Another big problem within the community is the sub caste no marriage policy. Karkun Batt's due to their self ego are not ready to marry with Gor's ,Buhir's but are ready to marry their children to Bihari's etc. Also Shahar people are not ready to marry with Gaam people even after 33 yrs of leaving Kashmir but are ok with marrying outside community. This issue should also be raised and resolved!!
@@amitlahori3957pls ask children or youth what they think their parents are teaching them you will get better picture. Marriages are a matter of love and family building .when "7 figure salary, 4 BHK flat ,Highly educated girl " are inserted by parents while looking for a bride n groom instead of trusting & guiding their children in pursuit of a life partner, it becomes a business deal.
Dear sanjay ji . I have listened properly your audio and appreciated your courage . Following points i dont agree and i prefer to give my point of view 1. Money is never a more priority. The fact is that people in our community wants comfortably life rather than earning hondsome money . 2. Late marriages are because of their out side relations 3 . Regarding divorce ego is the problem . No body wants to compromise 4 . Takni mismatching is only excuse . I have seen several divorces after taknis matched perfectly 5. Fake show off among the low category people . Empty vessal makes more noise . Needless to mention i have seen some awsome people in our community and prople around them are not from our commnity Above all not marrying at right age and planning for family at right time is only the issue of not taking the responsibility of family
Well said mahra 🙏🙏our Kashmiri Pandit community needs such awakening & all Parents should think seriously about this burning issue of settlement of children at proper age. 👌🙏🙌🏼🙌🏼
Sir ladki walo ne naya business banaya hai. Mera khudka experience hai aaj kal ladki wale 20-30 tekniya lete hai jahan match hui fir sab ladko se milte hai aur milne ke baad na wo log na haan na na karte hai bas latka ke rakhte hai ...iss chakkar mai ki isse bada salary wala mile
Each and every word said is correct. We as elders r responsible for it. We as parents don't educate our children about the essence of marriage and having children at right time. We only tell them from childhood that education and earning is the only thing they should concentrate on. Rest will follow itself. We haven't educated them, what life is all about. We as parents have made our children materialistic, and that's what they have become. They feel money can buy them hapiness, which is untrue. That's the reason why they r not interested in early marriage and then not having children. We as parents have to awake, arise and make children realise the essence of early marriage and having children at right time.
Kudos 👏 👏 #Tarrr_Tekin is the root cause of our filthy mentality. You are absolutely right. Every senior family member must convince the younger generation of respective family for keeping more than 2 to 3 children. 5 to 6 member family is the best family.
Sanjay ji, thanks for the initiative. This is burning issue in the community. I consider parents 90% responsible for this. The reason being, they create their own opinion in the children. Their full thrust is on the " Package ", Even in divorce cases, where children have attained 40 yrs. of age, Parents emphasis on Package. Parents take initiative only after the children have attained the age of 32 yrs. They never realise the sentiments of children. The result is, children by that time have already selected some one, mainly from outside the community. However, children are also 10 % responsible. They don't have community feeling. They always give negative example of the community.
70% of marriages are solemnised by KP boys and girls on their own outside of their community therefore drastically reducing the number of girls or boys for arranged marriage with in their own community.Those KP boys or girls who depend on parents for their marriage face lot of difficulties in getting their children married. So the main problem is not the tekni but the availability of marriageable boys and girls for arranged marriage with in their community.
You are right Mahrah, Everyone is aware but no one wants to act. No one wants to bend a little bit, either to get in a relationship or to maintain the relationship. I have also seen cases where family members are directly saying we should have married to a Non Kashmiri. Kashmiris were always well educated but a thing that we lack as a society is support of each other. We very easily say don’t drag in others matters but what I see in other societies they get directly involved in family issues so that a marriage can be saved. There are many other factors as well. For having 2 kids, thanks to our education system which had set its level so high that we only think to spend on one.
Namaskar mahra 🙏very truly said . This is really a burning issue & needs to be addressed. High package girls are not willing to marry with lesser package boys & parents also don't advise them. Thanks for this wonderful effort. 👌🙌🏼💐💐👍👍🙏🙏🙏.
Nameskar Mahra. So far as your opinion regarding late marriage is concerned I agree with you. But there are various other parameters also responsible for this. The research is not complete. People are also suffering due to un employment and economic problems also. Only five percent of our community members are economically sound rest are Living in a deteriorated condition. There are so many burning issues and these issues cannot be resolved individually. We will have to sit together and resolve these issues. There are so many family who are not in a position to marry their boys and girls due weak economic background. Economically sound people should come forward to help such people. Samohik marriages can also be organized within the community . You are the right person to take the initiative. Moreover, the problem of unemployment and those youths who are interested to go for higher education but due economic constraints are not in a position to move ahead is also required to be solved. Otherwise also this community is at the verge of extinction and if steps in right direction are not taken nobody can stop it.
