this is such a great video! you're so right, talking about sex is too often seen as taboo on youtube and it definitely shouldn't be: i worked in sexual health for three years and i firmly believe open conversations about sex and related discussions and decent sex education is one of the best ways to combat stis and teenage pregnancy! just to add: 1) scissoring is often considered the "lesbian sex position," but if you're not into that, please don't stress. of both myself and my queer friends, none have been into scissoring. as was said, toys are a very good tool, but also: oral sex, fingering (both vaginal and anal), humping (eg. humping your partner's leg in a way that stimulates your clit: i find this is a lot easier to do than scissoring, scissoring has always seemed like a bit of a gymnastic task for me lmao), mutual masturbation, rimming. girls having sex with girls is literally just like men having sex with women, but without the penis (in most cases, i don't mean to exclude trans women): everything is still on the table. submission, domination, choking, watersports, all of the fetishes. the world is your oyster, regardless of your sexuality! (side note: if you want to scissor, though, that's cool, too! parts of the queer community can go to the other extreme and scissor shame, but it's all about personal preference! do what feels good!) 2) on anal, yes, use lots and lots of lube (you'll see them use spit as lube in porn or no lube at all, i really really would not recommend this!) and i found using finger penetration (i'd really recommend using lube with this as well!) really helped me in terms of figuring out whether anal sex was something i wanted to do and working myself up to it (so starting with one finger and then, if you like the feel of it, maybe try two fingers if you wish to: some people just like one finger and that's all and that's fine, too!). also, please do not go from anal to vaginal ever. there is a lot of harmful bacteria in your anus that should not be going up your vagina. and this isn't something a lot of people want to think about, but consider what might be within your anus. if you haven't showered and you've recently been to the toilet, feel okay in saying, "hey, i think i should shower first." enemas are also an option: you can get enema kits on every sex toy website i've been on. and of course, after anal penetration/rimming, wash whatever has been in contact with the anus to make sure no harmful bacteria hangs around! 2a) on the subject of anal, i just also wanna mention that if you're a heterosexual male, you are fully entitled to enjoy anal penetration/rimming as well! it's more common than you'd think and you have reason to enjoy it (the male g-spot is up there!). anal stuff does not make you gay, being sexually attracted to males does! 2b) on the flip side, if you're a gay guy, you don't need to engage in anal sex just because it's seen as the standard sexual position for gay males. i know of plenty of gay males who actually aren't into anal or they're fine with things like rimming but don't like anal penetration! again, it's all about what you're into. 3) for period sex, there are sponges (specially made ones) you can buy that you insert into your vagina so sex on your period can be much less messy! increased sex drive is very common during periods (and orgasms can help relieve cramps), so definitely don't be put off period sex if you wanna do it! 4) dental dams (the film you put in front of your mouth when performing oral sex to protect from STIs) can sometimes be harder to get hold of, so here's a trick i learnt about in training: -get a condom -flatten the condom down -cut the head of the condom off -make a smooth cut down the side of the condom -straighten out the condom and you now have a dental dam! have fun! ps. how are you always so unbelievably loveable and adorable? i hope your health is still on the increase!
OMD this comment is literally everything I couldn’t fit into the video!!!! Thank you so much!! Especially all the extras about women and other ways ladies can get it on - as well as the bit about guys and anal sex; just because you are gay does not mean you HAVE TO have it and just because you are straight doesn’t mean you CANT! THANK YOU SO MUCH - I’m going to pin this comment so everyone can get some advice from a health care expert. You’re such a star for writing this!!! ❤️ Ps. How are you so thoughtful and wonderful for taking the time to spread knowledge!!!
And i heard many stories from my friend about it being disgusting and sometimes your partner would force you as the nondominant into postions that you didnt like. That is what happened to my friend and she told me that she wouldnt have sex ever again
celestialanimechika inecer ad sex so is not me. I am a virgin😂😂😂 but your point is that not all of the partners would do that. Like is you arent the dominant doesnt mean that you must do what the dominant wants? Now that i am thinking about it dominant means the one that takes intiative right or am i wrong. I feel weird because i am so clueless
My health teacher is such a bad educator. I once asked if I would ever receive sex education for homosexual relations and she went into rant about how I'm the minority so it's not as important for me to be educated on these topics. She also said that educating us on these topics were a waste of time (even tho that is literally what a health class is supposed to teach.) She then finished it off with a bang saying that in her opinion, being gay is a choice and that people are gay because of peer pressure. And then at the end of the unit she handed out blank cards and said to write a question about sex or sexuality. Someone came up with a question that would actually be very helpful to learn. They asked what the difference is between biological gender and your gender identity. You wanna know what this lady said? She said that we already went over this and that the topic was a waste of time... I was infuriated. Your video has taught me more than the required three years of "health" classes has taught me. Thank you.
oml too angry to finish but I really hope she realizes what she's done or gets a smack in the head to rattle whatever what wasn't in place. health class is literally to inform you about your body. "yOuR tHe MiNoRiTy!" shut the hell up Susan
Oml ThAt was my 9th grade sex Ed but I was so fucking awkward with it because I was just starting with a public school and it was definitely more uncensored then my catholic school so my dumbass started giggling because we Stan Social Anxiety and being uncomfortable
I just recently found out I was bi and I wasn't really anything special I just woke up one day.. went on pinterest... realized I have a folder labeled "this is super hot" and it had girls and guys and I just sat there like ".......oh!" Honestly it explains so much😂
same dude. I have a folder labeled pretty and it wasn’t until a few months when I went back scrolling when I realized it was full of guys girls and dresses 🤭
omg haha same. how i realized i am a lesbian/bisexual (still figuring myself out right now, im young) is from what i liked to watch and see.. it was def SO many girls and i was like.. well im gay.
Dagmar not sure who youre talking to but if you just think theyre attractive but have not had feelings for them yet, you are probably straight. but you never know, most of us are still figuring ourselves out. i have feelings for two girls and they have feelings for me as well which is very lucky lol.
