time I was blind and now I see thank God , not every is good intentions either becareful
02:00 I took this same way of silence, and my relationship with these people broke immediately. They never apologized, and I refused to suffer the mistreatment. 07:50 18:30 35:00 39:00
Dont expect people to apologize. Theyre not always going to and it will only cause more suffering on yourself waiting for it. Just let it go and move on
I learned that it depends on who you are dealing with. Some people need to be put in their place thats when you speak up. Some you need to ignore and let your action speak for it. Whatever the situation calls. I do what I feel nowadays. I learned how to speak up when necessary.
Sometimes, staying quiet in acts of disrespect, can cost you your life. I grew up in a very abusive household. When my mother made her move; to leave my father. For a better life for herself and children. My father found us in one week on (April4, 1964). He nearly beat my mother to death . My mother’s face and head was twice its size, she looked like a monster. Her will to live for her children is what survived my mother. My father is at a better place. ( June 17, 1984 Calverton Memorial Cemetery); I will live with these memories for the rest of my life.
I think you should speak up. I’m quiet person, happy, smiling. People walk all over you, take advantage of your kindness. You don’t have to be a tyrant but must speak up. Over time suffering becomes a habit.
For me, staying quiet after getting disrespected, is really hard to do... For me, speaking up or showing action is a relief for me... In my circle coming up since the late 70s. Showing action is where you get respected. A CLOSED MOUTH, WILL NOT GET FED... Facts!
My silence is definitely having my toxic bosses scramble to see why im not responding to their antagonizing and ostracizing tactics. First they uses the team lead to triangulate Now the temp supv reached out asking how I’m doing. And this will help me during the meeting next week. I’m sure they will try to embarrass me. Silence in that moment so I can regulate my emotions before responding can expose who they are. Not me.
I hope for your sake you're either planning to leave that toxic environment, or close to retirement. Sad that you have such bad people as your managers.
I’ve done this , because it takes too much energy to try to reason with people, yes people think you are weak and allow them to walk all over you. Being meek is strength under control, it’s easy to react. Maybe that’s why they keep try to trigger you, they want your power. This won’t work with a narcissist or sociopath, you can give good for evil all you want. They will only get more cruel
It depends… sometimes people think you’re weak and a good lick. A lot of times these people don’t stop bullying you. I don’t agree. As a black person MLK is idolized obviously because he deserves to be, but people want blacks to be docile for control. Silence thwarts self-esteem and confidence.
This is a hard teaching because most people want to retaliate when treated badly. That's fair enough because people don't like to be disrespected. But this is where discernment and wisdom comes in. I am also a black person and do not allow myself to be disrespected or thinking silence is the the answer to all disrespect because that simply is not true. Some actions cause for a very serious and strong reaction/reply. So that it is understood that that behavior will not be tolerated. We are no one's doormat. But I don't engage everyone who decides to be an idiot. There are some situations that cause for silence and walking away and some that don't. But I do agree with what you said that it can be a form of control which can cause low self esteem and causing the person to suffer in silence sort of speak. It is ok to speak up when needed but also realizing all do not deserve time and energy.
Jim passed away many years ago. RIP. But he was Anthony(Tony) Robbins mentor from the age of 18 and 40 plus years later, Tony still gives overwhelming credit to Jim. I'm a fan of both of them.
It depends on the situation... often times remaining silent is the best option.. but other times one needs to speak up.. its like everything else in life...its rarely either or.. but instead a balance...
Did you listen to the whole video? If not you should. Silence doesn't mean you allow yourself to get destroyed... you can still stay calm and respond strategically.
It’s all about context. Sometimes it is better to say nothing. Sometimes it is better to say something. It is a mistake to decide in advance of a situation one way or the other.
Staying quiet when disrespected can fit only with strangers. Or maybe your own boss or your masters (those who have worked for so many years in the company). Coz you know if you fight, you will lose jobs or maybe your insanity (with strangers). I always tell myself its about them, its not about me at all. But with family, especially those closest to you, disrepect is more personal, its about me, its target is me, so i will fight back. Choose your battle people. You dont have to fight every single battle but if you know they come in with knives and weapons waiting to strike you, you need to arm yourself with knives and weapons as well. Dont let people bully. Oh remember, we cant choose our family members, but companies comes and go, we can quit.
I was looking for this type of video after being disrespected. Gathering the strength to overcome it. It is sad that most of the people are always frustated and no one cares about other’s feelings and behave rude. That must change.