In fact, our registered NGOs can work on these important issues, but unfortunately, by interfering in the government work, they become the officers themselves and do not do any social work on public matters. If a common man should do social work now, no one supports him. Now you tell sir, how to solve such issues ?
What the problem is presumed or may be real isn't important. Moralistic sermons are no more helpful and being parentic doesn't help. What is important given the situation what can be helpful to move with the flow and ensure that flow is smooth and life is fulfilling.
Another big problem within the community is the sub caste no marriage policy. Karkun Batt's due to their self ego are not ready to marry with Gor's ,Buhir's but are ready to marry their children to Bihari's etc. Also Shahar people are not ready to marry with Gaam people even after 33 yrs of leaving Kashmir but are ok with marrying outside community.
This issue should also be raised and resolved!!
100% You are correct
but we don't accept practically.
yeh Batta nahi sudharne walle
Bihar, kerla, puna etc ziyada pasand hai inko
Well said sir
99% parents are to blame for such situations.They teach kids to be competitive and not importance of love and responsibility .
You are wrong . No parents are anti love and affection
@@amitlahori3957pls ask children or youth what they think their parents are teaching them you will get better picture. Marriages are a matter of love and family building .when "7 figure salary, 4 BHK flat ,Highly educated girl " are inserted by parents while looking for a bride n groom instead of trusting & guiding their children in pursuit of a life partner, it becomes a business deal.
Golden Words Mahra !.. Moral Corruption....
Well said brother sanjay ji
God bless you
Dear sanjay ji . I have listened properly your audio and appreciated your courage . Following points i dont agree and i prefer to give my point of view
1. Money is never a more priority. The fact is that people in our community wants comfortably life rather than earning hondsome money .
2. Late marriages are because of their out side relations
3 . Regarding divorce ego is the problem . No body wants to compromise
4 . Takni mismatching is only excuse . I have seen several divorces after taknis matched perfectly
5. Fake show off among the low category people . Empty vessal makes more noise .
Needless to mention i have seen some awsome people in our community and prople around them are not from our commnity
Above all not marrying at right age and planning for family at right time is only the issue of not taking the responsibility of family
Well said mahra 🙏🙏our Kashmiri Pandit community needs such awakening & all Parents should think seriously about this burning issue of settlement of children at proper age. 👌🙏🙌🏼🙌🏼
Eye Opener for all Kashmiri Pandits. IT is actually a wakeup call for us as a. community.
Well said. 100% true said.
l am also worried about it.But unfortunately l can't do nothing. 😢
जय श्री राम इस
बहुत सुन्दर प्रस्तुति है
कोन इन बातों पर ध्यान देने हैं
Very well said and pointed out well in time .Our community has to ponder about it , if it doesn’t want to hasten its complete extinction .
You are right sir, but we have to take step regarding this, I feel really proud on you. It is like counceling to real communty members .
Sir ladki walo ne naya business banaya hai. Mera khudka experience hai aaj kal ladki wale 20-30 tekniya lete hai jahan match hui fir sab ladko se milte hai aur milne ke baad na wo log na haan na na karte hai bas latka ke rakhte hai ...iss chakkar mai ki isse bada salary wala mile
Exactly,mera sath b yahi hua hai
Each and every word said is correct. We as elders r responsible for it. We as parents don't educate our children about the essence of marriage and having children at right time. We only tell them from childhood that education and earning is the only thing they should concentrate on. Rest will follow itself. We haven't educated them, what life is all about. We as parents have made our children materialistic, and that's what they have become. They feel money can buy them hapiness, which is untrue. That's the reason why they r not interested in early marriage and then not having children. We as parents have to awake, arise and make children realise the essence of early marriage and having children at right time.
Exactly. Very well said.
Well said mehara
100%correct
Sanjay Baya 🙏 True 👏Bagwan diyen sarney sedbuddi (kasheren Batten )
Good said mahara we all need to be involved with Sanjay ji..thanks Sanjay unkal. For initiate
Kudos 👏 👏
#Tarrr_Tekin is the root cause of our filthy mentality.
You are absolutely right.
Every senior family member must convince the younger generation of respective family for keeping more than 2 to 3 children.
5 to 6 member family is the best family.
Golden words God bless you🙏
You are right Sir, we are facing the same problem.
Very true mahra children are to be blamed followed by parents.
Absolutely right 👍
Sanjay ji, thanks for the initiative. This is burning issue in the community. I consider parents 90% responsible for this. The reason being, they create their own opinion in the children. Their full thrust is on the " Package ", Even in divorce cases, where children have attained 40 yrs. of age, Parents emphasis on Package. Parents take initiative only after the children have attained the age of 32 yrs. They never realise the sentiments of children. The result is, children by that time have already selected some one, mainly from outside the community. However, children are also 10 % responsible. They don't have community feeling. They always give negative example of the community.
SANJAY Baya l am with you❤
Beautiful Video.such videos should continue to awaken society from deep slumber of ignorance and illiteracy.of intectual minds.