Things I wanted to add: • Masturbation helps wonders with period cramps. • Porn is not actual sex, they cut the footage and they take breaks, their goal isn't mutual enjoyment. However it can be a source to satisfy certain fetishes. • Analsex: You can use buttplugs to prepare (losen up or get comfortable with the area better). Go slow and use lots of lube. You should push out as if you're trying to poop, that losens your muscle. • Don't use oil based lubricants (coconut oil, etc.) with condoms, because it reacts with the latex and it can break.
Also: amateur porn is great for learning purposes - recently there are more and more couples on ph that regularly film themselves and even i as a 'grown woman' (lol no im 25 but have hat sex for 9 years) could learn some valuable things ☺️
PLEASE make this a series!!, talking about "awkward" things will 100% stop it being awkward and i found this video very helpul since im pansexual but also pretty young (Only 14 years old) I'd need to learn someday so why not today!!
YAY!! I’m so glad you learnt something!! 🌸 It’s going to be a series on my channel since so many people have asked for it!! I’m going to be doing another one in a few weeks so stay tuned!! 🖤🏳️🌈
Cool! I’m 14 aswell, and I’m not really sure about my sexuality. I know that I would definitely have a relationship with any gender, but I’m not sure about a sexual relationship, I’m still under the legal age to have sex, so it’s something that I think I’ll just have to wait out until I have some experience
Period cramps aren’t caused because the lining is shedding they’re caused because the muscles around your uterus are contracting just thought i should leave that there good video
Maëliss Késsé The only reason it contracts is to help get rid of the inner lining...therefore the cramps are caused by the inner lining because the inner lining shedding is why our uterus contracts. If that makes sense
@@_frankies_family_4495 yeah i know that but it's not like linning scrapes off or whatever that hurts like she says like if you take a liquid put it on your arm and let it run down it doesn't hurt
A TH-camr who is very useful for in depth and lgbt+ sex Ed is Stevie. She talks about disabilities and she has a video about periods and how to measure your bra size too! She is very useful!
Although I am way too late: don't use silicon based lube when using a condom !!! The lube will "dissolve" the condom (or at least make it wear through way easier). So when using condoms use water based lube !
It’s been suggested quite a few time in the comments so I think it’s going to become one!!! Not sure what I’ll call it but once a month I’ll do an honest Q&A like this on sex/relationships/growing up/puberty/anything!! 🌸
Ngl I genuinely wish so badly I could be friends with you, you literally seem so positive and interesting to talk to. Such a brilliant video by the way 😺
okay you really don't share your ramyeon with me YOU BAD but girl this was the most not awkward at all sex education ever. I love you so much for trying to help others and I just love you oKaY
Ellbat I ALREADY HAD RAMYEON YESTERDAY BUT NOW I'M CRAVING BUT I'M OUT OF RAMYEON YOU ARE A BAD BAD PERSON (jk I love you babe) I can't find anything awkward boo because you're MY boo it's impossible for me to feel anything like embarrassment if it's about you 😂❤️
Here is from were and how I learned about sex more (everything kinks etc) 1. Sex education at school 2. Smut/lemon fanfiction 3. Sex education the serie on Netflix's
So one of the girls in my class said that you couldn’t get an STI through oral sex and my teacher said “that’s an opinion that people have yes” AND THEN DIDNT CORRECT HER
Being 15 and pansexual (female) this is very helpful :)) its nice to have someone whos comfortable talking about this. Cuz my school definitely doesnt talk about this really anything more then the general straight sex. Ive always been ashamed of like masterbation cuz i got into before alot of people. Thank you so much 💗
HAPPY MONDAY GANG! I hope you enjoy this different kind of video - I want to be as open and honest as a human can be. Peace, love n positivity to you all. I wanted to add: the girl/girl sex bit is VERY brief because I had a whole talk about it but had to cut it down to the two most common/popular ways girls have sex. There are PLENTY OF WAYS, including oral sex as well as foreplay. These are just the two most 'common'. ALSO: anal sex - you need to prepare for that with lost of familiarisation with the area first, don't dive straight in or you will end up in a lot of pain. I HOPE THIS VIDEO HELPS YOU!! ___________________ DON'T FORGET TO SUBSCRIBE!! (love you) Go follow me on all the social medias (just 2 lol) (if you want): Instagram - instagram.com/elenabatman/ Twitter - twitter.com/ElenaBateman ___________________
this is so informative (and damn necessary) i live in a highly religious and conservative country and i never would've found out some of these things if it weren't for you. i'm glad you create videos like these and i hope to see more! i'm sooooo happy i found your channel
This is the kind of video that is actually helpful. I think there could be videos answering questions about mental health, sex ed, relationships and these kinds of topics because it would help a lot of people. But just as long as you don't overwork yourself. I love you, take care of yourself. 💕💞
Someone else made the suggestion that like maybe once a month I do a Q&A like this covering a mash up of sex Ed/mental health/relationships/growing up questions. I hadn’t thought it through but based on the responses this is getting I think it might actually be a really go way forward!! I’m so glad you found it helpful. I really just want to use my TH-cam to spread positivity n knowledge. Thank you so much for supporting me!! Love you too ❤️🌸❤️
Whenever my friends say self-depricating things about themselves, I would start singing a really annoying song about how they shouldn't do that and they get so embarrassed that they stop. It doesn't help the thoughts they have but it helps them saying stuff like that.