This advice only works for the example that was given. You shouldn’t stay silent after disrespect. Ignoring disrespect leads to more of it. People don’t expect a response. They just disrespect you because that’s what they are feeling. It teaches them nothing..
Great topic. Is it a personal thing or is it collective? For instance, Black peoples have suffered centuries of humiliation from the so-called white supremacy. Should they continue to remain silent or fight back? Talk to me.
People/customers need to realise that working on the till is not easy you get so much rudeness /impoiiteness from the public. It seems that being rude is easier that being nice and pleasant
A person wants you to react to their actions and behaviors. You can see it many ways here. One, say nothing and the actions and behaviors continue. Another way to view it is to let others expose themselves and what they are up to. It depends on how you view the situation.
Every once in a while it’s appropriate to stay quiet. If you know the disrespectful person is in distress, stay quiet. If someone has been backed into a corner and lashes out, try to help them out of the corner. Use common sense but in relationships, no, most often - Silence Implies Consent. If my husband was a bit prickly or short tempered after a long day at work, l understood. But if we were trying to have a serious important discussion and he got ugly , No Way! I tried the being quiet and walking away thing and he just saw that as a victory he desired to repeat. Nothing got resolved. My mom gave in to my dad for 63 horrible years. It is often necessary to stand up for yourself at home and in the workplace. I pray and ask for wisdom and not to lose my temper (sometimes did anyway) but tried to handle it calmly but firmly. Do not become someone’s doormat.
A family member whom I forgave recently was at a family party. He felt it was okay to tell me I needed to loose weight as if we had gotten to that level. As I have been praying, God held my tongue and my anger. ❤
I’m sorry this won’t work in a marriage. When a spouse disrespects you and you stay silent is not in the Bible. You are to rebuke someone who harms you or others and defend those that are being harmed. To be silent when a husband disrespects you or your children is called enabling a tyrant bully. Jesus rebuked these bullies
By nature I'm a quiet person that always thinks before speaking. I'm extremely uncomfortable with confrontation and I find that some of these things work and some don't. I've had the boss who was rude to me and took credit for my ideas, I stayed quiet and he got promoted. I moved to another job and had 2 lady bosses, one time I made a mistake and they didn't speak to me for 2 weeks, I stayed quiet but finally I asked if we could have a meeting and it was the most difficult thing for me to tell them that I would appreciate that they speak to me about what happened as opposed to ignoring me. They were shocked that I stood up for myself and apologized to me but from then on, they made me feel out of place, like I didn't belong there and eventually I quit. I had a boyfriend who started to verbally abuse me (I would try to reason with him) but he was not logical and I realized that this man was a tragedy waiting to happen, I left. I think staying quiet only works is someone is provoking you or trying to get a reaction, but sometimes you've got to speak up for yourself, it doesn't have to be loud or rude, just speak the truth in a respectful and firm way to get a better result.
One of the greatest things I have learned, is that sometimes silence is the best answer… because conflict only creates more tension and an argument, and the less intelligent has no compassion of their own behavior let alone the evil that is in their minds: There is a saying…. Every way of man is right in his own eyes… or opinion… how do you correct a person who thinks they are always right?
Strategies to cope with having to be around narcissistic people cannot be applied like recipes. For example when relying too much on silence when facing disrespect then next those who are being narcissistic around us might then label us as being a person with dangerous to us depression or worse. Next after that narcissistic people will escalate their manipulative schemes in systemic bias and prejudice while they are behaving towards us in hypnotic ways which are disrespectful to us with a kind of sugar coating for us present only on the surface. I have been bystander witness to that dynamic harming others after experiencing it for myself first while barely getting away from it.
I do not usually comment on videos just listen get the necessary lessons and resources, like or subscribe if the lesson was deep. But I had to comment on this because i could not fathom the number of persons commenting exactly what Mr. Rohn constantly reiterated, that he is not advising. In listening to his message he spoke exactly on the matters many resisted the message for. If you filtered the details and deleted or distorted this message to fit your perspective, I can only imagine how many persons you were triggered by and ASSUMED what they said was disrespectful and needed your reaction. Development of active listening skills is need.
