💍THE MARRIAGE TRANSITION💍 My 5 Changes to Becoming a Wife - Storytime
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- The honeymoon is over...now what?? I share 5 changes or adjustments I made during the first year or so of marriage when I transitioned from the single life to the wife life. I am not a pastor or therapist on marriage issues, but I willingly share with you my personal experiences and decisions. When I filmed this video, I was very candid and honest because I wanted my perspective to be as organic as possible. I hope that you may gain inspiration from this topic and that it will motivate you to embrace your own transition (whatever that may be) and to never lose hope or give up! Marriage is perfect, but the people in marriage are not....so it requires a proactive effort of love, support, and communication and the result is pretty powerful!
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I struggled with intimacy. Feeling awkward being "naked" both physically and emotionally took some time to over come.
How did you overcome it?
Im not married or in an active relationship but this was a really good video. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you so much! That life balance one brought me to tears. We got married and had our baby 6 months later so I lost myself in being a wife and a mother. It's so easy to do, and it's been a challenge getting my *self* back. I'm working on it though so it's good to hear that I'm not alone!
So needed this!!! ❤️️ getting married in about 60 days and I am scur---scurr--scurred LOL. I always felt like I had to be perfect and just know exactly how to be a wife from the beginning but I'm already realizing it's all a learning process and I have to lean on Christ and my almost husband. Thanks for doing this vid!
Congrats!!
congrats
Oni B Amen.
You can't lose when you wholeheartedly trust BOTH
Amen! You are absolutely right!
I'm getting married in 24 days!😱 And I'm the same way.
I’m not married but thank you for imparting your wisdom and experience. I appreciate your vulnerability and soft spoken confidence. Your content is appreciated.
Wow, I feel really blessed to have the connection I have with my husband. I realize there are many problems that we don't even face....yet, it's just been 4 months. We are extremely open and loving and intimate. We waited to be intimate until marriage, and we were both virgins so I feel so secure knowing that my body is all that he wants and desires and vice versa. We are in harmony so fully. I feel so blessed.
First timer here... When I tell you, you have more WISDOM than people 3-4 times your age!!! Not only did you bring depth to this topic, but details. And the cherry on top was how eloquent you spoke. You are truly God's child and your husband is a blessed man because he found A GOOD THING! Thank you so much. ❤️
Great video as usual. Can you make a video about how you prepared yourself mentally, spiritually, and emotionally for marriage? What did you do during the dating period (or before)to focus in on the intention of being married? Just to let you know I enjoy your content even though I don't always comment.
Yessss! I would love that as well
Loved this video so much, so much wisdom!💕
This was a wonderful video. I believe in openness and respect in a family and especially between wife and husband. Thanks for sharing this video. I wish you a "FOREVER marriage"
Thank you for this video! I recently got engaged and this is helpful! Love your transparency and genuineness xx
Ur so pretty!
I’m getting married in less than two weeks ❤️ I’m so excited but also nervous and want to be an amazing wife. Thank you for this video!! You’re so poised and respectful - talking about adult topics delicately :)
I’m grateful for these tips and am praying for you and sending blessings over your marriage and home ❤️❤️❤️
God led me to this video because I was starting to worry about not being a perfect wife when the time comes. ❤️
Amen, marriage does work.
I love how open you were about this topic. Thank you for sharing with us, it was very helpful!
this was really great and informative..you have a super soothing voice
“You’re greater than your finances” and “I bring so many other things to the family” really ministered to me. You have no idea 🙏🏾
I agree. Open conversation about finances and family is a must. If there is discord in these areas …there may lie other evolving issues to occur down the road. Too many people I know have lost love to divorce over these two matters.
I would love a part two to this video.
xKeylime7 YES....maybe Tre could address this from his perspective!!!!
Great video thank you for sharing. I am in agreement with the friendship relationship in marriage. My husband and I were friends before we were married and the friendship helps along with both our relationship with Jesus Christ. Marriage is a lot of work and can be very educational if both couples are open to learning. Your sharing in the videos shows you are both open to educating yourself about marriage and the couples events you both participated in through prior videos. We do couples events too. We love Weekend to Remember through FamilyLife Ministry. We will be married 11 years in March and we do educational couples events every year. Thanks for the marriage prayer too and my God continue to bless your marriage too.
Good video. Yes I experienced if you give it to God and you both work on it HE will make the difference And I still need GOD and my husband does too every moment in this marriage and life. God is good !!!
yourcrownofglory52 Amen!