This video was so wonderful and I love how open and not awkward you are :') It's so nice and kind of comforting to watch/listen to. Thank you so much for uploading this! 💖
5 days ago I found out that I was bi. I just woke up and I knew that I was bi. I just knew it. I haven't told my parents yet and I'm still very young so I don't think they take me serious. I just have to wait for my birthday and then I come out to my family. My parents are not religious and support the LGBTQ+ community. My friends are very religious and don't like LGBTQ+ people. They don't hate them but they also don't love them. One of my friends is gay and she will understand it and one of my friends is gay. But everyone else is not so open minded about that topic. Your video helped me alot to find the courage to say that I'm really bi and that it is not a phase. Thanks for that and you're really open in that Topic. Thanks for that. ❤️
You should do monthly Q&A about relationships, self acceptance, mental health and sex ed. I feel like it can be helpful for a lot of people (and provide you with content and ads 😂)
You know, I think I might have to. I really enjoyed making this video and I love being honest n transparent with people - I also think we all need to work together to get important information to the people that need it (be it LGBTQ+ sex Ed or how to recognise a toxic relationship)! Thanks for suggesting it!! ❤️
I must admit after watching SOOO many of your videos... You are one of the few people on line I would actually like IRL. We are nothing alike but I like your personality and world view. Your vids are entertaining and informative. Noodle Girl.
Because it’s not all about sex! Some of these questions are about relationships in general (with friends/family/partners), self love and periods among other things! There’s something for everyone 😂
dude. your thing of helping to get self-confidence and loving yourself is goddamn perfect. its easy to imagine how you would treat a young child with respect (for me its easier with preteens as they'd be most affected by negativity) and that applies to you own thoughts seamlessly. thank you so much :D
Every time i come back and binge your videos you’ve doubled (or tripled) your following and I’m so impressed and proud and j couldn’t think of someone more deserving! You’re so candid and open and it’s everything i love in a TH-camr and a person
thank you for this!! i just took my school's sex ed class a year ago and felt very excluded as i'm a lesbian lol. this was very informative and i'm glad you also talked about STI prevention because most youtubers or bloggers tend to steer clear of even mentioning it.
‘Would I say that to a child? Why would I say it to myself’ implying that you are just a small bab who cannot adult (especially when left on your own) 😂❤️
BUT, in terms of why I said it: children are so pure and precious, you would never say anything so harsh to a child because it would really scar them. So I think about that as a way of reminding myself that self-loathing is still BULLYING and my brain is sensitive to it. YOU GOTTA TAKE CARE OF YOU BOO
I didn't know about masturbation until I was around 15 as well ( I'm female) and I totally agree that these things need to be talked about openly ( communication!!!!). Too many people forget about the different sexuality's and genders when they talk about sex which makes it so hard for people to ask questions and to get help. Would love to see a series of awkward topics frankly discussed!!!
Thanks for making this! I’m bisexual and have learned sex education. Since I haven’t came out yet it’s hard for me to know how to be safe in a same sex relationship. This is a huge help to me and many others. THANK YOU!
I'm 26 bi female and I cannot thank you enough for making this, personally I knew everything in this video but I love your accent and personality so I watched anyway, but for the younger kids out there, THANK YOU!!!! You've made just great lgbtq+ content, I'd be amazed if this channel hasn't saved at least one life!! Thank you for following your calling, this is your place in this world and I appreciate you so much for it 💜
hi there ! u may not read this comment but I just wanted to say that you have definitely reached out to a lot of teens who needed this information and where to afraid to ask about these things for fear of not being in a safe environment, will definitely be recommending this video to friends that I know are struggling with self acceptance, also wanted to say that you are such an amazing person and this world doesn't deserve someone as great as u !
I honestly am in pieces reading this - thank you so much for taking the time to tell me that; genuinely welling up haha. This means the world to me because I want my TH-cam to actually make a positive impact to at least one persons life - the fact you think it’ll help your friends who don’t have access to this knowledge has just made me feel like I’ve done something of value. Thank you so much for watching n being so kind to write to me ❤️❤️
Good different? Bad different? I really appreciate any feedback/things I could do better next time! I’m glad you could appreciate some of my opinions! 😊
There needs to be an lgbtq+ sex education class. There’s not enough kid safe websites about it. Instead we’re exposed to harmful websites to find key information that people who have straight relationships get very easily.
Look at our girl Ellbat educating the people like a QUEEN. This is such a necessary video for so many. Props to you for breaking the awkward silence and teaching people about these topics. Just another reason why I'm glad I subscribed
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO. i love how comfortable you are talking about this topic! i wish this video was around when i was exploring my sexuality and questioning 💕
I’m twelve and I just came out as bi. I’m quite mature for my age though. I’ve had like 3 boyfriends and 1 girlfriend but I’ve had so many more girl crushes 😂
I’m 12 and I’m queer but leaning towards pansexual. I haven’t had a girlfriend yet and no near real relationships worth a boy or other. So yeah.... I have had many a crushes though
@@imgoingtocry_com if you think that the people around you wont be bothers then just casually say it. it is not a big deal and shouldn't be made one. good luck for confidence and good day to you :))
i think you should do a vid for people that have mental/self confidence issues. alot of people could learn from your attitude with how to deal with it that may have scrolled past this video but it would help them alot. i have alot of female friends that have mental/social issues that dont listen to what i say "cos im a guy" but coming from you i think it could do wonders!!!!! keep up the good work
I feel grateful to have had an amazing sex ed teacher that made it hella fun to learn everything (and therefore, was more memorable) and was open to all questions that my and my friends had about the lgbt+ stuff since we were confused little kids and the teacher was never judgemental and was just all around an amazing teacher
You are one of the freaking sweetest and utmost genuinely down to earth person I have seen, I'm so glad I found you're channel. Thank you so much for this video, it's exactly what I needed to hear. 13:50 - 15:15
Wow I didn't even know you were bi too! I literally followed you because you are such a support during my on going ednos recovery... it's nice to see a proud bi on here 💖
This is so important! I wish younger me could have watched this. I had a really bad experience with the injection, it made me very depressed and just turned me into a completely different person. However because the clinics don't really stress depression as a common side effect I didn't realise that was the reason why and kept getting the injections for 6 months. Now that I've switched to the pill I'm back to my usual self again. I'm no doctor, but if anyone is looking at getting the injection who has a history with depression I really wouldn't advise it, as like you said, you can't just come off of it and have to just wait for it to wear off.