Nope. It’s not that easy, not that simple… why someone belittles you, bully you.. is not ONLY to irritate you there are multiple motivations (the person is a bitter person because they are having a bad time or they have an angry character …). There are multiple ways to confront people who disrespect you, depends of the different situations… so staying quiet is one of the effective or not, ways to confront disrespectful people. When we see a 1 solution for one problem, mostly is not a good advice, it’s a red flag that says “nope not a good idea!. The psychology of human mind is extremely complicated to reduce solutions to one recommendation
What I've learnt is that when you allow people to disrespect you others follow suit, by allowing it and not doing anything people think you deserved it, they would think that if you didn't deserve it you would have spoken up. Maybe the speaker needs to define what he means by disrespect.
This couldn't have been so timely. Yesterday one of my coworkers was frustrated because she decided to come in to do some work while she was "supposedly on vacation". Anyway as I was about to ask her a question she quickly dismissed me while stomping off like a child. I felt so disrespected and violated. 😡 I hesitantly stopped in my track mainly because we had customers waiting in the front to be seen and others were on the phone. I went to lunch and was thinking heavily about the situation meanwhile I was eager to get back to the office to address her about it. Luckily for her, she left. Ironically, this video popped up out of nowhere. I wanted so badly to address her tomorrow, but I'll take JR's advice. But if she does it again I will definitely check her (or maybe not). My mother always remind me that "a soft answer turneth away wrath". I'll maintain stoicism. 🤐🙏🏽
Silence is acquiescence. You can still stand up for yourself without sinking to their level or having an emotional response. Everything you do is habit forming including being silent. Don’t rationalize being a doormat when you don’t deserve it.
There’s a difference between being silent and assertive. Sometimes you do have to be assertive so that you will not fail. I agree that it’s usually not worth arguing with stupid people, if they say 2 plus 2 equals 3 I would just say you’re right, and walk away, it’s not worth arguing with an idiot.
Staying quiet after disrespect while on the road avoids serious, often dangerous, cases of road rage. Our instincts can lead us to respond in anger, so it takes presence of mind.
Staying quiet means you accept their disrespected and they will continue to disrespect you. It’s like the kid that gets bully but never stands up for himself so he continues to get bully. But the one time he fights back they learn he’s not one to be messed with.
It seems that we can respond without responding in kind (with more disrespect). Is it not standing up for ourselves, and being assertive, that people translate as our self-esteem and self-respect, and therefore a sign of our worth? In my 40-plus years of personal experience, people consider silence a form of insecurity and emptiness.
Yeah, that doesn't work too well. They just become more disrespectful. I ignore disrespect from random encounters but you must cut it off from family and friends or disengage from them
Staying Quiet after disrespect means choosing arguments carefully. -Matthew 15:11 This way of thinking is powerful for people who use it well and will reap benefits of real peace and respect. -Mark 7:15 Opening up our hearts requires industrious work - Romans 12:1-3,10-12 To new ideals such as staying Quiet after disrespect.
Karma is for real. For various lives it will carry on. Morethan donations, treating other humans with kindness, respect is a blessing. Being silent is ok but most if the time people will repeated bothering by thinking it as a weakness. In Ind many people think that the Garuda purana book details about doing wrong things is true.
I am silent whenever my husband disrespects me. I’ve been silent for two decades now. After 20 years, I have lost myself and I am beaten into the ground. I am advising everyone here, speak up! Don’t let anyone show you disrespect of any kind! While you are still strong enough, stay away from situations and people who are disrespectful. And if you meet people and you can tell, they are disrespectful, don’t get to know them. Run for your life.
😢 Abigail....
He did say there's a way to speak up when someone disrespects you. Not just stay silent.
Never too late to start the life of your dreams ❤
He's talking about pivoting in the moment. Not allowing the disrespect to put your fire out.
Get out hun, the hell of an unhealthy marriage very rarely gets better x
I’m a quiet person by nature and I’m even more silent because society has become so toxic. So toxic people call me stuck up or arrogant because of my silence. This is the exact reason why I am the way I am.
Me too. Sounds like I wrote this comment.
You are doing the right thing, there is nothing wrong with you. Toxic people get upset because they want your attention and you are not giving it to them.
Your valuable and God wants you to speak when you have something serious to say.
Exactly me.
💯
“You gotta know when to hold ‘em, know when to fold ‘em, know when to walk away, know when to run.” ~ Kenny Rogers
AMEN.. that has been my motto!
Words of wisdom that can be applied to nearly every of aspects of life.
Definitely
you added nothing to conversation 😂
Silence is GOLDEN!!