I love this. I have been praying more for God to guide me. 🙏🏾
Thank you so much for this, Tia. I'm getting married in April after 7 years of dating my now Fiancé. I'm super excited yet nervous at the same time. I pray that I can be an amazing wife to my amazing man. I admire you & your husband's relationship. God shines through the both of you. Stay blessed! 💜
Congrats :-)
Thank you so much for this video. Been married a year and a half and I am struggling through the balance. I have felt the same as you described coupled with moving here to Atlanta right after marriage. So I left the life I knew for 11 years. I have lost some relationships too but it wasn't because I didn't try. I always would reach out but phone calls began to become unanswered and not returned. I realize the seasons of some relationships but it doesn't hurt any less. At any rate, I'm trying harder though I must say making those relationships in my 30s in a new city (and I'm introverted too🤦🏾♀️) is hard. Sorry for the novel, but this hit home and I thank you for sharing. ❤️
try to find local book clubs in your area, join a new fitness program (yoga, dance, etc), organizations that give back to the community in ways that interest you (youth mentorship, minority entrepenurship groups, political activism, etc) or even churches that might have womens' bible studies or prayer groups. Trust me I an introvert and could live the rest of my life without talking to a soul but at the end of the day, humans are made to interact with each other. You don;t have to have a 20+ friends but a good solid 2-3 makes a big difference
HeirnBell this was great advice. I got engaged in Sept and will have to relocate once I'm married. I'm also an introvert with an Extrovert for a fiancé. I'm fearful of move and having to establish a new routine as a wife, mother, and building new relationships, but I'm looking forward to the journey.
Nisha8982 if your husband is extroverted that may help get you out. Mine is introverted like me though he is way less awkward with people than I am. So neither one of us has the desire to get up and be around people much. I wish you luck on your new journey and move!
MSWhay14 thank you! We're going to work this thing out! 😊
MSWhay, I was born and raised in Atlanta. How are you doing now?
Who can out "Serve!!"..WOW!!!..THIS IS POWWWERFUL!...PRRRAISEJESUS!...Thank You FOR Posting & Helping!..
thanks for being open and vulnerable. i appreciate it! :)
I love this . I’m in a long term relationship and definitely want to work on myself before we take that next step . definitely needed this !
THANK YOU SOOO MUCH GOR REPLYING TO ME "GIVE!!! "..
But wait!!!! As I was watching this video, I noticed that one one your wedding pics looks very familiar. It's on my vision board as my future wife pic. OMG!!! When I created my board I just goggled different types of photos that fit my visions.
“Revert back to just being friends”!!! “Trying to be the perfect or ideal husband and wife”! Yesss! This helped me definitely! Just the beginning!
As a single woman, I truly thank you for your ability to be so open and honest about marriage. It definitely gives me hope to know I too can have a loving marriage one day...whenever that happens lol.
Are you dating with intention of marriage?
I just love you and Tre! You two remind me so much of me and my husband. Marriage is such a beautiful thing (we're going on 9yrs) and I too was 25 when we got married.
May God continue to bless your union!!!
Tia, Could you do a video on maximizing singleness? Possibly some practical things to do and/or areas to focus on that contribute to a successful marriage in the future? Thank you!
Thank you for this. I’m preparing to be wed this December and want to fulfill my responsibilities as a wife.
I agree with everything but the friend thing. Hummm you need girlfriends and need to get back in touch with your girls. Just because you are a wife doesn't mean you shouldn't hang with your friends. Be careful about making your husband an idol. Have balance.
This video was so helpful and encouraging Tia. Thanks so much for sharing. When you were working, how did you manage being a wife, work and pursuing your dreams or goals? I am having a hard time trying to balance work, home and passion. My dreams and goals have been neglected heavily for the going on 2 years that I've been married.
I definitely understand the pressure of being the perfect wife. We have been married for almost 3 years and I JUST had a breakdown about working so hard to keep the house clean! I had to learn to accept imperfection as well as to give myself grace to do what I can when I can.
sabra723 Also ask God to make you love cooking and cleaning. It works! Be blessed sis 😇
Thank you for sharing your experience it's very helpful may God bless you and your husband
This was very helpful! I'm getting married in October and these are definitely great things to keep in mind.