Girl's need a recognition on this as much as the Guys get it...also I didn't know sex was that short (not complaining btw) but wow, now I feel more relieved.
Hey ! I’m doing another sex ex video soon so make sure to follow my insta and I can answer any other questions. But first kisses are one of those things that no one does perfectly first try! Just go with the flow and you’ll get there eventually. Trust me, all first kisses are magical because their the first, but the actual kissing sucks when you look back on it after having experience ahaha. Don’t worry about it!! X
This is quite late from me, and I apologize. But honestly, you don't know what to do. There are two methods though, for a quick peck. You can pick either their top or bottom lip and kiss it in between yours, or just go flat on, not choosing either lip. Hope this helps hun!
I just discovered your channel and watched a few videos. I really love the way you talk about such important stuff! I dunno but something makes you different from others, you're awesome❤
this video is soooo helpful. I’m 15 and I’m trying to learn stuff, but sex ed really doesn’t talk about many things (eg masturbation for girls)... I’m kind of left speculating ob half of it, so these kinds of videos are like a godsend
this is such a great video! you're so right, talking about sex is too often seen as taboo on youtube and it definitely shouldn't be: i worked in sexual health for three years and i firmly believe open conversations about sex and related discussions and decent sex education is one of the best ways to combat stis and teenage pregnancy! just to add:
1) scissoring is often considered the "lesbian sex position," but if you're not into that, please don't stress. of both myself and my queer friends, none have been into scissoring. as was said, toys are a very good tool, but also: oral sex, fingering (both vaginal and anal), humping (eg. humping your partner's leg in a way that stimulates your clit: i find this is a lot easier to do than scissoring, scissoring has always seemed like a bit of a gymnastic task for me lmao), mutual masturbation, rimming. girls having sex with girls is literally just like men having sex with women, but without the penis (in most cases, i don't mean to exclude trans women): everything is still on the table. submission, domination, choking, watersports, all of the fetishes. the world is your oyster, regardless of your sexuality! (side note: if you want to scissor, though, that's cool, too! parts of the queer community can go to the other extreme and scissor shame, but it's all about personal preference! do what feels good!)
2) on anal, yes, use lots and lots of lube (you'll see them use spit as lube in porn or no lube at all, i really really would not recommend this!) and i found using finger penetration (i'd really recommend using lube with this as well!) really helped me in terms of figuring out whether anal sex was something i wanted to do and working myself up to it (so starting with one finger and then, if you like the feel of it, maybe try two fingers if you wish to: some people just like one finger and that's all and that's fine, too!).
also, please do not go from anal to vaginal ever. there is a lot of harmful bacteria in your anus that should not be going up your vagina.
and this isn't something a lot of people want to think about, but consider what might be within your anus. if you haven't showered and you've recently been to the toilet, feel okay in saying, "hey, i think i should shower first." enemas are also an option: you can get enema kits on every sex toy website i've been on. and of course, after anal penetration/rimming, wash whatever has been in contact with the anus to make sure no harmful bacteria hangs around!
2a) on the subject of anal, i just also wanna mention that if you're a heterosexual male, you are fully entitled to enjoy anal penetration/rimming as well! it's more common than you'd think and you have reason to enjoy it (the male g-spot is up there!). anal stuff does not make you gay, being sexually attracted to males does!
2b) on the flip side, if you're a gay guy, you don't need to engage in anal sex just because it's seen as the standard sexual position for gay males. i know of plenty of gay males who actually aren't into anal or they're fine with things like rimming but don't like anal penetration! again, it's all about what you're into.
3) for period sex, there are sponges (specially made ones) you can buy that you insert into your vagina so sex on your period can be much less messy! increased sex drive is very common during periods (and orgasms can help relieve cramps), so definitely don't be put off period sex if you wanna do it!
4) dental dams (the film you put in front of your mouth when performing oral sex to protect from STIs) can sometimes be harder to get hold of, so here's a trick i learnt about in training:
-get a condom
-flatten the condom down
-cut the head of the condom off
-make a smooth cut down the side of the condom
-straighten out the condom and you now have a dental dam! have fun!
ps. how are you always so unbelievably loveable and adorable? i hope your health is still on the increase!
OMD this comment is literally everything I couldn’t fit into the video!!!! Thank you so much!! Especially all the extras about women and other ways ladies can get it on - as well as the bit about guys and anal sex; just because you are gay does not mean you HAVE TO have it and just because you are straight doesn’t mean you CANT!
THANK YOU SO MUCH - I’m going to pin this comment so everyone can get some advice from a health care expert. You’re such a star for writing this!!! ❤️
Ps. How are you so thoughtful and wonderful for taking the time to spread knowledge!!!
I never had sex what doe sit feel like i am a girl so i want to know from that point of view
And i heard many stories from my friend about it being disgusting and sometimes your partner would force you as the nondominant into postions that you didnt like. That is what happened to my friend and she told me that she wouldnt have sex ever again
Anime Lover If your partner is forcing you into positions you don't like and won't listen to you, they're not a good sexual partner.
celestialanimechika inecer ad sex so is not me. I am a virgin😂😂😂 but your point is that not all of the partners would do that. Like is you arent the dominant doesnt mean that you must do what the dominant wants?
Now that i am thinking about it dominant means the one that takes intiative right or am i wrong. I feel weird because i am so clueless
My health teacher is such a bad educator. I once asked if I would ever receive sex education for homosexual relations and she went into rant about how I'm the minority so it's not as important for me to be educated on these topics. She also said that educating us on these topics were a waste of time (even tho that is literally what a health class is supposed to teach.) She then finished it off with a bang saying that in her opinion, being gay is a choice and that people are gay because of peer pressure. And then at the end of the unit she handed out blank cards and said to write a question about sex or sexuality. Someone came up with a question that would actually be very helpful to learn. They asked what the difference is between biological gender and your gender identity. You wanna know what this lady said? She said that we already went over this and that the topic was a waste of time... I was infuriated. Your video has taught me more than the required three years of "health" classes has taught me. Thank you.
oml too angry to finish but I really hope she realizes what she's done or gets a smack in the head to rattle whatever what wasn't in place. health class is literally to inform you about your body. "yOuR tHe MiNoRiTy!" shut the hell up Susan
Should've told her to shut the fuck up
Lol, wouldn’t the whole “peer pressure” thing be the other way around?? Sometimes I wonder, do people even think about things?
when she said "im perpetually broken in mind, body, and bank" i felt that
My “sex education” was seeing diagrams of private body parts .-.