There's a great oldie song that says exactly that!!!
i love Goooold
I am now a God loving person. When i was working as a secretary in a renowned company, one of my supervisors acted too rude when he wanted his paperwork typed fast that moment. Without reasoning I did that what you advise in this video. I took the few pages of typing work to finish them for him but, as soon as a finger started to type, i heard a voice, for the first time, there in the office, very clear and loud: "How can you accept this rude way of talk!". Without doubt i knew that the voice was spiritual and correcting me. I grabbed the paperwork and brought it back to him, and putting it down on his desk i said: "No, I don't work under pressure!". I automaticaly became angry, but only after i heard the voice. This incident provoked a few meetings by the bosses, and, i was astonished: they were angry too. In the final end, he got fired. Now i am 75 years of age. God speaks to us, but we don't listen. If we listen life becomes easy.
@@ghostwritersavagex FOR NOW ON I WILL BE QUICK TO LISTEN AND SLOW TO SPEAK, Speak to me Father I'm listening, What shall I do for you? 🙏🏿
You are right.
there's a difference between being silent and being weak
i choose my battles. not every disrespect deserves my attention.
why have any battles at all?
The way of the narcissist is a short game. But this is a long game, it requires inner strength, faith, patience and wisdom.
What are you talking about? Narcissists play the long game all the time, they love plotting, manipulating and slowly destroying their victims.
Yes indeed. It's a long game, and well worth the discipline it takes.
Can you lay it out clearly?
It becomes a long game after you've allowed it several times previously. They start with so much love bombing, that paralyses you when the disrespect comes.
If you counter the disrespect from the onset, they take their stupid long game / disrespect somewhere else. Life is too precious playing long games on worthless relationships. You can dedicate that time to building better long term relationships.
Whatever you tolerate you will get more of...
So fkn true!
When you react to it you are tolerating it
@@jaliskythat's what people don't understand
@@jalisky When an employee is always late fire them, when your GF disrespects you dump her. Reacting to something is NOT tolerating it.
@@Relss40respond, not react. If youre dumping your partner just bc they disrespect you then you will never have a solid relationship. People disrespect all the time and theres no getting around it. Doesnt mean you have to push people away. Learn how to respond and set boundaries instead of pushing people away. Learn how to love unconditionally. Reacting makes conflicts worse than they need to be
It takes age and wisdom to understand this. There are times to take a stand, and times not to.
What stand?!? The cashier just needed a little help!
@@jms5752and the professor?The manager who keeps on belittling the other person? Don’t look at the cashier example only hence the comment “it takes age and wisdom to understand this”
However when speaking in the spirit of mildness that is true strength. -Proverbs 25:15
Choose any battle, big or little, wisely 😊
@@jms5752 he said that in general there are situations when you need to stand and others not. and takes time to become better at this. choosing when to be silent and when to act.
Its easier to say but it doesn’t get the good result always. My sister is one of the kindest person. She always used to be silent but it started killing her inside. She started to get sick. Doctor told her not to keep things inside otherwise she will get sick. Now when she started to speak out, she is much better.
There were moments Jesus confronted very firmly, only when He went to the cross did He not open His mouth, because He knew His purpose to die for us, His love for us. But He never dumbed down to the Pharisees. He called them out! Yet He knew when to confront, when to be silent
Jesus knew root ot of ENVY from the Pharisees - False Religion won turned away from honesty many wept because their Leader had opened their eyes for wot was to behold them afterwards False Religion Leaders Churches Anti-Civilization -followers Anti- Governments Leaders people vote for for Democracy as it is to date Jesus he protested to the Surface Illusions he wanted to give the ppl deeper insight knowing he had but a small window of time to minister Honesty Thou shalt not kill the list is long Begins Thou shalt Nots ..? Jesus Buddah wisdom deep honest proclaiming Live Honestly is not easy but the rewards are miracles on Earth as is in the Heavens - Universe for God - Child God-Man God-Woman nuggets of Aspiring Creators are paving the charge of higher power to bring a better life Health Living Standards Cheaper Cost list is profoundly WOW Factuality Amongst the surface illusions seeped in noise and chaos as in Jesus day as is todate day Self Leadership Independence is Why Jesus was killed for & the Pharissees used dishonesty to manipulare polticise Rome Goverment Honesty vsTruth
Amen. Glory to the Most High!
Jesus did say words on the cross.
Amen. To everything there is a season, and a time under the heavens.
@@pippipster6767 He did but only prayed that His Father forgive His torturers, assured the thief that he would join Him in paradise that day, and gave His mother the apostle John as a son, and gave John Mary as a mother
It takes a great deal of humility and discernment to understand this. Bless you
It does,🙏🏻
Fine advise for interactions with strangers you will never met again, however a narcissist will use this against you. You need to make a stand with these energy vampires at the first sign of disrespect.