Congrats :-)
married 3 years...now finding my self and really truly understanding the husband I have versus prince charming...
authentica63 is that a jab lol
Hopefully your husband is BETTER than Prince Charming. PC was just a dreamer f***boy😒
@@crownedone8837 100 fact bro
Loved your video, I enjoy looking and listening to what you have to say..
God bless you. Your presentation was filled with so much sincerity and graced with wisdom for Christ. Thank you
Thank you🙏💖Very helpful🙏
Thank you for being so open and honest about your relationship. It's so endearing to see how open and flexible your husband is and you have such a lovely, warm spirit as well. I know your vid has helped many. TFS and God Bless you, your family and your marriage.
I got married 3 weeks ago!
This is all great to hear Now.
I relate to you in so many ways!
Thanks so much for sharing!
If I could like this video 1000 times I would. It’s such an eye opening testimony of the peace that God wants in marriages. I love your vulnerability to your spouse and he too sounds as though he has created that space for you to feel free to express yourself in any way. May God continue blessing your marriage
Edit: I'm now married and had to come back to watch this after feeling the pressures of filling the shoes of a wife. Pheeww
That was absolutely gorgeous. I really really enjoyed it.
Thank you for sharing. I'm not engaged or married but I hope to be one day. You've shared some great points.
LOVE this video... BTW those curls are popp'n boo!!!
Thank you for this video Tia! I love and admire your sweet, positive spirit. This video is so timely for me. I recently got engaged almost 3 months ago (10/29) & the thought of being this awesome guys wife has made me anxious. I look forward to growing into the best wife I can be for him, I just get nervous that I maybe won't... I love that you really stressed extending grace and love to self because though this transition is exciting and beautiful it is a big change and I need/should be patient with myself as God is preparing me. I look forward to the marriage series & hopefully I can watch them with my fiancé 😊 Thank you for the prayers too! I'll do my best to keep you & Tre in prayer too.
Chanoukah Olivier congratulations on your engagement. I usually don't comment much but I read your post and felt moved to say something. This is a great period for you as this guy you love reciprocates that feeling for you and wants to do life with you. This should tell you, you too are just as important and essential in his life so take the pressure off your self a little. I'm still learning each day in my marriage and I have come to realize that whether we've been married 2months or 80yrs we all have very similar worries. But focus on being happy in yourself as a happy self brings so much light to the table and contributes to a happy marriage. There are areas where you might not be as strong and pray for the strength to allow yourself to acknowledge those weaknesses and then make a plan on how you will overcome them and of course seek help. Working on your shortcomings again will make you feel great and again allow you to enjoy your marriage. It all takes little steps but as long as you are moving and progressing and staying true to yourself and your values everything balances out. Good luck with your wedding planning and wish you all the best in your marriage
Thank you @missT1806! I really appreciate your kind words and encouragement :) I will be more intentional about enjoying this process and being happy. With time, I am sure I will develop the qualities needed but I will just take it all one day at a time and just enjoy the journey to and in marriage. Thank you again.
Seeing who can out serve the other person... such an awesome concept!
cjmils89 could you please explain what she meant by that? Literally didn’t understand it.. (not a native English speaker btw ;) )
Your skin is incredible. And I really enjoyed this video.
You're awesome! May God continue to bless your union! 😇🙏😎
Thanks for sharing! 😁🥰❤️💯✨
Wow Tia thank you for always keeping everything a 100% real. I admire your integrity and openness.Tfs😊💜👍
Beautiful! Loves this video!
God bless you both!! I love prayer as part of your videos!
I love youuuuu!!!! This video was filled with so much wisdom!!! I love your spirit and I saw you one day on the belt line but didn't want to interrupt you and dash lol but I love you and your channel!!! Please have a meet up in ATL
I absolutely LOVE this video. Thank you for sharing, it was very helpful!
Hey Tia!!, first off the hair is bomb OK!!!!!!!! get it 😂😂😂... As a single women I really enjoyed this video,You have such a genuine personality so calming and Loving. Thank you for being so transparent! Also you and Tre are really awesome!. you guys are a great example of a family! #himylovies💕👋
GREAT advice!! Thank you so much for all of your words of wisdom... I am currently dating, hoping to soon be engaged so this was right on time!
I really needed this video. I get married in 2 weeks and I have been struggling with the transition of becoming a wife. Thank you so much!