Sameeee! That was basically all they "taught" us about
Oml ThAt was my 9th grade sex Ed but I was so fucking awkward with it because I was just starting with a public school and it was definitely more uncensored then my catholic school so my dumbass started giggling because we Stan Social Anxiety and being uncomfortable
Same honestly.
Tough... it is weird as hell hearing a dude explain what happens.
This feels like an educational mukbang
THATS THE VIBE I WANTED IM SO GLAD SOMEONE GOT IT 😂😂
I just recently found out I was bi and I wasn't really anything special I just woke up one day.. went on pinterest... realized I have a folder labeled "this is super hot" and it had girls and guys and I just sat there like ".......oh!"
Honestly it explains so much😂
Fox Life14 big things to say right now...good luck..you get a bit more room in life during a bisexual time. Be patient.
same dude. I have a folder labeled pretty and it wasn’t until a few months when I went back scrolling when I realized it was full of guys girls and dresses 🤭
omg haha same. how i realized i am a lesbian/bisexual (still figuring myself out right now, im young) is from what i liked to watch and see.. it was def SO many girls and i was like.. well im gay.
have you ever had feelings for a girl? I think I might be bi because I do like to look at girls but ive never had feelings for a girl..
Dagmar not sure who youre talking to but if you just think theyre attractive but have not had feelings for them yet, you are probably straight. but you never know, most of us are still figuring ourselves out. i have feelings for two girls and they have feelings for me as well which is very lucky lol.
I watched a pg13 movie
it was a bit more pg13 than I thought
-and that's how i knew i was bi-
Ariana Matlashevsky same lmao
Lmao I watched titanic jack had a good model....
Things I wanted to add:
• Masturbation helps wonders with period cramps.
• Porn is not actual sex, they cut the footage and they take breaks, their goal isn't mutual enjoyment. However it can be a source to satisfy certain fetishes.
• Analsex: You can use buttplugs to prepare (losen up or get comfortable with the area better). Go slow and use lots of lube. You should push out as if you're trying to poop, that losens your muscle.
• Don't use oil based lubricants (coconut oil, etc.) with condoms, because it reacts with the latex and it can break.
Also: amateur porn is great for learning purposes - recently there are more and more couples on ph that regularly film themselves and even i as a 'grown woman' (lol no im 25 but have hat sex for 9 years) could learn some valuable things ☺️
PLEASE make this a series!!, talking about "awkward" things will 100% stop it being awkward and i found this video very helpul since im pansexual but also pretty young (Only 14 years old) I'd need to learn someday so why not today!!
YAY!! I’m so glad you learnt something!! 🌸
It’s going to be a series on my channel since so many people have asked for it!! I’m going to be doing another one in a few weeks so stay tuned!! 🖤🏳️🌈
Cool! I’m 14 aswell, and I’m not really sure about my sexuality. I know that I would definitely have a relationship with any gender, but I’m not sure about a sexual relationship, I’m still under the legal age to have sex, so it’s something that I think I’ll just have to wait out until I have some experience
When I saw pansexual I was laughing my ass off because of that vid of the kid deepthroating a pan.
Hello fellow pan 14 year old
14yo pansexual here too!!
"girl power" *slurps noodles* IM💀
😱😱😱
everything sounds logical when it comes from you wtf
I'm an artist in the language of bullsh*t
türkler her yerde
Even when it's not
Her yerdeyiz dkdkdmd
Period cramps aren’t caused because the lining is shedding they’re caused because the muscles around your uterus are contracting just thought i should leave that there good video
Maëliss Késsé yes this is true
Also sometimes a part of your hips move (the bone) and widen
Maëliss Késsé The only reason it contracts is to help get rid of the inner lining...therefore the cramps are caused by the inner lining because the inner lining shedding is why our uterus contracts. If that makes sense
Thank you people for ur knowledge on life
@@_frankies_family_4495 yeah i know that but it's not like linning scrapes off or whatever that hurts like she says like if you take a liquid put it on your arm and let it run down it doesn't hurt
It's so nice of you to talk about this, my school doesn't have sex Ed and my country doesn't support lgbtq. So this gives me some understanding of it.
That really sucks that your country is that way; I'm so glad this could help you though x
I live to die so CHOGIWA what country are u from
A TH-camr who is very useful for in depth and lgbt+ sex Ed is Stevie. She talks about disabilities and she has a video about periods and how to measure your bra size too! She is very useful!
Although I am way too late: don't use silicon based lube when using a condom !!! The lube will "dissolve" the condom (or at least make it wear through way easier). So when using condoms use water based lube !
You should be a motivational speaker you’re such an inspiration
Awww boo thank you but I feel like I’d get people staring at me like: are you ok boo 😂❤️
Ellbat honestly I'd pay to see you speak live
@@cheyhawkins747 same here she's an inspiration
We've only ever learned about abstinence and STDs.
ABSTINENCE IS NOT SEX EDUCATION !!!! But sti’s are real so protect yourself!
Same it was kinda annoying
It would actually like this as a small series , it would be really helpful
It’s been suggested quite a few time in the comments so I think it’s going to become one!!! Not sure what I’ll call it but once a month I’ll do an honest Q&A like this on sex/relationships/growing up/puberty/anything!! 🌸
Ngl I genuinely wish so badly I could be friends with you, you literally seem so positive and interesting to talk to. Such a brilliant video by the way 😺
Let’s be pals ❤️
Honestly mate it's not all it's cracked up to be 😂😉
Jack House that’s just so rude 😂😂
Erin Finch sameee
@@jackhouse7665 wowwww you actually said that
*_y o u e v e r b u s t a n u t ?_*
to flex on dick less people
*L I G M A*
ligma what?