Narcissists actually hate the silent treatment. They couldn't handle it when they know that what they say cannot get to you
This MAY be the case, but it does works. Narcs are energy vampires who wants your energy, so not reacting how they want you to act can cause them to approach you in a different way. The key is not to let them control your emotions.
Silence is a strategy to deal with narcissists too. It’s called no contact.
@@NancyBrown1975 It's just no contact blown off so no more noise Talking BS blah blah b in awareness It depends how much of the betrayal governed each other Be Honest I chose my choice to rid out 4years l8tr chose to shut down the betrayal governed by my mindset It needs to be a process method No contact leave Country leave County ..?.Wen both are not available Wot to do? The worst is the abusive one All 1-5 All see from a sharp distance There's more than one Narcissists Detestable humanoids Either Flight or Fight ?The Mind wen put to the test The best evolves Mind Power UP
Gray rock
@@karinfish4144 with gray rock you are present with the narcissist being dull as possible. No contact is best.
Sure is you might grieve for loss of a relationship but better to be on your own than with the wrong people
@@christinejones4785 Amen to that.
❤ silently being attractive is a skill set that I have been developing not allowing other people's opinions or beliefs to become my feelings and beliefs about myself
This video couldn't have come at a better time 👍🏿
I promise that's exactly what I'm working on just stay quiet and keep it moving
Me too
@@Anj-lj3tg Amen🙏🏿
This is one of the best way to save your precious time to do more important and good things than retaliate evil with evil. Time is short.
Silence can fester, become a lifestyle, address with firmness, speak the truth in love for God, yourself and others. Don’t be a doormat! Discern how to confront this.
This was amazing , at 58 yrs old of course I've learned and grown over the years and can reflect back on my 20's & even 30's and know that I handle things very differently today , But as Much As I Practice Silence and Not Reacting to the Behaivors & Words of Others ,It is Not Easy but the Benifits are Great !
Silence is the Cornerstone of Character ! Thx for another Great One Mr.Rohn 🙏🙏🙏
Silence is the cornerstone of character! Waoo that's deep
Thank you for sharing
I made a video smiliar to this topic, I stated that when people see you have great ideas compiled with a great work ethic, you can get over hurdles that they couldn’t, sometimes a person will throw negativity in your direction on purpose. It’s like their trying to setup a roadblock, they see exactly where your headed and want to block your pathway.⚖️
That's called spiritual warfare.
Guess who represents the scales? God
@@lonitagraham8399 I like your perspective. I chose the scales for my channel logo.
Correct.
Truth!!
People mistake this for being a doormat
Until they can't tell when ur gonna snap....
@@jay07261986 that's the best part
Until the light of your unshakable strength of character and emotional fortitude, shines through the darkness of their disrespect and deep low self esteem, be the lighthouse in the storm.
💚Pau amor i llum I nati on.💚
Decernment is wisdom and that is life long journey in the mean time I was blind and now I see thank God , not every is good intentions either becareful
02:00 I took this same way of silence, and my relationship with these people broke immediately. They never apologized, and I refused to suffer the mistreatment.
07:50
18:30
35:00
39:00
Dont expect people to apologize. Theyre not always going to and it will only cause more suffering on yourself waiting for it. Just let it go and move on
Were you stonewalling others?
Think about it.
I learned that it depends on who you are dealing with. Some people need to be put in their place thats when you speak up. Some you need to ignore and let your action speak for it. Whatever the situation calls. I do what I feel nowadays. I learned how to speak up when necessary.
Sometimes, staying quiet in acts of disrespect, can cost you your life. I grew up in a very abusive household. When my mother made her move; to leave my father. For a better life for herself and children. My father found us in one week on (April4, 1964). He nearly beat my mother to death . My mother’s face and head was twice its size, she looked like a monster. Her will to live for her children is what survived my mother. My father is at a better place. ( June 17, 1984 Calverton Memorial Cemetery); I will live with these memories for the rest of my life.
I think you should speak up. I’m quiet person, happy, smiling. People walk all over you, take advantage of your kindness. You don’t have to be a tyrant but must speak up.
Over time suffering becomes a habit.
The story of my life until recently. I've started sticking up for myself, refusing to be a doormat, and nowadays, peopl think I'm harsh and surly.