Thanks for sharing.🙏
70% of marriages are solemnised by KP boys and girls on their own outside of their community therefore drastically reducing the number of girls or boys for arranged marriage with in their own community.Those KP boys or girls who depend on parents for their marriage face lot of difficulties in getting their children married. So the main problem is not the tekni but the availability of marriageable boys and girls for arranged marriage with in their community.
Nice message mahara.
Informative.Beautiful presentation.our community must wake up so that our children don't suffer.Jai ho mahra.🙏
It is not only applicable to boys but for girls too.
Golden words from sanjay ji...we must give thought on this serious subject......
Yes u r absolutely 💯 %right mahara as our kp community is declining bcoz of our selfishness. 😅
Very rightly said😢
Namaskar Mahra 🙏
Aap ka yeh video bohut hi zyada informative hai agar iss massage par hum loag 10% b apnayeingay to bohut benefit ho jayega
You are right but no one knows it
Why every1 knows it,, rather is suffering. But not ready to accept from the front.
Well said, Namaskar Mahara
Absolutely right 👍 This video should be made viral among our community
You are absolutely right Sanjay ji. Tekni, caste division amongst the community are also some factors
You are absolutely right sir 🙏
You are right Mahrah, Everyone is aware but no one wants to act. No one wants to bend a little bit, either to get in a relationship or to maintain the relationship. I have also seen cases where family members are directly saying we should have married to a Non Kashmiri.
Kashmiris were always well educated but a thing that we lack as a society is support of each other. We very easily say don’t drag in others matters but what I see in other societies they get directly involved in family issues so that a marriage can be saved.
There are many other factors as well.
For having 2 kids, thanks to our education system which had set its level so high that we only think to spend on one.
Namaskar mahra 🙏very truly said . This is really a burning issue & needs to be addressed. High package girls are not willing to marry with lesser package boys & parents also don't advise them. Thanks for this wonderful effort. 👌🙌🏼💐💐👍👍🙏🙏🙏.
Great explanation
101% True...
Beautifully explained. God bless you sir 🙏
Very well said
100% correct
Divorce rates also increasing which were non existent in our community.
Shortcut , marriage within community conditional ,rules,
While as marriage with other community is unconditional, no criteria.
True words
Almost everyone is appreciating but no one is ready to accept.
I totally agree with amitlahoriji
you are right sir we also you 🙏
Nameskar Mahra. So far as your opinion regarding late marriage is concerned I agree with you. But there are various other parameters also responsible for this. The research is not complete. People are also suffering due to un employment and economic problems also. Only five percent of our community members are economically sound rest are Living in a deteriorated condition. There are so many burning issues and these issues cannot be resolved individually. We will have to sit together and resolve these issues. There are so many family who are not in a position to marry their boys and girls due weak economic background. Economically sound people should come forward to help such people. Samohik marriages can also be organized within the community . You are the right person to take the initiative. Moreover, the problem of unemployment and those youths who are interested to go for higher education but due economic constraints are not in a position to move ahead is also required to be solved. Otherwise also this community is at the verge of extinction and if steps in right direction are not taken nobody can stop it.
Very nice 🙏
True
Thoughtful
Gour Karkun
a big/burning issue
we must accept.
but..........
Aap ki baat sahi hai
I agree with you but.…
...
Well said
Very true 🙏🙏🙏
Very true
Very nice 👌🙏
In fact, our registered NGOs can work on these important issues, but unfortunately, by interfering in the government work, they become the officers themselves and do not do any social work on public matters. If a common man should do social work now, no one supports him. Now you tell sir, how to solve such issues ?
💯 true mahra 🙏🏻🌸🌺
Bilkul 💯 Right
Very nice sir🙏🙏
Yes u r right sir. But u will bell the cat. Mata Tripurasundari bless whole Community.
I think parents are responsible for this situation.
100% correct
Such regressive thoughts!
And I have seen KP boys are brought up in protected environment and they expect same treatment when they get married which is the reason for discord .
🙏
Basically maximum youth enjoy outside means in relationship ship
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
❤❤👏👏👏👍👍👍
Agar mahra ek parent 24 saal ke ladkay ke shadi karna chahy to dusra parent apni 22 ya 23 saal ki ladki ki shadi karne ke liye tayar hosakta hai
Yeh aj k nhi saaloo se chalta aaya aj ke date mai kashmiryou mai ketne % nan brahmin nan kashmiri shadi hoyi hai
Those children marrying on their own ,do parents match tekni, why tekni bakvas if your child ask for arranged marriage
Nonsense, don't you know that new youth is enjoying like anything have different relationship with each other so why they will marry
What the problem is presumed or may be real isn't important. Moralistic sermons are no more helpful and being parentic doesn't help. What is important given the situation what can be helpful to move with the flow and ensure that flow is smooth and life is fulfilling.
Undoubtedly irrefutable mahra.
True