*L I G M A B A L L S*
Does thou even nüt
@@kaich369 does thou even nuteth
Nigella Farage
It’s no nut November.
I need a friend like you 💛
Good thing we are friends then
Ellbat 💛
okay you really don't share your ramyeon with me YOU BAD
but girl this was the most not awkward at all sex education ever. I love you so much for trying to help others and I just love you oKaY
I TOLD YOU ITS TOO GOOD TO SHARE OK I WARNED YOU.
I’m so glad you didn’t find it awkward 😂❤️
Ellbat I ALREADY HAD RAMYEON YESTERDAY BUT NOW I'M CRAVING BUT I'M OUT OF RAMYEON YOU ARE A BAD BAD PERSON (jk I love you babe)
I can't find anything awkward boo because you're MY boo it's impossible for me to feel anything like embarrassment if it's about you 😂❤️
Vans Melantha oh bless you 😂😂❤️
A lot of people don't like scissoring or don't use sex toys often I would say oral and hands play the main role for most
Yeah I agree with you on that
Bout to comment that
Here is from were and how I learned about sex more (everything kinks etc)
1. Sex education at school
2. Smut/lemon fanfiction
3. Sex education the serie on Netflix's
Honestly same here i was always afraid to ask my parents
@@전정국-s1u yes me to, it's just so awkward, even more when it seems liek I know more about sex or am more comfortable with sex then my mother.
And porn
There is a sex education web toon on the webtoon app called Boo! It's sex! . Its really good and entertaining.
So one of the girls in my class said that you couldn’t get an STI through oral sex and my teacher said “that’s an opinion that people have yes” AND THEN DIDNT CORRECT HER
You can absolutely still get an STI or an STD through oral sex. Stay protected!
It’s my last year of high school and I never had sex education
Same babe I feel you
we had one but all the guy did was describe genitalia, tell us the best contraceptive is abstinence, then talk about how abortion is bad. smh.
I’m going into year nine but same xx
i didnt really have a sex ed in school i learned everything from wattpad and school
I’ve never related to something more
Wattpad just hits different. I legit wouldn’t know half of what I do now if it wasn’t for wattpad.
felt this
Such an important video
SAME! Im so glad you approve!!
I'm graduating in 2019 and it still hasn't been talked about :/
MinistressForMagic
As a year 9, we do an hour twice a week where we discuss sex and shit. I also have a biology teacher which helps.
MinistressForMagic I’m still in school and it isn’t a part of sex ed
I’m in tenth grade and we haven’t had sex Ed at all lol
Being 15 and pansexual (female) this is very helpful :)) its nice to have someone whos comfortable talking about this. Cuz my school definitely doesnt talk about this really anything more then the general straight sex. Ive always been ashamed of like masterbation cuz i got into before alot of people. Thank you so much 💗
Changkyunies Onion Bby your into pans?
HAPPY MONDAY GANG!
I hope you enjoy this different kind of video - I want to be as open and honest as a human can be. Peace, love n positivity to you all.
I wanted to add: the girl/girl sex bit is VERY brief because I had a whole talk about it but had to cut it down to the two most common/popular ways girls have sex. There are PLENTY OF WAYS, including oral sex as well as foreplay. These are just the two most 'common'. ALSO: anal sex - you need to prepare for that with lost of familiarisation with the area first, don't dive straight in or you will end up in a lot of pain.
I HOPE THIS VIDEO HELPS YOU!!
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Ellbat also where is the link of 2 guys talking about their penis sizes.
It's in the description now! I originally forgot so thanks for mentioning it haha
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Сауле Кранова oooh Sounds interesting
this is so informative (and damn necessary) i live in a highly religious and conservative country and i never would've found out some of these things if it weren't for you. i'm glad you create videos like these and i hope to see more! i'm sooooo happy i found your channel
THIS HAS MADE ME SO HAPPY THANK YOU SO MUCH ❤️🌸
Being taught about all kinds of sex is important. Everyone should be able to know how to protect themselves during sex.
This is the kind of video that is actually helpful. I think there could be videos answering questions about mental health, sex ed, relationships and these kinds of topics because it would help a lot of people. But just as long as you don't overwork yourself. I love you, take care of yourself. 💕💞
Someone else made the suggestion that like maybe once a month I do a Q&A like this covering a mash up of sex Ed/mental health/relationships/growing up questions. I hadn’t thought it through but based on the responses this is getting I think it might actually be a really go way forward!! I’m so glad you found it helpful. I really just want to use my TH-cam to spread positivity n knowledge. Thank you so much for supporting me!! Love you too ❤️🌸❤️
spent the whole video trying to understand how to use the chopsticks. i still can’t do it
🎼LETS TALK ABOUT ALL THE GOOD THINGS AND THE BAD THINGS🎶
Whenever my friends say self-depricating things about themselves, I would start singing a really annoying song about how they shouldn't do that and they get so embarrassed that they stop. It doesn't help the thoughts they have but it helps them saying stuff like that.
This video was so wonderful and I love how open and not awkward you are :') It's so nice and kind of comforting to watch/listen to. Thank you so much for uploading this! 💖
Aww thank you so much!! I’m glad you enjoyed it!! I’m going to be doing more like this! ❤️
5 days ago I found out that I was bi. I just woke up and I knew that I was bi. I just knew it. I haven't told my parents yet and I'm still very young so I don't think they take me serious. I just have to wait for my birthday and then I come out to my family. My parents are not religious and support the LGBTQ+ community. My friends are very religious and don't like LGBTQ+ people. They don't hate them but they also don't love them. One of my friends is gay and she will understand it and one of my friends is gay. But everyone else is not so open minded about that topic.