For me, staying quiet after getting disrespected, is really hard to do... For me, speaking up or showing action is a relief for me... In my circle coming up since the late 70s. Showing action is where you get respected. A CLOSED MOUTH, WILL NOT GET FED... Facts!
My silence is definitely having my toxic bosses scramble to see why im not responding to their antagonizing and ostracizing tactics. First they uses the team lead to triangulate Now the temp supv reached out asking how I’m doing. And this will help me during the meeting next week. I’m sure they will try to embarrass me. Silence in that moment so I can regulate my emotions before responding can expose who they are. Not me.
I hope for your sake you're either planning to leave that toxic environment, or close to retirement. Sad that you have such bad people as your managers.
Silence is complicity
Good thing Tom had a co-worker speak up for him.
I’ve never heard of Jim Rohn but I can speak from experience these principles are true. Thanks for this!
I’ve done this , because it takes too much energy to try to reason with people, yes people think you are weak and allow them to walk all over you. Being meek is strength under control, it’s easy to react.
Maybe that’s why they keep try to trigger you, they want your power.
This won’t work with a narcissist or sociopath, you can give good for evil all you want. They will only get more cruel
It depends… sometimes people think you’re weak and a good lick. A lot of times these people don’t stop bullying you. I don’t agree. As a black person MLK is idolized obviously because he deserves to be, but people want blacks to be docile for control. Silence thwarts self-esteem and confidence.
This is a hard teaching because most people want to retaliate when treated badly. That's fair enough because people don't like to be disrespected. But this is where discernment and wisdom comes in. I am also a black person and do not allow myself to be disrespected or thinking silence is the the answer to all disrespect because that simply is not true. Some actions cause for a very serious and strong reaction/reply. So that it is understood that that behavior will not be tolerated. We are no one's doormat. But I don't engage everyone who decides to be an idiot. There are some situations that cause for silence and walking away and some that don't. But I do agree with what you said that it can be a form of control which can cause low self esteem and causing the person to suffer in silence sort of speak. It is ok to speak up when needed but also realizing all do not deserve time and energy.
Needed this. This is beginning..
Don’t do it!
What he's saying makes complete sense.
I love you Jim my life is going to amazing top of success, I am very lucky to have you and I wish all the best for you and people around you.
Jim passed away many years ago. RIP. But he was Anthony(Tony) Robbins mentor from the age of 18 and 40 plus years later, Tony still gives overwhelming credit to Jim. I'm a fan of both of them.
It depends on the situation... often times remaining silent is the best option.. but other times one needs to speak up.. its like everything else in life...its rarely either or.. but instead a balance...
I stood silent & was destroyed, it’s not always good
Did you listen to the whole video? If not you should. Silence doesn't mean you allow yourself to get destroyed... you can still stay calm and respond strategically.
But you’re still here
It’s the quiet ones I fear! Never know when they will snap!!
It’s all about context.
Sometimes it is better to say nothing.
Sometimes it is better to say something.
It is a mistake to decide in advance of a situation one way or the other.
Staying quiet when disrespected can fit only with strangers. Or maybe your own boss or your masters (those who have worked for so many years in the company). Coz you know if you fight, you will lose jobs or maybe your insanity (with strangers). I always tell myself its about them, its not about me at all. But with family, especially those closest to you, disrepect is more personal, its about me, its target is me, so i will fight back. Choose your battle people. You dont have to fight every single battle but if you know they come in with knives and weapons waiting to strike you, you need to arm yourself with knives and weapons as well. Dont let people bully.
Oh remember, we cant choose our family members, but companies comes and go, we can quit.
You're so right! When you try asserting yourself and argue with type of person, outsiders see you as a troublemaker!
Be still and know that iam the lord your God there are times to be still and quiet so we can hear from the lord
I am learning now to remain calm, in a certain situation.
I was looking for this type of video after being disrespected. Gathering the strength to overcome it. It is sad that most of the people are always frustated and no one cares about other’s feelings and behave rude. That must change.
Well this only works if you really don’t feel disrespected inside, you can’t fake it. If you do then you are only inviting more pain to yourself.
You’re on the wrong page my guy ., you need to build your low self esteem
Good way to differentiate
Wawooo!!!
I love this.
Indeed it is the small minds which try to push some people down.God always pays back.
The truth will always set one free.
Do not let other people’s negativity dictate your actions. Discernment.😊 Navigate life’s challenges with dignity and grace.