Took years to find this, but this video was the best advice video I've ever watched
Really inspired by this video, i do not believe i came across this by mistake. Loved how you shared the reality of the transition into marriage and bold enough to share some truth about intimacy in a marriage. May God continue to bless your marriage & i receive the prayer of a successful future marriage for myself and my fiancée..thanks for sharing Xx
So many powerful pointers in this message. Appreciate you sis .x
I can’t cook rice. I use a rice cooker to cook rice perfectly.
Yep
This is so good🗣🔑, thank you ❤️
You come across as real, and I love your practical advice… so glad I found you.😇🎉🎊🙇🏽♀️🙋🏽♀️💗How are you, Trey and the children doing now? 🙇🏽♀️🙋🏽♀️🙏🏾
I would love to hear your husband's perspective on all these issues too. In my personal time with the Lord, he lead me to your video to remind me of what my future wife would be like in terms of nature, character, and ebullience. With your husband's permission, I would congratulate you on your maturation as a wife and the intimate trials of which you triumphed during your journey. This was so helpful and encouraging. I now have something to look forward too and of whom to continue to plan. God Bless you sis.
Wisdom from Christ
Tia, this was a beautiful video. My hubbs and I have been married for 27 years we were 26 when we married and my parents have been blessed to have 56 years😊. You are doing Gods work helping others set a Godly foundation for marriage. When both partners walk with the Lord it's sort of like having a leg up on marriage because we have God as our head, not that it makes it any less challenging Lol!!! But like you and Trey my hubbs and I started our marriage as best friends and had known one another since, in our case college. We both tell people who as us our secret that first there is no secret but openness, Consistent Communication, PATIENCE( Lord thank you for that one 😂😄) respect for each other, putting the others needs as priority and you have to actually LIKE one another ! We've met so many people who when it comes down to it, don't like their partner, so they don't really try in the relationship. Anyway, I've rambled on long enough🤗. Great job you're off to a great start🙏🏽 Blessings to you and your family.
Thank you so much for sharing. Very helpful information 😊
Ain't nothing wrong with minute rice girl ! Sometimes it's necessary. Lol
Thank you so much , for sharing your thoughts this was heaven sent ... The Lord knew this video was for me to see
Thank you again
Love your messages and I deeply appreciate your prayers over my relationship. Many blessing to you and your family
Glad I stumbled across this 7-year-old video, it was encouraging and insightful. I don't know you personally but I pray your zeal for the Lord remains and that His love continues to shine through you.
Love your hair
this was really great and informative..you have a super soothing voice!
Thank you for sharing this video I recently just got in engaged..
I’m in a active relationship ( 7 months) we are open to marriage in 2 years or so. Great info here Thanks for sharing ❤️
Thank you for sharing the rice thing! I'm not married but i've been crushed when friends criticized my cooking (trust me, i'm learning too!). God Bless you rock!
Intimacy : I wasn't very experienced in that department 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
lol I love how huge your smile got when you described your husband as a "big lover for intimacy"
Thank you 💖
This is so relevant in my life right now. Thank you for sharing this video, I’m so glad I found it.💍💗
This video was very helpful. Can you make a video on your views about sex before marriage?
Great advice. We did this over 30 years ago. We had a great marriage.
Thanks Tia, this video spoke to my experience being married
Thank you for sharing. Great video.
This really blessed me ! Getting married in two days !
Similar situation with finances and we have made major positive impact on who handles what. Still working on the intimate part, I want to wait until marriage he does not. I'm not sure if you are comfortable sharing but the only help I have is prayer and talking with a ministry. Love everything about this video it hit home in all departments and appreciate the honesty as well.
Great video! Thank you for sharing.
Oh my gosh such a timely message and very practical! Thanks girl! GOD NLESS❤
Thank you for creating this video. I just got married a month ago and since then, I have been struggling with the transition into being a wife. My husband is everything that I prayed for in a man and he is extremely patient, I've just been second guessing myself and over thinking everything.
This video let me know that I'm not alone in this transition. Thank you again. I now have more clarity.
And I love your spirit and energy. 💙
Thanks I needed this
Beautifully put BeeUtifully Made!!! Loved this video!
Great video! Love the power of your faith
I love these videos, as a newlywed I completely understand trying to be the "perfect" wife and trying to please him in every way...and financial troubles. We are currently trying to work out these things...keep these videos coming! 😊
Oh let the anointing fall fresh. Bravo, Tia. 🙌🏽
Really good advise...thanks for sharing.
Thankyou. ❤ new subscriber here.