Your video helped me alot to find the courage to say that I'm really bi and that it is not a phase. Thanks for that and you're really open in that Topic. Thanks for that. ❤️
your approach to self-love/confidence: 10/10
You should do monthly Q&A about relationships, self acceptance, mental health and sex ed. I feel like it can be helpful for a lot of people (and provide you with content and ads 😂)
You know, I think I might have to. I really enjoyed making this video and I love being honest n transparent with people - I also think we all need to work together to get important information to the people that need it (be it LGBTQ+ sex Ed or how to recognise a toxic relationship)! Thanks for suggesting it!! ❤️
I must admit after watching SOOO many of your videos... You are one of the few people on line I would actually like IRL. We are nothing alike but I like your personality and world view. Your vids are entertaining and informative. Noodle Girl.
Ah the 'ol coitus
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😂
supersoap4 *drunk dad sheldon cooper voice*
Why am I here when I'm asexual? 😂 But this probably is really helpful for other people
Because it’s not all about sex! Some of these questions are about relationships in general (with friends/family/partners), self love and periods among other things! There’s something for everyone 😂
Me too 😂
lmao I'm ace too
Lol same
Same oof
Thank you for doing this video, I know it'll help a lot of people who are being actively neglected by their schools.
dude. your thing of helping to get self-confidence and loving yourself is goddamn perfect. its easy to imagine how you would treat a young child with respect (for me its easier with preteens as they'd be most affected by negativity) and that applies to you own thoughts seamlessly. thank you so much :D
Every time i come back and binge your videos you’ve doubled (or tripled) your following and I’m so impressed and proud and j couldn’t think of someone more deserving! You’re so candid and open and it’s everything i love in a TH-camr and a person
That was a very helpful video. I am very glad that you talk about these sort of things, thank you!
You know its a great day when Ellbat uploads!
You’re so cute! 🌸
Is it just me or are her videos just so helpful and entertaining? Like every second of every video is so intriguing and 👍 I love your vids Ellbat
so nice to see youtubers who r so openly honest with everything and accepting of everyone!
thank you for this!! i just took my school's sex ed class a year ago and felt very excluded as i'm a lesbian lol. this was very informative and i'm glad you also talked about STI prevention because most youtubers or bloggers tend to steer clear of even mentioning it.
This was a really important video. Any sexuality can relate to this video and I love how you include everyone.
That’s because we all exit so all deserve some love n appreciation!! 🏳️🌈❤️
I don’t know my sexuality nor my gender identity I just know that I’m not straight and that I don’t care what pronouns people call me😂😂
And there’s nothing wrong with that! 😊
Same
Same
She low-key looks like Dodie Clark
they have the same accent too
‘Would I say that to a child? Why would I say it to myself’ implying that you are just a small bab who cannot adult (especially when left on your own) 😂❤️
WE ALL KNOW I CANT ADULT ITS NO SECRET
Ellbat WE BEEN KNEW BABE 😂
BUT, in terms of why I said it: children are so pure and precious, you would never say anything so harsh to a child because it would really scar them. So I think about that as a way of reminding myself that self-loathing is still BULLYING and my brain is sensitive to it. YOU GOTTA TAKE CARE OF YOU BOO
Ellbat DAMN RIGHT SWEETS 😩❤️👏🙏
sorry this is like my third comment today but you are quickly becoming my favourite youtuber! ❤️
That’s so so sweet!!! Don’t apologise!! 🖤
THANK YOU. One of the reasons i hate school is because they ignore lgbtq+ SO MUCH.
videos like this are SO important!!!! thank u so much , school doesn’t even mention the word gay when it comes to sex , tysm
This is one of the best videos out here on TH-cam that I've ever watched. Absolutely amazing.
*7:30* so that's why they call it seven minutes in heaven
Never been able to find a channel as good as yours omg why don’t you have millions of followers.
I didn't know about masturbation until I was around 15 as well ( I'm female) and I totally agree that these things need to be talked about openly ( communication!!!!). Too many people forget about the different sexuality's and genders when they talk about sex which makes it so hard for people to ask questions and to get help. Would love to see a series of awkward topics frankly discussed!!!
Thanks for making this! I’m bisexual and have learned sex education. Since I haven’t came out yet it’s hard for me to know how to be safe in a same sex relationship. This is a huge help to me and many others. THANK YOU!
I don't know why I think it's because I'm on my period but I cried watching this 😂😂😂😂😂
I'm 26 bi female and I cannot thank you enough for making this, personally I knew everything in this video but I love your accent and personality so I watched anyway, but for the younger kids out there, THANK YOU!!!! You've made just great lgbtq+ content, I'd be amazed if this channel hasn't saved at least one life!! Thank you for following your calling, this is your place in this world and I appreciate you so much for it 💜
hi there ! u may not read this comment but I just wanted to say that you have definitely reached out to a lot of teens who needed this information and where to afraid to ask about these things for fear of not being in a safe environment, will definitely be recommending this video to friends that I know are struggling with self acceptance, also wanted to say that you are such an amazing person and this world doesn't deserve someone as great as u !
I honestly am in pieces reading this - thank you so much for taking the time to tell me that; genuinely welling up haha. This means the world to me because I want my TH-cam to actually make a positive impact to at least one persons life - the fact you think it’ll help your friends who don’t have access to this knowledge has just made me feel like I’ve done something of value. Thank you so much for watching n being so kind to write to me ❤️❤️
why has this just come up on my feed lol
Ur videos are literally the best
You're literally the best
Ah thx
ur such an ICON thanks i love it
You're my Inspo
WAIT WHAT AAA
This is very different. Something that could help. I really appreciate your point of view for this type of situations.
Good different? Bad different? I really appreciate any feedback/things I could do better next time!
I’m glad you could appreciate some of my opinions! 😊
Ellbat It's VERY good different of course. ❤️
you are such an amazing person, this really made my day!!