I'm fairly certain that many lives could have been saved with this advice
Need to work on this
SILENCE IS A SECRET DEFENCE
This advice only works for the example that was given. You shouldn’t stay silent after disrespect. Ignoring disrespect leads to more of it. People don’t expect a response. They just disrespect you because that’s what they are feeling. It teaches them nothing..
These things he talks about in this are true - do it!
Yes taking a moment, pray how to handle and proceed in a calmer way.
Great topic. Is it a personal thing or is it collective? For instance, Black peoples have suffered centuries of humiliation from the so-called white supremacy. Should they continue to remain silent or fight back? Talk to me.
People/customers need to realise that working on the till is not easy you get so much rudeness /impoiiteness from the public. It seems that being rude is easier that being nice and pleasant
Dear GOD I am in the same thing with the boss an Co workers LORD please walk me through these days to come 🙏
A person wants you to react to their actions and behaviors. You can see it many ways here. One, say nothing and the actions and behaviors continue. Another way to view it is to let others expose themselves and what they are up to. It depends on how you view the situation.
This is the Best audio book ever.
Thank you for reminding me to let me words be few
Thanks GOD I've watched this Video I am being Bullied and Disrespect in office. I thought being silent is showing weakness I just realised it's power.
Every once in a while it’s appropriate to stay quiet. If you know the disrespectful person is in distress, stay quiet. If someone has been backed into a corner and lashes out, try to help them out of the corner. Use common sense but in relationships, no, most often - Silence Implies Consent. If my husband was a bit prickly or short tempered after a long day at work, l understood. But if we were trying to have a serious important discussion and he got ugly , No Way! I tried the being quiet and walking away thing and he just saw that as a victory he desired to repeat. Nothing got resolved. My mom gave in to my dad for 63 horrible years. It is often necessary to stand up for yourself at home and in the workplace. I pray and ask for wisdom and not to lose my temper (sometimes did anyway) but tried to handle it calmly but firmly. Do not become someone’s doormat.
Disrespect is a destructive projectile..silence is the ultimate shield.
A family member whom I forgave recently was at a family party. He felt it was okay to tell me I needed to loose weight as if we had gotten to that level. As I have been praying, God held my tongue and my anger. ❤
Timeless counsel. 🙏🏾
I’m sorry this won’t work in a marriage. When a spouse disrespects you and you stay silent is not in the Bible.
You are to rebuke someone who harms you or others and defend those that are being harmed.
To be silent when a husband disrespects you or your children is called enabling a tyrant bully.
Jesus rebuked these bullies
Precious Advice , life saving Thank you
By nature I'm a quiet person that always thinks before speaking. I'm extremely uncomfortable with confrontation and I find that some of these things work and some don't. I've had the boss who was rude to me and took credit for my ideas, I stayed quiet and he got promoted. I moved to another job and had 2 lady bosses, one time I made a mistake and they didn't speak to me for 2 weeks, I stayed quiet but finally I asked if we could have a meeting and it was the most difficult thing for me to tell them that I would appreciate that they speak to me about what happened as opposed to ignoring me. They were shocked that I stood up for myself and apologized to me but from then on, they made me feel out of place, like I didn't belong there and eventually I quit. I had a boyfriend who started to verbally abuse me (I would try to reason with him) but he was not logical and I realized that this man was a tragedy waiting to happen, I left. I think staying quiet only works is someone is provoking you or trying to get a reaction, but sometimes you've got to speak up for yourself, it doesn't have to be loud or rude, just speak the truth in a respectful and firm way to get a better result.
Fantastic guidance! Right inline with Eckhart Tolle teachings.
Thank you for this great teaching video 👏
This was very helpful...thank you!
One of the greatest things I have learned, is that sometimes silence is the best answer… because conflict only creates more tension and an argument, and the less intelligent has no compassion of their own behavior let alone the evil that is in their minds:
There is a saying….
Every way of man is right in his own eyes… or opinion… how do you correct a person who thinks they are always right?
Few words are the saver otherwise you can also say something wrong
This is true
Respect must come naturally
Strategies to cope with having to be around narcissistic people cannot be applied like recipes. For example when relying too much on silence when facing disrespect then next those who are being narcissistic around us might then label us as being a person with dangerous to us depression or worse. Next after that narcissistic people will escalate their manipulative schemes in systemic bias and prejudice while they are behaving towards us in hypnotic ways which are disrespectful to us with a kind of sugar coating for us present only on the surface. I have been bystander witness to that dynamic harming others after experiencing it for myself first while barely getting away from it.
He didn’t say it’s a Cookie cutter strategy
Very Well said. People need to do more research and Educate themselves. This world is a cruel place we live in.
I agree
Sometimes being quiete works, but sometimes speaking up with respect not shooting insults back. Speak with love and you will conquer hate.
Wow thank you so much
Wow. I’m grateful to have had this video suggested to me. More, please ❤
I do not usually comment on videos just listen get the necessary lessons and resources, like or subscribe if the lesson was deep.
But I had to comment on this because i could not fathom the number of persons commenting exactly what Mr. Rohn constantly reiterated, that he is not advising.
In listening to his message he spoke exactly on the matters many resisted the message for.
If you filtered the details and deleted or distorted this message to fit your perspective, I can only imagine how many persons you were triggered by and ASSUMED what they said was disrespectful and needed your reaction.
Development of active listening skills is need.
Great video ❤
Nope. It’s not that easy, not that simple… why someone belittles you, bully you.. is not ONLY to irritate you there are multiple motivations (the person is a bitter person because they are having a bad time or they have an angry character …). There are multiple ways to confront people who disrespect you, depends of the different situations… so staying quiet is one of the effective or not, ways to confront disrespectful people.
When we see a 1 solution for one problem, mostly is not a good advice, it’s a red flag that says “nope not a good idea!. The psychology of human mind is extremely complicated to reduce solutions to one recommendation
God bless you heaps
So truth! Great WISDOM 🤩
What I've learnt is that when you allow people to disrespect you others follow suit, by allowing it and not doing anything people think you deserved it, they would think that if you didn't deserve it you would have spoken up. Maybe the speaker needs to define what he means by disrespect.
This couldn't have been so timely. Yesterday one of my coworkers was frustrated because she decided to come in to do some work while she was "supposedly on vacation". Anyway as I was about to ask her a question she quickly dismissed me while stomping off like a child. I felt so disrespected and violated. 😡 I hesitantly stopped in my track mainly because we had customers waiting in the front to be seen and others were on the phone. I went to lunch and was thinking heavily about the situation meanwhile I was eager to get back to the office to address her about it. Luckily for her, she left. Ironically, this video popped up out of nowhere. I wanted so badly to address her tomorrow, but I'll take JR's advice. But if she does it again I will definitely check her (or maybe not). My mother always remind me that "a soft answer turneth away wrath". I'll maintain stoicism. 🤐🙏🏽
Silence is acquiescence. You can still stand up for yourself without sinking to their level or having an emotional response. Everything you do is habit forming including being silent. Don’t rationalize being a doormat when you don’t deserve it.
That's true.
There’s a difference between being silent and assertive. Sometimes you do have to be assertive so that you will not fail. I agree that it’s usually not worth arguing with stupid people, if they say 2 plus 2 equals 3 I would just say you’re right, and walk away, it’s not worth arguing with an idiot.
No one gona treat you bad if you let them
Silents is power
Thanks 🙏
Staying quiet after disrespect while on the road avoids serious, often dangerous, cases of road rage. Our instincts can lead us to respond in anger, so it takes presence of mind.
Thank you Jesus
Staying quiet means you accept their disrespected and they will continue to disrespect you. It’s like the kid that gets bully but never stands up for himself so he continues to get bully. But the one time he fights back they learn he’s not one to be messed with.
Evil will take advantage of ur mneekness ! Pray to I AM AND HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON AMEN!!!
Sounds freedom for me 🤗
It seems that we can respond without responding in kind (with more disrespect).
Is it not standing up for ourselves, and being assertive, that people translate as our self-esteem and self-respect, and therefore a sign of our worth?
In my 40-plus years of personal experience, people consider silence a form of insecurity and emptiness.
Yeah, that doesn't work too well. They just become more disrespectful. I ignore disrespect from random encounters but you must cut it off from family and friends or disengage from them
Staying Quiet after disrespect means choosing arguments carefully. -Matthew 15:11 This way of thinking is powerful for people who use it well and will reap benefits of real peace and respect. -Mark 7:15 Opening up our hearts requires industrious work - Romans 12:1-3,10-12 To new ideals such as staying Quiet after disrespect.
Karma is for real. For various lives it will carry on. Morethan donations, treating other humans with kindness, respect is a blessing. Being silent is ok but most if the time people will repeated bothering by thinking it as a weakness. In Ind many people think that the Garuda purana book details about doing wrong things is true.