There needs to be an lgbtq+ sex education class. There’s not enough kid safe websites about it. Instead we’re exposed to harmful websites to find key information that people who have straight relationships get very easily.
Look at our girl Ellbat educating the people like a QUEEN. This is such a necessary video for so many. Props to you for breaking the awkward silence and teaching people about these topics. Just another reason why I'm glad I subscribed
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO. i love how comfortable you are talking about this topic! i wish this video was around when i was exploring my sexuality and questioning 💕
I’m twelve and I just came out as bi. I’m quite mature for my age though. I’ve had like 3 boyfriends and 1 girlfriend but I’ve had so many more girl crushes 😂
Don’t take that other reply seriously. Anyone of any age is allowed to be curious 🥺 I’m proud of you for coming out btw that takes bravery
I'm almost 14 and I came out as bi when I was 12, I have only had 1 partner and a few crushes but it wasn't much. I am proud of you my bi friend 💖💜💙
I’m 12 and I’m queer but leaning towards pansexual. I haven’t had a girlfriend yet and no near real relationships worth a boy or other. So yeah.... I have had many a crushes though
I’m twelve and bi too!!! But I’m to scared to come out, got any tips??? Please I really need help....
@@imgoingtocry_com if you think that the people around you wont be bothers then just casually say it. it is not a big deal and shouldn't be made one. good luck for confidence and good day to you :))
I love how open you are keep being you girl ily
I've only watched the intro and I'm already giving you a standing ovation over here. This is such an awesome idea and service! Love it!!!
i think you should do a vid for people that have mental/self confidence issues. alot of people could learn from your attitude with how to deal with it that may have scrolled past this video but it would help them alot. i have alot of female friends that have mental/social issues that dont listen to what i say "cos im a guy" but coming from you i think it could do wonders!!!!! keep up the good work
I feel grateful to have had an amazing sex ed teacher that made it hella fun to learn everything (and therefore, was more memorable) and was open to all questions that my and my friends had about the lgbt+ stuff since we were confused little kids and the teacher was never judgemental and was just all around an amazing teacher
You are one of the freaking sweetest and utmost genuinely down to earth person I have seen, I'm so glad I found you're channel. Thank you so much for this video, it's exactly what I needed to hear.
13:50 - 15:15
Wow I didn't even know you were bi too! I literally followed you because you are such a support during my on going ednos recovery... it's nice to see a proud bi on here 💖
Omg I'm honestly so happy you made this vid
This is so important! I wish younger me could have watched this. I had a really bad experience with the injection, it made me very depressed and just turned me into a completely different person. However because the clinics don't really stress depression as a common side effect I didn't realise that was the reason why and kept getting the injections for 6 months. Now that I've switched to the pill I'm back to my usual self again. I'm no doctor, but if anyone is looking at getting the injection who has a history with depression I really wouldn't advise it, as like you said, you can't just come off of it and have to just wait for it to wear off.
6:34 I had the subtitles on and it was like “oh this is pleasantly really Spicy” and I died
this was so refreshing!! it's lovely to have someone be so open when it comes to topics like this
IT MAKES ME HAPPY THAT YOU FOUND IT REFRESHING! I hope it makes you love yourself even more!! ❤️
When you said "Would I say this to a child?" (talking about questioning yourself) I started crying. That is so deep
Girl's need a recognition on this as much as the Guys get it...also I didn't know sex was that short (not complaining btw) but wow, now I feel more relieved.
Yas! I'm so proud of you and for this video! Keep up the good work boo😘
Awww thank you baby ❤️ miss you n everyone at work 😥 I’m coming back in a week or so once I can stay awake a few hours longer! 🌸
I miss you so much boo💖 I'm glad you're recovering well and coming back 💗 take all the time you need😚
I literally love you. this is amazing
i love this video, it’s incredibly needed and it makes me feel much better about some things that i needed cleaning up on
This was amazing. You’re so inspiring and this conversation was desperately needed. Thanks for the great video, love you 💞
seriously where are all the subs?? you should be having millions by now, this is ridiculous.
I swear to god if youtube even tries to restick this 😒 thx for this boo
Thank you girl I actually love u
Smt I’ve always questioned but gotten no info on...(and I’m 14)...how do you know what to do on your first kiss 😂
Aaand only now do I realise this was released a year ago
Hey ! I’m doing another sex ex video soon so make sure to follow my insta and I can answer any other questions.
But first kisses are one of those things that no one does perfectly first try! Just go with the flow and you’ll get there eventually. Trust me, all first kisses are magical because their the first, but the actual kissing sucks when you look back on it after having experience ahaha. Don’t worry about it!! X
Ellbat awww thanks!! Can’t wait till it happens and I’ll be sure to find ur insta ❤️❤️
This is quite late from me, and I apologize. But honestly, you don't know what to do. There are two methods though, for a quick peck. You can pick either their top or bottom lip and kiss it in between yours, or just go flat on, not choosing either lip. Hope this helps hun!
I just discovered your channel and watched a few videos. I really love the way you talk about such important stuff! I dunno but something makes you different from others, you're awesome❤
This is amazing. Thank you so much for being so honest all the time, it is really helpful
Omg thank you❤❤🔥you are a saint😙
Bless an ellbat viddy 😩❤️
Bless you always being #1❤️
Krustysoda y do u comment so much
Tyfighters002 Verkerk because I respect Elena’s content, I’ve been following her channel for a while, and we’re somewhat friends 😂
Tyfighters002 Verkerk why do you have such an issue with it? 😂😂
Tyfighters002 Verkerk because she’s a fakin legend 😂🖤
I really love this video, it's different, but it helped a lot! Thank you Ellbat
I’m so glad you enjoyed it! ❤️
this video is soooo helpful. I’m 15 and I’m trying to learn stuff, but sex ed really doesn’t talk about many things (eg masturbation for girls)... I’m kind of left speculating ob half of it, so these kinds of videos are like a godsend